There is such a difference between having a broke friend and CHEAP friend. A friend down on their luck will try and make sure they appreciate and return gestures. A cheapass will just drain you because they see a deal or an opportunity.
This! Due to life circumstances i have unfortunately been the broke friend more often than not. I am always looking for ways to show appreciation and to pay back when i can. I would never expect someone to cover me without an offer from them. This kind of attitude horrifies me and i really hope i have never left anyone feeling used.
Omg!! My BIGGEST pet peeve!!! The passive aggressive "asking"!!!!! If you need/want something, ASK!!!! Ive had people do that exact thing to me. "Ohh. Uhhhh. It sucks. Its raining. I guess I'll be walking home in the storm....." You pull that crap, i will look you dead in the eye. "yep. Guess you are. Try not to drown". If you ASK!! "Hey. Its raining. Could you give me a lift?" In a heartbeat!! "Sure. Get your butt in the car"
Honestly I often don’t get that they’re low key asking. I just assume they’re complaining, offer some sympathy, and move on. I don’t get the passive cue thing; face value or nothing. 😂
Right! Just effing ask. I'll pretend to be too dense to understand that you're asking for something without asking for it. Just open your mouth and communicate like an adult.
Same here!!!! One of my exs got into debt because he was always paying for everything & not asling me to pitch in or say hey > cant afford lets stay home. Nope he got into debt instead! Not my problem! 😅🤦🏽♀️🤮
About 6 years ago, a friend of mine opened a Korean BBQ place. Occasionally, he would text and ask if one of us could check in when he wasn't there to see if the service quality was the same or if they were putting on a show for the owner. He was very clear though - just go and have a meal with your family and email me the bill and I'll pay you back for it. No confrontations, no asking for weird menu items, no being fussy customers - just be normal and essentially act like a secret shopper. He would only ask one of us to do it maybe once every 6 months after the first year, so it wasn't like he was trying to spy or anything, he just wanted reassurance that his staff were as great as they were when he was there. The last time I audited for him I watched as this group of Karens came in and were like "We know the owner, you'd better be giving us VIP treatment, etc..." they were possibly the worst people I'd ever seen in a restaurant and I had worked as a server before. I asked our server if these people were regulars and the server said yes and the staff always tried to bend over backwards for them as they knew the owner. After our server left I call my friend and put him on speaker so he could hear them and he pretty much said "Hell no!" When he heard the way they were speaking to the wait staff. He asked if I'd buy them a round or 2 of drinks (which we did) so they'd stay a bit so he could make it in, and oh boy when he got back he threw those Karens out on their butts so fast. He even took their pictures and said they were being added to the 'no serve' list. Apparently one of them was his Auntie and the others were her entitled friends, he pretty much exposed her behaviour to his family. It was my last time helping him audit as his arrival and my buying the Auntie drinks exposed me and he told his staff why I'd been there and that he had secret shoppers come in every 6 months or so and that's why some of them would get bonuses around that time. Was really funny next time I came in and had to tell the server not to worry, that I wasn't a secret shopper for my friend any more, the servers quite quickly started a joke that that was exactly what a secret shopper would say and every time I go there even now they all do fake winks and play up their service lines, like "Oh you call out if you need absolutely anything, if the food's even a degree too cold or hot let us know 😉" in over the top tones, it's so funny.
May your friends business thrive for decades, because he's doing all the right things. He's got a good head on his shoulders to have the foresight to test his employees, and to back them up and not put up with the mistreatment. That's awesome.
My favorite "I know the owner" happened some 25 yrs ago. We were short handed one night so I was helping my wait staff. In an effort to get a free meal this lady, whom I had never met, gleefully told me she was friends with the owner and would be getting me fired. I didn't bother to tell her I was the owner but on her way out another table informed her of her error, we never saw her again.
That’s fantastic😂😂 I had that happen at a gas station, A GAS STATION because while walking in, someone made an “ick” gesture at me (a high school bully) and for the first time, I stood up for myself and she said she knew the owner… the owner was there and basically said she didn’t know her and nothing happened to me, didn’t even get kicked out😅 plus they were taking up 2 spots at the very front with a tiny ass car and that already annoying me and I knew it was hers from the guys waiting for her
Im a housewife with a lot of successful, well paid friends. I have never been called cheap before because 1. I look up the restaurant, club, bar, whatever and if i know its out of my price range i dont go. If someone offers to pay i make sure they know exactly when I'll be able to pay them back. 2. I dont ever expect anyone to pay for me. 3. I suggest days/nights out/activities i know i can afford. Nothing wrong with doing a girls day picnic. 4. I always make sure i have something to contribute to the guest of honors bill (birthday girl, bride to be whatever). Its ok to be broke. We all broke. Its not ok to expect other to pick up your slack.
Absolutely!! When I was broke( because I was a responsible single parent who paid her bills ) my best friend was quite well off. She would invite me to ‘the girls’ shopping trips and when I volunteered to get the morning coffee she’d thank me and then say lunch was on her. A nice way of keeping me included and allowing me to retain some dignity by contributing what I could and taking care of the more expensive item. Why is it when you are broke everything fits you like a dream and is in your colours?? 😂😂😂
Poor and cheap are two whole different things. The first one is a lack of funds, but cheap is entitlement and a lack of respect. A cheap person thinks a server doesn't deserve a tip for being busy or not getting their ice water filled fast enough or they "don't have the money to tip", or they always expect a friend to treat them to whatever it is they're doing together, even if it was their invitation. I survive off social security disability. Life isn't easy, but I tip well, make sure I can afford something if I go, and I keep a buffer for small splurging or emergencies. I am also generous with treating or helping my friends when I can. It's a difference in mindset. I find that people who have lived through hard times will often be the most generous with what they do have. I've had strangers buy me gas, but I've also given extra clothes, supplies, or rides to those in need. I carry first aid everywhere (nurse mom), and I've been the one to patch people up on the fly. That's just the right thing to do if you are able. Pampering a princess on the other hand? No. Find a sugar mama elsewhere because my bowl is empty.
That's how I always do it! Especially if I eat out with some people I don't know well. I have heard too many stories about "splitting" the bill. They order everything expensive and lots of drinks and one or 2 order normally and get stuck paying for someone else's gluttony.
At a tea room, we’d have the same two British ladies book a ‘Princess Tea’ every Friday. They wanted tea decanted for them (they had tools to do it at table.) Scones reheated. Never tipped bc “it’s not our culture.” So basically all the servers took the hit (we still had to tip out the kitchen). One day, we were absolutely slammed. I was there solo with two six tops, and these two ladies were more demanding than both tables combined. They ordered extra and stayed two hours. My boss had to shut down her gift shop temporarily and step in as a server. When I burst into tears in the kitchen, I watched my boss march right out to ‘their’ (favorite) table and tell them to leave right there. They were so aghast. She just let it all out. “You never tip, you’re in America. You made my server cry. You expect more than 12 people combined. Get. Out.” It was beautiful. Love you, Beth. 💙
Wow as uk person this bad I mean I forgot to tip alot on holiday felt bad few places never got tips of me x but it not what use to doing but if they live there they should no better or come back uk we're don't need to 🤷🏻♀️ should add I was regularly at 1 bar in Vegas forgot tip same person 3rd night apologise and say just take a tip of what give you or don't give me change as sorry and likely to forgot got good tip that night and as far as remember did take tip as if got change would say he took it or never got change so we had x
Thats crazy. Tipping isn't popular here in the UK, so it isn't expected, but it is rude not to. Especially if you're being a difficult customer. Send those "ladies" home.
My mom immigrated here from Scotland as a teenager to be with my aunt, grandparents soon followed. And my family ran a gas bar/restaurant as their first business venture. I am happy to say we had alot of great memories in the restaurants we visited because we were non complainers and excellent tippers. To the point when we'd walk in, the staff would cheer 😂 even if the kitchen was having a bad night? They still got a tip. Because we know it's hard work.
I was a red seal chef for over 12 years. I worked in one kitchen where I was the number 1 and had a lot of authority over food. There was a couple that came in every Sunday after church and were the worst complainers. Nothing was ever good enough. When we were told they were there I took over cooking their meal personally. I prepared and even served the food to them. I stood beside their table and asked them to try it to see if it up to their standards. Knowing I was head chef with all my certificates and I told them I made their meal personally, they were very pleased with their food. I said to them, "That's great. So there will be nothing to complain about to get all or part of your meal comped today?" They paid and didn't complain but that was the last time we saw them after church.
After church people are the absolute worst. Very few of them actually keep up the good vibes from church, but most of them feel like they did their good thing for the week, now lets make service and kitchen staff feel like shit in the name of Jesus.
I'm a bartender in a tiny town. Dive bar, if you will. On our shifts in the day, we are the bartender and the cook and the barback. I ended up buying a shirt that says, "I know the owner, too," and when I wear it , NO ONE tries that ole "well I know the owner. "... really, karen? Cuz so do it! I also get the joy and privilege of being able to tell people to literally GTFO.
LOVE when restaurant staff reply to bad faith reviews. I like the one where they ordered like two to closing and had the address wrong and bunch of other inconveniences for the poor delivery guy, and the owner called them out with the full story, and said something like "I'm actually happy to see your dumb//ss review because it means our driver didn't kill you"
I have a friend who has very little money due to her health and family situation, she’s generous in every other aspect and gives her time and puts thought into small meaningful gifts. Being cheap isn’t just about money, it’s a meanness of spirit that manifests in lots of ways
Your friend is cheap and that's not a bad thing. The person described in this video is cheap but more importantly selfish. My mom is cheap as hell but you'll never catch her using others and being an inconvenience. Those are w different things
@@Sickwitit18I don’t call someone cheap who doesn’t have the money. If your mom decides to be cheap for no reason ok so what but for me it sounds like her friend just doesn’t have the money
Yes, like using people. That’s really mean. I also think people have some personal responsibility in allowing a so called friend to do it to them. Why would you want a friend like that and how are they really a friend at all?
Entitled people will never learn until they have a cup of humbling tea. 🙄 Sidenote, I've said it before, but I'll say it again. Charlotte, you are absolutely glowing lately! Who else agrees? 🤗
Story 1: no common sense or financial sense of responsibility. Spending $500 on someone’s bday is ridiculous. You don’t pay for drinks that you didn’t drink, you don’t pay $100 for an Uber to party . You don’t change your reservation for someone else, who can just skip the dinner or go home early. And above all, never let anyone eat your food instead of buying their own. One taste is fine but after that, their hand would be slapped.
Yes! What happened to honesty 😂 everyone is so fake now. “I want to go out to dinner with you guys but I’m tight on cash- would you guys mind going somewhere cheaper?”
That’s exactly what I was thinking. Her friend might be cheap, but op doesn’t seem very bright if she agrees to spend $500 on someone else’s birthday. The friend might not even be cheap. She just knows op is gullible.
The best “I Know The Owner” moment I had at my job was when it was 9 degrees fahrenheit and windy. At my job we have to be outside taking orders. On this particular day we weren’t allowed to come inside and warm up even if our hands were numb and blue. A customer said “I know the owner and this is not okay. I’m definitely going to tell him to change this”
My bar has a fun comment at the bottom of the receipt. “I know the owner discount, but one beer get one full price” hahaha. Mind you the owners of my bar have been around in the industry in my area for a long time. 80% of the people that come in my establishment have known my owners for 15/20 plus years. No one cares they know them hahahaha
when it comes to giving coworkers rides home this is how i do it: 1st ride is free, 2nd is $5, 3rd is $10, 4th is $15, and so on. thats how you keep people from using you, your gas, and adding unnecessary milage to your car.
I give them money. Even if they refuse it. Or if I ask for a ride, I will offer to send them money electronically for gas or pay for it this time or if I can’t this time I will find a way to pay for it in the future. Or if not gas, then food somewhere.
@@Jumperchick11YES! So many people don't want to accept the money after they drive me. So I'll fold up the $5-$10 and throw it at them as I close the door of their car. They usually won't object after then.
@@Jumperchick11ive been lucky *knocks on wood* that i havent needed a ride since i was a teen. But yea, my ride then as a teen and I had an agreement of a certain amount per week, even if i didnt get one from them one day, and paid when i got paid, up front. Our arrangement ended on a good note when i finally got my own car. I cant imagine not paying someone for that. Have had a few times where i had to hide the money lol.
@@RhaenarysI live about an hour outside the city so often I'll park at a friend's place and we'll carpool on our adventures for the day. Hence the need for a ride.
I'm not trying to be rude, but being cheap isn't the same as being poor. The definition of a cheap person is someone who is stingy with money and refusing to pay their share. It's not about them not having money, but them feeling entitled to others. Cheap is a mentality more than a monetary value when it comes to people instead of objects. Again, I hope it doesn't come across as rude or condescending. I'm not trying to be sarcastic either, so I hope it doesn't come across that way either.
@@mynameisjustine92 nah paying your fair share has nothing to do with being cheap. Being cheap is how the rich get rich. Spend like your broke. The poor spend like they're rich. My parents because wealthy multi millionaires by being cheap and my mom still is. She still shops at cheap places, coupons and deals, she feels bad spending money on herself for expensive stuff but she buys us expensive gifts. What you're describing is selfishness and narcissism. Being cheap is a good thing, spending well below your means. It's also how I've been able to become a multi millionaire. And you're right, being poor and cheap are 2 different things. Being poor means you don't have the means to buy stuff. Being cheap means you do but you choose not to. It has nothing to do with fairness. I could go buy a Ferrari but I'd rather not, even though my car friends have been trying to convince me to get a sportscar for years. I like seeing my accounts grow while they're more okay taking out massive chunks for cars. It's personal preference. But when we go out in always the one paying more, getting them slightly nicer gifts for birthdays etc. I highly recommend being cheap lol
@@Sickwitit18 In my original comment, I just googled the definition of cheap as it applies to people and shared it. I don't mean to say that saving money is cheap behaviour. You aren't cheap because you don't want a Ferrari or fancy things. You're cheap if you expect those things without paying for them yourself and have entitlement. (Not specifically you, just an example) Saving extra money and skipping unnecessary purchases isn't cheap, it's being money conscious. Cheap has a negative connotation when applied to people and I was trying to explain how being cheap isn't the same as being poor. I didn't want people who are saving money or who have lower income (and those who are forced to spend above their means to survive) to feel upset and think they were being called cheap in the video cause it's insulting to many. I'm not very good at explaining my thoughts though, so I'm not sure if it makes sense. Saving money, being poor and being cheap aren't the same things, in my opinion. I appreciate different perspectives though! And yours is definitely different since I'm a college student who is definitely not a millionaire! And probably never will be lol
@@mynameisjustine92 if you try to at every turn then you definitely can be! Have faith and put in lots of effort, I have faith in you! And that's weird, coming from an immigrant family, cheap is a good thing, not a negative thing. But looking up the definition you're right, it literally says "North America" it can have a negative connotation. Probably because our society is a market based capitalist society where nothing works if people aren't spending money. Very interesting how it specifically says it's a North American thing. If you ask other immigrant families I bet they say the same thing, that they're taught that it's good to be cheap haha. Being cheap = money conscious everywhere else in the world and don't let it have a bad connotation for you! You can do it, just don't fall into peer pressure or FOMO and do what you know is financially responsible!
I worked at a neighborhood Irish pub. It was a bit of a town favorite. To the owners credit, he was very hands on, he was there managing, running food and seating guests open to close nearly every day, and he would go out of his way to get to know regulars, which was about 90% of everyone who came in. But the 'I know the owner' regulars became such an issue that I literally made shirts for myself and a few coworkers that said "I know Jeff too"
I work retail and have had some customers ask "do you remember me?" And if they are cool I will tell them this small fact: We rarely remember the good customers unless they are the most amazingly nice person ever. What we remember, and tell stories about, are the a**holes and Karen's. If we remember you that's generally not a good thing..
Depending on the specific flavor of retail (I worked the publix deli for about a year), I would remember some regulars, who always got the exact same thing. Unless they're in store for the same thing at least once a week, though, I wouldn't remember them
It takes me much longer to learn the nice regulars, but once I do learn/recognize them, it makes my day so much better. But one bad interaction and I will remember you for years. Im a pharmacy tech, so I have full names to go with the faces too 😂
As a former waitress I don't go out to eat if I can't afford to tip! Even if the waitress makes an error she still deserves to be paid. And in the US they get paid through their tips.
I feel this comment so much. I work in a grocery store. Its taken me a while to remember all the faces I see. There is one woman in particular that I adore though. She came in with her granddaughter my first week. She was impressed with how good I was with the granddaughter ( thanks to 8 years at BABW). She said I have a special bond with her. I don't know if that's right or not but she chats to me like and old friend when she comes in and its always nice to see her. I remember the few assholes I get real well. Even though I cant do anything because I'm at work I don't chat with them, don't smile at them and don't say have a nice day because that is all I can do.
Same & even if I'm offered to be pay for repeatedly & like if I know it's cause they genuinely want me there Ill go but get something cheap & still feel guilty 😭 It's usually my friend's grandma who's the one doing it for group dinners when I don't have enough & anytime I try to pay her pack she refuses
Exactly! Or I would ask every couple of times if we could go somewhere that's still nice, but a bit less expensive. The response tells me who my friends really are.
A lot of the time, the cheapest people aren't poor or struggling, at least in my experience, because poor people don't go to places they know they can't afford
The girl that wanted the lift from work, should have just been honest and told her work buddy she no longer able to get home, and offered her petrol money to take her home each day
Oh my gosh! We HAD a friend. She actually had introduced me and my husband. So anyway.... she was evicted from her CA bootleg apartment, and was homeless. She needed to start over. We helped her go from homeless to letting her live with us for 11 weeks, get a couple jobs, an apartment, and furniture. As soon as she left our house, she ghosted us. Never heard from her again. We discovered 2 YEARS later she had moved back to California and was doing okay. Happy she's okay. Still confused.
Yes! I was a Bartender in my early 20's and anyone that came in and said they knew the Owner, was guaranteed to be someone my Boss could not stand. Her actual friends would only pop in before we opened or at closing and they always brought food or treats for her and anyone working that night, they were so sweet.
The part about friendships not reciprocating is sooo true. I had a friend who lived about 1.5 hours away. EVERY time we hungout it was me driving to her. I asked her to come to see me after I went through a hard breakup, she said she couldn't and I aint neva spoke to her again
Same here with a long time friend. I’ve always been the one to travel to her and then we went through a spell of meeting half way. But now it’s back to me always travelling down. She’s never once offered to come to me because it costs to much but it’s costs me the same amount. She could stay at mine like I do her’s but she never does. We are meeting for drinks this weekend and I said I would get the train home the same day as it’s too much hassle and money to travel to her and then into the city for drinks. She wanted me to think about it??? Why? I just explained it’s too much money 😂
This is what baffled me... the girl kept complaining, "oh she has a reputation for doing this," "she's always making us change plans"..... why are you allowing it? Why is she complaining if she's the one changing 3 times each plan, let's her friend eat knowing from the plates she won't pay... as easy as it is to say, we'll dinner is at 6 now, if you can come then meet us later if you want.
That last one is EXACTLY why I never worked out in customer service. In fact I worked as a server for five hours. Got my first, and last, Karen. She called me a racist slur for a Hispanic person (and I'm not Hispanic) then other stuff. I ended up picking her dessert off of the serving tray and dumped it over her head. That was close to 30 years ago and I never worked in any food service establishment again. Although you come across some real gems working in stores and such, it seems like Karens congregate to wherever food is served. To anyone working in the industry, nothing but love and respect for you.
I’ve definitely been a best friend to someone who wasn’t my best friend. It’s a harsh realization when you finally realize it but when you finally get the strength to cut that person out of your life, it’s the best feeling because we all deserve better! ❤
Can confirm. My bff of 7-8 years wasn't entitled, she was toxic af. Took me way too long to realize it but once I did, a switch was flipped and I was just done. Cut off contact a month ago and my overall well-being has noticeably improved. We absolutely deserve better!!!😊 Gonna post the extended version on Charlotte's subreddit, the details are juicy...
My dad taught me the same lesson. And in the last few years I've definitely stopped talking to a lot of people that weren't matching that level of friendship. Thanks dad - miss you 💜
I LOVE the restaurant owner who responds to all of her online reviews! ❤ I want to go on vacation there just so I can try her food(to show my support) and definitely get her autograph 🤩
one of my favorite gifts i've ever gotten is a playlist from my sibling - it didn't cost any money, but it means so much to me that they spent time picking out over 3 hours of music they thought i'd like and i listen to it all the time, several years later i think they gave it to me in 2019 and it's 2024 and i still love it
I ended a friendship because I realised she took me for granted and never ever did anything for me... I always had go to her house, its a 2h drive (public transport), when I asked her to come to me (30 min by car) she never felt up for it... she never offered to drive me home... we never did anything I wanted to do but only what she felt up to... the last drop was her telling me she is willing to drive up to 4h to see her new Boyfriend on the weekends and when I confronted her how she is ok with driving 4h for him but not 30 min for her BFF of over 10 years and she did not seem to understand what my issue is I was so done with her...
In my experience as a waitress, If u actually know the owner, you don't have to tell us. Cause the owner would. Not just that, but usually they go vibe at their table, and we make extra sure to give u the best table
Yep.There's a little cafe about a block from where I grew up. I spent many afternoons there in the summer, sitting on one of the stools sipping on a soda. My mother and I would also eat several meals a week there. I grew up, left home for married life and wasn't able to visit for a while. When I did, we went to the cafe. The owners called me by name like they had just seen me the week before. They even remembered my favorite dish. It's still there, one of the waitresses bought it from the original owner. She remembers me as well.
The other woman ran away as fast as she could because she was embarrassed and didn’t want to be seen with her any longer. Most people leave together but she just ran. Lol😂
A waiter once put my mother's salad down with no dressing and said "i'll be right back with your dressing, some people get so anxious they yell or complain so i'll be right back." my mother responded with "yes i am that person." while smiling around the table. I just told her she shouldn't be proud of that and apologized to the waiter and left a cash tip of my own behind at the table. (it's one of her favorite diners and she goes back often)
Yeah if I go out with you and you're rude to the wait staff you will never be eating out with me again. Why people are proud of that or do that is beyond me but it is so embarrassing - to them - not the waitstaff person.
25:57 this woman is the reason why some restaurants have now got their staff wearing body cameras - WITH audio. Seriously 😳 It’s like they’re so insecure and entitled, ANY power goes to their heads. What power you ask? The barely perceived power of THE TIP 🤣 Yes, in their eyes, they are now “the boss” of their server - eating at a restaurant turns these people into instant dictators. It’s wild.
@@PunguinYoga Honestly I love the idea of that. I've rarely heard of a rough customer interaction in which the waiter/waitress was at fault for its escalation. People really get on a power trip when they're being served by someone else. I wish I had a bodycam during quite a few of my own interactions with customers. It's a rough business 😭
That first story: just went to dinner with 11 people and a friend has an app (I can't remember which one) that evenly and perfectly splits the bill based on what you ordered AND sharing plates AND splitting the person of honor... it's so honest and fair.. can't argue the math! So one person put her card down and everyone immediately venmoed her their exact bill. It was perfect and glorious and beautiful and this would have saved me SO MUCH money in my uni years!
@@kaoutermouslimhaliba7145 Yes! Inquiring minds need to know!!! What is this wondrous app they speak of? I probably wouldn't use it much because people I go out to dinner with aren't cheap a-holes. But I know some people who definitely would use this.
As soon as I stopped reaching out to her, we basically stopped talking until she needed someone to entertain her or she needed something. AND NOW, she talks about me behind my back
Being honest, it's not always like that. Sometimes you just like the person more than they like you. They have closer friends and more important things to do. And it's okay, you don't have to be on everyone's number 1 list. If you have a friend who always just answers your invitations but never reaches up - accept it. I've had a acquaintance who was mad at me because I never reached out first. I just didn't thought of us being that close We had 1 hobby in common and lived not far away. But that was it. She was fine to get a walk once every couple of months, but she wasn't a person I would reach to if I had something happen to me. I had closer people. I never took advantage of her (like not paying my tab or wanting a favor), I just wasn't too invested in our relationship. And I've had friends who I've really liked, but they were just casual with me. That's okay. If a person is rude to you, asks you for things giving nothing in return or doesn't pay their part - then it's understandable to be mad. But I don't agree with "omg, he was such a bad person because I reached out to her and she didn't", as Charlotte also said in the video.
In most rural areas there is no Uber, no Lyft, no bus, no Taxi, no train, no trolley, none of that. If you don't have a vehicle you're walking or riding a bike.
Lived in these places most of my life. Part of being an adult with a job is figuring out transportation and back up plans. If she had just asked the girl and offered to pay for gas now and then it probably wouldn't have been a big deal but they decided to be a childish twit instead.
I'm from a big city, and I went to a little town in Louisiana for a Christmas festival. We got to our Airbnb, and when I was ready to call a lift, I realized they already don't have any drivers in this town. Neither does Uber, who I usually boycott. The Airbnb proprietors were kind enough to lead us in our own vehicle to the destination. That kind of sucked! But yeah, we really take that kind of shit for granted when we live in a big city.
If you work at a job, it is your responsibility to find transportation to and from work. I get that sometimes things happen, and you need to ask a favor. But constantly expecting someone else to chauffeur you from work is not reasonable. And getting upset when they can't cater to your needs is ridiculous.
I have worked in a service industry, owned a business in the service industry, and have several friends that are currently restaurant business owners. I say that to preface, my wife and I NEVER mention that we know the owners. If our friends see us at a table or in line, they may come over to talk with us for a while before they have to get back to work. I never go in trying to get a family discount or any other discount. And we certainly never cut the tip when we go out to eat. It is like you said, if you can't afford to go out, eat at home.
My niece and her husband have a small business making and selling curry pastes. They live a few thousand miles from us, so we buy their pastes on-line. We NEVER ask for 'family rates' or any discount whatsoever. My niece has told me that we are the ONLY family members that pay full price (we are pensioners, so have a limited income) . All the other, more wealthy relatives always want something for nothing and they are NOT HELPING the struggling young couple, trying to run a business and make a living by trying to be cheap and want something for nothing.
I'm disabled & live on an EXTREMELY LIMITED budget while my best friend is VERY wealthy (old, oil field money). We find plenty of things to do together that are fun for both of us & *fit w/in my budget.* On paper, our friendship doesn't make a lick of sense but we both find the other to be one of the most kind hearted, honest and EASY friendships we've ever come across! We've been friends nearly 20yrs bc we just accept each other for who we are, not "what she can do for me" I've never expected her to pick up a tab. On the rare occasion she does, I insist on leaving the tip. I truly don't think she fully knows how strapped I am on the daily bc I'm her friend, not her burden to carry. I can guarantee Tam's never felt obligated to pay my way... nor would I expect her to; even on MY birthday!
My group of close girl friends is like this. There is 6 of us and the amount of extra money we have to spend on going out and doing fun things varies widely between us. But we always make sure to do thing that fit within all of our budgets, and never expect those who have more money to pay for those that don't.
Same. My friends get it, and we find things that accomodate everyones budget. It breaks my brain, thinking of the expectation that cuz one makes more than you, they should pay for everything.
When I was in uni I was hella poor (I couldn’t afford my books) and my friends would often shout me to lunch if we decided to skip a lecture to go to Smorgies (RIP Smorgies). These days I am no longer poor and will remember my uni friends making sure I didn’t miss out and pass it on when I can.
Yeah, I don't think the "cheap" thing is in any way a rich/poor thing… I think that's more of a givers VS takers sort of argument than it is a wealthy VS poor argument. It may appear to be wealth related but that could also be because takers don't have the drive to Succeed That Other People Do, No Matter the Size Or Thickness of Your Pocket book! ( I was looking at the sentence wondering why my speech to text wrote it out as a book title until I realized it didn't understand "pocketbook" 🤪 )
My friend is a chef and owns a restaurant. There was this woman-I know her too-and she was vegan. My friend’s restaurant is not vegan but she’s always willing to make something. This woman would insist on choices for a 3 course dinner (I live in France and 3 course meals are very common.) and then only order 2 courses. My friend was SO happy when she moved away! Oh-this woman messaged me when I was diagnosed with cancer. She said the reason I got cancer was because I wasn’t vegan and than I need to become vegan to get rid of the cancer.
I wish this wasn’t true, but I’ve known a lot of vegans and all but 2 of them were like this. Those 2 were a couple, and I think that was because they were the only 2 vegans that they knew that weren’t jerks about it.
@@squizzyicetea the vegan was actually the person we bought our house from. She’s not in my life, except when I have questions on the house. The silver lining for me? I met a lovely couple through her who,lived about 25 min away. The lovely couple now live in my village and have become good friends.
Truth! I finally cut off free rides and helping with money I don't have (I have 3 kids) two female employees and I don't even make much more than them, and so they started rumors I'm racist! I work in a very personal industry and if that gets spread you'll never work in the industry again. I even got them help for a vehicle and the other not to lose her home😊
Yup. I lost all three of my Best friends when I stopped reaching out. They all still go to concerts and cabin vacations. Not a single call. It was a huge eye opener.
I didn't "loose" mine but I recognized I'm the only one actually caring about staying close and we are not best friends at all. They (twins) moved away for jobs and when they come back to visit it will always be just two hours of their time they "give" me before they have to leave to meet up with someone else. When it's my birthday they don't ever give me a present even if I gave them an idea what to gift me - I'm not asking for anything extra - they will just pay for my food and that's it. And when they have good or bad news I will be the last to hear it 😔. So I'm looking for better friends. I'm not the best friend myself but I try.
@EssentialBlue yup. That is exactly what happened. I mean we all still see each other maybe once a month. But no birthdays or trips. It is heartbreaking but you realize there is better out there that do actually care. They are in front of you. Start paying attention to tiny clues. Hugs to you.
@@Katfall2012 it does. It creates your internal monolog that you are not deserving. And it's right. We don't deserve shifty people in our lives. Don't let your brain tell you the opposite. They don't want to grow with you they are not what you need in your life.
"If you're going to be this picky, make it at home, because no one is going to be up to your standards." This is why I make my coffee at home. I know I'm going to get it exactly how I want it, because I made with my own two hands. And if it doesn't turn out the way I wanted it, that's on me.
Girl you are showing your urban canadian with that bus rant. Its adorable. My town (technically a village) didnt get buses until after i graduated high school iirc
If I get to a point where I feel like people aren't putting in any effort to be friends with me, I will back off and do exactly what you said: I just stop talking to them until they decide they want to talk to me. I've had a lot of people fade into the background because I wasn't putting in that effort anymore, but it really just goes to show the kind of friend someone is. Friendship, as with any relationship, is a two-way street. Both parties need to water it for it to grow.
Ya see, I'm a no nonsense lady. If we go out for dinner and you say "oops, forgot my wallet" or some other stupid excuse, you get one. From that point on, I probably won't go out to dinner with you again. If I go to your birthday and get you a gift and pay for dinner but you don't even buy me a gift or show up for mine, your birthday is removed from my memory bank. I know some people are gonna say "Don't expect things in return" But it's an unspoken rule. If someone gets you something for your birthday, you do the same for them. If you're invited to dinner, eat respectfully and pay for your portion. Don't be late, don't try to change plans cause of just you. Be there on time and be a good friend.
But then there are the friends who insist on confusing the situation. Like having an agreement to exchange only inexpensive trinkets or even nothing at all for a shared birthday or for Christmas/Chanukah and then your friend shows up with an extravagant, expensive gift. So there you are, opening this fabulous gift while your friend opens the gift from the agreed upon $20 or less gift you brought. You put a lot of thought and hunted down just the right color, etc but it still just looks cheap by comparison. Are you now obligated to bring a "big" gift next time?
@@Lucinda_Jacksonhonestly, I’m 54 and at my age I’ve learned the answer to that question is NO. If you’re a true friend, then you won’t judge others based on how much they spend on you. It’s the fact they remembered that matters. If you base your friendship on how much someone spends, then you’re the one who has the petty problem.
Forgetting your wallet isn’t even an excuse anymore. Venmo, cash app, whatever else - Apple Pay even - all exist and who doesn’t have at least one of them?
@@jennifermcgoldrick6323 I don't have any of those because I don't trust them not to sell my information. I also don't trust any site that wants my credit card info. My whole family is the same way. And my dad does forget his wallet sometimes because he's old and forgetful. But every single time he forgets it he will either go back to get it or he will pay the person back as soon as he does have his wallet.
There's a woman I met who invited me to lunch and offered to pay by using the comps she got last time she was there and complained. She had a free salad bar and something else. She told me how she expects people to have her back if she needs to send something back to the kitchen when they go out with her. I declined and blocked her number. Nobody wants to go out with people who act like that.
Charlotte: “Take it elsewhere, take yourself elsewhere, don’t care where, just elsewhere, over there, I don’t care just elsewhere. Please open your eyes” Nearly spat out my tea on that one 😂
The problem with the first girl is not that she’s CHEAP, it’s that she’s SELFISH!!!! It’s one thing to be “cheap” - maybe you don’t make a lot of money, maybe you’re trying to save for something… Hell I’ve gone out with friends without a dime to my name & had fun just being in their company (I didn’t order food because I knew I couldn’t pay). Being selfish & expecting everyone else to just pick up the tab is something else ENTIRELY!!!! And we all know at least one person like this!!
Being cheap and being broke/poor are not the same thing. Typically people understand that being cheap is a mindset in which you are super entitled and try to save money as much as possible often at other people's expense. There are broke people who are generous and there are rich people who are cheap.
I had a friend who kept saying we were like family and I honestly fell for it. She hurt me more than anyone else ever has and I'm still unpacking my feelings about it 2 years later. It's only now I can see the ways she took advantage of my kindness whilst being crappy to me. I learnt my lessons. Recovering people pleaser too. Now I'm only interested in friends who can take accountability, be supportive and actually make an effort.
What you said about putting effort into a friendship is completely true! I’ve ended friendships because I was the only one putting effort into it. Friendship is a two-way street.
Yep, I have one friend who had kids and I made the effort to visit her. Another friend who had a kid and I tried but it wasn’t the same vibe so I gave up. She valued a drunk she barely knew more than me. So I just gave up. Some people aren’t worth the effort
Same ❤ I lost a "friend" because I didn't have a big enough following on social media, nevermind being one of those actual in person friends that's there, goes to dinner, brings gifts etc, apparently that wasn't good enough.
I ended a relationship like that, or he ended it, but it was for the best. My therapist said, "Oh good." 😂 I've been seeing her most of my life, so it wasn't hurtful or weird for her to say that. It was funny, though! She'd been trying to get me to see for months how little effort he was putting into the relationship. I've started to pull back from one of my "besties" because she only seems to contact me when she needs me or needs something from me.
@@jennfitz0189I'm sorry, what? I think I had something crazy in my ear. Did you say that you didn't have enough strangers up in your business for her? How tf does that affect her in the slightest? Am I just too old to understand?
As to the one sided friendship thing, I feel like there can definitely be exceptions. I have numerous chronic illnesses, so a friendship with me naturally comes with some uncertainty about my ability to be there for them every single time. In practice, it does actually look a lot like the friendship that Charlotte was discussing, and some people would really be bothered by that. I know that. The friends I have understand that I give what I can when I'm able, and I think that's really the crux of it-- not giving what you can and still expecting to receive from the other person is what kills a friendship.
Yes I had a friend who I supported through a marriage breakup, assisted her to get into Uni, edited her assignments, supported her for over a year. I then had a family crises & called her for support. She told me through a third party I was harassing her & asked me not to contact her again.That's how I found out she had a new best friend
Omg was her name Jackie? I had the same thing happen to me. I was there for her 110% of the time. I needed her once and she bounced so hard and so fast.
Every single time I've had a customer 'threaten' to go elsewhere, they've always been the problem anyway, so I've learned to just smile and say Thank You. One guy I finally told him if he was gonna say that I was going to hold him to it even If i needed to call the cops to do it. Never saw him again.
Fr on the “gifts don’t need money to be good” to this day one of the best gifts I’ve ever gotten was the password to a private TikTok account my friend had been making video diaries in over the year for me
Agree! College friend is for life! We both can drive but she’s the only one with a car right now but did say once I have one I’ll owe her back for all the trips she’s made to me ❤️
The gal in the first story helped to create that Frankenstein friend. If you are annoyed with someone, there's probably a reason so stop enabling bad behavior. She can only get away with what you allow her to get away with.
I used to have a friend like that but we did not mind acommodating to her, because it usually did not take from our own schedules, but what happened later is precisely what Charlotte said, you take too long not calling her for anything and she never takes it upon herself to suggest us meeting for a dinner or a coffee or so on, it is over now. She would pay for her stuff though
I'm a regular at a few restaurants/bar and know the owner and staff at each places. We often get freebies or secret specials at each places. The trick is that we are nice. What is funny is when people pretend to be regular or are the annoying regular. One time a guy tried to explain to me the menu and what was good. Then condescently told his friends "they will treat us nice 'cause I've been giving them good money in the past few weeks and im kind of a regular now". Well, lets just say, we got a free drink and he didn't. As for the annoying regular, lets just say I have never seen the head bartender leave his shift as fast as he did when he saw that customer come in.
A book is also useful on a bus you can still hear what's going on around you ( much safer) plus with no eye contact weirdos are unlikely to try to engage with you
To be fair, many if not most communities in the US have little to no public transportation, and when they do, the busses stop running really early, don't go everywhere, etc. But expecting someone else to pay for your Uber just because they've given you a ride every night for two weeks? 🤦🏻♀️ Funny enough, I had the "just take the bus" thought about the first story because New York is NOT one of those places. I was like, uh...$200 of what you paid is on you, hon. It's New York. You're telling me there were no trains or busses to get you most of the way there? (Though obviously the bday girl had major entitlement issues, and $300 is ridiculous, too.)
That's honestly part of why I get along better with other neurodivergent friends. They understand the whole "out of sight, out of mind" thing, and don't take it personally if I don't talk to them for a while (because they do it, too). But if I'm friends with someone who normally speaks to me, and then they decide not to talk to me for a while? When I DO think of them, I'm going to think they're mad at me. And if they don't want to speak to me, that's their choice. That might be what's going on with your friend, because it does sound like she cared enough to put in effort for your birthday.
My platonic bestie and I share the same birthday. And have the sameeeee neroudivergency. So we forget each others AND our own birthdays. And his parents are SUPER understanding, I can send them an email every 2 years and they're like "OH HEY GIRL!"
I was just about to mention this then found this reply so THANK YOU because I'm the same and I'll sometimes feel so ashamed about my inability to reach out on my own but thankfully my friends understand and don't take it personally.
I’m waving at all of you. HEY BESTIES! I’m that one who loves you every day and NEVER remembers to call, send a card, or generally do things that require planning and follow-through. BUT because my mind is always whirring away about everything and everyone, all the time, I always feel like we JUST talked even if that was 3 months ago. That OR I’m always JUST about to call you when you finally call me, so now I feel guilty and fake telling you how I saw an orange peel last week and it reminded me of that time we ate oranges together and I started to send you a text but I tried to find a picture of the same kind of orange we had and got lost online blah blah blah... I am traumatized by “The Test.” It doesn’t work on me to say you’ve waited SO long and I never noticed your absence. It just makes me feel worse than I already did the last 5 times I started to get in touch but ended up yak shaving or talked myself out of it to put out some other corner of the dumpster fire I keep diving into. 🥵 But I will absolutely split the bill and help pay for the birthday girl despite being super cheap in my everyday life. But most of the time I just want to go for a walk and get ice cream anyway so… 🥵 Basically all my friends are the people remaining who will straight up find me without resentment or tell me they miss me and we need to make a date. Thank you for coming to my TED talk! Maybe now you’re as confused as I am. Goodnight. ❤
Ah, yes. My people. I didn't forget you, but sometimes I feel like a plate spinner, and life keeps adding more and more plates, but not more limbs. I'm just focused on keeping this other stack from falling right now. We'll get back to each other.
Perfect advice, Charlotte! I'm also a recovering people pleaser. Let go of these people, and often you'll find you were the only one holding on. Real friends will claw their way into your life, no matter what. They will not give up on you.
For my sisters wedding, i live in the UK and the wedding was in Germany. i was broke after buying plane tickets and helping towards wedding and hotels things anyway for her wedding gift. i made a photo video. i found the photos i added them to eleton jhons, "Your song." Everyone loved it. There was not a dry eye in sight
I was recently in that place,, I was recently diagnosed with cancer and couldn’t care for myself and the people who responded were the same who were in my life for casual friendship ! My family was very slow in responding. !
I'm sorry that happened. Sometimes it seems like your family isn't being supportive because their in denial. They don't want you to be sick, and if they help you or acknowledge it, it makes it real. Sometimes we humans show we care by being the opposite of helpful, and some of us are ass hats.😁 A'HO (blessings in Lakota), and good health to you.❤❤❤
The best one I heard was at a local place. Mom lives close to the owner of this coffeeshop, they go on hikes together! An entitled person came into the shop, I’m sitting with Mom and the owner, just chatting, having a good day. And we hear from the register counter “I KNOW the owner!” Café goes quiet. The owner looks up from her seat, gives the customer that up-and-down look. “I have never seen your face in my life before. I would remember your lack of fashion.” And you could tell which people were swallowing down their laughter! The senior barista was turning red from her held-in giggle fit
I love the people that drop hints about needing a ride without actually asking for a ride. Also the same people that get super pissed at you because you are going to be out on vacation or were sick and they were expecting you to be there to take them to and from work.
Rode the bus for years. Including while I was pregnant with my daughter. I had a blast because all the regulars watched out for me! And when it was my last day to ride before going to hospital? I got an impromptu baby shower and got some lovely gifts!
There’s a difference between cheap & frugal. Some people absolutely NEED to be frugal bc of their lot in life. My friend does not have a ton of $ so she makes all my gifts. She cannot go out to eat or get drinks so I buy groceries & she cooks me dinner & always has me sit while she cleans up. I love her dearly
I was a bus girly for YEARS and the bus system where I live is trash so sometimes what would normally be a 10 min car ride was an hour on the bus, often with at least one transfer. It sucked but I did it. And if the weather was nice, I walked it. When I did ask people for a ride (or they offered) I'd slip them a $5 bill for gas when I could afford it, or if it was a coworker I'd buy them coffee the next day - some sort of quid-pro-quo. And if they said no, I moved on. It never hurts to ask, but putting people in an uncomfortable position just because you want to get home sooner is unfair.
11:00 I was a bus girly too Charlotte 😉 my car broke down and I had to be on the bus to go to college at 4:50 am and change buses 3 or 4 times before I got to college. And because of the bus schedule, I got there about an hour early, so I would just get a coffee at the burger king and study until my first class. Sometimes it's just what you have to do !
I lived semirural and didn’t have the money to rent, so lived with my parents. So when I went to university it was in the nearest city 60 km away, which took one and a half hours (each way) on the bus. There were about six a day of said buses each way. One year I had classes that started right at 8 am and I had to drag my sorry ass out of bed at 5 to catch the first bus and then when the bus finally got there I had to sprint up the long hill and through the park to get to the class, all the way across the campus, more or less on time. At the same time I had a class that finished at 6 and the last bus left my stop at exactly that time, so I had to get special dispensation to leave that class ten minutes early in order to sprint back down the hill to be in time for the bus. I missed it about a dozen times especially if the bus had been early. A couple of times I managed to stay with friends but the rest of the time I had to catch a different bus that ended in a town about half an hour’s drive from home and have Dad come and pick me up. Also, this route got the crappiest oldest busses that had broken heating and occasionally broke down in transit.
The last story triggered my past server trauma. I worked at a steakhouse and we had a guy who everyone called “prime rib guy” he would say his prime rib was bad every time to try to get it free but he came like every other week. When I was a hostess the servers would slip me cash to not seat him in their sections, and then I did the same when I became a server 😂
I don't get this at all. If I notice something wrong with my food, I let the staff know and they get me a new one. That's the compensation, a replacement. That happens extremely rarely. I'm also Swedish, so... I think tipping culture is partly to blame. We don't tip because restaurant staff are paid a wage that doesn't rely on tips, so they can tell an unreasonable customer to get out. I don't think I've ever seen a meal comped here.
I used to be a MASSIVE people pleaser. When I was in my mid 20’s I realized what I was letting people do to me and how it was effecting me both physically and mentally. I made a 180 and started dropping people like flys! Now, I have zero time for BS and people call me an asshole all the time. This is what happens when you stop letting people walk all over you
28:04 lol those of us in hospitality have a week (or more) heads up for our "special" guests at the front desk. As a former concierge, I took my time to TRIPLE check every aspect of their stay if they booked through me - meaning I gave every area of the property - housekeeping, steak house, spa etc - a memo the moment the reservation is made and also a reminder the night before their reservation. Just letting you all know too, we DO leave notes on your personal profile for anyone who has access to read it. That means if you're a pain in someone's keester somewhere on the property - every single one of us - will know if we pull up your acct 😂 sometimes word of mouth doesn't make a full round but that computer system sure does! 🤣🤣🤣 Just be nice to your bartenders, servers, front desk agents, concierges and ESPECIALLY housekeeping!!! 💓💓💓
My dad and I took our two cats with us on a short vacation some years back and the housekeeping staff were so sweet and they told us how nice our kitties were (they were very curious and friendly with strangers), even when my younger cat ran out the door to try to explore (they got him back in pretty easily). They admitted to staying a bit to pet them because they were very sweet and so few pet visitors were actually that friendly. So on the days we were going to be out of the room for most of the day we told them they were welcome to spend some extra time there just petting the cats and giving them a few treats. 😅 The hotel was being renovated, so they had few guest rooms to deal with and extra time. They really enjoyed that little cat break, and so did the kitties. I always try to be extra kind and helpful to anyone who is caring for me. Be that nurses or doctors, housekeeping, postal, or sanitation workers. I try not to take any of those services for granted.
One thing you never do with waiters/waitresses is NEVER MOVE PLATES WHILE THEY ARE CARRYING. IT THROWS THEM OFF BALANCE. If you want to help them, just move them closer. Don't add or remove things from what they are carrying.
Your story about taking the bus and sometimes walking is so relatable to me. Granted where I'm from public transport is very common to use.. But sometimes when I was low on money I would just walk to and trom work to save 4,- a day. Especially when it was nice weather I didn't mind it at all. A nice way to decompress after work too, some music and a little walk
There is such a difference between having a broke friend and CHEAP friend. A friend down on their luck will try and make sure they appreciate and return gestures. A cheapass will just drain you because they see a deal or an opportunity.
This! Due to life circumstances i have unfortunately been the broke friend more often than not. I am always looking for ways to show appreciation and to pay back when i can. I would never expect someone to cover me without an offer from them. This kind of attitude horrifies me and i really hope i have never left anyone feeling used.
Just what I was going to say.
THIS!!
I am the broke friend, so I never go to anything I can't afford. Lol
Truth. I'm the broke friend, but I'm not cheap 😅
Omg!! My BIGGEST pet peeve!!! The passive aggressive "asking"!!!!! If you need/want something, ASK!!!! Ive had people do that exact thing to me. "Ohh. Uhhhh. It sucks. Its raining. I guess I'll be walking home in the storm....." You pull that crap, i will look you dead in the eye. "yep. Guess you are. Try not to drown". If you ASK!! "Hey. Its raining. Could you give me a lift?" In a heartbeat!! "Sure. Get your butt in the car"
Honestly I often don’t get that they’re low key asking. I just assume they’re complaining, offer some sympathy, and move on. I don’t get the passive cue thing; face value or nothing. 😂
@@bookwyrm247exactly
I absolutely agree! If you need a favor just ask.
Right! Just effing ask. I'll pretend to be too dense to understand that you're asking for something without asking for it. Just open your mouth and communicate like an adult.
Same here!!!! One of my exs got into debt because he was always paying for everything & not asling me to pitch in or say hey > cant afford lets stay home. Nope he got into debt instead! Not my problem! 😅🤦🏽♀️🤮
About 6 years ago, a friend of mine opened a Korean BBQ place. Occasionally, he would text and ask if one of us could check in when he wasn't there to see if the service quality was the same or if they were putting on a show for the owner.
He was very clear though - just go and have a meal with your family and email me the bill and I'll pay you back for it. No confrontations, no asking for weird menu items, no being fussy customers - just be normal and essentially act like a secret shopper.
He would only ask one of us to do it maybe once every 6 months after the first year, so it wasn't like he was trying to spy or anything, he just wanted reassurance that his staff were as great as they were when he was there.
The last time I audited for him I watched as this group of Karens came in and were like "We know the owner, you'd better be giving us VIP treatment, etc..." they were possibly the worst people I'd ever seen in a restaurant and I had worked as a server before. I asked our server if these people were regulars and the server said yes and the staff always tried to bend over backwards for them as they knew the owner. After our server left I call my friend and put him on speaker so he could hear them and he pretty much said "Hell no!" When he heard the way they were speaking to the wait staff. He asked if I'd buy them a round or 2 of drinks (which we did) so they'd stay a bit so he could make it in, and oh boy when he got back he threw those Karens out on their butts so fast. He even took their pictures and said they were being added to the 'no serve' list.
Apparently one of them was his Auntie and the others were her entitled friends, he pretty much exposed her behaviour to his family.
It was my last time helping him audit as his arrival and my buying the Auntie drinks exposed me and he told his staff why I'd been there and that he had secret shoppers come in every 6 months or so and that's why some of them would get bonuses around that time.
Was really funny next time I came in and had to tell the server not to worry, that I wasn't a secret shopper for my friend any more, the servers quite quickly started a joke that that was exactly what a secret shopper would say and every time I go there even now they all do fake winks and play up their service lines, like "Oh you call out if you need absolutely anything, if the food's even a degree too cold or hot let us know 😉" in over the top tones, it's so funny.
Lmao this is wholesome and funny at the same timeee
Love it! ❤
Lol, love that he threw the Karen's out! This is such a funny and wholesome story. I love it when boss backs up his staff and vice versa!
Oh, I wish they had ended on Bodycam!
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May your friends business thrive for decades, because he's doing all the right things. He's got a good head on his shoulders to have the foresight to test his employees, and to back them up and not put up with the mistreatment. That's awesome.
My favorite "I know the owner" happened some 25 yrs ago. We were short handed one night so I was helping my wait staff. In an effort to get a free meal this lady, whom I had never met, gleefully told me she was friends with the owner and would be getting me fired. I didn't bother to tell her I was the owner but on her way out another table informed her of her error, we never saw her again.
That’s fantastic😂😂 I had that happen at a gas station, A GAS STATION because while walking in, someone made an “ick” gesture at me (a high school bully) and for the first time, I stood up for myself and she said she knew the owner… the owner was there and basically said she didn’t know her and nothing happened to me, didn’t even get kicked out😅 plus they were taking up 2 spots at the very front with a tiny ass car and that already annoying me and I knew it was hers from the guys waiting for her
@@Katfall2012 Yea, yea, Karma is a beautiful thing, my sweet 🫶!!! Isn't she 😂😅
Im a housewife with a lot of successful, well paid friends.
I have never been called cheap before because
1. I look up the restaurant, club, bar, whatever and if i know its out of my price range i dont go. If someone offers to pay i make sure they know exactly when I'll be able to pay them back.
2. I dont ever expect anyone to pay for me.
3. I suggest days/nights out/activities i know i can afford. Nothing wrong with doing a girls day picnic.
4. I always make sure i have something to contribute to the guest of honors bill (birthday girl, bride to be whatever).
Its ok to be broke. We all broke. Its not ok to expect other to pick up your slack.
This 100%
Absolutely! That’s how I roll, too!
Absolutely!! When I was broke( because I was a responsible single parent who paid her bills ) my best friend was quite well off. She would invite me to ‘the girls’ shopping trips and when I volunteered to get the morning coffee she’d thank me and then say lunch was on her. A nice way of keeping me included and allowing me to retain some dignity by contributing what I could and taking care of the more expensive item.
Why is it when you are broke everything fits you like a dream and is in your colours?? 😂😂😂
Poor and cheap are two whole different things. The first one is a lack of funds, but cheap is entitlement and a lack of respect. A cheap person thinks a server doesn't deserve a tip for being busy or not getting their ice water filled fast enough or they "don't have the money to tip", or they always expect a friend to treat them to whatever it is they're doing together, even if it was their invitation.
I survive off social security disability. Life isn't easy, but I tip well, make sure I can afford something if I go, and I keep a buffer for small splurging or emergencies. I am also generous with treating or helping my friends when I can. It's a difference in mindset. I find that people who have lived through hard times will often be the most generous with what they do have. I've had strangers buy me gas, but I've also given extra clothes, supplies, or rides to those in need. I carry first aid everywhere (nurse mom), and I've been the one to patch people up on the fly. That's just the right thing to do if you are able. Pampering a princess on the other hand? No. Find a sugar mama elsewhere because my bowl is empty.
SAME SIS 🙌🏻
Have people never heard of separate checks? I pay for my food and you pay for yours. Problem solved!
Totally agree- we all have different tastes and budgets 😊
That's how I always do it! Especially if I eat out with some people I don't know well. I have heard too many stories about "splitting" the bill. They order everything expensive and lots of drinks and one or 2 order normally and get stuck paying for someone else's gluttony.
Yep. Always. I got screwed a couple of times and said no more.
Absolutely… especially since most restaurants have everything on computer so very easy for your server to split the Bill.
Unfortunately, not all restaurants will do this.
At a tea room, we’d have the same two British ladies book a ‘Princess Tea’ every Friday. They wanted tea decanted for them (they had tools to do it at table.) Scones reheated. Never tipped bc “it’s not our culture.”
So basically all the servers took the hit (we still had to tip out the kitchen).
One day, we were absolutely slammed. I was there solo with two six tops, and these two ladies were more demanding than both tables combined. They ordered extra and stayed two hours. My boss had to shut down her gift shop temporarily and step in as a server.
When I burst into tears in the kitchen, I watched my boss march right out to ‘their’ (favorite) table and tell them to leave right there. They were so aghast. She just let it all out. “You never tip, you’re in America. You made my server cry. You expect more than 12 people combined. Get. Out.”
It was beautiful.
Love you, Beth. 💙
As my favorite boss told me, after denying a customer's demand for lobster in the shrimp with lobster sauce : "this kind customer we don't need."
Wow as uk person this bad I mean I forgot to tip alot on holiday felt bad few places never got tips of me x but it not what use to doing but if they live there they should no better or come back uk we're don't need to 🤷🏻♀️ should add I was regularly at 1 bar in Vegas forgot tip same person 3rd night apologise and say just take a tip of what give you or don't give me change as sorry and likely to forgot got good tip that night and as far as remember did take tip as if got change would say he took it or never got change so we had x
Thats crazy. Tipping isn't popular here in the UK, so it isn't expected, but it is rude not to. Especially if you're being a difficult customer. Send those "ladies" home.
My mom immigrated here from Scotland as a teenager to be with my aunt, grandparents soon followed. And my family ran a gas bar/restaurant as their first business venture. I am happy to say we had alot of great memories in the restaurants we visited because we were non complainers and excellent tippers. To the point when we'd walk in, the staff would cheer 😂 even if the kitchen was having a bad night? They still got a tip. Because we know it's hard work.
The phrase "customer is always right" was invented by a Customer. I'm convinced.
The Lady that replies to their reviews has been posted on a few of channels. Her comebacks avtually got them more customers. 😂😂 love that for her.
I was a red seal chef for over 12 years. I worked in one kitchen where I was the number 1 and had a lot of authority over food. There was a couple that came in every Sunday after church and were the worst complainers. Nothing was ever good enough. When we were told they were there I took over cooking their meal personally. I prepared and even served the food to them. I stood beside their table and asked them to try it to see if it up to their standards. Knowing I was head chef with all my certificates and I told them I made their meal personally, they were very pleased with their food. I said to them, "That's great. So there will be nothing to complain about to get all or part of your meal comped today?" They paid and didn't complain but that was the last time we saw them after church.
That's great Chef Boyardee
After church people are the absolute worst. Very few of them actually keep up the good vibes from church, but most of them feel like they did their good thing for the week, now lets make service and kitchen staff feel like shit in the name of Jesus.
BRAVO, to you Chef.👏
Sounds like the Church Couple decided that at least 2 Commandments didn't apply to them (false witness and stealing).
I'm a bartender in a tiny town. Dive bar, if you will. On our shifts in the day, we are the bartender and the cook and the barback. I ended up buying a shirt that says, "I know the owner, too," and when I wear it , NO ONE tries that ole "well I know the owner. "... really, karen? Cuz so do it!
I also get the joy and privilege of being able to tell people to literally GTFO.
Hahahahhahaha i will definitely use this line "MIND READING THE STUPID IS NOT ONE OF OUR SKILLS."😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Honestly, such a fire comeback! Loved that lady!
"Mind reading is not in my job description" 😆
I'm a restaurant owner and I have to fight the urge to reply to these types of reviews on Google so much lmao
LOVE when restaurant staff reply to bad faith reviews. I like the one where they ordered like two to closing and had the address wrong and bunch of other inconveniences for the poor delivery guy, and the owner called them out with the full story, and said something like "I'm actually happy to see your dumb//ss review because it means our driver didn't kill you"
Burn! 🤣
She absolutely makes me want to visit her restaurant.
BTW, the vegetarian box looks delicious
@@Nina-rj4nu RIGHT? I’m like - this woman knows her business. I bet her food slaps!
On Expedia, I chose a hotel in Florence based on their reply to a less than stellar review-it was awesome and would stay there again!
Being a cheapskate means your skating through life living off others ! Being broke is something completely different 💜
I have a friend who has very little money due to her health and family situation, she’s generous in every other aspect and gives her time and puts thought into small meaningful gifts. Being cheap isn’t just about money, it’s a meanness of spirit that manifests in lots of ways
Your friend is cheap and that's not a bad thing. The person described in this video is cheap but more importantly selfish. My mom is cheap as hell but you'll never catch her using others and being an inconvenience. Those are w different things
@@Sickwitit18I don’t call someone cheap who doesn’t have the money. If your mom decides to be cheap for no reason ok so what but for me it sounds like her friend just doesn’t have the money
@@brik2811pr I was mainly talking to the last sentence saying that cheap ess means being a mean person in spirit
Good point!
Yes, like using people. That’s really mean. I also think people have some personal responsibility in allowing a so called friend to do it to them. Why would you want a friend like that and how are they really a friend at all?
Entitled people will never learn until they have a cup of humbling tea. 🙄 Sidenote, I've said it before, but I'll say it again. Charlotte, you are absolutely glowing lately! Who else agrees? 🤗
Entitled people eventually learn when it's too late. Also agreed. She is very much glowing.
Was she not always glowing? 😊
I think she is glowing from being loved for exactly who she is by a good man. And it makes my heart sing.
One she is always glowing and two she has been glowing even more lately and it’s because she is engaged
Yes! She looks amazing
Story 1: no common sense or financial sense of responsibility. Spending $500 on someone’s bday is ridiculous. You don’t pay for drinks that you didn’t drink, you don’t pay $100 for an Uber to party . You don’t change your reservation for someone else, who can just skip the dinner or go home early. And above all, never let anyone eat your food instead of buying their own. One taste is fine but after that, their hand would be slapped.
Yes! What happened to honesty 😂 everyone is so fake now. “I want to go out to dinner with you guys but I’m tight on cash- would you guys mind going somewhere cheaper?”
That’s exactly what I was thinking. Her friend might be cheap, but op doesn’t seem very bright if she agrees to spend $500 on someone else’s birthday. The friend might not even be cheap. She just knows op is gullible.
Ya I was thinking the same thing. Thats all on her, no one else to blame! She has no back bone!
I kept thinking, why didn’t you take the subway? The subway goes to Brooklyn.
@@lemonlime8363 exactly. Be honest. If you can’t afford it say so and if they can’t or won’t change just skip it. There will be other times.
I agree with "figure it out" but lmao Charlotte, THE BUS? "JUST TAKE THE BUS"?! *Laughing in rural*
Yeah, the bus routes in the country aren't so convenient.
The best “I Know The Owner” moment I had at my job was when it was 9 degrees fahrenheit and windy. At my job we have to be outside taking orders. On this particular day we weren’t allowed to come inside and warm up even if our hands were numb and blue. A customer said “I know the owner and this is not okay. I’m definitely going to tell him to change this”
Oooh yes. I LOVE this kind of owner knowage!! 🤭🤭❤
''I know the owner'' used for good now I've seen everything
My bar has a fun comment at the bottom of the receipt. “I know the owner discount, but one beer get one full price” hahaha. Mind you the owners of my bar have been around in the industry in my area for a long time. 80% of the people that come in my establishment have known my owners for 15/20 plus years. No one cares they know them hahahaha
@@TheImperfectlySpicy I’m sorry if I’m just being dense, but what does “but one beer get one full price” mean? 🤔🧐🤨😅
@@MisschiefsCatIt means they're not actually getting a discount. They pay for one beer, they get one beer.😊
when it comes to giving coworkers rides home this is how i do it: 1st ride is free, 2nd is $5, 3rd is $10, 4th is $15, and so on. thats how you keep people from using you, your gas, and adding unnecessary milage to your car.
I give them money. Even if they refuse it. Or if I ask for a ride, I will offer to send them money electronically for gas or pay for it this time or if I can’t this time I will find a way to pay for it in the future. Or if not gas, then food somewhere.
@@Jumperchick11YES! So many people don't want to accept the money after they drive me. So I'll fold up the $5-$10 and throw it at them as I close the door of their car. They usually won't object after then.
@@Jumperchick11ive been lucky *knocks on wood* that i havent needed a ride since i was a teen. But yea, my ride then as a teen and I had an agreement of a certain amount per week, even if i didnt get one from them one day, and paid when i got paid, up front. Our arrangement ended on a good note when i finally got my own car.
I cant imagine not paying someone for that. Have had a few times where i had to hide the money lol.
the sufferin bus 😂
@@RhaenarysI live about an hour outside the city so often I'll park at a friend's place and we'll carpool on our adventures for the day. Hence the need for a ride.
The first story that friend wasn't cheap. She was entitled, selfish and self-centered. There is a big difference.
I'm not trying to be rude, but being cheap isn't the same as being poor. The definition of a cheap person is someone who is stingy with money and refusing to pay their share. It's not about them not having money, but them feeling entitled to others.
Cheap is a mentality more than a monetary value when it comes to people instead of objects.
Again, I hope it doesn't come across as rude or condescending. I'm not trying to be sarcastic either, so I hope it doesn't come across that way either.
EXACTLY. That girl's personality traits are just that, her personality. Regardless of money.
@@mynameisjustine92 nah paying your fair share has nothing to do with being cheap. Being cheap is how the rich get rich. Spend like your broke. The poor spend like they're rich. My parents because wealthy multi millionaires by being cheap and my mom still is. She still shops at cheap places, coupons and deals, she feels bad spending money on herself for expensive stuff but she buys us expensive gifts. What you're describing is selfishness and narcissism. Being cheap is a good thing, spending well below your means. It's also how I've been able to become a multi millionaire.
And you're right, being poor and cheap are 2 different things. Being poor means you don't have the means to buy stuff. Being cheap means you do but you choose not to. It has nothing to do with fairness. I could go buy a Ferrari but I'd rather not, even though my car friends have been trying to convince me to get a sportscar for years. I like seeing my accounts grow while they're more okay taking out massive chunks for cars. It's personal preference. But when we go out in always the one paying more, getting them slightly nicer gifts for birthdays etc. I highly recommend being cheap lol
@@Sickwitit18 In my original comment, I just googled the definition of cheap as it applies to people and shared it. I don't mean to say that saving money is cheap behaviour. You aren't cheap because you don't want a Ferrari or fancy things. You're cheap if you expect those things without paying for them yourself and have entitlement. (Not specifically you, just an example)
Saving extra money and skipping unnecessary purchases isn't cheap, it's being money conscious.
Cheap has a negative connotation when applied to people and I was trying to explain how being cheap isn't the same as being poor. I didn't want people who are saving money or who have lower income (and those who are forced to spend above their means to survive) to feel upset and think they were being called cheap in the video cause it's insulting to many.
I'm not very good at explaining my thoughts though, so I'm not sure if it makes sense. Saving money, being poor and being cheap aren't the same things, in my opinion. I appreciate different perspectives though! And yours is definitely different since I'm a college student who is definitely not a millionaire! And probably never will be lol
@@mynameisjustine92 if you try to at every turn then you definitely can be! Have faith and put in lots of effort, I have faith in you!
And that's weird, coming from an immigrant family, cheap is a good thing, not a negative thing. But looking up the definition you're right, it literally says "North America" it can have a negative connotation. Probably because our society is a market based capitalist society where nothing works if people aren't spending money. Very interesting how it specifically says it's a North American thing. If you ask other immigrant families I bet they say the same thing, that they're taught that it's good to be cheap haha. Being cheap = money conscious everywhere else in the world and don't let it have a bad connotation for you! You can do it, just don't fall into peer pressure or FOMO and do what you know is financially responsible!
I worked at a neighborhood Irish pub. It was a bit of a town favorite. To the owners credit, he was very hands on, he was there managing, running food and seating guests open to close nearly every day, and he would go out of his way to get to know regulars, which was about 90% of everyone who came in. But the 'I know the owner' regulars became such an issue that I literally made shirts for myself and a few coworkers that said "I know Jeff too"
I work retail and have had some customers ask "do you remember me?" And if they are cool I will tell them this small fact: We rarely remember the good customers unless they are the most amazingly nice person ever. What we remember, and tell stories about, are the a**holes and Karen's. If we remember you that's generally not a good thing..
Depending on the specific flavor of retail (I worked the publix deli for about a year), I would remember some regulars, who always got the exact same thing. Unless they're in store for the same thing at least once a week, though, I wouldn't remember them
It takes me much longer to learn the nice regulars, but once I do learn/recognize them, it makes my day so much better. But one bad interaction and I will remember you for years. Im a pharmacy tech, so I have full names to go with the faces too 😂
As a former waitress I don't go out to eat if I can't afford to tip! Even if the waitress makes an error she still deserves to be paid. And in the US they get paid through their tips.
Yup, you'll remember the best of the best and the worst of the worst
I feel this comment so much. I work in a grocery store. Its taken me a while to remember all the faces I see. There is one woman in particular that I adore though. She came in with her granddaughter my first week. She was impressed with how good I was with the granddaughter ( thanks to 8 years at BABW). She said I have a special bond with her. I don't know if that's right or not but she chats to me like and old friend when she comes in and its always nice to see her. I remember the few assholes I get real well. Even though I cant do anything because I'm at work I don't chat with them, don't smile at them and don't say have a nice day because that is all I can do.
If someone has financial issues they shouldn't expect people to "treat"them all the time. If I don't have the money I will not go out.
Same & even if I'm offered to be pay for repeatedly & like if I know it's cause they genuinely want me there Ill go but get something cheap & still feel guilty 😭
It's usually my friend's grandma who's the one doing it for group dinners when I don't have enough & anytime I try to pay her pack she refuses
Exactly! Or I would ask every couple of times if we could go somewhere that's still nice, but a bit less expensive. The response tells me who my friends really are.
@@Lucinda_Jackson some cheap places can also be ridiculously good!! It's always a great surprise
Right when times are tough I stay tf home 😮💨
A lot of the time, the cheapest people aren't poor or struggling, at least in my experience, because poor people don't go to places they know they can't afford
The girl that wanted the lift from work, should have just been honest and told her work buddy she no longer able to get home, and offered her petrol money to take her home each day
This
But she ended up getting picked up, so she was obviously just going to take advantage of her co-worker’s kindness for as long as possible
Ohno no that definitely she knows bt that is the correct way but then they HAVE to PAY.she want freebies n then b entitled to that ride daily
That was what I was thinking friends offer not as we say in Australia not a free loader we share but as real friends you make a effect 👍🇦🇺
Exactly. People are kind to those in need and those who are honest.
Oh my gosh! We HAD a friend. She actually had introduced me and my husband. So anyway.... she was evicted from her CA bootleg apartment, and was homeless. She needed to start over. We helped her go from homeless to letting her live with us for 11 weeks, get a couple jobs, an apartment, and furniture. As soon as she left our house, she ghosted us. Never heard from her again. We discovered 2 YEARS later she had moved back to California and was doing okay. Happy she's okay. Still confused.
Yes! I was a Bartender in my early 20's and anyone that came in and said they knew the Owner, was guaranteed to be someone my Boss could not stand. Her actual friends would only pop in before we opened or at closing and they always brought food or treats for her and anyone working that night, they were so sweet.
The part about friendships not reciprocating is sooo true. I had a friend who lived about 1.5 hours away. EVERY time we hungout it was me driving to her. I asked her to come to see me after I went through a hard breakup, she said she couldn't and I aint neva spoke to her again
Same here with a long time friend. I’ve always been the one to travel to her and then we went through a spell of meeting half way. But now it’s back to me always travelling down. She’s never once offered to come to me because it costs to much but it’s costs me the same amount. She could stay at mine like I do her’s but she never does. We are meeting for drinks this weekend and I said I would get the train home the same day as it’s too much hassle and money to travel to her and then into the city for drinks. She wanted me to think about it??? Why? I just explained it’s too much money 😂
This is what baffled me... the girl kept complaining, "oh she has a reputation for doing this," "she's always making us change plans"..... why are you allowing it? Why is she complaining if she's the one changing 3 times each plan, let's her friend eat knowing from the plates she won't pay... as easy as it is to say, we'll dinner is at 6 now, if you can come then meet us later if you want.
That last one is EXACTLY why I never worked out in customer service. In fact I worked as a server for five hours. Got my first, and last, Karen. She called me a racist slur for a Hispanic person (and I'm not Hispanic) then other stuff. I ended up picking her dessert off of the serving tray and dumped it over her head. That was close to 30 years ago and I never worked in any food service establishment again. Although you come across some real gems working in stores and such, it seems like Karens congregate to wherever food is served. To anyone working in the industry, nothing but love and respect for you.
I wonder why my comments get deleted
👏👏👏 only in my dreams can I do that. Been serving and bartender for years now. But I find my ways to petty revenge on these types of guests 😉😂
That was an awesome way to end that career! 👏👏👏👍👍
If I worked in any customer service industry, I would be doing time in jail. I'd LOVE to have seen your dessert dumping 😂😂😂
As someone who worked 15years in restaurants people like you are my heroes 😂
The owner's REAL best friend is usually the most chill customer and tips fabulously
I’ve definitely been a best friend to someone who wasn’t my best friend. It’s a harsh realization when you finally realize it but when you finally get the strength to cut that person out of your life, it’s the best feeling because we all deserve better! ❤
Can confirm. My bff of 7-8 years wasn't entitled, she was toxic af. Took me way too long to realize it but once I did, a switch was flipped and I was just done. Cut off contact a month ago and my overall well-being has noticeably improved. We absolutely deserve better!!!😊 Gonna post the extended version on Charlotte's subreddit, the details are juicy...
Story 1: She has you pegged for a doormat, OP.
Also, who takes an Uber for over $100 anywhere? I would never!
@@lilycollegemythbusters5532yeah that was my thought, definitely her decision to spend $200 on Ubers that night lol
My father taught me a lesson at a very early age. "Be type of friend you'd like to have as a friend." :)
My dad taught me the same lesson. And in the last few years I've definitely stopped talking to a lot of people that weren't matching that level of friendship. Thanks dad - miss you 💜
Absolutely!
I LOVE the restaurant owner who responds to all of her online reviews! ❤ I want to go on vacation there just so I can try her food(to show my support) and definitely get her autograph 🤩
one of my favorite gifts i've ever gotten is a playlist from my sibling - it didn't cost any money, but it means so much to me that they spent time picking out over 3 hours of music they thought i'd like and i listen to it all the time, several years later
i think they gave it to me in 2019 and it's 2024 and i still love it
I still have a mix cd from one of my high school friends/boyfriends. 😅 We were better off as friends. But that cd is pushing legal drinking age!😂
I ended a friendship because I realised she took me for granted and never ever did anything for me... I always had go to her house, its a 2h drive (public transport), when I asked her to come to me (30 min by car) she never felt up for it... she never offered to drive me home... we never did anything I wanted to do but only what she felt up to... the last drop was her telling me she is willing to drive up to 4h to see her new Boyfriend on the weekends and when I confronted her how she is ok with driving 4h for him but not 30 min for her BFF of over 10 years and she did not seem to understand what my issue is I was so done with her...
In my experience as a waitress,
If u actually know the owner, you don't have to tell us. Cause the owner would. Not just that, but usually they go vibe at their table, and we make extra sure to give u the best table
Yep.There's a little cafe about a block from where I grew up. I spent many afternoons there in the summer, sitting on one of the stools sipping on a soda. My mother and I would also eat several meals a week there. I grew up, left home for married life and wasn't able to visit for a while. When I did, we went to the cafe. The owners called me by name like they had just seen me the week before. They even remembered my favorite dish.
It's still there, one of the waitresses bought it from the original owner. She remembers me as well.
The other woman ran away as fast as she could because she was embarrassed and didn’t want to be seen with her any longer. Most people leave together but she just ran. Lol😂
A waiter once put my mother's salad down with no dressing and said "i'll be right back with your dressing, some people get so anxious they yell or complain so i'll be right back." my mother responded with "yes i am that person." while smiling around the table. I just told her she shouldn't be proud of that and apologized to the waiter and left a cash tip of my own behind at the table. (it's one of her favorite diners and she goes back often)
Yeah if I go out with you and you're rude to the wait staff you will never be eating out with me again. Why people are proud of that or do that is beyond me but it is so embarrassing - to them - not the waitstaff person.
25:57 this woman is the reason why some restaurants have now got their staff wearing body cameras - WITH audio.
Seriously 😳
It’s like they’re so insecure and entitled, ANY power goes to their heads.
What power you ask?
The barely perceived power of THE TIP 🤣
Yes, in their eyes, they are now “the boss” of their server - eating at a restaurant turns these people into instant dictators.
It’s wild.
Is that true about the bodycams??? I work in a diner and I can understand that. Restaurant work is tough.
@@PunguinYoga Honestly I love the idea of that. I've rarely heard of a rough customer interaction in which the waiter/waitress was at fault for its escalation. People really get on a power trip when they're being served by someone else. I wish I had a bodycam during quite a few of my own interactions with customers. It's a rough business 😭
She’s not cheap, she’s scamming you… there’s a difference. Your hair is awesome, Charlotte btw 🧡
12:12 😂😂 oh the bus!! My favorite was when people would be nodding out and the bus would turn.....head would bounce off the window 😅
That first story: just went to dinner with 11 people and a friend has an app (I can't remember which one) that evenly and perfectly splits the bill based on what you ordered AND sharing plates AND splitting the person of honor... it's so honest and fair.. can't argue the math! So one person put her card down and everyone immediately venmoed her their exact bill. It was perfect and glorious and beautiful and this would have saved me SO MUCH money in my uni years!
Completely unacceptable that you posted this without knowing the app. 🤣🤣
aw man you gotta come back to tell us about this app a little more
I need to know the name of the app you talk about!!
@@kaoutermouslimhaliba7145 Yes! Inquiring minds need to know!!! What is this wondrous app they speak of? I probably wouldn't use it much because people I go out to dinner with aren't cheap a-holes. But I know some people who definitely would use this.
Oh yes! These apps are great. I always use Splid when I'm on vacation with my friends. It's great
As soon as I stopped reaching out to her, we basically stopped talking until she needed someone to entertain her or she needed something. AND NOW, she talks about me behind my back
Ah gratitude...a good deed never goes unpunished with some people.
Oh my 😢
Being honest, it's not always like that. Sometimes you just like the person more than they like you. They have closer friends and more important things to do. And it's okay, you don't have to be on everyone's number 1 list. If you have a friend who always just answers your invitations but never reaches up - accept it.
I've had a acquaintance who was mad at me because I never reached out first. I just didn't thought of us being that close We had 1 hobby in common and lived not far away. But that was it. She was fine to get a walk once every couple of months, but she wasn't a person I would reach to if I had something happen to me. I had closer people. I never took advantage of her (like not paying my tab or wanting a favor), I just wasn't too invested in our relationship.
And I've had friends who I've really liked, but they were just casual with me. That's okay.
If a person is rude to you, asks you for things giving nothing in return or doesn't pay their part - then it's understandable to be mad. But I don't agree with "omg, he was such a bad person because I reached out to her and she didn't", as Charlotte also said in the video.
In most rural areas there is no Uber, no Lyft, no bus, no Taxi, no train, no trolley, none of that. If you don't have a vehicle you're walking or riding a bike.
Yes! Or offer someone gas money!
Lived in these places most of my life. Part of being an adult with a job is figuring out transportation and back up plans. If she had just asked the girl and offered to pay for gas now and then it probably wouldn't have been a big deal but they decided to be a childish twit instead.
I'm from a big city, and I went to a little town in Louisiana for a Christmas festival. We got to our Airbnb, and when I was ready to call a lift, I realized they already don't have any drivers in this town. Neither does Uber, who I usually boycott. The Airbnb proprietors were kind enough to lead us in our own vehicle to the destination. That kind of sucked! But yeah, we really take that kind of shit for granted when we live in a big city.
If you work at a job, it is your responsibility to find transportation to and from work.
I get that sometimes things happen, and you need to ask a favor. But constantly expecting someone else to chauffeur you from work is not reasonable. And getting upset when they can't cater to your needs is ridiculous.
That's where I live. There's one taxi janky taxi service but that's about it.
I once offered to drive a coworker home. I knew it was a mistake when she would stand by my desk and stare at me at 4:45. We worked till 5.😂
I have worked in a service industry, owned a business in the service industry, and have several friends that are currently restaurant business owners. I say that to preface, my wife and I NEVER mention that we know the owners. If our friends see us at a table or in line, they may come over to talk with us for a while before they have to get back to work. I never go in trying to get a family discount or any other discount. And we certainly never cut the tip when we go out to eat. It is like you said, if you can't afford to go out, eat at home.
My niece and her husband have a small business making and selling curry pastes. They live a few thousand miles from us, so we buy their pastes on-line. We NEVER ask for 'family rates' or any discount whatsoever.
My niece has told me that we are the ONLY family members that pay full price (we are pensioners, so have a limited income) . All the other, more wealthy relatives always want something for nothing and they are NOT HELPING the struggling young couple, trying to run a business and make a living by trying to be cheap and want something for nothing.
I'm disabled & live on an EXTREMELY LIMITED budget while my best friend is VERY wealthy (old, oil field money). We find plenty of things to do together that are fun for both of us & *fit w/in my budget.*
On paper, our friendship doesn't make a lick of sense but we both find the other to be one of the most kind hearted, honest and EASY friendships we've ever come across! We've been friends nearly 20yrs bc we just accept each other for who we are, not "what she can do for me"
I've never expected her to pick up a tab. On the rare occasion she does, I insist on leaving the tip. I truly don't think she fully knows how strapped I am on the daily bc I'm her friend, not her burden to carry. I can guarantee Tam's never felt obligated to pay my way... nor would I expect her to; even on MY birthday!
My group of close girl friends is like this. There is 6 of us and the amount of extra money we have to spend on going out and doing fun things varies widely between us. But we always make sure to do thing that fit within all of our budgets, and never expect those who have more money to pay for those that don't.
Same. My friends get it, and we find things that accomodate everyones budget. It breaks my brain, thinking of the expectation that cuz one makes more than you, they should pay for everything.
When I was in uni I was hella poor (I couldn’t afford my books) and my friends would often shout me to lunch if we decided to skip a lecture to go to Smorgies (RIP Smorgies). These days I am no longer poor and will remember my uni friends making sure I didn’t miss out and pass it on when I can.
Yeah, I don't think the "cheap" thing is in any way a rich/poor thing… I think that's more of a givers VS takers sort of argument than it is a wealthy VS poor argument.
It may appear to be wealth related but that could also be because takers don't have the drive to Succeed That Other People Do, No Matter the Size Or Thickness of Your Pocket book!
( I was looking at the sentence wondering why my speech to text wrote it out as a book title until I realized it didn't understand "pocketbook" 🤪 )
My bestie and I are kinda like that. Such an easy friendship. It doesn't have to make sense to others, just to you!
My friend is a chef and owns a restaurant. There was this woman-I know her too-and she was vegan. My friend’s restaurant is not vegan but she’s always willing to make something. This woman would insist on choices for a 3 course dinner (I live in France and 3 course meals are very common.) and then only order 2 courses. My friend was SO happy when she moved away! Oh-this woman messaged me when I was diagnosed with cancer. She said the reason I got cancer was because I wasn’t vegan and than I need to become vegan to get rid of the cancer.
That’s terrible of her! Praying for you.
Wow 😮 Horrible!
I wish this wasn’t true, but I’ve known a lot of vegans and all but 2 of them were like this. Those 2 were a couple, and I think that was because they were the only 2 vegans that they knew that weren’t jerks about it.
Oh wow. That's terrible 😢 I pray your health improves 🙏🏻🙏🏻 Glad that person isn't in your life anymore!
@@squizzyicetea the vegan was actually the person we bought our house from. She’s not in my life, except when I have questions on the house. The silver lining for me? I met a lovely couple through her who,lived about 25 min away. The lovely couple now live in my village and have become good friends.
Girl I love you but the fact that every single video you have something to relate to by your friends u have. Makes the video 10 times better!!!!!!!!😂
Takers ALWAYS attack you when you finally cut them off. That's how you know to never do anything for them again.
Truth! I finally cut off free rides and helping with money I don't have (I have 3 kids) two female employees and I don't even make much more than them, and so they started rumors I'm racist! I work in a very personal industry and if that gets spread you'll never work in the industry again.
I even got them help for a vehicle and the other not to lose her home😊
Yup. I lost all three of my Best friends when I stopped reaching out. They all still go to concerts and cabin vacations. Not a single call.
It was a huge eye opener.
I didn't "loose" mine but I recognized I'm the only one actually caring about staying close and we are not best friends at all. They (twins) moved away for jobs and when they come back to visit it will always be just two hours of their time they "give" me before they have to leave to meet up with someone else. When it's my birthday they don't ever give me a present even if I gave them an idea what to gift me - I'm not asking for anything extra - they will just pay for my food and that's it. And when they have good or bad news I will be the last to hear it 😔. So I'm looking for better friends. I'm not the best friend myself but I try.
@EssentialBlue yup. That is exactly what happened. I mean we all still see each other maybe once a month. But no birthdays or trips. It is heartbreaking but you realize there is better out there that do actually care. They are in front of you. Start paying attention to tiny clues.
Hugs to you.
Makes me insanely depressed
@@Katfall2012 it does. It creates your internal monolog that you are not deserving.
And it's right. We don't deserve shifty people in our lives. Don't let your brain tell you the opposite. They don't want to grow with you they are not what you need in your life.
me too. it sucks
"If you're going to be this picky, make it at home, because no one is going to be up to your standards." This is why I make my coffee at home. I know I'm going to get it exactly how I want it, because I made with my own two hands. And if it doesn't turn out the way I wanted it, that's on me.
Girl you are showing your urban canadian with that bus rant. Its adorable. My town (technically a village) didnt get buses until after i graduated high school iirc
That thumbnail indirectly rickrolled me. “You know the owner, and so do I”
My response to "I know the owner."
"Me, too! I'm his WIFE!"
If I get to a point where I feel like people aren't putting in any effort to be friends with me, I will back off and do exactly what you said: I just stop talking to them until they decide they want to talk to me. I've had a lot of people fade into the background because I wasn't putting in that effort anymore, but it really just goes to show the kind of friend someone is. Friendship, as with any relationship, is a two-way street. Both parties need to water it for it to grow.
Ya see, I'm a no nonsense lady. If we go out for dinner and you say "oops, forgot my wallet" or some other stupid excuse, you get one. From that point on, I probably won't go out to dinner with you again. If I go to your birthday and get you a gift and pay for dinner but you don't even buy me a gift or show up for mine, your birthday is removed from my memory bank.
I know some people are gonna say "Don't expect things in return" But it's an unspoken rule. If someone gets you something for your birthday, you do the same for them. If you're invited to dinner, eat respectfully and pay for your portion. Don't be late, don't try to change plans cause of just you. Be there on time and be a good friend.
But then there are the friends who insist on confusing the situation. Like having an agreement to exchange only inexpensive trinkets or even nothing at all for a shared birthday or for Christmas/Chanukah and then your friend shows up with an extravagant, expensive gift. So there you are, opening this fabulous gift while your friend opens the gift from the agreed upon $20 or less gift you brought. You put a lot of thought and hunted down just the right color, etc but it still just looks cheap by comparison. Are you now obligated to bring a "big" gift next time?
@@Lucinda_Jacksonhonestly, I’m 54 and at my age I’ve learned the answer to that question is NO. If you’re a true friend, then you won’t judge others based on how much they spend on you. It’s the fact they remembered that matters. If you base your friendship on how much someone spends, then you’re the one who has the petty problem.
Forgetting your wallet isn’t even an excuse anymore. Venmo, cash app, whatever else - Apple Pay even - all exist and who doesn’t have at least one of them?
I did that one time, I actually forgot my debt & cash. My friend paid but as soon as we got back to my apartment I gave them their money.
@@jennifermcgoldrick6323 I don't have any of those because I don't trust them not to sell my information. I also don't trust any site that wants my credit card info. My whole family is the same way. And my dad does forget his wallet sometimes because he's old and forgetful. But every single time he forgets it he will either go back to get it or he will pay the person back as soon as he does have his wallet.
"Take yourself elsewhere"
"Don't care where, just elsewhere"
"Over there"
"I don't care"
"Just elsewhere"
There's a woman I met who invited me to lunch and offered to pay by using the comps she got last time she was there and complained.
She had a free salad bar and something else.
She told me how she expects people to have her back if she needs to send something back to the kitchen when they go out with her.
I declined and blocked her number.
Nobody wants to go out with people who act like that.
Charlotte: “Take it elsewhere, take yourself elsewhere, don’t care where, just elsewhere, over there, I don’t care just elsewhere. Please open your eyes” Nearly spat out my tea on that one 😂
That should be a shirt.
The problem with the first girl is not that she’s CHEAP, it’s that she’s SELFISH!!!!
It’s one thing to be “cheap” - maybe you don’t make a lot of money, maybe you’re trying to save for something… Hell I’ve gone out with friends without a dime to my name & had fun just being in their company (I didn’t order food because I knew I couldn’t pay).
Being selfish & expecting everyone else to just pick up the tab is something else ENTIRELY!!!! And we all know at least one person like this!!
Being cheap and being broke/poor are not the same thing. Typically people understand that being cheap is a mindset in which you are super entitled and try to save money as much as possible often at other people's expense. There are broke people who are generous and there are rich people who are cheap.
The last one gave me some PTSD from when I was waiting tables in college. Don’t want to do that again.
I had a friend who kept saying we were like family and I honestly fell for it. She hurt me more than anyone else ever has and I'm still unpacking my feelings about it 2 years later. It's only now I can see the ways she took advantage of my kindness whilst being crappy to me. I learnt my lessons. Recovering people pleaser too. Now I'm only interested in friends who can take accountability, be supportive and actually make an effort.
Hell yeah
What you said about putting effort into a friendship is completely true! I’ve ended friendships because I was the only one putting effort into it. Friendship is a two-way street.
Yep, I have one friend who had kids and I made the effort to visit her. Another friend who had a kid and I tried but it wasn’t the same vibe so I gave up. She valued a drunk she barely knew more than me. So I just gave up. Some people aren’t worth the effort
Same ❤ I lost a "friend" because I didn't have a big enough following on social media, nevermind being one of those actual in person friends that's there, goes to dinner, brings gifts etc, apparently that wasn't good enough.
I ended a relationship like that, or he ended it, but it was for the best. My therapist said, "Oh good." 😂 I've been seeing her most of my life, so it wasn't hurtful or weird for her to say that. It was funny, though! She'd been trying to get me to see for months how little effort he was putting into the relationship. I've started to pull back from one of my "besties" because she only seems to contact me when she needs me or needs something from me.
@@jennfitz0189I'm sorry, what? I think I had something crazy in my ear. Did you say that you didn't have enough strangers up in your business for her? How tf does that affect her in the slightest? Am I just too old to understand?
I've always said, "time is the most precious gift you can give someone." Is priceless and irreplaceable.
Truth bomb!💥POW! Love it!
As to the one sided friendship thing, I feel like there can definitely be exceptions. I have numerous chronic illnesses, so a friendship with me naturally comes with some uncertainty about my ability to be there for them every single time. In practice, it does actually look a lot like the friendship that Charlotte was discussing, and some people would really be bothered by that. I know that. The friends I have understand that I give what I can when I'm able, and I think that's really the crux of it-- not giving what you can and still expecting to receive from the other person is what kills a friendship.
Yes I had a friend who I supported through a marriage breakup, assisted her to get into Uni, edited her assignments, supported her for over a year. I then had a family crises & called her for support. She told me through a third party I was harassing her & asked me not to contact her again.That's how I found out she had a new best friend
Omg was her name Jackie? I had the same thing happen to me. I was there for her 110% of the time. I needed her once and she bounced so hard and so fast.
"The last time I had the (insert item here), it wasn't done right."
"And yet you've come back!"
Bingo!
Yes. Make that make sense.
Charlotte talking about her woes taking the bus lmaoooo😂😂😂 one of the most relatable youtubers
Every single time I've had a customer 'threaten' to go elsewhere, they've always been the problem anyway, so I've learned to just smile and say Thank You. One guy I finally told him if he was gonna say that I was going to hold him to it even If i needed to call the cops to do it. Never saw him again.
I love that restaurant owner. My parents opened a little wine bar with food and I warned them that customers can be insane.
Fr on the “gifts don’t need money to be good” to this day one of the best gifts I’ve ever gotten was the password to a private TikTok account my friend had been making video diaries in over the year for me
I love my “we move in the shadows” with you on it shirt. I get compliments all the time!!❤❤❤
What I’ve learned in regards to friendships is that people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. The lifetime ones are very rare.
Agree! College friend is for life! We both can drive but she’s the only one with a car right now but did say once I have one I’ll owe her back for all the trips she’s made to me ❤️
The gal in the first story helped to create that Frankenstein friend. If you are annoyed with someone, there's probably a reason so stop enabling bad behavior. She can only get away with what you allow her to get away with.
Why do they even associate with her? She sounds insufferable.
I used to have a friend like that but we did not mind acommodating to her, because it usually did not take from our own schedules, but what happened later is precisely what Charlotte said, you take too long not calling her for anything and she never takes it upon herself to suggest us meeting for a dinner or a coffee or so on, it is over now. She would pay for her stuff though
Facts
I'm a regular at a few restaurants/bar and know the owner and staff at each places. We often get freebies or secret specials at each places. The trick is that we are nice.
What is funny is when people pretend to be regular or are the annoying regular. One time a guy tried to explain to me the menu and what was good. Then condescently told his friends "they will treat us nice 'cause I've been giving them good money in the past few weeks and im kind of a regular now". Well, lets just say, we got a free drink and he didn't. As for the annoying regular, lets just say I have never seen the head bartender leave his shift as fast as he did when he saw that customer come in.
I would love to be actual, genuine friends with Charlotte! She is my favorite Canadian!!!
A book is also useful on a bus you can still hear what's going on around you ( much safer) plus with no eye contact weirdos are unlikely to try to engage with you
I read so many novels on my bus commute!
I used to knit.
@@aussieragdoll4840 another great option Don't know about you but apparently I have a big sign on my forehead only visible to each and every weirdo?
To be fair, many if not most communities in the US have little to no public transportation, and when they do, the busses stop running really early, don't go everywhere, etc.
But expecting someone else to pay for your Uber just because they've given you a ride every night for two weeks? 🤦🏻♀️
Funny enough, I had the "just take the bus" thought about the first story because New York is NOT one of those places. I was like, uh...$200 of what you paid is on you, hon. It's New York. You're telling me there were no trains or busses to get you most of the way there? (Though obviously the bday girl had major entitlement issues, and $300 is ridiculous, too.)
That's honestly part of why I get along better with other neurodivergent friends. They understand the whole "out of sight, out of mind" thing, and don't take it personally if I don't talk to them for a while (because they do it, too). But if I'm friends with someone who normally speaks to me, and then they decide not to talk to me for a while? When I DO think of them, I'm going to think they're mad at me. And if they don't want to speak to me, that's their choice.
That might be what's going on with your friend, because it does sound like she cared enough to put in effort for your birthday.
My platonic bestie and I share the same birthday. And have the sameeeee neroudivergency. So we forget each others AND our own birthdays. And his parents are SUPER understanding, I can send them an email every 2 years and they're like "OH HEY GIRL!"
Oh my god yes!
I was just about to mention this then found this reply so THANK YOU because I'm the same and I'll sometimes feel so ashamed about my inability to reach out on my own but thankfully my friends understand and don't take it personally.
I’m waving at all of you. HEY BESTIES!
I’m that one who loves you every day and NEVER remembers to call, send a card, or generally do things that require planning and follow-through.
BUT because my mind is always whirring away about everything and everyone, all the time, I always feel like we JUST talked even if that was 3 months ago. That OR I’m always JUST about to call you when you finally call me, so now I feel guilty and fake telling you how I saw an orange peel last week and it reminded me of that time we ate oranges together and I started to send you a text but I tried to find a picture of the same kind of orange we had and got lost online blah blah blah...
I am traumatized by “The Test.” It doesn’t work on me to say you’ve waited SO long and I never noticed your absence. It just makes me feel worse than I already did the last 5 times I started to get in touch but ended up yak shaving or talked myself out of it to put out some other corner of the dumpster fire I keep diving into. 🥵
But I will absolutely split the bill and help pay for the birthday girl despite being super cheap in my everyday life. But most of the time I just want to go for a walk and get ice cream anyway so… 🥵 Basically all my friends are the people remaining who will straight up find me without resentment or tell me they miss me and we need to make a date.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk! Maybe now you’re as confused as I am. Goodnight. ❤
Ah, yes. My people. I didn't forget you, but sometimes I feel like a plate spinner, and life keeps adding more and more plates, but not more limbs. I'm just focused on keeping this other stack from falling right now. We'll get back to each other.
Perfect advice, Charlotte! I'm also a recovering people pleaser. Let go of these people, and often you'll find you were the only one holding on. Real friends will claw their way into your life, no matter what. They will not give up on you.
For my sisters wedding, i live in the UK and the wedding was in Germany. i was broke after buying plane tickets and helping towards wedding and hotels things anyway for her wedding gift. i made a photo video. i found the photos i added them to eleton jhons, "Your song." Everyone loved it. There was not a dry eye in sight
I was recently in that place,, I was recently diagnosed with cancer and couldn’t care for myself and the people who responded were the same who were in my life for casual friendship ! My family was very slow in responding. !
I'm sorry that happened. Sometimes it seems like your family isn't being supportive because their in denial. They don't want you to be sick, and if they help you or acknowledge it, it makes it real. Sometimes we humans show we care by being the opposite of helpful, and some of us are ass hats.😁
A'HO (blessings in Lakota), and good health to you.❤❤❤
Our favorite response to people that would say they "know the owner" was OMG ME TOO that's awesome, he's so nice isn't he?!?!?!
The best one I heard was at a local place. Mom lives close to the owner of this coffeeshop, they go on hikes together!
An entitled person came into the shop, I’m sitting with Mom and the owner, just chatting, having a good day. And we hear from the register counter “I KNOW the owner!” Café goes quiet.
The owner looks up from her seat, gives the customer that up-and-down look. “I have never seen your face in my life before. I would remember your lack of fashion.” And you could tell which people were swallowing down their laughter! The senior barista was turning red from her held-in giggle fit
@@icarusbinns3156 that's good stuff right there😂😂😂 i wish that would've ever happened when our owner was actually in😂😂😂
I love the people that drop hints about needing a ride without actually asking for a ride. Also the same people that get super pissed at you because you are going to be out on vacation or were sick and they were expecting you to be there to take them to and from work.
Rode the bus for years. Including while I was pregnant with my daughter. I had a blast because all the regulars watched out for me! And when it was my last day to ride before going to hospital? I got an impromptu baby shower and got some lovely gifts!
Got my large mug of tea 🍵for the spicy hot tea with our Queen of Petty our Honourable Judge Charlotte🥔👑. *gobble gobble* 🦃🦃
And that’s on Petty period
@@SolènelamigonnelicorneSHE'S NOT YOUR AUNT. And you'll never become a unicorn
@@SolènelamigonnelicorneYou'll never become a unicorn. And she's not your aunt. Stop it.
I literally just made a gallon of tea😂 perfect timing
@@MoonHT24what is happening
There’s a difference between cheap & frugal. Some people absolutely NEED to be frugal bc of their lot in life. My friend does not have a ton of $ so she makes all my gifts. She cannot go out to eat or get drinks so I buy groceries & she cooks me dinner & always has me sit while she cleans up. I love her dearly
Had made gifts are the best!!!!
That's actually so sweet and sounds perfect!
7:53 Owner: Thank you. Put it in writing, PLEASE!
XD
I was a bus girly for YEARS and the bus system where I live is trash so sometimes what would normally be a 10 min car ride was an hour on the bus, often with at least one transfer. It sucked but I did it. And if the weather was nice, I walked it. When I did ask people for a ride (or they offered) I'd slip them a $5 bill for gas when I could afford it, or if it was a coworker I'd buy them coffee the next day - some sort of quid-pro-quo. And if they said no, I moved on. It never hurts to ask, but putting people in an uncomfortable position just because you want to get home sooner is unfair.
11:00 I was a bus girly too Charlotte 😉 my car broke down and I had to be on the bus to go to college at 4:50 am and change buses 3 or 4 times before I got to college. And because of the bus schedule, I got there about an hour early, so I would just get a coffee at the burger king and study until my first class. Sometimes it's just what you have to do !
I lived semirural and didn’t have the money to rent, so lived with my parents. So when I went to university it was in the nearest city 60 km away, which took one and a half hours (each way) on the bus. There were about six a day of said buses each way. One year I had classes that started right at 8 am and I had to drag my sorry ass out of bed at 5 to catch the first bus and then when the bus finally got there I had to sprint up the long hill and through the park to get to the class, all the way across the campus, more or less on time. At the same time I had a class that finished at 6 and the last bus left my stop at exactly that time, so I had to get special dispensation to leave that class ten minutes early in order to sprint back down the hill to be in time for the bus. I missed it about a dozen times especially if the bus had been early. A couple of times I managed to stay with friends but the rest of the time I had to catch a different bus that ended in a town about half an hour’s drive from home and have Dad come and pick me up. Also, this route got the crappiest oldest busses that had broken heating and occasionally broke down in transit.
The last story triggered my past server trauma. I worked at a steakhouse and we had a guy who everyone called “prime rib guy” he would say his prime rib was bad every time to try to get it free but he came like every other week. When I was a hostess the servers would slip me cash to not seat him in their sections, and then I did the same when I became a server 😂
Should have purposely made it bad so he wouldn't come back. Lol
I don't get this at all. If I notice something wrong with my food, I let the staff know and they get me a new one. That's the compensation, a replacement. That happens extremely rarely. I'm also Swedish, so... I think tipping culture is partly to blame. We don't tip because restaurant staff are paid a wage that doesn't rely on tips, so they can tell an unreasonable customer to get out. I don't think I've ever seen a meal comped here.
I used to be a MASSIVE people pleaser. When I was in my mid 20’s I realized what I was letting people do to me and how it was effecting me both physically and mentally. I made a 180 and started dropping people like flys! Now, I have zero time for BS and people call me an asshole all the time. This is what happens when you stop letting people walk all over you
There's a breakfast joint in my town and their T-shirt uniforms all say
"I know the owner too!" on the back 😂
Oh my gosh, that's great. 😂
28:04 lol those of us in hospitality have a week (or more) heads up for our "special" guests at the front desk. As a former concierge, I took my time to TRIPLE check every aspect of their stay if they booked through me - meaning I gave every area of the property - housekeeping, steak house, spa etc - a memo the moment the reservation is made and also a reminder the night before their reservation. Just letting you all know too, we DO leave notes on your personal profile for anyone who has access to read it. That means if you're a pain in someone's keester somewhere on the property - every single one of us - will know if we pull up your acct 😂 sometimes word of mouth doesn't make a full round but that computer system sure does! 🤣🤣🤣 Just be nice to your bartenders, servers, front desk agents, concierges and ESPECIALLY housekeeping!!! 💓💓💓
My dad and I took our two cats with us on a short vacation some years back and the housekeeping staff were so sweet and they told us how nice our kitties were (they were very curious and friendly with strangers), even when my younger cat ran out the door to try to explore (they got him back in pretty easily). They admitted to staying a bit to pet them because they were very sweet and so few pet visitors were actually that friendly. So on the days we were going to be out of the room for most of the day we told them they were welcome to spend some extra time there just petting the cats and giving them a few treats. 😅 The hotel was being renovated, so they had few guest rooms to deal with and extra time. They really enjoyed that little cat break, and so did the kitties.
I always try to be extra kind and helpful to anyone who is caring for me. Be that nurses or doctors, housekeeping, postal, or sanitation workers. I try not to take any of those services for granted.
The restaurant owner responding is genuinely hilarious. 😂
I had a good chuckle at the restaurant owner responses 😂😂😂
One thing you never do with waiters/waitresses is NEVER MOVE PLATES WHILE THEY ARE CARRYING. IT THROWS THEM OFF BALANCE. If you want to help them, just move them closer. Don't add or remove things from what they are carrying.
Double true with drinks on a tray.
I worked at a place where the owners told us to tell anyone who said they're friends of the owner to tell them "the owners have no friends "!😅
Ha!
Adding that to my repertoire for when I start my own grooming salon. “I don’t have friends, especially not ones with doodles.”
Your story about taking the bus and sometimes walking is so relatable to me. Granted where I'm from public transport is very common to use.. But sometimes when I was low on money I would just walk to and trom work to save 4,- a day. Especially when it was nice weather I didn't mind it at all. A nice way to decompress after work too, some music and a little walk
The barking sound when you bleeped yourself out, was so perfect and cute!!!! I loved it lol I wish that was what happened irl too.
Omg that friendship (the "soulmate" one) sounds EXHAUSTING!
Amber Heard vibes.