You are so correct. I have a cousin who does this to me. Leaves me out of family functions, says snide remarks to me in front of other's. I just stay away. She hardly says hi to me at church
When I told a narcissist “this isn’t up for discussion “ she started yelling “you aren’t listening to me “. She couldn’t handle she had no control over me
The hate the fact that you do everything in your power to live an authentic life, go about things the proper way while acknowledging your own limitations yet they dance over both sides of the law and ethics and are surprised when they get caught in their own b.s. They hate to see you content with your life because they aren't content with your own so they ruin everything for you for their own pleasure.
Pls refer someone to help me I am 78, I’ve been married to a Covert Narcissist for 42 yrs, an Attorney!!! No lawyers nor judges in Dallas/Fort Worth understand Narcissism nor do they respect the ramifications I have lost my ability to walk (4 yrs ago I ran 6 mi/day 6 days/wk), I have lost my finances and properties acquired before marriage, my mothers bank account (240,000), my emotional well being and confidence and I have no family The judge has sanctioned me on introducing evidence, expert witnesses, or speaking about infidelity, abuse, or anything relating to those topics . HELP🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Simple: They see something in you that the don't have and likely never will. Consequently, they want to either destroy it or control it for their selfish purpose.
I’m starting to see finally! 11 years and I’m dying! He always seems to hate me! But I have a question for you janetlong22, I am losing my cool so bad because I’m trying too hard to get him to see his part! I’m looking Like the lunatic! I can’t take it
Learning more about narcs, it's a bit much to call it hate and anger. That kind of talk definitely doesn't help people trying to cope, recover, and heal. They're a tornado that hit people's lives and just like one hitting our house, we wouldn't go chasing it down for an apology. Tornado's happen and even when they're unexpected, they happen. Too many emotional labels get attached when we talk about their actions and motivations. Those are our biases talking. As much as we say don' take it personal, we have to call their actions something. We end up here with those closest interpretations of anger, hate, malice, etc. If we understand them like water is wet, they are the way they are, why get into their emotional state and motives? They're survival instincts/traits with a will of their own. If they're incapable of things like compassion or empathy at any willful level, then do they even understand those lower emotions they're feeling, if they're feeling at all since that's the thing they cannot do. They're like AI executing functions, errors manifest as mild to wild tantrums or anger. I don't say this to excuse anything, currently watching a covert narc in my life deteriorate.
@@niveditakodlimath4448 If it's all they know or are capable of in a literal sense then it their actions and motives can't be how it's typical called or even how we perceive it.
So True. This personality is very insecure and fear transparency. Integrity and personal authenticity triggers their resentment because of jealousy and inadequacy. Then the gaslight behavior revs up. Pettiness and resentment rears in each time spent with them. Walk away, let them be....violation of boundaries.....toxic
When I was 40 years-old I told my narcissist father 'Stop trying to control my life' and he said 'Don't talk like that.' He thought I was born to serve him. Narcissists think people are born to serve them.
I experienced the shift when I refused to let a coworker blackmail me for money. Can you do more on how they’re the strongest right before they give up? Because I feel like there’s a small percentage of the time where the person doesn’t give up. I see the true crime about how people will do terrible things for revenge when they feel a narcissist injury and even murder! How do you know and protect yourself? How do you know when it really is dangerous and time to leave? I guess it boils down to gut instinct sometimes. But the narcissist really attacks the gut instinct with gaslighting.
Now I understand why my Narc goes into a rage,throwing a temper tantrum!! She is 45 and any time I call her out, she screams at the top of her lungs,THEN says, " don't talk to me"! I finally figured out that's how she regains control !
I was fired "parted ways" with my former job. I saw the red flags the 1st month being there Fast forward 2 yrs later, I was terminated. I didn't quit B4 because I knew the company had to either pay me every 2 weeks or by unemployment! I have peace that I'm away from the toxic environment.
This was absolutely tremendous Rebecca, Thank you so much for this, You're very passionate, I like that about you, You're absolutely beautiful, A treasure to humanity, Keep shinning light :-) Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory praise and smiles to the most high :-)
He always put me down and insulting me what I do and lower my self esteem .But I know im not like what my ex narc said ,It hurts and made me so low but I know it's not true and I'm not like that. The way I did I know it hurts but my own self that should not bothered what he they said because I know myself.fighting my own self that im good on what I do.
I had a workplace bully. For years. Mind you, I decided that I was going to quit soon because I wanted to move out of state. One day, this bulky said to me "I'm going to get you fired". I told her "good! Then you can have my job"! She turned the situation around and tried to make it funny. "No way"! My last couple of weeks there were then peaceful.
@@seameology I had something like THat happen between my brother-in-law and me. He is jealous THat I am majority owner, and tries to control me. He once threats ed me and say “ go ahead hit me or beat me up, and I will have you reported back to Australia or Columbia from the United States.” He knew he could not touch me.
I don't care why she attached herself to me. I don't need to be extra special. I was fooled and then i saw through the mask and i asserted a boundary. I'm autonomous and that drives her absolutely nuts. Relentless passive aggressive manipulation for years, and this was a casual friendship. I maintain boundaries and that's right, her problem is I won't submit.
Yes, grandparents who are not related to the Narassist miss out seeing visiting or even messaging their grandchildren. Their mother the narc has control over their phones too! Very sad.... in Australia too!
I had a friend who, whenever I asked how she was, she would always say good. One day, I said man you always say you're good. I had a dream she was wearing a mask to make me believe what she was saying but in reality she is old and struggling.
I wondered why an ex-narc of mine wanted my deceased mother's expired licence. He said he wanted a picture of my mother. I told him I have a stack of pics of my mom that were much better than a driver's licence photo. He had nothing to say after that. Weird, right?!
I when out with this woman on a business meeting, l paid for the dinner it was About $60.00 dollars, l handed the waitress a 100 dollar bill. And this woman told her to keep the change, l look at her and said no. Then a few days later she ask me with a blessing it would be if l remove and replace her entire roof. The reward that God would give me in return. I responded then you do it. Then a few weeks later l told her a secret and she told that person what l said to be true. Then the final one, was when she told me… that l was the one with the problems since l have very little friends 😂 your thoughts ❤
My daughter in law holds her children (grandchildren) away from me. She won't let the grandchildren come over, I have to go to their house only... Now she doesn't let them call us. Its my job to make the time for them. Its her punishment to me. She knows how much my family means to me. She was my friend for over 10 years, once she hooked my son, its all my fault.
Make sure you are giving your son and his wife their boudaries and not interfering with everything they do as a family.. husband and wife become one flesh once they get married … and make up their own family apart from the one they came from.. no daughter in law wouldn’t let her children see their grandmother or be around her for too long, if the grandma is normal and an empath and not actual narcissistic.. so check within and see where things went working on your end.. and not just blame the daughter in law.. there must be a valid reason why she is the way she is with you. (This is coming from a daughter in law of a full blown narcissist mother in law.)..
@@parinazaz4044 My daughter in law is narcissistic. I understand the "own family" thing. Since my daughter in law married my oldest son, she has targeted family members then blame my husband and I. Ever her mother says she is narcissistic.
That is what our XDL does to us! We also get sms back from our grandchildren with her words not allowing kids to answer! Lucky you get to see your grandchildren we haven't seen them for 9months? Terrible people!
So true. They dominate, manipulate and gaslight then put the blame and hatred on others. I am choosing being authentic over any narc connections.
Once they feel the sense of losing control of you, the evil faces appear.
My gosh narcissists are strange aren't they.... very odd behaviours
That they are
You are so correct. I have a cousin who does this to me. Leaves me out of family functions, says snide remarks to me in front of other's. I just stay away. She hardly says hi to me at church
My sibling takes me to court and try's to make me look bad ... I Took care of our Mother until her passing and now I'm the bad son... sad..
@@lorenzoscirocco9873 😞🙏❣️
"I don't hate you," is what she would say, yet her actions all spoke hate loud and clear.
When I told a narcissist “this isn’t up for discussion “ she started yelling “you aren’t listening to me “. She couldn’t handle she had no control over me
I would say jealousy
The hate the fact that you do everything in your power to live an authentic life, go about things the proper way while acknowledging your own limitations yet they dance over both sides of the law and ethics and are surprised when they get caught in their own b.s.
They hate to see you content with your life because they aren't content with your own so they ruin everything for you for their own pleasure.
I believe “jealousy” is the worst and most dangerous emotion
Pls refer someone to help me I am 78, I’ve been married to a Covert Narcissist for 42 yrs, an Attorney!!! No lawyers nor judges in Dallas/Fort Worth understand Narcissism nor do they respect the ramifications I have lost my ability to walk (4 yrs ago I ran 6 mi/day 6 days/wk), I have lost my finances and properties acquired before marriage, my mothers bank account (240,000), my emotional well being and confidence and I have no family
The judge has sanctioned me on introducing evidence, expert witnesses, or speaking about infidelity, abuse, or anything relating to those topics . HELP🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Simple: They see something in you that the don't have and likely never will.
Consequently, they want to either destroy it or control it for their selfish purpose.
This is where I’m at. It’s happening. So true.
It doesn't get better.
I could write a book about my exe husband who is the narcissist. Control, anger, absolutely. Everything you are saying are right on. 😢
How do I get the “lines to use” with a narcissist?
I’m starting to see finally! 11 years and I’m dying! He always seems to hate me! But I have a question for you janetlong22, I am losing my cool so bad because I’m trying too hard to get him to see his part! I’m looking Like the lunatic! I can’t take it
I feel like I’m trying so hard to get this man to see his part and 99% of the time it’s ALL ME
I’d like to know if there’s a self help group to get us out of this properly!?
Learning more about narcs, it's a bit much to call it hate and anger. That kind of talk definitely doesn't help people trying to cope, recover, and heal. They're a tornado that hit people's lives and just like one hitting our house, we wouldn't go chasing it down for an apology. Tornado's happen and even when they're unexpected, they happen. Too many emotional labels get attached when we talk about their actions and motivations. Those are our biases talking. As much as we say don' take it personal, we have to call their actions something. We end up here with those closest interpretations of anger, hate, malice, etc.
If we understand them like water is wet, they are the way they are, why get into their emotional state and motives? They're survival instincts/traits with a will of their own. If they're incapable of things like compassion or empathy at any willful level, then do they even understand those lower emotions they're feeling, if they're feeling at all since that's the thing they cannot do. They're like AI executing functions, errors manifest as mild to wild tantrums or anger. I don't say this to excuse anything, currently watching a covert narc in my life deteriorate.
Perfectly put.
@@niveditakodlimath4448 If it's all they know or are capable of in a literal sense then it their actions and motives can't be how it's typical called or even how we perceive it.
So True. This personality is very insecure and fear transparency. Integrity and personal authenticity triggers their resentment because of jealousy and inadequacy. Then the gaslight behavior revs up. Pettiness and resentment rears in each time spent with them. Walk away, let them be....violation of boundaries.....toxic
When I was 40 years-old I told my narcissist father 'Stop trying to control my life' and he said 'Don't talk like that.' He thought I was born to serve him. Narcissists think people are born to serve them.
What you are saying is true in my life. You give me clarity and you empower me.
I experienced the shift when I refused to let a coworker blackmail me for money. Can you do more on how they’re the strongest right before they give up? Because I feel like there’s a small percentage of the time where the person doesn’t give up. I see the true crime about how people will do terrible things for revenge when they feel a narcissist injury and even murder! How do you know and protect yourself? How do you know when it really is dangerous and time to leave? I guess it boils down to gut instinct sometimes. But the narcissist really attacks the gut instinct with gaslighting.
Hi Rebecca from UK ❤
Those narcs also have authenticity just to harm others
SO TRUE. Dealt with it today.
Now I understand why my Narc goes into a rage,throwing a temper tantrum!! She is 45 and any time I call her out, she screams at the top of her lungs,THEN says, " don't talk to me"! I finally figured out that's how she regains control !
I could not see it, but my friends and family sure did!
They hate you for the things they "loved" you for.
@@jaialaiwarrior MAN!!! My ex told me she loved me and hated me for the good qualities I have all in the same sentence. Confused tf outta me.
I was fired "parted ways" with my former job. I saw the red flags the 1st month being there
Fast forward 2 yrs later, I was terminated. I didn't quit B4 because I knew the company had to either pay me every 2 weeks or by unemployment! I have peace that I'm away from the toxic environment.
I've dealt with most of this stuff. There is no winning. And when I finally stood my ground and wouldn't be controlled anymore, she left me.
You are sooooo better off without her. Being codependent sucks.
@@larrythrasher9713 Thank you. I realize that now after holding on for a long time.
So true!
This was absolutely tremendous Rebecca, Thank you so much for this, You're very passionate, I like that about you, You're absolutely beautiful, A treasure to humanity, Keep shinning light :-) Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory praise and smiles to the most high :-)
So true!
Thank you!
Yes I have experienced that training to get out till this day
I believe they truly hate you because you are everything they wish they could be and lots of them resent you for actually needing you.
He always put me down and insulting me what I do and lower my self esteem .But I know im not like what my ex narc said ,It hurts and made me so low but I know it's not true and I'm not like that. The way I did I know it hurts but my own self that should not bothered what he they said because I know myself.fighting my own self that im good on what I do.
I had a workplace bully. For years. Mind you, I decided that I was going to quit soon because I wanted to move out of state. One day, this bulky said to me "I'm going to get you fired". I told her "good! Then you can have my job"! She turned the situation around and tried to make it funny. "No way"! My last couple of weeks there were then peaceful.
@@seameology I had something like THat happen between my brother-in-law and me.
He is jealous THat I am majority owner, and tries to control me. He once threats ed me and say “ go ahead hit me or beat me up, and I will have you reported back to Australia or Columbia from the United States.” He knew he could not touch me.
Soooo Truuuue!
So true
Great stuff. You’re awesome.
Thank you Rebecca for all that you do, so true ❤🙏🙌
I’m saving your videos so I can watch again okay.
Sooo True 😊
Soooo True!!!!
Dealing with a malignant narcissist. "So true" Yes it is like dealing with a three year old...
True
I don't care why she attached herself to me. I don't need to be extra special. I was fooled and then i saw through the mask and i asserted a boundary. I'm autonomous and that drives her absolutely nuts. Relentless passive aggressive manipulation for years, and this was a casual friendship. I maintain boundaries and that's right, her problem is I won't submit.
Her anger is honestly comical for me 😂 its hilarious seeing a 40 year old woman with a complete lack of control of their emotions
Yes it is
I was talking to someone today that i dont know why but Narsist really hate me for some reasom lol... Ty
Truth 💯
It's like literally dealing with a grown man child. A three year old...
Bang on Rebecca…! 👌🏼💥 😇
3:41-3:43 "SO TRUE!!!"
When narcissists get mad at me, I take it as a compliment. I know they’re angry just because I won’t let them manipulate and control me.
@@Sheisme120 goals
@@neesaljohnson86 right!💯🎤
Love this video 😎 Thank you Rebecca 🏁🏁🏁
Very true.
So true rebecca
I love you so much Laura Zung!!!!🩵🩵🩵
Sotrue
So true!!!
SO damn true
So so true ❤
DARVO DANG
The cutest person!
SO TRUE
So true ❤
HELP..
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Narrissist are always so dysfunctional.
I need grandparents rights help in Central Ohio
Yes, grandparents who are not related to the Narassist miss out seeing visiting or even messaging their grandchildren. Their mother the narc has control over their phones too!
Very sad.... in Australia too!
I had a friend who, whenever I asked how she was, she would always say good. One day, I said man you always say you're good. I had a dream she was wearing a mask to make me believe what she was saying but in reality she is old and struggling.
I have narcissist for u i been dealing with divorce for Over 9 yrs now He played every trick in the book
Where r u located ty
Over 14 years here. Lost everything
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they are so gross !!!! so true
How do I get that
Why would he ask me for a copy of my license?
I wondered why an ex-narc of mine wanted my deceased mother's expired licence. He said he wanted a picture of my mother. I told him I have a stack of pics of my mom that were much better than a driver's licence photo. He had nothing to say after that.
Weird, right?!
I when out with this woman on a business meeting, l paid for the dinner it was About $60.00 dollars, l handed the waitress a 100 dollar bill. And this woman told her to keep the change, l look at her and said no. Then a few days later she ask me with a blessing it would be if l remove and replace her entire roof. The reward that God would give me in return. I responded then you do it. Then a few weeks later l told her a secret and she told that person what l said to be true. Then the final one, was when she told me… that l was the one with the problems since l have very little friends 😂 your thoughts ❤
My ex
My daughter in law holds her children (grandchildren) away from me. She won't let the grandchildren come over, I have to go to their house only... Now she doesn't let them call us. Its my job to make the time for them. Its her punishment to me. She knows how much my family means to me. She was my friend for over 10 years, once she hooked my son, its all my fault.
Make sure you are giving your son and his wife their boudaries and not interfering with everything they do as a family.. husband and wife become one flesh once they get married … and make up their own family apart from the one they came from.. no daughter in law wouldn’t let her children see their grandmother or be around her for too long, if the grandma is normal and an empath and not actual narcissistic.. so check within and see where things went working on your end.. and not just blame the daughter in law.. there must be a valid reason why she is the way she is with you. (This is coming from a daughter in law of a full blown narcissist mother in law.)..
@@parinazaz4044 My daughter in law is narcissistic. I understand the "own family" thing. Since my daughter in law married my oldest son, she has targeted family members then blame my husband and I. Ever her mother says she is narcissistic.
That is what our XDL does to us! We also get sms back from our grandchildren with her words not allowing kids to answer!
Lucky you get to see your grandchildren we haven't seen them for 9months? Terrible people!
11:40 your power either is from Satan🤘or your power is from God ♥️
My boss ran a smear campaign on me
He took my job away 😮I'm going to be homeless
The yelling in the vid was a bit triggering...🤣
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Why are there so many rats in my business 😢😢😢😢😢😢
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