I stumbled upon this video and found it to be quite insightful. The topic of communication tools to save a marriage is critical, and this video provides practical tips that couples can apply in their daily lives. This video offers hope for couples facing challenges in their marriage and provides a path forward to save their relationship. I highly recommend it to anyone seeking to improve their communication skills in their marriage.
thank you so much , I really just needed to heard this , I've been saying some of these things , but felt as if I was wrong or over doing it , but 1000 percent I will be following you along your channel growth! oh and also I defiantly will be taking more of the steps you gave in my marriage , and just thru life . thank you so much again, stay blessed!
Powerful video I learnt alot I do have a big issue with communication and I want to put what I learn from this video to work once my significant other allows it with the point we are at.
Thank you for watching, Nicole. Please watch this video to understand how to improve communication in your marriage. ruclips.net/video/U86suPyw6xA/видео.html Coach Adrian
What do you do when you try to talk to your husband regarding stuff that hurts you but they don’t listen? Yell over you, when they frustrated they pick a fight with you, as put you down? And you stay calm trying to ask them what’s wrong but they won’t listen and hurt you with words and see you in tears and they just walk away??? How do you deal with this? You have so much respect for them but they not showing same respect for you?
This is amazing... I found we have struggled with all of these same problems and are going to try our best to use your tools to work through our issues.... It's amazing how much i didnt realize these are so common in a marriage.... but it makes perfect sense... i'm so glad to have watched your video... ty so much
So how does someone let their partner know that they do not feel like they are being heard, that they feel their opinion is not being heard about 'our' home, that they feel slighted when their spouse asks for their opinion but tells them they are going to do it their way anyway, feels undermined when it comes to disciplining the children when the spouse doesn't follow through with a punishment, or they feel like hired help rather than a loved and supported spouse without placing blame?! I feel this way a lot when my husband does or says something either to my face, under his breath, or worse to our children when I'm not around. It makes me feel extremely unappreciated, not supported as a spouse/family member and unloved. When I try to have an open, calm conversation about it, I get my ADHD thrown in my face, or he picks things that I didn't get to around the house (cleaning, or laundry) to use as ammunition to say that I'm not doing my job as a wife/parent. I just don't know how to approach this anymore.
I lost my wife through infidelity but throughout our marriage we had lots of communication problems which lead to a total breakdown. We also have two children together and I miss them very much. I was the selfish one and couldn't see what she was telling me. Right now I am working on myself really hard so that I can be the man God wanted me to be. What advice can you give me that can help?
You must understand why the infidelity happened. What beliefs do you hold about yourself? Learn what motivates your behavior. Learn about yourself. And love your children unconditionally.
I have a bad habit of being distracted especially when the subject does not interest me. Like when I am watching something or doing something that I am interested in. How do I distance myself from these habits to give my attention to my wife without feeling like she is imposing on what I’m doing?
With communication, I’ve struggled because my child trauma silenced me so I am very on self conscious at times of speaking my mind FULLY and feeling same to fully open up instead of partially. I’m so used to keeping things in or not being able to fully release, that I carry into my relationship and could do better. When I try, sometimes I freeze up or rush, or try to over explain myself, or even try to say things in pursuit of people actually hearing me. It’s hard and I’m REALLY trying to practice communicating better, but I don’t want my relationship to continue to struggle also. Do u have tips for improving communication with this backround overall?
Thank you for your post! It made me feel like it’s not just me unable to properly communicate, but I have struggled with living in my head,which Is the worst thing you can EVER do in a relationship... I have been getting better with opening up but it takes time. Thank you again for your comment, it truly helped me
@Melissa M. Your comment and the replies make me feel better because I know that I am not crazy and I am not the only one experiencing this. Your every word points to me, I mean this is exactly what I go through..and it is tormenting and draining because communicating this way leads to so much unwanted emotions, misinterpreted gestures, etc It is affecting my marriage. My inability to open up fully, express exactly the message without being too careful, to express myself even when I'm being hurt, etc, has led to people treating me poorly, disrespecting me, because all I do is remain silent. My husband has helped me so far and today I can stand up for myself, and talk for myself, but when it comes to expressing myself fully with my husband it is challenging because I am very self conscious at that time and I get into the withdrawal mood and communicate slowly with facial expressions, with long silence during talks, etc and even though I have learnt that these are not good for healthy communication, I still struggle with them. I believe if not of the love my husband and I have for each other, we would have separated. We are still struggling. I pray daily for God's healing and renewal of my mind and life. I pray some day I will be able to have fluent communication without the silent breaks, the partial information, etc. I just want to be able to express myself in the best way possible. I was sexually taken advantage of at age 12 by a closed loved one, unable to tell anyone I learnt to live with it and the person in my life. I lost my mum at age 14 and she died in my arms, from there on I went silent and stopped talking all I did was write for more than 2years. I had to be there for my siblings, fight for us, and all. I don't expect anyone to understand me nor pity me but sometimes I just want to be able to talk about it and be heard even if the person can't help. Growing up has been challenging to me honestly. Today I am 28th, married to one of the most amazing human being in the world whole loves, cares and stands by me but I struggle with communicating clearly and it is affecting him too. God help me fix my communication style please.
I too, would like some tips for this. I feel so ashamed everyday being told why can't I get engaged in an emotional conversation. It's not that I don't I am trying but I am also afraid. It's like I'm doing the best I can to communicate but we are not on the same level. She says I don't listen and it makes her hurt because I ask her to repeat. But I ask for explanation because I don't understand, because of my ignorance. But everytime she gets upset, simply because I need more details and information to fully understand. I don't want my household to fall apart simply because of miscommunication or the lack of
I have no connection with my husband, We don’t have anything to do when we are both home not even to hold a conversation I dont know what to say to him, he doesn’t spoil me on special days, i get defensive and have a harsh tone. We only bond for sex. He seems frustrated at my kids(his step kids) I don’t even know if i love him. He waits for me to do everything for him(dish his food, simple things like dropping the A/c temp when he’s hot or just cooking plain rice) I am so confused this is my 2nd marriage and I’ve thought about divorce a lot of times. I just dont want my kids going thru trauma again
Hey Tima, I am sorry to hear this. I know this must be difficult for you. I would love to help you and know more about your relationship so I would encourage you to book a coaching call. happilycommitted.com/coaching/
I've watched this video 4 times now, i'll have to watch it again, lol - I think it will change my relationship life for the better on all levels, with all kinds of relationships, not just romantic, where this, however, is the most urgent to be applied - for me - in any case...
I tried something closer to this a long time back. It was/is difficult and hard to have verbal communication. I took some white sheets and just wrote down few questions for him. Basic level questions. Invited him if can and first thing if he seriously wants to meet me. He came but he didn't even touch the papers or read any of it. They were normal questions not like he might have to accept in written or anything. Or might get offended. Didn't work. Same argumental situation happened and all efforts his/mine to solve and get my answers were wasted. At one point I think I took hell lot of efforts to think about what type of questions, how to ask him , how to manage etc was for no reason. May be It's just made him feel that "see I am so important that she is making white sheets"...whereas I was trying to help both of us because there were certain basic things from the start of our marriage untold to me. I told him I m doing this for the first time , I am not a psychologist or anything and won't use your answers for anything else but of no use...then I stopped myself from taking efforts.
I did what you advised but it’s useless. My wife been unemployed for years already and we don’t have kids that will hold her goals. My wife don’t have goal. I talked everything to in courage her with the goals but it’s been more then years she doesn’t have any action at all.
I saw the video, amazing. I have tried all the points, but we have not reached anywhere. Party because for many years I have allowed her to take control and not create an argument, which I feel striped o my identity, and I have no voice. Sometimes in an argument, we say wrong things, and I realize my mistake and apologize, but she never does. When I ask for apologies, it is always my fault. It is just a lossing game.
I have been struggling with communication with my wife for 3 years. Its bad that she had to leave me in order for me to see it. I just wish had started this early 😪
@@HappilyCommitted help me I'm telling you these tips really helps me. My marriage is going to terminal right now and these tips come at the right time thank you 🙏🙏
what are you thoughts on people pushing the "I" communication, I find it to be an extremely self centred way of communicating, I really don't feel that I am respected when my wife tries using this method, It seems like it is only about her and she is not interested in me.
I'm trying to listen to her carefully, but whenever I fail -- it becomes area of conflict almost instantly. -- Not fully successful for my partner to talk fully, so the present problem of working for long term goal is heard by understood by her.
It's kind of sad RUclips are put dating app ads before your video. Someone struggling in their marriage shouldn't have dating apps flashed in their faces
The problem is I do all nine of these on the list and my wife won't do any of them. Not a single one. We're better off not communicating. Every time we spoke to each other this weekend morphed into an argument. Not exaggerating. Every damn time.
Hopefully this will help me out. My boyfriend and I have been constantly fighting for a week... I try new approaches and I try to understand where he's coming from. (I always apologize.) everytime i talk to him about how I felt in the moment I get turned down. He will yell at me and tell me I need to stop talking for 5 minutes(and he sets a timer)... And he did it again tonight over 5 times.... I don't come with anger or attitude most of the time, but he is so defensive when I
Can you please give me some communication phrases to say to my husband. We are separated living apart the disconnect between us is so bad that I don't know what to say to him. If I pour out my feelings to him in a text message and say let's go to counseling. He will say no thanks I'm not going to counseling. I have told him what I need yo be happy and asked him to tell me what he needs from me to be Happy. He want give me a list or respond. I have started saying Good morning to him he use to ignore me. Now he is saying Good morning back and I don't say anything else because if I say something he don't respond back. So I don't know what to say to him that will make him forgive me for really only defending myself with words. We both have said hurtful things to each other. He would stop speaking to me fir weeks. If I wanted to talk about the issue he never did. Then one day he would start back talking to me like nothing ever happened and non of our issues were ever resolved. Then he wouldn't forgive me which put resentment, bitterness, and hatred in his heart towards me. When he would be the one that wronged me and my telling him about it always hurt his pride. The truth hurts especially when you won't own up to it. I'm just disresptful to him
I need some help I can’t afford counseling so I’ll look you up I don’t want to push her away but I don’t want her not to feel special I can’t balance work life and home life
My husband doesn't allow me to talk, he will be the one talking and abusive hot tempered if i manage to say any word he will end the call on me and start giving me voice record on WhatsApp before I knew it he will block me. The man is so hot and sturborn
This all sounds great but challenging.
I stumbled upon this video and found it to be quite insightful. The topic of communication tools to save a marriage is critical, and this video provides practical tips that couples can apply in their daily lives. This video offers hope for couples facing challenges in their marriage and provides a path forward to save their relationship. I highly recommend it to anyone seeking to improve their communication skills in their marriage.
thank you so much , I really just needed to heard this , I've been saying some of these things , but felt as if I was wrong or over doing it , but 1000 percent I will be following you along your channel growth! oh and also I defiantly will be taking more of the steps you gave in my marriage , and just thru life . thank you so much again, stay blessed!
Powerful video I learnt alot I do have a big issue with communication and I want to put what I learn from this video to work once my significant other allows it with the point we are at.
The recap in the description is EXTREMELY helpful! Thank you for placing it there!
Thank you so much for taking the time to put this together.
You're welcome, Bertha. Thank you for watching.
Coach Adrian
We have unhealthy communication in our marriage and hopefully we can implement the tools given. Prqying for newness in our marriage!
Thank you for watching, Nicole. Please watch this video to understand how to improve communication in your marriage.
ruclips.net/video/U86suPyw6xA/видео.html
Coach Adrian
Great video!!!!!!! This is the best video about communication skills on RUclips, and I’ve seen about 20 other videos!!!!!! Thanks!!!!!
Thank you for watching the video. I appreciate your feedback! Coach Adrian
Thank you so much! These are practical and logical, easy-to-understand, guidelines that my partner and I can practice.
Wow! You are so thorough with explaining everything! Thank you I will be applying these tools. 💛
Everything you said here is on point. I claim to apply this in my relationship with the man that I want to spend my life with.
What do you do when you try to talk to your husband regarding stuff that hurts you but they don’t listen? Yell over you, when they frustrated they pick a fight with you, as put you down? And you stay calm trying to ask them what’s wrong but they won’t listen and hurt you with words and see you in tears and they just walk away??? How do you deal with this? You have so much respect for them but they not showing same respect for you?
Why do you have respect for them? Did they earn it?
This is amazing... I found we have struggled with all of these same problems and are going to try our best to use your tools to work through our issues.... It's amazing how much i didnt realize these are so common in a marriage.... but it makes perfect sense... i'm so glad to have watched your video... ty so much
Thank you for this video brother! I just subscribed! Much respect bro!
Thank you so much for subscribing! We are always happy to help!
So how does someone let their partner know that they do not feel like they are being heard, that they feel their opinion is not being heard about 'our' home, that they feel slighted when their spouse asks for their opinion but tells them they are going to do it their way anyway, feels undermined when it comes to disciplining the children when the spouse doesn't follow through with a punishment, or they feel like hired help rather than a loved and supported spouse without placing blame?! I feel this way a lot when my husband does or says something either to my face, under his breath, or worse to our children when I'm not around. It makes me feel extremely unappreciated, not supported as a spouse/family member and unloved. When I try to have an open, calm conversation about it, I get my ADHD thrown in my face, or he picks things that I didn't get to around the house (cleaning, or laundry) to use as ammunition to say that I'm not doing my job as a wife/parent. I just don't know how to approach this anymore.
I lost my wife through infidelity but throughout our marriage we had lots of communication problems which lead to a total breakdown. We also have two children together and I miss them very much. I was the selfish one and couldn't see what she was telling me. Right now I am working on myself really hard so that I can be the man God wanted me to be.
What advice can you give me that can help?
You must understand why the infidelity happened. What beliefs do you hold about yourself? Learn what motivates your behavior. Learn about yourself. And love your children unconditionally.
I struggle with receiving feedback and actually understand what my partner is telling me.
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Coach Natalie
Really great video!! Thank you so much!! I will print the tips to have in front when frustrated or struggle to commit.
I have a bad habit of being distracted especially when the subject does not interest me. Like when I am watching something or doing something that I am interested in. How do I distance myself from these habits to give my attention to my wife without feeling like she is imposing on what I’m doing?
That’s all good but I need more examples rather than just the theory
Thanks this is great. I will work hard on these fundamentals so as to improve communication with the wonderful wife that God has given me
Very helpful video, got some action items. Keep up the great work
Thank you!
I struggle in communicating with my wife. As basic as these tips sound, I was not a good listener. I worked hard to change
I was raped when I was a boy and have years of acting out that has strained my marriage. I am a needy ass. I wish I can make her happy again
With communication, I’ve struggled because my child trauma silenced me so I am very on self conscious at times of speaking my mind FULLY and feeling same to fully open up instead of partially. I’m so used to keeping things in or not being able to fully release, that I carry into my relationship and could do better. When I try, sometimes I freeze up or rush, or try to over explain myself, or even try to say things in pursuit of people actually hearing me. It’s hard and I’m REALLY trying to practice communicating better, but I don’t want my relationship to continue to struggle also. Do u have tips for improving communication with this backround overall?
I have the same issue. I hope someone has some advice
Thank you for your post! It made me feel like it’s not just me unable to properly communicate, but I have struggled with living in my head,which Is the worst thing you can EVER do in a relationship... I have been getting better with opening up but it takes time. Thank you again for your comment, it truly helped me
I have the same issue.
@Melissa M.
Your comment and the replies make me feel better because I know that I am not crazy and I am not the only one experiencing this.
Your every word points to me, I mean this is exactly what I go through..and it is tormenting and draining because communicating this way leads to so much unwanted emotions, misinterpreted gestures, etc
It is affecting my marriage. My inability to open up fully, express exactly the message without being too careful, to express myself even when I'm being hurt, etc, has led to people treating me poorly, disrespecting me, because all I do is remain silent.
My husband has helped me so far and today I can stand up for myself, and talk for myself, but when it comes to expressing myself fully with my husband it is challenging because I am very self conscious at that time and I get into the withdrawal mood and communicate slowly with facial expressions, with long silence during talks, etc and even though I have learnt that these are not good for healthy communication, I still struggle with them.
I believe if not of the love my husband and I have for each other, we would have separated. We are still struggling.
I pray daily for God's healing and renewal of my mind and life. I pray some day I will be able to have fluent communication without the silent breaks, the partial information, etc.
I just want to be able to express myself in the best way possible.
I was sexually taken advantage of at age 12 by a closed loved one, unable to tell anyone I learnt to live with it and the person in my life.
I lost my mum at age 14 and she died in my arms, from there on I went silent and stopped talking all I did was write for more than 2years.
I had to be there for my siblings, fight for us, and all.
I don't expect anyone to understand me nor pity me but sometimes I just want to be able to talk about it and be heard even if the person can't help.
Growing up has been challenging to me honestly.
Today I am 28th, married to one of the most amazing human being in the world whole loves, cares and stands by me but I struggle with communicating clearly and it is affecting him too.
God help me fix my communication style please.
I too, would like some tips for this. I feel so ashamed everyday being told why can't I get engaged in an emotional conversation. It's not that I don't I am trying but I am also afraid. It's like I'm doing the best I can to communicate but we are not on the same level. She says I don't listen and it makes her hurt because I ask her to repeat. But I ask for explanation because I don't understand, because of my ignorance. But everytime she gets upset, simply because I need more details and information to fully understand. I don't want my household to fall apart simply because of miscommunication or the lack of
I have no connection with my husband, We don’t have anything to do when we are both home not even to hold a conversation I dont know what to say to him, he doesn’t spoil me on special days, i get defensive and have a harsh tone. We only bond for sex. He seems frustrated at my kids(his step kids) I don’t even know if i love him. He waits for me to do everything for him(dish his food, simple things like dropping the A/c temp when he’s hot or just cooking plain rice) I am so confused this is my 2nd marriage and I’ve thought about divorce a lot of times. I just dont want my kids going thru trauma again
Hey Tima,
I am sorry to hear this. I know this must be difficult for you. I would love to help you and know more about your relationship so I would encourage you to book a coaching call.
happilycommitted.com/coaching/
What about him do you love? He sounds rather selfish.
Thanks for the advice
Thank you so much for watching!
Thank-you for writing it in the comments. I learn through visual so it helps me to see.
You're welcome!
Coach Natalie
Thank you! I will work on listening to understand with my husband. Great video!
Sending you lots of positivity!
Coach Adrian
I've watched this video 4 times now, i'll have to watch it again, lol - I think it will change my relationship life for the better on all levels, with all kinds of relationships, not just romantic, where this, however, is the most urgent to be applied - for me - in any case...
Thank u. I needed to hear this.
Thank you so much me and my husband been married 4 years and he have bipolar
I tried something closer to this a long time back. It was/is difficult and hard to have verbal communication. I took some white sheets and just wrote down few questions for him. Basic level questions. Invited him if can and first thing if he seriously wants to meet me. He came but he didn't even touch the papers or read any of it. They were normal questions not like he might have to accept in written or anything. Or might get offended. Didn't work. Same argumental situation happened and all efforts his/mine to solve and get my answers were wasted. At one point I think I took hell lot of efforts to think about what type of questions, how to ask him , how to manage etc was for no reason. May be It's just made him feel that "see I am so important that she is making white sheets"...whereas I was trying to help both of us because there were certain basic things from the start of our marriage untold to me. I told him I m doing this for the first time , I am not a psychologist or anything and won't use your answers for anything else but of no use...then I stopped myself from taking efforts.
Hello win friends and influence people is Dale Carnegie book
Correct
I did what you advised but it’s useless.
My wife been unemployed for years already and we don’t have kids that will hold her goals. My wife don’t have goal. I talked everything to in courage her with the goals but it’s been more then years she doesn’t have any action at all.
I saw the video, amazing. I have tried all the points, but we have not reached anywhere. Party because for many years I have allowed her to take control and not create an argument, which I feel striped o my identity, and I have no voice. Sometimes in an argument, we say wrong things, and I realize my mistake and apologize, but she never does. When I ask for apologies, it is always my fault. It is just a lossing game.
We are sorry to hear what you're going through! I hope this can be resolved in your marriage.
- HC Team
Very helpful tips thank you
Thank you! I subscribed today 🔥
Thank you so much for subscribing!
Great tips!
Glad it was helpful!
I am going to try my best to apply all of these tips to my marriage
Great Jean!
Goodluck
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@@HappilyCommitted thank you so much
Thank you for this
I don’t understand how to communicate I love her but she tells me I’m always arguing
I have been struggling with communication with my wife for 3 years. Its bad that she had to leave me in order for me to see it. I just wish had started this early 😪
Thank you so much for these important tips they do help thank you 🙏🙏
You are so welcome!
@@HappilyCommitted help me I'm telling you these tips really helps me. My marriage is going to terminal right now and these tips come at the right time thank you 🙏🙏
Great 👍🏿 I needed this
Awesome
Thanks for watching Marvin!
Some talk about themselves too much and the other does not because they are quieter.
This very helpful
I wonder if he does marriage counseling, wife and I are a happily married couple, but we struggle on some things and could use advise.
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Coach Natalie
Thank you! 😊
You're welcome 😊
what are you thoughts on people pushing the "I" communication, I find it to be an extremely self centred way of communicating, I really don't feel that I am respected when my wife tries using this method, It seems like it is only about her and she is not interested in me.
My thoughts? Anything helps.
This is really helpful. Thankyou
Happy to hear that, Grace!
Coach Natalie
make the tools to use more simple and in a list easy to folloe
I'm trying to listen to her carefully, but whenever I fail -- it becomes area of conflict almost instantly.
-- Not fully successful for my partner to talk fully, so the present problem of working for long term goal is heard by understood by her.
Thanks this was helpful. !!!
Thank you, I'm glad to know the video was helpful for you!
Coach Adrian
Thanks for this video
You're welcome, Amer. Thank you for watching.
Coach Natalie
It's kind of sad RUclips are put dating app ads before your video. Someone struggling in their marriage shouldn't have dating apps flashed in their faces
Hi, thank thank you for the feedback!
-Coach Danny
How to Make Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie / Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
The problem is I do all nine of these on the list and my wife won't do any of them. Not a single one. We're better off not communicating. Every time we spoke to each other this weekend morphed into an argument. Not exaggerating. Every damn time.
Hopefully this will help me out. My boyfriend and I have been constantly fighting for a week... I try new approaches and I try to understand where he's coming from. (I always apologize.) everytime i talk to him about how I felt in the moment I get turned down. He will yell at me and tell me I need to stop talking for 5 minutes(and he sets a timer)... And he did it again tonight over 5 times.... I don't come with anger or attitude most of the time, but he is so defensive when I
Can you please give me some communication phrases to say to my husband. We are separated living apart the disconnect between us is so bad that I don't know what to say to him. If I pour out my feelings to him in a text message and say let's go to counseling. He will say no thanks I'm not going to counseling. I have told him what I need yo be happy and asked him to tell me what he needs from me to be Happy. He want give me a list or respond. I have started saying Good morning to him he use to ignore me. Now he is saying Good morning back and I don't say anything else because if I say something he don't respond back. So I don't know what to say to him that will make him forgive me for really only defending myself with words. We both have said hurtful things to each other. He would stop speaking to me fir weeks. If I wanted to talk about the issue he never did. Then one day he would start back talking to me like nothing ever happened and non of our issues were ever resolved. Then he wouldn't forgive me which put resentment, bitterness, and hatred in his heart towards me. When he would be the one that wronged me and my telling him about it always hurt his pride. The truth hurts especially when you won't own up to it. I'm just disresptful to him
What if they don't communicate
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Coach Natalie
I struggle with communication and conflict resolution
Hey Josh, I hope the video helped you clear some of your struggles with communication and conflict resolution
is there a place were I can seek your advice ?? via email etc?
I need some help I can’t afford counseling so I’ll look you up I don’t want to push her away but I don’t want her not to feel special I can’t balance work life and home life
Thanks ❤️
You're welcome, Barbara!
Coach Adrian
Love this
Thank you!
Coach Natalie
What do you do when you're always the one starting and stopping conversations?
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Coach Natalie
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bingo!
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My husband doesn't allow me to talk, he will be the one talking and abusive hot tempered if i manage to say any word he will end the call on me and start giving me voice record on WhatsApp before I knew it he will block me. The man is so hot and sturborn
I struggle with my anger.
Thank you !!
You're welcome!
Coach Adrian