Bad bosses by definition are not open to listen and understand. These tips are great for mediocre bosses (bad at what they do, but aren't toxic, somewhat reasonable, and will actually listen). In my 20+ years of experience, including when I was a director of managers, the best advice is to plan your exit strategy and GTFO when you have a bad boss because they will sabotage you from moving by turning hiring managers into detractors. Their goal is to leave you with only 2 choices: be managed out or quit.
Bad Bosses have determined ahead of time that they'll try kick you out of office. Some bad bosses I know, they do this as a power-play/bully tactic to keep the status quo in the office hierarchy in THEIR favour - the company is doing well & is/was not going through financial hard times where layoff rounds have to be done. No matter how you reason with them, (i.e.: where you can improve in your KPI) they'll keep making things difficult for you + keep tearing you down + try force you take one option - you quit the company under their pressure in the guise of "you quit on your own will". Another option is, you fight back. Especially when you have tried for the umpteenth time negotiating/communicating with your stubborn boss determined to see you out of company. Make sure you: 1. have all documentation of all their wrong-doings in place 2. don't go to HR first - they'll defend your boss first. HR are usually very poor defenders of employees' rights. 3. don't seek out colleagues to back you up - they want to keep their turfs, so they don't really dare to defend you against their boss, whom they're dependent on for salaries. 4. seek out a lawyer to discuss options of possibly suing your boss/company for attempts to fire you for unlawful termination. This will require you to be very brave, resilient & strong-willed to get justice, because fighting back against your boss is not going to be a 1-night-done thing. Likely will take months to settle... but then again, your (bad & toxic) boss has declared war on you. If you can afford to fight back + you have substantial evidence of their wrong-doings your bosses cannot defend against, go ahead to push them back. If you don't want to endure so long dealing with their toxic energy & no one can help you there = take on another job, hopefully you don't get another toxic boss.
The advice might also apply if your boss is a liberal and you're a conservative. You won't be able to be yourself, but they will have no problem voicing their every opinion of who you are, and that will always be negative to your beliefs. But, it will show you exatly who they are and what they believe. NOW: If you like you boss and your job at least 98%, with 2% being the political thing and you're making good money and like the people you work with, then suck it up and stay. Why? Because you will ALWAYS encounter opposing points of view no matter where you go. Girls, that goodlooking hunk across the room could be polar opposite from you politically, so what do you do if you fall in love? Can you actually live like James Carvel and Mary Matlin?
I"ve had ONE in my lifetime, a woman, but then I'm over 65, and this was a long time ago when the world was a kinder, gentler place to live. When family was important and school teachers actually taught what they were hired to teach: reading, writing, and arithmetic. Anyone today under 35 should be put in a time-traveling capsule back to 1955, and they wouldn't want to come back to 2023. Period.
That's a great question. I have a video coming out next week talking about Managing Up. Long story short, you want to make sure to be clear about your boundaries and define your work/timelines clearly with your boss. Then continue to enforce those as you go about executing your work.
I finally quit the job. This is after HR got involved and tried to review our situation for 2 weeks. And when we all finally met altogether in one room to discuss, instead of focusing on the personality/character issue I have with my boss, they instead created a ridiculous issue with me and had turned the focus on it. I asked to take a 3 wk leave to clear my mind, and I told them that I’m mentally exhausted. They obliged. Come to find out the next day, they disabled all my access and when I asked why, my boss said I do not need them while on leave. I find it unusual to disable people’s access especially as an Asst. IT Mgr as my self. That’s when I realized I should quit. I wouldn’t want to work for that kind of environment. So I sent my immediate resignation letter in while on leave. Thank God, I feel so relieved.🙏🏼
one that commits felonies and steals your salary and keeps for themself illegally, while you are starving to death and they want to force you to work for free and try to run you over with a car
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Bad bosses by definition are not open to listen and understand. These tips are great for mediocre bosses (bad at what they do, but aren't toxic, somewhat reasonable, and will actually listen). In my 20+ years of experience, including when I was a director of managers, the best advice is to plan your exit strategy and GTFO when you have a bad boss because they will sabotage you from moving by turning hiring managers into detractors. Their goal is to leave you with only 2 choices: be managed out or quit.
HR involved OMG
You don’t. Quit
I have a tip, look for a new job
Bad Bosses have determined ahead of time that they'll try kick you out of office. Some bad bosses I know, they do this as a power-play/bully tactic to keep the status quo in the office hierarchy in THEIR favour - the company is doing well & is/was not going through financial hard times where layoff rounds have to be done. No matter how you reason with them, (i.e.: where you can improve in your KPI) they'll keep making things difficult for you + keep tearing you down + try force you take one option - you quit the company under their pressure in the guise of "you quit on your own will".
Another option is, you fight back. Especially when you have tried for the umpteenth time negotiating/communicating with your stubborn boss determined to see you out of company. Make sure you:
1. have all documentation of all their wrong-doings in place
2. don't go to HR first - they'll defend your boss first. HR are usually very poor defenders of employees' rights.
3. don't seek out colleagues to back you up - they want to keep their turfs, so they don't really dare to defend you against their boss, whom they're dependent on for salaries.
4. seek out a lawyer to discuss options of possibly suing your boss/company for attempts to fire you for unlawful termination. This will require you to be very brave, resilient & strong-willed to get justice, because fighting back against your boss is not going to be a 1-night-done thing. Likely will take months to settle... but then again, your (bad & toxic) boss has declared war on you. If you can afford to fight back + you have substantial evidence of their wrong-doings your bosses cannot defend against, go ahead to push them back. If you don't want to endure so long dealing with their toxic energy & no one can help you there = take on another job, hopefully you don't get another toxic boss.
4:45 - "So what do you do if your boss is so demanding?" - Find another job. There. Done. Problem solved.
The advice might also apply if your boss is a liberal and you're a conservative. You won't be able to be yourself, but they will have no problem voicing their every opinion of who you are, and that will always be negative to your beliefs. But, it will show you exatly who they are and what they believe.
NOW: If you like you boss and your job at least 98%, with 2% being the political thing and you're making good money and like the people you work with, then suck it up and stay. Why? Because you will ALWAYS encounter opposing points of view no matter where you go.
Girls, that goodlooking hunk across the room could be polar opposite from you politically, so what do you do if you fall in love? Can you actually live like James Carvel and Mary Matlin?
ive never had a good boss
I"ve had ONE in my lifetime, a woman, but then I'm over 65, and this was a long time ago when the world was a kinder, gentler place to live. When family was important and school teachers actually taught what they were hired to teach: reading, writing, and arithmetic. Anyone today under 35 should be put in a time-traveling capsule back to 1955, and they wouldn't want to come back to 2023. Period.
What if a boss/supervisor is all of these and is not open to conversation?
That's a great question. I have a video coming out next week talking about Managing Up. Long story short, you want to make sure to be clear about your boundaries and define your work/timelines clearly with your boss. Then continue to enforce those as you go about executing your work.
I finally quit the job. This is after HR got involved and tried to review our situation for 2 weeks. And when we all finally met altogether in one room to discuss, instead of focusing on the personality/character issue I have with my boss, they instead created a ridiculous issue with me and had turned the focus on it.
I asked to take a 3 wk leave to clear my mind, and I told them that I’m mentally exhausted. They obliged. Come to find out the next day, they disabled all my access and when I asked why, my boss said I do not need them while on leave. I find it unusual to disable people’s access especially as an Asst. IT Mgr as my self. That’s when I realized I should quit. I wouldn’t want to work for that kind of environment. So I sent my immediate resignation letter in while on leave. Thank God, I feel so relieved.🙏🏼
@@noside30 well dome. Managers always help each other....... No way.
He doesn't sound weird. I had a micro managers.
one that commits felonies and steals your salary and keeps for themself illegally, while you are starving to death and they want to force you to work for free and try to run you over with a car