Understand the Intense Power of The Examination Kink
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The power of shame is an ENORMOUS erotic power that can be harnessed.
Everyone knows shame is a big yet highly mysterious part of kink and sexuality in general.
Its power is unmatched in my opinion.
The power you have, just by looking, as a man, with all your natural instincts to enjoy women, cannot be overstated.
Especially on shy introverted people. But only use it for good and mutual pleasure always.
For some reason it makes me think of this quote by Kafka:
“You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. Do not even listen, simply wait, be quiet, still and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked, it has no choice, it will roll in ecstasy at your feet.”
Kafka was a guy who understood shame very well!!!
You want to harness the power to unmask, splay, look, observe, squirm, expose, praise and have your partner roll in ecstasy at your feet.
Remember: when kink is not consensual and for mutual pleasure and personal growth it's not kink but abuse.
Let me know if you have any questions or thoughts. I love to read your comments. Thanks so much for commenting and watching.
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u are correct many women i have lusted for by my fixed gaze was richly rewarded as samuel coleridge wrote "the desire of the man is for the woman,the desire of the woman is for the desire of the man."
Keep your insights coming forget the self doubts just give it to us.GREAT JOB.
hmm great quote...I love it. and thank you very much for the encouragement!!
Yes women have self obsessed sexual fantasies, often they are just attracted to themselves and hardly men at all.
I used to give “the look” a lot but really pulled that back over the last few years because of all the bad press. Thanks for the encouragement.
well make sure the look is attuned to the situation. Like the look i'm describing will be best for the bedroom and women will most likely feel uncomfortable with this kind of inspection from a stranger in a public place, which is not to say it still doesn't hold power tho...
@@mynonleatherlife I get it. I’m more saying that I used to try to make eye contact that showed I liked her but now feel it’s breaking new moral codes. Even though, I’m quite sure I come across as harmless. Come to think of it, that may be a problem. I always enjoy your videos.
ye dude dont stare at random womens stomaches in the shopping mall haha. only joking.
@@agee7777 and butts!
@@mynonleatherlife mam, when you will wake up, you have to live life like the Princess of milky way galaxy
The delight. The relief, in seeing you post again. You have no idea how much a value your content. You're a real real treasure.
Absolutely !
An absolute treasure, this information is almost priceless. Feel my intellectual gaze and appreciation! Thanks also not only for the honesty but also the overcoming of the perfectionism mentioned heretofore
You are correct Victoria. I've known a lady for many years. She's older than me and we are friends because she's good friends with my wife. One day she was at the same function as my wife and I. She didnt see us. Then she noticed us. I looked at her from across the room. She was well dressed and looked beautiful. I approved of her appearence. I looked at her entire body, then I looked at her face and smiled and waved hello. The look on her face and she was litterally giving me her "O" face. From that moment on she has thrown choosing signals at me for years. It's even obvious to my wife that she's attracted to me. Her attraction for me really wasn't there until I checked her out. I wasn't being gross about it. She just looked good that day and I looked at her. The mere fact of me approving of her beauty actually turned her on - on a primal level.
"A man's gaze upon a woman is like the sun gazing upon a flower. For they shall blossom".
-Sun Tzu (Intimate Confessions)
That’s wonderful I love it thanks for sharing that quote
Your willingness to help us is highly valued and extraordinary. Thank you Victoria for your insights and strength and passion to help men with woman.
+1
An Artistic masterpiece or painting is to a womans expression just like the stylized strong wooden frame of the painting is to a mans desire to caretake, enjoy or display the artistic masterpiece of the womans beauty & orgasm externally, in the comfort of a private bedroom exclusively for two..
Just like a male ballroom dancer displays or “frames” his female partner as the focus of the art of the dance 💃🏻 so the desire of the male gaze frames up the focus towards the beauty of the feminine muse on display by stares of approval & intoxicating glances towards her..
Betaaaa 🤣
Send her your money since you're pedestalizing her you Woman Worshipper!
@@AXharoth League player sup man im happy to see ppl from gaming here
It's the opposite of getting caught checking her out... very simple. Hold eye contact while she is talking and when it's your turn to speak check her out quickly and pretend to lose your train of thought.
this chick is a damn cheat code. kudos for your trandparency and honesty
I have never heard of people talking about this being a kink but now that you bring it up it seems so obvious. I feel being examined puts the man in power and makes me feel submissive. I think that we all feel a bit insecure about the way we look so being examined and the guy lusting over the way we look makes us feel good, it also shows the man isn’t scared of his own sexuality
Thank you for your perspective as a woman 🙏🏽 Victoria is really an observer of her own feelings and emotions which is something pretty rare
@@renaldsunset hey no worries, yeah Victoria is brilliant, I love the amount of self awareness she has ❤️
I am very glad to hear you understand as well and I love the part you wrote at the end cuz I didn't think of that but I so agree that is a hugely important part of this--a man showing he is not scared of his own sexuality
@@mynonleatherlife Victoria - you could make incredible videos on that topic alone. So many men are literally terrified of their own sexual power and actively repress it around women.
@@teddybeartears88 so you don't have any body shame or insecurity? If not that is really amazing and you could make a killing off teaching your secrets
I’m so glad you didn’t stop making videos! Your ideas and your ability to explain female sexuality has really changed the way I think! Thank you for all the work you do even though black pillers don’t see it that way!
yay kevin thank you for the kind support...I hope I didn't already ask u this in another comment, but I am always too curious to not ask...how has it changed the way u think?
@@mynonleatherlife Honestly, just getting kind of a behind-the-scenes view of what goes on in a woman’s mind brings a lot of clarity to the ways men should interact with women in a dating/relationship context. You’ve said before that the majority of women are not able to articulate how they think/how they process the world in terms of their sexuality. Other channels such as JustPearlyThings also go into detail about how women process the world. Pearl said that women are driven by their emotions and many times can’t put into words what is so attractive/unattractive about a guy. This I think is why women talk so much about a guy’s “vibe”/“energy”. She said that she’s had times where she’s lost attraction for a guy and she can’t explain why. This could be the reason why a lot of women flake on dates if they don’t have a legitimate reason to cancel. She actually reacted to your video, you should definitely do a reaction to her reaction! Here’s her reaction: m.ruclips.net/video/6XwgvrYnk2A/видео.html
Great topic. I find this move very empowering as a man. It can communicate so much passion and create deeper connection. The key factor is the energy behind the gaze. For instance I also use a milder version to demonstrate my attraction to women and convey to them that I'm a very sensual man. Most seem to enjoy it, even if it's only a momentary flirtation.
I was one of those guys that repressed this for much of my life because I was afraid of being seen as creepy. I had to learn to accept that no matter what I do, some women out there will inherently find any expressions of male s3xuality to be offensive. Ultimately I decided I'd rather be seen as a s3xually confident guy to the right women rather than a nice guy to the wrong women.
i love the conclusion you came to. perfectly said. it's true, some girls just can't handle any expressions of male sexuality. It takes a lot of strength as a woman to deal with it in my opinion and it's not easy. I used to not be able to handle much myself. It was only when I got over my fear of men was I able to gain the strength to know how to respond without crumbling basically and trying to prevent that from happening by being very defensive around men at all times.
@@teddybeartears88 didn't you say you weren't straight tho T? I am talking about heterosexual women who are attracted to men thus their sexual orientation
@@mynonleatherlife It's definitely a complex issue, and I would like to learn more about it from women's perspective. I think a lot of guys struggle with expressions of female sexuality as well, which is why there's shame and judgement perpetuated on both sides. I grew up around a lot of women and empathized with them so I was hyper fearful of accidentally making someone uncomfortable, but operating from that frame also makes it difficult to even make healthy sexual connections. So you just have to accept that some people will judge you no matter what. I'm guessing you've probably dealt with this even more that I have given your past with erotic dancing! Your story about wanting to try out then hesitating actually reminded me of the mental gymnastics some guys go through trying to approach women then hesitating. The shame we have around sexuality in this culture is insane.
Man ... I am never gonna unsubscribe from this channel.
You really go into subjects that many people, especially men, either have never even thought about, or don't speak about because it makes them feel too vulnerable. What a blessing to have you throw your own vulnerability to the wind and talk about these concepts in great detail. You have a gift that really helps both sexes in the long run. Thanks, Victoria.
Thanks a lot for the very kind words 🙏
The way you make yourselve vulnerable in order to help all of us makes you one of the most courageous people on the internet as far as I'm concerned. You are one very special person. Keep it up and don't be distracted by saddos or frusties please. Or be discouraged by them. Love you Victoria. Regards from the Netherlands. 💙
wow thanks so much Frank, so kind of you to say
Amazing to get a real womans perspective about issues rarely spoken about. Thank you.
"she is the art" is a quote that goes STUPID hard. good stuff! Very insightful
“Please, you idiots! Don’t comment in a negative way!” That’s not funny, but funny how you said it! I like your style. Thanks for all the advice.
lol thank you 😅
You are saving lives, I hope you find nothing but peace and joy and happiness in your own life, thankyou for being so honest, and making yourself vulnerable for the betterment of society. You have no idea how important your channel is.
aww thank you so much limeguy wow 😃i really appreciate your comment
Hi Victoria. Your videos provide information about women that literally no one else is providing;. this information is very much appreciated. And you yourself are very much appreciated. Please keep up the good work. Thanks so much!
thank you Mitch!!!
youre the only woman ive seen who actually give good advice ive been subbed for a while now
thank you!
Thank you Victoria! Don’t listen to the haters
Should of never addressed them in the first place
I have to say, I've been studying the principles of attraction for nearly a decade and I've consumed a vast amount of content from so many different people (including the majority of PUA's, Dating Coaches, etc). Eventually, I began to see reoccurring themes and patterns enough so to be able to extract a sense of underlying fundamental principles, which seem to be universal, in a general sense. So, imo, I have a fairly knowledgeable understanding of how this stuff works, not by memory, but rather, a logical understanding which consists of pieces that fit into place to form a complete puzzle/blueprint. And, as it pertains to you Victoria, imo, you not only have a deep understanding of how attraction truly operates, but you also stand apart from any other person that I've ever listened to, and give a fresh, unique perspective that I find to be some of the best insights I've heard. I'm always excited to hear your new videos on the subject, because you have deep, eye opening insights that I can't find even remotely anywhere else. I find your insights to be extremely powerful and accurate, and of which offer exceptionally beneficial wisdom on the subject. I hope you feel no pressure. Like you said, put out your observations, n it'll stick with whoever it sticks with. You could put out a 100 consecutive videos that didn't click for me, and I'd still know that you have a deep understanding, and valuable wisdom on the subject. I'm always eager to hear what you have to say. Thanks for all the time n effort, & for sharing your really interesting insights. They've certainly made a positive impact on me.
Wow what a fantastically wonderful thing to say I appreciate that very much. I think I have broken thru mY perfectionism and I have some other big topics like this to share so thank u so much for the encouragement and support. What other people or books in ur studies of attraction did u get the most from, sounds like u really have studied the field deeply
Body image:
"I wish I looked like Cindy Crawford". -- Cindy Crawford
exactly!!! what a great quote. so much air brushing and filters and photoshopping that even models themselves pale in comparison to the photos
it's great you are willing to talk about things that are really rather difficult to articulate concisely. i see these are the issues that you feel are important and need to be said. i agree, my role as a man to make the woman the center of the world. thanks for sharing.
You’ve leveled me up so much. I am grateful and even indebted
Something that is just a thought that came to my mind: If a body part of her is actually not attractive, I think it's better not to lie and appreciate. I think it can be sensed and will kill the mood if you lie, especially cos she is will be sensitive to negative response. It might be better to give kisses and affection to that part and let her know that you have seen that part closely and you accept it and are love it.
Soo happy to see you're making new videos for us Victoria ♥️. Thank you 🤗
you are so right, never lie because they will read it in your tone 100%. I know I would and it can make things much worse.
@J King Sometimes people are insecure about a body feature cos actually it is not attractive. Still you can find the person overall hot physically. And i think most people have atleast one body feature they are slightly insecure about. My comment was about this situation.
Excellent!
Very wise comments
As guys, we're told simple advice like "appreciate all of her body" but this just shows how important it actually is and something we need to remember.
I just want to say how much I LOVE your videos. I'm a straight woman and have never been able to articulate so much of what you speak about and have actually felt quite alot of shame around it until now. I see myself as a strong, independent woman in many ways - and yet long to be able to be in my feminine without it meaning i'm 'letting the side down'. And after showing my partner these videos - he feels the same way - that there is also this pressure NOT to be in his masculine. This is further confused by the fact that I have experienced rape in the past and therefore felt even MORE guilty that I desire to be dominated in bed. Oddly for me, it's all about feeling safe. When my partner is more dominant in bed I feel more seen and connected and that's when I'm LEAST triggered by any past stuff. I always felt it was something to do with the fact the the man COULD totally hurt and destroy you with his strength but he doesn't, you're safe, you're held, you can submit. So it's almost like the wanted to be fiercely protected part is a big piece of why the energy of this turns me on. I feel there is such a gender war going on atm between men and women and alot of anger between the sexes and it honestly feels like one of the most painful collective things we are going through. How healing would it be for ALL of us, men and women, to start coming together and discussing these things with mutual respect and no judgement. Wld you ever be open to holding space for men and women group zoom call discussions - would be so popular and needed I think! Anywa - essay over!!:D Thank you for what you're doing - it's healing us all xxx
wow thank you for writing me this and I love everything you wrote!! What kinds of things do you think would be good to discuss in a group zoom sessions...like people sharing their experiences and talking it out? feel free to email if u ever want to mynonleatherlife@gmail.com
@@mynonleatherlife no worries - yeah I think perhaps just a sharing or a live q and a. Maybe a sharing circle style thing but each session is based around a theme so maybe you teach on one particular common q or relevant theme and we open the floor to ppl just being able to share/a discussion can begin and you hold space so ppl have time uninterrupted etc. wld be so so up for that and I know my partner wld be too. Perhaps it could work for partners/couples too - thanks again for your amazing work! X
I started doing this a while back when I just really wanted to express my attraction in a way which would get across by mentioninh every detail I liked about the girl that I could think of (Not in bed, just in normal conversation). And it was so well recieved I started doing it more often (AKA, whenever I really felt physical attraction). I think the trick is to do it sort of bluntly where it’s clear you don’t expect to get anything in return so that it’s taken in the right way.
I like that distinction of not expecting to get anything in return, very interesting
Watch Allan Roger Curie and the concept of being Mode one.
Thank you Victoria for telling guy's the honest Truth about how women think/feel. I know how vulnerable it must make you feel to tell us these things. Those of us who love women and truly want to make an effort to make intimacy with our partners as exiting for them as it is for us, we really appreciate your openness and candor so much. I've done these things that you suggest in this video and it always seemed to heighten my lady's pleasure, but I was never really sure if she truly appreciated it or if she would rather not feel so vulnerable. After hearing what you just shared, I intend to not only continue it but to crank it up a notch. Thank you dear lady!
Oh good yes it is such an intimate experience that mixed emotions like discomfort pain shame disgust fear and many other emotions will come up as well so it can be a confusing mix but in that moment everything g is exposed and can be healed as well with acceptance and praise or u can simply just allow it to intensify the eroticism of the moment by using it for erotic domination …with her erotic pleasure in mind of course
So happy you understand what is going on better and if u can report back on how it goes cranking it up I’d love to hear!! But I understand if this is very very personal stuff
@@mynonleatherlife : Hi Victoria, I appreciate you commenting on what I wrote a week ago. I would like to give you an idea for an additional video that might help guys understand the "examination kink" even better. As heterosexual men, we are all fascinated and extremely turned on by the visual sight of a woman's body. There would be no such thing as girly magazines if this were not the case. I think every man has fantasized about being the photographer in a nude photo shoot. Directing the woman on how to pose from one position to another. In doing so, we sometimes like to focus completely on one area of her body. Perhaps our favorite. For the sake of this example lets just say its her vagina. Men are never satisfied with just one look at it in one position. We are so captivated by her sexiness and beauty that our eyes just seem to scream for multiple views from all angles and in different states of spread. I have noticed that as the man's intensity to look increases, so does a woman's willingness to show. The back and forth energy between the two sexes seems to take on a life of its own. It is, however, necessary to build up slowly to this level of excitement for both parties. And depending upon how comfortable a woman is with her body determines how far she's willing to go. If you make her feel loved and comfortable enough the sky is the limit. But as you say, there can be no criticism of any kind in this scenario or it will completely destroy her confidence and the intimacy she shares with you...probably for good. Am I wrong in saying that its the coaxing and the level of excitement a man displays in his eyes and words that gets a woman to this heightened state of arousal? Once in this state of arousal, and she's completely open and vulnerable, the man can introduce additional word kinks into the equation to intensify it even further. For the sake of brevity I won't go into the wording but I wanted to give you this "Photographer-model" scenario as a way to help men further understand the examination kink. All men understand how it excites them to see a naked woman on full display but perhaps they don't fully understand how it excites the woman to be the subject of such admiration. I wish all men could understand this because it leads to a much deeper more soulful relationship with your woman. Anyway, just a few thoughts I thought I'd share. Thank you for being so honest and open. I truly believe you want to help men achieve the best possible outcomes with the opposite sex. Take care Victoria and keep doing what you're doing!
I have never heard a woman talk like this. Its really eye openning.
most men are afraid of women finding them creepy for being turned on by them.
i think it's an issue of finding the best way to express it and then women can enjoy it too.
Women expect only guys they like to be turned on by them. That skin reveal is for that guy who can pass the hoops.
its just kinda weird if she all of the sudden wants to be chocked, hair pulled or slapped.
the fear of sleeping with the wrong woman is deeply hardwired, the males, who didnt had this got whiped out of evolution
@@banterabc5135 I think you mixed men and women around?
@@bobbobson4030 i dont know what exactly you mean, but here's some stuff i found (if youd lay hands on the wrong woman, youd been beaten death by the alpha dogs staff, i believe this happend so many times in human history, that it got hardwired) :-)
straight from David de Angelo for some ideas >doubleyourdating ebook
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Anywhere from hundreds to thousands of years ago,
rulers of lands kept large harems of women. These
harems were guarded carefully to prevent any males
except the rulers from having access to these women.
The penalty for sleeping with one of the ruler’s women
could be, in an extreme case, your own death and the
deaths of everyone in your family and village. (Back then
there were bigger risks involved!)
These rulers kept so many women not just for the
sexual variety that it provided them, but also for the
reproductive power that it gave them. These rulers often
had detailed records kept so they could copulate with only
the most fertile women and maximize the woman’s
chances of pregnancy and passing on their own genes.
So what do you think these rulers did to protect their
harems?
Right! They passed laws (from which they were
exempt) to promote monogamy.
In these times there was a great shortage of women,
so these laws would discourage married men (those lucky
enough to find a woman) from seeking sex outside of
their marriage and therefore further protect the ruler’s
harem.
Next, we have the church.
I once heard a wise man say, “Religions take
everything that your DNA naturally wants to do to survive
and procreate and makes it wrong.” Why? Well, if you’re
busy fighting your internal drives, and you see God as the
only way to cleanse yourself of these ‘bad’ thoughts, then
you are a much better SHEEP.
If you want to get people to follow you, first confuse
them, then convince them that you know the way to get
them out of their confused state. Easy.
Finally, we have women. This is the interesting one.
If you look at it from an ‘economic’ standpoint, it
doesn’t benefit women at all to have their man running
around having sex with other women. She can only be
pregnant with one child at a time, and she can only raise
a limited number at a time. So having a man who’s out
spreading his seed is BAD BAD BAD for business for her.
When you’re out spreading seed, you can’t be working
or at home helping. Even worse, you might have other
kids with other women who will further divide your
attention and income. (By the way, I’m not saying that
there’s anything wrong with women’s perspectives. I’m
just saying that if you look at it from their point of view,
there’s not a lot of benefit to having a man who likes to
sleep with a lot of women.)
So anything that promotes monogamy like religion is
seen as ‘right’ to many women, as it goes along with what
they think and feel.
so on
It IS creepy when men let you know they are turned on by you. Get consent.
Wonderful info, and so necessary in today's over complicated and at times just clueless and or just misinformed society.
It is this kind of open, honest and direct dialogue that is so needed and when given and applied it just enhances our lives.
Well done, and thank you for sharing. 👍
Appreciate your honesty. People could learn a lot by getting another opinion besides the media.
The other power men have is verbalisation. I love my wife’s voice and I love to hear her voice.
So it’s not about my telling her how much I love her.
In recent years I started telling her to tell me how much I love her.
And I think that each time she verbalizes what she knows after 35 years of marriage that she becomes more calm and focused because she borders on hyperactive.
This sounds like a deeper, more intimate idea to the stereotype that women are marketed as being more exhibitionist and men are marketed as being more voyeuristic.
Thank you for continuing to speak up.
i really hope your channel blows up, people need to know this.
What you say can only work if the male observer is attractive in her eyes. It's worth pointing this out EVERY TIME you give this kind of advice. Because many men will think it's universal advice.
You not just helping one particular group, this wisdom can be received by anybody!
Eye have talked to females that couldn’t articulate or understand why they did what they did, and eye straight up share your videos with them… and they say “OMG, she took the words right out my mouth, this is me!” It gives them confidence and they have a way of expressing themselves from what they picked up from your videos!!
Thanks Vee! Much love and understanding to you and yours!! 🤗😗🤝
oh my gosh that is so wonderful to hear, can't believe you share the vids with them and they like. That is awesome. It took me a long time to understand what I was feeling too...when i was younger and dating I felt the same things but couldn't see the patterns. thanks for your very supportive and kind comment it really means a lot!!!!
@@mynonleatherlife much love and understanding to you and yours champ!! Stay healthy, Stay Feminine!!!
Thrilled you’re still posting content! Thanks for the advice and l need to step up my gaze game 👀
gaze game i love it
You have a wonderful way of explaining the, " passion elements " involved in the nonverbal art form IN MAKING ANYONE FEEL GENUINELY LOVED. I hope that younger men are learning. You're a terrific young lady. Be well...Kent.
Listen don’t stop these vids u are her!
Thank you so much Victoria. Your videos have really helped me out. I am doing very well with women right now. That interview which you did with your boyfriend David is pure gold. Please try to bring him more. Peace.
so happy to hear that they helped u and ur doing very well with women right now! absolutely fantastic!! did anything in particular from the videos help u out more than the rest?
@@mynonleatherlife David said in that interview that he will tell how much he likes that women directly to her without any fear and how he don't go with the SMV thing. That's where it all made sense for me.
And the video where you talked about the vortex pull is just something else. Whenever I am talking to a girl I can sense how the whole mood of the girl changes when I am pulling the girl into it sometimes knowingly and sometimes unknowingly. It's just a great feeling overall.
@@prasathviswanathan267 oh wow incredible!!!!! thank u for sharing that
How true.
30 years ago I went to a Promise Keepers seminar and one of primary messages is that even though Eve was not created first she is God’s highest creation.
Adam means dirt or
of the Earth
in Hebrew and it is symbolic that man’s highest role is supporting his wife to allow her to shine not him.
That’s why the wedding ring is universal symbol of marriage.
The natural focus is always on the diamond because it shines. But without the ring that has a secure grip on the diamond the diamond cannot be displayed with confidence.
My wife still talks about ring that lost a small emerald and even though it was replaced she still has concerns about wearing it today because she doesn’t believe the ring has a firm grip on it.
Males are uniquely created to be the ring that nobody looks at but is required for the diamond to shine. We don’t care because we were created from dirt for that purpose.
What you offer is high level stuff! Only those men who have suffered, learned, exceeded the adolescent period, can and will appreciate what you are sharing. It is so true what you are spreading and appreciated, that is what you are
thank you so much
I didn’t even know I was doing it but I do this always. It’s natural for men to do it really, without being told to do it.
"for the observer, sight confers power, for the observed, visibility is a trap" David spurr, The rhetoric of Empire. Dominate her with Your eyes
oh wow that's good...i like that quote
Not necessarily. Not in this case. Women don't want to be observed (analyzed), they just want a sexually primeval savage stare from a man (she is in control here... women want to control men from an apparently submissive position... When you want to exert true power over her, she runs away from you... What attracts you to a woman makes you weak and vulnerable... Women feel powerful when they are able to weaken powerful men... but they make you believe that you're still in control, but you're not, because the one in control is her...
You communicate with your eyes a great deal. Do not just say words, she will see or sense your not being honest with her and its a game. That is not what she wants. She wants to know you find her attractive. I have never met a woman that when she feels that with surety wasn't tingling from head to toe.
i could listen to you for hours, regardless of what you are talking about.
thank u for that amazing compliment Adam!!
This lady is going to get me both fired and arrested.
And laid. In reverse order.
Incredible and brilliant when other RUclips dating advice women say its creepy don't do it girls/women do not like it, I really don't understand the way they mislead this way, and yet you say the opposite, I rather believe you than them it just feels so natural to look at and appreciate the beauty of the female form and not be told to be ashamed for it, thank you Victoria really appreciate your help.
Another informative video for men. As a couple we have went down the vortex of sexuality, light kink, and erotic evenings. We will never go back to the boring, so called normal or missionary style.
omg so amazing Roman. that sounds like a lot of fun!!! Normal is too boring when you can have imaginative creative and deeply mysterious and erotic encounters :)
@@mynonleatherlife In part to your informative videos! Life is made up of small pleasures, and you open a few doors to them. Thank you.
Thank you for reaffirming something that I knew by instinct but didn't fully realise in the front of my head.
Ladies in my life have seemed worried to let me see their stomach when they have been mother's but all that melts when I say Mmm beautiful mummy tummy with an appreciative tomcat purr. Hard to say, at least without sounding corny, but....if said, genuinely from the boots upwards it seems to really count.
Thank you for being you and doing what you do and the way that you do it!
@J King wish I was but closer to 70 the rules vary a little for crusties!
Great, fantastic post. I have used this before, without realizing why i was doing it. The women absolutely love it and appreciate it deeply. Huge turn on. It's also a good pre-foreplay move. If you live together, you can gaze at her with lust when she's not looking, but stay with it until she notices (and she will)! Then i would make a subtle comment about her body or how hot she is. Sorry to go on, you guys. I dont mean to sound like i am a master in bed-- not at all. Just sharing what worked for me!
I'm glad to have a name for this. Thanks for the content, Victoria.
Best teacher on this subject!🎉❤
Welcome back, Victoria! And this was an excellent way to return to the fray!
Thanks again!
Thanks covermedown I’m glad u liked it
2nd Victoria video I watch. I am impressed. You are young; however, your reason, logic, self-reflection, and objective awareness are ON POINT! Your voice will be more confident, direct, and precise as you get older. I look forward to seeing more of your videos and reflections. Thank you.
tbh I am not that young but thank you for that!!
Thank you Victoria I always appreciate your videos !! I naturally do this with my partners bc I usually sleep with women I’m highly attracted to , you just confirmed to me that I don’t have to withhold my ‘’Gosh you’re so hot’’ gaze while looking at her body.
that gaze is one of the hottest things about u I am sure
@@mynonleatherlife Well actually yes and no bc I got shot ten years ago and my right eye has been damaged. But it’s not always noticeable so yeah lol
5:50 "Only in a positive way please" The fact that this needed to be said 🤣🤣🤣
Your brutal honesty and openness is what makes you the best relationship adviser. Keep these type of videos coming. I'm now sold.
Remember, if your attractive it's flirting, but if your not it's creepy
I don’t really agree with that. You could be attractive and creepy and unattractive and not creepy. Creepy is something women say when they feel threatened by an unattractive display of male sexuality or often a threatening display… you could be attractive or attractive enough and still displaying your interest in women or sex in a highly unattractive or threatening way
Once again you are a real teacher. Keep teaching men the way women think because most people live a lie.
thank you so much and what way do you think they live a lie
Wow, that was insightful, I was aware of women having body issues, I knew women that had body issues and I always thought they were smoking hot! Hopefully I will get a chance to put what you have said into practice! Thank you.
Awesome value, really deep and articulated, a lot of men will learn a lot from this. Also I'm super happy that we were able to cheer you up with our comments on the last video and inspired you to keep doing this! Wish you well Victoria
thank you Matteo!
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You could record on a potato and I'd still watch. The information you distill is so valuable
I used to work in a Restaurant and food court combined off an Interstate in my distant past around younger than me roughly 10 girls.Gazing works like you say.it definitely gets the juices flowing I had 5 girlfriends at that moment in time.a couple of them fighting for me so I had to give equal amount of attention.glad your back you remind me of the girls quite attractive all of them✨💖
5 girlfriends?? haha awesome
@@mynonleatherlife One of the five asked me to go out with her awe a first for me so sweet🍰those were the dayzzx of our lives.we were so much of excited..my fault I couldn't resist them All✨✌
Audio was fine. Always good to hear from you & thanks for hanging in amongst the trolls.
jsut caused me to remember how i got the girls to crush on me in high school, i used to look into their eyes and when they noticed me, i wouldnt stop looking into their eyes and I would hold their gaze unashamedly, they knew i thought they were beautiful
I know this is a year old.
Your videos are soooo on point.
When a speak with a lady in a sexual or pre-sexual situation, I give then the look that your speaking of and it works amazingly!
I also realized a few years ago how much and how many women have body issues , even though most women are gorgeous in many ways.
I compliment women and boost their egos and sense of self (I do this for real not just to get close to them)
This has always had fantastic results so far!
Thank you for your content it is all terrific!!!!!!!!!
(Also you are beautiful and have a very sexy voice)
I learn to appreciate and love women more through these honest videos. Thank you!
Thank you that means SO much to me. That is my goal 100%
I really appreciate you and your insight. I'm 75 and still learning.
oh wow I am so honored!! how did u find my channel?
Lifelong learner at 68 as well
Welcome back glad to see you getting back into the grind of things!
This channel is going to explode
Excellent video and advice. Thank you. I do sense and perceive the sincerity in your videos and advice. The information you share is helping many of us. Keep this going! Avoid being like many RUclipsrs who stray away too much from their original foundation that attracted their subscribers to them in the 1st place.
This is amazing and so liberating. And so empowering.Thank you. There is a time and place for the male gaze. As others have commented below, we have suppressed our erotic power. Diminished it. So refreshing to make friends with the power of the male gaze again. May the world freely offer itself, may it roll in ecstasy at your feet!!! Bless you, Victoria.
So glad you liked that quote Paul and I loved what u wrote...so why do you think men have suppressed and diminished their erotic power, I agree with u but any further thoughts on that...
@@mynonleatherlife sorry long answer and I don't know the answers so these are just my thoughts -Why have men diminish that erotic power?
1) I think men do not understand how to use it and do it all wrong , and stalk and harass instead of understanding how women work. That’s why your talks are so vital for men!
2) Toxic masculinity is a real thing of course, but it has had a bad effect as all masculine sexuality is tarred with the same brush and I think a lot of men are confused and hold back for fear of being toxic. So it is difficult for many men to interact erotically and sexually, flirtatious, compliment women on appearance, look at them without fear of being seen as creepy predators. We are told that the male gaze is bad. It is so easy to misinterpret and where it is appropriate or not.
3) I believe that our sexuality and our sexual power is bigger than any rational system we try to impose and it is largely unconscious and operates at a sub conscious level and cannot be contained in it. We are sometimes not aware of the chemistry and non verbal language going on.
4) Consent is also a complex thing!
5) For example after watching your video I went to the mall and observed all the male gazing and flirtations and women dressing to be seen by men and playing that game and it was quite amazing to see an erotic game being played.
@@paulwilliams3846 great points and makes a lot of sense
Rom Wills has talked about this as "shining your light" on a woman. Looking her up and down with appreciation and admiration for her female body.
I'm very glad to watch you again Victoria ✌️
Excellent message, male gaze has its special power.
miss this channels GREAT value videos. i wish you came back, or atleast started to write books. its helping us a lot
thank you MOhdzn!!
Thank you Victoria. You name sounds victorious
Yes I absolutely need you to keep posting.
So many men have forgotten how to use the Gaze. Requires a certain amount of skil.
Stepping back and giving the "Look" an excellent tip ♡.
The gaze with the love energy
absolutely, love how u put that..and u can do the gaze with the dom energy too for more intensity and less safety but u can have varying degrees of the love energy with that as well
@@mynonleatherlife yes. Not love like romantic love.. but rather the energy from the heart. Which has both love, dom, and a ton of other emotions. The heart is the key!
Nice content! Thanks for expressing your opinion! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Yes. Strong, confident, direct eye contact is LETHAL.
Great share.
Thank you Victoria, once again a very much needed video and topic, this reaffirmed a lot of things that I've been thinking about but wasn't quite sure! I'm so glad you've decided to continue making your content!
I swear I'm so glad I happened to find your channel! Thank u for ur vulnerability 💯💯 your awesome & appreciated‼️
Thanks Nile!!!
She's the artwork, and you are the frame!
Appreciate your vidoes and their info! RUclips should exist for such pure gems!
I personally don’t have body image issues HOWEVER as a woman, I can confirm that just the thought of this is arousing which should tell you a lot . If you have a wife that does struggle in this area SHE NEEDS THIS. Especially after children when she is stressed etc
100%!!
Hi - I just wanted to say how unique you are with this excellent content and information. Missed your videos for a while, but its great to see you again. Please continue your awesome insights into women and sexuality - as no one else does it like you. What could be more important than helping men and women connect deeply with each other. 😀
thank you T M!
Another quality video, I learned some really valuable new knowledge, you’re legitimately a very wise woman
thank you Lerone!
You're so amazing in the way you put thoughts into words. Women never express themselves like the way you do. Thank-you for sharing your wisdom.
thank you very much but I do see women expressing themselves like this or way better on tiktok and youtube al the time. Guess you just have to know where to look tho
I have to dial myself back in that regard typically. My lust gaze is pretty intense or so I've been told.
I really like your voice and listening to you talk about this stuff
God is using you to speak to us to fix our issues in our relationships keep sending the message and don't worry what the negative people say about you you are amazing keep doing God's work💕💯👍
thanks h rock!
Hidden gem 👌🏾
From one of your many admiring watchers 👁
Shalom.
Thank you Professor
I wish I had a woman friend like you when I was younger. I would sit and listen to you for hours.
You are wonderful. This information inspires the poetry of me. Your articulation is extraordinary.
thank you!