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As an INFP, I've noticed that when I put myself out there, many people are very drawn to me and consider me charismatic. But they get totally confused when I suddenly disappear and leave them hanging so that I can cave in and explore the meaning of life.
Talking as an INFP who won't change who I am for anyone, flip side of that is that I also don't want to change anyone else. I want people to be their authentic selves, to do all the best things for themselves and to live their best lives. I think that's pretty likeable.
As an INTJ with an INFP sister I can agree with this. I don't like the idea of forcing someone to change or being forced to be someone I'm not. Though we can get on each other's nerve sometimes I do appreciate my older sister very much.
as an ENFP I appreciate you guys holding onto your identity but may I ask you something, I actually have an INFP friend,she is kind,loyal,nice and all these good things but she just never tries to look at thing from a different lense even if it means hurting herself and sometimes I feel like she is kinda forcing me to do things that she sees as "the right thing" what do you guys think about that?
INFP- All my life people have told me that I was cold, heartless, and mean but the people that stuck around anyway started saying that I was the most caring, kind, & loyal person. Even though I was weird. I did eventually realize that I had a shell that people had to break through before I could open up and yes that shell is very though. It's not adamantine but it will take some to get through.
Also relatable as a fem INTJ INFPs are my favorite as friends. To me they deserve the top of the list. So sweet and brave at the same time. My mom is one. INFPs want every type to be themselves. No fake shit. And I thank you guys for that.
As an INFP I feel you and that shell... Yeah it is very tough but it is also very strong and I love/hate it for this, I've An ENTP friend and we are very much in harmony because my introversion and my feelings help him to his problems because he thinks a lot before to make a decision
Fellow INFP here, I can relate. Some acquaintances of mine think I'm lazy, stubborn, overly sensitive, and overreacting. Which hurts. But to the people I'm close with, they think of me as kind, sweet, loving, nice, friendly, and easy to talk to.
I would say INFP’s and ISFP’s are not likeable at first, however if you break the FI shield and get to know them, you’ll be surprised how much you actually like them.
As an ISFP I would second that and I would add that if other ISFPs would try to get to know others as a part of their authentic expression they will be easily well liked and have many friends which is both a great and terrible problem to have.
I think that's very true. As an INFP I've been called aloof arrogant distant cold serious BUT then told a couple of weeks later that I was not like that and very likeable
i agree. i'm INTP/INFJ (weird, i know) and i personally think ISFJ is one of/the most likeable type although they often lack thinking skills which matter to me alot.
As an INFP, i stopped caring especially when i had friends who've suck the life out of me. Before, I was easily manipulated cause i thought they are being authentic or honest to me, cause when i care "I really care" and i give absolute effort. I mostly attract narcissists and now i'm scared to repeat the same pattern again so i built this wall around me to protect myself and find my identity, Now i'm this cold hearted quiet person who sits in every corner of a room trying to unpuzzle life not a care whether people likes me or not. I think if people really likes to be friends with me, i need to show the true me and attract the people with the same values as mine. I dnt know its hard to explain.
I understand you. It's better to be with people who share your values, or at least don't try to control you and change you into something that is too unnatural to you. Your mental health comes first. I know it's hard to be alone and quiet all the time. Like everyone else we also want to share our ideas and values with someone. We want to laugh and cry with someone. But, being alone and quiet is lot better than hanging out with people who can't understand your limitations.
I believe that every individual has some aspects that are likeable and some not that likable, and it's kind of difficult to be loved by the latter aspects. So I think it's better to behave differently to different personalities and I don't think such a choice is pretentious as it's like this is me and that is also me. ~ an INTJ who lost an INFP friend.
I've had this exact situation before and honestly, I continue seeing this happen, so I thought I could share some things about how I've come to deal with it! I hope this helps
I feel so called out about INFJ's being cold and not caring about people as a result of being slightly out of our tunnel vision. I have genuinely questioned if I'm a sociopath or something during these phases but then I'll randomly be really empathetic again and I'll quickly sweep that idea under the rug... I always feel so guilty after I realise how cold I was being
I don’t think we’re cold to everyone because we can’t just turn off and on our empath abilities we always care to some extent at all times. If we were able to mentally and emotionally I think we could be the most absolute liked type. But we can’t ☹️
@@sethvandycke904 Yeah that's true... I think maybe most of the time it's more like I'm being cold because of stress but I realise it and want to stop from feeling guilty but can't - so I'm still feeling empathy even if it's tucked away in the back of my head. I think it's a good thing though, it makes us generally more caring people :)
As an INFP I can definitely relate to this. I think it’s possible we’re just compartmentalizing and or disassociating in order to avoid being overwhelmed with the emotions of others.
We all make mistakes, and we learn from them. I understand that it can be tough when people remember something wrong from the past, but remember that we are human, and we have long lives to live.
Stereotypes can really be a lot misleading. As an INTJ, I always read how people may hate us for our elusive mental core. No matter how much I wish it to be true, I just keep getting adopted by extroverted people, and then left off after days of inactivity EDIT: Seeing how so many people gave their precious likes and individually amaizing replies, they really fucked up to not include INTJ in the list. Thanks for these, I'm finally famous
Same, I tend to get really invested in stuff and start new hobbies regularly, but eventually I stop being mentally stimulated (the challenge/novelty wears off) so I quit and then lose contact with my extroverts. That, and after a while they tend to grow bored of my constant non-small-talk haha.
As an ENFP with an INTJ brother I trully appreciate his logical mind even though it isn't seen that much but he is actually a pretty kind person but not the popular kind he has his unique kindness and A LOT of interesting stuff to say...sometimes he is kinda harsh and rude but he has MANY unique and good qualities.I am just so lucky to have him😊💕
Adopted? More like kidnapped. The amount of times I've made friends against my will, all because I listened to them talk and they decided they liked me.
It truly does. I’m an ENFP, for example, and I have a tendency to get along better with thinkers because I don’t see my worst aspects reflected in them haha
It does. I always thought that we introverted thinking types (I'm an INTP 6w5, sometimes mistyped as an ISTJ) would rank at the very bottom of the "likeability" factor, because we're not conventionally "fun" or particularly charming, but I did get comments from feeling types that they actually find us introverted thinkers likeable (an INFP commented that they find INTPs ideal, which surprised me, because I actually find us introverted thinkers "boring" and insensitive 😅), and vice versa (I personally get along better with FP types). It just depends on the individual.
As INFP I confirm all said about. 👍🏻Finding the balance between "being likeable" and "being authentic" is very common for me... Authenticity wins more often 😉 I just don't care what other's think about me. The only exception is my boss, I have to survive somehow 😂
To be honest, as an INFP, I thought that way too - historically. I am now a 49 year old woman who has worked in the same job for sixteen years and have found that having a genuine connection with colleagues and a phenomenal team leader after a decade of being closed off and distrustful has been optimally rewarding.
As a INFP, I can tell you what that is very ture. I'm not going to change my personality if someone doesn't like me. Everyone doesn't have chemistry, you're going to meet people that just don't like you, and that's ok! You will find people who really like your personality, and then you'll also find the opposite.
That’s fair. Everyone has something unique about them and I do think that at least some of that uniqueness is invariably positive (not that the most despicable people on earth are excusable in that sense but even they probably have some good in them). If you vibe, good; if you don’t and you have a certain distaste for them, they may or may not be inherently bad people (it’s good to trust intuition but first-off you’ve got to know what you’re seeing in a person, perceive it correctly and consider contextual universality in the sense that what of who isn’t your cup of tea based on your own life experiences don’t make them bad people) but eventually you will find people you have better chemistry with.
Yeah you shouldn’t change ur personality but character is important and u can change that it’s ur attitude and outward approach everyone has different taste and you shouldn’t tell anyone they have bad taste or they should change it it’s their personal preference but some times people have toxic traits that they should try to work on and change and that’s character how u present yourself to others is to be mindful of
@@gabmoon2940 yeah. I’m a bit like an ENFP (a proper, more jaded/serious one; very, very far-removed from the quirky-unicorn-on-skittles stereotype) in the sense that I try and see the positive/s in most people. It’s not always glaringly optimistic but yeah. I just feel like whether someone’s likeable to you or not (the world wouldn’t exist without subjectivity but when it comes to universal character-judgement it holds limited weight, I feel) 60% of people at least are fundamentally good. I know I rant about how annoying ESFPs, (male) INTJs and people who are just overall loud can be so annoying but the other half of me recognises the immense value in them and knows that they’re blessed in their own way (I mean, INTJs obviously are, whether they tend to seem likeable or not). Where I draw the line is when someone has strong elements of narcissism or a tendency to hold long-term negative judgements about someone just for not being exactly like them (‘u so aloof that I barely acknowledge my presence when I walk into a room and because I feel entitled to everyone’s admiration and u ain’t giving it to me by just being cordial and otherwise getting on wit u business I’m goina hate an gossip about u’), they’re rapists/senseless murderers and stuff like that but generally I feel like as many people are lovely deep-down as are rightfully-loathsome.
As an INFP, I'm actually pretty flexible and willing to go with the flow regarding almost anything as long as it doesn't violate a core value (or take up more than, say, 4 hours of my week because I really do need recharge time). But if it's against my core principles, heck no. Nothing can shake that. There may be a few other things that I won't do, but it's because I can't be inauthentic and pretend to enjoy something I don't. I think people would dislike me a heck of a lot more, and I'd dislike myself, if I pretended to be something I'm not. Still, going out of my comfort zone at least a little is pretty fundamental to growth, so... I've said nothing in this post, have I? 😂
Same. And when things maybe violate my core values, I just bow out and say “it’s just not my thing.” I don’t condemn other people for doing it or try to force my beliefs; I just quietly remove myself.
Same here which makes me easy to gaslight in most things XD Say in project, I don't expect my team to reach the same goal as me so when they say they are tired I'd believe it even if it was just an excuse. If they go beyond on what I believe, say I always try to understand their situation but they can't understand that if they keep avoiding their work it'll be passed to me and I could be in a lot of pressure then I won't let their 'tiredness' be an excuse to take advantage of me.
You're so right about the ENTPs! They're sometimes soo similar to ENFPs, but even when they're not, they're so diverse, so full of ideas, like such an interesting and all over the place type, you could so easily get into a conversation about literally ANY subject with them, like, how is it possible that they're not likable
Not to mention we always want growth for everyone. It's the kind of people who think they know enough/better and don't need to change whatsoever (close-minded) that don't like us.
As an INFP I've been discribed more as "respectable" or "lovable" than likable, likely 'cause I only show up when someone is feeling bad or maybe I thought about giving them a present or saying something that I like about them. Being quite "led by my ideas" had gain me the respectable sign I guess (although I'm too shy, so it only show up in the way I dress or in my sugar coat honesty), and as for "lovable"... I have social anxiety, so it should be the type of awkwardness that I have that they find lovely HAHA
Definitely an INFP and I always get that I always seem cold and uninterested. I do what I want and if I am bored it definitely shows lol (which happens a lot). But I also hate conflict and try to be nice to everyone, especially since I know I come off as indifferent when I am off in my little world.
Im an INFP and this is somewhat true for me tbh. It's either all or nothing with me, im either loved and adored by others, or people can't stand me and automatically dislike me, or are indifferent towards me. Im just too authentic to give a darn about group think, and i'm not a sheep like the rest of them, I just do my own thing. It's 50/50 with me tbh.
As an ENFJ, I can definitely say we're friendly. Like for me, I genuinely just love being nice to people, with no ulterior motives to it. And I love making new friends. But I will also say we're defenders. Like if I see someone being bullied, or if I see someone doing something I deem unethical I was absolutely call them out on it and occasionally if it goes on for long enough, I will snap.
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I am an ENFP, this was completely accurate! Growing up I was always getting in trouble, making jokes, I would double down on whatever I was doing wrong. If there's something you don't like me saying? I'm going to keep saying it. It stemmed from deep down never wanting to be controlled. I liked to push people and took peoples personalities as a challenge for me to solve. I also struggled with the "restlessness" the need to be reckless or make dramatic changes, always having fun, up for anything any time. Now that I'm older I have learned the value of peace, stability, being a solid foundation, being respectful of others boundaries and I am using the ENFP gifts of enthusiasm, authenticity, optimism, and problem solving to become a counselor :)
I’m an INFP. I think. I’ve rebelled against outside control all my life, but in a sneaky way. Like, being told to sit, I’d stand until almost too late, then sit. All the while thinking “In my mind, I’m standing.” My mom said she wouldn’t bother telling me what to do, because I’d just end up doing what I wanted anyway. Which was usually the right thing, by her own admission.
great to hear! sound like a good role model I rebelled by becoming more religious than the religious people i was surrounded by (...and then judge them.) 😈😈
I'm not a certified counselor but I might as well be one. All my friends come to me for help. I've helped so many people I've started to wonder if I should of been a therapist or something. Hahahahahha
Okay can we just appreciate his skills to just make our personality easy to understand. I mean your vedios are so much more then just fun and laughs and it's praise worthy fr
As an ISTJ, I think something that can make Thinkers, particularly the TJ types (because we have Te), easy to get along with is that we realize that causing drama and conflict (at least, for no real reason) is not productive. In many cases, being unlikable is illogical. (We might not be as GOOD at being likeable as our Feeling counterparts, but we're trying)
Forget drama and conflict, i feel like any kind of talking is unproductive lmao If someone tells me to do something I'd just do it without asking questions like why how what where cause thats just time consuming. By this I have also mastered minding my business and not getting into others drama but also because of this you actually find out more about a gossip or drama or a conflict and people actually confide in you more even though you are least interested...
You guys are actually pretty likable for me I had that ISTJ friend she was the cutest to exist,she had really good advices for me,we both really had good times together she genuinely cared for her friends and she was just one of the most likable persons to exist! An ENFP
You sound a lot like my ISTJ brother. I'm INTP and we get along well, relating on a thinking level. But he is actually more aware than I am of how to work within a team (something Te and Fe are both adept at). He can balance his own perspective with those of others.
I'm INFP and because I'm outside of the norm (6'2" tall female and overweight) people always made me feel very bad about myself. For years I've been trying to be someone I wasn't, to fit the standard and disappear in the crowd, only to suffer from various mental issues and be extremely unhealthy. When I finally made peace with myself and accepted who I was, I started being just that. I am who I am and I won't change to satisfy some random who have no influence over my life. If the way I dress annoys them, they can look elsewhere. If they are vexed by me being taller, they can just wear heels. I agree to work on myself for some things, because I can be a handful for my family and friends. So for them I try to do better. 🙏 But that's about it. If people don't like me and don't try to get to know me, I certainly won't despair.
well done, because you are meant to be just who you are, this is the most beautiful we can be.... all the indoctrinated standards aside, when someone senses you are living who you are, it is an inspiration and invitation for others to do the same... we have WAAAY too many people who try to fit in and fall in line, because they are scared of rejection from people who are mean
That last bit about the thinkers is so accurate. As an INTJ I'm very aware of my feelings and I'm very adamant too, but I'm also very focused on resolving issues and being logically impartial to set aside my feelings if they're unjustified or driving me to do stupid things.
I LOVE MY INTJ FRIENDS! You don’t get offended when I tell you the black and white truth. And when I ask Ask for there opinion, they are very truthful about it. I suppose that is why I am attracted to the Analyst group. INTJ. ENTJ, INTP and the ENTP. -INFP
Are you aware of your feelings? What are they? What do they feel like? I only ask because my INTJ husband is insistent that he is aware of his emotions yet cannot articulate what they are, any triggers nor does he express any sensitivity.
ISFJs tend to be the "Sweethearts" out of all 16 types. My friend, mother, aunt and cousin are all this type, and they all tend to be thoughtful, kind and considerate.
I've noticed that a lot of (alleged) ISFJs in media tend to be portrayed as the "true blue"/loyal best friend character, as well as very fierce protectors. Ones I can think of off the top of my head are Samwise Gamgee (Lord of the Rings), John Watson (BBC Sherlock), and Rory Williams (Doctor Who). *again, "alleged" because the results of these characters are based on what I've read online and have observed personally, etc. Edit: also Peeta Mellark (Hunger Games), and Will Turner (Pirates of the Caribbean)? Less certain about Will
My aunt is an ISFJ as well as a few girls I went to school with and although this is true for the most part, there are some not so pleasant things with some of them. Sometimes they can be a little unexpectedly intense and when they have ill motives they are extremely sly with it. They will easily use the “sweetheart” image as their cover making them practically undetectable which can be really frustrating to prove to others who have a hard time seeing them in a bad light. They can really manipulate you into questioning yourself too, but that can go for other FJ types also.
As an infp, I believe I have never been one of the cool kids because I just didn’t get it… and I didn’t want to dress and talk and think like a drone. I just can’t fake it… as a young person I felt like an awkward ugly duckling who just didn’t fit in but as an adult I dig who I am!
ISFP here! I really like INFJ because you guys have good discipline and it helps narrow down a good day or time to meet up. You guys also give full-length advices without being harsh. No hate to T’s but I feel like I’m always getting scolded with how direct they are.
I actually do agree as an INFJ that when we have matured we tunnel vision and get "cold", and when you described that part I kinda got chills down my spine with how small my social circle is now compared to 15 years ago. However, I will disagree, most INFJs before they have matured are very genuinely selfless, I remember wanting to help my friends in school and wanting them to go to big schools and get good grades, so they could do what they were passionate about. Most of my friends were not nearly into school as I was, and didn't want help getting into schools or getting good grades, or getting better at sports, some people just wanted to do what could get them by, and we didn't know how to interpret that. As we grew older and saw our own dreams/lives change as well as the dreams/lives of those around us, we begin to realize how little a person actually changes another person's life unless they are very intimately and closely engaged with their well-being, which is why we tend to want to be psych-related professions, teachers, coaches, nurses; as well as seeking very close and intimate, daily or almost daily personal/platonic/romantic attention from someone who can understand us. I don't want to pin the blame on the rest of the world, but I really do try my best to help people who are trying their best, and as a result shallow and ill-intentioned people have fallen out of my scope of interest.
As an INFJ I think it's everyone's job to be themselves because they were born that way to balance out the world, and being generally likeable is arbitrary. I don't really care as much about being liked as I care about being respected and understood. I tend to not register if I like someone, but rather perceive who they are. I don't think my biases are all that important when it comes to living beings. I do tend to view them as a part of an intricate, intrinsically balanced system. I like to see how we symbiotically align. I can guarentee all of you, that you matter.
@@Missmagazinebura Yeah you have to honor your desire to tell the truth. The truth is something people don't always respond happily to in real-time, but eventually realize that you actually profoundly helped them. Though they may never give you any credit. If you are telling the truth with the intention to empower people and solve problems, and not with the intention to manipulate people then I think it is very respectable.
@@infdox9051 Absolutely, it takes a lot of integrity to remain honest when you know the cost is potentially losing support. When someone is honest with me I can register that it hurt my feelings, but I also see just as clearly that they just helped me level up. I try to focus more on my integrity than my popularity. The real ones will trust and appreciate your honesty.
I never thought INFJ would be in the list, I never thought I am likable as I always feel like I am out of place, I always being careful and analysing people. I love INFP so much cause they seem genuine, they seems doesn't care but actually warm hearted. So far from most of people I met, I love INFP the most although my bestie was ENFJ. INFP and INFJ has similarity, we both pretty mysterious and being very careful with boundary. Love how real they are.
You can definitely tell all of these "experts" were feelers. You can also definitely tell that FJ is an INFJ for thinking ENTP is the most likable (tho as INTP I agree). I feel like if you put a poll up that asked all 16 of the personalities which other type was most likable, you'd get close to 16 answers. Everyone has something likable about them to another person.
I don't know which personality types my friends r. I had introverted and extroverted friends throughout my life and I loved and still love them all dearly. But if I would have to say a specific it would be intp. And that's only because my fiance is one and I feel happier than I have ever been. But I heard from other infps that preferred enfp and infj. It really depends on who they deeply love. At least they talked about their relationships. I guess it's not that objective. U can put 10 different people with the same type in one room but I bet they still would like or dislike someone. It's natural.
As an enfp, there's a big silly bone in me that I just can't stop seeing the funny side to things. It gets worse when I'm around one to multiple infps who encourages me to go on.
I've had that discussion about Fe with someone before, they were like "INFJs sacrifice their True Self... so sad". But I think that's misunderstanding what Fe is and Does. To me, being adaptive to the people around you IS the true nature of Fe. It's like a chameleon that adapts to the background of the room they're in; if the room changes, they'll change too. That's not the Chameleon being "Fake" or going against their "True Self", adapting IS their true self. (at least in the metaphorical sense, I know chameleons IRL use their colour changing for social cues and communication) It's also ironic, because as an INFJ I really care about being genuine, and I really can't stand it when I can see people being fake. Like, I could never be that kind of "car salesman" personality where you essentially Trick people into buying a car you Know is bad, but telling the buyer that it's good. I guess it just depends on what you count as "being fake".
Exactly, that's just what Fe evolves into eventually. Because at it's core, it's involuntarily assimilation of other people's emotions. If I see that someone is sad, even if I'm happy, my happiness will drop, harmony is missing in that moment. Likewise, I'm being rewarded if I make someone happy, so even at "hormone" level, I'm being tutored to do it. Which also makes me question if it's a good deed, or neutral action, since it's partially involuntary action...
Also as an INFJ myself, I know a lot of the time I know who I am when I’m alone. It’s just when I’m with other people that I’m so focused on the general mood of the environment that I forget for awhile, but I come back to it when I’m alone again. Adapting to my environment is more of a defense system for me though, because I’m afraid of what people will do to me if I mention certain things or say something wrong when I’m really trying not to. So basically I do it so I don’t get hurt or hurt someone.
Thank you for explaining this. I'm an INFP and I have an INFJ friend and I noticed that they do this a lot and I was very confused because it could be just us hanging out and we would agree on something and then when we got around others it wouldn't be the case anymore but when we got back to just us it was again. Now I understand I will have to work at understanding what's happening at the time because logically I get it but my feelings say it's not genuine. Thanks
@@NyxNigh glad I could help. :) I think the best thing to remember is that (in most cases) the feelings we have _Are_ genuinie, just.... more "flexible" and not as deeply rooted as with you Fi-folk. If I'm out walking, and I walk past someone crying, I'll feel "their" sadness, and it will bring my mood down, but then I'll walk past someone laughing, and I'll feel happy again. If it helps, try to think of it like the emotional version of your Ne. Constantly "flitting" between emotions depending on what's going on around you; emotions might come and go in the blink of an eye because of what's happening to you. But for me (and maybe other INFJs) when I'm not with someone - not being exposed to the emotions of others - I'm mostly calm and not feeling much at all. In my mind, The Extraverted functions work on external stimulus, and are more *broad* but less _deep_ . So by contrast our Ni and Ti are where we get really deep rooted, but not in emotions. (more true for INFJs than ENFJs I imagine, since we INFJs are more "balanced" in the feelings department). Sorry for the long reply, it seems I had a lot to say... x)
The INFJ part is actually very true when you first meet them and then not so true the more you get to know them. I am an INFJ at this point. Almost everyone who first know me (people who talk to me on the bus, people who talk to me in a learning course, etc) love me. I can always make friends in a room full of strangers without trying. Cab drivers love me (if I let them). This is because I listen. I am so good at letting others do what they want while taking in the surroundings, like how you described. Also, l am an introvert who can live with myself inside my own head while the world spins. But once people think I am their friend, they try to crap with me and do inappropriate things, crossing my boundaries that they had never bothered to find out, they get back crap from me too. And that’s when they realise that an INFJ is an INFJ. They like me because I listen way more than anyone else ever does for them (many INFJs can remain silent for long periods and absorb, remember, and even cry because of what you said; we are the empaths) but I am NOT FRIEND YET because I myself have not gotten to exchange with them. Basically, they know nothing about me. So, when people find out that the INFJs have boundaries like all other living things, they usually suddenly decide not to like the INFJs as much as they first thought they do. This is also the part where I find unjustified. But oh well. The world can spin. What I have found out about this world, as an INFJ, is that it loves to talk. It loves to talk to anybody who would listen. I only have to look like I would listen and exude the energy that I would listen to make someone walk up to me. The things people tell me can get quite crazy. When people unload onto me, 70% are boasting to me, 20% are unloading some form of stress that they have been carrying for the longest time. 9% are introverts who want to talk, and only 1% genuinely want to make friends with me; those I hold dear.
This hit home. As an INFJ myself, I have never seen a comment be so true about my life. I have a really hard time finding genuine friends because they always want to make conversation but they’re not willing to ask me questions and I’m not the type of person who will be constantly saying “Oh I did blah blah blah” or “I have…” (emphasis on “I”). I don’t want to say things about myself because I feel that it’s an eccentric behaviour and the other person isn’t really listening and simple doesn’t care. That leads to people thinking I’m mysterious because they know nothing about me and I choose to not hang out with them often. I have a lot of acquaintances but not a single close friend that I trust deeply except for my boyfriend 😅
INFJs should communicate those boundaries instead of expecting people to read their minds. Be a better communicator. Speak loudly, distinctly, clearly and directly do there's no room for misunderstandings but they are too chicken to do that and ghosting is easier.
@@SS-bu8ez This sounds a leeeeetle aggro good human but I understand the point entirely. It's hard for INFJs to feel like they can demand so much of others (what they feel is too much!). Sometimes being good listeners mean they take the backseat in asserting and sharing their own thoughts, ideas and boundaries. Once someone hurts them though, all the space they let the other person have in their mind, heart etc., they just shut down/stop trying.
I felt so seen as an ENFP. Theres a little ENTP in us and sometimes it is funny if people don’t like us. Actually, everything is funny, except when it’s not (but it still is in some weird way)
I make fun of so much cringe or awkward situation that sometimes you might think i don't feel shame at all, but it just comes as funny to me. Except when i'm in the moment. Lol
@@LaciRae I'm INFP, my mom is ENFP. She reacts to ANYTHING by humor, especially stressful or dramatic situations and more often than not I find myself giving her a "omg you did not" look before actually laughing with her. And when she's feeling too bad to find something funny or dumb to say, I'm the one doing so. So I can understand what you're saying. 😊 That kind of dynamic is fun
@@Capyrate i was worried for a second that You were going to tell me how that dynamic fucked You up. roles reversed, an INFP child/ENFP adult, i could see it being too much for an INFP to want to handle at times. he is def wilder with his abandon than i am, for absolute sure. i know where to draw lines (although those lines are not very strict or standard to society, and are based entirely on my own logic & ethics. and certain people don’t always take too kindly to that). his lines are way far more lax than mine. kind of scares me a little about his future. his dad is an INTP, so he helps bring us back down a little. trying to make sure he is raised holding on to his core essence, while also making it through life not getting his ass kicked by society, is a serious duty.
As an ENFP with FJ friends…can definitely relate to them feeling fake sometimes. Has caused some friction between us to be honest, but I’m trying to be more understanding since everyone functions differently *also, thinking types tend to be at the top of my list
As an ENFJ, I can relate to other observations that say it is more about a different type of authenticity. It is also about intention. And when the time is taken to understand the authentic intention behind what can be seen as fake, it may change someone's perception. It is genuinely who FJs are. Personally I feel compelled to be aware and mirror some behavior to help people feel seen, part of the whole, create harmony, get a better sense of their humor....really the list goes on but it always comes back to being hyper aware and striving for harmony. It can also be overwhelming to walk into a space and get a sense for how everyone is feeling.
I am also an ENFP and it's quite the opposite for me I have: INTJ brother ESFJ mom ENFJ father INFJ friends ENFJ friends and the only one I sometimes feel that they are fake are ENFJs,I know they are mostly well-intentioned but not everyone has the ability to understand this just like my INTJ brother sees me and pretty much all my extroverted friends fake it just depends on the person judging so fellow FJs don't care about anyone that calls you fake as long as you are comforrable with yourself
@@Maryam-forbia wow! Lots of FJs. I can see how your brother would see this. Very true, when I was younger, if I had heard someone call me fake I would have been so confused. Not that anyone says that to me now, but it does help explain past experiences. Now, I really would not care. 1) because I would understand why they felt that way, it is not unjustified. I can see how that would make some people uncomfortable. 2) I am comfortable with who I am. Knowing this has helped me find a better sense of who I am and present with more confidence
@@artapothecary53 As an INTP, I love that FJs can show me what to do with Fe. My Ti operates a lot like Fi and I am usually in my own little bubble. But I can feel when someone in my presence is sad and I get quite flustered not knowing what to do about it. I want to 'solve' emotional problems so I don't feel like they're rubbing off on me. You curate emotions well, they don't take you by surprise.
@@fyn1985 I don’t know if I have ever met an INTP. My husband is INFP. I have had to work on not needing to/ wanting to ‘solve’ other people’s stuff. I still have to make a conscious effort but it is easier than it used to be. However, emotions do not take me by surprise and I do curate them. I absolutely love that insight. I’ve never thought of it as a curation, but that is right on point!
You all know that you don't decide liking other people based on their personality type or their zodiac sign or their blood type (unless you're a vampire). You got to know the person to like them. Great video, Frank.
"You all know that you don't decide....etc..." What you are really saying is "You all know that I don't decide liking people based on...." Because you don't actually know how WE all determine who we like. Case in point: I'm an ENTJ, but was always bullied growing up and got to the point where I did not trust most people. When I discovered MBTI, it helped me fix this situation and I now have healthy relationships with most people I encounter. I'm a high school science teacher and use MBTI with my students to teach them how to get along better, and how to work in groups. It also helps me to know what type they are, so I can focus on what they each need from me. This is not something that comes naturally to me, I have to work at it, and MBTI is my tool. Can I like a person without knowing their MBTI type? Maybe superficially, but knowing their type is a short cut, and alerts to me to possible issues between us in the future. This has been very handy, as it has saved me from being blind-sided by others' bad behavior.
@Leo sun Aqua moon I think putting human beings in such rigid boxes harms everybody, personally. Not a single one of the mbti categories is inherently bad. To suggest otherwise is both misinformed and frankly just sad.
@@elisecurran9497 You took my words very seriously my friend. I'm not determining anything to anyone. I can't argue with you about MBTI being a useful tool, if we use it correctly. and I respect your life experience and appreciate your experience with your students. And I understand the big impact of MBTI in your life and the life of many people, too. But I still don't think that it have all the answers about a person. Humans and their personalities are very complicated net. We are shaped by our environment, upbringing, life experiences, personal choices, and many other factors. And you can see that this article use the stereotypes to determine which type is more likeable than the others, which is absurd. We can't say that all the people from a certain type having the same personality or behaving in the same way. Plus, what is likeable to someone may not be the case for someone else. I'm not against MBTI, like I said it's a great tool if we know how to use it to understand each other and our differences. But I prefer to give the others a chance to introduce themselves to me, and like them based on what I experience with them, and how they make me feel, not by how some system or theory suggested how they might be.
ISFJ here - FJ, you are so spot on. It takes me a long time to figure out "the plan" for things. I stew over things for days, weeks or months, and once I have my plan, if my people in my life don't support it or hinder me in some way, oh man! Gloves are off! I get so defensive, vocal and even emotional about it. Don't poo-poo on my idea that I worked so hard to figure out a procedure for. :)
16:29 Frank, you should mention that what's called as an INFJ's loop. Only INFJ has this kind of loop *(Ni-Ti loop)* which could happen by some tragedies or events, and this makes INFJ seems so cold -- as if we detached our emotions and feelings. But its true, on the loop i don't and can't feel anything 😔
They can be a bit of an acquired taste but I really like ESTPs and ISTPs. They might seem harsh, crazy, or even rude early on but they can be some of the sweetest and most loyal people once you get accepted into their circle of folks they like. It's also nice to have someone that can look past the emotional aspect of a problem and just give you the straight facts of what needs to be done. As someone that is always scared of being mean or hurting someones feelings over any perceived mistake, having an outside opinion that's so radically different really helps.
I don't know about ExTx They're just outright loud and harsh for me to handle. It's kinda difficult. But IxTx, especially the perceivers (Ti Doms), they may also hard to approach due to high level of privacy, secretive and kinda aloof. But once you get to know them and get into their soft side, definitely worth it ❤️👌 They turn out to be such a cutie
Can vouch for that, anyone may talk about anything with me and I'll be unfazed, I too want someone with which I can like talk about anything without holding back at all...
As an INFJ I am Selfless and Selfish at the same time. I am always nice to people, even if I don't like people. But I feel good when I am nice. Sometimes I'm not even nice for the people around me, but more for myself. I can't really be mean on purpose, that feels like defeat to me. Sometimes I'm mean when I am socially drained, but more in the form of being cold and distant.
Didn't he nail it?!?! My boss is an ENFP and I see the fallout from her antics regularly with the salon patrons. She walks away and it's either "I just love her!! She's so funny!!" or it's "God, does she ever shut up?!?!' The answer is no. She never shuts up. It's exhausting. (I'm an ISTP)
I’m an ENFP and I once became so obsessed with a guy who was a friend of a friend and didn’t want to be my friend. He would always intentionally ignore me and I’d have no clue why. Years later I found out that it was because I was obsessed with finding out why he didn’t like me that he didn’t like me.
My goodness, I can relate to that! I always want to know why someone doesn't like me. I want to understand everyone's motives etc. And I can be pretty annoying about that 😅
Actually, I really like INFPs and INFJs, (or atleast how Frank portrays them). He does a very adorable INFP... Many of these personalities are very similar to each other - but INFPs and INFJs are very distinguished.
Am an INFP and my bf is INFJ and he is my fav person......... He just is the best person for me❤️ This two types actually are very compatible with each other in terms of friendship and relationships ❤️
@@ruthilalthangpuihmar2149 Me: Relationship goals- Also me whenever any boy approaches me: He’s probably gonna hate me. Let me push him away and make him super uncomfortable so I stay alone for the rest of my life. :D
Just coming here to the comment section to say that I watched this whole video, even though my type (INTP) didn't get mentioned at all. 😂 Anyway, my ENFP child enjoyed it, and we had a little discussion about Fi. It was a good time.
Well, let's face it: INTPs don't try too hard to be likeable...and that's one of the reasons why people like them so much (whithout them being aware of that,lol). As for me, I love INTPs: fascinating minds, deeply caring hearts and great protectors of the ones they love (ENTP here).
I always find it strange when people say they like INTPs. I don't think I’m particularity likeable, and we can be stubborn and opinionated. I do generally try to be nice/friendly because I figured out it makes things easier for me and all things considered I’d prefer people to be content. I’m probably higher in agreeableness than the average INTP since I’m female and 2/3rds of us are male. That being said, there are limits and I’m super stubborn. I absolutely refuse to pretend to think something I don’t or be something I’m not to blend in with a group. As an INTP, I really like ENTPs argumentative side. It’s like an amusement park except I don’t have to move to enjoy it.
I'm ENFP and for me ENTP and INTJ are on top. They are so refreshing for me during discussion, they bring so different perspective, that I'm instantly in love
I’ve been roommates with a lot of different people, stayed at air bnbs and hostels and all that stuff, and the compliments I often receive are that I’m super easy to get along with, not high maintenance at all, thoughtful and considerate, organized and neat. In a living situation, it seems, I am a very likeable person. Until you invite all your friends over without advanced warning and party like savages in my personal space. Then we have a problem. -INTJ
Same thing happen to me! I used to have a friend who was very close to me, but we became roomates when we were sent abroad for exchange study. We used to be cool, but when I really get a feel of her lifestyle, oh boy, I became really cold to her. She totally disregarded me by going home very late at night and making so much noise, even calling and flirt with random men online while I was sleeping. I was beyond disgusted by her lifestyle and I even stormed out of my dorm. Part of me also questioning myself whether I was overreacting abt someone else life, but i was really disgusted that I pray for this hell to end faster. Day by day I talk less and less to her. I burned the bridge because my mind and body naturally reject her. Now it all make sense when I learn about my type INFJ. Now im more keen of sensing people with similar characteristic, I automatically stay away from them.
@@marumariww Isn’t it interesting how we really get to know people by living with them? I also had a few friends who moved in and ended up being very difficult for the whole house. I was usually the peace-maker between clashing alpha types, since my Te let me set aside my personal feelings and problem-solve objectively.
I really get the Ti edge you described. I have a close ENFJ friend who’s generally really caring about others, she’s active in social groups and liked by most people. But I can really see when the mask falls of that there’s this cold and careless approach. I have it too and it’s really weird. I’m both really caring and performative. But it’s how it is
My favourite type is the ENFJ, they're so clever with how they handle my not wanting to open up and just get me without causing me discomfort. They're incredibly warm people. I adore the shit out of them. - ISTP
I'm an INFP and why the heck is this description my entire life story, I have definitely annoyed people because of my stubbornness, so some people don't like me and others love me (which is why I have 5 best friends). I think INFP's are like durian; you either hate it or love it.
Fellow INFP here--spot on relatable! Some people latch on to me instantly while others despise everything I'm all about. I get it and that's cool. Love the durian analogy...I use guacamole as a comparison (Never tried durian!)
I like that you did this because the stereotypes really mess everyone’s perceptions of this up. I agree btw, ENTP are my favorite but it could just be because I’m an infj. What I’ve noticed it’s certain personalities just don’t always get along super well with specific types. As “charming” as ESFP and ENFP are thought to be, I find them incredibly frustrating personally.
As an ×NTP, I feel like we can charm people quickly and easily, but some types grow weary of our energy quickly. We need to make sure everyone else is as interested in our latest fascination as we are before we rattle on too long. 🤐 I've had to train myself to be a less selfish conversant!
As an esfp and my boyfriend is an isfj and I’m constantly reminded about how much of a better person he is! He’d never ever say that but I feel it. He’s genuine and selfless and has a sense of safety that I’ve never felt before! Ha love him and yea he puts up with my energy and it’s really fun annoying him
Thank you Frank! As an ISFJ, I found your reasoning is 100% right. Some of my now close friends still are surprised when I bite their heads off because I have a process and I HAVE to stick to it, and I can get quite loud and extroverted (which is pretty funny to watch haha)
Been married to my husband for a decade and this has helped me a) notice and b) understand just how many little systems he has in place. Basically I’ve been an INTP bull in his ISFJ China shop this whole time. Whoops.
INFP...We like to be liked like everyone else. It's human. As far as being likable the jury is still out. Everyone has their quarks. In short everyone has the ability to be likable. Some just care about it more.
Enfj here: *Guilty.* At first I wasn’t quite getting what you were saying about fakeness, but I’ve reflected a bit and I understand now. I hope I speak for all enfjs when I say we strive to be the positive force in the world, even for the smallest smile on someone’s face. However (especially for me) There is a point where being sad just isn’t acceptable. This is a personal example, but sometimes I feel like I’m just not allowed to be sad-? It sounds stupid especially since we’re usually quite open with our feelings. But sometimes, ESPECIALLY when you know there are people around you who are going through worse crap than you… you HAVE to put on a fake front. Because you can’t risk making them feel guilty or feeling like a burden. That’s why we’re fake at times. For me at least-
As an ISFP, I think we are the type to most likely see ENFJs as fake, but it's because we place a lot of importance on staying true to ourselves and *always* without fail sticking to what feels right to us even if other people don't follow us or get it. It doesn't matter to us what other people think or feel about what we're doing as long as it feels right to us. So when we meet ENFJs who work very hard to keep the peace and make everyone happy, to us, that seems like someone who is either fake and trying to place others despite not feeling it, or someone who doesn't have confidence in their own feelings enough to stick to them. If you end up in this situation with an FP type who thinks you're fake, it might be helpful to explain to them what your true feelings are, even if you have to add that you're choosing not to follow or act on them. We'll understand that choice more than we'd understand you not being certain of your own values/feeling.
It's all subjective, really. I'm an ISTJ, and I do generally prefer being around feeling types as long as they're not too intense about it (*cough* ESFJs). My ENFP husband, however, tends to gravitate toward thinking types.
As a INFP I always got along with others because I generally repect people, unless they are awful people with bad behaviours. 😂 But, as far as I'm aware people who didn't know me well would call me a "Snob" because I didn't bother knowing people who wasted my time and efforts, when they were disrespectful towards me. I naturally have a "bullshyte radar", if I know you are talking shyte I will not pay attention to you. I'll focus on my own journey. On the other hand, people who know me well, know that I will do anything and everything for a loved one and friend. I'm a 'ride or die' person. Once you get past my protection shield and you gain my trust. I will love, support and value you (as you are). I appreciate people being individuals and different from me. I've been described as loving, caring, understanding, wise, sweet, and kind.
I'm glad you mentioned that some ISFJs are intense. I always feel like a lot of co-workers or peers who don't follow simple instructions or refuse to cooperate with the group are the easiest to anger me especially in a stressful environment or situation.
INFP here lol I'm told I have a resting b* face so I look pretty unapproachable. But I'm told I am a caring person who likes to please and help people. Someone with a strange sense of humor and not a lot of filter and a "read like a book" body language type. So yeah I'm a likable person because I want people to be happy and have fun. Those experts don't go out often... They're probably thinkers lol
Your description of an ISFJ is great. I was laughing at it because I am an ISFJ. I could totally relate to it. I will run you over if you get in the way of my goals. My hubby has finally figured this out about me. Don’t try to derail me! I will bite your head off!
"i feel like in some ways you might be more likely to get a FU from an INFP than you would from like an ISTJ for example" My INFP sister absolutely agrees, lmao
ISTJ here, I can confirm that if I am to insult anyone it is probably just calling them stupid because they are when the situation calls for it, I dont really insult people outside of that
I've gotten INFP twice and ENFP once from when I was younger, but I am an extreme people-pleaser because I have been raised to forget who I am and fit in a box of what people want, and I try and do that. Don't get me wrong, it hurts really badly, but I can't break out of it. Maybe this will change when I can actually legally do stuff since I'm still stuck here, but for now, I do everything as I'm advised and really only think of others until my feelings make me burst at the seams
I am an ENFP and I actually relate to this,my INTJ brother labels me as fake for this but it's just that i don't trust myself or my opinions that much and the friends serrounding me don't really help at this topic as they mostly see pretty much all my actions as "wrong" or "not the right thing"
I'm an ENFP who was raised by an ISTJ, no nonsense, tight ship, immaculately clean home, "if you aren't working on something productive you are being lazy", if you sleep past 8 am you are lazy, mother, and a very strict disciplinarian ESFP father. He saw so much of himself in me and wanted to ensure I would reach my full potential, so he was incredibly harsh on me about my grades. I wasn't allowed to get less than straight As or I would be grounded until the next progress report... 5 weeks! This started when I was only 9! He was also in the Navy when I was born, and his own father had been very strict, so he was very strict with us. We weren't allowed to "talk back", which meant we couldn't even clear up misunderstandings. I spent so much time getting spanked or being placed in the corner as a young toddler that I wanted to avoid it at all costs... even though it meant biting my tongue and jumping through hoops to please them (and keep them off my back). As an adult who is now 37, it has been a very long and painstaking journey to accepting my nature and living in a way that is authentic to who I am, but it has been worth it. My husband is an INTJ and he has helped me so much with learning to accept and respect my limits and lean into my strengths. Now, I like being me and laugh at the ways in which my ENFP self is more forgetful and/or disorganized than either of my parents ever thought of being. Lol. So, I encourage you to not give up on becoming who you were made to be. It is much more fun once you give yourself permission to not be perfect. And yes, it took defying my parents in adulthood and having many conversations about appropriate boundaries before they finally respected that they were no longer allowed to meddle in the decisions of myself and my husband. Now that they understand what I will and will not tolerate, we get along very well with them. They are wonderful people, we just don't approach life the same way. So, hang in there. You can break free from the confines of being forced to act like someone you are not.
I'm finding that to be the case for me, too. My husband is INTJ. Two of my closest friends are INTP and my third close friend is ISTP. I love those introverted thinkers. I also get along famously with my INFP niece, but that is because we are SO similar in cognitive functions. -Fellow ENFP 💃🏻🌈🧜♀️
My ENFJ friend is super nice to the point of being smotherly. Consequently, people don't respect her. I try to appreciate her checking in on me several times a day every day even though I am an introvert and am used to solitude.
I don't mind if someone acts really nice to me, as long as they don't go overboard or burn themselves out. Affection is something everyone could have just a little bit more of.
@@loisrabies8713 I know that she is sincere but when she started signing off with hugs and loves it felt so fake like he said but I had to question my own reaction and appreciate that she is being very direct and the world needs people like her. It's nice to hear "I love you" every day and I say it more to my husband now, a fellow introvert who also probably felt weird about it at first but seems to enjoy it more now.
16:03 I actually really agree with you before meeting an actual INFJ I thought you guys really are geniuses and I wished to be an INFJ but then when I met one,she is good at seeing sides of arguments and kinda calm most of the time but her mind is whole-heartdly beleiving that she is trapped she has social anexity etc...even though she doesn't and I am very sure about that cuz I watched all her actions and sometimes she just stares into my soul she has something in mind but not really a "thing" but still we both agree well and talking to her is fun,I cheer her up she matchs my vibe and we both help each other. BTW I am an ENFP
Well, you can't diagnosing a person for not having anxiety because of their actions. They can still have an awful feeling in their guts when worried. Even if you guys are enjoying yourselves and having a good time, it's not observable.
@@jimUkay I know that and she is actually pretty shy but social anexity is a different thing and I can tell because we are all teenagers so we tend to be like that,and she actually is just a shy introvert,that's how I see it atleast
Please do a video about the way each of the 16 personalities talk and look like (i remember you said something like how a certain type dresses and speaks with gestures, the "hollywood type of smile" for the Dominant Fe and the nerdy quirky one for others... That would be so interesting and so much fun! BRAVO Frank!
Really insightful video... Please do one about how the 'unlikeable' types are likable. As INTJ, yep took me longer to get the 'feel bits'. But as a thinker of course we can work out when a hug/plaster is needed more than a thought, duh! Of course I call on my feeler pals if I need their strengths, and they call on me if they need a good strategy, bewsh! And yep we can larf a lot, it's just we have a very dry literal observational sence of humour, it's not that we don't have one (Billy Connoly, Peter Jay and guys on Dry Bar crack me up, there's an awesome disabled guy with cerebral palsy who is a total larf fest). Yep and watching Benedict Cumberbatch being incredibly socially inept as Sherlock Holmes is a real favourite. Plus Disney films always make me cry (so I have emotions too 😱), of course 'we do'!
I (INFP) was in a relationship with an ESFJ for over two years and EVERYTHING you said (down to the "laugh at a funeral and they will be coming after your dog - in THIS LITERAL SENSE) nailed what our relationship was like. I feel very strong emotions and he would often just tell me to get a grip or to toughen up, when he thought I was overreacting. I also have a depression diagnosis and he would just tell me, that it's not real and I am "too happy to be depressed" Yeah... I think you can see why this relationship ended...
YESS FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT ABOUT THE INFJS!! I think this is something that a lot of people may forget, but INFJs Fe is not the primary function. Yes, others’ feelings matter and we may delay certain goals for your happiness, but if you are in the way, there will come a point where Ni takes precedence. Also, INFJs are not as good at empathy as some other types are, and that can come across very unlikeable as well. -sincerely, an INFJ
My best friend is an INFJ and this is so true. Her Fe is promient but in instances where her Ni completely takes over she can even come off as heartless, criricising people for making "wrong" decisions in their lives when her Ni tells her that the future outcome will be terrible accroding to her own preferences. Of course I find her very likeable but this is just to say that INFJs aren't as emphatetic as they are sometimes painted out to be which can cause some fraction in their social lives
As an ISFJ, I am so heckin' glad to see some attention to our stubbornness and intensity. I have described myself numerous times as willing to run someone over for constantly trying to battle something I have found tried, true, and effective.
I got this INFJ friend that I love dearly but she tends to disappear sometimes and I (ENFP) had some hard times coping with that. These videos help me get more at ease with her patterns en really helps me a lot to accept them. Thanks man!
INFJ: also pretty sensitive, also bad at dealing with conflict. I really cannot deal with people who can't handle conflict. It's a part of life and the skill is an important one.
Regarding thinkers: As an INFJ, I find the ESTP and ENTP very likable, charming and fun to be around. ISTP are definitely the coolest! INTP's quirkiness is really cute. And I'm literally spoiled by my ENTJ mother-in-law (who showers me with gifts), I can't say I don't like that 😅 Unfortunately, I haven't met an INTJ yet, but I guess it would be really fun to talk to my similar type.
INFJs are super pals with INTJs - go out and get you some! I seem to attract INFJs as well as fellow INTJs - it's like bringing the right balance of tension when you add some INTJ mojo to an INFJ chill lounge. And the ENFPs then lighten the atmosphere without raising the energy to obnoxious volumes. This is ideal if I MUST leave my rock to socialize.
What I have seen from my observations, both ESFJ's and ENFJ's might judge you a lot if you do not act according to their thinking of something. That something differs between them tho. ESFJs tend to care more about regular social norms whereas ENFJs tend to care more about how a group should act to achieve something like success, happiness, justice etc. Moreover, ESFJs seem to be more sweet about their judgement compared to ENFJ. However, this is all according to my observations of a few ESFJ and ENFJ I know. The harshness level probably depends on the person.
ENFJ here. I can't speak for all ENFJs, but for me personally, I don't judge people for being different from me, and I'm chill about 95% of stuff as long as nobody gets hurt. I'm very passionate about that 5% though. I feel very strongly about disrespectful and hurtful behaviour. It's abhorrent to me and should never be tolerated in my opinion. That's the 5% for me. I'll never back down on that, because to do so would be to betray everything I am and stand for. In my opinion, that 5% is essential for a positive world in which life is meaningful and fulfilling. The alternative to me would be to accept that life is nothing but meaningless chance and pain and that nothing we do matters. If I have to judge or call out a few bullies to hold onto my ideals, I'm okay with that.
@@BiowareNut same here, I’m a ENFJ, and I don’t judge or try to put standards on people for them to act right according to me, I have more then clear that everyone is different and therefore acts different according to how they are, and it’s okay, I ain’t looking to change people to what I think they should be, but I accept them as who they are and don’t really judge them based on their actions, I advice but don’t judge, I’m that type of ENFJ, and probably more of us are like that as well, can’t speak of all tho, like you say :3
As an ENFJ, I stay very clear away from judgement I make about others in my head, whether consciously or unconsciously. I strongly also dislike it on the extroverted side where people make judgemental remarks about people publicly and try to stir up strife, I strongly hate that, and that is a boundary if crossed, makes me really dislike you and not talk to that person much. Like, I try my best to understand people of different nations, culture, ideas, countries, and I don't feel any judgement, but rather why they are the way they are, and how they came to be. I find it interesting to understand backstories more than the current situation because I can touch deeply on that. With that being said, in this context, if someone around me makes a very shallow, very narrow remark about a certain individual that I feel lacks clear understanding of what a person has been through and the explanation for their reasons, I strongly detest it. There are some boundaries that I will never advocate for crossing. It is wrong if it brings disharmony, pain, and overall hurts humanity by putting them on an ideal that just doesn't work, and there can never exist a justification for that thing - no reason should every justify that certain course of action. Even then, I try to understand the confusion in life a person may have had to take that route. It emotionally pains me to see people on that route, and I really want to tell them to love themselves so they never fall into the trap again. No human is perfect - we get that. On the idea "sweetness", if I have to make a judgement, and if I should tell someone something, I try to make it so my goal of helping them fix something becomes their goal as well, maybe there are a few brutal truths somewhere along the way I talk, but I'll really focus on my composure, my tone of voice. As you can guess, I strongly dislike people who are sharp tongued and do not realize how much their words can hurt other people. Just the harsh, rough inflection of tone makes me feel discomfort. If that makes sense.
@@BiowareNut As an INFJ, I can actually relate to feeling very strongly about those 5%. However, I am dealing with an ENFJ, who is being very judgemental towards me. I have met a lot of abusive people in my life, so when someone is trying to tell me how to think, how to act, or how to be, I tend to withdraw. This guy is *very* intrusive on my boundaries, both physically and mentally. The ironic thing is, I actually think we think very alike in many areas, and have a lot of similar interests. The problem is, I am open to people thinking differently to me, without seeing them as less for that reason. I don think he is. From the start, he kept pushing this on me. When people violate my boundaries, I withdraw into myself. And I think he took offence to that response, and now he enjoys 'punishing' me for not giving in. The more he 'punish' me for not being and thinking exactly the way he wants me to, the less I want to give him the trust he is trying to force me to give. HOW do you fix a situation like this, without accepting to become someones puppet? He have clearly put me in his 5%, but it is based on a total lack of understanding from his side. He does not reflect on how his own actions is actually the reason why I retract further into myself. That when I leave the room for a bit, I do it so he don't feel forced to talk to me (or be cruel to me), not to be hostile. Because I know people feel strange about the INFJ 'quiet' thing, especially the extroverted types. When we are forced to be in a situation together, I am always trying to be calm and coorperative; but it is very difficult, when the other person is constantly trying to tear you down - and at the same time, claiming to be 'highly empathetic'. I would like to have a positive, pain free relation. But I will not allow him to dictate what I should think and do, especially not when he is the one being highly judgemental and cruel.
i'm an ISFP and i quite enjoy helping people, specifically cleaning but not if i dont want to do it. sometimes i can be overly nice which has led to lots of manipulation but in the end i was happy i was able to do something
Everything about INFJs here is true! I'm kinda in the middle of making an important decision right now... I needed to realize this information again, to be honest. Thank you!
INFJ here. So I noticed the map of Skyrim in the background. And I have noticed that you also use music from Oblivion. I have dedicated hours of my life to those 2 games and would possibly dedicate all of my hours to them if I wasnt so busy fearing what others think about me for playing for so many hours. I also have the soundtrack to oblivion on my itunes. Its like soul comfort for me. 😊
This was interesting to me as an ISFP but it does sort of track with how my friendships go lol People who like the same things as I do and feel the same way about stuff as I do, are fast friends and my friendships tend to be long-lasting and passionate as well. But since I am very annoyingly and authentically myself with no wiggle room or willingness to be anyone else for anyone else, if people have decided they don't like me, that's probably never going to change and might even get worse because I won't try to make peace lol It's for that reason I tend to be drawn to other FP types so I love my INFP, ENFP, and ESFP types very strongly and tend to be turned off by thinkers who are more likely to disagree with me or question me.
Interesting. My mom is an INFP and I am an ×NTP. My brother is a strong ENTP. We all get along well and can talk about random crazy stuff for hours. The major difference is that she takes her feelings and many of her ideas VERY personally, whereas my brother and I just sort of "jam" around with them, not really connected to any of them. Sometimes she gets offended when we cross a "line" that is sacred to her, even if she is literally the only person on earth who thinks her weird blown glass jellyfish sculpture is the most beautiful thing on this Earth, and we shouldn't complain about nearly tripping on it every time we enter her house.
@@MrsRitchieBlackmore I am an ENTP, and I also feel like other people tend to take their own opinions or feelings too seriously. What's the point of growing and learning new things, if you refuse to take it into account and let it shape your opinions?
Agreed on the obvious omission of Thinkers. As an INFP, I actually find ENTP and ESTJs to be the most likable types. They just are. I like hanging out with them. Especially the ESTJs actually.
as an infp, i would agree that entps along with enfps are probably the most likeable for me. i havent actually met an estj yet, or if i have i wouldn't know, so i can't say
As an INTJ, any Si user gets on my nerves, including ESTJs. I'd put INFPs at the top of the list. Funny how perception changes from one type / person to another, right?
I'm also thinking that every person has a different way of defining what "likable" means to them. Maybe the thinking types think that the feeling types are the most annoying ones for not really being able to act from a logical thinking plane.. yeah, feels like this article was written by feelers xD Love how you bust stereotypes like this! frikkin good man
I will admit as an INTJ I don't really address issues with "feelers" I just avoid them... it's easier and takes less work. Emotions are annoying, like hugging, just keep it away.
The talk abt INFJ more introvert: Ni & Ti as priority.. the way you put into words..Was like a light bulb 💡 Now i finally understand!!! So thats what it is.. That picture with the guy in the chair...his look/gaze.. is what really hit it off.. now I understand! Didn't realize how intense it comes off.. This explains everything.. Ppl approach me hostile, or intrusive when im just shopping, or ppl at work ask if im mad when im just focus an need complete on time sensitive matters, or when i talk to someone and ppl literally do this power games stand Infront of me to talk to them and im like... Thats fine we just finished... *I walk away not bothered* And this goes to show that their used to the bubbly energy I have.. vs when I'm busy but even so if ppl approach to chat directly I'm not rude or ignore them, and give my full attn.. but if not and I'm just passing you.. then I'm just in my lane.. thinking not bothering anyone.. But quickly Hate uproar became real...and I'm completely oblivious On that note..back to the cold portion The interpretation on that in my sense is like.. 1. Cold= "I'm so overly exhausted to deal with ppl that i over depleted myself...(feeling like a ghost).." 2. Make you feel like you dont matter= Reality in the internal: "Pleaseeee Don't disturb mee 🙏🙏😭..Im in focus, I need to catch up with myself before i prone to a system complete shutdown, that can put me in depression, stuck in my bed under covers..for who knows how long.. .. and im so depleted i cant even explain or make facial expression, or body jesture when passing you.. because battery is literally out flashing red😵 Please forgive me.. Im oblivious atm .. im hoping accidental prome injuries dont come into my awareness anytime soon"🤦🏽 true story.. anyway thanks for reading guys lol
as an ENFP, the ENTP's should have definitely made this list. They're so intriguing and I love conversing with them. They always have something interesting to say and the one's I've met have been either very kind or unintentionally rude at times and then feel really bad and apologize. I actually mistyped myself as an ENTP at first because I lean so heavily on my third function, extraverted thinking. That might be why I tend to get along with them so well.
Ha ha I thought I was enfp or infp I came out as intp but I love talking to enfp entp They are too imaginative sometimes its hard to find sense * error *
As an ×NTP, we definitely know how to charm and carry an interesting conversation, but we can wear some types out quickly by rattling on too long about our latest musings and fascinations. We can be "heady" and a little bit often goes a long way.
@@MrsRitchieBlackmore latest musings and fascinations never tire me. I love to hear people's deepest thoughts and interests. I also rattle on myself at times so I can relate. 😄
Personally as an ENFP with some ENFP friends, I think many of us are more people-pleasing than what's described here. ENFP's are quite sensitive and often think a lot about what others think of them.
I am an ISFJ, and have been told several times that I am scary. I am 5'2" tall and 125 lbs. 😒 🤷🏼♀️ I don't consider myself to be scary. I am just not overly bubbly until I get to know people.
infp(?) here i do try to get into liking the things my friends like sometimes for the sake of like. Being A Good Friend yk . but then also it is so difficult my brain just doesnt like getting into anything new unless theres something interesting . And also sometimes i kinda wanna just go like Yeah Sorry Not Interested
I watched several videos of you and it kept putting things on the super back of my mind how familiar your mannerisms are to someone and today it finally hit me. You and Pewdiepie could be distant cousins. You have similar facial expressions and even humor lol.
As someone whose mom is an ISFJ, I can totally agree with what Frank said - cause holy shit.😶 And as an ENFP myself, I know for a fact that I won't change for anyone. 😅
Haha you’re right about ENFJ’s and their Ti! They have have a certain stingy quality! I like it, and it makes them sharp and precise. Meanwhile the sensors, like the ESFJ, is a bit more grounded. This far in my life as an INFP, I’ve befriended both ENFJ’s and ESFJ’s. There’s something very comfortable and calm about the ESFJ’s that I appreciate, and ENFJ’s are fun! So now I’m looking for and ESFJ or ENFJ boyfriend. (Dear santa….)
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... and the most likeable is... my opposing type. ESFJ. That can't be, I can't stand these guys. Might have to do with NOT being only 3% of the pop.
Is that for all mbti types or predominantly INFJ types?
As an INFP, I've noticed that when I put myself out there, many people are very drawn to me and consider me charismatic. But they get totally confused when I suddenly disappear and leave them hanging so that I can cave in and explore the meaning of life.
This is literally me😭😂
bruh 🤣 the realization is just sinking in now
fuckin me
Same.
Same!!!😅😅😅
Talking as an INFP who won't change who I am for anyone, flip side of that is that I also don't want to change anyone else. I want people to be their authentic selves, to do all the best things for themselves and to live their best lives. I think that's pretty likeable.
As an INTJ with an INFP sister I can agree with this. I don't like the idea of forcing someone to change or being forced to be someone I'm not. Though we can get on each other's nerve sometimes I do appreciate my older sister very much.
word. ~INFP
as an ENFP I appreciate you guys holding onto your identity but may I ask you something, I actually have an INFP friend,she is kind,loyal,nice and all these good things but she just never tries to look at thing from a different lense even if it means hurting herself and sometimes I feel like she is kinda forcing me to do things that she sees as "the right thing" what do you guys think about that?
Maybe she needs a therapy- due to that INFPs have in general the gift of being able to„put themselves in other people‘s shoes“ …
INFP-I have always said this. I'll be me and you be you and everything will be fine but no apparently that's not ok and I really don't understand why.
INFP- All my life people have told me that I was cold, heartless, and mean but the people that stuck around anyway started saying that I was the most caring, kind, & loyal person. Even though I was weird. I did eventually realize that I had a shell that people had to break through before I could open up and yes that shell is very though. It's not adamantine but it will take some to get through.
Very relatable as a fellow infp
Also relatable as a fem INTJ
INFPs are my favorite as friends. To me they deserve the top of the list. So sweet and brave at the same time. My mom is one. INFPs want every type to be themselves. No fake shit. And I thank you guys for that.
As an INFP I feel you and that shell... Yeah it is very tough but it is also very strong and I love/hate it for this, I've An ENTP friend and we are very much in harmony because my introversion and my feelings help him to his problems because he thinks a lot before to make a decision
I greatly appreciate INFPs. You have incredibly rich inner worlds that this ENFP loves to explore.
Fellow INFP here, I can relate.
Some acquaintances of mine think I'm lazy, stubborn, overly sensitive, and overreacting. Which hurts. But to the people I'm close with, they think of me as kind, sweet, loving, nice, friendly, and easy to talk to.
I would say INFP’s and ISFP’s are not likeable at first, however if you break the FI shield and get to know them, you’ll be surprised how much you actually like them.
ISFP approve lol
As an ISFP I would second that and I would add that if other ISFPs would try to get to know others as a part of their authentic expression they will be easily well liked and have many friends which is both a great and terrible problem to have.
I think that's very true. As an INFP I've been called aloof arrogant distant cold serious BUT then told a couple of weeks later that I was not like that and very likeable
i agree. i'm INTP/INFJ (weird, i know) and i personally think ISFJ is one of/the most likeable type although they often lack thinking skills which matter to me alot.
As an INFP, i stopped caring especially when i had friends who've suck the life out of me. Before, I was easily manipulated cause i thought they are being authentic or honest to me, cause when i care "I really care" and i give absolute effort. I mostly attract narcissists and now i'm scared to repeat the same pattern again so i built this wall around me to protect myself and find my identity, Now i'm this cold hearted quiet person who sits in every corner of a room trying to unpuzzle life not a care whether people likes me or not. I think if people really likes to be friends with me, i need to show the true me and attract the people with the same values as mine. I dnt know its hard to explain.
This ISFP understands you fully. 🤝
As an infp, i understand you very very well....
Exactly the same situation
I understand you. It's better to be with people who share your values, or at least don't try to control you and change you into something that is too unnatural to you. Your mental health comes first. I know it's hard to be alone and quiet all the time. Like everyone else we also want to share our ideas and values with someone. We want to laugh and cry with someone. But, being alone and quiet is lot better than hanging out with people who can't understand your limitations.
I believe that every individual has some aspects that are likeable and some not that likable, and it's kind of difficult to be loved by the latter aspects. So I think it's better to behave differently to different personalities and I don't think such a choice is pretentious as it's like this is me and that is also me. ~ an INTJ who lost an INFP friend.
I've had this exact situation before and honestly, I continue seeing this happen, so I thought I could share some things about how I've come to deal with it! I hope this helps
As an INTP I came here knowing that I am not being on the list and well, I was right.
It's okay I like you guys- INTJ
@@vendingmachine25 I don't like them.
-INTP
INTP's are my favourite - INFJ
Of course we’re not on the list, because generally we put relatively little effort into trying to get people to like us.
I like you just fine. ~ISTP
I feel so called out about INFJ's being cold and not caring about people as a result of being slightly out of our tunnel vision. I have genuinely questioned if I'm a sociopath or something during these phases but then I'll randomly be really empathetic again and I'll quickly sweep that idea under the rug... I always feel so guilty after I realise how cold I was being
I don’t think we’re cold to everyone because we can’t just turn off and on our empath abilities we always care to some extent at all times. If we were able to mentally and emotionally I think we could be the most absolute liked type. But we can’t ☹️
@@sethvandycke904 Yeah that's true... I think maybe most of the time it's more like I'm being cold because of stress but I realise it and want to stop from feeling guilty but can't - so I'm still feeling empathy even if it's tucked away in the back of my head. I think it's a good thing though, it makes us generally more caring people :)
Oh totally, I’ve been told that I become super cold to some of my friends when I’m stressed
As an INFP I can definitely relate to this. I think it’s possible we’re just compartmentalizing and or disassociating in order to avoid being overwhelmed with the emotions of others.
We all make mistakes, and we learn from them. I understand that it can be tough when people remember something wrong from the past, but remember that we are human, and we have long lives to live.
Stereotypes can really be a lot misleading. As an INTJ, I always read how people may hate us for our elusive mental core. No matter how much I wish it to be true, I just keep getting adopted by extroverted people, and then left off after days of inactivity
EDIT: Seeing how so many people gave their precious likes and individually amaizing replies, they really fucked up to not include INTJ in the list. Thanks for these, I'm finally famous
Lucky u have people adopting u XD 😂😂😂 we need to put some effort to socializing tho if we wanna have friends that if
Intj
I will adopt all INTJs. (Coming from an INFJ) ❤🤗
Same, I tend to get really invested in stuff and start new hobbies regularly, but eventually I stop being mentally stimulated (the challenge/novelty wears off) so I quit and then lose contact with my extroverts. That, and after a while they tend to grow bored of my constant non-small-talk haha.
As an ENFP with an INTJ brother I trully appreciate his logical mind even though it isn't seen that much but he is actually a pretty kind person but not the popular kind he has his unique kindness and A LOT of interesting stuff to say...sometimes he is kinda harsh and rude but he has MANY unique and good qualities.I am just so lucky to have him😊💕
Adopted? More like kidnapped. The amount of times I've made friends against my will, all because I listened to them talk and they decided they liked me.
I think it really depends on the Individual's perception of what they consider ' likable ' , So according to this every type is considered likable .
It truly does. I’m an ENFP, for example, and I have a tendency to get along better with thinkers because I don’t see my worst aspects reflected in them haha
Well, no. They have to be likable for both feelers and thinkers.
It does. I always thought that we introverted thinking types (I'm an INTP 6w5, sometimes mistyped as an ISTJ) would rank at the very bottom of the "likeability" factor, because we're not conventionally "fun" or particularly charming, but I did get comments from feeling types that they actually find us introverted thinkers likeable (an INFP commented that they find INTPs ideal, which surprised me, because I actually find us introverted thinkers "boring" and insensitive 😅), and vice versa (I personally get along better with FP types). It just depends on the individual.
@@phatcat3705 Your point is quite good actually
yea that's pretty reasonable
As INFP I confirm all said about. 👍🏻Finding the balance between "being likeable" and "being authentic" is very common for me... Authenticity wins more often 😉 I just don't care what other's think about me. The only exception is my boss, I have to survive somehow 😂
To be honest, as an INFP, I thought that way too - historically. I am now a 49 year old woman who has worked in the same job for sixteen years and have found that having a genuine connection with colleagues and a phenomenal team leader after a decade of being closed off and distrustful has been optimally rewarding.
As a INFP, I can tell you what that is very ture. I'm not going to change my personality if someone doesn't like me. Everyone doesn't have chemistry, you're going to meet people that just don't like you, and that's ok! You will find people who really like your personality, and then you'll also find the opposite.
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That’s fair. Everyone has something unique about them and I do think that at least some of that uniqueness is invariably positive (not that the most despicable people on earth are excusable in that sense but even they probably have some good in them). If you vibe, good; if you don’t and you have a certain distaste for them, they may or may not be inherently bad people (it’s good to trust intuition but first-off you’ve got to know what you’re seeing in a person, perceive it correctly and consider contextual universality in the sense that what of who isn’t your cup of tea based on your own life experiences don’t make them bad people) but eventually you will find people you have better chemistry with.
Yeah you shouldn’t change ur personality but character is important and u can change that it’s ur attitude and outward approach everyone has different taste and you shouldn’t tell anyone they have bad taste or they should change it it’s their personal preference but some times people have toxic traits that they should try to work on and change and that’s character how u present yourself to others is to be mindful of
@@Anonymous_Anon882 very ture
@@gabmoon2940 yeah. I’m a bit like an ENFP (a proper, more jaded/serious one; very, very far-removed from the quirky-unicorn-on-skittles stereotype) in the sense that I try and see the positive/s in most people. It’s not always glaringly optimistic but yeah. I just feel like whether someone’s likeable to you or not (the world wouldn’t exist without subjectivity but when it comes to universal character-judgement it holds limited weight, I feel) 60% of people at least are fundamentally good. I know I rant about how annoying ESFPs, (male) INTJs and people who are just overall loud can be so annoying but the other half of me recognises the immense value in them and knows that they’re blessed in their own way (I mean, INTJs obviously are, whether they tend to seem likeable or not). Where I draw the line is when someone has strong elements of narcissism or a tendency to hold long-term negative judgements about someone just for not being exactly like them (‘u so aloof that I barely acknowledge my presence when I walk into a room and because I feel entitled to everyone’s admiration and u ain’t giving it to me by just being cordial and otherwise getting on wit u business I’m goina hate an gossip about u’), they’re rapists/senseless murderers and stuff like that but generally I feel like as many people are lovely deep-down as are rightfully-loathsome.
As an INFP, I'm actually pretty flexible and willing to go with the flow regarding almost anything as long as it doesn't violate a core value (or take up more than, say, 4 hours of my week because I really do need recharge time). But if it's against my core principles, heck no. Nothing can shake that. There may be a few other things that I won't do, but it's because I can't be inauthentic and pretend to enjoy something I don't. I think people would dislike me a heck of a lot more, and I'd dislike myself, if I pretended to be something I'm not. Still, going out of my comfort zone at least a little is pretty fundamental to growth, so... I've said nothing in this post, have I? 😂
Same. And when things maybe violate my core values, I just bow out and say “it’s just not my thing.” I don’t condemn other people for doing it or try to force my beliefs; I just quietly remove myself.
Same here which makes me easy to gaslight in most things XD
Say in project, I don't expect my team to reach the same goal as me so when they say they are tired I'd believe it even if it was just an excuse. If they go beyond on what I believe, say I always try to understand their situation but they can't understand that if they keep avoiding their work it'll be passed to me and I could be in a lot of pressure then I won't let their 'tiredness' be an excuse to take advantage of me.
Same. People literally comment on how chill and flexible I am lol
Violate core values is key.
Same feeling.
ISFP here
You're so right about the ENTPs! They're sometimes soo similar to ENFPs, but even when they're not, they're so diverse, so full of ideas, like such an interesting and all over the place type, you could so easily get into a conversation about literally ANY subject with them, like, how is it possible that they're not likable
Not to mention we always want growth for everyone. It's the kind of people who think they know enough/better and don't need to change whatsoever (close-minded) that don't like us.
As an INFP I've been discribed more as "respectable" or "lovable" than likable, likely 'cause I only show up when someone is feeling bad or maybe I thought about giving them a present or saying something that I like about them. Being quite "led by my ideas" had gain me the respectable sign I guess (although I'm too shy, so it only show up in the way I dress or in my sugar coat honesty), and as for "lovable"... I have social anxiety, so it should be the type of awkwardness that I have that they find lovely HAHA
Infp and that's literally how people describe me aswell
Same here. I am an infp too :)
From another INFP, same here.
Definitely an INFP and I always get that I always seem cold and uninterested. I do what I want and if I am bored it definitely shows lol (which happens a lot). But I also hate conflict and try to be nice to everyone, especially since I know I come off as indifferent when I am off in my little world.
I'm an INTJ and take being seen as cold as a compliment.
Im an INFP and this is somewhat true for me tbh. It's either all or nothing with me, im either loved and adored by others, or people can't stand me and automatically dislike me, or are indifferent towards me.
Im just too authentic to give a darn about group think, and i'm not a sheep like the rest of them, I just do my own thing.
It's 50/50 with me tbh.
It's so funny because I can relate. At workplaces I'm either loved by everyone, managers and employees included, or I'm harassed and fired. LOL
SAME.
As an ENFJ, I can definitely say we're friendly. Like for me, I genuinely just love being nice to people, with no ulterior motives to it. And I love making new friends. But I will also say we're defenders. Like if I see someone being bullied, or if I see someone doing something I deem unethical I was absolutely call them out on it and occasionally if it goes on for long enough, I will snap.
Same as me ENFP
U dam rite lol. ENFJ-A 3w4
@@mykeewrench ayyyy Enfj-A 2w3
@@erikavaleries I love my fellow ENFP friends haha.
Well said I am also an ENFJ. It’s hard for people to understand that we are just nice without having another motive.
There's something about Frank James's voice, face and charisma that makes me want to listen to his every word. He's like that one amazing teacher's class everyone has a full attendance in!! Amazing video btw 👏🔥
I am an ENFP, this was completely accurate! Growing up I was always getting in trouble, making jokes, I would double down on whatever I was doing wrong. If there's something you don't like me saying? I'm going to keep saying it. It stemmed from deep down never wanting to be controlled. I liked to push people and took peoples personalities as a challenge for me to solve. I also struggled with the "restlessness" the need to be reckless or make dramatic changes, always having fun, up for anything any time. Now that I'm older I have learned the value of peace, stability, being a solid foundation, being respectful of others boundaries and I am using the ENFP gifts of enthusiasm, authenticity, optimism, and problem solving to become a counselor :)
I’m an INFP. I think.
I’ve rebelled against outside control all my life, but in a sneaky way. Like, being told to sit, I’d stand until almost too late, then sit. All the while thinking “In my mind, I’m standing.”
My mom said she wouldn’t bother telling me what to do, because I’d just end up doing what I wanted anyway. Which was usually the right thing, by her own admission.
Lol This is the minor but extreme difference between ENFP and INFP. How we rebel, have fun, and deal with those who don't like us. 🙂
Oh, yes. As I've told my friends that fret about getting in trouble; It gets easier with practice 😄
great to hear! sound like a good role model
I rebelled by becoming more religious than the religious people i was surrounded by
(...and then judge them.) 😈😈
I'm not a certified counselor but I might as well be one. All my friends come to me for help. I've helped so many people I've started to wonder if I should of been a therapist or something. Hahahahahha
Okay can we just appreciate his skills to just make our personality easy to understand. I mean your vedios are so much more then just fun and laughs and it's praise worthy fr
ikr? I learn so much about myself and others watching his videos, it’s insane..
- an ENFJ who’s also an army
@@isadoracerezuela1487 woah TRUE IKR BTW we share ENF part am ENFP NTMYYY
Yes u r so right
@@dreamon8274 we are right 🤝
As an ISTJ, I think something that can make Thinkers, particularly the TJ types (because we have Te), easy to get along with is that we realize that causing drama and conflict (at least, for no real reason) is not productive. In many cases, being unlikable is illogical. (We might not be as GOOD at being likeable as our Feeling counterparts, but we're trying)
Fair enough
Forget drama and conflict, i feel like any kind of talking is unproductive lmao
If someone tells me to do something I'd just do it without asking questions like why how what where cause thats just time consuming. By this I have also mastered minding my business and not getting into others drama but also because of this you actually find out more about a gossip or drama or a conflict and people actually confide in you more even though you are least interested...
You guys are actually pretty likable for me I had that ISTJ friend she was the cutest to exist,she had really good advices for me,we both really had good times together she genuinely cared for her friends and she was just one of the most likable persons to exist!
An ENFP
I think ISTJ is one of the most likeable types (I’m INTJ so I may have a slight bias bc we share Te/Fi in the same position)
You sound a lot like my ISTJ brother. I'm INTP and we get along well, relating on a thinking level. But he is actually more aware than I am of how to work within a team (something Te and Fe are both adept at). He can balance his own perspective with those of others.
I'm INFP and because I'm outside of the norm (6'2" tall female and overweight) people always made me feel very bad about myself. For years I've been trying to be someone I wasn't, to fit the standard and disappear in the crowd, only to suffer from various mental issues and be extremely unhealthy.
When I finally made peace with myself and accepted who I was, I started being just that. I am who I am and I won't change to satisfy some random who have no influence over my life. If the way I dress annoys them, they can look elsewhere. If they are vexed by me being taller, they can just wear heels.
I agree to work on myself for some things, because I can be a handful for my family and friends. So for them I try to do better. 🙏 But that's about it. If people don't like me and don't try to get to know me, I certainly won't despair.
All the best ❤ ~ fellow infp
We all need to treasure what we have inside especially INFPs - fellow INFP❤️
well done, because you are meant to be just who you are, this is the most beautiful we can be.... all the indoctrinated standards aside, when someone senses you are living who you are, it is an inspiration and invitation for others to do the same... we have WAAAY too many people who try to fit in and fall in line, because they are scared of rejection from people who are mean
Yea,only change for those who matter to you in life
Yes! That's how you do! Keep being you!
That last bit about the thinkers is so accurate. As an INTJ I'm very aware of my feelings and I'm very adamant too, but I'm also very focused on resolving issues and being logically impartial to set aside my feelings if they're unjustified or driving me to do stupid things.
I like to take an INTJ to the latter lol #ENFP here
I LOVE MY INTJ FRIENDS! You don’t get offended when I tell you the black and white truth. And when I ask Ask for there opinion, they are very truthful about it.
I suppose that is why I am attracted to the Analyst group. INTJ. ENTJ, INTP and the ENTP.
-INFP
Are you aware of your feelings? What are they? What do they feel like? I only ask because my INTJ husband is insistent that he is aware of his emotions yet cannot articulate what they are, any triggers nor does he express any sensitivity.
ISFJs tend to be the "Sweethearts" out of all 16 types. My friend, mother, aunt and cousin are all this type, and they all tend to be thoughtful, kind and considerate.
I've noticed that a lot of (alleged) ISFJs in media tend to be portrayed as the "true blue"/loyal best friend character, as well as very fierce protectors.
Ones I can think of off the top of my head are Samwise Gamgee (Lord of the Rings), John Watson (BBC Sherlock), and Rory Williams (Doctor Who).
*again, "alleged" because the results of these characters are based on what I've read online and have observed personally, etc.
Edit: also Peeta Mellark (Hunger Games), and Will Turner (Pirates of the Caribbean)? Less certain about Will
100% Agree. I love ISFJs. They make me want to be a better person, and get out of head a bit more often.
My aunt is an ISFJ as well as a few girls I went to school with and although this is true for the most part, there are some not so pleasant things with some of them. Sometimes they can be a little unexpectedly intense and when they have ill motives they are extremely sly with it. They will easily use the “sweetheart” image as their cover making them practically undetectable which can be really frustrating to prove to others who have a hard time seeing them in a bad light. They can really manipulate you into questioning yourself too, but that can go for other FJ types also.
I know an ISFJ that is a bitch from hell.
@@d.k.4217 this is completely my experience. they can resort to devious means to get rid of people they don't like.
As an infp, I believe I have never been one of the cool kids because I just didn’t get it… and I didn’t want to dress and talk and think like a drone. I just can’t fake it… as a young person I felt like an awkward ugly duckling who just didn’t fit in but as an adult I dig who I am!
Same here mate.
Same, I'm learning to accept myself now and that it's okay to want to be different and unique
ISFP here! I really like INFJ because you guys have good discipline and it helps narrow down a good day or time to meet up. You guys also give full-length advices without being harsh. No hate to T’s but I feel like I’m always getting scolded with how direct they are.
I actually do agree as an INFJ that when we have matured we tunnel vision and get "cold", and when you described that part I kinda got chills down my spine with how small my social circle is now compared to 15 years ago. However, I will disagree, most INFJs before they have matured are very genuinely selfless, I remember wanting to help my friends in school and wanting them to go to big schools and get good grades, so they could do what they were passionate about. Most of my friends were not nearly into school as I was, and didn't want help getting into schools or getting good grades, or getting better at sports, some people just wanted to do what could get them by, and we didn't know how to interpret that. As we grew older and saw our own dreams/lives change as well as the dreams/lives of those around us, we begin to realize how little a person actually changes another person's life unless they are very intimately and closely engaged with their well-being, which is why we tend to want to be psych-related professions, teachers, coaches, nurses; as well as seeking very close and intimate, daily or almost daily personal/platonic/romantic attention from someone who can understand us. I don't want to pin the blame on the rest of the world, but I really do try my best to help people who are trying their best, and as a result shallow and ill-intentioned people have fallen out of my scope of interest.
As an INFJ I think it's everyone's job to be themselves because they were born that way to balance out the world, and being generally likeable is arbitrary. I don't really care as much about being liked as I care about being respected and understood. I tend to not register if I like someone, but rather perceive who they are. I don't think my biases are all that important when it comes to living beings. I do tend to view them as a part of an intricate, intrinsically balanced system. I like to see how we symbiotically align. I can guarentee all of you, that you matter.
I want people to respect me for being brutally honest
@@Missmagazinebura Yeah you have to honor your desire to tell the truth. The truth is something people don't always respond happily to in real-time, but eventually realize that you actually profoundly helped them. Though they may never give you any credit. If you are telling the truth with the intention to empower people and solve problems, and not with the intention to manipulate people then I think it is very respectable.
@@DoriterEater They will always punish you for that instead of saying thank you
Likeable lying gets you ahead at the expense of others, so people do it
@@infdox9051 Absolutely, it takes a lot of integrity to remain honest when you know the cost is potentially losing support. When someone is honest with me I can register that it hurt my feelings, but I also see just as clearly that they just helped me level up. I try to focus more on my integrity than my popularity. The real ones will trust and appreciate your honesty.
I never thought INFJ would be in the list, I never thought I am likable as I always feel like I am out of place, I always being careful and analysing people. I love INFP so much cause they seem genuine, they seems doesn't care but actually warm hearted. So far from most of people I met, I love INFP the most although my bestie was ENFJ. INFP and INFJ has similarity, we both pretty mysterious and being very careful with boundary. Love how real they are.
I love ISTP's, ESFJ's, ISFJ's, ESTp's, INTP's, ISFP's, and ENFJ's
You can definitely tell all of these "experts" were feelers.
You can also definitely tell that FJ is an INFJ for thinking ENTP is the most likable (tho as INTP I agree).
I feel like if you put a poll up that asked all 16 of the personalities which other type was most likable, you'd get close to 16 answers. Everyone has something likable about them to another person.
ENTP here, thanks for the love
they're probably extroverts too😅
Thanks!
ENTP
I don't know which personality types my friends r. I had introverted and extroverted friends throughout my life and I loved and still love them all dearly. But if I would have to say a specific it would be intp. And that's only because my fiance is one and I feel happier than I have ever been. But I heard from other infps that preferred enfp and infj. It really depends on who they deeply love. At least they talked about their relationships. I guess it's not that objective. U can put 10 different people with the same type in one room but I bet they still would like or dislike someone. It's natural.
@@VictoriaForSaleYeah a person also has other factors that make who they are aside from MBTI
As an enfp, there's a big silly bone in me that I just can't stop seeing the funny side to things. It gets worse when I'm around one to multiple infps who encourages me to go on.
Relaaaaaaaaaaaaaaatable 😆🤗
Tannawang 💖
I've had that discussion about Fe with someone before, they were like "INFJs sacrifice their True Self... so sad".
But I think that's misunderstanding what Fe is and Does. To me, being adaptive to the people around you IS the true nature of Fe.
It's like a chameleon that adapts to the background of the room they're in; if the room changes, they'll change too.
That's not the Chameleon being "Fake" or going against their "True Self", adapting IS their true self.
(at least in the metaphorical sense, I know chameleons IRL use their colour changing for social cues and communication)
It's also ironic, because as an INFJ I really care about being genuine, and I really can't stand it when I can see people being fake.
Like, I could never be that kind of "car salesman" personality where you essentially Trick people into buying a car you Know is bad, but telling the buyer that it's good.
I guess it just depends on what you count as "being fake".
Exactly, that's just what Fe evolves into eventually. Because at it's core, it's involuntarily assimilation of other people's emotions. If I see that someone is sad, even if I'm happy, my happiness will drop, harmony is missing in that moment. Likewise, I'm being rewarded if I make someone happy, so even at "hormone" level, I'm being tutored to do it.
Which also makes me question if it's a good deed, or neutral action, since it's partially involuntary action...
Lol. I always use the car salesman example too. Fellow infj
Also as an INFJ myself, I know a lot of the time I know who I am when I’m alone. It’s just when I’m with other people that I’m so focused on the general mood of the environment that I forget for awhile, but I come back to it when I’m alone again. Adapting to my environment is more of a defense system for me though, because I’m afraid of what people will do to me if I mention certain things or say something wrong when I’m really trying not to. So basically I do it so I don’t get hurt or hurt someone.
Thank you for explaining this. I'm an INFP and I have an INFJ friend and I noticed that they do this a lot and I was very confused because it could be just us hanging out and we would agree on something and then when we got around others it wouldn't be the case anymore but when we got back to just us it was again. Now I understand I will have to work at understanding what's happening at the time because logically I get it but my feelings say it's not genuine. Thanks
@@NyxNigh glad I could help. :)
I think the best thing to remember is that (in most cases) the feelings we have _Are_ genuinie, just.... more "flexible" and not as deeply rooted as with you Fi-folk.
If I'm out walking, and I walk past someone crying, I'll feel "their" sadness, and it will bring my mood down, but then I'll walk past someone laughing, and I'll feel happy again.
If it helps, try to think of it like the emotional version of your Ne. Constantly "flitting" between emotions depending on what's going on around you; emotions might come and go in the blink of an eye because of what's happening to you.
But for me (and maybe other INFJs) when I'm not with someone - not being exposed to the emotions of others - I'm mostly calm and not feeling much at all.
In my mind, The Extraverted functions work on external stimulus, and are more *broad* but less _deep_ . So by contrast our Ni and Ti are where we get really deep rooted, but not in emotions. (more true for INFJs than ENFJs I imagine, since we INFJs are more "balanced" in the feelings department).
Sorry for the long reply, it seems I had a lot to say... x)
The INFJ part is actually very true when you first meet them and then not so true the more you get to know them.
I am an INFJ at this point. Almost everyone who first know me (people who talk to me on the bus, people who talk to me in a learning course, etc) love me. I can always make friends in a room full of strangers without trying. Cab drivers love me (if I let them).
This is because I listen.
I am so good at letting others do what they want while taking in the surroundings, like how you described.
Also, l am an introvert who can live with myself inside my own head while the world spins.
But once people think I am their friend, they try to crap with me and do inappropriate things, crossing my boundaries that they had never bothered to find out, they get back crap from me too. And that’s when they realise that an INFJ is an INFJ. They like me because I listen way more than anyone else ever does for them (many INFJs can remain silent for long periods and absorb, remember, and even cry because of what you said; we are the empaths) but I am NOT FRIEND YET because I myself have not gotten to exchange with them.
Basically, they know nothing about me.
So, when people find out that the INFJs have boundaries like all other living things, they usually suddenly decide not to like the INFJs as much as they first thought they do.
This is also the part where I find unjustified. But oh well. The world can spin.
What I have found out about this world, as an INFJ, is that it loves to talk. It loves to talk to anybody who would listen. I only have to look like I would listen and exude the energy that I would listen to make someone walk up to me.
The things people tell me can get quite crazy. When people unload onto me, 70% are boasting to me, 20% are unloading some form of stress that they have been carrying for the longest time. 9% are introverts who want to talk, and only 1% genuinely want to make friends with me; those I hold dear.
This too is my struggle with literally everyone. Always the listener and i let people think what they think i am until i decide to shatter it
This hit home. As an INFJ myself, I have never seen a comment be so true about my life. I have a really hard time finding genuine friends because they always want to make conversation but they’re not willing to ask me questions and I’m not the type of person who will be constantly saying “Oh I did blah blah blah” or “I have…” (emphasis on “I”). I don’t want to say things about myself because I feel that it’s an eccentric behaviour and the other person isn’t really listening and simple doesn’t care. That leads to people thinking I’m mysterious because they know nothing about me and I choose to not hang out with them often. I have a lot of acquaintances but not a single close friend that I trust deeply except for my boyfriend 😅
INFJs should communicate those boundaries instead of expecting people to read their minds. Be a better communicator. Speak loudly, distinctly, clearly and directly do there's no room for misunderstandings but they are too chicken to do that and ghosting is easier.
Damn!! This is accurate as hell!!
@@SS-bu8ez This sounds a leeeeetle aggro good human but I understand the point entirely.
It's hard for INFJs to feel like they can demand so much of others (what they feel is too much!). Sometimes being good listeners mean they take the backseat in asserting and sharing their own thoughts, ideas and boundaries. Once someone hurts them though, all the space they let the other person have in their mind, heart etc., they just shut down/stop trying.
I felt so seen as an ENFP. Theres a little ENTP in us and sometimes it is funny if people don’t like us. Actually, everything is funny, except when it’s not (but it still is in some weird way)
Everything is funny. I wish more people understood that lol.
my 9 year old son is an ENFP, i’m an INFP. we make each other laugh in otherwise unfunny situations. it feels kinda wrong, but more so right.
I make fun of so much cringe or awkward situation that sometimes you might think i don't feel shame at all, but it just comes as funny to me. Except when i'm in the moment. Lol
@@LaciRae I'm INFP, my mom is ENFP. She reacts to ANYTHING by humor, especially stressful or dramatic situations and more often than not I find myself giving her a "omg you did not" look before actually laughing with her. And when she's feeling too bad to find something funny or dumb to say, I'm the one doing so. So I can understand what you're saying. 😊 That kind of dynamic is fun
@@Capyrate i was worried for a second that You were going to tell me how that dynamic fucked You up. roles reversed, an INFP child/ENFP adult, i could see it being too much for an INFP to want to handle at times. he is def wilder with his abandon than i am, for absolute sure. i know where to draw lines (although those lines are not very strict or standard to society, and are based entirely on my own logic & ethics. and certain people don’t always take too kindly to that). his lines are way far more lax than mine. kind of scares me a little about his future. his dad is an INTP, so he helps bring us back down a little. trying to make sure he is raised holding on to his core essence, while also making it through life not getting his ass kicked by society, is a serious duty.
As an ENFP with FJ friends…can definitely relate to them feeling fake sometimes. Has caused some friction between us to be honest, but I’m trying to be more understanding since everyone functions differently
*also, thinking types tend to be at the top of my list
As an ENFJ, I can relate to other observations that say it is more about a different type of authenticity. It is also about intention. And when the time is taken to understand the authentic intention behind what can be seen as fake, it may change someone's perception. It is genuinely who FJs are. Personally I feel compelled to be aware and mirror some behavior to help people feel seen, part of the whole, create harmony, get a better sense of their humor....really the list goes on but it always comes back to being hyper aware and striving for harmony. It can also be overwhelming to walk into a space and get a sense for how everyone is feeling.
I am also an ENFP and it's quite the opposite for me I have:
INTJ brother
ESFJ mom
ENFJ father
INFJ friends
ENFJ friends
and the only one I sometimes feel that they are fake are ENFJs,I know they are mostly well-intentioned but not everyone has the ability to understand this just like my INTJ brother sees me and pretty much all my extroverted friends fake it just depends on the person judging so fellow FJs don't care about anyone that calls you fake as long as you are comforrable with yourself
@@Maryam-forbia wow! Lots of FJs. I can see how your brother would see this. Very true, when I was younger, if I had heard someone call me fake I would have been so confused. Not that anyone says that to me now, but it does help explain past experiences. Now, I really would not care. 1) because I would understand why they felt that way, it is not unjustified. I can see how that would make some people uncomfortable. 2) I am comfortable with who I am. Knowing this has helped me find a better sense of who I am and present with more confidence
@@artapothecary53 As an INTP, I love that FJs can show me what to do with Fe. My Ti operates a lot like Fi and I am usually in my own little bubble. But I can feel when someone in my presence is sad and I get quite flustered not knowing what to do about it. I want to 'solve' emotional problems so I don't feel like they're rubbing off on me. You curate emotions well, they don't take you by surprise.
@@fyn1985 I don’t know if I have ever met an INTP. My husband is INFP. I have had to work on not needing to/ wanting to ‘solve’ other people’s stuff. I still have to make a conscious effort but it is easier than it used to be. However, emotions do not take me by surprise and I do curate them. I absolutely love that insight. I’ve never thought of it as a curation, but that is right on point!
You all know that you don't decide liking other people based on their personality type or their zodiac sign or their blood type (unless you're a vampire). You got to know the person to like them.
Great video, Frank.
"You all know that you don't decide....etc..." What you are really saying is "You all know that I don't decide liking people based on...." Because you don't actually know how WE all determine who we like. Case in point: I'm an ENTJ, but was always bullied growing up and got to the point where I did not trust most people. When I discovered MBTI, it helped me fix this situation and I now have healthy relationships with most people I encounter. I'm a high school science teacher and use MBTI with my students to teach them how to get along better, and how to work in groups. It also helps me to know what type they are, so I can focus on what they each need from me. This is not something that comes naturally to me, I have to work at it, and MBTI is my tool. Can I like a person without knowing their MBTI type? Maybe superficially, but knowing their type is a short cut, and alerts to me to possible issues between us in the future. This has been very handy, as it has saved me from being blind-sided by others' bad behavior.
@@elisecurran9497 so… you straight up write off the possibility of friendship with anybody of a certain type? 😬
@Leo sun Aqua moon I think putting human beings in such rigid boxes harms everybody, personally. Not a single one of the mbti categories is inherently bad. To suggest otherwise is both misinformed and frankly just sad.
@@elisecurran9497
You took my words very seriously my friend. I'm not determining anything to anyone.
I can't argue with you about MBTI being a useful tool, if we use it correctly. and I respect your life experience and appreciate your experience with your students. And I understand the big impact of MBTI in your life and the life of many people, too. But I still don't think that it have all the answers about a person. Humans and their personalities are very complicated net. We are shaped by our environment, upbringing, life experiences, personal choices, and many other factors. And you can see that this article use the stereotypes to determine which type is more likeable than the others, which is absurd. We can't say that all the people from a certain type having the same personality or behaving in the same way. Plus, what is likeable to someone may not be the case for someone else.
I'm not against MBTI, like I said it's a great tool if we know how to use it to understand each other and our differences. But I prefer to give the others a chance to introduce themselves to me, and like them based on what I experience with them, and how they make me feel, not by how some system or theory suggested how they might be.
Vampire 😂 Good one
ISFJ here - FJ, you are so spot on. It takes me a long time to figure out "the plan" for things. I stew over things for days, weeks or months, and once I have my plan, if my people in my life don't support it or hinder me in some way, oh man! Gloves are off! I get so defensive, vocal and even emotional about it. Don't poo-poo on my idea that I worked so hard to figure out a procedure for. :)
Bro, only on the internet can I feel like this guy gets me this is before I saw your Isfj.
16:29 Frank, you should mention that what's called as an INFJ's loop. Only INFJ has this kind of loop *(Ni-Ti loop)* which could happen by some tragedies or events, and this makes INFJ seems so cold -- as if we detached our emotions and feelings. But its true, on the loop i don't and can't feel anything 😔
You hit the nail on the head with the INFP and ISFP lol.
this isfp agrees
They can be a bit of an acquired taste but I really like ESTPs and ISTPs. They might seem harsh, crazy, or even rude early on but they can be some of the sweetest and most loyal people once you get accepted into their circle of folks they like. It's also nice to have someone that can look past the emotional aspect of a problem and just give you the straight facts of what needs to be done. As someone that is always scared of being mean or hurting someones feelings over any perceived mistake, having an outside opinion that's so radically different really helps.
I don't know about ExTx
They're just outright loud and harsh for me to handle. It's kinda difficult.
But IxTx, especially the perceivers (Ti Doms), they may also hard to approach due to high level of privacy, secretive and kinda aloof.
But once you get to know them and get into their soft side, definitely worth it ❤️👌 They turn out to be such a cutie
We love you too
Can vouch for that, anyone may talk about anything with me and I'll be unfazed, I too want someone with which I can like talk about anything without holding back at all...
Thank you man. But honestly I wasn't surprised I wasn't high on the list lol😂😅
As an INFJ I am Selfless and Selfish at the same time. I am always nice to people, even if I don't like people. But I feel good when I am nice. Sometimes I'm not even nice for the people around me, but more for myself. I can't really be mean on purpose, that feels like defeat to me. Sometimes I'm mean when I am socially drained, but more in the form of being cold and distant.
Ok yea I am only nice if you’re nice to me and if you’re not nice I’ll be mean back because I believe in karma
I'm an ENFP and OH MY GOD FRANK I feel as if you were in my head ! I feel understood but also exposed hahaha
Uh Oh
Didn't he nail it?!?! My boss is an ENFP and I see the fallout from her antics regularly with the salon patrons. She walks away and it's either "I just love her!! She's so funny!!" or it's "God, does she ever shut up?!?!' The answer is no. She never shuts up. It's exhausting. (I'm an ISTP)
Infps for me r the most likable. Sweet and genuine both on the interior and exterior ~ entp
Thanks( as an infp t)
I’m an ENFP and I once became so obsessed with a guy who was a friend of a friend and didn’t want to be my friend. He would always intentionally ignore me and I’d have no clue why. Years later I found out that it was because I was obsessed with finding out why he didn’t like me that he didn’t like me.
My goodness, I can relate to that! I always want to know why someone doesn't like me. I want to understand everyone's motives etc.
And I can be pretty annoying about that 😅
Actually, I really like INFPs and INFJs, (or atleast how Frank portrays them). He does a very adorable INFP... Many of these personalities are very similar to each other - but INFPs and INFJs are very distinguished.
Am an INFP and my bf is INFJ and he is my fav person......... He just is the best person for me❤️
This two types actually are very compatible with each other in terms of friendship and relationships ❤️
@@ruthilalthangpuihmar2149 Me: Relationship goals-
Also me whenever any boy approaches me: He’s probably gonna hate me. Let me push him away and make him super uncomfortable so I stay alone for the rest of my life. :D
As an infp, i really resonate with your analysis of the infp in this video :)
As an ENTP I wanna thank you, for putting us at the top of the list. 🥰
As an ENTP, I have to say... There must be something wrong with people if they don't like us lol :D
ENTP gang for liffffffe!
@@TrishKapaSparda As an INTP, i agree 😁
Who cares for the world when we know that the real winners are ENTPs always😎🔥
yesss, I must say ENTPs are my favourite type too, personally.
-INFJ
Just coming here to the comment section to say that I watched this whole video, even though my type (INTP) didn't get mentioned at all. 😂
Anyway, my ENFP child enjoyed it, and we had a little discussion about Fi. It was a good time.
Well, let's face it: INTPs don't try too hard to be likeable...and that's one of the reasons why people like them so much (whithout them being aware of that,lol). As for me, I love INTPs: fascinating minds, deeply caring hearts and great protectors of the ones they love (ENTP here).
I always find it strange when people say they like INTPs. I don't think I’m particularity likeable, and we can be stubborn and opinionated. I do generally try to be nice/friendly because I figured out it makes things easier for me and all things considered I’d prefer people to be content. I’m probably higher in agreeableness than the average INTP since I’m female and 2/3rds of us are male.
That being said, there are limits and I’m super stubborn. I absolutely refuse to pretend to think something I don’t or be something I’m not to blend in with a group.
As an INTP, I really like ENTPs argumentative side. It’s like an amusement park except I don’t have to move to enjoy it.
I'm ENFP and for me ENTP and INTJ are on top. They are so refreshing for me during discussion, they bring so different perspective, that I'm instantly in love
Dumb herd people hate being made to think
Sending love from ENFP ❤️❤️
I’ve been roommates with a lot of different people, stayed at air bnbs and hostels and all that stuff, and the compliments I often receive are that I’m super easy to get along with, not high maintenance at all, thoughtful and considerate, organized and neat. In a living situation, it seems, I am a very likeable person.
Until you invite all your friends over without advanced warning and party like savages in my personal space. Then we have a problem.
-INTJ
That last part, same.
~INFJ
This is pretty much how my INTJ brother is,and he is truly VERY likable!
Same thing happen to me! I used to have a friend who was very close to me, but we became roomates when we were sent abroad for exchange study. We used to be cool, but when I really get a feel of her lifestyle, oh boy, I became really cold to her. She totally disregarded me by going home very late at night and making so much noise, even calling and flirt with random men online while I was sleeping. I was beyond disgusted by her lifestyle and I even stormed out of my dorm. Part of me also questioning myself whether I was overreacting abt someone else life, but i was really disgusted that I pray for this hell to end faster. Day by day I talk less and less to her. I burned the bridge because my mind and body naturally reject her. Now it all make sense when I learn about my type INFJ. Now im more keen of sensing people with similar characteristic, I automatically stay away from them.
@@marumariww Isn’t it interesting how we really get to know people by living with them? I also had a few friends who moved in and ended up being very difficult for the whole house. I was usually the peace-maker between clashing alpha types, since my Te let me set aside my personal feelings and problem-solve objectively.
I really get the Ti edge you described.
I have a close ENFJ friend who’s generally really caring about others, she’s active in social groups and liked by most people. But I can really see when the mask falls of that there’s this cold and careless approach.
I have it too and it’s really weird. I’m both really caring and performative. But it’s how it is
My favourite type is the ENFJ, they're so clever with how they handle my not wanting to open up and just get me without causing me discomfort. They're incredibly warm people. I adore the shit out of them. - ISTP
I'm an INFP and why the heck is this description my entire life story, I have definitely annoyed people because of my stubbornness, so some people don't like me and others love me (which is why I have 5 best friends). I think INFP's are like durian; you either hate it or love it.
Fellow INFP here--spot on relatable! Some people latch on to me instantly while others despise everything I'm all about. I get it and that's cool. Love the durian analogy...I use guacamole as a comparison (Never tried durian!)
well done! cheers from an infp 🙋🏻♀️
Durian🤭. But it's the perfect analogy tho
I like that you did this because the stereotypes really mess everyone’s perceptions of this up. I agree btw, ENTP are my favorite but it could just be because I’m an infj. What I’ve noticed it’s certain personalities just don’t always get along super well with specific types. As “charming” as ESFP and ENFP are thought to be, I find them incredibly frustrating personally.
As an ×NTP, I feel like we can charm people quickly and easily, but some types grow weary of our energy quickly. We need to make sure everyone else is as interested in our latest fascination as we are before we rattle on too long. 🤐 I've had to train myself to be a less selfish conversant!
As an esfp and my boyfriend is an isfj and I’m constantly reminded about how much of a better person he is! He’d never ever say that but I feel it. He’s genuine and selfless and has a sense of safety that I’ve never felt before! Ha love him and yea he puts up with my energy and it’s really fun annoying him
Thank you Frank! As an ISFJ, I found your reasoning is 100% right. Some of my now close friends still are surprised when I bite their heads off because I have a process and I HAVE to stick to it, and I can get quite loud and extroverted (which is pretty funny to watch haha)
Been married to my husband for a decade and this has helped me a) notice and b) understand just how many little systems he has in place. Basically I’ve been an INTP bull in his ISFJ China shop this whole time. Whoops.
INFP...We like to be liked like everyone else. It's human. As far as being likable the jury is still out. Everyone has their quarks.
In short everyone has the ability to be likable. Some just care about it more.
Enfj here:
*Guilty.*
At first I wasn’t quite getting what you were saying about fakeness, but I’ve reflected a bit and I understand now.
I hope I speak for all enfjs when I say we strive to be the positive force in the world, even for the smallest smile on someone’s face.
However (especially for me)
There is a point where being sad just isn’t acceptable.
This is a personal example, but sometimes I feel like I’m just not allowed to be sad-?
It sounds stupid especially since we’re usually quite open with our feelings. But sometimes, ESPECIALLY when you know there are people around you who are going through worse crap than you… you HAVE to put on a fake front. Because you can’t risk making them feel guilty or feeling like a burden.
That’s why we’re fake at times.
For me at least-
I agree
As an ISFP, I think we are the type to most likely see ENFJs as fake, but it's because we place a lot of importance on staying true to ourselves and *always* without fail sticking to what feels right to us even if other people don't follow us or get it. It doesn't matter to us what other people think or feel about what we're doing as long as it feels right to us. So when we meet ENFJs who work very hard to keep the peace and make everyone happy, to us, that seems like someone who is either fake and trying to place others despite not feeling it, or someone who doesn't have confidence in their own feelings enough to stick to them. If you end up in this situation with an FP type who thinks you're fake, it might be helpful to explain to them what your true feelings are, even if you have to add that you're choosing not to follow or act on them. We'll understand that choice more than we'd understand you not being certain of your own values/feeling.
@@jijitters it’s funny because people like you are precisely the kind of people I can stay true around lol
@@jijittersJust wanted to say not all of us are like this, I'm saying it because I really dislike fakeness and being labeled that sucks
It's all subjective, really. I'm an ISTJ, and I do generally prefer being around feeling types as long as they're not too intense about it (*cough* ESFJs). My ENFP husband, however, tends to gravitate toward thinking types.
As a INFP I always got along with others because I generally repect people, unless they are awful people with bad behaviours. 😂
But, as far as I'm aware people who didn't know me well would call me a "Snob" because I didn't bother knowing people who wasted my time and efforts, when they were disrespectful towards me.
I naturally have a "bullshyte radar", if I know you are talking shyte I will not pay attention to you. I'll focus on my own journey.
On the other hand, people who know me well, know that I will do anything and everything for a loved one and friend. I'm a 'ride or die' person. Once you get past my protection shield and you gain my trust. I will love, support and value you (as you are). I appreciate people being individuals and different from me. I've been described as loving, caring, understanding, wise, sweet, and kind.
I'm glad you mentioned that some ISFJs are intense. I always feel like a lot of co-workers or peers who don't follow simple instructions or refuse to cooperate with the group are the easiest to anger me especially in a stressful environment or situation.
Super agree with you Frank
I am INTJ but I did my best in trying to be nice with people by choosing the right words.
INFP here lol I'm told I have a resting b* face so I look pretty unapproachable. But I'm told I am a caring person who likes to please and help people. Someone with a strange sense of humor and not a lot of filter and a "read like a book" body language type. So yeah I'm a likable person because I want people to be happy and have fun. Those experts don't go out often... They're probably thinkers lol
Your description of an ISFJ is great. I was laughing at it because I am an ISFJ. I could totally relate to it. I will run you over if you get in the way of my goals. My hubby has finally figured this out about me. Don’t try to derail me! I will bite your head off!
"i feel like in some ways you might be more likely to get a FU from an INFP than you would from like an ISTJ for example"
My INFP sister absolutely agrees, lmao
Feelers are more likely to insult and take it personally than thinkers especially extroverts...
ISTJ here, I can confirm that if I am to insult anyone it is probably just calling them stupid because they are when the situation calls for it, I dont really insult people outside of that
As an Infp, it’s okay if I’m not too likeable when we first meet, but GOD i will want you to love me the deeper we get in
I've gotten INFP twice and ENFP once from when I was younger, but I am an extreme people-pleaser because I have been raised to forget who I am and fit in a box of what people want, and I try and do that. Don't get me wrong, it hurts really badly, but I can't break out of it. Maybe this will change when I can actually legally do stuff since I'm still stuck here, but for now, I do everything as I'm advised and really only think of others until my feelings make me burst at the seams
I am an ENFP and I actually relate to this,my INTJ brother labels me as fake for this but it's just that i don't trust myself or my opinions that much and the friends serrounding me don't really help at this topic as they mostly see pretty much all my actions as "wrong" or "not the right thing"
I'm an ENFP who was raised by an ISTJ, no nonsense, tight ship, immaculately clean home, "if you aren't working on something productive you are being lazy", if you sleep past 8 am you are lazy, mother, and a very strict disciplinarian ESFP father. He saw so much of himself in me and wanted to ensure I would reach my full potential, so he was incredibly harsh on me about my grades. I wasn't allowed to get less than straight As or I would be grounded until the next progress report... 5 weeks! This started when I was only 9! He was also in the Navy when I was born, and his own father had been very strict, so he was very strict with us. We weren't allowed to "talk back", which meant we couldn't even clear up misunderstandings.
I spent so much time getting spanked or being placed in the corner as a young toddler that I wanted to avoid it at all costs... even though it meant biting my tongue and jumping through hoops to please them (and keep them off my back).
As an adult who is now 37, it has been a very long and painstaking journey to accepting my nature and living in a way that is authentic to who I am, but it has been worth it. My husband is an INTJ and he has helped me so much with learning to accept and respect my limits and lean into my strengths. Now, I like being me and laugh at the ways in which my ENFP self is more forgetful and/or disorganized than either of my parents ever thought of being. Lol.
So, I encourage you to not give up on becoming who you were made to be. It is much more fun once you give yourself permission to not be perfect.
And yes, it took defying my parents in adulthood and having many conversations about appropriate boundaries before they finally respected that they were no longer allowed to meddle in the decisions of myself and my husband. Now that they understand what I will and will not tolerate, we get along very well with them. They are wonderful people, we just don't approach life the same way.
So, hang in there. You can break free from the confines of being forced to act like someone you are not.
Thank you for mentioning the thinkers. I’m an ENFP and thinkers, especially introverted thinkers, are probably my favorites.
I'm finding that to be the case for me, too. My husband is INTJ. Two of my closest friends are INTP and my third close friend is ISTP. I love those introverted thinkers. I also get along famously with my INFP niece, but that is because we are SO similar in cognitive functions. -Fellow ENFP 💃🏻🌈🧜♀️
My ENFJ friend is super nice to the point of being smotherly. Consequently, people don't respect her. I try to appreciate her checking in on me several times a day every day even though I am an introvert and am used to solitude.
This is one of the few issues I have with enfjs. It doesn’t mesh well with an infp that needs alone time.
I don't mind if someone acts really nice to me, as long as they don't go overboard or burn themselves out. Affection is something everyone could have just a little bit more of.
@@loisrabies8713 I know that she is sincere but when she started signing off with hugs and loves it felt so fake like he said but I had to question my own reaction and appreciate that she is being very direct and the world needs people like her. It's nice to hear "I love you" every day and I say it more to my husband now, a fellow introvert who also probably felt weird about it at first but seems to enjoy it more now.
@@aiden6559 Agreed.
Oh no
16:03 I actually really agree with you before meeting an actual INFJ I thought you guys really are geniuses and I wished to be an INFJ but then when I met one,she is good at seeing sides of arguments and kinda calm most of the time but her mind is whole-heartdly beleiving that she is trapped she has social anexity etc...even though she doesn't and I am very sure about that cuz I watched all her actions and sometimes she just stares into my soul she has something in mind but not really a "thing" but still we both agree well and talking to her is fun,I cheer her up she matchs my vibe and we both help each other.
BTW I am an ENFP
Well, you can't diagnosing a person for not having anxiety because of their actions. They can still have an awful feeling in their guts when worried. Even if you guys are enjoying yourselves and having a good time, it's not observable.
@@jimUkay I know that and she is actually pretty shy but social anexity is a different thing and I can tell because we are all teenagers so we tend to be like that,and she actually is just a shy introvert,that's how I see it atleast
just finished my homework and...what do i get as reward?? a Frank James videooo YASSS 🤝🔥💯✨
I was waiting for a Frank James video for about 30 minutes
Please do a video about the way each of the 16 personalities talk and look like (i remember you said something like how a certain type dresses and speaks with gestures, the "hollywood type of smile" for the Dominant Fe and the nerdy quirky one for others... That would be so interesting and so much fun!
BRAVO Frank!
Really insightful video... Please do one about how the 'unlikeable' types are likable. As INTJ, yep took me longer to get the 'feel bits'. But as a thinker of course we can work out when a hug/plaster is needed more than a thought, duh! Of course I call on my feeler pals if I need their strengths, and they call on me if they need a good strategy, bewsh! And yep we can larf a lot, it's just we have a very dry literal observational sence of humour, it's not that we don't have one (Billy Connoly, Peter Jay and guys on Dry Bar crack me up, there's an awesome disabled guy with cerebral palsy who is a total larf fest). Yep and watching Benedict Cumberbatch being incredibly socially inept as Sherlock Holmes is a real favourite. Plus Disney films always make me cry (so I have emotions too 😱), of course 'we do'!
I (INFP) was in a relationship with an ESFJ for over two years and EVERYTHING you said (down to the "laugh at a funeral and they will be coming after your dog - in THIS LITERAL SENSE) nailed what our relationship was like. I feel very strong emotions and he would often just tell me to get a grip or to toughen up, when he thought I was overreacting. I also have a depression diagnosis and he would just tell me, that it's not real and I am "too happy to be depressed"
Yeah... I think you can see why this relationship ended...
YESS FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT ABOUT THE INFJS!! I think this is something that a lot of people may forget, but INFJs Fe is not the primary function. Yes, others’ feelings matter and we may delay certain goals for your happiness, but if you are in the way, there will come a point where Ni takes precedence. Also, INFJs are not as good at empathy as some other types are, and that can come across very unlikeable as well. -sincerely, an INFJ
He is giving the secret out
INTJ doesn't delay because speed matters at war
My best friend is an INFJ and this is so true. Her Fe is promient but in instances where her Ni completely takes over she can even come off as heartless, criricising people for making "wrong" decisions in their lives when her Ni tells her that the future outcome will be terrible accroding to her own preferences. Of course I find her very likeable but this is just to say that INFJs aren't as emphatetic as they are sometimes painted out to be which can cause some fraction in their social lives
What describes the infj better? Sympathy or empathy?
@@afrosamourai400 manipulation
As an ISFJ, I am so heckin' glad to see some attention to our stubbornness and intensity. I have described myself numerous times as willing to run someone over for constantly trying to battle something I have found tried, true, and effective.
I got this INFJ friend that I love dearly but she tends to disappear sometimes and I (ENFP) had some hard times coping with that. These videos help me get more at ease with her patterns en really helps me a lot to accept them. Thanks man!
Yes that’s what my Infj friend does sometimes too. If they really need a me time or hate doing something they hate, they just disappear.
INFJ: also pretty sensitive, also bad at dealing with conflict. I really cannot deal with people who can't handle conflict. It's a part of life and the skill is an important one.
I just walk away from conflict
😂😂
Regarding thinkers: As an INFJ, I find the ESTP and ENTP very likable, charming and fun to be around. ISTP are definitely the coolest! INTP's quirkiness is really cute. And I'm literally spoiled by my ENTJ mother-in-law (who showers me with gifts), I can't say I don't like that 😅 Unfortunately, I haven't met an INTJ yet, but I guess it would be really fun to talk to my similar type.
Bip bop INTJ here
INFJs are super pals with INTJs - go out and get you some! I seem to attract INFJs as well as fellow INTJs - it's like bringing the right balance of tension when you add some INTJ mojo to an INFJ chill lounge. And the ENFPs then lighten the atmosphere without raising the energy to obnoxious volumes. This is ideal if I MUST leave my rock to socialize.
What I have seen from my observations, both ESFJ's and ENFJ's might judge you a lot if you do not act according to their thinking of something. That something differs between them tho. ESFJs tend to care more about regular social norms whereas ENFJs tend to care more about how a group should act to achieve something like success, happiness, justice etc. Moreover, ESFJs seem to be more sweet about their judgement compared to ENFJ. However, this is all according to my observations of a few ESFJ and ENFJ I know. The harshness level probably depends on the person.
ENFJ here. I can't speak for all ENFJs, but for me personally, I don't judge people for being different from me, and I'm chill about 95% of stuff as long as nobody gets hurt. I'm very passionate about that 5% though. I feel very strongly about disrespectful and hurtful behaviour. It's abhorrent to me and should never be tolerated in my opinion. That's the 5% for me. I'll never back down on that, because to do so would be to betray everything I am and stand for. In my opinion, that 5% is essential for a positive world in which life is meaningful and fulfilling. The alternative to me would be to accept that life is nothing but meaningless chance and pain and that nothing we do matters. If I have to judge or call out a few bullies to hold onto my ideals, I'm okay with that.
@@BiowareNut Thanks for explaining your point of view. It is interesting.
@@BiowareNut same here, I’m a ENFJ, and I don’t judge or try to put standards on people for them to act right according to me, I have more then clear that everyone is different and therefore acts different according to how they are, and it’s okay, I ain’t looking to change people to what I think they should be, but I accept them as who they are and don’t really judge them based on their actions, I advice but don’t judge, I’m that type of ENFJ, and probably more of us are like that as well, can’t speak of all tho, like you say :3
As an ENFJ, I stay very clear away from judgement I make about others in my head, whether consciously or unconsciously. I strongly also dislike it on the extroverted side where people make judgemental remarks about people publicly and try to stir up strife, I strongly hate that, and that is a boundary if crossed, makes me really dislike you and not talk to that person much.
Like, I try my best to understand people of different nations, culture, ideas, countries, and I don't feel any judgement, but rather why they are the way they are, and how they came to be. I find it interesting to understand backstories more than the current situation because I can touch deeply on that. With that being said, in this context, if someone around me makes a very shallow, very narrow remark about a certain individual that I feel lacks clear understanding of what a person has been through and the explanation for their reasons, I strongly detest it.
There are some boundaries that I will never advocate for crossing. It is wrong if it brings disharmony, pain, and overall hurts humanity by putting them on an ideal that just doesn't work, and there can never exist a justification for that thing - no reason should every justify that certain course of action. Even then, I try to understand the confusion in life a person may have had to take that route. It emotionally pains me to see people on that route, and I really want to tell them to love themselves so they never fall into the trap again. No human is perfect - we get that.
On the idea "sweetness", if I have to make a judgement, and if I should tell someone something, I try to make it so my goal of helping them fix something becomes their goal as well, maybe there are a few brutal truths somewhere along the way I talk, but I'll really focus on my composure, my tone of voice. As you can guess, I strongly dislike people who are sharp tongued and do not realize how much their words can hurt other people. Just the harsh, rough inflection of tone makes me feel discomfort. If that makes sense.
@@BiowareNut As an INFJ, I can actually relate to feeling very strongly about those 5%. However, I am dealing with an ENFJ, who is being very judgemental towards me. I have met a lot of abusive people in my life, so when someone is trying to tell me how to think, how to act, or how to be, I tend to withdraw. This guy is *very* intrusive on my boundaries, both physically and mentally.
The ironic thing is, I actually think we think very alike in many areas, and have a lot of similar interests. The problem is, I am open to people thinking differently to me, without seeing them as less for that reason. I don think he is. From the start, he kept pushing this on me. When people violate my boundaries, I withdraw into myself. And I think he took offence to that response, and now he enjoys 'punishing' me for not giving in. The more he 'punish' me for not being and thinking exactly the way he wants me to, the less I want to give him the trust he is trying to force me to give.
HOW do you fix a situation like this, without accepting to become someones puppet? He have clearly put me in his 5%, but it is based on a total lack of understanding from his side. He does not reflect on how his own actions is actually the reason why I retract further into myself. That when I leave the room for a bit, I do it so he don't feel forced to talk to me (or be cruel to me), not to be hostile. Because I know people feel strange about the INFJ 'quiet' thing, especially the extroverted types.
When we are forced to be in a situation together, I am always trying to be calm and coorperative; but it is very difficult, when the other person is constantly trying to tear you down - and at the same time, claiming to be 'highly empathetic'. I would like to have a positive, pain free relation. But I will not allow him to dictate what I should think and do, especially not when he is the one being highly judgemental and cruel.
i'm an ISFP and i quite enjoy helping people, specifically cleaning but not if i dont want to do it. sometimes i can be overly nice which has led to lots of manipulation but in the end i was happy i was able to do something
Frank said we are the most likeable of the Thinking types. I knew I trusted your analysis! 😉
Everything about INFJs here is true!
I'm kinda in the middle of making an important decision right now... I needed to realize this information again, to be honest. Thank you!
INFJ here. So I noticed the map of Skyrim in the background. And I have noticed that you also use music from Oblivion. I have dedicated hours of my life to those 2 games and would possibly dedicate all of my hours to them if I wasnt so busy fearing what others think about me for playing for so many hours. I also have the soundtrack to oblivion on my itunes. Its like soul comfort for me. 😊
This was interesting to me as an ISFP but it does sort of track with how my friendships go lol People who like the same things as I do and feel the same way about stuff as I do, are fast friends and my friendships tend to be long-lasting and passionate as well. But since I am very annoyingly and authentically myself with no wiggle room or willingness to be anyone else for anyone else, if people have decided they don't like me, that's probably never going to change and might even get worse because I won't try to make peace lol It's for that reason I tend to be drawn to other FP types so I love my INFP, ENFP, and ESFP types very strongly and tend to be turned off by thinkers who are more likely to disagree with me or question me.
Interesting. My mom is an INFP and I am an ×NTP. My brother is a strong ENTP. We all get along well and can talk about random crazy stuff for hours. The major difference is that she takes her feelings and many of her ideas VERY personally, whereas my brother and I just sort of "jam" around with them, not really connected to any of them. Sometimes she gets offended when we cross a "line" that is sacred to her, even if she is literally the only person on earth who thinks her weird blown glass jellyfish sculpture is the most beautiful thing on this Earth, and we shouldn't complain about nearly tripping on it every time we enter her house.
@@MrsRitchieBlackmore I am an ENTP, and I also feel like other people tend to take their own opinions or feelings too seriously.
What's the point of growing and learning new things, if you refuse to take it into account and let it shape your opinions?
ISFP here too! aah the beautiful feeling of finding someone who understands us
@@Juupitrrus bro ❤
Agreed on the obvious omission of Thinkers. As an INFP, I actually find ENTP and ESTJs to be the most likable types. They just are. I like hanging out with them. Especially the ESTJs actually.
as an ENTP, I agree on ENTP and ESTJ :D
as an infp, i would agree that entps along with enfps are probably the most likeable for me. i havent actually met an estj yet, or if i have i wouldn't know, so i can't say
As an INTJ, any Si user gets on my nerves, including ESTJs.
I'd put INFPs at the top of the list.
Funny how perception changes from one type / person to another, right?
As an INFP I absolutely love the ENTPs, they are very nice and I love to stay with them
My best friend is ENTP.
I'm also thinking that every person has a different way of defining what "likable" means to them. Maybe the thinking types think that the feeling types are the most annoying ones for not really being able to act from a logical thinking plane.. yeah, feels like this article was written by feelers xD Love how you bust stereotypes like this! frikkin good man
I am a feeler
19:56 Frank, I love you for (not only) that!!! - an ENTP girl with a rather healthy and developed Fe (or at least I'm doing my best) 😜
I will admit as an INTJ I don't really address issues with "feelers" I just avoid them... it's easier and takes less work. Emotions are annoying, like hugging, just keep it away.
They find a way to punish us
Agreed. I do it for a living so i avoid people after work. I don't do drama or feelings
The talk abt INFJ more introvert: Ni & Ti as priority.. the way you put into words..Was like a light bulb 💡 Now i finally understand!!!
So thats what it is..
That picture with the guy in the chair...his look/gaze.. is what really hit it off..
now I understand!
Didn't realize how intense it comes off..
This explains everything..
Ppl approach me hostile, or intrusive when im just shopping,
or ppl at work ask if im mad when im just focus an need complete on time sensitive matters, or when i talk to someone and ppl literally do this power games stand Infront of me to talk to them and im like... Thats fine we just finished... *I walk away not bothered*
And this goes to show that their used to the bubbly energy I have.. vs when I'm busy but even so if ppl approach to chat directly I'm not rude or ignore them, and give my full attn.. but if not and I'm just passing you.. then I'm just in my lane.. thinking not bothering anyone..
But quickly Hate uproar became real...and I'm completely oblivious
On that note..back to the cold portion
The interpretation on that in my sense is like..
1. Cold= "I'm so overly exhausted to deal with ppl that i over depleted myself...(feeling like a ghost).."
2. Make you feel like you dont matter=
Reality in the internal:
"Pleaseeee Don't disturb mee 🙏🙏😭..Im in focus, I need to catch up with myself before i prone to a system complete shutdown, that can put me in depression, stuck in my bed under covers..for who knows how long..
.. and im so depleted i cant even explain or make facial expression, or body jesture when passing you..
because battery is literally out flashing red😵 Please forgive me.. Im oblivious atm .. im hoping accidental prome injuries dont come into my awareness anytime soon"🤦🏽
true story.. anyway thanks for reading guys lol
as an ENFP, the ENTP's should have definitely made this list. They're so intriguing and I love conversing with them. They always have something interesting to say and the one's I've met have been either very kind or unintentionally rude at times and then feel really bad and apologize. I actually mistyped myself as an ENTP at first because I lean so heavily on my third function, extraverted thinking. That might be why I tend to get along with them so well.
🥹🥹 tysm i love enfps so much i thought i was one b4 haha 😭
@@TALLULAHPULP aww, tysm! And you're welcome!
Ha ha I thought I was enfp or infp
I came out as intp but I love talking to enfp entp
They are too imaginative sometimes its hard to find sense
* error *
As an ×NTP, we definitely know how to charm and carry an interesting conversation, but we can wear some types out quickly by rattling on too long about our latest musings and fascinations. We can be "heady" and a little bit often goes a long way.
@@MrsRitchieBlackmore latest musings and fascinations never tire me. I love to hear people's deepest thoughts and interests. I also rattle on myself at times so I can relate. 😄
Personally as an ENFP with some ENFP friends, I think many of us are more people-pleasing than what's described here. ENFP's are quite sensitive and often think a lot about what others think of them.
OMG yes.
I am an ISFJ, and have been told several times that I am scary. I am 5'2" tall and 125 lbs. 😒 🤷🏼♀️ I don't consider myself to be scary. I am just not overly bubbly until I get to know people.
infp(?) here i do try to get into liking the things my friends like sometimes for the sake of like. Being A Good Friend yk . but then also it is so difficult my brain just doesnt like getting into anything new unless theres something interesting . And also sometimes i kinda wanna just go like Yeah Sorry Not Interested
I watched several videos of you and it kept putting things on the super back of my mind how familiar your mannerisms are to someone and today it finally hit me. You and Pewdiepie could be distant cousins. You have similar facial expressions and even humor lol.
ENTP here- Thanks for throwing us a bone at the end!!
As someone whose mom is an ISFJ, I can totally agree with what Frank said - cause holy shit.😶
And as an ENFP myself, I know for a fact that I won't change for anyone. 😅
Haha you’re right about ENFJ’s and their Ti! They have have a certain stingy quality! I like it, and it makes them sharp and precise. Meanwhile the sensors, like the ESFJ, is a bit more grounded. This far in my life as an INFP, I’ve befriended both ENFJ’s and ESFJ’s. There’s something very comfortable and calm about the ESFJ’s that I appreciate, and ENFJ’s are fun! So now I’m looking for and ESFJ or ENFJ boyfriend. (Dear santa….)
Chad Frank:
"I would personally put ENTP on the top of the list"
*Refuses to elaborate*
*Leaves*
-Thank you, Frank! We ENTPs really needed that 🥰
"We" ENTPs
@@demanieshs Thanks! Fixed! 🫶🏻😝