I'm thinking of the CinemaTherapy episode on "Good Will Hunting" and how Jono was giving props to Robin Williams' character for not immediately giving up on the title character. Sometimes a therapist isn't a good fit for many reasons, all listed in this video. That doesn't mean a therapist can afford to be dismissive or be childish/take rejection personally.
2:25 I had a therapist for 7 years, I got through countless suicide attempt BPD, adhd, and bipolar with him but now I need a therapist again to encourage me and help me figure out supporting my wife through her mental health and enforcing boundaries. Because I have so much rapport with him I feel that we would get far less done even though I’m working through getting to know a new therapist
This came at a perfect time, I've recently been feeling I need to stop seeing my therapist of 7 years after repressing the feelings that our values don't align in certain areas. They are wonderful in helping with other things but implicitly seeing our conflicting values and understandings on certain topics has me feeling it's time to switch. I just feared possibly upsetting my therapist (out of my past issues, not because they are easily upset), so I appreciate a professional's insight on this. Thank you!
"Punching out" of your work is so important. I was a severe workaholic up until about two years ago. After some serious self-reflection, I noticed that I was constantly thinking about work, even on days when nothing was actually going to go wrong. I ended up leaving the position that I was in for one where my job can literally only be done at work so that I could also learn how to turn off my "work brain." I'm glad I did. For now, I feel like I can go back to a job in the future where it could be a risk, but I can actually manage myself better to separate my time ❤.
How would encourage someone to “persevere” in their “quest” to find a new therapist if they had a traumatic first session with their last attempt with a new therapist? (Person I’m encouraging is cptsd/autistic patient who had a therapist try to pry the trauma out of them on the first session)
I'm a therapist and I had a great therapist for years who retired. I've since tried to replace her with 20 plus others and they all contributed to the downfall of my mental health. I'm now on the spiritual path
I have done a Little therapy and so far I haven’t found one that I felt connected to or really felt even remotely comfortable with. The last one I had was nice and she knew what she was talking about, but her personality was too different for me. It also felt weird because it would take her a couple minutes for Her to process what I would say. It was awkward because it’d be silence while she was processing. It probably works for her and her other clients but with my adhd, it takes me out of the setting when I have to wait for the therapist to think and process. I also was put off when she’d say “I’m empathic and can Feel what you feel”. Ummm I always feel it’s weird when people announce that and for me, it’s a big turn off as a personality trait. Some people Truly are an empath, but from experience, the ones who broadcast it are Not. Sooo that went nowhere essentially. I did couples counseling Many years ago and the therapist would side with my now ex every single time, no matter what the issue was. I have not had good experiences with any of it in my life. So I deal as best I can.
I wonder. I feel ok, often hopeful with my therapist. What I miss are actual tasks and taught skills like if I was in school and learned a lesson and got homework afterwards. Is that how it's supposed to work?
That was great thank u very much but i have a question. My connection with my therapist is just fine and its working i guess in some ways but its fine . I mean its not that great bonding. I wanna know is this okay? How much feeling love and respect from me toward my therapist is ok? Im sorry aboit my english advanced 😅
How do I know if the challenges my therapist proposes for me, is appropriate for my situation? I keep hearing the same proposal for something for me to do and I am making progress on attempting to do, but him repeating it to me every week is getting frustrating.
In Germany you need not to pay for Therapie, but it is almost impossible to get an appointment when you are not completely flexible with your timeshedule because of worktimes for example. And if you have the chance it is like you appley for a job. You sit there knowing the therapist has the choice between you and hundreds of others clients,while you have almost just that chance for an appointment with a therapist. So you start talking about the reason why you need help, which is most of the time hard stuff to deal with and you are talking to a stranger who looks at you knowing that he/she doesn't need you as a client. And almost for sure you will get an negative answer that he/she desides for somebody else. So you start again. That is just hurtful
Oh OK or you pay like in many countries 70 - 100 euro/h wich is not better. But than you have a better chance. And if you feel that you are so miserable that you can't work, so very late in progress of dealing with your issues, you perhaps will get an appointment earlier.
When they spy on your social media to find a reason to dump you while your loved one is dying. Yeah, I should have reported her. Would have if I had an ounce of emotional energy left.
If anyone ever needed proof that parenting is hard, this guy has literally ALL the tools and he still thinks it's hard. Kids are tricky. Don't be too hard on yourself.
Start with 100 candidates. Ask for their most recent professional publication. That might get you down to 20. Eliminate the ones that site popular studies that are barely statistically significant. That should get you down to 3. Go see the three and pick one based on your needs.
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I'm thinking of the CinemaTherapy episode on "Good Will Hunting" and how Jono was giving props to Robin Williams' character for not immediately giving up on the title character. Sometimes a therapist isn't a good fit for many reasons, all listed in this video. That doesn't mean a therapist can afford to be dismissive or be childish/take rejection personally.
2:25 I had a therapist for 7 years, I got through countless suicide attempt BPD, adhd, and bipolar with him but now I need a therapist again to encourage me and help me figure out supporting my wife through her mental health and enforcing boundaries. Because I have so much rapport with him I feel that we would get far less done even though I’m working through getting to know a new therapist
This came at a perfect time, I've recently been feeling I need to stop seeing my therapist of 7 years after repressing the feelings that our values don't align in certain areas. They are wonderful in helping with other things but implicitly seeing our conflicting values and understandings on certain topics has me feeling it's time to switch. I just feared possibly upsetting my therapist (out of my past issues, not because they are easily upset), so I appreciate a professional's insight on this. Thank you!
Commenting for the algorithm, because I appreciate your work!
"Punching out" of your work is so important. I was a severe workaholic up until about two years ago. After some serious self-reflection, I noticed that I was constantly thinking about work, even on days when nothing was actually going to go wrong. I ended up leaving the position that I was in for one where my job can literally only be done at work so that I could also learn how to turn off my "work brain." I'm glad I did. For now, I feel like I can go back to a job in the future where it could be a risk, but I can actually manage myself better to separate my time ❤.
Well it’s somehow comforting to know even the family experts have trouble dealing with parenthood. 😂 thanks for answering that!
How would encourage someone to “persevere” in their “quest” to find a new therapist if they had a traumatic first session with their last attempt with a new therapist?
(Person I’m encouraging is cptsd/autistic patient who had a therapist try to pry the trauma out of them on the first session)
Should have reported my first therapist since she was telling me things about my older brother’s sessions and breaking confidentiality nonchalantly
I'm a therapist and I had a great therapist for years who retired. I've since tried to replace her with 20 plus others and they all contributed to the downfall of my mental health. I'm now on the spiritual path
The audio is much better, less echoey 👍
I have done a Little therapy and so far I haven’t found one that I felt connected to or really felt even remotely comfortable with. The last one I had was nice and she knew what she was talking about, but her personality was too different for me. It also felt weird because it would take her a couple minutes for Her to process what I would say. It was awkward because it’d be silence while she was processing. It probably works for her and her other clients but with my adhd, it takes me out of the setting when I have to wait for the therapist to think and process. I also was put off when she’d say “I’m empathic and can Feel what you feel”. Ummm I always feel it’s weird when people announce that and for me, it’s a big turn off as a personality trait. Some people Truly are an empath, but from experience, the ones who broadcast it are Not. Sooo that went nowhere essentially. I did couples counseling Many years ago and the therapist would side with my now ex every single time, no matter what the issue was. I have not had good experiences with any of it in my life. So I deal as best I can.
When the psychiatrist prescribes enough drugs to put you in a coma is a big red flag to leave.
Thank you for this. This is really helping to make the switch I’ve been putting off.
Best video ever.
I wonder. I feel ok, often hopeful with my therapist. What I miss are actual tasks and taught skills like if I was in school and learned a lesson and got homework afterwards. Is that how it's supposed to work?
can you do silco and jinx please????
That was great thank u very much but i have a question. My connection with my therapist is just fine and its working i guess in some ways but its fine . I mean its not that great bonding. I wanna know is this okay? How much feeling love and respect from me toward my therapist is ok? Im sorry aboit my english advanced 😅
How do I know if the challenges my therapist proposes for me, is appropriate for my situation? I keep hearing the same proposal for something for me to do and I am making progress on attempting to do, but him repeating it to me every week is getting frustrating.
It doesn't when your therapist fails to manage countertransference
I received a phone call from Mending Light but they hung up and didn't call me back?
In Germany you need not to pay for Therapie, but it is almost impossible to get an appointment when you are not completely flexible with your timeshedule because of worktimes for example. And if you have the chance it is like you appley for a job. You sit there knowing the therapist has the choice between you and hundreds of others clients,while you have almost just that chance for an appointment with a therapist. So you start talking about the reason why you need help, which is most of the time hard stuff to deal with and you are talking to a stranger who looks at you knowing that he/she doesn't need you as a client. And almost for sure you will get an negative answer that he/she desides for somebody else. So you start again. That is just hurtful
Oh OK or you pay like in many countries 70 - 100 euro/h wich is not better. But than you have a better chance. And if you feel that you are so miserable that you can't work, so very late in progress of dealing with your issues, you perhaps will get an appointment earlier.
When they spy on your social media to find a reason to dump you while your loved one is dying. Yeah, I should have reported her. Would have if I had an ounce of emotional energy left.
How would you know if it’s a “no pain no gain” situation?
If anyone ever needed proof that parenting is hard, this guy has literally ALL the tools and he still thinks it's hard. Kids are tricky. Don't be too hard on yourself.
Start with 100 candidates. Ask for their most recent professional publication. That might get you down to 20. Eliminate the ones that site popular studies that are barely statistically significant. That should get you down to 3. Go see the three and pick one based on your needs.
Also consider a pastor.