I suspected monkey wrenching and confronted my partner who completely denied it. He dragged me through the dirt for a year after that, sabotaging our relationship, until I couldn’t take it anymore and forced him to break up with me. Then, two weeks, after he left, he was dating her. Always go with your gut instinct. I wasted a year of my life trying to save a relationship with someone who didn’t have the courage to leave on their own.
This happened to me, in a shocking and bad way. I take this bad behavior very seriously. It is NOT a good thing to "monkey branch". Period. It completely detroys the person left behind and breaking all trust in humanity for them going forward. I went through absolute hell doubting myself in every way possible.
Me too. Complete blindside. The gall of these assholes. She finally admitted to it while overlapping. (She was still banging me while with this other dude). After she finally called me back @ ghosting me, she said she still wanted to be friends. I was like, you've got to be kidding me. Been no contact since. Never been so f'd over in my life. Still struggling, but it's getting better. Her loss. She'll be back, but I won't be there.
@@JChristo1984 atleast they did it in the civilian world. Mines monkey branched within her 2nd month in the army while I was a civilian. F these 304s.
I lost myself in the relationship, i gave my whole self for her to help her with her depression. I was always there for her night/day. 6 Years long relationship, and then because life got hard for me she left me and got into a new relationship 8 days after our breakup. I just cant cope with it, even just before our breakup we were talking about living together she was here with me multiple days in a row and wanted to see me a lot. This hurts so so much
Always remember never let anyone treat you like second place. I learned my lessons and it sounds selfish but you need to put yourself first. I was in a similar situation trying to help him with his depression - basically I was his little emotional support puppy until he replaced me but played mind games with me wanting to “work it out” now suddenly he looks so happy with this new girl . He’s putting on a façade with her , he was vulnerable with me. Hurt people hurt other people so doubt it will last
Oh man. It may be fun to watch in a rom-com, but experiencing it SUCKS. I think the comparison is the worst part. It had me convinced for the longest time that I was this awful person, this loser who is ugly and has no future and that the new person is me but better in every conceivable way. I’m still healing, but for this to be my first break-up and to have it be an 8 year long relationship, I mean, this was a doozy! I totally understand why people would be turned off of relationships after something like this. I just don’t feel like I can trust anyone after that, I can’t imagine being able to let someone get that close to me again.
Thanks for the video. I am 31 days into a blindisded breakup monkeybranch. We had a beautiful healthy loving happy 3yr relationship. Completely BROKE me 💔. We never had a fight, argument or anything. It was supportive and loving all the way until this happened. I am now 22ish days into no contact. We had future plans, her 4yr old daughter absolutely loves me. The guy she monkeybranched to is not even her type. Ppl that know him say he doesn't have a good reputation. I am moving on & healing. Alot of her things & clothes are here. We talked everyday for 3yrs..my world was happy & full of love one day then gone the next. Just GHOSTED me.
So true!!! You can definitely feel it. I can almost pinpoint the week it started. It only lasted for a little over a month before I left the situation. Staying and fighting for the relationship hurts so much worse. Trust your intuition
The monkey brancher still calls & I still don't answer. This last time he called I told him to lose my phone #. I have no desire to get tossed like trash & then made to make them feel less guilty for being a poor excuse for a human being. Once you branches out, you can't double back.
19 years later my now ex wife branched me and our teens, my mother had just lost her battle with cancer, poof! Gone! Fast forward 18 months the kids and I lift at the gym 4-5 times a week. We’re closer than ever and she’s a total stranger now. Life goes on, hang in there people.
My 56-year- old husband monkey branched to his 36 year-old secretary after 19 years of marriage. Almost 3 years post discard my kids and I are healing and in a much better place. On the other hand he is playing doting father to their new baby whilst cheating with his other baby mama.
Hang in there JJ, hopefully one day soon you will be able to appreciate the fact that he is no longer In the picture and that he is now someone else’s problem. I know pain and disappointment hurts but it gives strength and raises your endurance. Hang in there
Trust me guys Ladies and gents... If they Discarded you for the wrong reasons... karma will come back on them....God's promise...Jeremiah 17:10..... Just keep praying and better yourself...
It sucks it happened to me TWICE with the same guy, I gave him another chance and he did it the first time . That didn’t last bc he never healed and brought it to her - I gave him another chance and 3 months later he started flirting w girls at the bars and pretty much after that when I brought up the boundaries because I already went through this . He told me 2 weeks ago he still wants me and now I see he’s seeing someone already posting her !! Introduced her to all our mutual friends and I had to see it again . Kinda numb to it but he’s not healed , he’s broken and he will repeat it with her . He’s a fun person to be around and we had a connection great actually . Id say the second time it stings even more and makes you feel very foolish .
Yea don’t risk taking them back.. I just went through this she left and what’s left in my book is gone, it’s very hard but like they say, you can’t keep someone that doesn’t want to be kept/saved
Girl!!! Im going through similar too😢😢 my ex emotionally cheated twice, 1st time with my friend, and then i took him back on and off and never 100% trust, and he's done it again with his female church friend (mormon). We r both different religion so he's an actual shitbag for dragging my time out for 3-4years. It's soo painful
Agree 100%. 10 year relationship, broke up 6 mos ago, been trying to get back the whole time, positive signs, only for her to destroy me on NYE by telling me she moved on, and no longer feels anything for me. Cue the immediate and total change towards me afterwards, no contact despite talking daily for 10 years, including the reconciliation period, no discussions allowed about the past, constant changing about the reason for her decision. Its like I ceased to exist from one day to the next for her. I was confused, then I realized, its not WHAT changed their mind, its WHO changed their mind. Feels like a stab in the heart to realize that all my efforts at reconciliation was just to help her get over me while still keeping me around. Lesson learned I suppose.
@@IamCoachCourt thanks brother. Just taking it day by day at this time, and eventually I’ll let her go in my heart, and remember her as a lesson learned in love and life. It is what it is. Guess what sucks the most is not just losing her, but losing 10 years of my life, something I can never get back.
@@IamCoachCourt for sure,. To me, I lost the years, but I gained the wisdom. That means just as much! Sucks that it all ended over egos and pride, but at least I can say that I tried to fix it, while she chose to dwell on her victim mentality and not match my effort.
My ex of 14 years began an emotional affair a week before he dumped me. He says that it just happened and that he felt such a deep connection with her that made him feel he had known her forever. He said all the same platitudes about her that he said to me when we met---she's gorgeous, intelligent, motivated, etc. His excuse was that he didn't think he saw a future with between us anymore. He then moved her in the next week, talks about having a baby with her and today I learned that he's moving out of state with this woman Friday after knowing her only 3 weeks. I'm so bewildered by this behavior. I don't quite know what to think. I'm just trying to distance myself from the situation but it's difficult because this is such impulsive behavior.
I very highly doubt he had only been involved w her for 1 week b4 leaving you. I very much doubt that! I hope you've learned how to process that grief of betrayal, & are doing well now.
I agree that it is their choice. But damn, it hurts like hell. They completely turn ice cold. Learn from my faults, don't let them change who you are because I never talked negatively about them for 6 years...but I let it all out once I found she was trying to steal married man away from a 23 year marriage. I feel ashamed of losing control of my anger. All I can do is learn from it and be better.
Monkey branching is not good and unfair. I was monkey branched. I tried my best to work things out. I really cared and loved him and his kids. He even told me always that he will never lie to me, swearing he won't putting God and his kids, whole family on it. So men or women who did monkey branching are emotionally immature. He used to tell me karma is a bitch. I'm still healing. He's reaching out but I just want to move on.
My ex of 29 yrs monkey branched and cheated on her with several other women which is Karma for her because she thought it was going to be different with her. It’s been 16 mnths since we separated and has been calling , texting and trying to keep one foot in my door . He is going through a serious midlife crisis
NOW WE TALKING... I was with a lady for 4 years... I DID IGNORE HER red flags, Married 5 Times and it was ALWAYS the MANS FAULT (Her Words), 5 Kids, No Accountability, Parents have to ration her money to pay her BILLS, several jobs and it was always the JOBS fault as to why she left the job... YES I went through this.. I took care of her, her kids, treated her like a wife... SHE just let me go like i was nothing... BUT THE THING THAT KILLED MY HEART... She once told me that If I needed a place to stay... I could come stay with her and the kids.. SHE went on to say after MONKEY BRANCHING to a NEW DUDE.... SHE TOLD me that If I needed a place to stay.... I would have to sleep on the floor and she on the bed.... And IF SHE HAD A GUEST IN TOWN... THEY will sleep on the BED and ME ON THE FLOOR... NOW THAT SHIT AINT HAPPENING!!!!! All this for a dude she was a co-worker with and was with him for like 3 days..... WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She took me through a DEEP Depression... AND IM still battling it with counseling..... BUT through my crying and down spells... I LEAN on GOD.... and the passage: PROVERBS 3:5: TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND LEAN NOT ON YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING..... Pray for a Brother FAM!!!.. God has a plan... WE just have to FOLLOW HIM!!!!💐🙏🙏
Lol wow my ex monkey branched with a childhood “ friend “ who was married before and she has 5 kids not even all the kids from her marriage .. and somehow it was always they guy fault things didn’t work with her and he’s falling for it 😂 I am hurt but sometimes I just laugh because he is basically wanting to find out the hard way
What even bad is my ex was seeing his new woman while we were looking for houses and property we closed on property and 2wks later we broke up and a mth later he was with the new woman leaving me with the ball and now he still cones by the property we own with his new woman.
I didn't compare myself ... well maybe a little (only natural) but I didn't torment myself over it. I knew that he left because he didn't want to put the work into our relationship and it was just easier to jump to someone new without even bothering to take some time out to work on himself first. This told me that his approach to relationships is very self serving so in the end it's his loss not mine. Don't get me wrong: it still hurt like hell and more than anything I was/still am angry that I wasted my time, energy, heart and resources on someone that gave back little in return (while promising me the moon). In that sense I feel like an idiot but I learned a valuable lesson. Better late than never, I guess. I lost myself for a while and am still not fully back to the person I was before the relationship so in a sense they stole from me. I'm more upset about that but as far as his new romantic interest? Well she can keep him because he's such a prize ... NOT! Btw, they married just months after dating and he was cheating on her within a year of getting married. Fun fact: she was a monkey brancher too: she was engaged to someone else when she met my ex and jumped straight to him from her fiance. Like attracts like I guess.
10 years, two kids. I changed beyond all recognition from the man I was before our first child to the man I am now. I had my issues, I'm pretty introverted and I concentrated on my job in order to provide a good life for us and our girls. 3 months ago I found out she was messaging her ex before me. Now I'm completely destroyed. I'm a shell of who I was. I can barely sleep. I hardly see my girls now without crying. I'm starting over completely and she's in love with her new man. She's won. And now I have no idea what to do. I saw a future with her in it and I was on the verge of asking her to marry me, the only reason I didn't is I wanted her to start to controlling her bulimia again. And it's pathetic I still want her. I have no idea what to do anymore. How can someone throw away 10 years? How can someone not work on their issues? How can someone that said they loved you 4 or 5 months ago go to another person so fast and think it's right? How can someone that was talking about buying a house together bring another man around our kids 11 days after you move out! I'm done and I see nothing worthwhile in my future bar my 8 and 3 year old girls.
Happened to me in 2011 man. 26 years old….married HS GF….2 kids….on deployment cheats on me. Found out it was t the first time. Divorced her…she moves in with the guy and tries to create this façade that he’s their dad. She had two kids with him and then a was a surrogate for money. Close without saying but definitely a broken woman who is incredibly selfish and puts her own needs before her kids or anyone else. My is now 17….my daughter is 13 and guess wha guess what…..They hate going to their moms…. My son joined the Marines and my daughter wants to live with me full-time. I don’t know if you will read this message or not but the moral of the story is I put everything into my kids and it worked out you will heal from this man prayers for you 🙏
@@3p0x1 hey bigdog, yeahbi seen your message. And thanks for sharing with me. But I'm in a better place now and honestly it's because I chose to be. I woke up one morning and basically said to myself "om 32 but I'm acting like I'm 67, wtf is wrong with you?". And that very day I decided that I was going to make my own happiness. I decided that was a choice and only I could make it or I could wallow in self pity and denial and mope about for the rest of my life. So I looked at this whole thing as a challenge. I challenged myself to be happy. And honestly it fucking worked! I worked harder, I hit the gym more I eat healthier ive lost 4 stone, I've met someone that I have 10x more in common with and in two weeks I've had more sex than I had in 3 years. Looking at happiness as a choice has allowed me to flourish and be more confident in all aspects of my life and honestly I'm happier than ever. Is there bad days or thoughts of what if? Of course but I'm taking it day by day and it's working out for me. And that's great to hear about your kids. You are 100% right the kids are what matters, no matter what kind of father you are if you can show them you are 120% behind them they will know. That's what I'm doing for my girls and that's what I will continue doing for them. Thanks for tiur message man and my apologies for making you read the above cringe ravings of a broken dude. I'll admit I'm still a lil broken, but I'm putting myself back together piece by piece. Much love brother.
Stay strong king. Focus on you and your girls, that's all that's important. Time heals all and you'll come out stronger in the end. Just know you arent alone and others are going through the same thing. Hope all is well.
We're 58 now. My ex we lived together bought townhome for over 7 years. She left me for dead, monkey branched and they got married so quick and bought house. Has to sell ours. Now she is always texting me and her mom leaving voice messages that she is hurting etc severe depression how much she hurt me, if id be there to take her back etc, made mistake. I am no contact. I ignore until very significant her intentions, even if so, not sure i would take her back after the devastation and betrayal. Yep, new scumbag not measuring up after the clownface comes off. Worst thing to ever go through I'll tell you that!
Never take her back. You will feel proud that you maintained your self respect. That feeling of self pride will at least help you keep afloat. If you take her back you dont have any self worth.
Mine did this..5 days later was on a date with a family friend. Abd now in relationship for 3 months. She denied it and said they talked after the breakup. Not buying it
It irks me when people consider 6 months to be long enough to really know someone...NO...Not even close to long enough...You need at least 2 years to really know someone in my opinion.
I have two sons with my ex we were together for 5 years she was going to her brother's house and was actually talking to his best friend. She up and left and moved the kids over there two days later out of no where. It's been four months now. I get the kids half of the time but it's hard going to meet her 3 times a week. She is so cold and just lies about everything. Idk what to do
Yes please videos on this topic- this is what happened to me but he "technically" didn't break any rules in the rule book because we technically weren't together.
My ex has monkey branched her whole life and now she is saying she is going to marry the rebound guy??? She has only dated him for 3 months and only on weekends because she travels?!!! Lol. But she just so happens to meet her soulmate that fast?? The same week we broke up?? Come on. She is settling. This guy is low hanging fruit too. Low income, lives with mom and dad even though he is 32 and has never lived on his own??? Good luck lol....and i have 6 fig income, own my own home, 2 paid off cars. Better looking. Ckme on
I recently just experienced this a few weeks ago. When she broke up with me after 5 yrs she stated she didn’t want to be in a relationship. I was like wtf, when we got face to face she looked like a complete stranger to me. No emotion and all, we had sex on a Friday and was in love Saturday we talked throughout the day and I texted that Saturday night I love you Sunday morning I looked and didn’t get a reply back when I did call her she said she didn’t want to be in a relationship no emotion after 5 yrs smh karma is coming
I think me and my ex husband both monkey branched .. he was talking to someone from his job. And I was talking to someone I met. This happened during the last days of me living in the house. In fact she moved in my house and I moved in my BF house. it’s been 2 years and I still dream about my ex husband and believe me I don’t want to. so I’m pretty sure we are both in relationships with our R.
My ex monkey branched but he downgraded so severely it makes me laugh. The new girl has some similarities with me, they are doing some of the exact stuff we used to, snuggle with her dog (I love dogs) but he's this manchild who clearly can't be alone. I was leaving to live abroad for 5 months and there were all these lies he'd come and see me, ofc we'd stay together etc. Weeell.. he dumped me when I'd been there for 2 months and the first time he went out after the BU he met a girl in a bar who had also just broken up with her ex. "That s why we had chemistry and why we are together" my manchild told me. 😂😂😂😂 yeap i think i need something a lil more profound my little, i dodged a bullet.
Yup ex monkey branched in ‘secret’ but I quickly figured it out plus there was weekly discards and STI’s 🙈 he denied it than once admitted “what if I have” and she (21 years his junior 🤷♀️) was very passive aggressive on her social media - he no doubt painted me black to her than triangulated us - I’m a multiple bikini champion she is just planning to compete. Guess triangulation is a good way to ‘motivate’ aka control her 👁️ the thing is I studied his pathology and astrology, human design for 4 years solid now. I can read the situation and both of them and all the other players like a book now. I have connected to my gifts through this experience because I followed guidance from a higher power. I am single and in solitude. She is very insecure 🙈 because she knew he was with me. She knows me. 🤷♀️
How are we all doing here? Fresh into it, it's been two weeks. We were together for 5 years, we were each others ride or die, she was never someone who would do this, but she changed over the course of a few months. So much has happened during the course of the last few months, I don't know where I am or what to do. Lying, hiding stuff, deleting things, she was up to stuff in work/flirting and quite possibly more I just never had proof of the more. She's now finally left me for someone who she manages and works with all day that only started there a little over 2 months ago. She's been putting him on the same shift as her for a while now and flirting and building up to what's finally happened. She denied that anything happened until after we split but before we did I caught her out in the work van with him and she'd lied and said she stayed in work to do a rota and that he had a girlfriend and it was harmless (I now know he split with his girlfriend two days before this so my partner clearly knew). We were trying for a baby for about 6 months of last year into this one, talking about her like she was already born for over a year. We were going to name her maddison/maddie, and she's left me for a man who has also left his partner for mine who has 2 young girls, one called maddison... We were intimate with oral the morning of the night I caught her out in the van with him, then within 3 days we had split and she was already sleeping with him. There is so much more to my story, but not enough time, headspace or words to write it all. I'm hurting, really, deeply hurting.... Please help
My ex started a relationship 4 months after we divorced. We were married for 23 years. She dated him for two years and started "talking" to a guy she graduated high school with. Dumped her rebound and started seeing the next guy. He asked her to marry him after four months, but she declined. But they are already talking buying a house together. She is 53 and he has an 11 year old daughter. Our boys are 25, 22 and 20. No idea why she would want to help raise someone else's child.
Monkey branching is wrong, no excusing it, saying people gonna do what they gonna do isn’t correct. Stringing someone along and leading them on, keeping up appearances just enough and denying any deceit, is wrong. It is a form of abuse, it usually involves gaslighting, lying, deception and breaking trust. Could we say I’m gonna abuse my partner, and it is what it is, people gonna do what they gonna do? Naw I don’t think so. Monkey branching leaves the partner behind in anxiety, confusion, with cognitive dissonance and emotionally and psychological trauma, wondering what was real and what was a delusion. It is reprehensible behavior and we should not condone it, it should be admonished and shamed.
@@IamCoachCourt Then the person moves on and heals the same as they would best they can, watches content like yours, but society views the person who did it as they are, as a person with no integrity. This provides a reputational risk to act in this manner. Ostracism for stuff like this used to be part of society in the west and is a strong deterrent as well as implements the social consequences for actions taken that hurt other people (emotional damage is much harder to see), and that are deceitful. This is no longer the case, and we see these behaviors on the rise, and no one really cares. Monkey branching exploits the partner, using them for emotional connection that is slowly detached while they attach with the new partner, hedging their risk of being alone and not having that much needed validation they need since they are emotionally immature and insecure usually. Meanwhile the naive partner is investing time, energy and effort into the relationship none the wiser. They also, as you mention, lack empathy and compassion. They are a stranger once they jump, and it is usually in the form of a blindsiding discard once they feel the new branch is safe. If they aren’t feeling the relationship anymore, either communicate something and see if can be rectified or end it. Regarding the coach you mentioned who says everyone should monkey branch (I know you didn’t say this, but I want to address it), well if that is the prescription, then the thought experiment to see if that makes sense would be that both partners enter committed relationships with that mindset and they can discuss it up front, “Hey just so we are on same page, at some point if I feel like it, I may start entertaining other men/women and I won’t tell you, I’ll actually conceal it, and if I get into limerence with them, I’m going to discard you one day and go with them. I may seem distant sometimes towards the end, but when you ask I’ll say work is just really hectic lately and reassure you all is well. It will probably hurt a lot. I may also expose you to potential STD’s at this point in time since we may be hooking up, and then I’ll hook up with you before the discard.” I believe that is unhealthy, and I’ll add that I think women tend to monkey branch more than men, simply due to the nature of the game with men being the pursuers generally initially, and then women select. They have way more available options at any given time making it much easier to branch. If both partners enter a hetero relationship this way, then the equivalent for the man would mean he will be pursuing women the whole time, collecting contact info from women who have interest to level the playing field for when he may deem necessary to start emotionally cheating, flirting and possibly ultimately physically cheating, due to the imbalance in the dating market where men have way less immediate available options than a woman. I just think it’s wrong, I understand it’s going to happen, but it hurts people badly.
As a coach, please stop advising people to not take it personally when we have been mistreated. All, and I mean EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU RUclipsR RELATIONSHIP COACHES say that same thing. Talk about pouring salt, nah, allow me to rephrase that statement. Talk about shoving a couple of salt licks that have been soaked in alcohol into a wound 🙄😭...My goodness it most definitely IS personal. I'm taking it personally at some point because if I don't, I'm going to fall apart or worse into some sort of deep depression. Taking it personally is standing up FOR myself TO myself. How else would you expect a person to move on from being stuck in emotional neutrality?
3 years together. He Told me Wednesday on a text I told you I loved you on this day. Saturday he said we should split up. Found out on fb he was married 10 weeks later. Freaking pain I’ve not felt before. I am better off but I know I will need counseling and a lot of time to be vulnerable enough to get into another relationship.
Girls that money branch in their late 30's and find an older guy will most likely be happy with him. She will marry him and wont think twice about you. They are ready to move fast...especially if they gave you an ultimatum and you didnt marry them fast enough. Just let it be. Women really dont need to heal if they money branch. New guy will put the love hearts over their eyes and he will heal her. That's the truth
We all have back up careers, back up transportantion, back up jobs, back up baby sitters, back up dinner plans, back up computer storage, its seems to me its only in relationships that "having a back up relationship and emotional support" is considered wrong, i think the idea of "owning" your partner is "crazy", i think everybody should monkey branch and this ethical b*ll crap would be pointless!!!!
Wrong! The definition of relationship its a commitment. Between 2 people. Talking to someone else with the intent of fucking them is way off key. You can’t compare it to computer storage hahaha wtf
I suspected monkey wrenching and confronted my partner who completely denied it. He dragged me through the dirt for a year after that, sabotaging our relationship, until I couldn’t take it anymore and forced him to break up with me. Then, two weeks, after he left, he was dating her. Always go with your gut instinct. I wasted a year of my life trying to save a relationship with someone who didn’t have the courage to leave on their own.
Sorry that happened to you
You have peace now embrace it
@@marcusberry8404 I have peace? Maybe a piece of pie? Ha
I just went threw the same thing. I'm so hurt
Consider yourself lucky you’re not bound to someone of that lowly character anymore. You are free to be your best self now untethered to a coward.
A person who has integrity, will not monkey branch. A person with no, or weak integrity will.
This happened to me, in a shocking and bad way.
I take this bad behavior very seriously. It is NOT a good thing to "monkey branch". Period.
It completely detroys the person left behind and breaking all trust in humanity for them going forward.
I went through absolute hell doubting myself in every way possible.
Me too. Complete blindside. The gall of these assholes. She finally admitted to it while overlapping. (She was still banging me while with this other dude). After she finally called me back @ ghosting me, she said she still wanted to be friends. I was like, you've got to be kidding me. Been no contact since. Never been so f'd over in my life. Still struggling, but it's getting better. Her loss. She'll be back, but I won't be there.
@@JChristo1984 I'm going through the same problem.. had my heart ripped out!
I absolutely agree I’m going through this now. It’s disgusting!
@@JChristo1984 atleast they did it in the civilian world.
Mines monkey branched within her 2nd month in the army while I was a civilian.
F these 304s.
Yup! She ripped out my heart, made me watch it as it happened and threw it to her dog….
Money Branching is one of the most painful things that can happen to a person. Spot On....with that.
I personally believe monkey branching is disgusting! I could/would never take back a CHEATER.
Such a disrespectful thing to do to someone- selfish coward
It sucks because they already moved on and show up with a new guy in two weeks. Totally screws you over emotionally.
💔 truth
I lost myself in the relationship, i gave my whole self for her to help her with her depression. I was always there for her night/day. 6 Years long relationship, and then because life got hard for me she left me and got into a new relationship 8 days after our breakup. I just cant cope with it, even just before our breakup we were talking about living together she was here with me multiple days in a row and wanted to see me a lot. This hurts so so much
You can get through this bro.i promise
@@IamCoachCourt I hope man, its hopeless non the less. I hope i find someone who appericiates me after i healed and have life in order again
Wish you strength, all the best for your future.
@@prashanthb6521 thank you, I hope you are doing alright as well
Always remember never let anyone treat you like second place. I learned my lessons and it sounds selfish but you need to put yourself first. I was in a similar situation trying to help him with his depression - basically I was his little emotional support puppy until he replaced me but played mind games with me wanting to “work it out” now suddenly he looks so happy with this new girl . He’s putting on a façade with her , he was vulnerable with me. Hurt people hurt other people so doubt it will last
Oh man. It may be fun to watch in a rom-com, but experiencing it SUCKS. I think the comparison is the worst part. It had me convinced for the longest time that I was this awful person, this loser who is ugly and has no future and that the new person is me but better in every conceivable way. I’m still healing, but for this to be my first break-up and to have it be an 8 year long relationship, I mean, this was a doozy! I totally understand why people would be turned off of relationships after something like this. I just don’t feel like I can trust anyone after that, I can’t imagine being able to let someone get that close to me again.
They’re definitely not better than you.
Thanks for the video. I am 31 days into a blindisded breakup monkeybranch. We had a beautiful healthy loving happy 3yr relationship. Completely BROKE me 💔. We never had a fight, argument or anything. It was supportive and loving all the way until this happened. I am now 22ish days into no contact. We had future plans, her 4yr old daughter absolutely loves me. The guy she monkeybranched to is not even her type. Ppl that know him say he doesn't have a good reputation. I am moving on & healing. Alot of her things & clothes are here. We talked everyday for 3yrs..my world was happy & full of love one day then gone the next. Just GHOSTED me.
I totally feel you 😢 The same situation here. Fortunately we don't have a kid.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I'm dealing with the same. How are you doing?
So true!!! You can definitely feel it. I can almost pinpoint the week it started. It only lasted for a little over a month before I left the situation. Staying and fighting for the relationship hurts so much worse. Trust your intuition
The gaslighting and lying and losing touch with reality did it for me.
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The monkey brancher still calls & I still don't answer. This last time he called I told him to lose my phone #. I have no desire to get tossed like trash & then made to make them feel less guilty for being a poor excuse for a human being. Once you branches out, you can't double back.
19 years later my now ex wife branched me and our teens, my mother had just lost her battle with cancer, poof! Gone!
Fast forward 18 months the kids and I lift at the gym 4-5 times a week. We’re closer than ever and she’s a total stranger now. Life goes on, hang in there people.
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Good for you brother!
Good to hear that mate 👍💪💪
My 56-year- old husband monkey branched to his 36 year-old secretary after 19 years of marriage. Almost 3 years post discard my kids and I are healing and in a much better place. On the other hand he is playing doting father to their new baby whilst cheating with his other baby mama.
Hang in there JJ, hopefully one day soon you will be able to appreciate the fact that he is no longer In the picture and that he is now someone else’s problem. I know pain and disappointment hurts but it gives strength and raises your endurance. Hang in there
Trust me guys Ladies and gents... If they Discarded you for the wrong reasons... karma will come back on them....God's promise...Jeremiah 17:10..... Just keep praying and better yourself...
It sucks it happened to me TWICE with the same guy, I gave him another chance and he did it the first time . That didn’t last bc he never healed and brought it to her - I gave him another chance and 3 months later he started flirting w girls at the bars and pretty much after that when I brought up the boundaries because I already went through this . He told me 2 weeks ago he still wants me and now I see he’s seeing someone already posting her !! Introduced her to all our mutual friends and I had to see it again . Kinda numb to it but he’s not healed , he’s broken and he will repeat it with her . He’s a fun person to be around and we had a connection great actually . Id say the second time it stings even more and makes you feel very foolish .
Thanks for sharing that!
Yea don’t risk taking them back.. I just went through this she left and what’s left in my book is gone, it’s very hard but like they say, you can’t keep someone that doesn’t want to be kept/saved
Girl!!! Im going through similar too😢😢 my ex emotionally cheated twice, 1st time with my friend, and then i took him back on and off and never 100% trust, and he's done it again with his female church friend (mormon). We r both different religion so he's an actual shitbag for dragging my time out for 3-4years. It's soo painful
Agree 100%. 10 year relationship, broke up 6 mos ago, been trying to get back the whole time, positive signs, only for her to destroy me on NYE by telling me she moved on, and no longer feels anything for me.
Cue the immediate and total change towards me afterwards, no contact despite talking daily for 10 years, including the reconciliation period, no discussions allowed about the past, constant changing about the reason for her decision.
Its like I ceased to exist from one day to the next for her. I was confused, then I realized, its not WHAT changed their mind, its WHO changed their mind.
Feels like a stab in the heart to realize that all my efforts at reconciliation was just to help her get over me while still keeping me around. Lesson learned I suppose.
Man. I’m sorry to hear that bro
@@IamCoachCourt thanks brother. Just taking it day by day at this time, and eventually I’ll let her go in my heart, and remember her as a lesson learned in love and life. It is what it is. Guess what sucks the most is not just losing her, but losing 10 years of my life, something I can never get back.
@@theprtillierypodcast you don’t lose those years brother, cherish the memories but it ran its course!
@@IamCoachCourt for sure,. To me, I lost the years, but I gained the wisdom. That means just as much! Sucks that it all ended over egos and pride, but at least I can say that I tried to fix it, while she chose to dwell on her victim mentality and not match my effort.
@@theprtillierypodcast 10 years is considered a successful relationship imo
My ex of 14 years began an emotional affair a week before he dumped me. He says that it just happened and that he felt such a deep connection with her that made him feel he had known her forever. He said all the same platitudes about her that he said to me when we met---she's gorgeous, intelligent, motivated, etc. His excuse was that he didn't think he saw a future with between us anymore. He then moved her in the next week, talks about having a baby with her and today I learned that he's moving out of state with this woman Friday after knowing her only 3 weeks. I'm so bewildered by this behavior. I don't quite know what to think. I'm just trying to distance myself from the situation but it's difficult because this is such impulsive behavior.
Damn.
Wow. I am so sorry that this happened to you. You did not deserve it.
Wish you all the strength, try to forget it and move on. Keep yourself busy in building a new life. Never look over your shoulders towards them.
It is but focus on yourself, it's painful but with time you will be fine. Taken me almost a year not to care but I did. He now keeps trying to connect
I very highly doubt he had only been involved w her for 1 week b4 leaving you. I very much doubt that! I hope you've learned how to process that grief of betrayal, & are doing well now.
31 years married and 3 kids later- wife monkey branched me and left- no remorse what so ever
Going through this now I’m just confused because I feel like I didn’t know him at all
I agree that it is their choice. But damn, it hurts like hell. They completely turn ice cold. Learn from my faults, don't let them change who you are because I never talked negatively about them for 6 years...but I let it all out once I found she was trying to steal married man away from a 23 year marriage. I feel ashamed of losing control of my anger. All I can do is learn from it and be better.
It does hurt
Monkey branching is not good and unfair. I was monkey branched. I tried my best to work things out. I really cared and loved him and his kids. He even told me always that he will never lie to me, swearing he won't putting God and his kids, whole family on it. So men or women who did monkey branching are emotionally immature. He used to tell me karma is a bitch. I'm still healing. He's reaching out but I just want to move on.
My ex of 29 yrs monkey branched and cheated on her with several other women which is Karma for her because she thought it was going to be different with her. It’s been 16 mnths since we separated and has been calling , texting and trying to keep one foot in my door . He is going through a serious midlife crisis
That sounds more narcissistic.
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NOW WE TALKING... I was with a lady for 4 years... I DID IGNORE HER red flags, Married 5 Times and it was ALWAYS the MANS FAULT (Her Words), 5 Kids, No Accountability, Parents have to ration her money to pay her BILLS, several jobs and it was always the JOBS fault as to why she left the job... YES I went through this.. I took care of her, her kids, treated her like a wife... SHE just let me go like i was nothing... BUT THE THING THAT KILLED MY HEART... She once told me that If I needed a place to stay... I could come stay with her and the kids.. SHE went on to say after MONKEY BRANCHING to a NEW DUDE.... SHE TOLD me that If I needed a place to stay.... I would have to sleep on the floor and she on the bed.... And IF SHE HAD A GUEST IN TOWN... THEY will sleep on the BED and ME ON THE FLOOR... NOW THAT SHIT AINT HAPPENING!!!!! All this for a dude she was a co-worker with and was with him for like 3 days..... WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She took me through a DEEP Depression... AND IM still battling it with counseling..... BUT through my crying and down spells... I LEAN on GOD.... and the passage: PROVERBS 3:5: TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND LEAN NOT ON YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING..... Pray for a Brother FAM!!!.. God has a plan... WE just have to FOLLOW HIM!!!!💐🙏🙏
Lol wow my ex monkey branched with a childhood “ friend “ who was married before and she has 5 kids not even all the kids from her marriage .. and somehow it was always they guy fault things didn’t work with her and he’s falling for it 😂 I am hurt but sometimes I just laugh because he is basically wanting to find out the hard way
What even bad is my ex was seeing his new woman while we were looking for houses and property we closed on property and 2wks later we broke up and a mth later he was with the new woman leaving me with the ball and now he still cones by the property we own with his new woman.
Yikes
Monkey branchers are exactly the reason why dating is so screwed up, it causes lack of trust !
I didn't compare myself ... well maybe a little (only natural) but I didn't torment myself over it. I knew that he left because he didn't want to put the work into our relationship and it was just easier to jump to someone new without even bothering to take some time out to work on himself first. This told me that his approach to relationships is very self serving so in the end it's his loss not mine. Don't get me wrong: it still hurt like hell and more than anything I was/still am angry that I wasted my time, energy, heart and resources on someone that gave back little in return (while promising me the moon). In that sense I feel like an idiot but I learned a valuable lesson. Better late than never, I guess. I lost myself for a while and am still not fully back to the person I was before the relationship so in a sense they stole from me. I'm more upset about that but as far as his new romantic interest? Well she can keep him because he's such a prize ... NOT! Btw, they married just months after dating and he was cheating on her within a year of getting married. Fun fact: she was a monkey brancher too: she was engaged to someone else when she met my ex and jumped straight to him from her fiance. Like attracts like I guess.
I’m going through this now. I am completely broken. Found out today.
@@melanivanb1823 So sorry to hear that. I know how awfully painful this type of experience is. Sending you a big hug. ❤
People like this are toxic, you had a lucky escape.
Going through this now- one year of the back and forth, currently no contact, hopefully they never show back up again
10 years, two kids. I changed beyond all recognition from the man I was before our first child to the man I am now. I had my issues, I'm pretty introverted and I concentrated on my job in order to provide a good life for us and our girls. 3 months ago I found out she was messaging her ex before me. Now I'm completely destroyed. I'm a shell of who I was. I can barely sleep. I hardly see my girls now without crying. I'm starting over completely and she's in love with her new man. She's won. And now I have no idea what to do. I saw a future with her in it and I was on the verge of asking her to marry me, the only reason I didn't is I wanted her to start to controlling her bulimia again. And it's pathetic I still want her. I have no idea what to do anymore. How can someone throw away 10 years? How can someone not work on their issues? How can someone that said they loved you 4 or 5 months ago go to another person so fast and think it's right? How can someone that was talking about buying a house together bring another man around our kids 11 days after you move out!
I'm done and I see nothing worthwhile in my future bar my 8 and 3 year old girls.
Then those girls of yours are you everything. Pour love into them. My girls were the same age, they need you now more than ever.
Happened to me in 2011 man. 26 years old….married HS GF….2 kids….on deployment cheats on me. Found out it was t the first time. Divorced her…she moves in with the guy and tries to create this façade that he’s their dad.
She had two kids with him and then a was a surrogate for money. Close without saying but definitely a broken woman who is incredibly selfish and puts her own needs before her kids or anyone else.
My is now 17….my daughter is 13 and guess wha guess what…..They hate going to their moms…. My son joined the Marines and my daughter wants to live with me full-time.
I don’t know if you will read this message or not but the moral of the story is I put everything into my kids and it worked out you will heal from this man prayers for you 🙏
@@3p0x1 hey bigdog, yeahbi seen your message. And thanks for sharing with me.
But I'm in a better place now and honestly it's because I chose to be. I woke up one morning and basically said to myself "om 32 but I'm acting like I'm 67, wtf is wrong with you?". And that very day I decided that I was going to make my own happiness. I decided that was a choice and only I could make it or I could wallow in self pity and denial and mope about for the rest of my life.
So I looked at this whole thing as a challenge. I challenged myself to be happy. And honestly it fucking worked! I worked harder, I hit the gym more I eat healthier ive lost 4 stone, I've met someone that I have 10x more in common with and in two weeks I've had more sex than I had in 3 years. Looking at happiness as a choice has allowed me to flourish and be more confident in all aspects of my life and honestly I'm happier than ever. Is there bad days or thoughts of what if? Of course but I'm taking it day by day and it's working out for me.
And that's great to hear about your kids. You are 100% right the kids are what matters, no matter what kind of father you are if you can show them you are 120% behind them they will know. That's what I'm doing for my girls and that's what I will continue doing for them.
Thanks for tiur message man and my apologies for making you read the above cringe ravings of a broken dude. I'll admit I'm still a lil broken, but I'm putting myself back together piece by piece.
Much love brother.
Stay strong king. Focus on you and your girls, that's all that's important. Time heals all and you'll come out stronger in the end. Just know you arent alone and others are going through the same thing. Hope all is well.
We're 58 now. My ex we lived together bought townhome for over 7 years. She left me for dead, monkey branched and they got married so quick and bought house. Has to sell ours. Now she is always texting me and her mom leaving voice messages that she is hurting etc severe depression how much she hurt me, if id be there to take her back etc, made mistake. I am no contact. I ignore until very significant her intentions, even if so, not sure i would take her back after the devastation and betrayal. Yep, new scumbag not measuring up after the clownface comes off. Worst thing to ever go through I'll tell you that!
The rebound always fails
Taking her back is the worst decision ever . Karma is a bitch bro . Just watch and enjoy
Never take her back. You will feel proud that you maintained your self respect. That feeling of self pride will at least help you keep afloat. If you take her back you dont have any self worth.
This hpnd to me after she asked for a wedding ring and more babies. Cpl months after proposing in front of my whole family she ghosted...sad
Man tell these people why monkey branching is so bad and why they should never go back because of how bad their trauma from the past is.
Mine did this..5 days later was on a date with a family friend. Abd now in relationship for 3 months. She denied it and said they talked after the breakup. Not buying it
It irks me when people consider 6 months to be long enough to really know someone...NO...Not even close to long enough...You need at least 2 years to really know someone in my opinion.
At least 6 months. Takes 8 seasons technically to get to know someone.
Selfish stupidity always shows itself.
I have two sons with my ex we were together for 5 years she was going to her brother's house and was actually talking to his best friend. She up and left and moved the kids over there two days later out of no where. It's been four months now. I get the kids half of the time but it's hard going to meet her 3 times a week. She is so cold and just lies about everything. Idk what to do
Worst pain of my life
The person they left me for looks like me, is also goth, and has almost the same hobbies but they're an inferior version of me
This shit makes it so much harder. If only they knew how much harder they make things for you and for themselves once they realize the fucked up.
Yes please videos on this topic- this is what happened to me but he "technically" didn't break any rules in the rule book because we technically weren't together.
My ex has monkey branched her whole life and now she is saying she is going to marry the rebound guy??? She has only dated him for 3 months and only on weekends because she travels?!!! Lol. But she just so happens to meet her soulmate that fast?? The same week we broke up?? Come on. She is settling. This guy is low hanging fruit too. Low income, lives with mom and dad even though he is 32 and has never lived on his own??? Good luck lol....and i have 6 fig income, own my own home, 2 paid off cars. Better looking. Ckme on
I recently just experienced this a few weeks ago. When she broke up with me after 5 yrs she stated she didn’t want to be in a relationship. I was like wtf, when we got face to face she looked like a complete stranger to me. No emotion and all, we had sex on a Friday and was in love Saturday we talked throughout the day and I texted that Saturday night I love you Sunday morning I looked and didn’t get a reply back when I did call her she said she didn’t want to be in a relationship no emotion after 5 yrs smh karma is coming
Says a lot about their character how they choose or move on
I was monkey branched.
I think me and my ex husband both monkey branched .. he was talking to someone from his job. And I was talking to someone I met. This happened during the last days of me living in the house. In fact she moved in my house and I moved in my BF house. it’s been 2 years and I still dream about my ex husband and believe me I don’t want to. so I’m pretty sure we are both in relationships with our R.
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Thank you- I needed this today
Loved what you said here. Thanks for those wise words.
11yrs together with 3 kids n she blames me lol
9 years, 2 kids and she had a new guy even before she left me. They are together now.
My ex monkey branched but he downgraded so severely it makes me laugh. The new girl has some similarities with me, they are doing some of the exact stuff we used to, snuggle with her dog (I love dogs) but he's this manchild who clearly can't be alone. I was leaving to live abroad for 5 months and there were all these lies he'd come and see me, ofc we'd stay together etc. Weeell.. he dumped me when I'd been there for 2 months and the first time he went out after the BU he met a girl in a bar who had also just broken up with her ex. "That s why we had chemistry and why we are together" my manchild told me. 😂😂😂😂 yeap i think i need something a lil more profound my little, i dodged a bullet.
Oh actually that's technically not branching, he just switched me to literally the first person he met and who would take him
U sure did u dodged a bullet
Yup ex monkey branched in ‘secret’ but I quickly figured it out plus there was weekly discards and STI’s 🙈 he denied it than once admitted “what if I have” and she (21 years his junior 🤷♀️) was very passive aggressive on her social media - he no doubt painted me black to her than triangulated us - I’m a multiple bikini champion she is just planning to compete. Guess triangulation is a good way to ‘motivate’ aka control her 👁️ the thing is I studied his pathology and astrology, human design for 4 years solid now. I can read the situation and both of them and all the other players like a book now. I have connected to my gifts through this experience because I followed guidance from a higher power. I am single and in solitude. She is very insecure 🙈 because she knew he was with me. She knows me. 🤷♀️
How are we all doing here? Fresh into it, it's been two weeks. We were together for 5 years, we were each others ride or die, she was never someone who would do this, but she changed over the course of a few months. So much has happened during the course of the last few months, I don't know where I am or what to do. Lying, hiding stuff, deleting things, she was up to stuff in work/flirting and quite possibly more I just never had proof of the more. She's now finally left me for someone who she manages and works with all day that only started there a little over 2 months ago. She's been putting him on the same shift as her for a while now and flirting and building up to what's finally happened. She denied that anything happened until after we split but before we did I caught her out in the work van with him and she'd lied and said she stayed in work to do a rota and that he had a girlfriend and it was harmless (I now know he split with his girlfriend two days before this so my partner clearly knew). We were trying for a baby for about 6 months of last year into this one, talking about her like she was already born for over a year. We were going to name her maddison/maddie, and she's left me for a man who has also left his partner for mine who has 2 young girls, one called maddison... We were intimate with oral the morning of the night I caught her out in the van with him, then within 3 days we had split and she was already sleeping with him. There is so much more to my story, but not enough time, headspace or words to write it all. I'm hurting, really, deeply hurting.... Please help
It is just like a complete gut punch to get humiliated and dumped and flung back into the dating market with trust issues. That is evil.
18 years feels terrible !!!!!
Mine monkey branched from me shy of 4 months ago. Was with her for almost 6 years.
My ex started a relationship 4 months after we divorced. We were married for 23 years. She dated him for two years and started "talking" to a guy she graduated high school with. Dumped her rebound and started seeing the next guy. He asked her to marry him after four months, but she declined. But they are already talking buying a house together. She is 53 and he has an 11 year old daughter. Our boys are 25, 22 and 20. No idea why she would want to help raise someone else's child.
You know way too much info about her life
is monkeybranch simply said a "before happened rebound"?
You can definitely be mad at someone for dling that, come on coach. That is a person with absolutely no integrity. I would never do that to anyone.
Monkey branching is wrong, no excusing it, saying people gonna do what they gonna do isn’t correct. Stringing someone along and leading them on, keeping up appearances just enough and denying any deceit, is wrong. It is a form of abuse, it usually involves gaslighting, lying, deception and breaking trust. Could we say I’m gonna abuse my partner, and it is what it is, people gonna do what they gonna do? Naw I don’t think so. Monkey branching leaves the partner behind in anxiety, confusion, with cognitive dissonance and emotionally and psychological trauma, wondering what was real and what was a delusion. It is reprehensible behavior and we should not condone it, it should be admonished and shamed.
@@Freudster21 and then? After we admonish and shame it?
@@IamCoachCourt Then the person moves on and heals the same as they would best they can, watches content like yours, but society views the person who did it as they are, as a person with no integrity. This provides a reputational risk to act in this manner. Ostracism for stuff like this used to be part of society in the west and is a strong deterrent as well as implements the social consequences for actions taken that hurt other people (emotional damage is much harder to see), and that are deceitful. This is no longer the case, and we see these behaviors on the rise, and no one really cares. Monkey branching exploits the partner, using them for emotional connection that is slowly detached while they attach with the new partner, hedging their risk of being alone and not having that much needed validation they need since they are emotionally immature and insecure usually. Meanwhile the naive partner is investing time, energy and effort into the relationship none the wiser. They also, as you mention, lack empathy and compassion. They are a stranger once they jump, and it is usually in the form of a blindsiding discard once they feel the new branch is safe. If they aren’t feeling the relationship anymore, either communicate something and see if can be rectified or end it. Regarding the coach you mentioned who says everyone should monkey branch (I know you didn’t say this, but I want to address it), well if that is the prescription, then the thought experiment to see if that makes sense would be that both partners enter committed relationships with that mindset and they can discuss it up front, “Hey just so we are on same page, at some point if I feel like it, I may start entertaining other men/women and I won’t tell you, I’ll actually conceal it, and if I get into limerence with them, I’m going to discard you one day and go with them. I may seem distant sometimes towards the end, but when you ask I’ll say work is just really hectic lately and reassure you all is well. It will probably hurt a lot. I may also expose you to potential STD’s at this point in time since we may be hooking up, and then I’ll hook up with you before the discard.” I believe that is unhealthy, and I’ll add that I think women tend to monkey branch more than men, simply due to the nature of the game with men being the pursuers generally initially, and then women select. They have way more available options at any given time making it much easier to branch. If both partners enter a hetero relationship this way, then the equivalent for the man would mean he will be pursuing women the whole time, collecting contact info from women who have interest to level the playing field for when he may deem necessary to start emotionally cheating, flirting and possibly ultimately physically cheating, due to the imbalance in the dating market where men have way less immediate available options than a woman. I just think it’s wrong, I understand it’s going to happen, but it hurts people badly.
As a coach, please stop advising people to not take it personally when we have been mistreated. All, and I mean EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU RUclipsR RELATIONSHIP COACHES say that same thing. Talk about pouring salt, nah, allow me to rephrase that statement. Talk about shoving a couple of salt licks that have been soaked in alcohol into a wound 🙄😭...My goodness it most definitely IS personal. I'm taking it personally at some point because if I don't, I'm going to fall apart or worse into some sort of deep depression. Taking it personally is standing up FOR myself TO myself. How else would you expect a person to move on from being stuck in emotional neutrality?
This your first video? I talk VERY OFTEN about not discrediting your experience. And it’s about THEM, not you
All of this was so true. I never heard it put this way. Wow.
Is it monkey branching if she leaves you for a bum? As well as him being in rehab.
Still is
@Coach Court it makes no sense. Thanks for replying, coach
Monkey branching is cheating… no it’s ands or buts
I Take Time to Heal
I wish i saw this video 15 years ago...
Form is temporary Class is permanent 👍
Narcissistic relationship
3 years together. He Told me Wednesday on a text I told you I loved you on this day. Saturday he said we should split up. Found out on fb he was married 10 weeks later. Freaking pain I’ve not felt before. I am better off but I know I will need counseling and a lot of time to be vulnerable enough to get into another relationship.
Thanks Court 👍
You got it brother!
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You should be a pastor coach😊
thanks for watching!
Girls that money branch in their late 30's and find an older guy will most likely be happy with him. She will marry him and wont think twice about you. They are ready to move fast...especially if they gave you an ultimatum and you didnt marry them fast enough. Just let it be. Women really dont need to heal if they money branch. New guy will put the love hearts over their eyes and he will heal her. That's the truth
That’s such an interesting perspective. Thanks for commenting bro
Can’t move from body too body and feel love each time the human body doesn’t work like that.it’s all short lived in the end
You are wrong bro I seen the opposite of this comment.
How do you heal after this?
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@@IamCoachCourt I’m interested I need help and recovery from this
Yes you right
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We all have back up careers, back up transportantion, back up jobs, back up baby sitters, back up dinner plans, back up computer storage, its seems to me its only in relationships that "having a back up relationship and emotional support" is considered wrong, i think the idea of "owning" your partner is "crazy", i think everybody should monkey branch and this ethical b*ll crap would be pointless!!!!
I’ve never said that you own your partner. It’s not “unethical”, but mentally unhealthy and damaging to other people
Sounds like ur a narcassist or a avodajt seek help and go to therapy
Wrong! The definition of relationship its a commitment. Between 2 people.
Talking to someone else with the intent of fucking them is way off key. You can’t compare it to computer storage hahaha wtf
Sounds like you need to do some work on yourself.