Vulnerability is showing your bare unprotected self to someone else. It takes courage to be vulnerable, it's not a weak act by any means. It takes strength so strong and noble to do that , because the ego doesn't agree with vulnerability, its job is to protect the self you are so courageously showing to another entity other than you. To be vulnerable is to have faith , and to have faith is to surrender to something else.
You're so right! The meaningful and effective interpersonal communication is a lost art these days! Some can't even hold the eye contact long enough, or to make one at all.
"Practice" in face to face vulnerability involves remaining open to the other person's negativity and ill-feeling. They have the right to be cruel, manipulative, and absolutely unforgiving - to hit you with everything they've got! And you have to go in there with no shields up and let it happen. The only consolation you can allow yourself is that, _in that moment alone,_ you were being more honest with them than they were with you. It doesn't forgive anything you may have done before. Only they can do that, and they have every right not to.
Social media has single handedly ruined human's ability to socialize, interact and connect. People will straight up have disputes through tweets and back and forth videos.
They're saying things they shouldn't THINK, let alone type out. Human life is too brief and full of obligations to be a forum for in-depth discussion. You spare people's feelings and time, and what you don't get to talk out, doesn't get talked out.
I don’t think it’s good to tell the world how you feel or cry in front of people you don’t even know… it won’t build strength let alone character!! And it s surely a bad habit to expect others to sympathize or feel sad about you.
Some people avoid it because it is difficult. But remember there are people that know exactly what they are doing trying to garner sympathy for themselves while in reality they are void of empathy.
i think the other reason is many people are just lonely. It would be better to share their feelings with loved ones, but meanwhile people online, especially online communities, give them any sense of not being do alone and a place to share their feelings.
This bunch coming up is going to have a lot of catching up to do to experience enough pain to understand that. Maybe older folks should make things as miserable as we can for them, just for their own good.
I cried once because one off my friends rejected me she didn’t invite me on her party which ridiculously hurts me, and she phoned me and apologized.. It took me courage to answer her call and I was crying like shit while she was trying to justify her action… apparently she didn’t invited me because I was too introverted, I’ve ended up feeling that was my fault and something wrong with me, after her call I felt so miserable and vulnerable 😭
Okay, the point about taking risk in relationship I get. However, a person does make themselves vulnerable when they post online. Now, once they get used to that behavior, they likely get used to it. The same can be true in apologizing to people in real life. Try it. Long ago I learned it doesn’t kill you to be accountable. It’s actually freeing.
People just want a witness of their life. Yes, also that way. The latter is more difficult. But also even more lonely to go trough. Can I say, that the broadcasting is the step one moment and the realness of the second option he mentioned, for me the graduation of that process?
im more concerned about the fact that one has to literally cry online, as much as it's weak and pathetic, it does show that one doesn't have anyone to look towards with their problems
Sometimes there are problems that don't allow you to confront someone in person. Third persons who get involved, and other issues. So you do poetry online. 😅 It's not so bad.
A few years ago I have a best friend (L) and I think I really hurt her I went to the house of his employer. I say sorry and I cried and I was apologized her even though there's a CCTV camera over there I sincerely apologize her but in the end. He avoided me and because he listened to.those gossiper around her ... I apologize even it's not my mistake I apologize because. I don't like to lose her it was my first time done. that kind of valnureability .. now we forgive each other. i wish her all the best.Just sharing ♥️
"look them in the eye and say that exact same " then they emotionally react and interrupt. often people don't get a chance to finish a sentence, much less a paragraph. sometimes the only way to tell somebody something and get it out successfully is to write it down or record it.
This dude likely makes some good points, but my god, I wish more videos with him had no music or music that wasn't designed to evoke certain emotions. I usually end up just bailing partway through. lol
It is, by definition in ways..but not as much as the full actions of full on vulnerability for the entire world to see. Humiliation, and vulnerability are completely different thinks.
I disagree. Social media and meeting in person are obviously two different things, but you can be vulnerable on social media is well. It depends on your inner stance, whether or not you are showing something of your self that you are maybe scared to share.
Recording It and broadcasting It, adds a layer of superficiality and fakeness, just do the right thing and just be real without the reasurance and likes of strangers, that will make your apology authentic.
Its also a selfish thing to do because the only reason you're doing that is to get sympathy from others. Maybe people who are going to see your message are also having a rough time, what gives you the right to make it even worse for them? If you feel the need to be heard by someone even if its your best friend, the best way to go about it is to ask their permission first, because you've got no clue what the other person is going through or if they're ready to hear you out.
"There is nothing vulnerable about that. You are by yourself." You can tell this is coming from a person from a generation that has never had to grow up with cyber bullying and online abuse. It feels pretty vulerable when it can still cause real, emotional pain.
Both things are vulnerable. You're putting yourself out there to be ridiculed and mocked. Of course talking to someone is more nerve wracking, but let's not discount telling the world either.
It's one of the saddest things about this generation, first of all no one cares about you crying in front of your camera , second of all yooy think your vulnerable but of what??? You can't control your mind and think that the world or someone is the worst. This type of people need to see through Life they don't know nothing.
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This. People don't seem to know how to have real conversations in person anymore
Some people. Most do, our kids won’t though
true. i am not able to have a real conversation
Exactly
Yeah plenty of us do. Just get offline.
Im not gonna be vulnerable if 1. They are going to judge me laugh at me etc
And 2. They dont open up back
Humility is an intelligent virtue
Vulnerability is showing your bare unprotected self to someone else. It takes courage to be vulnerable, it's not a weak act by any means. It takes strength so strong and noble to do that , because the ego doesn't agree with vulnerability, its job is to protect the self you are so courageously showing to another entity other than you. To be vulnerable is to have faith , and to have faith is to surrender to something else.
I did…. My heart 💔. I fell hard!! Men are stupid.
This guy just takes my breath away! I absolutely love Simon Sinek!
You're so right!
The meaningful and effective interpersonal communication is a lost art these days! Some can't even hold the eye contact long enough, or to make one at all.
Although in a world that doesn't show vulnerability, it is a start.
it's not difficult for me to apologize but it doesn't matter to others
never thought of it this way. good point: that's not real vulnerability: you're safe in your own home.
I did 😢in his arms I cried. Accepted accountability, still didn’t work out. Turned really toxic. Sometimes 🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️
"Practice" in face to face vulnerability involves remaining open to the other person's negativity and ill-feeling. They have the right to be cruel, manipulative, and absolutely unforgiving - to hit you with everything they've got! And you have to go in there with no shields up and let it happen.
The only consolation you can allow yourself is that, _in that moment alone,_ you were being more honest with them than they were with you. It doesn't forgive anything you may have done before. Only they can do that, and they have every right not to.
Ot takes guts and courage and kindness to actually have that face to face conversation.
I tell the same thing to ppl who are asking jebus for forgiveness.. Try calling the ppl you hurt and actually apologize to them
Social media has single handedly ruined human's ability to socialize, interact and connect. People will straight up have disputes through tweets and back and forth videos.
They're saying things they shouldn't THINK, let alone type out. Human life is too brief and full of obligations to be a forum for in-depth discussion. You spare people's feelings and time, and what you don't get to talk out, doesn't get talked out.
How much I love and respect this man ❤️
The only problem is that there are no likes when you apologize in person.......
The way people use the phone is really ruining personal contact in more ways than we realize.
He ain't lying!
I love this man ❤
When people stop trying to act like movie stars and the shows they see them on, we can all get back to normal
Its not easy to share if it hurts, think about that when you talk to someone in person.
I don’t think it’s good to tell the world how you feel or cry in front of people you don’t even know… it won’t build strength let alone character!! And it s surely a bad habit to expect others to sympathize or feel sad about you.
exactly they are looking for reassurance. its selfish and they just want attention.
Yes. It leaves people underdeveloped.
Some people avoid it because it is difficult. But remember there are people that know exactly what they are doing trying to garner sympathy for themselves while in reality they are void of empathy.
i think the other reason is many people are just lonely. It would be better to share their feelings with loved ones, but meanwhile people online, especially online communities, give them any sense of not being do alone and a place to share their feelings.
A real man would do that, telling in my eyes what he did wrongly. ❣️🙏❤️✝️
Facts
People are not having face to face interactions, they don't know how to communicate with others, it's sad.
Yup ex broke up over a phone call and refused to meet in person like a decent human being would do... so sad
No it's not sad. They don't deserve it. They've done nothing in life to merit that level of human interaction.
@@mkwhole Coward. So sorry.
This is what you think almost exactly when it's too late after you've lost somebody u love
Pain isn't an impediment, but the pathway.
This bunch coming up is going to have a lot of catching up to do to experience enough pain to understand that.
Maybe older folks should make things as miserable as we can for them, just for their own good.
I cried once because one off my friends rejected me she didn’t invite me on her party which ridiculously hurts me, and she phoned me and apologized.. It took me courage to answer her call and I was crying like shit while she was trying to justify her action… apparently she didn’t invited me because I was too introverted, I’ve ended up feeling that was my fault and something wrong with me, after her call I felt so miserable and vulnerable 😭
Thank you Seur!🙏🙏🙏🙏😘😘😘
Finally they catching up this "social" media and phones has destroy real human connections
This is a great clip. Most of us who would watch a video of vulnerabity are not going to relate.
Absolutely on target.
And he doesn't point out the selfish "it's about me " part of the equation.
Okay, the point about taking risk in relationship I get. However, a person does make themselves vulnerable when they post online. Now, once they get used to that behavior, they likely get used to it. The same can be true in apologizing to people in real life. Try it. Long ago I learned it doesn’t kill you to be accountable. It’s actually freeing.
The harder it is the more it is needed...
People just want a witness of their life. Yes, also that way. The latter is more difficult. But also even more lonely to go trough. Can I say, that the broadcasting is the step one moment and the realness of the second option he mentioned, for me the graduation of that process?
im more concerned about the fact that one has to literally cry online, as much as it's weak and pathetic, it does show that one doesn't have anyone to look towards with their problems
Sometimes there are problems that don't allow you to confront someone in person. Third persons who get involved, and other issues. So you do poetry online. 😅 It's not so bad.
If it's not so bad, you don't grow much.
A few years ago I have a best friend (L) and I think I really hurt her I went to the house of his employer. I say sorry and I cried and I was apologized her even though there's a CCTV camera over there I sincerely apologize her but in the end. He avoided me and because he listened to.those gossiper around her ... I apologize even it's not my mistake I apologize because. I don't like to lose her it was my first time done. that kind of valnureability .. now we forgive each other. i wish her all the best.Just sharing ♥️
"look them in the eye and say that exact same "
then they emotionally react and interrupt.
often people don't get a chance to finish a sentence, much less a paragraph.
sometimes the only way to tell somebody something and get it out successfully is to write it down or record it.
People lost the art of listening to the person you are talking to and really hear what they are saying!
Ouuuf deep AF
What song and version is this
Agree 100%
Preach
Don't do anything he has just said.
Absolutely nothing good will come out of doing it. The odds are much higher that something really bad will happen.
This dude likely makes some good points, but my god, I wish more videos with him had no music or music that wasn't designed to evoke certain emotions. I usually end up just bailing partway through. lol
I understand them ,family and friends don't care . People online is where you get the most support ever.
People online care about themselves, and their own opinions ; they don't know or care about strangers whose post they respond to.
Lack of understanding of the other person can make it even worse.
It is, by definition in ways..but not as much as the full actions of full on vulnerability for the entire world to see. Humiliation, and vulnerability are completely different thinks.
Amen my friend❤😢😎
We are living in the movie called, 'Idiocracy'.
Yes! I’ve seen it a million times. We are on the verge!
The truth!
Some real talk
Real vulnerability vs Virtue signalling
I never understand people recording themselves crying over relationships....
Loved this guy on Xena
Took the words out of my situation.. hiding behind a phone/camera is this generation
It feels fkng great though! I don't like cameras & bs.. humans matter internet doesn't
Definitely
Truth
What if the other person doesnt want you to apologize in person. Even thought you want to do it.
I find it interesting that the Generations that taught us everything we know, now find fault in everything we do.
I disagree. Social media and meeting in person are obviously two different things, but you can be vulnerable on social media is well. It depends on your inner stance, whether or not you are showing something of your self that you are maybe scared to share.
Jip, I have not been vonreble one day in my life. I hate showing my feelings, I rather be alone then burdening someone.
I Agree 👊🏾
But what if I can express myself better through writing?
Recording It and broadcasting It, adds a layer of superficiality and fakeness, just do the right thing and just be real without the reasurance and likes of strangers, that will make your apology authentic.
Its also a selfish thing to do because the only reason you're doing that is to get sympathy from others. Maybe people who are going to see your message are also having a rough time, what gives you the right to make it even worse for them?
If you feel the need to be heard by someone even if its your best friend, the best way to go about it is to ask their permission first, because you've got no clue what the other person is going through or if they're ready to hear you out.
The song??
This!!
True
The zoomers avoid anything that is hard, not just apologies.
One way communication is not #justbeingvulnerable its #justbeingclusterB. #BPD #ASPD #NPD
AMEN!
It takes guts
"There is nothing vulnerable about that. You are by yourself."
You can tell this is coming from a person from a generation that has never had to grow up with cyber bullying and online abuse. It feels pretty vulerable when it can still cause real, emotional pain.
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No when they record themselves and broadcast it…….that’s practice
What’s this song
Oceans by hillsong this one is a remix (Christian music group)
Ohh hell yah lol I'm down with that lol
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Yep but would she ever say it NOPE
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Yup
media. ruined relationship s
Hello! 👌😘
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Both things are vulnerable. You're putting yourself out there to be ridiculed and mocked. Of course talking to someone is more nerve wracking, but let's not discount telling the world either.
It's one of the saddest things about this generation, first of all no one cares about you crying in front of your camera , second of all yooy think your vulnerable but of what??? You can't control your mind and think that the world or someone is the worst.
This type of people need to see through Life they don't know nothing.
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Ouch
I buy my meat balls sandwich at Malone
Recording yourself crying is completely cringe and narcissistic/vain
It requires balls
People do this?
It is worst, women at the age of 40× do the same. It is pathetic 😒
I'm not falling for performative crying on camera for clout and profit, it's ratchet 🤮🤢🤯🤢
lol Prince Harry