---** Not Another Crap Kit: smartartbox.com/pages/nerdebox Also, this excludes all my online artsy crafty friends who are just amazing people and we've gotten to know each other really well. In this video, we discuss the world of RUclipsrs being guarded and very hard to understand sometimes. RUclipsrs don't make good friends because of people trying to use the "clout". Bigger RUclipsrs will generally be more wary of being friends with smaller creators because people typically want to use them. Before I understood this dynamic, I was also part of the problem because I used to contact bigger channels just to "collab" rather than get to know these creators as people. I've changed because I realized this was a problem and came across as extremely disingenuous.
Man I really wish I'd be able to afford that kit it looks absolutely amazing plus I would love nothing better than to support a fellow artist but medical bills just got a little too expensive this month and it looks like it's going to be that way for next month as well and I'm pretty sure you'll be sold out by then but I do wish you and your family all the best and crossing my fingers I hit the lottery between now and before you sell out LOL
Yes I was able to tell the genuine friendship between you and other youtubers it was shown especially in the Rewind 2020 Artists Edition you set up 👍🏻 makes me happy 😜
@@stephanietoler5556 Hey there from a total stranger who understands. I've got 2 confirmed autoimmune diseases & start Rituximab infusions on Wed actually so I get it, medical expenses make it so buying anything that isn't an absolute necessity doesn't happen often & it usually has to be pretty inexpensive when you actually can. More than anything I hope you're doing OK mentally & your physical medical struggles are on the mend. Prayers from, again, a total stranger. Take care
@@loveyourselfplease6842 let me start off by saying it caught me completely off-guard to hear such a heartwarming genuine loving inspiring message from as you say a complete stranger but on the other hand it is definitely refreshing to know that someone is able to show support and understanding to that other person's situation and I thank you.
You two are so cute. I love seeing you both in these videos. Thanks Pat for being in her videos. I'm so sorry you had to go through so many bad experiences I understand how you feel because I am similar except being friends with my siblings it's my kids I look forward to seeing and spending time with my kids the most and much like you my husband is possible my best friend so I understand a little better then some, maybe not as much as others but I do understand I just wish I had the amount of confidence you have to do more with my channel LoL I do have 14 subscribers though so that's something I'm just waiting for the time I can get a new camera and for my older kids to have more time to make videos with me cuz THEY are my confidence in a manner of speaking because I don't feel comfortable doing videos without at least one of them I wish I still had a sister like Sica but my "Sica" was my oldest sister who's name was Cassy however she passed from cancer in 2013 but she's the one who encouraged me to do so much and even encouraged me to do RUclips also.... Anyway enough rambling I love you guys and thank you for making these videos and maybe the world will be better some day and there won't be people using other people for any reason even "Klout" keep up the great work
I love how how we met. I also appreciate the fact you let me have my “omg Jackie” moment. I hear everything you are saying and agree. I’ve seen the exact same thing… especially when being linked with Vidcon. But it’s very easy to tell who is interested in who you are.. the red flags are real and should never be ignored.
The idea of someone showing a stranger around someone else's house is sooooo cringe. I have a huge super close family & we rotate family member's homes for holidays & family weekends & such. I still can't go through MY family member's bedroom to use their bathroom without asking if it's ok & only if there are no other bathrooms available. I'm always told I don't need to ask but I was raised to respect my parent's bedroom & bathroom as their private space so it's just something I need to do to show that I'm respectful of their home.
Oh my gosh, the horrified face I made when that came up! I was raised the same way of respecting people's private spaces. The idea of someone just... going into my workspace and touching things made my skin crawl. ~Raven
Not just red flags but like this person commited so many social faux pases. If a person with social difficulties like me can clock those, it's time for you to re-evaluate your values and etiquette. Person that enters my sanctum after I said don't.
Honestly Jackie, I'd be your friend even if you weren’t a RUclipsr. I enjoy your personality and humor and you remind me very much of a dear friend of mine. I think you're just a truly genuine person- meaning that you aren't fake. You have a caring and loving aura (sorry, couldn't think of a better word) about you. And we have a lot in common. Keep up the amazing work. And hi Pat!!
I feel the same, to where she feels like a adopted sister to me, like she would fit into my family very well. Would love to meet her in person and take her to meet her new family.
I'm never going to see you in public, I'm literally an ocean away haha But honestly, Jackie, you are someone who I'd want to be friends with just because we have so many similar interests. Anime and manga and crafting... Granted, I really love sewing and crochet xD You are the main reason I got into resin crafts. You are the main reason I love to try out new crafts whenever I can. Also we have the same sense of humor and it makes me very happy. So even though you don't know me and we'll probably never meet, I'm really grateful that you are part of my life. You always make me cheer up! So, thank you
Jackie, I’m 64 and my Granddaughter Belle, is 11. You reach both of us and that’s saying quite a lot! We realized, during a resin crafting session, that we both watch your channels. Belle was surprised and I was surprised but it’s wonderful! Thank you for allowing us to share your “RUclips” friendship!
Aww Pat, so supportive! ❤️ He can tuck you in and make you into a salt-e burrito lol Hearing the accent just makes me want you guys to do an episode en français even more!!
Yes! I don't know French but I really enjoy hearing people talk in their native language. I really appreciate all the unique languages around the world. An episode in French would be fun! Subtitles would be appreciated so I can follow along but 🤷♀️
If Jackie wasn't married to Pat, my comment would be JACKIE, MARRY THAT MAN! #relationshipgoals I hope some day I can have someone that respects me and treats me with as much dignity as Pat does towards Jackie. I especially appreciate when Jackie is self-deprecating and he gently reminds her that she's being too hard on herself. 😍 UwU
Agreed, 100%! I've looked into moving elsewhere but unfortunately I don't have the career skills (on paper) that make me a desirable citizen. If only all my actual skills translated to paper so I had options.
I am super impressed at your ability to get over your introvert-ness to make videos. My young daughter now wants to become a RUclipsr because of you. While I am not a RUclipsr, I am a crafter/artist. So I have never had people use me for who I am, but rather what I can do, as I am often too generous with my time or skills for friends. I find creative-types are often this way, and I find that we tend to get hurt if our guard is down because our art is a window to ourselves that other people don’t have out there all the time. As with your experience, I find a sure sign that the “friend” is more of a “user” is their reaction to when you say “no”, or how quickly or often they ask for “favors” or expect free work. And if you don’t give away your time/work often, some will view you as a “snob”. Btw, if a “friend” invited their friends to my house to show off my work area and start touching things, they would be thrown out the door so fast they would think they teleported.
@@loveyourselfplease6842 thank you 🥰. I’m not as strong as I’d like to be. It’s a work in progress. But I’m trying to teach my daughter (also artsy) how not to get taken advantage of or hurt as often as I was. Edit… I have a son too… we’ll find out if he’s artsy too, as soon as he’s old enough not to try to eat my paints, lol (he’s still a very little guy) 😄
@@ciomaria6137 I have a very artistic little boy who is so gentile, he's very smart already skipped a grade but like his mom he's had a hard time speaking up when being bullied in the past. I've reached an age that I simply do not care & will speak my mind if you disrespect me or my child but I was bullied very badly mainly because I just wanted people to like me so I let them walk all over me, nobody tought me I had other options. I'm teaching my boy that being a different version of himself simply to please others is something he never has to do & to never let anyone take advantage of him simply because he's nice & he's made amazing strides. I think you teaching your daughter how to spot the signs at an early age is absolutely fantastic. People often have a perpetual image of their child as "too young to understand" so they put off teaching them about life. I think you sound amazing.
I don't have friends either. I can't imagine trying to have genuine friends with people clout-chasing and trying to be better than everyone else. I can be way too trusting. Very glad Jackie has siblings in her life she can have those close relationships with. I'm an only child but thankfully I have my SO. ❤️
It really stinks that the RUclips community leverage each other so much. I work as an x-ray tech in a hospital. I feel very supported by my work family. I would hate to feel used by them. I hope you become comfortable enough to find a really good friend. You deserve it. You are an interesting person, and you deserve a good friend who truly cares about you.
The whole time I was like "WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE HURTING OUR MOMMA SALT!?!?!?" lol I get you don't want to say names, but I don't want to be watching and supporting horrible people. Btw, I am also taking friend applications, so... Momma Salt just throwing that out there.... ❤ In all seriousness there are good and genuine people in the world. Keep your head up. WE LOVE YOU!!!!!
I can relate to your comment about “giving the shirt off your back”. As a Mennonite I was raised to always help others, no matter the circumstance. I’ve been taken advantage of in so many friendships that I lost count. However, I refuse let that bring me down… I’ll continue helping people whatever way I can, but the ones who take advantage of me lose any help from me in the future.
I found it interesting that they said it comes across as "desperate" in North America to have that attitude. I've never thought that ever; it was the first I've heard it. I get how you could see that, but being so giving of yourself just means you're caring, imo. I can also see how people can (and do) take advantage of that, however. It's a pity they weren't raised better than that, but I guess the world is full of all kinds.
A difficult thing I have learned is Facebook has it right, in life you have *close friends, *friends, *acquaintances, and *mutual friends. Learning the difference and treating people accordingly has made me a much happier person.
Oh, how I needed this Conversation today. Especially the last part. You said, "It's the IDEA of that friend that lingers in your heart." So true, Jackie. So heartbreakingly true. Thank you for sharing your heart and soul with us today... and thank you, Pat, for being a part of this community and sharing yourself with us.
Meanwhile in Europe *has eggs outside the fridge all time* I will store them at a darker cooler corner of my pantry… but it still is room temp roughly.
I don’t normally comment on videos as I’m very shy but felt this was a subject I struggle with a lot, I have a tiny tiny tiny RUclips Channel and some lovely subscribers that are really sweet and kind, but I really struggle with self confidence. I don’t show my face on camera as I’m way too shy and scared yet and have to really prepare myself before doing a video as I get very nervous but I am the same on and off camera as I am just me I can’t pretend to be who I’m not. In real life I like to help people the same as in my channel and sometimes that means I get used as I can’t say no ☹️, it’s very difficult as some people take advantage of that kind nature. I think your very brave as I couldn’t possibly go to these conventions as meeting people scares me and being in a room full of people terrifies me especially as I would think they would all look down on me and think I’m not good enough, even when I’m a bigger little channel I’d feel the same. I only have a few friends as I don’t trust many people as I’ve had bad experience’s in the past and keep myself to myself it’s stops me getting hurt I guess. Anyway just thought I’d add that, thanx for the video. Me and my little Annie watch all your videos on both channels and have been subscribed for years, we watch all your videos together it’s very nice to be able to sit together and have a giggle over things 😍🤗 xxx
We love pat! I love how happy and positive energy he gives off, you guys seem so perfect for each other. Hes so supportive and adorable "im popular" of course you are,, you seem so positive and caring for Jackie 🥺
What a confusing and unexpected thing to navigate constantly. I have to say, I’ve LOVED everyone I’ve met and had contact with so far in the art community- like you’ve said, they seem to be incredibly approachable and relatable, and not competitive at all. I’ve been genuinely excited at the potential to make real friends with similar interests, even if they aren’t people I’ll be able to meet up with in real life. But all this competition and fake stuff… uughhh. No wonder it’s hard. Huge respect for still giving people a chance and being the lovely person you are, despite having been taken advantage of in the past.
Oh same. I mean I'm up and working but basic automatic functions. The real thinking functions come after 10. Same with breakfast, as my stomach can't handle food earlier either. Water or juice yes. Anything else no. I used to be a nocturnal person but my career type demands day work as its mostly office related. The worst are the 8am meetings
@@nassj6593 I am definitely a morning person, but I cannot be rushed! My 3 siblings and I all hated having to eat breakfast before school, to my mum’s great despair!
@@nassj6593 same, for a while i was able have to have juice or herbal tea before 10.Sadly i haven't had time lately, because i also have a job where it requires working in the mornings. It takes a lot of effort just to get up that early so there hasn't been much room for breakfast.
Talking about your stuff, or the “mess”, it’s not a mess, it’s just controlled chaos. Most spaces like that, it looks messy to outside people, but to the other person, they know where everything is
My father was totally like that (our garage looked like a bomb went off in it, and was never actually used as a garage (for cars), but his workspace. I'm a lot like that too. XD
It's normal to take a while to tame or open up to a new person. At least the person who was direct about their objectives. Honesty like this got it's usefulness. Still I love that you have vetted if it was a thing that could benefit us the viewer.
I can absolutely relate to what you are saying. My sister and my husband are my best friends. I think that we can find many people to be friendly with, but to me they are not "friends". The term friend holds a lot of meaning for me. A true friend is almost impossible to find. As long as you feel your husband and your siblings fulfill your "friendship" needs then you don't need more friends, you have all the support and love you need and deserve
To comment on eggs (I always comment on food topics, lol)… In Costa Rica (so tropical weather) the eggs are left out as well and I was horrified at the thought of potential food poisoning when I first realized it, until the rinsing thing was explained to me. In New York, the eggs are refrigerated at the store and I pop them in the fridge the second I get home from the store. When cooking eggs, you can have them out for different amounts of time, and I find it is based on cooking temperature. If I am making scrambled eggs or slightly undercooked eggs like soft boiled or over medium, I keep them on the counter for as short a time as possible. However, when I bake, I find room temperature eggs work best, so I have often left them out from 30-60 minutes to get them to room temp before incorporating into my recipe and baking. I am not as concerned because of the higher cooking temperature for the extended period of time.
Lol, I commented on the eggs too 🤣 a few yrs back I changed to a free range poultry, line or spear caught only fish & pretty much no red meat unless it's cruelty free. Obviously there's quite a price difference but I found eggs were pretty affordable so started digging to find a place to buy them & all these cool egg facts came with my search. I think everyone should eat what they like, what they can afford & what gets them the nutrients they need & new & interesting food facts is so much fun to me. Thank you for the interesting stuff you left in your comment.
Eggs should definitely be at room temperature for baking! Not sure of the science behind it, but possibly having all your ingredients at the same temp means the cake cooks more evenly, is my theory!
We do refrigerate our eggs, but my mom will put them out to warm to room temperature for cooking. She's left them out overnight too. Was not aware of the washing thing. Will have to look into eggs more...
@@louisacoote2337 I was always under the impression that it mainly had to do with 2 factors: 1. Baking temps/times are often based on starting with room temp ingredients and people don’t often think to make adjustments for cold ingredients, so you wind up with the outside getting too hot & dry while the inside does not cook well enough. 2. Butter! If your recipe uses softened or melted butter, and you drop a cold egg in there, sometimes it messes up the consistency, so you have to over-mix to get the butter to evenly mix again.
I think Patrick nailed the whole thing there at the end, that we are friends with the memories of who someone was, and we hang onto them for that. I too am a guarded person, which is why I mourn the death(s) of friendships after what is usually a long process of it dying :'{
My best friend is literally dealing with what you were talking about at the end right now. A friend she has had for years isn't treating her well and their expectations of friendship do not coincide with how they ARE in the friendship. It's heartbreaking to watch. She is in the process of cutting off the friendship but I know there is a lot of guilt associated with it because without my best friend, that person has literally no one (expect for a super toxic relationship with her sister). I'm really glad that you were and ARE open about this topic. Thank you Jackie for being super awesome and open with us.
I cannot express my joy at having found you, Jackie, about 2 weeks ago. You are now the reason I can’t sleep (watching your videos). The dynamic between you, Pat, and Sika is just so sweet and satisfying. I hope I’m making sense. You and your channels bring so much joy and inspiration. Thank you!
What a great chat, this came up in my recommended and I'm so glad it did. I am also from Canada (NB) so it's nice to meet another youtuber from here. I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your experience with other youtubers, we should be bringing each other up and not ripping each other down! ❤️
I love it when youtubers( *not* those weird ones who pretend they're pranking people and disturb them and shit) make videos with their friends and family.... Sweet and wholesome to another level.
This is a really important talk, it really shines a light on what it really is for you to be a creator and also a viewer. And why you react like you do and why you are guarded. Thank you so much for sharing. And you are right, Pat just got 1.000 extra points :)
I’ve just recently discovered your channels. I’ve been binging for a few days now. Your playful personality and honesty is what made me gravitate to you. This podcast I really resonated with. I don’t have a RUclips page but often feel quite similar to you in regards to the activities and events I participate in in my life. As I have gotten older and fallen on some challenging times, I have come to realize that people I thought were good friends only show up when I have something to offer them or I can assist them in some way. At times it makes me not want to help people anymore but I also don’t want to change myself because of people that have used me. Never change Jackie. You are wonderful.
Omg! I was having such a crappy day. Hit play then laughed & smiled the entire video. I felt such positive energy from you both! Loved watching the interaction. You all are so lucky to have each other. Pat should be on more often! He’s so comfortable on camera. Love you both!
This is really important. I moved countries a little over 6 years ago and ended up meeting my partner fairly quickly. I would still go home yearly, but around year 4 I got my permanent residency in my new country. I excitedly messaged friends about it, and most were happy. My best friend at the time responded with essentially ‘we can celebrate if you want, but I’m sorry I can’t be happy with anything with permanent in it’. We’ve grown distanced since then, and I’ve come to realize that they could’ve said ‘while I’m sad it means oh won’t be moving home anytime soon, I’m so excited for you and your new adventure!’ You’re both 100% right that you learn to weed those things out as you get older and realize what is best for you mentally.
I might have just found your channel this year, but you have such a loving, caring, fun, bubbly, and creative personality that it's drawn me in and kept me coming back to watch your videos and see how you, you're sister, and your husband are doing. Watching your videos has also helped me start kicking at an art block that's been stuck like that for over a year now due to physical and mental health issues of my own, and your content has helped a lot. Honestly, if I had met you at some con in MN I would have become your friend just for all the similar things were into and that fun creative personality you have :) I have no want or need to be a content creator, and I doubt my anxiety would allow it. But while that's irrelevant, I do hope you can make new friends who are close by you who are genuinely good people who won't treat you differently or use you for your RUclipsr status. Everyone deserves supportive and caring friends who aren't going to use you for their own purpose, you deserve good friends and you would be an amazing friend to have! Just sucks that sometimes the kindest and sweetest souls end up attracting toxic people. And while it sucks to be guarded, it happens and usually for a reason due to past problems that hurt you. So be kind to yourself when you can and work on lowering your guard when and if possible while also making sure to put yourself first above all else. (( Alsoo eeyyyy I have a good friend who lives in London who is also Egyptian, and ironically my therapist is as well, and my partner is French lol And with growing up very European because of Italian and Sweedish family (( Also northern MN with less than an hour from the border adds to it )) I also get how that type of mannerisms you grow up with can clash with other mannerisms. For me it would be the US, and you said for yourself it was Canada. It's rough, but the good people will stick around and be understanding. ))
I needed to hear this talk. Thank you so much for talking about 'the idea of that friend'. I very recently had to cut someone from my life who, while we'd been good friends for a long time, was no longer that person. I think I was staying in a bad place and letting myself be used because of the nostalgic factor. It was nice to be able to put words to my feelings and nice to know that others get those feelings as well. Thank you so much for this video and I hope everything went well with your surgery. I'm glad my state of Colorado could help you.
I felt this one - not the yt aspect - but the difficulty making friends when you are guarded, and introvetted. I rarely invest time in people outside my family for similar reasons. It's exhausting and painful to invest deeply in something and then have it not work out. I wish I were the social butterfly type who can shed the negative things like water off a ducks back. Great discussion.
I am also very much an introvert with social anxiety and always have my guard up. I've actually had people get offended with me and even go so far as to tell me that I'm stuck up (and worse) just because I'm not talking to everyone. I often feel like I don't know what to say or I'm afraid that I will say the wrong thing and offend someone. I have a very small, group of close friends who all know me and who I am as a person and we get along great. We have no issues with conversation but if I don't know the people around me, I have a hard time mixing in. I'm usually the one sitting off in a corner either by myself or with maybe one other person. Your personality would fit in amazingly with my group of friends regardless of your channel popularity.
Pat nailed it on the head, about the give and take in friendships. If one person is always taking, and the other always giving, but never is it balanced...that's not friendship. I recently ended an 18 year long friendship, when I realized that this person, only spoke to me when she needed or wanted something from me. If I needed or wanted something, she was not available. And looking back over the years, it has always been that way. So as much as I loved the idea of a best friend, someone I was super close to, it was never there to begin with.
I have always felt that it’s not the number of friends you have, but the quality of the friendship. I’m fine going through life with 5-10 friends because I know that the friendship has more qualified me. I really enjoying see you and Pat on the podcast together, it brings a different feel and makes it very interesting. I imagine that a lot of RUclips people are guarded, because like they cannot be sure if the other person is genuine or not.
I am the same way. My closest friends are family. I believe that’s okay. The relationship between you and Sika is so precious. It reminds me of me and my sister. But I have friends online that I’ve been friends with for more 20 years. It’s perfect for an introvert. You aren’t wrong to keep your walls up in the environment you’re in. Keep doing a good job, Jackie. ❤️
I have to say that you and Sika remind me a lot to my best friend and her sister. They both moved to another country a while ago and I really missed them. But weirdly enough watching your channel kind of soothes me when I'm missing them too much. We still chat of course and I still consider her my best friend but life activities and different time zones make communications slow. I did introduce your channel to them and told them how I see similarities and they actually agree. They have a Tae Kwon do background as well and have moved countries and are familiar with English not being their first language, mannerisms but most specifically the sister relation your both have. It's endearing 🥰
I'm so glad you have Pat and your family! I felt it in my core when your 'friend ' showed her friend your craft room, then the friend had the audacity to TOUCH your things!!! Keep being your awesome self!
What an interesting topic to hear about. Friendship was always a difficult topic for me also. When I was young I had people around me, but I couldn't truly be myself with them. And so I always wanted to move away from here. Today. I don't have that feeling anymore. I found great friends in the area (not next door, but still...) And I wouldn't want to change that. I have my 10year anniversary with two of them this summer. They are as crazy and as nerdy as I am. I will always have a place for them in my heart. But I also miss a soulmate, like I had a girl around me who boosted my creativity and I miss that, but I don't miss her. She was toxic and I endured it too long, just because I needed someone to boost my creativity and give me a "safe" space. A few I left behind, because of toxicity or... We just grew apart. And I felt it when it was said that person doesn't exist anymore. Also I have friends all around the country (Germany), that I met online or through a mutual hobby(like LARP). One of them is like a sister to me. So it's difficult. I'm the kind of person to say something like "Vertrauen muss man vorstrecken." Which kind of means... "Trust has to be gifted first." And I had great and bad experiences with that. But I'm a Hufflepuff and keep on going. I would never have without that thought in my mind.
I feel this :( And it's not even just other youtubers trying to use youtubers; i had someone who i thought was a close real life friend (shes not a youtuber) try to make me feel guilty and like i'm a terrible friend for donating a lot of products brands sent me instead of letting her go through it and taking what she wanted first. I think just making friends in general is hard when you're an online personality. :(
I just wanna say you guys make me so happy and are such a mood boost, especially knowing that Pat is a fellow Pole!! I have a lot of family in Canada and you just give me this comforting feeling
Here in Edinburgh we don’t keep eggs in the fridge either. I just want to say thank you for all that you do on both your channels. Thanks to you I’ve started working with resin and really enjoying it. If you ever come to Edinburgh I will come say hi and show you around.
A good way to check if eggs are okay or not is to put uncooked eggs in a bowl of water…if they stay at the bottom, they are good to eat. If one side are pointing up it’s still okay but on their way out so to speak. If they float. DO NOT EAT THEM! (Gas build up in the egg when it goes bad which makes it float) And if you want to see if an egg is cooked or not. Just twirl it on its side on a flat surface. if it goes slow, it’s uncooked, If it goes fast it’s cooked. (You learn to do this at easter when you cousin loves to paint/color an uncooked egg and mix it in with the others).😁
A friend is always a friend. Time nor space can break that bond. Even after big arguments, they are consistent in their desire for you to succeed, which is why you will get over the disagreement and continue the journey together.
As someone who has no friends due to past trauma and 'weeding', I get exactly what you are saying. It's been so long since I've had a true deep balanced friendship, I don't know if I'm capable of it anymore. Love listening to you. Hope you're procedure has been a full success and you have a better quality of life. 🤘🏻😊🤘🏻
Hi Jackie. I know this video is almost 2 years old but after listening, I felt like I had to comment. The things you talk about felt so close to home. The "friend" that use you, the longing for real friends while having trust issues, the issue with living in different countries, the parasocial friendships, etc. I have no irl friends. My online friends, which are very few, all live far away from me. I do talk sometimes with some youtube friends, but its most likely just parasocial and I'm the only one seeing them as friends. I had a "friend" irl that I realised only used me as if I was their therapist. They only talked to me if they needed to talk about an issue, asked me many times to talk to some relatives that worked for a paper, made promised that was never kept. So I understand how it feels. I wish I had a friend who would support and motivate me to do youtube again. I don't even feel like my family support me bc my channels are toyrelated (which they have no interest in) and I'm in my late 30's. But I don't feel that old tbh. Living in Sweden makes it more difficult to find a community to belong to when it comes to stuffs like toys and crafts. You are awesome Jackie. Love from Sweden!
Jackie, you come across as so real and genuine. Most times, watching you, I feel like I'm listening to a friend. You don't come across as guarded, but in person, I can see how you could be. You have reason to feel vulnerable. I'm not into anime, but I connected with you by you teaching me about clay. I am grateful for your earlier days, working with polymer clay and showing how fun it can be.
Jackie- here is a quote that was shared to me many years ago after moving 3,020 km away from my home town and losing people I thought would always be in my life.... “People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.”
You know Jackie, I feel what you are saying on such a deep level. I don't understand the RUclips side of things, but I have been so hurt with what I thought were friendships in the past that I have become very closed off and I struggle greatly with opening myself up to new relationships. I have 0 friends in real life, although I do have 2 online friends that I catch up with twice a year who live overseas and I would love to meet one day. I just... I have never really been able to learn how to problerly communicate or learn the skills to have a friendship. The one true friendship I did have ended in trajedy when she died in a car crash at just 17yrs of age and that was so heartbreaking. We had drifted a part a few years before she passed since we slowly had different interests, but we were still there for eachother and had actually made plans to catch up again when I found out the horrible news. That was nearly 15yrs ago now and I have never had a true friend since. I've just been hurt a lot and betrayed by those I thought I could trust and so I have become much more guarded. I have also just found out that I have Aspergers (although I have been told it's not really called that anymore for some reason 🤔), and that this is also a part of the reason I struggle with the communication side of things... and why I'm pretty awkward at times LOL! 😅 I actually have an individual at the moment wanting to talk all the time with me, but I feel they want more out of the situation than just friendship and I don't want that... I honestly don't know if I ever will want that... I think it would be nice, I do dream about finding love one day, but I have also had a VERY bad situation that happened to me in my late teens and I am traumatised from it. I really need to try to talk to them and let them know I can only give friendhip, but even then.... I don't know how to do that! Anyway, that's more a discussion for my psychologist 😂 What I'm trying to say is that I do understand the being awkward part, and the having your guard up part and that it's not just a RUclips thing, which I know you would already know 😄 I'm sorry for all that you have been through Jackie, but I'm so glad that you have such a supportive person in Pat by your side 💖 He seems like such a gentle, kind and caring soul. As a side note, when travel opens up once again and Covid has become much less of a threat, if you are ever in Australia or I'm ever in Canada and I ever see you I will make sure to say hello (and let you know it's from RUclips LOL!) and hopefully by then hugs are allowed! 💖
I just love these podcasts. They are funny, interesting and down to the earth. I also like how the topics can vary from humorus to serious and back again and sometimes just in one podcast. Ceep these comming and I'll keep watching them. Take care and be safe, both you and your family. 🤗☀️
I'm sorry to hear the experiences you've had with people that make you guarded, it's hard for a nice person to get far in the world without someone wanting to use that as an 'angle'. Super sweet that Pat joined you this time, very endearing to watch you both in discussions
It was great seeing Pat Getting more comfortable with the camera! It's funny, listening to this, it made me realize times when I may have seemed disingenuous with people or friends around me. Sometimes just hearing someone else's experiences makes you realize things about yourself! Thanks Jackie (and Pat!) for bringing these conversations to the table and sharing your experiences!
You two are so perfect for each other! Love the humor you two have and even though there are crappy people out there we are all not like that. One introvert to another.
I have a "friend" who I've been friends with for almost 20 years, he was one of the most caring genuine guys you could ever meet then he started a RUclips channel 🙄. Now he is so fake, totally heartbreaking watching someone change so much, dispite the fact I still occasionally talk to him I really miss my friend the guy he used to be!
I never comment but I just want to say, you already are a good friend to me. I discovered you pretty recently but I look forward to your videos because it feels like we are hanging out. Now having listened to these podcasts, they helped me get to “know” you better and I feel like we would get along in person BUT I appreciate having you on here because I have my own walls up. Thank you for what you do on all of your channels and even though I’m a grain of salt, I cheer for you with all of the sweetness in the world. 🎉
So agree with everything you said Jackie. I am very guarded about friendships too, I can count my close friends on one hand. There are too many fake people out there. You seem like someone I would like to hang out with, true to yourself and your grains. Love ya.
There's nothing wrong having no friends or having a small circle. I don't think it should be seen as a negative. When you're alone, you should be in good company. I have a theory that people who are social climbers or "people tourists" (in the words of Ron Swanson from Parks and Rec) can't stand to be alone with themselves because it causes them to reflect, and they probably don't like what they see when they do that and can't handle it.
Sounds like you've had a bit of a rough trot, Jackie. I'm glad to see you've got a great sister in Sika and a great husband in Pat. You're a family of wholesome beans. The best and worst thing about people is that we all change over time. Some for the better, some for the worst, and for some, it's just their true colours seeping through their veneer. You appear to be doing an amazing job in keeping true to yourself, and that's all that anyone can hope for. I began watching with my kids, but now I watch for myself. It makes me so happy to see you have not let fame go to your head. You're a good soul. Don't let the detestables get you down. Xx
Jackie, I can't blame you for having walls in order to protect yourself. As an adult, it can be challenging to make new friends. I expect that is doubly true when you're a celebrity. If ever given the chance to meet you when you're in Tokyo, I would LOVE to. It would make my day to be your friend for a couple hours even if we then part ways and never see each other again.
Enjoyed watching y’all interacting with one another. I have a friend from Montreal who now lives in Quebec and he is Pat’s doppelgänger. They look and even look just like each other. Love these conversations!
I'm so sorry that you have had such bad experiences. I understand why you would have walls up. I hope you can find the type of friends you're looking for in your area. I know how hard it is to not have your friends be nearby. Big hugs
Jackie, although I am not a you tuber, I have had people use me to get closer to some of my family members. I felt very hurt and betrayed. I already struggle with trust issues from the past, and now I always have trouble letting my guard down. I also think that we spooners have a hard time building and maintaining friendships because non-spooners don't always understand how pain and illness can sometimes consume our lives. We can't always go shopping on a whim, or go out on a lunch date we planned last week. Each new day is different, and so are our abilities for that day. Healthy people have a hard time understanding this. And sometimes we are so wrapped up in dealing with our health struggles that we don't have time or energy to focus on other people's problems. This can make it hard to maintain friendships. I think it might be easier being friends with a fellow Spooner, someone who has a better understanding of what our lives are like. That's one of many reasons I like your videos. You are bringing hope to so many people who feel alone and misunderstood. Here we can meet with others who share similar struggles, all while watching your awesome videos. You are such an inspiration to us grains! I hope your back is better.🙂🙃😺🙏
I think is similar to make friends at work. I have been working for 12 years and I just consider 3 people to be my friends. But since they changed to another country I lost contact. Sometimes I meet people and I want to be friends with them but something I have learn is that it has to be natural even if you want to be friend with somebody if that person doesn't let you in. it's impossible to be their friends. I thinks is because we are afraid to be vulnerable and let people easily in our hearts.
I think it's really silly to get so obsessed over a person's occupation. Being a RUclipsr or a movie star is no different from people who have office or retail jobs. Everyone still has to put on long hours and hardwork to get the job done. People no matter who they are should be treated with kindness and respect, and RUclipsr's and celeb's should be able to have friends without wondering if they are just getting used for their status. Honestly people like that are really cringe and probably don't make good friend's in general. I feel like if we knew each other in real life we'd get along well because we seem to have alot in common ranging from loving anime, books, crafts, games, philosophy. As well as it seems we've had similar traumas with ex people in our lives so I can fully relate when you have talked about that. I also deal with chronic pain having fibermyalgia and arthritis and also deal with epilepsy. And you doing your art keeps me inspired to fight through my bad days too. On a lighter note if you never tried watermelon with a little bit of salt on it you should as it gives it this nice sweet and salty flavor. Also tomatoes with a bit of sugar is good too. Hope your day went better.
Hey jackie! its me again!! hope your feeling better by the day :) sorry that I can't buy your craft kit cause really cant afford it rn, but if it sells in the future maybe I'd purchase it! hope your healing well and sending lots of love from the Philippines!!
I think there are two kinds of youtubers...people who became popular as a result of sharing the thing they are passionate about and those who are just desperate to have an audience - no matter what. I think that is a good place to start when trying to size up possible friend material on youtube. I suspect that is why you get along with so many art channels and not the Mr. Beast types. Love your stuff, Jackie!
What a lot of people fail to realize is that you can't make it big quick on RUclips. It takes time and effort. A lot of these big RUclipsrs have been at it for 10 or more years. It's about promotion on social media and adding the right tags for your videos, along with hard work, starting with one type of setup, and then slowly upgrading it, along with your editing software, and luck. It can make it very frustrating at times, but if you keep at it it's so fulfilling to see those numbers grow and know you did it all on your own.
I am a 44 y/o Puertorrican who absolutely loves everything Jackie/Sika/Angel/and now Pat. I got into polymer clay and resin crafting because of you when one of your videos just started playing one day. From the first video I ever watched from you I was instantly subscribed. Your vibe and overall personality got me hooked. Then you said you are a teacher, I’m a teacher too! Then eventually I met Sika and I fell in love with the way you guys are with each other. I found myself laughing with you guys and I love it. I look forward to whatever you come up with in the next video and I hope that sometime in my lifetime I have the pleasure to meet you and if I’m blessed, to be able to call you my friend. If you ever visit Florida let us grains know I’d love to walk around the malls in the hopes of being able to say: Hi Jackie! I’m an amerigrain! Don’t worry I’m not a students’ parent! 😂 With that said, I pray you are on the road to a swift recovery and that you are feeling great and continue to feel healthy so you can get back to the things you love, and continue being Salty Mother Grain! Love ya tons!!!
I've been thinking about this one-way relationship, and that is so strange... I don't have many friends and some of my favorite youtubers, including you Jackie, at one or other point started to feel as friends to the point when, e. g. I hear a good joke and just think "lol, Jackie will love it, I have to tell her". And then I have to remind myself that Jackie doesn't even know I exist and we'll never meet in person. If you think about it, that's so strange to regularly hang out with someone who will most probably never know you.
This is really relevant to me and so helpful. I really enjoy hearing these perspectives and history from you! And watching you and Pat together was cute :]
I think how you feel is normal...at least for me. Its also normal in any business that others will use you as Pat said...a stepping stone, I have always had a very small circle of friends, but most of them have been live long friends. I love you the way you are..xx this just ended, you two , so good. really, its like everyone is in the same room and on the same vibe. way to go
I know how you feel. I’m autistic and very guarded because I don’t always understand people’s intentions. I have the tiniest channel and will never be part of the RUclips world. I love your channels, and your relationships with Pat and Sika just blow me away. xxx
I’m kind of glad you guys talked about Kanadajin because I used to watch them when I was around 11-13 and I remember all that drama, I felt like it was all a dream lol
Hey Jackie! Your sharing is touching me a lot. It's sounds a lot like my own story...I have 2 friends now but I don't think I had real friends ever... I discovered recently that I have ADHD and i'm a bit weird too 🤣 Friend keeping is so HARD! I feel very similar to you - introverted, artsy, a bit clumsy, nerdy (really a big nerd!) unfortunate health problems... I don't have a YT channel but I was used as a "faire-valoir" most of my life... So now, just know that if I could, I'd friend you so hard and do art with you - over discord, because going outside is HARD (lol) - just because it's nice sharing a passion with an awesome person Thanks for being you - and a friendly and inspiring person to watch
I know that feeling of having toxic people in my life I dealt with it alot. And I think anyone would be lucky to have you and pat as friends you guys look like people who someone can have a long lasting friendship with
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Also, this excludes all my online artsy crafty friends who are just amazing people and we've gotten to know each other really well. In this video, we discuss the world of RUclipsrs being guarded and very hard to understand sometimes. RUclipsrs don't make good friends because of people trying to use the "clout". Bigger RUclipsrs will generally be more wary of being friends with smaller creators because people typically want to use them. Before I understood this dynamic, I was also part of the problem because I used to contact bigger channels just to "collab" rather than get to know these creators as people. I've changed because I realized this was a problem and came across as extremely disingenuous.
Man I really wish I'd be able to afford that kit it looks absolutely amazing plus I would love nothing better than to support a fellow artist but medical bills just got a little too expensive this month and it looks like it's going to be that way for next month as well and I'm pretty sure you'll be sold out by then but I do wish you and your family all the best and crossing my fingers I hit the lottery between now and before you sell out LOL
Yes I was able to tell the genuine friendship between you and other youtubers it was shown especially in the Rewind 2020 Artists Edition you set up 👍🏻 makes me happy 😜
@@stephanietoler5556 Hey there from a total stranger who understands. I've got 2 confirmed autoimmune diseases & start Rituximab infusions on Wed actually so I get it, medical expenses make it so buying anything that isn't an absolute necessity doesn't happen often & it usually has to be pretty inexpensive when you actually can. More than anything I hope you're doing OK mentally & your physical medical struggles are on the mend. Prayers from, again, a total stranger. Take care
@@loveyourselfplease6842 let me start off by saying it caught me completely off-guard to hear such a heartwarming genuine loving inspiring message from as you say a complete stranger but on the other hand it is definitely refreshing to know that someone is able to show support and understanding to that other person's situation and I thank you.
You two are so cute. I love seeing you both in these videos. Thanks Pat for being in her videos. I'm so sorry you had to go through so many bad experiences I understand how you feel because I am similar except being friends with my siblings it's my kids I look forward to seeing and spending time with my kids the most and much like you my husband is possible my best friend so I understand a little better then some, maybe not as much as others but I do understand I just wish I had the amount of confidence you have to do more with my channel LoL I do have 14 subscribers though so that's something I'm just waiting for the time I can get a new camera and for my older kids to have more time to make videos with me cuz THEY are my confidence in a manner of speaking because I don't feel comfortable doing videos without at least one of them I wish I still had a sister like Sica but my "Sica" was my oldest sister who's name was Cassy however she passed from cancer in 2013 but she's the one who encouraged me to do so much and even encouraged me to do RUclips also.... Anyway enough rambling I love you guys and thank you for making these videos and maybe the world will be better some day and there won't be people using other people for any reason even "Klout" keep up the great work
I love how how we met. I also appreciate the fact you let me have my “omg Jackie” moment. I hear everything you are saying and agree. I’ve seen the exact same thing… especially when being linked with Vidcon. But it’s very easy to tell who is interested in who you are.. the red flags are real and should never be ignored.
I agree! The way we met was just so pure! You’re so darn kind hearted and I can’t wait to see you again irl
The idea of someone showing a stranger around someone else's house is sooooo cringe. I have a huge super close family & we rotate family member's homes for holidays & family weekends & such. I still can't go through MY family member's bedroom to use their bathroom without asking if it's ok & only if there are no other bathrooms available. I'm always told I don't need to ask but I was raised to respect my parent's bedroom & bathroom as their private space so it's just something I need to do to show that I'm respectful of their home.
Oh no! I just got to this part. Who does that!? Invite people to someone else's house. Ew!
Oh my gosh, the horrified face I made when that came up! I was raised the same way of respecting people's private spaces. The idea of someone just... going into my workspace and touching things made my skin crawl.
~Raven
Not just red flags but like this person commited so many social faux pases. If a person with social difficulties like me can clock those, it's time for you to re-evaluate your values and etiquette.
Person that enters my sanctum after I said don't.
Honestly Jackie, I'd be your friend even if you weren’t a RUclipsr. I enjoy your personality and humor and you remind me very much of a dear friend of mine. I think you're just a truly genuine person- meaning that you aren't fake. You have a caring and loving aura (sorry, couldn't think of a better word) about you. And we have a lot in common. Keep up the amazing work. And hi Pat!!
I feel the same
Me too
I feel the same, to where she feels like a adopted sister to me, like she would fit into my family very well. Would love to meet her in person and take her to meet her new family.
I'm never going to see you in public, I'm literally an ocean away haha
But honestly, Jackie, you are someone who I'd want to be friends with just because we have so many similar interests. Anime and manga and crafting... Granted, I really love sewing and crochet xD You are the main reason I got into resin crafts. You are the main reason I love to try out new crafts whenever I can.
Also we have the same sense of humor and it makes me very happy.
So even though you don't know me and we'll probably never meet, I'm really grateful that you are part of my life. You always make me cheer up! So, thank you
Jackie, I’m 64 and my Granddaughter Belle, is 11. You reach both of us and that’s saying quite a lot! We realized, during a resin crafting session, that we both watch your channels. Belle was surprised and I was surprised but it’s wonderful! Thank you for allowing us to share your “RUclips” friendship!
Aww Pat, so supportive! ❤️ He can tuck you in and make you into a salt-e burrito lol
Hearing the accent just makes me want you guys to do an episode en français even more!!
Yes! I don't know French but I really enjoy hearing people talk in their native language. I really appreciate all the unique languages around the world.
An episode in French would be fun! Subtitles would be appreciated so I can follow along but 🤷♀️
This is why my favorite Maya Angelou quote is: "If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."
If Jackie wasn't married to Pat, my comment would be JACKIE, MARRY THAT MAN! #relationshipgoals I hope some day I can have someone that respects me and treats me with as much dignity as Pat does towards Jackie. I especially appreciate when Jackie is self-deprecating and he gently reminds her that she's being too hard on herself. 😍 UwU
I agree, I wish I could have someone who cared about me a third of what he does, they're soo nice together
Jackie: no offence but I'm never moving to the US
Me an Amerigran- perfectly understandable
I'm an American trying to leave! I just need to graduate and get the job overseas lol
Agreed, 100%! I've looked into moving elsewhere but unfortunately I don't have the career skills (on paper) that make me a desirable citizen. If only all my actual skills translated to paper so I had options.
@@thumbsarehandy. True that! 😣
Jackie lives in Canada, not the US. Canada is a lot more sane than the US...
@@mom42boys I think we are aware of this. Hence the convo we're having lol
I am super impressed at your ability to get over your introvert-ness to make videos. My young daughter now wants to become a RUclipsr because of you.
While I am not a RUclipsr, I am a crafter/artist. So I have never had people use me for who I am, but rather what I can do, as I am often too generous with my time or skills for friends. I find creative-types are often this way, and I find that we tend to get hurt if our guard is down because our art is a window to ourselves that other people don’t have out there all the time. As with your experience, I find a sure sign that the “friend” is more of a “user” is their reaction to when you say “no”, or how quickly or often they ask for “favors” or expect free work. And if you don’t give away your time/work often, some will view you as a “snob”.
Btw, if a “friend” invited their friends to my house to show off my work area and start touching things, they would be thrown out the door so fast they would think they teleported.
Awwwww, you sound so sweet & very strong, a great influence for your daughter & of course if you have other children them too
@@loveyourselfplease6842 thank you 🥰. I’m not as strong as I’d like to be. It’s a work in progress. But I’m trying to teach my daughter (also artsy) how not to get taken advantage of or hurt as often as I was.
Edit… I have a son too… we’ll find out if he’s artsy too, as soon as he’s old enough not to try to eat my paints, lol (he’s still a very little guy) 😄
@@ciomaria6137 I have a very artistic little boy who is so gentile, he's very smart already skipped a grade but like his mom he's had a hard time speaking up when being bullied in the past. I've reached an age that I simply do not care & will speak my mind if you disrespect me or my child but I was bullied very badly mainly because I just wanted people to like me so I let them walk all over me, nobody tought me I had other options. I'm teaching my boy that being a different version of himself simply to please others is something he never has to do & to never let anyone take advantage of him simply because he's nice & he's made amazing strides. I think you teaching your daughter how to spot the signs at an early age is absolutely fantastic. People often have a perpetual image of their child as "too young to understand" so they put off teaching them about life. I think you sound amazing.
I don't have friends either. I can't imagine trying to have genuine friends with people clout-chasing and trying to be better than everyone else. I can be way too trusting.
Very glad Jackie has siblings in her life she can have those close relationships with. I'm an only child but thankfully I have my SO. ❤️
It really stinks that the RUclips community leverage each other so much. I work as an x-ray tech in a hospital. I feel very supported by my work family. I would hate to feel used by them. I hope you become comfortable enough to find a really good friend. You deserve it. You are an interesting person, and you deserve a good friend who truly cares about you.
The whole time I was like "WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE HURTING OUR MOMMA SALT!?!?!?" lol I get you don't want to say names, but I don't want to be watching and supporting horrible people. Btw, I am also taking friend applications, so... Momma Salt just throwing that out there.... ❤ In all seriousness there are good and genuine people in the world. Keep your head up. WE LOVE YOU!!!!!
Friend applications 😂❤️❤️ I’d apply
@@NerdEJackieVlogs you just made my day. 😊
@@NerdEJackieVlogs Me too, me too! I'm both applying AND taking applications. 😁
I can relate to your comment about “giving the shirt off your back”. As a Mennonite I was raised to always help others, no matter the circumstance. I’ve been taken advantage of in so many friendships that I lost count. However, I refuse let that bring me down… I’ll continue helping people whatever way I can, but the ones who take advantage of me lose any help from me in the future.
I found it interesting that they said it comes across as "desperate" in North America to have that attitude. I've never thought that ever; it was the first I've heard it. I get how you could see that, but being so giving of yourself just means you're caring, imo. I can also see how people can (and do) take advantage of that, however. It's a pity they weren't raised better than that, but I guess the world is full of all kinds.
A difficult thing I have learned is Facebook has it right, in life you have *close friends, *friends, *acquaintances, and *mutual friends. Learning the difference and treating people accordingly has made me a much happier person.
"You're my trophy" 👏 RELATIONSHIP 👏 GOALS 👏
Oh, how I needed this Conversation today. Especially the last part. You said, "It's the IDEA of that friend that lingers in your heart." So true, Jackie. So heartbreakingly true. Thank you for sharing your heart and soul with us today... and thank you, Pat, for being a part of this community and sharing yourself with us.
Meanwhile in Europe *has eggs outside the fridge all time* I will store them at a darker cooler corner of my pantry… but it still is room temp roughly.
I don’t normally comment on videos as I’m very shy but felt this was a subject I struggle with a lot, I have a tiny tiny tiny RUclips Channel and some lovely subscribers that are really sweet and kind, but I really struggle with self confidence. I don’t show my face on camera as I’m way too shy and scared yet and have to really prepare myself before doing a video as I get very nervous but I am the same on and off camera as I am just me I can’t pretend to be who I’m not. In real life I like to help people the same as in my channel and sometimes that means I get used as I can’t say no ☹️, it’s very difficult as some people take advantage of that kind nature. I think your very brave as I couldn’t possibly go to these conventions as meeting people scares me and being in a room full of people terrifies me especially as I would think they would all look down on me and think I’m not good enough, even when I’m a bigger little channel I’d feel the same. I only have a few friends as I don’t trust many people as I’ve had bad experience’s in the past and keep myself to myself it’s stops me getting hurt I guess. Anyway just thought I’d add that, thanx for the video. Me and my little Annie watch all your videos on both channels and have been subscribed for years, we watch all your videos together it’s very nice to be able to sit together and have a giggle over things 😍🤗 xxx
Agreed, sometimes it's rough having a good heart and knowing how much of yourself to give, it is very draining at times.
We love pat! I love how happy and positive energy he gives off, you guys seem so perfect for each other. Hes so supportive and adorable "im popular" of course you are,, you seem so positive and caring for Jackie 🥺
What a confusing and unexpected thing to navigate constantly. I have to say, I’ve LOVED everyone I’ve met and had contact with so far in the art community- like you’ve said, they seem to be incredibly approachable and relatable, and not competitive at all.
I’ve been genuinely excited at the potential to make real friends with similar interests, even if they aren’t people I’ll be able to meet up with in real life.
But all this competition and fake stuff… uughhh. No wonder it’s hard. Huge respect for still giving people a chance and being the lovely person you are, despite having been taken advantage of in the past.
We love Pat and Jackie soo nice 😊
Oh my gerdddddddddd! Love the conversations that include Pat!
It takes me at least an hour to wake up properly too! I especially cannot eat as soon as I get up, my stomach cannot cope with food immediately!
me as well, takes me about an hour to 2 hours because of how crappy i feel every morning. i can not eat til 10, its like clock work too
Oh same. I mean I'm up and working but basic automatic functions. The real thinking functions come after 10.
Same with breakfast, as my stomach can't handle food earlier either. Water or juice yes. Anything else no.
I used to be a nocturnal person but my career type demands day work as its mostly office related. The worst are the 8am meetings
@@nassj6593 I am definitely a morning person, but I cannot be rushed! My 3 siblings and I all hated having to eat breakfast before school, to my mum’s great despair!
@@nassj6593 same, for a while i was able have to have juice or herbal tea before 10.Sadly i haven't had time lately, because i also have a job where it requires working in the mornings. It takes a lot of effort just to get up that early so there hasn't been much room for breakfast.
"You slick little son of a biscuit" 😆🤣😂
Talking about your stuff, or the “mess”, it’s not a mess, it’s just controlled chaos. Most spaces like that, it looks messy to outside people, but to the other person, they know where everything is
My father was totally like that (our garage looked like a bomb went off in it, and was never actually used as a garage (for cars), but his workspace. I'm a lot like that too. XD
I am too, which annoyed my sister growing up because she likes everything neat
I don’t think Pat’s necessarily wrong about being popular 😆
Always look forward to these videos and would certainly love to see more Pat.
It's normal to take a while to tame or open up to a new person.
At least the person who was direct about their objectives. Honesty like this got it's usefulness. Still I love that you have vetted if it was a thing that could benefit us the viewer.
I can absolutely relate to what you are saying. My sister and my husband are my best friends. I think that we can find many people to be friendly with, but to me they are not "friends". The term friend holds a lot of meaning for me. A true friend is almost impossible to find. As long as you feel your husband and your siblings fulfill your "friendship" needs then you don't need more friends, you have all the support and love you need and deserve
To comment on eggs (I always comment on food topics, lol)…
In Costa Rica (so tropical weather) the eggs are left out as well and I was horrified at the thought of potential food poisoning when I first realized it, until the rinsing thing was explained to me.
In New York, the eggs are refrigerated at the store and I pop them in the fridge the second I get home from the store.
When cooking eggs, you can have them out for different amounts of time, and I find it is based on cooking temperature. If I am making scrambled eggs or slightly undercooked eggs like soft boiled or over medium, I keep them on the counter for as short a time as possible. However, when I bake, I find room temperature eggs work best, so I have often left them out from 30-60 minutes to get them to room temp before incorporating into my recipe and baking. I am not as concerned because of the higher cooking temperature for the extended period of time.
Lol, I commented on the eggs too 🤣 a few yrs back I changed to a free range poultry, line or spear caught only fish & pretty much no red meat unless it's cruelty free. Obviously there's quite a price difference but I found eggs were pretty affordable so started digging to find a place to buy them & all these cool egg facts came with my search. I think everyone should eat what they like, what they can afford & what gets them the nutrients they need & new & interesting food facts is so much fun to me. Thank you for the interesting stuff you left in your comment.
Eggs should definitely be at room temperature for baking! Not sure of the science behind it, but possibly having all your ingredients at the same temp means the cake cooks more evenly, is my theory!
Australia and New Zealand refrigerate eggs in the supermarket and at home. So not just a North Amercian thing.
We do refrigerate our eggs, but my mom will put them out to warm to room temperature for cooking. She's left them out overnight too. Was not aware of the washing thing. Will have to look into eggs more...
@@louisacoote2337 I was always under the impression that it mainly had to do with 2 factors:
1. Baking temps/times are often based on starting with room temp ingredients and people don’t often think to make adjustments for cold ingredients, so you wind up with the outside getting too hot & dry while the inside does not cook well enough.
2. Butter! If your recipe uses softened or melted butter, and you drop a cold egg in there, sometimes it messes up the consistency, so you have to over-mix to get the butter to evenly mix again.
I still miss Sika, but I love having pat. XD I would love to have him and Sika again.
What happened to sika
She's been dealing with her own health problems.
@@ariesgonzalezag Shes taking a little "me time" to focus on herself- perfectly understandable.
I think Patrick nailed the whole thing there at the end, that we are friends with the memories of who someone was, and we hang onto them for that. I too am a guarded person, which is why I mourn the death(s) of friendships after what is usually a long process of it dying :'{
My best friend is literally dealing with what you were talking about at the end right now. A friend she has had for years isn't treating her well and their expectations of friendship do not coincide with how they ARE in the friendship. It's heartbreaking to watch. She is in the process of cutting off the friendship but I know there is a lot of guilt associated with it because without my best friend, that person has literally no one (expect for a super toxic relationship with her sister). I'm really glad that you were and ARE open about this topic. Thank you Jackie for being super awesome and open with us.
I cannot express my joy at having found you, Jackie, about 2 weeks ago. You are now the reason I can’t sleep (watching your videos). The dynamic between you, Pat, and Sika is just so sweet and satisfying.
I hope I’m making sense. You and your channels bring so much joy and inspiration. Thank you!
What a great chat, this came up in my recommended and I'm so glad it did. I am also from Canada (NB) so it's nice to meet another youtuber from here. I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your experience with other youtubers, we should be bringing each other up and not ripping each other down! ❤️
I love it when youtubers( *not* those weird ones who pretend they're pranking people and disturb them and shit) make videos with their friends and family.... Sweet and wholesome to another level.
This is a really important talk, it really shines a light on what it really is for you to be a creator and also a viewer. And why you react like you do and why you are guarded. Thank you so much for sharing.
And you are right, Pat just got 1.000 extra points :)
So if I ever meet Jackie I'm gonna say "I was not a student, I'm from Mexico and I love your Channel"
lol yes please
I think that would probably be for the best in an introduction. Just so she doesn't go through the "loading screen" bit. Lol!
I’ve just recently discovered your channels. I’ve been binging for a few days now. Your playful personality and honesty is what made me gravitate to you. This podcast I really resonated with. I don’t have a RUclips page but often feel quite similar to you in regards to the activities and events I participate in in my life. As I have gotten older and fallen on some challenging times, I have come to realize that people I thought were good friends only show up when I have something to offer them or I can assist them in some way. At times it makes me not want to help people anymore but I also don’t want to change myself because of people that have used me.
Never change Jackie. You are wonderful.
Omg! I was having such a crappy day. Hit play then laughed & smiled the entire video. I felt such positive energy from you both! Loved watching the interaction. You all are so lucky to have each other. Pat should be on more often! He’s so comfortable on camera. Love you both!
This is really important. I moved countries a little over 6 years ago and ended up meeting my partner fairly quickly. I would still go home yearly, but around year 4 I got my permanent residency in my new country. I excitedly messaged friends about it, and most were happy. My best friend at the time responded with essentially ‘we can celebrate if you want, but I’m sorry I can’t be happy with anything with permanent in it’. We’ve grown distanced since then, and I’ve come to realize that they could’ve said ‘while I’m sad it means oh won’t be moving home anytime soon, I’m so excited for you and your new adventure!’ You’re both 100% right that you learn to weed those things out as you get older and realize what is best for you mentally.
I might have just found your channel this year, but you have such a loving, caring, fun, bubbly, and creative personality that it's drawn me in and kept me coming back to watch your videos and see how you, you're sister, and your husband are doing.
Watching your videos has also helped me start kicking at an art block that's been stuck like that for over a year now due to physical and mental health issues of my own, and your content has helped a lot.
Honestly, if I had met you at some con in MN I would have become your friend just for all the similar things were into and that fun creative personality you have :)
I have no want or need to be a content creator, and I doubt my anxiety would allow it. But while that's irrelevant, I do hope you can make new friends who are close by you who are genuinely good people who won't treat you differently or use you for your RUclipsr status. Everyone deserves supportive and caring friends who aren't going to use you for their own purpose, you deserve good friends and you would be an amazing friend to have!
Just sucks that sometimes the kindest and sweetest souls end up attracting toxic people.
And while it sucks to be guarded, it happens and usually for a reason due to past problems that hurt you. So be kind to yourself when you can and work on lowering your guard when and if possible while also making sure to put yourself first above all else.
(( Alsoo eeyyyy I have a good friend who lives in London who is also Egyptian, and ironically my therapist is as well, and my partner is French lol And with growing up very European because of Italian and Sweedish family (( Also northern MN with less than an hour from the border adds to it )) I also get how that type of mannerisms you grow up with can clash with other mannerisms. For me it would be the US, and you said for yourself it was Canada. It's rough, but the good people will stick around and be understanding. ))
HAHAHAHA "now everyone is going to swoon over you, you slick little son of a biscuit!" 😂🤣
I needed to hear this talk. Thank you so much for talking about 'the idea of that friend'. I very recently had to cut someone from my life who, while we'd been good friends for a long time, was no longer that person. I think I was staying in a bad place and letting myself be used because of the nostalgic factor. It was nice to be able to put words to my feelings and nice to know that others get those feelings as well. Thank you so much for this video and I hope everything went well with your surgery. I'm glad my state of Colorado could help you.
I felt this one - not the yt aspect - but the difficulty making friends when you are guarded, and introvetted. I rarely invest time in people outside my family for similar reasons. It's exhausting and painful to invest deeply in something and then have it not work out. I wish I were the social butterfly type who can shed the negative things like water off a ducks back. Great discussion.
I am also very much an introvert with social anxiety and always have my guard up. I've actually had people get offended with me and even go so far as to tell me that I'm stuck up (and worse) just because I'm not talking to everyone. I often feel like I don't know what to say or I'm afraid that I will say the wrong thing and offend someone. I have a very small, group of close friends who all know me and who I am as a person and we get along great. We have no issues with conversation but if I don't know the people around me, I have a hard time mixing in. I'm usually the one sitting off in a corner either by myself or with maybe one other person. Your personality would fit in amazingly with my group of friends regardless of your channel popularity.
Pat nailed it on the head, about the give and take in friendships. If one person is always taking, and the other always giving, but never is it balanced...that's not friendship. I recently ended an 18 year long friendship, when I realized that this person, only spoke to me when she needed or wanted something from me. If I needed or wanted something, she was not available. And looking back over the years, it has always been that way. So as much as I loved the idea of a best friend, someone I was super close to, it was never there to begin with.
I have always felt that it’s not the number of friends you have, but the quality of the friendship. I’m fine going through life with 5-10 friends because I know that the friendship has more qualified me.
I really enjoying see you and Pat on the podcast together, it brings a different feel and makes it very interesting. I imagine that a lot of RUclips people are guarded, because like they cannot be sure if the other person is genuine or not.
I am the same way. My closest friends are family. I believe that’s okay. The relationship between you and Sika is so precious. It reminds me of me and my sister. But I have friends online that I’ve been friends with for more 20 years. It’s perfect for an introvert. You aren’t wrong to keep your walls up in the environment you’re in. Keep doing a good job, Jackie. ❤️
I have to say that you and Sika remind me a lot to my best friend and her sister. They both moved to another country a while ago and I really missed them. But weirdly enough watching your channel kind of soothes me when I'm missing them too much. We still chat of course and I still consider her my best friend but life activities and different time zones make communications slow. I did introduce your channel to them and told them how I see similarities and they actually agree. They have a Tae Kwon do background as well and have moved countries and are familiar with English not being their first language, mannerisms but most specifically the sister relation your both have. It's endearing 🥰
I'm so glad you have Pat and your family! I felt it in my core when your 'friend ' showed her friend your craft room, then the friend had the audacity to TOUCH your things!!! Keep being your awesome self!
What an interesting topic to hear about.
Friendship was always a difficult topic for me also. When I was young I had people around me, but I couldn't truly be myself with them.
And so I always wanted to move away from here.
Today. I don't have that feeling anymore. I found great friends in the area (not next door, but still...)
And I wouldn't want to change that. I have my 10year anniversary with two of them this summer. They are as crazy and as nerdy as I am. I will always have a place for them in my heart.
But I also miss a soulmate, like I had a girl around me who boosted my creativity and I miss that, but I don't miss her. She was toxic and I endured it too long, just because I needed someone to boost my creativity and give me a "safe" space.
A few I left behind, because of toxicity or... We just grew apart. And I felt it when it was said that person doesn't exist anymore.
Also I have friends all around the country (Germany), that I met online or through a mutual hobby(like LARP).
One of them is like a sister to me.
So it's difficult. I'm the kind of person to say something like "Vertrauen muss man vorstrecken." Which kind of means... "Trust has to be gifted first." And I had great and bad experiences with that. But I'm a Hufflepuff and keep on going. I would never have without that thought in my mind.
I feel this :( And it's not even just other youtubers trying to use youtubers; i had someone who i thought was a close real life friend (shes not a youtuber) try to make me feel guilty and like i'm a terrible friend for donating a lot of products brands sent me instead of letting her go through it and taking what she wanted first. I think just making friends in general is hard when you're an online personality. :(
I just wanna say you guys make me so happy and are such a mood boost, especially knowing that Pat is a fellow Pole!! I have a lot of family in Canada and you just give me this comforting feeling
Here in Edinburgh we don’t keep eggs in the fridge either. I just want to say thank you for all that you do on both your channels. Thanks to you I’ve started working with resin and really enjoying it. If you ever come to Edinburgh I will come say hi and show you around.
A good way to check if eggs are okay or not is to put uncooked eggs in a bowl of water…if they stay at the bottom, they are good to eat. If one side are pointing up it’s still okay but on their way out so to speak. If they float. DO NOT EAT THEM! (Gas build up in the egg when it goes bad which makes it float)
And if you want to see if an egg is cooked or not. Just twirl it on its side on a flat surface. if it goes slow, it’s uncooked, If it goes fast it’s cooked. (You learn to do this at easter when you cousin loves to paint/color an uncooked egg and mix it in with the others).😁
A friend is always a friend. Time nor space can break that bond. Even after big arguments, they are consistent in their desire for you to succeed, which is why you will get over the disagreement and continue the journey together.
As someone who has no friends due to past trauma and 'weeding', I get exactly what you are saying. It's been so long since I've had a true deep balanced friendship, I don't know if I'm capable of it anymore. Love listening to you. Hope you're procedure has been a full success and you have a better quality of life. 🤘🏻😊🤘🏻
Hi Jackie.
I know this video is almost 2 years old but after listening, I felt like I had to comment. The things you talk about felt so close to home. The "friend" that use you, the longing for real friends while having trust issues, the issue with living in different countries, the parasocial friendships, etc. I have no irl friends. My online friends, which are very few, all live far away from me. I do talk sometimes with some youtube friends, but its most likely just parasocial and I'm the only one seeing them as friends.
I had a "friend" irl that I realised only used me as if I was their therapist. They only talked to me if they needed to talk about an issue, asked me many times to talk to some relatives that worked for a paper, made promised that was never kept. So I understand how it feels.
I wish I had a friend who would support and motivate me to do youtube again. I don't even feel like my family support me bc my channels are toyrelated (which they have no interest in) and I'm in my late 30's. But I don't feel that old tbh.
Living in Sweden makes it more difficult to find a community to belong to when it comes to stuffs like toys and crafts.
You are awesome Jackie.
Love from Sweden!
I see by Sika's Instagram that she recently had surgery. I hope she is recuperating well.
Jackie, you come across as so real and genuine. Most times, watching you, I feel like I'm listening to a friend. You don't come across as guarded, but in person, I can see how you could be. You have reason to feel vulnerable. I'm not into anime, but I connected with you by you teaching me about clay. I am grateful for your earlier days, working with polymer clay and showing how fun it can be.
Jackie- here is a quote that was shared to me many years ago after moving 3,020 km away from my home town and losing people I thought would always be in my life....
“People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.”
You know Jackie, I feel what you are saying on such a deep level. I don't understand the RUclips side of things, but I have been so hurt with what I thought were friendships in the past that I have become very closed off and I struggle greatly with opening myself up to new relationships. I have 0 friends in real life, although I do have 2 online friends that I catch up with twice a year who live overseas and I would love to meet one day. I just... I have never really been able to learn how to problerly communicate or learn the skills to have a friendship. The one true friendship I did have ended in trajedy when she died in a car crash at just 17yrs of age and that was so heartbreaking. We had drifted a part a few years before she passed since we slowly had different interests, but we were still there for eachother and had actually made plans to catch up again when I found out the horrible news. That was nearly 15yrs ago now and I have never had a true friend since. I've just been hurt a lot and betrayed by those I thought I could trust and so I have become much more guarded. I have also just found out that I have Aspergers (although I have been told it's not really called that anymore for some reason 🤔), and that this is also a part of the reason I struggle with the communication side of things... and why I'm pretty awkward at times LOL! 😅 I actually have an individual at the moment wanting to talk all the time with me, but I feel they want more out of the situation than just friendship and I don't want that... I honestly don't know if I ever will want that... I think it would be nice, I do dream about finding love one day, but I have also had a VERY bad situation that happened to me in my late teens and I am traumatised from it. I really need to try to talk to them and let them know I can only give friendhip, but even then.... I don't know how to do that! Anyway, that's more a discussion for my psychologist 😂 What I'm trying to say is that I do understand the being awkward part, and the having your guard up part and that it's not just a RUclips thing, which I know you would already know 😄 I'm sorry for all that you have been through Jackie, but I'm so glad that you have such a supportive person in Pat by your side 💖 He seems like such a gentle, kind and caring soul. As a side note, when travel opens up once again and Covid has become much less of a threat, if you are ever in Australia or I'm ever in Canada and I ever see you I will make sure to say hello (and let you know it's from RUclips LOL!) and hopefully by then hugs are allowed! 💖
I just love these podcasts. They are funny, interesting and down to the earth. I also like how the topics can vary from humorus to serious and back again and sometimes just in one podcast. Ceep these comming and I'll keep watching them. Take care and be safe, both you and your family. 🤗☀️
I'm sorry to hear the experiences you've had with people that make you guarded, it's hard for a nice person to get far in the world without someone wanting to use that as an 'angle'.
Super sweet that Pat joined you this time, very endearing to watch you both in discussions
It was great seeing Pat Getting more comfortable with the camera!
It's funny, listening to this, it made me realize times when I may have seemed disingenuous with people or friends around me. Sometimes just hearing someone else's experiences makes you realize things about yourself!
Thanks Jackie (and Pat!) for bringing these conversations to the table and sharing your experiences!
You two are so perfect for each other! Love the humor you two have and even though there are crappy people out there we are all not like that. One introvert to another.
I have a "friend" who I've been friends with for almost 20 years, he was one of the most caring genuine guys you could ever meet then he started a RUclips channel 🙄. Now he is so fake, totally heartbreaking watching someone change so much, dispite the fact I still occasionally talk to him I really miss my friend the guy he used to be!
I never comment but I just want to say, you already are a good friend to me. I discovered you pretty recently but I look forward to your videos because it feels like we are hanging out. Now having listened to these podcasts, they helped me get to “know” you better and I feel like we would get along in person BUT I appreciate having you on here because I have my own walls up. Thank you for what you do on all of your channels and even though I’m a grain of salt, I cheer for you with all of the sweetness in the world. 🎉
So agree with everything you said Jackie. I am very guarded about friendships too, I can count my close friends on one hand. There are too many fake people out there. You seem like someone I would like to hang out with, true to yourself and your grains. Love ya.
There's nothing wrong having no friends or having a small circle. I don't think it should be seen as a negative. When you're alone, you should be in good company. I have a theory that people who are social climbers or "people tourists" (in the words of Ron Swanson from Parks and Rec) can't stand to be alone with themselves because it causes them to reflect, and they probably don't like what they see when they do that and can't handle it.
Sounds like you've had a bit of a rough trot, Jackie. I'm glad to see you've got a great sister in Sika and a great husband in Pat. You're a family of wholesome beans. The best and worst thing about people is that we all change over time. Some for the better, some for the worst, and for some, it's just their true colours seeping through their veneer. You appear to be doing an amazing job in keeping true to yourself, and that's all that anyone can hope for. I began watching with my kids, but now I watch for myself. It makes me so happy to see you have not let fame go to your head. You're a good soul. Don't let the detestables get you down. Xx
Jackie, I can't blame you for having walls in order to protect yourself. As an adult, it can be challenging to make new friends. I expect that is doubly true when you're a celebrity.
If ever given the chance to meet you when you're in Tokyo, I would LOVE to. It would make my day to be your friend for a couple hours even if we then part ways and never see each other again.
Enjoyed watching y’all interacting with one another. I have a friend from Montreal who now lives in Quebec and he is Pat’s doppelgänger. They look and even look just like each other. Love these conversations!
I'm so sorry that you have had such bad experiences. I understand why you would have walls up. I hope you can find the type of friends you're looking for in your area. I know how hard it is to not have your friends be nearby. Big hugs
Thank you for speaking from the heart and being so genuine. You are an inspiration.
Jackie, although I am not a you tuber, I have had people use me to get closer to some of my family members. I felt very hurt and betrayed. I already struggle with trust issues from the past, and now I always have trouble letting my guard down.
I also think that we spooners have a hard time building and maintaining friendships because non-spooners don't always understand how pain and illness can sometimes consume our lives. We can't always go shopping on a whim, or go out on a lunch date we planned last week. Each new day is different, and so are our abilities for that day. Healthy people have a hard time understanding this. And sometimes we are so wrapped up in dealing with our health struggles that we don't have time or energy to focus on other people's problems. This can make it hard to maintain friendships. I think it might be easier being friends with a fellow Spooner, someone who has a better understanding of what our lives are like. That's one of many reasons I like your videos. You are bringing hope to so many people who feel alone and misunderstood. Here we can meet with others who share similar struggles, all while watching your awesome videos. You are such an inspiration to us grains! I hope your back is better.🙂🙃😺🙏
I think is similar to make friends at work. I have been working for 12 years and I just consider 3 people to be my friends. But since they changed to another country I lost contact. Sometimes I meet people and I want to be friends with them but something I have learn is that it has to be natural even if you want to be friend with somebody if that person doesn't let you in. it's impossible to be their friends. I thinks is because we are afraid to be vulnerable and let people easily in our hearts.
Hope your recovery is going well Jackie ❤️ thank you so much for having these prefilmed videos so we can have our dose of nerdecrafter
I think it's really silly to get so obsessed over a person's occupation. Being a RUclipsr or a movie star is no different from people who have office or retail jobs. Everyone still has to put on long hours and hardwork to get the job done. People no matter who they are should be treated with kindness and respect, and RUclipsr's and celeb's should be able to have friends without wondering if they are just getting used for their status. Honestly people like that are really cringe and probably don't make good friend's in general. I feel like if we knew each other in real life we'd get along well because we seem to have alot in common ranging from loving anime, books, crafts, games, philosophy. As well as it seems we've had similar traumas with ex people in our lives so I can fully relate when you have talked about that. I also deal with chronic pain having fibermyalgia and arthritis and also deal with epilepsy. And you doing your art keeps me inspired to fight through my bad days too.
On a lighter note if you never tried watermelon with a little bit of salt on it you should as it gives it this nice sweet and salty flavor. Also tomatoes with a bit of sugar is good too. Hope your day went better.
Hey jackie! its me again!! hope your feeling better by the day :) sorry that I can't buy your craft kit cause really cant afford it rn, but if it sells in the future maybe I'd purchase it! hope your healing well and sending lots of love from the Philippines!!
I think there are two kinds of youtubers...people who became popular as a result of sharing the thing they are passionate about and those who are just desperate to have an audience - no matter what. I think that is a good place to start when trying to size up possible friend material on youtube. I suspect that is why you get along with so many art channels and not the Mr. Beast types. Love your stuff, Jackie!
Oh that “friend” that took her other friend into your craft room after you said no is so WRONG! That feels like a violation!
What a lot of people fail to realize is that you can't make it big quick on RUclips. It takes time and effort. A lot of these big RUclipsrs have been at it for 10 or more years. It's about promotion on social media and adding the right tags for your videos, along with hard work, starting with one type of setup, and then slowly upgrading it, along with your editing software, and luck. It can make it very frustrating at times, but if you keep at it it's so fulfilling to see those numbers grow and know you did it all on your own.
I am a 44 y/o Puertorrican who absolutely loves everything Jackie/Sika/Angel/and now Pat. I got into polymer clay and resin crafting because of you when one of your videos just started playing one day. From the first video I ever watched from you I was instantly subscribed. Your vibe and overall personality got me hooked. Then you said you are a teacher, I’m a teacher too! Then eventually I met Sika and I fell in love with the way you guys are with each other. I found myself laughing with you guys and I love it. I look forward to whatever you come up with in the next video and I hope that sometime in my lifetime I have the pleasure to meet you and if I’m blessed, to be able to call you my friend. If you ever visit Florida let us grains know I’d love to walk around the malls in the hopes of being able to say: Hi Jackie! I’m an amerigrain! Don’t worry I’m not a students’ parent! 😂 With that said, I pray you are on the road to a swift recovery and that you are feeling great and continue to feel healthy so you can get back to the things you love, and continue being Salty Mother Grain! Love ya tons!!!
I've been thinking about this one-way relationship, and that is so strange... I don't have many friends and some of my favorite youtubers, including you Jackie, at one or other point started to feel as friends to the point when, e. g. I hear a good joke and just think "lol, Jackie will love it, I have to tell her". And then I have to remind myself that Jackie doesn't even know I exist and we'll never meet in person. If you think about it, that's so strange to regularly hang out with someone who will most probably never know you.
This is really relevant to me and so helpful. I really enjoy hearing these perspectives and history from you! And watching you and Pat together was cute :]
I love this, a wonderful couples podcast. Super cute, super fun, and something new. I love how Pat is very supportive and sweet
I think how you feel is normal...at least for me. Its also normal in any business that others will use you as Pat said...a stepping stone, I have always had a very small circle of friends, but most of them have been live long friends. I love you the way you are..xx this just ended, you two , so good. really, its like everyone is in the same room and on the same vibe. way to go
I love your podcast series! I feel like I get to know you better! 🖤 I hope you're feeling/doing better!
I know how you feel. I’m autistic and very guarded because I don’t always understand people’s intentions. I have the tiniest channel and will never be part of the RUclips world. I love your channels, and your relationships with Pat and Sika just blow me away. xxx
I’m kind of glad you guys talked about Kanadajin because I used to watch them when I was around 11-13 and I remember all that drama, I felt like it was all a dream lol
Hey Jackie!
Your sharing is touching me a lot. It's sounds a lot like my own story...I have 2 friends now but I don't think I had real friends ever... I discovered recently that I have ADHD and i'm a bit weird too 🤣 Friend keeping is so HARD! I feel very similar to you - introverted, artsy, a bit clumsy, nerdy (really a big nerd!) unfortunate health problems... I don't have a YT channel but I was used as a "faire-valoir" most of my life... So now, just know that if I could, I'd friend you so hard and do art with you - over discord, because going outside is HARD (lol) - just because it's nice sharing a passion with an awesome person
Thanks for being you - and a friendly and inspiring person to watch
I love these videos so much!! 💞 The stories, the wisdom you give us from the experiences, it makes my day!!!
I know that feeling of having toxic people in my life I dealt with it alot. And I think anyone would be lucky to have you and pat as friends you guys look like people who someone can have a long lasting friendship with
Sometimes people are not as they seem and it hurts. Just don't let it hurt your soul! Your a good person and artist
Such a great way to start my day. You guys are such an adorable couple. Thank you😍😎
Well I got my coffee this morning all ready :3