Yes! They don’t come back because they care, they come back because they don’t have a woman around that they can drain energy from or a backup. Remember it’s always about their needs first above anyone else including their own offspring
Exactly I’m good for ghosting and not responding once I don’t care I just don’t care not putting my energy into no mess. It makes them mad I still don’t be caring.
Gosh, it's not about leaving unbothered, it's about staying alive. Some people who lost control over someone else can become violent. Yeah you can mouth off and tell them how you feel until you're blue in the face. They Do Not Care! You might say something in the heat of the moment and it might make you feel good but that may be the last time you feel anything.
It's safer for women to leave quietly. Don't forget we are the ones in physical danger. Unless you need proof - it happened to me - & I am older! But that man put his hands on me. I was shocked & left. It had never happened before to me. So, I took pictures - then texted him 2 days later, he apologized & admitted what he did. Then I blocked him everywhere. But, in case I needed a restraining order, I have proof. I didn't choose to get one because I didn't want to escalate the situation. But, if I needed it , I have screenshots of him admitting & apologizing & the pics. Don't make a fuss because your life might be in danger. Walk away fast & don't look back. Again this was the 1st time in my long life any man verbally, emotionally or physically abused me. It was scary & I felt ashamed. But, it's his shame, not mine. Run. And don't look back. Don't engage. It could be a danger to you.
@@mskabue thank you so much. Thank God I didn't live with him. My boundaries include never living with someone I am not married to. I LOVE your content. It's so helpful for all of us women. God Blesss You Sis!
Leaving in silence is for your dignity & for your PROTECTION & SAFETY! Words only provokes a savage beast. They do not bring them to reason. Move wisely & live to see another day without the drama & kickback from your words that took you 10 minutes to say, but may take you 10 years to get away because now he's a stalker & you bruised the ego of a psyscopath!
The crazy part? They don't care you're unhappy, unfulfilled, anything. The shock and anger comes from them NOT HAVING ACCESS TO YOU. No different than a sandwich that won't let you eat it. Theirv reaction has nothing to do with caring about you and everything about the distress of not having your energy anymore. Men aren't like this, husks are
You can't hold them accountable, they're are not emotionally or mentally built for that kind of thing to make them change. They don't care about how you feel or what you want. Leaving quietly is the only way you can keep your life and your health intact.
Yep yep yep! I move in silence now and I will walk away and just get on with my life. I have NOTHING I want to argue about. I had a woman posting things online about me and I let it go. Guess what? It came back 10000% in bad karma for her. With my ex, after trying to explain and talk and meeting a brick wall, I started leaving quietly. It took me 2 years but when I left, he acted shocked.
Wheeeew, the way I wish I had known this in 2011-2015. I was good for sending a dissertation on my feelings, knowing good and well he wasn’t going to read it. They don’t care what they did. They surely won’t read an essay and magically change overnight.
The day I reached my limit with my boyfriend; it was boy bye. He was shocked when I was surpose to see him & it was radio silence from me! Not even a call or picking his! It was actually easy for me because I was adding to his life while I got nothing in return for 8 years! It was all one text afterwards & then blocked him!!😂😂😂
@@carolinpurayidom4570 yep!! 8 yrs of my life I’ll never get back!! That was five years ago though & as soon as I was done; I tripled my worth, my mental health leading to promotion, got my sanity & my peace!!☮️
Because he goes mental and throws you on the bed. Locks you in the house. Talks shit for hours. Persuade you to stay. And increases his weapons to break you down further
ALWAYS be quiet about ,what your plans are,These men don't know How to communicate properly ,they don't want to do RIGHT,But they definitely don't want You to LEAVE..KEEP QUIET..🙏🙏
8:31 woman is correct, best advice! He was testing her, like telling him her boundaries was a challenge for him. I'm so glad she ghosted his ass. He's probably obsessed with her now.
It always depends on the situation, (and honestly a flippant toodaloo followed by blocking is the best option) but the big thing I recommend is that if you're gonna break it off with someone and you want to be loud, only do it once. Don't have a conversation, cut it off, tell them to go rot, and walk away with your head high. Allowing any more conversation is giving them power. There's nothing better than blocking a number and not looking back. It drives them mad constantly, checking to see if you've bothered to give them the time of day.
I use to try n explain but u get older and wiser that’s y men like younger women 18 or 19 yr olds. Now I ghost and leave silently. Right now a man is competing with my peace and ease of life. U interrupt that and I’m gone. You gotta convince me being with u is better than being by myself. ❤
i sent a really long paragraph to him and then he was like ok i won't make you stay anymore and i didn't respond and then two days later he's like can we try again and I HAVE NOT RESPONDED TO THIS DAY
I also want to tell a quick story this guy that I briefly dated for 2 weeks at a dating app was a basket case. He broke up with me and said that he wanted to stay friends but I told him no and he got angry and so I decided to block him and I did see him a few times on dating apps but then I just move on and carry on but I can't help but feel sad for the many women that he convinces to be with him and then he does things to them. I should have taken it as a red flag when he talked badly about his other dates but then praising me for being such a good date and then he told me that he put another woman in the friend zone and that she is the best friend he ever had. He broke up with me and he thought that we were going to be friends and I turned it down because I don't want to be friends with someone who not only disrespects me but rejects me. I don't do friends with exes from experiences because he is an ex for a reason. He also claimed that he was a Christian man but Christian men don't do the many things that he did to me which actually gives Christian men a bad name.
Leaving quietly sounds a lot like a gender targeted version of a tactic that's used when dealing with narcissists (regardless of gender). it's called grey rocking or grey walling.
@@JustM2024 I like it because it gives other options to those who aren't capable of completely cutting off all comm with their person (like sharing kids, having mutual friends, famiily knowing the other person well etc.).
I am so happy to see women coming into our power and behaving in a way that commands respect! Like many of the other commenters, I’ve always been too proud to tolerate disrespect from anyone so none of this is new to me. However, it makes my heart happy to see so many other women quietly setting personal boundaries and sticking with those boundaries!
Salaam. I'm so overjoyed to be here and see this time in history where Women of all ages, races, ethnicities and religions are creating safe spaces for each other, loving on each other and straightening each others crowns!❤
Lady's I've been saying stay away from crazy dude's and evil dudes just because he's good looking dont make him a good person stop letting sex dictate how u interact with men
I don’t get how women stay because of sex. I’ve stayed because of money and finances. Like him paying all the bills and whatnot. I never cared for sex like that because being around a man like that or a broke man doesn’t go anything for my libido but significantly decrease it
@rosierb852 if u go that way it's just as bad money and selling yourself like that has consequences if u let money be the only reason for being with a man evil dudes will use it against u
You have a beautiful sisterhood here. Where we care about each other & offer support. I really appreciate that. Congratulations on creating this environment for all women.❤
Leave quietly when: .He’s abusive .He shows you disrespect during the dating process .Your in a relationship and find out a deal breaker has occurred ( cheating or major disrespect) When to say your peace: . Leaving a relationship ( end it peacefully but get your closure)
I’m going to leave in silent right after I read his whole bloodline without one curse word, I’m not open to leaving and holding all of that on nope 😂😂😂
Don’t do it. What I found and what many psychologists recommend is writing all of that out in a journal or a letter. When you’re done doing that you won’t feel the need to say anything to the person because your emotions regarding the situation has been released
One time guy was mistreating me. I told him he was wrong. Omg he went so crazy I got so scared. He went off I was shook for days. I had to pretend I was not going to leave. That is the only way the insulting texts stopped. He knew where I lived. He had huge muscles. Idk I notice the muscle bound ones are the crazy ones. Idk of it is the steroids or testosterone.
Just leave. Cursing some one out is a waste of energy. They don't care, you are feeding them. You are giving them what they want. LEAVE, it speaks volumes.
I feel like this can go both ways. Women do just as much as men anymore. Seems like love and loyalty isn't something most people are looking for these days. It's sad.
Don’t listen to everyone, listen to your gut! The type of men I dated would’ve offedddd my ssa if I would’ve left without a word. Look at these type of women. If you’re like them, go for it! If you’re in a real relationship, have some respect-if it’s safe to do so. We all know men try harder after they see we’re done, maybe that’s the safe point for no contact. Edit: I did have an ex turn stalker & that got a little scary. He followed me, unbeknownst to me. Gave me a bear w a camera at the onset of our relationship (idk ofc). So idk lol maybe in that case…I should’ve just skipped states.
@@icsharpk You should comprehend Better. They are referring to men who BLATANTLY disrespect you. Use common sense and stop acting like you don't know what these women are trying to convey, you self-righteous pr*ck 😉
You cuss em out when you want teach em a lesson at times it depends. Sometimes do a reversing candle with thier name on them. Send thier bad vibes back.
All great advice except the dude at 15:00. What I wouldn’t give for a man I’ve rejected to actually leave me alone 😂 he’s clearly doing it for power tripping reasons and not bc he was going after someone who straight up did not want him. No internal reflection about what that says about him whatsoever
And this all still sounds like game playing. The videos keep saying "they wont forget you"....but thats the point right? You want out, why do u want to be remembered? Sounds silly to me, just move it along--forget & be forgotten, goodness! 🙄
You slowly get organized first financially then physically then boom one day when you're sure he's out for a couple of hours you go ghost😂😂 that's how it's done
I started by getting my money together. So that I could get a place of my own. Once I was ready financially, I started removing things that would be hard to replace, but that I didn’t use all the time: identity documents, diplomas, family photos. I placed that stuff with family until I found a place. Once I got a place, I made arrangements with my sister and a couple of friends to help me pack up and move. On the day, they showed up an hour after he went to work and we packed up all my stuff, put it in the U-Haul and drove it to my new place. It was a hard day’s work, but I never felt lighter than when I laid down to my first peaceful night’s rest in months.
This works, they ALWAYS come crawling back but NEVER respond, no matter what. Provide no explanation, no closure, don’t say anything.
I've done this before and they never came crawling before but I was much happier anyways with my dignity intact.
@@7Mushrooms7 That’s really the only thing that matters and the most important thing, them trying to win you over again is just icing on the cake.
You know it's bad when you leave and they start emailing 😂😂
I had one send a cashapp!!!
I shit you not, my ex EMAILED me, found out I blocked his email and guess what, HE MADE ANOTHER ONE! (And I blocked that one too)
😂😂😂😂this is me
Wait a minute that’s a thing?
@@WishySissythis is all normal lame behavior
It was rooted in pride, but even as a teenager I left em quietly. As I got older I realized how powerful it was.
@@shelocsher2396 so wise
Lets stop thinking those types of men care, they don't
They really don't.
@@user-rj1vj5wk9f so true
Exactly.
The whole point is to detach from them tho
Yes! They don’t come back because they care, they come back because they don’t have a woman around that they can drain energy from or a backup.
Remember it’s always about their needs first above anyone else including their own offspring
Life is indeed more peaceful when you dismiss men. Say nothing and ghost. I'm very cold to men now and they respect me for it!
🎯🎯🎯
They’re masochists.
This goes for friendships as well. I ain’t got time fr.
Yes applies to everyone
Right
Indeed, the exit in any relationship seems sweeter when you don't make a huge production out of leaving. Conserving your energy is key.
That way!!!!!!!
Exactly I’m good for ghosting and not responding once I don’t care I just don’t care not putting my energy into no mess. It makes them mad I still don’t be caring.
Gosh, it's not about leaving unbothered, it's about staying alive. Some people who lost control over someone else can become violent. Yeah you can mouth off and tell them how you feel until you're blue in the face. They Do Not Care! You might say something in the heat of the moment and it might make you feel good but that may be the last time you feel anything.
Say that shit a little LOUDER!
@@madelinealicea2044 so true. Words spoken are not worth my life
This why I ALWAYS leave quietly and go no contact. Its like my forever motto -no discussions, no text, just pack and go silently😂😂😂
@@corveneni smart
It's safer for women to leave quietly. Don't forget we are the ones in physical danger. Unless you need proof - it happened to me - & I am older! But that man put his hands on me. I was shocked & left. It had never happened before to me. So, I took pictures - then texted him 2 days later, he apologized & admitted what he did. Then I blocked him everywhere. But, in case I needed a restraining order, I have proof. I didn't choose to get one because I didn't want to escalate the situation. But, if I needed it , I have screenshots of him admitting & apologizing & the pics. Don't make a fuss because your life might be in danger. Walk away fast & don't look back. Again this was the 1st time in my long life any man verbally, emotionally or physically abused me. It was scary & I felt ashamed. But, it's his shame, not mine. Run. And don't look back. Don't engage. It could be a danger to you.
More power to you sista❤️
@@mskabue thank you so much. Thank God I didn't live with him. My boundaries include never living with someone I am not married to. I LOVE your content. It's so helpful for all of us women. God Blesss You Sis!
This…the shame part. ❤❤❤❤❤ it’s real.
Glad you’re safe ❤
@@TNT31414 So true.💓
Leaving in silence is for your dignity & for your PROTECTION & SAFETY! Words only provokes a savage beast. They do not bring them to reason. Move wisely & live to see another day without the drama & kickback from your words that took you 10 minutes to say, but may take you 10 years to get away because now he's a stalker & you bruised the ego of a psyscopath!
@@thehouseofsage777 bingo.
The crazy part? They don't care you're unhappy, unfulfilled, anything. The shock and anger comes from them NOT HAVING ACCESS TO YOU. No different than a sandwich that won't let you eat it. Theirv reaction has nothing to do with caring about you and everything about the distress of not having your energy anymore. Men aren't like this, husks are
This is exactly how im treating my friendships rn. Im dismissing anyone who disturbs my peace, no explanation
You can't hold them accountable, they're are not emotionally or mentally built for that kind of thing to make them change. They don't care about how you feel or what you want. Leaving quietly is the only way you can keep your life and your health intact.
"The opposite of love isn't hate; its indifference."
Exactly sis. Exactly 🙌🏾
Yep yep yep! I move in silence now and I will walk away and just get on with my life. I have NOTHING I want to argue about. I had a woman posting things online about me and I let it go. Guess what? It came back 10000% in bad karma for her. With my ex, after trying to explain and talk and meeting a brick wall, I started leaving quietly. It took me 2 years but when I left, he acted shocked.
BurbNBougie had a series called THE NOTHING REASONS she left.
Wheeeew, the way I wish I had known this in 2011-2015. I was good for sending a dissertation on my feelings, knowing good and well he wasn’t going to read it. They don’t care what they did. They surely won’t read an essay and magically change overnight.
Believe who they are, not what you want them to be..
Agree.
The day I reached my limit with my boyfriend; it was boy bye. He was shocked when I was surpose to see him & it was radio silence from me! Not even a call or picking his! It was actually easy for me because I was adding to his life while I got nothing in return for 8 years! It was all one text afterwards & then blocked him!!😂😂😂
Never give men money
You put up with him for 8 years girl you ok
Do you feel cute shaming her? She left, she clearly found herself and the strength to do so.@@carolinpurayidom4570
Do you feel cute shaming her? She left, she clearly found herself and the strength to do so.@@carolinpurayidom4570
@@carolinpurayidom4570 yep!! 8 yrs of my life I’ll never get back!! That was five years ago though & as soon as I was done; I tripled my worth, my mental health leading to promotion, got my sanity & my peace!!☮️
Because he goes mental and throws you on the bed. Locks you in the house. Talks shit for hours. Persuade you to stay. And increases his weapons to break you down further
Holding you against your will is illegal.
It doesn't matter in the moment, does it? Leave quietly @@Confessions089
Then you need to call the police.
@@joannelewis3390 exactly. It's dangerous.
Auntie at 16:45-23:31 spoke the TRUTH!!! I almost got up from my seat and ran around my living room. 👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
ALWAYS be quiet about ,what your plans are,These men don't know How to communicate properly ,they don't want to do RIGHT,But they definitely don't want You to LEAVE..KEEP QUIET..🙏🙏
8:31 woman is correct, best advice! He was testing her, like telling him her boundaries was a challenge for him. I'm so glad she ghosted his ass. He's probably obsessed with her now.
9:00 Yessss👏🏾 he was used to others talking about it and not being about it so he thought he could play with you.
Yasss 💯🎯
Exactlyyyyyyy
This makes me so proud so many beautiful intelligent women who know their worth. It’s so true, silence is a super power.
🎉WONDERFULLY STATED 👏 👏 👏
& they always come back! I’m batting at 100% for every single person I’ve ghosted that I was scared to leave alone.
Leave in peace. ❤❤❤
Save the energy it would take to react to their bad behavior to get as far away from them as possible
It always depends on the situation, (and honestly a flippant toodaloo followed by blocking is the best option) but the big thing I recommend is that if you're gonna break it off with someone and you want to be loud, only do it once. Don't have a conversation, cut it off, tell them to go rot, and walk away with your head high. Allowing any more conversation is giving them power. There's nothing better than blocking a number and not looking back. It drives them mad constantly, checking to see if you've bothered to give them the time of day.
The slightest insult is a reflection on you. It’s giving: hurt energy
This applies to jobs too !
The last 3 Women ate me up! Left no crumbs! The Woman with the gray hair? My Favorite 👌🏾
Move in silence these dudes are unhinged
I use to try n explain but u get older and wiser that’s y men like younger women 18 or 19 yr olds. Now I ghost and leave silently. Right now a man is competing with my peace and ease of life. U interrupt that and I’m gone. You gotta convince me being with u is better than being by myself. ❤
i sent a really long paragraph to him and then he was like ok i won't make you stay anymore and i didn't respond and then two days later he's like can we try again and I HAVE NOT RESPONDED TO THIS DAY
I also want to tell a quick story this guy that I briefly dated for 2 weeks at a dating app was a basket case. He broke up with me and said that he wanted to stay friends but I told him no and he got angry and so I decided to block him and I did see him a few times on dating apps but then I just move on and carry on but I can't help but feel sad for the many women that he convinces to be with him and then he does things to them. I should have taken it as a red flag when he talked badly about his other dates but then praising me for being such a good date and then he told me that he put another woman in the friend zone and that she is the best friend he ever had. He broke up with me and he thought that we were going to be friends and I turned it down because I don't want to be friends with someone who not only disrespects me but rejects me. I don't do friends with exes from experiences because he is an ex for a reason. He also claimed that he was a Christian man but Christian men don't do the many things that he did to me which actually gives Christian men a bad name.
I’ve told my family n friends this damn near over 20yrs ago!💅🏾
I’ve ALWAYS left quietly.
The Best results!
Leaving quietly sounds a lot like a gender targeted version of a tactic that's used when dealing with narcissists (regardless of gender). it's called grey rocking or grey walling.
Call it whatever you want, just do it.
Interesting, I have never heard that term. Good info
@@JustM2024 I like it because it gives other options to those who aren't capable of completely cutting off all comm with their person (like sharing kids, having mutual friends, famiily knowing the other person well etc.).
@@lamb8264 that makes a lot of sense.
Sort of, except that gray rocking is a technique for surviving and maintaining emotional regulation while staying with the abuser. Not leaving
I am so happy to see women coming into our power and behaving in a way that commands respect! Like many of the other commenters, I’ve always been too proud to tolerate disrespect from anyone so none of this is new to me. However, it makes my heart happy to see so many other women quietly setting personal boundaries and sticking with those boundaries!
@@psychattack3381 me too.
The lady’s advice at 4:13 really helped me ❤
Salaam.
I'm so overjoyed to be here and see this time in history where Women of all ages, races, ethnicities and religions are creating safe spaces for each other, loving on each other and straightening each others crowns!❤
Yes as it should be queen👑!!!!!
I'm also so happy to experience this time of history 😁
21:27 can confirm! With men AND women.
Lady's I've been saying stay away from crazy dude's and evil dudes just because he's good looking dont make him a good person stop letting sex dictate how u interact with men
I don’t get how women stay because of sex. I’ve stayed because of money and finances. Like him paying all the bills and whatnot. I never cared for sex like that because being around a man like that or a broke man doesn’t go anything for my libido but significantly decrease it
@rosierb852 if u go that way it's just as bad money and selling yourself like that has consequences if u let money be the only reason for being with a man evil dudes will use it against u
Last guy I was interested in, I think he didn’t think I would fall back… I sure did. Haven’t heard from him since. And im glad
You have a beautiful sisterhood here. Where we care about each other & offer support. I really appreciate that. Congratulations on creating this environment for all women.❤
❤
Leave quietly when:
.He’s abusive
.He shows you disrespect during the dating process
.Your in a relationship and find out a deal breaker has occurred ( cheating or major disrespect)
When to say your peace:
. Leaving a relationship ( end it peacefully but get your closure)
You don't need to say your piece. Just leave in peace ✌🏾
This is what i did. I have no social media so he’ll never find me again.
People will gaslight th out of you and twist your mind into a pretzel leaving you unhinged. It's a waste of time.
100% depends on the situation.
It depends on the situation. And knowing you are okay you are actually being done.
Exactly. I ain’t try to change your mind. I warn you several times and to protect my mental health….. good bye.
Rare advice. Practical, & sturdy. This is the beginning. I ve still got some catching up to do on building my confidence back up. Thank you. 🙏👌💞❤️
Glad it was helpful! You got this Sis ☺️
I’m going to leave in silent right after I read his whole bloodline without one curse word, I’m not open to leaving and holding all of that on nope 😂😂😂
That's how people end up dead. Just leave.
@@DJReneeAgree. It's better not to confront them and just leave in silence with no warning.
@@DenaliRose it's not worth your life.
Don’t do it. What I found and what many psychologists recommend is writing all of that out in a journal or a letter. When you’re done doing that you won’t feel the need to say anything to the person because your emotions regarding the situation has been released
One time guy was mistreating me. I told him he was wrong. Omg he went so crazy I got so scared. He went off I was shook for days. I had to pretend I was not going to leave. That is the only way the insulting texts stopped. He knew where I lived. He had huge muscles. Idk I notice the muscle bound ones are the crazy ones. Idk of it is the steroids or testosterone.
You're definitely right 😂😂the muscled up ones be crazy asf
The muscular thuggish ones are usually effeminate and dl.
People know what they are doing. U don’t need to tell them ish 😊
I have literally been living by wat the 1st girl said before this video came out an wen I tell y'all do it jus cold turkey that bihh❤❤
Happy to see Sistars sharing this wisdom❤ The last Op is still wondering what happened after I moved on silently❣️☀️🦋
Leaving is the closure
There’s a reason why it’s called a safe exit plan. You can also contact police or DV organisations for this. It tells you how dangerous men could be.
Leave them right where people had you f’ed up at period ‼️
18:05 you don't want me, I don't want you. I love me more.
I left in silence. It’s safer
Don’t I just love the female gender❤ I mean it’s too much intelligence the creator bestowed on just this one creation of His! #Respect…
Yesssss cuss that man out today. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂but be careful Sis....we don't wanna lose you
Leaving loud that’s my tribe 😂
😅😅😂
@@erobinson5942 don't put yourself in danger
Leave quitely or else you may get killed
@@carolinpurayidom4570 🎯
That's how you do it 👏 👏
On period… I just learned this
Real Gs move in silence like lasagna.
And places of employment ✌
This tbh. A moment of feeling vindicated for telling someone off isn’t worth the potential damage to your professional reputation
11:37 exactly.. don't use it as a tool. If you do it more than once, it loses its power.
there's an ad after each tick tok. like that's so wild on RUclipss part
Just leave. Cursing some one out is a waste of energy. They don't care, you are feeding them. You are giving them what they want. LEAVE, it speaks volumes.
Great advice🎉
Glad it was helpful!
I feel like this can go both ways. Women do just as much as men anymore. Seems like love and loyalty isn't something most people are looking for these days. It's sad.
Yes
It can happen either way. But we are physically weaker & so physical protection becomes more important as a woman.
Love and loyalty means you try in the relationship. If that person is not trying and does not care about you then you walk away.
The news and math says, not so much
@@Gem-n-life right?
Been doing this for decades
@@DJRenee you're giving great advice in the thread sis.
Right same here
What if we’re in a relationship and not just dating? Does this still pertain to the situation?
For sure..
Ummmmm yes😂😂😂😂😂😂
Don’t listen to everyone, listen to your gut! The type of men I dated would’ve offedddd my ssa if I would’ve left without a word. Look at these type of women. If you’re like them, go for it! If you’re in a real relationship, have some respect-if it’s safe to do so. We all know men try harder after they see we’re done, maybe that’s the safe point for no contact.
Edit: I did have an ex turn stalker & that got a little scary. He followed me, unbeknownst to me. Gave me a bear w a camera at the onset of our relationship (idk ofc). So idk lol maybe in that case…I should’ve just skipped states.
Absolutely.
@@icsharpk
You
should
comprehend
Better. They are referring to men who BLATANTLY disrespect you. Use common sense and stop acting like you don't know what these women are trying to convey, you self-righteous pr*ck 😉
My dumba** ex didn't know that I got HIM to file for divorce because I was SO DONE.
Genius..... 😂❤
Better when they think it's their idea and they are hurting you. The whole time you don't give a damn.
After my first love, I've been practicing this.
Great job!
16:55 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💅
You cuss em out when you want teach em a lesson at times it depends. Sometimes do a reversing candle with thier name on them. Send thier bad vibes back.
Team Leave Quietly
YES! #TeamSaveYourLife
All great advice except the dude at 15:00. What I wouldn’t give for a man I’ve rejected to actually leave me alone 😂 he’s clearly doing it for power tripping reasons and not bc he was going after someone who straight up did not want him. No internal reflection about what that says about him whatsoever
Move in silence.
Leave quietly most of the time, but some ninjas deserve to get a piece of your mind.
Nah youre not ready to leave yet. Write all that in the journal before you decide to confront any man, especially a black one.
@rosierb852 oh sis, I was ready, we haven't talked since that day. (And he was black too)
Exactly
Don't tell men what we are doing.
And this all still sounds like game playing. The videos keep saying "they wont forget you"....but thats the point right? You want out, why do u want to be remembered? Sounds silly to me, just move it along--forget & be forgotten, goodness! 🙄
How do live quietly when he’s living in your space? Do you put his stuff out and change the locks? Or you move?
You slowly get organized first financially then physically then boom one day when you're sure he's out for a couple of hours you go ghost😂😂 that's how it's done
I started by getting my money together. So that I could get a place of my own.
Once I was ready financially, I started removing things that would be hard to replace, but that I didn’t use all the time: identity documents, diplomas, family photos. I placed that stuff with family until I found a place.
Once I got a place, I made arrangements with my sister and a couple of friends to help me pack up and move.
On the day, they showed up an hour after he went to work and we packed up all my stuff, put it in the U-Haul and drove it to my new place.
It was a hard day’s work, but I never felt lighter than when I laid down to my first peaceful night’s rest in months.
@@laughingshaman1perfect & smart.
9:47 mins. Facts
10:56 you like them more than they like you.
Or you could leave men thay are prone to violence alone
People don’t come out swinging and give you a black eye on the first date. Unless you mean avoid all men entirely 😂
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Currently working on this
Me too
@@keracancook I have faith in both of you. Make plans for your safety and go. Luck & prayers for both of you.💓
@melissajohnson1082 you can do it I did
@@JustM2024 Thank you so much for your kind words and support