7 Reasons Why Introverts Are So Attractive

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  • 7 Weird Reasons Why Introverts are So Attractive to Others
    Are you, as an introvert, attractive to others without even realizing it?
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  • @FrankJames
    @FrankJames  3 года назад +1013

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    • @tikaardhany7568
      @tikaardhany7568 3 года назад +4

      110% agree that introverts are attractive

    • @MLion-pz9lk
      @MLion-pz9lk 3 года назад +1

      I am introvert+ Extravert . . . . and I am so F***** ATTRACTIVE ! ! . . . . . . . . . . . .

    • @MLion-pz9lk
      @MLion-pz9lk 3 года назад +1

      Anytime at the end, when you say "stay cool & attractive ", you have that kind of smile+ sight that the soft Dominatrix have, like Heather Locklear or Bo Derek

    • @Julia-LArt
      @Julia-LArt 3 года назад +1

      M_ Lion this made me snort laugh seeing you’re comparing Frank to two women!

    • @MLion-pz9lk
      @MLion-pz9lk 3 года назад

      @@Julia-LArt he's actually compared to TWO Big Stars !

  • @newlovetv8212
    @newlovetv8212 3 года назад +19097

    Introverts can talk a lot when they are with people they are comfortable with

    • @edenlust1638
      @edenlust1638 3 года назад +272

      Yup!

    • @newlovetv8212
      @newlovetv8212 3 года назад +407

      @@cameraflash150 Well personalities differs, for me i can play a lot when i'm around friends

    • @patienceaddo2625
      @patienceaddo2625 3 года назад +76

      Exactly

    • @mani_saber
      @mani_saber 3 года назад +59

      So true

    • @gregorysagegreene
      @gregorysagegreene 3 года назад +111

      Yup! That's me. All that info comes right back out.

  • @juliajewel_ee_a5479
    @juliajewel_ee_a5479 3 года назад +3095

    Other people: "This introvert has it together"
    Me: *screaming internally*

    • @hopeworld9515
      @hopeworld9515 3 года назад +90

      The keyword was: "it APPEARS that the introverts have it together"

    • @r24803
      @r24803 3 года назад +8

      Exactly xD

    • @cronagru6595
      @cronagru6595 3 года назад +1

      LMAO

    • @President_Salsa
      @President_Salsa 3 года назад +17

      Hold it together hold it together *HOLD IT TOGETHER*

    • @EmiDucky
      @EmiDucky 3 года назад

      Lmaoooo yep

  • @christianhunt8009
    @christianhunt8009 2 года назад +701

    Being an introvert myself, I always found it funny that my high school peers would freak out when ever I spoke up or when ever I laughed about something in class. They would always say " I have never heard you speak or laugh before" .

  • @imnik98
    @imnik98 Год назад +479

    The problem is that some people just don't understand introverts and they often judge them superficially. I consider myself an introvert but if I have the right person in front of me I became really open. People cannot imagine how big is the universe in a mind of an introvert. Give chances to introverts to converse with you, insist also if the situation becomes awkward and you will see that you will not be disappointed.

  • @adelwalid9402
    @adelwalid9402 3 года назад +11087

    "Why Introverts are so attractive"
    Me: Don't do that... Don't give me hope.

  • @moonchild430
    @moonchild430 3 года назад +9530

    "İntroverts are good listeners"
    Me who zones out in the middle of conversation: 👁👄👁

    • @artyszea
      @artyszea 3 года назад +87

      Samee

    • @ritaruggerone4434
      @ritaruggerone4434 3 года назад +125

      Story of my life. Infp here:)

    • @Novaheim
      @Novaheim 3 года назад +241

      "Introverts are good listeners"
      Me: Eavesdropping on people on "accident"

    • @moonchild430
      @moonchild430 3 года назад +26

      Floof Bone LMAO

    • @julyuhhh6385
      @julyuhhh6385 3 года назад +11

      Same 😂

  • @clap-melior8294
    @clap-melior8294 2 года назад +60

    "people are really attracted to those who can go out on their own from the crowd and be okay with it"....I'm so glad to hear this.

  • @babetteeatsoatmeal
    @babetteeatsoatmeal 2 года назад +28

    I am an Introvert, though once I feel comfortable in your presence I will talk more and my full personality will show. I usually don't just go up and talk to people. If people come up and talk to me I will be quiet but I will talk back. When you first meet me you might think I'm shy. But in reality I'm just with new people I don't know. If your in my friend group then you know your special to me. And if I come up to you first then your really special to me.

  • @raebutler1407
    @raebutler1407 3 года назад +608

    "Hell is other people". YES! 🤣

  • @okya6399
    @okya6399 3 года назад +3503

    "Why introverts are attractive"
    Every introvert in the world: *DOUBT*

    • @jofunny7425
      @jofunny7425 3 года назад +16

      Not me:(

    • @SwaggerToast
      @SwaggerToast 3 года назад +11

      True

    • @jofunny7425
      @jofunny7425 3 года назад

      @@SwaggerToast hey

    • @SwaggerToast
      @SwaggerToast 3 года назад +2

      @@jofunny7425 are you, like, simply wanted to say hi or are you not liking me for saying 'true'

    • @jofunny7425
      @jofunny7425 3 года назад +1

      @@SwaggerToast why you say true i don't get it😤 do you know Albert Einstein was introvert

  • @moonTerfixx.
    @moonTerfixx. 2 года назад +91

    To all extroverts out there, please dont ask us too many questions. Idk about other introverts, but too many questions just make me uncomformtable. Also when we dont talk much, it means we are uncomformtable and dont feel like talking. Im not attacking any extrovert, im just saying. Have a great day/night :)

  • @TechOverFlow
    @TechOverFlow Год назад +5

    I'm always in my head. Thinking, processing, questioning, and improving!

  • @aviralsinghal1274
    @aviralsinghal1274 3 года назад +5062

    And still we are single. And without friends.
    Are we really cursed or something ?

    • @roulis640
      @roulis640 3 года назад +235

      I feel you 🤣

    • @vatsalaykhobragade
      @vatsalaykhobragade 3 года назад +385

      I feel attacked as an introvert. Sometimes i feel like only if i could just talk to people.

    • @roulis640
      @roulis640 3 года назад +303

      Personally, I think people are attracted to us because we look mysterious but when they get to really know us they realize we really are just normal people 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @saraamnadis4218
      @saraamnadis4218 3 года назад +60

      @@roulis640 GOOD ONE😉 YEP we are just like the others.....but a little weird....like Albert Einstein😉❤👍

    • @winterdragon560
      @winterdragon560 3 года назад +56

      Damn your comment describe ma whole life , but we are independent and mysterious, people find me intimidated, alot of people told me after we talked and am like what am simple and just living btw am INTJ.

  • @sususnandes
    @sususnandes 3 года назад +1890

    “hell is other people“ this is such an introvert thing to say

    • @weirdwolf888
      @weirdwolf888 3 года назад +21

      And animals, I think they'd agree with that! I believe Nietzsche said something along the lines of 'if animals have a devil, it would be in the form of man'. So, introverts, and animals (and probably nature as a whole!).

    • @sususnandes
      @sususnandes 3 года назад +9

      Weirdwolf wild animals yeah, my dog would be extremely sad though
      as for nature, the problem relies with the kind of people that don’t respect it, we see many great kind hearted people trying to do justice to our nature, unfortunately they are not as many as they should be ♥️

    • @lidial9299
      @lidial9299 3 года назад +2

      Sartre said that because he was ugly and he felt that people were looking at him that way.

    • @shilpapatel6493
      @shilpapatel6493 3 года назад +3

      Yeah 😂
      I found a new line to say now

    • @believewomen165
      @believewomen165 3 года назад +2

      Yessss👏🏽👏🏽

  • @Heer4
    @Heer4 2 года назад +16

    The thing about making others feel special...one of my friends told me about it. She told me how happy she was when she could be my friend. She said that "she admired me". I felt embarassed suddenly, and I still get the same embarassment when I think about it, because I'm just a normal person, not a star or something. I had a pretty good academic history and I was also a quizzer. But that doesn't make me special, or atleast I thought so. This friend of mine, she used to tell everyone around her soo proudly about how she's close with me. It made me laugh sometimes. I had no idea why she's so happy about it. She also told me that she thought I looked distant, yet somehow cool before becoming friends with me. I thought she was joking. But after watching this video, I wonder if it was indeed true.
    I'm now watching more of such videos to know what others think of me. I think it's not really as bad as I think of it 😆

    • @leona41ife
      @leona41ife Год назад +1

      It's definitely true! My friend told me as well, not only one of them but a few, that they think I'm special and feel good to be my friends!

  • @1982Alycia
    @1982Alycia Год назад +13

    "This introvert 'has it together'!" Best line in the whole video. 👌😂 I humbly believe that I do, so if that's what others perceive... Perfect!

  • @user-fc9eb6wm7o
    @user-fc9eb6wm7o 3 года назад +5446

    "Introverts are attractive"
    People to me: Why r u so weird?

    • @svetajkp
      @svetajkp 3 года назад +424

      People to me: Why r u so quiet?

    • @zer-atop3032
      @zer-atop3032 3 года назад +103

      Omg me too almost everyday

    • @mohamedsenharshan3016
      @mohamedsenharshan3016 3 года назад +7

      @Sumedh Kamble 🤣

    • @nilsber.
      @nilsber. 3 года назад +16

      @Sumedh Kamble ikr i hate that bro

    • @-_deploy_-
      @-_deploy_- 3 года назад +16

      @@svetajkp same but I just say: eh

  • @mightytinkaton
    @mightytinkaton 3 года назад +9372

    _Imagine being the "mysterious and cool introvert type"_
    -this comment was made by the "mysterious but nerd and awkward" gang-

  • @kevinsantos8439
    @kevinsantos8439 2 года назад +215

    why introverts aren't attractive:
    -being mysterious is usually seen as being weird (in my experience)
    -being a good listener makes you a good friend (& nothing else)
    -powerful (others can take advantage of silent people, since they don't talk back/doesn't seem like we got much power)
    -not annoying (I definitely embarrass myself a lot, but idc/there's more ways to be annoying than saying dumb things)
    -introspective (having a clear vision of how life should be doesn't mean your life is actually that way/example: I wanna go out more; have a hobby; find a girlfriend; start a family. reality: I sit at home; watch a youtube video; comment what's wrong in the video; watch the next video)
    -people complain about me staying inside, not having a life, being a loser (they clearly don't think I'm cool/having a party by myself?)
    -people usually don't want me to be there & invite me mostly out of politeness (if they invite me at all, which is usually not the case)
    I did like the positive side about all of these that you mentioned, but as an introvert/pessimist/realistic thinker, I know this isn't the case most of the time (or maybe I'm extremely unlucky & I just happen to meet all the wrong people & live at the wrong side of the planet)

    • @princetraxk
      @princetraxk 2 года назад +17

      I believe there is atleast some truth in what ur saying even tho I don't agree with it completely

    • @I_Yogita
      @I_Yogita 2 года назад +25

      We are on the same page dude. People always manipulate me, assume me as a dumb. They would ignore me if i put forward my opinion. They don't want me to even talk with them (if i message someone with whom i have not interacted much , they would just block my number). Don't know why they behave like this, it sometimes breaks me to think that i am of no value for others.
      However, fortunately i have 3 good friends who understand me and talk with me.

    • @tobiaswiest
      @tobiaswiest 2 года назад +18

      It seems that way to you bro, because you are pessimistic and look at things with a negative twist. I used to be extremely pessimistic (it's still there), but no one likes a downer. This video has a lot of truth to it with the right approach. Just because you are introverted does not mean you are all those things he said. You might be invited more, well received, and appreciated if you kept the pessimism to yourself and try to speak more positively. Yes it sounds cringe but people don't always want to hear how the cup is half empty. I'm a realistic thinker too and that's good, keep it. We need more thinkers like that. But pessimism isn't as helpful with friends. I've found life to be more enjoyable when I make an effort to see the brighter side of life, and accept that theirs a lot of awful things but to not make that my focus. We have the rare ability to make a difference since we easily see the problem. I hope this helps 👍

    • @tobiaswiest
      @tobiaswiest 2 года назад +9

      @@I_Yogita Those kind of people aren't worth your time. Move on and focus on others who give you their own time too. Don't worry about the others, life is full of jerks, it's our responsibility to ignore them and accept people who aren't.

    • @kevinsantos8439
      @kevinsantos8439 Год назад +4

      @@princetraxk that's fair, this is just my experience after all

  • @oliverspiler9101
    @oliverspiler9101 2 года назад +23

    0:24 Mysterious
    0:39 Good listeners
    1:04 Powerful by being quiet
    1:32 Less annoying overall
    2:11 Introspective
    2:41 Cool?
    3:25 When u speak to em u feel special just like TWICE

  • @nilllukka
    @nilllukka 3 года назад +9279

    "Tension creates attraction" -- that's awesome news because I'm tense all the time ahaha... ha...

    • @juliemay9295
      @juliemay9295 3 года назад +54

      🤣🤣

    • @simplepsyche4919
      @simplepsyche4919 3 года назад +91

      Me too...I'm worried I might get high bp

    • @di3486
      @di3486 3 года назад +12

      LOL

    • @awkwardzoltar3529
      @awkwardzoltar3529 3 года назад +109

      Just pull a gun out on a person and the tension between the two of you will cause him/her to forever be in love with you.

    • @awkwardzoltar3529
      @awkwardzoltar3529 3 года назад +23

      Elise S not a dude. Don’t reply to me. Why would I care what you think if I don’t know who you are?

  • @lilacphile2439
    @lilacphile2439 3 года назад +3185

    "Introverts are attractive"
    People to me: She looks so scary and serious

    • @hirokimura1316
      @hirokimura1316 3 года назад +143

      I'm a boy but I can relate, everybody thinks I came from a funeral of my bloodline and rejected by my girlfriend. And I don't have a girlfriend.

    • @aakriti3116
      @aakriti3116 3 года назад +59

      Agreed and they think I am angry with them

    • @fik8453
      @fik8453 3 года назад +81

      I agree. People around me always thought I was angry because my face was serious and expressionless.

    • @charmelledelrosario1556
      @charmelledelrosario1556 3 года назад +8

      True🤧

    • @masterdanielm5821
      @masterdanielm5821 3 года назад +10

      @lilac Phile yep they also think that im serious and scary

  • @joannedmello6204
    @joannedmello6204 2 года назад +5

    Why do all of these points apply to me! Thank you for saying these things in a positive way instead of you know, saying they are just shy n choose to say in or nerdy. This makes me feel good about myself. I'm glad i got your videos as yt recommendations!😃💛

  • @Himal_1
    @Himal_1 8 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks so much for this. You really spoke to my heart!

  • @mr.silver1614
    @mr.silver1614 3 года назад +2594

    *After watching this video*
    Self-esteem: *Improved*
    Confidence: *Improved*
    Optimism: *Improved*
    Reality: "YOU THOUGHT"

  • @perfectmatter6599
    @perfectmatter6599 3 года назад +4873

    Introverts are extroverts when they start talking to their best friends.

    • @nick5zone827
      @nick5zone827 3 года назад +142

      THIS!!!

    • @ShijioHirojima567
      @ShijioHirojima567 3 года назад +130

      True, and also for me its anyone that has played or watched what I have.

    • @Sari-ip1uz
      @Sari-ip1uz 3 года назад +38

      So true 😂

    • @naminegirl21
      @naminegirl21 3 года назад +58

      I'm an introvert around people I feel very comfy with (literally only 2 people at my job) and only on Christmas or New Years for like 5 min.
      I'll kinda sorta scream "Happy (insert holiday here)!!!" a few times and go WOOOO and then it's back to my bed eating chips and coke all day

    • @cherryphoenix9083
      @cherryphoenix9083 3 года назад +7

      Yup

  • @jacquelinemolonyartandcrafts
    @jacquelinemolonyartandcrafts 2 года назад +2

    Omg I can’t believe you just made me proud to be an introvert, it’s something I’ve had insecurities about especially how much time I want to be alone and because of that I find it hard to maintain close friendships

  • @HealthandFitnessCentral
    @HealthandFitnessCentral Год назад +1

    Hey there! Just watched your video on "7 Reasons Why Introverts Are So Attractive" and I absolutely loved it! As an introvert myself, it's refreshing to see our strengths being celebrated. Keep up the great work and keep spreading the introvert love! 👍

  • @pebbsiie
    @pebbsiie 3 года назад +667

    “They wonder what’s going on in your head”
    *whats going on in my head*
    Wii music

  • @panlis6243
    @panlis6243 3 года назад +1893

    "introverts are good listeners" - me, an introvert, who skipped the whole video and just looked for the key points

    • @AJ-hl6tn
      @AJ-hl6tn 3 года назад +58

      I am a fucking awful listener lmao

    • @ambie7437
      @ambie7437 3 года назад +2

      Lol

    • @bablurohith9482
      @bablurohith9482 3 года назад

      😄😄

    • @IGNITEDSOULOFFICAL
      @IGNITEDSOULOFFICAL 3 года назад +6

      Lol bro 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣. He want to say in real life your good listener

    • @dinkin_flicka14
      @dinkin_flicka14 3 года назад +33

      "Or atleast they appear to be good listeners"

  • @june8658
    @june8658 Год назад +1

    This video is the most accurate for true introverts among all other videos on RUclips, you did a really good job man 👍

  • @NUGGet-3562
    @NUGGet-3562 2 года назад

    This was a great confidence booster. Thanks Frank!

  • @limbs8468
    @limbs8468 3 года назад +1370

    "introvert are good listener"
    Me daydreaming during math class : •-•]

  • @ghostydraws3732
    @ghostydraws3732 3 года назад +2640

    Strangers:she's so quiet and mysterious
    My best friends: dhfjesj no she's a loud ass crackhead

    • @peika8324
      @peika8324 3 года назад +32

      Accurate

    • @atomcat5242
      @atomcat5242 3 года назад +51

      Well at least you have friends

    • @thefoolsfavorite
      @thefoolsfavorite 3 года назад +19

      @@atomcat5242 yup. I'm new at middle school and in the first 6 weeks, I still don't have a friend because people think I'm antisocial because of how quiet I am. It sucks.

    • @atomcat5242
      @atomcat5242 3 года назад +9

      @@thefoolsfavorite omg really?
      I AM having the same problem too

    • @rm-hr1yx
      @rm-hr1yx 3 года назад +1

      me 😂

  • @NTAunofficialGOV
    @NTAunofficialGOV Год назад +1

    Introverts are the most calm people and have a great heart !!

  • @dksdmusic
    @dksdmusic Год назад +5

    Back in the school days, I used to be the hot, mysterious musician introvert guy and people were curious about me. Now in adulthood, everybody just thinks of me as the creep that stands by the window in parties🤣

  • @the_wolf9997
    @the_wolf9997 3 года назад +1754

    This guy is the most extroverted introvert ever.

  • @isaamaandaa
    @isaamaandaa 3 года назад +2832

    "why introverts are so attractive."
    me, being one : *aRe yOu sUrE aBoUt tHaT?*

    • @Rezzmari
      @Rezzmari 3 года назад +34

      To me, they only are if they are good looking. If not, good luck. Just being real.

    • @worldwidehandsome52
      @worldwidehandsome52 3 года назад +13

      Army 😏

    • @laylakunis7881
      @laylakunis7881 3 года назад +13

      @@Rezzmari attraction isn’t always looks, curiosity plays a role too and I believe that’s what this video is referring to why they say introverts are attractive

    • @s_ckem6846
      @s_ckem6846 3 года назад +3

      Everyone is good looking

    • @moretrenmoreben2523
      @moretrenmoreben2523 3 года назад +6

      To me, I like that they're challenging to talk to since they had either soft or avoiding attitude towards talking and idk why but they do speak softly and a lil different to others. Which is a turn on. And also for how they dress, ain't revealing.

  • @vasu7520
    @vasu7520 2 года назад +1

    want to create me own destination without caring what others think of me or about my age.
    feel intense shyness inside, outward appear grim.
    hesitation stops me to think one more time before doing things.
    conscience is my best friend in helping making decisive steps.
    staying calm is the best option rather than leaving superficial topics.

  • @ZakHumphreys
    @ZakHumphreys 2 года назад

    You know , Your helping many people with these videos frank , Thanks brother hope life is bliss and prosperous !

  • @myrtila
    @myrtila 3 года назад +643

    When I don’t talk, people find me scary not attractive lol

    • @marcosbrenner140
      @marcosbrenner140 3 года назад +15

      How do u know what they think of u?

    • @kiyoshi5430
      @kiyoshi5430 3 года назад +3

      I was gonna say something but I don't know how to spell the word so nope

    • @dottiet6688
      @dottiet6688 3 года назад +44

      I was told I am creepy for staring at people, I just like people watching. I don't like PEOPLE I like PEOPLE WATCHING.

    • @kurumifuyumiya300
      @kurumifuyumiya300 3 года назад +28

      Yes. Same. A lot of people afraid of me too because I'm quiet and look cold. But, it just my normal face. ( ̄へ ̄)

    • @jettsteel7305
      @jettsteel7305 3 года назад +2

      Same here 😐

  • @rainevalmonte2085
    @rainevalmonte2085 3 года назад +3267

    Expectations:
    Vs
    Reality: Too nervous to make friends, people think your snobby and mean, doesn't interact with people because afraid of judgements, actually wants to socialize but is scared of what people would think if they made a mistake

    • @clomyst
      @clomyst 3 года назад +87

      If only you knew how cool you are ;)

    • @svetajkp
      @svetajkp 3 года назад +91

      Same, plus I'm afraid to speak English more,bcz it's not my native language, and I just moved to English school so.....
      I'm akward af

    • @harumi6198
      @harumi6198 3 года назад +15

      true

    • @a.u.m.4489
      @a.u.m.4489 3 года назад +8

      So true ;(

    • @a.u.m.4489
      @a.u.m.4489 3 года назад +25

      @@svetajkp awww its okay you'll get the hang of it 👏👏👏
      I was you like 8 years ago 😂

  • @vit.budina
    @vit.budina Год назад +15

    I am an introvert. I hate talking to people and starting conversations. I never liked going out and would always spend the whole day at home and alone. Yet when I got into high school, our class was so well assembled that every time I entered the classroom I suddenly became one of the most extroverted students. Introverts can become very open if you give them time to make themselves comfortable around you.

  • @susan8576
    @susan8576 2 года назад

    This is the first positive review I'm watching on introverts. Thanks Frank👏🏽 going to look for "Quiet" now🚶‍♀️

  • @dishasrinivasa3212
    @dishasrinivasa3212 3 года назад +1779

    to all the bullys and people who tease introverts for being quiet
    REMEMBER-
    'no on plans a murder out loud'

  • @ceilinh6004
    @ceilinh6004 3 года назад +395

    "...or at least they appear to be good listeners."
    I'm dead.

    • @berlizgonzalez6736
      @berlizgonzalez6736 3 года назад

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @sensimania
      @sensimania 3 года назад

      😂😂

    • @ayanokouji5784
      @ayanokouji5784 3 года назад +18

      ikr, my teacher thinks im a good listener because i always look people in the eyes when they talk and used me as an example of how to be a good listener infront of the entire class, i had to stand infront of him and listen to what he says, and after he finished, he was like "see this is how to be a good listener, look at the speaker in the eyes while they talk, *my name* could repeat every word i said if he wanted to", and i literally couldn't remember a single thing he said, good thing he didn't tell me to repeat it

    • @ceilinh6004
      @ceilinh6004 3 года назад +5

      @@ayanokouji5784 I relate to that a little too well. People assume I'm a much better listener than I actually am.

  • @azariahthealkhemist2665
    @azariahthealkhemist2665 Год назад

    These videos make me feel understood. I appreciate it!

  • @bhanavipanwar4435
    @bhanavipanwar4435 2 года назад

    On point!

  • @iveology_
    @iveology_ 3 года назад +15967

    "Why introverts are so attractive"
    * Looks in the mirror *
    *Ya no.*

    • @youtaeatscake4588
      @youtaeatscake4588 3 года назад +383

      RIGHTT 😭

    • @nej6246
      @nej6246 3 года назад +629

      Plot twist: you said "ya know"

    • @nej6246
      @nej6246 3 года назад +221

      I'm gonna regret writing this comment

    • @keariocabinet8836
      @keariocabinet8836 3 года назад +93

      I gave him glasses 👁️👄👁️

    • @iveology_
      @iveology_ 3 года назад +98

      @@nej6246 XD big brain plot twists

  • @christinekobzeff
    @christinekobzeff 3 года назад +8235

    “Introverts are good listeners...”Me: trying to listen but half way spacing out lost in a cloud of thoughts. “or at least they appear to be good listeners.” Me: Snaps back to reality, feeling personally attacked.

    • @tehxing4703
      @tehxing4703 3 года назад +90

      Ayyyyy twins!

    • @sankalpsingh2117
      @sankalpsingh2117 3 года назад +15

      @Divya Divyanshi me to introvert

    • @sankalpsingh2117
      @sankalpsingh2117 3 года назад +6

      @Divya Divyanshi from where you are from India

    • @VibingMeike
      @VibingMeike 3 года назад +36

      @Divya Divyanshi Lol I have this too, it's annoying because I have genuine great conversations with my best friend, but I just can't concentrate for too long. Same thing for studying, I just can't concentrate for long enough.

    • @hannahgrace920
      @hannahgrace920 3 года назад +4

      No Bc literally same

  • @aryatripathi2486
    @aryatripathi2486 9 месяцев назад +1

    Subject matter is sooo accurate!! I wonder if you're an introvert too and process your thoughts about mbti

    • @aryatripathi2486
      @aryatripathi2486 9 месяцев назад +1

      edit: he is (INFJ) and I'm INFP btw:)

  • @Introvertedalpha
    @Introvertedalpha 2 года назад

    Great points, especially appreciated the one about introverts being introspective.

  • @matthewnick693
    @matthewnick693 3 года назад +1631

    Extrovert: Hey, you wanna hang out this weekend?
    Introvert: * actually has nothing better to do this weekend* Sorry, I already have plans, maybe next time
    Extrovert: Wow, I guess he's too cool for me

    • @mar9183
      @mar9183 3 года назад +83

      Jajaj we really do that! We tend to decline making them think we haven't it clear. But in our head we know from the minut one we're not going. It's an akward situation. Sometimes in my head I think...maybe I cannot have it so clear? But 99% of the times I finish really not going because I really feel I prefer to be on my own that day. Sometimes when you finally decide to let yourself go and give it a try! there you finally end up thinkining...what am I doing here? I would be better home alone. Luckily in some situations you end up having a great time but it's not what happens most of the times.

    • @di3486
      @di3486 3 года назад +58

      I don’t decline those invitations because they are so RARE!

    • @violetdusk1968
      @violetdusk1968 3 года назад +48

      Yes my plans are doing nothing but I'd rather do nothing then go out and socialize.

    • @yonathanrakau1783
      @yonathanrakau1783 3 года назад +4

      Ugh... no literally thats not what we think or at least not what i think we would just say this person is not for me and just ask for other extrovert to hang out with us especially for me ENTP i dont mind being alone and hanging out with myself probably forget you exist few weeks later

    • @LegoDude568
      @LegoDude568 3 года назад +2

      Damn this hurts when it’s a girl because I can’t tell if she’s rejecting me or what

  • @MrTrickster5
    @MrTrickster5 3 года назад +1071

    Disclaimer: These are only true if you are visually attractive

    • @iTzProLike1
      @iTzProLike1 3 года назад +98

      Umm no but actually yes.

    • @chereo1888
      @chereo1888 3 года назад +58

      So much truth to this comment here. Not that I'm complaining though.

    • @a.s.8679
      @a.s.8679 3 года назад +260

      True. If an introvert isn't good looking, people think they are just boring, but if someone is attractive, they become "mysterious" in people's eyes.

    • @MrTrickster5
      @MrTrickster5 3 года назад +37

      @@a.s.8679 yep accurate

    • @Emily-rj1ij
      @Emily-rj1ij 3 года назад +6

      Yeah!

  • @rashaalftaih9966
    @rashaalftaih9966 2 года назад +2

    Wow this really gave me a confidence boost

  • @Shaddyraddy92
    @Shaddyraddy92 2 года назад +1

    Being an introvert is a blessing in disguise 🔥

  • @sakshichand4204
    @sakshichand4204 3 года назад +3116

    When introverts gets comfortable with their fav person they become extroverts...😁

    • @mohammedsami9996
      @mohammedsami9996 3 года назад +18

      😂😂

    • @mikael355
      @mikael355 3 года назад +306

      And then they stop being cool and mysterious and get really annoying
      ~ Me, a professional introvert

    • @Jewel351
      @Jewel351 3 года назад +138

      @@mikael355 Exactly...then we talk too much and become annoying...😒

    • @sarahk6996
      @sarahk6996 3 года назад +3

      🙋🏽‍♀️😄

    • @sarahk6996
      @sarahk6996 3 года назад +10

      @@Jewel351 🤣🤣🤣

  • @imimposter5424
    @imimposter5424 3 года назад +1179

    Introverts in a conversation with another introvert: ....
    3 hours later: sooo

    • @blackeagle5217
      @blackeagle5217 3 года назад +10

      😆😆😆😆

    • @zionjohn6048
      @zionjohn6048 3 года назад +6

      😂

    • @reznovvazileski3193
      @reznovvazileski3193 3 года назад +31

      You'd be surprised how much of a conversation I can have with my friends each just speaking like 3-5 words an hour :') We call it mental chess because we're bouncing thoughts of each other yet though we don't share most of them and elaborately we still end up with the same conclusions in the end.

    • @aquazz1
      @aquazz1 3 года назад +9

      It’s not even a conversation it’s standing and looking at each other in awkward silence 😥😅😂

    • @MedicalParasitology
      @MedicalParasitology 3 года назад

      Yup

  • @amish344
    @amish344 2 года назад

    Honestly, you presented really nice points ! Well done 👍

  • @stories-of-elle
    @stories-of-elle Год назад

    This is eye opening, thanks

  • @TestaRosssa_
    @TestaRosssa_ 3 года назад +835

    As an extrovert who loves introverts.... I humbly request a video about what introverts like and don't like about their extrovert friends/partners. Though I'm scared, I'm more curious... hahaha! 😆

    • @FrankJames
      @FrankJames  3 года назад +156

      Great suggestion!

    • @TestaRosssa_
      @TestaRosssa_ 3 года назад +18

      @@g.i.r.l. that's not true at all...
      My cousin who is an extrovert watches.
      So that's at least 1 other person... ;)

    • @TestaRosssa_
      @TestaRosssa_ 3 года назад +13

      @@g.i.r.l. I was joking Haha! There are way more than just 2, I actually feel like I see a lot of ENFPs here gushing over you beloved introverts! 🥰
      We love you guys!
      There are so many introverts in the comments though, I agree hahaha

    • @XxKawaiiCookies
      @XxKawaiiCookies 3 года назад +26

      I love that extroverts are easy to talk to because it’s hard for me to continue on a conversation

    • @TestaRosssa_
      @TestaRosssa_ 3 года назад +14

      @@XxKawaiiCookies that's really nice to hear! I like to make introverts feel comfortable and see what's inside when they're quiet Haha I have a lot of introvert friends. I appreciate you guys. 💖

  • @cryjello
    @cryjello 3 года назад +975

    I'm an introvert who says ONLY annoying things
    so talking less doesn't help at all lol

    • @hawk6143
      @hawk6143 3 года назад +3

      🙌🙌😂

    • @princecarlos5597
      @princecarlos5597 3 года назад +9

      It helps because it prevents you from talking lol

    • @nova22584
      @nova22584 3 года назад +4

      I love you already

    • @citriz
      @citriz 3 года назад +4

      You're not alone :,)

    • @muaoribia4140
      @muaoribia4140 3 года назад +3

      I mostly second this

  • @loniwatson8110
    @loniwatson8110 2 года назад

    Party of one! Yeehaw!
    Love it, live it ❤️

  • @marsyadchannel1110
    @marsyadchannel1110 2 года назад +1

    *BIG APPLAUSE for those that being an introvert's person & had given a quality comments. THANK YOU, FRANKJAMES for all of your informations are so true & I'm so glad that out there, I'm not alone & others will gain knowledge about us neither they misjudged us as Antisocial/Ego/Negative's person. By the way, I'm already hit your subscriber. Keep up the good work!!!*

  • @meerasomasundaram8564
    @meerasomasundaram8564 3 года назад +4080

    When he says introverts does a lot of internal processing to figure things out. Me arguing with myself and creating imaginary situations and day dreaming all day.

  • @cynthiamartinez9804
    @cynthiamartinez9804 3 года назад +505

    I'm introverted to a point where people find me intimidating and well that sucks because they don't talk to me and of course I'll never start a conversation so I just end up alone lmao :(

    • @JohnCena-wv9es
      @JohnCena-wv9es 3 года назад +10

      I know exactly how u feel it's a sad feeling 😣 do u have snapchat ??

    • @cynthiamartinez9804
      @cynthiamartinez9804 3 года назад +9

      @@JohnCena-wv9es I'm sorry Mr. John Cena, but I don't

    • @JohnCena-wv9es
      @JohnCena-wv9es 3 года назад +1

      u don't have any other platforms I could reach out to you

    • @demetrarossi4212
      @demetrarossi4212 3 года назад +37

      classic introvert interaction going on here lol

    • @JohnCena-wv9es
      @JohnCena-wv9es 3 года назад +3

      @@demetrarossi4212 uncover your face lmaoo

  • @ryukjoga
    @ryukjoga Год назад

    Ty for making me feel better about myself ^-^

  • @ameyaliramirez3001
    @ameyaliramirez3001 2 года назад

    Love your video James

  • @UmLammyJammer
    @UmLammyJammer 3 года назад +1736

    It’s like a roller coaster with this channel
    FJ: INFPs are the best girlfriends
    Me: :) aw yay
    FJ: are INFPs dumb?
    Me: uhh....
    FJ: why introverts are attractive
    Me: : , )

    • @BambaEater
      @BambaEater 3 года назад +149

      i'm not dumb i'm mentally lazy! ):

    • @Julia-LArt
      @Julia-LArt 3 года назад +55

      I think that’s cos the INFJ mind is a rollercoaster!

    • @Alinda1308
      @Alinda1308 3 года назад +33

      Ahahahahahah, INFP and I can relate to this

    • @_DeadlyNightshade_
      @_DeadlyNightshade_ 3 года назад +2

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @loisrabies8713
      @loisrabies8713 3 года назад +1

      Lol

  • @Beanie--
    @Beanie-- 3 года назад +1190

    Me who does all of these: I'm such a boring person. People probably think I'm weird.
    *Sees an Introvert with all the same traits as me*
    Me: wow they're so cool and mysterious 😍😍😍

  • @solomontruthlover5308
    @solomontruthlover5308 2 года назад +1

    I consider myself an introvert but in a one on one conversation I love talking and talking and talking

  • @joegarrick2760
    @joegarrick2760 Год назад

    Loved the book recommended here. Quiet was a great read.

  • @eunoria2437
    @eunoria2437 3 года назад +3060

    Me being an introvert.
    Students in class: Why are you so quiet??
    *My mind: because I don't want to talk.🤷‍♀️

    • @VibingMeike
      @VibingMeike 3 года назад +178

      Yes. One time a teacher walked to me and she asked if I was okay because I was so quiet. I just smiled and said 'It's alright, I'm just not a very talkative person.'

    • @SilvaDreams
      @SilvaDreams 2 года назад +111

      @@VibingMeike Me being an introvert.
      Students in class: Why are you so quiet??
      Me: *shrugs and goes back to whatever I was doing*

    • @GoPackGoBaby
      @GoPackGoBaby 2 года назад +51

      I’m an ambivert it’s both, I can get energy from social interaction depending on the circumstances but it can also really drain me. It’s a very interesting tug of war

    • @user-nf1bz3sn4z
      @user-nf1bz3sn4z 2 года назад +38

      Or just say 'Why are you so loud?'

    • @TheBlueInvader
      @TheBlueInvader 2 года назад +47

      I hate this question. Then it makes me think so quiet is wrong¿ Then I think we don't have to talk all the time. But give me a beer or to and I'm not quite.

  • @hummingbirdcity
    @hummingbirdcity 3 года назад +869

    Only people I'm not attracted to think I'm attractive.

    • @raygengamer8440
      @raygengamer8440 3 года назад +114

      that is the law of life.

    • @shanapreston_
      @shanapreston_ 3 года назад +12

      @@raygengamer8440 aw shucks

    • @raywang7995
      @raywang7995 3 года назад +47

      jokes on you no one even likes me

    • @themadhatter8178
      @themadhatter8178 3 года назад +52

      @@raygengamer8440 The ugly ones chase, the pretty ones run away. Makes me wonder why mankind hasn't gone extinct.

    • @optimus2183
      @optimus2183 3 года назад +6

      Tell me about it

  • @aayushipal4023
    @aayushipal4023 2 года назад

    Thankyou so much sir, you shared such useful insight. I came to know myself, preferably MY OWN POWERS because of you. I'm an introvert . And thankyou for explaining myself to me so well. 🙇🏻‍♀️👍🏻

  • @makeupmentalhealthvlogs23
    @makeupmentalhealthvlogs23 2 года назад

    Thank you!

  • @wesrm1
    @wesrm1 3 года назад +163

    Don’t you just love it as an introvert when you say something profound, like say in a class, and then later someone comes up to you and says, “that was so interesting! You should talk more!” (Cringe)

    • @jose91807
      @jose91807 3 года назад +15

      This used to happen all the time to me in school hahaha

    • @QUARTERMASTEREMI6
      @QUARTERMASTEREMI6 3 года назад +2

      I had the same thing said to me plenty of times, though if that someone who says "that was so interesting!" is your crush, I'd guess that makes it more special(?) More of a guess I suppose.

  • @yobiyobi8138
    @yobiyobi8138 3 года назад +653

    FJ: "Introverts are mysterious. This is simply by virtue of them being . . . quiet."
    My crippling tendency to overshare: Am I a joke to you?

    • @jettsteel7305
      @jettsteel7305 3 года назад +14

      Relatable 😭

    • @chi6454
      @chi6454 3 года назад +34

      @Warda Siddiqui damn same when I get comfortable I start talking I don't stop and then I start talking about my childhood then Leads to awkwardness😂😭

    • @alexs6746
      @alexs6746 3 года назад +21

      I’ve somehow found a way to over share yet share nothing

    • @jettsteel7305
      @jettsteel7305 3 года назад +9

      @@alexs6746 Teach me please-

    • @mikatosis
      @mikatosis 3 года назад +5

      me trauma dumping on the bus

  • @vaishnavib.v4273
    @vaishnavib.v4273 2 года назад +1

    So true!

  • @LeFxxckingMoustache
    @LeFxxckingMoustache 3 года назад +572

    „Why introverts are so attractive?“
    Me, to myself : WE ARE??

    • @Kinra_Jade
      @Kinra_Jade 3 года назад +10

      Me: I wasn't aware of that and, i don't care if i am or not actually.

    • @codyw1
      @codyw1 3 года назад +5

      It was news to me also...

    • @Kinra_Jade
      @Kinra_Jade 3 года назад +2

      ​@Oliver Windsor Just a guess but maybe because it makes you feel empathic as you realize how much people have little trust in their appearance? There are people who write based on their own experience so their strong opinion isn't going to change easily because a RUclipsr says the contrary.
      I'd suggest, if i am any near right, to stop reading these comments. You'll only ruin your self-confidence ; remember you ARE not the person you're reading.

    • @Kinra_Jade
      @Kinra_Jade 3 года назад

      ​@Oliver Windsor In that case, my apologies. I did went ahead of myself with my answer. Sorry once again and thank you for taking the time to explain yourself.

    • @SssagaBenches4U
      @SssagaBenches4U Год назад

      Sudden realization only to be crushed down by girl you ask out.

  • @littlepearlsofrandomness
    @littlepearlsofrandomness 3 года назад +71

    Some extroverts just thought I was snobby when I was younger but didn’t realise that I found their non-stop talking intimidating. So funny how people perceive things differently

  • @lecarlosljrobinsonjr4933
    @lecarlosljrobinsonjr4933 Год назад +2

    I love being an introvert and attractive

  • @_l.w.a.
    @_l.w.a. 4 месяца назад

    As a fellow introvert I love your extremely informative content! Great hair btw!

  • @am5ntq220
    @am5ntq220 3 года назад +716

    This is like an introvert friend comforting another introvert that it's okay to be an introvert for 4 min straight

  • @leah8894
    @leah8894 3 года назад +793

    “Introverts are good listeners or at least they appear to be”
    Did he just call me out like that-

    • @AmnaAli-ci7lg
      @AmnaAli-ci7lg 3 года назад +30

      Mate I zoned out in middle of the video what else do you expect from me!

    • @kerrymartin7557
      @kerrymartin7557 3 года назад +9

      😂😂😂

    • @etelebulcsumarton2234
      @etelebulcsumarton2234 2 года назад +4

      🤭

    • @meliamedaverman3558
      @meliamedaverman3558 2 года назад +3

      🤣😂
      I'm am an introvert and I appear to be a good listener but I am actually not.😂🤣 They think I am listening but they don't know I'm overthinking what they're telling me.lol

    • @MsSecretbitch
      @MsSecretbitch 2 года назад +1

      😂

  • @tsukimicore
    @tsukimicore 2 года назад

    This made me so happy about myself, thank you.

  • @bobspencildrawings6928
    @bobspencildrawings6928 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much for this video. I live it, I’m an introvert.

  • @primeemperor9196
    @primeemperor9196 3 года назад +747

    "Introverts are attractive."
    Me, an introvert: LIAR!

    • @i3ignorantidelweb43
      @i3ignorantidelweb43 3 года назад

      Me

    • @ME-nw7er
      @ME-nw7er 3 года назад +15

      I have always been extremely shy and introverted and I also don't think I'm attractive that way😂 I mean I interact like an autistic person🤷‍♀️

    • @omegle9925
      @omegle9925 3 года назад

      @@ME-nw7er same

    • @erenb.2806
      @erenb.2806 3 года назад +2

      Idk some people have told me that, i still hardly believe it.

    • @suja605
      @suja605 3 года назад

      @SpeedyArrow_420 that's really nice

  • @EmmaR
    @EmmaR 3 года назад +289

    The idealized version of an introvert, sadly. Most people don't put much thought into why a introvert skips out on a party

    • @lovingkokichi4159
      @lovingkokichi4159 3 года назад +54

      Lmaooo “too cool to go to a party” more like “I’ll be alone and have no one to talk to and I’ll be too nervous to talk to someone new and maybe start crying if I go to a party”

    • @lilly3923
      @lilly3923 3 года назад +9

      loving kokichi fr and then I just have a meltdown when there’s too many people

    • @twisted-art8009
      @twisted-art8009 3 года назад +1

      “Lazy ass”
      Yes hun im lazy and dont want to interact with people 👄👁

    • @abhishek8987
      @abhishek8987 3 года назад

      Coz they are busy with their "assignments".

    • @twisted-art8009
      @twisted-art8009 3 года назад

      Abhishek .G gurl thats a flaker not an introvert

  • @loikcarothers
    @loikcarothers Год назад

    It's all about who will give you the most energy and be the most interesting. Because we like to receive but not to give(mostly).

  • @alexandraharris735
    @alexandraharris735 2 года назад +1

    Thanks for this

  • @fiorellalescano
    @fiorellalescano 3 года назад +756

    If you want another reason: because you tell us to stay cool and attractive, haha 😎. I remember I had a conversation with another introvert and he told me that I was the least annoying person of our group of friends and that's why he felt so comfortable with me. I really felt flattered about that. :3

    • @fiorellalescano
      @fiorellalescano 3 года назад +4

      @@smalltownvvitch 💖

    • @nobody_fadhhlanndy7
      @nobody_fadhhlanndy7 3 года назад +12

      How is this comment is from 15hrs ago, when this video is uploaded literally 7minutes ago?

    • @Mia-de8xf
      @Mia-de8xf 3 года назад +12

      @@nobody_fadhhlanndy7 it's a mystery

    • @juliemay9295
      @juliemay9295 3 года назад +4

      did you get his phone number?

    • @juliemay9295
      @juliemay9295 3 года назад +3

      @@nobody_fadhhlanndy7 FJ puts out an early view of Ko-fi.com for subscribers.

  • @wap6029
    @wap6029 3 года назад +1199

    "Why are Introverts so attractive?"
    Me: *So who's gonna tell him?*

    • @protorhinocerator142
      @protorhinocerator142 3 года назад +57

      That's just mean.
      ...and accurate.

    • @mohithhoney9630
      @mohithhoney9630 3 года назад +7

      I didn't get it.
      Can you explain it to me

    • @phoenixangel5073
      @phoenixangel5073 3 года назад +39

      @@mohithhoney9630 we all ugly as fuuuu

    • @mohithhoney9630
      @mohithhoney9630 3 года назад +15

      @@phoenixangel5073 I know that. Everyone is ugly in their own way and everyone is beautiful in their own way

    • @mohithhoney9630
      @mohithhoney9630 3 года назад +2

      But I don't understand what @The Duck is saying

  • @_jerina
    @_jerina 2 года назад +2

    They definitely don’t think I am cool for turning down their invitation...I can tell you that 😂😂

  • @nickfernandez853
    @nickfernandez853 Год назад

    this video is so unique not just only for the topyc , it's also interesting because of all the great and realistic comments I have found

  • @liliango52
    @liliango52 3 года назад +434

    I'm introverted but my parents are extroverted and it drives me crazy how they always want to make small talk. Like no, I could care less about having a meaningless conversation rn.

    • @nishinosekai
      @nishinosekai 3 года назад +9

      I feel u :'(

    • @GutsPsn
      @GutsPsn 3 года назад +2

      true bruh

    • @arayameow
      @arayameow 3 года назад +20

      Both of them are extroverted? Alright, you're adOpTEd!!!!

    • @karazakiakuno4645
      @karazakiakuno4645 3 года назад +4

      @@arayameow lmao

    • @karazakiakuno4645
      @karazakiakuno4645 3 года назад +13

      @@arayameow Plot twist : he adopted his parents and didnt know they were extroverts

  • @lisa_9608
    @lisa_9608 3 года назад +482

    The “introverts give themselves fewer chances to say annoying things”- not true for me because every time i say something it turns out being annoying and i regret having opened my mouth once again

    • @clintdona4586
      @clintdona4586 3 года назад +50

      lisa_
      The few times I actually speak I say dumb things so same lmao

    • @mysticfellow9843
      @mysticfellow9843 3 года назад +8

      Yeah it happens. I have ADD so I do it more often that usual, despite appearing to be a good listener.

    • @anjaliroy1139
      @anjaliroy1139 3 года назад +1

      @@mysticfellow9843 what is ADD?

    • @m3rl1n4
      @m3rl1n4 3 года назад +1

      @@anjaliroy1139 Attention Deficit Disorder

    • @bishiw2949
      @bishiw2949 3 года назад +5

      Same. Then I'd reflect and blame myself and say less.

  • @IamDinoplayz
    @IamDinoplayz 2 года назад

    This is just what I needed

  • @lavmatthew7283
    @lavmatthew7283 Год назад

    Very well said.. introverts are always there to listen not thinking twice to stay with you.. until u feel better.