9 Hurtful Things Parents Tell Teens
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- Опубликовано: 23 авг 2024
- How to deal with teens? Being a parent isn’t easy, especially when your child reaches puberty. And adolescence is no walk in the park for teens either! That’s why this can be a turbulent time for both parties involved. What can make the situation better and help you both come out with your relationship intact is if parents avoid saying the following things to their kids.
Do you know, for example, that what looks like a harmless compliment can actually do some real psychological damage in a teen? Dr. Timothy Gunn, a licensed clinical psychologist, says that these sorts of compliments put extra pressure on your child, making them afraid that if they do something wrong, you'll see that they're not so smart, talented, and pretty after all. As a result, they often avoid risky situations because of a fear of failure!
TIMESTAMPS:
#1: “Don't do that!” 0:51
#2: “As long as you live under my roof, you'll follow my rules!” 1:37
#3: “Come on, don't be sad!” 2:31
#4: “How could you do this to me?” 3:26
#5: “Find your passion.” 4:17
#6: “You're getting kinda fat.” 4:59
#7: “You're so smart!” 6:06
#8: “What's wrong with you?” 7:17
#9: “Why can't you be more like...?” 8:10
#teens #teenagers #teenageproblems
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SUMMARY:
- Whenever your teenager proposes another crazy scheme to you, don't yell “No!” right away. Just offer them another idea with a casual “And what about...?”
- “You live under my roof and you’ll follow my rules!” The first thing that’ll go through a kid’s head after that is, “Great, then how can I get outta here?!” During this period, they want to make their own decisions.
- This is a time when their hormones are doing all kinds of crazy things to their body and emotions. That’s why you should be their safe haven, where they can come for support and understanding. And, of course, your door is always open, the loving parent that you are!
- Gregg Chapman, a psychologist and clinical manager at Strategic Psychology, explains that teenagers rarely do something out of a sense of obligation to their parents. And that's why this argument will most likely not work on your child.
- Jeff Leiken, a motivational expert and author of “Adolescence Is Not a Disease,” says that the pressure to find this one thing that they would love to do for the rest of their lives only makes teens more stressed and anxious of making the wrong choice.
- Weight is a sensitive topic for pretty much everyone, especially teenagers. This is an extremely confusing time for your child since their body is changing, and they don't really understand what's happening. Almost every teenager becomes self-conscious during this time, and they certainly don't need any comments about their looks from others, you included.
- Just speak honestly and directly about everything that’s concerning you, making sure that they understand that it’s their behavior you’re bothered by, not them as a person. This method will help you meet each other halfway and keep your relationship open and trusting.
- If you wanna find common ground with your teen, remember one thing: never ever compare them to somebody else. It just hurts and slowly but surely ruins your relationship with your child.
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How would you describe your relationship with your parents?
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My relationship with my dad is filled with hatred and anger from years of pain, and what I found out recently was mental and emotional abuse. The best word to describe him is "narcissist"
The relationship between my mother and me is still pretty unsteady, but she has made an effort to mend the relationship, even speaking my love languages.
In a nutshell, it depends on which one you're talking about.
I am struggling with my parents atm and it's really hurting me
@@SootyDreams I hear you loud and clear
I guess the only thing I kinda have a problem with my mom is that I can tell she'll have expectations due to how old I am, which kinda annoys me
@@papaemeritusthe3rd318 even now, he continues to put me down and insult me and say I won't make it on my own. Yet here I am, 150 miles away from him, living independently. because I had to take care of myself since a young age and support and care for everybody else as well, life has been a lot easier when all I have to care for is me. I left him. and I would sooner live in a dumpster than move back in with him.
My mom says "it's just hormones you will get over it" and it makes me mad.
Ya one day I was sad n crying because something happened but next day she wa like, it's just hormones
Me so ture
cuz it is just hormones kiddo
@Elio i see
you sound like you dont know the weight of the meaning behind "hormones" and thats why you feel small
remind your parents ( especially mom ) that 'just' those hormones make every women bleed every month till they are around 48 age
those hormones are also the reason behind the big stuff like love ( oxytocin )
and in males
testosterone is the reason of countless history of wars blood and violence cuz this hormone promotes unnecessary aggression
tell your parents that and they might consider these "hormonal" behaviours and treat you better
We may have hormones butbour emotions are very real.
2 things my parents say that hurt me are:
"You need to be more social". Even though I'm an introvert and it's not that easy.
"Look at your friend, she knows how to behave and makes lots of friends". Comparing us to other kids doesn't motivate us, it makes us feel worthless.
Introverts are a certain way, they can’t just “make friends”. It’s not that easy. Introverts are anxious and non social people. Back then almost everyone was an extrovert BECAUSE they had no choice. But now, we can choose to be social or not.
Yeah, me too. Maybe you could say "everyone's different."
I had to listen to that everytime when I lived in a society full of oversmart kids and now I'm happy to live in a building top floor staying mostly isolated
Exactly told
Yea these hurt a lot
"ill give my kids a life that my parents never gave me"
I want to do the same for my baby
Same🙂
Same
Same
Yup same
Here's another phrase
DO THIS
DO THAT
CLEAN THIS
CLEAN THAT
Yup
What's rlly annoying is when they say "u never do anything" well ye cause when we do, you say it's awful and re-do it yourself any way
CyberDoctor1918 finally someone who understands
@@lee-anger3774 ikr! It's super annoying
Yea....AND MY LIL BROTHER DOES NOTHING AT ALL AND JUST MAKES ME IN MORE TROUBLE!
Parents who make fun of their teenager hurt their self-esteem.
I Know,Im 14 And Going Through Alot More Than You Expect..
@@shiroutheb3st iam also 14 and same situation
@@shiroutheb3st same but i'm 12😓
My mom makes fun of me too
@@shiroutheb3st me,I'm destroyed, African parents
“When I was your age”
"When I was your age I was perfect in everything" and once I asked my mum meaning of ultimate and she couldn't even pronounce that word
Ikr 😂
"When I was your age, I wasn't able to do *action* "
Oh yess 😢🤣
She has a go at me for spending too much time on my phone and tells me she didn’t do that in her day BUT PHONES WERENT A THING IN YOUR DAYYYY
Seriously if she wanted me to be more like her as a child she should’ve had me earlier
If the kid is adopted, definitely never say "I never had this problem with MY kids"
Experience. Lol
That's actually a good idea.
Dayum i wouldve been like well im not like your kids and probably told them off
@@cannabisfusion9936 yeah, that got the water works going about how I was being unfair to her when she was trying to give me stuff her kids never had and my mom couldn't XD
Well atleast you don’t have their genes lol
Im compared to my siblings 24/7 and secretly i cry about it.
Dear god, you have no idea how relatable that is
Relatable
Yup same
same proplem just with friends...
Cosel Colistic AJ i dont even have siblings and my parents compare me to people
Im a Teen and i Always got compared by my parents and i always think
What if i compare them to other parents too.
They Will Say.. "Why Dont You Live With Them"????
Do that
its just so hurtful when they compare me to others i feel like im nothing to them.
savage
Oh my gosh why haven't I thought that before
90% of kids are watching this and only 10% of parents watching this
More like 5 %
That means the future parents are preparing themselves.
Gacha Girl,Your One Of The Kids.
*more like 99.99% of teens*
Yup
What about mocking your teen when they are mad?
Just me?? Oh.
Nope, happens to me too
Happens to me, too.
Just you
happens to me as a child
Honestly! They don't take us seriously and it really hurts. They act like we're dogs who lost a toy
Parents secret Weapon : They always want to win any argument and if they feel like losing they try comparin.... *DEFINITLEY MAKES SENSE*
*gives a valid point* s o u n d s l i k e d i s r e s p e c c
True
TIMESTAMPS:
#1: “Don't do that!” 0:51
#2: “As long as you live under my roof, you'll follow my rules!” 1:37
#3: “Come on, don't be sad!” 2:31
#4: “How could you do this to me?” 3:26
#5: “Find your passion.” 4:17
#6: “You're getting kinda fat.” 4:59
#7: “You're so smart!” 6:06
#8: “What's wrong with you?” 7:17
#9: “Why can't you be more like...?” 8:10
Hi brightside
Hi brightside
I'm asian and if my parents would see this they be just like:
_Pfffft,That is just an excuse_
I know right 😂
Yeah....
IKR (ARE YOU A KPOP MULTIFANDOM!?!?)
Your so true
You are right
My parents biggest fault : comparing me to other children.
It really hurts and questions does your parents love you?
Sometimes it makes me feel like they would rather the other kids other then me..
Same. "Your friends wouldnt act like this!!!"
No my mom dosent love me because im just an mistake
Same here 😩
Yeah, like how would you feel if I compared YOU to other parents?!?!
P.s. try this selfish parents, ...if you wouldn’t say something to a stranger... don’t say it to your child.
I think it's an interesting idea! 🤔
I think you're missing the point.
I wouldn't tell a stranger I love them. This is not good advice.
Wernt you told not to talk to strangers
Yes...
But no
Another thing that really hurts is when you are told constantly that you are lying about something my mother always told me that
Same with me.
Same here, my mom does not believe a word a say, so I always give up on my rebuttals and take her screaming
OR WHEN THEY THINK YOU'RE LYING AND WONT BELIEVE UOU CAUSE IT'S BETTER FOR THEM TO NOT LISTEN TO YOU A T A L L.
LIKE. No I Don'T TRUst YOu- I TRUst YOu bUt I doN'T CarE AboUT WhAt yOu say- I BElIevE yoU DiDn't dO what I askEd yOu tOD o YOU'RE LyING-
Me: I'm really...just done.
@@malloryobrien8335 Exactly
@@malloryobrien8335 well you shouldn't give up
stay strong and don't let them get away with it
My parents would never see it. So, these things aren't going to happen with me.. 😭
Seems to me that the parents who need educating the most are the least likely to seek it! I guess most of them are trying the best they can with what they have. And some are just downright toxic! Best of luck.
Same here. my parents beat me and always ragging me what to do 😢😢😢😢
@@jeelanbaig5788 that is so sad. And relatable
My parents tell me almost everyday that “why can’t u be like the other kids” or “i wish I had a different child” 😔 i wish my parents loved me...
I'm sure they love you. Some parents just have a difficult time showing it.
@@amywalker9083 yeah telling me that i was a mistake now i know they love me so much
my mom always says : If you dont like me change mom 🙂
i wish i could!
@@Its.Katzekatze me too
I'm pretty sure they love u ,it's just that they don't know what phrase or sentence to say to you to make you feel better and they we're raised like that too
Who's here to prepare for the future on what not to say to your kids??
Meee
Lol me too.
Me im only 10 years old
Me I dont wanna be like my old guy
Yup
I'm sure that 90% of those who are watching this video are teenagers
Including me. I'm 15.
true
You got it
I'm 10
I'm fifteen too:)
Same lol
A lot of Parents forget how it was to be a Teenager,So they dont relate well with the growing hormones and the problems of a teenager.
I think they do remember, but they know all that passes quickly and the REAL world kicks in. Parents aren't psychiatrists. They're just normal people trying to make it through their teenagers awkward time as well. I'm so glad I didn't have to grow up in this day and age.
@@jessicafain6630 Well some remember But some are so tired. Because it is Hard.Life is very different in this technical 🌎 we live in.....
BS
Wrong, the remember what it was like to be teenagers, however they didn't have the same upbringing as their children. My parents started working when they were as young as 10 years old, it was illegal for me to get a job younger than 14 years old.
@@lilchristuten7568 I didnt say all i said a lot.Read it right...
Mom says this "What if I let you pay for raising you? Can you deal with it?" When we go into a fight...
That's is just missed up how parents treat's are kids
Parents need to see this if they are treating their children like this.
I definitely agree
I too agree
im being treated like this
Sadly, there are no tests that one needs to take and pass in order to become a parent. There are so many parents out there who are terrible, and should never have had children, but it still happened.
Yes
“Who do you think you are” is a phrase I hear my mom say to me frequently and idk how to answer it lol
You should say "your daughter/son
@@mygodwhatdidyoudoThe parent is most likely just having a power struggle, stop being negative. Ur like a parasite no one wants you here
Running around leaving scars
Mr Damnation that’s a very rude assumption
If my mum said that I'd just be like... "I'm your son can't you remember me" lol
"You're setting a bad example"
I’m a parent of a teen and this was informative. And quite honestly, these are so obvious and find it fascinating that in this day and age where so many parenting books are available and so much information in general is available parents still speak to their kids this way. I think teens are especially fragile and parents have to navigate it a bit differently. It makes me sad reading the comments of so many teens hurt by their parents. Sending lots of love to you.
I'm sure you're a great parent! 🌼If there were more like you...
I wish I have a great parents like you ma'am...My family doesn't even understand me. When they are right they think I'm wrong and they always blame me even though it's not my fault.
Please be my mom!
Thank You Ma’am 👍
Many thanks your way
Why am i watching this my mom will never watch this and i will be always compared with my little sister
NUR QISTINA BINTI SUKIMI - thank you arigatou : )
Exact same for me
Send it to her.
Curls Galore are you a kpop fan?
Ikr?!
*"Why don't you trust me?"*
This hurt a lot when my mum said it.
Mmm... I think that's more general than teen-based/related/whatever-you-wanna-call-it especially when it comes from honestly anyone you care about. Nice try though! 👍
I know, it's not always that we don't trust them, maybe we just appreciate more privacy
Maybe? I suppose that depends on the situation hmm?
@@asbygaming2597 I know right
@@totallythetruepancakeboi6329 thanks
The most hertful and annoying thing is
Telling me to study after coming from the last exams
When your parents get mad at you for failing even when you tried so hard. They think i don't try. I'm literally trying just for them
Sad
I am 13 and my parents know nothing of the above. They know that teenage is hard, but they just think that it will go away by time😢😢I don't trust them anymore like before. It just feels like sucks!
Rania El Dheiby b
@@wannabe41 I just wanna hug you😢 you know what? You made my day. Thank u for supporting me, you and all who liked my comment. You mean like everything.❤
Hang in there! I believe that things will get better.
Rania El Dheiby I feel the same. It's like I wanna live with my best trusted friend or my boyfriend because of this
Seriously theyre right though, its not forever.
I don't have kid. However somehow I see myself, my childhood here in the video. But it not only affect children in their teens but also as an adult. Sad but true
the way my mom deals with a stressful situation is by laughing, every time I have an upsetting issue she can't stop laughing while I am explaining it and therefore my problems are a joke and not valid
aww
bro have you seen Joker?
Its ok
I am so sorry.
Same
99. Percent of kids are watching cuz they’re abused
....
tired of life, because of my parents😒
My older brother hates me and so does my dad and I always wake up late :/
“When I was your age I would hang out with my friends outside all day!”
Also my mom
Me: hey mom can I hang out with my friends-
Mom: *NO MY HOUSE MY RULES*
My dads the same
I'm 14 , and this video is a perfect representation of what I'm going through.
How many of you guys/gals are going through this too?
I love that you watch this.
As a mom of two teenagers, make sure you share this video with your parent. It will help A LOT if they know this is how to talk to you! !
Take care and hang in there!
It gets SOOOO much better
The Jolly Jolteon I’m 14 too and I’m going through this x
@The Jolly Jolteon and also @Alishba Faisal - Maybe you two could each watch this video w your own parents...? You never know - it could help... Good luck to you both - I hope everything works out!!🍀👍🏽💜
@@laurafawley4158 awww thx and i sure will share it to my parents so they can undetstand me better
@@namelia4439 thx for your amazing support.
Where's things like
"It's just a phase" or "you'll be fine"
Just because you're a teenager doesn't mean any emotion is a "phase". If you're upset people shouldn't just assume it's because of puberty or something like that.
When your parents only find your mistakes
yeah i feel that too
Ikr even tho I'm a child they think I'm "mature" so I don't need appreciation. In fact, I have never got birthday presents from around when I was 4, they always say my sister is young so she can do literally whatever she wants.
same😒
@@eternitiesx umm I haven't even got a single present from my parents I thought parents don't need to give us presents 😐
My dad told me: "You won't make the same mistakes we made, you will make another set on your own." He was pretty much right!
1:59
It should be punctuated like this
"You live under my roof; you'll follow my rules!"
But can you get over this rule by climbing to the roof?
"You are under the ceiling of *my* room, you'll follow *my* rules!"
-random thing i thought of
Me : dad I don't want to go to school tomorrow
Dad : u know when Obama was ur age he used to walk 12 miles to go to school
Me : that's great but u know what dad?
Dad : what?
Me : when he was ur age he became the president
Edit : thank me later
Savage~
this is the best thing ever haha!!
Thanks imma use this
And then flying slipper hits the face
SAVAGE!
The fact that parents will "never do this again" but still do it anyway
'You dissappointed me very much.'
A phrase that litterally drains my soul, because I cannot do anything to end the situation IN THAT MOMENT, and I have to live with that horrible feeling of hurting my mom, or not being able to talk to her for a little painful while.
I know that EVERYONE demands A LOT from the parents, especially their children, that don't understand them... I just think that parents should expect at everything from their kids, even if they are smart, quiet, etc., so the parents can overcome easily or avoid completely that feeling of dissappointment.
I mean, everyone makes mistakes or bad things that are usually not in their behaviour, but it happens to everyone, the parents can talk with their teens about that, in order to understand the reason of their imprevisible actions.
Adi Adi I agree if they are never telling you when they are proud of you. I know some parents always communicate the negative and never good. But loving parents who have good balance on support and encouragement are the best people to learn how to handle disappointment from. Better that you learn from someone who also loves you even though they are disappointed than from your future employer whom you are counting on to have money to pay for bills and food but could always get someone else to do your job (same apples to customers if you have your own business). Learning how to handle it and grow from it will make you stronger in the long run.
@@ClaireRader They always tell me when they are proud or dissappointed, but I know that they love me VERY much, that's why their feelings are so strong. And that's why I feel so bad when I hear that phrase, because I know I hit in their love, I did not even thought at that (eventually I just thought at myself and I made something bad, like, always going to bed late, just because I want), and they will keep that feeling inside their souls for some time. My parents are optimistic and support me, but my mom is very sensitive, and she tells me dirrectly if I dissappointed her; honestly, I never heard my dar saying that to me, but however, I think he would find another way to make me know it.
Adi Adi , my parents called my Satanism a phase. 20+ years later, my mother has grown to accept it.
You are 100 percent right.
No matter what I do my parents are never proud and I just try and try and try but I always make mistakes no matter how small they are 😔
im a shy teen and i’ve been giving vERY obvious signs to my mom that i am feeling bad and bored and tired and she just says “so am i!? *nervous giggle*” or “and what do you want me to do about that..” and that maked me even sa-a-a-a-addeeer~
Same with me really all asian parents are the same in treating their kids
@@rishika6973 ikr and it is comman in every other asian home.. but we have feelings
Here's another phrase: 'I PASSED MY TEENAGE IN A WORSE WAY THAN YOURS.'
*What if everything they tell you hurts?*
*I don't like being asked if I'm okay, it bothers me for some reason and I'd rather be left alone. Sometimes asking kids if they're okay can make the situation worse*
OOHH
This hit a bit too close to home man :')
Same
U k bro?
Dodač Nope.
I actually got a bit emotional during this video as I myself am also a teen and my mother says these things to me a lot. And because I come from a certain culture, everybody expects me to be flawless skinny and just perfect. ❤️❤️thank you so much for this video though, I really appreciate it ❤️❤️❤️
I feel sorry for you
Alishba Faisal no one is perfect including myself i am far from a saint. lol i am 25 and i get it. All these things that were said to me in this video has actually made me have anxiety.
Its the same with me
I AM REALLY SORRY FOR YOU ;(
Alishba Faisal which culture? East asian?
And when you cry in front of them they say “I cant tell anything in this house”
my parents are the cause of 95% of my breakdowns
Same and for me the other 5% is myself
same😒
Who else here is a kid trying to find out what their parents are doing wrong XD
Edit: Wow thanks for so many likes!
For all you who see it, I hope you have a legendary day! :)
Aye me
@@xer01chi14 lol I wish parents knew this stuff
Ikr it is like im on thin ice w my parents now
I am also an teen
*LOL* me!
Things my mom says:
“You know I can’t laugh at everything you say!”
“I’m sorry hunny, I’m working right now” “oh sorry sweetie, what did you say?”
“That’s normal, it’ll go away soon”
“Your smart, you’ll figure it out”
“Okay! That’s enough!”
“It’s only funny once”
“I don’t want to right now, I’m busy”
*”I’M TIRED, NOT NOW”*
At least she's not mean only the last one though
I get that all of these except for the last phrase has a nice-like approach, I still feel like it's just another way they don't accidentally swear at us
It's no surprise, seeing as because my parents always say these lines whenever me and them fight, my relationship to them is to the point I literally don't want to be around them.
Well....I’m a teen and I feel like the teachers just give us way to much work to do in so little time and it’s so annoying cause I’m always sitting in my room doing homework , they won’t give us a break , I wish I could go back to elementary
I’m only in 6th grade and this happens to me too. Everyday is so much work and so little time to do it
Am I the only one who was crying and depressed when studying for exams just to make my mom happy ? :)
I'm from india and this is what happens in school
Go to school
Write
Write
Write
Write
Write
Like literally in one period we right like 10 or 20 pages
evandoyle 64 well I’m in 6th grade (12 years old) and due to the pandemic we haven’t had homework for like 8weeks or so
@@evandoyle646 same
My gosh, my parents have said ALL 9 THINGS to me all the time! I’m now 22 years old & im still lost & confused on my passions. And when I saw this video I was like...’no wonder!!!’
The Alextrifier your blaming your life on your parents? Your selfish
Don’t blame them, most parents are this way.
Yes because as an adult now you are not responsible for your life or your own happiness, it's all your parents fault
I'm 35 my mom still yells at me and treats me like crap,I live at home to take care of my mom that's now disabled and she's mentally abusive.
ashley patsey put her in a home and move on with your life
My parents are probably not in my life like 50% of the time and when they are they act like this.
Same here I feel like I’m raising myself at this point after my sister left
yes exactly the same
"I love you, but i cant trust you anymore" that hurt SO much when my dad said that just because i have bad grades and i say i will do better but its fkin hard....
I'm asian and my parents don't really understand English and I speak fluent I'm 13
Don't really know how Dat makes sense but ok
The other phrase that parents should also avoid is “why do you act like your...”
Wow....My father should have seen this way before I was born....
Another one that I find hurtful is when your parents get really mad at you and start calling you names. Anyone had that happen to them?
Natalie Harris I'm sorry that your parents call you names. Name calling is NEVER appropriate. Please don't imitate their behavior when you are an adult. And never, never stay in a relationship with someone who calls you names when you are old enough to be out on your own. ❤️❤️
Cathy Jordan, that has oy happened a few times, but still
You can tell a Puerto Rican mother didn't come up with this video.
Is it Because poueto rico mother are child abusers ... I hate almost anything puerto rican
😂
same with my asian mother😒
Me: getting a cookie
Mom: don’t do that!
Me:but MooOoOOoom I’m hungry
The phrase, you're just like you're father/ mother. Or you're gonna end up like you father/ mother
Im a teen.
Astride Games me too
Im too. Thats why im desperate to get more subscribers. I cant help it but i have to ask you.will you subscribe me. I will subscribe you too
Same...
@@katelyneighteen3390 will u subscribe me im a very lonely guy
Look at my reply to the kid above, the EXACT same thing applies to you. Share this with your parent, it will help them to understand your feelings and help them to treat you with respect.
Good luck!
Now I see why I cried when my dad said "What's wrong with you?"
I am a teenager and 7 actually helps me. It is completely untrue in my case. And the other “more helpful” compliments actually ticked me off. If someone said you work so hard, it would make me feel like they thought I didn’t understand it and needed a lot of time and/or help to get it. Now this is just me personally, but my point is every teen is different and you don’t have to, and you shouldn’t, follow these 9 things to the “T”.
Ya I have one think I would like u to add BRIGHT SIDE.... It is that parents want you to be perfect...in everything... Studies... Sports...active all the time and ready to anything.... No rest...no sign of laziness and be ready to accept any request like an invitation to a marathon! This just feels so wrong...how can I or anyone be perfect and ACT UP TO THEIR EXPECTATIONS! They want everything inside Me...90% in studies...gold medals in sports...ready for some physical activity even if u are tired to the minimum!
It's so funny, the amazing intelligent people that come up with this stuff have no children of their own.
That’s kinda the thing most parents want of their child, to be successful, but don’t let it bother you, just keep going, find your own passion, I’m sure your parent will be happy either way!
"You should be grateful that we do this for you."
“Jeez chill out it’s just a joke, you get so mad over nothing!”
these are amazing videos , which software are you using for creating the character animations
My mom, who had hormonal disorders when she was my age and thus never really acted irrationally, constantly tells me that it’s impossible to understand me or people my age in my generation. It makes me happy to know that there are people who can openly analyze teenagers, and they can admit that, yes, it is indeed possible to understand people my age and not treat them like aliens.
Not my parents my parents love my twin sister and little brother and I just feel like the middle brat !😭🤬
My parents always compare me with my marks its not just today story it is from 5yrs of my age. they beat me ... They Hurt Me... They always try to compare me I heard this complement from many kids "My parents are best parents in the world" but I *can't* say this uhhh 😞😞
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Child abuse
A phrase I wouldn't forget which hurts me to bits is "It's just discipline"
The 2nd one always hits me hard.I hear it regularly....
I think all they wanted is for you to be obedient and thats how it came out.
me too!!
My mom loves to say the second phrase.
yes
Worst Combination in our society, Helicopter Parents and Corrupt Politics
Also Our broken School system
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@@pepayg6957 sure
Wait until you go to college where weird people that call themselves professors try to use for their own political agenda.
yaaa its true from which country you are from my country situation sounds similar
@S M , these are parents who HOVER over all aspects of their child's life rarely allowing him or her any independence to learn life experiences. It's a controversial concept since it conflicts with certain cultural beliefs where parents stay involved in their kids lives, especially with the School System and Medical Systems.
Never joke about selling your kid or sending them away, sounds ridiculous but it is common in my region. If said to a kid who already lack security like me, they'll lose all trust to people and even themselves.
Im legit crying rn. The " your so smart" one really got to me. I really wanna become a singer but am (not bragging I swear) really smart too. Growing up in the home that I am in everyone wants me to become a doctor but I want to do something that I love. But I dont know if this is the safe way. Another one that spoke to me is the find your passion one. I already know what my passion is its just that idk if singing will make me successfull😭
i want to become an actor but can't
Most of that phrases where told to me by my mother 😅 specially the comparison. Maybe that is the reason why I can't trust and forgive her quickly. 💔
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The last one really make me mad,because they always compare me,even when i said "don't compare me to others because we are different " and what hurts the most is,they don't know that it's hurting us when they compare us to others.This make me feel that i'm not enough for them and i secretly cry because it really hurts😭😭😭 and i keep my feelings to my self because i feel like they would do nothing about it or they will not understand what i'm going through.Sometimes i just want to be in another family,A family that will ask me if i'm okay,A family that will try really hard to understand me,A family that always make me feel soo loved and A family that will always make me happy.I feel like i'm DEPRESSED and no one cared.😭😭😭😭😭(I WISH THAT I HAVE A FRIEND LIKE ME)
I have the same thoughts...
You deserve a hug 😢
yes you are having a friend and the friend is crying after this comment because this is the story in her life tooo
Should have added "acting like a baby."
YESSSSSS EXACTLY! Parents these days have no clue what so ever! Teens are going through puberty and so they are very emotional, so there is no reason for parent to tell their teen to stop being a baby when they are very emotional!
Ikr
Phrase to avoid:"go do the dishes"
Why can't you do this? Why can't you do that?
When growing up, you get, "You're not old enough to do this."
Whenever i show my parents these kinds of videos they would just say “that video is a LIE” and i would just cry with my pet Chickens outside
The damage has already been done...
If i show this video to my parents they will certainly say « How could you do this to us, we are not bad parents » and then i will show down my emotions like always, smile, hug them and then say « of course mom and dad, i love you , you are the best» and go to my bedroom to cry silently........sad reality........😓🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳.
Try and do your best to stop this game. Find the right words and explain the whole thing to your parents. One at the time or together is ok.
What they do is mild manipulation. They probably don't have bad intentions.
Be calm and sure of yourself. They love you too. 🌞
joyce Rouget ik it's like the parents will be horrible to you afterwards
Aderyn Dalton exactly 😿🙄
That's why I never had children. I'm too blunt. 😁
its okay bc we don't want prostitutes as our parents
@@BinaryTechnique this shows your upbringing
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Binary-Technique and I don’t want a child abuser too! XD
Its ok. I didnt know how to race a child. And had 5... im blunt and they are perfect. All went to collage and the 2 last highschooler and elementary and the las 4 said thank you mom for telling me how it is. It all depends on there personalities and with love and wise advice you'll be ok.
Even my parents have told me some of these things and I'm usually depressed after they told me such things...😣
“You can’t have the car for a week” I don’t even have one..
*Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.*
Can someone make my parents understand that?
Then- Sticks & stones may break my bones but your words will never hurt me.
Now- sticks & stones may break my bones but your words will devastate my inner child & harm me for life.
My parents really need a parent counsellor!! They are literally doing everything wrong! 🙄
I actually almost started crying at number eight because my mom ALWAYS asks that. :(
Edit: she says she never does this stuff and I'm making it up when I'm not, she says many of these too me.
"why you can't be like me"
I recognize myself in these. It is so true. It breaks the self esteem of a child. So much it could lead to depression, self hatred, low self esteem and fear of failure. As a mother I finally let go of all of these limitations and learned to love myself. I learned it is like this because in the culture I grew up in it is a normal thing to do. It can even get worser at least my parents eventually accepted my choices in work and stuff. So that’s a good thing. I tend to do things differently with my kids. Never project your own insecurity to your own kids. Love yourself and be proud!
Especially when they scream before hearing you. Understanding is what’s missing in every family. And I feel really sad about it.
I absolutely love this video. It really shows how teens feel when parents says these type of phrases. I know parents are trying to mold us into a mature person for the real world but, sometimes the things they say, hurts us children. 😁
I totally agree with you. 👍
Amen