Things Not To Say To Someone Of Mixed Race
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- Опубликовано: 16 янв 2017
- From being treated as a rare, exotic creature, to being asked which side of your heritage you'd pick if you had to.
Here are just a few preconceptions mixed-race people have to deal with, along with a few of the best things about being dual heritage.
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"Mixed race babies aren't just for Christmas what the fuck do you think this is" I am deceased
no you are not you are alive and well -_-
alex smith gtfo, you ruined it.
I'll make mine on Christmas Eve this year.
I am literally adding that to my cachet
Why would they be?
shout out to all the mixed race folk who dont look mixed race. youre identity is still valid.
Ingrid Jansson I'm half white half Mexican and everyone I know thinks I'm full white because I'm light skinned. It makes me pissed that half of my racial identity is being erased.
Auntie Sam, can we stop pretending mexican is a race ? because it ain't mexicans are mestizo , essentially a mestizo paired with a white person , means that person is mostly white ( whether that person is white looking or not ). so you are here trying to deceive us.
Lol my mom's black and my dad is white but I came out looking middle eastern
Sam Smith same! I'm half white half Mexican and ppl think I'm white because of my skin but everything else looks mexican
Ingrid Jansson Thank you ( >∆
"Please select ONE of the following races"
*sweating intensifies*
I always pick "other" 😂
YESSS I HAD THAT ON A TEST AND I WAS LIKE
*raises hand* "what do i put here?"
Teacher :"your race duh"
Me :ummm
Teacher fill it in !
Me: ....
My friend "shes mixed"
Me :yeah
Teacher : just dont answer it ok
@@ampotato076 same lol
I can relate to it🤦🏽♂️
@Sweetbutter Cupcakes omg I never knew about that :0 I will definitely read on that.
Some people in these comments don't know the difference between Race, Ethnicity and Nationality
Sorry honestly please tell me. I’m confused.
@@reuben8648 Nationality is country of birth, and ethnicity is heritage.
Example: An immigrant from Italy has a child in America. That kids ethnicity is Italian, race is white and nationality is American.
@@LangBellsChannel White is not a race, its a skin colour!
@@LangBellsChannel their race is roman and latin.
LangBellsChannel yeah but most of us mixed people don’t know everything about us. Like I’m white (Norwegian, tiny bit of French, German) then I am Mexican (idk if I’m Mexican or if im Hispanic, Latina, Etc), then I’m Native American (Shoshone) and a a tiny bit of Cherokee. So can you help me?
I'm mixed. My mom's white and my dad's black and I'm very dark and my hair is very kinky. I've had people say that I got the bad genes since I look more African. It's honestly horrible
Gurlllllllll, I don't even know you but I'm getting angry for you 😂. Shiet wish i could suxkerpunch the people that said that. I hope that you love yourself and don't let such comments bother you😊
That's horrible to say and remember mother nature makes no mistakes!
I hope it is not your family saying that.
Jessica Zziwa Same here!!!!
Jessica Zziwa My brother and sisters are very light-skinned and I’ve been asked “Are you sure you weren’t adopted?”
im mixed and honestly it's not that deep
WRECK ALIENS everyone has different experiences!
pharastar1 ive had people tell me most of this stuff and i dont really care😂
WRECK ALIENS I know right XD I'm mixed as well
WRECK ALIENS SAME!!!
squid lord I've had almost all of these irritating things said to me. 😐
I hate it when people think I’m adopted because I have a dark skin mum. Like no she is my REAL mother and I love her to bits 🤦🏽♀️❤️
Lol I relate I look full black and everyone asked who my mom is. Assuming I'm adopted
Same except my mom looks white but she's mixed with white and Puerto Rican and I look idk I look more black I guess
Could have said “biological mother” instead of real ..... that makes it seem like kids who are adopted don’t have their real mother with them
bro same will happen to me but with my white mom. when i'm with my black dad i never get asked are you adopted
Omg honestly idm coz its so funny
I’m an Asian Native American European African Polynesian.
Any document: Choose one race
Me: ...
I'd pick all of them if I were you
Oop
Oh, I didn't know there were cases more confused than mine...
They need to take that off applications. Its irrelevant to the job
@@Remember_the_Time black is a race and Hispanic is an ethnicity, I'm black and white as my race and Hispanic as my ethnicity
I've always wondered how mixed race people felt about being fetishised. My partner is mixed race and although he understand why this is offensive, it's never bothered him. I however always found it weird how both black and white people talk about mixed race children like they're a new exclusive handbag.
naturallybronzed xo I think fetishization of mixed race people isn't common everywhere. In countries where being mixed is the norm like the hispanic carribean countries, PR, DR,Cuba... it isn't a thing. Cus people are soo mixed it seems stupid to fetishize.What you do get is colorism being lighter skinned and having light eyes
Yvonne Rodriguez I do think it is a thing in Hispanic countries only because mixed race people that have "blacker" features aka kinky hair, thicker lips, dark skin are usually treated differently to those who are more in between or have features leaning towards a more European standard. For example, the mixed race woman in the green jumper would get treated differently from the mixed race guy with dark skin and kinky hair.
That's why I mentioned colorism. In PR, where I'm from there was a huge push to whiten the race. I myself am mixed but with kinky 4A hair. I don't get fetishized even though I'm lighter skinned or have more caucasian facial features. However fetishization here if it does happen is all about the hair. You can de dark as night as long is the hair is sitting right. That is the ultimate beauty standard by far. But I dont see white people ever saying i want mixed race kids. Black passing women don't neccesarily date white or white passing men for their genes. It is hard to explain or even conceive if you haven't grown up around it. I personally don't think of myself for example as being in interracial relationship even though my bf is white( for all I know his great grandma could be black idk). I dont think of our future children as mixed babies, just puertorican babies. My family has so many different shades that being mixed is just the norm.You dont think about being mixed or mixing consciously. Race issues here are different. But yeah colorism is a thing. You will still see people saying" pa negro yo" which basically means i'm already black and that is all the blackness I need in my life. Lol. It is messed up. Maybe we disagree on the fetishization part because here the people who are consciously dating outside their race are trying to lighten their blood line.
naturallybronzed xo the difference is in PR almost every is some percentage of black, that's why she said colorism. it's definitely a version of self hate where people don't want to have the black part of them or their future children be too visible. But people in PR know that their music, food, and culture are heavily influenced by the blackness in their bloodline. Most people are proud of their blackness unless its the visible traits like hair. And in PR a light skinned green eyed girl with straight hair dating a darker skinned brown eyed boy with thick hair isn't considered mixed race even tho to American or British eyes it would be.
Heinz57Human So do I. I'm mixed and when I tell people that they don't believe me and it's so annoying because I don't meet the standards of being mixed. I'm mixed with uncommon races together.
"where are you from?"
-"I'm from here. I'm German."
"But where are you reeaallly from?"
-"from Germany"
"you know what I meeean come on"
-"just ask what u wanna know"
"wHy aRe YOu BLacK"
-"My mom's German, my dad's from Eritrea"
...
...
...
"where's that"
Omg,das passiert einfach IMMER
One Bias Six Wreckers Omg I’m half Eritrean and half Ethiopian!!! My dad is Eritrean and my mom is Ethiopian
Victor Stone Selam
Elsa Haile same lol
Worse part is, everyone asks this question. Everyone.
I’m mixed guys, my mum is white and my dad is black. And I’m the only mixed girl in my class. The black kids say I’m white and the white kids say I’m black, so I’m often left out. I fortunately became best friends with a white girl who has a mixed mum and sees the racism mixed people have to deal with all the time and she absolutely hates it. Like we literally became best friends after she attacked another girl for calling me a hybrid.
good for you honestly. And your friend is a great person 💖💖💖💖
Then isn't your friend mixed too?
@@bria7885 Quarter race.
@@stitchedmouthgirlQuarter is same as me but the opposite, I’m actually 1/4th white (Swedish mostly) genetically having a Biracial and black parent and still looking ambiguous (I’m in between 1/3rd and 1/4th white)
@@stitchedmouthgirlquarter of somet is still mixed race
Person: if you had a choice what would you pick?
Me: beating you up
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
This is a very old British proverb, meaning that words taken from the mouths of others shouldn’t have any effect on you and your mental state. Violence should be the only personal factor that should effect you. By getting offended by these petty and ignorant ideals and concepts (words), doesn’t it prove you are either weak-willed or easily moved. The world is changed by people’s actions and behaviour, and people tend to do this (in my experience) as a way to demean others and relieve themselves of their own inadequately. By paying heed and letting yourself be effected aren’t you just feuling them, thus increasing it’s frequently.
Unlike yourselves, I have broken through this barrier, and this isn’t used as a subject of ridicule by my surroundings bullies anymore
Good
Lol
I'd choose black
"Which hand you wanna catch? This hand 🤜 or this hand 🤛?"
Is the concept of mixed race that strange in Europe? In Brazil we just call it "people". Everyone is mixed in some way.
Leba Groppo no it's not strange in Europe, mixed race people are EVERYWHERE in Europe & no-one cares, these people are totally over reacting
Tina Marie oh, ok! that makes more sense.
Leba Groppo I'm Puerto Rican so I'm already mixed and mixed raced people are basically the whole population. But since Europe is a more homoegenous society, although they have immigrants, it's much more bizarre for them to see people who don't look as homogenous racially as they are.
Leba Groppo I'm from Italy and mixed-race and people are definitely weirded out by my looks and ask me where I'm from all the time. but Italy is a super white country so 😅 I've had people ask me where I'm from and then when I replied with: "Milan" they were like: "you don't look like it". like I'm sorry but what? haha
Leba Groppo it's an American thing but in Brazil we do have that though.
I've experienced that
I hate when people tell me "you have to choose a side" and then if you do choose a side everyone tells you "oh no you're not dark/white enough" it's so demeaning and people don't understand
THANK YOU! It's so hard for us to know our place. I've found a lot of mixed people tend to struggle with feeling lost or disconnected because they have a hard time finding their tribe, so to speak. On the bright side, I think being mixed helps us to understand others better.
I'm very sorry that you have endured that. You don't have to pick a side. You are you.
The same happens to me!
One close friend of mine decided from one day to another that I have to identify as black otherwise I'm being racist and I'm denying my blackness.
The problem is that I'm not one OR another. Both my parents are mixed and if we go reaaally deep in the past I have ancestry in Europe, Africa, Arabic countries, and Native South America. How can I pick and choose just one thing? Usually, I just say I'm Latin American because in Latin America we are a mix of all of that, but it is really annoying when people say you have to pick and choose a side of the fence and when you don't they look at you like as if you have a problem or you are not accepting yourself. Well... I am accepting myself and that's why I am not choosing one side. That's not how nature works...
My only solution to this is artificial insemination so I can avoid the BS of racist attitudes I'm capable to showing compassion tho some may not notice
Same here. Your not native/white enough. How can you have blond hair and Asian green eyes.
Shout out to all the mixed race people . You are what you are and should be respected for embracing your mixed heritage and not choosing a side . Love black girl 🥰
omg that made me cry
You’re super gorgeous btw ❤️
@@oddrey4888 How?
I love that , but I'm different. I'm mixed , born & raised in Philly & I was always taught/told that I'm just black. I NEVER knew a white person besides my mom & teachers until I got to h/s. My dad always said "you are what the father is" I never questioned it or wanted too. I think the biggest benefit that I get from being mixed is that it's my duty to love BOTH of my races. Whether my ppl on either side except me or not I HAVE TO love them. Can't pick your family or your color. But its cool bcuz I NEVER met a woman of any color who had a problem with me. Women have good taste 😊
PS love you to girl😉🌷💯
"You are what your father is" happens to be something you shouldn't even say to any mixed race individuals
MrAntiSellOut thank you
MrAntiSellOut my family always told me this yet I don’t look black at all
Omg! I get that one a lot. 😑
That’s a Nigerian thing. Our identity is not based on race, it based on regional culture. As a kid you take your father last name, and claim his culture, these days though ppl just say they from where their mom and dad are from.
Nikki Eke and can we just arrange a meeting where we tell everyone who can't seem to understand that black people aren't ALL african and white people can be african too??
I've had people say ' stop acting white' and then later the same guy say ' you're not black ' just gtfo I'll act however tf I want
Blue and White Skittles I'm mixed and people consider more on the black side o have been accepted
Blue and White Skittles How does one even "act white" or "act black"? Are people seriously assigning personality traits to specific skin tones? That's ridiculous and stereotypical.
well if you're not conscious of it, you'll act certain ways without even thinking of it or knowing. If you're not conscious, you're more likely to "prefer" White people and continue on your assimilation journey into Whiteness. You'll quickly lose the "Black" side of you.
Blue and White Skittles Same. I am mix I get that alot.
I hate this, happens a lot. What are we suppose to be?
im half filipina and half black and the number one question im asked that bothers me is "what are you?"
Kayla Is Krazy why does that bother you hun? Humans are curious beings. When I see a mixed race person I don't jump to ask them questions but if after the basic conversations I do like to ask ' if you don't mind me asking where are you from '.
claire lola well, the way you ask it wouldn't bother me lol. it's not even being asked that bothers me, because I understand that people aren't mind readers. it's just how people ask. like no one has ever asked me as politely as you worded it lol
Kayla Is Krazy oh I see, I guess that can be very annoying. Do you ever say one ethnicity more then the other sometimes just out of laziness lol. Also do you feel more connected with one ethnicity more ?
That's one beautiful mix
claire lola not really lol, I always tell exactly what ethnicities and i don't really feel more connected to one over the other
"If you had to pick a side, which would it be?" WTF??
inphanta real question. Some kids grow up struggling with identity and have asked themselves this very question.
"I'm not half of no one."
She's lovely ❤️
"Where are you from?"
"London"
"No but where are you really from?"
"...London"
"No but where are you from originally?"
COME ON NOW
Tomski_19 I get that soooooo much 😂
Tomski_19 That gets me so much!!!
Sameee
Yes!!!! I get that literally every day! I alway say like you know the area that I live in England (not gonna disclose that but you get it) then if they ask again I say the specific village then the street I live on and then if they still asking I say my mum's womb 😂
I get this too one of my workers singles me out because of it I don't get this from my mum's side witch are Indians but I get shit from my dad's race witch is black shame I can't see eye to eye with my dad's race but I can with my mum's but it's difficult
I'm not a Twix, i shouldn't be forced to "pick a side".
Tyrese Williams 😂 I'm going to use that one
blame your parents
I've never personally been asked to "pick a side." Though I get the impression this stems from society's unhealthy fixation on racial-identity.
medium.com/@brandonbahret/why-we-must-resist-racial-identity-cd762c191c97
You are the best point blank
jay sintonus what are you on about? What did he say about racism? He was talking about people making people who are mixed feel like they have to be one race or the other when they're both. And if a doctor is asking for your race then giving them an accurate description of what your race is in detail would probably help them help you more then you saying you black or white when you both scientifically.
Them: "You're Black aren't you?"
Me: "No I'm mixed race"
Them: "You're still Black then"
Me: "😑🤨 so a White woman gave birth 2 a Black child???"
Them: "Erm..."
Me: "Exactly now leave me be"
Preach! We are just both! Our genes carry both sides. Never make em choose a side!
Your: belonging to you
You’re: contraction of you are
But exactly
@@Cassxowary Thank you for the valuable lesson. Much appreciated 👍🏼
"I want you to be black to make myself feel better"
There is a difference if a total stranger comes up to your face demanding wHeRe YoU'rE fRoM?! or if someone you have known for a while asks in a respectful way.
The former is what annoys the living hell out of many mixed-race ppl.
Just to clarify.
I'm mixed but a lot of people say I'm not bc I'm not mixed with black. It's called "mixed" for a reason.
kyli rayne korenek I have no idea what to call myself because my dad is Puerto Rican and my mom is white ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Ana Rivera my daughters are Puerto Rican (me) American and my husband is white (British) I dread the questions they ask but from a mother point I used to feel very self conscious when I was out with them because they were very white pale babies and always feared people wouldn't think I was there mom 😕
kyli rayne korenek those people are dumb
kyli rayne you're mixed if your parents are two different races.
Ana Rivera You didn’t state your mum’s race, but her ethnicity.
"You're either mixed race or black"
*School in a nutshell*
Stop commenting
That's so true. A lot of people say that to me
Steve Larson continue mix racing
If you're mixed, you cannot be Negro. Mixed people are their own race, and should not be expected to replace, or substitute the other races responsible for their unique individual race. There are much more than a few races all over the world due to genetic sharing.
Shiela West but wouldn't it be for the better for the mix race to replace us? I mean race has done nothing but ruinin human history, because of race their has been only bad things such as racism and racism leads to genocide, slavery, segregation and has divide us. We shouldn't be divide we should he united to be strong and work together as humans. Race is only dividing us and is in the way of us achieving greatness as a species
I think going out with family when being a Mixed race and not matching the “Perfect Mixed Skin Tone” is one of the most challenging things in your life
It’s Certainly one of mine
(Black + Puerto Rican)
I feel you. My moms black and my dad is mostly white. I have extremely curly hair but my skin is only slightly tanned so most people confuse me for just being white and outright call me a liar. It's very frustrating.
or going to a family reunion/birthday/whatever party and having the only mom who married a white and vietnamese man instead of a black one like the rest of the family. so i'm the lightest one -_-
Puerto Rican is not a race
@@FootyLatino don’t care
Also my ethnicity isn't a guessing game.... it really isn't any of your business if you literally just met me
Thank you!
damn, you seemed closed off. i love it when people ask me what my race is
BellaRose Why? Why would you want a random person to be in your business when you literally just met 2 seconds ago?
Exactly
@@mayam.235 Some people have different opinions
Do "not to say to someone who grow up in care/the system"
Torie Paige do you mean like a care home? like off of tracy beaker
Angel wood I think they mean in foster homes/ taken in by the government.
Lady Gayle oh thank you :)
Torie Paige
Yes that's would be good and I'm fostered
Angel wood no like foster care or something like I was in
I'm mixed race and I really like when people ask me what my ethnicity is. Being shown interest into what my ethnic background is rather than just assuming is nice!
Sage Mirei your not mixed race ur white gosh
Sage Mirei I’m Japanese and black and the other black people at my school tell me to stop acting black and when I went to go visit my cousins in japan I hung out with them and one of their friends said i was adopted cuz I didn’t look like my cousin so I had to explain I was a halfu
+Jykeyl Patterson
That must be rough, I'm sorry. When I'm with just my mom people sometimes assume I'm adopted too, because she has red hair and blue eyes.
You may be mixed race but you're mainly one culture; the dominant one. Usually the minority side of you gets assimilated e.g. you can't speak that minority language anymore and can't pass it to your children.
Sage Mirei i totally agree with you, people are curious and they ask questions because they are trying to get to know you.
The “what are you?” question drives me CRAZYY
We all are humans.
If you think that is bad, I've gotten, "I can't tell what you are?"..but yes that is annoying, its like "Im human?" Why does my racial identity matter so much??
i got that a lot...
@Nathaniel Hall I think with that you are mixed but I don't know how this race thing works in the USA.I'm half full white and half full Turkic...I have brown skin but Germanic face and hair...some people called me Her Sultan for this...I consider myself mixed or brown.
I am Groot😄
"You're not ________ enough." A sentiment that I and quite a few mixed people are bombarded with.
To white to be black to white to be black
same bro, it hurts
"Yes, I'm myself enough."
'Wait, where are you from?'
'Chile'
'But you don't look Mexican'
In Russia they were surprised why my Chilean boyfriend is not a mulato
Many people think Latino is a race 😩😂
@@bar_pas depends which Latino. Most of them are descendants of Spaniards and Portuguese, which are a Latin subgroup of Europeans. Though if there was mixing with natives, then it is mestizo...or with anyone else, like Asians or Africans. Yet, there are a lot of Caucasian whites who have very dark hair, bronze or olive skin and dark eyes
BittersweetVirtues 😂
@@bar_pas Latino is an ethnicity not a race.
Both of my parents are mixed and I am child with a bunch of ethnicity-
glossysunmin same
You just described a big part of the population of Latin America!
Same
Same!
Same
I'm mixed and proud. 🙌🏽
I related to most what of was said.
Daryl Allman hell yeah!✌🏼
@blueBeanieboos TV Trust me, there will be a few people who will look at you and start to study you eventually.
Say it loud!
👌🏼
They are so many Nigerians in this channel. 8ve seen like four and only watched four videos. So proud 🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬
Probably because there's a lot of us on this planet
Duke Temz true😂
@@theduke6174 yes
I'm mixed race, my mums English and my dad was Indian but I'm super pale and everyone's always like "wait but your too pale to be mixed race" like ughhh sorry let me just change my skin colour so I can fit your standards 😂💗👑🌸
Evangeline Page omg girl i bout died
Omg same my father is from Suriname and my mother from the netherlands and i'm paler than my 100% white friends lmao
This reply alllll day! Lol!
'He cant be your dad your too white'
Am i? Or is he maybe too dark? Haha. Please, provide me with a colour chart of 'standards' so i can go adjust my melanin levels 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️👌😆☺️ i feel your pain evangeline, lol.
My handsome eldest son is dark complected like Viola davis. I am mixed race and for all intent and purpose 99% of people think I am white. When I came to collect my kid at school, first time, nobody believed me . I stunned everyone when i mentioned that my son has a birth mark on his left shoulder ( I have the exact same one except mine is pale pink). I could tell they were waiting for me to leave the place so they can run their genetic mathematics.
Mine is the complete opposite my dad is mixed with white,black,and Native American and my mom is black and Native American. My dad is light skin my mom is darkskin so my siblings and i came out a brown/caramel color and when I tell people I’m multicultural/racial they think I’m lying we had a civil war project and I was made fun of and called a redskin and I wasn’t gonna be a house slave because I would be too dark. It hurt especially because I’m not majority white because people think to be mixed you have to be white and something. Mixed people come in all shades not just one.
Two that annoys me are; do you think you're more white or black and don't worry we see you as white (I live in a predominantly white area). 🙄
Shanique Marquis why should that annoy you? I'm half Ghanaian & half Jamaican, I'm so totally more Jamaican, I don't relate to Africans at all. Jeez you guys are really crying over nothing
Yelly Yellez you are exactly right.
If someone asked me if I'm more English or Caribbean yes that's acceptable because it's two different cultures but they ask as if black and white people have certain characteristics.
honestly, i dont like if someone asks why someone lets something bother him because questions or prejudigces like this ARE annoying, in fact and for real. and they somehow hurt when they come too often. if someone asks me why do i bother it gives the responsibility for not being hurt back in my hands rather than let the people who insult be hold responsible for stop hurting
Shanique Marquis I get"is that ur real name?" Do u get that too? especially cuz where u live? i live in an almolst all white city too. I always go with" no they let children pick their own names at birth now"..idiots.
(Me as a kid having an Identity crisis)
"Mom what am I?"
"A human"
I got told by an ex friend “technically you’re not white or Asian”
BRO my mom is Asian and my dad is white,?? I’m both??
This black girl went up to me and said, "How come boys like mixed girls? Your skin color's not even that nice and I'm a lot prettier than you." And then she tried to play it off like we were friends.
I wish I was lying
Potato_ Fritter wow, that's messed up.
"BlACk PeOpLe CanNoT Be RAciST"
Wow seems like a very bitter person
@@sidn.3656 You guys can be racist just saying as a mixed person. Let's not repeat history and Africa tragedies. I'm half black and half Norwegian, why don't you Google the definition of racism before you make it lose meaning with all the black sjws.
sid numa r/woosh
I'm kind of confused why is when people think of mixed race it's automatically black and white, I'm half Asian and half white, does that not count? Like hey we're here too it's not just black and white mixed race.
Juliette Schindler actually I think asian and white mixes are the most popular in the world...I'm a quarter white and half Asian btw
Juliette Schindler i'm half white half mexican technically meaning i'm mixed but that's true people tend to forget about that. they only pay attention to "exotic" looking people
It counts Juliette but Whites are obsessed with Black people because they are a parallel and completely exotic comparison to themselves and since Western Media dominates this is what you will get.
It becomes this is the extreme opposite conversation as if there are no other variables. AND if you noticed they have an Asian and White girl mix in the video. You are still considered mixed it is just the simple fact black/white mixed is exported more so by the mainstream.
OMG YES! I'm half white and half Hispanic and when I tell people I'm mixed they automatically go "oh so is ur mom black or ur dad black?"
D Ransom yes I realize however it's not just Asian white people it's so many more cultures, and that's why I find it stupid how people don't think that they count or they're considered mixed race. I get your point though but they need to be aware of the other cultures.
UK: "You're black aren't you?"
Nigeria: "Ehhh White Man, what have you brought for me?"
Me: *sigh*
Ade Gbenjo
What??
😂 in Angola “ Look at that mestiça” and in London “ Mixed race girl” and then America “ Look at that Latin chick” . 😂😂😂😂
I laugh in oyinbo😂
@@lilarodrigues2698 Eu sou mestiço
That's cap. Nigerians don't say white man, we say oyinbo. Also, we probably say yellow sisi or yellow bobo. We'd call a person oyinbo/baturia if they're really light skin/lighter than the people in the area.
living in brazil means not hearing those questions because literally everyone is mixed
I get this one
Me: I’m mixed race
Friend: oh me too
Me: oh which races
Friend: English and American
...
He’s still mixed race.
Could he be Native American?
Also, in both being part English and American has nothing to do with race but ethnicity. On the other hand, both England and America are melting pots of so many different ethnicities so he is still mixed. Lmao
Dead Kings god i hate this it's so confusing! i can't even tell if they're being stupid or i am anymore
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Dead Kings English is a language not a race lmao
Dead Kings English and American are not races so he’s not mixed race. You sound dumb. That’s like saying if you’re half Russian and half polish you’re mixed race , no you’re not those are nationalities
I hate it when people say " oh, you sound white " and I every time I'm like " oh, I'm sorry I didn’t know my voice was supposed to have a race to" I mean what the heck?
different cultures have different ways of talking. you can tell the difference beetween a black person speaking, an asian and a white person. and the voices become more distinguishable if you want to get country specific. so yes a voice can have race behind it
Yea I guess you're right
wen u see fresh meme That's accent, not race. Yeah, different accents originated from different cultures and races, but you can easily find black people with British accents and white people with the supposed "black accent"
Omg same
Stereotypes, man. They can be annoying.
Where are all of my people, who go through this on a daily basis
1:25 “I’m not half of no one”👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
When I was really little, my parents took my brother and I to Costco and my mom went over to another section for a second and my dad told us we could go to the tables that had the free samples. So my brother and I walked over and my dad stood right behind us as we reached for the sample. and the lady at the table said "where r ur parents! U can't be here alone!" And my dad was literally standing over us with his hands on our shoulders (I think) yes he is black and my brother and I r lighter cuz my mom is white and she just assumed that he wasn't with us! I feel so bad for my dad because he was embarrassed and she was incredibly rude and judgmental.
Janae G that's so ridiculous! Someone called the cops on my white dad, because they thought he stole me as a kid. They also try to seat us at different tables in restaurants a lot.
See, that's the one thing that always gets me! How can people say that?! Their kids can be mixed race or adopted or just tagging along with a family friend. People are so rude sometimes.
She was just being plain rude. Even if you were not mixed, adoption is a thing? I am questioning her mental capacity.
Janae G oh that’s bad but luckily it doesn’t happen to me cuz my whole family looks white/Hispanic
Shit I feel you. Me and my you her brother are mixed, my mom is Creo and My dad is Honduran with my brother and mom both having a lighter skin complex as I have a more tan color people would assume I am adopted. It’s funny but annoying.
''No offence but I thought your dad would be the black one not your mum"
Alexia Marie usually everyone always thinks my mom is the black one😂
Alexia Marie My actual life
Alexia Marie SERIOUSLY
People seem to think white men can't like black women.. in Norway I see a lot of white men with black women lmfao
"Are you chinese?"
"No."
"Yes you are"
"I'm really not, stop."
"No you're chinese."
*"I'm a middle-eastern-asian."*
People always ask me where I’m from, and they never ask where my British friends are from.
I’m from England too, I just happen to have an Indian mum who was also born here.
*STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS*
"they're being too sensitive" well some people are more sensitive to certain words depending on different experiences...
for example i don't mind "i love mixed babies" or "where you really from?" but i do get upset at "don't act white" and "is that ur real mom?", while some of my other mixed friends don't find any of this offensive or find all of it offensive
Preach 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
bee.syrup lol. I love the "don't act white"! I dont get "don't act", I get"u act so white"..my response: NO SHIT, I WAS RAISED BY TWO RELIGIOUS WHITE WOMEN IN ORANGE COUNTY! how else am I supposed to act? Like I just left the ghetto? lol. it's all just ignorance. and we hafta learn to laugh n not get upset at the stupid. my mom had the biggest problem in elementary with us. the school never believed we were hers. I understand child saftey, but if denying u access to ur own kid is gunna be a thing, maybe a description should go with parents name? like, can no one be adopted of another race or what? or to different races can't get together? horrible.
what the fuck do you expect people to think when they see your mom and you look nothing like her??? "is that your real mom" is a perfectly fine question. and seriously "dont act white" is something literally everyone who isn't white is told, people who arent even mixed get told that all the time. getting told that has nothing to do with being mixed ffs.
Akosa117 true, peeps of all races get told "don't act so white" but is it really anyone's business , "is that ur real mom?"..no. But getting upset over it isn't worth it either. N I'm guessing ur not mixed or u wouldn't be replying ffs.
MiSti I am very much of mixed race, and thats why it bothers me so much like how can other mixed be so ignorant as to what it looks like from someone who isnt mixed. most people dont assume you're mixed when they first meet you, they assume your just one. so obviously they're curious and confused when they find out your mixed
"YOoUrE So EXotIC" "WhAT aRe yOU?" "ArE YoU aDopTeD?" "YouRe NoT BLacK enoUgH!"
Common things I've been told growing up.😤😤
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“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
This is a very old British proverb, meaning that words taken from the mouths of others shouldn’t have any effect on you and your mental state. Violence should be the only personal factor that should effect you. By getting offended by these petty and ignorant ideals and concepts (words), doesn’t it prove you are either weak-willed or easily moved. The world is changed by people’s actions and behaviour, and people tend to do this (in my experience) as a way to demean others and relieve themselves of their own inadequately. By paying heed and letting yourself be effected aren’t you just feuling them, thus increasing it’s frequently.
Unlike yourselves, I have broken through this barrier, and this isn’t used as a subject of ridicule by my surroundings bullies anymore
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Jei Fero not black enough?? tf is there a scale? are they bringing back those paper bag tests????!!!
Fr tho. Boutta pop someome.
I'm black/latino mixed everywhere I go, things are awkward.
I'm mixed and nobody believe me just cuz my hair ain't kinky🤦🏽♀️🤣
@Jose Gonzalez _I hope this comment is a joke_
i ALWAYS get “what are you?” and it’s never really offensive but there definitely is an obsession with mixed babies. i think the one that bothers me is asking if my mom is my mom... like yes, she’s my mother.
Ok, to the person who replied. Smooth
k. j. I feel like it’s not really “what are you?“ that’s necessarily offensive, but how they look at you right before they ask. Makes me feel like I’m in some sort of glass case.
"I can't see you as a human being unless you have a label attached"
I've been told I have to pick black on papers with a nationality section. I pick other.
I'm told to pick white bcuz apparently I look white
and that was a day hair was all curly and up which is how it naturally is
I'm Inuit and I always get told to pick Asian. I put other as well.
A Grammar Nazi. I took a survey in school today. On the last day, we all have a survey to improve the school. I had to select other. My bff is half native American, half black, and she had to, too.
Ohmygod I thought I was the only one lmao my mom is black and my dad is Polynesian so I usually put both or put'other/mixed'
I just circle/check both
it gets so annoying, when i’m at school people used to constantly ask if im adopted or is thats my real mom, and whenever im at my aunts house on my dads side (black/ hispanic side) they always say i “act white” and it makes me uncomfortable
Are you white, are you black? No, I'm tan. 😳 wow! What a beautiful tan! 😏
I think the worst thing about being mixed is when someone one just completely eliminates your ethnicity and just goes based off of a stereotype and someone not believing you based off of your complexion or racial profiling but otherwise I love being a mutt
agreed. I had an ex friend who is 100% black and very dark skinned. He would always make jokes about my features and my light skin, but what really offended me was when he took it upon himself to tell me what Im mixed with. Im black, french European and native american, but he tells me -" no your not, you look like your black and irish" all because of my nose which is actually more native american in appearance than european and despite my french last name and my white grandparents from Louisiana LOL .and then on the flip side, biracial people- who are usually half white and half black will tell me Im not light enough to be mixed because My skin is a very fair shade of brown with red and pink undertones not yellow ones. After my experience with them I realized some people are just idiots and cant be helped. I define myself how I want to define myself based on my family history and DNA and you should too.
Truth. Its like imagine knowing youre ethnicity and race but just cause others dont want to see it or accept it you cant just happily be that. Only mixed people have to go through this. It shouldnt be others peoples job to tell mixed people they arent mixed and that their only white, asian , black . Why do we have to prove ourselves .
Yes that is definitely the worst part. Because I'm not 6"4 and am not built like Jonah Lomu people like to tell me that it can't be true that I am half Tongan. They generally don't intend to be so condescending but it gets old really fast having to "prove" yourself by speaking the other language you were raised with or whipping out photos of your mother. Luckily for me in Poly families hafekasis are accepted and embraced (due to our familial hierachy systems) so I don't run into the having to prove yourself issue on the other side as well like many other mixed/biracial people I know
And like yourself aside from that, I love having my feet in 2 cultures and not needing to "belong" to one or the other (when I was a kid it used to really upset me because everyone else made me feel like I don't belong to either since I'm not dark enough to be a "true" islander but am way too brown to be considered white, I got older and grew to accept it and appreciate how it has shaped me) it gives you a unique persepctive on culture and the insinctive need many have to categorize people as one thing or the other
. Another interesting thing my sister and I enjoy discussing is how people will tell me they thought I am Spanish but my sister they often assume she is Turkish or Lebanese, despite the fact when we are side by side we are almost identical!
Literally
What are you???
Me: " A human being😑"
I am a human too
THE GREATEST response! I should have said that when some blacks asked me and my brother "y'all got the SAME dad??" Well, at least they weren't like other people...who had the GALL to ask IN FRONT of either parent...now THAT's RUDE. No parent should be shamed by someone for not looking exactly like their kids! I have heard from adopted kids that people getting overly inquisitive about their "real" parents in front of the ones that have them currently and show them love is really OFFENSIVE.
Jessica Williams Thank you!❤
i have had to say this so many times within my 13 yrs of my life
I use the same response too. “I’m human”..
The person asking looks perplexed 🤔
My life 😂♥️
I’m afro asian latina 😂
I never heard that before!!!
You're lucky I'm half Mexican and white people say i look white
Once a girl told me " stop acting Mexican"
Ramdom User 😂
Believe me
People question my ethnicity too
They tell I’m not black or asian enough
And also: stop acting black!
I hate itttttt
@@blasianbonita2271 I guess your right were both relatible.people are very annoying these days.they just don't understand that they are mixed people in this world
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Exactlyyyyyyyyyyyyy ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
These videos are great! Everyone needs to be educated about the uncomfortable topics..of course it's only uncomfortable because a lot of people were raised to not ask questions, talk about subjects that we might not understand. It can cause fear which leads to defensiveness. Gotta start somewhere and educating one another is a great start!♡
Way back in middle school , I had one of my friends (who didn't know that I'm mixed race) say "I don't think people from different races should get married or mix their races together. It's just not right." I was like, "gurl, mom is white my dad is black. I am mixed race." Awkward for her lol. Later in high school I had a white boy at my art table talk to our group saying, "you know, I don't think opposites attract. I don't think I could ever be attracted to a black girl, no offense" (he says this while I'm sitting right across from him) i could only glare at him. I didn't say at the time cuz I was a scared freshman but buddy, honestly, just because you personally think so doesn't make it fact. My mom is white, my father is back. My sister is mixed and she's dating a white guy. My other sister is mixed and she married a mixed Mexican-white guy. They all love and are attracted to one another. We are all human. But come in all different shapes, sizes and colors and that's ok.
i think you are one of our undercover agents out there. They throw racist shit at you not knowing your background. I am playing undercover cop on the other skin tone spectrum. I have a black partner . to add t my comment earlier i was told by a few white men that they had never seen biracials as dark as my eldest son , ever. I never pretend to be white , never brought that up and i curved them on race issues. I straight up told them , they can't be biracial because I am half black meself lol!. They were hella confused ha ha ha.
Skyler Dumas I'm Sorry but having a racial preference DOESNT make you racist... also, Mexicans aren't white.
The guy only said his opinion. You are allowed to date your race as well (it is not illegal yet)
Yasmin Ball some Mexicans are in fact, white. White Hispanic is a thing.
Well who i´m considering my friend is just bases on the personality but when you are dating you want someone with a great personality AND is attraktiv(for you, in your eyes) and not every "race" is attraktiv for me, i dont choose that. you cant control your hormones when it comes to stuff like that. When your are an Asian Women who loves a Black man and he loves you back, thats great! If you are a White Man who loves a White Woman, thats great! dont judge either way..
"Why did your parents betray their people and heritage?"
Kezia Rhodes omg that has actually happened to me.
Nastasya Filippovna Yes, this is a good one! Alot of people think this but won't actually say it out loud.
Nastasya Filippovna Same because I'm an Italian, Spaniard, and Mexican.
Nastasya Filippovna This is the worst! My dad is Persian and I always get that question.
This is what people should be saying to race mixed children tbh
as a mother of mixed children I always tell my kids that its true the historically whites and blacks have been enemies but you are living proof the two races can come together in love. You are proof of that love and acceptance. So no matter what crappy shit you hear or see just know you are proof that love can heal and making a beautiful future.
Person; “Hey kid, where is you’re mom?”
Me: Next to me....
Even as a dark skinned black girl, I still feel like I have to prove my “blackness” even though im not mixed, because of the way I speak and act, like over the phone I don’t “sound” black, can’t cook That well or dance and it’s like those little things are what apparently proves your a black girl to some people and my black friends are always teasing me any time I interact with my white friends or white people in general saying they’re “my people” I’ve gotten called Oreo so many times and it’s so stupid, mixed people must get it 10 times worst #smh y’all we are all beautiful just chill😅
Gae Elle ❤️❤️❤️
It’s the same story for me but I’m Mexican. I have white skin and monolids. I get told by everybody especially my family that I’m not “Mexican enough”. It’s a struggle.
I respect u
Wow, baby girl. I hear ya but you got a lot to learn about yourself so you can realize that you are THE MOST beautiful because you are *pure.* No offense against mixed race people but I think the pure heritage and untouched bloodline is the most beautiful and real. Whether black or white I think it's the way it supposed to be. you are what gave birth to all of this...to civilization! There would be no 'them" without you beautiful Black woman. Mixed race people wouldn't even get a 2nd look if they were not *mixed with Black.* So love yourself, please! For all of us and your/our future children's sake!
Gae Elle omg I found my twin 😭you’re describing my life
I get “so can you say the “N word?” Quite a lot lol
Fr I’m half Indian and half Jamaican my skin is brown and when people find out I’m half Jamaican they always ask me that
darkskin asian like Filipino idk if they can say it
Black white, same
OH.MY.GOD.SAME! At first I thought it was funny, but then it's started getting annoying. Black(Bahamas) and white(European) here.
Anyone can say the N word
Growing up I encountered a lot of "What are you?", "Where are you from?" and "Are you adopted?" It didn't bother me too much. I get that its human to be curious like that. The stuff that irritated me a little more were things like "You don't look X", or "Why you don't act like X?", or even "You're not X, you're Y." Basically either being lumped in a box in which I don't belong, expected to adopt some stereotypical behaviour, or worse of all having part of my ancestry denied because it suits someone's agenda. I'm a half "white"/"black" mix and most of hostility I've faced are from people belonging or claiming to belong to either of those two groups. It's all silly, really. The notion of a "pure" race is fantasy anyway, although some really do seem to obsess over it. Just ignore the ignorant and carry on.
i’m mixed (mum white dad brown) and even my family says i’m white 😭 i don’t even look white- i just have slightly lighter skin than my brown relatives and it hurts to have my ethnicity invalidated
i ALWAYS get told that im not mixed. it pisses me off.
SAMMMMMEEE
yeah i’m mixed (my moms white and my dads black) and this girl LITERALLY SAID a couple weeks ago, “No, you’re mexican”
Well I’m not typical light skin mix, do when I’d correct forms they’d say I was lying . Horrible then here
Why does that bother you ?
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
This is a very old British proverb, meaning that words taken from the mouths of others shouldn’t have any effect on you and your mental state. Violence should be the only personal factor that should effect you. By getting offended by these petty and ignorant ideals and concepts (words), doesn’t it prove you are either weak-willed or easily moved. The world is changed by people’s actions and behaviour, and people tend to do this (in my experience) as a way to demean others and relieve themselves of their own inadequately. By paying heed and letting yourself be effected aren’t you just feuling them, thus increasing it’s frequently.
Unlike yourselves, I have broken through this barrier, and this isn’t used as a subject of ridicule by my surroundings bullies anymore.
To be honest I love being mixed because I love to let people guess were I'm from
War God ikr it's hilarious. Btw I'm Italian Irish jamaican Guyanese Dominican and Hawaiian what are you?
Slough?
same it’s entertaining
Lol I’ve gotten Hispanic but I’m Greek, Turkish, Irish, German, Trinidadian, and African-American (idk where in Africa)
Haha people guess wrong for me 80% of the time.
Don't you just love it when people ask "sooo what are you?" I'm white, black, indian and native American so god knows I look "confusing" but seriously, I'm a person, don't ask me *what* I am
"I've always just felt like I'm me." Yes. This.
"I don't like being labelled" *2 minutes later "no I'm proud to be mixed race"
Christian Plummer being mixraced is not a label it's what you are by label she meant bring called something like ' exotic '
Christian Plummer there's a difference between being something and having a label. I like being asian, being myself, but i don't like the labels people give me.
so does being mixed race matter then?
* at McDonalds with dad *
Millennial: uhmm isn't he way to old for you, like dating him like that is perverted and disgusting.
Me: You know what's perverted? You, thinking that my dad is my boyfriend.
r/thathappened
Actually, I could believe that considering the stupid people I know
Kiana W. It happened to both me and my sister were mixed black and white as well as tall so we look older and he is black so people often think we’re not father and daughter
I had a guy think I was on a date with my dad too. Funny thing was he was half too!
@@pyromusik92 normal in West Virginia
"If I had to pick a side which one would you pick" I get asked that a lot too. MIXED PEOPLE STAY TOGETHER AND UNITE!
My son is mixed raced and he is beautiful. Some people have no filter in their words
what annoys me is when i go out with my mom for parents evening for example -the next day- 'YOU DONT LOOK ANYTHING LIKE YOUR MOM WHATTT'
My life!!
I was told that so many times as a kid that I actually started to believe it
someone once asked me if im adopted
omg I get that all the time too and it affected me a lot especially when I was a kid, now I just dgaf anymore lol
So true!!! I look nothing like my dad but I’m okay with it.
Onetime I was at a fundraiser for my school and my white mom came to get me so I stared walking to her and out of nowhere this women starts sprinting to me and she starts saying things like were are your parents you cant just leave(all the while my mom is right behind the women) and my mom cleared her throat, picked my up and left and the lady looked so dumb founded.
Great video. It clears up some misconceptions. I don't mind when people ask questions. I answer them. It's a lack of information. It makes me laugh.
As a biracial women (Black/White) this vid really says a lot on everything I went through growing up, and still deal with.
okay, I've fallen victim to asking "what are you?" and I'm sorry to those people. on a positive side, my biracial friend embraces these stereotypes as hilariousness
The XVlogs I'm mixed and and I started working at a place that is majority white and two or three black people... white guy ask me what are you because you are more friendly and more close to black people( mind you I knew these two black people long before every even getting the job) < I was just meeting everyone else for the first time. 🙄 that was annoying.
I keep asking what are you. It's meant to mean, what instrument do you play, or what grade you are in. Oops, bad English I guess
The XVlogs i don’t think it’s rude or bad to ask someone like what their ethnicity is, it’s just someone being curious/wanting to know you (even if it comes off as rude)
Katie Ito I don't appreciate it while I'm getting to know someone and one of the first questions they ask me if "WHAT are you" instead of "WHO". I barely know you, you barely know me you don't even now my personality, my race shouldn't be the first thing that pops to mind when you think of me
Yeah, I got the “what are you?” Me: “what do you mean?” Person: “you’re like white but you’re not”
“Nathan, you be the referee bruv!” 😂😂
When I was 9, I was at the store with my mom. Someone came up to me and asked “are you lost? Where’s your mom?” I was holding my mothers hand.
😔😔😠
Its a sensitive experience and people should respect that more. Emotionally studies show its not always easy
"The love of two races." It's how I've always felt. Having multiple heritages to learn from is awesome.
Firegen1 both my parents are mixed race.
I've got a white dad and a black mom, and my brother and i came out looking asian or latino, depending on who you ask. I've been approached by different people of different asian ethnicities and they all assumed i was one of their own. It's even funnier when i was actually living in south east asia because the locals will speak to me in their native tongue, and i always tell them that i don't speak their language, they would immediately switch to english and be like "Where's your sense of nationality? How come you can't speak your country's language???" and i would always blow them away by telling them that i'm not actually asian to begin with XD
Plus it's ALWAYS weird when i'm out with my dad, sometimes strangers would give me dirty looks and think i'm my dad's hooker, or maybe i'm some sort of really young gold digger, and a few times some of his acquaintances assumed i was his second wife XD
The dad part - doesnt have to be an assumption of a different race. My dad and I are both white and still would get stared at. Weird.
Omg I feel you! My dad is also white and my mum black amd I look asian like dafuq 😂
This is a picture of my mom my mom is black my dad is white
Latino is not race lol😂
Well that's disturbing
People call me Mexican even after I tell them I'm not. Not terrible but generally just rude.
When they hit you withe the "but you dont look mixed "
2:40 "you're either mixed race or black" THANK YOU!! I'm so sick of every other race besides black just getting ignored or not counting
And don't me started on "swirlers". People who fetishize one race or combination of races are creepy!
Heinz57Human what is that got to do with anything, you are saying it like it invalidates their point or something
i never understood ppl who think some races are more attractive than others, but i find it even weirder when ppl say "omg _______ babies r so cute" like wtf ALL BABIES LOOK THE SAME OTHER THAN SKIN TONE, HAIR, LIPS, AND EYES
Naomi PR people fetishize me.....
Judo is Life Black American men you mean
One of the stories I remember was in 6th grade right before my band concert and my mom was taking pictures of my from infront of the stage. She's white and my dad is black so this girl sitting a couple of chairs beside me asked me if that was my mom because she is white. I'm asked these type of questions a lot and it is really upsetting.
Awesome video and people!
Omg *THANK YOU*
I hate it when people ask “What are you” or something like we’re dogs.
On the leap I put black and white. The grading people must be *shook*
I hate when people ask which race I perfer to date or think I can only date the race that I look like the most to them like no I can date whoever I want. I'm not dating someone for there color just so you can be pleased
It's like whatever happened to dating someone because you genuinely like them, not everything has to be about race especially when it comes to love
Omg same I had people asking me if I only date asians
O N C E upon a T W I C E ugh this too
Very tragic.
usually, people of mixed race "prefer" to date the more dominant culture/race within their mix. Typically White. Unfortunately, that's how the minority culture/ethnicity gets erased within the person and their future lineage.
My ex-wife always had to put up with the, "Is that really your child?" questions when I would send our kid to her during the summer. I also got the "Why are you acting white?" bit too. I lived in a town that was completely white except for my family, it made sense I'd use the same speech patterns.
I actually call myself mulatto. I say, "I'm not just black or white, I'm mulatto."
I got dogged by a fully black woman and man on Facebook (I dont use it anymore) for me saying I'm mulatto. I was so frustrated, as I'm Black, White, and Native American. I got so mad to the point that I just started offending them, and I'm not sorry.
I don't mind the labels either. I call myself a half-caste. Even mongrel is fine with me, sounds edgy and dangerous.
@@donquixote2072 Half-caste. That's hilarious! Using that one too.
@@TURBOMIKEIFY Hell yeah, embrace it man!
I think some people don't like it because of the racist implications the term carries.