I never had a bad childhood but i just missed out on certain things. My parents stopped doing fun things with our family when i turned 8, and i don't even remember anything anymore that happened when i was 8. If any parent is reading this, even if your kid is being stubborn or annoying never forget to also do fun things. Also, i think parents should stop using "When i was younger.." because things changed, the world isn't the same anymore. If your kid is sad and stressed, don't say "When i was younger we just had to deal with it" but show love and care. Like i said, i didn't have the worst childhood and I'm very blessed, however i definitely didn't have a fun childhood. Spend time with your kids, show them love and happiness
helena sousa Its not always a bad thing, but i do feel like people tend to forget the world changed alot.. Comparing kids to other people is very painful to most kids. Saying "When i was younger.." makes me feel like they're comparing me to their younger self, and it doesn't make me feel good enough I think that everyone can learn, even adults 😊
I showed this to my parents and the didnt agree😣 They said that we will grow up to be spoiled brats. That they control us in everything. Thanks mom and dad for raising me not to trust you at all.
My mother doesn’t follow the DON’T INTRUDE THIED PERSONAL LIVES rule. She guesses my password and looks at who o texted last and what I texted to them. 😡
5:53 That's the only positive thing mom did for me. She forced me to sing and now I was awarded best singer of my batch for my highschool graduation ceremony
I am a teen, 6/10 of these my parents still do. If I share this vid with them, I have no idea how they would react. My mom would probably have a talk with me and my dad would say that he still does everything right.
As a teen myself, I completely agree with the last one. Whenever my parents ask me who is my crush, I simply don't give an answer; it feels awkward and stressful. I will never tell my parents who she is because we all know that if I bump into her in public and my parents are present, they're gonna say something. They'll just have to find out when I tell them that we're dating, if everything goes right, that is.
Yes Im not Very ok anymore Hard Life Its all I can do to just walk out my door now. You know. I have to pray Alot to stay Brave. and its all because of Her and all the Abuse I went through. Im very careful now . Forgiven but still fight the effects of it. . . at times
One time my grandma asked for 10 dollars since I saved like 90 dollars, and my mom was like "No!" and then they started having a little argument. But, I didn't mind giving my grandma money because I know she would pay me back. But, I understand why my mom would say no. This is the reason why I never let my parents or grandma count my money. Lol
1:59 this is actually something my parents did and I can tell you that it makes me unable to have boundaries but also am unable to go to my parents because they always talk about their issues..
This is a parenting mistake parents do Mom: you are starting lessons on how to play the guitar tomorrow Kid:but mom I like to draw Mom:no buts mom knows best for you 1 year later Kid:mom I'm back from lessons Mom you're home early Kid:I got kicked out of lessons Mom:are you serious right now Kid:yes I was falling "too behind" the teacher got frustrated and kicked me out Mom: goes to lessons Teacher:hi Mom:why did you kick my kid out Teacher:because he was struggling too much Mom: you could've helped him Teacher I tried he was still struggling Like if you made this mistake or witnessed it
I abseloutly think this advice was extremely helpful. One recommendation to add on to your video was to consider this... Maybe let your child live a respected independent life but not to a point to were the parent does not understand the wants, and passions of the child, and they will definitely cooperate, and respect the parent
Regarding personal things, don’t ever read a teenager’s diary/texts without permission. Only get involved if they’re involved in something deeply concerning you, and even then, only read the things they show you. Diaries are places teens can truly express themselves without fear of being disciplined, so please respect their boundaries. What you can say instead is “you can write/draw whatever you want in this diary and nobody will discipline you for being yourself, but if there is something that I feel is genuinely distressing you, I may need to see some things. It’s not to disrespect you as a person, but it’s just to make sure you’re ok.” If, for example, your teen is being forced to do something that they shouldn’t, such as taking drugs or drinking underage, tell them about the dangers and instead of getting angry, let them experience the consequences of their actions and just remind them not to do it again. If self harm is involved, do NOT get angry: your son/daughter has a lot of negative things going on but don’t feel comfortable enough to tell you. If they keep a diary, ask if they want to tell you what is going on and if they don’t feel comfortable telling you, ask instead “do you have anything in your diary that you think might help me to help you?”. I understand that some teenagers will find this a very difficult thing to do, letting their parents into their personal territory, but for this to work, you and your teenage children need to have a very strong bond and trust each other immensely: remember too that teenagers are going through puberty and have a lot of hormones and changes going on in their bodies and heads, so something that may be minor to you might be a teens’ worst nightmare. Remember that you were once a teen yourself, so sometimes remembering your experiences and how you solved problems you had at that point in your life might help find solutions to help your teenage children. I don’t have children myself but I am an aunt and this is the sort of thing that I would tell my nephews and nieces when they get to the teen years.
Lilmadlass Inc What if in the diary or tells one of their friends in texts that they want to commit sucide? My mom reads my texts for my protection!! Dont even think about going there!!
I mean how are you gonna know if you don’t look. The better thing to do is to not sneak it. If they know this is a rule in the house that you must know what is being said then that’s fine. My friend does random phone checks but her daughter has agreed to that ever since she got a phone.
TIMESTAMPS Don't talk for them. 0:28 Don't try to be their best buddy. 1:24 Understand wants versus needs. 2:24 Don't help them too much. 3:23 Respect their tastes. 4:20 Don't count their money. 4:58 Don’t force hobbies or extracurriculars onto them. 5:52 Don't take their successes as your own. 6:50 Don't choose their presents. 7:37 Don't intrude into their personal lives. 8:27
I let my 7 year old daughter use my phone for exploring the internet and watching videos and movies on cause I understand that technology will only advance in her lifetime and the more she gets to use it the better for her skills But I do have a set time limit and parental locks on things so she doesn't accidentally go into something bad
I’m sending this to my mom and dad! They need to learn to give their children space! I mean, we’re not idiots, we know the difference between want and need, good and bad. I mean, if we’re spending money on drugs or achahol (I think that’s how you spell it) when we’re not old enough, you can put a stop to it. But if we want to buy a harmless toy for fun, we have every right to get it when we’re spending our own money. And never ever check your child’s texts because you may find some personal stuff about them that they weren’t ready to tell you yet. Like, maybe they have a boyfriend, but it’s not serious enough for them to introduce their new boyfriend to you yet. If you do this, your child may lose their trust in you because they don’t know if you’re going to go snooping through their personal things again. In conclusion, respect your child as their own individual. As a teenager I can relate to this
Bro i believe the only reason parents should snoop if its something not okay like sexting, drugs, even gangs. I mean i am a teenager but parents can and should be cautious for SERIOUS events. Sometimes parents overthink it and get annoying, like relationships and friends really shouldn't be a problem.
Honestly same. Its been so bad that once I turn 18 I'm leaving and not turning back even though they are gonna call the cops. I'll just be one step ahead this time and call the police my self and have them help me out.
Yeah my mom sometimes says “are you talking with someone* whatever I typing on my phone or searching something on RUclips or when I talking with the school it gets really annoying😒🙁😕
Who wants to hear a story? Once opon a time, When I was a little kid, my mom was my best friend. My ONLY friend in fact, apart from a spoilt, slightly bratty kid called Safire. Well, my mother neglected to inform me that I had to one day make FRIENDS with new people. And it did not help in the slightest that I was as shy as can be. So, on my first day of Preschool, I was still trying to work out a way to get out of it, and also how to become less shy and/or make friends. Eventually I made a Friend, she ended up betraying me, leading to bulling, sadness, tears, depression and suicidal thoughts for about 5 years. Boo. So there you go, people out there! If your a parent, or are going to be one, 🅳🅾 🅽🅾🆃 🅶🅾 🅳🅾🆆🅽 🆃🅷🅸🆂 🅿🅰🆃🅷.
I seem to strongly agree with these tips that you uploaded on RUclips, because it’s not easy to not make too many mistakes when you’re a 🧒🏻 . Parents say, “Don’t talk to strangers”. This is a serious business, because children shouldn't do that when they're present without mom or dad's supervision.
As a father of two beautiful girls I can say that the video was really helpful. Sometimes I try to help them with all my love, but at the cost of their self development. Being a parent is not easy, so kids, be honest with your parents and tell them wats going on, how you feel and what things are troubling you.
I mostly agree, but I think having friends of different ages is more important than having same-age friends. I remember hanging out with teenagers a lot when I was 3. I very much enjoyed it. I chose teens over age mates any day.
What about don't force your child to be part of a religion or believe something the child doesn't believe in or to force him/her to go to church because they "have too" ?
Psycho EM Tommy sorry but going to church will tell you there is about going to somewhere you don't enjoy And besides church is home to God you be blessed your protected I don't like going as well but unless change my dreams of life going to ⛪ will add on to learning aside my family
hose maria I actually see quite some adults in the comment section, but i do hope even more parents see this. I guess most adults just don't search for videos like this
LOL! This video is definitely geared towards kids! I'm laughing my head off! My daughter and I are very good friends and she knows that I snoop through her things sometimes! Yes, I do want to know who all of her friends are. I do monitor her money as well! It's called being a good responsible parent. Kids will lie to their parents no matter what! Even if they have good parents. Asking questions does not change make them push away. It's all in HOW you do it! I'm the authority in my home and my daughter knows that she is loved. We have a great relationship and she does not have emotional issues because I am an attentive hands on parent.
I remember one time my mom made me take a karate class when I was around 8 or 9. I literally stood there the whole time I was soo antisocial and still am🤣😄. Anyway the teacher yelled a me and said "You have to try" then I started to cry. Now that I think about...🤔 it I feel bad for the teacher because right after I started crying he panicked and asked where my parents were😅 he didn't know what to do
Hunter x Hunter Next Time Don't Cry just say I don't care I can do whatever I want dumbmass dance teacher LoL Just Kidding Don't Do That Just Don't Cry Press "Read more" #ForMoreInformation Talk To ur Dance Teacher: NoPe NoT tOdAy.
Hunter x Hunter omg me too but I actually played it I didn’t stand still but I got forced for karate for 5 yers until I finally decided to leave it on my choice
School days in 1950s GB was hard for me and I can Never forget those involved including my mother,, I beaten and humiliated by sadistic teachers and mentally tortured by my mother that expected more from me, It was later found out I am Aspergers /Dyslexic, I did not feel happy until I had left school and later when my mother had died,,
All parents should watch this, as well as intrusive grandparents. My bfs mother tries to do 90 percent of these things to my son. And hes 12. So now he resents and despises her. So I agree 💯 percent w this video. 👍🏽
Im 27 everytime my parents come to visit my home they would go through all my stuff and rearrange them despite me telling them to leave them. They literally know every single objects i got
Don't tell your kids what to do. My mom used to and still says things like "say thank you", "brush your teeth", "Eat." I've come to realize that's her way of having control over my life even when I'm thousands of miles away.
This is coming from a 14 year old girl, freshman in high school. You will ruin your kids’ lives if you intrude on their own personal lives. This made me distrust my mother, and now I have such a sucky relationship with her I WANT to move out. Don’t make your teens want to move out, okay parents? Going through their phone when you take it is the worst thing you can do as a parent. Also, yelling and hitting just makes them distrust you further. Don’t yell at them for telling you that some rule is unfair, it’s just their opinion. This is the best way to make them suppress their opinions and not want to tell you things. Just from experience, don’t give them an “I don’t believe you” or “someone’s influencing this” thing when and/or if your kid comes out of the closet to you. It hurts. A lot.
Lucy Sparey she was try throw me out a window the day I was born my uncle saved me. And I had no idea. until my sister told me. Im A Walking Miracle. By Grace Of God
she's gone now and im not mad or anything it was just scary to be alive around her we was Freinds when I was a teenager. and she took care of me when I was sick so we made up when I was older I had to work at 3 in the morning doing housework. and I would get slapped etc... it was not a good time for me. i was gone all summer and never came home started leaving at age 10. Tried to run away was afraid of trains and cars and streets. I am older but it effected me awful. its not easy to keep trying. sometimes but I never. give up.
This video made me cry because my parents don’t do any of them in fact I tried to put the sound on loud so they would hear but instead they yelled at me and now I’m grounded.
It’s true I learned how to play piano once my mother was talking to a women once and said “oh I learned how to play a piano last week or I like to draw” She shows my paintings to ppl and passes them off as her own literally she doesn’t say “our” or “we” she says “I” as in was her achievements
Everything in the video was so nice that I cannot describe. 👌🤩 The one thing I found too much relatable myself was that the parents should not interfere in a child’s (especially a teen’s) personal space. If u are a parent make sure u give full freedom to your kids and try not to read their messages aur check their phones because it does nothing other than making them feel insecure and offended.
Personally.. when my parents spoke about my achievements as "our" (which was rare tbh), I felt so supported and secure in it. And it made me feel an odd security if I failed, because I knew that would be "ours" as well.
I am a grandmother of seven. And I love watching my daughter and daughter-in-law mess up! I know I am a terrible person, but it's so hard not to laugh in front of them. They just keep digging that hole and digging... Only once my compassion for my daughter won out and I said, "Give me the shovel, Honey." "You're not going to win." She was having an argument with a two-year-old.
Mum use to do everything for me, not letting me try... once when I was a child I was making a sandwich for school and she snatched the knife and said oh let me do it. So I said how will I learn if you don’t let me try? She use to keep me in my shell and didn’t understand why I use to lash out so often. She hates the fact I’m married now and moved away. 😩 . I like the same music mum does but that’s my choice. A few songs I like she doesn’t. . I taught myself to be financially stable. . But my mother chose my gifts usually I’d hint at what I want. Sometimes I’d get it other times I didn’t. . My mother never let me have my own space she always wanted to know who I was talking to and what I was saying. :/ sometimes I’d just say you don’t wanna know.
I don't know if anyone is ever going to read this but I want to get this off my chest. I love my mom I really do. When I was a child I was kinda shy so when I was asked a question by an adult my mum used to answer for me and believe me I was okay with that . When I started to grow I realized she still answered in behalf of me and I felt awkward and embarrassed as the person was actually asking me the question. I felt ashamed and tried to confront her and broke into tears every time. I am a teenager and unfortunately she still does it unknowingly. We had a big fight about it and she said her mother did the same to her and she turned out fine. The dilemma now is that the same people who used to ask me questions now ask my mother instead and that breaks my heart. And even when they ask me directly I feel conscious when answering. She understands when I tell her this but again tries to do it anyways, so now I am gonna send this video to her and hope she sees I am not really oversensitive and this really affects a person's self esteem. Never thought I will write such a long comment but it feels good to put it out there.
Please make a video to make parents know that we children's are not machines they put so much much pressure on us of studies that we are not able to do the things we like and also they say that if you don't study you won't do anything and even we study and they don't see and when they are studies who would they say that you haven't studied a bit what is this
You know what my parents shouldn't do order my food I'm 14 I can order my own food but they act like I can't it's so easy to do they just do it for me I guess
I know what you mean. I am a waitress and let me tell you the AMOUNT OF TIMES a parent orders for a 12 year old and even cuts their food for them so they won't have to cut it themselves. I just want to tell them like "dang you're kid is 12 years old ma'am he can order himself, I've seen 4 year olds ordering themselves, and I'm pretty sure your kid has been able to eat himself without you helping him since he was 3. If you won't even let your kid pick and eat his own food then how is he suppose to go out into the real world and make his own decisions?"
I have a very independent 4 yr old boy, who can speak very clearly for himself. He knows what he wants and goes for it. He orders his own meals when we are out, I honestly couldn't imagine doing everything for my little man... It's hard to cut the apron strings but so good once done lol. I agree, when I see a parent still tieing shoelaces for an 8-year-old, and then goes velcro so they don't need to, it really tweaks my melon! ow is a child supposed to cope once they leave home LOL
Yeah I told my mom that and she was like what about a week ago when I didn't order for you and I was just like that's because I spoke so fast you couldn't speak for me
Barbie is the best Barbie inspires. She has various careers which inspires to be something. She inspired me too. She and you can be anything. If you see Barbie's perfection then it is incorrect She teaches that no one is perfect not even She. Parents should be your idol(same) But if something inspires you, go for it! Toys developes learning! Bright side gave the most loveliest example, Barbie I recently got a note from her- You are strong, independent and will go far. Not saying Barbie is the only toys which inspires, but Barbie is the best not only for girls for everyone! Now getting out of the topic let us all girls do a thumps up for girl power!
Yup,its correct all parents should do this and my parents didn't helped me at all after I was 5 years old all thing I have to do by my own now they don't helps me at all in small work or much tuff works.I feel sometimes that they don't loves me at all.
What would you add to this list?
I DONT KNOW
My mom always tells me speak for myself.
My mum forced me into Saturday school
@Kelyanne Marie Figueroa lol
BRIGTH SIDE they should not take children games because the childrens are agressive
Who is not a parent and still watching it like me....??😂
Seema Maheshwari me
Me
Me
Seema Maheshwari me but my wedding is next week
ME!!!!
99% of the people who are watching this is are kids, and 1% of them are parents
Lark Uni what about us childless adults? :(
Kalahridudex well, ur part of the 1%
I've always wanted to be part of the 1% 🤑
You are still someone's child anyway
Ana Rosas well yes my parents are alive😂😂😂
My mom always goes through my personal life
**sigh**
😞😠😡
sorry
Sorry
ok
@Sean Antoine Samonte My mom always say not to waste money I want to buy lot of things 😭😭😭. And she say to work in online class 😭😭😭
same
I’m actually a kid but tbh this stuff is super relatable honestly 😄👍
Same
Me too
Am 10
10 year old
Same
I wish my mother knew these rules.
Same
Yes...she should...
Same
Too late 😑
I'm a failure
yesssssssssssss
Who else is not a parent?
me
because i want to teach my mom how to react with my little sister
Me, I'm 13 but I'm just bored in bed and stumbled on to this vid. Text the link to my mom and dad
I want to understand kids just like that cz i think nothing is useless to learn
Wifi :D me
me
When you realise that your parents have done everything wrong🤨
Lol true
Then Don't make those mistakes the same as they did.
Yup
@@lumpystilskin5367 yes
I hope parents will be smarter and nicer to their kids in the future
"Don't live through your children. They're not you."
Ok lol
👏🏾
80% of the people watching this aren't even parents 😂
sherrie templeton you are absolutely right
Cause we're going to become a parent 😀
Ik right like I'm a kid too
sherrie templeton you are absolutely right. 😂
XD
I never had a bad childhood but i just missed out on certain things. My parents stopped doing fun things with our family when i turned 8, and i don't even remember anything anymore that happened when i was 8. If any parent is reading this, even if your kid is being stubborn or annoying never forget to also do fun things.
Also, i think parents should stop using "When i was younger.." because things changed, the world isn't the same anymore. If your kid is sad and stressed, don't say "When i was younger we just had to deal with it" but show love and care.
Like i said, i didn't have the worst childhood and I'm very blessed, however i definitely didn't have a fun childhood. Spend time with your kids, show them love and happiness
Nikkii PJM omg i hate when they use "back in the day" or "when i was younger " 🙄
Nikkii PJM thanks for "when I was young" sometimes I forget and say that . It's good to be reminded .
Yes my parents stopped doing fun thing last for me and my brother when I turned 8 too
helena sousa Its not always a bad thing, but i do feel like people tend to forget the world changed alot.. Comparing kids to other people is very painful to most kids. Saying "When i was younger.." makes me feel like they're comparing me to their younger self, and it doesn't make me feel good enough
I think that everyone can learn, even adults 😊
geez what do you do with your life . write comments?
*When your parents confiscate your electronics because they found out that you watched this video...*
that goes on the fact they looked through your phone
I watched this on my iPad but they don’t really see
than that is a off
Oops
@@-..EijiroKirishima..- Yup
I showed this to my parents and the didnt agree😣 They said that we will grow up to be spoiled brats. That they control us in everything.
Thanks mom and dad for raising me not to trust you at all.
How old are you?
Lesley
@@suheygarcia1447 So true i wish Lesley luck
I'm sorry
@@suheygarcia1447 thats way too far
My mother doesn’t follow the DON’T INTRUDE THIED PERSONAL LIVES rule. She guesses my password and looks at who o texted last and what I texted to them. 😡
let me guess what heppened next
-changed password
-kept your phone
-grounded you
-depressed
-posted to social media-
Try picking a more complicated password
Show her the video
Put this password:321drowssap she will never guess it
Ask her nicely to respect you as a normal person and tell her deeply that she can trust you and your friends.
In other words: treat your children like human beings!!!!!
john guerin exactly!
and not like machines!!!!!!
john guerin right
Exactly you are absolutely right
Yessss
5:53
That's the only positive thing mom did for me.
She forced me to sing and now I was awarded best singer of my batch for my highschool graduation ceremony
My parents did most of these things to me when I was a teenager, which is why I hated them.
I am a teen, 6/10 of these my parents still do. If I share this vid with them, I have no idea how they would react. My mom would probably have a talk with me and my dad would say that he still does everything right.
My parents mostly my mom and my older sister does all these before this video came out
True
Who else is a kid...........
and wishes that their parents knew these rules!
momina moosa me
MEeeeeeeeeeee
me i have indian parents so they are pretty strict about everything
muhammad moosa me
muhammad moosa me im 10
Who isn't a parent and is just a kid yet. **Raises Hand** Me! 😊
LittleKitty Lizzy And then you don't make the same mistake your parents did
Yeahhh
ShinePlayz :D Me
ShinePlayz :D I A KID I 11
ShinePlayz :D im only nine9
I always ask my mom to buy me CLOTHES because I want to be a MODEL
Me too
I don't really dig attention
As a teen myself, I completely agree with the last one. Whenever my parents ask me who is my crush, I simply don't give an answer; it feels awkward and stressful. I will never tell my parents who she is because we all know that if I bump into her in public and my parents are present, they're gonna say something. They'll just have to find out when I tell them that we're dating, if everything goes right, that is.
ikr? this happens to me *ALL THE TIME*
Well you should watch this just for yourself instead.
My mom(earth) always asks who I like. It gets annoying and my cousin cupid always nags me about it.
When Your Parent Reads Your Coment..
its true man
my parents didn't do anything for me. i was pretty much told what to do and had no choice. lost all confidence in myself.
JulPepsi LWGolden very sad
Yes Im not Very ok anymore Hard Life Its all I can do to just walk out my door now. You know. I have to pray Alot to stay Brave. and its all because of Her and all the Abuse I went through. Im very careful now . Forgiven but still fight the effects of it. . . at times
JulPepsi LWGolden that is very sad not trying to get personal but who is abusing you?
BOSSGIRL230 WHATGOOD just hard to trust now and things like that. and more.
JulPepsi LWGolden I hope you will be okay
One time my grandma asked for 10 dollars since I saved like 90 dollars, and my mom was like "No!" and then they started having a little argument. But, I didn't mind giving my grandma money because I know she would pay me back. But, I understand why my mom would say no. This is the reason why I never let my parents or grandma count my money. Lol
"Do you agree with these suggestions?" Looks like we're trying to locate the dictator parents
Sooo.... Mine?
1:59 this is actually something my parents did and I can tell you that it makes me unable to have boundaries but also am unable to go to my parents because they always talk about their issues..
Mom's friend:What is your name ?
Me:My name is......
Mom:SHE ASKED YOU A QUESTION SO ANSWERS IT.
Me: Jordan
Jay W. Same........ 😂
But she did It by accident 😂
Same
omg samme my mom doe that to me too
🅱️oneless 🅱️izza
"DON'T INTRUDE IN THEIR PERSONAL LIFE" Will not work for Asian parents, bro..
hehehehe
Thanush Raju you should try the Dutch , they just freak if they don't control every other parents kid's
Thanush Raju 👌
helena sousa
buddy, just learn about Asian parents
they will not change they will change you to their way
Why not? I saw your reply, but I need to know more. I'm Filipino but I don't understand. Please give more info. Thank you!
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Thanush Raju totally, they'll be like, "whats personal space,u are my child and u do as u are told"
This is a parenting mistake parents do
Mom: you are starting lessons on how to play the guitar tomorrow
Kid:but mom I like to draw
Mom:no buts mom knows best for you
1 year later
Kid:mom I'm back from lessons
Mom you're home early
Kid:I got kicked out of lessons
Mom:are you serious right now
Kid:yes I was falling "too behind" the teacher got frustrated and kicked me out
Mom: goes to lessons
Teacher:hi
Mom:why did you kick my kid out
Teacher:because he was struggling too much
Mom: you could've helped him
Teacher I tried he was still struggling
Like if you made this mistake or witnessed it
@@hweart40 its about letting the child achieve what they want not what the parents want
True
@@peepeepoopoo260 so true
hahaha
NEVER
I abseloutly think this advice was extremely helpful. One recommendation to add on to your video was to consider this... Maybe let your child live a respected independent life but not to a point to were the parent does not understand the wants, and passions of the child, and they will definitely cooperate, and respect the parent
Regarding personal things, don’t ever read a teenager’s diary/texts without permission. Only get involved if they’re involved in something deeply concerning you, and even then, only read the things they show you. Diaries are places teens can truly express themselves without fear of being disciplined, so please respect their boundaries. What you can say instead is “you can write/draw whatever you want in this diary and nobody will discipline you for being yourself, but if there is something that I feel is genuinely distressing you, I may need to see some things. It’s not to disrespect you as a person, but it’s just to make sure you’re ok.” If, for example, your teen is being forced to do something that they shouldn’t, such as taking drugs or drinking underage, tell them about the dangers and instead of getting angry, let them experience the consequences of their actions and just remind them not to do it again. If self harm is involved, do NOT get angry: your son/daughter has a lot of negative things going on but don’t feel comfortable enough to tell you. If they keep a diary, ask if they want to tell you what is going on and if they don’t feel comfortable telling you, ask instead “do you have anything in your diary that you think might help me to help you?”. I understand that some teenagers will find this a very difficult thing to do, letting their parents into their personal territory, but for this to work, you and your teenage children need to have a very strong bond and trust each other immensely: remember too that teenagers are going through puberty and have a lot of hormones and changes going on in their bodies and heads, so something that may be minor to you might be a teens’ worst nightmare. Remember that you were once a teen yourself, so sometimes remembering your experiences and how you solved problems you had at that point in your life might help find solutions to help your teenage children. I don’t have children myself but I am an aunt and this is the sort of thing that I would tell my nephews and nieces when they get to the teen years.
THANK YOU FOR THIS COMMENT.
Lilmadlass Inc What if in the diary or tells one of their friends in texts that they want to commit sucide? My mom reads my texts for my protection!! Dont even think about going there!!
I mean how are you gonna know if you don’t look. The better thing to do is to not sneak it. If they know this is a rule in the house that you must know what is being said then that’s fine. My friend does random phone checks but her daughter has agreed to that ever since she got a phone.
Sakura Ayame I’m not a teen but the things you said are very true thanks for the comment
Hi can you be my aunt😊😔
TIMESTAMPS
Don't talk for them. 0:28
Don't try to be their best buddy. 1:24
Understand wants versus needs. 2:24
Don't help them too much. 3:23
Respect their tastes. 4:20
Don't count their money. 4:58
Don’t force hobbies or extracurriculars onto them. 5:52
Don't take their successes as your own. 6:50
Don't choose their presents. 7:37
Don't intrude into their personal lives. 8:27
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I’m a parent of two kids. I personally agree with these steps. Thank you for making this video! It’s some good advice.
Wow a parent watching this!!!
Don't snoop through there things! Its so flipping annoying.
Also, don't judge who we date. We didn't do that to you!
I let my 7 year old daughter use my phone for exploring the internet and watching videos and movies on cause I understand that technology will only advance in her lifetime and the more she gets to use it the better for her skills
But I do have a set time limit and parental locks on things so she doesn't accidentally go into something bad
Do I agree with this..?
Heck Yeah!!
100000%
Well parents try
Very much
I agree with all of this infinite percent!
I’m sending this to my mom and dad! They need to learn to give their children space! I mean, we’re not idiots, we know the difference between want and need, good and bad. I mean, if we’re spending money on drugs or achahol (I think that’s how you spell it) when we’re not old enough, you can put a stop to it. But if we want to buy a harmless toy for fun, we have every right to get it when we’re spending our own money. And never ever check your child’s texts because you may find some personal stuff about them that they weren’t ready to tell you yet. Like, maybe they have a boyfriend, but it’s not serious enough for them to introduce their new boyfriend to you yet. If you do this, your child may lose their trust in you because they don’t know if you’re going to go snooping through their personal things again. In conclusion, respect your child as their own individual.
As a teenager I can relate to this
Jade Jewel very true
That is very true, well said
AMEN!
Bro i believe the only reason parents should snoop if its something not okay like sexting, drugs, even gangs. I mean i am a teenager but parents can and should be cautious for SERIOUS events. Sometimes parents overthink it and get annoying, like relationships and friends really shouldn't be a problem.
Honestly same. Its been so bad that once I turn 18 I'm leaving and not turning back even though they are gonna call the cops. I'll just be one step ahead this time and call the police my self and have them help me out.
*DON’T INTRUDE INTO THEIR PERSONAL LIVES*
Yeah my mom sometimes says “are you talking with someone* whatever I typing on my phone or searching something on RUclips or when I talking with the school it gets really annoying😒🙁😕
When they feel the need to interrogate us like that :(( same bro, same. Let us live :)
Yeah I feel you
yea and they won’t let be
The parents who do stuff in this video are the ones that make me laugh when they say to their kids "you'll thank me one day."
That is the Secret Karen Society. All members of that society think they are perfect.
If you are parents comment and if you are not parents then like
I'm a parent to my dog
Chong Yang same
I'm a parent
Yo
I'm a parent to a six year old, a 20 month old and am nearly 3 months pregnant.
Who wants to hear a story?
Once opon a time,
When I was a little kid, my mom was my best friend.
My ONLY friend in fact, apart from a spoilt, slightly bratty kid called Safire.
Well, my mother neglected to inform me that I had to one day make FRIENDS with new people.
And it did not help in the slightest that I was as shy as can be.
So, on my first day of Preschool, I was still trying to work out a way to get out of it, and also how to become less shy and/or make friends.
Eventually I made a Friend, she ended up betraying me, leading to bulling, sadness, tears, depression and suicidal thoughts for about 5 years.
Boo.
So there you go, people out there!
If your a parent, or are going to be one,
🅳🅾 🅽🅾🆃 🅶🅾 🅳🅾🆆🅽 🆃🅷🅸🆂 🅿🅰🆃🅷.
One day to make friends with new people? What do you mean? I wasn't aware of this restriction.
Is this a joke?
Spoiled
Upon
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Parent’s logic: always care more about their brain than their health
Most parents care more about health, but unforunately, some care more about school grades than mental health :(
Wait....are parents suppose to watch this? Cause I'm their kid
I bet 90% of the comments and viewers are the kids.
Me too
Aurora Warby i agree
Our parents need to watch this video.
Divyansh Anushka
Yes you are right !!!
Divyansh Anushka I sent it to my mom
Yes,definitely
I showed this to my mom
I don't need to show this to my parents, they are too nice
I seem to strongly agree with these tips that you uploaded on RUclips, because it’s not easy to not make too many mistakes when you’re a 🧒🏻 . Parents say, “Don’t talk to strangers”. This is a serious business, because children shouldn't do that when they're present without mom or dad's supervision.
Kid: This is MY success not yours!
Parent: ShArInG iS cArInG
honestly thoooooo
I met a very nice friend. Her name is Cristina. Although she is 2 years older than me, Cristina and I get along very well, together.
I'm 16.
She's 18.
Cool?
“DON’T INTRUDE INTO THEIR PERSONAL LIVES”
Too late for my mom then.
Same here
Same here
any body else get the whole manipulative act every time they didn't want to share something with there mom?
My parents put my tablet in parenting mode even
Tho they don't check
WELL WHAT'S THE POINT??!
I wish my parents would stop snooping through my stuff
Edit: thanks for all the likes and comments :) BTW I finally got some privacy
Alexis Buttrum I feel ya it is super annoying
Alexis Buttrum same
omg i hate it when they do that
Me to
*my phone,room,iPad,Xbox,computer*
Bright Side: Chose your present yourself.
My Parents: Sneakers take it or leave it.
My parents always day what are you watching? And I’m like leave me alone😂😂
I am a teenager and i become irritated whenever my mom interrogates me about my friends and boyfriend
Anushka joshi hi
Same
Same
Anushka joshi ....No religion and even not any good society like this boyfriend and girlfriend game...you mum is right dear..
fakhira shah you believes in these kinds of things but i don't. I am an independent girl and i can make my own choices.
Who else cannot relate
because they are not parents
Dianella Montecillo me🙋♂️
Baileys super sunday hahahaha!
Dianella Montecillo me
Redstone hahahaha same
ME!
As a father of two beautiful girls I can say that the video was really helpful. Sometimes I try to help them with all my love, but at the cost of their self development. Being a parent is not easy, so kids, be honest with your parents and tell them wats going on, how you feel and what things are troubling you.
I mostly agree, but I think having friends of different ages is more important than having same-age friends. I remember hanging out with teenagers a lot when I was 3. I very much enjoyed it. I chose teens over age mates any day.
I am 14 and watching a video to be a good parent who else do this hit a like and tell me how much are not parents......
leonie 03 me too that's why i am watching this...😆😆
Iam 8
I’m 14 too, lol lots of us here!
13
im not 14 but im intrested in the video tho
im just 10
My parents really need to learn the last one about snooping through your child’s PRIVATE messages, social media, and etc. 😒
This is SO true! Especially forcing hobbies/extracurriculars & Intruding into their child/children’s lives 😑
They think I’m too young for everything like social media and they think I’m too young to have a wallet and credit card
4 years ago...
Relative I never met before: Hello there whats your name?
Me: Ka-
Mom: Kayla.
Mom: *whispers* next time do it by yourself -_-
Me: ...
Namkachu ur describing the exact same thing with my mom and a relative ive never met before
Brooooo I feel u
So true
Sooo i found someone with the same name as me
My mom did that once to me 😂
What about don't force your child to be part of a religion or believe something the child doesn't believe in or to force him/her to go to church because they "have too" ?
KattyKorn same except I already told them I'm an atheist
Psycho EM Tommy that’s part of the hobbies.
Psycho EM Tommy sorry but going to church will tell you there is about going to somewhere you don't enjoy
And besides church is home to God you be blessed your protected
I don't like going as well but unless change my dreams of life going to ⛪ will add on to learning aside my family
I never felt seen or heard as a kid and, to this day, it still hurts.
Ever since we moved to another state, I felt abandoned.
I'm a parent of a 6 year old, invested in learning to be an even better mother to her. She's worth it. Thanks for the info.
Irony: 95% of the viewers are teenagers/ young adults. I wish parents would actually watch this video instead of us worrying here. 🤔
hose maria I actually see quite some adults in the comment section, but i do hope even more parents see this. I guess most adults just don't search for videos like this
I am 11 and still watching this video. Why am I watching it though?
hose maria 😂😂😂😂 I know right?
Parents: *something is wrong,i can feel it*
Something *IS* wrong alright. Their PARENTING.
LOL! This video is definitely geared towards kids! I'm laughing my head off!
My daughter and I are very good friends and she knows that I snoop through her things sometimes! Yes, I do want to know who all of her friends are. I do monitor her money as well! It's called being a good responsible parent. Kids will lie to their parents no matter what! Even if they have good parents. Asking questions does not change make them push away. It's all in HOW you do it! I'm the authority in my home and my daughter knows that she is loved. We have a great relationship and she does not have emotional issues because I am an attentive hands on parent.
All parents should watch this all over the world. Like if you agree 👍
Yup
iron knight as a parent I agree
Cause this is important
Yup
Yes!!!!
I am a kid myself.
Anwesa Biswas me to
Anwesa Biswas me too but I have bird eggs so I will soon be a mom for birds
Anwesa Biswas me too
Me too
Im watching these for my Future....
"Im a kid thats why"
I'm a kid and I agree with the last one.when I was in voice chat with a guy my grandma said "who are you talking to" and I got annoyed and nervous
9:25 Well I agree but.....
I'm a kid !!!!
Me too
Logan Raub when I saw your comment on screen I thought Logan Paul messaged mi !! 😂❤💞 But then I saw !!! 😐
I am too but I just don't have an account!so I use my mom's!
I remember one time my mom made me take a karate class when I was around 8 or 9. I literally stood there the whole time I was soo antisocial and still am🤣😄. Anyway the teacher yelled a me and said "You have to try" then I started to cry. Now that I think about...🤔 it I feel bad for the teacher because right after I started crying he panicked and asked where my parents were😅 he didn't know what to do
Hunter x Hunter Next Time Don't Cry just say I don't care I can do whatever I want dumbmass dance teacher LoL Just Kidding Don't Do That Just Don't Cry Press "Read more" #ForMoreInformation Talk To ur Dance Teacher: NoPe NoT tOdAy.
@@____5059 He said karate teacher, not dance teacher.
Hunter x Hunter omg me too but I actually played it I didn’t stand still but I got forced for karate for 5 yers until I finally decided to leave it on my choice
My dad did the same I like my karate school though it's cool
School days in 1950s GB was hard for me and I can Never forget those involved including my mother,, I beaten and humiliated by sadistic teachers and mentally tortured by my mother that expected more from me, It was later found out I am Aspergers /Dyslexic, I did not feel happy until I had left school and later when my mother had died,,
Thank you.I will show this video to all my family members.👌
All parents should watch this, as well as intrusive grandparents. My bfs mother tries to do 90 percent of these things to my son. And hes 12. So now he resents and despises her. So I agree 💯 percent w this video. 👍🏽
Being a parent can be very complicated.
#CreativeQueen x
so simply prefer avoid being it
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i always choose the easy way😅😅😅
CreativeQueen x INDEED
i wish people said that when doing the nasty 😄
CreativeQueen x I think that both being a kid and a parent is very complicated, it's important both kids and parents learn from each other
CreativeQueen x creativeking I think that this video is good for parents 🙂
Im 27 everytime my parents come to visit my home they would go through all my stuff and rearrange them despite me telling them to leave them. They literally know every single objects i got
Don't tell your kids what to do. My mom used to and still says things like "say thank you", "brush your teeth", "Eat." I've come to realize that's her way of having control over my life even when I'm thousands of miles away.
I am a parent. Thank you for this video. 💕👏
CreativeQueen x Good Luck 😀😊☺
CreativeQueen x bless you and your family
D Girl thank you 💕
Alishba Rose 👍
CreativeQueen x I hope you dont have any trouble being a parent
#1 Don't Breed Them. That is the #1 thing you should never force upon your kids.
The Ultimate Reductionist or yourself.
Breed??
This is coming from a 14 year old girl, freshman in high school.
You will ruin your kids’ lives if you intrude on their own personal lives. This made me distrust my mother, and now I have such a sucky relationship with her I WANT to move out. Don’t make your teens want to move out, okay parents? Going through their phone when you take it is the worst thing you can do as a parent. Also, yelling and hitting just makes them distrust you further. Don’t yell at them for telling you that some rule is unfair, it’s just their opinion. This is the best way to make them suppress their opinions and not want to tell you things. Just from experience, don’t give them an “I don’t believe you” or “someone’s influencing this” thing when and/or if your kid comes out of the closet to you. It hurts. A lot.
In the last advise, I remember this. Treat people like you want to be treat
i am not a parent, but whatever.
duuhhhh
You will be as time passes on and your mind grows.
I'm only 10.
Im 9
atleast you will know what not to do to your children when you become a parent
I didn't get hugs. . . at all ... maybe one hug a year. . . if that
JulPepsi LWGolden you poor thing not If you Evan asked ?
My case is worse than you. They didn't hug for about 6 years.
Lucy Sparey she is forgiven
Lucy Sparey she was try throw me out a window the day I was born my uncle saved me. And I had no idea. until my sister told me. Im A Walking Miracle. By Grace Of God
she's gone now and im not mad or anything it was just scary to be alive around her we was Freinds when I was a teenager. and she took care of me when I was sick so we made up when I was older I had to work at 3 in the morning doing housework. and I would get slapped etc... it was not a good time for me. i was gone all summer and never came home started leaving at age 10. Tried to run away was afraid of trains and cars and streets. I am older but it effected me awful. its not easy to keep trying. sometimes but I never. give up.
As a mom of 2 boys im just looking to be a better mom and do the best I can. This is great advice
I was a shy kid and didn't like introducing myself so my dad would tell his friends my name and theres nothing wrong with that
This video made me cry because my parents don’t do any of them in fact I tried to put the sound on loud so they would hear but instead they yelled at me and now I’m grounded.
It’s okay. I never get grounded in my life! I’m always positive. Can you subscribe to me?
Pitbull lover yup that's annoing
Pitbull lover darn, hope it gets better, man.
Pitbull lover well, hopefully you left the video on the screen for them.
Pitbull lover poor you
It’s true I learned how to play piano once my mother was talking to a women once and said “oh I learned how to play a piano last week or I like to draw” She shows my paintings to ppl and passes them off as her own literally she doesn’t say “our” or “we” she says “I” as in was her achievements
Everything in the video was so nice that I cannot describe. 👌🤩
The one thing I found too much relatable myself was that the parents should not interfere in a child’s (especially a teen’s) personal space. If u are a parent make sure u give full freedom to your kids and try not to read their messages aur check their phones because it does nothing other than making them feel insecure and offended.
Though I am not a parent and I am 11 years old parents really need to fix themselves when it comes to things like this
my parents broke all these rules..........i was pretty much super mad when i fixed my dad's phone a few years ago and he said he fixed it himself
vida stanciauskaite didn't u confront him
vida stanciauskaite CONFRONT HIM ABOUT IT!
vida stanciauskaite Confront him
someone needed to show this to my mom when i was growing up
Personally.. when my parents spoke about my achievements as "our" (which was rare tbh), I felt so supported and secure in it. And it made me feel an odd security if I failed, because I knew that would be "ours" as well.
My mom needs to see thsi
I am a grandmother of seven. And I love watching my daughter and daughter-in-law mess up! I know I am a terrible person, but it's so hard not to laugh in front of them. They just keep digging that hole and digging... Only once my compassion for my daughter won out and I said, "Give me the shovel, Honey." "You're not going to win." She was having an argument with a two-year-old.
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Mum use to do everything for me, not letting me try... once when I was a child I was making a sandwich for school and she snatched the knife and said oh let me do it. So I said how will I learn if you don’t let me try? She use to keep me in my shell and didn’t understand why I use to lash out so often. She hates the fact I’m married now and moved away. 😩
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I like the same music mum does but that’s my choice. A few songs I like she doesn’t.
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I taught myself to be financially stable.
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But my mother chose my gifts usually I’d hint at what I want. Sometimes I’d get it other times I didn’t.
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My mother never let me have my own space she always wanted to know who I was talking to and what I was saying. :/ sometimes I’d just say you don’t wanna know.
I don't know if anyone is ever going to read this but I want to get this off my chest.
I love my mom I really do. When I was a child I was kinda shy so when I was asked a question by an adult my mum used to answer for me and believe me I was okay with that . When I started to grow I realized she still answered in behalf of me and I felt awkward and embarrassed as the person was actually asking me the question. I felt ashamed and tried to confront her and broke into tears every time. I am a teenager and unfortunately she still does it unknowingly. We had a big fight about it and she said her mother did the same to her and she turned out fine. The dilemma now is that the same people who used to ask me questions now ask my mother instead and that breaks my heart. And even when they ask me directly I feel conscious when answering. She understands when I tell her this but again tries to do it anyways, so now I am gonna send this video to her and hope she sees I am not really oversensitive and this really affects a person's self esteem.
Never thought I will write such a long comment but it feels good to put it out there.
Please make a video to make parents know that we children's are not machines they put so much much pressure on us of studies that we are not able to do the things we like and also they say that if you don't study you won't do anything and even we study and they don't see and when they are studies who would they say that you haven't studied a bit what is this
True
Really true for 100% all parents to children
You know what my parents shouldn't do order my food I'm 14 I can order my own food but they act like I can't it's so easy to do they just do it for me I guess
It's just like mom I know how to order my own food you don't have to do it for me
I know what you mean. I am a waitress and let me tell you the AMOUNT OF TIMES a parent orders for a 12 year old and even cuts their food for them so they won't have to cut it themselves. I just want to tell them like "dang you're kid is 12 years old ma'am he can order himself, I've seen 4 year olds ordering themselves, and I'm pretty sure your kid has been able to eat himself without you helping him since he was 3. If you won't even let your kid pick and eat his own food then how is he suppose to go out into the real world and make his own decisions?"
I have a very independent 4 yr old boy, who can speak very clearly for himself. He knows what he wants and goes for it. He orders his own meals when we are out, I honestly couldn't imagine doing everything for my little man... It's hard to cut the apron strings but so good once done lol. I agree, when I see a parent still tieing shoelaces for an 8-year-old, and then goes velcro so they don't need to, it really tweaks my melon! ow is a child supposed to cope once they leave home LOL
Yeah I told my mom that and she was like what about a week ago when I didn't order for you and I was just like that's because I spoke so fast you couldn't speak for me
Madison Clark for me it's the opposite and I'm 13. I get really afraid of talking to new people hh
being a 12 year old child I LOVE these recommendations and force my parents to use them! :)
Barbie is the best
Barbie inspires.
She has various careers which inspires to be something.
She inspired me too.
She and you can be anything.
If you see Barbie's perfection then it is incorrect She teaches that no one is perfect not even She.
Parents should be your idol(same)
But if something inspires you, go for it!
Toys developes learning!
Bright side gave the most loveliest example, Barbie
I recently got a note from her-
You are strong, independent and will go far.
Not saying Barbie is the only toys which inspires, but Barbie is the best not only for girls for everyone!
Now getting out of the topic let us all girls do a thumps up for girl power!
Yup,its correct all parents should do this and my parents didn't helped me at all after I was 5 years old all thing I have to do by my own now they don't helps me at all in small work or much tuff works.I feel sometimes that they don't loves me at all.