Our Down's Syndrome Twins | Living Differently
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- Опубликовано: 1 мар 2017
- Matt & Jodi's twin girls Abigail and Isobel were diagnosed with Down's Syndrome at birth. The NHS will soon offer a prenatal test for women which offers 99% accuracy of detection.
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It makes me so frustrated that people actually judge and look down on women who decide to have an abortion because of possible handicaps. It's really not a question or mindset of "I don't want a handicapped child", but more a "I don't have the time, money or possibility to take my responsibility as a mother and take care of a mentally or physically challenged child".
If you feel like you can take care of a child with a handicap, great, that's awesome!
If you don't, than that's how it is. It's not something anyone can do about it, so why criticize and judge?
Not everyone have the resources to have and raise a disabled kid.
Maja Ritzman it's a lifetime burden that many don't see until the child reaches late adolescence
its hard because as a parent you want to spare them pain but you don't want to make that decision for them but before they are born they can't tell you what choice they would make if they lived to be a hundred and you asked them on their deathbed, you also don't know what kind of positive effects they could have on the world on other people, etc. some of the strongest people have suffered the most and learned that strength through adversity. regardless its a decision that no one should judge even if you have had to make it yourself. i think even terminal diseases can be worth it, but i would never judge someone who felt they couldn't do it. its none of my business anyway, and many of the people who say they would keep a differently abled child if actually put in that position might not. i don't think they really know what they would do. i believe with all my heart i would keep a differently abled child but i have never had to make that decision.
Maja Ritzman no that's not awesome
Maja Ritzman also, I'd like to see how these certain people felt when they were told they were about to have a handicapped child, im sure they'd be the first ones to terminate, how can you possibly imagine finding out your child was going to be handicapped? Knowing they would naturally have a much harder life than the average, will never be considered 'normal'. They would face more obstacles and come with much more responsibility. For those who claim it's 'wrong' or 'selfish' I'd like you to put yourself in that position, for real.
If you scared of that, why do you decide to have kids? Tell me please. What do these parents, who are "scared of a lifelong burden", if their kid is hit from a car? Throw the injured kid in the rubbish, because they don't like to have a lifetime burden?
They're so adorable
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My mum was offered an abortion with my sister who had Down's. My sister passed away at 5 but my mum still says she wouldn't have done anything differently.
my syndrome may be down but my hopes are still up
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they're beautiful, so happy they have such a loving family
The problem with this, for me at least, is that although the girls seem absolutely wonderful and clearly function really well within their environment, there are many children with Down's Syndrome who are unable to speak, go to school or live any sort of normal life to the extent that the twins are. The disparity between cases is massive and expectant mums don't know how badly their child will be affected, because of this fear I really don't feel its anyone's place to judge those who do choose to terminate the pregnancy.
Agreed and I'm mostly against abortions.
E.L. Zürcher to add often a diagnosis of Down’s Syndrome during pregnancy can also come with other issues including severe heart problems which are not easily overcome or may even prove fatal in utero.
You will never know who they will grow up to be if you abort them.
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Yes, and I hear they’re more likely to have leukemia. I can’t help but find negativity surrounding this. I feel sorry for parents who have kids with Down syndrome.
In Ireland youre not given the option to terminate in any situation. This video shows 2 very highly functioning girls with DS, however this is not always the case. My cousin has DS and autism, he is 18 and still cant even communicate properly never mind learn to write. He throws tantrums, he hits, he kicks, he smashes things. Although he is also the sweetest most caring little boy I know, he has stolen the life of his parents to care for him and he also has no real life of his own. He is a beautiful soul trapped in a ill functioning mind and its not a life I'd wish on any child.
Perhaps euthanasia would be the best way to deal with situations like that. Most of the people with DS who I've met have seemed quite happy and able to function without much support, but I know this is not always the case. Give them all a chance and if after a while it becomes clear they will never be able to live happy, reasonably normal lives, just put them down.
are you really saying someone who you don't know that her brother should be killed?? Rude!
MrOhWhatTheHeck are you serious just because some one has ds or autism doesn't mean u put them down first of all their not dogs and second of all just cuz their not perfect doesn't mean "put them down" !!! they deserve to live to !
chloe kenny this is beautifully written and earnestly true. I've never seen anyone describe the condition so well. if I had the option to abort a child, I would take it. I could not lube knowing I am putting my child through so much frustration and pain. thank you
Bayleigh VC not true you would put a cig in they much pain
The best part of the video is how clearly and wonderfully their brother explains his sisters’ disability. Clearly his parents have talked to him and explained things.
It's good to be educated on this kind of topic.
I agree they should show this in schools
galaxy morkchris this is way more important than the Pythagorean Theorum
My uncle had Down Syndrome. I agree with this family, wouldn't have changed him for the world.
@@chad1682 shut up..and stop saying liberal dumb ass🙄
Wonderful parents.
fuzzylumpkin49 they are not together anymore, sadly
Such a sweet brother.. nobody really appreciates him ❤️
These docs DO ignore the people who aren't the subject, and they shouldn't. I wanted to know more about him too
I went to school with twins who had downsyndrome. One of them also had austism so she couldnt talk. This year they left elementary school into grade 9 and I got emotional!
They are so pretty I am glad you kept your babies they are a gift from God and a blessing!
My brother has downs and he is the nicest person I know! Although he finds it hard to talk and has to go to a special school, me and my twin brother and my parents love him!
And I understand that mothers may want to abort their baby, I am happy that they get that choice, but there are so many positives about having a Down's syndrome brother in my opinion.
What positives? How is it better than having a normal sibling?
I have autism some my friends are more severe I have some friends with DS some are high functioning I know some who are very
They can't dress them self or use the toilet some are still in dipper need 24/7 care .you should never judge what a parent choices to do
I know I could have had a child like me .but everyone has a choice
Lovely family. What an amazing brother Abigail and Isobel have. I have a special place in my heart for people with Downs. There is such a capacity for love and sincerity from these sweet souls. To think that anyone would terminate a pregnancy because of their child may have downs syndrome is terribly selfish.
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I know this video is trying to show how awesome life can be despite down syndrome, and the girls and their family truly do look happy. Choosing to keep their babies was the right choice for their family at that time. However I think that not every family is capable, financially or emotionally to take care of a child with disabilities and if they believe the choice to terminate a pregnancy is the correct one, we shouldn't judge them for that. A child with any sort of disability requires extra of everything.. time, money, resources. Not everyone has the resources or the ability to alter their entire life to care for a disabled child, some families do. I do think it's very brave to choose not to terminate if the baby has a disability, you could potentially have to give up so many things in your life and having a child with a disability ages you so much faster. It's hard work and its stressful. I don't think its selfish to terminate a wanted pregnancy if the fetus has a profound disability. I'll probably get a lock of flack for sticking up for people who want to terminate their pregnancies, but I'm just trying to see it from the other side. Put yourselves in the pregnant mother's shoes and try to feel what she would feel. It can't be easy regardless of what they choose. Having a baby already changes your life in every way, and I don't think a woman or a family should have to be forced to raise a child with a disability if they are not willing or able to do so in a way that is fair to both the child and the parents.
Must be wonderful to be part of such a loving family, the girls will reach every milestone with the love and support from their parents and brother 💕
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these parents are amazing and so poised not worried one bit about their little girls and their brother will be such a big help to them as well.
They are beautiful !! xx
As two of my childhood friends had this condition I'm aware that people with DS can be nice, kind, happy, loving, and as capable as people without it, but I also know that It is not always the case. And if they are nice, kind, happy, loving, and capable is not because of DS it is because they are persons with different personalities and characteristics, so I don't see that as a pro. I can't see how the fact of having DS, that can cause so many health and development problems can be beneficial for anyone.Therefore, I find that choosing to abort when being sure that your future child will have DS is totally valid, if not common sense. I'm sorry for my English and if I might offend anyone, I just were so frustrated that I wanted to express my opinion.
Absolutely beautiful and perfect! The dr didn’t need to say sorry!! These girls are amazing and beautiful xx
they are so precious
The doctor most likely said sorry because most parents are expecting babies with out issues. He may have thought you would be upset. I think you have adorable children and he would agree.
Beautiful, loving family. We need more parents like both of you!
What an absolute privilege to watch this amazing family.
I hope that this short documentary wins a recognition award.
He just express his empathy by saying "sorry". He didn't mean any harm at all.
my little SD girl passed away at the age of 5 months..few days before her heart surgery. she had 3 holes in the heart...glad to see you girls grew so well..
I'm sorry for your loss :(
They're so beautiful
They are perfect just the way they are. They are amazing!!!
At the end of the day, every one should have a choice; it's wonderful to see this beautiful family but not everyone has a similar situation. And very Down child is different.
It's so inspiring to see them live life as if they were any other child. I have a little cousin who has Down's Syndrome and when he was born he had to have heart surgery and he also had eye surgery and he now wears glasses due to him not being able to see well. But he still fights and is such an angel. So I hope these girls will fight as well and live life to the fullest :)
God bless❤️
Their brother is so sweet and understanding
I am happy for this couple. But, I think it's appropriate, as well, to document the adult Down's Syndrome and the challenges they face. A documentary needs to look at the whole picture. If it doesn't, it's just a story, a movie, for fun.
Since their children haven't grown up yet do you want them to wait 20 years to make the documentary?
Yeah. The documentaries like this never focus on teenage years or severely impaired children. It's a very romanticised view I suppose to counteract the extreme prejudice of people towards the condition. But I think it's leaving out a lot of facts.
Exactly. The lady says that she cannot forgive the doctor saying they were sorry - but I understand why he might have said it. While these twins are completely sweet and adorable, people with Down syndrome are much more prone to certain types of cancer, have a mild degree of intellectual disability and many other health conditions. That is sad!
This is also a very good case I feel. We have a close family friend with a little girl who has Down’s and she didn’t walk until she was almost 5. She still can barely talk. I 100% support not terminating the pregnancy and raising the children you were given, but his really doesn’t show the cons to the syndrome and that not all children with this disability have stories this positive.
they forget to mention what happens in the long run when they can't live on their own and the parents will have to literally look out for them the rest of their lives.
I work in a charity providing care and education for people with learning difficulties and physical disabilities. We have several people with downs there and they're abilities all differ greatly. One can't talk very much, but can communicate, another is the life and soul of any group he is in and works really hard for his and others rights and advocacy and one girl I work with in particular can speak amazingly and I work with her 1:1 in college completing a maths/English/life skills course. Downs can be a life worth living over no life at all, but ultimately I still believe it's up to the mother/parents to decide if they can cope emotionally/physically and financially to name a few.
the comments: while im glad these girls are living a good life, not all people with Down Syndrome are able to have a high functioning life like this
some random person: well EXCUUSE ME, MY ONE (1) COUSIN HAS DOWN SYNDROME AND SHE IS HIGHLY FUNCTIONAL, THEREFORE EVERY PERSON WITH DOWN SYNDROME *MUST* BE LIKE HER!!!
I cannot help but well up with this. I work with individuals with DS and I connected to much to this film. Them girls are amazing and already they have come so far! Inspiring parents. Shared x
these twins are amazing!
My reasoning for the doctor to apologize, simply for the increased risk they may have and that's a heart break no parent wants to bare
Pro choice is not having to quantify your decision to anyone but the doctor. If a woman decides she wants an abortion for any reason that is her choice regardless of what anyone else thinks or says
Grinnz marius exactly. they making it sound like it's bad that people use their right to abort because maybe in the future they will.be OK with raising a child with birth defects
Why is it her choice? Abortion isn't just a medical procedure because the life of another human being is at stake, and that has to be taken into account. During the later stages of pregnancy an unborn child can be more highly developed than one who has already been born prematurely. The baby in the womb is no less sentient and no less able to suffer than one in an incubator, so why should it have fewer rights just because it hasn't yet passed through its mother's vagina?
Indeed, but this to raise awareness to the fact that most females would choose to abort a foetus with down syndrome before getting any professional advice. I fully believe in the right to choose when and when not to have a child.
Because as long as it's in the mother's body, it's a part of her
That's false from a scientific perspective. The baby is connected to its mother by an umbilical cord, but it's a separate person with different DNA, a separate bloodstream and a separate brain. Please learn more about this issue before you form any opinions!
How lucky are these two parents, and brother. They are dually blessed.
cher, a lot of other children who suffer from downsyndrome have a much more server form of the condition. Just because these girls
I used to be a kindergarten teacher, and I've had allot of down-syndrome kids during my years in my class. All of them were the sweetest children ever. However, some of them were very high-functioning, (I've had one that besides the typical down-syndrome 'look', had nothing wrong with him except for a heart disease, he was such an intelligent child, he was top of the class,) while I had one really agressive child that was constantly tormenting the other kids an her little sisters (-she also couldn't communicate on any level), and another one that also couldn't speak, was severely autistic, and even though he was very sweet, it was as if he was in his own world -he was non-functioning at all, he couldn't even eat by himself (the autism didn't really do him a favor either). It really depends on the individual. Of course you never know how your kids will turn out, and while there are allot of success stories, I sometimes wonder about those non-functioning kids that live like a plant.
They are so adorable
I love these girls they are the sweetest and cutest I really wanna have a down syndrome child when I'm older 💜
You may be able to adopt. There are often times children with downs that are placed for adoption over seas. It would be a wonderful calling if you truly have the capacity, love and patience.
There so beautiful 😍 God bless them both ♥️♥️
Their family is so beautiful
can i just say they are the cutest little kids i've ever seen😂😻
What a gorgeous family!
the title is literally so wrong 🙄 "living differently", they're not living differently, they're normal human beings just with different necessities, they're learning like us, they're playing outside, they're eating like us so how should they live differently? it's actually an insult for them, don't say that disabled people are different, they're normal, just like us♡
No, they are not normal. The word MEANS something. They are just fine, but they are not bell-curve "normal."
Those little girls are so happy, nothing could bring them "Down"
They're just adorable little kids
Its cute that the bro bcame like a more matured young one😘
they are so adorable
those babies are adorable.
You have a beautiful family!! Blessings!
Such beautiful girls! Such a great big brother! And such wonderful, loving parents!
they are adorable
Aww they’re so giggly it’s so sweet💗
They seem like they have such adorable personalities. So unfortunate the way that they look, because they seem like they are so sweet..... poor babies.
I love their home.. and I like their backyard (the high level play area is not practical, the girls will need constant supervision up there, but it is cool)
Oh my gosh they are soooo cute!
Their brother is awesome
Finn is such a good brother. What a beautiful family. 💋
Abigail and Isobel are two sweet beautiful girls and I feel like if someone has a child/children who has Down syndrome are the luckiest people in the world. Children with Down syndrome are happy and they always bring joy to the world. Don’t judge them there human to. :)
the ultrasound and tests said one of my twins were down's syndrome and suggested that I abort that twin...neither had down's...neither had trisomy of any form..
Salute to dad and mum 👍
They’re so precious ❤️
they're so adorable omg
My goodness you have a lovely family. The girls are so sweet and adorable and Finn a Super Hero to them both. God bless your family, it was a joy to watch. Thank you
my baby cuz is just over 1 he has downsyndrome hes just learnt to crawl hes so sweet i also help a little boy with downsyndrome in year 7 there all wonderfull wouldnt replace them
They're adorable
Parents are perfect and also the girls older brother is a little superstar.
I love them. They are so special and happy.
I hope these kids grow up to be happy adults.
They are so adorable my heart can't take it
most families just want their kids to grow up to be happy, everything else is just extra. these little girls are not just happy they create happiness wherever they will go.. their parents and brother know that best!
How can you dislike this video wtf is wrong with people, Truly amazing twins... I wish you a good life in 2019 and onwards.... Happy New Year :) xx
They are soo cuuuttteee!!
Can i just say that they are both GORGEOUS
The reason the doctor apologised before breaking the news was because it's far from the ideal scenario and anyone who says it is isn't being truthful. I'm glad she's happy with her family circumstances but just because she is doesn't mean anyone else would be or should be. She doesn't speak for everyone in this same scenario.
hi.your little princesses are so adorable..my daughter is 6 n is also downs syndrome.she means the world to me..shes my little angel
They’re so adorable
They are absolutely gorgeous ❤️ If only that doctor could see how wonderful they are now.
They are so cute and adorable 🤗❤️
That's too much cuteness 😍
They’re so beautiful ❤️
These girls are absolutely adorable! ^^
They're so pretty
They’re Awesome ❤️🥰🦋
wow what a beautiful family❤
i have a little sister with downs syndrome and she is the best thing ever i love here so much.
Them girls are gorgeous , happy little girls , they look like a bundle of joys, the parents should b proud of the blessings the lord has gave them
They are beautiful girls. Bless them
Their hair is so lush!!!
Two lovely girls
They are the most cuties girls i have ever seen x awww so precious.
double the joy. they are beautiful
nice parents with beautiful children😍