Why your life is so boring
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Let’s face it. Your life is boring as f*ck. And here’s the biggest reason why... you haven’t taken enough risks. Whether you’re thinking about starting a RUclips channel, asking out that cute stranger across the bar, or moving across the world to your dream city, it’s scary to take a leap into the unknown.
But if you want to live a life filled with purpose, adventure and happiness, you’re going to have to get really comfortable being uncomfortable. So in this video I talk about how you can push yourself further, take the right kind of risks and consistently embrace uncertainty in a way that feels right for you.
Hi there 👋 If you're new to my videos my name is Matt D'Avella. I'm a documentary filmmaker, entrepreneur and RUclipsr. I've made a couple documentaries for Netflix. I also teach courses on everything from filmmaking to habit change. If you like to nerd out about self-development as much as I do, you can subscribe for weekly videos.
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Not exactly a “wild” risk, but I just ended a 3 year relationship and I’m moving back home to save money to fund my dream: opening a local coffee shop so I can be happy every single day instead of working a job that drains me :) great video, thank you!
Good shit 👍🏽👍🏽
Good for you man
Good luck man !!
Good luck!
💯💯💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥
Taking risks definitely makes life more interesting and less boring. I used to be scared of taking financial and social risks in my life, until I read a great idea from author Nassim Taleb. He said "you want to take risks that are adverse to ruin." This opened my eyes to the idea that not all risks are created equal, and that I've been missing out on many opportunities in life.
Love that line, Derek! Nice one.
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What book is it? Im currently reading his book Antifragile
@@deepika2644 to the many times, the many times it has been used by trees and grass, and stepped on….
What does that quote really mean though?
Take a risk that isn’t really a risk?
My life is "boring" by design...
I spent all my early adulthood (16-30) having the excitement of skipping meals to pay for gas to work and having no reason to live... being paycheque to paycheque with no ways to save or improve my life... If you come from a privileged place where you had all your needs filled then yes you'll crave excitement and risk...
Boredom and stability is my reward for lasting so long in a shitty place and digging myself out of it.
Was looking for this comment. The risk/reward analysis given by so many motivational types always market "boring, low risk, low reward" choices as a bad thing; as if stability and predictability are somehow inherently less fulfilling.
That’s amazing. I too aspire to a stable “boring” life.
I recently realized that my goal is to be bored. The first 45 years of my life was go-go-go, work-work-work, stress-stress-stress. Bored means I have completely the things that are important to me and I have time to chose what I want to do. Bored opens my life up to new classes and new art and new learning and new friends or new activities.
yes it really depends! After work I do other necessary things like cooking and cleaning and all this drains way too much energy, that I just lay on the couch before I sleep. There is no time to be bored, so I see boredom as a privilege to have!
Yeahh boredom is a privilege for sure. One can be bored from not having money to do things that might be "fun" though. However. If you're constantly financially stressed and simply trying to survive, I'd say boredom is definitely a privilege.
Reminds me of something I read a while ago: "If you always do what you know, you will never be more than what you are". Awesome video, Matt
I can recognise a master oogway quote from a mile away, so inspiring
Thanks. I believe talking about these matters going to change the world. My experience with boredom and being uncontent is slightly different though. I just shared on my channel how I cope with boredom
This video could not have been posted at a better time! I’m giving my 2 weeks notice at my job TOMORROW and I was second guessing everything. The “cost of inaction, reward of action” graphic was exactly what I needed to see! Thanks so much for this great content!
Wow so exciting!!! So glad it helped. Good luck and have fun!
Go Frannie! What you are doing now comes from your heart, so trust it, of course it's right. Best of luck, you got this!
Yessss gall!! I am on the brink of doing the same. Why am I going into a boring job day in day out when travelling has opened up?!?
I was getting bored, felt like the nine inch nail song, “every day exactly the same”, so I signed up for jiu jitsu as a 45 yr old premenopausal wife & mother, yikes, daily asking what am I doing… but I see improvement, & my 12 yr old son trains too and sometimes we work together, helping each other having fun. Definitely not bored anymore and so far worth the risk of old lady body breaking… 😁 thanks for another great video. 🤓👍💕
Reminds me of my mother! When I was 14 and she 47/47 we decided to start going rock climbing.
Now I’m turning 20 and rock climbing is one of my life’s greatest Passions and she, at 52 still climbs at least weekly and she’s a freaking rock star!
Awesome. I started training as an amputee at 48. Just took two bronze medals at the Europeans in Rome. One of the toughest and most enjoyable things I've ever done. Keep going!
Awesome example! I returned to martial arts at 38 with 5 kids. It brings me such joy.
A co worker of mine started it past his 40s too and he absolutely loves it
45 is not really that old, but good job to you anyways! 👏
Was floating around my senior year of college in the South with no job prospects. Didn’t know what to do or where to go. Applied to an internship in NYC just for the hell of it. Got invited to interview, then invited again to the second interview in NYC.
Emptied my bank account to fly out there for that one day to give a presentation. Found out I got the job on the ~30 hour greyhound bus trip back to Oklahoma. 5 years and a career later and it’s still one of the best decisions I’ve made since.
Love that for you!
Thanks. I believe talking about these matters going to change the world. My experience with boredom and being uncontent is slightly different though. I just shared on my channel how I cope with boredom
I always love small cameos of natalie. She is such a genuine and fun loving gal.
Also pronounces ‘banana’ correctly 🇦🇺 Def a keeper Matthew
This video hit me right where i needed it. Been building up the courage for a year to take a leap into my next big journey and this week is the tipping point. Much love Matt :)
You got this Will!
Thanks. I believe talking about these matters going to change the world. My experience with boredom and being uncontent is slightly different though. I just shared on my channel how I cope with boredom
Really timely for me Matt, thx. I have a tendency to wait in inaction until external circumstances force me to take action. I’m working on taking action more and this video helps me to really think and plan action moving forward.
A bit of mindfulness can really help you see the beauty in simple things... without mindfulness, everything can seem bleak and grey
Use mindfulness to be less of a pussy and do dangerous stuff.
I feel the title does the contents of this video a disservice - people's lives aren't boring, they are unfulfilling, exhausting and stressful from enduring a less risky path. I'm glad I persisted in watching this nonetheless because it really was a compelling guide on how to get out of your own head and kickstart that thing you always wanted to do
- a very thankful fan
I'm totally fine with having a boring life to some extent. I'm an introvert who is set in their ways. I like quiet, I like routine, I like making a comfortable life for myself.
Same here😅
SAME!! I do travel a good bit, but I really enjoy my life and the things/people in it. Maybe I don’t feel like “taking risks” because I don’t consider my life boring 🙂
@@LeMErin21 yes, life isn't always exciting, and that's ok. It makes the more exciting times more special.
Same. Boring is peaceful and enjoyable
@@forestduffe5576 What is the meaning of ''boring'' at this point?
Social life , work life and content creation life is a constant balance … as usual Matt amazing video in terms of value and production quality 💯
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Thank you!
"Fear doesn't stop death,
But it stops life!"
Well-done Matt 📈
Me: A guy who's terrified of living a mediocre life, but that loves comfort too much to take risks (also is horribly terrified of getting out of his comfort zone).
This video could be a summary of my life, sadly.
I liked the video though! It reminded me of what's important for me. Thanks Matt!
I found that studying new things and doing a lot of self-improvement has quelled the boredom that had previously settled over me like a thick film of dust :)
Being willing to take on risk has improved my life drastically. I had dreams to be a doctor but never pursued them since I didnt feel like I could handle the pressure. Finally reached a point at 32 where I knew I'd regret it on my death bed so i started going after it. I'm 2 months out from being a Paramedic and just barely applied to a PA school and am waiting to hear back :)
Wow that is so brave, Congratulations 🙌🏻
30, married, and still living with parents... I might need that domain name. #mrriskybusiness
Loved the video!
Thanks brother! More like *Best Case Scenario*
LMAO
damn son
I wonder how much it costs to buy that domain name, cool brand :)
Your youtube tells different story🤔
Haha love the surprise heli bungee shots, we'll take you on the next one Matt ;)
You might just take me as well, Love you guys !
"What's the worse that could happen? You end up depending on your parents for food, shelter, and borrowed money?"
Damn that's a privileged statement. Not all of us have well off parents we can lean on.
Nah, my life ain’t boring, I’m praying every day for less news and less changes and for time to go slower.
It’s so damn good when you don’t constantly feel like you are carried away by a river you have no control over.
i agree wholeheartedly!
This is actually a really good point. Take calculated risks, try many times, realise that the worst scenario is actually not realistic or too far to happen. Thanks for good content again :) it helps me a lot.
Life can be difficult swings between tedium and chaos, grinding out to save and staying at home to going on the week holiday
Going for a walk or bike ride or a run in a park breaks up the delirium, but it’s also getting the mindset to realise how you have options and to stop allowing work to over ride your down time. Thanks for the great content
I'm at a crossroads in my life right now. Not sure if I needed this push or not 😅 (thanks)
The video summed up in a single sentence: "Do what you love, love what you do.
It is so hard to be a beginner and start from nothing. Starting RUclips was a big risk for me, but I knew that I would regret it if I never tried.
I feel you laina
I 100% agree with this mindset. I had this exact feeling this morning - BUT I had a thought, maybe my life has been so stressful and rushed over the past few years… maybe I have actually taken the time this week to be efficient, working during my scheduled hours, relax, enjoy self care and now finally have room to breathe and exist. I think being boring is what I need right now.
I took a risk by changing my workplace . I used to give classes in a classroom but now I work from home . Thanks !! A good video .
That's exactly why I decided to take a gap year (which I'm beginning to think will end up in a few gap years lol). I did it to pursue my dream of becoming a full-time RUclipsr one day, but also to build my graphic design agency! And I must be honest: I haven't seen any incredible growth. But slow growth? Absolutely! This year might not be enough to accomplish what I wanted, and people will be definitely sticking it to me, but I don't care. I don't want my life to be mediocre...
Haha I LOVE the idea of a gap year. Wish it was more common in the US!
I wish I was more supported during my gap year. 4 years since I graduated high school and there are still some times when I wonder: ¿was it ok with me to choose keep studying in college for "a safe future" over my personal projects?
I mean, I understand it's important to have a plan B, but I dunno, I feel I should be doing the thing I want the most right now, and not after.
Sorry, spitting my own dillemas here, don't mind me.
@@FranksCreativeCorner No, I totally understand! With each day I'm getting closer to "the end" of my gap year, and it almost feels like everyone is telling me "okay, party time is over, now it's time to get serious!" And I don't think I want to! PLUS this is definitely not party time. I have to pay my own bills, there is crazy drama with my health insurance, I need to figure out how I'm gonna be taxing my income (and here in Poland, tax laws are as complicated as they can get)... Yet, I feel happy. I feel like every day I get to work on what is meaningful to me.
I wish you all the best on your life journey! You have my support, brother!
@@bartekmalinowy Thank you, wish succeed and happiness for you too!
Definitely hits home! Just finished college to be a boring desk job engineer. Instead pursued theme park management and actually got my dream job and love it!
Less pay but so much happier.
Wow that’s so cool. How do you deal with all the time you spent in college tho? Do you regret it?
@@bdfwhhsb Not even a little bit. I worked hard but it made me learn to value the discipline. Still making a decent living with huge growth potential where I work, but I’m away from my desk at least 3 hours a day and manage fun, young people my age.
I always think about the quote "Hope for the best, and prepare for the worst." It guides me to move to another country and landed a life I want in LA. When I'm thinking about making a shift on my career, I'm no longer afraid because I'm also strategically think about the calculated lost as well as rewards. So, my 2022 is to grow my RUclips while maintaining my 9 to 5 job!
It’s important to keep the excitement going no matter what we do! Incorporating adventure in our lives makes life more enjoyable and meaningful. 💯🚀
I’ve been living fulltime with RUclips for almost 3 years and I can say that life does not get more exciting. I do all the boring shit still. On top of it all it’s a very lonely job. But still better than having a set time to go to work and having a boss.
Why not open a Twitch channel ?
Your content has given me the motivation to go out if my comfort zone and start a RUclips channel!
Keep it up bro, you got this 😎
Matt's content has given me the motivation to call out self promotion spam like your comment here!
@@dylanthompson9983 thanks for the kind words man
I just started my career path change after months of pushing it off 🙌🏻🙌🏻✨ ended a relationship that wasn’t going anywhere and started going to the gym! Feeling amazing! 🙌🏻✨❤️
I usually skip through when a RUclipsr pauses to thank their sponsor/help advertise, but Matt's are always so entertaining.
It’s insane how much this video felt like it was directly addressed to me Matt. Gave me lot to think about, thank you for the 🔥 content brother
Great value and production quality, thank you Matt. This video comes just in time when my life was becoming too low-risky
I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨
You too 💕💫
Inject these words in my vein 😃
I always enjoy Matt's videos, the humor, the message, the edit and the clean aesthetic. The effort put into the videos itself is just admirable and so inspiring.
Most of my life is boring on purpose and I have to remind myself, "I have worked me ass off for this boring life." However I never want to stop learning or failing. One of my five rules for life that I have written on my desk is, "Keep Failing."
As a man who literally went freelance TODAY, I so needed this video. Thank you Matt 📽
That cost and rewards analysis is mind-numbingly genius!
Boredom is outcome of mechanical way living where we are insensitive towards little changes.
So be sensitive and aware about little changes that is going on around you. The moment in which you are is unique. This comes just once.
At 54, my wife and I started traveling in an RV. That was 12 years ago. We are not retired.
this video not only arrived at the right time for me but the content was like a an ice cold glass of water on a hot day--- just what I needed to kick myself to the next level. LOVE love love your content and I really appreciate the effort that goes into the video quality.
Always very timely video, Matt. I have started my blog while still keeping my day job for now. Until such time I am comfortable doing my own craft and then pursue the work where I am passionate at
You are reading my mind with this video.
One of my film director teacher once told me "if you got a plan B in your mind then just do the plan B instead, you need to fully focus on your plan A to see success."
But I have to get rid of my bad habit of procrastinating first 😭
Such good advice. I've been very specific with my job choices in an attempt to carefully curate my career and respective growth. And looking back there are some jobs I should've taken and definitely one or two I should've passed on. I know this now because I chose action. The thing that scares me most is the difficulty to quantify the cost/reward of inaction, because of how success and growth compounds, equally discontent and stagnation. Personally, I'd rather make the choice than have it be made for me. To everyone, good luck on your journey, I've started and still going :)
This is just the video I needed for today. It inspires me to not stick to only what I know is safe. But try out new things, that I'm not familiair with at all.
YThumbs up and a comment stating that you have out done yourself Matt. This video speaks to me so bluntly. Thank you. And Keep doing the great job !
i have worked in a comfortable, less pressure and a well paid job for 10 years but i just felt bored at work - so i switched to a new challenging job - truly agree we need to take some risks
Here is where it’s challenging. I am happily married with 3 adult kids. My husband and I always worked and put our kids and family first… the older you get the harder it is… I totally agree, baby steps. There is danger in the comfort zone.
Bruh, this is for young single people.
If you have three kids, you don't need some exciting shit.
I recommend reading So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport in relation to the calculated career risk point! Really nice overview of the path you can take towards independence. And of course, the 4-hour Work Week by Tim Ferris.
You preach the TRUTH, sir!
I think Covid has made us all quite risk averse and I’m definitely feeling the itchy feel now of wanting to do some new things after such a long time “holding still”. Anxiety is really high at the moment and that’s really linked to fear/risk perception too. Lots to think about from this for sure!
Hey Matt, I just wanted to say thank you for your inspiring content. It helps me a lot in my own creative journey. Greetings from Germany
I’ve never needed this video more in my life than now. So I appreciate you for this 🙂🙏
Indeed Matt thank you. These videos motivated me to make more videos on RUclips. Even when I had only 5 subs. THANK YOU!!
You live once, so why fear the uncertain? Trust yourself, be open to opportunities, and take the risk. It feels worse to regret not trying something worthy in life than failing at it.
Ok...
Poop doesn't taste good. Tastes like it smells.
@@MrCmon113 Taste and smell are different things. If something smells good, it doesn't mean they will taste good too. Try tasting your favorite deodorant for example.
I totally agree with this. One of the things I have struggled with before was to make my workouts fun or interesting again. I had worked out the same routine for quite a while that it became a little too boring. The fact that the workouts were really hard made me not want to do them as well. However, when I changed my time under tension, reps, and the variation of time under tension every other week...it has definitely made things so much better.
When I decided to start writing with the aim to make it a career it was terrifying to do something that for 30 years I'd thought was an option for other people - I've entered competitions and been unsuccessful but I've put things online and had a positive response, so I'm chugging along slowly now :)
This has got to be one of my favourite videos from you so far! Literally had a conversation on this topic with someone who's depressed and feels stuck.
There's so much great advice here that I relate to - most recently I decided to 'blow' my savings on buying a crappy old house in need of renovation (after carefully inspecting and paying for 2 separate surveys to be sure it's not a money pit). 6 months later, I now live in a house with lots of character (after having stripped everything back to original features) , people want to rent my living room for photo shoots and I'm happier in this beautiful decay than I'd be in a luxury apartment that I'd rent.
Love the idea of setting a timeline during which you make a series of experiments! Thanks for another great video, Matt 🙏🏻
You got it, Gabie :)
This video came to me at the perfect time! I have been thinking and slowly building a side hustle for months now, and i finally made the decision to start!!!! Thank you for another amazing video.
I moved to a cabin in the middle of the woods to pursue my art (film making/RUclips). Am I doing it wrong? 😅
Kalle, I love your channel and definitely don’t think you’re doing it wrong! 😂
@@rachelmelissa3637 Haha happy to hear it Rachel!
No if you have safety net or money to support yourself imo
This is actually the dream! Wilderness, peace and quiet and no distractions! :)
My life is boring because I am IK low key too lazy..but I’m glad that I regularly realize that…so I should say, my life WOULD bE boring if I didn’t realize this fact and pushed forward.
I don't think taking risks makes your life less boring it might a little but you'll still feel hollow. You have to find your purpose or what makes you happy. Now that's really not easy to do. I try to think when i was a kid what made me happy and then i try to branch out from there. Now if nothing made you happy as a kid, then i don't even know how you find what makes you happy.
Thanks for the advice Matt.
I'm about to take a big leap in my life and the size of the risk feels quite overwhelming at times. But this video made me feel at peace with the risk I'm taking and, since I'm feeling so bored in my life at the moment, it now seems like it's the perfect thing for me to do next. Thank you!
My life is brilliant. My life is pure. I love espresso
Growth vs Complacency
Growth - changes, evolving
Complacency - routine satisfaction, order is good but at a certain period of time
This is great advice, what I struggle w/ is finding that " thing" to dedicate my time to. Its hard to start when you don't have that north star
thanks for the advice, I'll see my situation a different way now! I'm a trader for almost 2 years... sooo difficult but I don't regret my move to quit my job. So glad to see Natalie, she's so funny!
Hello, fellow trader! You got this, best of luck! :)
Start developing today! And never give up! Develop healthy habits and get rid of bad ones. The best revenge is massive success!
Love this video! Recently i took the risk to direct my energy from grad school to my creative passions. Took the summer off, started my youtube channel, plan on getting more action into writing my book and i havent felt this kind of joy or flow state in soo long. Its hard budgeting since i do still work mostly part time, but my happiness already has been so worth it! If you're on the edge.. take the leap!
thanks bud, I really need to hear this
I literally applied for a business license today so this is great timing! Thanks Matt!
Why I started my RUclips channel. It’s been a crazy experience putting myself out there but am enjoying the process
this inspired me to finally make moves towards my career switch, thank you!
Thanks mate for pointing all these things out which were going through my head as well. I really didn't appreciate the work people like you put in these videos until I started making my own.
Just wanna say thank you for video:)
I have been more like the opposite my whole life 😂 Took the biggest risk of all 5 years ago by moving from France to the US and then I changed for a more « boring » life just staying with my kids at home☺️Now I feel like taking risks again, maybe go back to school 🤷🏾♀️ I guess it’s also a question of balance in your life. Find what you really want and need and be ready to go all the way.
Great video as usual Matt 🙌🏾✨
A boring life is a good life. It means u have the luxury of being bored and not working 2 or 3 jobs stressing 247 making ends meet.
Have not watched your video for a while, just randomly get this from the algorithm and no disappoinment. Totally agree with all you share here. Matt, you used to give me a lot of motivation and advices, now maybe you still do, thank u so much!
I appreciate you showing clips of „leading woman“ like Sara Blakely.
Lots of people would show people like Elon Musk or (in your case) the „Rock“.
I allowed myself to jump on a task at work alone with a few little notes here and there, a positive mental attitude massively helps when confronting these situations.
Happy Ramadan From Indonesia, Thank You For Inspirational Video, Make This Ramadan Better 👍
Honestly, I cannot explain how much you have inspired me or helped me work through anxiety I've had around so many "mediocre breaking" projects I have put on hold! 🇿🇦🙏🏼🤓
All the best stuff in life is on the other side of pushing through discomfort for sure
As someone who treasures stability this was really an eye opener. AMAZING VID AS ALWAYS 🤩
That smedium shirt is so tight I can see this guys heart beating
Great video, Matt! I’m in the process of leaving my first job out of college to do freelance filmmaking, so this applied to me perfectly and really helped me put things into perspective. Thank you.
so grateful that you showed us some women when you started talking about risk-averse entrepreneurs 🙏
It's really scary sometimes to take risks and doing something you haven't done before, but in some way I have also notice that every time I choice to take a risk it make me so excited and I feel more alive than I did before. The most scary part is taking the first big steps.
I took a risk and changed from working outside the home (for the past 15 years since graduating college) to working a different way from home. I was terrified of the risk of change until I did it. Best decision I ever made! I also started weight lifting a few years ago feeling the same fear of doing something totally new and now compete at it. Calculated change/risk makes life exciting!!
I changed my job after 14 years - Scary at first, but a huge improvement in my life.
When it comes to your investing, boring is the best approach!
Everyone should just take a leap! Life will end for everyone one day. I am so glad that I left my job, started RUclips and moved to another country. Get living people!