When YOU Weren't Enough... What 'The Skittles Man' Understands, Men Don't.
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Don't marry, don't cohabitate, don't impregnate. 40 year marriages 67 percent divorce rate.
This is spot-on.
When a woman is ‘in lust’ with a Chad-there’s nothing her dumbass won’t do for him. Then come the delicious tears of “where have all the good men gone”, arriving far too late in her self-serving life-right before cat-collecting and further bad decisions commence.
This is a vicious cycle, it has become unforgiving, and Feminism is to blame for all their problems.
I remember the skittles ads when i was a kid. Such a funny yet accurate analogy. Just pop up give the bare minimum and MOST DEFINITELY DO NOT EXPLAIN ANYTHING, and leave for no reason don't stay around for too long she will get used to you and get bored and want a new fantasy
24 year marriage ended when she told me that she just wanted to be friends - and, yeah, I was the guy that did everything and gave her everything - tried to keep her. Never again.
Time for me to focus on my goals, my purpose, and my life.
bingo, I never married and it took me TOO long to figure that out....F em I'm doing what I need to do and if they don't want me, no sweat off my back.
Flush the toilet brother
Sure way to make a woman miserable, giver her everything she wants.
I'm sorry about that
You should done that the first time...focused on youself and not her.😂
If a woman blocks you, be thankful you don't have to deal with her ever again.
Well, at least until she gets knocked up and abandoned, then she'll remember him when raising a kid as a single mom gets too tough...
Blessing when she disappears. That's the universe looking over you 😮
@@yellowquantum4240 Exactly 😀
She's doing you a favor.
They usually unblock you, send 20 delusional text paragraphs that are based in fantasy and lies, and then block again before you can respond, if you even choose to respond.
She did you a big favor. Women are never happy and have long list of expectations, always moving the goal post. Rich is 100% correct
Most women are unhappy with themselves anyway, they make it your job to make them happy.
Her list of expectations can be very short... "if"... she has GBD for you.
Her list of expectations comes with a transactional mindset. As a man, you don't want to go there.
@@mbg9650 yeah granted my relationships don't last very long but the girls I did date I didn't have to do anything for them they did everything for me without me asking. If I wanted to smash I knew I could smash but half the time just don't care. I've even told a chick no once because she refused to take off her shirt so I'm like I'm not banging you then. She's like "no guy has ever told me no" well this one did cause I don't need sex its very easy for me to say no and if you can say no or not let them try to punish you with it you come to realize they don't really have that a lot of power. Lol
@@mbg9650sadly the only ones that get gbd is the hot chads
When we train dogs, we initially reward them with small treats. But over time, the treat is removed and the new reward is just our praise. We want the dog to work for human attention. Once the the dog works for praise and attention, it has become a bonded member of a team that desires work and human companionship. Same goes for human children: Give them too much stuff and you’ll create a self-centered disaster. Reinforce good behavior with praise and you’ll more likely get a confident and good kid. Now I’ll say it out loud: women are no different.
I agree with you 100%
They say women mature earlier than men yet for the vast majority of women their brains never matured past the teenage state which is why women are essentially children, making it very plausible to agree with your final statement 😅
Women are children with breasts
Hear hear
Not interested in training an adult. Sounds manipulative too.
Sadly most men will never experience a lady that is so into him, he is just a placeholder for her.
I've experienced it, but she was massively obese. I'm normal weight btw. It's only been...'yeah, you'll do for a bit' from women since then.
😅 💯
Jocko Willink has a short clip. In it he explains that "she's not the girl you built her up to be in your head!" and he's right. Like Rich always says. We need to stop putting these women on pedestals. When you treat her like a celebrity, she'll treat you like a fan.
I was told this at a very young age and it works like a charm "You don't pick girls they pick you" If she is not attracted to you don't bother with them. What you can do is improve yourself get in shape have something to show for.
And it’s true 100%. Every good relationship I’ve had the woman chased me and chose me.
True and when another option comes. They will jump onto the next best thing.
LOL LOL as someone who worked in bars and was musician as well, i saw this sooooooooo many times and all the women i ever ran with picked me because i never chased any of them they approached me, if they dont want you they use you and a guy i worked with went to bars and would complain that he spent money and got nothing, i told him just sit someplace and look around and if you find a female staring at you then approach her, when he started doing this he had lots of results, THEY PICK YOU NOT YOU THEM THATS WHY WE HAVE SO MANY SINGLE MOMS BECAUSE THEY MAKE SHIT CHOICES AND THEN WANT AN ATM TO LOOK AFTER HER.
A lot of men don’t actually get to experience true genuine desire. This is no lie, I get treated how a beautiful woman gets treated. I’ve been showered with gifts, even holidays all paid for, I haven’t had to pay for shit, nothing. That’s what you want, that’s true genuine burning desire. I don’t even pay for dates often times, because I don’t even have to.
Yes 💯. I got a very blue pilled elder family friend (I mean 99.99% of men are blue pilled in where I am) who said men has all the power in dating cos we can approach whoever we like. It was way before online dating and social media became pop, but ultimately it's women who gets to choose. He got cheated twice by his ex gf and his current wife, who he forgave. He's an eligible guy, but he always put his women on a pedestal which caused him the problems he faced. I really hope he didn't teach his sons his misguided blue pilled beliefs
You can never do ”enough” for some women. Their ego is like a bottomless pit.
Susan
100% truth. I happen to know one.
More like most women
As someone who has been married for over 10 years, I can confirm this is true
She can’t even do half of what she wants you do to and expects you to it’s like broke women calling men broke who are in the same situation the hypocrisy and entitlement is out of the charts
Am currently going through the “my needs are not being met “ phase. Thanks for the reminder that trying harder doesn’t work and it’s about me first
In that situation you take things away. If they aren't giving to you don't give to them.
Dude, do yourself a favour and just move on. Take if from my experience: don’t try to fix that situation. Life is too short - get rid of her now, date other women & enjoy your life.
wise advise. "fixer" mindset males get stuck on these situations, sometimes for many many years. when he simply has to understand that it's "bad" because she wants it that way.@@michelangelo_6933
And YOUR needs? Are they being met? Does she bring much to the table? As so many have been saying, "Treat her like a celebrity and she will treat you like a fan." I don't know your situation, and I haven't heard both sides of the story, but I would set up cameras, track her car (even if you don't own it), learn as much as you can, and get everything you can from her. And give her NOTHING you don't feel like giving.
Exactly. When she likes you she will be meeting your needs intentionally. She will KNOW because she pays attention to that and wants to show you she cares.@@SphinctersForever
"Genuine Burning Desire" never lasts. No matter if you're Chad or not. Familiarity breeds boredom.
Exactly. Chad isn't guaranteed a good woman, he just has more chances to find her.
That’s true, but, hopefully, by the time it runs out, her value will have diminished sufficiently enough to keep her humble enough not to leave. Also, don’t discount the value of trust, safety, and security.
Good shit bro..
You can’t negotiate burning desire from a female. She either has it for you or she doesn’t.
She either wants your babies, or she doesn't.
And next week it may be someone else.
Yea that’s true and when they have a mid life crisis you can’t compete with her hate for you fuels by I want the world I want to party just walk away and be a man
@@Jeremiah59😂
wanting your babies don't mean she wants you!@@Jeremiah59
"You'll know it when you get it." Best phrase. Pay attention to what she does.
i was always the guy that did everything, wanted to prove myself but once i had a girl that really was into me i noticed i dont really need to do much if she has desire for you.
Skittles chemicals aren’t made for human consumption, just like Doritos
Bingo!!!!!!
Listen. If she likes you ,then she likes you. If she don't then there's nothing u can do but be yourself. Thats it!!! Don't be extra nice. Don't be extra mean. Don't do anything but act like yourself if it's meant to be then it's meant to be
Rich is spot on here. I recently watched a guy give away half a fortune, moved the woman a couple times, and she ultimately never gave it up to him and went back to the "mean ex" that didn't "appreciate or understand her". Don't do it guys.
Skittles Guy knows that if she wants you then you won't have to do anything. And if she doesn't want you then there is nothing you can do, other than to give her the turned back.
😅 💯
This genuinely makes sense. Really any man who has had any experience with women understand this. The girl who is head over heels for you is different than the one that has no attraction. Its interesting how so many relationships end up having no desire but just exist for convenience.
Its legit a night and day difference. I've experienced both extremes and will never go back to chasing uninterested women.
LOL i watched a vid were a big pimp was being interviewed and the point he made was ONLY GET INVOLVED WITH FEMALE THAT LIKES YOU, dont chase them because you will loose everytime if you look at the animal kingdom, the female picks the mate from all the suitors so sit tight and if you need pay for some female , when i left my ex thats what i did and i am still single for the last 20 plus years with no headaches and dont get involved with trouble any more because most females are a LIABILITY NOT AN ASSET.
Many men have experience with women but they don't learn. That's why you have those who went through a few divorces, got wrecked, and still come out looking for women again
Then those men are fully deserving of the women they get. No one forces them to marry or stay in marriage despite being treated badly. Natural selection at its best.
The modern messaging about self-growth and wanting more you'll never be enough get used to it.
I’m 36, I was enough and I did enough. Stupid ex thought I wasn’t good enough, and separated from me before I finally filled for divorce. I raised the kid while she was working and partying (I was working 40-60 hours a week and the bread dinner), cooked, cleaned, helped her start her business, paid for both our houses, did everything she asked. She did nothing…. Literally and took my kid from me even though kid doesn’t want to be with her. Now I’m with a woman way hotter and more valuable, better in the bedroom, and doesn’t need help with anything and makes almost as much money as me. We both have kids but that’s what you need to do when you have a kid, being with a woman without kids when you have is almost impossible. This lady will do anything for me, and says I’m the prize in the relationship
and in the end ..... you played it well! Congrats!!
She wasn't for you.
I don't understand how you Western men don't lay down the requirements for being in a relationship with you.
Most of you are crybabies women are followers you have to tell them what you crave. I would NEVER enter into a relationship if she thinks she can go out to bars etc. This is on you.
Sounds like the story of my life. Wow. I divorced her after she told me women don’t need to have sex. I never had sex with her again and asked for a divorce a few days later (obviously for more than just that). I told her I don’t need to do her any favours by having sex with her because sex is a commodity for her.
You didn't play around with your life, and took care of it right then and right there.@@Smoke_C
Omfg. I literally did the chore play. Rotated tires. Cut down dead tree in back yard. Cut grass. Assembling ikea furniture. Hung pictures. Haha I'm laughing now but I'm sure you can all guess how well that turned out.
@DewisMotivationhe did the choreplay and he still ended up divorced.
Doing all that stuff is great and rewarding as a man. IF the woman is completely into you. If not it will never be enough.
She didn't have genuine burning desire for you. Big difference.
You were doing the 30+ version of what the younger kids call 'Jestermaxxing'. But instead of making her laugh you were showing how useful you are
We've all been there. I coached her kid's sports teams. Still wasn't enough for her. Focus on yourself and helping those who appreciate it. Life is much better this way!
In a sense, I think a lot of women don't realize how "spoiled" they are. The reason why many women can take their guy(s) for granted is because they have so many options waiting in the wings. A guy with no options will overcompensate and do EVERYTHING for a chick, but then that chick may see that dude as a glorified bank/chore bot instead of their lover. It's tough.
Very true. I've known the most average of "plain Janes" to be offered and gifted stuff left & right, and they're surprised to learn that's not normal. They _really_ get the rug pulled out from under them when they hit 35 and the attention stops.
Entitlement is blind to those whom think they have it..
Down through the centuries, I think that women generally only had one option. She had to save herself for marriage and then just stay with whatever man was willing to marry her. And after that, she was no longer a virgin and was used goods. Nobody wanted her if she got divorced. But at some point, men lowered their standards and quit demanding a virgin. What a different world this would be if men got their standards back and only wanted a virgin wife.
@@gregjohnston455it’s because of the sexual revolution and marriable virgins no longer exist. Once a girl becomes a teen nowadays, she has sex with her boyfriend. They don’t get married. In the old days, the teens were married.
@@gregjohnston455I recently found out that one of my acquaintances is a virgin at early 30' s. I also know that she's completely in love with herself, keeps posting videos of herself where she talks about "healing", growth", sells ceremonies and what have you. A month ago she met a guy in Bali and was complaining to my fiance how she's not sure she actually likes him romantically or even as a friend... I wondered why she keeps him around when pondering this story.
But my point is that today a woman can both be a virgin and still exhibit highly narcissistic tendencies together while living the hypergamous lifestyle.
I have to see my ex because we have a kid together. I wasn’t good enough for her and she said she didn’t want to be stuck. Well, she had to settle and get married because she couldn’t make it on her own. 12 years after we split her looks are going down, mine are going up. My income is going up and she still wouldn’t be able to make it on her own. Just because they move on to someone that’s “better” doesn’t mean they actually are.
I had a divorce. My exwife was a boss. We knew each other in college and reunited in our late 20s. I was not a boss. I was not my best. She made 3 times more than I did. I didn’t step my game up. She divorced me. Now I’m what she probably wanted. I stopped some bad habits. I’m making way more money. I stepped my game up. I’ve been with another woman for a few years now. She has burning desire for me. The end.
Why the hell would any guy want a woman who is a “boss” -she naturally is not going to possess the most feminine traits and even if she is able to put on a good show of being outwardly feminine at times and certain circumstances -deep down she is not. It makes me wonder what kind of beta cucked guys are going for these women today.
I'm glad both you and SSM acknowledge that you can still be a decent human being and treat people decently, without being a nice guy pushover.
The key is firm boundaries and standards that are strictly enforced.
I consider myself lucky I'm handsome Physician healthy ect I was in the greatest love of all time...but a unexpected divorce came calling. stunned, It has taken me years to get over it. My parents were married 50 yrs lovingly. A wonderful childhood. I meet so many women on a daily basis get colleagues numbers cards ect....I dont date. why? I just feel that the times have changed and women have been washed into the belief that its OK to just commit then just move on like changing your socks. I would like to have a regular relationship I dont even go for the one night stands....I'm christian and older no need for a STD for a few hours of pleasure.......I enjoy my hobbies and I travel the world and I'm flattered to be hit on during the day but in the end, I stay away.......
Maybe it’s because you describe yourself as handsome ! EWE!! And it’s ETC not ECT .. a physician might have better grammar I would have thought .
If you're handsome proffesional and have some money, then go abroad and get yourself a nice feminine woman who will be delighted to commit to you.
I work in a medical testing facility. We have Bulgarian university students working with us part time. Looking at these 20-22yrs old women makes me feel like they emerged from a portal to some forgotten dimension. Most of them are very feminine. Many are smoking hot and don't act like they are special or important
Go to a place where moderinity hasn't destroyed women yet and get yourself someone lovely
Short, concise, & dead-nuts on target. Great post. Guys that have their shit together, especially when related to women that are past-prime in the sexual marketplace, need to know that THEY ARE THE CATCH (not her) & operate & expect a woman to operate accordingly. There are hella amount of good looking women everywhere but there's much fewer high or even mid-tier value guys around. If you have a career, own a house, are relatively fit etc, YOU are the catch. Do not forget that guys.
It's fine to keep believing that, but the reality is for many men this still doesn't get them anything. I'd suggest they move or look overseas.
Certainly an option. The one thing high & mid guys have to stop doing is playing the marriage sham game. Wait for cream to rise to the top or stay away from them altogether. This is where discipline comes in. @@chrispekel5709
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When you’re all that and she still decides that you’re not enough for her, then let her walk and find out what she will miss eventually when she realises how rare of a man that you are.
Let her lose you to finally appreciate what she had. And when she returns, kick her to the curb and move on with your life like she doesn’t matter.
As you get older the women who have genuine burning desire will trump all other women you deal with. This video is 100% facts.
But they're always ran through with a bunch of kids that aren't mine
Not attracted to that. Besides it feels better putting them in their place and rejecting them than cumming does.
As you get older women won't have burning desire for you anymore. 😎
You are right. When I was looking two get married again I found a very good women for me she liked me! That was the start. I had "everything" cars, house good job with max stability. The Feds had me traveling A lot. She was fine with that. She started doing nice things for me. I was a little jaded after my first wife. Basically I could survive very well without her or any other women. She was smart enough to realize that! In time we got married, but I kept doing my own thing and completing my assignmentments everywhere with the US Government. She was fine with that (of course I did not care.) That's how I made a living and if I had to take off anywhere I went for a couple weeks and when it was over I went home. I learned as men many times you have to make hard tough decisions but I don't need a complaining women to make my life miserable. She knows that and leaves me a!one. I think we have a good marriage!
I saw the movie FERRARI last night. Enzo was a tough one , but his wife Laura and mistress had burning desire for him and he was an old man with suspenders. THE MAN was FERRARI ...High value!!!
Yes, I pretty much agree. For me it has been about "finding my core values" and just BEING who I am. It's not even about money. It's more about an attitude. I have been poor as a churchmouse when business was bad but I had this "fighting" attitude that I would get up again and that was enough for a woman.
I give when I want to give, not because I feel coerced. There are clear boundaries in my life. Don't push those. It won't work.
You can give a lot of love to a woman when you are in that state of mind and she will appreciate it. She knows she can't "take more". You're not loving her because you feel you have to. You are autonomous.
The unspoken think in this video, I think, is you ARE enough. You just have to believe it deep inside.
The question is enough for what? Sex, long term terrible nightmare of a relationship, etc.?
Rich
As usually always you are 100% correct.
I realize this in High School, there was a girl who was a solid 9 & 1/2 , blonde, blue eyed, skinny, very sexy early 1980’s.
I don’t know? But,
I saw right through her games and we were friends but I had no real interest in her because I was in love with a hotter better girl, who dumped me hard and took off to another school to distance herself from me when I joined the US Army on delayed entry in early 1984.
But the girl that I’m referring to, Angelique had guys just throw themselves at her and would buy her anything, take her out to expensive dinners and places and she would just use them, giving them nothing in return.
And then the guys that were jerks to her and just used and abused her she was completely in love with them.
Some of these guys were too broke to pay attention and she would pay for everything.
Anyway it’s been my experience that if you bend over backwards for a chick she will usually just bend you over more and just completely take advantage of you.
But if you play it loose and free and act like you really don’t care that much about them, the girls tend to stay and or come back at some point.
My hot chick that I really loved that left me when I signed up with the Army came back.
I never really let her know how much that her dumping me just crushed me and hurt my feelings and I just told her “goodbye then”, she ended up coming back for me telling me how much that she was in love with me and never stopped talking about me, but it was too late and I was already in a shotgun wedding, and that’s a hole nother story.
Thanks again Rich
Sometimes we learn too much the hard way, as you have done yourself.
I’m in this situation… or was. Girl and I were together for a little over a year, then she breaks it off telling me she doesn’t feel like she can give me heat she wants right now. Two weeks later, she’s with another guy. I’m absolutely devastated and what hurt more is that she still tells me she loves me and of course I asked where I went wrong… and she again says, you are great I just was overthinking and scared myself etc. She’s apparently got “commitment issues” and is with a guy because it’s “easier” and she wasn’t thinking anything long term. Of course this guy is her age as I am older than her and I guess she feels like she doesn’t want to think about the future right now. It’s taken me time of just grinding and improving myself to realize that she was right… it’s all her. I was loving and supportive, went out of my way for her, so now I don’t cry anymore at all. I ran into her at the mall and man I don’t even know how I thought she was the one because there are so many better options out there.
Sometimes no one is the best option.
Its sad when you think about it.
But tuf times are coming ,a hard and cold lesson to women who didn't secure a men is just around the corner .
That'll learn 'em. 😎
If they work for the government and have a nice pension indexed to inflation , they (and their cats) will be just fine.
@@gold707786That’s Not Most Women 😀
So I have a friend 🙄, who found out after a divorce that the veritable saint he thought he wasn't good enough for was in fact a complete slag of a deceptive liar.
He understands now that skittles is the only way to go.
Viva la verité!
I remember the first time I read your book coming across the term "true burning desire" and instantly could place women I've been with IN or OUT of that category, what a game changer. My gf is amazing in all the ways, and routinely does unsolicited things to demonstrate her desire for me, not least of which being eye contact. I'm talking about bedroom eyes, whether in public or at home, you know what happening. Women will not stare into your eyes unless they want you to take them physically, its just nature. She is that, she acts like that, she's about that and its just consistent over a long period of time. THAT is the kind of woman you invest in, and reward. In fact it's far simpler being with a woman when each of you are trying to out do the other, giving to each other. That reciprocal vibe of her surprising me and me surprising her...fellas that's how you're supposed to enjoy life with a woman. When its unbalanced it's just a matter of time before she leaves (usually what happens) or you boldly leave and never look back.
It really shouldn't take long to realize she's not reciprocating.
Trying to make an unhappy person happy is emotionally draining, and one should recognize the unresponsiveness of your chosen and admit to yourself early on that this isn't going to work.
Ive seen so many guys go through this. Two friends going through it right now. You gave him great advice. To the writer, if your reading this, bro, just walk away. Never look back, and never call her again. And dont tell ANYONE youre devestated. Take the rejection, use it as fuel to make yourself better. Just walking away and never contacting her is going to mess up her mind. She's expecting you to come crawling back. When you dont, she may start calling you. Then tell her she aint shit. Pursue other options.
She wasn’t meant for him, it was just “his turn”!
So true!
Doing everything to win her is a sign of weakness. Weakness is not love worthy.
Being in a situation to have to win her means your sparks can't kindle her tinder. She's like asbestos for you. That's when you count your losses and move on.
Men who are successful with women know to tell when a target holds potential for them and let the rest be. You can't create affection. It's there or it is not.
I saw a documentary about Klaus Barkowsky the other day. That was an infamous 1970s/80s pimp. The hottest most successful prostitutes competed with their money to be his no. 1. He had at his peak 15 working for him at a time. He never invested more than 7 days to win a chick over. If she wasn't fallen by then he would drop the case.
PS: And this is also much more comfortable for women not to be haunted by a guy they feel no attraction to.
If there was a technique to win every woman over as some pick up artists pretend, this would be possible the other way round, too. Every woman would be able to create your affection to them if only the applied the right techniques. What a frightful scenario! Think it over.
When a woman is into you, she doesn't require or ask for much! If you do a lot to impress her specially in the beginning. The day you stop, she will hate you.
Yes, this genuine burning desire in women does exist. I've seen it and been a beneficiary of it. They will literally do 'anything' for you and with you.. Anything
Sometimes its a bit a problem if they don't have any limits at all, as it shows they're really low self-esteem. A normal girl will have limits if you push enough
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is *Shelly renee white* , and she is a great spiritual counsellor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
Save yourself and cut off everything about her. Give it time, focus on your own life without. Wtf are you doing considering a ‘spiritual counsellor’ for? Using magic are we guys? 😂
I haven't heard someone talk about chateau heartiste in a long time. Good to remember the older days, shoutout to those who paved the way for us.
"She's the Queen of the Silver Dollar! She rules her Smokey kingdom! Her scepter is a wine glass and a barstool is her throne! And the jesters crowd around her! And fight to win her favor! To see which one is the lucky one to take the Queen home!"
Society messed up dating long before social media did. We need to normalize being single so guys take the necessaty time to level up and better themselves before trying to be with someone.
Wrong. Women are always like this. In the 1960s the biker boys in Harleys got the girls an hour of meeting them and pissed off our grandparents who were there loyal friends at that same bar who is hoping in 1 more week she will like him enough to ask her out. then some douche with the harley comes in and steals her away LOL. Sometimes being rich is not the answer if you are a wus. It is the dominant alpha and confident shit for a dude who knows what he wants and goes for it. Women are emotional and not logical and just go what feels good. So they do not see my post the way you and I read it. Just know the game to get her the tingles always
Amen to that. Society pushes relationships way too early in life.
@@andyjohnson5484 The only way this works is if we pair up guys and girls with a 10 year age gap.
@@chrispekel5709 many of the best marriages I know of have a large age gap.
@@chrispekel5709. That’s how it is with arranged marriages. The man would go out and make something of himself and then get the young virgin bride. Both sexes had an incentive to be their best.
its never enough. the goal post is always moving. it aint on you, it never was. Just dont get to emotional. especially if its only for a few months. She did you a favour.
You’ll never be enough, once you enter this game it’s a losing proposition. She will continue to move the goal posts, it will never be enough. I’ve fallen for this, never again.
Be more for yourself and if it’s not enough to her move on.
I see friends that have been with their wives for a good amount of time and it seems to be going well. But who knows what it's like behind closed doors? I think it's a gamble with any woman and you never know when she could lose interest and be done. I like living without that stress.
Rich you are 1000 percent right. I just got dumped after a year and a half of putting maximum effort. I will never do this again. She is now seeing another man aka sleeping with him. Guy's please listen to this dude he knows what he is talking about. I learned my lesson not to be the nice guy anymore.
Yes exactly
‘Rotating her tyres!’ that’s when you are down bad! 😂
I am literally going to toss my next first date a bag of Skittles, just to see what happens.
Rich its impossible for every man to be a "top shelf guy"....The so called "top" only has room for so many. And once again if you are that "top shelf guy" you can be assured she doesnt have burning desire for YOU...just the comfort you provide for her.
Exactly. If you are poor or middle class and receive genuine burning desire then you know it's legit. She wants you for you and nothing else. That's the best.
From the age of 15 to 27 i never felt love though i always had a thirst for it i have seen so many couples make love which blossom into marriage i never felt what it was like to be in a relationship lived like a bachelor my whole life ,i always saw men chase after women which i never did for which my friends used to mock me but i strongly believe there are women out there who would genuinely choose you for who you are
Brother speaks the truth! Looking on my past is an echoing of everything Rich is saying. The one's I hardly did anything for (honestly because I just wasn't that into them) are the one's who bugged this crap out of me and let me do whatever I wanted to with them. It became a game for me. Let's see what this one will do type of thing. Anyway - YES - do not do more..... but BECOME MORE (as Rich said). But dont do it for her...... DO IT FOR YOU! Be cause you want to be the best version of yourself you can be. Not so you can get the ladies.... but to be a king.
I was the skittles guy, but she dumped cuz I stayed the skittles guy for 2.5 years
Relationships are two-way streets. To the guy who thought he didn't do enough => Maybe you could have done more, but it's her job to ask/tell you what she needs. Just as it's your job to tell her what you need. Love is being willing to work together to fulfill both of your needs. Anything less is manipulation and a waste of time. Peace!
She has no respect for the things you do for her. She has no respect for your relationship with her children. She has no respect for the things you buy her. She has no respect for your goals. She has no respect for your dreams, or your plans. She loves the way she thinks you make her look to the world, and the way you make her feel. Both of those things are tied to whether or not she believes you are better than her, or somehow represent a step up. Spend all of the energy and attention you would stupidly like to give her, on yourself. She'll still want it, and you'll still have it.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
Did we date the same person?
@@DrummerJay74 yeah because they're all the same person.
@@Zero_Zero_Zero_Zero collective narcissistic consciousness
I wasnt enough for my wife, she always wanted more this more that. She eventually ate herself into the grave after fifteen years. She was living in the ghetto in a house that shouldve been condemned when i met her, she died in a half million dollar house with everything she could want and complained how she didnt have enough. They NEVER have enough to be satisfied.
My mom and dad have been married for 25 years. Mother is constantly threating with divroce and making bloody (mental bleeding) scens and drags us, the kids, in the marrige. My dad has asked her 5.000 times: Why you want to divorce me? What did i do wrong?
He never got a clear answer.
What dad needs to say is...
"If you want to leave, there is the door - don't let it hit your azz on the way out".
wish he had the courage. but he is a tuckdirver so it makes 5% differnce to him if he is divorced or not@@dmark2639
because they don't know the answer.
they?@@DrummerJay74
@@dmark2639this is the right answer.
Dead on again brother!.. The more you do for people, the less they appreciate it. Always leave them wanting more.
Happy Holidays 🍻
I love the one comment you mentioned maybe you didn’t help with the kids enough they only dated for four months they’re better not be any freaking kids involved. Otherwise you got a massive premium on your hands that’s not gonna do very well and if she has kids in toe. Don’t have anything to do with her unless you’re into self harm then go for it.
Dude dodged a bullet.
"You'll know it when you get it" so true cause i've had it. Chick will literally say "I love you" within like 2 days of dating lol.
I was never enough either, I did everything she wanted and then it was on to the next thing.
The absolute best way to please a woman, is to always please yourself first, show her how important your needs are, and then she will love you forever.
I took a girl on a 1st date to Sheetz a couple of months ago. She asked for a second date. Be the Sheetz man. Always do less.
What's sheetz? I'm australian. Is it a date in your bed? haha
@chrispekel5709 in my bed, lol. That's too funny. Sheetz is an American convenience store/gas station. They have a food counter where you can get made to order junk food, and they have a beer cooler, too. Everyone loves Sheetz, but nobody would have the audacity to suggest it for a first date, lol.
Im not scared to be alone anymore. Because i understand my value and the true nature of people. Once you get there you will realize how much power you really have over people. People get scared of you, its your energy. Im really just sitting there, chilling, waiting to meet someone that i need and needs me, thats it. Stop wasting your time TRYING to find someone. You can't find someone that was made for you by SEARCHING for them, because the universe is too big. You have to keep on walking and not waste opportunities when people are around thats it.
It's true ~ she either wants you, or she doesn't, and not much you do, or don't do, will change that. Work on yourself, and pay attention to who pays attention to you, and simply ignore the rest.
He also could have done way too much, giving her the ick. Remember, women have an exhaustive laundry list for men which means men are the prize, which means she should be doing the work to make You happy, as to accessorize the prize. Dude literally treated her like a prize and she likely was nothing more than a common basic woman
I did all the jumping hoops and sticking around till I won. Now I wish I had lost. Because even if you win once you are her number 2 type of guy you will always be her number 2 type of guy. And it's tiring! There's nothing you will do to make you the guy who makes her natural frequency. Nothing. The best you will be is a strong number two. Only give chance to women to whom you are their number one type.
If you as a man lose your edge, she will lose her interest.
How on earth is anyone crushed after a four month relationship? Its bad, yes, but it could be 100x worse.
It all depends on the connection he had with her. Time isn't the only factor.
It didn't cost him half his stuff and his house.
@@scottverge938 I agree, but four months isn’t enough time to immerse yourself in a truly committed relationship. If I had to guess, this guy put the cart way before the horse & was already envisioning marriage.
@@AG-rc2np he probably as considering their future together. He likely fell really hard for her.
I know I was thinking long term with my ex within 6 months and she was telling me to slow down and take life day by day.
Exactly, try getting dumped after a 20 year marriage!!
My virgin bride wife put me through hoops and she never had baggage, she’s just Americanized and living a Disney like fantasy. My wedding was basically Goodfellas. 250 people, a live band, and don’t forget the Venetian hour. That was 34 years ago and it took me decades to realize what I created. By doing everything she’s wanted I created the issues. Once I said no, she said no sex. Should have bailed than but being young and my first and last marriage I thought it was natural. No it’s actually a borderline personality disorder and a woman running away crying and sulking over someone saying no and setting boundaries was another red flag. 🚩 my red flags were very visible but hers were well hidden. Long story short, she took fertility drugs against my will even after having a child naturally all against my will and had a miscarriage as she was pregnant and tested negative. After that nightmare, especially for a woman she goes out behind my back and does the fertility drugs behind my back and we have quadruplets. Now being trapped in a marriage I paid my dues. Last child cause we had another one naturally is now in college and I’m bailing out. PS did I say I’m in a sexless marriage for 17 years. Yeah and now I’m going forward with my life. Thanks Maury as I was on that show decades ago before he became a paternity show. On a good note all my kids have college degrees except for one so I don’t feel any guilt running away from my nightmare and I’ve done all the therapy counseling etc to no avail. After 6 kids some woman have hormonal issues etc and I was left to tend to my needs my way. She told me find Jesus as wanting sex made me a pig. Well I found Jesus and he told me to run😂😂😂
If she blocked you, consider it as a favor, so you no longer have to deal with the chore of getting rid of her and I'd bet a good amount of $$$ on the fact that she already had a Plan-B behind your back, translation = she had another dude! You have to keep women on a short leash and every once in a wile you have make her aware that you don't really need her for anything and she is easily replaceable for a younger one. Have some boundaries mate. Sounds like she had you wrapped around her fingers and she always got what she wanted, so she simply leveled up (in her tiny mind) Now is the time to jump the boat and show up with another woman near her and pay a visit to some of your friends whom are also her friends. Word travels fast and you don't need social media for it.
My favorite response to a woman is "NO, > Don't even wait for her to say whatever she wants from me, I'd just say; "Whatever you want, they answer will be No. They hate it, yet they stick around for more.
I agree 💯. You have to BE the guy and he clearly was not. If he was he would not have been so devastated because he would've had another woman jumping to take her place.
Skittles Man story is an absolute legend. Was he rich? Nope. Was he jacked? Nope. But he had women who were total smokeshows fighting over him.
“Guys don’t need to do a lot more, You need to be more” therefore girls will chase the most desirable option. So be the option. Be that guy. And trust yourself and your path and they will naturally follow and want to hop on board.
On a four month relationship, the fact you were doing so much for her already gave her the "ick". Why because some mostly stranger doing everything for her gives off serious desperation to lock her down with obligation to be grateful vibes. It's creepy to a woman and she starts feeling unsafe when she projects where it might go 10 years down the road.
The last 30 seconds of this video is all you need to know. Pure Gold.
THE GUY SHE ALWAYS WANTED is available now. She never complained to you because you were serving a purpose and it wasn’t a relationship. You were a time pass until the guy she wanted got his act together or at least told her that. The excuses she gave you for leaving were exactly that, excuses. She’s not going to tell you “the love of her life” is back in town!!!
She blocked you on everything so you can’t see her with the other guy. There is a chance you’ll figure out what she is doing and expose her. She don’t want you ruining her chances at finding love!!!
Love? Most have no clue what that is. My ex said she wanted to send her son to live with his dad because she was having problems with him. He was 13 years old. There were so many red flags looking back. My dumb ass should have ran for the hills but I didn't.
One of Heartiste's 16 Commandments...
The golden ratio 3:2. 3 messages, gifts, or services from her gets 2 of yours. It works well
As man if you don't have your grind in order.....people WILL take advantage of you.
I was only devastated when my ex covert narcissist wife cheated. Maybe borderline.
BUT, I learned what cluster B personality was, and found the RUclips library of Professor Sam Vaknin.
Changed my perspective.
This is a good video, straight the point & explains it in a big picture way.
When I saw skittles man in the title, I knew you were gonna reference Heartiste
Bending over backwards for a woman definitely isn’t the answer. My friends that bent over backwards all lost those women facts! Meanwhile, I been with my woman for over 13 years and didn’t have to none of the ish they had to do in order to keep my woman, but one difference between me and them is , my woman is highly attractive to me and have been since day one because I stay in shape , I smell good and I know how to put my clothes together when I go places . The thing is , you can’t lose your edge and you must keep her on her toes , now my woman is crazy about staying in shape , when I met her she never picked up weights or did a push up ever , now she can do 100 pushups , those are just some pointers.
A Timmie's after a great workout at the gym. That's my go to every morning as well.
In other words to summarise this short video "One man's trash is another man's treasure"
You nailed it Rich.
Yes -- Guys do need to do a lot more, but they need to do it for themselves! Women need to compliment that and not be the goal or prize. Rich, I think you should talk more about "genuine burning desire." I don't think most men have seen that, unfortunately. I hear a lot of, "well she did, do x and y for me..." but unless she's bending over backwards (more than figuratively), it's not genuine burning desire!
Point is: there has to be tension (a pull in both directions from both people). Men need to set boundaries for women (as they’re setting so many for you and pushing to break through ALL YOURS you may or may not have set up for them). Stand your ground bros! Don’t be afraid to express how you feel and also tell them “No!” Have some standards!
They dated almost 4 months! Dude, if you were talking to multiple girls and then promoted the one that had the most desire for you to an LTR you wouldn't have this problem. It takes at least 6 months to figure out which girl likes you and at least another year to see if she's faking it. I learned all this when I was 13 and my crush started hanging with other dudes. Get out there and get experience.
I am painfully honest. When a start complaining and they're not happy. I'm quick to say listen there's the door if you want to leave you can leave...... It's always good to give them a reality check and say listen. Go. I will not cry..... Try this out guys it works very well for me.... SERIOUSLY
SKITTLES??? BRILLANT!
ty richard
It’s never enough. You just can’t make them happy no matter how hard you try
The irony is all of those things you mentioned at the end of your video that doesn't qualify you a "top shelf guy" can still get you a woman that has genuine burning desire for you. I'm 45, just moved in with my mom, have a normal paying job, drive an ok car and I'm dating a 28 year old girl that's pretty damn cute. She knows about everything I mentioned above and she still pretty much bends over backwards for me and shows genuine burning desire on the daily. Moral of the story is you don't need any of that stuff you mentioned to get genuine burning desire from a woman
Everyone listen to what he said very, very carefully gentlemen..this is what many young get wrong about some of the advice they get online.
He said you can do these things (open doors, flowers, ext) when SHE IS ALREADY ATTRACTED TO YOU. Many men are deceived with thinking that they should not do ANY of these things when they get the girl, and then lose her. They also do what Rich is talking about, which is do too much, too soon. You got to live your life, do the things you want to do, and when a chick is into you, YOU WILL KNOW. Then its your call to keep dating her, be in a relationship, ext.
Overall, who you are will always matter than what you say to or do for a woman. They want a guy of value.