Hair JEALOUSY! How to know if someone is jealous or envious of your hair
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I have long natural coily hair. When I compliment those with beautiful short kinky hair, they look surprised. We need to embrace our natural hair at every length.
true!
Instead of being jealous, people could use that energy to take down notes & work on their hair being healthy or long. Jealousy is a waste of time when anyone can achieve what they want. It just takes time, effort, & work. Some people just don’t want to put the work in 🤷🏽♀️. If you find yourself being jealous & saying rude things to people out of spite without putting the work in, then respectfully close that hole that’s on your face.
true..
sometimes people cant achieve what others have. The goal should be contentment and self acceptance and not trying to achieve everything youre jealous of because sometimes you cant for many reasons.
So true! One day I was wearing my natural hair straighten in a ponytail. One of my friends complimented me on how beautiful and long it looked. Then my sister (yes, my sister) interrupted her and said : “it’s broken in the nape anyways”. I completely forgot about this memory but your video brought it back lol. I can also relate to the time thing 😅. One day I had somebody tell me : “you have long hair because you stay at home all day” and I was like yes but I work too, I’m an entrepreneur. Then she was like : “yes but I have a real job outside, with a lot of things to do”. Okay so my hair is long because I have nothing to do, gotcha 🤣✅
Omg, the nerve of some people! 🤦🏽♀️
sis! o was told am retaining long hair because I was pregnant at the time. sometimes it comes from the most unexpected people in the most unexpected way and at the most unexpected time. why is it so important that the nape was broken? the hair was still long and beautiful so why not focus on the positive? I got told once my hair is long but full of split ends 😅
ha! Why coulnd't she just say, how do you grow it long? Ask for advice is okay, lol.
Girl I understand. I don't always wear my afro out but 1 day in particular when my hair got longer (past my shoulders) My mother was giving me compliments then a few days after when I had to wash my hair she told me about my mop head...sight 🤦🏾♀️ btw I have 4c hair and she has 4b
If you want to know "hair jealousy", visit a salon. Those stylists come from hell for sure. My hair has always been past shoulder length and as a result, I have suffered under their care over the years. So I stopped going to them. I started doing my hair and went natural even before I knew the natural movement was a thing. Now that I have grown my hair longer, they will NEVER touch it. The last time I went to a salon they told me I needed to cut off half my length. And they called that a trim.
After I had my son I went to the hair salon to get my hair done. My whole pregnancy, I kept my hair in a bun, just wanted it to look nice. During my pregnancy my hair had literally grown to waist length. The stylist had me in the salon all day. She said she was going to make my hair look really nice. She cut my hair to shoulder, straighten it, giving me a mushroom hairstyle. I had to restyle my hair because it looked so crazy. I was young at the time, in the early 1990’s. That would not happen now.
@@lola0600 😭😭😭😭😭😭
That’s CRAZY!
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I choked on my water at the stares lol. My bf mom was blown away when i wore my hair in an afro for a vacation. Shes a blk woman with a whit husband. She didnt have a good perception of natural hair due to her experiences. She was all over my because she loved that my hair was thick. I've NEVER SEEN HER REAL HAIR, but she told me her hair is thin. She told me she would love to have my hair thickness. Its like i get bownie points just for having it out.
I have thick natural hair and my sister had thinner natural hair but she almost NEVER wears it out. I’m not gonna lie but having thicker hair (that some people complain about handling when styling it/maintaining) helps your self confidence… like when you put it in an Afro, etc. my thick hair helps me cover up a bad haircut. My sis doesn’t really like her hair and having thinner hair doesn’t help her case but I wish she embrace it and take more care of it. Then, she will learn to love it.
I hope she was inspired more than anything…
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Thanks for sharing this! I think it’s so important to have these conversations
The stares gets me. I’m honestly sick of it. 🤣🤣🤣
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Not only do our people do this but also other non black people do it. I live around mostly white and hawaiana people and they will dig in my hair touch my hair and even smell my hair without asking me. I just don’t understand it. I have never went up to a stranger and started touching them. So intrusive.
I'm sorry but if I were you I would totally do it right back to them. Let them see just how awkward and nasty it is to have someones hands feel them up without their permission.. Lol 😏
wow 😮! no respect for personal space huh??🤔
🤪🤣🤣! things i don’t know them and how clean/ dirty their hair is so digging into theirs is not exactly my cup of tea😬
@@CoilyDiaries I hear ya. Good point. Lol
Another one underline jealousy tactic to me is when they say “girl if I had hair like you” or “I wish I had hair like you it gives me a cringe 😂
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I don't think those people are jealous. They are people who genuinely feel that they could never retain long hair. They see you as a unicorn.
What bothered me most is when your hair is flourishing and is long that people think that you are either mixed or it’s only genetically. I am working on my hair to receive your length. Thank you for informative content.
Great point! keep at it! your hair will get there ❤️
Yes!! I hate the “genetics” argument. They only say it if you’re black. I love how there are African ladies online defeating that harmful ideology.
i have very dense hair and have had aunties who i have never seen their natural hair all my life tell me i have too much hair. Its so strange because how can i have too much when this is what God gave me. At my last job i had a male co worker who loved my hair and would always come to me for advice for his daughters hair. One day he suggested a woman wear her natural hair "like brandi". I wish he didnt say that because it caused so much problems surrounding my hair. That for the last 6 months of my job i wore it in twist or buns. If she wants to wear wigs thats her right. He should have never compared us. I will say she did start wearing her own hair. It was relaxed but i will say she looked way more beautiful with her own hair.
wow that’s an odd comment. men are really blunt about what they like and he probably didn’t mean ill at all.
😂 love this. I had someone say, I didn't expect your hair to be long😂. I find the best way to deal with poor behaviour from others is just to disengage. Become a master at ignoring bad vibes...too much goodness to focus on🥰.
Let them get jealous until they grow up, too 😂
good strategy but I struggle. am either so shocked I have no response to them or say the most unexpected 😅🙆🏽♀️
@@CoilyDiaries same
It’s sad but true! I showed up to a family gathering with my hair looking longer, thicker and healthier than it’s ever been. One of my relatives starting suggesting product lines I should try. Now clearly what I was doing was working so why all the suggestions?? I think it was because she thought my hair shouldn’t look as good as it did! 😆
straaaaaangeeee!!😬
That’s so crazy my little sister she is 16 has almost butt length hair and when we are around family trust I’m her bodyguard with family because I see scisssors or a knife anything that can cut I’m going in lbvs
This is a tactic I've seen my aunt do. I want to research what this behavior is called but it's basically like the person giving the advice is trying to elevate themselves and remind you that you still need improvement or your hair isn't even that great, as in, it's not at a healthy point. This is to be demeaning as if you still noticeably had damage or something to work on when clearly you are thriving but it's impossible for people like this to say that out of their mouth. They want to hold the power and if they recognize your greatness, to them they lose it.
@victoriasvibesss YES!!!! Girl I think you nailed it! She has a looser texture and has always been considered to have “good” hair, therefore the nicest. Ha ha, you nailed it! 👏💜
I remember that my mother used to tell me don’t let anyone put their hands in your hair and I noticed that a lot of people would try to feel my hair when I was a child my mother always put my hair into two braids I didn’t understand it at that time but I know understand .
your mama is wise!❤️
This was my dad. Protecting my head and warmed me to avoid people touching my head. Now I understand
wow, yea, others hands carry energy. indigenous standz has a video touching on this, it's worth the watch.
Yes I’m scared to go to any hair dresser they make it worse !! Last time I went to get my braids done I had my hair in jumbo twist the lady took the ends and ripped it !!! I heard the rip!! All she had to do is take her time to pull out the ends !!! And had the nerve to tell me my hair is breaking !
I do also always compliment other black woman whether it be their outfits their hair I love us I think we are some of the most beautiful and amazing women not that other women are not but we are not usually complimented as much as, from my experience.
Absolutely sis ❤️
I've gotten all these comments and so many more....the hate is mostly from my own family😂....my sister even went ahead to yank a hair strand that i was asking if it was in the right place as i did my hair cause i couldn't see😢
so sad!!!
@@CoilyDiarieswe need a part 2 please😂
Don’t forget “ your hair looks like a Brillo pad” lol the ultimate jealousy 😂😂😂😂😂😂
ahhaha right?😆
Right
I also always got do you have something else in you like I couldn’t have that much hair and just be black!! I had to be mixed 🤨
yeeeeeeesssss!!!! forgot that one!!
Its on my head its my hair....period!!! And no you cant touch it!😅😅😅
This journey is not fir the faint hearted. Thanks for sharing this difficult topic.❤🎉
Exactly!! it should be straight forward but but not for everyone I guess 😞
I remember years ago when I had relaxed hair. A lady could not believe it was my real hair so she massaged my hair from the back feeling to see I it not a weave. Thank God I don't have to gift of jealousy lol. I admire other people I hair happy for them not jealous.
Oh wow! Jealousy is no gift hun!🙄😅
@CoilyDiaries yes I know, but people are so good in it.
I reckon there is a "Tall Poppy Syndrome" amongst us women in the natural hair community or women within communities where afro type hair is prominent. We have believed and have been taught that our hair doesn't grow and isn't "good hair" 💔. So perhaps for some, when they see hair out of the norm, their reaction is to thwart it so it can conform to the "norm." It's sad because a little curiosity has the ability to change so much!
I personally admire your hair and hope to grow healthier hair by following your tips, I'm just not consistent nor patient, the stagnant length is all me, I'm claiming my "L" 😂
That’s a great point! wanting the “norm” to continue and sometimes it’s a subconscious reaction. girl the lazy natural routine is it for claiming your “L”
Yes, I have certainly experienced some of these types of statements and actions. The comment that bothers me most is when people say things like, "How did you get your hair to grow that long? Oh, you must be mixed!" It's as though they absolutely cancel out the fact that I've taken good care of my hair. The funny thing is that most of the time the person saying these things has a similar type 4 texture to mine.🤣🤷♀
true..
We definitely have to uplift each other ❤
true!
“Your hair looks like so much work. I wouldn’t be able to deal with all that.”
sooooo salty girl!!! your hair is a dream! I can imagine the amount of let downs you get for having that gift! I for one have learnt so much from you and loooove your hair! been meaning to reach out for a consult/ collab! I think it would be great ❤️❤️❤️
All of this! I had a stylist rip through my hair detangling, give me a puffy af blowout, then try to claim that a third of my bra strap length hair was damaged and needed to be cut. The way I noped outta there 😮💨
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People staring at your hair: Bombastic Side- Eye 👀
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You look beautiful hun.
Thank you so much 🤗
Mrs. You had me laughing 🤣 and Amening and shaking my head throughout this video.
When a hamitic woman sees my long hair and slighly looks for wefts to see if it's my real hair 😫 😩
When will the madness end,Lord!?
You look so pretty in your outfit and hairstyle,Pi🎉.
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾😊
ahahha crazy!! 😝! thanks for the compliment though 🥰
Men yes correct it’s crazy
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funny! 😆 but don't be too judgemental. As Black Women, we are not used to seeing ourselves with loooong natural hair so the reactions are going to be mixed. But true! I barely have mine half way to the back of my neck and someone noticed the growth and swore it was genetic! lol. I took it in stride.
Well said…
It’s where that view comes from (yt supremacy) that pisses me off. There are African women who hate weaves and stay natural with long hair down their backs. But people swear up and down that the more black you are the more it is impossible
I would never be jealous I wanna know all the secrets to get there lol 😅
right?!?!😅
Hi love you I’m a mixed girl sorta but my mother is black with coily hair that’s below bra strength and I finally can sit on mine but other people say it’s because I’m mixed and couldn’t possibly be that I take good care of it,I get everything you’re saying 🤗
@@TrinaMorales-James girlllll🙄🙄🙄! Congratulations on growing your hair that long!
not to take away from the message but whered you get that top? its beautiful
Thanks darl. it’s so old I can’t even remember. it’s actually a dress
Can you recommend small bands that I can use on the ends of my hair and that will not break off my hair in the bands.
My hair is natural, and I usually wear it in 2 braids and bands on the end of it, but I note that after a couple of days when I retrieve the bands carefully I’m getting breakage. Please help!!!
I’d recommend vine wrapping in place of the bands ruclips.net/video/1s1MR7Uv7MA/видео.htmlsi=TkWMvLO2GKDzI5qD
@@CoilyDiaries my hair is not as long as yours, but I just did it and I’ll see how that works for me. I am going to get your book very soon.
@@CoilyDiaries also, I know that when my hair is straighter, it tends not to break as much. I know that wearing it in the natural state attends to break more.
@@zundrasluxury6287nice!
They cut too much off
worse if it’s without permission 😬
@@CoilyDiaries that’s what happened to me and I’m traumatized
@@naturalshatara9559 😏 sorry girl!
@@CoilyDiaries it happened in May, come to find out he was under the influence
After I already got a haircut with a chunk missing on the left (I’ve slightly recovered), I went back to get my hair straightened (at my mother’s pounding request) for military ball. The lady doing my hair said I needed 1-2 MORE inches cut off. wtf. My hair was short enough… I personally looked for split ends before I went and they were barely 1 cm. Lies lies and more lies.
One thing you need to know about the people working in Salons is that they know nothing about Length Retention, they dont know how to handle natural hair so it doesnt break...my dear forgive them😅. Reason why i dont go to salons anymore.
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