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That tipping video was between two English women. We don't tip in England and we push against establishments that try to bring it in. Pay people properly, or in the hairdresser's case, charge more!!! She's probably self employed, just charge more!
Very true, my hairdresser has rejected a tip whenever I've offered to give her one. She's mentioned in the past she charges more than enough to not need a tip so I don't get why this woman in the video isn't also charging enough so she doesn't need to rely on tips 🤷♀️
Regardless of a tip YOU NEVER TREAT A POLITE FAITHFUL CLIENT THAT WAY.She might not could afford it now but later on... who knows? That was tacky and low class. You NEVER CRITICIZE THE CUSTOMER'S TIP OR LACK THERE OF TO THEIR FACES. I am a bartender and I've had non tipping clients come back later when they had money and tip BIG. She seemed a polite customer and probably would have been good for word of mouth business to her friends and acquaintances. She played herself no matter how polite the cancelation. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Exactly what I thought!
I always used to give a gift at Christmas or birthdays instead of tipping my hairdresser etc.
I haven't seen anyone in North America who believes tipping culture is a good thing. I know restaurant workers are not paid fairly because tipping is expected, so I tip in restaurants. But hairdressers are often small businesses and they can set their own prices. So if you're not happy with me paying your stated price, then raise your price. Pay your workers properly. I'm not going to take responsibility for that as a customer. Edit to say that I've lived in Canada for 25+ years, so I'm unhappily well familiar with tipping culture.
Tipping isn’t standard in Europe at all. It’s even seen as an insult by a lot of owners because it IS accusing them of not taking care of their employees. I’m honestly shocked at how the hairstylist handled it, just cancelling the appointment and waiting for the client to call rather than her calling the client to explain it and try to come to an arrangement that works for both of them.
@@sonant888 no i think the person means Europe all together. Because I'm french and it's the same here. And it's the same for sure for a few other europeans countries. Because i have family and friends from there. In those countries... tipping is something we do when the service was very good that's it. And in some places like an hairdresser it's even less common to tip because of the price and the fact that the hairdresser is paid enough allready. It May be different in some countries like Austria. But in Europe the more common thing is not large tipping, from what I saw. It's a few euros and left to the discretion of the costumer. And in some places they don't even accept tips !
@@Sytrylt Indeed, in The Netherlands it is also not common to tip a "normal" job. Only restaurant/servers etc would get a tip. Yes, some places do have a tipjar, and than it is to a customer to do so.
Europe is way too big of a place with way too different customs to say "it's like this or that in all of Europe".
In Germany we do tip, but it's not expected, and tips are usually just a few Euros.
There are people and places where we do tip. Servers, food delivery drivers, hairdressers, taxi drivers - many service industry people get tips. You don't have to, though. The tip is an actual extra and not part of your salary that you need to survive.
Thats really interesting. Here in Toronto (where Charlotte is also living) we tip hairdresser, nail techs, waxing and lash tech, bartenders, waiters, delivery, drivers... I even tip my doorman and other concierge staff sometimes if they help me (although some wont accept). It is expected and deemed rude to not tip here in Canada. LIke personally I feel like it would be extremely rude to not tip my hairdresser, which sucks because it already costs me minimum $300 for hilights/balyage wtvr... Plus a min 10% tip gets really expensive!!
Was thinking the same thing, I have never once tipped my hairdresser. I would only imagine tipping if it was something like your wedding hairdresser, and then even it would be more likely that they would receive something like a gift for their effort. Because, you know, you have paid them their salary already. Or maybe it's something elderly ladies do on their weekly visit.
Also the hairdresser on the phone just sounds so weird, this tone of "awww I'm sawwwry but these people just tip more you know"
In french, we don't say " get back with the ex" but we say " remanger son vomi" (eating our vomit again) and I think it's beautiful...
I need to say that to my stupid sister. She's trying to get back with an ex she emotionally abused but he wants nothing to do with her. He's only back in her life because her oldest daughter (my niece is 5) sees him as a dad because her real dad is in jail. What's funny is my sister told me they were back together but he firmly shut that down yesterday when he helped me change my car battery.
Oh my goodness that’s perfect ❤ the French are so eloquent
similar expression it’s used in Romania, translated as
,, where you spit don’t lick again “
I have a Balkan friend who says, "Sarma is the only thing that's better reheated", where sarma is the tastiest thing in the world and most ended relationships are... not 😂😂
@@TheCookbookCollectorCooks an ex it’s called X for a reason 😊
P.S: jokes aside ( I’m drooling now thinking about sarma 🤣)
Tipping in the UK is barely a thing but especially not for self employed workers who set their own prices. But the fact she accepted the appointment then cancelled basically cause a better paying customer came along is just wrong. Would definitely stop going to her since there is no telling if she would do it again and how much notice she would give. Also would 100% be giving her a very negative review since it's just rude!
With the hairdresser, two things. She accepted the appointment knowing this lady doesn’t “tip”. Secondly, in the UK we DO pay a living wage, we don’t have a tipping culture. The hairdresser deffo in the wrong here
YES! thank you, i was looking for this comment. because much like Aussy land, we both have living wages
Average haircut here 55-70 quid for a haircut. 100-160£ for coloring. Thats 55-70 for an hours work. I know that they get 40% max of that wage if they work for a hairdressing brand etc. All of it if they are independant, course you have the salon, product costs water costs bills etc. But even then thats 20£ an hour the National Living Wage is £10.48.
All hair dressers i know who are indpendant say they make back 30 quid average per haircut.
This is in the south.
In the UK, its common to tip 5-10 quid if you like/appreciate your hairdresser. I tip mine, because shes disabled and still able to cut hair beautifully wanna support her as much as possible. It's not exspected.
Let alone take the booking then cancel???
And in the UK generally it’s recommended if you set your own prices to set them with the ‘tip’ included. Like price appropriately for yourself and then tips are just a nice bonus
Even in America where ppl publicly shame others for not tipping and say things like "if you can't afford to tip, you can't afford the service" tipping the hairdresser is something I've never heard of
that's what's baffling .. the accent was from the UK .. AND the hairdresser canceled w/o calling the customer? She waited for a phonecall FROM the customer??? WTF
The problem with the hairdresser is the fact that she already accepted her as a client and then canceled. Listen, you wanna change your policy - cool, but do it before it's booked.
I have a booking system where previous clients can book online automatically without needing approval, maybe that happened?
Tipping is over the required price and completely voluntary.
@@aspcia Hmm makes sense but also to me it doesn't. If you're overbooked and want to choose your clients - don't make it possible for everyone to book. If it's a rule to tip - make it clear on your site or just change your prices. I think non of it happened here. So I still stand on the side: that's not OK
She didn't say it was required or a matter of policy, just that she's prioritizing tippers. And I'm fine with that.
@@pablodelsegundo9502 that means exactly the same if she cancels the appointment. By that she's making it a rule. You can be okay with it, I can be not okay with it :)
I am a hairdresser and I NEVER expect to receive a tip. It’s optional. I absolutely appreciate it when I get it but totally understand when I don’t. I get paid for my work and sometimes clients have saved for their appointment. Getting a tip should never be expected
Maybe you should expect more for yourself that’s a personal issue. People should have about respect to tip someone for their work. It’s really simple.
@@alloverstylist_priscilla6225 she clearly is talented enough to just flat out get paid. It's not like she doesn't accept tips, she just doesn't live her life NEEDING them. AND it really isn't financially feasible to plan your rent, etc around "maybe I will get tipped enough to have lights this month" lol. Maybe you should expect more for yourself and get paid for the work you do. Then you can plan your bills around money you KNOW your going to get. Tipping sucks. Do I tip? YES. And I tip a lot because the US tipping culture may suck but some people do not have a choice but to depend on tips as that is just baked into some jobs in the US.
@@alloverstylist_priscilla6225 Maybe YOU should think about a better culture ... one where people like hairdressers and waiters are paid WAGES that can actually FEED THEM.
Really? I always thought to tip hair stylists/masseurs etc anyone who provides personal services
@@masunrise7471 yes I think the paying culture in a America i crazy. I did hear that in some jobs people rely on tips as wages. I live in and I’m from Ireland and we all get paid a wage. Tipping is optional it’s not something that had to be given. But we definitely appreciate it when we get it.
We don't tip in Australia because businesses pay their workers good wages. Some restaurants have "Tip Jars" on the counter for people to throw their unwanted change into, but most people pay by card these days, so the tip jar very rarely gets filled.
Honestly, it's exhausting to be a free therapist for someone who keeps bringing problems into their life and whine about it
I've dumped friends for that behaviour. I'll give a few chances, stand by you a year or two... But if there's no change, it will eventually be over. I'm going to enjoy my life. Byeeeee....
I just let them know that I don't want to hear about it any more. You either fix it or stop talking about it. We all need to vent every now and again. He cheated. You staying or going? If you stay, you don't get to every talk about him cheating again.
Oooooh yep, I used to dread and get annoyed when I saw them calling cause I knew it would be hours of venting and saying how horrible their partner was and how emotionally abusive they are but the next day "omg they did one load of laundry for me! They are amazing so don't you badmouth them!!!!"
Learnt some boundaries and distanced myself for my own sanity
I’ve cut ties with a friend because she’d be bang buddies on and off with a guy she had actual feelings for when he’d be in his on and off relationship with his girlfriend. She’d suddenly be radio silent and then talk to me upset because she’d be back with him and then he’d break their “relationship” to go with his ex. When she said they were actually dating again after the last communication I had with her was being upset about him, I was just…done.
Especially when they never want to listen to your problems
Lady didn’t just not accept the appointment or tell her she’s booked out… she canceled it. Passive aggressive to say the least.
that's my thinking as well- just to not accept her as customer if you so hung on tips, but to accept and cancel later because "she prioritize". In my country we are not oblige to tip hairdressers and it's not a thing.
Or you could just say she was petty. Isn't this a petty stan channel?
She's a butch the hairdresser.
Also this is in the UK, like tipping culture is not a thing. Ppl are paid a proper wage. This is greedy af
Also this is in the UK, like tipping culture is not a thing. Ppl are paid a proper wage. This is greedy af
I am from Sweden and we do not really have a ”tipping culture” here and I have never heard of hairdressers wanting tip before. Thought it was only food related.
The tipping culture here has gotten completely out of hand. Like truly absolutely bananas. Like they are trying to also adopt the Asian tradition of giving your landlord gifts but in the form of a tip. Like in addition to the required deposit and rent and repair fees.
Yes, different cultures do different things.
I'm from Argentina and I thought the same. Only food related.
oh thank god, I am from Germany and I was like "oh shit, I was supposed to the my hairdresser?! I had never heard
Honey in America the people that work behind the counters in convenience stores and gas stations are now putting tip jars out.... I looked at the girl that was waiting on me when I got a soda the other day and I said well everybody else is getting tips Why shouldn't you
When I was 10 my Aunty said she was brilliant at cutting hair and she’d just learned how to feather round the face and layer the hair. She offered to do mine when I was at my grandparents house while they were and my mother agreed. She did my cousin’s (her daughter) first and THANK GOD SHE DID. My cousin was about 13 and she was horrified. She looked ridiculous!! The tears and tantrums 😂 so glad I was second in the queue 😂😂😂
Absolutely give that lady a dollar. She asked her did she want the dollar and tried to repeat it like the lady didn't hear her right the first time. 🤣🤣🤣
It's clear she was testing her
@@realdeal7074 She is testing her but she did say either she gets the dollar or the tester can double the amount if she says give it to the next person. So give her the dollar since she doesn't want to do that.
It is a test to see who passes it on. There is no contract. She can change her mind and not give the dollar. All that happened is that the woman on film showed herself as being greedy. She doesn't get rewarded for that.
@@stephenbanks5952 Yeah, but if she doesn't give that lady 1$ like she promised, she wouldn't have given 2$ for the next person either. So all she is doing is promoting a culture of empty and pointless virtue signaling. Shame on her.
I hate these stupid as social experiments
I've distanced myself from a friend I've had since 8 years old because of the situation in the 1st video. Many times her taking him back together, she didn't just come to me in tears but also with bruises, he was a man-child for years. She claimed her Christian religion didn't encourage divorce & that it was her duty to help him. Over 10 years later she wonders why her kids are displaying behavioral issues...it's like "maybe because they saw all this crazy toxic sh*t growing up?" There's a reason why I don't even want to visit her or even call her anymore.
Don't try to help (aka fix) a person who doesn't want to be fixed. Their sorry words mean nothing & it's not worth damaging everything around you for them to slightly change 2 percent yet still also be the same whiny narcissist. Get therapy.
That’s so sad. To think she believes her worth is based on how good a wife she is to someone who doesn’t even deserve it. How heart breaking. My mom runs a battered women’s shelter, and most try to get together with their ex while in the shelter. It’s a 2 year program, and you cannot be in a relationship while in it. But once you graduate, they match what you’ve put in for rent (as they set you up with education advancements, and a career), get you a car and then you use that money and can actually buy a home. It’s a great program. But many of the women end up basing their worth on their exes. Or men period. At one time, that was what a woman’s worth was based on, but not anymore. Not for about 100 years now. It’s time for it to end. And this is coming from a catholic. Staying in a toxic relationship only teaches the children that it’s ok to treat people that way. For shame.
My best friend stuck by me through 3 years of a physically abusive relationship. She never forced me out of it and I tried to not bring into too much of the issue. It was SO hard on her too. I am so happy that I ended up going to a women’s shelter for help and that my friend didn’t give up on me. I was also willing to do the hardest thing which was leave, growth is important and I wouldn’t feel right to keep putting that anxiety on her. She’s still my best friend. I’m sorry for your situation. It’s not worth your own stress if that friend is not willing to change, especially 10 years later. She needs to go to intensive therapy and get help. It’s the ONLY way I could get out of mine.
I was the psicologist of a friend also for the same reason. They will not break up, come, complain, me giving an honest and then 2 days later will go back.. In the end drains, is tiring.
I am a Christian and divorce is not encouraged in the Bible(Malachi 2:16), however, there are provisions for abuse. If a woman wants to leave the relationship she is allowed to leave(1Corinthians 7:10-11). In my mind, being punched out, and slapped around is grounds for departure, as is cheating.
In the UK and Australia we don’t have a tipping culture. There’s no two sides, that hairdresser was awful to treat her customer that way.
No she wasn’t. It’s her personal business. She can choose who patronizes her business. She was honest.
@@Liahs333 She definitely should've raised her prices, instead of refusing clients who don't tip. She's 100% in the wrong. I'm not sure about UK, but in some European countries it's considered a scam (illegal) if you present a price and demand more compensation than that to accept a customer. Also, in many European countries there's no tipping, at all. The compensation for work/service is already baked into the price. Some even outright ban accepting tip in certain service industries. So tipping is NEVER expected or even encouraged.
@@perunarieska9182 I live in Canada and nowhere does it demand or state you must tip. It’s our culture that if you get an excellent service or you thought that person worked hard to make you happy, you tip them. Certainly you don’t have to. I lived in England in my 20’s and it wasn’t really part of the culture so I get it. Here tho if you start a restaurant or any type of service business the wages they pay do take into consideration the average amount of tips the worker might earn so I think if you travel you need to understand the customs of the country you’re in.
The fact that she kept coming back to her was a sure sign of her great service. She didn’t need a tip.
The reason why she cancelled her was probably because she got a booking from a client who T.I.P.s better you know To Insure Promptness..lol
In my country tipping has never been a thing. Our minimum wage is around $20/hour so I'm already paying $80 for a basic haircut. I would be changing hairdresser instantly if she canceled because I didn't tip.
They charge that and then expect a $40-50 tip from you in the US. It’s ridiculous. I don’t go anymore.
The tipping culture is just a way for businesses to advertise false prices.
In my country, you are not obligated to tip, BUT the option is still available if you consider the person did a good job and even a 5 dollar is good viewed. Here I've seen people canceling stuff for a 5 dollar tip and surprises me ngl.
@Crow probably free healthcare too. At least that's how it is in my country
4h for a basic haircut? Are you Rapunzel? 🤣
Tipping a hairdresser is so far out an idea for me. I'm from Denmark. We don't tip hairdressers. I don't even think they would accept it if you would offer one.
My mum wanted me to tip the taxi driver in UK. I was like... no!
In Germany we do, but it's like 1 or 2 or 3 Euro (maybe some more at a pricier salon or if you got something very time consuming) that goes into their tip jar. You're not expected to, though.
In the USA 🇺🇸 in the black community, we don't tip hair dressers. Waiters, drivers, delivery services ect yes, we tip them but why would someone tip a hair dressers who is getting 80 plus dollars per client......In the USA 🇺🇸 in the black community, we don't tip hair dressers. Waiters, drivers, delivery services ect yes, we tip them but why would someone tip a hair dressers who is getting 80 plus dollars per client......
Fully agree, I'm from dk too, and I'm wondering if it's also a card vs cash thing? Like in Denmark I think almost only old people carry cash, everything is pay with card. But I think in some other European countries it's different?
From the Netherlands here and I'm pretty sure that my hairdresser would laugh in my face assuming that Im joking
As a hairstylist of twenty-four years, I would never expect a tip. I also would not cancel an appointment because someone is not a tipper. If she wants more money, she should just raise her prices and it sounds like she's good enough to do it, because she's so busy.
That friend not sleeping. PRAYING!!!
I like how the dollar girl tried to explain the rules a second time and the lady was like "Beytch I understood the first time, I still want that dollar!" Give her the dollar!
Give me the dollar!!!🤣🙋🏽♀️
Give her the dollar!!
Run her her money 💰, she said what she said!
She only asked “would you” so it could be construed as more of a “would you rather” hypothetical.
I went to a new hairdresser recently who did an amazing job, but outright refused my tip - she explained it was because she priced her hairstyling accordingly so knew she'd be overcharging if she accepted tips.
Which is great, but chain places stylists cannot do that. They don't choose the service prices and they only see a portion of the service price, if any at all. Some make minimum wage and nothing more. People forget a lot of stylists are not renting a booth/ owning their own business so they don't get the money for the service.
@@bonnemoms5413 You're in the US, aren't you?
Wow that sucks. Sorry to the US peeps
99% of hairdressers don't work for themselves and can't set their own prices and only get a percentage of the service.
@@bonnemoms5413 Ahhh that's so awful! It always feels like it's quite a lucrative business but obviously not for the actual stylists :( Mine does work for a company but she's obviously quite lucky that she gets to do that with her pricing.
In the UK we do not have a tipping culture due to having a living wage. I have tipped hair dressers and I have had a mixed response. Most smile with a thank you while making sure you are sure about the tip. However, others have looked at me like I have insulted them. My most recent hair salon is the latter so I just thank them, pay and move on. They are lovely and will have a bubbly chat with you, but they do not want a tip.
Yeah I've found most tend to direct you to the charity pot if you want to leave a tip.
Strange, in my 58 years I never seen that .
People who work for tips make more than those that do not.
I had a friend who was dating a POS for almost 3 years, and listened to the non-stop BS was painful. If you keep putting your friends through this, they won’t be your friends much longer
As for the hairdresser, it was a British hairdresser, so the whole "tipping culture" isn't a thing here. Tips aren't even socially expected here, so that woman clearly got too much advice off the internet and never thought to check if that advice would work in the country where she lives and works.
It does work, though, because she's keeping her clients who do tip.
@@silververnallbells191 But what happens if one day they can't tip anymore, since they need all the extra they can get. And just chose to pay what she charges. Will they get kicked out? And if so, others will surely follow. A required tip is not a tip. Just raise your prices.
Word of mouth is extremely important. And if it comes out that she dumps clients who don't tip in a country where that's not a thing, it will come back for her.
@@plumdutchess agreed
@@silververnallbells191 in Britain it is polite to leave a tip for an job done exceptionally well. Most industries are monitored to ensure they are paying workers properly, including wait staff, hairdressers and bar staff, so it's not like America where the woman would be relying on that tip. The only people who get such a terrible wage, in this country, that it's considered rude not to tip, would be delivery drivers.
My point is, I guarantee the people she keeps because they do tip, won't tip every time meaning she's going to have to constantly change her clients and it won't be long before word of mouth gets out and it becomes difficult for her to book any clients at all.
Stop saying tipping culture isn't a thing in England, it is and had been for some time.
That tipping clip was with UK accents. Many people tip, many don't, but if you expect it from everyone and cancel those who don't, you're the one in the wrong.
How embarrassing. Hairdresser could have just charged the lady 5 pound more and said "inflation costs" and she would not have known any different. There is her tip.
As far as the tipping video, I was seeing was having the owner of the salon do my hair. She insisted for me NOT to tip her. So I did the next best thing, in my mind, and to buy a bottle of shampoo or another product. It made me feel better and gave her more than enough of a tip with the split profit between her and the product.
After being a customer for a year, I think she deserved to be told in person...not just cancel the appointment with no warning....
It would have been more diplomatic for the stylist to just tell her customer at her last appointment that she was going to cut down her work load and only "keep the customers who had been with her the longest." Fiction, but a somewhat polite fiction, and not leaving her surprised when she's anticipating an appointment.
Is a year long? I've rarely been happy with a haircut, but how often do people with long hair really need to go?
@@ghjgme honestly not to often maybe every three to six months to get the trimmed maybe more often for due so it’s like she has only been with the stylist 1-3 times before
@@ghjgme I go at least once a month to get my roots done and sometimes I tone it again after 2 weeks and get some other treatment 🥲
yes, simply not accepting further bookings would have been the way to go, not canceling on her. She shouldn't have booked it in the first place then.
My uncle is a judge in a rather low criminal court. One of my favorite activities is watching him work and yell at people for how they came dressed to court. Dude wore a shirt with weed on it when he came in for drug charges 🤦♀️
😂😆😂😆
Seems to me he was dressed rather appropriately XD
He needed to throw the book at him to give him several needed clues!
We dont tip in the uk, there is very rare exceptions, where someone has genuinely gone above and beyond for you, not simply for just doing their job.
I had to breakup with a friend over this. I told her when she was ready to leave him I have room on my couch but I refuse to come over and be subjected to his abusive actions.
My youngest kid's friend had a boyfriend that was on again, off again. After 2 weeks off, she announced they were together again. She asked my kid what she thought. The response: "I think he's the same dumbass you broke up with 2 weeks ago." Friend wasn't amused or appreciated the honesty for some reason.
As a tattoo artist- I never prioritize my clientele because of a tip or not? I still get paid either way. I love being tipped, it tells me that I’m doing a good job and you appreciate the artwork.. but I can’t fathom treating clients like that if they don’t usually tip? Sometimes they just don’t have the means to 😥 idk lol
The one person I always tip is my tattoo artist - might just be £10/20 depending how long a session but I like to make sure they know I appreciate all the effort both before and during my appointment. And I take extra drinks and snacks. But every single time they will ask if I’m sure, say there’s no need etc which is understandable given you’ve just paid a lot of money for your tattoo. I’ve had artists flat out refuse to take it. There’s definitely a huge difference in cultures when it comes to tipping - I’m just glad it isn’t compulsory in Scotland
100%! Some people save hard for the given price and punishing them for optional extra is ridiculous.
can i bake you some homemade brownies or bring some pot roast for your lunch or something instead? 🥹
07:34 This is the kind of thing that has started happening more and more, social influencers offering free things to people, only to refuse to give what they offered - apparently even on camera, this is a new one for me, - or give it away in camera only to turn off the camera and then bully them into giving back what they were given by the influencer - which I saw a video posted by someone (I think it was the mother) where apparently the influencer had given the daughter of a mother/daughter duo a new iPhone/iPad prior to ending his filming and now wanted it back after he had ended filming it.
I had a friend who got back with her ex way back when. I knew she'd remember I was with her in talking about him and how awful he was to be with. So I just said "You know how I feel about him. From what you said of him, I don't think he's going to change. But if you're happy, then I support you." She did go back with him, but only for a couple of weeks. Thankfully.
One of the reasons why the tipping video was shocking is because in England, the tipping culture is very different here 😊 Tipping isn't a rule here and it's not meant to be seen as bad if you don't tip here. You'd only really tip here if you've had really good service. And these days with the cost of living, loads of businesses understand that not every can afford extra. My hairdresser kept trying to give the tip back to me on my last cut as she felt bad 🤣🙈 (also when people tip in England it's not a set rate either, people would only tip a couple of pounds or maybe just round up their bill, this hairdresser is taking the biscuit! 🤣)
yh same in Trinidad too even when trying to raise funds or something epople don't tip so we are always really grateful when they do it's a really nice way of doing something special for someone
In my country NOBODY tips the hairdresser. I don't think they even take tips. I'm pretty sure they don't tip in England either. It's just... no... If Joan is self-employed, she needs to charge her customers more if she wants to make more.
Yes we don't tip in England and I've never tipped a hairdresser. Not when they are already charging over £100 anyway!
It's an American thing . According to another video the tipping culture is getting worse with about everybody expecting tips. In a restaurant that could be :
- the valet taking care of your car
- the doorman
- the receptionist taking your coat
- the maître d''ô welcoming you
- the waiter/waitress serving you
- the sommelier bringing your wine
- the chef who visits your table
I'm in England and sometimes tip
I concur with previous comment, I live in France and you don't tip the hairdresser, they get paid well and a tip is not expected. In England tipping the hairdresser is not a thing either. This is why this lady is amazed that her appointment is cancelled for not tipping, and is not grounds for prioritizing other customers. So weird!
Charlotte, you've gotten me through a lot. I started watching your channel during a terrible break up. You got me through some depressive states. And today, you're making me laugh through a broken tooth with terrible pain. So thank you, Charlotte. 🥰🥰
I’m South African. We don’t tip hairdressers. Usually there’s a tip jar at the till that gets divided between the cleaners and washers, not the hair stylists. At the salon I go to, there isn’t a tip jar and they don’t even suggest leaving a tip for cleaners either. They pay them properly.
As someone that was once very broke, I remember saving for a hairdresser, counting pennies to account for tax and being excited that I could finally do this one thing for myself. Now later on in life I do have the money to tip. I tip generously. I still think of my broke beginning and think if I had to include a tip I would never do this for myself. So my thoughts are if you can afford to tip do so if you can't and the service doesn't expressly say it "REQUIRES" tips. Do what you can.
My marriage has lasted 31 years so far, and that's because I keep my friends out of our business...If you want a relationship to last, you have to have boundaries...
Depends. Sometimes a person needs help getting out from an abusive relationship
@@sherriv4860Thank you. I know I needed my friends. Friends can see things we are blind to. On the other hand, and in support of the woman with " boundaries", friends can have the habit of suggesting we throw in the towel at the smallest arguement. " I wouldn't put up with that." Relationships are a work in progress and in any family there are tussles of push and pull. It can't be peachy all the time. But if you feel miserable most of the time and don't get out, friends can support you to make that step. When one partner isolates the other partner from their friends, that is a big red flag. Unless those friends enable unhealthy behavior: drinking, drug addiction, violence, crime etc.
I don't know english laws, but in the US she could be reported to the BBB for canceling her confirmed appointment... for somebody else at a later date who offers to pay more.
You're not allowed to just buy someone's confirmed appointment by offering a 'tip' in exchange for not booking in time.
That goes against standard business practice and could even be considered a breach of Business ethics.
Her friends' faces are like "be prepared to become a free therapist once again"
I think this reason is why I lost touch with friends 😕 one girl had a bf put a 💣 in her friend's car out of jealousy and she told me she was thinking of writing a letter to him for closure. I was like...the 💣 was the closure!
@@pcarebear1 I think you did well as a friend but if that person didn't want to be helped there's nothing much you could do anyway
UK, no tipping culture at all, and hair costs a fortune as it is.
To cancel for not tipping is weird tbh..
Exactly! I may have said “keep the change” when I used paper money but who does that anymore?
I just cut my own hair now since it’s so expensive. If it turns out bad, at least I didn’t pay for it, and I’ve paid for some bad haircuts
There is tipping here it's just not prolific.
The woman who was prioritizing her tipping customers could have just raised her prices to reflect the average that she was making with tips, and let her customers know why she was doing it. That way you’re naturally weeding out your cheap customers without alienating them specifically.
A couple of years ago In Michigan there was a big flood and a couple of dams broke and the lakes where drained, hundreds of properties look just like that second to last guys.
I read a quote once why it is a bad idea to go back to your ex: Going back to an old relationship is like rewatching a movie and expecting a different ending to happen.
And I stand by it
I like rewatching movies when I like the ending.
Excellent 👍 AGREE
I completely agree if the ex was abusive or if it was a toxic relationship but sometimes people break up because of timing and if you find your way back together at the right time, I support it.
Which is also the definition of insanity
Exactly, what do they expect. You broke up for a reason and it probably means you aren't compatible. However the world dont work in absolutes and there could be a few (quite rare) cases where going back actually works, IF whatever problem caused you to break up has been fixed for both and found a resolution both agree on and can live with. But at least almost every case people are fooling themself and would never have had a breakup if they were compatible and the relationship not toxic
I had two friends who made incredibly poor decisions with men. I couldn't handle it emotionally anymore, so I ended up friend-divorcing them. No regrets; best decisions I ever made.
Same. I absolutely love her and wish her the very best but I just couldn’t keep handling it, specially because I truly cared about her,it really took a toll on me and was starting to affect my relationship. No regrets. I do wish her the best. ❤
Here in Portugal we don´t have the costume to tip. Sometimes people do but the workers are not expecting it, and there are places that actually forbid their workers to accept tips.
Lmfao!!!! The lady who spilled the soup or vomit in a pot. Her FACE!!!!! AND HER FRIENDS!!!!! LOOOOOL!!!
OMG I can’t believe you said, “testicles, spectacles, wallet, and watch.” Daddy used to say that whenever we left the house. I thought he was the only one…!!! 💗💗💗 He died in 2001 - I miss his humor, but the wit lives on as very happy memories. And also in watching the Potato Queen!
It's a quote from Austin Powers
@@tinahickman6300 It's used in the Austin Powers film as a funny phrase to sell him as an englishman from the 60's as it was a common saying becoming less common as time continues.
As far as I know, it comes from Mike Meyers in one of his Austin Powers movies. I forget which one. We just came across it again in the last few months. Hilarious.
Daddy sooo predated Austin Powers. The writers must be using an obscure quote. I first heard Daddy say it in the mid 60’s…
My daddy used to say that too
I appreciate the friends who stayed by me when I was trying to leave my narcissistic ex. Narcissists get you so confused you start to believe you’re the bad person and should be grateful they’re with you. I understand why some people can’t stand to see us hurt, but the ones who remind us we aren’t horrible monsters are angels❤
Yeah by the time I left my narcissistic ex I had only 2 friends left. They didn't tell me why and I was dense AF in the name of "love".... Now it's super clear by the timing of them easing out of my life - it was when I came back. The first, second.....it was 7 years of losing friends and listening to "they aren't your real friends, I'm the only one who loves you".....smh. never again!
A lot of people in our lives are only "fair weather friends'-they're only there for you when its easy and fun for them. I think those friends aren't necessarily bad to have when you're down for an easy and fun time, but it's an important distinction when you're going through struggle. They're the first to disappear when someone isn't peppy and fun.
That said, it's also important to know how draining it is to even your closest friends if the majority of the time they see you they are trying to make you feel better. Just like you would go to your friends to relax and feel comfort-they want that too. It's hard to break away from a toxic relationship and wanting validation is important..but you have to keep in mind your friends feelings as well. If you don't think you're ready to leave a relationship, it may be more advantageous to seek out a therapist in the meantime and focus on ENJOYING time with your friends as stress relief. Definitely talk about personal struggle and occasionally seek advice-good friends will definitely be there for you...but the majority of friend time shouldn't force out that sort of dead-end emotional labor on their part.
@@kiraeckard7625 it's so incredibly draining... ive had a literal mental breakdown over a childhood friend that kept breaking up and going back to her horrible abusive narcissistic boyfriend over a 2 year period... as much as i love to help my friends and i feel for them it gets so much sometimes when they keep ignoring your advice over and over again. i feel like i was always there for her so many times being the "therapist" trying again and again to help her pull away and see the reality... but essentially i was just ruining my mental health over someone elses relationship while she was going to do what she wanted to do no matter what anyone said. it really hurts when your friends dump all this trauma on you but then don't really seem to care about your input and valid concerns. after the 50th breakup and countless of times where i actually believed here that "it's over" i had to just.. pull myself away even if i still wanted to help.
Haha that girl with here eyes closed, is just playing a prayer 😂
The tipping issue - this was in Britain! I have never had to tip my hairdresser and I have lived here for 27 years. I pay around £120-140 for a two hour appointment. That’s not bad going rate. Why do we need to tip on top?
Re The tipping thing - 2 points - 1. most hair dressers are self employed...they set their prices, so if she can't afford to work at the price quoted, then she needs to raise her rates. 2. From the accents they are in the UK. Tipping culture here is different. It's not expected that you are going to get a tip. (though crazily, it seems to be creeping into the hospitality industry)
I agree with this. I caught the part where she said "her workers/my customers" which tells me she is quite likely the owner, so she has control over her costs. And, I could be wrong, but somehow even though it's not the culture there, I would find it quite hard to believe in 1yr or service she has NEVER tipped. Like, it's soo unlikely that every other customer is tipping her every visit, or a tip value worth prioritizing over🤷♀️Not from the UK so I could be wrong
@@sexigirlfay I can believe that she never would've tipped in one year cause I've never tipped anyone in my entire life.
In places where there isn't tipping culture, you just don't even think to do it because it's assumed that everyone is being paid a decent amount.
It's just creeping in now because of influence from tourists and social media making people think they need tips. When in other countries, they actually need them because of poor wages.
Numerous salons here in the US are commission or just minimum wage and tips. The stylists don't choose their prices. Only booth renters do.
@@maimai-xc6wu I get that, but I don't know how to quite explain this part....
...I don't always directly say here is a $x tip, sometimes it just "happens". For example, I have my regular stylist and on occasion, I may not have the exact money to pay her when paying cash, so she needs to give me change, and if she doesn't have change I'll say, when I come back etc (knowing I won't ask for it). I've been I'll at an appointment once and she left to purchase something at the pharmacy nearby and was handing me my change, I was completely *joke* offended and said keep it. And I deliberately "overpay" during the holidays, for example, I know it costs $15 but consciously take a $20 note.
But I do get what you are saying, I've never decidedly said here a tip for doing my hair.
But cmon, she's been her client for a year, that to me would automatically make you a priority. As someone who's only ever had 2 stylists, 1st for about 12yrs and the other for the last 7 or so, loyalty should weigh more, the ones who tip may not always tip, but I would value a consistent paying client, I guess that's just me though.
@@bonnemoms5413 I can understand that, but the phrasing of her statement "my clients, my workers" makes me lean toward thinking she is a controlling party in the salon, be it owner etc, and she has the final decision on who even gets an appointment, so idk, I think she has some degree of say in pricing. And what I've noticed most explaining is that tipping, especially in this particular industry is not the standard in the UK, so I was really looking at it from the cultural perspective for the UK, not globally. But at least you are letting us know what happens in your corner of the globe. Always good to know
I have always told my daughter, who is a server. “Appreciate a tip, do not expect a tip”
As a former server, I agree. Yes, it was my job. Yes, I knew the pay going into it. Yes, I appreciated tips when I got them. Was I down when I got stiffed or tipped extremely low? Yes, but I moved on and didn’t hold a personal grudge against those people or anyone else. These people were not responsible for my livelihood, nor should they have been.
As I see it, the tipping is not the main problem, what is wrong in the first place is that they accepted the appointment, knowing the costumer, and then canceled it because they replaced her with someone that came after her who they preffered. That's unprofessional even in my country where tipping is a thing.
I'm from the Netherlands in Europe and nobody gives tips to hairdressers... i never heard that before. We only give tips when you go out to dinner and the service was really good.
Story time: So I worked for Starbucks for six years, and the last three years I worked at a drive-thru. We would keep one of our tip jars, we had a few because of the different points of sale, on the drive-thru ledge when the window was open. They weren’t typically labeled, because the chalk marker we used on them would usually rub off after a few days, but sometimes we’d write things on them. Well one time this customer came through and asked my coworker what it was for. He told her it was our tip jar, and she then proceeded to get mad that we weren’t instead raising money for the war in Ukraine. Ma’am we make minimum wage. We are not the ones you should be getting mad at about a war in Europe. None of us knew how to handle that one so we just gave her order and sent her on her way. Also when I worked in the mall Starbucks people would steal our tips a lot. I don’t care how you feel about tipping culture, but don’t do that. Steal a bag of chips or a cup if you’re so desperate you have to steal, but don’t take money from people just trying to do their jobs.
wow...the AUDACITY!!! Getting *Startbucks* in your *car* in a "drive through" ..like not even having to walk to pick up your drink but having it handed to you...and then, after paying 10 $ for A DRINK (no idea how much starbucks is over there, i'm from germany lol) COMPLAINING ABOUT YOU GUYS NOT DONATING THE TIP ?? Excuse me??? wtf man...I can never get the entitlement in these stories!! Honestly if I was living in the US I would hold back so often because, I kind of have the impression that you guys get fired or sued super easily..and this whole "customer is king" bullshit 🙈...but if this happened to me over here at my job I would definitely suggest her donating the freaking 10 $ instead of getting a stupid drink in her car if it was soooo important to her! damn...some people 🙈
@@rickylein1581 thank you, I appreciate your outrage. Some orders can cost that much or more, but it really just depends on what you get, and how many modifications you make. There are some people whose drink order definitely cost that much, but most of them were aware that they had a problem, and didn’t mind paying, or tipping.
Yeah I bet you that that woman has donated $0 to the war in Ukraine
@@xxashes4579 right after the war broke out, we had supply chain issues like no other. We ran out of both oat milk AND almond milk! How could we do such a thing! Everyone was like, “I can’t believe you’re out,” and I had to restrain myself from saying, “well the people in Ukraine are out of a lot of things right now,” so much. Such entitlement. You’re probably right though. Someone who has moral outrage like that, isn’t the type of person who actually does anything to help.
She wanted you to raise money for a war? What is wrong with people 😕
This is exactly why tipping is a problem. Just put out your full price how much you want to get paid, don't go around expecting people to guess how much tip they should be giving you so that you get "prioritised" it's just such a dumb system. Extremely unfair to both workers and customers. People should know exactly what they are paying up front so they can decide whether they can afford it or not and not get refused service because other customers gave them 25% more than what's on the price list. It's not an auction!
I am Australian and I think that our tipping culture is pretty similar to the UK. I would never dream of tipping a hairdresser.
Charlotte you have no idea how much I enjoy your videos!! You have made me laugh so much even when I felt so sad. Thank you for entertaining me and everyone else who enjoys your videos. Currently binging your videos while I work on my diamond painting. Hope all is well god bless you ❤.
I understand the friends group. I'm just letting my highschool friendship that last for many years slowly die out. My friend was engaged, she was cheating on her fiance and there was a huge drama and she was sleeping in my place and crying all night and involuntary I was a part of it trying to support her and help. It all finally ended up good and they got back together and I was a maid of honour on their wedding. And six months after the wedding she's having a romance again! I'm just, no, why did you even got married?! Why? After all of this? What more they live in a property together that her father gave them as a wedding gift so it will be split in a half after divorce. Her dad will kill her. She spend valentine day with her lover and her husband was calling me asking do I know where she is, crying. Guys, please stop the car, I'll leave here. Thanks, I'm out.
Please tell me you told the husband. Like STDs, Violence, this can turn out really bad!
Please tell the husband!
@@amokay746 I told her I will not cover her romance and to keep me out of it. On valentine's day she told him she's going to go on a concert and stay in friends place and then turned off her phone. He was looking for her and calling everyone. He use to call me few times and my boyfriend too, he was rally upset, but I didn't know where she was. You could imagine how angry my boyfriend was that we are in a middle of their drama again. I send her messages on every app to give her husband a call as it's getting out of hand and he's looking for her. I know they use to drive back home together late night. She texted me they are arguing in the car and that she had a fight with her lover too as he didn't wanted her to leave. Like, I don't want to know it, don't tell me about it. I just hoped they won't crash because all of it. Madness. I really don't want to be part of this anymore 🤦🏽♀️
@@amokay746 You're right, i would 100% tell him. Poor guy.
Please find a way for the husband to discover it on his own or tell him. I'm telling you from experience, regret, even as a third party, is brutal.
I once had to tell a friend she couldn't talk to me about her BF anymore if it was bad. Too many years of me taking on her emotional damage was too much. My mental health is my priority not her f*cked up relationships.
Been there not that long ago... The result was that after she stopped complaining about her BF, there was no other subject to talk about, since she was in such a toxic relationship that it was all she talked about (good or bad). I am in a healthy relationship, but I was feeling so strained and exhausted just because of her venting, that I had to ask her to stop. It put such a strain in our friendship that we grew apart, and even now, one year after, we barely talk anymore because I instantly feel drained just from talking to her (even tho she moved on from that relationship)
@@marii5297 Exactly what happened to me too. I'm positive it's like a personality disorder or something.
I am doing that with a female friend who has an old buddy who is cruel to her. Actually, she has two girlfriends who are just plain mean. I won't have anything to do with those two because I see how awful they are to her. But she just complains. I now say she can complain for 15 minutes and then it is a " Sally" - free zone and I don't want to hear about her/them. Too much airtime given to a troll. My friend needs nice people who treat her decently. But I guess her childhood stuff is being enacted with these meanies. I stick by her, but model my own boundaries for both of our sakes.
@@user-vg6pj2my2n That is extremely healthy thinking. As they say, the deepest love has solid boundaries. Also, setting boundaries can tell you who really loves you because they will respect those boundaries and who cares only for themselves because they will disrespect your boundaries. You sound like a great friend.
@@Metonymy1979 Thank you. You sound like a good friend too. Why should multiple people have to suffer because one person is mean and another is slow ( 20 yrs plus) to stop being a doormat?
Pay your employees enough, in the UK we have a national minimum wage and customers aren't obliged to tip because employees are actually earning enough to live on comfortably, tipping is only done after the service and if you think that the service was exceptional.
My parents never explained that there was a thing called tipping. When I got a little older I had a friend that was a waitress that explained to me about tipping waiters. And I don’t know how I ever figured out that you tip the hairdresser. Probably something that should be taught in high school
the tipping issue, we don't tip in the UK as a requirement, but it is known to happen. Me and fiance have done it on occasions as well. The hairdresser got tips because her customers appreciate her work because they want to, not because they have to. She needs to raise her prices if she's self employed or something, if she feels she's not making enough money for her business
:D
I uh, got back with my ex. We're getting married next month. We were in the wrong places at the wrong time. I got help with my mental health & he got help with all his drinking. Eight months later we crossed paths, both emotionally stable and responsible and here we are 8 years later and couldn't be better!
This is wonderful, I'm glad it worked out for you two!
That’s great and I wish you all the best, but you’re the exception and not the rule.
That is totally different. If he is healthy for you and respects you, your friends will be happy for you.
Me too, we've been together 28 years now, glad I followed my heart and didn't listen to my friends
Your situation is completely different. I have a feeling the person in the first video is in a perpetually on and off again relationship…one that ends with “I hate them and we’re never getting back together”, only to get back together and continue the toxic cycle….all while expecting your friends to just deal with it why you constantly cry on their shoulder. Probably also a situation where they ask for advice that THEY NEVER FOLLOW 🤦🏼♀️😂 I’m happy for you, though! I too married an ex of sorts after we reunited!
I love your videos! It always makes me smile to watch them while I eat lunch every day
Love love love watching your videos 😂 live how you comment and your editing..lol always laughter.. keep doing these videos it always makes my day..lol
All my friends were ecstatic when my ex and I got back together. It lasted 11 years until he passed away last year. I think friends are a wonderful barometer in determining whether or not to reconcile.
I'm terribly sorry for your loss... Hugs!!
I distanced myself from a friend insisting on a toxic relationship, I just couldn't see that anymore but respected her decision. A year later she came back single and we just moved on with our old friendship.
Exactly
Their lack of a reaction is so hilarious it takes me all the way! X'D It's too much! The looks on their faces toooo! Lol omg
"love doesnt wanna make you smash plates- well sometimes-..." same ahahaha
For the tipping one. Both had UK accents… we don’t tip here.
Tipping is not mandatory in the US either. People are just becoming extremely entitled and expecting you to pay them extra even when they give you bad or poor or even mediocre service. In the US tip is just, that a TIP for good service. It shouldn't be expected or demanded. The company should be paying them a fair wage. But if they won't literally no one is forcing them to work in a job where you count on tips to survive. You can get a normal job where you're paid. I used to work for tips and some nights I made way above minimum wage, and some nights I made way below minimum wage. That's why I chose to leave a job where I worked for tips to begin with. The pay was too inconsistent for me. Everyone has that same choice. So it's really insane to me that people get physically angry and try to destroy innocent people's reputations online for not tipping.
That's another thing I found weird, I thought they didn't really have a tipping system in the UK, glad I was right.
@@WhitneyDahlin The common sense thing would be to raise workers' living wages to get rid of the whole tipping system, but servers have said they didn't want that (bcs they can make above minimum wage). The problem is tipping has a history in racism & how it really shouldn't even exist in the way that it does.
Hairdresser was in UK. No tipping culture in the UK. She was also working for herself. She just wanted more money instead of raising her prices
The min wage for servers/bartenders in Georgia a few years ago was less then $3 because they expect you to get paid from tips. They even tax a percentage of your sale’s because you are expected to tip
The last guy on the ice reminded me of a penguin shuffling to the edge of the ice and just hopping into the water 😂
Tipping is a personal and financial choice. If the hairdresser bases her bookings on whether client tips or not maybe a sign saying "tipping will guarantee further appointments" should be posted.
Agreed! Not canceling after she probably rearranged things to get to her hair appointment.
The thing is, tipping for anything other than restaurants or pubs just doesn't really happen in the UK, where the women sound like they come from. So saying she wanted a tip at all is a big shock.
I literally just realized that a friendship shouldn't feel like an exhausting obligation. I actually have the choice to walk away. My former friend asked me to testify in court about her abusive & very very mean husband. She was granted her restraining order we go eat and I go home, I left something in her car so I got my husband to take me by her place to get it. Guess who's vehicle was in her driveway. I was shocked and disgusted. I was emotionally exhausted and now disgusted because he did unforgivable actions to her and she found horrible videos on his phone of acts being done by him to people who couldn't consent. I never considered walking away from a friendship because that's not what a friend does but for my sanity and consciousness I ran away. It still hurts and I hope she is well but I just can't look past what I know and she knows.
Wow! That's awful. I'm sorry
@@milliejenkinson5832 Thank you so much. Enjoy the rest of your day/night!
You have every right to leave her, if you feel like it is suffocating you
I've been there. And with a sister, no less. You were right to run, hon. You're no good to yourself or anyone else if you are sucked dry by these emotional vampires. Warm Texas hugs to you! 🤗
@@Martina-Kosicanka I appreciate your kind words but I can't help feeling that I abandoned someone I cared about in their time of need. I know it's best for me but it just feels lousy.
As a stylist, as long as you pay for the service I’m happy. People budget is not my business. But to each their own.
The tipping video we don’t tip in the UK or in the Netherlands where I live.
When I lived in the UK we only tipped people in restaurants
maybe instead of cancelling the appointment,she just doesn't accept any NEW appointments from that customer. 🤷🏻♀️
In the UK we don’t typically tip other than those like waiters/waitresses/takeout delivery drivers, I mean some do but it’s not that common over here, personally believe In it though💖
Why tho? I'm American - I always tip when I do go out - but it would be better if tipping was abolished and reasonable prices for expected service were put in place instead. Tipping culture ran rampant in America because service workers (mostly wait staff) aren't paid enough here.
Once you start expecting tips to be paid to workers who already make a reasonable wage for their work or who have set their own prices, tip policies can spiral out of control. This is especially true since expected tip percentage has creeped up over the years. I remember as a kid in the 90s that 10 - 15% was expected; it creeped up to between 20 - 25%, and I've seen places suggest 30% or higher.
Better to stop tipping culture creep before you're tipping your mailman so they won't leave your packages in the rain.
@@NotAFanOfHandles in the UK people can live on our minimum wage... Apparently in America waiters or customer service people are paid so little that they survive off of tips?
Think we pay our workers more than they do in America
Tipping is a crap system. The customer is already paying for the staff services with the product hike up, I'm not about to pay their wages too. YOU as their employer pay their wages. I pay for their service as part of my price - because I know that salad costs 1.50euro, and not 23.50euro. Tips Are 100% voluntary. Making them mandatory simply means I don't use your service anymore.
@@emmas4466 It varies from state to state. In California, where I live, wait staff get paid the same minimum wage as any other minimum wage job - $15.50/hr which is more than twice federal minimum wage which is $7.25/hr - but in many other states the "minimum wage" for wait staff is only $2.13/hr and the tips are supposed to bring the amount they earn per hour _up to_ the minimum wage; if the tips they make do not meet the minimum wage, then the owners of the establishment must make up the difference. Logically, this means that it is actually _not_ necessary to do tips as the employers must ensure that their labor still gets minimum wage, but as you might have guessed, logic is a rare commodity here. Thus in California, the tips are just an added incentive to be wait staff.
Now, $15.50/hr might not seem too bad in comparison to $7.25, but CA is an overall HCOL *state,* and even in the cheapest areas it can still mean you need two jobs. For instance, where I live, the average rent for a one bedroom apartment is approx. $1900/mo., but that's just to _rent_ the place. You would need one full-time minimum wage job just to afford the apartment then another job to afford everything else.
I’m a hairstylist and tipping is a gift and not required. I would rather have the money from their services with no tip then to lose the client all together. Yes tips are great but if I have a client coming to see me and the service is $35-$150 (depending on what gets done) I would rather that steady income then a $10-20 tip and losing them.
When it comes to tipping at a business, you don't tip the owner: they set the rates. However, an employee that rents a chair usually gives a percentage or a pays a flat rate: tip what you can. Some parts of my state charge double the amounts in some cities.
My problem with the hair dresser is l, she should have either not made another appointment. She knew she was going to not do her hair after she didn't give her a tip the last time. It also doesn't say she hasn't tipped everytime. So we really don't have the whole story.
They are British, I have never heard of tipping a HAIRDRESSER in Britain. Waiting and bar staff, yes, anyone else, nope. This is outrageous!
My hairdresser owns the salon and I never tip her. You for a service, it's good, you pay....why tip? They're doing there job, for Pete's sake.
I tip my hairdresser if she does an amazing job with my hair, or when I can afford too but she understands and she puts the tip in her pricing since she sets her own rates.
Not entirely wrong about your view on the hairdresser. That said, watching the whole interaction on TikTok lets us understand that the hairdresser is not actually an underpaid worker, she's a freelancer in a salon that charges as much as she wants for her services. At a given point the woman even says, "then well, up your prices, if you're relying on tips from your clients". Tip etiquette is different in the UK than in US/CA and she had no idea she was supposed to tip. So yeah... a bit torn on that one.
Ugh I used to work at a spa and we didn't have a front desk person so after I did a service on a customer I then had to check them out myself and it was so awkward every time I had to ask if they would like to leave a tip because our POS system made us type it in before they could swipe their card.. It was so embarrassing / awkward sometimes for both me and the client lol
We don’t have tipping in the uk. Sometimes we say to ‘the change’
But where does it end for you? Tip teachers? Tip shop assistants? Tip bus drivers? Tip street cleaners? Ridiculous.
Why should the customer pay more than the advertised price for the service they’re receiving?
America - pay your staff a decent wage.
Maybe the woman with the umbrella needed the dollar to tip the hair stylist so she can get her hair done!!! Lol
Two things: 1)when I was an esthetician I appreciated tips. I never cancelled an appointment because a client didn’t tip but if there was a choice between two who needed to be squeezed in and one tipped, well guess who got the walk in. Plus I tip my braider very well and she takes care of me. Plus we just vibe very well too.
And 2) It’s EXHAUSTING having friends go back to horrible exes. I had one marry the guy and when she did I told she can’t complain to me about him because she married him knowing who and how he was. And I told another friend after around eight years of complaining that she must like it because she’s still there. She stopped talking to me about him after that. I don’t think that they understand the toll it takes on their friends. They don’t understand the love that we have for them.
The hairdresser/tipping story - here in America, most hairdressers are either the shop owner or independent contractors who si.pky lease a spot in a shop. They charge what the market will bear, and tipping is strictly optional.
Also - in the customer's favor is that there is no shortage of hair stylists, so none of them are going to remove you as a client. Because there is always some one better than you, and losing a customer will hurt you, not them.
FYI. I don't know if tipping etiquette has changed since my day. However, even in places where it's typical to tip a hairstylist, that never applies if the owner of the shop is your hairstylist.
A funny on tipping - I went to a chain type place for a hair cut as my stylist was away on maternity leave. That was the first mistake I made. The woman who cut my hair talked non-stop and I mean NON FREAKING STOP which in itself was annoying - I showed her a picture of my hair after my last haircut - it’s a very simple style. No problem she said, I can easy peasy do that. So she starts cutting - I was alarmed at the amount of hair she was cutting but kept quiet, telling self it will be okay. Second HUGE mistake I made. She gave me a freaking Karen cut!!!!! And the whole time complained about her daughter in law and how they excluded he from so many family functions, she NEVER shut up. I was horrified and almost in tears. I had large bills so said I would come back and give her tip when I broke the bills to pay for the cut. Didn’t this horror of a woman follow me to the register and ACTUALLY KEPT HER HAND UP IN THE AIR palm up and out for her tip. I was LIVID by this point and only gave her $5.00. She huffed and walked away. I normally tip at least 30% to 40% of the cut costs. Needless to say? Never went back and I also left a horrible review on their website, something I had never done before and actually named names. I should have given her a penny. It took MONTHS to grow out the nasty Karen cut lol
I'm so sorry you had that experience! That sounds down right awful! I tip like you.
She was rude to expect it like that. (I'm a stylist), even those who babe only commission or minimum wage should not expect it, but appreciate it, and treat you with kindness. She should never have done that with her hand for the tip. Eeew. So gross. And her reaction to your amount, even worse! If she hadn't done that I would say MAYBE the receptionists gave been taking tips or something (or she suspected) but that attitude after says is just get being a terrible human.
Good for you leaving a review! Sometimes you just need to.
The first video is why I had to cut off some of my friends because I was becoming more stressed out about their situations then they were. I was the one always coming up with solutions that they never followed through with. Sometimes you just have to cut them off and let them deal with their own BS. Especially if it's a continuous pattern with them..
UK based barber here. We don't expect tips. Some customers never tip, some customers always tip but ALL customers pay in full for the service provided.
Any tips should be considered a gift. Some people are struggling and getting a haircut is a rare luxury for them. The fact that you are happy enough with the haircut/beard trim, that you continue to pay for my services? That's enough for me. Anything else is just a bonus.
Arent those the boots Pepper Anne wore or maybe someone from that show Recess? lol they should be called the Saturday Morning Cartoon boots