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I didn't see anyone point this out in the comments. But I love that you were at a full stop to read the email/message and once finished decided to pull off. Keeping it safe and informative. As far as the older woman with baby rabies. I have a disorder where sperm don't have tails, the disorder can and 100% will be passed on in an even worse form to any children I'd have, especially depending of the mother. So I decided oh well and had a vasectomy. I ended up dating this older woman, maybe 5 years older at the time. 28 for me. She ended up breaking things off because I couldn't give her a family. Which I was like alright. But then she followed it up with "you broken man" I replied. "I'm broken, but no one wants to give you babies.. okay" she cried. I went and got drinks ended up leaving with the bartender after I recanted the story lol. Some women man, truly only see men as things to be used and abused. Thank the ladies for the sexual liberation. Kitty used to take time and integrity. All kitty requires now is 2 blue motorcycles and these corny ass jokes smh.
I did. Audio. Spot on brother! Every time I start thinking stupid I listen to it while going to bed. Wake up with a completely different mindset. Highly recommend
When you doing an interview with Andrew Tate about his cars and his ultimate pic
Zantac, tested for years, sold for years. Lots of history and real trials.
Now we find it causes cancer.
Covid vaccines? Developed in 3 months, little testing no control group but let's vaccinate billions of folks 4x over. What could possibly go wrong?
Ask Sanofi and GSK (zantac manufacturer)
dodo
One of my ex-girlfriends best friends, tricked a fireman into getting her pregnant when she was in her early forties and panicking about having a child. She ended up dumping him before she even had the baby, claiming that he had a lot of work to do on himself and he wasn't willing to do it. But really she just wanted to child but no relationship commitment from him and so stuck him with 18 years worth of child support in the process. She deserves jail time for what she did to him.
For real. These women need to start beinc prosecuted. Back in the day women who did this crap would get an ass beating or hanged
So sad.... if ONLY there was a way for him to have protected himself. So sad condoms or vasectomies don't exist. 🤔
@@charlierae8266 LoL. Right!
@@charlierae8266 she told him she was on birth control.
YES, yes she does!
“I broke up with her and she threatened to end her life”. Definitely a keeper. Wow.
that's nothing!!! i dated a woman who tried to commit suicide in my bathroom, on valentine's day. at the hospital, she told the doctors she had the best time of her entire life, and wanted to "go out on a high note". i wish i was making it up, but i'm not. best part is, her father was one of the top cops in our town, that was how i met him. in the waiting room for emergencies at the hospital.
people with borderline personality disorders does that. Very often cutting themselves, have tons of tattoes, adictions etc...But they can appear extremely sweet and kind
It Could Have Been Worse....She Could Have Threatened To End Your Life...LOL
Emotional blackmail by holding someone else accountable for their emotional regulation.
@@ZiggyB-hw9sm Day ain't over yet
You hit the nail on the head. I have experienced this with a woman almost nine years older than me. My daughter is now 22. I am still trying to "deprogram" my daughter so I can have a relationship with her. And yes, when my ex-wife was 7 months preganant she kicked me out of the house, got a restraining order against me so I could not see my daughter when she was born. No pitty party, just information to help other men.
I misread the first time I read your post and thought that the 22 woman was your wife. I was like WTF... And then, I read again and realized is your daughter is 22 now. 😂😂😂
The inner "gut" feeling is real. I've been divorced twice now, and both times I talked myself into getting married. people around me said "yeah man, go for it", but in my gut/heart/concscience/spirit/whatever I wasn't at peace with it. I understand though... it's hard to break free of a toxic woman when she is meeting your needs for that season.
I work with a lady who was 36 and no kids, locked down the best beta dude she could find, got married a year later. The dude had a small, paid for house that he lived in, she joined him. Soon she wanted to have kids, so they tried for a year, she was 38ish by this time. Not luck of course, she is 38, then they went to test tube babies, costing 20K plus. Now she is 42, and pregnant again, test tube again, another 20K. He had to buy her a half million dollar house, and works all the time now. Last time I saw him, he was fat, and looked miserable. Just another happy older woman that wants kids story, have a nice day.
Sounds like a Steven King novel.
Happy wife happy life innit
@@leegrande8226 horror stories...
@@elmagnifico1 Never date a woman in her 30s, Never
@@leegrande8226 Well, he was the idiot that got married, despite the abundance of information available. Any man that gets married today is an idiot.
Run! Do not risk getting this woman pregnant. LEAVE! With her history, having someone like this as a mother will be a nightmare for you and the child.
RUN FAST!! NOW!!! DO NOT LOOK BACK!
What gets me is... a person has seen all these flags and still has doubts. I can understand if they did not see them, but he has.
That is like buying a car anyway after you drove it knowing there is engine knocking, wheel miss alignment, and squealing calipers. 😁
@@nuffflavor Nailed it! Yessir, so obviously they are "intimate," so he feels locked in.
@@nuffflavor Older women can really put it on you. Sex is often times great. That's the issue. The intimacy can make you look past a lot of issues. Many guys go through it at a younger age especially. I did when I was 23 dating a woman who was about to turn 40. At some point you gotta come to your senses and realize the type of trap you can be setting yourself up in.
Never date a woman in her 30s, Never
I learned a hard lesson from my x. I made the mistake of marrying someone 10 years older than me. In college, everything clicked. In reality, she was totally insecure and thought I was cheating on her while I was working my ass off as a self-employed welder. Her past relationship should have been a warning of what to expect. Don't marry someone who is insecure because she will bring you down.
She accused you of cheating because she was..
"Insecure" is basically a buzzword
If she is suicidal, she needs help, not marriage or kids.
She doesn't want you; she wants you to fill a role in her life that she's running out of time to have filled. Once you fill that role and no longer benefit her, she'll throw you away and take whatever resources she can.
Well said.
You articulated my experience of dating in my 40’s perfectly.
this is probably true 95% of the time. RUN AWAY
truth
Run Foresst run. Don't look back
He's right on this. I got engaged to a French girl, totally messed up by her upbringing. I lived in France offered to pay for councelling and paid all the bills for over a year. I was working on a career path and got on it and moved home. As a result we didn't see each other for three mths and she basically demanded I choose her or the career. I told her not to ask that as I had been on the path before I met her. She persisted, I made my choice and then she revealed her infidelity and asked me how that made me feel. I told her it showed me it was the right decision. Fast forward to today, within a year she had moved on, found a DNA donor and popped out three kids before showing him the door. Now she's got a new Step dad, repeating her own childhood.
I dodged a bullet
you dodged a fucking cruise missile. gg
Something similar happened to me. Hurts at first but red flags are red flags.
"That's fine. You're French. I didn't expect you to be loyal."
you had me ar French😅
Close call bro … good for you at being strong
This is bang on. Do NOT do it, I did, an older woman with empty next syndrome. Thought she loved me and wanted to have a child for ME. Once she had our son, she kicked me out of the house took everything and has withheld him from me and my whole family for half of his life (he’s 2 & 1/2 now) and I’m currently going through the ‘meat grinder’ of the family court system - that is totally and utterly biased against me (men) all I want to do it see my child and she has fought tooth and nail to make me give up.
And it was ALL from that scarcity mindset, not believing I’d find someone to ‘love’ me as she did.
Her true colours came out while we were seperated (covert narcissist) they have no empathy so it’s been a nightmare.
She has now made false allegations (I’m actually a youth worker who looks after children in state care by trade) all in effort to try and cut me from his life completely.
But I WILL NOT give up on him.
DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT IGNORE YOUR GUT, Those red flags and anxiety are there for a reason. You WILL find someone else. You are ASKING FOR A NIGHTMARE - I am currently living one.
Move on and find someone who allows your heart to feel at peace.
Vasectomy ftw. Bang away and they get NOTHING!!!!
I hope you overcome all this, bud. God bless you.
she sounds lovely
@@rondee thanks mate, it's been a hell of a journey. Thank God I've kept it together all this time
Sounds like you didn't think at all
Any guy that’s never been divorced needs to spend just one day in “family” court watching. It’s such an eye opener that I’d recommend you even taking a vacation day from work then just sit there all day and observe how one-sided it is. You’ll be considerably more cautious afterwards.
I've been this fool. Dated a girl with massive baggage, anxiety, depression, suicidal, the works. Do yourself a favor. RUUUUNNNN!!!! Don't let your empathy override your self-respect.
My soon to be exwife but I'm leaving her and making my escape. I took the redpill late.
Been there. Done that. 🏃♂️
she is using his empathy to try and manipulate this man. Run as fast as you can.
Holy shit, this guy is crazy. He listed like ten deal breakers and then wait for it.....awesome sex. Dude if your listening, I’ve been married for almost 30 years with 2 adult children. The sex will disappear when the kids come. Honestly it’s not even her fault, young children demand time and energy. What happens to the female body during a pregnancy and birth is frankly traumatizing. Furthermore your chick is Old! By the time the kids grow up it’s guess what... menopause. My wife still takes care of me but it is not the same. Finally, and by far the most glaring red flag is her depression issues. If she has any sort of mental problems a newborn will throw that sh!t into overdrive. Postpartum depression is real . This chick will go mental on you and she will use that child to bludgeon you into submission. If you put a baby into her you are a fool and you will get what you deserve.
If I had a quarter for every male or female that listed a ton of red flags in their partner... at the end the reason is usually “but the sex is amazing”
Top post! Hope this dude listens.....
Preach brother!!!! This guy obviously has no real alpha friends to wake him up from miss medications punani spell. I hope he reads these or he’ll get the karma he’s putting the work in for.
Many of them have their sex drive linked to their biological clock. I don't know why it always seems to be the second kid but once they have a couple kids, they lose their sex drive because they no longer want to have children.
Yeah .....
My EX WIFE LOOKS HORRIFYING AND CRAZIER THAN SHE DID IN HER 20'S ........
GREAT POST.....
"Watch your financial resources go to her while she alienates you from raising your kids" is a literal description of my current life
How selfish to even think about saddling an innocent child with a mother like that.
One of my best friends fell for this. He was divorced with a 21 year old daughter at 51. Had his house, payed her college off, and had his own business. He surfed everyday and got to camping whenever. Just wanted a woman to hang out with. She was 39 with a long list of problems both mental and physical. She was maybe a 6. Well she claimed she was on birth control and now he had a 5 year old daughter.
Regardless of when a woman says she's on birth control, NEVER leave your load in. Even if you have a condom on, if you aren't absolutely certain you want to and would like a future with her, pull out before roaring.
I've been with women when I was a bit younger who told me they were on it, and I didn't adhere to this advice. Some said they were on the pill, others had an IUD. And I went all inside. Luckily, no kids. Looking back, I can say I was dumb asf for doing so. I got lucky. But plenty won't.
And flush the loaded condom too. Don't go laying against her rubbing jizz all around.
In these days, its far too risky. Simple mistake can ruin the rest of your life.
Never skeet in a chick who claims to be on BC.. you’re basically giving her the right to get pregnant by you whenever she feels like it..
I've had women get mad at me for attempting to wear condoms. I don't mean once or twice, a couple dozen times. I didn't need to get one as my sperm don't have tails so they can't swim to an egg anyway, but I still got a vasectomy years back. The number 1 supporter of this decision, my mother.
My mother raised her boys to NEVER let women use us as ATMs, her actual words as kids.
She sadly, was a 304. We all have different dads and my moms been married 6 times. She fully understand the landscape of women today. Luckily my brothers had their wives and had kids sadly all their marriages fell apart due to the women of course. My mom would rather me adopt down the road or continue to have dogs than to "throw your whole life away for women or a woman that'll tale it all from you over nothing!" I'm the youngest and at 32, after idk, 500 plus women in my bed, I've learned a lot about women, true women and their nature. Absolutely in my blessings that I never knocked anyone up or do t have sense enough to think there's a woman out here that WONT do me dirty at some point or another.
I have never gambled ever in my life and never will. I have aspergers and my favorite thing in the world is running statistics and numbers. The numbers on women are to high for me to do anything other than Fuck em.
Women have literally made themselves useless to men other than to make babies. They even ruined that. I started genuinely asking myself "what would a woman actually bring to my life to make it better?" My house is spotless, I own it, pay all my own bills, grocery shop, cook and clean daily as I'm a trained chef. I am a minimalist because I travel a ton, which I'd lose that smh, so my house isn't cluttered at all.
When I think about what a woman would bring to this table all I can foresee are negatives. I don't see one positive at all. Which is disturbingly sad that women don't have anything to bring to any man at all besides irrelevant and needless stresses.
I started talking to a woman mo ths ago, 3 weeks in she is at my house for the firdt time and I own my own business and an employee called me for an emergency meeting. Not to be private at all I took the meeting without headphones. My staff, as well as my social circle are primarily women. By design. I got really close male friends and employees but the women I Brought on for my company are more tailored for what we do. Anyway, she immediately heard these women say hi to me all happily. Half of them at that time I hadn't spoke to not over email in months and I treat my employees amazingly regardless of whatever insert anyone wants to add idc.
She mutes my mic quickly and starts in with "who are those women?! Why do you have female employees?! Why can they call you at anytime and take attention from us?!"
A rage filled me inside. I calmly asked her to either be quiet or she has to leave. She was quiet, meeting was about 45 minutes. I said bye and got off and she immediately started to scream at me. Again, this is 3 weeks into talking. Instead of arguing, I said, hey let's take the dog for a walk and I'll buy you some tacos. Grab your stuff cause we will eat at your place.
Took her to a taco shop, bought her food. Said it was a good 3 weeks, then left her after I paid.
That was like, the last straw for me dating. If I am gonna feel any sort of stress from the one person who's job it is to negate that stress, I'm done.
So thank you ladies for the sexual liberation because now you're all seriously useless other than being objects you claim to hate but propagate at the same time.
Fellas, women today are not worth the risk. From February 202q until February 2022 I had a sugar baby. Was a simple arrangement. I would see her Wednesdays, I'd slam her out for 2 to 3 hours and then as compensation I'd take her anywhere she wanna get some bar food and drinks. I'd always get 3 rounds, pay when I'm done and then say bye and until next week. So only cost me about 70$ a week. We NEVER talked except on Tuesdays to confirm the meet up and on Wednesdays to let her know I'm on the way. It was PERFECT!!! We finally departed so great. She said "hey I graduated you know and I'm moving to blah blah blah. It was fun."
We are still friends and talk every so often. But that's how it should be with us fellas.
Let me say one last thing and it's to the ladies. YUL KEEP THIS SHIT UP AND WERE GONNA FIRCE LEGISLATION TO ALLOW LEGAL PRISTITUTION AND LEGAL BROTHELS AND YOU ALL WILL NEEEEEVVVVEEERRR GET MARRIED!!! Lol
Isn't it a crime in the USA to lie to a man that you are on birth control? I heard that it is allegedly a crime to not wear a condom when a woman asked you to wear a condom.
If she's a younger fertile chick never believe she takes her birth control when she says she does, make sure you pull out and count her ovulation/period days.
Run, don’t walk. Raising kids when your body already falling apart is horrible. Everyone suffers.
Well said!
Watching my friends get married one by one and changing is a main reason why I have never been nor will ever be married. All of them changed and NONE in a positive way. They went from fun loving freewill chill doods to hang out with to not being able to hang out as much and when they could they were husks of their former selves. Joy was sucked out their lives and they always seemed miserable. It was so sad to see my friends change. I feel blessed to have no kids, and no ex-wife. I also slept with so many women my pair bonding is completely screwed now. If I had a time machine, I would go back and stay a virgin. I am not a good person, and many women are not either. Just do what is best for you and continue to grow. You are not alone, and NEVER think that you are.
Sounds like you want to stay 20 years old all your life. Unrealistic. At least you're honest about not being good 🤡🤡
I was 26 and started dating a 38 year old woman. Neither of us had been married. Long story short. I figured it out, and got away. When we broke up, she went full throttle crazy. She was looking for a child. I know this because at our final meeting she admitted it.
So glad i got out of it. Then married my current wife, who is one year younger. Got five adult kids, and a good marriage. It scares me to think how close i came to a disaster.
I went through this already. He is 100% correct. I was 21 when I meet my baby mama. She was 32. That’s all I need to say. If she is pushing you to have kids, run as fast as you can!
One of the biggest parts of aiming for excellence is developing the ability to recognize when something is a lost cause.
So underrated :(
Exactly. Over the last 20-30 years, American women have gone out of their way to tell men that they are lucky they are giving them the time of day. Women see themselves as the prize and men need to meet an unreachable bar to land them.
The traditional woman is a nearly extinct entity. Feminism has taken care of that. Telling a modern woman that she should be submissive to her husband falls on deaf ears. They feel it’s your job to prove yourself to them with no thought of them showing their significant other what they bringing to the relationship. I am so lucky to have found a good woman. We are at 32 years married and counting.
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
Yep, I would agree on this one. I see this thread is 9 months old now but for those reading this in a similar situation, marriage and kids are HARD ENOUGH and the more differences you have the harder it's going to be. I married a woman 14 years younger than me and we have a child together and luckily we're on the same page about most things, but damn, it's still very difficult at times (1st time I've been married and same for her). We manage to work things out but whatever you do, don't walk into a long term relationship with big red flags at the very beginning.
Man I can relate and want to slap myself every time I hear a story like this because I used to be this guy "Mr. Understanding". I'd make excuses for other people's baggage all day every day and use those "explinations" to invalidate my own concerns.
Fellas, you can understand a problem and still be wise enough to choose not to invest in it. I love car analogies so this is the same as going to a used lot and hearing the car you're "in love with" has transmission problems after the test drive (dating period). Now you may understand the problem and know it's not the car's fault but maybe something the previous owner did to it (emotional damage lol) but still walk off the lot without that car. In fact your knowledge of the problem, its risks, and the resources it would take to fix it, are all the reasons that should support you walking away. Now if the price is amazingly low because of the issue maybe you grab it as a fun project car but not your reliable car to drive through the desert on a road trip with. A.k.a. maybe it's fine to date this girl short term if it's fun and she remains low maintenence knowing it'll never be worth the risk of putting a ring on it because of the problems you understand exist.
Looking at things this way I can still be Mr. Understanding but not make their problems my problems and complicate my own life. This guy needs to do the same but for some reason is still convinced leaving a woman because of her problems makes him a bad guy and not just a wise investor of his time and resources.
I wasted years of my life with these "Baby Rabies" types! Great sex, beautiful woman, beautiful kids, horrible Next, Next, Woman creature after the babies were here. Then it was "I just don't love you anymore, I want a divorce". Then money, money, money, give me the money! 24 years later, I'm broke, no retirement, kids won't talk to me because she had custody, moved to the other side of the country so I could not develop relationships with them. I was labeled a "Violent, angry white male" who just didn't understand.
Sorry to hear that mate. Hope you're okay .
Vasectomy ftw. Bang away and they get NOTHING!!!!
I feel you bro. Keep your head up
Ah the "violent abusive man" excuse every woman has it. It's the get out of jail free card.I've been denied access to my own home and have had criminal record checks because of accusations.I agree with the police being through. I just don't like groundless accusations to gain power in a situation.It's the grownup version of "I'm telling on you"
There are so many problems beyond age here! Most can’t be overcome.
maybe she can change, but she is choosing to hugely manipulaitve and super evil controlling. so she is choosing to be get much much much worse
61 yrs old. Never married no kids. Thank you God!!
You couldn't be MORE correct!😊 listen to this wise man..... His info will save your soul from ALOT of pain and suffering.
One of the best advice Rich has given. “DON’T COMPLICATE YOUR LIFE”
Rich, your terminology in this one is awesome! I'm sharing this all over the place! Not only is it great advice, but I love how you say it. I bet most men haven't really been rattled out of their pastoral dreams of pretty perfect women to realize your points. Thanks for waking us up!
5:40
I am a paralegal, and have been thinking about this much, also since I would like to have more children myself.
I believe that, much like a pre-nup for marriage, I believe there can be a pre-custody agreement. No one has done this; I have drafted up such a document as it should be effective and binding (if anyone is interested let me know):
Essentially the pre-child contract says that if either party obtains > 50% custody of their children, then the custodial parent agrees to pay the non-custodial parent a monthly amount equal to whatever CS order may grant to the custodial parent.
This would at least take out the money incentive for gaining custody from the other parent.
When I was younger and stupid I had one exactly like it - she was very pretty. But she had emotional problems, psychological problems, had previously been in psychiatric care, constantly claiming health issues. The list goes on and on. I am telling you now - she brought complete destruction into my life. Chaos is the only word for these types of women. Get rid of them - you CANNOT save them.
Me too. Sexy black and Chinese, had a great personality 25% of the time, the other 75% is why she's still single. Probably the closest I'd experience marriage, chased away my prospects, would try to cancel my friendships, and still calls. Too many fishes out here.
I tell you never have kids with such a woman…
Not only you but your kids will suffer too.
It creates mental issues and drama from one generation to next 🤔
Same here man
You show me at least one single woman in their 30s and up who has no emotional and psychological problems.
@@mx2048
Dude. Some of them are getting psychological damaged before age 18
I went throught the same thing with my ex gf. Met her at 32. At first she said she didn't want kids, was even talking about removing her ovaries due to cysts. Then she went to she wasn't sure, to full on baby rabies within a year.
She was always pushing hard for marriage, within months of dating.
She took the shot without even discussing it with me first, which upset me. She had baggage from previous relationships. She kept talking about how her ex used to beat her. She had an abortion years earlier and told me that she had 2 guys propose to her and she turned them down in her younger days...but that didn't matter because she wants to be with me.
After constant love bombing and telling me how she wants a family and marriage with me, I meet her crazy family that lives 4 hours away. Her brother and cousin where rude to me the entire time so I end up leaving there with her. I tell her they were out of line for talking to me like that. Instead of having my back she gets mad at me and says it's not my place to say that about her family. Things end soon after.
I can only assume if I had married her and given her a kid that she would divorce me and take the child support if she wouldn't have my back in the family situation.
Not to mention the countless other red flags I ignored - multiple tattoos, wanting a full sleeve eventually, excessive drinking, being sexually abused at an early age
that sounds like a bit of a close one
Lord almighty. She’s a walking train wreck.
Yep definitely dodged one hell of a missile 🤦♂️
Not to mention what kind of people she would expose and endanger your child to.
every woman in their 30s wants kids, especially if they haven't had any yet. Even if they said they "never want kids", they're lying. It's some crazy biological drive... the body knows it's eggs are depleting, so it wants to get knocked up.
the silicone ages just a bit slower than the rest of her, like an old wooden window sash that starts leaking as the wood decays and the caulk doesnt
RUN, run far, run fast, don't look back. Too much baggage.
If this guy marries this woman his life and happiness is over. Full stop. I really hope this guy listens to Rich's advice.
They usually won't, I was there a long time ago, I probably would not have listened at the time. It takes actually going through it to change your thinking.
Hes already half consumed by her. Rich pounced on this one like a rabid dog versus baby rabies but he's concerned about her womb.
@@sethaldrich6902 this woman checks all the boxes of my 4 year relationship, same age gap, miscarriage, married before. Seeing this clear as crystal.
Sounds like he knows the red flags just wanted to hear someone else's opinion before he leaves her. Hopefully he listens
Dating in your 40s is like being late to the buffet and having to choose from the left overs that everyone else has left because they didn't want it or looks unappetising.
Well said
LMFAOROTFLSM 🤣
lol 🙌🏼
Vasectomy ftw. Bang away and they get NOTHING!!!!
Yep 40yr old men are not sexy either
100% spot on. Wish I had this advice with Wife and Baby Mother #1. Even applicable to Wife #2. Took a number of years to work through it, but #2 has really come around as I stood up for my rights in the relationship.
Love the response!!!!! Yes my inquiry friend list to this man!!!! There are millions of better choices for you!!!
Your videos are great, even for me as a woman 25yo. I learn a lot, I have since I started watching you a few years back worked on my red flags and eliminated a good few. I didn't even know they were red flags, I thought it was common sense. Bam, you come and slap some facts and I realise that it's just stupid. Thank you.
Wow! Good job!
Great! But you need to find your husband soon.
Attempted to end it all. Baby rabies. Psychological issues. What could possibly go wrong?
lmao
Sounds like a dream. A fever dream.
Well let’s answer your question 🙋 👮♀️being called, psychotic episodes 👨🔬 house burned down 👨🏻🚒, 💇♀️ cut all her hair off in a fit of rage 😡 oh but she was passed off to you that she’s an 👰♀️ angel and loves kids…😂😂😂😂.
🤷🏾♂️ I dunno! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
The self deletion attempt *ALONE* would cause me to run.
"Don't invite chaos into your life". This nugget of wisdom cannot be more timely, short, and direct.
Very difficult to hear the end, all true. Will be reading your book soon.
She's attempted or threatened suicide more than once already?! She threatened or attempted suicide with the guy when he wasn't going along with her desires?!
RUN! Run for your life!! There is no measure for how much this woman -can- will wreck your life and the lives of any possible children! Run and don't look back! Run now!
I dumped my last girl after she took the v. Dude needs to have the same standards for his women as he does for himself.
Smart man!
Women and beta men were the first to get the vax. They have a fear mindset.
the mere fact that someone would opt to get the full run of 5+ shots despite all the freely available info that was out there, is grounds enough to remove them from your life over extremely poor judgement
Well done! Spot on!
Neighbours cousing aged 40 just dropped dead after leaving bath. Blatantly to do with the jag but family are all saying 'unknown sudden adult death'.
"Captian Save-a-ho" HAHAHA! Gold!
That's me, fortunately I learned my lesson before it was too late
You are 100% correct! I would end that relationship right away! Good luck
Just walk away. I was in a nightmare marriage. A total disaster and I blame myself for being so stupid. But she is great. No she wasn't . I love her. No I didn't I loved the idea of what I thought we could/should have. It is all BS
Run.... Just run.
I'm so glad that I found your channel... Everything you mentioned her is 100% true, I have gone through the same.... just like you described... regards from San Diego!
On the day of signing for a job, that manager kept throwing red flags at me. He insisted like crazy but I finally could run away.
Woman here...I work with this kind of thing all the time. I'm a licensed therapist and matches like this one don't normally work out long-term. My concern might also be for the mental health of the children. So much is hereditary and it's not unusual for more severe forms of mental illness to pass down to the kid. Plus you're looking at an impaired caregiver, which by the way is an indicator for child abuse and traumatic stress.
@missylouise321: Thank you for the enlightening analysis. Could you recommend a clinical book that illustrates the typical ranges of healthy marital dynamics?
There’s literally no way your a trained therapist if this drivel is your advice.
how often do you sleep with your patients?
There narsissist
I dated a woman who was almost 18 years older than me. Yes, she was great looking and honest to God I thought her being in her mid 50's would guarantee some level of maturity to allow "a commitment" to develop. DEAD WRONG. Her true self incrementally leaked out and I regretted it. The wear and tear on my car going to pick her up, the gas expense, and mental fatigue from driving there just to drive back home after the date, and vsrious disappointments pierced deeper and deeper. They never mature. They just get older.
Dude... same for me. I had a similar situation a few years ago - basically a COVID relationship - but she was 12 years older. For the duration of our relationship she was 52-54 and NEVER matured. Once all of the past baggage came out, or as much as I could stand, I was done. Sex was good but a lot of miles and previous owners. She never understood why I was bothered by that. Some women just belong to the streets. As you said, they just get older.
You're the only male I've ever seen that wants a waaay older woman
Why would you get with someone with all that baggage?
Bruh 18 years older? Naaah that's supposed to be a one night stand, not a whole relationship
You were 18 years younger than a mid 50's woman and chose her?
What was her name, Cindy Craword?
First two notes on that, run man run, run far away.
Listen to the wise and experienced, RUN Bob 🏃🏾🏃♂️💨
A girlfriend I had over 10 years ago once locked herself in the bathroom and threatened to overdose. I threatened to call her mom and the door opened right up.
There comes a point in a man's life where you get tired of broken things/people, even if you are really good a fixing things/people, it is in fact not worth your time because that's what you are trading for it. Get unbroken things/people instead, it is much more satisfactory and rewarding and you'lll have more time to enjoy life and the important things to you.
Great advice Richard! It breaks my heart to hear this same scenario over and over so many times about men who end up getting crushed in a divorce and family court. If there are red flags popping up everywhere in your relationship with a woman move on to the other 4 BILLION women to find a better partner.
I must say I encounter a long time girl who I met in college she took the career path, missed her chance to have kids. She came back into my frame with rabies. Although she’s still attractive, it’s nothing compared to when she was in her 20’s, she developed bad habits, masculine traits, over inflated her value, health problems which will lead to mobility issues, mood swings and not coachable. She surprisingly had a low body count. I still had fun with her in the recreational sense and walked away forever. Had I been blue pill I would have suffered the consequences.
DONT DO IT!! I was dating this girl I was crazy in love with at the time. I read his book “The Unplugged Alpha” a few years ago as soon as it came out. It really opened my eyes to a lot and put me on this path of focusing on myself and my needs..not hers. I realized how many red flags she has and how I didn’t even want kids, she did. I now live in Miami. I started a software company and make more money than I ever have..It’s still hard to believe. I have more hobbies and live a much better life. Don’t do it!! Dump her, focus on yourself and level up. You’ll thank yourself for it.
You got a kick ass haircut as well!!!
This is great but... why are you working so hard and for what if you're single with no kids?
@@BarriosGroupie why not? He has passion for what he's doing
He's on his grind, his purpose. Good for him! I hope you do well sir!
A girl can go from loving you to being ruthless to you in a month.
He will regret it if he sticks with her. It's much harder for men to leave the relationship because they're less used to leaving but you gotta do it when necessary. In this case, it is obvious.
A month? More like in a Moment
My ex said she wanted to marry me and she loves me so much to she needs space within days. I don't know of that's a narcissistic thing or a general woman thing.
@@jsts22 I think it's a woman thing. Mine also does that psycho stuff from time to time. Going from lovely girl to divorce threats.
@@EverlastGX hope you have started putting away your rainy day fund 💰
Its pathetic how women are completely controlled by their emotions 24/7
You are speaking my reflection...spot on with your advice
Rich Outstanding Post! Ty!!!
I narrowly escaped this fate. A really attractive woman tried to trap me to get her pregnant and take care of the four children she already had. But I didn't take the bait. She showed her true colors and demonstrated that she has zero respect for me, and only wants to leech my resources.
I walked away. I'm free!
Of course she had zero respect for you you are banging a single mom
What a fever nightmare that would've been
@Matt Booher No. She had no tats and she didn't dye her hair. She is a registered nurse, a trained dancer (with a dancer's body that four children didn't ruin), and at one time ran an independent theater company (which ran out of money).
I actually started dating her before the birth of her second child. She broke it off, married someone else, then returned to me after that marriage failed.
I must admit I was thinking about it. But then I woke up when, as I said, she showed me unmistakable signs she does not respect me, and other red flags (not to mention I'm not taking care of children who are not mine). I walked. No regrets, no looking back.
Last I heard, she snagged a research scientist of some kind as husband #3.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you're a genius alright.
@@beaudidly5347 It's a tough job, but somebody's gotta do it.
i'm getting back in the game after 5 years of grinding & keeping my goods dry, n my god its disappointing out here. I thought things were supposed to be different once I was 35+ with money, assets, good physical health, etc. -.- world's flooded with "sugar babies" & professional daters.
Get a passport go to the Philippines
You couldn’t have said it any better… CHEERS
@@scotttracy9333 Not into Filipina women unfortunately or that would be an option.
I agree...it's a mine field
Sweden, Ethiopia, Saudi Arabia.
If you don’t like Asians that covers all fields my friend.
Been there done that and fast forward now. It put a hurting on me but I survived. How I wish what I know now. Compare what I knew then.
OMG. A short version of the beginning. I’m interested in by the car of my dreams, it’s currently in the crusher but it’s only half crushed. It’s an amazing car and I’m torn as to what to do. 🤦♂️
All the obvious red flags aside.. she "attempted suicide" (for the second time) when you tried to break up with her. That has borderline personality disorder, covert narcissism, and general psychopathy written all over it.
Underrated comment.
BPD or NPD possibly but I wouldn’t say her behaviour points to psychopathy- that’s a whole different beast. Either way, she’s a psychological mess.
I can stop watching the video now. Thanks mate
Nailed it. BPD.
I was in a relationship very similar to this once the only difference being I was a child at the time.
This man and women describes my mother and step father. It fucked me up hard and I have paid a long and heavy price with my own mental illness.
I sure as heck have made my own mistakes too.
This woman in this story reminds me so much of my own mother…Run!
Hi Rich - 58 year old women here from NJ and I really enjoy your videos.
Hey man, I know this video was posted long ago but I had to tell you that I appreciate what your saying. I liked the reminder about listening to your inner voice… it’s easy to ignore, but then harder to deal with the fallout afterwards
I was in a very similar situation with a very similar woman. I ended up breaking up with her because of all the pressure to commit, and though I miss her, I know it was the right call. Like Rich says, trust your gut
Truth in its purest form 🔥🔥🔥
How old were u and how old was she?
@@mrmarkcima I was 39 and she was 32
Rich, even if this guy doesn't listen, there are others who will take what you said here to heart. You're saving lots of guys from making horrible mistakes .. love your content!!
What are those rings Rich Cooper has on his hands? I've been looking for the name so can buy them?
You are totally right Rich!
You summed it up my friend. He needs NOT obsses over this one woman.
If young guys only knew the value of this man spitting straight facts. Pls listen. Rich, you couldn't have said it any better. 💪
Straight out of the mouth of Jenny, "Run Forrest Run!"
Run! Run fast, run far.
knew a crazy lady like that. She attempted suicide because I would not marry her. Her shrink told me that I should play along and pretend to be in love with her and encourage her to continue therapy.
I asked, "How much of my life should I give up to hold her hand? Will she be safe to dump in 6-months? 1 year? 5 years? According to you, "I" must be miserable for all that time and give up my life for her, will you give me back that time? no.
ALWAYS!!!!! ALWAYS!!!!! ALWAYS!!!!!! Listen to your gut and get in tune with this feeling because you will learn to use it in relationships, friendships business or any interactions you have when it involves people. I cannot think of an example in my almost 50 years on this planet where my gut intuition has wronged me.
I'm starting to think some men love Chaos just like women.
Well, I have to agree on that subject, I recall an relationship expert pointing out a while back, why men gets involved with bad girls,? Well he equates it to when they were young boys would play with firecrackers, anticipate for the explosion, the rush of it excitement from the boom, until there's miscalculation and well....not so pretty outcome.
OMG, he already knows what to do. Just needs to confirm it with the world.
He didn't click with her. She's playing him to get that seed planted then she'll change. Run Forest Run!
How can guys type out these emails and not immediate realize they’re playing with fire and are on the cusp of ruining their life with these women?
No self worth
Its not easy being an average looking dude and the top 20% of dudes knock up 2-3 women and bounce each time. To be fair, the women might be trying to baby trap him but that is why the lower rung guys get desperate for scraps. Hookup culture has destroyed an entire generation of people.
yeah man that's what I wonder about aswell.
I mean I get it most things are parked in your unconcious, but as soon as you start collecting the facts and write this later you should go like "Oh wow, god damn"
matriarchal society
Too much sex makes you silly! He has been love bombed with daily sex! Sometimes morning and night if she’s very crafty it will make it look like genuine desire much more than if she shoves him a away in the morning or refuses even a little cuddle in that initial honeymoon stage of the first months to 18 months it will give away that she doesn’t really desire him. Maybe she cannot desire anyone for long only in love with her own image like narcissist himself only their reflection matters.
With her for 15 years, went downhill after she had all the kids, family court/divorce took all my shit off me. Worked 20 years to end up broke and no meaningful access to my kids. Remember - life isn’t fair. So if you think “we’ll just split everything 50/50 if it goes wrong” let me assure you that has about zero chance of happening. I got left with all the debt and she got all the equity - not quite the fair split I hoped for!
It’s amazing how they are uninterested in finances until divorce then you find out it’s an accountant
@@dixonyaarmouf4630 she managed to get her legal team to convince a judge to give me the debts and her the equity. After the judge started lecturing me on they were very well versed in financially complex cases. I got raped…
@@lifeisbetterwithj I believe it, common. Maybe best to think of it as tax for believing in a scam as well as trash removal. Expensive lesson and wasted time
@@dixonyaarmouf4630 you think the wedding is pricey, boy try divorce 😂
People marching into the slaughterhouse daily man, unless you are aware 100% of female nature then you’re doomed. Even then I can’t see the benefits of marriage. If you want her to shut up and stop nagging then just man up and say so or withdraw attention, 4billion others out there ready to take her place.
Even 50/50 isn't. I got 50/50 custody, but I still have to pay my ex child support, have him on my insurance, and will be paying for college.
RUN DUDE RUN!!!!
I have to say that you are the "KING" when it comes to giving relationship advise. I sure hope this guy listens,
The odds of this relationship being a long term success is zero.
I dated a girl when I was 26 and she was 32. I had enough "fun" with her. She was quite toxic and I never tried to tolerate that. She couldn't deal with me being very logical and not going along with her manipulations. She was crazy and thankfully she decided to break up with me in about 3 months.
I dated a 32 year old when I was 21... she was horny and fun, but at the time she seemed old af to me, and there was no way I wanted a LTR with her. She's in her 50s now, and judging by her FB pics I made the right decision.
So you used her for fun? No wonder she ended up with issues.
@@spicypepper4320 Yeah right. Surely a few months of smashing is the root of her problems at 32
@@VPortho yea that definitely is what caused all her problems in life hahaha
Need to keep the D away from Crazy P doesn't matter if she hot hot body run away
There is no better advice in this world than "don't complicate your life".
This scenario is just a headache waiting to happen.
The challenge is to not let your emotion rationalize your mind set to "I see the problems but I can make it work", "I see the problems but she is different", "I see the problems but she is working with me through them" we all have these thoughts and maybe 1 in a thousand of a situation like this has a happy ending but the numbers are not good.
Why play the bad odds when you can have favorable odds on the same trade. Time and energy are finite use as wisely as you can.
All the best to the guy involved.
Thank you Rich Cooper your content is great.
@Tony: You're a good man. I normally don't chime in, but moved to give my thanks and encourage others to do the right thing.
Not only tired of our Asian communities being preyed upon... tired of crime and lawlessness period.
Keep up the vigilance brother! Be safe and well...
Respect,
Brother in North CA
Thanks for telling the masses what I've been telling other young men who have been contemplating submitting in the same situation. Just go sit in the back of family court for one hour/one day before you think about committing to either marriage, or having a child with anyone. Men (and women) need to do that as well as pre-marital counseling before they consider getting hitched. Men especially need to do it as a reminder of what could await them when things go pear shaped.
My ex had the worst baby fever I have ever seen. We were together 4 months and she started hounding me for a kid. I thought it was not that big of a deal, she'd listen to reason and want to wait for things to progress. I bought a house and was going to let her live with me (big mistake, I know) after that point she thought she had me hook line and sinker and the demands started coming. One puppy, two puppies, getting her IUD out so she could get pregnant as soon as we moved in together, we had been together 8 months and that point I'd seen enough.
Need to sit her down and press the "eject" button for her to get her out of your life.
They get you on the hook, they often want the baby next. Never get a LTR if you are not wanting a kid because If they are under the age of 40 and childless, they will want someone to give em one usually. It just takes them the time for that Alarm Clock to start ringing.
Rich is right, don't let her problems become your problem
Yeah, that much drama and baggage in this chick better off to bail!!
Great video. Subscribed.
The video couldve ended in the first minute of you reading when he said she tried to end her life when he tried to break up with her. If she is willing to do that to keep you in her life then she would be willing to hold your kids life against you. Once you give her more power over you do you think she wont abuse it? Also, that is a form of abuse to threaten violence, even against themselves, to make you stay with them.
When the list of problems and issues goes past one or two minor ones, just run the other way. We all have issues but they should be minimal at a certain age for sure. This goes for men and women alike.
I read Rich's book. (If you haven't highly recommend it) He's got 20 red flags to look out for in women. My rule is if they have more than 2 of those, it's a no. My ex had 6 out of 20
I had a car that was the same way. Looked good and enjoyed driving but engine was going and trans was slipping. Sold it.
My Mexican grandmother would gaze out her window and tell me of the world. I learned to look out the window with her to see what triggered her random ramblings. She said an older woman either dresses up saints (makes clothing for the saints all Mexican families have on the mantle) or they become hoar-s. ( Se hacen putas or visten santos). As a young boy I didn't really understand what she was saying most of the time...but it stuck. It all came together for me when dad took me on his annual visit to his Korean war buddy's house. We went every year to pick apples from a tree that grew in front of his house. One particular year even I noticed that the tree was loaded down with a fantastic amount of apples. Even dad commented to his friend. The guy said, Yeah...its on its swan song. I didn't know what he meant. When we returned the following year the tree was dead. So...if I understood it all correctly, older women become very loose because they're trying to pop just one more child. It's THEIR swan song. Grandma and Dad...thank you for all the wisdom and RIP.