I'm curious though...I see and know of many couples who have broken up and gotten back together again. I have hope but I also want to be realistic. My ex and I were together almost two years. She broke up with me three months ago and still won't stop contacting me, checking in on me, wanting to talk on the phone, coming by every once in a while to see me. She watches all of my social media stories, etc. For the most part we had a wonderful relationship and lived together almost the entire relationship. This is not a "normal" breakup, lol. So where does a person go from here?
I should clarify...there is a rebound in the picture for her. They don't seem to be serious but they are at least dating. He's my complete opposite and is less attractive, not someone she'd ever normally go for. Pretty sure he doesn't know we still talk.
@@johnnybaker3821 I know your exact pain! My ex and I were together for 2 yrs and we broke up a yr ago and she rebounded 1 month after our relationship. This seemed like a real low hanging fruit situation. And her and I hung out a few times in april and may. We had sex that time while she was in a rebound. She wouldnt leave her rebound, then cyberstalked me for a few months. And when I called her out she blew up on me. Then last month we facetimed for a few hrs and she told me she kept the matching Disney hats I gave back to her. She is still in a rebound and I dont know what will happen
@@IamCoachCourt if it takes an ex awhile to learn from these mistakes to truly grow, is it ever worth it to take them back? Do we allow them to make mistakes or just look ahead?
She left because I had a drinking problem. I went to rehab and have totally changed my life. Lost weight, keep healthy life style, take full time care of our daughtes etc... I feel she would of come back if she wasn't in rebound. My daughters and I want our family together. She went to a guy that has been waiting desperately for years. I hope she snaps out of it and sees what she lost!
the fun part is... they only desire to come back when you don't want them anymore. when they stop feeling that pressure/ obligation/ guilt. weird how that works
My DA ex keeps coming back, maybe she started playing the field and realized that I was the best she could've gotten. Although I empathize with her and don't cut off ties with people who need help. I cant help but feel glad life is railing her ass lol
Unpopular opinion from a suspected "rebound" and secure attacher.... the "rebound" is also a human being with real feelings. I have noticed from multiple coaches they have a tendency to want to villify the rebound and call them "low hanging fruit", when there really could be more nuance on a human level. I might be speaking from a minority perspective, but just because you are the next person, it doesnt inherently mean you are worse. Especially if you have done the healing work and are in fact a healthy partner, that most coaches teach their insecure clients to emulate. But thats just one person's observations of the dating coach community.
When people say low hanging fruit, I don't think they mean to de-mean or villify the rebound on a human level. I think it just mean what's convenient for the ex, without having worked on their problems and shortcomings, they just go and grab the easily available option instead of healing and giving it time and without a thought whether it will go on in the long run or not... The literal meaning is - ''the most easily achieved of a set of tasks, measures, goals, etc.''
My exs rebounded and the girl he was with he was hers… she dogged him out and months later she got dogged by another dude…some folks are just serial daters
I understand what you are saying. But in my case, this rebound literally made a move on a girl who got out of a 2 yr relationship. He truly seemed like an orbiter, planting seeds of doubt and confusion in her mind imo. He preyed on an emotional vulnerable girl imo
@Ship *if* being the key word, and doing a lot of heavy lifting in this scenario. That, fortunately, was not what i was referring to. Specifically referencing a completely new, healthy partner. We can't necessarily help when we meet people on our own individual journeys.
Man comes back easier!! My ex came back once and now that’s it he did it again! And I broke up with him ! He is living his best life already have someone! Actually before i kick his ass ! #?trash
Who comes back? it depends on life... depends on how long you were with the person and how much you went through, but also depends on the context of the seperation. my x wife came back twice and my xgirfriend came back once, in my current seperation... who knows... she is in a rebound.... who cares... i dont use social media or cell phones... work with her but no contact and ignoring... since she is a da i do dissmiss and avoid... blocked her email.... i too was a rebound for 3 years from her 10 year marriege. its funny thinking and combing the recent past.... she is a da and a major texter on their damn phones.... haha will she try to reach out? i tried to burn bridges... so not holding my breath. now i am detouxing for months from our energy we shared.
my question is what’s the difference between a rebound relationship and then just dating with no title? If they dating one person with no title are they still not able to work on themselves and make it last to become exclusive?
my ex is a FA. so how does this play out if i acted really bad post break up? her trust towards me has totally broken. she hates me and writes hateful things about me online, and im blocked everywhere. clarity please??
I was looking at Instagram recently I noticed women posting thier Xmas gifts from their man,dinner,date in a flashy car,flowers,jewelry,Gucci bags,clothes,chocolates,petals on bed...seen something similar of a freind in her WhatsApp status...I also heard a similar thing from Andrew tate about giving the woman that high life but I ask myself when you die does that really matter?Is it memorable ?is it important ? meaningful and I asked myself another question are those the kind of women I want in my life who value such things? but Gottman on the other hand talks of some people having gift giving as the primary love language please do a video on that I would like to hear your comments on that
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I'm curious though...I see and know of many couples who have broken up and gotten back together again. I have hope but I also want to be realistic. My ex and I were together almost two years. She broke up with me three months ago and still won't stop contacting me, checking in on me, wanting to talk on the phone, coming by every once in a while to see me. She watches all of my social media stories, etc. For the most part we had a wonderful relationship and lived together almost the entire relationship. This is not a "normal" breakup, lol. So where does a person go from here?
I should clarify...there is a rebound in the picture for her. They don't seem to be serious but they are at least dating. He's my complete opposite and is less attractive, not someone she'd ever normally go for. Pretty sure he doesn't know we still talk.
@@johnnybaker3821 I know your exact pain! My ex and I were together for 2 yrs and we broke up a yr ago and she rebounded 1 month after our relationship. This seemed like a real low hanging fruit situation. And her and I hung out a few times in april and may. We had sex that time while she was in a rebound. She wouldnt leave her rebound, then cyberstalked me for a few months. And when I called her out she blew up on me. Then last month we facetimed for a few hrs and she told me she kept the matching Disney hats I gave back to her. She is still in a rebound and I dont know what will happen
Hang on brother, she is gonna come back, chase you, plead beg..... U should go for no contact and give her the taste of breakup
From research and what I’ve seen, the Rebound usually last 3 months to 2 years before it turns unhealthy.
@@IamCoachCourt if it takes an ex awhile to learn from these mistakes to truly grow, is it ever worth it to take them back? Do we allow them to make mistakes or just look ahead?
After being broken up for a year, my ex and I have reconnected and are back together thanks to your and other RUclips coaches. Thank you so much
Update? Still together?
I love this song...I love your podcast Coach C
Thank you so much
She left because I had a drinking problem. I went to rehab and have totally changed my life. Lost weight, keep healthy life style, take full time care of our daughtes etc... I feel she would of come back if she wasn't in rebound. My daughters and I want our family together. She went to a guy that has been waiting desperately for years. I hope she snaps out of it and sees what she lost!
the fun part is... they only desire to come back when you don't want them anymore. when they stop feeling that pressure/ obligation/ guilt. weird how that works
My DA ex keeps coming back, maybe she started playing the field and realized that I was the best she could've gotten. Although I empathize with her and don't cut off ties with people who need help. I cant help but feel glad life is railing her ass lol
Unpopular opinion from a suspected "rebound" and secure attacher.... the "rebound" is also a human being with real feelings. I have noticed from multiple coaches they have a tendency to want to villify the rebound and call them "low hanging fruit", when there really could be more nuance on a human level.
I might be speaking from a minority perspective, but just because you are the next person, it doesnt inherently mean you are worse. Especially if you have done the healing work and are in fact a healthy partner, that most coaches teach their insecure clients to emulate. But thats just one person's observations of the dating coach community.
I’m sorry Rhonnie, I didn’t mean to offend. I’ve been the “low hanging fruit” before too. You really believe they’re healed and then boom.
When people say low hanging fruit, I don't think they mean to de-mean or villify the rebound on a human level.
I think it just mean what's convenient for the ex, without having worked on their problems and shortcomings, they just go and grab the easily available option instead of healing and giving it time and without a thought whether it will go on in the long run or not... The literal meaning is - ''the most easily achieved of a set of tasks, measures, goals, etc.''
My exs rebounded and the girl he was with he was hers… she dogged him out and months later she got dogged by another dude…some folks are just serial daters
I understand what you are saying. But in my case, this rebound literally made a move on a girl who got out of a 2 yr relationship. He truly seemed like an orbiter, planting seeds of doubt and confusion in her mind imo. He preyed on an emotional vulnerable girl imo
@Ship *if* being the key word, and doing a lot of heavy lifting in this scenario. That, fortunately, was not what i was referring to. Specifically referencing a completely new, healthy partner. We can't necessarily help when we meet people on our own individual journeys.
Man comes back easier!! My ex came back once and now that’s it he did it again! And I broke up with him ! He is living his best life already have someone! Actually before i kick his ass ! #?trash
Sounds familiar
Who comes back? it depends on life... depends on how long you were with the person and how much you went through, but also depends on the context of the seperation. my x wife came back twice and my xgirfriend came back once, in my current seperation... who knows... she is in a rebound.... who cares... i dont use social media or cell phones... work with her but no contact and ignoring... since she is a da i do dissmiss and avoid... blocked her email.... i too was a rebound for 3 years from her 10 year marriege. its funny thinking and combing the recent past.... she is a da and a major texter on their damn phones.... haha will she try to reach out? i tried to burn bridges... so not holding my breath. now i am detouxing for months from our energy we shared.
my question is what’s the difference between a rebound relationship and then just dating with no title? If they dating one person with no title are they still not able to work on themselves and make it last to become exclusive?
my ex is a FA. so how does this play out if i acted really bad post break up? her trust towards me has totally broken. she hates me and writes hateful things about me online, and im blocked everywhere. clarity please??
What more clarity do you need after what you just described in your comment?
@@anon_ya i don’t understand what you’re saying
@Zainab Muhds what clarity do you need from her after she blocked you?
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Spring Gang - Are You Down For Love
@@IamCoachCourt love it
What’s the name of that song
I have to disagree rebound got his hand in marriage this is the second Xmas only this time my children will also be there with the both of them
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I was looking at Instagram recently I noticed women posting thier Xmas gifts from their man,dinner,date in a flashy car,flowers,jewelry,Gucci bags,clothes,chocolates,petals on bed...seen something similar of a freind in her WhatsApp status...I also heard a similar thing from Andrew tate about giving the woman that high life but I ask myself when you die does that really matter?Is it memorable ?is it important ? meaningful and I asked myself another question are those the kind of women I want in my life who value such things? but Gottman on the other hand talks of some people having gift giving as the primary love language please do a video on that I would like to hear your comments on that