Anxiety and depression weigh us down , mornings are the worse. I took bold action yesterday and managed to go grocery shopping , congratulated myself for doing this.
A little breakthrough moment I had thanks to a very cute dog… I was walking in woods the other day and saw a very cute and fluffy small dog stopped, pooping. The poor mite had diarrhea which the owner was valiantly trying to pick up. Apparently she, the dog, had been badly spooked up the trail by some kids throwing bangers on the ground and that why her stomach was upset. The owner pointed out that her tail was down, and normally it’s up and wagging on walks. It struck me… Big reminder that fear causes physical symptoms (upset stomach in her case) and that is NORMAL! All people, and many animals, experience this. Fear/stress causes everything from feeling a bit queasy to heart attacks. The body’s alarm systems are a totally normal function that we don’t usually worry about. All that’s happened to us is those alarm systems have got a bit too enthusiastic. First, they’re over-sensitive, going off in response to normal things that shouldn’t trigger them, but we can retrain them to forget those associations. Secondly, the bells have become set too loud - our symptoms are more colourful than normal. Most importantly, we’re setting them off and keeping them ringing loud with our fear. This reminder that it’s just a normal system that I’ve trained badly but can fix helped with my fear that day. As for the doggo, she was going to be scared till she was out of those woods. But the owner will keep bringing her there, and at first she might be a bit nervous but in time she’ll feel safe there again. Her body will learn that the woods aren’t scary! They just became inadvertently associated with fear. As for me, I spent much of last year housebound with symptoms and, more importantly, fear. Now I’m walking a few miles in those woods every day! I’ve only reclaimed the nice, non-stressful things in life like those walks so far, but I’m a work in progress and enormously grateful for how far I’ve come.
I decided I want to do yoga and I am doing it. I committed by buying the yoga mat and blocks. It was difficult the first few weeks, but I am really enjoying "this bold action". Dan's calm reassurance script on page 128 of his book is helpful as you try new things.
Yes, I totally agree that this is an answer. But.... if you have severe anxiety, for instance, and doing whatever the activity is sparks a big panic attack, telling yourself it's just the brain isn't going to cut it. The effects are going to be so distressing it's going to be hard to make yourself do it again. The easier option is to avoid doing it. I'm not saying that avoidance is a better option, or should be an option at all. But a realistic acceptance of what a severe panic attack involves for someone would be useful too. It's not just a bit of discomfort and a few butterflies in the stomach. Sometimes 'bold' action isn't the answer. Sometimes it has to be slowly slowly for it to be possible at all.
I hear what you are saying Kate. I believe Dan was talking about taking a daring action, to face the fear, like Phil did when his coach told him to go out for a meal with his wife. I know what it is like to have panic attacks. They are not nice. They are caused by overwhelming emotions. I also think Dan was saying to be bold with your actions even if it is one step at a time. I love your comments Kate. Have a peaceful day.
Yes, I think leading with love and compassion for ourself and our body is important. Not pushing through when it feels wrong. Getting to know the language of our body is key and responding with love ( like the love of a parent - who knows what is best for the child- sometimes it’s a bold move and so it’s not)
'You can conquer almost anything if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind.' Dale Carnegie. 'Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause of fear.' Norman Vincent Peale.
@Inge508 I have been reading their books again. I have had them for a long time. I love them. They are so inspiring. They help me get through the challenging days. Have an amazing day Inge. 💛 🙏💞
Anxiety and depression weigh us down , mornings are the worse. I took bold action yesterday and managed to go grocery shopping , congratulated myself for doing this.
A little breakthrough moment I had thanks to a very cute dog…
I was walking in woods the other day and saw a very cute and fluffy small dog stopped, pooping. The poor mite had diarrhea which the owner was valiantly trying to pick up. Apparently she, the dog, had been badly spooked up the trail by some kids throwing bangers on the ground and that why her stomach was upset. The owner pointed out that her tail was down, and normally it’s up and wagging on walks.
It struck me… Big reminder that fear causes physical symptoms (upset stomach in her case) and that is NORMAL! All people, and many animals, experience this. Fear/stress causes everything from feeling a bit queasy to heart attacks. The body’s alarm systems are a totally normal function that we don’t usually worry about.
All that’s happened to us is those alarm systems have got a bit too enthusiastic. First, they’re over-sensitive, going off in response to normal things that shouldn’t trigger them, but we can retrain them to forget those associations. Secondly, the bells have become set too loud - our symptoms are more colourful than normal. Most importantly, we’re setting them off and keeping them ringing loud with our fear.
This reminder that it’s just a normal system that I’ve trained badly but can fix helped with my fear that day.
As for the doggo, she was going to be scared till she was out of those woods. But the owner will keep bringing her there, and at first she might be a bit nervous but in time she’ll feel safe there again. Her body will learn that the woods aren’t scary! They just became inadvertently associated with fear.
As for me, I spent much of last year housebound with symptoms and, more importantly, fear. Now I’m walking a few miles in those woods every day! I’ve only reclaimed the nice, non-stressful things in life like those walks so far, but I’m a work in progress and enormously grateful for how far I’ve come.
I decided I want to do yoga and I am doing it. I committed by buying the yoga mat and blocks. It was difficult the first few weeks, but I am really enjoying "this bold action". Dan's calm reassurance script on page 128 of his book is helpful as you try new things.
Your daily videos are such a calming corner stone in my recovery Dan! I am so gratefull for you, your journey and the way you are❤
Thank you ❤
We might as well do the thing. Love it ❤
Yes, I totally agree that this is an answer. But.... if you have severe anxiety, for instance, and doing whatever the activity is sparks a big panic attack, telling yourself it's just the brain isn't going to cut it. The effects are going to be so distressing it's going to be hard to make yourself do it again. The easier option is to avoid doing it. I'm not saying that avoidance is a better option, or should be an option at all. But a realistic acceptance of what a severe panic attack involves for someone would be useful too. It's not just a bit of discomfort and a few butterflies in the stomach. Sometimes 'bold' action isn't the answer. Sometimes it has to be slowly slowly for it to be possible at all.
I hear what you are saying Kate. I believe Dan was talking about taking a daring action, to face the fear, like Phil did when his coach told him to go out for a meal with his wife. I know what it is like to have panic attacks. They are not nice.
They are caused by overwhelming emotions. I also think Dan was saying to be bold with your actions even if it is one step at a time. I love your comments Kate. Have a peaceful day.
Yes, I think leading with love and compassion for ourself and our body is important. Not pushing through when it feels wrong. Getting to know the language of our body is key and responding with love ( like the love of a parent - who knows what is best for the child- sometimes it’s a bold move and so it’s not)
I do think we need to calm or settle ourselves first before the bold can be worked on. baby steps.
God bless you ❤
Thanks 🙏
'You can conquer almost anything if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind.'
Dale Carnegie.
'Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence.
Inaction is not only the result, but the cause of fear.'
Norman Vincent Peale.
Love those quotes ! Thanks Susie ❤🙏👍
@Inge508
I have been reading
their books again. I have had them for a long time. I love them. They are so inspiring.
They help me get through the challenging days. Have an amazing day Inge. 💛 🙏💞
@@SusieV59you too !🥰🙋♀️🍀🏡📕
Thanks Dan, a timely one for me with a trip coming up next weekend. I’ve been making ‘valid’ excuses as to why I really can’t go. 🙈
Bold gets you GOLD
Possible isn't probable