my wife said she loves me but it doesn't feel the same, she wants a divorce .how can i get her to reconnect? she said she is done. she doesn't want to try to work on the marriage .23 years together
Me too… I guess this is my final attempt 2 get closer. He still loves me and is in love with me more then when we met 10 years ago.. I’m just not there anymore…
I've been dealing with overthinking basically i was worrying so much about falling out of love with my bf and it's a fear a mine and because I've been thinking about it so much I now feel that way but like when I'm with him I don't show signs that I'm falling out of love. Also he's done nothing wrong and I tend to overthink negatively about relationships when people tell me negative things or I read negative things about relationships. But I know deep down I still love him and I don't want to leave him just because I'm overthinking about something that isn't true but is a lie. I just need to learn how to not let my mind consume me.
i don't know if i fell out of love or im just hurt... I am so sad. He really loves me and i think i don't love him like i used to do.. He deserves someone who loves him like he do.. But also i don't want to leave him... I fucked up update: i fell in love with him again. i saw how beautiful his soul is:) We are still in a happily relationship update (again): lmao we broke up it was a toxic relationship. I'm much more happy
That’s a beautiful thing :). It is easy to fall victim to the negative thoughts, but choosing to see the positives or appreciate the good things can help overcome those times, not just in relationships, but in all aspects of life. Being positive is a choice many times, not just a feeling
I just found out what falling out of love is. I'm surprised and sad that I agree 100% with the signs I'm experiencing. My husband is good person and dad. But I do feel lonely and irritated with his presence. Its just that I never do what I enjoy. We been together 8 years and his always played soccer. He also goes to school and tells me how fun it was joking around with classmates. Then there's me. A mom who takes care of our 4 and 2 year old kids. I'm at home all day and night just bored. I would ask him to take me out and dance but he would go into a serious mode. I gave up and never asked him again. I lost interests in my goals and my joyful activities to satisfy his. I don't want to break up our relationship. We know eachother to well and when we are able to hang out its fun. I'm so scared feeling this way
It sounds like you two really need to spend time together, just the two of you, and get "back to basics" with your relationship. This will help you remember why you fell in love, and hopefully be the test to see if love is still there. But you must have 1:1 time together in order to figure out next steps.
This is where I’m at. 9 years together and we’ve never gone on vacation together. Never traveled all of 3-4 hrs north for the snow but he can travel 2.5 hours south every weekend to have some fun military drills in the desert. I’ve been stay at home mom for 3 years and my kids are 2 and 5. If you don’t mind me asking, do you have any updates since this comment?
Hi everyone. I’d just like to say that I’ve been feeling out of it for the past few weeks now. It’s as Kristin said. Our goals and aspirations are changing and we are always changing. So I might be falling out of love because of the changes that are happening with both my partner and I. It took me some time to accept and stop beating myself up about it. However, I still feel very happy when I’m with him even though it might not necessarily be love anymore. He and I have decided to restart our relationship again. Until I’m ready once more to say I love him.
My wife cheated on me. She wants to stay together but I just dont feel the way i used to. When she walks in the room now I feel nothing, sometimes anger or sadness
What hurts most is that I still have feelings for them despite being abused mentally/verbally/psychologically for years. Being made to think someone's waiting to take my spot once they make it big. Being made to think I'm easily replaceable because everyone can do what they're asking of me.
My partner of two years just came to me with this problem. I think the part we are stuck on is what we can do to make it better. I think for him he has been so focused on starting his business that he did not tend to his side of the love giving aspect of our relationship so that's why he feels that way. It's not because he can't talk to me or that our relationship has been troubled. On paper, we are perfect for each other. We have great communication and we consider each other great friends.
It sounds like you two have a lot of strengths. And when effort is put elsewhere instead of on you two as a couple, that can definitely cause distance. so it sounds like this is something that can absolutely be fixed and worked on as long as intent to make the effort is there for both of you.
I’m afraid I can’t lose her I know I’m young but damn I want to be with her forever I just don’t feel that feeling anymore I have anxiety it feels like I don’t love her no more but damn I want to I wanted her to be my queen I love her deep down but I just don’t know what should I do
You can't force the feeling if it's not there. You can love but not be in love. It's a very difficult situation to be in... do you still feel the spark?
Hey man, can you update on what happened? I feel exactly the same way and I don't know what to do, I really fucking care about her and I wanna be with her but I just have this overwhelming feeling of anxiety, and the only times that I feel good is with physical interaction and when I think back to good times but recently I've just been struggling, I don't feel it. And the anxiety is just making every time I see her unenjoyable even though I used to be filled with happiness every time I'd see her, it's fucking depressing to think about. The anxiety started about 2 months ago and it has gotten better after we spoke about some big issues we had, and we got past it (although quite grudgingly) but I've just not been feeling good for a while, and I just feel stressed all the time thinking about it, and there are the occasional times when I really feel good being with her but I just don't know if it's worth it. For now I'm gonna give it a bit of time and try my best to have some good times with her, and see if I can feel that connection again. Sorry for dumping an emotional landfill on you but yeah, I would appreciate a response so much as I feel exactly the same way from what you said.
@@alexstone9099 hey bro please update on what happened between yall.. everything you just wrote is the same exact feeling for me right now.. I love this girl I know I do..
I'm in the same boat too, I've been through so much with her but this last week my feelings have disappeared and the anxiety is just horrendous, i told her how i was feeling and she's devastated
My boyfriend and I are experiencing something similar at the moment. Back in December '19, he broke up with me because he told me he lost feelings and that he didn't love me anymore. Exactly a month later, he texted me to talk, and we worked things out and got back together. He told me he was in a negative headspace and that leaving me was a mistake. He truly still loved me, but his mind was all fogged up. Fast forward it to now, May '20, he recently told me he doesn't know where he stands in the relationship again. I asked him what's bee going on and he said it's work, his family, and this relationship. He's losing feelings for me again, and I don't know how to help or what to do? I've been honest and communicated like you said to do so, but there's still tension. He said he doesn't want to end things last time, so he wants to try his best for this relationship again, but his attitude and body language says otherwise. Any advice on what to do? :(
Hey there. Can you give us an update of the situation? I'm going through the samething with my bf of three years but I'm getting to a point where I'm giving up and throwing in the towel but he wants to work on it rather than leave. Please give us an update ☹
Yoselin Guevara So long story short, I just took the time to realize that I don’t deserve his shit. I have tried my best and hardest to communicate with him and try to make ends meet. It was always me putting in the effort to save our relationship but he so effortlessly throws us away, and i kept asking myself why am I putting up with bs when I know it’s bs? It’s not fair to me. About last week, I just realized that he knows I have a soft spot for him, so he knows how to manipulate and get his way back to me because I’m normally the one to give a million chances, but despite me giving a million chances, the result is still the same which is we always break up because he says so. I have no say in that relationship. It’s his way only. I know he’s gonna come back, but I will reject him. He was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and if he’s so inconsistent now, what makes me think he’s gonna be consistent and content in the future? A ring on the finger and wedding vows honestly don’t mean as much to him as much it means to me. So for the sake of my own mental fucking health, I’m gonna reject this idiot because he done rejected me for his other options, so now I’m fed up. I’m gonna keep working on myself and I pray that one day, I’ll meet someone who’s on the same page as me. But that’s what I can tell you girl! It took me 4 years in total to realize my self worth, but up until then, I was putting up with bs like straight up bs. And well.. I’m done. Yeeeeet! 🖕🏼👋🏽
The part about not wanting or needing someone by my side literally sums my situation up. I just moved out on my own, and I thought moving in with my partner would be a good idea... The new area and exciting opportunities ahead more than surpass my need or want for a relationship. This realization is so scary since it's so obvious to me, My partner wants to fight for our relationship, but I have no interest in doing so. I would rather devote my time and energy and resources to figuring out my own life before I can even think about trying to mingle it with someone else's. It just hurts so much knowing how much she loves me and wants to fight.
We both took own steps towards this problem. I became very impatient and express all my feelings. He got closed and avoiding me. The thing is I always like his soul but I couldn't handle that he is not acting like responsible husband. I want a man who will know what he wants and I will not always have to question myself if he will stand by me in times of need. I am not a girl anymore and I don't want to be frustrated all the time bcs we are not having real relationship. Those times when i was dreaming and saying I love u all the time passed. I want different relationship and dedication. Lately many men come towards me and I am still not ready but definitely I know I will get what I want in future bcs I know who I am and what I want from life. I wish my husband all the happiness but I have to take care for myself and focus on me and not feel negative and caught up in the situation anymore. We both deserve better.
Been married 10 years!! together 13 years and I've fallen out of love with my wife when I realised it I got anxiety and panic attacks it was insufferable! We have a mortgage together and a beautiful 2 year old daughter. I just lost attraction to her and as you put it all the imperfections that you once adored are now annoying it's become stale it's impossible situation I'm in I love my daughter unconditionally but don't love her mother anymore it hurts so bad I've had to move out! I'm still paying towards bills ect but divorce is now inevitable.
I'm now watching these types of videos because I'm fell out of love because I told him what's making me upset. Basically for him to grow up, clean up after himself, keep things hygienic, and the basics. He says he doesn't want to lose me, but won't change and we haven't slept together in more than a month, I'm not attracted because I see the pattern.... I don't know how long I can go, he knows something is up, obviously, and is being clingy. I just want him to be an adult, but would hate for him to be hurt. Now I get why people say it's harder to do things when it's you.... Why did he reject the basics of my standards... Why did he get worse... What do I do?
I love him- however his lack of seeing me for years now and not taking me seriously when I need to connect and just ignoring me is leading me to not wanting to try anymore. Burnt out. Starting to realize I am just doing things but feeling less and less.
Ty for this video it's very helpful for my family it's difficult to give advice yourself it can cause problems for the couple that you want to help because you don't want the family member you love to think that you are giving bad advice or biased advice. Trying to give good advice for her to learn how to see the the good, and the bad and not fall into the same things that I did. I have been through a divorce and it nearly destroyed me. I mean I really got so hopeless and depressed I felt like I could not get through the day. I believe at the time he was my everything. It was so difficult and my worst nightmare too at the same time. I am so happy now though to have had that experience because I can help others going through similar things. Also happier in general. I didn't even realize how bad and toxic the relationship was without getting into detail. I look back and thank the Lord like the song I thank God for unanswered prayers. As a woman I believe that it's important for us to remember that men definitely don't think the way that we do. Totally different creatures LoL We think differently process emotional things differently so we have to have a common ground and fall into like before love. I would say definitely take advice from other men purely for educational purposes. Find out what they really hate that women do and you know it is something that most women say or do wrong. What they want from women most and what we do right of course. Which is why my biggest advice is that and please don't get married too young. I think everyone in my family that got married this young ended in divorce. Because from the age of 18-25 that is the years that you change so much into the person you will ultimately be. You want to grow together not apart so just work on communication, trust, respect. Definitely definitely don't sweat the small stuff and another one is don't let a financial burden come between you. Anything worth fighting for is worth saving. Again ty God bless
Definitely experiencing all of these signs. 😅 My boyfriend and I have struggled through the last 5 years; we have months of feeling in love and happy and then months of fighting and discomfort. He’s struggled with alcoholism and I’ve tried to be there but he still teeters back from time to time. I’m also the kind of person who likes romance - surprises, dates, notes, etc., and while he did these things in the beginning, they are no longer a part of our relationship. I’ve explained to him many times that I really do benefit from those small, thoughtful acts - vacuuming the house is a kind thing to do, but I don’t always consider it “romantic.” Sorry, babe. These last several weeks I’ve given up cuddling, kissing, even sex - it feels too personal and invasive of my space, which is a very odd thing to say in a relationship. It’s almost become platonic. The only thing that keeps me around is that I still consider this man my best friend - he knows me so well and is so supportive, I just don’t want a physical relationship with him right now. It’s been very difficult for me, and I’m sure it has been for him, too. I can’t help but feel that healthy relationships shouldn’t be so challenging.
I've been basically begging for a date for over a year. Now we have a 6 month old and I think about breaking up alot. He can make a small mistake and it overly annoys me. It feels like we speak 2 different languages. I can be clear and to the point about my wants and needs and he will SAY such and such will happen but it never does. I've broken up with him 2 recently. Stayed because once again he promised couples counseling but that was about month or so ago. Still nothing. I fantasize about other men. I still want marriage and to grow with someone. I want to buy a house together, go on vacation, not live check to check, etc. I want all of that still. But not really with him. So back to bottling everything up, saying I'm fine (because seriously nothing's going to change), and refusing to communicate at all. Maybe I should cheat for real.
Hi Ashley. I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time in your relationship. Cheating is never the answer. Here's the thing, you can't make anyone change if they don't want to. But YOU have the choice about what you're going to do with the situation that's in front of you. This relationship is a choice...all relationships are a choice. And we don't need to choose to be unhappy. sounds like couples counseling needs to happen. And if it doesn't, you can either choose to stay in the relationship and be unhappy or you can choose not to be in the relationship. I never want anyone to feel like they are trapped and the only way to feel better is to cheat or bottle up emotions. There are healthier decisions you can make for yourself.
Ashley Humphries Why cheat when you can just leave? Don’t be so selfish and heartless. If you don’t want him, let him go so he can find his true match and you can find yours. Simple!
I feel like I love my s/o but I am just not in love anymore.. I don’t know what to do because I know if I said or did anything I would break his heart. I don’t know I just feel so bad like I have a broken heart too or maybe I am just confused and I am still in love and that is why my heart feels broken help me
Olivia Pietrowski I actually didn’t break up with him I felt too scared and thought my reason wasn’t good enough and I guess I still do feel the same way after I thought about it
Omg I think you just nailed it, I feel like I’ve never was in love with my husband. We both cheated at the very beginning, I then got pregnant and that made us stay together. We been married since 2006 but even at my marriage reunion I was sad and felt alone. He left me at the table and preferred to be with his friends getting drunk. After few years of marriage we separated for 3 years and he was okay with the separation and told me he stopped loving me a few years back. He also cheated and that was it for me, because of him I’ve lost my self esteem and I’m always comparing myself to others. We went back despite of it all, but because I thought that was best for all us. I wanted my family back but now I’m doubting if that was the best decision ? 🥺
He doesn't give me enough time. He spends too much time on Xbox (video games)and it bothers me. We talked about it but he doesn't want to change it. I feel cheated by people he talks to online. And every time I suggest us to do something together he is not interested in it.🤔
Yesterday my gf broke up with me because she falls out of love to me. We were LDR for 2 months now. At 1st were okey were so much inlove until we argue because i felt like she had no time for me like b4 because she was obssesed of watching kdramas. I told her she has no time for me like b4 some dramas and she doesnt want me to be like that because she fells that im choking her. Until one day i felt like she changed no more sweetness and i felt like shes pushing me away. Then she comparing me to her ex that full of drama etc. Until yestrday i talked to her y shes like that then she said she falls out of love and she ddnt know why. Maybe she needs time for herself time to breath and wants to be single. I just want to ask what should i do? Is there any chances that she will love me back again? Please respect my post thank u
I'm pretty young, not like 12 but fairly young and I've been with him since I was even younger and I really care about him, we're great friends but I feel like I'm falling out of love with him, and I feel like I missing out some experiences in life like going to a party or having a few short relationships, he's helped me so much, and I want to make it work but it's also a long distance relationship and I just feel like I'm slowly moving away from him emotionally, maybe I'm just not in the right place for a relationship right now?
My gf broke up with me because she said quarantine made her realise that she wasn’t happy with our relationship, bare in mind we’ve been together for 5 years. I can’t get my head around what’s quarantine got do with anything? The whole time during quarantine I’ve been waiting and excited to see her but it’s been the complete opposite for her. She said she didn’t ever want to see me again or even say bye to me face to face after 5 years, I feel that I was at lest owed a bye face to face or at lest to try and talk things out, but no it was just a bye over the phone, so brutal I don’t know what I did wrong. In those 5 years we’ve never had a break or anything we’ve always been happy we both trusted each other, her family likes me my family likes her. I just don’t understand she said in the past if we ever get into a difficult spot that’d we’d work through it but here I am now questioning my existence, what did I do wrong? What’s wrong with me? I did so much for her I can’t even explain it. If I fell out of love with her I would realise that I’ve been with her for this long because I loved her and I would try and work it out at least, but I didn’t even get that. Just got cut off, I’m seriously lost. How can someone cut you off like that, I just don’t know what to do anymore
me and my bf have just turned into 2 year together. In the last year me and my bf had arguments over communication in which my bff left me. She left me because of him and that hurt alot but i stayed cuz i love him. My family doesn't approve of him cuz of our racial difference and that does hurt me a bit. What hurts the most is that he has stood me up or bailed on plans last minute which made me loose trust. Ive been letting it boiling inside me and i finally discussed it to him but hes so immature. I dony know if im falling out of love with him or just need to build trust. Please help i really wanna spend my life with this person but idk how i feel
i don’t know how i feel like i love him and i don’t wanna loose him but at the time i imagine life without him. we fight so much and we are so toxic like extremely toxic we always fight and i end up blocking him and then we end up forgiving eachother and then i unblock him but this month we haven’t seen each other for along time because we went from seeing eacgother every single day to not even seeing eachother because of the virus and it’s been so hard because it’s a everyday thing where we argue just everyday and i try to breakup and then we talk about it and i stay i just don’t know like last week i tried to break up because he just so different like he’s nice but now he’s just different then he was in the beginning because he wants to be the man of the relationship, anyways this week i have just been ignoring him and leaving him on seen and right now i blocked his number and just haven’t answered him. i just don’t know i feel like i love him and don’t wanna loose him because she’s literally my bestfriend we’re about to hit 2 years in 4 months
20 years married. Neglected intimately. I has not been healthy. We have been roommates for much too long. I am clinically depressed. I hope counseling can help. I am exhausted.
Should I tell him face to face or just on WhatsApp because I can't meet him in this lockdown. The first place I start drifting apart because of his nature . At times he used leave me alone for days or weeks because of his mood. No calls, text or anything. I used to keep on mending things. It has been one year. Now I just don't feel anything, I don't wanna talk to him . He is kind of aware but now he is texting but now I wanna just love myself. I feel like a burden is pulled out of my shoulders. I always used be so honest about my feelings and always keep on telling that I need u to be open, share issues , it could be effortless but he always used to joke around or just say I am overreacting. Now I don't am I really out of love or it's just for this tym.
Lack of trust…seeing their TRUE COLORS….is enough to LET THEM GO…they started out on top and end up as a total loser with nothing to offer except much turmoil and disappointment
I’m 23 and I have been with my boyfriend since I was 15 so 8 years almost 9 and I’m so scared that I’m falling out off love I haven’t been happy for a while now and he knows and it’s killing him as he asked me too marry him last month and i feel so horrible he’s an amazing guy and hasn’t done anything wrong and I know I’ll prob never find anyone that loves me as much as he dose I asked for space and we are now on a break for a month and I’m so scared as I don’t even miss him he doesn’t deserve this but I really don’t want to hurt him he’s my only friend and without him I’m nothing so I hate this and I’m so confused
please con you update on how are you now? I feel exactly like this for my boyfriend of 4 years and I don't know what to do because I really think I will regret breaking up with hime, he's such a sweet and caring guy, I don't think I can ever find someone who could love me like he do
First video I have found that actually covered exactly what I was wondering! Now only if there was a way to make my husband realize how serious this is. 15 years and I still can't seem to make him see it. I appreciate this! Glad I found you.
Hey Jess! I'm so happy you found me too!! And I'm glad this video was helpful for you and answered some of your questions. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to get your partner to listen and take action, but with persistence and determination, I'm confident that will happen for you. Keep trying! If you ever have any questions for me, please feel free to ask anytime. I'm here to help :)
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my wife said she loves me but it doesn't feel the same, she wants a divorce .how can i get her to reconnect? she said she is done. she doesn't want to try to work on the marriage .23 years together
Same situation
This really helps I’m the one that’s growing out of love with him especially after having a kid
Cant believe a im on youtube searching on this topic. I never it would become this bad😢😖
I hope you resolved whatever brought you here.🙏🏼
Omg. Same here :( Never thought I even had to look for videos just so I can relate and confirm my feelings
Me too
Same 😓😓😓
Me too… I guess this is my final attempt 2 get closer. He still loves me and is in love with me more then when we met 10 years ago.. I’m just not there anymore…
I've been dealing with overthinking basically i was worrying so much about falling out of love with my bf and it's a fear a mine and because I've been thinking about it so much I now feel that way but like when I'm with him I don't show signs that I'm falling out of love. Also he's done nothing wrong and I tend to overthink negatively about relationships when people tell me negative things or I read negative things about relationships. But I know deep down I still love him and I don't want to leave him just because I'm overthinking about something that isn't true but is a lie. I just need to learn how to not let my mind consume me.
look up ROCD
This is me to a T right now
COMPLETE RELATABLE!! I'm in the same situation right now, can you please share how you're doing now?
maybe it’s ROCD, you should check 🤪
gosh why is this so relatable
I feel extremely sad that i realized this now
i don't know if i fell out of love or im just hurt... I am so sad. He really loves me and i think i don't love him like i used to do.. He deserves someone who loves him like he do.. But also i don't want to leave him... I fucked up
update: i fell in love with him again. i saw how beautiful his soul is:) We are still in a happily relationship
update (again): lmao we broke up it was a toxic relationship. I'm much more happy
sanaol
That’s a beautiful thing :). It is easy to fall victim to the negative thoughts, but choosing to see the positives or appreciate the good things can help overcome those times, not just in relationships, but in all aspects of life. Being positive is a choice many times, not just a feeling
How long were you doubting it?
@@katmiau616 oh no this was a long time ago finally i realized it was a toxic relationship and i got out of it
GAGO
I feel like dying.
Me too
yeah....same too much hard shit to deal with..are you still there sanding strongly??
I just found out what falling out of love is. I'm surprised and sad that I agree 100% with the signs I'm experiencing. My husband is good person and dad. But I do feel lonely and irritated with his presence. Its just that I never do what I enjoy. We been together 8 years and his always played soccer. He also goes to school and tells me how fun it was joking around with classmates. Then there's me. A mom who takes care of our 4 and 2 year old kids. I'm at home all day and night just bored. I would ask him to take me out and dance but he would go into a serious mode. I gave up and never asked him again. I lost interests in my goals and my joyful activities to satisfy his. I don't want to break up our relationship. We know eachother to well and when we are able to hang out its fun. I'm so scared feeling this way
It sounds like you two really need to spend time together, just the two of you, and get "back to basics" with your relationship. This will help you remember why you fell in love, and hopefully be the test to see if love is still there. But you must have 1:1 time together in order to figure out next steps.
@@KristinCoaching thank you. ❤
This is where I’m at. 9 years together and we’ve never gone on vacation together. Never traveled all of 3-4 hrs north for the snow but he can travel 2.5 hours south every weekend to have some fun military drills in the desert. I’ve been stay at home mom for 3 years and my kids are 2 and 5. If you don’t mind me asking, do you have any updates since this comment?
How are you now?
Hi everyone. I’d just like to say that I’ve been feeling out of it for the past few weeks now. It’s as Kristin said. Our goals and aspirations are changing and we are always changing. So I might be falling out of love because of the changes that are happening with both my partner and I. It took me some time to accept and stop beating myself up about it. However, I still feel very happy when I’m with him even though it might not necessarily be love anymore. He and I have decided to restart our relationship again. Until I’m ready once more to say I love him.
My wife cheated on me. She wants to stay together but I just dont feel the way i used to. When she walks in the room now I feel nothing, sometimes anger or sadness
Me too.
3.5 years later and this meant so much to hear.
What hurts most is that I still have feelings for them despite being abused mentally/verbally/psychologically for years. Being made to think someone's waiting to take my spot once they make it big. Being made to think I'm easily replaceable because everyone can do what they're asking of me.
Yup- I feel this.
My partner of two years just came to me with this problem. I think the part we are stuck on is what we can do to make it better. I think for him he has been so focused on starting his business that he did not tend to his side of the love giving aspect of our relationship so that's why he feels that way. It's not because he can't talk to me or that our relationship has been troubled. On paper, we are perfect for each other. We have great communication and we consider each other great friends.
It sounds like you two have a lot of strengths. And when effort is put elsewhere instead of on you two as a couple, that can definitely cause distance. so it sounds like this is something that can absolutely be fixed and worked on as long as intent to make the effort is there for both of you.
I’m afraid I can’t lose her I know I’m young but damn I want to be with her forever I just don’t feel that feeling anymore I have anxiety it feels like I don’t love her no more but damn I want to I wanted her to be my queen I love her deep down but I just don’t know what should I do
You can't force the feeling if it's not there. You can love but not be in love. It's a very difficult situation to be in... do you still feel the spark?
Hey man, can you update on what happened? I feel exactly the same way and I don't know what to do, I really fucking care about her and I wanna be with her but I just have this overwhelming feeling of anxiety, and the only times that I feel good is with physical interaction and when I think back to good times but recently I've just been struggling, I don't feel it. And the anxiety is just making every time I see her unenjoyable even though I used to be filled with happiness every time I'd see her, it's fucking depressing to think about. The anxiety started about 2 months ago and it has gotten better after we spoke about some big issues we had, and we got past it (although quite grudgingly) but I've just not been feeling good for a while, and I just feel stressed all the time thinking about it, and there are the occasional times when I really feel good being with her but I just don't know if it's worth it. For now I'm gonna give it a bit of time and try my best to have some good times with her, and see if I can feel that connection again. Sorry for dumping an emotional landfill on you but yeah, I would appreciate a response so much as I feel exactly the same way from what you said.
@@alexstone9099 hey bro please update on what happened between yall.. everything you just wrote is the same exact feeling for me right now.. I love this girl I know I do..
I'm in the same boat too, I've been through so much with her but this last week my feelings have disappeared and the anxiety is just horrendous, i told her how i was feeling and she's devastated
Also feeling this way 6 solid years together never cheated just proposed a month ago and now this... I knew something would give
I’ve got an question.. I’m that person who always fall out of love easily💔 I am so broken by my own thoughts and this whole situation Help
My boyfriend and I are experiencing something similar at the moment. Back in December '19, he broke up with me because he told me he lost feelings and that he didn't love me anymore. Exactly a month later, he texted me to talk, and we worked things out and got back together. He told me he was in a negative headspace and that leaving me was a mistake. He truly still loved me, but his mind was all fogged up. Fast forward it to now, May '20, he recently told me he doesn't know where he stands in the relationship again. I asked him what's bee going on and he said it's work, his family, and this relationship. He's losing feelings for me again, and I don't know how to help or what to do? I've been honest and communicated like you said to do so, but there's still tension. He said he doesn't want to end things last time, so he wants to try his best for this relationship again, but his attitude and body language says otherwise. Any advice on what to do? :(
I'm so sorry youre going through that. I'm litteraly going through the same thing with my boyfriend of 2 years. It hurts so badly.
Vicky Mendez I’m praying it works out for you girl! 🥺
Hey there. Can you give us an update of the situation? I'm going through the samething with my bf of three years but I'm getting to a point where I'm giving up and throwing in the towel but he wants to work on it rather than leave. Please give us an update ☹
Yoselin Guevara So long story short, I just took the time to realize that I don’t deserve his shit. I have tried my best and hardest to communicate with him and try to make ends meet. It was always me putting in the effort to save our relationship but he so effortlessly throws us away, and i kept asking myself why am I putting up with bs when I know it’s bs? It’s not fair to me. About last week, I just realized that he knows I have a soft spot for him, so he knows how to manipulate and get his way back to me because I’m normally the one to give a million chances, but despite me giving a million chances, the result is still the same which is we always break up because he says so. I have no say in that relationship. It’s his way only. I know he’s gonna come back, but I will reject him. He was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and if he’s so inconsistent now, what makes me think he’s gonna be consistent and content in the future? A ring on the finger and wedding vows honestly don’t mean as much to him as much it means to me. So for the sake of my own mental fucking health, I’m gonna reject this idiot because he done rejected me for his other options, so now I’m fed up. I’m gonna keep working on myself and I pray that one day, I’ll meet someone who’s on the same page as me. But that’s what I can tell you girl! It took me 4 years in total to realize my self worth, but up until then, I was putting up with bs like straight up bs. And well.. I’m done. Yeeeeet! 🖕🏼👋🏽
Vicky Mendez How is it working out on your end? I hope your story is better than mine girl 😭 My update is down below!
The part about not wanting or needing someone by my side literally sums my situation up. I just moved out on my own, and I thought moving in with my partner would be a good idea... The new area and exciting opportunities ahead more than surpass my need or want for a relationship. This realization is so scary since it's so obvious to me, My partner wants to fight for our relationship, but I have no interest in doing so. I would rather devote my time and energy and resources to figuring out my own life before I can even think about trying to mingle it with someone else's. It just hurts so much knowing how much she loves me and wants to fight.
We both took own steps towards this problem. I became very impatient and express all my feelings. He got closed and avoiding me. The thing is I always like his soul but I couldn't handle that he is not acting like responsible husband. I want a man who will know what he wants and I will not always have to question myself if he will stand by me in times of need. I am not a girl anymore and I don't want to be frustrated all the time bcs we are not having real relationship. Those times when i was dreaming and saying I love u all the time passed. I want different relationship and dedication. Lately many men come towards me and I am still not ready but definitely I know I will get what I want in future bcs I know who I am and what I want from life. I wish my husband all the happiness but I have to take care for myself and focus on me and not feel negative and caught up in the situation anymore. We both deserve better.
Been married 10 years!! together 13 years and I've fallen out of love with my wife when I realised it I got anxiety and panic attacks it was insufferable! We have a mortgage together and a beautiful 2 year old daughter. I just lost attraction to her and as you put it all the imperfections that you once adored are now annoying it's become stale it's impossible situation I'm in I love my daughter unconditionally but don't love her mother anymore it hurts so bad I've had to move out! I'm still paying towards bills ect but divorce is now inevitable.
It's so sad. 😐 How are you now?
I'm now watching these types of videos because I'm fell out of love because I told him what's making me upset. Basically for him to grow up, clean up after himself, keep things hygienic, and the basics. He says he doesn't want to lose me, but won't change and we haven't slept together in more than a month, I'm not attracted because I see the pattern.... I don't know how long I can go, he knows something is up, obviously, and is being clingy. I just want him to be an adult, but would hate for him to be hurt.
Now I get why people say it's harder to do things when it's you....
Why did he reject the basics of my standards... Why did he get worse... What do I do?
Dealing with the EXACT SAME THING
I love him- however his lack of seeing me for years now and not taking me seriously when I need to connect and just ignoring me is leading me to not wanting to try anymore. Burnt out. Starting to realize I am just doing things but feeling less and less.
Ty for this video it's very helpful for my family it's difficult to give advice yourself it can cause problems for the couple that you want to help because you don't want the family member you love to think that you are giving bad advice or biased advice. Trying to give good advice for her to learn how to see the the good, and the bad and not fall into the same things that I did. I have been through a divorce and it nearly destroyed me. I mean I really got so hopeless and depressed I felt like I could not get through the day. I believe at the time he was my everything. It was so difficult and my worst nightmare too at the same time. I am so happy now though to have had that experience because I can help others going through similar things. Also happier in general. I didn't even realize how bad and toxic the relationship was without getting into detail. I look back and thank the Lord like the song I thank God for unanswered prayers. As a woman I believe that it's important for us to remember that men definitely don't think the way that we do. Totally different creatures LoL We think differently process emotional things differently so we have to have a common ground and fall into like before love. I would say definitely take advice from other men purely for educational purposes. Find out what they really hate that women do and you know it is something that most women say or do wrong. What they want from women most and what we do right of course. Which is why my biggest advice is that and please don't get married too young. I think everyone in my family that got married this young ended in divorce. Because from the age of 18-25 that is the years that you change so much into the person you will ultimately be. You want to grow together not apart so just work on communication, trust, respect. Definitely definitely don't sweat the small stuff and another one is don't let a financial burden come between you. Anything worth fighting for is worth saving. Again ty God bless
Definitely experiencing all of these signs. 😅 My boyfriend and I have struggled through the last 5 years; we have months of feeling in love and happy and then months of fighting and discomfort. He’s struggled with alcoholism and I’ve tried to be there but he still teeters back from time to time. I’m also the kind of person who likes romance - surprises, dates, notes, etc., and while he did these things in the beginning, they are no longer a part of our relationship. I’ve explained to him many times that I really do benefit from those small, thoughtful acts - vacuuming the house is a kind thing to do, but I don’t always consider it “romantic.” Sorry, babe. These last several weeks I’ve given up cuddling, kissing, even sex - it feels too personal and invasive of my space, which is a very odd thing to say in a relationship. It’s almost become platonic. The only thing that keeps me around is that I still consider this man my best friend - he knows me so well and is so supportive, I just don’t want a physical relationship with him right now. It’s been very difficult for me, and I’m sure it has been for him, too. I can’t help but feel that healthy relationships shouldn’t be so challenging.
I've been basically begging for a date for over a year. Now we have a 6 month old and I think about breaking up alot. He can make a small mistake and it overly annoys me. It feels like we speak 2 different languages. I can be clear and to the point about my wants and needs and he will SAY such and such will happen but it never does. I've broken up with him 2 recently. Stayed because once again he promised couples counseling but that was about month or so ago. Still nothing. I fantasize about other men. I still want marriage and to grow with someone. I want to buy a house together, go on vacation, not live check to check, etc. I want all of that still. But not really with him. So back to bottling everything up, saying I'm fine (because seriously nothing's going to change), and refusing to communicate at all. Maybe I should cheat for real.
Hi Ashley. I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time in your relationship. Cheating is never the answer. Here's the thing, you can't make anyone change if they don't want to. But YOU have the choice about what you're going to do with the situation that's in front of you. This relationship is a choice...all relationships are a choice. And we don't need to choose to be unhappy. sounds like couples counseling needs to happen. And if it doesn't, you can either choose to stay in the relationship and be unhappy or you can choose not to be in the relationship. I never want anyone to feel like they are trapped and the only way to feel better is to cheat or bottle up emotions. There are healthier decisions you can make for yourself.
Ashley Humphries Why cheat when you can just leave? Don’t be so selfish and heartless. If you don’t want him, let him go so he can find his true match and you can find yours. Simple!
I feel like I love my s/o but I am just not in love anymore.. I don’t know what to do because I know if I said or did anything I would break his heart. I don’t know I just feel so bad like I have a broken heart too or maybe I am just confused and I am still in love and that is why my heart feels broken help me
I’m in the exact same situation right now
Olivia Pietrowski I’m so sorry
Audrey W what are you going to do? Are you breaking up with him?
Olivia Pietrowski I think I am going to :( it hurts so bad and I’m supposed to see him tomorrow so I think I’m doing it then
Olivia Pietrowski I actually didn’t break up with him I felt too scared and thought my reason wasn’t good enough and I guess I still do feel the same way after I thought about it
Omg I think you just nailed it, I feel like I’ve never was in love with my husband. We both cheated at the very beginning, I then got pregnant and that made us stay together. We been married since 2006 but even at my marriage reunion I was sad and felt alone. He left me at the table and preferred to be with his friends getting drunk. After few years of marriage we separated for 3 years and he was okay with the separation and told me he stopped loving me a few years back. He also cheated and that was it for me, because of him I’ve lost my self esteem and I’m always comparing myself to others. We went back despite of it all, but because I thought that was best for all us. I wanted my family back but now I’m doubting if that was the best decision ? 🥺
I hear you!
He doesn't give me enough time. He spends too much time on Xbox (video games)and it bothers me. We talked about it but he doesn't want to change it. I feel cheated by people he talks to online. And every time I suggest us to do something together he is not interested in it.🤔
Yesterday my gf broke up with me because she falls out of love to me. We were LDR for 2 months now. At 1st were okey were so much inlove until we argue because i felt like she had no time for me like b4 because she was obssesed of watching kdramas. I told her she has no time for me like b4 some dramas and she doesnt want me to be like that because she fells that im choking her. Until one day i felt like she changed no more sweetness and i felt like shes pushing me away. Then she comparing me to her ex that full of drama etc. Until yestrday i talked to her y shes like that then she said she falls out of love and she ddnt know why. Maybe she needs time for herself time to breath and wants to be single. I just want to ask what should i do? Is there any chances that she will love me back again? Please respect my post thank u
I'm pretty young, not like 12 but fairly young and I've been with him since I was even younger and I really care about him, we're great friends but I feel like I'm falling out of love with him, and I feel like I missing out some experiences in life like going to a party or having a few short relationships, he's helped me so much, and I want to make it work but it's also a long distance relationship and I just feel like I'm slowly moving away from him emotionally, maybe I'm just not in the right place for a relationship right now?
this is exactly my situation, are you still with him?
My gf broke up with me because she said quarantine made her realise that she wasn’t happy with our relationship, bare in mind we’ve been together for 5 years. I can’t get my head around what’s quarantine got do with anything? The whole time during quarantine I’ve been waiting and excited to see her but it’s been the complete opposite for her. She said she didn’t ever want to see me again or even say bye to me face to face after 5 years, I feel that I was at lest owed a bye face to face or at lest to try and talk things out, but no it was just a bye over the phone, so brutal I don’t know what I did wrong. In those 5 years we’ve never had a break or anything we’ve always been happy we both trusted each other, her family likes me my family likes her. I just don’t understand she said in the past if we ever get into a difficult spot that’d we’d work through it but here I am now questioning my existence, what did I do wrong? What’s wrong with me? I did so much for her I can’t even explain it. If I fell out of love with her I would realise that I’ve been with her for this long because I loved her and I would try and work it out at least, but I didn’t even get that. Just got cut off, I’m seriously lost. How can someone cut you off like that, I just don’t know what to do anymore
me and my bf have just turned into 2 year together. In the last year me and my bf had arguments over communication in which my bff left me. She left me because of him and that hurt alot but i stayed cuz i love him. My family doesn't approve of him cuz of our racial difference and that does hurt me a bit. What hurts the most is that he has stood me up or bailed on plans last minute which made me loose trust. Ive been letting it boiling inside me and i finally discussed it to him but hes so immature. I dony know if im falling out of love with him or just need to build trust. Please help i really wanna spend my life with this person but idk how i feel
i don’t know how i feel like i love him and i don’t wanna loose him but at the time i imagine life without him. we fight so much and we are so toxic like extremely toxic we always fight and i end up blocking him and then we end up forgiving eachother and then i unblock him but this month we haven’t seen each other for along time because we went from seeing eacgother every single day to not even seeing eachother because of the virus and it’s been so hard because it’s a everyday thing where we argue just everyday and i try to breakup and then we talk about it and i stay i just don’t know like last week i tried to break up because he just so different like he’s nice but now he’s just different then he was in the beginning because he wants to be the man of the relationship, anyways this week i have just been ignoring him and leaving him on seen and right now i blocked his number and just haven’t answered him. i just don’t know i feel like i love him and don’t wanna loose him because she’s literally my bestfriend we’re about to hit 2 years in 4 months
This is me at the moment. Been married for 15yrs 😏
20 years married. Neglected intimately. I has not been healthy. We have been roommates for much too long. I am clinically depressed. I hope counseling can help. I am exhausted.
Should I tell him face to face or just on WhatsApp because I can't meet him in this lockdown. The first place I start drifting apart because of his nature . At times he used leave me alone for days or weeks because of his mood. No calls, text or anything. I used to keep on mending things. It has been one year. Now I just don't feel anything, I don't wanna talk to him . He is kind of aware but now he is texting but now I wanna just love myself. I feel like a burden is pulled out of my shoulders. I always used be so honest about my feelings and always keep on telling that I need u to be open, share issues , it could be effortless but he always used to joke around or just say I am overreacting. Now I don't am I really out of love or it's just for this tym.
Lack of trust…seeing their TRUE COLORS….is enough to LET THEM GO…they started out on top and end up as a total loser with nothing to offer except much turmoil and disappointment
Porn, Web Cam, meetup one nightstands sites,ect can causes this as well.
I’m 23 and I have been with my boyfriend since I was 15 so 8 years almost 9 and I’m so scared that I’m falling out off love I haven’t been happy for a while now and he knows and it’s killing him as he asked me too marry him last month and i feel so horrible he’s an amazing guy and hasn’t done anything wrong and I know I’ll prob never find anyone that loves me as much as he dose I asked for space and we are now on a break for a month and I’m so scared as I don’t even miss him he doesn’t deserve this but I really don’t want to hurt him he’s my only friend and without him I’m nothing so I hate this and I’m so confused
Maybe it s rocd
please con you update on how are you now? I feel exactly like this for my boyfriend of 4 years and I don't know what to do because I really think I will regret breaking up with hime, he's such a sweet and caring guy, I don't think I can ever find someone who could love me like he do
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Is this from a woman's stand point? Too much beating around the bush.
She's talking too much
First video I have found that actually covered exactly what I was wondering! Now only if there was a way to make my husband realize how serious this is. 15 years and I still can't seem to make him see it. I appreciate this! Glad I found you.
Hey Jess! I'm so happy you found me too!! And I'm glad this video was helpful for you and answered some of your questions. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to get your partner to listen and take action, but with persistence and determination, I'm confident that will happen for you. Keep trying! If you ever have any questions for me, please feel free to ask anytime. I'm here to help :)