How to make a woman MELT using SOFT DOM/GENTLE DOM Techniques
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I asked my b/f to demonstrate 4 techniques from the overarching extremely powerful technique of dd/lg or what I heard people calling in my last video The Father Frame. LOL!
These are just 4
1. Pet names
2. Infantalizing praise
3. Straight up mocking
4. Comforting and Soothing
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I genuinely like that you two are confident in the relationship and don’t let the outside influence you.. and a woman who has self awareness is respectful.
This channel is supposed to teach you how to be more dominant, why are you in your feminine energy about victoria?
this is called soft dom or gentle dom...it's probably more widely liked than the standard. they are both dominance styles with equal power for different people
@blizzard5287 didn't you listen to the video at all? It's psychological play. Gentle Dom is a way to bypass her defenses, to appeal to that femininity that is under the surface. She naturally becomes more submissive. He wasn't in his femininity at all. It's gentle masculine dominance.
@@blizzard5287this works for men, who are already viewed as “alpha”. Not to mention he’s also doing it in a way with confidence and assurance.
Just be a man, a good man. Live for yourself and don't try for others, because no1 will appreciate you for real. If you get piece with knowing this, you will be good. Be yourself so if someone will love you, it will be generous.
I find it so addorable how she is blushing through out the video.
List of Subjects with timecode
1. Pet Names 0:50
2. Infantalizing Praise 8:00
3. Mocking 11:20
4. Comforting / Soothing 17:25
Mocking is really more like teasing.. No malice intended. Women try this and fail.
THANKS! So hard to listen to all that staggered talk.
As a fully grown male I am really offended that I got hypnotised by the beard man.
great vid. keep it up
Lmao Luke 😂
Lmao at her calling him
Beardo
This guy is really in touch of his masculine energy in a caring gentle way…the lady finds it luscious…she really reacts in a good way…he loves her
😍
Ive used "good girl", "baby" kiss on forehead before but never knew this was DDLG. This is eye-opening
I recently did this on someone I'm seeing. First time I'd done it, and was questioning whether or not it was "non-masculine" to change my voice like that. Now I know it helped me more than I knew. Thanks for the vid.
in what way
growing up i was never told any of this about female nature. not by my mom, sisters, cousins. any woman and this stuff is at least as valuable as my learning how to be masculine.
It’s only because not all females are into this. I am but not all are so it depends on your partner.
Why do expect women to teach you how to be masculine…?
@@spacebar9733 because women are the primary consumers of masculinity. if you think about it like product. perhaps in an ideal landscape it wouldn't be that way but it is that way and women are often used as the measuring sticks for masculinity. really a lot of things are buy women are the most notable. just as men are the primary consumers of femininity. you can de-genderize this if you want but the principle remains the same
@@Shalamehhh you’re not using accurate grammar, so I’m done. And you’re still incorrect.
@@spacebar9733 my bad for the grammer, wasn't paying that much attention
Finally someone has the courage to talk about it!! youre doing the right thing victoria!
by the way, so many girls i had a relationship with have been into this. sometimes it took them a year or so to confess this but there are a lot of girls who are into this!!
This feels like something we weren't supposed to see
Well the beardy guy appearing all of a sudden beside her in a video surely was.
Your videos have helped me tremendously in my understanding of the way women think and how I interact with them. Please keep up the real and honest content! My girlfriend and I are much happier now. Thank you!
so happy to hear that! wow! any thing in particular u tried that she ended up liking?? I'd love to hear any more details u can share
@@mynonleatherlife To be honest I've just begun to embrace my own masculinity more and have become more dominant in general. She really seems to appreciate it and I can tell that she has more respect for me. I've also started to use dirty talk with her both in and out of the bedroom and she really likes that!
@@mynonleatherlife of course mam, I obey your advice😎.
Look how happy and girly she is
lol I'm very triggered
Even her tonality is softer and giddy.
even 100 years later, these advices will be GOLD. women is women no matter when or where.
But you know what, why men should try for women, but not much of opposite in life. Just be a man.
This is GOOOLD. Thanks so much. We really appreciate you guys being vulnerable to teach us new techniques and ideas in the bedroom. It really gives us a new sexual insight and it dramatically improves our romantic lives for men. Really, I can’t thank you enough.
Yay I’m so glad u liked it and see the potential… thx for ur wonderful comment
I just recently found your channel and really like your take on showing the softer side of the D/s dynamic while helping men embrace their masculine, thank you both!
Thank u I’m v glad u liked the take
If only I'd stumbled upon your channel earlier...
Looks like everything has its own time to come into our lives.
As always, fantastic video! Your boyfriend did a great job explaining the perspective of men who struggle with confidence. For a confident guy, expressing deep insecurities only reinforces the sense of him being confident (because he has rock solid confidence, even in spite of his struggles). But for men who struggle with confidence, a woman's response (conscious or not) to an expression of deep insecurity will be more along the lines of "I knew there was something off about this guy... he's a mess!" Which will inevitably be followed by losing feelings for the guy, even if she genuinely likes and cares about him, etc. (the heart wants what it wants) For this reason, I've often come to regret opening up to women... but I recognize that doesn't apply to all men.
Many women don't understand just how much some men struggle with social confidence, and just how much that hurts us with women. I think this has a multitude of causes, including how modern men are now taught to openly express their emotions... which naturally makes many feel bitter and betrayed when it inevitably backfires. For many men I also think low testosterone and mood disorders play a roll. I've made big improvements through testosterone replacement therapy, along with diet, supplements and lifestyles that reduce inflammation (I know inflammation is something of a buzzword, but it seems to be closely linked with my confidence issues). For some men, antidepressants could be really helpful. Keto diets and "no fap" seem to work great for some guys as well.
It's not easy, but I've made huge advances in my social confidence.. I'm still an introvert and a very sensitive guy. But I'm masculine and reasonably confident, so it doesn't particularly hurt me with women (and can definitely help, since I find emotional intimacy easier than many men). So what you're saying is very true, but many men (especially young men) need to pursue a long road of self-improvement before they have the social confidence and masculine presence to make it work for them.
There's no simple solution, but the important thing is that this is not just important for dating. For a heterosexual guy to be genuinely happy and comfortable in his own skin, even in a world in which women do not exist, it's important for him to be masculine and confident. Vocal tone is a big part of this and it's actually the opposite of what you present in this video (which I realize is only meant for occasional private moments) -- women respond to a deep guttural voice, with downward inflection. What's worked for me is actually pretty similar to your boyfriend's normal speaking voice (Sterling Cooper is another excellent example). You don't necessarily have to have a super deep voice, but speaking from the gut and having the right inflection is something that every guy can do (I find it happens naturally, when I'm properly addressing the health issues I outline above). Again, just like the expression of insecurities, your "DD" techniques work only if the overall context is of a masculine and confident man.
This video really helped me to understand a dynamic that I've seen MANY men enjoy with their wives and girlfriends, in various ways. It's really just a more evolved form of flirting. When you talk about the "joking" element being important... that's the key element of ALL flirting. The key part of all flirting is this "I'm not really being serious... or am I?" element.
Finally, I wanted to suggest that you do a video like this on using physical touch during a first date. I realize this can be hard to demonstrate, but any examples (or general suggestions) would be greatly appreciated! With as much progress as I've made, this is just one of those things that doesn't come naturally to me. So anything you can do would be greatly appreciated (same for your boyfriend, who adds a lot to your videos). You've touched on this in many videos (no pun intended), but I think your viewers would really benefit from a video that focuses on it. As always, thank you for all the invaluable information!
very interesting to read your perspective and experience, thank u for sharing that! That's a great point about the key element in all flirting too...I've heard people say that but didn't really realize that whenever I've done my best flirting it's exactly that! And I agree with u that u got to be masculine or cool enough as step 1 or other things can backfire. I'm also glad u have seen this play out in other people's relationships...also very impressed with all the work u have put in as a sensitive and introverted guy. tho the road is a lot harder no doubt, at the end i think u kind of end up with the best of both worlds...and can be ultimately even more powerful
Only read the first paragraph, but it was right on. Hope you enjoyed the video!
Man ... sorry, but you dumped a f-ing essay on YT.
Please reflect & introspect.
That's f--ked up. Fact. I don't care what brain-spasms of ego-protection will happen when you read this. It IS f--ked up; period.
So figure yourself out.
Fix
it.
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 brainlet detected.
You're cool to own that confidence is your issue to work on instead of resenting women for their weaker response to you when you aren't coming from a strong place. Wishing you best of luck!
Teasing/humor leads to laughter (or at the very least an amused smile) and that translates to us feeling safe. Also, it’s sort of like a relief mechanism by “releasing” that display of emotion. Like when someone can make you laugh it instantly helps put you at ease and relax you physiologically. (Laughter can also be a release function when you feel uneasy but that’s not the kind I’m talking about here) typically you can only genuinely/sincerely crack a smile or laugh around someone you feel good about. It’s a deep level of mutual trust that has been established so that’s why instead of teasing being a threat, it’s more of an embellishment to what you guys have already created. And I’m not sure how but that somehow leads to being messed with as a turn on! Now when you’re being teased (playfully) in your inner dialog you might be saying “how dare you say this to me/do this to me” but it’s the fact that it’s a little bit daring and them taking a risk just to receive a reaction out of you becomes very flattering and makes you feel special. They find you so enamoring or worthwhile that they want to create fun scenarios JUST to get to watch your reaction (giggle, squirm, blush, look down, playfully slap them, verbally “act” appalled) and that makes it rewarding enough for them. The fact that your seemingly insignificant response to their actions is what drives them to do things in front of you becomes precious and shows how much they value you which in turn makes you value them more and creates this sexy chemistry cycle. Like YOU are the object of their affection, YOU are the one they find entertaining enough to simply watch and observe your reaction to things he does so becomes very endearing. It might sound narcissistic but we all enjoy being in the spotlight of someone we value. And that’s what these little moments create, a moment in the day when you feel exclusively chosen by someone you value highly. Maybe that’s what it is. Thoughts still pending. My husband will always intentionally mess with me, it’s always with a gentle playfulness of course, and usually follows him kissing me on my head, squeezing my hand or waist, or giving me a hug to “make up” for messing with me and it’s always been one the things that made him very attractive to me. I could be positioning a towel a certain way because of my OCD or clearing up the counters and reorganizing all the items a certain way, and he will go in after me and slightly make the towel uneven or turn something out of place and then wait and watch until I notice. It usually follows with a big grin on his face when he sees me pausing and visibly squirming on my face and I FREAKING love when he messes with me like that. It makes life so much more fun. And the thing is he always means well, like it’s never ACTUALLY demeaning, for example he will never INTENTIONALLY misplace something JUST to piss me off. That would be crazy. It’s always only a sign of endearment. Geez didn’t mean to write this much. But I noticed you have a fair amount of longer comments and you don’t seem to mind them so oh well:)
Ps:…and maybe the fact that it’s daring ie him not being afraid to be daring around you is translated as him not being afraid of you which means not being afraid of you/where your emotions can take you which equals him not being intimidated by your emotions which equals him being comfortable will any and ALL of you which becomes sexy very quickly because you feel ultimate safety. Kind of like Maslows pyramid of all human needs, safety then love and feeling of belonging are the very first after basic physiological needs. So once again, maybe this all DOES truly boil down to those subconscious child needs we all have inside of us and what can be better than when those are met? The knowing of being completely safe and accepted, knowing you aren’t going to be abandoned or there being no threat. I feel only that can create the most powerful arousal because rather than drawing from more superficial desires you’re penetrating much deeper, down to the lowest level it goes. But this is all just guesswork and brainstorming..out loud. Lol. Does anyone agree? Thanks for creating a safe space for us here xx
PPS: also I read somewhere that most of our sexuality (what will arouse us etc) is formed in early childhood. Which is really interesting and funny. Not sure how accurate this is but it was an interesting study for sure.
PPPS: oh my goodness sorry another layer to add to all this- in therapy I learned that your spouse/husband subconsciously replaces your parent/father so I’m curious how that plays a role as well. I feel there’s definitely a correlation of enjoying being taken care of/babied if you didn’t get enough of that in childhood. Not sure if it would still be the same with women who did receive enough love/affection from their fathers in childhood. Okay I’m done!!!!
thanks for sharing! makes a lot of sense!
@@kaizoku4life thanks for the feedback!
hi ekaterinal, it was really insightful. thanks mam
This video teaches a lot. Especially if one watching reads between the lines of what’s being said. Thanks Victoria! (Cool BF.)👍👍🏆✌️
I love your vivid honesty, and I experienced your explanations as helpful for deeper understanding of basic Dom/sub dynamics. Very cute to see all the female blushing throughout your interactions. Thanks!
I love these vids. Thank you for explaining from a female perspective. My lady and I are in a DDLG relationship, while we dont do mocking we do all the other techniques and love it. Thank you for your content.
Maybe in a healthy relationship this would be more naturally acceptable at the same twisted way of flirting while at the same time bringing fantasy to reality. It's explosive. Thanks for sharing you guys kick assss
Random thought: your beardo bff 🥹 looks like Marge Simpson when I flip my screen upside down.
Basically feels like a deeper way to tease. I feel like I've done so much of this naturally to help diffuse frustrated girlfriends before
"A man written by a woman" this definitely should be a video
Just found your channel today and I find your content to be very informative and eye opening as you explain things from a woman's perspective. I especially appreciate your honesty about women and from just a few videos I have learned a lot. Keep up the good work.
I like the content. I had to watch it twice to get some of the subtleties. I like seeing the duality of your disgust with the pet names but liking the feeling of being made to feel special and the only female around.
Thank you for this real practical man + woman knowledge
Very interesting discussion of dd/lg. and father frame! Always wondered about this fantasy role play. Thank you both!
A thing this channel posts, I like. Amazing vulnerability and insights. Thanks for being open about all these delicate subjects.
He’s a hero for this one! That’s one confident dude
Omg it took one 'hello princess' in that voice & I'm blushing profusely
I can't help but feel like a alien watching this, I could watch it for hours on end, days and weeks, and still could not possibly learn how to be this way.
why not do you think
@@mynonleatherlife Thankyou for your reply. I believe it mostly stems from childhood trauma, abusive father, and then bring raised solely by my mother from beyond the age of 10. Ultimately, for whatever reason, I have always found it difficult not only to be assertive, but to connect, or relate to others.
@@ndndhhhhk1362 It's hard out there, playa
Damn you are so open and honest in front of the Internet. That makes me happy. I love this.
The kinky side of exposure is, taken back to the bone, about relaxing or being able to relax the guards in place when dealing with life in general.
In the privacy of home and in a secure relationship there is a freedom from these constraints that is liberating and exiting.
Going deeper into kink of this sort I think one is:-
A/ expanding the size of the place where this is possible and...
B/ getting places on the relaxing the guard in a less secure place for a bit of adrenaline as a spice for the arousals ensuing.
Surrender to events with a degree of adrenaline spice is always exiting and when the imagination kicks in too life can become very interesting to the libidinous and imaginative!
Very interesting thoughts
@@mynonleatherlife thank you for your answer. I enjoy debate upon sexual motivation and like your mindset. This is constructive towards modern people understanding each other, as of course is your channel!
Damn - was going to use this on my cute intern!
After hours only
Great discussion on DDLG and Daddy frame. I've explored it a bit over the last couple years because I realized that my last few serious relationships were very much dipping into it just by the dynamic that was being expressed between us. Perhaps it's because I'm in my later 30's now and my last few girls were at least ten years younger than me and it just became the way I expressed myself with them.
I would like to hear some of your insights on healthy boundaries for it. Like you said at the end of the video about men expressing emotions but at the same time I've had girls get very emotional, start to drift into little/middle space and make decisions that have long term effects based on their short term emotions. The kinda "break up, come back" cycle type of decisions that just get emotionally taxing for both of us.
I've checked out much of the DDLG community, online at least, and many seem kinda toxic like they live for the emotional rollercoaster instead of having the type of relationship you have.
On a side note; it's great Beardo is starting his own channel. The name is similar to one I'm starting, the "... Speaks" part, based on me making erotic audios. I've gotten so many complaints on the quality of my voice and it seems to be a major factor in girls wanting to be in my Daddy frame.
They don't like your voice in your erotic audios?
Maybe date girls your age instead of expecting 19 year olds to make 30 year old life choices !! 🩷🩷
Had no idea this was that powerful
"Gosh darnit, yall are soo cute".
I can hear the character Stewart Smalley in my head right now, "... and darn it, people *like* me!"
Just found your channel today (after watching dark romantic book recommendations, and YT recommended one of your videos). And now I’m binging all your videos!!❤❤❤ You confirm everything is girls secretly desire!!🤪😈
00:28 🐾 Pet names, like "good girl," can intensify the ddlg dynamic in a relationship, creating a powerful and positive emotional impact.
07:54 🤭 Praise with an infantilizing quality can be a teasing yet enjoyable technique, creating a unique dynamic that taps into vulnerability and nurturance.
11:25 😏 Mocking in a soft ddlg way can help address insecurities and shortcomings, offering acceptance and love even in the face of vulnerabilities.
17:31 💖 Soothing and comforting techniques, such as stroking and holding, can provide a sense of security, drawing individuals into a comforting and hypnotic space.
23:39 🤔 Being emotionally open and vulnerable is nuanced; it's about balancing strength and showing softer sides, especially in a masculine way, to maintain a deep connection.
24:49 💪 Women appreciate a default strength and masculinity in a partner; occasional displays of vulnerability create intense, peak experiences that deepen emotional connections.
25:31 🌟 True vulnerability, beyond traditional roles, enhances the connection in a relationship, providing a more profound experience than just fulfilling stereotypical roles.
Very good information Victoria and the boy friend...thank you guys
Blew my mind. This is genius :)
It's a shame this only has 7200 as of now because the amount of gold her is insane. I recognize doing these things and it absolutely works. For some reason, I stumbled accross this so many times as it always lead to intimate moments or a sense of intimicy. I thought of it as "empathic sadism" or "loving sadism", and I would try to have it as a conscious "instrument" to use by writing it down and elaborating the idea, but it always escaped my memory with time because of lack of practice and from having to be serious at work/life outside of the relationship. If I didn't use it, I lost it~
It especially works for me, when I am feeling playful, lovingly and/or empathic. (Perhaps it's just me). Otherwise, I find it difficult to call this "tingling" sensation forth. It doesn't feel authentic without it, which makes it feel phony.
Thank you, fellow vegan, for helping me out in once again seeing the importance of it ♥
Thank YOU fellow vegan for understanding what I am talking about. If people only knew how powerful these techniques were they would be shocked. Empathic/loving sadism is a really interesting term u coined. What did u mean about having it as a conscious instrument to use by writing it down?
@@mynonleatherlife What I meant is that because this sort of playing is intuitive, it is also easily forgotten the moment one does not give it conscious attention. "Adult life" may get in the way if one lets it, which I unfortunately let happen. Anyhow, this naturally occuring sadism consciously made itself aware for me during sex but especially in foreplay. There is a tingling sensation inside the chest - you know like that tingling you may get from giggling whole-heartedly? A type of warmth that also affects the inside of chest as well as causing a playful smile and mood. I always enjoy foreplay because it very often brought this forth naturally. It's as if this "loving sadism" mostly became accessible as a "tool" or "instrument" in the heat of the moment, rather than being present at all times in my daily life. Whenever I felt it, I would think: "This is so important. Why did I forget again?"
I attempted to become intellectually aware of it instead by writing it down many times, so that I could think of it and bring it forth like a "tool". But this type of conceptualizing sometimes prevented me from being in the moment, which then ended up in sometimes failing to bring this empathic sadistic link forth if the foreplay didn't work out well :P I intellectualized it too much. I didn't allow myself to be in the moment at the times, and because it is an intuitive endevour it backfired.
I don't know about your partner, but establishing such a link also allows me to enjoy being rough on my girlfriend including humiliating (all consentual). I love my gf a lot and sadly love can at times stand in the way of humiliating her in the manner she desires. HOWEVER, if I tease her lovingly in the foreplay, I can still love her while being sadistic - so best of both worlds. So teasing as you have done in the video helps me being naughty all the time with her without having to consciously bring anything forth.
It REALLY helped me to listen to this being explained thoroughly from your POV as a woman, but also to know that you do it in every day conversation. I knew it was important and special to me, but work made it so that I would feel anxious if I teased my gf too much. It worked too well and I would feel bad refusing her if I was too anxious or had too many things on my mind. So I stopped myself from teasing as often as a result, which is actually a mistake. Now I have completed my knowledge thanks to you and you put all the pieces together for me ♥ So it won't fade away into the back of my mind anymore as I will use it in daily life - it will be readily available as a "tool" to improve our relationship :) That's what I meant~
So I'm really thankful for having my mind blown from understanding it from the female perspective. Didn't expect the video to be this amazing.
What's also interesting is that one can also tease a woman for her being "motherly" in a similar manner, so the opposite of infantilizing. I have not tried this with my current gf though. Additionally, this very same concept works on me too if it is used by a confident woman - it also helped me understand the "vortex" you talked about having been put in a sexually docile state myself. Sometimes I could feel as if I lost myself completely to the moment: like hypnosis without being able to snap out of it, or like entering a dream or fantasy, without realizing it. "Mother" and "Daughter" both may work for me for example. At times a "Daddy" frame can also have this deep effect on me despite of it being me subjecting my gf to it if she plays along with it nicely while taking on the opposite role.
Sorry for the long response, I even wanted to write more D:
Always when i was vulnerable with a women, or even i cried, they were disgust with me, and it was very short to end of relationship.
You in true sense are a real genuine "Good Girl"! We live in a DD/lg relation as well and happy as never before!!! We love this video !!
Haha the demonstrations though 😂
Lols
thank you both...I appreciate your sharing these games you play together. I hadn't ever been aware that they are possible ways to interact between lovers....perhaps I might experiment with this kind of playfulness in future just to see....
Lightbulb moment hit me when you mentioned Outlanders. Went to subscribe and realized I did already.
I love it, that when he calls her bunny - her eyes POPS OUT... (at 05:33...)
It’s very interesting watching the Chemistry between you Guys, and the Reactions of Victoria compared to the usual Solo presentations. Well done 🙌🏻
This was great. I just found you. Ive watched several other videos recently, from others and i was thinking it all seems like hard work. However this opened my eyes to the fact ive been doing this sort of mocking without even realising that i was doing such... So thank you for helping me in that regard.
Awww he got you blushing lol you guys look great together 💪😄❤️👍
Timing of ‘dumpling’, perfect, plays beautifully into the humour. I laughed in the dark in bed and my partner woke up, how can I explain this!!!😂
😂😂😂🙏😅
5:27 - 5:40 y'all peep the game. Her reactions to "bunny" is interesting. To us guys it seems like whatever comment but I think women actually like that stuff because it establishes dominance (esp if you naturally have that presence and do it organically). That's my theory anyways
no comment lol
I imagine #2 works for girls with good self-esteem and who are highly competitive... it makes them want to try even harder.
Thank you, just turned single in my 40s and found out quickly that A LOT of girls are looking for this dynamic. Any inspiration helps thank you!
do they tell u or write it on their profile or did u just sense
Hey Victoria once again thank you for sharing what you do. Although it has been said many times, its something to be reminded. So thank you. Hope you guys are staying safe and healthy.
thank you akshay!!
This the cheat code guys. Your game deep deep.
thanks and ur right, for certain girls it will be...let me know how it goes
I'm a guy and I like your boyfriend. Very nice voice and also well spoken.
One of issues with my wife is that I can never commfort her. Every time I hug her and tell her not to worry, she fights me. Does not believe me, doubling down on whatever fear she has. Drives me crazy
That sounds quite frustrating and possibly quite discouraging, and I’m sorry ur dealing with that. I know u didn’t ask my advice but as an anxious person I know that if u tell someone who is anxious don’t worry it can come off as very invalidating and irritating… it can be better to say I can totally understand how that would be a bit scary cuz of *insert her situation the way she is thinking about it here*. U can even do it in a loving nurturing ddlg type way if u want. When I’m worried about something it can irritate me to no end when people try to cheerlead or give advice cuz they’re not really understanding the way I am seeing things and I just want to be understood. The best book in the world for this kind of thing in my opinion is feeling good together by David burns… I did a vid on it called the most effective conversational algorithm in the world or something like that. It is a lifesaver and my bf uses it on me and before he did we had a lot more issues
@@mynonleatherlife Thanks for your long reply, along with your honest, open videos. I will check out that book by David Burns too. Perhaps because my wife is older, she never seems to trust me or my judgment. Her fears are always justified in her mind. My condolences are reckless. She seeks to be dominant, needing to control every situation. We have all kinds of friction. When we disagree, she digs in her heals and closes her mind. I try to find points of agreement before highlighting nuances, but it always turns into a pissing match. This is just the tip of the ice burg. I think relationships work best when one partner is more dominant and the other one more submissive.
I had to Google that acronym. This is an interesting concept to help guys learn dominance.
I challenge the gender differences in that guys mock & tease each other as signs of our closeness.
In fact, we are harder on our best buddies.
Right?
I love the commitment. Thank you for the videos
Epic Beard. That is the beard of all beards !
Thanks David!
Great stuff! Would love to see more on this topic.
Thx Luke anything in particular u want more in depth on?
If America was forced to choose between Oprah and the Vortex, I would definitely choose the Vortex. There was a ton of gold in this video, especially what women feel emotionally during these types of social interactions. Maybe consider including the title "Relationship Dynamics" in the heading of the next video because this is the arena where these frames can be so helpful and I think the viewers might understand the reference better. I know I got it, but I am a junkie for this type of content so I would imagine I am more the exception than the rule. This was by far the most comical content you have done, very funny, but also very interesting at the same time (a unique combo). I think what is so interesting is the Vortex doesn't give an impression like she likes the commentary, but then the next second she says it is good (I think this happens to a lot of men where girls like something they don't appear to like). I am not sure what is more funny, the fact this approach actually works and is necessary, or the reactions the Vortex has to Beardo's running dialogue. #LongLiveTheVortex #TheQueenOfTheNet #TikTokSuperstar
J G thank you, your comments always blow my mind. Is relationship dynamics a category people search for or a "thing" on youtube...I will definitely include that in the title next time if it helps people understand the content. Also you are totally right that I often act like I hate the very things I like. I do hate them and love them at the same time. One part of me-my pride- hates it and one part of me can't resist the pull to be "babied"...when it gets too overpowering I have to surrender but I usually camouflage it until that point but it is a fight against the pull from the vortex for sure.
@@mynonleatherlife And Beardo seemed genuinely proud of his ability to pull you into the vortex. I am not sure if "Relationship Dynamics" is a thing or a YT category. It definitely should be because that is exactly what you are teaching and what so many people get wrong. It seems like all your advice and instruction always goes back to optimizing relationship interactions. This is something that gets lost and the spark that causes people to grow apart. This is where I see your info being most helpful. Even though it appears on the surface, or could be labeled, kink, it seems very nuanced to me and slightly more serious than mere playful kink.
@@jg1316 great point
It seems like these techniques would bring out that inner child feeling out of someone 🙂
they do ur right
This is wonderful. Again, it points out just how much women are asking of men. It’s a lot having to be everything in each moment and all the time.
i dont ask this of him though. he just started doing it one day and enjoyed the response
Yo - not only is this stuff real, but decades ago as a senior in high school - in the middle of Math class, when the teacher announced we didn't have a homework assignment for once - I replied delightedly, "Alright! Good girl, Miss Roullier."
To which she, very unexpectedly, answered, full of enthusiasm - "Thanks, AlexJ!"
Haha
i watched this because i am experimenting with kink and such and wanted to see other peoples experiences and i love that in this video, you can tell when she enjoys the demonstration a bit too much or feels called out hhahaha
Corey Wayne kinda teaches this, but you both go way more in depth on this subject with actionable steps. When a woman is frustrated and in her emotions, it’s up to us to remain centered, playful, and fun. What Beardo is doing is called “pattern disrupters”. He’s not allowing the “weather” to move the “Rock”.
that's interesting G Mac...do u have a video link to him talking about this I'd like to hear what he says. I've heard one guy saying something like that sounds like this...david deida in his book way of the superior man. i thought it was 1 of very few good pieces of advice in his book. just fyi this can be used for a lot more than soothing someone who is upset but it is good for that too
@@mynonleatherlife it’s in his book “How to be a 3% Man”
Great advice guys 🙌🏻Does it work if you know they’re established techniques being rolled out? It’s like the self awareness spoils it.
It’s like sexiness is when someone has no idea they have it
There are pros and cons to consensual kink and pros and cons to finding creepy irl power dynamics. I would recommend kink so as not to get hurt or traumatized
This is fun because there is so much truth and honesty here. Results may vary based on the girl, but it's fun to see a girl being truthful about how she is.
i really hate how ur comment implies most girls are not truthful about how they are
you 2 are great
Thank u very much
New sub, very very intriguing I’m a red pilled male of rational thought and action so when you say women think rationally too I’m open minded enough to see what your thoughts are 🤷🏼♂️
You are the perfect lady who speaks her heart out to help people understand what society confuses about ..i love you thankfully girls like you exist darling , lots of love to you baby love from pakistan 💚
You guys are really great - wish you all the best, and thank you❤
I can’t wait to listen to this video. I am still waiting for my email response. I hope I get some education from Beardo !!
It’s coming!
My bad. Give me 24 hours.
@@BeardoSpeaksYT No worries at all...looking forward to it 🙏
Awesome video. I love it. Thanks for sharing and as a woman let me tell you, it's all true. But, most guys don't know or have no clue or just don't care. But, also you wouldn't want to be this vulnerable with just any guy cause it could be dangerous with the wrong guy.
ur right blue birdie! thank you for sharing!!!
World Class Master Class. This is immortal million dollar instruction. Valid in 3034 as in 2024.
Great content! When will beardo produce his own content?
Thank you for this video, I am very monotone in my vocal range and don't really pay attention to tone so this helps me think about it.
I am really grateful for this video, thank you both!
Aw thank u Sarah B, why is that
It is hard to digest the concept of being slightly creepy tbh. I've always tried everything possible to avoid sounding like that
You two match so much I think I match someone I seen in a picture once
This is an interesting topic and I respect your willingness to talk openly about it. I have no experience with DD/LG personally.
05:35 - cockroach
There is something special and magic the way you present this very interesting intimate themes. It is a present cause other people are not so capable to speak about it together or with each other, with love but not without an approach being critical to the loved one. For me you are a princess and a prince in the Loveland in which sex is not only allowed but necessary! You developed a gift. What can you do better in this short beautiful worldliving? With best wishes from your German fan from Munich!
Aw thank u so much!
I admire the content you create greatly. But being a woman and thus being able to understand myself, I really want to learn to understand the male psyche in this. Could you recommend some channels that treat similar info to yours but from a male perspective?
thanks swans and ducks. I'm interested in the exact same thing to an extreme degree lol. I have been trying to piece it together myself for years now. I don't really know of any channels that do it to the depth I'd be interested in, but I do have 3 male friends who will. what kinds of things r u most interested in...I'd like to make a vid for women on the things I've picked up. i do follow different guys but none i feel go deep enough to my liking, i'll be on the look out too. i do like this guy carl stevens jr he sometimes posts some good insights on ig. he is the husband of kenya k stevens who is also amazing
@@mynonleatherlife thank you very much for your reply. Maybe you could do a video on how you perceive male sexuality? Like, how you think men feel. It would be very interesting. I mean, it is always said female sexuality is so complicated, but female sexuality is actually quite easy right:)) I think you explained it very well with the Alpha in love formula. But for men... it seems so fragmented, so complicated. Do they enjoy dominance? (I mean, in their majority). Do they enjoy submission? Complicated! I very much like the evolutional and even existential undertones of your reflexions in your videos.
Awww my lil Eurofighter Typhoon 🥺
This is gold!
I am so glad u liked it Sophia! Anything in particular u liked about it?
It’s a similar sensation to eating spicy food or that burn our muscles feel with exercise
- stings & irritates so good!
Yo she was melting the whole video 😂. You guys are awesome.
When you say sugar plum...and he does his manliest face "sure...." 😂...ok, this was fun to watch : )
thanks max! i am glad u thought so
damn this guy has an epic voice
You’re video’s really help me. Thank you so much!
This is so awesome! Thanks for sharing
Girls on some discord gaming servers beg me to talk with them and use some of those and some other pet names for them .... yes they loved my voice ... it was interesting for me to discover how girls react to it and then I realized some real life situation and started to understand some situations and their reactions because for me it was all just joking like flirt but not rly flirt just like lifting up energy in space around ...
I'll try calling her "my little platypus." I guess any animal would work except my sweet little rhino, hippo or wildebeest.
Wildebeest 😂😂
lol!
Yeah, I tried "my sweet little hippo" just now, and it was NOT GOOD!!!
Wildebeest 🤣🤣🤣 🦾
Dont say cow either 🤣
Hey Victoria!
Can you add this one question also when you are making a video with David next time. The question is " how he managed with previous break ups and how he moved on from it".
Take care