68 and childfree, no regrets, NEVER regretted. Never regretted sleeping in. Never regretted having more money. Never regretted peace and quiet. Never regretted travel. Never regretted having an overgrown man child as a husband. I ALWAYS knew I never wanted kids. Even as a child, I knew childlessness was my path. I have a Masters degree, retired professional, own my own home. I come and go as I please. I answer to no one. Have lots of friends, nieces and nephews . Life is good!
Wow! I want this! May God bless this lifetime on me but i also want a healthy compatible right people and partner who's made just for me. I want to be surrounded by healthy compatible right people all my life
Same but I'm 39. I knew at 14 I didn't want kids. I've also never been married and turned down a proposal in my 20s. I love the autonomy and freedom of my life and wouldn't give it up for anything.
Same here. I am happily married to my husband, and I am 37 and have no kids, and I dont regret it. I am free to do what I want, too. When people find out you don't have kids, they look at you so strange.
Your comment described mothers from beginning of recorded time to before Roe v. Wade. I guess it's taboo for society to acknowledge the truth of your comment and I'd add marital rape that only ended in USA in 1993.
@@rosej5029 lol "to before Roe v Wade".. listen OK the Romans went through one plant that caused ab0rtions so much they made it go extinct. Women have been having ab0rtions since VERY ancient times. I even read a passage (sorry can't remember the book) on how cave women could do an ab0rtion. Natural "remedies" are STILL available.
You think ego and greed is why people want kids? You sound delusional. I wanted kids because my biological purpose is to have them and because I had a wonderful mother that loved being a mom and because I had wonderful siblings that are still my friends. I think greed and ego is why you choose not to have kids. Although your ego is probably why no man wanted to marry you. Don't act like you are unmarried by choice.
I had a deadbeat mother who dumped her kids on me while she went out whoring around with someone else's husband. I *have* raised a child, someone else's... NEVER AGAIN! After 30+ years of being taken advantage of now it's time for me to have my own life. This is not selfish, what is selfish is a mother who robs her daughter of a childhood and expects her kids to raise HER kids
Exactly. Same thing happened to me I was stuck raising my nephew and little sister. Literally forced to babysit for free. My mom and sister are hoping I have kids too but nope because I know they won't help me the way I helped them. I know that for a fact I can't even count on my dad to be there for me.
Whoa. It’s amazing how similar some of our lives are. My mother wasn’t out doing that, but she did let their abusive alcoholic father live in the house HE SAID she wasn’t going to get. I’ll spare the sob story, but I had to take care of kids that weren’t mine either. So, I feel you.
My childhood was stolen as well I had to raised myself and many traumatizing things along the way up to now.I am doing my potential child a favor by not bringing them to be surrounded by the amazing people on this earth.
I took care of everyone else's existing kids. We had a large house and there was frequently 16 kids in it. My Birth Canal would leave money around in her impulsiveness and I would hand it to my Grandfather who made sure our electric bill was paid. We were the most consistent household with utilities and food. People called me a natural mother, and just expected me to have children, but I'm retired from that at 34.
I’m 28 and decided to be childfree for multiple reasons: - don’t want to be a parent - already mentally fragile - possibility of being a single mom - love my freedom - possibility of a disabled child - love getting enough sleep - can keep going on with more reasons😂
I’ve seen my single mom struggle She doesn’t say it, but I feel it I knew when I was 20 I didn’t want children I have 2 nieces and another one (or nephew) on the way Thats good enough for me
@@fretzie01Being a single mom can be something you can’t control the father can become deceased it’s called life. Time flies kids grow very fast you people make too many excuses about not having children but it’s your choice.
I met this man @ 38 i had 1 18yr old son, he was 42, with 5 kids, 2 grown 3 young kids, he wanted me to have a kid, didn’t talk about marriage, wanted me to go right back to work. When I told him if he get me pregnant and leave me, I would leave him with the kid. He no longer wanted a kid with me. I win 🏆.
This was my go to in my 20s! I knew I didn't want kids early in life and I told the men I dated that if they get me pregnant, they will be single fathers. No problems putting on a condom then 🙂↔️
It’s not a burden to look after your loved ones, especially the people who raised you! Don’t have such a skewed mindset! Children are a blessing! It gives me a chance to see their future, through my bloodline! Ofcourse not every parent is loving, that’s why adult children never go back to visit or care for them when in need!
@@missqt48 It is a burdern when there's the expectation to be taken cared of and children aren't considered blessings to everyone either. Why do you think people who've had children, some to most don't even get visited by their children. Why? Because they're kids are too wrapped up in their own lives to care or can't ever seem to find the time to visit.
@@LHDN25 fair enough. I personally never been in such a situation to dislike my parents. Or any elders in my family! Unless they are a criminal I will always help my elder relatives. I mentioned children who don’t visit because I have one sis who’s a social worker, another is an adult nurse, also works in care homes! They witness so much sadness with the elderly. Different cultures I guess!
46 and I've got the doubled whammy childfree, single and never married and ZERO regrets....I own my own home and will never live with a man, I also have no desire to be a step mum. Do you know how much freedom, autonomy, independence and peace as a woman being childfree and single gives you. I also have the best friends, extended family and community
I experienced regret between 35-42. Would cry myself to selp at times because I didn't have a husband or kids. Then the epiphany, my life is beautiful. I have had the opportunity to experience many things in my life. At 53, I am so grateful and very blessed to have the life that I do.
Same here. When I was 25-27 years old I was pretty sad when my friends were getting married and having kids but life didn’t turn out so great after all. Some of them are divorced, struggling with kids or unhappily married. I realized how lucky I am. I have a job I love, love traveling and the experience that comes with it, I spend my money on whatever I want. I have a peaceful home and stress free. I can basically do whatever I want without any worries or anyone.
Retired Marine and proud mom of two beautiful and successful adult daughters. I CHOSE to be a parent. I loooove this movement of these young ladies CHOOSING what is best for them by rejecting motherhood. Way to go girls!!!!!!!
Childfree and single at 48. I'm still waiting for the regret because I haven't regretted it yet. My Mom is widowed 10 years, and I'm the only kid who sees her regularly. She did as society told her, and she's still alone. 🥺
That’s terrible. My mom had 8 kids and was an amazing mother. Only 3 of us treat her with respect. She begged me to have a child and I told her I don’t want to sacrifice my life for children who may end up treating me like trash. She got quiet and didn’t push it again.
European women are looking at South Korean births where women decided to let it burn and loads of us are choosing the same path, I know I did! My ex employer asked me why I decided to never have children... The audacity! I turned to him and asked him if his rich children need a new generation of poor children to exploit... His face! 😳 And to shut this "conversation" down forever I told him that by choosing to not give birth to more children I took away from him not only a future generation of workers but also the future generation of consumer! Let this 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I had children in my early twenties. Their father begged for them and then left me to raise them alone. I don’t regret having children because I lucked up and had two amazing sons. Now that my youngest is 18 years old in a few days I am looking forward to the freedom❤ of living alone. I feel like I am blessed to get the opportunity of both worlds considering I am fairly young. I see these child free women as motivation because they are examples of what life can be when my last child leaves. I am grateful for these ladies. Thank you!
Your statement says a lot about how much of a prisoner life being a mother is. Living with a man or children, is like being a prisoner servant. Hope your sons move out, and are very successful.
@@redrock740 I wouldn't say prisoner. I definitely had to make sacrifices but not a prisoner.I was really blessed in my experience because I had good work life balance. So motherhood was pleasant for me. I know most don't have that experience for sure though. Everything I sacrificed ... I am young enough to still do so I don't feel any regret
I'm 49 and I don't regret it one bit. Childfree and happy. I look around at what married people with children are putting up with and I made the right choice. Most of these people are not happy. They are committed and obligated. Big difference.
It’s true! I’m 43 and I know too many people got married young and had kids young and many are divorced and struggling financially! The only people I know with kids that seem to do well are the ones that are wealthy! For middle class or low income people to have kids in these times will be very stressful just working constantly and struggling to survive! Also the saddest thing of all is look around you how many kids come from single parent homes and many don’t have their mothers or fathers.
Some may not be happy, not most. According to a 2023 study, only 5-14% of couples with children regret it. Same with childfree people. Some regret not having children, but most don't regret it.
I’m 55, single, never married, & no children. I’m at peace. I worked for a long time in U.S healthcare in very stressful situations. I saw what families go through. I knew it wasn’t for me. Working FT & having a family is like 2 full time jobs. I never wanted to cater to someone’s needs at home after taking care of people at work all day. I do think there are some good relationships out there but they are relatively rare. Things are not right in the U.S. I never wanted to raise a family in a transactional environment. I’ve adopted 3 cats who needed a home at 3 different points in my life. I loved all 3 of my cats very much. Thanks for the video.
Excellent analysis. I had a son very young at 18 and raised him as a single mom. He’s not 31. As I approach 50, i can tell you knowing what I know about raising a child that I would NOT have a child in today’s world. Even raising my son as cell phone and the internet became the norm was not easy. You add the horrific capitalist-minded, transactional, greedy, materialistic, people are expendable, social programs are handouts mentality of the U.S., where we don’t even have day care support, and it’s really not a good idea. Not to mention, men can skip town and you’re left raising a child on your own, it costs $300k+ to raise kids now and you have school shootings etc etc. No, no, no.
@@Becky_Cal Thanks for your comment. Yes...The stakes are definitely high today and I don't think most people realize how high until they have a child. Congrats on raising your son!
@@thepragmatistyou’re right about things not right in the u.s , corporate corruption and government deter people from visualizing their future with kids and having a secure future 😢
Not to mention, I can not imagine sending my kids to public school in America. Id be sick to my stomach everyday hoping they dont get shot! I dont want to home school
I work at a school and I wouldn’t recommend it all. I’ve told people if I were to end up having a kid I would home school them or send them to a independent school.
Out of topic but now I'm not afraid of 40s. All this women look amazing. I'm in my 20's. So many things change. My parents dont pressure me to have kids unlike some miserable aunties. But nope. I'll live for myself thank you.
People hate childfree Women because they see it as humbling, breaking, and compartmentalizing us into a "used up" box and we refused and they're bitter about it.
People who hate child free people just don't understand why people don't want children. They can't grasp the concept that some women just don't have a motherly instinct to want children. I find the same hateful reactions with some child free women towards women who want children. People hate what they don't understand.
@@Steph-yz4tn No. Because child free women do not regret not having children. but we know many jealous women who did have children and regret it. a lot of them are jealous so she was right when she said what she said.
I'm 24 and I decided to be childfree two years ago. Back in 2022 I went on my first ever international trip completely solo, no tour guide, no group. Just me, myself and I, 90 days around the Middle East/North Africa + two European countries I used as a "bridge" to get there with less money. Egypt is the place that changed me. I met such amazing women in the hostel I was staying in, women in their late 20s, mid-30s, early 40s. I was fascinated by the life of adventure, discovery and excitement that they had. Some of them dream of being mothers one day, but the majority has chosen to be childfree and decenter romantic relationships. And that was how a young woman of 22, raised in a religious cult, taught that her value was nothing but to bring children into the world and submit to an ab*sive relationship decided to break free from all these expectations. I already have nephews and nieces, some are already grown adults, some are teenagers and one is still a kid. I'm working towards my own independence so that I can live a full, healthy and happy life and pamper the people I love.
Wow! What a trip. Im 42 and have done quite a bit of travel but only one solo adventure. I regret not doing more extended travel when I was younger. Those memories you will cherish forever. Travel and exploring other cultures and places is a great education and it’s so fun doing it when young and fancy free
Good for you! You ar e way more evolved and self aware then most men. They all talk about their lineage as they are geniuses that they need to be brought to the World! 😂😂😂
Mid 40’s and child free and I don’t regret it!! This world is so messed up and I actually feel relieved that I didn’t bring other souls into this messed up realm! Also, never married and I definitely don’t regret that either 😂!! I have such a fulfilling life otherwise and it’s a lot less stressful of an existence. 😌
The reason I never wanted to get married hasn't changed. It was bcuz I wanted a baby-free life. Meaning, free of big babies, which is what most grown men are. When you bother with a man what you're really doing is adopting a grown child and when you have his baby he's trapping you to his babyish needs. And the point of this submissive woman stuff becomes clear when you realize what it's really for. To keep everyone babyish forever. A woman keeping herself, her man, and her children babies forever. And I knew I couldn't live like that. Psychic freedom is so important to having children bcuz a childish mind creates a slavish family.
@@LM-nn7sg Psychic is the psyche, the way our mind is set and works. So psychic freedom is a mentality of independence. Someone in psychic freedom thinks in terms of growth and expansion. So, suppose a woman in psychic freedom has a baby. In that case, she will understand that the baby is not her or the father's property and not to indoctrinate with their wants, beliefs, and views-- but to nurture that child and bring it in touch with his or her own qualities and special gifts they have to bring to the world. Whereas people in psychic bondage are childish and always think in terms of coverage, protection, and guidance. Their perception is parental, both parents are looking for parental function from each other to each other where the mother is a maid who just cooks and cleans, the father is the big kid throwing his weight around and the one cleaned up after, and no real parenting is ever done.
Let’s normalize as they say also not being child adjacent. I’m not an auntie, surrogate mom at all. I’m not a kid person. We don’t have to justify our child free choice by saying oh I’m an auntie, pre school teacher or whatever. Happily child free with NO kids in my life 😀Also I don’t let men tell me about having childfree regrets. For obvious reasons.
I agree. I do think kids are adorable especially babies😊But I'm not a kid person. After a while the noise and constant go go go gets on my nerves. It's always been this way for me.
I wanted my son. I raised him myself and never expected anyone to help me. I clap LOUDLY for all the women who make their own decisions and walk in them with pride, joy and happiness! WOOT WOOT! Let's have coffee!
After having one son I knew that I didn’t want more, because your life is no longer yours. 🤦🏾♀️I am so glad he’s older now and I can finally sleep in.
I’m 49, child free, own my home and business. Never have I regretted this. I took 3 trips to key west this year. I love my life. Oh yeah, I’m married and totally in love. No kids, all set, we’re chillin.
This right here ❤❤❤❤, I’m a 50 year old man , never married , no children , all I need now is a nice woman to be only mine to Round things out. We don’t even have to live together if that’s her choice.
Why do childfree women always think they have to emphasize how much they like children? “Oh, I'm childfree, but I LOOOVE children, I think children are great, but they're just not for me.” I don't like children and I openly admit it. Babies are cute, but children? Nope.
You know how some people don't trust people who don't like dogs? They feel the same way about women (not men) who don't like kids. 😢 we don't have to reveal all our thoughts to people.
I don’t like most kids either. Especially now in America when people don’t have any control over their kids and yet insist on bringing them out in public, where they run in front of cars, break stuff, streak and cry and trigger others
One of the things that scared me off the most of having children was the large possibility of becoming a solo mother. Or, even if married, that the load of raising the child would be all on my back. Seriously, a child is too much responsibility and work for one person alone, and men these days, we simply can't count that much on them.
45 and child free. I did initially want to become a mother, or more specifically have a family with a husband. But then I went through a divorce at 32….met one after another not so great men while dating and experiencing shorter relationships. Now that I am 45, I am Soooo glad I didn’t have a kid with my ex husband (can’t imagine having to co-parent across country) and I’m definitely very glad i didn’t just have a kid to fulfill that motherhood itch. Too much work, too much grief…I’d be broke all the time, my time and home would not be my own. Nope. Really happy to be solo.
Late 30's never wanted them, loving life, country hop with multiple visas, no wrinkles, look 15 yrs younger and don't GAF who has an issue with it. My life is for ME.
Heck no. So glad I chose being childfree. I'm 51 my next trip will be to Tibet. To all who have kids I'm happy for you. Everyone shouod be free to choose. For me being childfree relieved me of all pressure to get married. Yeah, I'm goid.
A better question would be who can afford to bring a child into this world and raise them during the inflation? I'm almost 30 with no children and I'm very glad I made that decision.
I'm 61, ever married, never had children, no regrets. I knew by the age of 12 that children were not for me. My mother had seven children and seeing the damage to her body horrified me. She had a prolapsed uterus (literally her uterus trying to come out though her vagina), hemorrhoids, varicose veins, chronic bladder infections (because of pelvic floor damage) and chronic lower back pain because her abdominal muscles were over stretched and unable to provide proper support. She had a radical hysterectomy at 54 (removal of uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries) and suffered from osteoporosis until her death at 88. I never wanted to experience that.
Oh wow the poor racist lack of proper healthcare probably contributed and adverse reactions with your mum really scared you out of it. So do you think if you did not see all these problems with Mum, you would feel the same way about having children?
I don't want to have kids because i was given the caretaker role of my elderly parents . My dad got ill (stroke) when I was 17 years old. My older sister (she's 10 years older then me), don't care. Even then, My mom and I took care of her baby daughter: rasing her. Then they both left and did'nt look behind. The work of taking care of my parents is now mine. So no. I'm 40 years now. I don't want to have kids: more work, more responsability, more stress. I didn't got time to party, to travel. I was always taking care of them. You see: I love them. But is hard. Very very hard. So: noooo. Kids is not for me. It's another prison with a different name, because in my country the women do all the work in that regard, not the men.
I'm going through the same thing I'm 41 taking care of both of my elderly parents 😪 I understand everything you're saying. Some days are hard and some days are rewarding but sometimes I feel the time is going by so fast and won't have time to do what I would want to do like travel. Caretaking is a difficult task, especially when all my siblings live out of town. No kids for me don't have it in me.
I am 40 and my adult daughter moved out last week. I feel I have the best of both worlds! Also fully respect women who choose not to have children. I love that more and more women are doing what is best for THEM.
Idk if it’s a weird take but I’ve always struggled with what I want in life and bouts of depression. I think I’m just a person who’s always gonna be moderately miserable and somewhat childish, but I think having kids and having to manage someone else would make me and any hypothetical kids more miserable. Im “happiest” on my own and managing myself.
I just turned 40 this year. I'm unmarried, and childfree. I'm happier than I was in my 20's. Being married was an up in the air thing for me. If I happened it happened. It still can happen. If it doesn't. It's not the end of the world. I never wanted kids. Giving birth can be traumatic. Something men will never understand or go through. I feel It would of been like that for me besides having medical issues. I don't want to pass down to my kid. I have 5 beautiful nieces and nephews. I have friends and family. I'm happy doing my own thing whether that's a hobby or reading a book.
I’m 21 & don’t want kids. I’ve seen my sister struggle & very obviously regret having kids. She’s financially fcked, stressed, no time for herself, no freedom. From the age of 6, I said I never wanted kids, I don’t want to be at the beckon call of anyone, I want my money to be my money, I don’t want to to wake up at 6 to drop off a little kid at some unsafe establishment for 8+ hours, I don’t want to be up at 3 am looking after a sick person when I’m sick too. You literally don’t have to have kids so I never understood when people said you’re being selfish by not having popping out kids that you will regret and/or can’t afford. Nothing I hate more than poor people bringing kids into the world & making them suffer.
or bringing them up in very toxic environments where they grow up and realize everything in their life is a lie, manipulation, trauma response to what they endured
agreed. I am 59 cf woman. I have lots of hobbies, plants and voluntary work so I have friends and acquaintances. Loneliness can be an issue but I am working on it and I am ok
I’m 47 and so grateful to have made it deep into perimenopause without suffering childbirth. I have a chronic pain condition that would make carrying a pregnancy and care for an infant incredibly painful. I’ve had people tell me all my life I would get to a place I’d want kids then I’d regret not having them when I can. I tell them all if I ever get to such a place there are plenty of children living already who need a loving home and if I ever want a kid I will adopt or foster. But I have not reached a place yet where I do want kids and I doubt I ever will. I have dogs and that makes me happy.
Let’s also normalize deciding to have ONE child. Because the pressure to have multiples is super annoying 😂 they need a sibling, who’s going to play with them, blah blah blah. So glad that once my little one is an adult, that’s it, I don’t have 1-2 other kids I have to wait to grow up.
I’m approaching 5 years from 40 (I am married), and I don’t have kids. I am not sad about that. I am actually loving that I get to focus on myself and purchase things I want. Get up when I want and so on because the first 27 years of my life was about everyone else. Raising my younger siblings and dealing with my mother’s nonsense. Folks just don’t know what lead to no children.
I love living vicariously through my child free friends. Don’t get me wrong, I love my kiddos, love being a mom, but there are doors that I closed for myself when I had kids. My child free kids have time and money for more hobbies, vacations, they can devote as much/little to their career as they want, they get to sleep in more. Thanks to all my friends that share their adventures with me! ❤
I'm Happy that I'm child free. I'm 65 years old also never been married. I'm also celibate for 16 years straight. I'm free from a lot problems that comes with marriage and kids.
You can still adopt / change your mind You can not change your mind when the kid is there simple so the pressure people put on women is just a societal tool to make ALL WOMEN COMPLY AND SUBMIT
I have been with my husband for 20 years and no kids. A lot of people hate the fact that we are happy. Rude comments happen, but they are unhappy. Let them be unhappy and walk away from that toxicity.
It’s honestly refreshing to hear child free women who are confident and happy in their choice and knew it wasn’t right for them. Not just people with mental issues who hate random children, but people who are neutral and just know it’s not on their lifestyle
This is beautiful, it’s also another great way to show the sisters who struggle with infertility to accept that it’s fine to not have children. Be safe out there beauties 💕💕
I have always been on the fence about having a child, but the older I get, the less I want children and realize it was just societal pressure. If I wanted children I think I would have had them alreaady. So far I am absolutely relieved I don't have kids.
WHY do you not wanna have kids ? As if there aren’t obviously many reasons starting with, the birth process can be life threatening and ending with, most people don’t have the money to give their kids and themselves the lives they both deserve simultaneously because capitalism ensures everyone lives under their means so those at the top may REAP the difference.
To the maker of this video; you are amazing 👏 🤩 I loved the video from the beginning to it's end! It is truly inspiring and realistic. I'm childfree myself..I couldn't be happier tbh 😅. Thank you, thank you for sharing the views that I didn't know I share with so many other ladies. Also, please keep making this type of refreshing content 🙏 ✨️. Love, light and laughter to you.
I have no regrets. I'm 44 with no children, I got asked if I'm a Lesbian by a man. My mother told me I'll regret it, the older I get, the more I realise I don't want any.
I'm 65 and I knew when I was very young that I never wanted to have kids. No regrets. I'm a happy "childless cat lady". The system wants people to procreate for worker bees to big corporations and to be lifelong tax payers. In the words of comedian Bill Mahar "I was barren when being barren wasn't cool".
42 no regrets & not looking for a spouse either. I don't want someone up under me & I don't really want to consider someone else in what I eat all the time or what I watch or how I sleep. I also have a vow of chastity.. I can be quite monastic. If I want to pray for an hour straight then I will. If I want to meditate at random hours I will. I'm on disability, because I have seizures & other health issues, so I don't have a job. I can keep things as random as I like & I don't really like schedules. NO ONE in my family bothers me about having kids now, but when I was in my early 20s w/o insurance & w/o seizure meds they bothered me & told me I would change my mind. Honestly, I don't want to deal w/the EVERYDAYNESS of taking care of a young human. I don't want to change diapers everyday. I don't want to do a school run everyday. I don't want to deal with the teenage years. I love kids in small doses, but I just DON'T want to live with one.
Thank you for showing women 40+ who did not have kids. I am also in that group of women and am so grateful to be child-free. I struggle enough just caring for myself and the thought of having to take care of kids would send my anxiety through the roof. I actually love kids but have no desire to be a parent. Also, I witnessed my married mom and dad struggle my entire childhood to raise my brother and I. They were constantly stressed, overwhelmed, busy, miserable and annoyed with each other and us, their kids. I grew up thinking that marriage and kids is a great way to ruin your life and wanted none of that. I never understood why my friends couldn't wait to get married and have kids since it seemed so awful. I assumed their parents must have actually been happy though. Not all parents love being a parent, many are miserable. My sibling recently told me that he regrets getting married and having kids and should have stayed single and child-free.
37 and child free nobody asked me why because they secretly wish they were as well. I did so much research I read almost every single thread online about what it’s like to have kids. I spoke to a few different mothers, and then I realize some of my single mother friend, and even married friends with only one kid never even told me to have a child because they were so miserable, they couldn’t try to convince me.
I just turned 37 and no ill never regret it. I love my life. I have time for my hobbies, my friends and I just enjoy existing. It's so much fun. I don't regret a single moment.
I once tested a guy to see how he would react if I was pregnant, told him I was late, when I mean he switch up, he became a whole other person and literally said it’s nots not his . Who’s the daddy … I was like wtf … and than one guy asked me if I would have his baby and literally broke up with months later …. The way guys move now it’s a major risk and you’ll probably end up a single mother … so I figure …. I’d never have kids cause it’s the same energy with these low life guys …. I rather die alone than struggle … fuk that ….
As a mother of 2 (25yo & 14yo), although I love MY OWN kids, I don't like kids as a whole💯🤷🏽. So, I TOTALLY understand why women don't have them. And I tell my daughter all the time don't feel like you HAVE to have kids. I won't be mad in any capacity. Lol. Live your life and if you happen to never have a baby, it's perfectly fine. You'll still be a fabulous woman. ☺️🥰
I’m a mama of 5, although they are now young independent adults and out of the house and I’m 49, still fit and it’s a different feeling just having just me to look after. I have a few girlfriends with no kids and I’m happy for them, I adore them, they’ve travelled lots and been care free, whereas I haven’t travelled a lot, and haven’t always been able to do whatever I want, but hey it is what it is. I’ve always worked hard though so I have a good career. One piece of advice an older lady gave me when I was young, she said “don’t give up your career because a man says you don’t need to work” and LUCKY, I didn’t. 😮 I am legit going to retire in 11 years and then it’s game on 😂😂 freedom!! 😂😂😂 anyway; it’s up to the woman if she wants kids or not. Let’s just be happy for each other and lift each other up 💖🙏🌷🌸💐
This world doesn't need more people at this time. Mother is a state of being, a state of love and care for who is already here. It's a beautiful place to arrive.
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68 and childfree, no regrets, NEVER regretted. Never regretted sleeping in. Never regretted having more money. Never regretted peace and quiet. Never regretted travel. Never regretted having an overgrown man child as a husband. I ALWAYS knew I never wanted kids. Even as a child, I knew childlessness was my path. I have a Masters degree, retired professional, own my own home. I come and go as I please. I answer to no one. Have lots of friends, nieces and nephews . Life is good!
Wow! I want this! May God bless this lifetime on me but i also want a healthy compatible right people and partner who's made just for me. I want to be surrounded by healthy compatible right people all my life
Same but I'm 39. I knew at 14 I didn't want kids. I've also never been married and turned down a proposal in my 20s. I love the autonomy and freedom of my life and wouldn't give it up for anything.
Sounds very familiar. ❤
Same here. I am happily married to my husband, and I am 37 and have no kids, and I dont regret it. I am free to do what I want, too. When people find out you don't have kids, they look at you so strange.
Love life?
Next question: Does a man regret abandoning his family?
I think this would be a good video topic 🤔
They come back... when they need a place to live or the need a kidney
@@Katsuki_Bakkugo1 exactly
😂😂true @@Katsuki_Bakkugo1
@@Katsuki_Bakkugo1😂😂😂
It seems to me that being childfree is the best anti-aging skincare regimen because WOW do these ladies look fantastic.
Yes they all looked 10/20 years younger. The 48 years old one looked 36.... ☠️☠️☠️
I’m 37 and people always think I’m younger than 27. Even my own family says it’s the benefit of not having kids. lol
i was looking for this comment bc i was like "are you sure you're over 40? drop your routine now!"
Some people have kids because they thought it was never an option not to. It was just the next step
Agree. It's like it's an automatic.
I blame this patriarchal society for that😏
Your comment described mothers from beginning of recorded time to before Roe v. Wade. I guess it's taboo for society to acknowledge the truth of your comment and I'd add marital rape that only ended in USA in 1993.
very true!
@@rosej5029 lol "to before Roe v Wade".. listen OK the Romans went through one plant that caused ab0rtions so much they made it go extinct. Women have been having ab0rtions since VERY ancient times. I even read a passage (sorry can't remember the book) on how cave women could do an ab0rtion. Natural "remedies" are STILL available.
I’ve realized that I’m happy being unmarried/childfree , it’s just ego and greed that makes us want to fit in the society standards
You think ego and greed is why people want kids? You sound delusional. I wanted kids because my biological purpose is to have them and because I had a wonderful mother that loved being a mom and because I had wonderful siblings that are still my friends. I think greed and ego is why you choose not to have kids. Although your ego is probably why no man wanted to marry you. Don't act like you are unmarried by choice.
Exactly. None of us would even care about this crap if it wasn’t force fed to us
I know that is right 😆
How do you handle feelings of loneliness if you ever experience them?
@@INFJ_9 there’s siblings cousins nieces nephews friends
I had a deadbeat mother who dumped her kids on me while she went out whoring around with someone else's husband. I *have* raised a child, someone else's... NEVER AGAIN! After 30+ years of being taken advantage of now it's time for me to have my own life. This is not selfish, what is selfish is a mother who robs her daughter of a childhood and expects her kids to raise HER kids
Exactly. Same thing happened to me I was stuck raising my nephew and little sister. Literally forced to babysit for free. My mom and sister are hoping I have kids too but nope because I know they won't help me the way I helped them. I know that for a fact I can't even count on my dad to be there for me.
Whoa. It’s amazing how similar some of our lives are. My mother wasn’t out doing that, but she did let their abusive alcoholic father live in the house HE SAID she wasn’t going to get. I’ll spare the sob story, but I had to take care of kids that weren’t mine either. So, I feel you.
My childhood was stolen as well I had to raised myself and many traumatizing things along the way up to now.I am doing my potential child a favor by not bringing them to be surrounded by the amazing people on this earth.
I took care of everyone else's existing kids. We had a large house and there was frequently 16 kids in it. My Birth Canal would leave money around in her impulsiveness and I would hand it to my Grandfather who made sure our electric bill was paid. We were the most consistent household with utilities and food. People called me a natural mother, and just expected me to have children, but I'm retired from that at 34.
All the best to you, you are not selfish don't let other people tell you that.
I’m 28 and decided to be childfree for multiple reasons:
- don’t want to be a parent
- already mentally fragile
- possibility of being a single mom
- love my freedom
- possibility of a disabled child
- love getting enough sleep
- can keep going on with more reasons😂
So proud of you. You are obviously empathetic and wise beyond your years.
Have you ever thought of becoming g a parent before ?
I totally get you I feel the same 33 & loving my childfree life especially sleeping in!
I’ve seen my single mom struggle
She doesn’t say it, but I feel it
I knew when I was 20 I didn’t want children
I have 2 nieces and another one (or nephew) on the way
Thats good enough for me
@@fretzie01Being a single mom can be something you can’t control the father can become deceased it’s called life. Time flies kids grow very fast you people make too many excuses about not having children but it’s your choice.
I met this man @ 38 i had 1 18yr old son, he was 42, with 5 kids, 2 grown 3 young kids, he wanted me to have a kid, didn’t talk about marriage, wanted me to go right back to work. When I told him if he get me pregnant and leave me, I would leave him with the kid. He no longer wanted a kid with me. I win 🏆.
I have a child and told my partner the same thing and still stand by it!
This was my go to in my 20s! I knew I didn't want kids early in life and I told the men I dated that if they get me pregnant, they will be single fathers. No problems putting on a condom then 🙂↔️
@@poohfan2011 😂
@@poohfan2011Got ‘em! 😂😂😂😂
Ha!
They say it's selfish not to have kids . While they have kids just to take care of them when they're older like as if they're in debt to you
This!!! Yep, their hypocrisy is ridiculous!!
Yup or to have “mini mes” to show off on social media 🤢
It’s not a burden to look after your loved ones, especially the people who raised you! Don’t have such a skewed mindset! Children are a blessing! It gives me a chance to see their future, through my bloodline!
Ofcourse not every parent is loving, that’s why adult children never go back to visit or care for them when in need!
@@missqt48 It is a burdern when there's the expectation to be taken cared of and children aren't considered blessings to everyone either. Why do you think people who've had children, some to most don't even get visited by their children. Why? Because they're kids are too wrapped up in their own lives to care or can't ever seem to find the time to visit.
@@LHDN25 fair enough. I personally never been in such a situation to dislike my parents. Or any elders in my family! Unless they are a criminal I will always help my elder relatives. I mentioned children who don’t visit because I have one sis who’s a social worker, another is an adult nurse, also works in care homes! They witness so much sadness with the elderly. Different cultures I guess!
46 and I've got the doubled whammy childfree, single and never married and ZERO regrets....I own my own home and will never live with a man, I also have no desire to be a step mum. Do you know how much freedom, autonomy, independence and peace as a woman being childfree and single gives you. I also have the best friends, extended family and community
Same. I lived once with a men. Worst period of my life. Never again.
@@teoleno4019Same. I let a man live with me and I hated it so much.
Worst mistake one could ever make
Same same same ❤❤❤ except I made the mistake getting married twice 😅
One thing I noticed is how young middle aged women who haven't had kids look😮
I experienced regret between 35-42. Would cry myself to selp at times because I didn't have a husband or kids. Then the epiphany, my life is beautiful. I have had the opportunity to experience many things in my life. At 53, I am so grateful and very blessed to have the life that I do.
Love that for you 💕
Good for you!!!
Same here. When I was 25-27 years old I was pretty sad when my friends were getting married and having kids but life didn’t turn out so great after all. Some of them are divorced, struggling with kids or unhappily married. I realized how lucky I am. I have a job I love, love traveling and the experience that comes with it, I spend my money on whatever I want. I have a peaceful home and stress free. I can basically do whatever I want without any worries or anyone.
Retired Marine and proud mom of two beautiful and successful adult daughters. I CHOSE to be a parent. I loooove this movement of these young ladies CHOOSING what is best for them by rejecting motherhood. Way to go girls!!!!!!!
That's what choice is all about 🎉
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Childfree and single at 48. I'm still waiting for the regret because I haven't regretted it yet. My Mom is widowed 10 years, and I'm the only kid who sees her regularly. She did as society told her, and she's still alone. 🥺
That’s terrible. My mom had 8 kids and was an amazing mother. Only 3 of us treat her with respect. She begged me to have a child and I told her I don’t want to sacrifice my life for children who may end up treating me like trash. She got quiet and didn’t push it again.
61, childfree, not married, no regrets. Dumped my 43 year old boyfriend 5 months ago with the words "you've disturbed my peace for the last time".
Wow that's very powerful 🫣 I'm taking those words with me
And boom 🤣🤣🤣
@@TheMichelex20 😄
If that’s you in your profile picture, you are so beautiful! 😮
If you're dating a man that young you are not child free hun. Additionally, there's something wrong.. respectfully.
European women are looking at South Korean births where women decided to let it burn and loads of us are choosing the same path, I know I did!
My ex employer asked me why I decided to never have children... The audacity! I turned to him and asked him if his rich children need a new generation of poor children to exploit... His face! 😳 And to shut this "conversation" down forever I told him that by choosing to not give birth to more children I took away from him not only a future generation of workers but also the future generation of consumer! Let this 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
@@MickeyDeymon at some point we have to learn to be happy with the greatest villains of all times status! 😂
That’s exactly what it is. It’s good you said that to him. Next fine he can stfu
Yes South Korea women are the smartest they have to be by reducing the population …👏🏼👏🏼
@@marilenaganea6578 Yes let’s end the abuse and exploitation!!!
@@marilenaganea6578 Nature made women wisely the givers of life lets punish society same way they treat us. 2025🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I had children in my early twenties. Their father begged for them and then left me to raise them alone. I don’t regret having children because I lucked up and had two amazing sons. Now that my youngest is 18 years old in a few days I am looking forward to the freedom❤ of living alone. I feel like I am blessed to get the opportunity of both worlds considering I am fairly young. I see these child free women as motivation because they are examples of what life can be when my last child leaves. I am grateful for these ladies. Thank you!
24 no kids
Your statement says a lot about how much of a prisoner life being a mother is. Living with a man or children, is like being a prisoner servant. Hope your sons move out, and are very successful.
@@redrock740 I wouldn't say prisoner. I definitely had to make sacrifices but not a prisoner.I was really blessed in my experience because I had good work life balance. So motherhood was pleasant for me. I know most don't have that experience for sure though. Everything I sacrificed ... I am young enough to still do so I don't feel any regret
@@Bodytheliz I would had the same children later in life. At least 30 or35 if I could go back
Kicking your kid out the moment they turn 18 is gross & leaves them open to predators. I'm NOT going to applaud you here. At all.
I'm 49 and I don't regret it one bit. Childfree and happy. I look around at what married people with children are putting up with and I made the right choice. Most of these people are not happy. They are committed and obligated. Big difference.
FACTS!!! agreed 💯
It’s true! I’m 43 and I know too many people got married young and had kids young and many are divorced and struggling financially! The only people I know with kids that seem to do well are the ones that are wealthy! For middle class or low income people to have kids in these times will be very stressful just working constantly and struggling to survive! Also the saddest thing of all is look around you how many kids come from single parent homes and many don’t have their mothers or fathers.
Some may not be happy, not most.
According to a 2023 study, only 5-14% of couples with children regret it.
Same with childfree people. Some regret not having children, but most don't regret it.
I’m 55, single, never married, & no children. I’m at peace. I worked for a long time in U.S healthcare in very stressful situations. I saw what families go through. I knew it wasn’t for me. Working FT & having a family is like 2 full time jobs. I never wanted to cater to someone’s needs at home after taking care of people at work all day. I do think there are some good relationships out there but they are relatively rare. Things are not right in the U.S. I never wanted to raise a family in a transactional environment. I’ve adopted 3 cats who needed a home at 3 different points in my life. I loved all 3 of my cats very much. Thanks for the video.
I agree. The way the US treats families, specifically mothers, is terrible. No paid parental leave, lack of proper health care. I’ll pass.
Excellent analysis. I had a son very young at 18 and raised him as a single mom. He’s not 31. As I approach 50, i can tell you knowing what I know about raising a child that I would NOT have a child in today’s world. Even raising my son as cell phone and the internet became the norm was not easy. You add the horrific capitalist-minded, transactional, greedy, materialistic, people are expendable, social programs are handouts mentality of the U.S., where we don’t even have day care support, and it’s really not a good idea. Not to mention, men can skip town and you’re left raising a child on your own, it costs $300k+ to raise kids now and you have school shootings etc etc. No, no, no.
@@Becky_Cal Thanks for your comment. Yes...The stakes are definitely high today and I don't think most people realize how high until they have a child. Congrats on raising your son!
@@thepragmatistyou’re right about things not right in the u.s , corporate corruption and government deter people from visualizing their future with kids and having a secure future 😢
@@Lucylicious79 Completely agree. I'm not sure there is such a thing as a "secure future".
Not to mention, I can not imagine sending my kids to public school in America. Id be sick to my stomach everyday hoping they dont get shot! I dont want to home school
I work at a school and I wouldn’t recommend it all. I’ve told people if I were to end up having a kid I would home school them or send them to a independent school.
53. Single. Child free. Happy and loving life. Grateful for the choice.
Out of topic but now I'm not afraid of 40s. All this women look amazing.
I'm in my 20's. So many things change. My parents dont pressure me to have kids unlike some miserable aunties.
But nope. I'll live for myself thank you.
I live for myself too
Being single and worry free will keep you young and beautiful ❤
these women look amazing due to cosmetics. wipe that ish off the face and what have you got..a woman in her 40's who looks her age.
@@lindaostrom570 but look at the parents. They can't afford cosmetics. There is nothing to wipe off their face. They look older
@@lindaostrom570Good enough for Movie Stars, good enough for. However you get there, we all know from your jealous comment you ain't there
Life is a different path for everyone. It's not a competition because everyone has different question papers and different answers
43 and happily childfree 😁but people still ask me if I'm sure I don't want kids. Yes, I'm sure. I don't want children.
Me too! 43 and no kids and no regrets!
People hate childfree Women because they see it as humbling, breaking, and compartmentalizing us into a "used up" box and we refused and they're bitter about it.
People who hate child free people just don't understand why people don't want children. They can't grasp the concept that some women just don't have a motherly instinct to want children.
I find the same hateful reactions with some child free women towards women who want children.
People hate what they don't understand.
It can also be about jealousy. Chances are, if they had to do it over again they wouldn’t have had kids themselves!
@cherylT321 statically, you are incorrect. Regret having children is almost the same as those who regret not having children.
@@Steph-yz4tn No. Because child free women do not regret not having children. but we know many jealous women who did have children and regret it. a lot of them are jealous so she was right when she said what she said.
Just turned 40, and I donot regret being staunchly childfree!
Same same❣️🌻
I'm 24 and I decided to be childfree two years ago. Back in 2022 I went on my first ever international trip completely solo, no tour guide, no group. Just me, myself and I, 90 days around the Middle East/North Africa + two European countries I used as a "bridge" to get there with less money. Egypt is the place that changed me.
I met such amazing women in the hostel I was staying in, women in their late 20s, mid-30s, early 40s. I was fascinated by the life of adventure, discovery and excitement that they had. Some of them dream of being mothers one day, but the majority has chosen to be childfree and decenter romantic relationships.
And that was how a young woman of 22, raised in a religious cult, taught that her value was nothing but to bring children into the world and submit to an ab*sive relationship decided to break free from all these expectations.
I already have nephews and nieces, some are already grown adults, some are teenagers and one is still a kid. I'm working towards my own independence so that I can live a full, healthy and happy life and pamper the people I love.
Wow! What a trip. Im 42 and have done quite a bit of travel but only one solo adventure. I regret not doing more extended travel when I was younger. Those memories you will cherish forever. Travel and exploring other cultures and places is a great education and it’s so fun doing it when young and fancy free
50 year old man here guys … no children, never married …. And I don’t feel no bad way about it either … I’m here for all of this … just do you ladies.
Good for you! You ar e way more evolved and self aware then most men. They all talk about their lineage as they are geniuses that they need to be brought to the World! 😂😂😂
I'm loving this💪
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Thank you. It's wild how many people try to make us feel badly. What you choose for your life is absolutely no one else 's business. 😊
@@susannairisastarte5192”AT ALL”
Mid 40’s and child free and I don’t regret it!! This world is so messed up and I actually feel relieved that I didn’t bring other souls into this messed up realm! Also, never married and I definitely don’t regret that either 😂!! I have such a fulfilling life otherwise and it’s a lot less stressful of an existence. 😌
Facts, this world is a Cesspit Hellish Zoo ✅
Homegirl said PROTECT YOUR WOMB. Period. I'm 29 and feeling myself approaching this mindset of choosing now to bear children.
Exactly. I have the implant but am celibate.
The reason I never wanted to get married hasn't changed. It was bcuz I wanted a baby-free life. Meaning, free of big babies, which is what most grown men are. When you bother with a man what you're really doing is adopting a grown child and when you have his baby he's trapping you to his babyish needs.
And the point of this submissive woman stuff becomes clear when you realize what it's really for. To keep everyone babyish forever. A woman keeping herself, her man, and her children babies forever. And I knew I couldn't live like that. Psychic freedom is so important to having children bcuz a childish mind creates a slavish family.
Yep couldn’t agree more with what you said
I agree. I'll not regret choosing me. I choose me and love me a lifetime
This is a really good insight.
What is psychic freedom? I am interested to learn more. I liked your points
@@LM-nn7sg Psychic is the psyche, the way our mind is set and works. So psychic freedom is a mentality of independence. Someone in psychic freedom thinks in terms of growth and expansion.
So, suppose a woman in psychic freedom has a baby. In that case, she will understand that the baby is not her or the father's property and not to indoctrinate with their wants, beliefs, and views-- but to nurture that child and bring it in touch with his or her own qualities and special gifts they have to bring to the world.
Whereas people in psychic bondage are childish and always think in terms of coverage, protection, and guidance. Their perception is parental, both parents are looking for parental function from each other to each other where the mother is a maid who just cooks and cleans, the father is the big kid throwing his weight around and the one cleaned up after, and no real parenting is ever done.
I'm feeling more and more like being child free by choice is the biggest act of loving rebellion women can do for themselves. ❤
Let’s normalize as they say also not being child adjacent. I’m not an auntie, surrogate mom at all. I’m not a kid person. We don’t have to justify our child free choice by saying oh I’m an auntie, pre school teacher or whatever. Happily child free with NO kids in my life 😀Also I don’t let men tell me about having childfree regrets. For obvious reasons.
Right. This.
OMG THIS. I have no problem with having no kids around me. I don’t need to explain myself
I agree. I do think kids are adorable especially babies😊But I'm not a kid person. After a while the noise and constant go go go gets on my nerves. It's always been this way for me.
49 years old divorced no children and retired. Just got back from my fourth concert this year. All floor seats. Living my best life
38 and child free and unmarried no type of stress😂❤love it
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I’m 40 years old, single/unmarried and childfree all by choice as a black man. It was the best decision I have ever made and I have zero regrets.
I wanted my son. I raised him myself and never expected anyone to help me. I clap LOUDLY for all the women who make their own decisions and walk in them with pride, joy and happiness! WOOT WOOT! Let's have coffee!
After having one son I knew that I didn’t want more, because your life is no longer yours. 🤦🏾♀️I am so glad he’s older now and I can finally sleep in.
I’m 49, child free, own my home and business. Never have I regretted this. I took 3 trips to key west this year. I love my life. Oh yeah, I’m married and totally in love. No kids, all set, we’re chillin.
This right here ❤❤❤❤, I’m a 50 year old man , never married , no children , all I need now is a nice woman to be only mine to Round things out.
We don’t even have to live together if that’s her choice.
@@modalsoul6511oh you are a dreammmmmm
You’re looking young and healthy too!! Goals!!!
@@FaerieTidbits that’s right Dollface…GOALS🙌🏼💪🏼
😂😂y'all are funny I'm loving these
Why do childfree women always think they have to emphasize how much they like children? “Oh, I'm childfree, but I LOOOVE children, I think children are great, but they're just not for me.”
I don't like children and I openly admit it. Babies are cute, but children? Nope.
Because if we don't, people will assume that every single one of us is a child-hating demon. Some of us do hate kids. Some of us don't.
You know how some people don't trust people who don't like dogs? They feel the same way about women (not men) who don't like kids. 😢 we don't have to reveal all our thoughts to people.
especially since most men don’t even like their own children… we’re always being held to higher standards
I don’t like most kids either. Especially now in America when people don’t have any control over their kids and yet insist on bringing them out in public, where they run in front of cars, break stuff, streak and cry and trigger others
American kids are why I go grocery shopping and run errands at 8:30 am with the old people.
One of the things that scared me off the most of having children was the large possibility of becoming a solo mother. Or, even if married, that the load of raising the child would be all on my back. Seriously, a child is too much responsibility and work for one person alone, and men these days, we simply can't count that much on them.
38 and don't regret it yet
41 and am so so so happy I chose to have no kids!!!
45 and child free. I did initially want to become a mother, or more specifically have a family with a husband. But then I went through a divorce at 32….met one after another not so great men while dating and experiencing shorter relationships. Now that I am 45, I am Soooo glad I didn’t have a kid with my ex husband (can’t imagine having to co-parent across country) and I’m definitely very glad i didn’t just have a kid to fulfill that motherhood itch. Too much work, too much grief…I’d be broke all the time, my time and home would not be my own.
Nope. Really happy to be solo.
Late 30's never wanted them, loving life, country hop with multiple visas, no wrinkles, look 15 yrs younger and don't GAF who has an issue with it. My life is for ME.
I love that they all don't look exhausted like me. Mother of just 1. 😅
I agree 💯
I agree❤
"Make friends, they're they answer!"
"Kids aren't the end all, be all" - My Mom 😅
Some people will regret it and some won’t. Everyone is different! You just have to make peace with the choices you’ve made.
Same can be said for the other way...Some will regret having children, some won't.
Heck no. So glad I chose being childfree. I'm 51 my next trip will be to Tibet. To all who have kids I'm happy for you. Everyone shouod be free to choose.
For me being childfree relieved me of all pressure to get married. Yeah, I'm goid.
No regrets for me - 41 female
A better question would be who can afford to bring a child into this world and raise them during the inflation? I'm almost 30 with no children and I'm very glad I made that decision.
You’re spot on, there’s so much to consider before bringing kids here 🌍
Or most couples decided to stick with one child
I'm 61, ever married, never had children, no regrets.
I knew by the age of 12 that children were not for me. My mother had seven children and seeing the damage to her body horrified me. She had a prolapsed uterus (literally her uterus trying to come out though her vagina), hemorrhoids, varicose veins, chronic bladder infections (because of pelvic floor damage) and chronic lower back pain because her abdominal muscles were over stretched and unable to provide proper support. She had a radical hysterectomy at 54 (removal of uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries) and suffered from osteoporosis until her death at 88. I never wanted to experience that.
Oh wow the poor racist lack of proper healthcare probably contributed and adverse reactions with your mum really scared you out of it. So do you think if you did not see all these problems with Mum, you would feel the same way about having children?
She probably would’ve also seen the challenges of raising 7 children parenting is no joke
The second oldest of 14 .
I raised all the kids I am ever going to raise, not by choice.
At some point I would like to have had a childhood.
I don't want to have kids because i was given the caretaker role of my elderly parents . My dad got ill (stroke) when I was 17 years old. My older sister (she's 10 years older then me), don't care. Even then, My mom and I took care of her baby daughter: rasing her. Then they both left and did'nt look behind. The work of taking care of my parents is now mine. So no. I'm 40 years now. I don't want to have kids: more work, more responsability, more stress. I didn't got time to party, to travel. I was always taking care of them. You see: I love them. But is hard. Very very hard. So: noooo. Kids is not for me. It's another prison with a different name, because in my country the women do all the work in that regard, not the men.
Did your parents mistreat your older sister while she was growing up ?
I'm going through the same thing I'm 41 taking care of both of my elderly parents 😪 I understand everything you're saying. Some days are hard and some days are rewarding but sometimes I feel the time is going by so fast and won't have time to do what I would want to do like travel. Caretaking is a difficult task, especially when all my siblings live out of town. No kids for me don't have it in me.
I am 40 and my adult daughter moved out last week. I feel I have the best of both worlds! Also fully respect women who choose not to have children. I love that more and more women are doing what is best for THEM.
Idk if it’s a weird take but I’ve always struggled with what I want in life and bouts of depression. I think I’m just a person who’s always gonna be moderately miserable and somewhat childish, but I think having kids and having to manage someone else would make me and any hypothetical kids more miserable.
Im “happiest” on my own and managing myself.
This level of self awareness is good 😊
I just turned 40 this year. I'm unmarried, and childfree. I'm happier than I was in my 20's. Being married was an up in the air thing for me. If I happened it happened. It still can happen. If it doesn't. It's not the end of the world. I never wanted kids. Giving birth can be traumatic. Something men will never understand or go through. I feel It would of been like that for me besides having medical issues. I don't want to pass down to my kid. I have 5 beautiful nieces and nephews. I have friends and family. I'm happy doing my own thing whether that's a hobby or reading a book.
I’m 21 & don’t want kids. I’ve seen my sister struggle & very obviously regret having kids. She’s financially fcked, stressed, no time for herself, no freedom.
From the age of 6, I said I never wanted kids, I don’t want to be at the beckon call of anyone, I want my money to be my money, I don’t want to to wake up at 6 to drop off a little kid at some unsafe establishment for 8+ hours, I don’t want to be up at 3 am looking after a sick person when I’m sick too. You literally don’t have to have kids so I never understood when people said you’re being selfish by not having popping out kids that you will regret and/or can’t afford. Nothing I hate more than poor people bringing kids into the world & making them suffer.
or bringing them up in very toxic environments where they grow up and realize everything in their life is a lie, manipulation, trauma response to what they endured
agreed. I am 59 cf woman. I have lots of hobbies, plants and voluntary work so I have friends and acquaintances. Loneliness can be an issue but I am working on it and I am ok
Some women don't want a family and that's okay too. I have 1 and I will be 40 in two years. Your body , your choice.❤
I’m 47 and so grateful to have made it deep into perimenopause without suffering childbirth. I have a chronic pain condition that would make carrying a pregnancy and care for an infant incredibly painful.
I’ve had people tell me all my life I would get to a place I’d want kids then I’d regret not having them when I can. I tell them all if I ever get to such a place there are plenty of children living already who need a loving home and if I ever want a kid I will adopt or foster. But I have not reached a place yet where I do want kids and I doubt I ever will. I have dogs and that makes me happy.
Let’s also normalize deciding to have ONE child. Because the pressure to have multiples is super annoying 😂 they need a sibling, who’s going to play with them, blah blah blah. So glad that once my little one is an adult, that’s it, I don’t have 1-2 other kids I have to wait to grow up.
I’m approaching 5 years from 40 (I am married), and I don’t have kids. I am not sad about that. I am actually loving that I get to focus on myself and purchase things I want. Get up when I want and so on because the first 27 years of my life was about everyone else. Raising my younger siblings and dealing with my mother’s nonsense. Folks just don’t know what lead to no children.
✌️🏼 peace to you 🐝✨I have a similar story
I love living vicariously through my child free friends. Don’t get me wrong, I love my kiddos, love being a mom, but there are doors that I closed for myself when I had kids. My child free kids have time and money for more hobbies, vacations, they can devote as much/little to their career as they want, they get to sleep in more. Thanks to all my friends that share their adventures with me! ❤
when people become parents they talk to grown adults toddler talk like 'kiddos' instead of children
Not everyone meant to be a mother.
Some of the best mothers did not give birth to children!
@@noirnrougenuit9188facts ✅
I'm Happy that I'm child free. I'm 65 years old also never been married. I'm also celibate for 16 years straight. I'm free from a lot problems that comes with marriage and kids.
You can still adopt / change your mind
You can not change your mind when the kid is there
simple so the pressure people put on women is just a societal tool to make ALL WOMEN COMPLY AND SUBMIT
Unfortunately, they are willing complying and submitting...smh
I have been with my husband for 20 years and no kids. A lot of people hate the fact that we are happy. Rude comments happen, but they are unhappy. Let them be unhappy and walk away from that toxicity.
My wife and I do the same...26yrs married and we refused to bring a child here to this Cesspit Hellish Zoo✅
It’s honestly refreshing to hear child free women who are confident and happy in their choice and knew it wasn’t right for them. Not just people with mental issues who hate random children, but people who are neutral and just know it’s not on their lifestyle
7:15 "Do I want to be a parent?"
Golden 👌🏾
This is beautiful, it’s also another great way to show the sisters who struggle with infertility to accept that it’s fine to not have children. Be safe out there beauties 💕💕
I have always been on the fence about having a child, but the older I get, the less I want children and realize it was just societal pressure. If I wanted children I think I would have had them alreaady. So far I am absolutely relieved I don't have kids.
Huge pressure
I'm 62yrs married free and child free. Noooooooo regrets at all
nice
do guys treat you different?
@@NjeriSalonwho cares?
NO MATTER WHAT YOU CHOOSE STAND ON IT !!! 💯
I’d like to see more videos of people asking women if they regret becoming mothers.
Will do my research on this one
@@mskabueplease do a video on this one
@@Haterzarefans on it💃
49
No children
Never married
Still fertile
Still celibate
🎉🎉🎉
WHY do you not wanna have kids ? As if there aren’t obviously many reasons starting with, the birth process can be life threatening and ending with, most people don’t have the money to give their kids and themselves the lives they both deserve simultaneously because capitalism ensures everyone lives under their means so those at the top may REAP the difference.
Most importantly no one is asking to come here✅
I love being a mom-ntie. I get to be there for them and help them financially.❤
I am 50 years old and hell no I don't regret it. I used to for a little while, but no.
I lost it when she said just kidding 😂
To the maker of this video; you are amazing 👏 🤩
I loved the video from the beginning to it's end! It is truly inspiring and realistic. I'm childfree myself..I couldn't be happier tbh 😅.
Thank you, thank you for sharing the views that I didn't know I share with so many other ladies.
Also, please keep making this type of refreshing content 🙏 ✨️. Love, light and laughter to you.
Thank you Sis and you're so welcome I'm glad you liked it😊
Some of those women look great!
I have no regrets. I'm 44 with no children, I got asked if I'm a Lesbian by a man.
My mother told me I'll regret it, the older I get, the more I realise I don't want any.
yes, it is usually lesbian or feminist
I'm 65 and I knew when I was very young that I never wanted to have kids. No regrets. I'm a happy "childless cat lady". The system wants people to procreate for worker bees to big corporations and to be lifelong tax payers. In the words of comedian Bill Mahar "I was barren when being barren wasn't cool".
Hell to the no😆 I'm not playing about my sleep 😆 besides most adult dudes have childlike minds✌️
42 no regrets & not looking for a spouse either. I don't want someone up under me & I don't really want to consider someone else in what I eat all the time or what I watch or how I sleep. I also have a vow of chastity.. I can be quite monastic. If I want to pray for an hour straight then I will. If I want to meditate at random hours I will. I'm on disability, because I have seizures & other health issues, so I don't have a job. I can keep things as random as I like & I don't really like schedules. NO ONE in my family bothers me about having kids now, but when I was in my early 20s w/o insurance & w/o seizure meds they bothered me & told me I would change my mind. Honestly, I don't want to deal w/the EVERYDAYNESS of taking care of a young human. I don't want to change diapers everyday. I don't want to do a school run everyday. I don't want to deal with the teenage years. I love kids in small doses, but I just DON'T want to live with one.
And no I don't hate kids for simplying not wanting to look after them.
I'm 41 & STILL waiting for the impending regret :D
Maybe it'll come after my upcoming 2 vacations in Crete then Antibes, FR 🎉🎉🎉
I love it .
Erly retirement.
Peace and quiet.
Freedom.
No man baby
Minimul chores .
Thank you for showing women 40+ who did not have kids. I am also in that group of women and am so grateful to be child-free. I struggle enough just caring for myself and the thought of having to take care of kids would send my anxiety through the roof. I actually love kids but have no desire to be a parent. Also, I witnessed my married mom and dad struggle my entire childhood to raise my brother and I. They were constantly stressed, overwhelmed, busy, miserable and annoyed with each other and us, their kids. I grew up thinking that marriage and kids is a great way to ruin your life and wanted none of that. I never understood why my friends couldn't wait to get married and have kids since it seemed so awful. I assumed their parents must have actually been happy though. Not all parents love being a parent, many are miserable. My sibling recently told me that he regrets getting married and having kids and should have stayed single and child-free.
37 and child free nobody asked me why because they secretly wish they were as well. I did so much research I read almost every single thread online about what it’s like to have kids. I spoke to a few different mothers, and then I realize some of my single mother friend, and even married friends with only one kid never even told me to have a child because they were so miserable, they couldn’t try to convince me.
You collected some of the best and smartest women and videos, arguments are phenomenal. A lot of smart obeservations. Thanks !
I just turned 37 and no ill never regret it. I love my life. I have time for my hobbies, my friends and I just enjoy existing. It's so much fun. I don't regret a single moment.
Just turned 52. No kids, never married; NEVER BETTER 😉
Im 48, I have 15y son and I love it. It was not easy but I love that too...all bitter and sweet...
I have a daughter and not looking to have more kids, I’m glad I have learned my lesson at the earliest time.
I once tested a guy to see how he would react if I was pregnant, told him I was late, when I mean he switch up, he became a whole other person and literally said it’s nots not his . Who’s the daddy … I was like wtf … and than one guy asked me if I would have his baby and literally broke up with months later …. The way guys move now it’s a major risk and you’ll probably end up a single mother … so I figure …. I’d never have kids cause it’s the same energy with these low life guys …. I rather die alone than struggle … fuk that ….
As a mother of 2 (25yo & 14yo), although I love MY OWN kids, I don't like kids as a whole💯🤷🏽. So, I TOTALLY understand why women don't have them. And I tell my daughter all the time don't feel like you HAVE to have kids. I won't be mad in any capacity. Lol.
Live your life and if you happen to never have a baby, it's perfectly fine. You'll still be a fabulous woman. ☺️🥰
I’m a mama of 5, although they are now young independent adults and out of the house and I’m 49, still fit and it’s a different feeling just having just me to look after. I have a few girlfriends with no kids and I’m happy for them, I adore them, they’ve travelled lots and been care free, whereas I haven’t travelled a lot, and haven’t always been able to do whatever I want, but hey it is what it is. I’ve always worked hard though so I have a good career. One piece of advice an older lady gave me when I was young, she said “don’t give up your career because a man says you don’t need to work” and LUCKY, I didn’t. 😮
I am legit going to retire in 11 years and then it’s game on 😂😂 freedom!! 😂😂😂 anyway; it’s up to the woman if she wants kids or not. Let’s just be happy for each other and lift each other up 💖🙏🌷🌸💐
63 and so glad I am child free.
This world doesn't need more people at this time. Mother is a state of being, a state of love and care for who is already here. It's a beautiful place to arrive.