Another thing that makes it easier to approach from my experience is to not take it seriously. If you have the mindset of just having fun rather than treating it like a test, you’ll find that confidence and ability to be yourself since there’s no pressure at all
@@nordic24 you can’t just switch your mindset like they’re clothes, the best way to change your mindset is to do actions that correlate to the mindset you’re willing to adopt and the more actions and overall experience, your mindset will naturally adapt. So it really comes down to taking action.
bro your analogies are TOP TIER . god has truly gifted you with the ability to communicate and deliver , and we need more brothas like you in the world . keep inspiring the future , i wish it was youtubers like you around when i was in high school !
1. Presentable (look, smell good) 2. Confident (posture etc) 3. Polite (talk about things right here, right now, don't linger) 4. Setup the next interaction
man its tough being 27 and not being able to open up to people when its literally the most important thing I miss in my life.. I've missed on so many people who I could've been connecting with so far, it's deeply saddening.
Well the time is here & now ,just do it like he said in the beginning of the video they prob just as nervous ,we learn thru trial and error ,we got this 🙌
It’s like facing a fear you have to constantly force yourself to do it. Start with little things that annoy you and other people and find common ground on it.
How to approach people: 1. Find a person. 2. Go up to them. 3. Communicate (words and body language are communication. Congrats, you just approached a person! Give yourself a cookie and a pat on the back.
@@lilliannevillanueva1101 The silly answer: If you go up to someone and do the absolute bullshit you thought you could never do, like idk, make bird noises or whatever, and realize you're able to and no one's beating you up for it you get more headspace to think of what you want to say anyway. The more normal answer: Smalltalk usually starts with something about the situation you're both in. A lot of the time you can literally just ask why people are here (what they like about wherever you are, where they're going or what fits the situation), it gives you context which us useful if you know literally nothing. Not knowing shit about the other person is exactly the thing, the other person doesn't know anything about you as well, so you don't need super elaborate specific stuff imo, like why overcomplicate it? And later you can just ask/talk about what media you/they like or what interests they/you have.
RUclips knows i needed this, as a teenager i was social and liked people, then covid came and i got used to no social interaction (I was 19 at the time and now just turned 23) i really wanna change it cause life is passing by and i haven't enjoyed it since covid Thank you for this video bro❤
it’s been 2 years since i graduated HS and i haven’t really had no social interaction fr to make new friends and meaningful connections with people my age, i’m changing that this year because i don’t want to waste my 20’s doing this anymore. 😭
Approaching people may seem difficult at first, but with practice, it becomes easier. To approach someone, make sure you are presentable and confident. Have a plan and know what you want from the interaction. Make a genuine connection and avoid coming on too strong. Use relative objects or events to start a conversation. Ask open-ended questions and listen to the person. Set up future interactions and leave a lasting impression.
Your videos are like therapy, man! They're so relaxing and calming, they really help me unwind after a long day. It's like I'm getting a little mental massage every time I watch one of your videos. Thanks for making them!
Shimon, I’ve been watching your channel recently. From what I’ve seen this is exactly what I was looking for. I love the realness of your videos, and the ideas that you have helped me realize a lot of ideas that I’ve never thought about myself. I always love the quality you bring to each each video; the way you speak, and the words you choose, it speaks volumes. Thank you so much
Hey I’m 14 right now I’ve started watching your videos recently and it’s helped a lot. I don’t really ask for help and that I can’t talk to people not even my mom. Thanks to you it’s been easy to talk to my family and friends. I’m glad there is somebody here to talk to people who can help people that really need.
"You dont wanna be crusty. You dont wanna be musty. 'Cause if you any of that, go back home and start over it is not your turn buddy" Gotta hang that up somewhere that got me dead 😭
i absolutely love your vids man. the original points, the humor and stuff. ngl, the quality we got from your vids is like youre already a 1mil youtuber. Considering the growth youre getting, im already gonna say congrats bro, you'll prolly reach 100k very soon.
I loved this video, so down to earth. You are definitely right about about the over-validating thing. It's nice to compliment people, but it can be super uncomfy to be put on a pedestal, and treating someone like your below them constantly makes it really hard for them to see you as an equal after a while. You're absolutely beautiful btw
I’m so happy he mentioned “lingering around.” I often question myself about this anytime I begin to feel this ‘nuisance’ type of energy, which by then I’m thinking I’ve stayed too long🙃…
eye contact is very important! not only is it respectful and get you more points, you’ll be able to read the persons body language by looking at them. sometimes people’s words don’t match their body language so it’s important to catch that.
I’ve been wanting to approach this girl for a while now and many of the videos I’ve seen have just not clicked with me. Shimon davis you have actually helped me with understanding and being confident thank you so much 🙏 🙏
Just from watching this video made me want to be friends with you. I don’t know what it is but something about your aura and your personality and voice and laugh that is eerily attracting almost like a siren song. Thanks for the amazing video I binged them while in class with nothing better to do.
The more you practise, the easier it gets. It's like playing the guitar. At first you have no clue what you're doing and you're nervous to play it since you can't think of anything to play that you know. But after practise and learning more songs, you'll be confident. You'll have complete control since you know what you're doing. Same goes for humans and communication. Practise, Practise, Practise.
You know man, you give better messages and perspectives than any professional ive ever talked to, all your videos have significantly improved my day to day life, and for that i thank you. If i was helped everyone can improve life for the better 🙂
I cant help but think if you watch Julian Blanc or not because this advice is pristine when it comes to letting go and stuff, keep up the good shit my guy
bro, im rlly thankful for your videos man. i am trying to talk to a girl at school but i was too nervous so i was waiting for the perfect moment and every time i approached her something pulled me back and i couldn't. I am corrently getting the final courage to go talk to her. your videos are rlly helping me out man, thanks!
Crazy thing is, I’ve had this same problem and I haven’t been able to figure it out, n I’ve been hella hard on myself. I’m not a signs typa person but the angel wings you did at the end of the video It use to be my signature gesture,😂 I was like Yuhh this the one. Nxt thing ik we got the same birthday. But on a real note this video was helpful keep up the good work
Brother I’ve been watching this video on repeat. My friends have been pushing me to approach girls at the mall, they do it with ease and do it in the way you’re explaining but I overthink it. I tried approaching a girl and it went bad, I lingered too much like you were saying, but I’m glade I finally did it. I’m gonna keep trying every weekend and take what you’re saying into consideration, thanks for this
There is this girl in my class and she looks and sometimes gives eye contact to me quite often and I have a good feeling that she likes me which I also like her back now. But I also feel like at other times I am being delusional and maybe she doesn’t like me. However, I feel like she is giving me signals to go up and talk to her because she probably is a shy person. I’m definitely going to try and talk to her soon but also don’t really know how to start off.
as someone who graduated school, go talk to her. if she’s not interested it’s way more girls out there that is plus HS feels like a memory that never really happened so take all the risk love! and you can start off by simply saying Hey and smiling and soon you’ll gather the courage to talk more.
gonna try and talk to this girl before Christmas break. Though I’m scared she doesn’t even want a boy as a friend or anything I still wanted to take a shot at her, thanks for making this vid it made me smile and gave me some confidence :)))(I’m stressing things don’t go bad tomorrow)anyways thanks man man
@@ahotperson3979 it was horrible, I didn’t even go that day because of personal issues and family issues so that day was miserable and when I went back she switched schools so it didn’t go the way I wanted. Now it’s been three months and nothing has changed still lonely (sorry for being so late I forgot all about this comment)
@@ahotperson3979 thanks for taking your time to respond and the kind words glad someone cares, but for now I might just remain alone even tho being alone bothers me very much accepting the fact I won’t experience teenage romance(I’m almost 18 and have never had a hug, held a hand or kissed) but it’s rlly fine thx for caring :)) man man
The lack of communication has gotten ridiculous. Every single time I'm out in public, I love approaching as many people as possible. I can have conversations for 10-20 minutes on average, but sometimes 45 min to an hour or more. The longest random conversation I had was about 3 hours at the post office. When people are pumping gas, that's typically a captive audiance for 5-10 minutes. Young, elderly, male, female, couples. People seem Starved for connection...so I love to Encourage people.
“If you treat her like a celebrity, she gon treat you like a fan”.
Some men do without knowing it. Can't blame them
This one’s so true🙏🏼🙏🏼
real
@@thenewjord50 thats why we need self improvement to always be in our masculine frame and soundly minded
word
Another thing that makes it easier to approach from my experience is to not take it seriously. If you have the mindset of just having fun rather than treating it like a test, you’ll find that confidence and ability to be yourself since there’s no pressure at all
How do you even let one mindset go, and get another?
This is the blockade I have with almost everything
@@nordic24 you can’t just switch your mindset like they’re clothes, the best way to change your mindset is to do actions that correlate to the mindset you’re willing to adopt and the more actions and overall experience, your mindset will naturally adapt. So it really comes down to taking action.
@@youngdepp Oh, thats my problem. Now it makes sense, thanks.
@@nordic24 no problem, we’re all learning here
What’s the background music called
bro your analogies are TOP TIER . god has truly gifted you with the ability to communicate and deliver , and we need more brothas like you in the world . keep inspiring the future , i wish it was youtubers like you around when i was in high school !
Much love to you g
Facts he giving top info 🔥
FORRRR REALLLL THO
1. Presentable (look, smell good)
2. Confident (posture etc)
3. Polite (talk about things right here, right now, don't linger)
4. Setup the next interaction
word
This man rizzing me up from another continent
"Oh you like water too? thats crazy me too, whats your favoorite flavour? naa you should buy me some for a week!!"
man its tough being 27 and not being able to open up to people when its literally the most important thing I miss in my life.. I've missed on so many people who I could've been connecting with so far, it's deeply saddening.
Broo never get discouraged! You cant give up
Im in the same predicament bro but as long as you make a conscious effort its never too late to start
Well the time is here & now ,just do it like he said in the beginning of the video they prob just as nervous ,we learn thru trial and error ,we got this 🙌
Dude I'm 28 and I relate so hard to bro.
It’s like facing a fear you have to constantly force yourself to do it. Start with little things that annoy you and other people and find common ground on it.
approaching people is easy but appeoaching a girl you like/crush is a whole another level
m.ruclips.net/video/uZdv-TtiMkg/видео.html
How to approach people:
1. Find a person.
2. Go up to them.
3. Communicate (words and body language are communication.
Congrats, you just approached a person!
Give yourself a cookie and a pat on the back.
☠️
Yeah but wtf do i say to start talking like can someone give me an example to start a convo and from there I’m good 😂
@@lilliannevillanueva1101 The silly answer: If you go up to someone and do the absolute bullshit you thought you could never do, like idk, make bird noises or whatever, and realize you're able to and no one's beating you up for it you get more headspace to think of what you want to say anyway.
The more normal answer: Smalltalk usually starts with something about the situation you're both in. A lot of the time you can literally just ask why people are here (what they like about wherever you are, where they're going or what fits the situation), it gives you context which us useful if you know literally nothing. Not knowing shit about the other person is exactly the thing, the other person doesn't know anything about you as well, so you don't need super elaborate specific stuff imo, like why overcomplicate it? And later you can just ask/talk about what media you/they like or what interests they/you have.
@@toni2309 thank you man love you ❤️
Bro’s conversation skills smoother than my bald uncle’s head ✨
😂
RUclips knows i needed this, as a teenager i was social and liked people, then covid came and i got used to no social interaction (I was 19 at the time and now just turned 23) i really wanna change it cause life is passing by and i haven't enjoyed it since covid
Thank you for this video bro❤
Same age as you bro 😊
Same
it’s been 2 years since i graduated HS and i haven’t really had no social interaction fr to make new friends and meaningful connections with people my age, i’m changing that this year because i don’t want to waste my 20’s doing this anymore. 😭
I relate to this so much. You’re not alone & we got this . I hope you made at least a few good friends by now after watching 😊
Approaching people may seem difficult at first, but with practice, it becomes easier. To approach someone, make sure you are presentable and confident. Have a plan and know what you want from the interaction. Make a genuine connection and avoid coming on too strong. Use relative objects or events to start a conversation. Ask open-ended questions and listen to the person. Set up future interactions and leave a lasting impression.
*it's not that hard, the most important thing is willing to put yourself in a vulnerable position. that's it.*
I felt the stress growing in my head throughout the video already
Ur going places broo. Underrated vid 💪💪🙏
Appreciate that
Your videos are like therapy, man! They're so relaxing and calming, they really help me unwind after a long day. It's like I'm getting a little mental massage every time I watch one of your videos. Thanks for making them!
Shimon, I’ve been watching your channel recently. From what I’ve seen this is exactly what I was looking for. I love the realness of your videos, and the ideas that you have helped me realize a lot of ideas that I’ve never thought about myself. I always love the quality you bring to each each video; the way you speak, and the words you choose, it speaks volumes. Thank you so much
Hey I’m 14 right now I’ve started watching your videos recently and it’s helped a lot. I don’t really ask for help and that I can’t talk to people not even my mom. Thanks to you it’s been easy to talk to my family and friends. I’m glad there is somebody here to talk to people who can help people that really need.
"You dont wanna be crusty. You dont wanna be musty. 'Cause if you any of that, go back home and start over it is not your turn buddy"
Gotta hang that up somewhere that got me dead 😭
i absolutely love your vids man. the original points, the humor and stuff. ngl, the quality we got from your vids is like youre already a 1mil youtuber. Considering the growth youre getting, im already gonna say congrats bro, you'll prolly reach 100k very soon.
I’ve always been introverted but imma make an effort to get out of my bubble more this year
I loved this video, so down to earth. You are definitely right about about the over-validating thing. It's nice to compliment people, but it can be super uncomfy to be put on a pedestal, and treating someone like your below them constantly makes it really hard for them to see you as an equal after a while. You're absolutely beautiful btw
I’m so happy he mentioned “lingering around.” I often question myself about this anytime I begin to feel this ‘nuisance’ type of energy, which by then I’m thinking I’ve stayed too long🙃…
eye contact is very important! not only is it respectful and get you more points, you’ll be able to read the persons body language by looking at them. sometimes people’s words don’t match their body language so it’s important to catch that.
Dude, you're saving my life from a burden! Thanks. And also i would like to say that you've a got a very vibrant appeal and also a kind heart!
I’ve been wanting to approach this girl for a while now and many of the videos I’ve seen have just not clicked with me. Shimon davis you have actually helped me with understanding and being confident thank you so much 🙏 🙏
your way of speaking is so calming bro i could listen to your shit for hours
this man is majestic ong
Just from watching this video made me want to be friends with you. I don’t know what it is but something about your aura and your personality and voice and laugh that is eerily attracting almost like a siren song. Thanks for the amazing video I binged them while in class with nothing better to do.
Your vids are legit more enjoyable than other social skills videos out there. Lovin this!
The more you practise, the easier it gets. It's like playing the guitar. At first you have no clue what you're doing and you're nervous to play it since you can't think of anything to play that you know. But after practise and learning more songs, you'll be confident. You'll have complete control since you know what you're doing. Same goes for humans and communication. Practise, Practise, Practise.
Bro you kinda jus saved my life this whole year.😭♥️ All The Motivation an information was jus great.🙏💯
Just getting yourself to say them first words is the biggest hurdle, but good stuff man, thank you!
i really wish this was available when i was in high school bro thanks for this
The first line alone got me, "get out of your head"
So basically start off as if you are beginning a friendship. Don’t express interest in a serious relationship at the first interaction💀
You know man, you give better messages and perspectives than any professional ive ever talked to, all your videos have significantly improved my day to day life, and for that i thank you. If i was helped everyone can improve life for the better 🙂
I cant help but think if you watch Julian Blanc or not because this advice is pristine when it comes to letting go and stuff, keep up the good shit my guy
Good shit man, something I struggle with but it’s not as big as I make it. Keep it up.
Be a garden gardens attract butterflies that’s beautiful man
Man you're so chill I love your videos. Keep it up
I just found your page and your video really helped me see things from a different perspective 🙌🏽
the jabs part made me subscribe
Thanks you help me be more confident ❤️
bro, im rlly thankful for your videos man. i am trying to talk to a girl at school but i was too nervous so i was waiting for the perfect moment and every time i approached her something pulled me back and i couldn't. I am corrently getting the final courage to go talk to her. your videos are rlly helping me out man, thanks!
How did it go
i watched this all the way thru, the way you talk about things is really engaging
Thank you my g
Great dude. Great content. Keep em coming
bro I will thank god that you exist you are great, keep it up
this high-key gon save me bruh thanks man this sum good stuff
💯💯
Shimon Davis for president 2024
Thank you for everything brother❤
People won't always remember what you say, but they will always remember how you made them feel. Stay kind❤
Ima use this 100% hope you do good in the future
U too smooth with it🔥🙏
Bro I needed this, thank you 🙏🏼💯
Any time
Lesson learned, thank you sir😁
No worries!
Lots of good advice, thanks bro
Thanks alot man, this vid gave me alot of motivation , appreciate it
-have yaself together
-read and pay attention
-have a purpose in life, don't chase ( for men, they will chase you...)
This prince helped a kenyan shy boy
Thanks bro
thanks for the tips they're actually good not like those others which tell you to become rude to her and sh will remember you
bro your content is so good, new sub
Really happy I came across your channel ❤
As a woman, this guy knows what he’s talking about. That’s how my man rizzes me up every time haha
Crazy thing is, I’ve had this same problem and I haven’t been able to figure it out, n I’ve been hella hard on myself. I’m not a signs typa person but the angel wings you did at the end of the video It use to be my signature gesture,😂 I was like Yuhh this the one. Nxt thing ik we got the same birthday. But on a real note this video was helpful keep up the good work
Brother I’ve been watching this video on repeat. My friends have been pushing me to approach girls at the mall, they do it with ease and do it in the way you’re explaining but I overthink it. I tried approaching a girl and it went bad, I lingered too much like you were saying, but I’m glade I finally did it. I’m gonna keep trying every weekend and take what you’re saying into consideration, thanks for this
Love your videos man ♥. haven't found a channel so relatable like yours
thank you for the support
favorite Chanel atm ,please keep gods creation as background song imo its the best
It’s the perfect vibe and I appreciate you💯
Thanks bro
I love this dude
Underrated chill dude
Thanks to this, I got her snap. You truly do help people out here.
Good advice brother 👍
Keep on going, you gonna blow up frfr!!
Thanks for the advice man. Appreciate it man
Any time!
Thanks for helping man
dude be fixing my entire life in 10 minutes
thank you man you helping more than you could ever know could you do a vid on how to keep furthering things and building your garden?
Sure thing!
There is this girl in my class and she looks and sometimes gives eye contact to me quite often and I have a good feeling that she likes me which I also like her back now. But I also feel like at other times I am being delusional and maybe she doesn’t like me. However, I feel like she is giving me signals to go up and talk to her because she probably is a shy person. I’m definitely going to try and talk to her soon but also don’t really know how to start off.
as someone who graduated school, go talk to her. if she’s not interested it’s way more girls out there that is plus HS feels like a memory that never really happened so take all the risk love! and you can start off by simply saying Hey and smiling and soon you’ll gather the courage to talk more.
@@marieedean7981 alright, thank you 🙏
I’m also stuck 1 week of school left and I don’t l ow what to do
I was needing to listen to this
🔥🔥🔥your channel is gonna grow tremendously
Thank you ❤
I actually subscribed
2:30 me when I approach people 😂
gonna try and talk to this girl before Christmas break. Though I’m scared she doesn’t even want a boy as a friend or anything I still wanted to take a shot at her, thanks for making this vid it made me smile and gave me some confidence :)))(I’m stressing things don’t go bad tomorrow)anyways thanks man man
Not to pry, but are there any updates? ✨
How did it go bro
@@ahotperson3979 it was horrible, I didn’t even go that day because of personal issues and family issues so that day was miserable and when I went back she switched schools so it didn’t go the way I wanted. Now it’s been three months and nothing has changed still lonely (sorry for being so late I forgot all about this comment)
@@gothgirlbathwater it's okay, life is unpredictable, not your fault. And I know that you will find someone. Take your time buddy 😎
@@ahotperson3979 thanks for taking your time to respond and the kind words glad someone cares, but for now I might just remain alone even tho being alone bothers me very much accepting the fact I won’t experience teenage romance(I’m almost 18 and have never had a hug, held a hand or kissed) but it’s rlly fine thx for caring :)) man man
Why is he actually giving me confidence to talk to my crush? I love your videos man, keep up the work.
I love you fam
@@AskShimon Love you too, man. I’m just really trying to work on my social skills n stuff, your videos are really helping.
one minute in and already subscribed
"She might have a jacket on" surprised me in a good way lol
I wanna play in his hair. It’s so pretty
Listening to you is like meditation 😂😂😂
Thank u bro 🙏
youtube sent me a stray ngl ☠️ (i fucked up today)
hey i really like the quality of the video very high i was wondering what camera is this?
حريقة 🎉
Aside from your mildly bad english, this vid helped me ALOT. Instantly created a good relationship w/ crush. may have lingered tho idk
Lucky
nice video bro, greetings from Brazil
that black man spills the truth👏
Preciate u bro
i'm now subscribed
The lack of communication has gotten ridiculous.
Every single time I'm out in public, I love approaching as many people as possible. I can have conversations for 10-20 minutes on average, but sometimes 45 min to an hour or more. The longest random conversation I had was about 3 hours at the post office.
When people are pumping gas, that's typically a captive audiance for 5-10 minutes. Young, elderly, male, female, couples.
People seem Starved for connection...so I love to Encourage people.