Why You Should Try Therapy Yesterday | Dr. Emily Anhalt | TEDxBoulder
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- Опубликовано: 28 май 2024
- "The stigma associated with going to therapy is slowly dropping, but who is it really useful for? This talk is for anyone who has considered trying therapy (and even more for people who haven’t). Listen to Dr. Emily Anhalt share her personal experience of therapy both as a patient and as a therapist, as well as compelling reasons why you should give it a try.
Dr. Emily Anhalt is a Clinical Psychologist and the CoFounder and Chief Clinical Officer of Coa (joincoa.com), a mental fitness community with studios opening across the country. Dr. Anhalt has spent the past decade working clinically with top tech leaders and organizations and has spoken around the world to destigmatize quality emotional fitness and mental healthcare." Dr. Emily Anhalt is a psychologist, emotional fitness consultant, and the CoFounder and Chief Clinical Officer of Beam, a gym for the mind that is destigmatizing and demystifying quality emotional and mental fitness. She studied psychology at the University of Michigan and attained Masters and Doctorate degrees in Clinical Psychology in Berkeley, California.
For the past ten years, Dr. Anhalt has been working clinically with executives, founders, and over-achievers, and has conducted hundreds of interviews with prominent psychologists and entrepreneurs about how leaders can improve their emotional fitness. Dr. Anhalt has spoken around the world about the importance of empathy and self-awareness, and she has collaborated with some of the fastest-growing technology companies and VC firms in the world including Google, Asana, TEDx, Github, NASDAQ, Unilever, Bloomberg, and True Ventures. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
"I'll take care of me for you and you take care of you for me"
Wow so deep...
jim rohn
We all need therapy in one way or another. Me and my friend made a pack when we were younger to talk once every wk and he would teach me what he learned that i didn't and i would teach him what learned that he didn't. that was 12 years ago and we still talk every sunday about our goals and problems in life. Everyone do this if you can it makes life much easier!!
I think you mean "pact". You don't need therapy, you need a basic English course.
@@liberalguy513 piece of work
Wow, amazing!
@@liberalguy513 your spelling is a contribution. The rest is mean, as I see it, totally unfounded, and speaks of your tastes in interaction.
"Pity."
I noticed the word error as well, but "pack" actually works in a sense - plz don't change it.
The old saying goes like this:
The strength of the wolf is the pack, and the strength of the pack is the wolf.
So that's how pack works 🐕
after quarantine i’m going to start therapy. what inspired me to get therapy is just thinking about going into a safe room with a trained professional and you can just say what’s on your mind, talk about my feelings and even cry in that room and i don’t have to worry about being judged or what i’m saying in that room being spread to other people. a therapist can help me find solutions to work out my problems and i think that’s amazing.
No no, the voices in my head say I don’t need a therapist.
*sad approvement noise*
Yikes
Keita Tsutsumi what’s the worms say
mine says i need one but im not telling my parents and im broke and i might not need it and waste the time-
Which is exactly why you should try it out 😂 the mind is connected to the body And the body is connected to the mind too.
Everyone can improve.
Those who need improvement most are those who deny they could use some improvement.
You nailed it with that comment.
Or maybe they just don't have a problem.
Absolutely, I am what I attract and I attract what I've become. Great lesson and reminder! Thanks
Best thing I've seen in years! Dr. Anhalt speaks volumes in less than 11 minutes. Thank you! Years ago, I was so confused and unhappy from a bad childhood that I almost ended my life in my 20s.
Thank goodness I sought professional psychological help and lucked up with two, dedicated "shrinks" who helped me better understand my situation. I am forever grateful for both of them.
What a lovely talk! Really appreciate the message that the results of therapy take time, and I agree that we look for quick fixes far too often. The comment about the ripple effect is a powerful one, and a great way to spark change in our lives. Going now to feel it ✨😊✨
Turn to bible and allow CHRIST to be your therapist, psychologist and psychiatrist. No man nor women fits to be one. All are sinners and without glory, all are tempted and suffer the same.
All are expected to REPENT AND BORN AGAIN, to LIVE HOLY AND GO AND SIN NO MORE.
All are weak in the daily fight between their spirit and flesh.
All these therapist, psychologist and psychiatrist, this world provides, can do is:
to deceive and steal.
They deceived you through all these “diagnoses” and they steal your money, through all the pills which you “need”.
In short: they poison your mind and your overall health, leaving you with neither one.
Therapist, Psychologist and Psychiatrist = Field where no human soul, never ever going to fit of being an help, no matter the among of years spend in “medical schools” or the decree gotten from there.
ALL of us are daily deceived, no matter the walks of life.
This! This is exactly what I needed to hear! I've been thinking of getting therapy for so long but felt uncertain if I needed it or not. I guess it's okay to just go for it.
Good luck in Theraphy.👍🏾 It really has its benefits.
@@keyanna2633 Thank you! 🙏 I'm hoping so too.
It really helps talking about stuff you think about but would never share with friends and family.
How wonderful that someone so young is investing in the changes in herself for personal growth and then qualifying to share it and help others. I so wish I had done my therapy earlier in my life instead of leaving it till my 50s after 25yrs of reading self help positive books to make me 'better'. That was all such hard work when now, I have come to believe that I am good enough just as I am.
Wow that was an awakening for me. I NEVER thought I needed therapy because I’m comfortable and have no issues and it’s taboo. Now I understand what she means and I think I’m going to look into finding a therapist and become my best self. Very well said Dr. Thank you for this eye opener.
Mourning the loss of other choices. So powerful! Your comments of growth and grief were so profound. Thank you.
First I thought she was promoting therapy because she is a therapist. But actually I see her point, some work on themselves through religious practices, some choose a therapist. The result is knowing your mind, clarity of mind, which is, in my opinion, the most important in personal growth and happiness.
Right, there's got to be a substitute for religion in the West and for some people therapy could be it
Adding to your list: Psychedelics (mind manifesting), Est, Arica, Buddhism, Silent Meeting, Experiential spiritual groups like Subud or Osho, Zen.
.... wait that one counts as a religion tho it isn't belief oriented. Much of Buddhism are (psychological) mind manifesting. Belief religions are like a life of practicing for a play, a performance, with daily rehearsals.
The most profound meaningfulness in life is a constant. It's not just a temporary feeling gained from therapy although for some who are in really bad shape, therapy could be a good start.
A few simple rules in life (some unavoidable even though many try with futility) - these are an immense help on one's quest for meaning:
1. Life is NOT fair.
2. You are NOT entitled to anything good in life, including happiness.
3. Where there is life, there is hope.
It is crucial to understand that therapy can be a useful instrument in one's quest to discover meaning and purpose in life, even though it is true that the most profound meaningfulness in life may be a constant and not just a fleeting sense received via treatment. Counseling can help people find a sense of purpose and fulfillment as well as the support, knowledge, and understanding they need to deal with life's difficulties and uncertainties.
Regarding the three straightforward rules you proposed, they can undoubtedly be useful in controlling expectations and overcoming challenges in life. Recognizing that everyone's experiences and life situations are different and that some people might endure more difficulties than others is crucial. It is imperative to approach each person's journey with compassion and understanding and to be aware that, while these guidelines may be beneficial for some people, they might not always be appropriate in every circumstance. In the end, discovering meaning and purpose in life is a very private and personalized process that may call for various strategies for various individuals. Indeed, there is hope where there is life!
I've seen lots of Ted talks over the years and very few managed to get me to thumbs up before finishing the talk. This is one of them.
Good job.
Get up today and say, this is going to be a great day! Something awesome is going to happen today. No matter my circumstances, my life is going to get better!
Needed to hear this. Therapy is great,and I'm ready for it. 👌🏾
No it's not. It's a scam.
I've tried various types of therapy and their have either done nothing or made things worse. And it's for this reason I'll never try therapy again.
Very clear and insightful. I agree with it all. Thank you Dr. Emily!
I've always wanted to see a therapist. I can admit that I don't have the answer to most of the decisions I need to make. I'm often conflicted by what I think and what I feel. My heart and mind are always in constant war. Therapy I feel would be the treaty to bring those opposing forces together. Something like a peace treaty. I'm just too broke to afford it.
Sometimes therapists offer free or sliding scale fees, so you should check it out!
I found great individual and family therapists in my town at a place where therapy graduate students saw the patients. The cost is $15-$20 per session.
You are amazing and an inspiration to all who struggle with mental health!
This is just WOW. Exactly what I needed to hear at this time and I cried.
Ppl here talking about alcohol as a solution, clearly need therapy.
Omg, someone literally said they think alcohol is a solution for personal problems?
Rarely have I ever heard even a stark raving alcoholic say that.
and 2 beers please
@T-800 Model 101 Infiltrator Unit. 🤣🤣🤣 very good!
What's the worse that can happen
This was a great talk! Very easy to understand and nicely put! Thank you Dr. Emily Anhalt I wish you were nearby but got your message which is the important thing.
This was a great lecture while on my flight to Guadalajara, Mexico
“I’ll take care of me for you, if you take care of you for me.” Beautiful.
Beautifully said 🙂🌺
Amazing, this was a huge inspiration for someone who is looking into becoming a therapist!
Fantastic!!!! Wish more friends and family had a therapist to improve their lives too (I have the best one) ☺️
Most just can't afford it
Beautifully explained.
Great talk; I couldn’t agree more!
Absolutely ❤ this, pearls of wisdom!
please upload polish subtitles. It's such a great video for explaining others how therapy works!
Excellent talk
What an informative and eye opening video !!
Really loved it! 🔝👏👏👏
I get to start my first session in MY LIFEEEE on monday! IM so excited
Great message. We've just started a RUclips channel in hopes to help our part to eliminate the stigma in the MH world. We are two licensed therapists in different states trying to unite in a time in our world where there is a lot of division. It's super important for healers to get help and loved how you explained it and approached it on you Tedx Talks. :)
Well said !!!
I just love her ❤🌺
I loved everything you said... Awesome stuff... you are such a great speaker... never thought of therapy this way until listening to your wisdom .👍😊
*This is great 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼*
Love This
The best video to explain therapy 👌👌👌👌👌👌
wow so well done
Amazing talk! 😊
Good message
(Sorry this’ll be a digression I love the talk btw) That was Ueno Juri! I’m so glad you started your talk with that clip. I loved that movie
"Weep not for roads untraveled
Weep not for paths left lone
'Cause beyond every bend is a long blinding end
It's the worst kind of pain I've known
Weep not for roads untraveled
Weep not for sights unseen
May your love never end and if you need a friend,
There's a seat here alongside me" - Linkin Park.
Very nice our hart feeling Everyone pepole needs
A happyLife
And freedom.. from India
Outstanding talk !!
As she joked about the gentleman who paid with nickels she undermined critical attention to the stigma that still surrounds psychology in spite the research validating its benefits and the mental health crisis in our country, especially amidst our economic and health pandemic. This also devalues those that sincerely have no financial and insurance resources to see therapists.
"the research validating its benefits"
What research?
My respects to you, Dr. Emily Anhalt, excellent speech.
Can we get a follow up ted talk on how to stop turning out to be peoples sole support bc I have chronic mental health issues and I cannot support more than one person
I'll take care of me for you if you take care of you for me
this hit deep
... who are you? Where's my whiskey bottle?
Hello everyone.....
I'm Abdul, founder of "ASUDE"Therapy
ohk 2020 i'm going to therapy
I am guessing that was a really good idea considering how 2020 turned out to be 😂😂😂
@@BassemMichel97 a year later I am the best version of myself
Wow, that was good!
Nawh I guess it was okay to
What a great talk.
And the Dr. Is amazingly beautiful!
JFC!!! ♡
I want and need her in my life please
Anything that helps you become more comfortable being uncomfortable
I'M GOING TO SEE A THERAPIST ON MONDAY for the first time....
M7sen 27 keep going... and going ... it’s a practice and you’re a piece of art 🖼
Has it helped?
Yeah did it help? I realy want to know.
@@jakubpolak1459 while I can't speak for M7sen 27 I can most certainly say it helped me
@@pilgor990 Thank you. That Is good to hear.
I wish my therapist was like you, because I think I am sometimes talking care of her. I take care of very one.. She one time said she had no idea but what I could do about a situation. 😳 I ended up trying to do my best. Anyways I thought that’s what therapy or part of what therapy was for. To talk ways to handle things. Maybe it’s not the right fit. Hard to find a good therapist
I agree with you. Finding the right one is not easy but one day you'll find them. I even heard horror stories about therapists that caused more harm than good on the patients.
Make good friends and fellow their way change some of your daily activity; you will see some thing gonna change bit by bit for your favour..just try it till you find the right terapiest.
You don’t have to stick to one particular therapist if you’re not getting what you need out of the sessions, sometimes some therapists aren’t a good fit for you and that’s okay. And it’s okay to switch and find another one ❤️
Even the most objective, professional person can’t help but judge.
Not all judgment is bad judgment.
I went to therapy I was referred to someone else then referred to someone else then referred to someone else so why try to get help? Now my family wants me to seek help. I honestly would rather eat a gun then try therapy again
Not much of this is making sense to me… Which is why I need therapy.
I have started, and I know it’s going to be a long road ahead, but I am ready
Nice
If I could do therapy yesterday, I would have a time machine. With a time machine I could go back in time and avoid trauma. Hence, no need for therapy.
Still living in dreamland ?
@@danishofficial9529 Still not reading the title?
GG
physics reversed
@@ernestassimutis6239 A wammin said it so who am I as a man to deny it?
I've spent over a decade doing therapy but it doesn't work, I feel like the therapists won't admit it though
she reminds me of shailene woodley
I've been looking for a therapist and I don't know where to begin. I called but I don't know what kind of therapist to pick.
Tried therapy. Multiple times over many years. Misery increased. Hope lost. Ability to feel connected to others destroyed.
Money? Not necessarily. Most insurance covers therapy
Let's hope it stays that way. Our current political climate is showing us how much things could change for the worst and affect us all negatively.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 I don't see any changes
"I'll take care of me for you, if you take care of you; for me"......
My biggest fear is loss too when I have many things today I'll waste my time stressing over how should I do all that what should I do with when I arrive a goal the first thing that comes to my mind is will I be able to keep it a success can I keep on winning or I'll get lazy or stressed and miss the whole thing thanks to my fear of loss I'm not able to feel happy
When everyone has universal healthcare, maybe.
Even though i believe therapy is necessary in order to progress as individuals and as a species there are two things that should be adressed:
1. Social stigma that comes with therapy. While for most educated people it makes sense, the world doesn’t treat mental health-being with the seriousness it deserves.
2. Cost. Coming from a country in crisis where entry level income is 500-600 euros, no one will give 50/week to have therapy. I am now a student and can certainly not afford it. I do not have low enough family income or diagnosed mental sickness to get government aid. I tell myself i will be able to afford it growing up, but reality is i probably won’t. At 50 per hour it is not a viable solution. I do not blame therapists for having rates like this, but they certainly do not target the median household.
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Wow
How about the cost? 😢
Therapy: expensive, time consuming, potentially effective
"It really be like that sometimes": free, instant, 100% effective
Believe with your eyes, not with your ears.Good message for everyone.Thanks a lot.
Complete rockstar 12/12 omw back to therapy.
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Listen at 0.75x
or take the orange pill
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subtitulos por favor
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I've never met a therapist I can trust. Every single therapist I've seen has broken my trust and breached confidenciality.
Try Compassionate enquiry by Dr.Gabor Mate.
All the very best to you. ✨
Yes, some good points here. But be careful with building the paradigm of therapy for all! Yay, sign me up! Not so fast, many people are fully capable of healing themselves and working on their own emotional challenges without a “trained professional”. Part of the growth dimension and a big part of the journey is figuring it out for ourselves and taking charge of our own mental health without a “trained professional”. Sorry about being the sole dissenter here.
I'm 62 now and when I was 16 my mother made me go to counseling however every word that came out of my mouth to the counselor was a lie so was wasting her time for sure. And because I fought drug addiction all my life I have been to five treatment centers and lots of counseling probably over 2000 or more 12 step recovery meetings. And the last time that I went to counseling the counselor said I know more about his job than he did. And the last time I went to treatment they had a class to where we told each other how we saw ourselves and how we saw one another and everybody in the class said that they noticed that I knew everything about recovery but how odd it was that I was in a Treatment Center. The real truth is I had so much counseling the counselors were transferring their knowledge to me. Pretty much everything I know to get through being depressed or any curveballs life may throw me or I may create on my own. Came through counseling and all the meetings that I went through. However at the end of the day I have to choose to listen to The Counselor I have to choose to not use drugs I have to choose to believe in God I have to choose to pray to God. Or in some cases I suppose you can choose not to. Either way you have to make a choice. So if there's anything that you could get out of what I have to say it would be first of all you have to be honest with the counselor and then you have to follow the directions or else you might find yourself listen to a group of people telling you how you sure got a lot of head knowledge but not much action. It's all about a choice the counselor is not going to make us happy a counselor a treatment center a group of people isn't going to get us off of the drugs we have to make the choice to do the things that keep us happy or clean and sober. Or content if you will. It's all about a choice. At the end of the day all the counselor really wants is to see us make progress. Who knows perhaps when we choose to follow directions we may need counseling less and less perhaps some day not at all. It's like having a sports injury and going to the physical therapist but not doing any of the stretches or exercises at home that he told you to do three times a week. And then going oh man that physical therapy doesn't work. Can you imagine how wonderful that must feel to a counselor if you show up one time and say wow I did those exercises and I feel so much better rather than bombarding them with all your woe is me. Long story short Going backwards staying the same or moving forward is a choice. There for a while I guess I was waiting for the counselor to do it for me. In hindsight if I could go back and see all the people through counseling and Recovery that pointed out the truth to me I would tell them thank you. They say the truth hurts however I say not listening to the truth hurts worse. Best bet is God's way is easier softer way
Wow amazing story! And you're right God and God alone will get you through your additions! But now your story can help others that are going through the stuff you've gone through! So happy for you! You got this!
I tried, thanks, wasted tons of money, got scammed, still want to die.
It's a shame this video is not open to subtitle contributions.
She is right and it is for those who can afford $159/hour.
Or with government subsidy, who don't mind entering the medical model and being labeled as being mentally unhealthy forever on your Permanent Record.
If you may object you are no longer in the driver's seat, now "Not following professional advice."
You have been informed.
Wait... will you prescribe me drugs though?
@@jasonsharma5888 Haha. Exactly.
Peraonally, I don't like the shrink drugs. (Mostly) And except for speed they come with side effects (bad and definitely possible) using the recommended dosage.
With more thinking about those drugs... There are of course people who love klonopin, etc.
"It aint me babe"
It can be like $20 with insurance
Therapy never worked for me.
can this be the cure for loneliness ?
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WOW this is a very bright (and beautiful) young woman! Where can I get a session from her?