@@Nwakaego_yep! And the *only reason I moved in* was because HE mentioned marriage and asked me my plans. I said I didn’t feel comfortable marrying him while in student debt so he told me to move in with him so I can save and pay off my student loans. I prayed and asked my parents and was green-lighted. I’m so thankful. 😭🤞🏾I would’ve never moved in if the intentions and plans weren’t clear. This is where a lot of our sisters mess up.
Good for you but I don't think it's a lack of discernment for all, I think it's a lack of opportunity where a lot of women end up with messed up situations. if all you see is messed up guys and you got this standard that is healthy but nobody's able to meet them but yet you have the urges and needs you're going to end up settling for the things that are manifesting somewhat of your needs even if it ain't all and that can be unfortunate special for the woman who don't need to be shamed who tried her best
Also, be mindful sisters that what he looks like on paper or how much POTENTIAL he has DOES NOT MATTER!!!!! Until he is actively living on his own it is a giant red flag. Also be mindful of the fact that if the situation were reversed, he would not welcome you into his home. Men are excellent at setting boundaries. We need to learn how to match that energy.
My ex stealthily snuck his belongings into my apartment and terrorized me for the next two years. No matter how much I begged and cried for him to leave. He was literal hell on earth. Madr my place filthy. Didnt lift a finger or even pay for ANYTHING!!! My biggest regret was not telling anybody and getting help evicting him sooner. Now, I won't even let my new partner set foot near my new apartment. On a positive note, my new partner is spectacular, kind, loving, generous and thoughtful in every way.
How many times did he chest on u? Did you get his hands when u was evicting him? Did he steal ur stuff or money on the way out? Did he then trample ur rep to act like the victim? Tell these young babes the truth about ur poor choice of settling my dear.
The moment we started putting my stuff in his house he started getting real controlling... didn't last 48 hours. I RAN tf up on outta there. I'll take my own space for 100 please 😅
I tried to get my husband to agree to this. I did not want to live with him, but in the end, we moved in after we were married 1 month. I think if we would have did it my way, we would still be married.
Never let a bum move in with you...he will beat you cheat on you steal from you... He is the lesser creature therefore insecure n awful 😖 don't ever do it.
Deciding to dust with a leaf blower while your woman is studying is wild. I was with a man for 8 years and he did weird shit like this all the time and pranks. It was very annoying and it’s weird behavior. I think it’s a red flag. 🚩
Ladies, to think twice and please try to find out as much as possible about a potensial hubby before you move in with him! You moving into his place or him moving into your place really isn't that important. There are lots of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hides out there. Most men will not show you their true side in years. You have to know them for years..... and still they could change and start manipulating you, abuse and what ever.
Don’t move in with a man or have him move him with you u move in together when your married that’s it that’s all… moved in with a man in my 20’s it’s a nightmare don’t do it
Definitely saved me from even wanting be be with him or marry him but I could’ve lived fine without experiencing that.. the only way I would live with a man is marriage and we get a place together that’s it
I’m not sure why the conversation is shacking up versus marriage. Although I agree the man should provide the living space and the money I don’t condone shacking up period
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I don't believe in shacking up...I tried to get my husband to keep his home and I keep mine, we moved in together a month after we were married.
My Dad said live with a person for 2 years....with the purpose of marriage...within those 2 years you will have a good idea of who you're dealing with....
I do what's best for me in my relationship with my man. It works out fine and I'm fine with that. You have to do what's best for you.❤ And congratulations 🎉👏 on 10k.🎉❤
People just do what works for you. I personally don’t believe I need to be married ever but I’ve been living with my man for about 7 years and we are much happier than a lot of married people we know. Also just bc someone is married to you doesn’t mean they can’t leave you. Also why would I want to make it difficult for someone to leave me if they don’t want to be with me?
If you want to live together in the future, you absolutly should live together before marriage! Marriage does not change a Person. A messy person will still be a messy person, an ignorant person will still be an ignorant person. You should now before what kind of a person you marry. You do not have to give up your own appartement but you should stay with your sugnificant other for some time to see if you also work as a Team in shared rooms. However, if you do not want to move in together, you do not need a reason, then do not move together. Today it is accepted, use this modern times to live a relationship in witch both are happy. 💁♀️
Okay I mean no disrespect to anyone but why would any mentally health individual purposely move in with another adult that they have no legal responsibility to. See this is how jokers get squatting rights on you. You play stupid games, you get stupid rewards 🙄.
Thank you for this video. My honest opinion to men and women. If you move in with a boyfriend or girlfriend you will regret it. I say this because this arrangement is solely for married couples. Trust me in the end your soul will thank you.
Mmm I’m gonna disagree I moved in with my ex. And it’s a no for me men are possessive and prideful she will use it being ur place over your head. Im working on purchasing a house and if I get serious with a man he can move in a pay the bills to be head of the household or we can move into a new place and I would rent my house out but. Ladies always always have your own
Moving in with a man is not the problem, the problem is moving in with a wrong man for you, once he moves in and he irritates u he is not good for longterm just break up and move on
First off to God the glory I can lay in mine on my couch and lmao cus there’s no man coming over here to play house bec I value my peace and respect my place. I enjoy telling them NO way
Which way is it- a woman shouldn't move in with a man she should have her own in case they discover things about each other that's not tolerable? And end up no longer being responsible for each other. You have to independently take care of yourself or should a woman not allow a man to move in with her because in case they break up she has to pay a little bit of money to the court so he can vacate the property.I don't understand what's the problem with that?.. no matter how well you try to get to know somebody life is funny you can end up marrying a person y'all can actually be boyfriend and girlfriend and go put a lease in a place together it don't matter overall eventually people psychology and behaviors and circumstances outside of their will causes breakups and possibly even retaliation... So you're taking a risk no matter what especially in marriage because that person now know where you live until you decide to move... In that case y'all might as well say don't marry a man because in the case of divorce and there are court orders he can still have access to you and retaliate or flex on you for the sake of humiliating you. he can still do it cuz y'all still got the house or he got to pay alimony or child support or visitations rights... Life is a catch-22
If NM and her husband do live separately it's because he's on the Megan's Law list. His address has to be public knowledge so people around him can protect their children. Their marriage isn't something that should be idealized on any level. Sick!
Well I'm not idealising their marriage. I admire how Nikki stood on business and lives separately to protect herself and her son that's all. How many famous women have we seen who live with their gangster boyfriends who may potentially bring harm to them and their kids and not care?
After a year living together U will be use to the sounds the leaf blower the left over dishes the u covered food. After 6-12 months it will become normal LOL 😂
Maybe you should not move in with him he should not move in with you Sell both houses or move out of both rentals Get a house together or an apartment together
Nicki Minaj lives separate from her husband because he's a RSO (registered ### offender) and his address has to be made public. As a celebrity herself, she wants her address to be private, of course.
I moved a hobosexual in and he got so comfortable to where I had to put his stuff outside he told people he was not about leave while I'm living good and have everything
I don't agree with this. Do what is right with you and your partner. As long as y'all communicate and are on the same page. I personally won't move in with a man but that's just cuz I love my space and I haven't found someone on that level as me to live together.
@@helena3631not necessarily, people get pregnant without “shacking.” You don’t have to live together to get pregnant. But with the right person, “shacking” could save you from marrying a horrible partner.
Equality is for the workplace. In the home a husband is the head of the household. He can only do that by being your husband and having children with you in marriage. He must be the bread winner even if you make more money than him. He is the one that makes the last decision for the household, even if you gave him the idea. In your children's eyes, dad is the final say and the king of the castle. If you can't trust your husband to be the leader then you chose poorly. My husband purchased a leaf blower for the house. It works great.
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My wife and I joke that one day we're going to buy two separate houses on the same property so we can have our own space😂😂 we love each other and are best friends but sometimes you need some distance to remember why you love them so much 😂
At this point in my life, I feel like I will wait for marriage to live with a partner going forward. I say this after not doing so twice 🫣. It had its ups and downs but ultimately I think it’s probably going to be better for both of us in the long run. We can still spend time and see how it is being in each other’s space but we will have space too. If we want more from that, then it sounds like marriage is what we want.
I personally don’t believe in living with my partner. I need my space and value my safety.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
...body autonomy and labor
I learnt the hard way let him move in didn’t pay rent ate my food and had the audacity to smash holes in walls .never let them move in 😅
@@jaelenrandolph2030 That is frustrating and if your dealing with a narcissist they will argue with you just for mentioning it to them .
Only when married yall can live together but as boyfriend and girlfriend no way
Never ever ever EVER let a man move in with you.
Never
Ever
Ever.
😂😂😂😂😂
Pickmes be like: "Never say never!"
Don't thank a man when he does stuff in the house cause they don't thank women when we do stuff around the house. He's supposed to do it.
Right. If you live there you need to chip in the domestic duties just as much as the other person
Girrlll💯✨
My Grandmother used to say the same thing.
And the entire time he’ll try to see if you noticed so you can praise him.
All true Sis!!
The Nigerian Auntie had me weeeeak. " Run to the mirror and look at yourself... Pack your bag!"
Stop opening your legs like a wardrobe 🤣
Close your 🦵 leg !!!!!😂😂😂
SHE HAD ME ROLLING 😂 IT WAS BLUNT & FUNNY AF!!!@@amilllion1
😂😂😂😂❤
@@moniquew3603 😂😂😂search BlessingCEO on tiktok and thank me later😂
Discernment is a must. I don’t regret moving in with him, actually, he made my life and career better. We’re married now.
Glad it worked for you😘
Congratulations to you dear.🎉🥰💯 Happy your outcome was positive. It’s better that you moved in with him and not the other way around.
@@Nwakaego_yep! And the *only reason I moved in* was because HE mentioned marriage and asked me my plans. I said I didn’t feel comfortable marrying him while in student debt so he told me to move in with him so I can save and pay off my student loans. I prayed and asked my parents and was green-lighted. I’m so thankful. 😭🤞🏾I would’ve never moved in if the intentions and plans weren’t clear. This is where a lot of our sisters mess up.
@@mskabuethank you❤
Good for you but I don't think it's a lack of discernment for all, I think it's a lack of opportunity where a lot of women end up with messed up situations. if all you see is messed up guys and you got this standard that is healthy but nobody's able to meet them but yet you have the urges and needs you're going to end up settling for the things that are manifesting somewhat of your needs even if it ain't all and that can be unfortunate special for the woman who don't need to be shamed who tried her best
If a man is a real provider, he will provide. He will never want to move into a woman's place. Thats the actions of a man that wants to be kept.
Exactly 💯😂😂 a parasite
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right.
Also, be mindful sisters that what he looks like on paper or how much POTENTIAL he has DOES NOT MATTER!!!!! Until he is actively living on his own it is a giant red flag. Also be mindful of the fact that if the situation were reversed, he would not welcome you into his home. Men are excellent at setting boundaries. We need to learn how to match that energy.
Exactly what I said, that if tables were reversed he would never accommodate you like you're accommodating him, so learn from men and be selfish
My ex stealthily snuck his belongings into my apartment and terrorized me for the next two years. No matter how much I begged and cried for him to leave. He was literal hell on earth. Madr my place filthy. Didnt lift a finger or even pay for ANYTHING!!! My biggest regret was not telling anybody and getting help evicting him sooner. Now, I won't even let my new partner set foot near my new apartment. On a positive note, my new partner is spectacular, kind, loving, generous and thoughtful in every way.
I had a man move in with me but it was supposed to be a temporary situation. He got comfortable and I had to tell him to leave. Never again.
How many times did he chest on u? Did you get his hands when u was evicting him? Did he steal ur stuff or money on the way out? Did he then trample ur rep to act like the victim? Tell these young babes the truth about ur poor choice of settling my dear.
💯 He supposed to be providing. #NoStruggleLove #NoRomanceWithoutFinance
#NoMoneyNoHoney
#NoRingNoTing
#GodsPlan
@@missevie432lol y’all self righteous, snobby aunties need to get a life. WTF are you? Nobody
"Guys that don't have much move in with women."
Facts 💯
100%
@thepragmatist They are called HOBOSEXUALS.You can't make this up.Smh
@thepragmatist They are called HOBO SEXUAL.You just can't make the that up. Smh
If he is serious about you, he can marry you. Period.
Can we talk about the epic Nigerian auntie, please? The shouting made me so happy, pure poetry!
@@belovedofheaven 😂😂😂 she's called BlessingCEO on tiktok
Cheers girl, this lady shouting at me is all therapy I will ever need! ❤
I love auntie!😂 “opening your legs like a chicken”🤣
only live with ur husband in his home never yours u will regret it
The moment we started putting my stuff in his house he started getting real controlling... didn't last 48 hours. I RAN tf up on outta there. I'll take my own space for 100 please 😅
This is often the case when it comes to men. They will start controlling you.
I did it twice and will NEVER EVER do it again. IF I get married and that's a big if... I still want my own place. 😂
I tried to get my husband to agree to this. I did not want to live with him, but in the end, we moved in after we were married 1 month. I think if we would have did it my way, we would still be married.
😂😂same
I personally think that if a man wants a woman so much, he can build a house and give it to her
That way when he is abusive, she can just leave
Never let a bum move in with you...he will beat you cheat on you steal from you...
He is the lesser creature therefore insecure n awful 😖 don't ever do it.
African auntie in the blue jacket...no lies told, and only facts!
@@noirnrougenuit9188 she's called BlessingCEO
Deciding to dust with a leaf blower while your woman is studying is wild. I was with a man for 8 years and he did weird shit like this all the time and pranks. It was very annoying and it’s weird behavior. I think it’s a red flag. 🚩
Would he put up with it if the roles were reversed, and he was studying?
It makes me feel like what he is doing is sabotaging her.
Yes she is laughing for now😂.....welllll there's more to come 😂😂
Ladies, to think twice and please try to find out as much as possible about a potensial hubby before you move in with him! You moving into his place or him moving into your place really isn't that important. There are lots of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hides out there. Most men will not show you their true side in years. You have to know them for years..... and still they could change and start manipulating you, abuse and what ever.
Don’t move in with a man or have him move him with you u move in together when your married that’s it that’s all… moved in with a man in my 20’s it’s a nightmare don’t do it
Right, but didn’t that save you from marrying him? Could you imagine if y’all married first and then you found out how he truly was after?
Definitely saved me from even wanting be be with him or marry him but I could’ve lived fine without experiencing that.. the only way I would live with a man is marriage and we get a place together that’s it
No. Each party needs to keep their individual space. Periodt!!!!
I’m not sure why the conversation is shacking up versus marriage. Although I agree the man should provide the living space and the money I don’t condone shacking up period
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I don't believe in shacking up...I tried to get my husband to keep his home and I keep mine, we moved in together a month after we were married.
My husband suggested we live together before we got married. 1980 I said no way it would kill my parents who were in their 70s.
My Dad said live with a person for 2 years....with the purpose of marriage...within those 2 years you will have a good idea of who you're dealing with....
Yes. And don't sell your home. Rent it out. Never move in without a written agreement if you aren't married.
I do what's best for me in my relationship with my man. It works out fine and I'm fine with that. You have to do what's best for you.❤ And congratulations 🎉👏 on 10k.🎉❤
@@tamekadavis6641 thankyou 😘😘
i lived with a man and it nearly killed me. never again.
I personally don’t believe in living with a man who isn’t my husband ❤.
So basically no cohabitation!Get married and buy a house together!!! Got it!!!😂
I need to learn Igbo a.s.a.p!! Thank you Auntie🙏🏾
Personally i think no one should move in with anyone. And something else should be looked for…property wise
People just do what works for you. I personally don’t believe I need to be married ever but I’ve been living with my man for about 7 years and we are much happier than a lot of married people we know. Also just bc someone is married to you doesn’t mean they can’t leave you. Also why would I want to make it difficult for someone to leave me if they don’t want to be with me?
Married or not make sure you have your own place, a bulletproof prenup, a will and life insurance 👍🏾
I didn't find the leaf blower to be funny at all. He interrupted the quiet time she needed to study.
But I don’t want him living w me either I will be tired him
If you want to live together in the future, you absolutly should live together before marriage! Marriage does not change a Person. A messy person will still be a messy person, an ignorant person will still be an ignorant person. You should now before what kind of a person you marry. You do not have to give up your own appartement but you should stay with your sugnificant other for some time to see if you also work as a Team in shared rooms. However, if you do not want to move in together, you do not need a reason, then do not move together. Today it is accepted, use this modern times to live a relationship in witch both are happy. 💁♀️
This! Move into HIS place and keep enough money saved to make an exit if need be. Be smart, and vigilant-and absolutely do not get pregnant!
Ppl think marriage will change him. If he is a certain way "pre marital" --> that's how he gon be "post" marriage.
Sprinkle sprinkle up there looking like Jigsaw.
lmfaooo this made me choke
Lmao😂😂😂 I said the same thing to myself 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Okay I mean no disrespect to anyone but why would any mentally health individual purposely move in with another adult that they have no legal responsibility to. See this is how jokers get squatting rights on you. You play stupid games, you get stupid rewards 🙄.
Yep. Keep your own places
Absolutely...
American men do not have a bride price. But we need to learn more about that
He paid the bride price for sure
KARMA came to collect evilazz🪦
Thank you for this video. My honest opinion to men and women. If you move in with a boyfriend or girlfriend you will regret it. I say this because this arrangement is solely for married couples. Trust me in the end your soul will thank you.
Just like how men will takeover a women's car as if it's his, the same way he'll act like he's the man of the house when it's solely her house.
Don't move in with a man unless he has married you.
Move into a man's house so that you can pack your stuff and leave immediately. Just like what Nicki Minaj said about staying over at a man's house~
I will never move in e him. Never trusted a man that much to move in e him
I absolutely loved and needed The Nigerian Auntie 🌙💗🫧. Thank you for speaking so securely.
10,000 sub 🎉🎉🎉🎉
I'm so happy for us😘🤗🤗😊
@@mskabue 🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿
@@mskabue 🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿
It's Jack and the leaf blower for me😂😂😂😂😂wtf
I recently told another woman not to let a man move in with her.
I got comments about, "Not all men are unhoused."
🙄
*sigh*
I rather him leave my house then for me to be out in the streets
A woman should always have enough for deposit,first and last considering he is the sole or majority payer of the space he provided.
@@B_Millie Agreed
More like "Don't let him visit you"
@@RaynaArman visit him instead
Even if I am married, I want to live separately 😂
Mmm I’m gonna disagree I moved in with my ex. And it’s a no for me men are possessive and prideful she will use it being ur place over your head. Im working on purchasing a house and if I get serious with a man he can move in a pay the bills to be head of the household or we can move into a new place and I would rent my house out but. Ladies always always have your own
Rent your house and find a place together. Rental income covers your expenses while your payroll accrued interest in HYSA 👂🤞
Moving in with a man is not the problem, the problem is moving in with a wrong man for you, once he moves in and he irritates u he is not good for longterm just break up and move on
First off to God the glory I can lay in mine on my couch and lmao cus there’s no man coming over here to play house bec I value my peace and respect my place. I enjoy telling them NO way
to much time together the quicker he will get bored of you
Why are yall moving in together period? It’s never a good idea.
Which way is it- a woman shouldn't move in with a man she should have her own in case they discover things about each other that's not tolerable? And end up no longer being responsible for each other. You have to independently take care of yourself or should a woman not allow a man to move in with her because in case they break up she has to pay a little bit of money to the court so he can vacate the property.I don't understand what's the problem with that?.. no matter how well you try to get to know somebody life is funny you can end up marrying a person y'all can actually be boyfriend and girlfriend and go put a lease in a place together it don't matter overall eventually people psychology and behaviors and circumstances outside of their will causes breakups and possibly even retaliation... So you're taking a risk no matter what especially in marriage because that person now know where you live until you decide to move... In that case y'all might as well say don't marry a man because in the case of divorce and there are court orders he can still have access to you and retaliate or flex on you for the sake of humiliating you. he can still do it cuz y'all still got the house or he got to pay alimony or child support or visitations rights... Life is a catch-22
If NM and her husband do live separately it's because he's on the Megan's Law list. His address has to be public knowledge so people around him can protect their children. Their marriage isn't something that should be idealized on any level. Sick!
Well I'm not idealising their marriage. I admire how Nikki stood on business and lives separately to protect herself and her son that's all. How many famous women have we seen who live with their gangster boyfriends who may potentially bring harm to them and their kids and not care?
Yes I want to be African from now on❤❤
@@maryjaneaalston1959 welcome to the family🥳😘😂
After a year living together U will be use to the sounds the leaf blower the left over dishes the u covered food. After 6-12 months it will become normal LOL 😂
Maybe you should not move in with him he should not move in with you
Sell both houses or move out of both rentals
Get a house together or an apartment together
Get two apts in the same bldg. Close enough
😂
Nicki Minaj lives separate from her husband because he's a RSO (registered ### offender) and his address has to be made public. As a celebrity herself, she wants her address to be private, of course.
I moved a hobosexual in and he got so comfortable to where I had to put his stuff outside he told people he was not about leave while I'm living good and have everything
Did he pay your bride price? I love African women.
I don't agree with this. Do what is right with you and your partner. As long as y'all communicate and are on the same page. I personally won't move in with a man but that's just cuz I love my space and I haven't found someone on that level as me to live together.
Shacking is causing all these out of wedlock nonsense we have a 80% fatherless rate
@@helena3631not necessarily, people get pregnant without “shacking.” You don’t have to live together to get pregnant. But with the right person, “shacking” could save you from marrying a horrible partner.
@@helena3631Meh not really because the birth rate is at an all time low. Includind teenage pregnancy. Its at the lowest ever recorded.
Hey sis, caa' you make a video on Rebecca Cheptegei may her soul rest ln peace.
@@Motivated_Beauty_24 I'm working on it currently 🥳🥳 I'll upload today
More please.
No Way Sis!
(No Way Sis!!) to the world 😊💪
sis on 03:57 looks like baby lindsey lohan
Nope never .
I made this mistake
16:49 Nigeria 🇳🇬?
Yup! Igbo girl at that😂
@@jadedlulz Our sister 😅
@@FoAl-h2b shey!!!!!!!!!!! 😄
Big sister! We heard her 😂🇳🇬
What is Nigerian Auntie tiktok name ?
@@rsvp89 BlessingCEO
@@mskabue thank you
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I’m annoyed by it all.
Equality is for the workplace. In the home a husband is the head of the household. He can only do that by being your husband and having children with you in marriage. He must be the bread winner even if you make more money than him. He is the one that makes the last decision for the household, even if you gave him the idea. In your children's eyes, dad is the final say and the king of the castle. If you can't trust your husband to be the leader then you chose poorly. My husband purchased a leaf blower for the house. It works great.
My dad moved in with my mom and they still together ❤I’m 37
16:58 every word
18:21 everything she said... was giving nonsense
All black people talk about is relationships 😂. What other dialogue do yall have?
People who are not black are always watching what black people are doing. Don't yall have something else to do with yall time 😂😂😂
It’s the algorithm. If you’re getting lots of relationship videos in your feed it’s because you’re watching and probably also commenting on relationship videos. There are plenty of creators on here who upload videos on a wide range of topics. Mix up what you watch and you’ll mix up your feed.
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Relationships are all everyone talks about theirs no relationships in the black community just chaos
I can really tell you don't have any black person around you.
My wife and I joke that one day we're going to buy two separate houses on the same property so we can have our own space😂😂 we love each other and are best friends but sometimes you need some distance to remember why you love them so much 😂
Child but u went and got her the house she did not move u into her home.
At this point in my life, I feel like I will wait for marriage to live with a partner going forward. I say this after not doing so twice 🫣. It had its ups and downs but ultimately I think it’s probably going to be better for both of us in the long run. We can still spend time and see how it is being in each other’s space but we will have space too. If we want more from that, then it sounds like marriage is what we want.