10 Things That Push Me Down into the Vortex in the Bedroom
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Putting it all out there because I'm an emotional masochist and am feeling in a good mood tonight and want to help y'all out. MIGHT DELETE LATER.
Thought I'd do a little heart to heart tonight about the hottest things my boyfriend does in the bedroom. My goal: to help you understand certain secrets that are never spoken aloud and to help you understand and have wisdom and compassion instead of bitterness towards women.
Here are the 10 things:
These definitely do NOT apply to all women. These are some of my personal kinks. SOME women share them absolutely as they are common kinks but not necessarily to the same degree and it’s definitely not the norm for ALL. My tastes are definitely more extreme than most. I encourage you guys to learn about ALL the kinks out there, the ones I mention in the video being some of them.
1. Overflows with pure LUST and RUM* (raw untamed masculinity) for me and my body
2. Channels that lust into loving physical aggression
3. Ddlgs me, calling me princess and teasing me constantly
4. Jokingly plays on my insecurities by making fun of me for my insecurities
5. Dirty talks about my fantasies during seggs and tells and records erotic stories for me
6. Isn't afraid to tap into his inner abusive misogynistic boyfriend for me even thought he is absolutely a sex-positive compassionate feminist
7. Encourages me to express myself however I want and express more
8. Passes my sh*t tests. I didn't explain the example very well but basically the example was when I said u don’t deserve to f**k me and he said: I know I don't, but it doesn't matter cause I'm doing it anyway--something like that
9. Willing to fight me
10. Compliments me during the act and after a lot
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-Victoria
This lady is very important for the ecosystem. She needs to be protected at all costs.
Exactly
no she is just another person putting her own biased opinions on youtube
Nope.
😂
@@al1976-v7m Dude she is right, I know from my girlfriend that the vortex is real.
This chic is the realest woman on social media. Flat out. A real confident woman 👏🏼
I honor you for being vulnerable. You have taught me important things. Thank you
Thanks a lot Tom, it means a lot that u get it
I really respect what you doing for the males really informative and enlighting
much appreciated, i hope it helps
@@mynonleatherlife Hi Victoria hope you well.Please get in contact with me asap.I might have an idea for some new content .I would need your guidance on this.Thanks kidronreddy2018@gmail.com
It's also for women, bcuz when men improve themselves for relationships with women, the women are the intended beneficiaries
@@mynonleatherlife i love you
I got me a gf because of you going on 3 months now
U serious?!? That’s amazing!!!!
@@mynonleatherlife yes! She's in the army and coming home later this year. I did all the techniques..she said I'm the best man she ever had! thank u..the way its going i might just have a long relationship
🔥🔥🔥
@@klsounds 😱🤩🤩🤩🤩that is f-ing incredible, so happy 4 u
King
You are the only girl that I've seen that tells the fucking truth. My favorite video in 2021.
We don't know how to tell the truth! Victoria's videos always tell me things I didn't know or want to admit to myself. Everything gets pushed down and we should be ashamed. Most women nowadays are told they must be a strong, independent woman for instance but that gets a bit much after a while 🤷♀️
@@summerisonthursday5239 I completely relate Summer and a part of me goes crazy when guys say this even tho I know it’s meant well cuz I know how much we have to overcome and untangle to be honest as women about our individual sexualities
@@summerisonthursday5239 Totally, I talk a lot with my sister about male-female dynamics and many times she ends up saying "I didn't know other girls liked that" or sometimes it is something really intimate and she says "Who is telling you all these truths?", I can sense her vulnerability. I understand, these are vulnerabilities that in certain scenarios shouldn't be shared because If we as men did what we really wanted to do, it would perfectly match women fantasies, but in current western society we men are being emasculated, so we kind of need these messages.
@@mynonleatherlife Most of the things I hear in your videos are just the enforcement of what my female friends tell me in our long discussions about human sexuality, our desires, and fantasies. Some of the things are new, and when I tell them, they approve. If there was something that has developed me more is that, openly talking with female friends about my desires and asking them about theirs.
Also, I followed your convo in this comment about being a strong independent woman and the fact that that doesn't mean you don't or shouldn't have those kinks that contradict that.
"It's primal" I have heard you say many times, and that is the explanation for most things. We just need to make sure to play the game with respect towards the other partner or partners.
Overall, a big thank you for being this honest!
She's definitely more genuine and introspecting than other female dating advisors (like that british girl with fake tts). However the male perspectives are also quite interesting.
This is very healing for me to listen to as a woman because I no longer feel like I'm the only one who feels like this. Thank goodness for this video!
Amazing! So happy to hear that. Which part do you relate to the most?
@@mynonleatherlife Honestly I think I like a lot of it. When someone isn't afraid to push me around, a bit of the DDLG wibe, and when I feel free to express my emotions. Oh and definitely the pride thing. Testing a guy to see if he'll rise to the challange. And the physical fights/wrestling.
Thanks for sharing with us.
There are a lot of people out there that don't even know what to say to each other.
- they just kinda want someone to live with and have some casual sex, but most of them never go "beyond the line".
Life is more than appearances and most experiences cannot be properly explained.
- you are doing your best to bring this "dark side" to "a daylight walk".
Thank you again!
You tell it like it is. Raw and uncensored. I respect it!
thanks was kinda going out on a limb with this one so I appreciate that!
You're the most honest girl in the internet.
I'm learning more about me with your videos unlike that "men coaches" who only wants to sell their merch and courses.
Thanks a lot Victoria. You have all my respect.
thanks Ramses that means a lot
I've said it before and I'll say it again..
"I appreciate your existence!" Thank you for everything you do! Much love❤
Thank you Androo!
I have been using the 10 secret things. I have been married for 33 years and our sex life is better than it was in our 20s!!!! I sent you an email about it and I think may have been way too descriptive in what happend. Please forgive me if I crossed the line. Anyway your info is true gold and I write it down just in case RUclips gets a burr up their ass and takes your videos down. Please keep helping us guys out!! Thanks 😊
Thanks Eric!
Hopefully RUclips will never take her videos down since there is nothing wrong with it.
The one on shit tests is sooo important. I pride myself on sometimes being aware of them, and even then I fail them constantly. One thing more men need to be aware of
Great video, Victoria you teach me so much, I’m not into pain, but I love play-acting it out, for fun, play time and not meaning it. I’m good at that. The truth is I care and I don’t like to hurt people so thanks for the clarity
Yes!! it’s all about play acting for fun and entertainment but u know all is actually good with urself and ur partner and fun and safe👍
I think it's incredibly important to emphasize that all of these things only work on that basis of trust&respect.
In other words: you do take interest in the mental & emotional wellbeing of each other.
very true and important
We love you Victoria, what you are doing for us is awesome, god bless you!
You’re helping so many men you need a bigger platform. Even women maybe who don’t understand themselves
All of your videos are full of the most real, honest and uncensored insights into the female psyche not found anywhere else. I can only imagine how different and, I can only hope, better my life would have been had I learned these things 40 years ago when I was 15.
Thank you I appreciate that a lot. What do u think would have been diff if u found it earlier?
Everyone needs to be able to express themselves without fear of condemnation. Great advice from a beautiful woman.
I study this in myself. It’s owning our attraction. Not shaming turn on. And no fear of expressing. It’s honesty , which gives some saftey
Dear Victoria, you truly are a gift to all of us confused and disillusioned guys who are hungry for insights into the female mind. Your boyfriend is one lucky bastard.😉👍👍🤗
thanks, u are kind, I love ur username
@@mynonleatherlife it’s a reference to comedian Bill Hicks, one of the greats of stand up.😉👍
@@thegoatchild3545 I'm unbelievably lucky!
I just want to thank you so much for making these videos before I found this channel I literally believed women had no sexuality and men were just uncontrollable abusive horndogs who aren’t allowed to express their true emotions or thoughts I genuinely just didn’t understand why women even want men so I thank you for all of the honesty as it’s really opened up a whole new perspective
Wow. This is amazing. Thank u 4 ur comment and explaining this to me... I’m so happy to read this
Genuinely enjoy your content and apply it in my daily life and I get results, but I think you should post more often cause your knowledge is gold and your saving alot of men 🙏
I’m so glad ur getting results from it, makes me thrilled to hear that
i agree saving ppl and should post more often. Even if its a part 2 to another title. This is rare info from a womans view point. Thank You so much for sharing Vic !
any girl ive ever DDLG’d falls in love with me lol. it is very powerful and not to be used on every girl especially ones you dont plan on having around longterm.
So true, it is very powerful magic
Its nice to get attention knowing your liked by a girl. Dont lead her on knowing your not going to be with her. Yeah boost your ego. But you end up hurting people. Hurt people hurt people.
@@antilaw9911 its not even about ego, its about keeping these girls from getting bored so they stick around in a man’s life. they have so many other options today and very little patience for a thoughtful, steady man. i dont really worry about “hurting a girl” as much as i once did, bc they’re all solipsistic by nature and they’ve hurt far many more romantic “nice guys” than vice versa and will make all the excuses for why they do it. Only guys really beat themselves up for “hurting” their partner. women arent that introspective and could care less. they only pretend to care if they are being judged for it by a group. women also love to feel all the emotions: from horny, to happy, to jealous, to anger, to heartbroken. so as a partner you must give them all of those emotions, or they will cheat/breakup and seek the emotions you don’t give her elsewhere. Men are the ones that truly get “hurt”, and thats why they successfully suicide themselves after a divorce/breakup. we dont feel “alive” going through negative emotions like women do
@@mattdubya1037 This comment learnt me a lot
@@mattdubya1037 Brother Matt.. this is profound!
Victoria thank you very much for making your wonderful videos.
We need real and honest conversations that actually help people in or wanting meaningful and exciting relationships.
You provide that and then some.
I salute you. ✌
THANK YOU!!!
Welcome back!
You’ve been missed!!
And I certainly must say, you made a grand entrance.
I’ve watched scores of RUclipsrs generate thousands of videos over the years. This is the rawest, freshest content I’ve ever seen.
You are finding your voice and developing your platform and confidence. It is an honor and a pleasure to find someone at the beginning of their journey and watch them grow.
I predict this video will get you another million views. And as many women who watch it will thank you for it as well.
Outstanding.
thank you so much RIP, i so appreciate ur fantastically kind and supportive comment
White knight alert
Victoria, I don't know how to thank you enough. The insight you share is your way of spreading love to mankind.
RUclips wouldn't be half as good without you.
Blessed is your partner who has such an enlightened and mature woman for a lover!
wow thank u so much Rohit!!!
@@mynonleatherlife ❤️
I’m glad she’s making these videos. Only she has a backwards, the abusive boyfriend is the real part and the romantic lustful talk outside the bedroom is the role-play.
Tf?! Lmao
@@mynonleatherlife I love your channel, thank you for all the content.
I’ve been wanting to hear more about the vortex!
This type of real relationship knowledge is so hard to find and so valuable
I love your honesty mam.
You brilliantly help us to grow as a man .
Please never delete any of your video .
Lots of love
@MyNonLeatherLife Just finished the video. Your self-awareness, wisdom, and insight into these dynamics never ceases to amaze me. These are such valuable videos. I know you sometimes wonder is something is too much or too far, but follow your instincts. They are spot on. People need to hear this. Best, Lore🍃🌿🌱
thank you so much Lore. That is great to hear. Why do u think people need to hear it, out of curiosity... btw I enjoy your emoji selection.
@@mynonleatherlife I think people need to hear it because these are feelings that we all experience and as you point out, they sometimes run in apparent contradiction to our "enlightened" values and that confuses some people and they try to suppress the more primal parts of themselves. By you giving voice to these things and just being honest in how you fit them into a balanced totality of your personality, I think it gives others a perspective that they might not ever find on their own. Our current societal ideas around male/female relationships are so tangled and the fact that the actual truth of what women really want and how men really are is so complex and irrational that it's creating an immense amount of heartache, confusion, dysfunction, and loneliness.
You have some serious wisdom and insight, (and an excellent ability to communicate). I'm not sure you really recognize these or see your ideas as legitimate. I can validate everything you say. All of my wives and girlfriends have been brilliant, strong women and we experienced all the same dynamics you describe. It's totally natural.
Yes, you are going to receive a crazy amount of blow-back from the establishment (from several camps). However, every great thinker in history has. I would encourage you to consider going bigger. Maybe a book? Workshops? Spend some more time exploring and solidifying your message and see what you think. You could really help a lot of men as well as women sort out their internal realities. Lore🍃🌿🌱
@@LoreMIpsum-vs6dx thank you Lore!!
It's honestly all overwhelming, but I have to remind myself that I'm a man and these are natural within me. I don't have to become something I'm not, I just have to be who I am, and in the moment I trust that this advice will compel me further.
idk if this is natural in you cause you are a man. I think it's more skills. That being said don't worry about doing all this. This is mostly just me. Mostly.
@@mynonleatherlife I suspect, personally, that these things are all primal urges us men can tap into, but society desensitized us to it. Sort of like that raw attractive power so many men don't know they have.
That video woke me up to a serious power within myself. I treat your videos like gospel now.
I'm gonna get better at the skill of attraction thanks to you and Stirling Cooper though. I actually bought his courses.
@@94nolo I do as well, watching this video I had flashbacks to the "hottest" times i've had and they all correlate with these traits one way or another AND it was never forced it kind of slipped out. For example the first time me and my ex did the do was on a public bench at midnight and she said the best part was my Vocalness my validating her and making her feel almost like she had a spell over me as I whispered her name in her ear and took what i wanted, but the funny thing is I didn't notice, it took her pointing it out for me to acknowledge these things
@@ishyameru6232 yeah I noticed for some reason I could get very aggressive with my ex when we were on vacation or in a hotel. Something was different and that thing just came out of me.
Victoria, what a beautiful soul you are. You are the antithesis of fake, plastic and digitally manufactured reality. You bring relevant content to us men and women in an unassuming and authentic manner. Keep these videos rocking and those life changing truths comin' girl. Jeffrey Z. in SC
i happened to run into your content at the perfect time. Got a gorgeous girl in love with me after just 3 weeks of hanging out. I remembered i felt no hesitation in doing as i pleased the 1st time we hung out and everything has been great ever since
Congratulations!
Over the years, unknowingly, I've tried many of these techniques with varying degrees of success; but now I have a format to follow. A woman like you, in my view, is the perfect partner & lover. You my dear are a treasure and one in a million.
Thank you very much Zeta One
@@mynonleatherlife Your welcome princess;-)
Truly, you are a wise, old soul.
Thank you Steve. The best compliment.
Thank you so much! As a men I’m missing this perspective. That will help me a lot!
You speak nothing but the truth! Even as a young, dumb and virgin girl, I relate very deeply with what you say. Though your target audience is men, idk why I'm so hooked to your videos! Maybe it's because there's finally someone I can hear these things from. Most people I know aren't very knowledgeable about sex outside vanilla or the intricacies of this masculine-feminine dynamic. I LOVE the idea of primal, CNC, being the object of desire for someone, etc. And I feel very attracted towards this raw masculine energy you talk about! It makes me feel like a woman, and not like a little girl. It feels amazing to get to hear someone with similar thoughts and a deep insight on these matters. Also, you help me figure out about my likes and dislikes better! Thank you so much for this content💖
Would you ever consider making similar content for women, so that we can figure out what goes inside a man's mind?
Thanks so much Amrita, I am so happy to read your comment. I used to make videos for women but stopped when I realized mostly only men followed. Do u think the best topic would be something about understanding men? Anything u would want to understand specifically? I like that idea u suggested, that topic was one of the first things that obsessed me and put me on this path of diving into it for many years
@@mynonleatherlife I would love to know about their fantasies and desires! Like these sort of innate, near-universal desires that are a part of the male psyche. Are they the equal and opposite to female desires? We expect feeling protected and safe with masculine energy, so do men desire feeling strong, needed, protector-like in the presence of feminine energy? Like, is the idea by itself a "turn on" for them? And how much "neediness" by women is too much in this context?
If I remember correctly, you've talked about this fantasy many women (including me💀) have about changing a "bad boy" into a loving, caring partner with their love. This one is such a popular fantasy, Wattpad (an app where one can write and read books online, mostly used by teen girls, millions of them) is filled to the brim with such stories. Girls are crazy over it. Are there such fantasies shared by men on a scale this large? (Would like to know about romantic ones, rather than those that are flat out sexual, but both would help).
A man can easily browse through these romance novels and map out the entire depths of female desire 🙈🙈 is there anywhere I can go to figure out their desires? (except mainstream porn)
I personally take on a more "manly" persona for myself in my dealings with the world (or at least try to). As a result, my feminine side yearns to come out, but that makes me feel vulnerable. But when I think of anyone who's very manly, "alpha", I feel like my feminine self comes out more naturally. Just thinking about how much smaller, weaker and naïve I am compared to this person gives me a mindgasm!
Do men also feel their masculinity more strongly when they are in the presence of someone very feminine? Do they feel more "macho" when competing with other males for female attention or do they feel threatened?
Sorry this was quite long! But I have so many questions when it comes to men... asking most of them firsthand about what they're attracted to doesn't help, either they're too shy to talk about it, or they only care about butts, or the worst... " I only care about PeRsOnALiTy* "
* codeword for butt
@@AK.AK.12 I can't necessarily speak for all men, but I think most of what I say will apply to most men.
It seems men and women mostly don't fulfill each other's fantasies, which is probably why there is such a love-hate relationship between the genders. So you may not like what I am going to say.
The male fantasy is in a way the opposite of the female fantasy. We want a woman who accepts us for who we are, rather than expecting us to live up to the strong-dominant-protector ideal to prove we're "worthy" of love.
We want a woman who is slutty, sexually available rather than selective and judgemental.
We want a woman who will sometimes take charge and seduce us and teach us what she wants, rather than expecting us to do all the chasing and dominating and figuring out what women want.
We want a woman who is not controlling, but also doesn't expect us to make all the decisions.
We want a woman who communicates straightforwardly, directly, honestly, and non-manipulatively.
We want a woman who doesn't expect us to pay on dates and shower her with gifts.
We want a woman who doesn't pressure us into a committed/long-term/monogamous relationship.
We want a woman who doesn't hate men, doesn't treat men like we don't have feelings, and doesn't blame the man for anything that goes wrong in the relationship.
For male virgins like myself, our fantasy is simply to have sex with a woman. This is probably somewhat generalizable to most men, because even if they're not virgins, most men still find it difficult to get sex. Being a man can feel like wandering through a labyrinth in the dark. (See MyNonLeatherLife's other video, "5 Massive Blind Spots About Men That Women Won't Admit In A Million Years".)
In short, men want sex without having to jump through hoops to get it.
"We expect feeling protected and safe with masculine energy, so do men desire feeling strong, needed, protector-like in the presence of feminine energy?"
No. We hate that women want us to be that. Or certainly I hate it, because that strong protector type is just not who I am.
"Do men also feel their masculinity more strongly when they are in the presence of someone very feminine?"
Yes, if you mean that very feminine women especially turn us on. But most women can turn us on.
"Do they feel more "macho" when competing with other males for female attention or do they feel threatened?"
Threatened. The minority of men who are winning this ridiculous competition might feel more macho, but even they are probably only doing it to impress women rather than because they want to.
"or they only care about butts"
Don't worry if you don't have a nice butt. We also like women's boobs, thighs, faces, hair, eyes, lips... Almost every girl your age has something attractive about her.
If you want to know more about male fantasies, feel free to ask!
@@serpentineeyelash7528 Thanks for your detailed response! It's really helpful getting to hear a man's opinion on this.
I agree that we're both so occupied with how our wants aren't been met that we forget that the other person expects certain things from us too! Most people need to make a conscious effort to fulfill their partner's desires, and that's what I'm trying to do now.
By sexually available do you mean available just for you and no one else, or available to a lot of different people?
We humans generally tend to value things that we get easily as less than something we had to work harder for. So wouldn't a woman you manage to get easily lead you to value her less in the long run? Wouldn't you get bored if there's no challenge?
Would you suggest that I explicitly "chase" a man I'm interested in? Even when I'm not sure if he reciprocates the feeling? I'm quite hesitant to do so, as it places me in a less favourable position in the dynamic, plus I have rather low self-worth and think he's too good for me and has better options than me :/
And I don't think I have a not-so-nice butt lol, I just don't get the appeal of butts in general.😅
@@AK.AK.12 Sorry this reply is so long, but RUclips won't let me post multiple comments at once so I had to cram it all into one.
"Most people need to make a conscious effort to fulfill their partner's desires"
Yeah. My first comment might have come across as being against women's desires. They can be very frustrating for men to live up to, especially for someone like me as I'm not really the strong protector type that women seem to want.
But to be clear, I'm quite willing and able to fulfill many aspects of women's desires and have done so in online roleplays despite my lack of real-world experience. I find I'm quite good at dirty talk which I think is a big psychological aspect of maledom and of sex in general.
Roleplaying has also made me realize that a relationship doesn't have to be the same dynamic all the time. People can be "switches", sometimes being more dominant, sometimes being more submissive. This could mean sometimes exchanging roles within a relationship, or could mean being submissive with dominant guys and a bit dominant when you're with non-dominant guys. I think if everyone was a bit switchy, it would bring the world into balance.
And men do have submissive fantasies too, though for most men they're nowhere near as extreme as women's. But just as women like gentle maledom and Daddy fetish, we like gentle femdom and Mommy fetish. I think the underlying reason is similar - we want something approximating the unconditional love, caring, nurturing, and comforting of a parent. The unconditional love part is a romantic desire as well as a sexual one.
"By sexually available do you mean available just for you and no one else, or available to a lot of different people?"
Well certainly the important part is being available to me. Beyond that, different men have different attitudes. I'd say slutty women are primarily preferred when men are looking for short-term sex - arguably a woman who is available to a lot of different people is more likely to be available to me. Men who are looking for a long-term relationship may tend to be more wary of a slutty woman because they fear she might leave them for someone more masculine or whatever. Politics also plays a role; right-wing men are seemingly more anti-slut.
"We humans generally tend to value things that we get easily as less than something we had to work harder for."
I'm not sure. It's complicated. Women certainly make men want them more by making us work hard to get them - that is happening all around us. On the other hand, this is also why many men are so resentful toward women, so the overall effect is not necessarily positive.
"Wouldn't you get bored if there's no challenge?"
I'm not experienced enough to know if men get bored because there's no challenge, but I doubt it. We do like to be cockteased in a playful foreplay sort of way, but not "jump through 17 hoops and outcompete other men and I might consider fucking you".
"Would you suggest that I explicitly "chase" a man I'm interested in? Even when I'm not sure if he reciprocates the feeling? I'm quite hesitant to do so, as it places me in a less favourable position in the dynamic, plus I have rather low self-worth and think he's too good for me and has better options than me"
The same reasons men don't like doing the chasing! But I think even if a man does have better options, you'll be making yourself a better option by explicitly chasing him. Even hot guys probably don't get as much explicit attention from women as you might think. (Of course, if he's clearly not interested when you chase him, don't become a stalker.)
Finally, I realized my original comment was a bit of a rant about what men *don't* want, and it might be more helpful to specify things we *do* want:
* This one might be obvious, but we like your clothes to be skimpy and tight. (Though some guys, if they're dating you, won't be thrilled about you wearing those clothes around other guys.)
* Another pretty obvious one: all guys love blowjobs. And while you suck our dick, we want you to gaze up at us submissively.
* Another male desire is for a woman to initiate sexytimes by touching our dick. Lap dances are a version of this, with the girl grinding against the guy. Speaking of which, we obviously love stripteases too.
* We like it when you like our semen, or at least act like you like it. We know it's kinda disgusting, but it's the essence of our pleasure so we like for you to play with it, take it on your face, swallow it etc.
* Guys might also like to wake you up with sex, or vice versa. Spooning and cuddling are good too.
* Another interesting male fantasy which relates to traditional femininity, is fucking a woman while she does household chores.
* If you like feeling "naive" then you might be into hypnokink and mind control fantasies, where men tend to be dominant and women tend to be submissive.
* Another male fantasy is a threesome with two girls. I guess this has some similarity to the female fantasy of being gangbanged.
* Reddit's r/sex has some good threads on how to talk dirty to a guy, so you might like to read through some of those.
* Porn is indeed a pretty good guide to what men want. Check out for example "Jerk Off Instruction" videos, where girls talk dirty to the male viewer.
* If you don't like visual porn, check out some erotic short-story sites. Often if you click on a writer's profile it'll specify their gender, but I think most erotic short stories are written by men (consistent with men's impatience to get to the sex part rather than reading a long drawn-out novel). Such sites include Literotica, ASSTR, and CHYOA (erotic choose your own adventures typically aimed at men).
Thanks Victoria iv been married for 20 years I appreciate you decoding for us man what women truly need and desire from us in the bedroom ,Man have been brain washed into thinking we have to be gentle and soft ,I have Applied some of your advice it’s been a a game changer thank you 😊
which advice did u apply and get results from
You should definitely go more into what you mean by "physical violence " everyone's different and I believe I know what you are talking about and the extent but even I find it hard without being told how far that kink should go. Would love to hear what your personal "level" is just to get a ball park estimate from someone who is into that.
hmm maybe my bf will have to demo that
That "encouraging expression" thing where you used the "you can hit me" example is really a good point to me, something I would never have thought of.
I’m glad u liked that
There are many facets to this. I do it to encourage her to express herself, yes. I also do it to prove I can take it. Even though she's strong for a woman, if she hits me in a place where I have a lot of meat it doesn't really hurt. I also suggest it in a threatening way sometimes... "Go ahead. See what happens."
I'll try to upload a good demo of this for you.
It’s really interesting hearing your perspective on these things. I’m an avid listener to Alpha Male Strategies’ videos and he always claims that you should never validate the women for the most part. I like your perspective on this though
What do u think of his methods
Yeah, it depends on what you're looking for. AMS is teaching about how to get women for [sex], with the least amount of problems or effort (including with harems/rotations). Tho, his methods aren't really designed for deeper, more intimate and interpersonal emotional connections. The primary objective of his methodology is to teach men to develop and maintain the Alpha/dominant position at all times, so that the women will "fall in line" and do essentially whatever he wants. Maintaining the "Alpha frame" is paramount to the [efficiency] of achieving these goals bcuz doing so significantly helps mitigate a women's propensity for resistance to doing what the man wants (bcuz she obediently submits to the alpha, with minimal questions asked). However, if deeper interpersonal connections, and/or love is what you're looking for, then you should diverge from AMS's teachings to degree which his teachings don't assist you in forming deeper connections with women.
Then you can add some of Victoria's insights and maybe others. Zan Perrion is another well respected long time teacher about building attraction with women, and the mindset to adopt about women of his own style. He's adamant about complimenting women bcuz he teaches to be authentically you, and to express it. If you're afraid, tell the woman you're afraid. If you're attracted to her, tell her. But, make it a statement rather than a "pitch". For example, if you see an attractive women, and you're a bit nervous, tell her.. "I'm a bit nervous, but I want to tell you I think you're gorgeous and I would love to spend some time together to get to know you better". This is an example of making a [statement of your truth]. You're not pitching anything for her approval, nor attempting to convince her about anything. You're not asking her anything. You're simply stating a fact of what you believe and what you want. Thus, you can't be rejected. She can respond any way she wants. And, the fact still remains, "well, I still think you're gorgeous and the invitation still stands, to would love to get to know you better".
Zan is a self-professed true lover of women and the feminine spirit. ALL women. So, apparently he compliments them all the time bcuz he speaks his truth. But, he has a "no nonsense" aura and he sets firm boundaries and has a lower energy to him that says... "I might just bend you over when you get too close to me" (obviously not against her will, but he's unashamedly fully present with his sexual nature). Mix that with sweetness, kindness, vulnerability and compliments and it could assist you in your desire to attract and maintain a woman/women with higher degree of sexual tension, masculine/feminine polarity and emotional intimacy.
Personally, I like to learn from Victoria's insights as well. I don't hear anyone else giving advice like hers, in the PUA, RP, BP, Dating Coaches, Manosphere, etc.
Yet, I find many of her insights and advice to be incredibly powerful and accurate. Best of luck whoever you are that reads this.
@@1StepForwardToday I was just contemplating what you've esentially stated, For some time now I've sort of strayed a bit from the pure alpha the red pill community endorses as a result of my reading "Seduction" by Robert Greene so i'd like to thank you for reaffirming my stance on what it means to be Alpha in my terms
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Right on. Glad that something I've said could provide some value. I'm just about to start reading "The Alibaster Girl" by Zan Perrion, but I'll have to look into this book you mentioned by Robert Greene👍.
Absolutely right. This is the cutest, sexiest, realist, lady I've encountered, providing insights into the female mind.
Thanks a lot Craig although this vid is just my personal preferences
Thanks so much for the vulnerable and valuable information. Its much appreciated, been excited for a new video since your last. Please reconsider taking down your videos, they are amazing and there will always be a few weirdos. Overall your videos are insanely helpful to us and causing much more good than harm imo
That is reassuring and helpful to hear brad, I will reconsider it
I feel so lucky and blessed for having seen this video, god bless the youtube bell. Thank you Victoria for being so brave to talk about this, i feel it's not easy and i appreciate very much your efforts to make us guys more wise.
Thanks Quorthon, ur right it’s not easy, I really appreciate ur kind words
BRINGING US THAT CONTENT..... BRINGING US THAT CONTENT!!!
This was great. Those with ears to hear will greatly appreciate and take this fully to heart.
Victoria, has anyone ever called you an Awesome Woman before? I do believe you are one!
thanks a lot Mark
Lot's of good ideas on this and previous vids. I've found my wife responding to a few of the previous suggestions Victoria has listed. That's the best bit, seeing that raw response when you push the right "button". Nothing like it!
The shame I could feel of women who are hurt by their desires in the ways you described at the start actually made me really sad
:( you're right. It is sad.
Watching this video within the hour so it’s fresh on my mind even if Victoria does delete it. Am glad that both her and “Beardo” are willing to give us such aspirational and deep advice!
My question for now would be: should I resist dating until I have more of my aspects and excellence in check, or give it a try when I’m ready and see how it goes or if I know for sure after testing the waters what I may need to work on? I think the answer is to go a bit of time longer just so I can prove I’m not too distracted, but when my intuition tells me what I have now or by then can ensure a decent relationship or date life for awhile I will surely not dodge the opportunity to learn and apply masculine frame tactics such as these graciously offered ones.
Thanks again Vic for the new upload and I hope you consider my thoughts! (With content like yours you are at such high value improvement can still come in little steps, but for now just focus on confidently presenting yourself and quality edits like you did earlier for the interview vid can come into play!)
I think u should not delay at all and get out there ASAP. There will never be a time when ur totally ready... the most important thing in the world is the education u will get from your own lived experiences dating and with women and u should try to get as much experience in any way u can including legal and ethical routes that may charge $
Emotion switching is a powerful psychological tool I use that you touched on. I've used it to shut many assholes down. Aggression followed by friendliness. Do you wanna fuck with the aggressive me who's in your face and not at all scared of you or the nice funny guy? Nice guy 90% of the time. This is just one example. Women get a thrill out of observing this type of emotional control in my experience. I'm enjoying your content thank you 🙏
Girl I love your energy and authenticity. Your Vulnerability is adorable
Thx a lot
This content is very helpful. I know it takes a bit of vulnerability to put content like this but it’s the truth that’ll make men better with the opposite sex. A truth that most others aren’t willing to tell. You’re doing this for men all over the world and you’re doin this for women all over the 🌎 Thank you!
thank you very much!!
I already have been dominant without realizing it until watching your channel. Always wondered why females were fast at giving over to me. I took it up a level with this video and it is awesome. I’ve never seen girl O so hard and fast. Like they were entranced. 😜 crazy. Thank you for sharing.
thanks for reporting back. tempted to say i told u so but not to u cause ur comment is so great but to all my haters lol. idk if u can share but what did u do to uplevel it?
@@mynonleatherlife Started watching your videos and it made me self aware. Able to reflect on what behaviors I was already naturally doing and fine tune them, control them. With this video, I utilized all ten key points. Last night...The girl I am seeing, I really like her. I made her feel protected like LG , allowed to her feel feminine and submissive on a deeper level. Kissed her and whispered to her all night with my hands all over her during our date. It was like she was hypnotized. So was I seeing her face. When we made love she immediately O and I dominated her in all the ways you instructed. She called me D and gave in completely. It lasted for hours. Amazing experience.
@@crownsix WOW WOW GREAT WORK!!! (sorry just seeing this now). how's it going 4 months later??
I love your video where you first talk about the vortex. I love to put my iPad face down, and not watch it, but just listen to it, as I go to sleep. It’s so relaxing. I wish you would do another video where you talk more about how to make a girl get into the vortex, and where are you give encouragement to a guy like me to do so. 🖤
Ok I will try to make another one about it!
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You could call it: The Call of the Vortex II! I hope I’m not asking you politely. I don’t want to undermine my manly powers. Hey! I have a question for you. Is hideous wild back hair a sexy manly thing that could make a woman fall into the vortex? Like, it looks ridiculous, but secretly it’s a sexual turn on? Very masculine? Or not?
Haha well u know it might be for some women... for me I find it neutral to good. Others might find it bad cuz I know some women force their bfs to wax their back! But just avoid those people
I wish your videos were around 10 years ago when I was 16. Let's just say my high school and college days would've been a lot more eventful.
You are both Savouring your expanding spectrum of intimacy , that’s beautiful
Nice that you take the time to write everything in the description, because I enjoy reading more so than listening but so do both.
Thank you for all you do. I feel a lot of people are held back from their true self because of social beliefs. Doing god’s work here 👍🏽
Good morning Victoria these type of videos are really what we guys need the honest talk really helps
LETS GOOOOO Nice audio adjustment.
Thank You for your authenticity and openness
Excellent list. Being the opposite after role playing the misogynist (or anything similar) is sometimes referred to by BDSM people as Aftercare. Aftercare is very important following any rough or kink encounter.
Indeed aftercare is so very important! Especially in the beginning when u don’t fully trust or know the other person but always it’s good
Great point. Similarly, the teasing can only have the desired result if balanced out by even more compliments.
Now you've done it...
Giving away all my secrets!
@@BeardoSpeaksYT how does it feel to be this alpha?
@@kushalnitnaware Not gonna lie, bruh, it feels gooooooood
@@BeardoSpeaksYT Lucky couple ❤
This video is completely accurate
I really look forward to your videos. I like you and your honesty. I'm in my 50s and not as sexually enthusiastic any more but I have found the younger women respond well to what you're teaching. I'm a dom in general and theres a responsibility that comes with that. Got to deliver lol
Fantastic, thx need metal
Victoria finally tells her secrets!
dropping knowledge bombs thanks again darlin. I would title this video, "creating intimacy with your lady."
really wish it didnt take this long to find ur videos, feels good to know im doing most of this but damn these insights are on another level.
Please put the Stirling cooper interview up!
I put it back up
I really like your style Victoria. You are truly naturally beautiful. I really like the way you don't wear makeup. Your beauty and femineity is just natural and that's what most guys looking for
Thanks a lot Morteza
Hey Victoria!
hiii
respect for everything you do
Awesome video Victoria thanks for sharing your breaking boundaries down girl 👊🏻🔥
Interesting, honest and insightful. Even though I disagree with certain videos or talking points, I still appreciate what you're doing. You're very good at getting the listener to journey with you and feel what you're saying. Just my observation
Love you Victoria!
Queen 👸. Welcome back Victoria. Great video
I love your videos. They teach me so much and I will forever be grateful ❤️
thank you Johnny!
This was very informative. Confirms what I always thought about my woman. She's a psycho. Hair pulling and all that. 39 years old and I still don't understand this stuff. Nevertheless it's very informative and hilarious. More men should watch. Because we still don't have a clue what women are thinking. And vice versa. Great work and do more like this. You're helping alot of people.
Victoria is a ✨queen✨. I'm so happy you uploaded. Where have ya been?😂😂😂
Thank you James
Incredible! I have virtually Zero /None of these things, which may explain why I'm in Friend Zone / "Nice Guy" mode so much.
I'm told I'm like a Rental Car (Reliable, dependable, but...not desirable)😔
That’s no good… u can tap into some of these, no worries
Thank you very much for your videos
I will keep following you.
Thank you for sharing this information. Everything you have spoken in your videos about is working for me in my relationship and I've even patch things up with one of my X's. Because of you. You are a real teacher. Thank you so much for sharing this information with the world.
Omg how did you patch things up with your ex? Thank u so much
It was simple. I read her body language and it told me she was craving dominant behavior. She started hitting me in a playful manner and calling me a punk. And that’s when I unleashed my dominant behavior on her and it worked. Now she super flirts with me and dresses up to notch for me and now gives me her undivided attention when we go on a date together. And I’m going to say this again you are a real teacher. All teenage males need to hear your content to understand this about women.
😀😀😀 you’re cute and funny. A dynamic woman. I’ve noticed a lot of women in the south have been abused and it seems to scramble their thoughts and ideas about love and sex. It basically ruins them for a normal relationship.
the south has a lot of scarily toxic attitudes in my opinion when it comes to women, dating and relationships so I could see that for sure
Good stuff darlin'! I knew about 3 quarters but some things i didn't know. Way 2 go! Females are complex BUT fun!!
Which part didn’t u know
@@mynonleatherlife DDLG. Had no idea. Everything else I got but that...wow!
I wish I would have found your channel two months earlier
Why is that?
@@mynonleatherlife
I dated a girl I really liked a lot. But the spark didn't shine for her. Now I at least know why, as I wasn't reaching her subconscious side :(
@@individuum4494 BOOM☄️
one of the best ones yet
Thanks!
The analytical tension is this idea of being this guy micro attuned to your consent level while passing all these shit tests which involve putting up implicit and explicit resistance, that creates a double bind situation where moving forward is both right and wrong.
Can you explain further please?
@@zapfactor3630 Have you seen the first Matrix movie? "Do not try to bend the spoon, that's impossible. Instead, only try to realize the truth... There is no spoon. Then you'll see that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself."
@@mreko1566 wait I sorta get it
I did some of this shit right away but it came naturally with this person. I feel like it's more about tapping into a different part of me than learning specific tricks.
that's what my bf says too...its more about tapping in then acting
You have a patreon?…more detailed commentary/freedom for you on there…just subbed to this yesterday when i found you
I no longer have one :)
Well done, it's great what you're doing and you're doing it in a clear and very appropriate and unique good way. Well done again
thanks Matteo
Banter. Talk, tease and anticipation....throughput the day ...it sounds like. Bbut I also think chemistry is at play.
I've had positive experiences recently since incorporating things I've learned from this channel.
Oh wow. What kinds of things have u incorporated, so curious
0:17 lol
“Please, for the love of God!”
We haven’t had a video in over a year. I’m here in August of 2023 and I’m hoping you’re okay!
i do lives all the time now but havent felt like making a vid in a while unfortunately
Victoria, I have another thing I'd like to ask your opinion of. I'm sure you agree that the girl wants the man to make all of the decisions e.g. where and when you have the date, leading her around etc, but what about TELLING her what to do instead of ASKING her if she approves of a choice you want to make? For instance, if we're at a club dancing and I want to walk to the bar to get a drink, instead of saying 'I'm going to the bar, wanna come?' you hold out your hand and say 'come on, we're going to the bar' and essentially giving her no choice. Surely this is dominant as it's an order, and if she goes along with your command, you can tell that she's submitting. If she resists and tries to break off the hand holding, you can then tell that she's not attracted to you and you can stop it.
Another example involves taking her back to your place. You've said that you should always ASK her to go back, but could you also say 'let's get out of here, we're going back to my place' i.e. telling her that this is what's happening? Obviously, I can't FORCE her to do anything, but by giving it as a command instead of a question, it could be interpreted as more dominant.
Would love to hear your view of this!
well I'm not saying she wants you to make ALL of the decisions but some are huge like showing initiative to set the time and place of the date...but if she wants to change it you can be flexible and accommodating. Telling rather than asking is a dominant move and can be very good. All those examples you gave are good just remember not to stick to it like a hard and fast rule. You can certainly ask whatever you want as it comes naturally to you and her...but it would be good to experiment with "telling" sometimes as well and see how it goes over because it can definitely have an intense effect. As long as you are also respectful and receptive to what she wants as well.
A woman (some women) want to feel dominated, but PROTECTED TOO! It kinda all comes back to the domination, it would say to me “yea, I’m SAFE with you!”. ❤️
I just love you for making the female deep desires exposed, we all need to know this as men !
This one is about me not “females”
@@mynonleatherlife YOUR THEME IS !!!
NO IT's NOTTTTTTTT!!!!
@@mynonleatherlife ok !!!
One thing that I think is important to mention (and I'm not knocking the video here - I've been subbed to Victoria since her channel first took off) is an important divide between people that will essentially dictate whether this list is valid or not. For women and men the likes of which Victoria is describing, it works fine. For the other side of the divide, SOME of her tips will not only not work, they'll be flat-out disastrous. So her tips really are for the modern "struggling to balance societal rules and expectations of feminism with how we really feel" crowd, both in terms of women and men. The women that think they need to be feminists, and the men that feel they need to bow to that in some way (Victoria explicitly says her boyfriend is a feminist) will definitely find their kinks line up with what's said in the video, specifically because they've got that taboo "this is what I really feel but I know I have to bury it, and digging them up gets me off" kind of way. However, for women that don't like modern feminism (emphasis on the word "modern" there), and for the men that don't play the "bow to today's feminists or get cancelled" game, some of these kinks will backfire. Badly. Women and men that don't do the whole "women on a pedestal" thing that mainstream society wants simply won't find a lot of these kinky, because they're not "forbidden indulgences" to them. To non-feminists, some of these things will be flat-out annoying and real mood-killers. Women who don't bury and purposely confound their desires in the name of feminism won't find a lot of this list kinky, and neither will men who don't cater to feminists. Though I'll stress again I'm not saying this about the entire list, just the ones that are about indulging in the things you repress because you think you have to in today's society.
I just thought I would point this out, given that I imagine most of Victoria's audience here are "red-pill" types whose dream woman would probably be "red-pill" too if possible. I think the best idea to extrapolate out of this list that really will help everybody is that men should be in touch with a woman's desires and have the ability to play on them appropriately. Just bear in mind not every woman's desires are going to stem from feminist repression.
Everybody has their own kinks. Not everyone will share my personal kinks but being aware of some of them can start you off on research and exploration of the many flavors of kinks.
@@mynonleatherlife And I appreciate what you do. Like I said, I've been subbed to this channel for quite a while.
You're a legend Victoria thank you very much for your insight!