Agreed. It's the only way they truly learn what they did was wrong. Otherwise they'll just consider that you 'beat' them, and still feel justified in their actions.
Or at the least a mention that she makes up sexual assault claims so that if she accuses anyone else police can see that it might be fake before taking it 100% seriously.
THIS. That student's mom decided to threaten the OP with bogus sexual harassment claims. If that's the route you decide to go down because you "lost your mind a bit when you realized things weren't going your way" then you some serious intervention and should probably be kept from sharp objects as a general rule. ALWAYS press charges.
YES. Finally, someone who gets it. Knowing how to cook a variety of meals is basically the most important step toward self-sufficiancy one can take, and that Karen is an idiot for thinking otherwise!
Agreed. I had to do both shop class and home eco when I was in school since my school had this rule we had to do both and can't pick just one. I was crap at home eco, but I still tried. At least it taught me some abilities to cook so I don't have to survive on ramen alone.
Re that boyfriend over OPs saving. Good job leaving that guy. He would only get worse over time. If you were married to him, he would not have apologised but demanded it as a wife's duty. So better he is gone. Well done. I hope you and your Dad have the time of your life.
A friend tried to pull that "a wife's duty" crap with his previous girlfriend. She broke up with him on the spot. Now he's married to a burned out lightbulb. She works at Burger King, hands over her check to him. He pays for everything and "allows" her to have an allowance of $20/week.
Does anyone have any updates on her story? If she announced to the dad, his reaction, etc.? I'd love to know. Also, it wouldn't surprise me if the ex was plotting to get the money anyways. Like apologizing hoping she forgives him, then wait until he can take her debit card of something, or some other plan. That's how the apology sounded to me and I'm glad she didn't take the bait. Cheers from France!
The correct response to the student saying "You made me ineligible" would be for the teacher to say, "No, YOU made you ineligible by not doing 24 assignments."
Yeah, that's EXACTLY what I was thinking. That kid wasn't even trying to pass. Hope he got it together when the teacher offered him another opportunity.
Teacher got lucky. I was threatened to pass three such students or be fired. So i quit and started a tuition class. Got paid better, great hours, less stress and managed to teach kids way more than the school
I had the opposite experience in HS. I have both dyslexia and ADHD. I struggled to stay eligible to play sports. I witnessed others being given special treatment. I started both ways on the football team. I managed to work to keep myself eligible to play. Lazy people piss me off.
@@curtisfranzen986 I hear you. Though I think 'star' athletes often grow up being given a pass because they are top performers. It's no wonder they come to rely on and expect that they won't be held to the same standard as other students. I think it's a cultural issue.
I'd say it's the Mum who's made him dumb! "You're just the cooking teacher, what you teach isn't even important.." OK, so Karen just assumes that there's always going to be a Microwave or a MacDonalds available... What a tit..
The mom ABSOLUTELY should have been charged... I don't even have to try hard to imagine the fallout the teacher would have suffered if it had been a female student and she played along. Those kinds of accusations can destroy lives and even when the truth comes out cast doubt upon the innocent for the rest of their lives.
I am confused here ...... just why was the student suspended? He had no hand in his mother sending the threatening email ..... all he did was bitch to his mother about OP refusing to bump his grade up so he could play in the game. Other than not doing his assignments, HE DID NOTHING WRONG!
@@brag0001 Never hear of suspending a student for not doing their school work ...... am only familiar with suspension being used as punishment for behavior issues (as in fighting, ditching classes or school altogether, having illegal items on campus, etc) But, my son graduated high school in '89
Sounds like the boyfriend in the last story was giving a crocodile tear apology. He figured if he played nice, OP would make for a nice piggy bank in the future. Luckily, she seems to have seen right through him.
If she had helped him out once, he would have taken it as a sign that he can keep doing that and she'll pay again and again. On the promise that "maybe this house will be both of ours one day down the road". Yeah right.
Narcisist:"YOU SHOULD HELP ME BECAUSE WE ARE A COUPLE!" Me:"Not any more, we not, byeee!" Narcasist:"Ok, that didn't work out how I thought it would..."
@@flashstudiosguyThe thing about narcissists is that they don't just give up, though. Did you also notice the part where OP said the break up was "nasty" and "I'm safe for now"? That worries me. He's probably harassing/threatening/stalking her now, because she broke up with him. In his warped mind, he's probably thinking "How dare she keep secret money from me!" "How dare she not give it to me!" "How dare she break up with me!" I know a lot about narcissists, because I was married to one. They can turn very nasty.
I’m even a supporter of the idea that couples shouldn’t merge into a shared bank account. Or in the very least have both with the majority of money staying in their personal accounts. It’s not just about those cases where people share their money within a joint account and the partner is then able to access the other person’s money Most couples probably don’t screw their partner over by taking their savings using the joint account. But one thing I really remember about growing up with parents who shared the bank account was that every time my mother wanted to spend even a moderate amount of money on anything she’d have to talk to my father to get permission and vice versa. I don’t know about anyone else but I truly hate the idea of having to ask permission from my (hypothetical) partner every time I want to spend more than £40 or so. Not to mention having to compromise on personal matters like when I eat or when bedtime is. That’s why I’d never consider sharing a bank account with anyone. Not only does it protect my money from a bad partner but by maintaining separate accounts then my money is mine so if I want to buy something after calculating that I can afford it then I can just buy it without needing anyone’s permission.
@@mikoto7693 My parents have been married for over 24 years and still have two different bank accounts. Heck, they use two different banks! They've always agreed that many marriages end due to money issues, so they never felt the need to combine their finances.
I made that mistake, lost all my savings! I also wouldn't live with a man again until I had a ring, and I still have separate accounts and file taxes separately This messes me up on taxes and the stimulus payments but I don't care. He defaulted on a student loan so his tax return is just taken, so if filed jointly, I would get nothing. And I am not paying it! News flash: debt incurred before the marriage NOT my responsibility
I know right. Some people don’t really like sharing the amount of money they have. There are some people who date others because they have a lot of money. Some of those people are like OPs ex-boyfriend while others are pretty chill about it or in between the two. Also, I'm not trying to say that everyone is like that. Only some people are like that.
I don't share how much money I have/get because my mother is toxic when it comes to money. So it's now a habit I keep. But because I'm genuinely okay with money, I would only consider dating those who have money or a wealth status just because they wouldn't have the need to ask me what I do with my money and how I spend it and how much I save.
Already that is a redflag but to have the nerve to send your family members to harass your partner?? What kind of petty manchild does that? "Mommy!! My bad gf doesn't wan't to give me moneeey, she is being meeeeaaaan". Pathetic.
@@LuvSn00py00 OPs story is exactly why I don’t talk about how much money I have. Especially when someone is complaining about their financial instability, they then feel entitled to your financial help.
Okay the last story: a lack of planning on the boyfriend's part does not constitute for emergency on OP's. He needs to learn to grow up, manage his own money, and not expect his gf to bail him out. Her money is her own, she earned it, and it's pretty clear she is better at managing it than he is. I'm glad she got herself out of a potentially toxic relationship.
No kidding! Apology or not, it wouldn't be the last stressful situation they faced if they stayed together, and he would likely react the same way again, or worse.
Also, he was JUST a boyfriend, not even a fiancé and they weren't living together either. There was ZERO assurance that OP would have ever gotten the money back if they broke up, or had any equity for bailing him out. The fact that he's showing he is THIS bad with money also shows what kind of a disaster any marriage would be, where he's forgetting to pay bills & still being financially irresponsible.
The Karen of the second story should have been prosecuted! Because of stupidities like that, good people had their life ruined. Entitlement should be considered a crime for it leads to that kind of behavior. About the last story, DarkFluff you are soooo right!
Talking of Karen's ( even if we weren't ) I was having a coffee earlier today when a woman came over and started to chat to me. She's around mid 40 years old, 5 ft 8" tall, good looking, nicely built, blue jeans, white blouse, clutch bag, she has THAT haircut...THOSE sunglasses ( you KNOW where this is going don't you ! ). After a while she asks my name...I told her and so ( of course ) I asked for her name...she grinned at me and said. 'Well...it's funny you should ask that...you see I've had this 'look' for YEARS, then somebody told me I looked JUST like a certain 'Meme'...so I figured I'd go with it just for laughs'. I Look at her quizzically she grinned again...'My name IS Karen'! I nearly crapped myself with laughter
So, the " look " has been my grandmother's look since she was a child. I grew up with grandmother that looks like a Karen, acts like a Karen, is named Karen... 24 years of dealing with her led me to be an asset in my customer service jobs until 1 Karen took things too far 2 weeks after cremating my brother by saying "no one dies from covid so i dont know why you're a sheep wearing a mask" she had no mask on and spittle was flying from her mouth...i sad red. No customer service voice, no "okay ma'am" just blatant ready to "deletus the witchus" also my grandmother was a major karen during that time trying to make the death of my brother all about HER 🙄 was no contact for 7 months until my great grandpa died now low contact with her. Cant even with Karen's anymore because they got worse from the pandemic.
The teacher should have pressed charges. What happens to the next professional the mom tries that on? Mom needs a record of making false allegations so she doesn't try it again.
To the last OP, good on you to break up with that douche. If he can do this to you when you're not even living together yet, imagine what he'll do once you're moved in or married. Goodluck and all the best to you.
I taught for 35 years. Yes, the occasional pressure to pass a failing student did happen. The last decade of my career there was a no nonsense football coach who was also a teacher. If a student was skipping or being a pain in the tuchis Coach had them run laps. If kid skipped again the Coach called the Parent & told them why their son would not be playing in the next game. Coach also sent out an e-Mail requesting that the teachers tell him who was not doing well in class. He would do his best to get the students back on task or they would not play.
Ikr. It's one of the essential skills for life. And she's a mother, she should have known better or maybe the dad was the one who had to cook which makes her a hypocrite.
#2: I'm sure the wacko mom WILL face some repercussions for her threats. #3: Glad OP dumped the BF. If she bailed him out he'll just be back again looking for more $$$.
That mom won’t face any repercussions bc OP didn’t press charges for some reason. They only way she will ever get in trouble is if she try’s that again and the other person has good proof it isn’t true
In the second story, I would have definitely filed charges. Every fake accusation and threat of making a fake accusation makes it that much harder for the real ones to be taken seriously. Also, unless the OP would have given a non-sports player the same opportunity to make up all those missed assignments, it looks like the mom succeeded in her goal.
Seriously, I'm tired of these people being so fucking spineless. She should've failed the kid and charged the mom. That's how entitled people are born and stay the are, no consequences.
That entitled mother deserve to have charges pressed on her ass hard. Sexual charges are not a laughing matter. Her career could have been ruined right then and there all because of one lie. Plus everyone knows that just because you're a star player of a team doesnt mean you can slack off on courses that may or may not be important in the future. All team members are expected to keep up their grades if they want to play. you fail, you out, you pass you in. Although Im glad the kid didnt go along with his mother.
ALWAYS prefer charges. You don't realize once the accusation is made, it has a life of its own. Gossips don't hear the facts. They just passed on the accusations (with embellishments.)
Yes! Patterns of behavior need to be established, and I understand how hard this is on a teacher because we want to be forgiving and allow people to grow. The issue is how huge that threat is. Mom needs to have that officially established as a behavior in case she does it again.
Simple, last OP. You don't reward your irresponsible, nasty, guilt-tripping boyfriend, who sent his family members to attack you. You reward the father who's sacrificed so much for you.
They're lucky OP doesn't work where I do because if I was her Boss, they'd get a "friendly" reminder that I don't pay OP to deal handouts to vultures and if they want any money for her to give them, they'd better get out and stay out, unless they had a sliver of interest in purchasing something and anyone who wants to "object" is welcome to try..
Bam! This in a nutshell. My Dad is an amazing man, he worked super hard at a demanding job to provide for us (Mum had physical disabilities but took work when she could), and I could not imagine the audacity of anyone thinking they had the right to get mad at me for giving him a holiday like OP did for her Dad. My Mum has sadly passed on, and while Dad is still pretty healthy, he doesn't want to go into a retirement home or anything after he sells their place. (He'd go stark raving mad there lol). So he's going to move into the spacious granny flat on my property, and I couldn't be more honoured and happier to be able to help him out and be there as his daughter and friend. If I had a boyfriend who suddenly felt the flat would be perfect/better for his Aunt so-and-so, and tried to push that, the relationship would be over so fast his head would spin. Glad OP showed the same!
Im glad OP got out of that relationship. Im actually disgusted that this guy expects her to pay for his failure at managing his OWN money that he makes at his OWN job with his arms and legs. And the mom and sister are just as equally disgusting, harassing her like that at her job. That is a terrible duo right there, mother and daughter teaming up against someone who did no wrong but wrong in their eyes. In my opinion, the bf deserves to be kicked out; cant managing money, taking ur anger out on ur gf when he's in the wrong, having ur own mother and sister gang up on her at work, and getting all livid about the break up when it was clearly your fault from start the finish. Fix yourself and fix your family dude, nobody wants to be with you if they gotta deal with that crap.
I am shaking my head she said no. That shit could have cost the O.P her job. I knew teachers put into a similar situation and lost everything. She should have pressed charges.
@Xirevius Don't pat her on the back too much, even though we didn't hear it, I'm sure someone, maybe Dad, maybe the Principal, maybe even CPS and the Police warned her what consequences befall those who file false accusations against others.
She doesn't even live with him. She had no responsibility for his bills and if he has money issues now, what is to stop him from taking advantage of her success in the future?
Call me old fashioned, but man is supposed to be bread winner of family. What can be expected from a man who can't even provide for himself sufficiently? Whatta loser. OP is right to dump that piece of shit.
@@gorilladisco9108 In my house I am the bread winner, but I agree that if you cannot be self sufficient first, whether it be mentally or financially, you should not be going into a commitment you clearly are not ready or equipped to handle.
@@LuringDarkness7 This. I don’t mind if my man is not the bread winner, as long as he could be/knows how to be self-sufficient and we are choosing a different set up that suits us better. But it’s hard to respect a guy as a partner if he still needs a mother to organise his life, or worse, a scapegoat for his mistakes.
Sounds like the exact trap that is best left avoided. He knew exactly why she had that savings. He didn't care. Only one selfish person in that story. And it's not the girl taking her father on a trip to thank him for everything he's done
They've barely been together a year. And the first couple months isn't necessarily the time that you divulge all financial information. And getting to financially involved too soon causes a lot of people's downfall
@@reneeg9406 this just showed OP what kind of person her ex is. OP didn’t take him back and when he realized that apologizing didn’t work, he lost his crap even more. I wonder if he’s still harassing her or being a passive aggressive psycho.
Karen: And just so you know, my husband is a high powered hacker for the government. These emails will be gone in minutes... Blah blah blah. Me: Good luck hacking paper. Printed x3, sent to principal, sent to HR, and one for my records.
The second story makes me laugh, especially because I imagine the mom talking in the middle of the road in a public phone with a robe covering her head and using big sunglasses and looking all arround if the police shows up.
Yeah. And the kid did good in ratting his mom out. Sure he wasn't exactly clear since he still didn't do the work, but at least it desn't sound like he's crazy entitled. More like a typical jock who wants to pass to play a sport.
Were I that teacher, I'd likely have said that I wouldn't press charges...now...but if even a =hint= of this got out I =would= be pressing charges and filing suit, and that would include the school and district if an investigation showed that it were leaked from there.
It was said earlier in the story that it was a public email that is also archived so there is no way to actually sue the school or district for letting the email leak but the mother most definitely should have been arrested and brought up on charges
Person who wants to give father a dream vacation: is her name on the mortgage? No? Not her responsibility. This is a huge red flag, she needs to leave immediately.
Final Story: OP breaking up with the BF was the right call. It would have been VERY dumb to give it to him as an contracted loan, or "towards their future" without some kind of legally binding assurance in place as all it would take is a relationship hiccup and all that money would be gone with OP having nothing to show for it. OP saw the red flag rising & acted appropriately.
Karen: My husband is a high powered professional hacker for the government Google translate: My sperm donor saw 2 movies about hackers while at work in a mechanic shop
@@unluckypanda5448 no, they didn't. Its a joke. They're saying the Karen said that her husband is a high powered professional hacker for the goverment. But actually, the husband only watched 2 movies about hacking while working at his real job. The Karen lied and made her husband seem like that, soshe could do whateve she wanted and OP would be powerless. The joke is: Karen said one thing, but it actually meant another thing. Like when you put a word in another language into google translate, and you translate it to another language. I hope that helps.
Especially after calling him "from the road." What if the father came home late? Or, God forbid, he had a medical emergency and didn't come home at all? Who would look after the son? That woman just hit the road and hoped everything worked out at home. Smh
10:44: why was the kid suspended for two days, according to the story, he didn't do the work, but all the illegal stuff was done by the mother, so why is he being punished???????????
To reiterate to her that her behaviour was unacceptable and could result in her child being expelled from the school. And yes, whilst it is unfair to the child it is a valid reason for expulsion if the parent makes threats like that against teachers, especially if said parent is the primary contact for the child.
I choose to believe that it’s mostly because of the missing work. After all, the school can very easily tell the parents at this point that the mother is not allowed to be the primary contact unless it’s literally not feasible for the father to be the contact.
Story 2. If her husband is such a good hacker then why doesn't she make him change the grade. Mr hacker hubby should be able to since he's such a good hacker lol
In the last story Op should definitely take her dad to Disneyworld before her gets too old to enjoy it! And rent him a wheelchair so he doesn't get worn out too badly! Have fun!! 😜😻
#3. Glad you ditched him. You do NOT want to deal with his irrational, manipulative anger over & over & over... & over for the rest of your life because he's irresponsible with money. BTW, I doubt you want to risk being with someone that irresponsible with money, let alone childish anger issues.
That cooking teacher was much nicer than I I'd have pressed charges against the mom just to get a papertrail on the bs she tried. You never know when that'd come back to bite you.
Story 3: OP, you 2 are not married, so community property law doesn't work. A lack of preparation on his part doesn't constitute an emergency on yours. Get a TRO. Put his family on it as well. You don't need that kind of toxicity in your life.
Regarding 3rd Story, Take Dad on his ‘Trip of a Lifetime’! Dad is the one who raised her, fed her, educated her, and now he’s ‘getting on in years’... He should be OP’s first priority!
Innit?! Hell, I wouldn't carry my 2 inch slipjoint to an airport unless: A) I'm not the one boarding; B) The slipjoint isn't in the checked luggage. Now this sumbitch shows up with a balisong acting like he's the Spy from TF2 just because he's an ambulance chaser? Hell to the naw!
A relationship with that boyfriend is a dangerous rabbit hole that will lead to a vicious cycle because even if she were to bail him out of debt does not mean he will stay out of debt, she has good foresight for seeing the dangers that he will bring.
@@larrymotuz6600 well, yes that would help, but what I meant was it’s hard for RUclips to keep playing when my phone is on in my pocket, and it keeps getting paused or different videos play
That story three just gives me flashbacks DX My sis used to date a guy that was in debt, and even had debt collectors on his butt for unpaid phone bills. He even got a phone in my sisters name and told her never to touch it and racked up a bill of over $1000. So fast forward to them being broken up for a few years, she got a letter in the mail stating that she was in trouble with the phone company and to pay the bill before anything bad happened. So she kicked his ass into paying for it and told him to get bent. Also, the same guy asked me at random, after not saying anything to me for almost a year, that he was wondering if I knew anyone who could spot him $200. I told him, if he finds someone, let me know cause I would love $200. He never messaged me back. He asked if he could stay at our house for two, TWO MONTHS and he stayed for 8! He couldn't find a job, couldn't find an apartment, was low on money cause my dad was making him pay rent. My mom passed away while he was here cause once he came in the house, her health drastically dropped (She was a cancer patient) and he was the dirtiest, nastiest person to ever walk the earth. He was an absolute useless human being. He still bugs us to this day, asking for rides, if we can help him out, and if he can come stay the day at our place. Every time, he gets a no because of the thousands of things he's done to us in the past. I hope this 36 year old man moves on with his life and actually grows up. Cause if he ever loses his place again, he burned his last bridge to stand on. Sorry for the rant.
@@squirrel670 Not gonna say that hasn't crossed our minds. My sis is friends with him on facebook and the only reason she has stayed friends, is she's afraid if she cuts contact completely, that he'll do something stupid, like break into our house or hurt someone. A restraining order might be the best option there. I seriously think he isn't gonna learn otherwise.
The Disney Trip story, OP don't give your boyfriend, I mean should be ex boyfriend a cent. Take your amazing father on his dream vacation, because that is such an amazing gift . Your awsome OP. OP NTA
@ 6:18 There was one time I had to take a flight. My room mate at the time wanted me to take some mole sauce to his ex. I said, okay but we'll have to make sure it is properly canned and sealed, and even then their is no guarantee they will allow it. After canning it, I put the sealed jar in my checked baggage. Air port security did make me open my bag and show it to them, but after seeing it was properly canned and sealed and I explained what it was, they allowed it to go through.
I don't understand why they suspended the student. What's he being punished like that for? He is already getting a failing grade for not doing the class work, and he did not do a single thing wrong aside from that.
I flew from Austin Texas to Concord New Hampshire on time and was told by TSA that the SOG (Think Leatherman) tool I wore on my belt could NOT go on the plane with me as it had a knife blade. In a backpack that I carried my laptop was a utility knife with break off blades that TSA DID let onto the plane. A bit of FYI; what most people call a "Butterfly Knife" is actually a knife known as a Balisong.
My grandma was a home-ec teacher back in the day, and literally had the same "but Ma'm, the sports-ball game is happening and I won't be able to play if I fail!" ALL THE TIME. EVERY SPORT. However she had the coaches and principal putting heavy pressure on her to pass the kid regardless. Sometimes she did cave, sometimes she didn't. All it taught me was jocks are terrible.
They still exist. But i assume its lesser now because it is no longer a vital skill in some places, you can totally live your life with no issues never knowing how to cook
@@Disatiere Really? Well, eating out and the instant stuff all the time isn’t exactly healthy. Besides, I’m personally ruined with home cooking, so I avoid any storebought ready stuff.
@@Novice9241 Don't know if youtube ate my reply or just its not showign up for myself but: Availability depends on your area obviously. I'd rather defer to experts to make my food. I'lll stick with game dev, general coding and Tesch support.
Last OP, break up with bf. He just wants to use you and he will continue that for the rest of the time you guys are together. That is amazingly selfish that he would press this after you explain what you're using the money for. His mother and his sister could help him pay for the mortgage if he's that stupid. Please take your dad to Disneyworld. Enjoy your trip! The last vacation I took with my parents (and my daughter) was Disney world and my dad died unexpectedly about 6 months later. I cherish memories of that last trip like you would not believe.
"Just a cooking teacher?" "Doesn't need to be taught that stuff" If one doesn't know the basics of preparing meals, they'll be living on nothing but toast.
True, but wouldn't that be a skill you get taught by your parents? I don't object learning somewhere else about something, but I think it's sad that apparently people feel that such basic things need to be picked up at school since family life no longer provides it ...
@@brag0001 so it should be off loaded onto parents because we can always assume that people 1 Have parents 2 Have good parents This assumption has always been wrong and always will be wrong and is destructive. But additionally on that note nowadays we do have delivery which makes cooking less of a vital skill
@@Disatiere Well, your response is a prime example of what I was trying to get at. "Off loaded into parents" is such a distorted perspective onto raising kids, I don't even know what to respond. I was merely shaking my head at societies feeling the need to even teach such basic tasks through schools because apparently so many families have become entirely dysfunctional. I didn't say that society shouldn't try to remedy that. With your view on responsibilities I can at least understand why you try to challenge the idea that a family who can't raise kids is considered dysfunctional by me. Because apparently raising kids is the responsibility of the school in your view ... We can only agree to disagree here ...
Here's my take on story 3 Take it from a man who lost his mom recently. Take your dad on the trip he might be around much longer. I promised to take my mom to Hawaii because my dad didn't keep his promise to, but my mom suddenly passed away and now u have a haunting guilt that I was never able to keep that promise. Take your dad, forget about that bf.
Simple solution; break up because she is NOT his gf anymore. She doesn't need inlaws like them & his lack of money-managing is the biggest Red flag. SO glad she got out of that trainwreck.
I’ve been teaching college for over 25 years, and I have little patience for people who want to abuse the system without doing the work. I will work with my students as long as they want to work hard. It’s hard to fail my classes or even get less than a c-l those who do don’t do the work and/or don’t come to class. What bothers me is the ones who, at the end of the semester, ask what they can do to pass after doing nothing. Nope. I’m glad I don’t have to deal with parents thanks to federal law
I’m so happy the girl in the last story broke up with that guy. This was one hell of a foreshadowing to what a more serious relationship w/ guy and his family would be like.
Alice someone who took culinary arts in high School and during that time, had a pattern of not turning in a much work on time because of my severe ADHD, the only way to not do 24 assignments at all in a grading period is honestly to simply not try at, and culinary arts is the WORST subject to not try in, because #1, you will need to know how to cook YOUR ENTIRE LIFE, unlike basketball which can only support you that long if you're one of the 30 or so top tier players in the NBA, because after your knees give out at 40 or a major injury, you can't even play anymore,but you're still going to need eat. And #2, why would you not want to try in the first place? YOU CAN EAT YOUR HOMEWORK
As someone who at most knows how to use a microwave and can heat up some oven cheese every once in a year, cooking is nowadays in a lot of places no longer a vital skill. Not to mention that if push comes to shove and i really had to cook myself i could just look it up online as ive done for instructions for the oven settings. Cooking is neat and all but id rather pay someone else to do it while i focus on development and tech stuff
I remember when my son was in high school...it was the coach who was trying to circumvent the rules...I stood with the teacher...my son was mad...but guess what...education is important..football/basketball...not so much! PS knowing how to cook is important.... as far as the last story...i am glad OP broke up with BF and his crazy family! He probably never learned how to manage money or be accountable...based on his mom and sisters...trying to guilt and manipulate OP...(well he did too) but geesh!
On the financially irresponsible boyfriend. When I first met my wife, then girlfriend, I was very VERY bad with money. Every dollar would burn a hole in my pocket the second I got it. My girlfriend, on the other hand, was extremely good with money. When I got into trouble paying bills I did ask my girlfriend for help. I got her to teach me basic bookkeeping and budgeting. Now, I've never been the best at anything like this, but I learned. I never asked my girlfriend to pay my bills because, well... I guess my pride was stronger than my want to spend money. 35+ years later and I'll never be as great with finances as my wife but at least she knows I'm never going to get us into financial troubles. The ex-boyfriend in the story REALLY needs a dose of pride in what he does and how he is.
Yo I just got my little Mr Fluffington plush today when I checked my mail and he is an adorable little dude. I was so happy to see it in the mail when I checked today.
So... the EM in the second story thinks cooking is unnecessary? What in thunderation is the kid supposed to do when he's in his own place? For the record, I'm a guy and known how to cook for years. An Australian bush upbringing will teach you a thing or two.
We used to have Home Ec here, I don't know when it stopped (I did it in the 70's, I'm old). Likely got considered sexist because far more girls took the subject and it was an elective. Of course common sense would say make it compulsory like maths, science, English. My son learned from working at Hungry Jacks for years. Went on courses and stuff to learn all about food, cooking, storage all that. Now he's got his own house, he can look after himself food wise. Country kids still learning is great to hear.
I was just stunned when Karen claimed her son would never need anything learned from cooking class in his life. Like, cooking is literally an essential life skill, what the actual... Story 3, OP just needs to say "your financial mistakes and mismanagement are not my responsibility" and break up with him. He has no right to demand your money, and going to mommy about it doesn't make him seem any less like a spoiled toddler. Re: update, good on her for getting out of there relatively early. I can't imagine if all that had come out later in the relationship when she mightve been in much deeper with him.
The airline knife story reminds me of something my brother told me. Early in his law enforcement career, he was on guard at the local courthouse. This old guy came in with a sword cane. That is a big no no...but APPARENTLY this guy did this often. He had several sword canes. He often forgets to leave then at home. So he gets it taken away until he is leaving, at which time he gets the sword cane back. That just blew my mind
Threatening to slander someone and jeopardize their career should be met with a very heavy handed response. Aint no games to be played at that point and they should be buried in shot so deep they'll not even attempt to think of doing something like that again. Throwing out a threat of pedophilia against a teacher is a very serious threat that would absolutely destroy the teacher, even just hinting at it can cause a skew of legal problems. If the kid went through with it, and i was in OP'S shoes, I'd be out for blood as soon as I found out they tried any of that. Careers already shot to hell at that point so I'd make them pay for essentially never being able to work around children or teach because of their slander. Thats wouldn't be a small lawsuit in the slightest...
The butterfly knife story reminded me of something that happened to me once. They found a "switchblade" in a carry-on I had once. They wanted to detain me. I told them repeatedly that it wasn't a knife. No one listened. I almost missed a flight because they refused to open it and see it was just a comb.
I'm surprised the "attorney" actually tried to smuggle a knife onto a plane despite it being an illegal object. Shouldn't he know that already? I kinda suspects he's just an errand boy at a law firm
Nah, as entitled as he was acting, he was probably a partner in the firm. He thought being a partner in that firm would give him enough clout to make OP ignore the knife and wave him through.
But why the kid get suspended, was it for his mom's email, that i could understand but not for not doing his assignments, they could've had to these in the library in the school or something!
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"My husband is a high powered professional hacker in the government" wow, can't wait to see him try and hack paper.
The funny part is that government hackers isn't a real job name it's called an FBI agent in the cyber security department
I mean if you have correction tape and a pen you can technicly "hack" paper
@@dr0plague or a code breaker in the near, if you want to rode the dramatic train ( though thats a technicality
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If you’re asked, ALWAYS press charges particularly with that kind of email sent by a parent!!
For real! Before she gets away doing it with some other poor schmuck
Agreed. It's the only way they truly learn what they did was wrong. Otherwise they'll just consider that you 'beat' them, and still feel justified in their actions.
Exactly! For all OP knew this was exactly what the father needed to initiate divorce proceedings and get full custody of their son
Or at the least a mention that she makes up sexual assault claims so that if she accuses anyone else police can see that it might be fake before taking it 100% seriously.
THIS. That student's mom decided to threaten the OP with bogus sexual harassment claims. If that's the route you decide to go down because you "lost your mind a bit when you realized things weren't going your way" then you some serious intervention and should probably be kept from sharp objects as a general rule. ALWAYS press charges.
Cooking class is probably one of the most essential classes in school. It should be required instead of just an elective.
It is required in 6th grade in Denmark or at least was when I was in 6th grade😊
YES. Finally, someone who gets it. Knowing how to cook a variety of meals is basically the most important step toward self-sufficiancy one can take, and that Karen is an idiot for thinking otherwise!
Agreed. I had to do both shop class and home eco when I was in school since my school had this rule we had to do both and can't pick just one. I was crap at home eco, but I still tried. At least it taught me some abilities to cook so I don't have to survive on ramen alone.
True. Cooking is probably more useful than at least half the classes I took in high school!
Yep, that kid is definitely going to need it once his basketball dreams fall flat.
Re that boyfriend over OPs saving. Good job leaving that guy. He would only get worse over time. If you were married to him, he would not have apologised but demanded it as a wife's duty. So better he is gone. Well done. I hope you and your Dad have the time of your life.
She had to move on. A couple needs to both be responsible about money.
Yes, yes he absolutely would get worse.
A friend tried to pull that "a wife's duty" crap with his previous girlfriend. She broke up with him on the spot.
Now he's married to a burned out lightbulb. She works at Burger King, hands over her check to him. He pays for everything and "allows" her to have an allowance of $20/week.
@@theiran I hope she secretly has him highly insured. 😕
Does anyone have any updates on her story?
If she announced to the dad, his reaction, etc.?
I'd love to know.
Also, it wouldn't surprise me if the ex was plotting to get the money anyways. Like apologizing hoping she forgives him, then wait until he can take her debit card of something, or some other plan.
That's how the apology sounded to me and I'm glad she didn't take the bait.
Cheers from France!
The correct response to the student saying "You made me ineligible" would be for the teacher to say, "No, YOU made you ineligible by not doing 24 assignments."
Yeah, that's EXACTLY what I was thinking. That kid wasn't even trying to pass. Hope he got it together when the teacher offered him another opportunity.
Teacher got lucky. I was threatened to pass three such students or be fired. So i quit and started a tuition class. Got paid better, great hours, less stress and managed to teach kids way more than the school
I had the opposite experience in HS. I have both dyslexia and ADHD. I struggled to stay eligible to play sports. I witnessed others being given special treatment. I started both ways on the football team. I managed to work to keep myself eligible to play. Lazy people piss me off.
@@curtisfranzen986 I hear you. Though I think 'star' athletes often grow up being given a pass because they are top performers. It's no wonder they come to rely on and expect that they won't be held to the same standard as other students. I think it's a cultural issue.
I'd say it's the Mum who's made him dumb!
"You're just the cooking teacher, what you teach isn't even important.."
OK, so Karen just assumes that there's always going to be a Microwave or a MacDonalds available...
What a tit..
The mom ABSOLUTELY should have been charged... I don't even have to try hard to imagine the fallout the teacher would have suffered if it had been a female student and she played along. Those kinds of accusations can destroy lives and even when the truth comes out cast doubt upon the innocent for the rest of their lives.
I am confused here ...... just why was the student suspended? He had no hand in his mother sending the threatening email ..... all he did was bitch to his mother about OP refusing to bump his grade up so he could play in the game. Other than not doing his assignments, HE DID NOTHING WRONG!
I couldn't agree more. This woman got off way too lightly.
@@tinydancer7426 apart from skipping 24 assignments ofc ...
@@brag0001 Never hear of suspending a student for not doing their school work ...... am only familiar with suspension being used as punishment for behavior issues (as in fighting, ditching classes or school altogether, having illegal items on campus, etc) But, my son graduated high school in '89
@@FalconLover05 I'd rather say two days to concentrate on said assignments 😉
Attorney: "The blue folder is my job"
Me: You only sell blue folders or can I get them in other colors?
he was in a hurry because he had a flight to catch, unlike the other people in line
No no, the blue folder IS his job. He isn't selling them, he was at work. The front cover is his boss.
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He was in a hurry to chase some ambulances.
@@Frostfern94 and the back cover is his trainee
Sounds like the boyfriend in the last story was giving a crocodile tear apology. He figured if he played nice, OP would make for a nice piggy bank in the future. Luckily, she seems to have seen right through him.
Yes, she dodged a big bullet there.
If she had helped him out once, he would have taken it as a sign that he can keep doing that and she'll pay again and again. On the promise that "maybe this house will be both of ours one day down the road". Yeah right.
Narcisist:"YOU SHOULD HELP ME BECAUSE WE ARE A COUPLE!"
Me:"Not any more, we not, byeee!"
Narcasist:"Ok, that didn't work out how I thought it would..."
@@flashstudiosguyThe thing about narcissists is that they don't just give up, though. Did you also notice the part where OP said the break up was "nasty" and "I'm safe for now"? That worries me. He's probably harassing/threatening/stalking her now, because she broke up with him. In his warped mind, he's probably thinking "How dare she keep secret money from me!" "How dare she not give it to me!" "How dare she break up with me!" I know a lot about narcissists, because I was married to one. They can turn very nasty.
@@kitarrah1422 I know, my brother dated one..
GIRLFRIENDS and BOYFRIENDS should not be sharing finances. Only people with a marraige contract should. Good on OP for the breakup.
I’m even a supporter of the idea that couples shouldn’t merge into a shared bank account. Or in the very least have both with the majority of money staying in their personal accounts.
It’s not just about those cases where people share their money within a joint account and the partner is then able to access the other person’s money
Most couples probably don’t screw their partner over by taking their savings using the joint account. But one thing I really remember about growing up with parents who shared the bank account was that every time my mother wanted to spend even a moderate amount of money on anything she’d have to talk to my father to get permission and vice versa.
I don’t know about anyone else but I truly hate the idea of having to ask permission from my (hypothetical) partner every time I want to spend more than £40 or so. Not to mention having to compromise on personal matters like when I eat or when bedtime is.
That’s why I’d never consider sharing a bank account with anyone. Not only does it protect my money from a bad partner but by maintaining separate accounts then my money is mine so if I want to buy something after calculating that I can afford it then I can just buy it without needing anyone’s permission.
@@mikoto7693 My parents have been married for over 24 years and still have two different bank accounts. Heck, they use two different banks! They've always agreed that many marriages end due to money issues, so they never felt the need to combine their finances.
Why should she blow off her own dad when, from the sound of it, this relationship probably wouldn't have lasted anyway?
If it was me, I'd say "sign the house over to me and I'll start making the payments." If I'm paying the mortgage, it's MY house!
I made that mistake, lost all my savings! I also wouldn't live with a man again until I had a ring, and I still have separate accounts and file taxes separately This messes me up on taxes and the stimulus payments but I don't care. He defaulted on a student loan so his tax return is just taken, so if filed jointly, I would get nothing. And I am not paying it! News flash: debt incurred before the marriage NOT my responsibility
Story 3: OP did the right thing to ditch the BF. Someone that financially irresponsible is toxic.
I know right. Some people don’t really like sharing the amount of money they have. There are some people who date others because they have a lot of money. Some of those people are like OPs ex-boyfriend while others are pretty chill about it or in between the two. Also, I'm not trying to say that everyone is like that. Only some people are like that.
I don't share how much money I have/get because my mother is toxic when it comes to money. So it's now a habit I keep. But because I'm genuinely okay with money, I would only consider dating those who have money or a wealth status just because they wouldn't have the need to ask me what I do with my money and how I spend it and how much I save.
Already that is a redflag but to have the nerve to send your family members to harass your partner?? What kind of petty manchild does that? "Mommy!! My bad gf doesn't wan't to give me moneeey, she is being meeeeaaaan". Pathetic.
@@LuvSn00py00 OPs story is exactly why I don’t talk about how much money I have. Especially when someone is complaining about their financial instability, they then feel entitled to your financial help.
He did apologize, but then the breakup was bad... not too good at dealing with setbacks, is he? Avoid!
Okay the last story: a lack of planning on the boyfriend's part does not constitute for emergency on OP's. He needs to learn to grow up, manage his own money, and not expect his gf to bail him out. Her money is her own, she earned it, and it's pretty clear she is better at managing it than he is. I'm glad she got herself out of a potentially toxic relationship.
Here's a quote that sums it up nicely: "a lack of preparation on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part"
@@noname-eo1he Yes, exactly. We both thought of the same r/EntitledPeople story, didn't we?
On the bright side... he showed his colors before she moved in with him or (God forbid) married him! Probably saved herself a world of problems.
No kidding! Apology or not, it wouldn't be the last stressful situation they faced if they stayed together, and he would likely react the same way again, or worse.
Also, he was JUST a boyfriend, not even a fiancé and they weren't living together either. There was ZERO assurance that OP would have ever gotten the money back if they broke up, or had any equity for bailing him out. The fact that he's showing he is THIS bad with money also shows what kind of a disaster any marriage would be, where he's forgetting to pay bills & still being financially irresponsible.
ALWAYS press charges on Karens and those who LIE about you.
Exactly, not very smart to let them get away with it
The Karen of the second story should have been prosecuted! Because of stupidities like that, good people had their life ruined. Entitlement should be considered a crime for it leads to that kind of behavior.
About the last story, DarkFluff you are soooo right!
Agreed, actions like that are why it's so hard for real victims to report it
Talking of Karen's ( even if we weren't ) I was having a coffee earlier today when a woman came over and started to chat to me. She's around mid 40 years old, 5 ft 8" tall, good looking, nicely built, blue jeans, white blouse, clutch bag, she has THAT haircut...THOSE sunglasses ( you KNOW where this is going don't you ! ). After a while she asks my name...I told her and so ( of course ) I asked for her name...she grinned at me and said. 'Well...it's funny you should ask that...you see I've had this 'look' for YEARS, then somebody told me I looked JUST like a certain 'Meme'...so I figured I'd go with it just for laughs'. I Look at her quizzically she grinned again...'My name IS Karen'!
I nearly crapped myself with laughter
She's sounds kinda cool. Probably a fun friend to have around
So, the " look " has been my grandmother's look since she was a child.
I grew up with grandmother that looks like a Karen, acts like a Karen, is named Karen...
24 years of dealing with her led me to be an asset in my customer service jobs until 1 Karen took things too far 2 weeks after cremating my brother by saying "no one dies from covid so i dont know why you're a sheep wearing a mask" she had no mask on and spittle was flying from her mouth...i sad red. No customer service voice, no "okay ma'am" just blatant ready to "deletus the witchus" also my grandmother was a major karen during that time trying to make the death of my brother all about HER 🙄 was no contact for 7 months until my great grandpa died now low contact with her. Cant even with Karen's anymore because they got worse from the pandemic.
I would’ve filed charges. How do we not know she’d try it again? If she feels she got away with it, she’d be more likely to repeat.
The teacher should have pressed charges. What happens to the next professional the mom tries that on? Mom needs a record of making false allegations so she doesn't try it again.
To the last OP, good on you to break up with that douche. If he can do this to you when you're not even living together yet, imagine what he'll do once you're moved in or married. Goodluck and all the best to you.
Yep. Red flags all over the place on that one.
I taught for 35 years. Yes, the occasional pressure to pass a failing student did happen. The last decade of my career there was a no nonsense football coach who was also a teacher.
If a student was skipping or being a pain in the tuchis Coach had them run laps. If kid skipped again the Coach called the Parent & told them why their son would not be playing in the next game. Coach also sent out an e-Mail requesting that the teachers tell him who was not doing well in class. He would do his best to get the students back on task or they would not play.
Sounds like a VERY good coach. A "life coach," even.
@@AuntLoopy123 I can note that the teams Coach has lead have done well on the playing field too
How could she claim that cooking isn't a skill her son will ever use?
Ikr. It's one of the essential skills for life. And she's a mother, she should have known better or maybe the dad was the one who had to cook which makes her a hypocrite.
She probably thinks that one day he’ll get a nice trophy wife who’ll do all the cooking. As if.🙄
"You're an Attorney? Then you know how serious a breach this is."
I shake my head so much at these stories that I need a neck massage or a chiropractor.
I shake mine so much I think I got airborne 😂
I do so many face palms I started wearing a hockey mask before I start listening. Broke my nose a week ago
My doctor told me to stop shaking my head if want neck to be intact
I start talking to them. So I think I need a therapist or psychologist one. Maybe even the little white padded room with matching jacket. LoL
#2: I'm sure the wacko mom WILL face some repercussions for her threats.
#3: Glad OP dumped the BF. If she bailed him out he'll just be back again looking for more $$$.
I'm guessing the mom is facing divorce
That mom won’t face any repercussions bc OP didn’t press charges for some reason. They only way she will ever get in trouble is if she try’s that again and the other person has good proof it isn’t true
In the second story, I would have definitely filed charges. Every fake accusation and threat of making a fake accusation makes it that much harder for the real ones to be taken seriously. Also, unless the OP would have given a non-sports player the same opportunity to make up all those missed assignments, it looks like the mom succeeded in her goal.
Seriously, I'm tired of these people being so fucking spineless. She should've failed the kid and charged the mom. That's how entitled people are born and stay the are, no consequences.
That entitled mother deserve to have charges pressed on her ass hard. Sexual charges are not a laughing matter. Her career could have been ruined right then and there all because of one lie. Plus everyone knows that just because you're a star player of a team doesnt mean you can slack off on courses that may or may not be important in the future. All team members are expected to keep up their grades if they want to play. you fail, you out, you pass you in. Although Im glad the kid didnt go along with his mother.
ALWAYS prefer charges.
You don't realize once the accusation is made, it has a life of its own. Gossips don't hear the facts. They just passed on the accusations (with embellishments.)
Yes! Patterns of behavior need to be established, and I understand how hard this is on a teacher because we want to be forgiving and allow people to grow. The issue is how huge that threat is. Mom needs to have that officially established as a behavior in case she does it again.
Simple, last OP. You don't reward your irresponsible, nasty, guilt-tripping boyfriend, who sent his family members to attack you. You reward the father who's sacrificed so much for you.
They're lucky OP doesn't work where I do because if I was her Boss, they'd get a "friendly" reminder that I don't pay OP to deal handouts to vultures and if they want any money for her to give them, they'd better get out and stay out, unless they had a sliver of interest in purchasing something and anyone who wants to "object" is welcome to try..
Bam! This in a nutshell. My Dad is an amazing man, he worked super hard at a demanding job to provide for us (Mum had physical disabilities but took work when she could), and I could not imagine the audacity of anyone thinking they had the right to get mad at me for giving him a holiday like OP did for her Dad.
My Mum has sadly passed on, and while Dad is still pretty healthy, he doesn't want to go into a retirement home or anything after he sells their place. (He'd go stark raving mad there lol). So he's going to move into the spacious granny flat on my property, and I couldn't be more honoured and happier to be able to help him out and be there as his daughter and friend.
If I had a boyfriend who suddenly felt the flat would be perfect/better for his Aunt so-and-so, and tried to push that, the relationship would be over so fast his head would spin.
Glad OP showed the same!
Im glad OP got out of that relationship. Im actually disgusted that this guy expects her to pay for his failure at managing his OWN money that he makes at his OWN job with his arms and legs. And the mom and sister are just as equally disgusting, harassing her like that at her job. That is a terrible duo right there, mother and daughter teaming up against someone who did no wrong but wrong in their eyes. In my opinion, the bf deserves to be kicked out; cant managing money, taking ur anger out on ur gf when he's in the wrong, having ur own mother and sister gang up on her at work, and getting all livid about the break up when it was clearly your fault from start the finish. Fix yourself and fix your family dude, nobody wants to be with you if they gotta deal with that crap.
Story 2, the kid must be really embarrassed for his mother's action.
I am shaking my head she said no. That shit could have cost the O.P her job. I knew teachers put into a similar situation and lost everything. She should have pressed charges.
@@robertbode2716 I agree she should have.
@Xirevius op did say to him to get some work done, so she probably would have been happy with a number of assignments done anyway, not all 27.
@Xirevius Don't pat her on the back too much, even though we didn't hear it, I'm sure someone, maybe Dad, maybe the Principal, maybe even CPS and the Police warned her what consequences befall those who file false accusations against others.
@Xirevius so if this backfired and the teacher was fired would it still be ok in your book?
She doesn't even live with him. She had no responsibility for his bills and if he has money issues now, what is to stop him from taking advantage of her success in the future?
Call me old fashioned, but man is supposed to be bread winner of family. What can be expected from a man who can't even provide for himself sufficiently? Whatta loser. OP is right to dump that piece of shit.
@@gorilladisco9108 In my house I am the bread winner, but I agree that if you cannot be self sufficient first, whether it be mentally or financially, you should not be going into a commitment you clearly are not ready or equipped to handle.
@@LuringDarkness7 This. I don’t mind if my man is not the bread winner, as long as he could be/knows how to be self-sufficient and we are choosing a different set up that suits us better. But it’s hard to respect a guy as a partner if he still needs a mother to organise his life, or worse, a scapegoat for his mistakes.
@@LuringDarkness7 As I said, I'm old fashioned. A man is worthless if he can't be self sufficient, let alone a bread winner.
Story 2: press charges or they will never learn.
Story 3: be fearful of abusers, they often will kill. Protect yourself.
Yes, that guy was clearly a threat to her whether physically, mentally and/or financially. Huge red flags!
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Or option D: all three.
Story three..... EX-BF thought he had a walking talking ATM. Glad she dropped this greedy beggar.
Sounds like the exact trap that is best left avoided. He knew exactly why she had that savings. He didn't care. Only one selfish person in that story. And it's not the girl taking her father on a trip to thank him for everything he's done
They've barely been together a year. And the first couple months isn't necessarily the time that you divulge all financial information. And getting to financially involved too soon causes a lot of people's downfall
@@reneeg9406 this just showed OP what kind of person her ex is. OP didn’t take him back and when he realized that apologizing didn’t work, he lost his crap even more. I wonder if he’s still harassing her or being a passive aggressive psycho.
Karen: And just so you know, my husband is a high powered hacker for the government. These emails will be gone in minutes... Blah blah blah.
Me: Good luck hacking paper. Printed x3, sent to principal, sent to HR, and one for my records.
That's pretty easy to "hack", if the goal is deletion. Usually the weapon of choice will be a match 😉
If that dude loved that blue folder so much he should marry it. 😁
"You understand me, blue folder." *makes out with the folder*
Sounds like something a 9 year old would say and I like it
Pastor: With the power invested in me, you may now kiss the blue folder.📂
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@@burntorangeboy I have a pretty juvenile sense of humor, lol
The second story makes me laugh, especially because I imagine the mom talking in the middle of the road in a public phone with a robe covering her head and using big sunglasses and looking all arround if the police shows up.
Yeah. And the kid did good in ratting his mom out.
Sure he wasn't exactly clear since he still didn't do the work, but at least it desn't sound like he's crazy entitled. More like a typical jock who wants to pass to play a sport.
Were I that teacher, I'd likely have said that I wouldn't press charges...now...but if even a =hint= of this got out I =would= be pressing charges and filing suit, and that would include the school and district if an investigation showed that it were leaked from there.
It was said earlier in the story that it was a public email that is also archived so there is no way to actually sue the school or district for letting the email leak but the mother most definitely should have been arrested and brought up on charges
on the last story, if his mom and sister were so concerned about him losing his house, why didn't THEY offer to help him get out of debt?
Person who wants to give father a dream vacation: is her name on the mortgage? No? Not her responsibility. This is a huge red flag, she needs to leave immediately.
On the boyfriend and his mortgage payments, “red flag” doesn’t begin to describe the situation. That’s screaming sirens and alarms and flares.
Final Story: OP breaking up with the BF was the right call. It would have been VERY dumb to give it to him as an contracted loan, or "towards their future" without some kind of legally binding assurance in place as all it would take is a relationship hiccup and all that money would be gone with OP having nothing to show for it. OP saw the red flag rising & acted appropriately.
Are you the guy that used to play in goal for Barcelona?
Karen: My husband is a high powered professional hacker for the government
Google translate: My sperm donor saw 2 movies about hackers while at work in a mechanic shop
Did you actually translate that sentence or wut?
@@unluckypanda5448 you should Google for "humor" and "joke"
@@brag0001 i just didnt get the joke, why are you so angry :/
@@unluckypanda5448 no, they didn't. Its a joke. They're saying the Karen said that her husband is a high powered professional hacker for the goverment. But actually, the husband only watched 2 movies about hacking while working at his real job. The Karen lied and made her husband seem like that, soshe could do whateve she wanted and OP would be powerless. The joke is: Karen said one thing, but it actually meant another thing. Like when you put a word in another language into google translate, and you translate it to another language. I hope that helps.
@@unluckypanda5448 I was smug, not angry ...
The email story:
I feel like the kid's dad should file a divorce.
He probably has by now.
@@LunaP1 as he should
You think this crazy isn't the status quo?
Especially after calling him "from the road." What if the father came home late? Or, God forbid, he had a medical emergency and didn't come home at all? Who would look after the son? That woman just hit the road and hoped everything worked out at home. Smh
10:44: why was the kid suspended for two days, according to the story, he didn't do the work, but all the illegal stuff was done by the mother, so why is he being punished???????????
Probably because of the missing work maybe not necessarily because of what the mom did. But I don't know
Most likely alternative to parental harassment was expulsion
To reiterate to her that her behaviour was unacceptable and could result in her child being expelled from the school. And yes, whilst it is unfair to the child it is a valid reason for expulsion if the parent makes threats like that against teachers, especially if said parent is the primary contact for the child.
I choose to believe that it’s mostly because of the missing work.
After all, the school can very easily tell the parents at this point that the mother is not allowed to be the primary contact unless it’s literally not feasible for the father to be the contact.
YAY!! Way to go OP in story three!! You are one mighty smart young lady!!
Story 2. If her husband is such a good hacker then why doesn't she make him change the grade. Mr hacker hubby should be able to since he's such a good hacker lol
Burn!!!!!
Double burn!!
OP: "What should I do?"
DROP THAT DEAD WEIGHT.
In the last story Op should definitely take her dad to Disneyworld before her gets too old to enjoy it! And rent him a wheelchair so he doesn't get worn out too badly! Have fun!! 😜😻
#3. Glad you ditched him. You do NOT want to deal with his irrational, manipulative anger over & over & over... & over for the rest of your life because he's irresponsible with money. BTW, I doubt you want to risk being with someone that irresponsible with money, let alone childish anger issues.
Me: Watches an older Darkfluff video.
Darkfluff: Uploads
Me: "I'm gonna watch this now instead."
I really hope dad is still telling mam "No they are still looking for you don't come back yet" while having the best time in his married life....
That cooking teacher was much nicer than I I'd have pressed charges against the mom just to get a papertrail on the bs she tried. You never know when that'd come back to bite you.
Story 3: OP, you 2 are not married, so community property law doesn't work. A lack of preparation on his part doesn't constitute an emergency on yours. Get a TRO. Put his family on it as well. You don't need that kind of toxicity in your life.
Regarding 3rd Story, Take Dad on his ‘Trip of a Lifetime’! Dad is the one who raised her, fed her, educated her, and now he’s ‘getting on in years’... He should be OP’s first priority!
Selfish .. for taking her FATHER on a trip HE has always wanted?
The boyfriend can go pound sand.
How would he not need cooking, was she planning on being his mommy forever?
Probably, or else he'd never have to cook because his wife would do it for him.
Last story, get the hell away from that BF and his family! Now! Oh my lord, if they're like this now... it'll just get worse.
I carry a knife in my work bag all the time
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BUT NOT ONTO A *PLANE*
Innit?! Hell, I wouldn't carry my 2 inch slipjoint to an airport unless:
A) I'm not the one boarding;
B) The slipjoint isn't in the checked luggage.
Now this sumbitch shows up with a balisong acting like he's the Spy from TF2 just because he's an ambulance chaser? Hell to the naw!
A relationship with that boyfriend is a dangerous rabbit hole that will lead to a vicious cycle because even if she were to bail him out of debt does not mean he will stay out of debt, she has good foresight for seeing the dangers that he will bring.
You should put all of these on Spotify as a podcast, it gets hard to listen to them continuously on RUclips, especially when doing yard work
Ikr?
As a deaf person, that won't work for me. I'm happy with this. 🤟😊
@@patriciabronk1786 well at least we can always count on a new one you can read everyday here!
Get some headphones so you can listen while doing yard work.
@@larrymotuz6600 well, yes that would help, but what I meant was it’s hard for RUclips to keep playing when my phone is on in my pocket, and it keeps getting paused or different videos play
That story three just gives me flashbacks DX
My sis used to date a guy that was in debt, and even had debt collectors on his butt for unpaid phone bills. He even got a phone in my sisters name and told her never to touch it and racked up a bill of over $1000. So fast forward to them being broken up for a few years, she got a letter in the mail stating that she was in trouble with the phone company and to pay the bill before anything bad happened. So she kicked his ass into paying for it and told him to get bent.
Also, the same guy asked me at random, after not saying anything to me for almost a year, that he was wondering if I knew anyone who could spot him $200. I told him, if he finds someone, let me know cause I would love $200. He never messaged me back.
He asked if he could stay at our house for two, TWO MONTHS and he stayed for 8! He couldn't find a job, couldn't find an apartment, was low on money cause my dad was making him pay rent. My mom passed away while he was here cause once he came in the house, her health drastically dropped (She was a cancer patient) and he was the dirtiest, nastiest person to ever walk the earth. He was an absolute useless human being.
He still bugs us to this day, asking for rides, if we can help him out, and if he can come stay the day at our place. Every time, he gets a no because of the thousands of things he's done to us in the past. I hope this 36 year old man moves on with his life and actually grows up. Cause if he ever loses his place again, he burned his last bridge to stand on.
Sorry for the rant.
Get a restraining order, he's never going to listen and you all need to be safe and unharrassed
@@squirrel670 Not gonna say that hasn't crossed our minds. My sis is friends with him on facebook and the only reason she has stayed friends, is she's afraid if she cuts contact completely, that he'll do something stupid, like break into our house or hurt someone. A restraining order might be the best option there.
I seriously think he isn't gonna learn otherwise.
“You’re just the cooking teacher. He’ll never need what you’re teaching in his life.”
The Disney Trip story, OP don't give your boyfriend, I mean should be ex boyfriend a cent. Take your amazing father on his dream vacation, because that is such an amazing gift . Your awsome OP. OP NTA
@ 6:18 There was one time I had to take a flight. My room mate at the time wanted me to take some mole sauce to his ex. I said, okay but we'll have to make sure it is properly canned and sealed, and even then their is no guarantee they will allow it. After canning it, I put the sealed jar in my checked baggage. Air port security did make me open my bag and show it to them, but after seeing it was properly canned and sealed and I explained what it was, they allowed it to go through.
I don't understand why they suspended the student. What's he being punished like that for? He is already getting a failing grade for not doing the class work, and he did not do a single thing wrong aside from that.
In some districts you can be suspended for not doing work. It's as stupid as it sounds and works about as well as it sounds like it would.
I flew from Austin Texas to Concord New Hampshire on time and was told by TSA that the SOG (Think Leatherman) tool I wore on my belt could NOT go on the plane with me as it had a knife blade. In a backpack that I carried my laptop was a utility knife with break off blades that TSA DID let onto the plane.
A bit of FYI; what most people call a "Butterfly Knife" is actually a knife known as a Balisong.
My grandma was a home-ec teacher back in the day, and literally had the same "but Ma'm, the sports-ball game is happening and I won't be able to play if I fail!" ALL THE TIME. EVERY SPORT. However she had the coaches and principal putting heavy pressure on her to pass the kid regardless. Sometimes she did cave, sometimes she didn't. All it taught me was jocks are terrible.
As well as the school for putting sports BEFORE education
I hate that they don't seem to have cooking classes in school any more. Then again some people can be lazy and idiotic in the kitchen.
They still exist.
But i assume its lesser now because it is no longer a vital skill in some places, you can totally live your life with no issues never knowing how to cook
@@Disatiere Really?
Well, eating out and the instant stuff all the time isn’t exactly healthy. Besides, I’m personally ruined with home cooking, so I avoid any storebought ready stuff.
@@Novice9241 You do realize that both eating out and ordering can be done with healthy food, right?
@@Disatiere That’s news to me😊
Edit:Still something about the food you make yourself just makes it taste better.
@@Novice9241 Don't know if youtube ate my reply or just its not showign up for myself but:
Availability depends on your area obviously.
I'd rather defer to experts to make my food.
I'lll stick with game dev, general coding and Tesch support.
Last OP, break up with bf. He just wants to use you and he will continue that for the rest of the time you guys are together. That is amazingly selfish that he would press this after you explain what you're using the money for. His mother and his sister could help him pay for the mortgage if he's that stupid. Please take your dad to Disneyworld. Enjoy your trip! The last vacation I took with my parents (and my daughter) was Disney world and my dad died unexpectedly about 6 months later. I cherish memories of that last trip like you would not believe.
"Just a cooking teacher?" "Doesn't need to be taught that stuff"
If one doesn't know the basics of preparing meals, they'll be living on nothing but toast.
I took culinary in high school and she ran our classes like real kitchen. She was Mrs. Lady for about 20 minutes for the next year she was chef
Or McD.
True, but wouldn't that be a skill you get taught by your parents? I don't object learning somewhere else about something, but I think it's sad that apparently people feel that such basic things need to be picked up at school since family life no longer provides it ...
@@brag0001 so it should be off loaded onto parents because we can always assume that people
1 Have parents
2 Have good parents
This assumption has always been wrong and always will be wrong and is destructive.
But additionally on that note nowadays we do have delivery which makes cooking less of a vital skill
@@Disatiere Well, your response is a prime example of what I was trying to get at. "Off loaded into parents" is such a distorted perspective onto raising kids, I don't even know what to respond. I was merely shaking my head at societies feeling the need to even teach such basic tasks through schools because apparently so many families have become entirely dysfunctional. I didn't say that society shouldn't try to remedy that. With your view on responsibilities I can at least understand why you try to challenge the idea that a family who can't raise kids is considered dysfunctional by me. Because apparently raising kids is the responsibility of the school in your view ...
We can only agree to disagree here ...
Here's my take on story 3
Take it from a man who lost his mom recently. Take your dad on the trip he might be around much longer. I promised to take my mom to Hawaii because my dad didn't keep his promise to, but my mom suddenly passed away and now u have a haunting guilt that I was never able to keep that promise. Take your dad, forget about that bf.
Should have put charges on the mom tbh
Simple solution; break up because she is NOT his gf anymore. She doesn't need inlaws like them & his lack of money-managing is the biggest Red flag. SO glad she got out of that trainwreck.
The second story has been around for quite a long time now, so I wonder if the mother has been arrested yet.
As you where reading the last one I was just repeating over and over "get out, just get out, get out now!" SO glad they did get out in the end.
I would understand not needing Algebra, but cooking is a life skill. Most people do it at least five days a week.
Karen gets microwave meals or orders pizza.
I’ve been teaching college for over 25 years, and I have little patience for people who want to abuse the system without doing the work. I will work with my students as long as they want to work hard. It’s hard to fail my classes or even get less than a c-l those who do don’t do the work and/or don’t come to class. What bothers me is the ones who, at the end of the semester, ask what they can do to pass after doing nothing. Nope. I’m glad I don’t have to deal with parents thanks to federal law
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last story: The one question I have is how his family found out about the savings in the FIRST place?
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I love how people in security lines at airports say things like, "I have a plane to catch." Uh....duh? You don't come to an airport just for funsies.
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I’m so happy the girl in the last story broke up with that guy. This was one hell of a foreshadowing to what a more serious relationship w/ guy and his family would be like.
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I couldn't stop imagining that first story as a movie scene with Bill Murray playing "the entitled attorney" 😄
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Alice someone who took culinary arts in high School and during that time, had a pattern of not turning in a much work on time because of my severe ADHD, the only way to not do 24 assignments at all in a grading period is honestly to simply not try at, and culinary arts is the WORST subject to not try in, because #1, you will need to know how to cook YOUR ENTIRE LIFE, unlike basketball which can only support you that long if you're one of the 30 or so top tier players in the NBA, because after your knees give out at 40 or a major injury, you can't even play anymore,but you're still going to need eat. And #2, why would you not want to try in the first place? YOU CAN EAT YOUR HOMEWORK
As someone who at most knows how to use a microwave and can heat up some oven cheese every once in a year, cooking is nowadays in a lot of places no longer a vital skill.
Not to mention that if push comes to shove and i really had to cook myself i could just look it up online as ive done for instructions for the oven settings. Cooking is neat and all but id rather pay someone else to do it while i focus on development and tech stuff
Imagine calling your partner selfish for wanting to bring their hard working elderly father on always wanted vacation... Heartless.
I remember when my son was in high school...it was the coach who was trying to circumvent the rules...I stood with the teacher...my son was mad...but guess what...education is important..football/basketball...not so much! PS knowing how to cook is important.... as far as the last story...i am glad OP broke up with BF and his crazy family! He probably never learned how to manage money or be accountable...based on his mom and sisters...trying to guilt and manipulate OP...(well he did too) but geesh!
On the financially irresponsible boyfriend. When I first met my wife, then girlfriend, I was very VERY bad with money. Every dollar would burn a hole in my pocket the second I got it. My girlfriend, on the other hand, was extremely good with money. When I got into trouble paying bills I did ask my girlfriend for help. I got her to teach me basic bookkeeping and budgeting. Now, I've never been the best at anything like this, but I learned. I never asked my girlfriend to pay my bills because, well... I guess my pride was stronger than my want to spend money. 35+ years later and I'll never be as great with finances as my wife but at least she knows I'm never going to get us into financial troubles. The ex-boyfriend in the story REALLY needs a dose of pride in what he does and how he is.
Yo I just got my little Mr Fluffington plush today when I checked my mail and he is an adorable little dude. I was so happy to see it in the mail when I checked today.
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So... the EM in the second story thinks cooking is unnecessary? What in thunderation is the kid supposed to do when he's in his own place? For the record, I'm a guy and known how to cook for years. An Australian bush upbringing will teach you a thing or two.
We used to have Home Ec here, I don't know when it stopped (I did it in the 70's, I'm old). Likely got considered sexist because far more girls took the subject and it was an elective. Of course common sense would say make it compulsory like maths, science, English. My son learned from working at Hungry Jacks for years. Went on courses and stuff to learn all about food, cooking, storage all that. Now he's got his own house, he can look after himself food wise. Country kids still learning is great to hear.
@@tkps Yeah, I learned in the 70s too. Yes, I'm old too, heh heh 😀
I was just stunned when Karen claimed her son would never need anything learned from cooking class in his life. Like, cooking is literally an essential life skill, what the actual...
Story 3, OP just needs to say "your financial mistakes and mismanagement are not my responsibility" and break up with him. He has no right to demand your money, and going to mommy about it doesn't make him seem any less like a spoiled toddler.
Re: update, good on her for getting out of there relatively early. I can't imagine if all that had come out later in the relationship when she mightve been in much deeper with him.
The airline knife story reminds me of something my brother told me. Early in his law enforcement career, he was on guard at the local courthouse. This old guy came in with a sword cane. That is a big no no...but APPARENTLY this guy did this often. He had several sword canes. He often forgets to leave then at home. So he gets it taken away until he is leaving, at which time he gets the sword cane back. That just blew my mind
Last story thank God she dumped him and his family. Daddy deserved the vacation.👍🤗🕊🙏🏻❤️
Threatening to slander someone and jeopardize their career should be met with a very heavy handed response. Aint no games to be played at that point and they should be buried in shot so deep they'll not even attempt to think of doing something like that again.
Throwing out a threat of pedophilia against a teacher is a very serious threat that would absolutely destroy the teacher, even just hinting at it can cause a skew of legal problems. If the kid went through with it, and i was in OP'S shoes, I'd be out for blood as soon as I found out they tried any of that. Careers already shot to hell at that point so I'd make them pay for essentially never being able to work around children or teach because of their slander. Thats wouldn't be a small lawsuit in the slightest...
The butterfly knife story reminded me of something that happened to me once. They found a "switchblade" in a carry-on I had once. They wanted to detain me. I told them repeatedly that it wasn't a knife. No one listened. I almost missed a flight because they refused to open it and see it was just a comb.
I'm surprised the "attorney" actually tried to smuggle a knife onto a plane despite it being an illegal object. Shouldn't he know that already? I kinda suspects he's just an errand boy at a law firm
Nah, as entitled as he was acting, he was probably a partner in the firm. He thought being a partner in that firm would give him enough clout to make OP ignore the knife and wave him through.
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"You're just the cooking teacher. What you teach isn't important at all"
Me, college student, doesn't know how to cook: hold my ramen
But why the kid get suspended, was it for his mom's email, that i could understand but not for not doing his assignments, they could've had to these in the library in the school or something!
I’d love to hear more stories of TSA tbh. They got hard jobs and despite how people paint them to be I still respect them.
The third one is manipulation and abuse. It's not HER job to pay for YOUR mistakes
"the blue folder is my job don't touch it!" easily one of the top 10 most suspicious things to say to a security guard