Just Somebody, I completely agree. But it is also horrible when they are old enough to understand molest and still do it, especially if it is a family member who don’t know any better. It scars the victim who was molested. I would know, my cousin molested me when I was eight and till this day I feel hurt, but I agree 100% with you. Being forced to do that is wrong 👏🏼 👏🏼 round of applause there.
I was 13 when I moved out of my aunt’s place bc I was put into her care after my mom and dad died. I love them but my biggest fear is becoming them and my aunt knows it and would say words as if I’m like them. It severely took a toll on me to the point of attempting several times, I’m snuck away since then
@luke on my part I can say that I was lucky to have a household (my aunt’s) supportive of my sexuality and gender identity and that’s what made me want to stay with her even more but Things just went down south..
After I told my mother that I was raped, I remember hearing her on the phone tell her friend that because I’m a man, I should’ve defended myself and she wished that I’d never been born because of the shame I brought on our family. I was 15 at the time and I ran away from home and never went back.
I’m sorry man 😥. I know a guy who went through the same thing at that age too. It’s so hard to move on especially when nobody seems to care. Hopefully the scars can grow smaller one day
i will never understand how instead of parents comforting suicidal children/teenagers, they blame you and tell you that there is no reason to feel that way because ‘you have everything’.
Right? They OBVIOUSLY don’t have it all. For example: loving parents
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Exactly. I've just recently been dealing with my self harm and all that and when they tell you it's ridiculous or when they tell you you're being dramatic or stuff like that it hurts so bad.
Hopefully not! A cardiac arrest is something the person had no control over... it certainly didn't help, but he was so heartbroken for his kiddo that he needed to shovel the yard and that also added to the cardiac arrest. Hopefully they can find peace and connect to their father's love
This is so hard, their dad def wouldn't want them to feel responsible or guilty for his death but imagine how they must have felt back them. So heartbreaking. I wish they find closure and accept it wasn't their fault
Jennifer Frisbie the father was frantically shoveling his drive way to get to the hospital and that over exertion and panic is what ultimately caused the heart attack.
Yeah I was just telling my friend that it’s sad when you would rather deal with life problems than your family sometimes. And I’m not gonna lie, I feel that way too. But you have to keep going and at least try
That is a mindset that has been discussed in the past with cannibalism. Jeffrey Dahmer ate his victims due to that same mindset. The psyche is incredibly intriguing.
@@user-qq3vm3el3f please seek help you are important and you matter so please dont give up as cheesy as it sounds things do get better. I myself had crippling anxiety but now have learned to manage it
I don't know if the person who was forced to molest their cousins when they were 8 years old will ever read this, but I really hope they know that they are a victim too. I can only imagine the shame they feel, but your father, a grown ass man, is responsible for this, not you. You were EIGHT, and forced into doing something you did not and could not consent to. You are not the abuser, HE is. I genuinely hope you find the help and solace you need as a sexual assault victim.
I know that you don’t chose to get raped but you should remember to not accept drinks from strangers and don’t go walk alone in the dark. It’s the sad reality
i'm so sorry about that.. stay strong and don't worry .. God,your family and your friends loves you ,even i love you even if it's the most randomest thing in the world.. it's ok.. smile now🙏🏻💙 god is always with you
Same, only except I’m 19. The only relationship I was in was when I was 15. It was a long distance one with a guy one year younger than me (we never met irl and broke up within a few months). I’ve never kissed anyone romantically. I wanna stay a virgin for the right person. Getting robbed of having this choice is horrible. I can’t even imagine how devastated that person (whoever wrote that in the video) was to her have choice taken from her.
It happened to me, same age, same year of college, same plan to save myself, except the perpetrator was someone I had considered my best friend for the previous 2 years at the time, and I was not at a party, and it was 10 days before my first final exam. I had been in relationships before (including for a month with the perpetrator who broke up with me a year before the incident specifically because he knew he couldn't be in a sexless relationship, which made me trust him even more). I attempted suicide 47 times in the following 2 months, and no mental health residential facility was willing to help me after I was released from the hospital because of liability risk. I had to take a whole year off of school instead of going on my dream study abroad program that I had been admitted to and had already paid a nonrefundable fee for to find a mental health program to help me, but I didn't get the help even though I called literally every place in the country. My university also refuses to provide mental health treatment to me now because of liability, and they also refused to provide legal support to me in a court case against the perpetrator because he was another one of the students at the university, which they called a "conflict of interest". I'm 3 years attempt-free now, but they still won't help.
@@meghansmith5433 okay I'm just gonna say this on a different perspective here, saving yourself isn't gonna help you at all finding someone good you'll just be stuck instead, imo just try stuff out and you might find someone that you want to get married with or you might not but then you know more about it when you get married.
i sat at my friend's funeral and in his mothers eulogy she mentioned that although he never brought a partner home, he had told her he liked redheads. she looked at me. i had a feeling he liked me, and i liked him back. i never got to tell him.
Markita Oliver I've had friends confess to me but we maintained our friendship. You'll never know if she doesn't like you back, and sometimes it can be good to get it off your chest.
@@markitaoliver2173 The worst the person can say is no or not interested in that way, in that case then just continue being friends hopefully. Good luck.
Large Wooden Box he knew he was causing his child so much pain through his abuse that they considered taking their life and he didn’t even talk to them about it or change his behavior
@@cowabungagoblin but it could be a bad thing for the victim's beloved ones. There are other ways out to that painful path, at least for some people I met.
i thought maybe he was just contemplating and blaming himself for it..that's why he couldn't muster up the courage to confront or talk to his child. but then, i guess i'm wrong bc you would atleast stop being abusive. i hope he realizes things before it's too late.
My mom is alive, healthy, and well. But I'm crying, in freaking tears at the thought that one day, she will be gone. Mommy, I love you. I love you. Please don't leave me. Please.
This comment literally make me freaking cry because I can relate to it on so many levels. My mom is my world and I freaking think about this every single day- and I wish I didn't....
The first one got me. My father was also abusive and knew I had suicidal thoughts... but he ended up dying by suicide years later. Now I understand why he couldn’t face me, he was having the same issue.
I've also experienced being called ugly, by my uncle back then in front of our relatives, mostly because I had severe acne. The worst part is that my dad just laughed it out and my mum did nothing.
Honestly, all people are beautiful in their own way. Whatever your appearance is, it’s just part of you. That’s beautiful. People shouldn’t give a fuck about appearances, and they shouldn’t measure the beauty standards.
@Keanu Reeves His daughter was cremated. People who are cremated have their burnt ashes put into an urn so the family can keep them. The man ate some of his daughter.
@Keanu Reeves That's what I believe. A lot of people scatter their loved one's ashes in a special spot so they'll be in a happy spot forever in spirit, so he probably wanted her to be with him in that way.
To the rape victim: I understand yur situation I've been there. When you find that one person you want to be intimate with, you will consider them as losing your virginity to them. I dont let my rape define me, I lost my virginity to whom I chose to have an emotional encounter with that I gave myself to, not the man that took something from me. It gets better. Stay strong. It doesnt define you.
@@hjfklhdkf9460 he took something I can never get back, which in turn powers me daily to never give him any benefit out of my daily life. I got through it, I believe most ppl can.
Same, I'm scared to death abt men and am always aware of my surroundings. If ur in the car and someone walks up, honk the horn a lot and if someone tried to grab you, bring out the drama in ur blood. MAKE. A. SCENE! scream, kick, bite, do anything you can to get away. Also I'm 12 lol
stupjzmsja u did NOT just say that young people have no reason to be scared of men. Also, Knowing how to actually live as an adult is more important than knowing the Pythagorus theorem.
I'm also disgusted by how insensitive some people are. This woman must have been in a very bad space and needed help. I don't understand why people are laughing when this is just so sad.
Yall sick for saying thats okay thags basically cannibalism. yall really sick. jokes abt it are not good either but yall saying "oh how sad" makes it 10 times worse. Stfu
@@lesserafun it's not defending her. it's having empathy for someone who's clearly not okay and is clearly grieving and very traumatized. losing a child is probably the most painful experience a person can go through.
It’s crazy how nobody is talking about the person who was forced to abort her baby. That was a child that she was carrying, and had to end the life of because she was forced. Leave any relationship where your partner makes decisions for you that aren’t to better yourself.
Camisado - cause he’s not gonna be the one doing all the work. If he wants a baby so badly, he can carry it for 9 months and let it grow bigger inside of him. Then he can give birth to it. People should not have kids unless both of the parents are ready and can love/provide for there children unconditionally.
To people who think they're ugly cause of a selfie, selfies make everyone look ugly if they're not taken properly (believe me, i know), don't let a picture define if you're pretty or not.
Yeah it's really weird, when I think I look great and then i take a selfie and my self esteem gets destroyed instantly. I get so sad and delete everything. I finally asked people while showing my selfie, "Is this how I look in real life???!" And some of them actually said no, I look better in real life. Selfies are dangerous.
Something interesting about Selfies, when you take a picture from the front camera, the camera actually stretches out what it sees so it fits the screen. That’s why lost people look bad in Selfies!
Why is no one talking about the father that died of a cardiac arrest because of his child's suicide attempt? I don't even want to imagine the guilt and shame he or she felt. If he/she is looking at this comment, I hope you don't blame yourself too much because your father is at a better place now and I'm pretty sure he won't blame you. Stay strong and positive ❤️
Tasty Daddy her intention was not to put her father into cardiac arrest so yes that person is going to feel good but its not their fault it was not intended
@Thomas Light i feel you.. cuz when i graduated at elementary school... i realized.. that every single people are evil... but then when i at junior high school till collage student.. i doubt that... not all people are evil
@Thomas Light did it make you stronger? I kind of wish I was bullied in elementary so I could have been maybe more emotionally stronger, because crying in elementary school is normal vs middle and high school
@@yolobrug2187 That's offensive. Please keep in mind what others think about that comment. What if someone who lost their child did the same thing? Then they read your comment? Have some respect.
I’m honestly disgusted by how people are making fun of the “I ate my daughter’s ashes” one. I’m not saying I’m justifying it, but it was probably their unusual way of grieving. I’m all for dark humour but all those jokes are not okay wtf, the parent could be reading the comments right now, it’s no laughing matter.. edit: just wanna confirm that I don’t excuse this kind of behaviour, it’s totally not okay to eat someone’s ashes even if it’s a “sentimental” thing. please get help if you do so or else it could develop into something worse, even if it wasn’t out of bad intention/grief. I wish those in a similar situation the best. things get better.
I guess I am a hypocrite, I laughed at some of them but I really hope the parent doesn’t read them, this was a while ago so there’s a good chance they don’t
These stories hit me right in the heart...its sad that the girls bestfriend said that to her. My bestfriend revealed his problems to me and I supported him and even went to therapy with him when he asked me too. I stood up to his bipolar father and all. 2 years later I got the courage to tell him about my issues and he's really been there for me. I really value our relationship, now I'm just waiting for him to come back from bootcamp
Statistically speaking, men account for almost 50% of domestic abuse victims, are more likely to come suicide and are more likely to be homeless in the United States. The help out there for men is almost non existent, and when men do conventions to try to speak on these issues they are shut down by antifa and other SJW groups. We need to work towards fixing these issue in our society
Mariana Ramirez antifa means anti fascist... so when you’re saying that i’m just going to assume you are a fascist society has always taught men to hide their feelings not to cry etc this leads to men not sharing their feelings or what they’re going through embarrassment and the fear of being seen as less by society new age feminism talk about how women and men are equal and about how we should also give attention to male victims until we stop the pressure we put on men this issue won’t ever end
@@kristle4305 Antifa may mean anti-facist it doesn't mean that they are. The group spreads fascism by controlling thoughts, speech, actions etc. More importantly however is the fact that these groups don't allow productive conversations to be had. By calling people buzzwords when they are not in agreement with particular stance instantly obliterates any chance of a real conversation. Modern feminist may say that they are trying to achieve equality with men, and most are. However, in no modern feminist propaganda is that being depicted. Quite the contrary actually. Men should be allowed to express themselves in whichever nonharmful way is more conducive towards alleviating their problems, however let's not pretend its not "modern feminist" and antifa shutting down their conferences.
@Karen luvs Jesus The genre of the movie doesn't matter. If that line were portrayed by a stuck up, bratty character, then it would make sense. But this was coming from a character that the audience was supposed to sympathize with but instead, the audience ended up hating her character. That's why the trend was a thing in the first place. It's like how nobody like Vivtoria Justice's character, Tori, in Victorious. Her character was boring, unrelatable, whiny, and annoying, which is why nobody could help hating her. And she was the MAIN character; the person we should've thought we could get along with if we knew her. But, you're right in some aspects. The movie was just so funny, I guess I forgot to laugh. But go off.
wAh okay but it’s not like they’re going to say they were molested by their uncle and when the told the police the family got mad at them and beat them to a bloody pulp until they lost their feet in a comedy movie directed to teens 🌚👀
The stepmom one hurt me because I also have ADHD and ADD and when I was 12 my dad met her and was married 3 days before my birthday and I didn’t like her because one day I overheard her on the phone tell someone “ my stepson is dumber than a rock” and for years she picked on me and broke me to pieces and that stuck with me and caused me to drop out of my sophomore year and when I turned 18 my father kicked me out and I lived with my friend for 2 weeks before returning back to school to get my deploma and I am now 24 and still talk to my dad and I have told him why I flunked out and he apologized for kicking me out but I do not have any contact with his wife and now make 80,000 a year doing pipeline rehabilition. TO ALL WHO HAVE READ THIS YOU ARE STRONG AND DON’T LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHER WISE.
As sad as I am to hear what all you had to go through, I am happy and extremely motivated to know what a warrior and winner you are. Thanks for sharing your story and words of encouragement. Grats on your success and good luck for future.
As a stepmom, I'm sorry. No one should treat a child that way let alone one you're taking on. Not all stepparents are evil and I'm sorry that was/is your experience.
@@payton7965 Help comes in all shapes or seizes, so maybe If you can build up the trust again, or build up confidence. Mabe the guy with his daughter he gets another daughter, of course there are some thing you can't forget but you don't have to be weak and make the Jump♥️💪🏽
The woman who ate her daughter's ashes was like the one is strange addiction where her husband died and ate his ashes. It's like a way of grief I think. It might be weird for us but those people are grieving so much for their loss. THey need to find some relief.
when you lose someone, things like that dont matter. the person who ate their daughters ashes probably did it so that in some way she would be with them forever. they werent thinking about if it was cannibalistic. their heart was aching and theyd do that just to feel like their daughter was still there with them.
Same, but if I don’t come up with a good reason to be upset or angry or sad, she will sit me down and yell at me saying she will beat me till I tell her.
i’ve passed to a similar situation 10 months ago and i didn’t want to tell her about my suicide thoughts and panic attacks, but trust me, after i did that she helped me and lot and my mental health is way better now.
@@sophiavanderwoodsen8183 I was and still am suicidal, about half a year ago I found out my bestfriend was going through the same thing, she told her mother, who then accused her of seeking for attention, I told my mother about my bestfriend and she said the same thing, so if I were to ever tell her about my problem, I already know her answer.
2:40 that's the most amazing response ive ever heard to a rape confession. I can't understand what its like to be a victim so I may be completely wrong, but i think its so important to emphasise to a victim of any form of abuse or misfortune who feels powerfless, to specifically tell them what power they DO have.
I don't like how insensitive the comments are about the mother eating her daughter's ashes. I'm gonna assume most of y'all laughing or minimizing it is out of genuine ignorance. Theres a psychological component to this happening, and it's actually a lot more common than people think. People deal with loss and grief in different ways. The eating of the ashes is often a symbolic way of comforting people dealing with grief. Often associated with the thinking pattern of "I miss you so much, I want you to always be a part of me". Just think of how much that person is suffering from the loss, to the point where they eat their ashes. It's no different than someone not entering the room of a lost loved one, keeping clothes that smell like them and routinely sniffing them to give the comfort of their presence still existing, abandoning the area entirely because the pain of them being there hurts too much, keeping old videos, recordings, voicemails, literally dying from a broken heart. I can go on and on. Overall, I hope the mother doesn't read the comments of the insensitivity. I hope she heals the best way she can. I hope she's seeking therapy to help cope with her loss. 💗 I hope she can say her daughter's name again with tears of joy instead of sadness and pain.
I don't think people are being insensitive about it, because to be very honest, ashes are literally going to be shitted out, so basically you're shitting out your own kid. It's odd, I get it, people have their personal ways of greif but at the same time it's still odd
@@vaquitafeik5278 He didn’t. They read the secrets of strangers and the guy was the one reading the secret with the ashes. The person who did that is not even in the vid and btw I’m not a native speaker aswell
I felt that girl who got raped I too was raped like a month ago (I’m in high school) by the person I loved and trusted the most and i was also saving myself ,he knew that yet he did it anyway even when I didn’t want. He left me with scars on my body and pain physically and mentally. And it’s harder in my country to tell anyone that so I just had to live with it. Just a lot of violence and disrespect to love I have given to him and to me as a person in general. He knew that I couldn’t do anything about so why not having fun? Knowing how much women are weak in my country is just sad. Now I’m just living my life at the age of 17 with depression acting like I’m ok in front of my family and friends because I can’t do anything about it .🤷🏻♀️ (Sorry for my bad English tho)
I’m so sorry 😔 you are very strong...rape and molestation are the most evil thing🙁 it hits close to home but it will get better, he cannot take your soul keep your head up girl
I'm so sorry, that should be something you give, not something just for some evil asshole to take away. It is not your fault in any way and i hope you get help and feel better soon, just know that you will get better and people love you.
I didn’t really know where else to ask this so Does anyone else not tell people about things they’re dealing with out of fear of being “a typical depressed teen”? I rarely tell people about things I’m dealing with because I know most people are just gonna go “oh it’s just part of growing up” and they’ll think I’m exaggerating for attention.
I feel it really helps telling people after asking them if they wouldn't mind hearing me vent. Most people like to help so asking them for permission first really helps as they let me know if they have the mental space to hear that. Also, venting out helps me every time because I feel lighter.
I strongly encourage you to talk to someone, preferably a specialist. When there are signs of depression at young age its important to seek out help as quickly as possible. Nobody can decide if how big your problems are, only you. Sure, some people are not going to understand it but that doesn't matter. Seek out help friend so it doesn't get worse (: therapy can do wonders
It really sucks how depression has become a trend and its just dismissed among younger people. It just makes you feel like your feeling are invalid and not important and that you shouldnt get help because youre just exaggerating and don't need it. It just really sucks
Ye, I told someone about my suicidal thoughts. Ended up being called trying to look edgy, dark, and cool. Needles to say, he was the only one I trusted more than my family and friends. People ain't suck, they just don't know why it hurts. Now I am facing insecurities to let people in, and think bad of myself all the frickin time. Imagine talking to someone like me and they keep saying, "you shouldn't talk to me. I am a terrible person." I know how pathetic it sounds lol 😂 I am not having any suicidal thoughts lately, but memories of those conversations are still haunting me ☠️
You are amazing. I'm so sorry that happened to you. You have so much to live for and I pray that you realize that you're strong and worthy of being an amazing future mother.
I’m sorry you had to go through that. But just know I’m the future there will be a bright light that walks in and changes everything. It may be a new s/o or a baby. Just know that just because that happened doesn’t mean your power is taken away forever. You are amazing and I hope u never forget that
Exactly, they don't understand how damaging it is to lose a child. Some parents even die from heartache. I'm not a parent yet but understand how hurtful it must be for a parent who's child dies. Must sister's child died at 2 months and she was never the same again. She passed away in 2017 and was very depressed.
@@TheVitaminsC you dont know their back story. What if they were a victim of rape but keep the kids? i know very few, but a couple of people who have done that.
I felt that last one, it was my moms birthday and clumsily drop a bowl in front of me at her party. My mom gets mad at saying I was holding my phone and not paying attention to the bowl. I really wasn’t holding anything, someone else asks if I was okay. Hearing the words “are you okay?” Was shocking, because whenever I was clumsy my parents would get mad. After that I ran up to my room and started crying. Hearing someone else ask if I didn’t get hurt made me cry, my own mom got mad instead of asking if I was okay.
@@yussra9714 i hope you're ok, please seek for help, your mother, a relative, a friend or anyone else you feel comfortable and secure with and please do not think it's ok or that it's your fault, if you need any help you can count with everybody here, stay strong ❤
The man with the empathy sweatshirt (was talking about the person who was saving themselves for marriage but was raped at a party) was so poetic in his advice. It shook me
same. when he said they can never take away your willingness, your ability to open your heart- i had never thought of that before. I actually said “oh” out loud when he said that.
As someone who experiences a similar problem.. its nice of him to say this, but it doesnt resonate to me well. It sucks to be stuck in home with someone who has an attitude like this to you - its severely damaging. And I, now an adult, who was initially forced to stay at home, have found much peace by leaving that home by my own choice. Perhaps the others were worried they would give the wrong advice, and perhaps many of these people speaking out about their secrets mainly just needed a voice to hear (?) Just a thought though ☺️
Sometimes it's hard to give advice. Especially having only one sentence, you need to make assumptions to do that. So you are afraid of saying the wrong thing.
I feel so bad for the 8 year old who molested his cousin. I get that it was still wrong, but like the guy said you were an 8 year old you really couldn’t consent to anything. ): edit: don’t get me wrong I 100% feel bad for the cousin as well
I understand why he feels he's at blame, but in fact, it's not wrong from him but from the father, as the kid also is a victim. He was a child with 0 understanding of what he was doing. For kids, adults' words weight more, they see them as the voice of reason, so when an adult says it, they go along. I feel bad for the kid. He feels like a criminal, when he was manipulated into it... I really wish both he and his cousins got therapy. That's really messed up.
It makes me sad that he didn’t really know what he was doing. He was just following orders and did what any other child would do. Listen to their parents. Like your parents are supposed to show you what’s wrong from right. You’re supposed to be able to look up to your parents and ask them for guidance. It makes me sick how he probably has to carry that guilt and that weight on his shoulders, just because someone (his dad) decided to manipulate his innocence as a child.
It was wrong but it’s not his fault. He was not only underaged, but a child. Let’s be honest what is an average 8 year old gonna do in that situation when it’s their parents giving them the orders, especially if their unaware of what’s really going on. So he’s also a victim as well as the cousin. The blame is his father and it’s really sad that an adult would conduct in that with two children.
I used to model when I was younger. I would get comments from people like “wow you’re really pretty”, yet I refuse to be in pictures or take pictures of myself because I can’t stand the sight of my own face and body.
Nobody gonna talk about the one dating four guys at once for “coping”, knowing it’s wrong, NOT feeling guilty, and then nothing is said of it? There are things I’m understanding of but this is just inexcusable. She’s exploiting multiple men and their feelings for her own benefit and just using them to “cope” with something that happened years ago. This is wrong and vile and the person responsible is disgusting, no excuses
Absolutely. Being hurt is not justification to use and hurt other people. She should get help, instead of just doing 4x worse than what was done to her
2:25 "Nobody deserves to be robbed of so much" Nope, nobody does, but it sure as hell happens a lot. Shout out to all my survivors out there, we got this, we're strong and not alone. If you have been assaulted and not yet come forward please, please do so, it's hard, so hard, but please, don't give your abuser the power of you doing this alone. Sending love to everyone out there.
I told my best friend about me cutting and my issues with my parents,and after two years,as she slowly distanced herself from me, now the whole class knows about it , which made me develop trust issues...
But now u know that your bestfriend cant be trust.. Or else u can said to them that its just a joke.its okay to be vulnerable even after being betray.also they might face depression that in the future too..
My lowest point was back when I was 16. Every single day I wished and prayed to die before my next birthday. The pressure from school, self expectations and being over weight was crushing me. I had depression and anxiety, but never noticed the signs until much later. Worst part is I actually told my mom about it, and she just scolded me and told me to stop saying non sense. She didn't take me seriously at all, even tho I was close to taking my own life. Now after 4 years, I've picked myself back up and learned how to take care of myself and my mental health. I'm glad I'm still here and somehow survived those dark times.
omg that is just awful, i hope everything is alright for you now. i really feel bad for people who struggle in things like this because parents are supposed to support you and if they dont you wont trust anyone else. i just hope you found the person that could help you and that could support you. i love you so much and stay strong
@@potatoeswithmuscles Thank you so much for your sweet message. I'm doing well these days. I have friends who understand and support me, and I've become much more independent and confident. I hope all those who struggle with mental health issues will be able to find hope again and to go through it and get to a better place in their lives
My parents have been bodyshaming me since I started to overeat to cope with the emotional stress I was dealing with at 9. Just thought I would share this where no one would know who I am. So I saw a few comments in this post and I almost forgot I had made it but still I want to thank you all for taking the time out of your day to share some positivity on this post. Have a nice day💜💞
I was in a situation similar my mom used to body shame me with her boyfriend when I was 8 and I was overeating to cope with the fact that I was living in an abusive household
hate to be a realist, but use that energy and transmute it into dieting and working out, ask your parents, I’m sure they’ll agree since they live putting you down for overeating.
Everyone: genuinely heartbreaking stories That one girl: I’m leading on four innocent guys because instead of getting help with my heartbreak I’ve chosen to take it out on others
I don’t know about you but a human being damaged so thoroughly that the natural guilt we’ve evolved to feel in order to survive in a group doesn’t even manifest anymore is pretty heartbreaking, if in a different way. I’m not saying she’s right for doing this, obviously it’s awful. I’m not even saying you have to feel sympathy for her- we just CAN’T feel bad for some people, and who those people are differs case by case. But you can’t deny that when it comes down to it, any time a human falls so far that they start to knowingly and without guilt drag others down with them is heartbreaking. We didn’t evolve to hurt each other, we evolved to help each other. Only tragedy can fuck that up.
I know she’s like this is so sorrowful and sad when it next to a guy who’s dad died from a heart attack after he heard from his sons suicdal attempt and it was her fault she so wierd
Physically comparing yourself to others is not going to stop just because you don’t have mirrors. That’s a self-esteem issue which you can work on everyday. Here’s a couple quotes to help ya “Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.” -Judy Garland. And of course “Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves”. -Nathaniel Branden. I highly recommend getting one of Nathaniel Brandens book, he’s a psychotherapist that deals with mainly self-esteem issues. As much we don’t want to admit we want help, sometimes we need it even if it’s just from a book.
I get it, Most days i keep my interaction with my mirror very limited. I cant bring myself to be in pictures bc i feel like the grossest thing at the party. I'm sure self help books work for some. It didnt work for me. Good luck though
"I'm dating four guys simultaneously to cope up with my heartbreak that happened five years back. I recognized it as wrong but don't feel guilty about it" Whoa man you're just giving the same heartbreak to those four!!!
It’s hard when your too young to escape a parent, or even feel the need or want to escape. I understand the feeling and hope all of you who feel that way can escape as soon as possible. Praying for all of you.
@Christina I’m so close but I have no where to go. I just need corona to be gone then I can finally escape. I need to be able to get a new job where I’m going I have been saving up but it’s only enough for a few months. I hope you can escape soon.
Everytime I look in the mirror, thoughts of insecurities would always get me. My skin is littered with stretch marks and I gained unimaginable amount of weight to the point where I thought that I abused it. For the past week, I've been doing daily calorie count and I'm doing this for my health.
Try to stay reasonable and if you can, stay in touch with a diet professional, it's amazing that you're trying to improve yourself but it can be dangerous to overdo it
@@rontheron4807My mental health has improved for the last year and now I'm on my way to improving this aspect of my being. I'm doing it one at a time because I might catch myself slipping. Thank you for your advices. ♡♡
I can't get over the stepmother situation. The fact that the child isn't even a teenager and already feels like breaking their self away from someone they used to look up to is heartbreaking.
I find that even when people talk about grief 'openly', there are a lot of behaviors and experiences that are still left out. Grief and depression will make a human do some odd or morally grey things. An example of this is the lady who ate some of her daughters ashes - as strange as it might seem to those with a clearer conscience, it really goes to show the emotional stress she was in at the time. You never know what people are going through, and nobody is ever truly prepared to hear about grief in the brutal and transparent detail that they might be curious enough to ask about.
Hey if you're feeling sorrow, realize everyone has mistakes and time heals wounds even if they leave scars. Reach out for help because a lot more people care for you than you think. These people here show that even strangers will be empathetic to you. It's not too late to reach out for help. Sit on your decision and discuss it before making a choice. The worst part in life is regretting what you did and realizing it is too late. You are beautiful and deserve to be loved
My great aunts have started to call me "devil" recently..... It hurts just as much as it frustrated me..... she claims that its because I'm not religious enough ...but I still feel other wise. She calls my sister the same thing also.... I hope that the job that I applied to accepts me and I can save money to buy my apartment.
I’ve been told the same by my parents and church members, and I know it hurts you cuss it has hurt me in the past. But realize that you are your own individual person and you are filled with so much love and happiness. I wish you so much luck in your endeavors ❤️
When I was younger, whenever people would get closer to me, I would distance myself to the point of completely ignoring them.. I don't know if it had something to do with my childhood, but i'm glad that trait hadn't stuck up with me, since i've lost a fair share of close friends.
I feel like I subconsciously do this. I probably get scared of attachment and also I just don’t seem to have friends that stick. I’ve always had a few close friends but now I don’t really have any. I also probably suck at texting and communicating. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.
The one that hurt the most is hearing about the fathers cardiac arrest due to the suicide attempt. I’ve been suicidal for all of my life that I can remember, and my Dad is the most important person in the world to me. He’s my best friend, mentor, he means the world to me. He’s there even when it means being against the world, he’s proud of me when no one else even acknowledges me…he just sees me for me, and we don’t even need to talk to show support or love. The day my dad dies is the day I lose all hope. He’s already had two heart attacks. I’m so scared for him…I bawl my eyes out now just at the thought, I have no clue just how incredibly broken I’ll feel when it happens…
The fifth confession applies to me, though different relations. I have been single all my life, unable to form bonds with people. I do have support and trying to heal, but time is running out... I am in my mid fifties. Denial and bad coping mechanisms have kept me from excelling in a job and life. Quarantine was really hard for me. Jubilee has been a tool to help me identify my issues and feelings..... THANK YOU!! If your young, get help and don’t waste life, it is too precious. Edit: typos Stay safe, stay sane, be well
Sir David of Tor hi, I’m sorry you had to go through that. I’m glad your doing better but really if you need anything, or just a person to talk to. Just put in the comments, go to 7cups or just talk to someone. But please, be better then your struggles and use that to become a stronger person.
For asian parents a B is a fail. I got once in maths and though they knew I worked really hard but once they saw my result they forgot about all my hardwork and taunted me, threatened me for more than a month. They made me feel worthless. And after that when I started making distance with them they asked why do I have attitude in me. Life sucks, I wanna be an adult soon and wanna support myself.
Sweetheart, parents r also just human and they're also parents for the first time in their life... They probably don't know wat they're doing wrong... And being an adult u realise how harsh the world can be & how difficult it is if u don't have proper education and hence, no proper job to support urself, so they probably just want u to do better, in their mind they're probably thinking even if I have to be tough to my child it's okay, my child will do better because of it, they simply don't know any other way to help u... Their parents(ur grandparents) might have done the same, as most asian households r the same, and wen they grew older they must've realised y their parents were tough on them, so they're just following the same examples.... I used to think the same way u did wen I was younger, I used get so mad & wanted to leave my house & never look back! , But, I'm 25 now kinda grown-up & living by myself, I realised y my parents did that, they jst wanted me to do better & hence, have a good future! That's all our parents want for us ... Recently I was having a casual talk to my mom abt this & she was so surprised that it had hurt me so much at that time & she asked me y I didn't say anything?! So just have a talk with them & let them know ur troubles & tell them how they can help u.
@John Lester I know that, but her parents probably don't, that's wat I was explaining in my previous reply, my parents did the same thing, and I admit it was really hard on me, but now I also know why they did that, they didn't know any better way, that's how they were raised, so that's how they raised me as well... Most asian households r like this, it wud be better for her to either talk wit them & let them know her problems or jst let it go, kinda ignore it, she can just do her best & not care wat her parents say, that's wat I used to do, I jst ignored wat they said... I used to think my parents hated me, but that was not the case, it's their way of being worried for me .... And after all these years wen I finally talked to my mom is wen our misunderstandings changed ...
@@anupradeep3888 nope, the parents are at fault here. They harassed her. You are victim blaming. It doesn't matter if they grew up like that, they get the blame partially. OP is HURT. This is bad parenting. Search up emotionally abusive parents.
@@anupradeep3888... To add to my original argument, please consider the following: Say you are a 16 yo. GIRL Your dad just called you a slut for wearing your favorite dress. Your logic would be: Oh, but you Do need to dress well.... Followed by: Well your dad got shamed too when he was young... Do you understand? In the example, you did not dress poorly. Just like the person did not restive bad grades. But they get humiliated anyway. If that person grew up under similar conditions, he or she is Still Partially To Blame!!! I hope you understand that. Have you ever been insulted repeatedly by the people you trust and love most? Have you had multiple people criticize you for Hours due to your 'bad grades'? Yes? Then you should know how it feels. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.
I agree. I was in a bad relationship and no lie I haven't been able to be intimate since then. He'd sexually/physically Abuse me and mentally hurt me. But people are different
To the person whose friend distanced themselves after opening up about your feelings, I understand you. I had this friend (F1) that I got close to because I was her helper when she moved to our city. We used to hang out every lunch and recess. We had the same classes, we went to the same clubs. I saw her as family. But then on 2018, another friend (F2) of mine started getting really depressed. I would spend all my time trying to aid him while still carrying my own life and problems. It felt like I was driving a boat, and I had to pull a drowning person out of the water while still making sure the boat was stable. It was the longest year of my life and the most exhausting. But after months, F2 took his own life on 10/17/19. Since I was the one aiding him, I felt completely devastated and a failure. I had promised F2 that I wouldn't rest until his life was stable, and I failed to fulfill that promise. F1 knew about F2, but didn't seem to care after I told her about his passing and how horrible I felt. That's when I thought there was something off with her. Then, at the beginning of 2020, F2's fiancé (F3) became depressed as well. Even though I was disgusted with myself, I couldn't just stand aside, so I helped him as well. One day in April, he just texted us his friends messages that hinted he might do something so we panic texted him to make sure he was ok. I was so desperate not to lose him too that I was shaking and hyperventilating, and I texted F1 to help us. But she didn't. Instead, she said "he'll be fine, you're overreacting." F3 and I texted for a while as I tried to keep him online until 911 could get to his house, but F1 kept messaging me and my phone lagged, which made me panic even more. F1 tried to tell me about an argument she had with her mom, but I grew way too anxious and texted her that I was busy with an emergency, and that her usual arguments with her mom weren't as important that moment as F3's life that was at risk. F3's last message to me was "I never thought you were a failure," before he stopped texting me. For the next minutes, I was so scared I was speechless and looking blankly at my phone, waiting for a message about his wellbeing. When his cousin texted me "there was blood everywhere," I knew that he was gone. I texted F1 infuriated, knowing that had she helped us, F3 may be still alive today. I told her about F3's death and she just started arguing with me like "oMg ThIs AgAiN?" I explained to her months later about how badly my mental health was going (i would have nightmares on a nightly basis, I would hallucinate often, and I was irrationally afraid of my friends) and how that scared me. I told her that I was sorry for yelling at her, and I explained what happened with F2 AND F3 in detail and how their deaths haunted me every day. She blamed me and distanced herself ever since. I had texted her to seek help because my parents don't believe in psychology and I was afraid I might as well end myself one day, and she left me alone.
Watching this made me realize just how many secrets I've hidden from other people, because I am aware of the bias and judgment people have for the actions of others. It is so easy to judge another person for their actions and think, "wow, I can't believe they did that, I would never do something like that". I feel like it's such a common thing to lie to yourself and make yourself out as better than others because you haven't experienced the heartbreak they've experienced, or maybe you refuse to realize that you are not perfect either. The two times I have been vulnerable enough to talk about my most traumatizing secrets with someone, BOTH times those people tried to take advantage of me and the situation. I completely understand that this isn't always the case for everyone. But it's really sad when you come to realize some of the people closest to you become people you can no longer trust.. It's a very real thing. I really hope these people are okay. It takes so much courage to be real with what's happened in your life, even anonymously. Thank you for sharing.
When I was around 4-5 I was forcefully kissed and just recently opened up to my mom because I never really trusted my dad for the stuff he did to abuse my mom and about a week ago he passed away from a heart attack in his sleep and I hate myself for not telling my dad and being closer to my dad. My parents have always been worried about me since my suicidal thoughts and tendencies and I feel like I can't open up about my insecurities. So please if your reading this please appreciate the people you have before they are gone and know that people are there for you when you need help. Don't be like me and open up to people about how you feel and how much you hurt. They will help you through whatever you go through and to the people who don't struggle with these things: if you see someone your close to become withdrawn or sad or distant try to talk to them and help cheer them up. ❤
I have no one ,I can't never ever talk to my parents about anything nor do I have friends.but one day I hope it'll be fine..I hope u are fine and I wish u all the happiness this world has to offer
Parents who molest their children or force their children to molest others...there are no words for how evil that is.
Just Somebody, I completely agree. But it is also horrible when they are old enough to understand molest and still do it, especially if it is a family member who don’t know any better. It scars the victim who was molested. I would know, my cousin molested me when I was eight and till this day I feel hurt, but I agree 100% with you. Being forced to do that is wrong 👏🏼 👏🏼 round of applause there.
Yet my dad has walked free for over 14 years now. 😭
Honestly,
Its horrible I can't imagine.
That is Zalgo
They should be punished the same way
It's so alarming to know so many kids can't wait to escape a place that is supposed to be their home.
I mean that's me and most of my friends. It's pretty standard for LGBT people
luke that’s not true don’t say that.
I was 13 when I moved out of my aunt’s place bc I was put into her care after my mom and dad died. I love them but my biggest fear is becoming them and my aunt knows it and would say words as if I’m like them. It severely took a toll on me to the point of attempting several times, I’m snuck away since then
@luke on my part I can say that I was lucky to have a household (my aunt’s) supportive of my sexuality and gender identity and that’s what made me want to stay with her even more but
Things just went down south..
@CameOutOfACabinet It is true lol wytb
After I told my mother that I was raped, I remember hearing her on the phone tell her friend that because I’m a man, I should’ve defended myself and she wished that I’d never been born because of the shame I brought on our family. I was 15 at the time and I ran away from home and never went back.
I’m sorry
You happy were you at now?
mustafa hassan I guess so
I’m sorry man 😥. I know a guy who went through the same thing at that age too. It’s so hard to move on especially when nobody seems to care. Hopefully the scars can grow smaller one day
im so sorry.
i will never understand how instead of parents comforting suicidal children/teenagers, they blame you and tell you that there is no reason to feel that way because ‘you have everything’.
Right? They OBVIOUSLY don’t have it all. For example: loving parents
Exactly. I've just recently been dealing with my self harm and all that and when they tell you it's ridiculous or when they tell you you're being dramatic or stuff like that it hurts so bad.
@ im srry but I must say, sangwoo is such a daddy uwu, and also I'm so sorry, I hope u get better💞
@ well I mean.......doesn't that make him boring?
@ jkjk sjjfjfj don't bully me
Dang the person who their father died after their suicide attempt will forever feel guilt for his death
Hopefully not! A cardiac arrest is something the person had no control over... it certainly didn't help, but he was so heartbroken for his kiddo that he needed to shovel the yard and that also added to the cardiac arrest. Hopefully they can find peace and connect to their father's love
This is so hard, their dad def wouldn't want them to feel responsible or guilty for his death but imagine how they must have felt back them. So heartbreaking. I wish they find closure and accept it wasn't their fault
That happened to someone close to my family but fortunally the dad survived...
Jennifer Frisbie the father was frantically shoveling his drive way to get to the hospital and that over exertion and panic is what ultimately caused the heart attack.
@@glamam3914 I know that was what I was trying to redirect this person to
“I hope I can leave the house when i become a teenager.” That was so heartbreaking to hear🙁
Well I did that and I hope he does the same, I feel him
Worst part is you can’t even leave as a teenager. You have to endure it all.
Yeah I was just telling my friend that it’s sad when you would rather deal with life problems than your family sometimes. And I’m not gonna lie, I feel that way too. But you have to keep going and at least try
Ear Rent yeah you have to wait until you are 18, and i honestly feel for him, you shouldn't have to endure everything for 18 years of your life
@@cQ2DHPavXTqemm9Vsbgi4TV7x you can leave at 16 in most states
I feel like she ate her daughter's ashes so her daughter could in a strange way be with her forever.
Until she gets pooped out
@@dilloncrace2132 U got a chuckle outta me.
U get 1 like
That is a mindset that has been discussed in the past with cannibalism. Jeffrey Dahmer ate his victims due to that same mindset. The psyche is incredibly intriguing.
I feel evil but i cracked up when i heard tht
Dillon Crace I’m dead 😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀
Bro, they did my man dirty putting him in the thumbnail like that lol
Ikr everyones gonna think he ate his daughters ashes,even i thought he ate his daughter ashes.
Edit: How did this get so many likes-
The thumbnail design for this show is generally really bad lol
@SAMIL MAHAT lmao
Bruh 😭😭😭
@@livelaughlovecats4life nahzbzbsnsjskks
I'll never understand parents who know that their child is suicidal yet don't help them.
Even though I agree with you, it’s partially denial and fear
Like my mom years ago... I'm in a better place now though :)
like my parents rn
My mom was in denial about it because she didn’t want to believe I’m like my dad but I’m on my journey to happiness
@@user-qq3vm3el3f please seek help you are important and you matter so please dont give up as cheesy as it sounds things do get better. I myself had crippling anxiety but now have learned to manage it
I don't know if the person who was forced to molest their cousins when they were 8 years old will ever read this, but I really hope they know that they are a victim too. I can only imagine the shame they feel, but your father, a grown ass man, is responsible for this, not you. You were EIGHT, and forced into doing something you did not and could not consent to. You are not the abuser, HE is. I genuinely hope you find the help and solace you need as a sexual assault victim.
Seriously. The kid wasn't the molester. They were sexually abused by being forced to perform acts on another child. Those are vastly different things.
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@@MrsRen That's what she's saying
This. It is so common for victims to hold blame that is not theirs.
Yeah it's called cocsa
I’m 20, never been in a relationship, never been kissed. Being raped before I get to make this choice is my biggest fear.
Free sj fam!!!
Same
I know that you don’t chose to get raped but you should remember to not accept drinks from strangers and don’t go walk alone in the dark. It’s the sad reality
i'm so sorry about that.. stay strong and don't worry .. God,your family and your friends loves you ,even i love you even if it's the most randomest thing in the world.. it's ok.. smile now🙏🏻💙 god is always with you
Same, only except I’m 19.
The only relationship I was in was when I was 15. It was a long distance one with a guy one year younger than me (we never met irl and broke up within a few months). I’ve never kissed anyone romantically. I wanna stay a virgin for the right person. Getting robbed of having this choice is horrible. I can’t even imagine how devastated that person (whoever wrote that in the video) was to her have choice taken from her.
My dad sexually abused me at the age of 3, I'm now 16 and he's long gone, but I still feel like I'm the one who did the bad thing.
No, it wasn't your fault
Stay strong my friend! 💕
You didn’t and good riddance to your dad
@@RavenStars O.o
You did NOTHING wrong. remember that. ❤
Same except it was my stepdad who still lives with my mom and I
"To experience a violent kind of shattering of your own personal boundaries is probably one of the most heartbreaking things that can happen."
What he said after about giving yourself to someone was so beautiful
I was assaulted when I was 14 and was also planning to save myself for marriage, that part hit different.
@@meghansmith5433 you are loved, you are seen, and no one can steal that from you. Ever.
It happened to me, same age, same year of college, same plan to save myself, except the perpetrator was someone I had considered my best friend for the previous 2 years at the time, and I was not at a party, and it was 10 days before my first final exam. I had been in relationships before (including for a month with the perpetrator who broke up with me a year before the incident specifically because he knew he couldn't be in a sexless relationship, which made me trust him even more). I attempted suicide 47 times in the following 2 months, and no mental health residential facility was willing to help me after I was released from the hospital because of liability risk. I had to take a whole year off of school instead of going on my dream study abroad program that I had been admitted to and had already paid a nonrefundable fee for to find a mental health program to help me, but I didn't get the help even though I called literally every place in the country. My university also refuses to provide mental health treatment to me now because of liability, and they also refused to provide legal support to me in a court case against the perpetrator because he was another one of the students at the university, which they called a "conflict of interest". I'm 3 years attempt-free now, but they still won't help.
@@meghansmith5433 okay I'm just gonna say this on a different perspective here, saving yourself isn't gonna help you at all finding someone good you'll just be stuck instead, imo just try stuff out and you might find someone that you want to get married with or you might not but then you know more about it when you get married.
i sat at my friend's funeral and in his mothers eulogy she mentioned that although he never brought a partner home, he had told her he liked redheads. she looked at me. i had a feeling he liked me, and i liked him back. i never got to tell him.
This scares me, I’ve been in love w one of my friends for 5 years and I’m afraid to tell her :( I’m so sorry 4 ur loss
Markita Oliver I've had friends confess to me but we maintained our friendship. You'll never know if she doesn't like you back, and sometimes it can be good to get it off your chest.
i’m so sorry for your loss. you have my condolences.
Cycling Urchin ty for the kind words of encouragement!! I’ve been trying to build up courage, hopefully soon !
@@markitaoliver2173 The worst the person can say is no or not interested in that way, in that case then just continue being friends hopefully. Good luck.
That first one where he saw the suicide note and did nothing was heartbreaking. That man doesn't deserve to have any children
Suicide isn't a bad thing, countless people can't live with themselves and find it better to not exist than go through the endless pain
Large Wooden Box he knew he was causing his child so much pain through his abuse that they considered taking their life and he didn’t even talk to them about it or change his behavior
@@cowabungagoblin but it could be a bad thing for the victim's beloved ones. There are other ways out to that painful path, at least for some people I met.
i thought maybe he was just contemplating and blaming himself for it..that's why he couldn't muster up the courage to confront or talk to his child. but then, i guess i'm wrong bc you would atleast stop being abusive. i hope he realizes things before it's too late.
@@cowabungagoblin what a "human" thing to say, some people have no idea human being is sacred
My mom is alive, healthy, and well. But I'm crying, in freaking tears at the thought that one day, she will be gone. Mommy, I love you. I love you. Please don't leave me. Please.
Same here...
This comment literally make me freaking cry because I can relate to it on so many levels. My mom is my world and I freaking think about this every single day- and I wish I didn't....
@@opheliarathmore7829 Thank you! This really made me feel a lot better! Thank you so much for the advise. ^.^
@@enchanteddoe6920 anytime! it's nice to talk to strangers sometimes cus you can say anything to them without feeling judged
Yeah same I’m afraid I’m gonna lose my parents like seriously
Sucks for the guy in the thumbnail now everyone thinks he ate his daughters ashes
I also thought the same thing
Lmao
I needed this to laugh, thanks..
so true omg😭
2020 cinnamon challenge
I love when some of them actually give a real response to what they're reading.
Its refreshing
that’s my favorite thing
monika rathod the guy who have the response about the person who got raped at a party !!
Yeah it's lovely, although I could definitely understand how it is hard sometime to give a good response
Exactly, I said the same thing!
The first one got me. My father was also abusive and knew I had suicidal thoughts... but he ended up dying by suicide years later. Now I understand why he couldn’t face me, he was having the same issue.
oh so you ate his ashes?
@@cowabungagoblin ok thats just uncalled for
@@cowabungagoblin what the hell is wrong with you?
Shaily Awasthi Yes thank you 💕✌🏼
@Miguel Hernandez and also i made a comment, i didnt reply in the thread and i wasnt begging for pity, you might have the wrong person then 😂😂
I've also experienced being called ugly, by my uncle back then in front of our relatives, mostly because I had severe acne. The worst part is that my dad just laughed it out and my mum did nothing.
I hope you know that you are NOT ugly. Your perfect and unique in your own way 💛
As a parent who dealt with a terrible parent, let it teach you how to be an amazing and compassionate parent in the future.
Honestly, all people are beautiful in their own way. Whatever your appearance is, it’s just part of you. That’s beautiful. People shouldn’t give a fuck about appearances, and they shouldn’t measure the beauty standards.
Bro... Im sure your an amazing personality. You are ugly. Dont let judge. Your special.
Thank you guys so much for those kind words. It really means a lot to me.
*casually scrolling*
_thumbnail: i ate my daughter’s ashes_
bruh moment
You haven’t lol
@Keanu Reeves His daughter was cremated. People who are cremated have their burnt ashes put into an urn so the family can keep them. The man ate some of his daughter.
@Keanu Reeves That's what I believe. A lot of people scatter their loved one's ashes in a special spot so they'll be in a happy spot forever in spirit, so he probably wanted her to be with him in that way.
IK LMFAODJSKF
Whoa, that person who ate their daughter's ashes.
It's like the woman who eats their husband's ashes on my strange addictions.
@@cabbagelord9378 that was so weird to watch
Cabbage Lord yep
Some people do that so that they can have thier child inside them again.
@@emma_halvo don't they know that they will end up in toilets !
To the rape victim: I understand yur situation I've been there. When you find that one person you want to be intimate with, you will consider them as losing your virginity to them. I dont let my rape define me, I lost my virginity to whom I chose to have an emotional encounter with that I gave myself to, not the man that took something from me. It gets better. Stay strong. It doesnt define you.
👏
Yes!! You're so strong!! Power to you sis!!
@@katina2.099 Thank you. Overcoming such a horrible experience makes everyone stronger. ❤
How are you that strong?.. If I ever got raped?.. I'd think about suicide.
@@hjfklhdkf9460 he took something I can never get back, which in turn powers me daily to never give him any benefit out of my daily life. I got through it, I believe most ppl can.
I’m only 13 and I’ve been taught more about how to be safe from being raped and kidnapped then about math
That's good. Meant young people like you can be vulnerable to things like this, and I'm glad you were able to be informed on these topics! Stay safe ❤
Same, I'm scared to death abt men and am always aware of my surroundings. If ur in the car and someone walks up, honk the horn a lot and if someone tried to grab you, bring out the drama in ur blood. MAKE. A. SCENE! scream, kick, bite, do anything you can to get away. Also I'm 12 lol
stupjzmsja u did NOT just say that young people have no reason to be scared of men. Also, Knowing how to actually live as an adult is more important than knowing the Pythagorus theorem.
@stupjzmsja she is not weird, what are you talking about?
@stupjzmsja how??
ate their own child’s ashes... that’s so sad she must have been hurting so bad for her to want her daughter that close to her
I'm also disgusted by how insensitive some people are. This woman must have been in a very bad space and needed help. I don't understand why people are laughing when this is just so sad.
Yall sick for saying thats okay thags basically cannibalism. yall really sick. jokes abt it are not good either but yall saying "oh how sad" makes it 10 times worse. Stfu
@@lesserafun they were ashes it’s not cannibalism. Doesn’t change the fact that it is very abnormal to do that and that woman should seek help
@@maiaia7897 thats what im saying but ppl are defending her and thats gross
@@lesserafun it's not defending her. it's having empathy for someone who's clearly not okay and is clearly grieving and very traumatized. losing a child is probably the most painful experience a person can go through.
It’s crazy how nobody is talking about the person who was forced to abort her baby. That was a child that she was carrying, and had to end the life of because she was forced. Leave any relationship where your partner makes decisions for you that aren’t to better yourself.
Periodt
Ok
It's far more common for men to wait the child, for the woman to abort it, and for him to never have had any say.
Camisado - cause he’s not gonna be the one doing all the work. If he wants a baby so badly, he can carry it for 9 months and let it grow bigger inside of him. Then he can give birth to it. People should not have kids unless both of the parents are ready and can love/provide for there children unconditionally.
Camisado yeah but it doesn’t make it right for a man to force abortion on a women who wants the baby
To people who think they're ugly cause of a selfie, selfies make everyone look ugly if they're not taken properly (believe me, i know), don't let a picture define if you're pretty or not.
oh damn that's powerful
Yeah it's really weird, when I think I look great and then i take a selfie and my self esteem gets destroyed instantly. I get so sad and delete everything. I finally asked people while showing my selfie, "Is this how I look in real life???!" And some of them actually said no, I look better in real life. Selfies are dangerous.
Michelle I look good in mirrors but terrible in selfies but then I ask do I look like that in real life and they say yes. I died inside alittle 💀
@@bunnygutz7884 f
Something interesting about Selfies, when you take a picture from the front camera, the camera actually stretches out what it sees so it fits the screen. That’s why lost people look bad in Selfies!
Alternate title: "How to give some random strangers depression."
"How to give some random strangers depression whit stories off people whit depression"
you don't just "get depression" from listening to a somber video
@@Suedepants100 You really shouldn't take my comment seriously. It was a joke.
@@Suedepants100 but ofc its can trigger someone depression
@@mwh616 well actually yes those stories reminded me of some tensions and now I don't know should I sleep or not...
Why is no one talking about the father that died of a cardiac arrest because of his child's suicide attempt?
I don't even want to imagine the guilt and shame he or she felt. If he/she is looking at this comment, I hope you don't blame yourself too much because your father is at a better place now and I'm pretty sure he won't blame you. Stay strong and positive ❤️
I know righttttt. Even I felt sad for that personnn
why would they not blame themselves if it is their fault
Tasty Daddy her intention was not to put her father into cardiac arrest so yes that person is going to feel good but its not their fault it was not intended
Tasty Daddy it wasn’t her fault
sis explain how
jubilee stay getting folks in they feels
Yeah I’ve been out of cheese for 2 weeks now
I feel the same
I absolutely love it
Always no matter what they post
I lost brain cells reading your comment that didn’t make any sense
That WhatsApp group hurt me, can't imagine my best mate stabbing me in the back.
Damn 1.8k!
It happened to me. Eventually I learned that I'm better off without them. It still kind of bothers me sometimes but I'm working on improving myself
If you have friends like that, it’s better having new friends that actually care about you.
When I was younger my whole class of 30 people turned against me including my best friends and twin sister.
If i had a choice between my bestf and 5 people, easy choice my bestf
I had a suicide attempt a year ago, all my friends and classmates started hating me, when i came back from the hospital i had no one
That person that said they are a molester, they were a victim themselves.
People who suffer from Bulliying or etc bad condition... i just wanna say... i love you guys.. you're strong ...
@Thomas Light i feel you.. cuz when i graduated at elementary school... i realized.. that every single people are evil... but then when i at junior high school till collage student.. i doubt that... not all people are evil
@Thomas Light did it make you stronger? I kind of wish I was bullied in elementary so I could have been maybe more emotionally stronger, because crying in elementary school is normal vs middle and high school
They should be a special school who kids get bullied
Thank you
Thank you you don't even know me and I don't know you but thank you
POV: You HAD to click on the video because you sat there staring at the thumbnail for a good 10 seconds.
Yess
Kay leave.
Nayy mann i pressed on it as soon as possible cuz it was a killing stalking reference
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Its sad how you can see people get visibly sadder while reading this.
Lol I ate my family's ashes, taste good if you add some hot souce
@@yolobrug2187 O.o
Don't worry, they didn't die peacefully
@@yolobrug2187 That's offensive.
Please keep in mind what others think about that comment.
What if someone who lost their child did the same thing? Then they read your comment?
Have some respect.
@@yolobrug2187 R/cursedcomments
I’m honestly disgusted by how people are making fun of the “I ate my daughter’s ashes” one. I’m not saying I’m justifying it, but it was probably their unusual way of grieving. I’m all for dark humour but all those jokes are not okay wtf, the parent could be reading the comments right now, it’s no laughing matter..
edit: just wanna confirm that I don’t excuse this kind of behaviour, it’s totally not okay to eat someone’s ashes even if it’s a “sentimental” thing. please get help if you do so or else it could develop into something worse, even if it wasn’t out of bad intention/grief. I wish those in a similar situation the best. things get better.
That’s disrespectful af. I don’t want my wife eating my dead smoked grilled human steak dish.
@@drillcreepz7067 LMAOO ISTG i dont care if you're cope by eating ashes, its never okay. Thats literally disgusting
exactly ashes are delicious don't know why everyone gotta hate smh
I guess I am a hypocrite, I laughed at some of them but I really hope the parent doesn’t read them, this was a while ago so there’s a good chance they don’t
@@EvelynOnline9205 i- - ASHES ASHES GURL-😭😭😭😭 no Judge tho 😙😙
These stories hit me right in the heart...its sad that the girls bestfriend said that to her. My bestfriend revealed his problems to me and I supported him and even went to therapy with him when he asked me too. I stood up to his bipolar father and all. 2 years later I got the courage to tell him about my issues and he's really been there for me. I really value our relationship, now I'm just waiting for him to come back from bootcamp
I’m trying to figure out when the fuck I asked
@@RealRad10 no one cares about how you feel so it doesn't matter whether you asked or not
Rocky Rider 🤣😂
@@RealRad10 well, looks like you cared enough to give a reply ;)
Signor Marcello lol that makes sense....
I know this is hella annoying but I get pissed when guy rape isnt taken serious as much as female rape
That’s valid , definitely agree it should be taken just as seriously
Statistically speaking, men account for almost 50% of domestic abuse victims, are more likely to come suicide and are more likely to be homeless in the United States. The help out there for men is almost non existent, and when men do conventions to try to speak on these issues they are shut down by antifa and other SJW groups. We need to work towards fixing these issue in our society
Frr
Mariana Ramirez antifa means anti fascist... so when you’re saying that i’m just going to assume you are a fascist society has always taught men to hide their feelings not to cry etc this leads to men not sharing their feelings or what they’re going through embarrassment and the fear of being seen as less by society new age feminism talk about how women and men are equal and about how we should also give attention to male victims until we stop the pressure we put on men this issue won’t ever end
@@kristle4305 Antifa may mean anti-facist it doesn't mean that they are. The group spreads fascism by controlling thoughts, speech, actions etc. More importantly however is the fact that these groups don't allow productive conversations to be had. By calling people buzzwords when they are not in agreement with particular stance instantly obliterates any chance of a real conversation. Modern feminist may say that they are trying to achieve equality with men, and most are. However, in no modern feminist propaganda is that being depicted. Quite the contrary actually. Men should be allowed to express themselves in whichever nonharmful way is more conducive towards alleviating their problems, however let's not pretend its not "modern feminist" and antifa shutting down their conferences.
And this is why movie lines like "I'm a girl who wears men's size 13 nikes, beat that" shouldn't be a thing. 🤣🤣 lol
Edit: (Is this better? 👀)
Can you explain this?
Big Boy because those are not serious problems and they don’t compare to other people’s real problems
That’s obviously a more lighthearted comedy movie, what do you want them to say
@Karen luvs Jesus The genre of the movie doesn't matter. If that line were portrayed by a stuck up, bratty character, then it would make sense. But this was coming from a character that the audience was supposed to sympathize with but instead, the audience ended up hating her character. That's why the trend was a thing in the first place. It's like how nobody like Vivtoria Justice's character, Tori, in Victorious. Her character was boring, unrelatable, whiny, and annoying, which is why nobody could help hating her. And she was the MAIN character; the person we should've thought we could get along with if we knew her. But, you're right in some aspects. The movie was just so funny, I guess I forgot to laugh. But go off.
wAh okay but it’s not like they’re going to say they were molested by their uncle and when the told the police the family got mad at them and beat them to a bloody pulp until they lost their feet in a comedy movie directed to teens 🌚👀
To the people who have been called ugly..
“No one is born ugly, we're just born in a judgemental society.”
― Kim Namjoon
💜💜
😭💜💜💜💜💜
Everyone is born ugly, have you seen babies?
hi army.... thanks joonie for that great sentence.
I was born naked
"I realised I am a molester" No, they're really not. They didn't want that to happen and the dad is the molester for forcing that to happen
Due to the first one, I thought this video was going to be a joke..😬
4 days ago
Your not alone
Kovu!!!
Yeah... totally! XD
Same but I feel bad now
Why can't people genuinely be as kind and less judgmental in real life as these good humans in this video ?
Aya?
Cause they aren't real people. Holograms.
@@0mayma04 Yes?
@@scummybabyelephant6094 Lol 😹
Because these are the people who actually care about other, unlike most of us humans who really don't care that much about the rest of the people
The stepmom one hurt me because I also have ADHD and ADD and when I was 12 my dad met her and was married 3 days before my birthday and I didn’t like her because one day I overheard her on the phone tell someone “ my stepson is dumber than a rock” and for years she picked on me and broke me to pieces and that stuck with me and caused me to drop out of my sophomore year and when I turned 18 my father kicked me out and I lived with my friend for 2 weeks before returning back to school to get my deploma and I am now 24 and still talk to my dad and I have told him why I flunked out and he apologized for kicking me out but I do not have any contact with his wife and now make 80,000 a year doing pipeline rehabilition. TO ALL WHO HAVE READ THIS YOU ARE STRONG AND DON’T LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHER WISE.
You are amazing. i’m so proud of you. thank you for sharing 💗
As sad as I am to hear what all you had to go through, I am happy and extremely motivated to know what a warrior and winner you are. Thanks for sharing your story and words of encouragement. Grats on your success and good luck for future.
You had an amazing friend that helped you get your life back in order please keep that person
ALL THE HUGS
As a stepmom, I'm sorry. No one should treat a child that way let alone one you're taking on. Not all stepparents are evil and I'm sorry that was/is your experience.
Omg this is so horrible, i hope those people can seek help 😥
Some times people can’t get help, and there stuck in this loop forever until they take the jump. If you know what I mean
@@payton7965 Help comes in all shapes or seizes, so maybe If you can build up the trust again, or build up confidence. Mabe the guy with his daughter he gets another daughter, of course there are some thing you can't forget but you don't have to be weak and make the Jump♥️💪🏽
Payton yeah don’t talk about suicide so casually
The only thing the daughter snorter should see is his drug dealer
The woman who ate her daughter's ashes was like the one is strange addiction where her husband died and ate his ashes. It's like a way of grief I think. It might be weird for us but those people are grieving so much for their loss. THey need to find some relief.
That's literally cannibalism in a way though. That's no way to grieve. I think that's disgusting, you're supposed to spread them out not eat them.
@@annalisageiger how is it cannibalism? She ate ashes
@@othmane0313 human ashes. Its still the composition of a human. Would you say the same if their body was liquified? No, because that's fucked up.
@@jraes2587 i'd say that eating a corpse is disgusting but it isn't immoral.
when you lose someone, things like that dont matter. the person who ate their daughters ashes probably did it so that in some way she would be with them forever. they werent thinking about if it was cannibalistic. their heart was aching and theyd do that just to feel like their daughter was still there with them.
when my mom asks me what’s wrong i just say I’m tired cause i don’t have the heart to tell the lady who gave me life that i don’t want it no more.
Same, but if I don’t come up with a good reason to be upset or angry or sad, she will sit me down and yell at me saying she will beat me till I tell her.
i’ve passed to a similar situation 10 months ago and i didn’t want to tell her about my suicide thoughts and panic attacks, but trust me, after i did that she helped me and lot and my mental health is way better now.
@@sophiavanderwoodsen8183 I was and still am suicidal, about half a year ago I found out my bestfriend was going through the same thing, she told her mother, who then accused her of seeking for attention, I told my mother about my bestfriend and she said the same thing, so if I were to ever tell her about my problem, I already know her answer.
Damn that hits home
Bruh imma give u so much virtual hugs
“The only thing they can’t take away from you is your own willingness to give yourself to another person”
I cried.. I cried SO much 💔
😭😭😭
such wholesome uplifting comment by bro right there
I really like that sentence.
2:40 that's the most amazing response ive ever heard to a rape confession. I can't understand what its like to be a victim so I may be completely wrong, but i think its so important to emphasise to a victim of any form of abuse or misfortune who feels powerfless, to specifically tell them what power they DO have.
I don't like how insensitive the comments are about the mother eating her daughter's ashes. I'm gonna assume most of y'all laughing or minimizing it is out of genuine ignorance.
Theres a psychological component to this happening, and it's actually a lot more common than people think. People deal with loss and grief in different ways. The eating of the ashes is often a symbolic way of comforting people dealing with grief. Often associated with the thinking pattern of "I miss you so much, I want you to always be a part of me". Just think of how much that person is suffering from the loss, to the point where they eat their ashes.
It's no different than someone not entering the room of a lost loved one, keeping clothes that smell like them and routinely sniffing them to give the comfort of their presence still existing, abandoning the area entirely because the pain of them being there hurts too much, keeping old videos, recordings, voicemails, literally dying from a broken heart. I can go on and on.
Overall, I hope the mother doesn't read the comments of the insensitivity. I hope she heals the best way she can. I hope she's seeking therapy to help cope with her loss. 💗 I hope she can say her daughter's name again with tears of joy instead of sadness and pain.
OoOStarberryOoO this was a much needed comment
ye don’t use science or long paragraph to justify eating you dead daughters burnt remains
Samil123456789 ??? daddy chill. beyond what they’ve said, it’s also a part of many cultures-consuming the ashes of the dead. so like calm down
She gon poop her out even if she wants to be together with her
I don't think people are being insensitive about it, because to be very honest, ashes are literally going to be shitted out, so basically you're shitting out your own kid. It's odd, I get it, people have their personal ways of greif but at the same time it's still odd
Jubilee is doing so much with our feelings
Ikr this is heartbreaking
even more than Drake
Now the internet gonna think, this poor dude ate his daughters ashes
😂
He didnt? I dont understand im not native English speaker
😭😭😩😩
@@vaquitafeik5278 He didn’t. They read the secrets of strangers and the guy was the one reading the secret with the ashes. The person who did that is not even in the vid and btw I’m not a native speaker aswell
Lol
I felt that girl who got raped I too was raped like a month ago (I’m in high school) by the person I loved and trusted the most and i was also saving myself ,he knew that yet he did it anyway even when I didn’t want. He left me with scars on my body and pain physically and mentally. And it’s harder in my country to tell anyone that so I just had to live with it. Just a lot of violence and disrespect to love I have given to him and to me as a person in general. He knew that I couldn’t do anything about so why not having fun? Knowing how much women are weak in my country is just sad. Now I’m just living my life at the age of 17 with depression acting like I’m ok in front of my family and friends because I can’t do anything about it .🤷🏻♀️
(Sorry for my bad English tho)
I’m so sorry 😔 you are very strong...rape and molestation are the most evil thing🙁 it hits close to home but it will get better, he cannot take your soul keep your head up girl
I'm so sorry, that should be something you give, not something just for some evil asshole to take away. It is not your fault in any way and i hope you get help and feel better soon, just know that you will get better and people love you.
I’m ever so sorry 😞 I hope you will recover soon ❤️❤️
Stay strong girl ❤️
I am so sorry for you, what he did is awful, I hope you get justice one day, I wish the best for you❤
I didn’t really know where else to ask this so
Does anyone else not tell people about things they’re dealing with out of fear of being “a typical depressed teen”? I rarely tell people about things I’m dealing with because I know most people are just gonna go “oh it’s just part of growing up” and they’ll think I’m exaggerating for attention.
I feel it really helps telling people after asking them if they wouldn't mind hearing me vent. Most people like to help so asking them for permission first really helps as they let me know if they have the mental space to hear that. Also, venting out helps me every time because I feel lighter.
Yes
I strongly encourage you to talk to someone, preferably a specialist. When there are signs of depression at young age its important to seek out help as quickly as possible. Nobody can decide if how big your problems are, only you. Sure, some people are not going to understand it but that doesn't matter. Seek out help friend so it doesn't get worse (: therapy can do wonders
It really sucks how depression has become a trend and its just dismissed among younger people. It just makes you feel like your feeling are invalid and not important and that you shouldnt get help because youre just exaggerating and don't need it. It just really sucks
Ye, I told someone about my suicidal thoughts. Ended up being called trying to look edgy, dark, and cool. Needles to say, he was the only one I trusted more than my family and friends. People ain't suck, they just don't know why it hurts. Now I am facing insecurities to let people in, and think bad of myself all the frickin time. Imagine talking to someone like me and they keep saying, "you shouldn't talk to me. I am a terrible person." I know how pathetic it sounds lol 😂 I am not having any suicidal thoughts lately, but memories of those conversations are still haunting me ☠️
The one about the abortion hit home...big time. I almost thought I wrote it.
You are amazing. I'm so sorry that happened to you. You have so much to live for and I pray that you realize that you're strong and worthy of being an amazing future mother.
I’m sorry you had to go through that. But just know I’m the future there will be a bright light that walks in and changes everything. It may be a new s/o or a baby. Just know that just because that happened doesn’t mean your power is taken away forever. You are amazing and I hope u never forget that
i’m so sorry you had to go through that, my heart is with you 💔
am I the only one confused how both of the men made a baby
MattyRemains one of them could be transgender.
The parent ate their daughters ashes to feel close to her. To be one with her. Don't judge unless you have a child.
@@cooperramos2700 .....you don't have kids. I can tell. I'm 18 with two baby boys....
Exactly, they don't understand how damaging it is to lose a child. Some parents even die from heartache. I'm not a parent yet but understand how hurtful it must be for a parent who's child dies. Must sister's child died at 2 months and she was never the same again. She passed away in 2017 and was very depressed.
@@theworldisnotbeautiful my sons are my world....if anything ever happened to them I would completely lose my sanity....
@@cottoncandy9110 18?! 2 kids?! why is a child having children
@@TheVitaminsC you dont know their back story. What if they were a victim of rape but keep the kids? i know very few, but a couple of people who have done that.
I felt that last one, it was my moms birthday and clumsily drop a bowl in front of me at her party. My mom gets mad at saying I was holding my phone and not paying attention to the bowl. I really wasn’t holding anything, someone else asks if I was okay.
Hearing the words “are you okay?” Was shocking, because whenever I was clumsy my parents would get mad. After that I ran up to my room and started crying. Hearing someone else ask if I didn’t get hurt made me cry, my own mom got mad instead of asking if I was okay.
Jaden the genderfluid omni beast thank you ☺️
I’m so sorry you felt that way, your not alone, try not to think about it too much man😞
Zainab Imdad thank you 😊
My mom also does that all the time...but she loves me🙂
@@YOUHE. yeah same
"For you it's 5 minutes but for me it's forever"
-Anonymous
For those who have been raped may you be comforted stay strong and if nobody cares I care
Its sucks some men get raped and they get no care a help for it at all :/
Thank you so much. I needed to hear that.
I...get abused in all ways by my dad
He still does it
Hes been doing it since i was 6
And now its almost 10 years and it still happens
@@yussra9714 i hope you're ok, please seek for help, your mother, a relative, a friend or anyone else you feel comfortable and secure with and please do not think it's ok or that it's your fault, if you need any help you can count with everybody here, stay strong ❤
The man with the empathy sweatshirt (was talking about the person who was saving themselves for marriage but was raped at a party) was so poetic in his advice. It shook me
same. when he said they can never take away your willingness, your ability to open your heart- i had never thought of that before. I actually said “oh” out loud when he said that.
Yet so comforting
I cried everytime the man with the "empathy" shirt gave his insight. He has a beautiful soul. Thank you for this video.
“when i become a teenager” broke my heart :( it gets better❤️
Why do I feel like they’re reading their own secrets...
Nope
@@Anonymous-pp8fc the answer to your username is "idk bro"
Jiya me too i can never separate the secrets from the reader in my mind!!
I can see they randomly pick from a box so one can accidentally pick his own card
Because I don’t think these people would be reading the secrets loudly and clearly if they were their own.
I think that the only one who gave good advice was the CEO.
As someone who experiences a similar problem.. its nice of him to say this, but it doesnt resonate to me well. It sucks to be stuck in home with someone who has an attitude like this to you - its severely damaging. And I, now an adult, who was initially forced to stay at home, have found much peace by leaving that home by my own choice.
Perhaps the others were worried they would give the wrong advice, and perhaps many of these people speaking out about their secrets mainly just needed a voice to hear (?) Just a thought though ☺️
these people aren't therapist, dawg
Sometimes it's hard to give advice. Especially having only one sentence, you need to make assumptions to do that. So you are afraid of saying the wrong thing.
Different people grieve in different ways. I’m sure anyone would be distraught after losing a child. We do strange things when we’re sad.
I feel so bad for the 8 year old who molested his cousin. I get that it was still wrong, but like the guy said you were an 8 year old you really couldn’t consent to anything. ): edit: don’t get me wrong I 100% feel bad for the cousin as well
I understand why he feels he's at blame, but in fact, it's not wrong from him but from the father, as the kid also is a victim. He was a child with 0 understanding of what he was doing. For kids, adults' words weight more, they see them as the voice of reason, so when an adult says it, they go along. I feel bad for the kid. He feels like a criminal, when he was manipulated into it... I really wish both he and his cousins got therapy. That's really messed up.
6maria94 I agree 100%
It makes me sad that he didn’t really know what he was doing. He was just following orders and did what any other child would do. Listen to their parents. Like your parents are supposed to show you what’s wrong from right. You’re supposed to be able to look up to your parents and ask them for guidance. It makes me sick how he probably has to carry that guilt and that weight on his shoulders, just because someone (his dad) decided to manipulate his innocence as a child.
It was wrong but it’s not his fault. He was not only underaged, but a child. Let’s be honest what is an average 8 year old gonna do in that situation when it’s their parents giving them the orders, especially if their unaware of what’s really going on. So he’s also a victim as well as the cousin. The blame is his father and it’s really sad that an adult would conduct in that with two children.
If he was forced to do I that means he was also abused.
I used to model when I was younger. I would get comments from people like “wow you’re really pretty”, yet I refuse to be in pictures or take pictures of myself because I can’t stand the sight of my own face and body.
Frrrrrr I relate
Nobody gonna talk about the one dating four guys at once for “coping”, knowing it’s wrong, NOT feeling guilty, and then nothing is said of it? There are things I’m understanding of but this is just inexcusable. She’s exploiting multiple men and their feelings for her own benefit and just using them to “cope” with something that happened years ago. This is wrong and vile and the person responsible is disgusting, no excuses
init bitches get heartbroken and use it as an ecuse to use other people smh
@@H17388 Men, and people who identify as anything else do it too. Not just females.
Absolutely. Being hurt is not justification to use and hurt other people. She should get help, instead of just doing 4x worse than what was done to her
And it was years ago. She needs to grow the hell up and move on
Sunshine Love so? Doesn’t matter who does it it’s fucked up
2:25 "Nobody deserves to be robbed of so much"
Nope, nobody does, but it sure as hell happens a lot. Shout out to all my survivors out there, we got this, we're strong and not alone. If you have been assaulted and not yet come forward please, please do so, it's hard, so hard, but please, don't give your abuser the power of you doing this alone. Sending love to everyone out there.
I told my best friend about me cutting and my issues with my parents,and after two years,as she slowly distanced herself from me, now the whole class knows about it , which made me develop trust issues...
But now u know that your bestfriend cant be trust.. Or else u can said to them that its just a joke.its okay to be vulnerable even after being betray.also they might face depression that in the future too..
i just told my best friend about those two same things personal to myself. now im terrified
i have the same story bro...
I hope things get better for you and if you ever need to talk someone,I’ll be a listening ear
Been in the same situation 💔
My lowest point was back when I was 16. Every single day I wished and prayed to die before my next birthday. The pressure from school, self expectations and being over weight was crushing me. I had depression and anxiety, but never noticed the signs until much later. Worst part is I actually told my mom about it, and she just scolded me and told me to stop saying non sense. She didn't take me seriously at all, even tho I was close to taking my own life.
Now after 4 years, I've picked myself back up and learned how to take care of myself and my mental health. I'm glad I'm still here and somehow survived those dark times.
I’m proud of youu🥺💞
@@hvkodiya7217 Thank you so much :)
omg that is just awful, i hope everything is alright for you now. i really feel bad for people who struggle in things like this because parents are supposed to support you and if they dont you wont trust anyone else. i just hope you found the person that could help you and that could support you. i love you so much and stay strong
@@potatoeswithmuscles Thank you so much for your sweet message. I'm doing well these days. I have friends who understand and support me, and I've become much more independent and confident. I hope all those who struggle with mental health issues will be able to find hope again and to go through it and get to a better place in their lives
@@ember6814 yeah I’m really happy that you found your people. And I hope that for everyone too. Stay strong and safe don’t forget to smile bestie
My parents have been bodyshaming me since I started to overeat to cope with the emotional stress I was dealing with at 9. Just thought I would share this where no one would know who I am.
So I saw a few comments in this post and I almost forgot I had made it but still I want to thank you all for taking the time out of your day to share some positivity on this post. Have a nice day💜💞
Jesus that's shitty, wtf tho like parents should never do that!
You are beautiful. And worthy. I hope you find some peace 🙏
I was in a situation similar my mom used to body shame me with her boyfriend when I was 8 and I was overeating to cope with the fact that I was living in an abusive household
hate to be a realist, but use that energy and transmute it into dieting and working out, ask your parents, I’m sure they’ll agree since they live putting you down for overeating.
I love you, you are beutiful
Everyone: genuinely heartbreaking stories
That one girl: I’m leading on four innocent guys because instead of getting help with my heartbreak I’ve chosen to take it out on others
I don’t know about you but a human being damaged so thoroughly that the natural guilt we’ve evolved to feel in order to survive in a group doesn’t even manifest anymore is pretty heartbreaking, if in a different way. I’m not saying she’s right for doing this, obviously it’s awful. I’m not even saying you have to feel sympathy for her- we just CAN’T feel bad for some people, and who those people are differs case by case. But you can’t deny that when it comes down to it, any time a human falls so far that they start to knowingly and without guilt drag others down with them is heartbreaking. We didn’t evolve to hurt each other, we evolved to help each other. Only tragedy can fuck that up.
I don’t feel bad for the girl dating four guys tbh.
Who would
I know she’s like this is so sorrowful and sad when it next to a guy who’s dad died from a heart attack after he heard from his sons suicdal attempt and it was her fault she so wierd
well i don't think that's the point of confessions
*katerino intensifies*
i feel bad for her,But I respect ur opinion
Honestly sometimes I wish there were no mirrors so that I could just stop comparing my self to other 😪
Physically comparing yourself to others is not going to stop just because you don’t have mirrors. That’s a self-esteem issue which you can work on everyday. Here’s a couple quotes to help ya “Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.” -Judy Garland. And of course “Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves”. -Nathaniel Branden. I highly recommend getting one of Nathaniel Brandens book, he’s a psychotherapist that deals with mainly self-esteem issues. As much we don’t want to admit we want help, sometimes we need it even if it’s just from a book.
I get it, Most days i keep my interaction with my mirror very limited. I cant bring myself to be in pictures bc i feel like the grossest thing at the party. I'm sure self help books work for some. It didnt work for me. Good luck though
I’m trying to figure out when the fuck I asked
Miguel Hernandez fax but you can’t change your face
Miguel Hernandez well you can if u want to pollute the world and get plastic surgery
Most people don’t even know what goes on at home or in your personal life. Just in general, always be careful of what you say.
the ashes one absolutely broke me. the level of grief you'd have to be in to do that is crazy.
"I'm dating four guys simultaneously to cope up with my heartbreak that happened five years back. I recognized it as wrong but don't feel guilty about it"
Whoa man you're just giving the same heartbreak to those four!!!
That guy talking about how giving yourself is the thing that matters; you deserve the world
It’s hard when your too young to escape a parent, or even feel the need or want to escape. I understand the feeling and hope all of you who feel that way can escape as soon as possible. Praying for all of you.
💙 i need to get out of here.
@Christina I’m so close but I have no where to go. I just need corona to be gone then I can finally escape. I need to be able to get a new job where I’m going I have been saving up but it’s only enough for a few months. I hope you can escape soon.
Maya - where are you planing on going? If you have a car move to the nearest state that has cheap rent and try to get a job at Starbucks
The Asian guy around 2:15 hit me hard with how no one can take away your willingness to give yourself to someone. Really deep.
I wish that everyone knew that they are beautiful. And they wouldn’t have to rely on the words or affirmation of other people.
Everytime I look in the mirror, thoughts of insecurities would always get me. My skin is littered with stretch marks and I gained unimaginable amount of weight to the point where I thought that I abused it. For the past week, I've been doing daily calorie count and I'm doing this for my health.
Take your time and don't overwork or under eat
Try to stay reasonable and if you can, stay in touch with a diet professional, it's amazing that you're trying to improve yourself but it can be dangerous to overdo it
@@rontheron4807My mental health has improved for the last year and now I'm on my way to improving this aspect of my being. I'm doing it one at a time because I might catch myself slipping. Thank you for your advices. ♡♡
@@calminsanity8756 that's good to hear, take care ! You've got our support!! 💖☀️
Do be so hard on your self. Take little steps everyday. Please don’t obsess over calorie counting. I hope you’re doing great. Wish u the very best.
This is heartbreaking and heartwarming at the same time ....
I can't get over the stepmother situation. The fact that the child isn't even a teenager and already feels like breaking their self away from someone they used to look up to is heartbreaking.
I find that even when people talk about grief 'openly', there are a lot of behaviors and experiences that are still left out. Grief and depression will make a human do some odd or morally grey things. An example of this is the lady who ate some of her daughters ashes - as strange as it might seem to those with a clearer conscience, it really goes to show the emotional stress she was in at the time.
You never know what people are going through, and nobody is ever truly prepared to hear about grief in the brutal and transparent detail that they might be curious enough to ask about.
Hey if you're feeling sorrow, realize everyone has mistakes and time heals wounds even if they leave scars. Reach out for help because a lot more people care for you than you think. These people here show that even strangers will be empathetic to you. It's not too late to reach out for help. Sit on your decision and discuss it before making a choice. The worst part in life is regretting what you did and realizing it is too late. You are beautiful and deserve to be loved
My great aunts have started to call me "devil" recently..... It hurts just as much as it frustrated me..... she claims that its because I'm not religious enough ...but I still feel other wise. She calls my sister the same thing also.... I hope that the job that I applied to accepts me and I can save money to buy my apartment.
wow im so sorry..
many well wishes towards you and your sister!! hope ya get the job :)
Not trying to be rude but as a non religious person if Anyone called me the devil i would prolly laugh and not give a fuck
I’m so sorry that she is so vile to you. You are amazing and can do anyhitng you put your mind to!
I’ve been told the same by my parents and church members, and I know it hurts you cuss it has hurt me in the past. But realize that you are your own individual person and you are filled with so much love and happiness. I wish you so much luck in your endeavors ❤️
"i still love him and i hate myself"
No no no HATE him and love yourself instead UNO REVERSE CARD BRUH
I hope all of these people find moments of peace from their sorrows. To share your truth, even if in secret, is an incredibly brave act. 🙏❤️
When I was younger, whenever people would get closer to me, I would distance myself to the point of completely ignoring them.. I don't know if it had something to do with my childhood, but i'm glad that trait hadn't stuck up with me, since i've lost a fair share of close friends.
I feel this.. I used to avoid physical contact because I craved it. I was so so scared of letting myself get attached.
I feel like I subconsciously do this. I probably get scared of attachment and also I just don’t seem to have friends that stick. I’ve always had a few close friends but now I don’t really have any. I also probably suck at texting and communicating. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.
I feel like this too.
“A shattering violation of your own personal boundaries” that was well said
The one that hurt the most is hearing about the fathers cardiac arrest due to the suicide attempt. I’ve been suicidal for all of my life that I can remember, and my Dad is the most important person in the world to me. He’s my best friend, mentor, he means the world to me. He’s there even when it means being against the world, he’s proud of me when no one else even acknowledges me…he just sees me for me, and we don’t even need to talk to show support or love. The day my dad dies is the day I lose all hope. He’s already had two heart attacks. I’m so scared for him…I bawl my eyes out now just at the thought, I have no clue just how incredibly broken I’ll feel when it happens…
The fifth confession applies to me, though different relations. I have been single all my life, unable to form bonds with people. I do have support and trying to heal, but time is running out... I am in my mid fifties. Denial and bad coping mechanisms have kept me from excelling in a job and life.
Quarantine was really hard for me.
Jubilee has been a tool to help me identify my issues and feelings..... THANK YOU!!
If your young, get help and don’t waste life, it is too precious.
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Stay safe, stay sane, be well
Sir David of Tor hi, I’m sorry you had to go through that. I’m glad your doing better but really if you need anything, or just a person to talk to. Just put in the comments, go to 7cups or just talk to someone. But please, be better then your struggles and use that to become a stronger person.
Wish u the best 💗
Damn 50
@@moneyway8178 😳
For asian parents a B is a fail. I got once in maths and though they knew I worked really hard but once they saw my result they forgot about all my hardwork and taunted me, threatened me for more than a month. They made me feel worthless. And after that when I started making distance with them they asked why do I have attitude in me. Life sucks, I wanna be an adult soon and wanna support myself.
Sweetheart, parents r also just human and they're also parents for the first time in their life... They probably don't know wat they're doing wrong... And being an adult u realise how harsh the world can be & how difficult it is if u don't have proper education and hence, no proper job to support urself,
so they probably just want u to do better, in their mind they're probably thinking even if I have to be tough to my child it's okay, my child will do better because of it, they simply don't know any other way to help u... Their parents(ur grandparents) might have done the same, as most asian households r the same, and wen they grew older they must've realised y their parents were tough on them, so they're just following the same examples....
I used to think the same way u did wen I was younger, I used get so mad & wanted to leave my house & never look back! , But, I'm 25 now kinda grown-up & living by myself, I realised y my parents did that, they jst wanted me to do better & hence, have a good future! That's all our parents want for us ...
Recently I was having a casual talk to my mom abt this & she was so surprised that it had hurt me so much at that time & she asked me y I didn't say anything?!
So just have a talk with them & let them know ur troubles & tell them how they can help u.
@John Lester I know that, but her parents probably don't, that's wat I was explaining in my previous reply, my parents did the same thing, and I admit it was really hard on me, but now I also know why they did that, they didn't know any better way, that's how they were raised, so that's how they raised me as well... Most asian households r like this, it wud be better for her to either talk wit them & let them know her problems or jst let it go, kinda ignore it, she can just do her best & not care wat her parents say, that's wat I used to do, I jst ignored wat they said... I used to think my parents hated me, but that was not the case, it's their way of being worried for me .... And after all these years wen I finally talked to my mom is wen our misunderstandings changed ...
@@anupradeep3888 nope, the parents are at fault here. They harassed her. You are victim blaming.
It doesn't matter if they grew up like that, they get the blame partially. OP is HURT. This is bad parenting. Search up emotionally abusive parents.
hey im so proud of your grades💕 your smart, beautiful and kind and you deserve so much good!
@@anupradeep3888... To add to my original argument, please consider the following:
Say you are a 16 yo. GIRL
Your dad just called you a slut for wearing your favorite dress.
Your logic would be: Oh, but you Do need to dress well.... Followed by: Well your dad got shamed too when he was young...
Do you understand?
In the example, you did not dress poorly. Just like the person did not restive bad grades. But they get humiliated anyway.
If that person grew up under similar conditions, he or she is Still Partially To Blame!!!
I hope you understand that.
Have you ever been insulted repeatedly by the people you trust and love most? Have you had multiple people criticize you for Hours due to your 'bad grades'?
Yes? Then you should know how it feels.
Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.
She's cheating on 4 people and thinks she's the victim? The other stories were sad, hers wasn't.
I hope no one will catch STDs from this
@@quarantinelife. 💀💀💀
I agree. I was in a bad relationship and no lie I haven't been able to be intimate since then. He'd sexually/physically Abuse me and mentally hurt me. But people are different
Well she obviously has problems.
She needs help, not multiple boyfriends
To the person whose friend distanced themselves after opening up about your feelings, I understand you.
I had this friend (F1) that I got close to because I was her helper when she moved to our city. We used to hang out every lunch and recess. We had the same classes, we went to the same clubs. I saw her as family. But then on 2018, another friend (F2) of mine started getting really depressed. I would spend all my time trying to aid him while still carrying my own life and problems. It felt like I was driving a boat, and I had to pull a drowning person out of the water while still making sure the boat was stable. It was the longest year of my life and the most exhausting. But after months, F2 took his own life on 10/17/19. Since I was the one aiding him, I felt completely devastated and a failure. I had promised F2 that I wouldn't rest until his life was stable, and I failed to fulfill that promise. F1 knew about F2, but didn't seem to care after I told her about his passing and how horrible I felt. That's when I thought there was something off with her. Then, at the beginning of 2020, F2's fiancé (F3) became depressed as well. Even though I was disgusted with myself, I couldn't just stand aside, so I helped him as well. One day in April, he just texted us his friends messages that hinted he might do something so we panic texted him to make sure he was ok. I was so desperate not to lose him too that I was shaking and hyperventilating, and I texted F1 to help us. But she didn't. Instead, she said "he'll be fine, you're overreacting." F3 and I texted for a while as I tried to keep him online until 911 could get to his house, but F1 kept messaging me and my phone lagged, which made me panic even more. F1 tried to tell me about an argument she had with her mom, but I grew way too anxious and texted her that I was busy with an emergency, and that her usual arguments with her mom weren't as important that moment as F3's life that was at risk. F3's last message to me was "I never thought you were a failure," before he stopped texting me. For the next minutes, I was so scared I was speechless and looking blankly at my phone, waiting for a message about his wellbeing. When his cousin texted me "there was blood everywhere," I knew that he was gone. I texted F1 infuriated, knowing that had she helped us, F3 may be still alive today. I told her about F3's death and she just started arguing with me like "oMg ThIs AgAiN?"
I explained to her months later about how badly my mental health was going (i would have nightmares on a nightly basis, I would hallucinate often, and I was irrationally afraid of my friends) and how that scared me. I told her that I was sorry for yelling at her, and I explained what happened with F2 AND F3 in detail and how their deaths haunted me every day. She blamed me and distanced herself ever since. I had texted her to seek help because my parents don't believe in psychology and I was afraid I might as well end myself one day, and she left me alone.
Leave F1, she’s not your friend. I hope you are ok now, .
Building trust after trauma is the most difficult thing we will ever do mentally and emotionally.
Watching this made me realize just how many secrets I've hidden from other people, because I am aware of the bias and judgment people have for the actions of others. It is so easy to judge another person for their actions and think, "wow, I can't believe they did that, I would never do something like that". I feel like it's such a common thing to lie to yourself and make yourself out as better than others because you haven't experienced the heartbreak they've experienced, or maybe you refuse to realize that you are not perfect either.
The two times I have been vulnerable enough to talk about my most traumatizing secrets with someone, BOTH times those people tried to take advantage of me and the situation. I completely understand that this isn't always the case for everyone. But it's really sad when you come to realize some of the people closest to you become people you can no longer trust.. It's a very real thing. I really hope these people are okay. It takes so much courage to be real with what's happened in your life, even anonymously. Thank you for sharing.
I pray if anyone is suffering, we are here for u and we love you
When I was around 4-5 I was forcefully kissed and just recently opened up to my mom because I never really trusted my dad for the stuff he did to abuse my mom and about a week ago he passed away from a heart attack in his sleep and I hate myself for not telling my dad and being closer to my dad. My parents have always been worried about me since my suicidal thoughts and tendencies and I feel like I can't open up about my insecurities.
So please if your reading this please appreciate the people you have before they are gone and know that people are there for you when you need help. Don't be like me and open up to people about how you feel and how much you hurt. They will help you through whatever you go through and to the people who don't struggle with these things: if you see someone your close to become withdrawn or sad or distant try to talk to them and help cheer them up. ❤
you are an amazing person and you are not alone. You are strong and deserve happiness
I have no one ,I can't never ever talk to my parents about anything nor do I have friends.but one day I hope it'll be fine..I hope u are fine and I wish u all the happiness this world has to offer
Ahalya AS if you ever need someone to talk to or just want to be friends, my insta is @sinfulonmain