Ditching a Perfect Girlfriend To Be a Player?
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- Опубликовано: 14 июл 2024
- Viewer asks about breaking up with his girlfriend, because she doesn't like him cheating, so he can experience more variety, here is my response.
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He would also do that because he's fed up with "answering to her" because in doing so, as any man would be doing, he's wittingly or otherwise having his will supplanted by someone else's will, in this case a woman who is probably slow playing him insofar manifesting her wants and needs.
All girlfriends are perfect…until they aren’t. You won’t see the real side of a woman until she no longer wants to be with you. Let a guy come along that is better looking and or has more money, and she thinks she can have that man. You will see how perfect she is at that moment.
Exactly. Play the way you feel you need to play. She will make all the decisions. Carry on, but don’t cry like a bitch when she moves a notch up
Correct. Not only leaving, but then the perfect gf has no problem trying to destroy you psychologically.
Yep. Went through it
Words of truth
Absolutely wise words. I thought my ex had every green flag I could think of. We have split and I've seen a side of her that has shocked me to the core. Unbelievable.
I think as a guy im broken. I'm 6 ft 7. In good shape. Sleeping with attractive women has never been hard for me to do. Yet, I've always been naturally monogamous. If I have a good woman at home, I don't need other girls on the side. It's exhausting. And quite frankly. When you've slept with 50-100+ women, there isn't this grass is greener obsession. $ex is $ex. I honestly do not like men with this mentality. The men who feel entitled to harems. I also disagree about any woman "being ok" with a guys infidelity. She may say she is. But it will have long term consequences. She will pull away over time. She will pull back intimacy. She will become more of a divorce, cheat risk herself. Once you go this route with a woman you will never have the bond/relationship with her you could have. I mean it's whatever. I'm well aware at this point these guys exist. Entitled. Selfish. D bags. Same kinda men who run corporations and dump toxins in waterways to make more money, while damaging other peoples lives. Same mentality. For every guy with a harem, there are how many fellow men without. And at what point do those without, overthrow those taking more than they need. Again. It's your life. Do what you want. Everyone does not have the same moral code. If you can respect yourself for living a selfish life under the guise that you are more valuable, and important, and enjoy looking over your shoulder, and constantly lying and deceiving.... Knock yourself out. It's not worth it to me. Good women are so few and far between these days I believe when you find one, she should be rewarded. I also enjoy liking the person I see in the mirror every day. In alot of ways everything talked about in the red pill could be traced back to the men at the top who corrupt so many women, and are as equally responsible for the state of marriage, and the destruction of the nuclear family, and morality in current society 🤷♂️. But shhhh. It's eminism, and wahmens fault, wink wink
Wise words
great post. this red pill agenda is a cancer to young men's psyche
Anyone with a unbiased state of mind wil see the wisdom in this message
True that.
There are nice women out there who can fix what is broken. I really hope you will find one.
Takeaway:
1 - Monogamy has to be a choice.
2 - Don't bring your woman disease.
3 - Don't embarrass your woman.
Excellent advice, Richard, my hat is off to you for this one.
Very gentlemanly advice. Good shared points indeed.
I just saw the Tyler Perry movie “Why did I get married?” It illustrates well everything our hero is advising this lad.
Most importantly do not share your resources with other women - thats when she blows up. Actually these are quite common among alpha men. All alpha men screw outside their marriage or relationships but will only share their resources with their kids and wife and won't want to leave their family. Smart women have understood this and turned a blind eye. Almost all politicians screw outside. Its not cheating at all imo. What's important is to prime your woman subtly in 3rd person that having fun outside is not the same as sharing your wealth, time and resources. 99% don't have a problem unless you get caught by someone else, embarass her and force her to leave. You think Jeff Bezos wife didn't know? Of course she knew - its only when it became public that she was forced to take action. Do what you want guys - there is really no way you will be happy otherwise. When i say alpha men, im talking about a man that HAS to have sex with many women, its not a choice for him, its not like he wants emotional fulfillment or any other bs. Its that deep urge to spread your seed - there is no way you can resist it
@@doncorleone3901 Well if the man actually spreads his seed, he’s fucked.
@@doncorleone3901 It seems the number one reason why women divorce men are infidelity and lack of intimacy. Combining those two reasons makes it tough for guys to lead second lives with other women. So perhaps as part of your advice, discretion is paramount.
Lmao. Dudes complain about not finding the perfect woman, dudes complain about having the perfect woman....dudes are becoming said women.
Agreed
For real. This channel spreads way too much negativity
100% agree.
I agree but it's not same she only came for.the paperwork they wanted that back then not when u gotta buy it
The issue of him wanting to be a player is that; he isn't invested in society/family values. Once he is a player the kind of women that will choose him goes down since some women do want commitment. If he chooses to lie to remedy that issue, he doesn't have good morals.
I guess his long term goal is a marriage but hewants to have more fun in the short term?
He should let her Go.
Most men would love to have a lady like her.
I had one. Until her feminist friends got to her. She slept with like 3 guys and left me.
@@theglobalistchannel1471 She will likely be back. And if she isn't, a few years from now she will hit the wall with her high number count and be totally useless to any real man, and be making crying videos on tik-tok wondering "where did all the good men go?" because she's been chasing Chad and riding the carousel for years and ignoring good guys like you. She's been polluted beyond repair . . . you don't want her.
Remember: women are like street cars: another one comes by every five minutes.
Most men will not get a chance to have a lady like her . . . she's chasing Chad . . . and will be even more after this Chad dumps her.
most men aren't high value either ;)
@@philroe2363 Yep, she'll be an Alpha Widow. "Nobody" will be able to compete after this guy.
Wow, this is my story to a tee. I stayed with my mine after realizing the grass isn't greener on the other side. You'll just end up dealing with another girls baggage and problems.
Grass always greener in that side of which u take care of. Always.
Bingo.
No choice gang
To the guy who's seeking advice:
Like they say, "The value of someone/something is known only when they lose it". Once u break up with her, and in your 35's, u suddenly find that single moms are waiting in line for u on one side and on the other side, there are these young, hot, college girls who are basically faking a relationship with u expecting u to pay up their college fees whilst banging biker Chads, U will realise "U have let hell loose".
This is really good advice. I let go of a girl that was good for ME. I understand women and I accept what comes with them while not getting totally attached because shit will hit the fan eventually. But I like what you said because I regret leaving her. Well not regret but I see what you mean. I left her because I wasn’t done being a player but what you described is what I’m finding and it’s not good. I’m smashing because I’m a bit of a chad but nonetheless this is really good advice. Keep a “good girl” for you. Figure yourself out guys before engaging with women.
I absolutely agree the video requester should think hard about letting someone like that go. By all means state what you want, but give her the option of leaving gracefully if she wants to now. She has a much more limited fertility window than he as the man, and it would be nice if he respected and acknowledged that.
Also: Things change. She may grow to resent you. If and when that happens, at least make sure there are no kids in the picture to suffer
So, how does it feel? I mean being purple pilled. Is it okay?
@@darkpersona962 I believe in red pill too.. why??
Red pill is a coping strategy to increase an unattractive or Average guy SMV value. And yes, it works. If you workout regularly, make money, buy yourself a nice bike/car and purchase a business suit to improve your outlook, women start viewing u differently.
And red pill essentially gives insight of a "Female psychology of attraction" which is 100% true. Red pill is a necessary tool for guys to access the woman he is into and basically filter out the troublesome, red flag women and vet out a high quality woman.
Moreover, whether women flock to u or not, Following red pill guidelines will make a guys life better by encouraging guys to hit the gym, giving guidelines how to make a bank and improve status. Which is guaranteed to improve one's life.
Smart, virtuous , and religious women know their value, and won’t live or reproduce with a man without being engaged/ married.
He's flying too close to the sun. I can assure you, if she decides to leave this guy, he will be on self delete-watch.
He's basically doing the "hot girl summer stuff" to a girl that send loyal to him
It's a bit unfair to her honestly and he can easily fix what's an issue in the relationship
False. He’s lying to himself and her if he continues. What’s unfair?
@@breadkrumbs lying to himself?
He's being a dick to a good woman because of horny?
Really?
That's what he should be true to?
That's incredibly dumb
This is exactly the behaviour that men would complain about in a woman but it's ok to do it to a good woman?
Miss me with that bs
14 months of loyalty means nothing. Like Patrice said, 10 years of loyalty means something.
If you’ve agreed to a committed exclusive relationship and you cheat, you’re weak. You undermine your integrity and the value of your word. The consequence is you become less whole, weakened, do it enough times and you can’t trust yourself. Be a man and end it first instead of cheating.
I agree. The guy is the email seems to have the mind of an entitled modern woman.
Honestly that's your opinion. The reality is monogamy is not natural and the most viril of men had Mistresses and are the families you wouldn't know about until the funeral came. I'm not saying it's right but as long as he's only protecting and providing for her he still within fidelity. Polygamy is a force of nature just like hypergamy.
That doesn’t make him weak, Jesus were you born with a female brain or something? How are you on this channel with a plugged in mindset like that? It’s very casual science, men have 17 times the testosterone women have, a male hormone that goes hand in hand with libido so it’s perfectly natural for men to want to have as many women as they can. This is how our species have survived till date.
Monogamy should always be a choice, you can choose the path of sticking with one but if you want more it should NOT be demonized. You sound as ridiculous as someone demonizing a woman for having an attitude during her period or while pregnant. She’s going through hormonal changes how can you blame her? Those same hormones exist within men that drives us to want a variety of women.
I get it, you have less testosterone than most men but don’t go around bashing men with a whole lot more than you got.
@@LegendInThaMakin the novel you just wrote is irrelevant and contributed nothing. My comment isn’t about monogamy, it’s about integrity, upholding your character or else you can’t trust yourself. You didn’t even put forth an argument against it, you just bitched and whined...
Or be a man and tell the girl upfront that you want to be with her and share your life with her but you don’t plan on being sexually exclusive… if she accepts that and do sleep with other women, it’s not cheating.
He's gonna regret it when he sees her with a new guy.
yup. grass is always greener.
Doubt it for several reasons
@@davidturner1641 why’s that?
On the other hand he will alpha widow her that way havign her imprented forever
@@bougpan88 What is an alpha widow?
True story, after coming out of a LTR, at the age of around 34, I decided to be a player, and even though I knew this wasn’t my personality type, I thought it would be a personal game I’d play, to see how many plates I could spin.
Turns out I could spin 8 plates, all 7s-9s
I could not believe that every one of them fell for my chat when I openly said I had another 7 women on the go - They literally didn’t care, so long as they were with young successful city boy Tyrone.
After two years, I fell back into my routine of LTRs
Some of us just don’t want to be players. We just want our egos stroked 🤷🏾♂️
Question, so are you in a monogamous relationship currently? 🤔 Just asking as part of gathering opinions on this...
Spinning plates takes a decent amount of effort. After 30, the amount of effort a guy is willing to invest just to get laid starts dropping. For me, spinning plates was basically auditioning gals for an LTR. When a gal wins the part, she plays it for the duration of the production/relationship. When the show is a wrap, I start casting for the next. 🤷
@@razzdiamond6447 Yes I am currently in a monogamous relationship of over 7 years, and I’m now in my 40s.
I could be a player but I tend to attract 6s and 7s nowadays.
I can pull 8s and 9s with work, but I’m generally not that type of guy to chase girls, since it’s always been handed to me on a plate, in the past.
@@usarmymedic07 I like that analogy. I guess I was the same, but always was able to quickly find one that I was super attracted to and she would get the part. The remaining plates/actors would then have to go and audition for new roles in a production elsewhere 😅
Thats not an ego stroke. Its being a man. That beta Chrlamainge the beta said “men cheat for ego wimminz for emo”.
No, men have options because were men and wimminz get out of line or cheat - you replace them.
Men and wimminz are not the same.
Had a perfect girl like that and I traded her for a little fun. She was my first girlfriend and the only one I have ever loved. I realized two years later that she was the one and non of the other girls I’ve slept with measured up to her. For those two years the guilt of breaking her heart ate me alive. I ran into her randomly two years after breaking up and the feelings were still there and I realized that I fucked up. Don’t do it man- don’t trade a gem for things that look shinier.
This is such a heartfelt and honest response.
This man has already wronged a loving lady. Some day, it won't be his option but her choice to leave.
I have been in a relationship with someone that hurt me, I looked away and one day even though he made it all up to me and became a strong , honest, loving man I walked away because I forgave him but I never could forget.
He messaged every so often on social media until I settled down, deleted social media and became pregnant. He sent a final message saying how hurt he was. I decided to change my number. No, I never responded to these messages out of respect for my partner and his own should he have one.
I hope he is happy and wish him all the best as I do you.
As a man you’ll always have the desire to be with other women no matter how perfect your woman is. The power comes with choosing not to, or to act on those desires. You have the choice, and you must live with and own that decision.
Well said!!.......bring honour and own what's yours!!
In that case there's no point in being with a man then.
@@JJ-hu4cm it's not true. Some men desire monogamy, most tbh since it is a fair trade for the monogamy of your partner...
@@gabriels335 This has put me off completely
I'd rather just work on career now.
@@JJ-hu4cm You really aren't aware that humans are humans? Men and women are different but share many of the same phenomenon. You think all the sisters in your life are good people? You are truly naïve to human nature and variety. You're listening to male "player" mentality, which is matched by female "ho" mentality. Off to the next, grass is always greener, etc. Find good people if you're a good person. Some advice, loneliness eventually strikes, your bitterness be damned. The more time goes on, the stronger the waves hit you. Men and women go through it, the main difference is that women's peak attractiveness and as they say "SMV" is in their youth, so to not capitalize on it and allow the seeds of loneliness germinate, Goodluck trying to pull the roots out later. But don't worry too much, there's many ways misery will find you in this life, regardless your path ;)
Rich hits the nail on the head with the monogamy question. I had an Addict father as a child and young man who was in and out of my life until he turned things around with enough time to save a peer type relationship with me. Because of this I’ve grown to value a nuclear family and being the best father I can possibly be. My wife is a 6 figure making (as am I) medical professional and while she tests me constantly to make sure I’m on my path daily, I do the same with her. The woman has no social media, doesn’t give a shit what other women have or are doing, and is looking to secure our position to raise a strong family as hard as I am and enable us to uplift those close to us.
We both share those values, and that’s why I’m okay with being locked down with her for the foreseeable future. If life strips her away from me in the future I will take what fate has brought to my life with as much grace as possible and continue my journey to raise better humans than me as a single father. You don’t have to date around if you don’t want to, but you better know why you don’t want to and it better be a good reason or you’ll wind up with the wrong woman.
That's how you tell you're with the right one. If you're with the right woman, you don't cheat on her. The guy in the video should break up with his girlfriend
I would agree, if she’s all he says she is and he still wants to step out one of three things is happening.
She’s not that great and his unconscious knows it.
He’s not built for monogamy in the face of abundant options.
He’s not ready for monogamy at this point in his life.
Nothing wrong about any of those things, but he’s gotta be honest with himself AND her if he respects her.
I’m glad you seem to know what you want out of a woman brother, those are not the things I choose in a partner. Leadership in my relationship is not the dollar amount on either check or who is the most physically fit in the relationship in my opinion. (Although as a man with your male biology who better damn be in better shape)
Leadership is the way you conduct yourself when working with others and the frame in which you hold yourself in those situations. It’s holding yourself to higher standards than the high standards you set for those around you and being the example of what you want.
Strong women who are high earners,tattoo’d, or ambitious doesn’t necessarily mean they won’t take to a strong male figure. My wife is all of those things, she is also very feminine and looks to me to lead when she is not at work. Femininity isn’t necessarily weakness of will and submission in my world. I endeavor daily to surround myself with strong people, my woman included. And luckily I’ve found one that is all the things I want, for the time being anyways… as it is with all things in this life.
@@macstrong3106 100%! Well said!
@@pete531 Trust me you want a woman who trains for health and wellbeing not for IG followers or bulking up! Otherwise she will not be a pleasant partner as menopause sets in! Its scientifically proven to delay menopause onset, lessens symptoms, maintains oestrogen levels (which keeps a womens sex drive in tact and maintains elastin and collagen/keeps her pretty) and improves health and longevity into older years. If you want that support to continue - trust me you want a woman who goes to the gym and strength/ resistance trains!!
The amount of selfishness and entitlement shown here is mind boggling. This guy doesn't ant his girl to party or even talk to other guys but he wants to cheat? What? I hope she dumps him. She sounds far too good for him. The "logic" (it's not logic, just a statement) behind that double standard just doesn't hold up. It's also not true. As a woman, I can assure you I'd be furious if I were cheated on.
The first good woman I dated was back when I was 22. I barely dated anyone before her so I decided to break up with her at 26 yrs old to enjoy the dating life I never really had before that. I'm 36 now. Within those 10 years, I've met/talked/dated about 20 girls. Of those 20, only 3 were what I considered good women (no kids, college educated, good/decent job, pretty n thin, no scandalous past, stable, and were within 5 years or less younger than me), 2 of those good women weren't highly interested in me. In the past 3 months, I met and am currently seeing the 3rd good woman i came across in my life who is a 9 out of 10 in my book and shows a high interest in me. The rest were single moms, not attractive, older, overweight, had no education, scandalous past, historical cheater, druggie/alcoholic, unstable, ex-bf/husband drama, etc.
From what I've learned so far in life, if u want to date around and have fun, do it while ur single and while ur young if u feel the need to. But do know that, good women are rare to come by and they become more n more rare as u age. In a lot of instances for us average fellas, it's better to keep a sure good thing than it is to see if the grass can get any greener. There's just a lot of crap quality women out there. Don't settle for any one of em. Good things don't come often so realize when u have a good catch n keep it. Some people search their whole lives for true companionship and never get it. So don't take it for granted should u be lucky enough to find yourself a good one. Best of luck to u brothers.
Well said. Elegant ladies are few and far between. I'm shocked how women behave and conduct themselves these days.
If you find a good woman- keep her close and take complete delight in her!.... if she truly is a good woman she will cherish you!
Yeah, but don't get one-itis. Women will shit test you, and if you start to lose your frame and make concessions because you are scared of losing her, than she will lose attraction.
Totally true!!!! 👍🏻
Buddy, value her. I am in the same situation as you. It is very rare to find such species these days.
True.
Not in Asia, he could find another like her very easily.
I dumped her. Now I am free 😊
Nah it is not
@@4evahodlingdoge226 ikr
My grandpa cheated on my grandma many times... she stuck around but her resentment festered she hates him now and he’s a massive alcoholic. Same thing is happening to his sons.
Also happened to my father in law with his wives. He never respected them enough to not cheat. The woman is very intuitive and will find out even if he thinks he’s good at keeping secrets. This will not lead to a happy heart for her... and as far as my father-in-law... he drank himself to death... alone.
Amazing insight🙏🏻
I dont agree with cheating. If he wants to have fun with several girls he should go for it but if he decides to be in a LTR with such a perfect girlfriend he should have a bit of standards and at least respect her. Awful advice. Teaching men to put themselves first and understanding female nature and relationships is an awesome job Rich does but in this situations he should be teaching men to be that, MEN, and have some respect for who could be the mother of their childs. I know that oneitis kills relationships but you dont need to cheat to be still desirable to other women. Specially in this case.
This advice is almost on the same level of modern feminists that tell girls to just have fun and fuck around.
There's a reason why Islam lets guys have multiple wives, no point abandoning someone who's been good to you just cus you like variety
You said it, spot on.
@@SIGSEGV1337 There’s a lot wrong with Islam. I don’t think we should be getting life hacks from that religion.
I’ve started to realize that some guys might complain about how women are these days, but if they were given a chance to be with a woman who is traditional, submissive, stayed at home, wasn’t overtly social meaning no social media, cooked and cleaned, they’ll still find a way to mess up and call it a trap. It’s amazing yet strange. If you’re with a woman who has actually proven her loyalty to you, why are you starting drama? Why are you bringing problems to the relationship? Why are you gaslighting and calling it freedom and peace? I’m so sick and tired of both men and women who make entire agreements then get bored and start ish for no reason. Guys like him have to get treated like unprocessed feces for him to start appreciating a feminine cordial woman. And this guy is worried about fun…you cannot make this ish up.
He’s gonna treat her like hot trash then later complain she’s become masculine and changed. Well yeah duh, if you take an axe to a tree, it’s gonna fall. What are you expecting? It’s beyond me that some people are bored this much. What he needs to do for fun is go golfing or something. I swear some people’s hobby is sex. Go take a hike, go catch some fish, go start a garden. Some of these fools are so worried about controlling someone else yet they cannot control themselves. I’m appalled at the audacity some people be having these days.
Some people are in love with the idea of a healthy relationship but don’t want a healthy relationship.
@@-glitch-8195 facts !
Let her go man. That’s the right thing to do.
Spin plates, be a player but don’t put her in that position.
Sounds like she would be a good mother and raise great sons…with someone else.
Just my opinion.
Okay fortune teller. You just destined her to have all daughters now 🤣
It's too late. She'll be an Alpha Widow.
Why let her go? You can just keep her while still banging other girls. As above said, just dont bring in diseases and dont go around talking about it. Keep it discret and keep your main girl as priority
People saying to leave her, are being jealous they’re not in this position themselves in my humble opinion
@@Conical187 I’m in a similar position, amazing girlfriend, she cooks, cleans, is beautiful, doesn’t like partying unless we go together, doesn’t care if I can or can’t buy her expensive things. She should leave him.
He’s setting himself up for failure and depression. The fact that he’s asking for advice at 29 shows that he doesn’t know what he wants and has insecurities about himself. I bet if she cheated on him, he’d fall into clinical depression. Let’s be honest: dating sucks. If you find a good woman, you should stay with her. Once she learns her value, she’ll kick him to the curb and he will cry every day; his money, kickboxing, and his followers will help him none.
Ehhhh he’s more valuable than her. She’s at her peak and he’s on his way up.
@@MylesKillis What a bunch of nonsense. What’s “up”? A single unhappy life jumping from one psycho to another? Pussy only makes one happy for a while unless you’re an imbecile with no intellectual interests. She sounds like a keeper. The only way for him is down.
Read Rich’s book, the unplugged alpha. You are clueless dude.
@@cryptorunner6957 You are clueless. What’s your end game? Enlighten us. Most of you are average and below average insecure dudes trying to find meaning in your lives. You think you read a book and know shit.
Women loses value as they age, men gain value as we age
Going back a bit in time, I dumped 'the perfect ' woman. FFW, it happened to me years later, with my then 'next perfect' woman. Biggest regret, dumping my original perfect girl..she would have walked over hot coals for me.
I disagree when he says that men cheat and women betray when they have sex when someone else. Cheating is betrayal regardless of the gender. When you cheat, you inherently end up lying, you violate a person’s trust, you violate moral standards, and it usually ends up with the revelation of something secret or hidden, which is the definition of betrayal.
Making 300k a year in a country where the monthly income is averaging 400$ a month takes the sting of cheating down a notch.
Lmao. This got me.
Which country ? And what do you do to make 300k ?
Yeah the girl is addicted to the cash. When he leaves her, she'll run him through the court because they've been living together
@@SemyProCargo He's a RUclipsr living in Thailand.
Jeez, did you really just advocate for openly cheating? Wild dude. "I'm going to do something to hurt you and you have to deal with it." Alright.
It’s common practice in Asia, Africa, Middle East, and most all elite wealth circles.
Why?
Gammas are hated.
Betas are tolerated.
Alphas/Sigmas are worshipped.
I bet you support women emotionally, socially, finically cheating 24/7 and clap for them.
Before others can believe you, you need to be believable.
Bravo, Rich. This is one of your smartest and most articulate situation assessments . For the young men who may only see one of your videos, this is the one they need to absorb.
No offense but his woman deserves better. Men complain about bad women but there are rare gems and they deserve better.
In my opinion this Alpha Chad has the "Grass is greener on the other side sindrome". It's like owning a Ferrari and ditching it to ride a used Honda and a dirty Corvette. New is not always better dude
I know a lot of people here will probably disagree with me about this but from a leadership perspective which the male should be a rolemodel for in a relationship I think he should set the example.
If he's gonna cheat then I don't see how she shouldn't and vice versa, you can't set rules only for the other party and then expect willing compliance in my opinion.
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he should let her go to regret it later. most men never get a chance to have a lady like her.
Fantastic pearls of wisdom, Rich knocked it out of the park on this one !
This is exactly what I needed to hear
Having a good woman is one of the best things for a man's life. They are so rare. They bring you peace. To find a feminine, beautiful, loving wife is something that shoul be appreciated!
20 basic/pretty woman are not the same with a good wife.
If you find a woman that:
- is beautiful
- can take care of the house
- is ambitious, but does not try to compete with you
- is sincere and can say when she does a mistake. Like you should too.
- is feminine, not a feminist
- does not go clubbing or has alcohol/smoking problems and you can do sport tougher
- loves you, respects you, and wants to sleep in your arms every day
If you find this and you let it go, you will regret it.
I lost my 'perfect' LTR trad gf in an accident. We both used to look similar. It's been 1 year but I'm unable to date anyone else bc of this incident.
Sorry for your loss man...
Shit man, thats harsh. Super sorry to hear...R.I.P 🙏
Sorry to hear that! It must feel like the worst case scenario. I’m sure you can still go on to have a phenomenal life.
Damn bro that's rough, I'm sorry to hear. I'd be torn apart if that happened to me. It's hard enough finding a "perfect" one out here.
I hope you can bounce back soon enough. I hope you have good male friends that wanna get you out the house and hang out - you need friends like that at this time.
@@coachcharles1566thank you 🤗
A rich white guy in SE Asia is like a God.
not really. a lot of rich white dude got screwed as well in SE Asia
It’s all about your Network of who you surround yourself with
Until he gets cleaned out by a SE Asian woman. They're feminine and submissive but that's part of their girl game; they ain't dumb
Betrayal is betrayal. It’s called adultery. Call it what it is
Sounds like he loves her already so first, he needs to stop lying. Lying denotes fear. Fear makes women uncomfortable, jealous and turns them off all at the same time (unspoken, but true). Be confident in your choices, communicate them and accept the outcome (keep or release).
- If he's confident...even if his choice to spin plates is a dumbass choice in his scenario, it's possible to keep her.
- But if he keeps lying {'dealing with her with a fear-based mindset'} then he'll create another bitter woman and they'll have a bad break-up eventually anyway.
-//- I think he should have just told her from the beginning that he wasn't ready to settle down yet. "No, I don't want to have kids or get married yet. No I don't want to live together" ...etc etc. He complicated things when he wasn't upfront.
He is about to lose a diamond in search of pebbles. SMH awful advice
You will regret it
You know diamonds are very abundant and easy to find when your sub 30 yrs and making 300k a year. They're everywhere.
@@badantix6997 not so, diamonds are rarer than pebbles and that is why he is asking for advice. Hopefully he will make the right decision.
@MF To YOU she is a diamond. To you. You're not in the position this guy is, she's one of many. I guarantee you he could find equal in looks and able to turn a blind eye to side pieces.
@@badantix6997 well I don’t know the girl
It just seems like he has it good and she’s a ‘solid 9’, young, loyal, does chores, etc. vs
Wanting to have multiple sex partners. Ultimately it is his choice or loss
Fair enough.
She has forgiven you for now but once you have kids to this woman her memories of you cheating will come back to bite you my friend.
Yup I experienced this with my ex. She might say she forgives u but that resentment is building especially if u didn’t change yo playa ways
The unasked question: how much would the balance of power shift if you got married and/or have children? If it's anything like here in the West, and you're not ready to be monogamous, then you may want to let her go and forego the idea of kids, unless that's a price you're eventually willing to pay. On the other hand, if it doesn't change much, and you've already vetted** her over several years and she's close to the ideal girlfriend for you [e.g. she does what you expect of a wife already, plus she's already demonstrated she will let go of you seeing other girls; this seems to be an important point for you], and she can add value to your life besides children [help you host meeting with business partners, for example, making you look good], then you may want to lean towards keeping her.
Seems the problem you have is one of timing: you want to find someone like her when you're about 3-5 years older than where you are now. I faced this exact problem with my wife - found her years earlier than I expected to find someone like her, so I dragged my feet on the engagement/marriage process. On a scale of 1-10, it turned out for me to be about a 9 - I could ask for a few things to be touched up to be better, but overall am more than happy with what I have, especially considering the cluster the s*xual marketplace is now.
**Important: if she was with you through a time when you were broke/sick/otherwise "down", she's definitely with you for the right reasons. If that test hasn't happened yet, then maybe you might want to "manufacture" the illusion of going broke and struggling for a while. Generally I don't endorse artificial tests like this - you stay with someone long enough, you find out such things in due course - but, if I'm hearing this right, you want to be free for a few years, then find someone like her and settle down. The problem: the vetting process takes years. You might be ready at, say, 33 - but you might not find someone close to being like her until you're 43 during the vetting process. It may be more prudent to get your remaining questions about her answered now, and go with what you have. But that's my own bias speaking - there may be factors important to you not even covered here, so you need to do you. Hope these thoughts prove useful.
This is wisdom
I appreciate you encouraging honesty in the relationship. Monogamy is a choice, and she also has a choice in staying or walking away. My question is when you use powerful men of the past (kings, rulers, leaders) as examples. Yes these men had concubines, harems, mistresses, etc. Yet they are not a fair example, because these were the minority of men in the world. A mere 1%. Majority of men of the past did not have such luxuries. The majority of people had just one partner and they worked hard together in maintaining a life.
Per your statement, if women are presented with the option of accepting their husband cheating, 1/3 will accept and turn a blind eye.
Yet, I do not believe this acceptance occurs with a happy peaceful heart. Dissension will form. It will create resentment and her love will slowly fade away.
I’m curious to know if you have evidence of such a successful relationship.
During my grandmothers’ time, such a life was led, and I did not hear of many happy couples. They just stayed because they had to, no other choice.
When a woman loves a man, we truly love them with all our hearts. We can’t imagine being with anyone else. We want a good father for our children which involves much more than money. If he’s okay with cheating on her while she’s at her peak, he’ll do it throughout the marriage (if they go that route). Each time he cheats, loosens the bond between the two of them. It’s better if he breaks up with her so she can find someone better. Are her parents still married? Mine were happily married and never did either of them cheat, despite both having other options. They loved each other more deeply as time went by.
Well said.
Not true. Men and women are different. A man can cheat with a woman he has no emotional connection with and still come home to his woman that he loves.
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The whole point of 'digging' options is to find and enjoy the good one, for however long it may be.
The woman should've left this guy the 2nd time she cought him. But since she hasn't this guy should realise the value of what he has before she realises her own value and leaves.
That guy is a piece of crap and should let her go to find a man thats not a cheating piece of crap.
Hi Rich, my name is Cameron, I just wanted to reach out to you and say hi.
I have found your info 100% inspiring and life changing, it has my me reassess everything in my life, I am 50 in a few months and I and ashamed of the little impact I have had in my own life let own anyone else.
Your words of wisdom have lit a fire under my ass, to do a complete make over and upgrade to my life in every area of it, to to become the Alpha Male I should be.
After buying and reading your book and watching quite a few of your RUclips videos now, my path is now set and is very clear in the direction I need to head into.
I feel sad as an Indian that western societal values are degrading and people are move giving in to the carnal desires and are chasing one thing after another. Like a dog running after a car and not knowing what to do when you get there.
A serious mindset problem.
I Totally agree with you buddy.
Let's hope for a more beautiful and moral future.
Agreed it is like a dog chasing one thing that’s new and shiny only to run around l miss his favorite toy , like grow up the guys almost 30
I agree with you 💯!
This guy sounds ungrateful af bro women like that are gold what guy that doesn’t want a women that cooks, clean, doesn’t talk to guys? Does this guy like men or something
naw bro it can be deeper than that, things can seem so good but yet one has to fulfill their own goals to be happy with themself dont matter, im kinda in the same situation but ik there's still girls out there that have the same characterstics, go to churches. Don't tweak over a girl tf
If I thought she was a 9 and I wanted children I'd just stick with her. Spinning plates really feels like a waste of time for me but it's ok if that's what he really wants to do.
Spinning plates is a waste of time when you more than likely already have a high value girl with you
Such an interesting perspective, thanks for sharing.
The info helps keep my life on track. Thanks for the info.
Excellent advice Rich!
Dont do it man. youve found a gem (maybe its easier because you live in Asia and the mentality is different) but keep her. theres is nothing glamorous about spinning plates. puxxy is just a puxxy. youll just waste time and money for temporary pleasure. and if youd ever opened your mouth about your carrer every girl would want you for herself. Just enjoy the attention and build from where you are with the girl youre with. if you are bored in the bedroom there are many things you can spice it up with.
No woman is ok with cheating. Cheating hurts emotionally & mentally. Men are under the impression women are ok with it because she women tolerate cheating, there's a difference. If woman is with you and she's genuinely ok with you being with other women, she's not that into you, she's most likely using you for your money or she's passing time out of boredom or not wanting to be alone. For the women who are inlove with their man who is cheating, they are devastated but they put up with it to keep their man happy. For the women who love their man but genuinely don't mind her man being with other women are the minority, those women are polyamorous women who are into poly relationships. Also there's no point of being in a relationship or marriage if one person doesn't have the discipline not to mess around with other people while being in a relationship with someone else.
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The main thing that tends to indicate that the video requester may not listen to good advice is that he said he doesn’t want to have to answer to his gf for his behavior. It almost sounds like he doesn’t even appreciate what he has. He needs to think long and hard about who he wants to be and then declare it, letting the chips fall as they will.
Great video!
This is my exact situation, excited to listen
the girl should not stay with a guy who disrespects her by having affairs with other women.
that's not disrespectful. A man can love multiple women respectfully
Women don't care. Infact they love that others can't keep him.
@@blair5475 No, it is disrespect to your woman. She is faithfully committing to you, so you commit to her faithfully too. Have some decency.
Good work on this one.
I relate a lot with this story, it’s hard to stay loyal when you have good looking women vying for your attention but you have a good woman at home. I broke up with her briefly but we are back together
I hear you. What would you do if your woman was bisexual and down for threesomes?
@Patrirachy Rules...... You're serious?
If they got back together, I'm sure it's because he chose to get back with her and believes she's the one. You don't think he can make a judgment call on his own? There ARE good women out there you know.
Thank you for this channel and the general atmosphere of open honesty. As a man who has been raised around both women and men (but mostly women who can often think and assume they know so much about the opposite sex), it’s necessary to be frank about our social and biological alignments. It’s centuries and millennia old how different we are, yet so many don’t seem to respect or understand that. The truth is the truth, and I see it act itself out in us naturally every day, even in more liberal/left leaning spaces. Women are women, men are men. We function pretty much as we’re to be expected to operate, with other factors involved too. I’m going to read the book myself.
There is no such thing as a perfect girlfriend…
She only with you during your high valued period of life 🤔
So no problem. I am gonna be a high value male all my life.
no, girls from south east asia stay with you forever.
not chinese or vietnamese.
but pinoy and malaysian do.
You should stay as High value as possible all the time.
Nah, you just haven't found a woman that's down enough for you, my guy.
Your girl will only leave you when you are weak
I ended up in sick and in hospital for a couple of weeks and didn’t fully recover until about a month or 2 later - the girl I was seeing was upset but she waited for me and loved me all the same,
Because to her, I was strong and I handled it well. I didn’t cry to her or complain or was needy in any way.
Fast forward about a year later, things were going good, until I pulled her on some disrespectful shit she was doing.
I handled the situation wrong and lost my cool and lost my frame.
She pulled right tf back because I showed weakness.
I lost my frame and it took around 2 months of shit and a breakup that i was committed to to get it back.
So moral of the story, you can be sick and you can be in hospital for weeks.
But you can’t be mentally weak or loose yourself or your frame.
That is the kryptonite.
The Ladies are not gon like this one lol. Great video as always Rich
I was literally that guy. High value foreigner guy in Asia with perfect femine gf. Decided for monogamy, cause she cried about it. Married her, when she was pregnant, I found out she had Chad on side for years. When I was out of town... Don't do my mistakes. The moment you go for monogamy, is the moment she lost respect for you. Make her kids, make her busy. Women needs kids or they start messing around. Is their biological nature. They raise kids or they do hypergamy
Thats the comment that saved my life.
that makes sense.. if you dont give her kids naturally she will go exploring for someone that will
but then you have to deal with kids lol
Honesty is the best policy. The rest is BS. Good content Rich. 👍
That’s one thing I was telling my mom a few days ago, I have already done a self check up and understand myself very well and reached a conclusion that I will never be able to Marry and be with one woman my whole life, that’s not me. I am not a playboy but every now and then I sleep with women and I can never establish anything serious, I despise the fact that someone controls me, can’t go out freely with friends, jealousy , dramas, buy this and buy me that or you don’t love etc.
I don't know about this; if I got cheated on, I'd absolutely obsess about the sexual component. That's sex I wouldn't be getting, for starters. But I'd also wonder about her ability to satisfy him in ways I couldn't. Resource provision is secondary (and I say this as a housewife with zero personal income). If he left me, I'd struggle financially, but I'd struggle more with who he's having sex with/how often/what they're doing/etc.
More the reason for why you should do all you can to satisfy him, don't ya think?
9’s a little bit ambitious from my angle!! LOL. I love how honest this guy is.
I think the only reason why his girlfriend is so committed and forgiving to him, is because of his (alleged) income of 300k a year and the lifestyle he can provide to her.
He’s already the asshole. He cheated. When either a man or woman does it, it’s betrayal. A relationship is a commitment, and he’s broken the commitment. There isn’t a double standard. She should leave him.
He's an idiot. He obviously doesn't love her so she should dump him. Sounds like she deserves someone better!
He doesn't deserve her. End the game
When you're on your deathbed, will you wish that you had more time to spend with your kids and grandkids (because you had them sooner in life and had them with a woman who didn't take them away from you in family court) or will you wish you had pushed some more strange P-sleeve in some random bar?
On the flip side, after she does take your kids, your time and your wealth will you wish you pushed more P-sleeve?
Having a partner where you want her to look the other way every now and then. That’s just sad man.
Tell her you lost everything. If she stays with you. Your a fool to let her go!
She is not yours it's just your turn. No person is perfect it's the time that's going well. Had it gone bad he would have opined differently. And cheating is costly when married. A person's grind should be sole important thing in a man's life.
On point brother.
Can be perfect. Though only for a while. People change. Circumstances change.
“The grind”
How is that gonna help me when the dollar fails?
Preach it 🙌 bro
I see this quote "She's not yours it's just your turn", constantly regurgitated in the comments section of these kinds of channels lmao
Incredible advice
These men are going to die alone because of being too picky and having too much fun. There's a reason it's called SETTLING dude.
Getting married and having babies would get rid of that wandering spirit for you. But you have to know the woman is truly for you- identify this through a match of faith and philosophy, lay out your future plans and aspirations and test her commitment to you by taking away the fluff and the fun for a serious move.
the headaches are inevitable if you go outside of monogamy. just doesnt seem wise. searching for a fleeting sensation like a drug
Marry with prenuptial agreement and u can't have it all bro
The guy answered his own question, stay single. He's not ready for commitment, just let the girl know that.
I disagree that women can't be promiscuous, they certainly can.
But it's unnatural for them.
When a woman is promiscuous, she's f**ING crazy
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Totally agree with you, Rich.
She's a keeper! I think the real problem is that being 29 year old, you haven't grown up yet. So, grow up! Then, everything will work out. The real issue is you not your girlfriend.
No self respecting woman would ever put up with that crap- what a joke!
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If you cheat on your girl, you need to understand that she WILL cheat on you, even if it's just for revenge. It's going to happen, and to assume otherwise is foolish. If you can't handle that, then don't cheat, or you should probably break up. Just because men and women are different doesn't mean morality is relative. wrong is wrong.
Very good point, she will put up with it in the short term but give it 7-10 years and she will be an entirely different person by then, hopefully more mature. And that maturity will come with self respect, so yeah she will be happy to cheat (to replace him) or at the very least end the relationship
"Just because men and women are different doesn't mean morality is relative. wrong is wrong." Exactly, most men have an addiction to pussy variety. Fat people have an addiction to too much junky food. Having the desire doesn't make it a great idea, you lose the moral high ground. One rots your body, the other rots your soul.
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Spinning plates is over rated and inconsistent, girls flake on you ghost you etc. He'll regret
If you can't be faithful then don't bother
While I mostly agree, there's something here that just irks me. Yes, a man can be promiscuous if he's high value enough and the woman looks away, but it's not like she likes that or would ever want you to be that way. Forgive my perhaps 'blue-pill' take here but marriage or at least a committed LTR is supposed to be about being faithful. Being promiscuous is just being selfish and the woman unfortunately is just putting up with it.
Wow, this guy is living the fucking dream.
Key point is, he describes her as "perfect" but only from a perspective of having a family. He never says if she's fun to be around, if she challenges him. Sounds to me like she is the submissive type and probably that's why he just lost interest over time. A girl that is perfect as a "nice mom", doesn't means it's perfect as a partner for everybody.
This guy should look for a girl that is at his level: successful, that's going places and that won't ever let him walk all over her.
I did this too, I had an amazing girlfriend as well, left her to become a player and fulfill my inner desires. I don't regret it now as I am only 24, but I do say to myself I wish I met her when I was in my 30s. I had barely experience with women before her, and I felt I needed to experience this in life.
So tell us oh wise one, what did you learn?
Bro, do you have an email?
Can I talk with you about this very thing? It's urgent. I'm 21 and I have a perfect LTR gf. I would love to pick your brains.
@@Catholic-Redpilled-Spaniard Just leave her so she can be with someone who actually deserves her.
@@JJ-hu4cm Your comment is dumb as fuck.
But thanks nonetheless.
I'm 63 and having children around you is awesome. I should write a book about it ...it's the best male hack in life!!.
I feel like Rich is more animated or something lately. I like it.
I like it too.
if she really is as perfect as u say, dont. cuz then theres little chance ull meet someone like that again. u dont know what u got till its gone.
I made this mistake. To all the guys who have a good woman and thinking of leaving to try other women, please don’t. I did it and learned the hard way.
Agree with everything except for this philosophy Rich pushes that money can sexually attract a woman. It helps, but not sexually.
no matter what you do, there is no sure way that you wont regret your actions later in life. ego is the devils work for many.
The girls sounds very decent and high value, if the guy wants to be banging other girls just for the "fun" then my man should let her go, it goes both ways, we men complain about girls banging other guys yet when the opposite happens we glorify it
Nah man, some girls genuinely want a good relationship, if you can't do that for her, just let her go and keep your self respect, just be weary that it might take you a while again to find a girl like that, cause they're rare
Wants the best of both worlds. Won’t work with women in the long run.