I do this and the most unfortunate thing is having family members go around telling others that I suffer from depression like it's something to be made fun of. Me playing dead emotionally is perceived as depression. I had to explain how I can't show joy around anyone because there's never a good response. I keep the optimism and joy internally. Some family members just feel offended if you don't look as miserable as them.
3:33 "Sometimes our dreams fall on the wrong ears." That is so powerful, I've always felt this, but I almost never hear it put so succinctly. It's a bad idea to share things you're still working on or pursuing that haven't yet come to fruition (share once its done!), but if you MUST share, share with those who are truly in your corner and who GET IT. Don't let your dreams fall on the wrong ears, because then they'll poke holes, rain on your parade, come up with a million-and-one reasons why you'll fail without ever rooting for you or believing in you. And if its family, their words and energy carry that much more weight. DETACH.
You're not alone and most people won't admit it, but know something deep down is off with some family members. There are toxic family members in every family that no one dares to talk about.
8:31 when she says learn how to play dead emotionally. She was referring to the gray rock method. It takes a lot of practice, but it’s a wonderful technique to use against those who have personality disorders or people who are just downright evil and mean to you. It takes practice in time but it works. Because after you continuously use this technique. The person who is trying to hurt you will eventually back off. Because they are not getting the reaction they want out of you. If any of you are dealing with someone like this, I highly recommend you look up the gray rock method.
God, be my witness. I do not know how u came on my feed, but I'm glad ur here. I am experiencing family troubles, and this time last week, I was broken. I refocused and accepted that BLOOD IS NOT THICKER THAN MY MENTAL HEALTH. I wished them well, but I hope they know that KARMA is a b**ch!
No, don't wish them bad karma. I will always love my siblings, but some of us just don't work as siblings or friends, and I have to accept that. I'm one of eight, but I have siblings that hate me. It's tragic.
@annehedonia156 I would never wish anything bad on them...Read it well...I SAID-I wished them well....I hope they know that KARMA is a bitch! That is what I wrote.
Society promotes family unity, whilst ignoring that some families are abusive and toxic. The message sent is that all families are living and caring and that's not true.
Toxic families mainly promote the narrative of putting families first. Why? Because they are users and want to exploit relatives of their resources, money, and time. It's all for selfish reasons, and they don't care about their loved ones.
I needed this today....my lowdown family is exactly like this they treated my mom and me and my middle sister like this ..they take and take and when we became homeless they cussed us out and turned their backs on us...GOD Helped us through everything and only HIM ...im autistic with bad anxiety and depression and bad nerves from all the mental abuse we went through us three always been the black sheep ...we see through all their lies...then they blame us for getting abused and they look down on us because we are poor and disabled but we are thankful for everything we have....Bless you all that have been through this. Sending love to you all❤️❤️❤️❤️
13:36 what he said is true. When I was going narcissistic abuse from my younger brother, I would look for my baby brother in his eyes; he’s gone! When I went no-contact, it felt like I was cutting of the younger brother I loved but it’s not the same. He has moved out and even when he announced it, he had to be verbally abusive and threaten me and said, “that’s why I’m done with u” 😂 The narc always creates their own narrative because everyone knows I stopped talking to him. Even HE knows 😂 so that bit was hilarious to me.
Huge difference between blood and family. I hate the fact that most black people don’t understand this. If you have family that are blood relatives then that’s a great thing but if you don’t, do not force a relationship because of blood.
Collective cultures are beholden by blood and tolerate dysfunctional and toxic behaviors from family members due to relations. Sadly, some cultures feel trapped by the concept of blood relations, out of guilt, shame, and coercion to maintain family loyalty and connectivity. This is emotional and psychological captivity, holding family members hostage in a toxic family. It's similar to prisoners of war captured and held against their will for their enemy's amusement and control.
Oh, my people are mostly white caucasians, blonde& light eyed ( like me), and most of them believe the same crap.🤦🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️ It's not a color or race thing, It's all over the world. They also justify it with cherry picked Bible quotes ( 95% of Eastern Europe and Southeastern Europe are Orthodox Christians).🙄 We also have a saying :" you can't chose your relatives, but you can chose your friends ". The smart ones ( or those who got burned) ,keep away from toxic family members or go " gray rock" ( observe but do not react or engage) when no contact is impossibile.
My narc of a little brother is dead to me. Family members know what he has done and how he has treated me but they keep saying, “but he’s family”. Idgaf and also, why doesn’t anyone tell HIM that?! The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.
Enjoyed the video and I enjoyed your stories at the end. Its like we are hearing the same stories over and over from different people. Sorry for your experiences.
21:09 I have a toxic cousin that I cut off as well. I check on her from time to time but nothing personal. Asinnnn I don’t want anyone to know anything about me except my friends
The reason for babies getting sick and passing after big family visits is much more likely to be illness meeting an infant’s undeveloped immune system rather than someone feeling jealousy towards them. But either way, better to keep them away for a bit
When she said, learn how to play dead emotionally, I related to that deeply ❤
I believe it's a form of selfcare
I felt that too❗
I do this and the most unfortunate thing is having family members go around telling others that I suffer from depression like it's something to be made fun of. Me playing dead emotionally is perceived as depression. I had to explain how I can't show joy around anyone because there's never a good response. I keep the optimism and joy internally. Some family members just feel offended if you don't look as miserable as them.
That "black sheep of the family" part made me cry. Honesty is totally unacceptable in my family🥺
I thought it was just me - it hit home❗🎯💯
#cPTSD, I'm just now learning about it and realizing what hit me, sad to see I'm not alone.
💯💯Narc.family ab… the one they make the “black sheep of the family” it’s evil and sickening 😔
I wear my 'Black Sheep's title proudly, Fuq Them People
3:33 "Sometimes our dreams fall on the wrong ears." That is so powerful, I've always felt this, but I almost never hear it put so succinctly. It's a bad idea to share things you're still working on or pursuing that haven't yet come to fruition (share once its done!), but if you MUST share, share with those who are truly in your corner and who GET IT. Don't let your dreams fall on the wrong ears, because then they'll poke holes, rain on your parade, come up with a million-and-one reasons why you'll fail without ever rooting for you or believing in you. And if its family, their words and energy carry that much more weight. DETACH.
Literally. I thought I was the only one for a long time that had these issues with narcissistic family. These traits are textbook and universal.
You're not alone and most people won't admit it, but know something deep down is off with some family members. There are toxic family members in every family that no one dares to talk about.
It's a spiritual thing. Demonic, exactly as they function in the Bible.
8:31 when she says learn how to play dead emotionally. She was referring to the gray rock method. It takes a lot of practice, but it’s a wonderful technique to use against those who have personality disorders or people who are just downright evil and mean to you. It takes practice in time but it works. Because after you continuously use this technique. The person who is trying to hurt you will eventually back off. Because they are not getting the reaction they want out of you. If any of you are dealing with someone like this, I highly recommend you look up the gray rock method.
In some cases, gray rock isn't an option, depending on how toxic families are, and cutting off contact is the only solution
Real. My family sided with my abuser.
I'm not shocked
The longer I live the more I realize everyone is like this even children, strangers or family or who ever it’s survival of the fittest
You put my thoughts in words!🎯💯👌🏽
One thing I've learned to do is to love some people from a distance.❤💯
God, be my witness. I do not know how u came on my feed, but I'm glad ur here. I am experiencing family troubles, and this time last week, I was broken. I refocused and accepted that BLOOD IS NOT THICKER THAN MY MENTAL HEALTH. I wished them well, but I hope they know that KARMA is a b**ch!
More power to you, I'm rooting for you 😘
No, don't wish them bad karma. I will always love my siblings, but some of us just don't work as siblings or friends, and I have to accept that. I'm one of eight, but I have siblings that hate me. It's tragic.
@annehedonia156 I would never wish anything bad on them...Read it well...I SAID-I wished them well....I hope they know that KARMA is a bitch! That is what I wrote.
This is a difficult pill for most to swallow when their family members are toxic and despise them
Society promotes family unity, whilst ignoring that some families are abusive and toxic. The message sent is that all families are living and caring and that's not true.
They say family first I always said "HELL NO PUT YOURSELF 🥇 FIRST". Family can be your worst enemy.
Toxic families mainly promote the narrative of putting families first. Why? Because they are users and want to exploit relatives of their resources, money, and time. It's all for selfish reasons, and they don't care about their loved ones.
I needed this today....my lowdown family is exactly like this they treated my mom and me and my middle sister like this ..they take and take and when we became homeless they cussed us out and turned their backs on us...GOD Helped us through everything and only HIM ...im autistic with bad anxiety and depression and bad nerves from all the mental abuse we went through us three always been the black sheep ...we see through all their lies...then they blame us for getting abused and they look down on us because we are poor and disabled but we are thankful for everything we have....Bless you all that have been through this. Sending love to you all❤️❤️❤️❤️
Been left out by my family too many times. Enough is enough, I let it go.
The first girl is beautiful
I said the same thing🥹🥰
I said the same thing🥹🥰
13:36 what he said is true. When I was going narcissistic abuse from my younger brother, I would look for my baby brother in his eyes; he’s gone! When I went no-contact, it felt like I was cutting of the younger brother I loved but it’s not the same.
He has moved out and even when he announced it, he had to be verbally abusive and threaten me and said, “that’s why I’m done with u” 😂
The narc always creates their own narrative because everyone knows I stopped talking to him. Even HE knows 😂 so that bit was hilarious to me.
Huge difference between blood and family. I hate the fact that most black people don’t understand this. If you have family that are blood relatives then that’s a great thing but if you don’t, do not force a relationship because of blood.
Collective cultures are beholden by blood and tolerate dysfunctional and toxic behaviors from family members due to relations. Sadly, some cultures feel trapped by the concept of blood relations, out of guilt, shame, and coercion to maintain family loyalty and connectivity. This is emotional and psychological captivity, holding family members hostage in a toxic family. It's similar to prisoners of war captured and held against their will for their enemy's amusement and control.
Oh, my people are mostly white caucasians, blonde& light eyed ( like me), and most of them believe the same crap.🤦🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️ It's not a color or race thing, It's all over the world. They also justify it with cherry picked Bible quotes ( 95% of Eastern Europe and Southeastern Europe are Orthodox Christians).🙄 We also have a saying :" you can't chose your relatives, but you can chose your friends ". The smart ones ( or those who got burned) ,keep away from toxic family members or go " gray rock" ( observe but do not react or engage) when no contact is impossibile.
My narc of a little brother is dead to me. Family members know what he has done and how he has treated me but they keep saying, “but he’s family”. Idgaf and also, why doesn’t anyone tell HIM that?!
The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.
Enjoyed the video and I enjoyed your stories at the end. Its like we are hearing the same stories over and over from different people. Sorry for your experiences.
Glad you enjoyed it and thank you for listening 😊
Evil eye evil tongues hands that shit can be friends too fake family ain't shit a lot of times
Family holds all secrets and can use them against you when the time is right
My chosen family (friends) are thee most important people in my life. It’s just a few ppl but I love them so much
29:31 it IS on a spiritual level
21:09 I have a toxic cousin that I cut off as well. I check on her from time to time but nothing personal. Asinnnn I don’t want anyone to know anything about me except my friends
The reason for babies getting sick and passing after big family visits is much more likely to be illness meeting an infant’s undeveloped immune system rather than someone feeling jealousy towards them. But either way, better to keep them away for a bit
When it's your own mother and sister
I did this a long time ago
The millennials are waking up to the nonsense of toxic family members and feel that they don't owe them anything, and they don't.
Some families treat their relatives like slaves but say they love them.
Monitoring spirits too guys hush
Too many family members don't care about anyone but themselves and their "branch"
NO CONTACT 🎯💯👌🏽🙏🏽
0:02 - 0:07 Differentiate between blood relatives and family❤
I love your channel, but it's very difficult to understand you because of your microphone.
Don't worry better sound quality coming your way
U can do well n bettr just not better the. Them
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