My Two Rules To Survive the Philippines
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This guy is the guru for expats. Great advice.
Of all the expat advice channels, Reekay is the wisest and the most
succinct. He obviously comes from a successful background in the
States, whereas many others fall into the "drifter" category, offering
their diatribes on Filipino failures mixed in with a truckload of verbal
diarrhea that has no clear point. Kudos to you, Reekay!
thanks for the feedback. i do what i can to make the videos useful. :)
Excellent advice -- make no big decisions for awhile and do NOT get married your first year. As Reekay says, there is NO divorce court in the PH, and an annulment costs about $3,000.USD.
Rule#1 should be say no to any request. The word no is your best friend.
Louis Becke 👍
good advice. If I had to add a third rule it would be: Remember that as an expat, you are a guest in the country. So, act accordingly and respect the local laws and culture.
Thanks for sharing.
yes, good one to keep in mind. it's "their house, their rules", so to speak.
Never trust anybody, anywhere, anytime✌🏻️
SO SO TRUE. Even those who care about you can make a mistake or not understand the situation. Never ever trust anyone. Especially in today's age. A cop said the same thing you say. He's a cop who is alive today to say it, too.
Jo knows where he/she talks about, good comment Jo
Listen guys I'm a Filipino and they call me a Balikbayan. Everything he said were true so be all super cautious.
My two rules:
1. Always wear a condom
2. Drink bottled water
The rest will fall into place.
;)
read my coment above, do Not ge tinto this with philippine woman or girl, there are some of them who are charge you, only because they now, you western, or american has money. do not be that stupid
1. Engage in baby-making activities only when you're in committed relationship ready to have child together.
Excellent video Henry! I'm saving this in my playlist.
Great advice Henry. Loving the channel, thanks for your efforts in sharing your experiences!
Forgot to mention. The girls are nice but some are pros at extracting money
Stock market in the USA ?, firstly, I think this country uses capitals to abbreviate their Nations name. I like the country but I am not a citizen of such. Secondly, give your head a shake I'm probably younger than you and I am quite sure I could out run you in a 10K , due to my international ranking. I could go on. Believe me though when I say I give much more than I take from the PH. I am a physician that has spent many days and weeks at my personal risk, repairing botched surgeries, treating the poor, and backpacking my own pharmaceuticals into very remote villages so children could live out there natural lives in the PH. I do this for no fee, or expectations.So, get back to your books , study hard and watch the conjecture and uneducated guessing please.
No charge for the lesson, just be kind to someone for me... That's all I request or charge you. BTW it is not so much punctuation as it is grammar and respect for the country you speak of.Countries abbreviations are all capitalized and full spelling ALWAYS starts with a capital letter out of respect? Yes, traditional grammar, however it is what it is Would one spell duterte such as this ? Or Duterte like this , from a position of respect? BTW, I will be volunteering my time again in the Philippines in 6 months, if you or your relatives need medical help. Let me know , maybe I could be of help as a physician and general surgery.
Violence, fowl language, and incongruent thoughts. Your Mother must be proud of you . God Bless.
@@javar888 Get a life
Excellent advice. Thanks Reekay and good to see you on youtube again.
Good advise Reekay, you know your shit and I listen to you!! Will keep this in mind when I come there!
Yet another piece of great advice!
Great advice Henry, I've been following you for years now and you never cease to amaze me ... thumbs up! !!
i do what i can. glad if it helps even a few people. :)
I've been subscriber now probably for a few weeks thank you for being a very positive a voice for men and giving us a different point of you and hope there's not very many outlets for man to go look for help you're definitely doing a good thing and I appreciate all that you do in time you take out to make his videos
I've been talking to her for 2 years , she never asked me for money , I new her situation, cause of talking to her , talks to everyone in her family and honestly money isent that important to me , I can always make more , to I enjoy helping the poor , Im not by any means in love , I need to meet her , be with her before that happens , she's beautiful and all , but I need to find out her personality that's way more important than the looks , I feel pretty comfortable about what I'm doing , she seems honest and I trust her pretty much , thanks for the advice ,reekay
This is great advice for those want to stay in Philippines and understand our culture. law .differences of our economic compared to other country and help others started up in our country
Thanks Henry, as always very informative and entertaining.
Good clues and advice.
Good advice. Salamat for sharing.
Hi Henry. Both your rules revolve around one main theme; likely problems to anticipate while on the hunt for the perfect woman (by one's own definition) while roaming around the Philippines. You bring very good advice Henry to all the guys considering the walk down the same path. Let me also qualify my comments with that there is nothing wrong with seeking companionship in the above referenced way. It is part of the Philippine culture at this point, much different from western U.S. culture. The foreigner looking however must be prepared for two things (set in stone). #1 The Philippine woman (Filipina) is going to be as loyal as the day is long to her man and there is only one man and it must be a monogamous relationship that she will give "her all" to. They are steadfast in the belief of making their man happy to the best of their ability no matter what and this makes the Filipina a VERY GOOD companion. #2 She is expected and she is going to help her family to the greatest extent possible. Her and her husband have a responsibility to her family (set in stone). It doesn't matter if there is only one piece of bread to share or a whole pig. She is going to want to give 1/4 of the piece of bread to her family and prepare a meal fit for a king for her man out of the other 3/4's of the piece of bread. There are some very happy men in the Philippines. They are all husbands to some very fine Filipina's. There are also some very happy western men living in the Philippines with their western wives (or sometimes girlfriends), as rare as it is, those people have a common thread.....they are givers to the community in which they live and this creates acceptance and a tranquil existence. The Philippines is a wonderful and beautiful place to inexpensively spend One's time whether you are "on the hunt" or not. One caveat.....if a foreigner makes the effort to learn the dialect, "everything" goes MUCH BETTER.
Exactly...my experience, as well. May i add the advice i received from a pinay, in that do not marry anyone from the "province's, find someone in the general Manila area...totally different sort of woman...
@@williamwilliam6714 this opinion is contrary from the consensus point of view.
What a load of baloney! I have known many Filipinas who have an old expat and a "boyfriend" their own age. I know another Filipina married to a Pinoy. He cheats and so does she. I'm a woman by the way and take it from me, there are good and bad in every culture. What happens is expat men can't understand the language or culture so they "fall in love" because the woman appears perfect. Anytime you marry outside your own culture you will NOT see the person so clearly. Time reveals all. You got lucky, your wife is nice. Most won't be so "lucky".
What a load of baloney! I have known many Filipinas who have an old expat and a "boyfriend" their own age. I know another Filipina married to a Pinoy. He cheats and so does she. I'm a woman by the way and take it from me, there are good and bad in every culture. What happens is expat men can't understand the language or culture so they "fall in love" because the woman appears perfect. Anytime you marry outside your own culture you will NOT see the person so clearly. Time reveals all. You got lucky, your wife is nice. Most won't be so "lucky".
ReeKay you again, as always, have given awesome advice. Short lease and long relationships are best before settling on what, if anything to do for work. If she "Loves You" in two weeks she is likely not really in love anyway...if it is real it will be there in a year or two.
I always learn good advise from you!
i'm glad to be of some help. :)
I will go you one further. Your biggest decision should be what to have for lunch and dinner. You provide wise council,again. It is nice to stay mobile. You are right, try not to get locked in. Both rules seem applicable. Thanks for sharing.
Great advice
Great advice!
thank you for the video.
my friend , my friend ,, just love the look you give after saying " so I hear " , best vid on the Philippines I've seen .. very informative and well presented .
thanks. :) more on the way.
Great Vid's Reekay. Never been to Phil's but these rules apply in all developing Countries.
So Many expat Men ( and Women) are so weak. Be humble but be Alpha. Never buy real estate unless You are rich. Do not feel sorry for People. Life is hard for all of Us sooner or later.
Learn to tell White lies. If You really want People out of Your business move around frequently. Can always return. Living in Hotels is great. Don't tell them You want a monthly rate. Stay a few days first to see How nice they are , have a story that You are just in for a few days. See the true personalities. THEN ,if they are nice People , negotiate a longer stay. Surround Yourself with good vibes. If You have assets don't tell. You are a simple pensioner.
Great advice, similar to how I operate. When people hit me up for money I tell them I don't have any, they disappear so fast.
Patience is very important. The faster you hurry, the faster you make mistakes. Meet women at church, university, offices and the like where hard working women are availbble.
My biggest disadvantage in the Philippines is my temper. My understanding is that it is always always always disadvantageous to lose one's temper. Coming from a small city in the US I am not accustomed to being harassed by street hustlers and beggars, I have to admit there were a few times in the Philippines where I was really on the verge of losing it on some of those types of people.
the best way to avoid having a 'reaction'.. is to have a 'response' ready in your mind. memorize a short, polite answer to handle those situations. and make that your response. something simple and short. i often will say, 'no, thank you.. (smile), no thanks." as i walk away.
LifeBeyondTheSea - Philippines I learned how to deal with those pedestrian everyday situations, I'm talking about where your sitting down on a bench near a food vendor eating and they come up and will not take no for an answer and will not leave, giving me the impression that they thought they owned that bench and anyone that sat down on it was required to fall for their scam/hustle as the price for peace or leave.
Like I said I only experienced something to that extreme a couple of times but I was on the verge of losing my temper. I manage to just ignore them for what seemed like a really long time while they just stood there having some kind of debate with themselves. They did eventually withdraw to their perch giving me dirty unfriendly looks from that distance.
I had half a mind to walk over there after I finished eating and punch one of them in the face, just for haha's but I had just barely enough sense to just leave in the opposite direction. LOL
last week i had about 45 minutes to kill while waiting on lyn to get off work. so i hung out on a park bench at the local boardwalk. soon enough a guy comes by to sell me some pearl jewelry. i politely told him, "no, thank you. not today." but he persisted. then he sat down next to me and kept trying to put them in my hand or on my lap. i kept putting them back into his box and after 3 times (that's my rule) of telling him, "No".. when he wouldn't go away, i made it interesting. he told me 2,000 pesos for a pearl necklace. i told him, "but i only have 300 pesos with me." he said, okay.. only 1,000 pesos for me. again i told him, "i only have 300 pesos." when i got up to walk away he said, "okay, i sell to you for 300 pesos." i told him, "no.. that would not be right. that necklace is worth 2,000 pesos. i could not give you only 300 for it." just then an expat came by with his g/f. i said, "see that foreigner?.. you should ask him. he has a g/f with him.' and i walked the other direction. the guy got confused which of us to follow and gave up on both of us. :)
LifeBeyondTheSea - Philippines
In my situation it was 3 guys on two motorbikes that walked over to me while I was having a bite to eat they wanted me to get on the back of one of their bikes and go to this Condominium Investment Presentation.
If I just went with them and sat through the presentation I would get coupons for freee food at McDonalds Pizza Hut etc, A tailored suit, floral arrangements and AND be entered into a prize drawing 1st place Motorbike, 2nd place Air conditioner or refrigerator etc etc
I heard about this scam in Thailand, if you were lucky you just got to walk 10 miles home.
It pissed me off to think they thought I was so stupid as to get on the back of a bike with 3 guys I never saw before in my life and just let them take me anywhere and that I was so weak willed that they could pressure me into it.
Damn they pissed me off.
Great common sense tips especially the Marrying part. I saw your interview with teacher Geo and am a new sub to your channel.
I love your advice about the Women , I didn't know they were like that . So I guess dating them means meeting them at your destination ( like the restaurant for dinner ) . That would be 80% if not more of your trouble . I am still blown away by it , I never knew this . Thank you so much for your videos .
About the women-- they view foreigners as ATM/economic security. This is the situation in ALL developing countries. They will trap you for sure. They especially like old foreigners because the old guys die sooner leaving the young Filipina RICH and free to be with someone her own age. Truth hurts but it is what it is.
very good advice
Thank you for the great insight....I'll use your wisdom wisely.
it has saved me from making rush decisions that could have really mangled my life in the PH. take it slow and easy. :)
Sound advice no bullshit! 👍
I,ll dated my wife for 5 years and went there in the Philippine and met her family,we had a good time and with your family help me get around with no trouble.I,m retired and she will be in a year.will are planning to live close to her family.we are all up in age.,it,s best to meet the lady family before getting marry.we all have some family to stay away from .
Dave Green here again, I listen to you and Ned and Steve a lot and I have hundreds of notes from you's , very informative! I have a few questions for yous so I'm looking forward to seeing all of you in time
that would be great! drop me a line at my FB and we can set it up. facebook.com/reekay.inph
thats a very good advice to all men who wanna come to philippines... dont trust anyone thats the most important.
Timeless information for the inexperienced and a goid reminder for the experienced.
Well said
Great advice. Could you do more of these?
yes. :) i am curating various videos for re-edit and re-posting from now until march of 2017. i will then have new content as well as intermittently from now til then. :) also be sure to check out my new content each week at my podcast; www.reekayradio.com
I used to visit the Philippines yearly since 2005. Then I suddenly developed claustrophobia on airplanes. It's so depressing I want to return again soon.
bummer.. hopefully that can be turned around. maybe hypno-therapy?? might be worth a shot.
+LifeBeyondTheSea - Philippines I'm willing to try almost anything by now
Consider exploring desensitization with a therapist and aisle seat. Sometimes medication is helpful.
hey henry , i see you brought back the past into the present and condensed, good job,,,,
how are things in Duma, hope next time i am there we can meet up, i only met up with Ned in May 2015,, gee time flies, seems like yesterday ,, take care from un hispano to another, florida guy here, Ben
that'd be cool with me. :)
when i was travelling to Cuba, I to did get lots of new friends both guys and gals, and when or during drinking and partying they would get me on a good sympathic story and I would next day find out I had to pay for a refrigerator, bike, or car repair, finally I would tell all my new people that I lie when I am drinking, so the next day I would tell them that I told you so, that I lie when drinking, you should see there faces, it is worth it, I will do this when I come to Ph.
This video should play at every airport with flights to the Philippines. It would save a number of people from getting into trouble and save them money. Great video. 12:10 this advise stands true, no matter where you live. I NEVER take a girl to my house. I don't want crazy coming to my house or work, and causing problems and drama.
that would definitely boost my views. ha! but yes, the excitement of being in new surroundings can throw a person off-center for a while as they acclimate to new surroundings. until then, they are slightly disadvantaged in assessing what 'seems like' an opportunity for love or fortune.
mike William funny, but it is a good advice or video.
planning on renting rooms out of my house, weekly or monthly...we are family oriented people, would love to have someone who want to experience and mingle with the locals..
two comments... no...and run fast...lol.for some good reason I can see a scam COMMING.some people have 7th sense,you will develop it trust me..first trip to da Phil's everyone has game make sure you don't fall victim..
After 6 yrs here, you are pretty right-on with your points here ...
I'll try to add something ... People are people, world wide ... We are just raised in different cultures so we have slightly different ways or ~fluff on top of our humanity...
As was stated here in this video, don't do certain things. If you would not do it back home, do not do it here either. These are human beings, people here, same as back home. They just have a different set of values than what you have from your home and culture.
Spend and give as you please, but be a responsible, grown-up about it.. If you lose something that you did not intent to lose or spend money you want back, sorry but you did it. Not the girl, or Mom, or guy, or the neighbor, or the carabao, you did it, you allowed it to happen, and please hold the crying when you, the grown-up man(?) made a teenager mistake. Why do so many guys make adolescent-type mistakes here and then cry to the world over their mistakes?
exactly. out of the hundreds of men i've spoken with over the years, those who were scammed did NOT have the money illegally stolen out of their bank account with a fake password. the guy himself made the decision to wire or hand over that money. granted, under false pretense. but instead of using patience or discernment to spot the lies.. he just handed over the money willingly. it was a BAD DECISION on his part. he let a 20 year old girl con him. as you stated, if you wouldn't do it back home don't do it in the PH.
I love you spirit your videos you are one of the people that inspirited me to do videos.
thanks. :) it looks like you've developed a great niche for yourself. me, i can fix computer operating systems but i was never handy with tools.
ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS BE HUMBLE AND NICE. THEY WILL TREAT YOU LIKE A ROCK STAR.
rule number 2 should be the norm, better be safe than sorry
As usual i enjoyed your video you offer many practical ideas and thru your experiences we all benefit. Thank you very much. For sharing with the rest of us. Im wondering have you decided to permanently remain in Philippines. I know you have your Mom and brothers back in Cali ....Be well keep up the good work
i plan to visit my mom and kids again in spring of 2019. (that will make my upcoming christmas the 2nd in my life not spent with family.) i then plan to visit vietnam after california for a while and then eventually return to the PH, most likely Cebu to figure out my next plan.
Sounds good no matter how old we get Mom still see's you as her little boy and worry's...I have a fear of heights and when you were on that roof it was nerve racking. Does not look super safe remember those
buildings are not up to code like USA Becareful Keep Safe..
very good advise...the taking a female friend to your place is a big mistake...the one about money ..that's common sense to many but your right...that's a popular one...
Good video. Always good to remind people of the traps. As for investments, the wisdom is that the investment of a lifetime comes along about once a month if you are looking for one. The fake investment schemes come by more often than that. Even if it looks just great, best to pass it up and wait till the best time for you and be super cautious.
when i was living in the states, if i ever was in the market to buy a new car.. i never rushed. my mantra was, "There is ALWAYS a car for sale somewhere." no need to rush in and buy it just because the salesguy is hyped and foaming at the mouth for a commission. same with buying a house. so in a foreign country, even more important to use patience.
Great insight thanks so much you show is clean and informative I am going in May looking forward to the trip
Not going on a girly tour either I look to you for advice on my trip
thanks, have a great trip! :)
Old saying.... If you want to lose a friend, loan them money!!! ;))
+ Bruce - how to get someone out of your life? Lend them $20 and they will make themselves scarce after that. hee hee
When you first step foot in the Philippines you had long term in mind and never visited there before ? Am I Correct ?? I ask this because it's obviously more advantageous to visit before moving there permanently. But looking back, do you feel that in this age of technology some people can just take there time, do there homework and just make the move w/o visiting if they feel that confident in what they want or would you be 100% against this ?
in my case, i was motivated to be with the filipina i'd had a relationship with for over 2 years in the usa. (she lived in cebu, commuted back and forth.) so when i moved to the PH, i spent 12 months doing what research i could, but my mind was made up to move there and stay, no matter what. but that was my circumstances. would i recommend it to others? not really. the PH is not for everybody. some people can't take it anymore after 6 months and never come back. others don't plan their finances well. the safe bet is to visit at least once, but visit an area that is tropical. there's really no point in coming to the PH for 2 weeks and spending it in Manila. a person could experience urban blight in their own country. check out the smaller islands like bohol, panglao, iloilo or even travel north of cebu city to bogo or roxas. or go south to dumaguete, toldedo or bacolod. me, i was on a mission. for me the PH was a backdrop to my romantic situation. i was prepared to adjust to anything so we could be together.
I’ve been talking a girl in Philippines for 6 years and I have given her lots of money so I don’t know if she is a good girl or not. Can you help
What do you think about buying a motorbike to get around and a licenses? How hard is it to get a licenses with bike on it?
So your lease pays your last 2 months rent? Is that generally accepted? What if there is damage or the apt needs cleaning after you leave?
upon entry, most landlords want the current month's rent and a 'last months rent'. so at end of lease there is only 1 month that is 'consumable'. plus a $100 damages deposit. that is a fair and normal lease arrangement. anything beyond that, like pre-dated checks or high deposits i would just walk away from if they won't negotiate it down and in writing. and always, always get and keep receipts for paid rent.
Reekay is the wisest, newbies, buying videos is the best investment you can make, even if you are as wise as Reekay
No divorce ?? What do you do if your relationship isnt working out ??
either they stay together, and the guy usually has some woman on the side.. or he just abandons the family and finds another woman, living together without marriage. it's a rotten idea, no divorce, in my opinion. it prevents women from moving on in their life to find a better mate. they are the ones left with the kids. the men don't care, they just leave.
in philippine is no divorce, when your marriage is not working, you have to go to hongkong, to get a divorce
2 years , I've been talking to her ,
Lol, had to watch this vid twice in a role coz you tell it like it is & you're making me laugh from experiences there, too! After a few months of direct-contact with a Filipino Muslim from a, I think it was a Travel Agency business in Mabini/Malate, Metro Manila - he asked me over-the-phone for alleged charitable cash to build a new Mosque in the Southern Pilipinas. In other words to build his self a new house, etc.
i've spoken with a few viewers that i ran into in town who followed this 1-year rule. they were SO thankful they did. looking back on their first year here, they now realize how many times they could have easily been duped into a bad business deal or bad marriage.
Good advice anywhere you live. Rushing into business or relationships is just a bad idea.
We only stayed in a condo for a month. We just started Sari X2 store. The only investment was stocking it & we did well with it. I only trusted Ne, her family & pastor Bong, they all looked out for me when I was first here. Keep in mind most of Ne's family R government officials & certainly not poor. Well Ne picked me up at the A/P & we have lived together the 4 years since then. No one has ever taken money from me here.
This was made before GoFundMe was created.They literally encourage you to ask friends
first for money.Needless to say I don't care much for GoFundMe.Henry's way is best!
Hi Henry,why dont you buy a land .just for 1hectare and start planting some vegetables for your part time job and you will have income for your daily expense.
lol, my friend my friend great video
Hi Reekay! I am planning to come to the Phillipines in 2025. I have a few questions about the Phillipines I want to ask you. What is the best way to contact you?
Or even renting per year.at least 7 years contract
we are from Az, we have vacation house in Pampanga
I'll be there about 19 September and plan to meet you and the guys for lunch or dinner my name is Dave Green, I'll be living in candaway camella homes
A good bit of this info is pretty much common sense. However, there is always that one person who doesn't listen or is absolutely clueless to things like this. When I was in the Military we were always told when we went somewhere that we needed to dress a certain way as to not draw attention to yourself, ie no flashy jewelry, pants without pockets etc. Yet again there was always this one guy who didn't listen. Hopefully someone will see this video and learn something from it. Good information for them to know and also good info with the women and hiring a maid.
many years ago i heard someone say, "what many people need today is not so much new teaching.. but only to be reminded of lessons they already know." i've always kept that in mind with the channel here. i'm not out to re-invent the wheel or discover hidden wisdom. my only goal is to remind people at the right time the best course for the best result. :)
Right don't reinvent the wheel. After reading the travel guide books and reading online about things to pay attention to in the Philippines I was so paranoid when I got off the plane I just kept my head straight and didn't talk to anyone in the Airport until I saw the Immigration Official LOL. It is kinda sad that someone some where will watch this video and say "Huh, I never made the connection" LOL. Really enjoy the videos and I enjoy the information you give out. I think a lot of experiences you have had, can and will help a ton of people when they decide to visit or live there. Keep up the good work
hi henry luv your videos going to phillipinnes first time cebu jim from pomona ca
thanks! enjoy your trip. be sure to check out Leah's Temple in cebu.
Nice video. However, it just look exactly like a video you did a few years ago. If you are going to repost videos, you should write it somewhere in the title.
for this series of re-edited videos, i have the title, "Reekay's Review" in the opening credits. you can see it in the icon. the original was released in 2013.
Wow....this is a old vid, but most good advice, but most do not take any noticed,
+Retired in Samar I know a guy that send money over from the states for this wedding, only talking online six months and never meeting the girl.......one born everyday
+Retired in Samar can't understand some guys investing in Phil more so if you are in your later years. I really don't see much return, and you are taking all the risk, if there are kids. guess that's another story.
awww man , my wife is a maid ,and philipina, and she knows where i live :P and yes always drama ( harmless)
ha! sounds like you got a good thing going though. :)
For the next 5 years I'm not going to get married. For the next 1 year I will never become anyones "boy friend".
How's that?
that is an awesome plan. "stay the course". :)
Start thinking seriously about that one girl (there won't be many) who never showed a psychotic jealous side and never asked you for money because of some family emergency after that first year.
Every Filipina I've ever dated (including the middle class, educated ones) has shown a psychotic jealous side. I've just come to accept it.
Really Great video advise for anyone coming to the Philippines, now I dated Filipina wife for two years and we met in the states through some friends of ours now we have been married for 15 years so that's 17 years total. My question is can I start trusting her yet? hahahaha.........just kidding I love and trust my wife with my life she is the greatest person I have met.
yes, that's very important. and similar to the business angle.. during a year here, talk to business owners who have survived more than a few years. they'll give you information that is worth it's weight in gold from experience. just like getting to know the married couples who have good marriages. it's all about networking with the right people, making those friendships and connections the first year.
+ Steven Hardy - I understand the Filipinines info network is the most efficient communications system on the planet. The foreigners stick out and everyone knows someone who is a friend or relative of someone else. They will all be chatting about you and you don' t know who these people are.
i would love to travel to philipines, but i think i can't handle long flights.
Henry can you get a one month lease?
yes. best, easiest place to find those is at www.airbnb.com . but most offline places want between a 3-12 month lease, the mom-and-pop owned apartments.
What about fixing your new girl friends family's house?
everyone has to make their own judgment call, but i'll share my parameters. for one thing, a girlfriend of only 2 months has no right to be asking for home renovations. that's some pretty big cash in the PH for a room addition, new roof, etc. if she's been a girlfriend for 9+ months and it looks like she's a good woman, okay.. then consider it. but not when she's still in the "new girlfriend" phase. as for buying a house, me.. i would not consider buying a house until after 2 or 3 years of marriage. not just because things might change, but also to pick a proper distance from her family so we have our own life and privacy. that decision of shopping out an island takes time to do together. but buying a house in her name just because she's a fiance'?? no way.
Home renovations for a new girlfriend of 2 months should be a big warning sign that she is either scamming you or that you are trying to hard to win her affection with throwing money at her to try and get her. What ever happened to just dating?
Thanks buddy ,, there are so many beautiful places in world to. Vicit I wouldn’t e en
Even care about coming to a rat hole like this
Best advice for expats- period!!
I broke rule #1 but it fortunately I met the right girl.
to if she buys something she will take a picture of the receipt, I find that kinda funny , I don't ask , all good thou ,
i agree with everything but one thing i find strange is you cant bring women to your place.....i would have to spend a fortune in hotel bills!!!! haha
but i plan to live in a condo so i hope i will be ok haha
a point i didn't bring up in the video is that.. after a few meets with the woman, if it turns out she's sane and trustworthy, then it's your call to have her over at your place at that point. the hard part is spotting them accurately before giving them the green light to your place.
So True, don't bring them home... "Ever"
Reekay has right, but it goes further then that, do not take a girl/woman from philippine origin to your room or house, because, whe you 2 are alone, then they can accuse you from rape her , and your ass is going to end up in to jail, and when you do not get a lawayer, you can sit there for years, before you are going to trial, or the woman/girl wants a big deal of money from you, to drop all the charges agaist you, so be aware, i hear it more and more, you be warned, do NOT get alone with a woman or girl in a room, philippine jails are not like western jails, and the law? a lot of them a corrupt, so think twice, No. 3 times before you do stupid things like that.
"so I hear..." LOL
"wow, I could have had that girl"? really? So being in love has nothing to do with it? Each to their own I guess but it's interesting to know your viewpoint.
i've met SO many guys with "buyer's remorse" it's truly a sad situation. guys who jumped into marriage right away, had some kids and now.. they spend their time at the bar cheating on their wife with the bargirls. my comments are towards avoiding that situation. rushing into marital commitment brings sorrow and heartbreak to too many good-hearted filipinas. much better a man WAIT and not get married until he truly knows he is ready to make that commitment. it's best for him and for filipinas in the long run.
as for Love.. i'm all for love. but, "love is patient."
You look so young here.
i'll probably look at my current videos four years from now and think the same thing. ha!
It's kinda sad to know that you meet a lot of horrible people in my country that take advantage of you as a foreigner.Youre right in most of the things you've said in this video but what can you say to your fellow expat who choose to be in a relationship or marrying a young Filipina girl like the age of her daughter.
as i mentioned in a recent podcast, overall the filipinos i've met the last 4 years have been a positive experience. but a few have no shame. it is only the bad ones we need warning about. i've enjoyed my 4 years (so far) in the PH. but partly because i am slow to trust, whether it is locals or foreigners. :) lifebeyondthesea.com/rep_011-meeting-expats-filipinos-philippines/
as for dating/marrying younger women, i wrote an article on this at the following link. as long as both are over 18, it really is nobody's business to scorn others in such a relationship. such people who do have no basis other than their own preference with no respect for others. people are free to make their own decisions on who they want to love.
lifebeyondthesea.com/dating-young-filipinas-the-may-december-relationship/
LifeBeyondTheSea - Philippines It's good if other people think it that way too but most people think that young girls are just after the money of their foreign lover or husband.It can make you think if such relationship only exist in philippines.In my opinion it's ok as long as they love each other and the man was good and the girl won't abandon her foreign husband till the end.
I totally agree with you Reekay, no bodies business. I only worry about myself. I rushed in 2 months got married. But I am blessed I have a wonderful wife my age. We are doing great. Where I live I don't see gold diggers, I am sure there are a few out there.
i know of an expat who is dating a filipina in her late 20's.. and his family back home is putting together an "intervention" to bring a stop to his relationship with her. nobody ever bothered to even know the filipina. all based on ignorant assumptions. fortunately the expat has told them to pound sand and he's going to choose his own relationship himself. it's none of their business, yet that's how vehement some people are against age-gap relationships.
what about doing a video about American women to Philippine men
that's a situation i've not seen much. maybe 3 women in 4 years. however, for a good source on that, visit my friend's page, JC from Holland.. she's an expat who has dated filipino men while living here in the PH. leavingholland.com/
aw, ok thank you..are you on face book? I'm from Michigan, usa
yes, you can reach me on FB at facebook.com/reekay.inph
The best Filipinos live in America 🙌
not true, the best are Nons lol
So if a women ask for money then there all bad , I offered , I don't mind helping this girl , I don't feel like she's taking advantage of me , but I'm a pretty generous guy , met the whole family , plan on marrying her , so I don't see a problem with it , maybe I'm gullible,
depends how long you've known her and how well you know her. and how much money we're talking about. but generally if a guy has only known her online, never met her, and it's only been a few weeks.. red-flag if she's asking or implying she needs $100+ to solve some problem you can't verify. i don't look to the dating sites for a relationship since i live here. plenty of women i meet in person. the key rule is; "Trust, but verify.", which from what you describe sounds like you've done. go with your mind and gut, not just your heart.
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