Become Who You're Afraid To Be | The Philosophy of Carl Jung
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In this video, I talk about Carl Jung, The Shadow, individuation, and becoming who you’re afraid to be.
Most people are afraid to fully be themselves. They’re afraid to embrace the parts of themselves that might be regarded as unacceptable, because embracing these unacceptable parts makes them feel uncomfortable. So to escape this uncomfortableness, they divide themselves into two halves: conscious and unconscious. In the conscious-half, they construct an ideal image of themselves: an image formed out of the bits and pieces of their past that they deem as good and acceptable. And as result, in the unconscious-half, they repress the parts of themselves that they view as bad and unacceptable. In Jungian psychology, this repressed part of the personality is called /The Shadow/. And unless The Shadow is integrated into the personality, a person can never reach their fullest potential. Instead, one will always remain incomplete, fractured, and partial-living a life of regret rather than the full life that could have been.
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The pain of growth is hurtful.
The pain of change is hurtful.
But the pain of staying the same and not becoming a better person, whatever that means to you, hurts the most.
Yeah that doesn't appear to be true for most sheep today. They LOVE staying the same.
@@bengsynthmusic they're that they're perfect in everyway and should oy care aboit their looks what do you expect will happen
Change is natural evolution is what brought us to where we are! Have a great day lost soul .
No. Thanks to drugs.
@@Xxiz268 wat
The pain of regret is always worse than the pain of discipline
If the price of discipline is too high, then wait until you get the bill from regret.
@@xanwinters7948 dude this is fire
@@xanwinters7948 Wow....amazing way of thinking the same meaning......The thing is we have to pay the price now or then.....Nowonwards I will pay the price to discipline rather than paying high bill to Mr. Regret🤕
Dam.💯
comparing the two in this way makes as much sense as comparing your foot to an apple
"A life of fantasy always ends in tragedy"
Damn, needed this.
But what is life without fantasies
@@agnesbusi3038 delusions dude.
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@@agnesbusi3038 The OP means that things like maladaptive daydreaming or denying harsh truths
Except for William Blake
to those of you who are reading this ; remember this : 'When the student is ready the teacher will appear. When the student is truly ready... The teacher will Disappear' - Tao Te Ching ; if you are seeing this now , then you are ready , do not ignore this moment , embrace it , and GL =]
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 You’re like a street preacher or a Jehovah’s Witness going door to door. No one asked and everyone nowadays definitely knows about what you’re saying and have the resources available at their fingertips to seek advice and research on their own. A for effort though.
❤
Your teacher has disappeared? Don't cry
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 What does being a vegan have to do with the darkess of shadows? If anything the morbid slaughter of the helpless animals is a bigger fear to explore and accept. You're kind of defeating your own logic there.
Wolf teach sheep. They can also devour a sheep. Best you be a well behaved sheep. Learn claw and fang. Become the wolf. Then you will understand.
"we often prefer to be pure potential, we convince ourselves we could be whatever we want to be, but don't actively work to actually be something. we just comfort ourselves with the idea that we could be something if we wanted to." that hits hard.
I don't think people fully understand what Jung is trying to say. Dave Chappelle once said, "you have to become a lion in order to be the sheep you really are." This means, we put on a persona that is far from who we really are. Your shadow maybe that scared little boy, but when you embrace yourself you learn to protect yourself in a healthy manner and set proper boundaries instead of hiding who you are through pretending and putting on a show.
100% agree. The example of being too afraid to actualize your potential has nothing to do with embracing your shadow. That being said, the video creator really got the point across that you need to step into the arena and try instead of standing on the sidelines. This is something that I really needed to hear.
I've entered YT to see some stand up from Dave Chapelle and this video appeared on my feed, clicked it and saw your comment. Big casuality
Thankyou unduh
Who (or what) are “you” tho? Every persona is just a mask of god. It takes a lot of courage to see past the mask… and only then can one truly love (not just from the limited individual perspective).
Dave is very perceptive if he said that. Counterintuitive on it's face but that's how it works, fake it Till you make it
"The path of self-improvement starts with self-acceptance."
Accept this!
deceptive talk... what you call "self" is an image you have and therefore far away from God's image and God's truth. Since you talk of Self "improvement" on top of that, there is a self (which is an image) and then another self (just another image you chose to like out of images of lifestyles you have seen on the net probably) which you aren't yet, and thats why you tell yourself you need to improve to become that greener gras "self", trying to close the gap between what is and what is not (while it's just images/ideas in your head). It's the desire that lures people right into a cage. It's like your neighbor drives a big car, you wanna have it to. You don't need a car, but for some reason, you wanna have it too.. the moment you envy someone else life and follow this image in your head is the moment you start to lose touch with who you truly are: God's creation. Your desires make you desperate. You are basically a slave to your own desires, if you have not come behind your true self yet. Most people die of lack of knowledge. They do not know themselves. They do not know their own desires and how the world pulls on them from almost every corner. Why does the world do this? Well because someone who built the car will make huge money from your desire to have it. In order to have it, you take a credit. In order to take a credit, you need to have a stable job, slaving for another richman's rear. And the mental as well as physical prison is perfect.
Yes, accepting the sad truth is the start, but then we must hate it and change it to better thing.
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 who wouldn't wanna be brave enough, right? your salesmenship sucks
'A life of fantasy ends with tragedy'
'The path of self improvement is self acceptance'
'Embrace our shadows'
'Fail in actuality, rather reaching success hypothetically'
hits so damn hard. we just have to do what we gotta do, and trust the process.
You are good at repeating
There's a shadow just behind me, shrouding every step I take. -MJK
I've always been aware of this fear in myself, but never really did anything about it. It's not exactly fear of failure, but rather I'm afraid I've become comfortable in imagining my success, rather than taking the steps to achieve it. It's quite a shock to see that someone long ago had already put a name to this complex and that I'm not alone or unique for having it. I definitely caught this video at the right time. Enough dawdling, time to get to work.
I know what you mean.
Success in what? Dark souls teaches people to struggle in the worst. Helps people overcome depression. Because life isn't fair. So the game isn't either. The skill just "rubs off" on people.
Face the worst more. The uncomfortable. The strange. If it "puts you off" then seek to understand it. Even become it.
I’m just a regular girl in Zimbabwe trying to navigate this world and luckily enough I ended up here after listening to Right Place Wrong Person. What a beautiful coincidence 😅I’ve been going down this man’s rabbit hole because he’s referenced so much in the lyrics and music videos. Carl Jung was truly a great mind and the influence he’s had in my life these past couple of days is truly incredible though most of it has been secondary so far. Feels like my mind is clearer?? Like I can live the following days a bit better than my previous ones. Anyways thank you for this amazing video
Woo 🙌 same here
Since i was a little girl i kept saying to myself that I’m going to be a great painter, and In do truly love to paint and am fairly talented. Now i’m in my 20’s and somehow even though that is still my dream, I am afraid of putting more work into it because of the fear of failure and possibility that i’m not going become just that, the great painter that i am in my head. Very insightful. Thank you!
We are our own worst enemies. Put your inner-critic in place and pursue your dream of painting.
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You build success from many failures. It's not one path or the other. If you want to be successfull be ready to fail and keep trying. It doesn't matter how talented you are, be ready to fail and try again. Even more, in something as abstract as art. I'm sculptor and to be honest, art is a bit shaky/unpredictable. Still, worth it.
Do you still paint?
So there are two things at play here. The part of you that desires status, and the true artist where status is irrelevant. Both are understandable.
I have had this with keyboard. When I finally faced all my deepest fears of rejection, I was suddenly motivated to practice. Life’s funny
Facts. I am long done with living in regret. Failure to accept who we are will always lead to misery.
DONE
@@wavory DUNE
@@Saber23 You watched the video and missed the point completely still, you expect to win fighting against yourself?
@@effortless4588 yes actually you fight against your laziness and bad habits it'll definitely be a win and you can beat them so you can keep the jargon and I'll stick to the practical
@@Saber23 OK I didn't know you talk about laziness only and specifically
I'm having a hard time accepting that I'm highly sensitive, I don't want to repress my feelings anymore, this video has been very helpful
Im also quite sensitive.
@@springgal265 it's a relief to know we are not the only ones
R your friendships long?
@@springgal265 They are long lasting, but I rarely make a friend. And yours?
@@lemonmastery6534 mostli last 2 to 3+ yrs.
There's a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques, you can overcome procrastination and accomplish anything in life. It's not just a bunch of empty promises; it's the real deal.
Being isolated and without friends in this day and age has truly harmed people. And the distrust from those you have met in the past create perpetual fear by so many and almost a world where it's truly a paradox.
I'm afraid and alone in this world, a thing I would have never envisioned half a lifetime ago at 19.
That's exactly why I stopped being unique and different and chose to fit in instead, fitting in is much better and totally underrated
@@joshuabuchanan1141 fitting in implies that you have to change parts of yourself to be accepted by others. That’s going to do harm to your mental health. Nothing wrong with being “average” and fitting in, but the people who naturally fit in are just being themselves.
That’s sad but I’ve been there. Till I decided I was going to say yes, every time anyone asked me if I wanted to do something with them. Obviously within reason.
this hits si fkn hard! i was such a popular person always surrounded people and having a difficult time to choose who to hang out with less than 2 hyears ago. currently i have 0 friends in my city and haven't left the house in more than a month.
@@Maitreya_intake the time to go within and get all your healing in. Self care and nature is all you have. We have. Self is all you’ll have in the end anyways. Find yourself.
Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re growing through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤
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I didn't do that.
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Thank you 😊💕 and same to you
Likewise g
I was very concerned about this topic for years
I was always regretting my decisions
But l come to realize that it was my fault
I was running away and always being in my comfort zone, idolising about what l could if l had better opportunities or a different environment
Your video has save me years of disappointments
Thanks
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
nice u could never form that sentence without humans eating Beef for 100000 of years :D Yikes
Now you know
It reminds of Karen Horney's book Neurosis and personal growth. She talks about being perfectionist who seeks becoming his ideal self and ignoring true self. It leads to never accepting reality and living in a fantasy
@X vonPocalypse The one that remains when ideals are abandoned and the striving to shape oneself into a static moulding that society sets as a standard but incompatible with you stops.
True self changes itself according to the demands of the environment, which includes social demands. Any striving or action one takes happens organically. When there is neurotic striving, it's abuse, self-abuse.
This may be one of the best videos I’ve ever seen.
How many times do we spend our lives indulging in the possibility of what we can be rather than actually trying to become that person.
it's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the forbidden psychology ebook called the manipulation enigma
Seeing how much people have praised this book recently, I'm hopeful it will help me with my intentions
BS
There is a book 📚 that Is far more important.Numbers
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@@VestalNumbre??
It’s not that crazy
It's incredible how this is the same concept between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. A fixed mindset would choose not to join the math club in order for them to keep the image of their genius intact, whereas a growth mindset would dive in and get their hands dirty right away, since they aren't afraid to possibly look like fools in exchange for growth and knowledge. In this case, transitioning from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset would be integrating one's shadow, and eventually that would bleed into other areas in their life. Its amazeballs! :)
connecting dots is the best way to absorb content
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
This.
Very true, I think.
What concept are you talking about?
it ALWAYS pays off to be yourself. i had a very troubled adolescence, with alcohool and drugs. it was hell, and i dever denied it. i embraced my shadow fully.
today, i see how i am happier than most adults my age. i had to find ways to GENUINELY save myself, after being constantly told i was too weak because i couldn't force myself to be positive.
now, i see people living lives that they dont enjoy, desperate for meaning and freedom, like i was in the past.
please, dont let anyone steal your authentic self and feelings. many of these people are lost. you have you, and that's the missing key. you are the answer you seek
Of all the comments stated here in the comment section, I think I resonate well with yours than others. Thank you for this, I'm truly grateful. 🙏
Love this comment.
love
I totally relate to this I thank u 🙏🏻
@Sultana How did you eventually overcome your struggles?
Wow, so hard hitting and right on the spot... "we often prefer to be pure potential"
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
What is the right spot?
This is perfect timing for me…. I want to start a not for profit to help other people, I have the skills qualifications and know how, but in order to do that i literally have to put myself out there and be seen, being seen is scary for me as I order to survive and be loved as a child I had to be quiet and not seen.
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
You can do it. The world would love to pay you to help others. That’s what it’s all about.
I’ll help you!!!
Absolutly true.
The thing is, you dont have to avoid who you are or what you dont like of yourself, just avoid some people that make or made you feel that way, who boost that side of you, toxic people, agressive people, people who judge you and are always looking for your errors expecting you to fail.
And then, permit yourself to fail with the right people, and I am not talking of your beloved people, just someone who is not toxic.
When i was in highschool my parents told me that i should participats in many social event and force myself to be a cool sociable guy to have friends but in the long run i feel drained and it burst out when i was in college, since my parent didnt really understand the concept of introvert but now i embrace my introversion and embrace my loner nature
Kudos to you being true to yourself. Keep going man!
We absolutely need introverts in the world. People are brainwashed that think people need to be "on" and "outgoing". That's bullshit and as an unapologetic night owl I'll sleep in until 1 if I damn well choose. F the early worm and f anyone who has a problem with it lol. It takes all kinds to make the world go round and introverts tend to be some of the most intelligent and thoughtful in my experience. Interesting as well.
Go solo....😊
“The rain can’t wash you if you’re lying in the dirt, and the pain can’t heal you if you blame it on the hurt”-Grieves
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
Different sentiment, but it reminds me of this line by Oscar Wilde: "...we are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars."
@@subliteral1380 FUCK man i wrote that lyric in a song and thought it was so nice but someone fucking beat me to it lmao
How poetic...
@@coolnamebro Nom
Jung always understood that pain serves as a gateway to the soul, a channel through which we can access the wisdom buried within us. The integration of our pain is what makes us emerge stronger, wiser, and more self-aware overall.
So many of us get caught up trying to fit into boxes that society creates. This reminder to find and celebrate my true self is exactly what I needed today. 🧘♀
It’s interesting I ran across this. I literally was depressed so long. One day I start doing deep shadow work and being true to my dark side and what I’m capable of. I open my eyes to the fact that I’m a good person but I’m also a “bad person” and it feels amazing to embrace myself and who I completely am. And not trying to be this perfect patty. But simply Be!! I love and accept all of me!
“The obstacle in the path becomes the path. Never forget, within every obstacle is an opportunity to improve our condition.”― Ryan Holiday
He was quoting Marcus Aurelius.
The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way - Marcus Aurelius
Ryan Holiday is a self-help charlatan, who was paid to write a book about a topic he didn't understand that took off. Nobody cared that the successful billionaire case studies he used as examples of stoicism were the exact opposite of what stoicism is. Nobody reads the source material anymore, ffs..
I am experiencing this just today. It's a revelation for me and wow what surprising news! I love how this channel and segment popped up tonight and I read down to your comment. Grateful Thank you for posting it🙏💫
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
“Reality can be improved, a life of fantasy always ends in tragedy” 🔥🔥🔥
Oof, this hit hard and was a wonderful reminder. The fear of living in judgement haunted my youth and twenties. I found this to be common among my fellow writing majors for whom, like myself, "writer" was worn as an identity. I've been actively working to shed this perfectionism throughout my 30's and, while it's been difficult, it has been a period of far greater personal growth for me. Thank you for another insightful video.
It‘s just the normal development of humans. There‘s no point in trying to adopt this „I don‘t care what anyone thinks“-mindset in your teens and 20s. It simply won‘t work. Once you turn 30, you will naturally care less about other people‘s opinions.
So to all people under 30: don‘t fight it. Accept that you will care about what others think. It‘s just human nature. It gets better with age.
@@Chrisko1492 Yes! A little self-consciousness is a good thing.
This is amazing. I’m working on shedding the perfectionist mentality, it’s not easy. I’m constantly being too hard on myself and feel uncomfortable with feeling uncomfortable but I’m pushing through the doubts and fears that keep limiting me. Wishing you well📚🎀
Yes, writer's block is often made up of this fear of the shadow self... or the block could be at some other point in the process, but writers definitely struggle with it!
As a writing major I felt that
When I get old, I want to look back and be proud of my experiences.. all of the good and bad, and say I got to live an authentic life.
I have a big ego sometimes but I'm starting to realize that I dont want this whole self concept thing to get in the way of me living the authentic life I want,, I want to take more risks and embrace every part of me because it's all still part of who I am fully.
Thanks for this video
I'm an artist and today had my biggest launch of my career, after 5 years of work. Afraid, I decided to quit what I was doing, and move to a new city, to pursue that life, knowing I might be terrible. And today, I shared my largest exhibition yet. It's been a huge success, more than I ever could have hoped. And yet I've spent the morning in bed, hiding, and even risking being fired from my day job - which I'm really grateful to have - because I feel... afraid. Afraid of succeeding, or maybe more afraid that I will fail. That people will see me for who I am, see all the days I was lazy, all the days I compromised and didn't work as hard as I could or should have.
I think I needed to see this today. Thank you.
I'm going to get out of bed, do the work I can, and text my friend to go ahead with a celebration party tonight, that she wants to throw for me.
Thanks for listening guys.
proud of you fellow artist
If you let your fears of progressing in life and if you let doubts take over then you're doomed. You won't live the life you truly want to live, and you won't get to be what you were really destined to be. Everybody at some point feels scared to try something they really wanted, the difference is you can either find out if it will actually work or you can be thinking about "what if" all your life. I never thought I was smart enough to go to university and study Psychology which is my dream. When I finally got enrolled I was happy but didn't think I was gonna pass not even the first semester, and I did and 4 years later I graduated, and turns out I was not that dumb after all. I'm scared to apply for a masters, but what if it's just my insecurities speaking and I'm actually able to do it? We should really just do what we gotta do, if it doesn't workout so what? At least you tried and possibly learned something valuable.
Thank you so much for sharing your inspiring story. You know, I have been the kind of person who isp so afraid of trying apndp being my authentic self because of the "what is". This has made me realise that having these "what ifs" and doubting myself won't get me anywhere. Sometimes, it's worth the try because at the end of the day, you won't have any regrets such as "if only". You will feel proud of yourself that you gave it try and you do not regret doing so. So thank you once again for your story. ❤
Embracing both conscious and unconscious brought so much change within myself after so many years of resistance to accepting my own darkness.
That brought me so much healing chronic pain, freedom, renewed purpose, infinite creativity and infinite blessings.
We’re all conditioned to look at the positive all the time to the point of suppressing our unhealed childhood wounds that creates havoc within and affect our adulthood.
I see you.
I feel you.
Keep being.
Keep unlearning the old patterns.
Keep celebrating your progress no matter how small it maybe.
Keep being compassionate to yourself during the messy, chaotic and frustrating times of change.
Keep showing up, anyway.
Cheers! ❤❤❤
May I ask how you finally achieved to "embrace both your conscious and unconscious"? By the definition of unconscious it means that it's hard for us to even be aware of it. I've been trying to "heal" but it's been a... slow process.. to say the least. I don't know if there is a better technique to follow.
Its a choice bro. It's counts more than 80% of whether u are going to succeed or not. U have got to choose! Choose now that u are going to create your life into how u love it. And for your good DON'T continue reading this until u completely feel that creation choice in u.
Choose to view yourself as the superhero and the body as the wingman. The wingman cannot in any way rule or give orders to the great guy. Impossible.
And u gotta be loyal to that choice because the body somehow has a brain of it's self. U like something and then it says I don't that. It starts telling telling u lies of how u are tired, you can't do this, u will do it tommorow, next time, all shit like that. How sad. I So u have to be like, u are my assistant and u tell me things like that, am not believing or taking that anywhere. 💪 And the more u do that, I promise u will be free. And habitual the unconscious will be the unconscious u truly want. because u will have trained it over time@@sarpsays
This video really resonates with me. It speaks volumes. We need to start accepting who we are as individuals. Embrace our weaknesses. With one common goal, we all share: Being the better version of ourselves.
Hidden Time Wealth blew my mind. I’ve shared it with friends, and they’re all amazed at how much more productive they've become.
Acceptance of my high sensitivity toward the world has peaked during this season.
Watching this video put the icing on the cake.
Thank you for sharing this!
Love it. If we choose to become who we are afraid to be, we go through it just as a transition towards being who we would actually want to be. And if we choose to escape being who we are afraid to be, we actually become our worst versions.
This is so speaking to me. And I've been not who I am really since a kid. I think a lot of people live that way. 🙏🏽
Look at a few of these comments, it’s everyone 😊
I may have missed previous videos where you thoroughly explained what the shadow is but this video by far is the best I've come across that puts the shadow in a proper and meaningful context! Very insightful!
This is so true! I noticed this when doing any self-transformation: weight loss, classes at college, reaching out to socialize...
Hidden Time Wealth is so unique. I can’t believe I hadn’t heard about it sooner. It’s amazing how life-changing this can be for anyone battling procrastination.
This strikes a chord with me because I have always known of my shadow and didn't know that it had a name until recently when I started learning about it. I still struggle with socializing and being able to conversate freely but I believe that it is my shadow telling me that I am not able to do that because that's just who I am. I look back at my younger self and see a kid that was happier and able to do those things more easily, and "be myself" more and not someone that others wanted or expected me to be. What I'm really saying is that after thinking of that kid a lot I am realizing that the kid is still me, and for some reason in my mind I tend to see it as a different person. I am the same person, that in places throughout my upbringing certain things stuck in my mind, and became part of that shadow which makes me who i am today and causes me to hide my shadow or avoid it. Because there are parts I don't like or am afraid of like this video said.
Can you elaborate. I connect with this same thing you wrote, but haven’t quite understood it as much as you wrote. Basically, what have you realized now from your shadow. Are you someone who can’t converse or is it … I’m struggling with this
@@DRJVNAVY well I've learned a lot about myself in the past year to start off. I was 19 last year I that's when I discovered that I have ASD (autism spectrum disorder) it is also called aspergers. But through elementary school and grade school I had no problem conversating and just being around people because it was easier at that age and it feels like there is no fear of rejection as a kid and nothing to lose from doing something embarrassing or different because, well I don't know other than at that age it just seemed easier and you don't have that feeling of needing people to understand or accept you. It seemed like you could find friends no matter what.
But middle school, like 6th-8th grade, is where I struggled the most with aspergers, yet I didn't know that was part of my struggle at the time. I think this is where a lot of the negative things I incorporated into my shadow developed. At that point in my life I often remember thinking that there was something wrong with me all the time, and trying to point to a certain thing like me being overweight, or having bad acne on my nose. I remember little moments through that time that made me act different in the future. For example, there were things I would do that were strange to the classmates, like sometimes if I came in the class to walk to my desk I would walk with my arms out like a plane, and the teacher made fun of me for it one day and got everybody laughing at me. There are lots of moments like this that really stuck with me and still to this day have me convinced that I am weird. And of course I had a struggle trying to talk to girls too, it was no different, I would struggle with eye contact and sometimes still do. Conversations felt like a script to me and when the script ran out I was going onto my own which made me kind of funny in a way, but it seemed to be a way of hiding that I am really panicking and don't know what to say. This meant I could make people laugh but I didn't ever have a girlfriend or anything.
When I think back on it with a different perspective and just more lived experience I am seeing where my shadow and how I interpreted it really had a lot to do with this.
Because of these events and my emotions from them that stuck in my subconscious, I formed a way of seeing myself, like that voice in our heads we always call "ourselves" it is what controls everything you do, but it isn't random. It is built on those embarrassing, confusing and painfal moments of social rejection or failure. As I lived with this shadow of myself and how I saw myself, it affected all of my actions.
So going through middle school with this shadow of myself that was creepy to girls and weird to be around or someone nobody liked caused me to act in THAT way. I didn't ever think of it that way at the time. I had many meltdowns about why I was so weird or unattractive but looking back it all seemed to be my shadow in control and me not looking at it and asking myself why I believed those things about myself. To me they just were true and I believed that's how I was seen by others so it's how I acted subconsciously.
I don't seem to be great at conversating now but as I've gotten older I've learned that you have to just talk to people like they are a perfect stranger and not someone I should try to impress or have to be liked by. I try not to assume they will treat me a certain way or that they are a certain type of person.
Another thing that helped me is to not be afraid to just say hi, and if you are scared then force yourself to like you're not in control and see where it goes, because in our heads we fear that it's bad character or weird, (I did anyways) but really, it's what life is all about. We are all struggling and no matter what someone shows, we don't ever have it truly figured out, we are all constantly trying to do that. I have learned from addressing my shadow more that the feeling of when I was kid and I had nothing to lose from embarrassing myself and just being free in conversation is still a way I can feel, it just takes those moments of trying it and literally saying something like hello to a stranger or breaking that social "script" and really asking how someones life is going and even share something embarrassing thats happened to you. The more you do this the more you'll begin seeing that it's not bad, kind of like the opposite of what built my shadow that way. You have to not care so much about the moments of conversation, because it doesn't carry as much weight or importance as we think in our heads, and the other person feels a lot of the same things.
This is a really long reply.
I hope this has helped you in any way in your life
@@ArcadiaDesert Oh wow you’re only 20! Your emotional intelligence is impressive. I don’t think I knew half of this then. Did you ever get a girlfriend? You mentioned that you were unattractive and awkward… do you view yourself differently? I appreciate your thoughtful response.
@@DRJVNAVY Yes, I had a girlfriend in high school but it was for a short time and I found that I really was wanting a relationship for the wrong reasons and that it wasn't meaningful to me or the other person. It was kind of on and off through freshman and sophomore year but other than that no. Through high-school I did view myself in a better light and it did seem to work in my favor for the appropriate amount that I changed or tried to improve on.
I still see myself as different but not in a way that I think I'm better than anyone, but in a way that gives me peace of mind to know that it's okay to be me and that at a fundamental level and because of my condition there are things about the way I feel or think in social settings that I can't change. It's not to say I am giving up on trying to confront the shadow and socialize more freely, but that no matter the end result, it will be unique to me, and that nobody is the same, and it's okay to be me. Which is easier than said than done. It's something I've really been trying to work on recently now that I've realized it more.
Thank you for your compliment.
I don't claim to know anything better than any other person, this is just my experience the best I could articulate it into words. I'm really trying to figure more out and just try the things that scare me the most in a social setting and remind myself that the next day isn't guaranteed.
@@ArcadiaDesert I'm the similar. I have autism and I used to be outgoing and friendly but not after abuse at school.
To all the people in the comments that didn't get the message: Be Yourself and realize your potential in whatever you want to do, with no regrets. That doesn't mean you don't behave normally in society, but it does reflect the way you should look at your goals and personality
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 lol
Yes, my fellow students didn't like that they were bad at programming when they first went to study CS. So they took the path of least resistance and laughed at people who studied calling them nerds, etc. They were the worst bullies especially considering everyone were adult there.
was* , grammatical mistake.
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
As a fellow nerd who tended to fit in with that group that appeared to be “jocks,” 99% of the time they are just poking around for fun. Its friendly banter but it can feel real if you aren’t confident or unsure about their intentions. If you react seriously they may respond negatively to protect themselves as it is awkward for them (they look like a fool) I hope anyone going through a similar situation reads this. Laugh it off, maybe engage in the banter and you could have a new friend. As long as they aren’t stuck up and dont choose their friends based on appearance (which does exist, but I’d estimate its less than 30% of these cases based on my experience in college and hs which may vary from yours)
The way Hidden Time Wealth dives into the concept of productivity is mind-blowing. Hidden Time Wealth tips are pure gold, and I wish more people knew about them.
Completely informative, The pain of regret is always worse than the pain of discipline
Never understood the shadow properly until this video. Thank you
Thank you for this video! I have been trying to accept my shadow and things have been starting to get better. At first it caused a lot of depression but the more I take steps the depression decreases.
Every day I’m struggling I’m on the right direction and some weeks ago I realized that what I want is going to be hard and I’m accepting that. I’m taking small steps. But sometimes weeks go by and I’m just stuck again in my comfortable fantasy potential cage. It doesn’t help that I have so many fantasies too. It wasn’t enough to become an illustrator I still want to be an actor a dancer and a film maker not to forget a musician too and although I know it’s not realistic these fantasies won’t disappear. I make life so hard for myself. Being confronted everyday with the reality of being far off all the professions above at the moment. It’s the greatest cause of my depressive moods and depressive phases. I find this just very hard. Sometimes I would love to be able to just accept and be happy that I’m not gonna be all this fantasies but this urge isn’t going anywhere so that’s why I work through I simply have to.
Hit the nail on the head for me and the reset I'm going through now
This is the most clear explanation of the shadow self that I've heard. Thank you!
I’ve read that courage is the gateway, that it requires courage to be kind, compassionate, loving and accepting of myself -flaws and all.
Really interesting and good video, thank you. The example was really good. It discribes my situation with beeing a musician. Im scared of playing with others and actually forming a band, because then my skills are actually judged. I like the thought of beeing good and talented, but years without knowledgeble progress have passed with that mindset. And im still sitting in my room, practicing and still thinking that im not good enogh yet to go out. I will check out more of carl jung and am looking foreward to your next video :D
What instruments do you play?🤩
@@kaydimarco2802 I play guitar, keyboard and bass. And i got an dusty ukulele hanging above my couch xD now and then i play it too
But do you enjoy what your doing? Beside the practice? If you feel happy and enjoy it then you don't have to take that second step. Its all about being happy. Not about being great for others or ranking. Maybe you don't really want to go for a band and you pushed that to your unconsious mind. And that may be the reason why you are stil practicing. Just because it makes you happy doing it by yourself. Like a happy kid on the playground without goals and not knowing he is good in making salto's on the trampoline. Only the people who watch him , but he doesnt care if they told him. He only wants to jump and feel good. And there it is, your true self. Like Buddha said: stay as a child.
@@dollytenbrink Thank you, that's a good answer! I enjoyed practicing and playing more in the last couple of days. And i guess thats all that matters. Music is a nice thing
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
It’s a balance of doing what we need to survive vs. being ourselves.
It’s not that being ourselves makes us uncomfortable, it’s that we are FORCED to repress that side of us in order to survive and please others so we can make $$$ to survive.
Embracing the shadow within us unveils the path to true self-discovery. Amazing Video!! Carl Jung's insights remind us that the journey to wholeness requires confronting and integrating the parts of ourselves we fear the most.
The concept of Hidden Time Wealth blew my mind. It’s like finding a cheat code for productivity and defeating procrastination.
This reminds me I love card games, I love to play them but I get afraid when it comes to play them in real life, I am afraid people laughs at me, or that I do not understand the rules... I feel that there's a barrier there that I must break, that might be my shadow
Same thing for me. Im always afraid to look dumb when i fuck up, or dont understand the rules. I think thats part social anxiety. Because we are afraid of embarrassing ourselves in front of others. With my family its alright, but with people that are my age, it triggers a lot of stress inside me
“our actual reality is often less pleasurable to live in than our ideal fantasy.” -the video
If you can have the humility and strength to see yourself and accept yourself for who you truly are (all weaknesses and flaws included,) you’ll have the PERFECT foundation to make REAL progress. Most people never do this and prefer fake fantasy because it’s more pleasurable.. but it “always leads to tragedy.” This is because their reality sucks because of neglect.
“For whoever exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted.” -Luke 14
I believe that we are much closer to success than we think as long as we can make those seemingly small changes we know we need to make when we can truly step into our realities. This leads to REAL happiness!
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Love this. So many different interpretations of Jung's teachings on the shadow and this one is my new favorite.
Discovering Hidden Time Wealth has been one of the best things I've done for my productivity. It feels like I’ve finally cracked the code to overcoming procrastination.
This is the best example I have even seen for the Jungian Shadow. (especially for people in STEM)
I'm a 21 year old twice college dropout. First, I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life, second because even though I do know the path I aspire to follow now, I chose the most convenient major due to fear of failure in trying to get into a competitive school + a challenging career. All the rush led me to become depressed and consider ending my life, now because of the shame. I'm grateful I have the opportunity to start over and try again once more, this time focusing solely on my dreams instead of weighing the logics.
How is it going?
Perfect timing. Sincerely, thank you for the videos.
« And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good »
John Steinbeck
Perfection doesn't exist
I really needed this I've been living in a bubble thinking everything was alright but no its not
This is one of the best, most helpful reads & explanations of Jung's Shadow Theory I've heard. TYVM for everything you do.
I did this for two months. People want to be around you when you are your true self because you appear like a main character. Everyone that isn't themselves all look like the next person who isn themselves so they all appear the same outwardly but inwardly they know they are their own being and beg to escape societal pressure so they can be just that. So when YOU come along being yourself you appear like a free spirited butterfly and a breath of fresh air to everyone who is scared to be themselves so people will gravitate toward you to the point its overwhelming a times because they'll either wan to be in that energy that you radiate because it feels so free or they'll hope it rubs off on them by spending g time with you. This is how you'll know you're being yourself. You won't appear like everyone around you.
This is the best lesson I’ve ever learned. Thank you for this
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” (Anais Nin)
Researching your roots and staying rooted in your culture helps! When I learned about the Celtic culture and what they stood for, that helped me jump in to my warrior mindset!
This mindset actually helped me become a good football player, I would only do the things I was kinda good at but avoided my known weaknesses. I eventually stopped overthinking it and let myself be vulnerable to my weaknesses, which while at first I slightly got worse in performance I very quickly became a thousand times better than I was.
Running toward reality is the path of joy
Running toward fantasy is the path of tragedy
very simplistic
What is reality?..
Not really because it's only achieved when you see reality as presented is a total illusion
Recently I'm going through something as my ex of 5 years left me, this made me really self reflect on my choices in life, I feel soo sad regarding the things I could actually do but I'm moving forward now, I'm embracing my weaknesses & learning from them 🙏
I’m sorry for your loss, Mia. No doubt, that’s tough and can bring up so much regret and self-doubt, or anger etc. I believe heartbreak is a transformative experience unlike other kinds. Always has been for me anyway. The open heart that loss and grief brings gives a special look into oneself, and a closeness. Take good care of yourself. Wishing your heart strength, comfort, self-compassion and deep peace as you heal, grow, and move forward.
@@paigehodges Thank you so much for your kind words Paige, I'm trying to be my best version & I am moving forward 🙏lots of love to you ☺️💐
@@Mia-ei4mh Try emotional freedom technique here for heartache or anything for that matter. Brad Yates is great. It's best to be consistent but it does give some immediate relief. We all go through it and it f'ng sucks but is a universal pain. You aren't alone. Much love to you! :)
@@cassondralynch6342 Thank you Cassandra, I'm soo glad you commented 💐I'm healing & letting go things I can't control & it's been exceptionally well in the past month ⛄💐Wishing you a very happy holiday season & much love to you too 🌟😍
@@Mia-ei4mh You're so welcome and I'm so glad to hear it! I dated someone for 5 yrs in my 20's and the breakup was tough. I'm 40 now and he's still in my heart, but I'm with a person now for 6 yrs I wouldn't trade it for the world. Didn't think I'd feel that way, but he's made me realize my ex and I weren't as well suited as I thought. I'm much happier, more mature and compatible in my current situation. The same will happen for you no doubt :) maybe consider kundalini yoga? I've been doing it for yrs on yt and it's super grounding and empowering. Get those chakras on point lol and manifest your desires. xo
Wish I'd seen this in high school. I'm 66 years old and fit the description of "a jack of all trades and a master of none."
I feel bad for you, 😞
D Keefe, I've been describe as Jack of all trades many times and the master of none part always echos in my head when I hear it.
But remember being a jack of all trades is a strength in and of itself. Being able to tackle a problem from your many areas of knowledge is a strength that few have.
Have you considered being a master jack of all trades is your purpose?
@@midnight62440 I don't think they're looking for sympathy.
@@cassondralynch6342 I know
I think I'm like you man. Thanks GOD i'm 17 but it's never too late to start getting better, step by step. Have Faith, have hope ❤
Trying to make sense of the shadow is hard. But when presented with the choice of either living a life of perfection in the mind only, or surrendering to the reality of one's true weight in the world, the shadow comes forward. This video really helps.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
I love it when a question in life we've had for a while receives an answer. Great video, thank you.
I've been doing a lot of thinking these past few months. I suddenly got a problem into things I'm doing. "This is the right thing to do but my feelings don't feel inclined with this right decision." Do i follow what i feel or what i think? do i do what i think i am or what i want?" i would always ask myself and would destroy myself inside out because i was scared of the pain of change.
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*Sometimes, the hardest thing in life is simply to take the first step.*
*I LOVE YOU* ❤️
This +
Sometimes, the hardest thing in life is simply to take the first step.❤️🙏🏻
Took me a decade to learn this lesson. I still have my head in the clouds sometimes, but I've been making an effort to improve my reality.
one of the greatest short video's I've watched for 17+ years of RUclips existence
Befriend your shadow.
My coach said to me once. This is the best representation I have seen of that concept, well done and thank you. ✌
This is so applicable to my situation wow. I was so scared to switch to the major i always wanted cause it was wat more academically challenging but once i did i realised i can do a lot more than i think
Way way more actually
Like he said i excel in some parts and do worse in other stuff but its all part of the journey and i love it all
the example you used in this video is actually something I'm going through in college. thank you.
Currently, im still having problems with self acceptance. Other than that, i actually fully agree with what this video has shown, as it has happened to me. But instead of not being able to move forward, i fell back and destroyed myself through self pleasure because i thought i would always remain a genius. Also, math topics can actually be very different so i would like to say that no one, not even Sri Ramajunan(my idolll) was great in all aspects of mathematics. If someone compliments us, its best not to simulate it in your brain over again and again too as u will drown in this temporary pleasure.
I've been experimenting with Hidden Time Wealth, and wow, the results speak for themselves. It's a game changer for anyone struggling with procrastination.
THIS IS ONE OF THE GREATEST VIDOES ON THE INTERNET! THANK YOU!
This is fantastic, very well explained! I really needed this this year as well, I'm going through a divorce where I've become a single parent to my young child so I don't have as much time to get out there and it's been very tempting to hide myself away and stop trying to improve myself in the last few months. That way it's not my fault I haven’t succeeded, it's everyone else's for not 'discovering' my natural brilliance. I'm not as happy as I was, though, and I need to keep pushing myself. I know I'm average at a lot of things rather than brilliant at a few, and although my ego would love me to be a bit more amazing I'm quite happy being one of the crowd. I'm certainly better off being in the crowd, aware of my place in the world and working on improving than I am hiding away indoors.
Be strong,u will do it for sure,god bless u,sending u love and courage❤️💌
Will you face your own shadow and go vegan? Are you brave enough? 👉 Dominion (2018)
What is everyone trying to achieve in order to 'succeed' in life? I've had lots of achievements... Skipped a grade in school, went to the top of 'gifted' classes after that, went to college, started a business, made tons of money, dated the hottest women but so what? Being poor and average surrounded by people who love you seems better than chasing success. Happiest times were hanging out in the woods with my gf when we had nothing or spending time with my dad or recording music just for fun. Food for thought. We've been trained to measure ourselves by our achievements but once you get there, it's empty. That's why rich corporations will continue to screw everyone. It's never enough.
This reminds me of when I got into combat sports again as an adult. I can easily win fights with random people that would get pissed and swing on me. I used to have this view that I was bulletproof, that I was better even than champion fighters because of my scrappy nature. Then I actually got into combat sports again, my first practice I got my ass absolutely handed to me. But I had a smile on my face during every loss. Because it made me realize how deep combat sports were, it made me happy that I still had something to learn.
The issue in my case is that there are 3 tiers of fighter. The average person, someone that's willing to fight, and a trained fighter. Just having that will to fight is enough to scare off the average person that tries to throw down. But a trained fighter is a different breed.
After a year being an amateur sumo wrestler I can headbutt fellow competitors so hard I give them a concussion, I don't even feel strikes to the face or chest anymore, and hell last practice I won a match where my throat was being lunged at by just pushing into it and choking myself in the process. I nearly fractured my own windpipe because of how hard I charged into that choke.
And I'm just an amateur. I'm nothing compared to the pros. And I love that. I love to be apart of something so deep that even giving my all I still have a long long long way to go before I could even last 10 seconds against a pro.
Recently did something similar with my drawing. I started drawing more and more. There was initial sadness when I realized I'm really not as good as people used to say I was, but I started feeling quite happy actually making my small improvements.
It took me thirty years to understand what I want.. and then I was so afraid pursuit it and so it took me another 6/7 years to understand where my fear is coming from
How did you come to realisation of what you wanted? Did you know it but it was repressed, or did you push yourself to find it?
@@LostJ it was repressed, I was conditioned to do that and I kept doing it exactly as I used to hear it from others, I repeated it.. until it totally disappeared around when I was 15 years old.
It's long story.
Im on that timeline too man. The good thing is we're not extremely late, my bet is many people in their 60s only find this out.
Man this video had me feeling things I never felt
This resonates with me right now more in the way of embracing your shadows you are so afraid of and maybe realizing they are not so horrifying as you are imagining.. embracing my full personality to stop worrying about how people will take it and realizing it’s not as unbearable as I think.
The pain of trying your hardest and failing is so great that i just half try at everything so that when i fail i just say "its okay i didn't to my best anyway, if i did i would've succeeded"
Failure is how you know where you need to practice more.
Try extra hard and when you fail say "it's okay I failed because I tried my hardest, which means I actually did succeed." Reality is, when you try your hardest, you end up winning unforeseen prizes that you couldn't predict, usually they end up much better than the prize we were planning on and aiming for. Godspeed!
“ so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
-Teddy Roosevelt
Completely amazing video. I feel so insecure, myself.
i hope you feel better now
Wow this resonates with me. I applied to art school twice and got in but never went because of fear, emotional instability, not feeling ready. Regret that I didn’t even give it a try. Wasted so much time by withdrawing, self-sabotaging myself, living in a fantasy world. Struggle to face reality and create art again.
This is me. I kept starting and stopping toward my goal thinking it's a bad idea, having panic attacks. Now I'm in process of actually achieving it. I'm petrified but pushing thru my fear. Good luck to everyone here.
@@gaylepeeples9749 Thanks for sharing. Just had a conversation about trust and what that means: Daring to do something/Take a risk despite fears and being open to what comes. Wish you all the best.
People's negative traits are trauma defences. Remove the trauma, remove the traits you don't want. Liked and subscribed.