im surprised and not surprised you have the IQ to do more than chase females by the looks of your new vids. Surprised because that's what a lot of primates do and focus on, and most men stay in that phase. Not surprised because ur wyte, and as a wyte- youre supposed to have some decent iq.
Dislike, my life already "started" a long time ago, since I was born, it doesn't start when a stereotypical coach tells you to "train and eat healthy" since that is bullshit.
I actually really appreciate this comment and I'm glad that I already started trying to change my life a while ago. This video has served to help me know that I'm on the right path. Thank you so much Denmo!
One of the main issues is the shrinking of the middle class which has nothing to do with your average man out there. We were born into a failed system. That right there creates a huge amount of men issues and living longer with parents because it's too expensive. Women maintained or even raised their standards for men to provide when its not even possible to for so many. Times have changed from 50 years ago when 1 person could easily support a household.
I agree mate but this is just motivation to go into a higher paying industry or remote skillset so you can remain in the middle class or higher, OR, relocate elsewhere so that your money goes further
@Denmosocial sure, but that would only work for a percentage of the population of men. When you shrink the middle class, those jobs aren't even available to be filled, and the ones that are pay way less. This invariably creates a situation where a butt f**k ton of women out there are left wondering where the provider men are at, or MEN in general, as men don't feel like they can even be men when they can't provide properly. As I am sure you know it is an instinctual thing that a man provides, but our ability to do so at all is quickly shrinking. This destroys mens confidence, self concept, motivation, ability to talk to women etc. We can't fix this situation with motivational talks. It is a serious issue deeply embedded in society that in my opinion requires a financial reset across the planet to correct. We're maybe on the brink of that anyway, I think the economy is on its last legs.
@@robzreelz jobs will be a thing of the past. AI will automate away 95% of the jobs out there. If we think society is a mess now, just wait to see how it will be once everyone is jobless.
@@Denmosocial nice idea which works for some, not for all. somebody will have to do shitty jobs at some point, because it needs to be done. if everbody would go for high paying jobs only, society would collapse.
@@Denmosocialyes a nice idea, but remember the pool.of available high paying jobs is many, many times smaller then the pool of people willing and able to do them. They system is a scam, there's never enough to go around by design to keep people desperate and therefore nice and exploitable. Only a tiny fraction will get the decent jobs, and there will be less and less available as our economies continue their death spirals
@@DenmosocialI'll revisit these points regularly. The one that really spoke to me was about doing my fair share to society. I want to make things at least a little better for the people I love, and if possible, maybe their children as well.
I game all the time if I don't work. I'm tired of life. It can be so beautiful but society ruined it, specially the government, not even us. I don't feel represented at all by them and we are abandoned, that's why I don't care anymore. Not the life I wanted but at least, I do what I want most of the time.
@@Denmosocial I mean yeah that will be a viable option for some but ultimately I believe the actual issue is within the prices of things not in our income itself
@@MG3887Griff agree bro, however can you control the price of things?? Nop. Focus in what you can control. Im not saying is easy not. But at least you can do something about it
@@MG3887Griff Sure, prices for things have gone up, but there's no sense in complaining about what we can't control. Ask yourself if you really need what you're spending your money on, and try to increase your income the best you can.
Learning social skills isn't like learning other skills. If you're learning to play an instrument, you can practice alone without annoying other people with your wails and twangs. However, improving social skills requires you to nessessarily irritate other people with your incompetance in order to calibrate and improve. I believe this is the biggest factor of avoidance, especially to highly empathetic people.
You have to start somewhere, it's still experience. Plus you can read about how to interact with other people without irritating them which may sound weird but why not if you have such severe problems with communication
Exactly. It is even worse the older you are. You need to be a little bit of a psycopath to force a conversation with random people fully aware your presence is not welcome because you lack the social skills to have a pleasant conversation. Yes, you are getting better, but for that a dozen of people had to endure you being a weirdo.
One thing that helps me is I openly highlight and laugh about my incompetence in social skills with the women I date. Don’t take it so seriously. Go annoy women until they dump you. It’s life and that’s part of living it.
Losing social skills is a big one for me. I developed social anxiety in late highschool, and went from a popular sports kid to a nobody in college. I lost a lot of confidence, friends and social skills. Now here I am in uni, fighting demons in lectures/seminars just to get my degree. I probably have about 6 hours of screen time every day (although most of this is studying/coursework). I don't really have friends: I have contacts but i wouldn't call them friends. Besides socialising, I'm doing well though. I've been going to the gym 5 times a week, taking walks everyday, eating/drinking well, taking care of my physical appearance etc. Social anxiety is just my biggest hurdle: it's singlehandedly ruined my life.
Social anxiety was the biggest thing for me too, starting in highschool. People always say “just be confident”. Some people can fake confidence, most people cannot. I’m 30 now, and I found that the only thing that works for me is the saying “competence builds confidence”. The more success I have in areas of my life that I value, like finances for example, the more content I am with myself and the more confident I become. It’s an interesting type of thing for sure.
@@Aubatron I agree. I feel as though my confidence is slowly improving as I improve my physical and mental competence (going to the gym, learning new skills, studying etc). Tackling social anxiety head on, such as through exposure, only made things worse for me.
Always had really bad social anxiety, getting really bad in high school but I had it in middle school too. I still feel like I have it to some degree but it's not as bad. Theater has helped me a lot (I've started it for this reason). Also changing your view of others helps a lot. It's not good to think yourself worse or better than others because you create a wall doing that. Most people have problems and are probably just happy having a nice interaction with someone (especially in college), so yeah. It's all about trying, acting as a confident version of yourself. Also seeing the embarrassing things you do and their consequences... The Earth keeps turning in the end. Don't beat yourself up and don't give social anxiety more power than it should have. (Exposure can be risky but if you get a good experience, it makes it very worth it.) As they say, Fuck it we ball.
@@Obotron7 Yeah I felt similar. I felt like I was inferior and people in general would reject me when they got to know me a little bit. I don't think everyone with anxiety has this type of anxiety, but the only way to really fix it is to prove to yourself that you're someone you can be proud of being through your own metric of success.
You have a lot of good points. But you're coming off as a man who hasn't been through a divorce, forcely taken your house, possessions and kids from you. You're coming off as a man who wasn't the "weird kid" who never got picked for sports, invited to play, invited to parties etc. I know you point out in other videos how much of a loser you were, but trust me that's nothing. I've been through it all, had a pretty good life financially and socially through my twenties, just to lose it all in my early 30's. I'm still recuperating from that. So you're both right on many points, but also wrong, and "just try harder, bro lol" is not always a valid solution.
25M. Never allowed to school, No friends, Never experienced intimacy, still live with parents, working 10 hour shifts yet still can’t afford to move out. I don’t want to see the next day, but I have no choice because it would destroy the little family I have left
Yeah, if you can't afford to move out, it's literally not your fault. Meanwhile, I know so many women who were once broke losers but found a bf, moved in with him while he paid the rent and the woman went to school to become gainfully employable. Some ditched their bf's after they were able to become independent. I've had a lot of gf's in the past, but I've also seen too much unfair crap to just fall back and accept a lot of the bs that happens in our culture. I love that Denmo is genuinely trying to help us all, but I think enough is enough with some of the standards women hold us to. I want society to just wake up already and have logical expectations of us that make economical sense at least. If she earns more, she should be the breadwinner. If she earns less, it's on me. That's it. All this pressure put on us guys is dehumanizing. Why the hell do I have to worry about making even more money, if she already makes some? This is neurotic nonsense that more evolved people of the future will retch at.
They're not paying us enough to afford to move out and then the rich are blaming us and mocking us for not maturing. What kind of hell are we living in? "Just move to North Dakota bro!"
That's rough man. But something needs to change, otherwise your won't find a way out. Nobody else is coming to save you. I would guess that these 10 hours shift are killing any energy you have for self-educations, but that's path for getting better offers. I wish you luck, I hope that your desperation will lead to massive action that will change your circumstances.
@@MetaphixI was already in the marines corps. I have a bachelors which got me the job I currently have. I don’t want to reenlist. The majority of jobs even with a degree don’t pay enough to live off/move out with. Joining the military doesn’t count as moving out. It just makes the government your parent. Your only responsibility is showing up on time.
Our fathers and grandfathers never had to go to gym to get a decent woman, that was an extra. Our fathers and grandfather's never had to develop social skill, they just lived in a society that wasn't overtly hostile to socialization. Our fathers and grandfathers never had to swipe on an app, work 70 hours a week for a 1 bedroom apartment, never had to compete with 3rd world immigrants for work... hell our grandfathers didn't even need to compete with women. Yet we pretend like all this shit is normal and has been how it is since the dawn of man. "You don't want a world where men get sex easily". What you mean basically all of human history up until about 1960. You mean the periods of time where the greatest growth occurred? Those periods? Really dude... No what you don't want is a society where sex is scarce its almost unobtainable for anyone but the top men. This is a society that will lead to men becoming absolutely violent. I'm not saying I expect these issues to be freely solved for us. Ultimately we have to sort out our own problems. But diagnosing the problem is the first step.
Might sound like a COMPLETE degenerate but. Age 30. Screen time 12-16h/day. Studying electric engineering. Im a lonewolf and actually fine with, and happy running solo. Havent even bothered seeking for someone to be completely honest and im decent looking. Dont even know why and how this came into my recommended nor why I even clicked on this video. Maybe just out of curiosity as to what the guys are struggling with.
31 here, the things you listed like: having a car, being fit, having a job and whatsoever sure it's good to have that. But this hasn't solved my problem in dating at all. Even though I could check all boxes. Maybe some guys are just not meant to be chosen and girls would rather choose a guy that already has massive options. They feel like the gigachad will be the better option for them. Don't fucking know how what else I have to improve. I think I just lost all my hope - maybe you guys will have better game than me...
The things he mentioned are for young guys, that kind of stuff sets young guys apart. At your age most of those things are expected by then, I like Denmo but he isn’t perfect, nor will he have the perfect game plan for everyone. In your case I’d say to get ahead you need to be making like 6 figures, and be a 7 or above on attractiveness
@@cu11en76 physical attractiveness does put u ahead, but for the large part it's out of one's control; i don't see how making more and more money works to your advantage though, unless u just want to get laid; would u like money to be one of the decisive factors for why someone is with you?
It's not easy, that's for sure. There are several contributing factors at play here, and you should probably figure them out. Are you in a city with fewer options or higher levels of competition? Is your hygiene game strong? How many people in general do you have small talk with each day? Are you liberal or conservative? What kind of women are you approaching? Are you using dating apps, or going out in person? What are your standards, and do they coincide with reality? All of these things play a role in your dating life. You're going to get shot down 9 times out of 10, so the more options you have the better. Make sure you put most of your money aside, and use your vacation time to explore other places, and see what opportunities are in other places you may want to live. Don't pursue women, but chatting and flirting with when the opportunity arises can be fun, and eventually one will say yes, but vet her thoroughly, as the right woman can bring you a level of happiness you can barely imagine, but the wrong one will make your life a living hell.
When the economy only allows a small percentage of the total population to not be losers I fail to see why I should care about a system that wanted me to fail
Same I seen it since a younger age and i don't know how any of Gen Z like me is supposed to retire in this society if prices keep going up, rent skyrocketing, bills going up, taxes going up, standards going up at a rapid rate and wages being stagnant, jobs being stingy about work positions so many of gen Z is struggling to even find a job that will hire them even if they are hiring it's like we're in the back of the line for any job position nowadays the ones like me that are working or actually wanting to work
As far as men living with their parents, I think there are huge economic factors that are causing this, and this then bleeds into all other realms like fitness, self-esteem, and dating. The current economy forces us into a kind of clan living, which has its benefits. I'm always jealous of some of my friends who have a large generational home where all the generations help each other, and as younger one's get older they take on the main mantle of head of the house, and get the primary responsibility, and older generations support in whatever way they can.
If you are fortunate to be living with your parents make the most of it. Grind and make bank. Women arevthe last thing you should focus on because they are a money drain. Make bank and focus on retirement. If you want to knock one off with a woman go to place you can pay for it and leave. All men pay for sex. The only difference is that in marriage women can collect your money and assets and cut the sex out or weaponize it any time they like. You don't need a program... Focus on you... Make the most of living at home.
When the “ bare minimum” requirement is too high people slowly begin to give up. This is being seen across all developed countries. A small amount of hyper successful men and a much larger amount of men struggling to get by.
I'm 23 years old and my screen time on avg. Is 1,5-2,5 h per day. Denmo i wanted to thank you for being an inspiration and of guidance to me. I'm currently working a low-wage job, struggling with mental health issues, but still being there to support my family. Cheers from Estonia✌
Sorry but this is BS. Some of the best guys who I have known around women were basically broke and homeless. What they did different to other men was simply to constantly meet women and be direct with them about what he was all about. It was as simple as that. Sure their batting average wasn't that great, but over a vast number of attempts - many in unlikely situations - he would eke out girlfriends who would let him stay at their place or buy him things. He did not care what others thought about him because his ultimate success was crazy and enviable. Ironically, getting good with women teaches you a lot about running a business because it's practically almost the same thing.
@@DenmosocialI believe the sentiment voiced by the person to be very prevalent, so you are implying a large chunk of society is not cared about by society itself, and this is exactly the issue...
I have social skills, friends, I workout, have my own place, good paying job. I agree these are the bare minimum. However it feels like despite doing my best there are little to no dating opportunities. All of my efforts only amount to me dating someone significantly below my standards set by my last relationship.
You keep repeating this idea that men are “choosing” to be losers and “choosing” to drop out of society and play video games etc. That’s not true and that’s not how things work. Men inherently will try to become successful but our society is built in a way that does not allow it. Before you could get a decent job, a car, and even a house with a normal job but now you can’t. This leads to you “self improvement” RUclipsrs telling every man to try to become exceptional which is not possible and just causes an endless negative feedback loop. Society has to change otherwise this won’t be fixed and will just keep getting worse.
Nope, it is all men's fault. They aren't trying hard enough. /rolleyes. Have to keep wasting more time and resources, so women get everything, and men end up more dejected and bitter and angry. Skip all the bullshit, and enjoy the fruits of your own labor, find a hobby, and let women sleep in the bed they've made for themselves.
I’m in the same boat brotha. On paper fairly successful. 34, make 120k per year, own a home, nice cars and in good shape. My main issue is being introverted and having having very little of a social life
Dude like I’m not that old yet, but I can’t for the life of me talk to a girl without befriending them. That’s all I ever come across. I’m smart, but they don’t care if I can’t speak up :(
I'm 31, screen time weekends maybe 4-6 hours, work week 8 hours as my job requires me to be on a computer and my job gives me good benefits. I have my own place, own car, I go to the gym 5 days a week, no dating experience. i've been single 31 years encounting. Women just don't want me at all. so i've given up on dating and stopped wasting my time and energy with women and trying to find someone to date. Also no close friends. Used to have maybe 1 but I recently ended the friendship a few weeks ago.
I guarantee that you can and will successfully find women to date. The first thing you need to do is stop with the "women just don't want me at all, I've given up" mentality. I think that you are in a good place to join a program like Socializer. You can work with me if you'd like.. if it's a physical attraction limiting belief you have, check my website and you'll see plenty of average/below average looking guys who are now getting results. Keep your head up king
He can get women, but it wont be worth it. Women are too much work and not worth it. Yeah he could sacrifice everything, and completely change his mentality and pretend to be someone he isn't, but the juice wont be worth the squeeze.
@@hhjhj393 I can't get women. i'm done wasting my time and energy with them. I've been convinced for years I'll never experience dating, being in a relationship etc.
Dude I'm 34 and I'm telling you that I've never had as many options/dates as I have now and I'm talking about girls aged 24-29 (I never date women over 30, I would probably clean up with women aged 30+ but too me there are way too many risks like biology or baggage). Clean up your act, get in the best shape of your life, get a nice haircut, grow a beard (shave the neck area), buy good fitting clothes, just overall become the best version of yourself and you'll be shocked how many women will notice you. I'm not even that tall (5'9 or 5'10) or good looking (I'd say average or slightly above average), but I present myself really well and dude I'm telling you - the more work you put in the more women will notice you and it will snowball giving you more confidence and more "room for error". Dating apps are garbage, I have a feeling more and more people do it for validation, but if you wanna do it get the absolute top notch pics from a professional photographer and you'll be shocked at how many matches you'll get. So stop crying, as Bill Burr once said we're all eating a giant shit sandwich here, and work on yourself. I'd even recommend you quit trying to find dates for a couple of months and really use this time to work on yourself as much as possible. It's all in the head, man. Do it and thank me later.
@@89Pleasek I haven't even been looking for dates to be honest. last time I tried was sometime in 2023 and nothing. and i've tried just about everything, new clothes and all that, women still do not want to date me. so I am done trying.
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Im a 25yo guy, and I get treated like a kid by everybody. Nobody takes me seriously, it absolutely sucks. My coworkers pity me, my neighbors pity me, and women definitely dont get wet for me lol. I hate it. I hate being looked down on
Only you can change that brother there's obviously something your doing that's wrong and having that feel sorry for myself/it won't get better attitude isn't doing you any favors
@@keifer7813 Don't worry about Jerry here, Keifer. He has a bad case of the ol' delusional dissonance trait. It's like Brad Pitt telling Danny devito that dating is easy and you just gotta get better at it.
100% No matter what it is always men's fault. Men aren't making enough money that's our fault. Also if women aren't making enough money that's men's fault. This is the broken logic that is destroying men. How about we stop trying to close the gender pay gap and decrease the workforce by half? Suddenly you will see a lot more mature men buying homes, getting married, and having sex. Decrease the value of male labor and you have subsistence only.
@@Denmosocial if me making this comment is “worrying about them” and not focusing on myself then that would make at least half of what you said in the video “worrying about them”. There’s nothing wrong with expressing a bit of concern for the situation when warranted. Especially when I’m just trying to express my opinion and bring a different point of view to the conversation. Also, don’t just assume that someone isn’t taking care of themselves because they claim to care about what other people spend their time doing.
As someone said on a podcast once: "A man today has to put in 10x more work than his grandfather, to get a thot who's not even a fraction of the woman that his grandmother was". Denmo seems disingenous when he fails to acknowledge this part.
depending on what you're doing on the screen, mine can go up to 14 hours when grinding game development (while playing these vids in the background) but doesn't mean I'm not productive
The things about these vids is the feeling it gives people. Ignores the nuances of why things may be the way they are. I would be a tad but less judgmental. Cuz you can call people a loser some may struggle with things like social anxiety and shit even a development disabilities like ASD. But yea a man has to look at where he is in life and make that change. But also this kinda makes the dude feel insecure. Like alot of dudes already are. They have to do all this stuff for a girl. N if they aren’t able to get a girl, even if they do these things. The finger always gets pointed at them. Which makes them feel less than. I would say it kinda putting women on a pedestal. Honestly, Im unlucky with the girls I run into. So doin all that for a girl who isn’t even genuine. Feels so pointless. Thats where Im at. Rn atleast
@@abelstephenson3 pfft trust me, I could do 300 push ups or probably more along with more exercises. Other than that, free time totally wasted on the internet
I really needed to hear this today to get my ass up right now, workout, and to keep searching for what I should pursue in life. Thanks for the motivation bro, needed to hear this today.
Surprisingly,got my shit together got a business,going to the gym every morning,and yet I still feel like a stupid nerd geek and with no capacity or belief of having value
I'm hearing the term Gymcel a lot more lately. I see tons of guys who workout and work constantly and are very lonely. It seems like there is so much more going on. It feels like you do so much, you're tired and it's not good enough. The dating apps and the economy are the two biggest culprits in my opinion.
@@Denmosocial Youre a 100% right. I wish I had learned better to delay gratification so I could do things without seeing instant results. I personally find it hard to have motivation when it's only improving my life, I really need to do things for other people to have proper motivation. It's quite hard, but I just have to learn to play in to that angle and I guess manipulate myself xd
It’s going to collapse. I feel it is part of the divine plan and things must be destroyed to leave room for a much better reconstruction. I accept it all. It’s all part of the the divine plan. The light is prevailing. ✝️🙏🏻💯
I have lots to say that the tube doesnt allow but i agree my fate is **mostly** my own and nobody will come to save me. But many men be they "immature, " losers"" or simply find the game abhorrent and not worth playing. The only winning move? Dont play.
One social meet up group I attended lately, one of the guys there told me he sadly didn't get his very first girlfriend until he was 30, while he is happy about having a girlfriend now, he still gets kind of depressed and bitter and resentful over having been single that long. Feels he didn't grow up having a normal youth because of being single that long. Causes him to envy and feel resentment and feel bitter when he sees couples out there younger than him. He has the mindset that he feels if he had been born a woman at least an average plain-looking woman, then there is a guarantee he would not have been alone or single that long. Since women are always guaranteed attention or dating options because for all time women have always been on the receiving end of sexual attention. A lot of guys hate and resent how nature and reality dictates that men have to make the first move all the time and be the initiators and do the pursuing but unfortunately there's no other way. Yet people think men still have the better end of the stick in the dating world than women do, especially when men are far more likely than women are to be single that long, be alone or single longer, or to have a lonely journey, yes men and women each have different difficulties or different issues to deal with but being alone or single later than normal is normally never an issue or never a problem for women. He says he feels angry and mad whenever people and Society say that he should feel grateful that he has a girlfriend now and that he has no right to feel angry and bitter that he was single and alone that long. Or why get angry and upset about what didn't happen in the past. Well he has a right to feel how he wants to feel. Probably because women are just a guaranteed options and attentions for just existing and breathing or having a pulse but it's not true if you're a guy or a human male. Men have to learn all of these skills or behaviors or know how to talk and behave a certain way or act a certain way to attract women( I got even more pissed off when a guy said that men also have to learn how to talk a certain way and behave a certain way or act a certain way in order to get a job or get certain social ranking in Society), that pissed me off a lot because that's a different issue and that's a different matter and plus the way you talk and behave and act in order to get a job or get social ranking in Society is different than what it takes to attract women, women however since they play a passive role, I just don't understand why or how women have to learn any skills in order to attract men, I just don't get it, that doesn't require any learning or I just don't see how it requires any learning. It's stupid and mind-boggling that women would have to learn any skills to attract men or how to meet men when they don't have to do any thing in the courtship phase the man is doing everything. So yeah I get very mad and annoyed that there is even dating advice for women on how to attract men But yeah I get very angry whenever people think men have it better than women do in dating. I feel like I can relate to him because I didn't really have a breakthrough or a long-term relationship until my early 30s, I'll forever be sad and depressed and bitter and resentful that I didn't have a long-term relationship in my 20s. Yet people still think men have it better than women do when in fact women have always been and always will be less at risk than men do at being chronically alone or single later than normal like I described. It won't surprise me if you are the type of guy or the type of person who has the mindset that it's better to be a man than it is to be a woman at the end of the day. Overall, I will forever be angry and bitter, resentful, that I didn't have a girlfriend until later than normal. I remember when one person told me that I should just be glad that I was able to get a girlfriend or have a girlfriend now and enjoy the fruits of my labor and that just made me more angry and pissed me off even more it sounds like that person has the mindset or mentality that a guy or a man should still be happy that even if he finally managed to get a girlfriend even in his 50s or 60s or as a senior citizen. Yeah I have the mindset that women are the only gender that are owed a relationship but men are not. It naturally feels like women are owed a relationship but men are not, because when you're on the receiving end of sexual attention it means that you always have options and choices or it just means that you are in abundance by default for simply just existing.
I will make this simple for you, its all because of evolution. Men only need a visual cue to determine good partner to reproduce offspring. Women need more varied cue to determine good partner that could 'provide' for the offspring. So, yeah by default women can easily attract sexual partner just by being healthy human, while men need to show that he is capable to provide. This become skewed more in modern times because a few men control most resource than most men. I understand how you feel, but resentment wont change this biology, might as well save your sanity
I have a little different perspective. A lot of men are, frankly speaking bad at relating to and flirting with and talking to women. They don't understand or care about a woman's needs. A lot of men are fat, lazy, out of shape, and refuse to take responsibility for their lives. They live in this Disney fantasy world where if they show and act "Nice", nice in this case meaning non-threatening and non-sexual, that women will be attracted to them. A lot of men have no idea how attraction between men and women works, and so they cannot consistently create it or behave attractively. A lot of men refuse to be friends with women because they have no self control, and can't be around women without becoming attracted to them and make themselves miserable. A lot of men are bitter and resentful about being rejected or having difficulty with dating. They don't see the difficulties that women experience (different that ours) or "Would love to have a problem like that" and women can smell it on you. Then they go online, and blame women for all their problems and say that women are defective. They are human beings, some are good, some are bad, some have lots of problems in their lives. If as a dude you do these, maybe 4 things you can easily get a girlfriend by existing: #1 Take care of your body and appearance. Get in shape and be well dressed/groomed. #2, Support yourself financially, or be working towards that goal. Have a hobby. #3, Develop Social skills, have platonic friendships with women so you can learn to relate to them. #4 Have a good attitude and some standards, stop trying to get with every hot girl you meet. Like some of y'all are trying to learn game and jedi mind tricks and crap but you aren't blocking and tackling.
I can relate to that very much, the feeling of regret makes me resentful and miserable; however, i try to get over this with time; the obvious, but still valid realization is that you can't go back, there's really no point in dwelling on the past for any other reasons than learning from your mistakes; yes, it's painful, but you live in the now, don't try to "make up" for the lost time either; try to make the most out of each day, do something that makes u happy; there will always be sth for u to improve on, to "fix", you'll keep having more regrets, that's normal
I am so many things you described in your video and my life is only getting better with age. Almost 30 and there is no way in hell I'm sacrificing this summer to work more or move out lol. I'm enjoying hiking with my dog, working out, mountain biking, doing online courses, going to the library, meeting up with friends, all with barely any money. The money that I do spend is spent on eating and living well + rent and electricity. Best shape of my life and happiest I've ever been and most of that was down to learning to like myself, and taking care of my mind and body, which in turn made me want to be outside more, which in turn results in more social interaction in general. You don't have to have a successful dating life to not be lonely. You just gotta be active and you'll end up around more people as a byproduct and even those micro interactions are enough to make you feel good and help you meet your socialization quota for the day. The frequency of interactions increases with your activity level as well. Caring about most of the things you brought up in your videos only served to keep me in a depressive state for the longest time. I typed "Dating" into RUclips to see what would come up because I used to have a bit of a depression fueled addiction to such content and couldn't help myself from having a peek while I'm having my coffee. The first thing I noticed was how inadequate your video made me feel almost instantly lol. I think its good to make people aware of the problems that they are ignorant to or maybe underestimating the severity of, but I also notice how much of an impact this type of content has on my mental health now that I am so far removed from it. If you lacked the information beforehand? Then cool, useful video. If these are things you already know? Fixating on them or consuming more of this content is not going to help. Instead of watching a RUclips video on the topic, if you meditated every day instead(any amount of time), I could guarantee most people wouldn't care as much about such things. You would be less in your own head, and more likely to do the things that you enjoy, work towards your goals, and you would build a life based around those things. If you care to the point that the topics discussed in the video are really weighing on you then I think your worries are misplaced. Success and happiness are a subjective/personal pursuit and when you respect yourself, these things comes naturally to you. You might only need to fix one thing in your life to trigger an avalanche of growth, you might feel you need to fix 10 things, but doing it because you "think" you need to check off a ton of boxes before you are valuable is hilariously misconstrued and you will be left feeling empty once you have accomplished everything you thought was supposed to fix your problems.
Tell you what mate. You have hit the nail on the head. What you've said there has already just blown 99% of these self improvement/life content creators out the water. All this stuff will drag your mind down as I found it had the same effect on me. I think most people know what they need to do if they just sat there an concentrate on what needs fixing in thier lives, RUclips and all of its creators are putting problems in your head. Clense yourself from this nonsense. Stop looking at the screens that's dominating our lives and step outside, NO EXCUSES
Best advice I could give to young men (18 - 22) is get a job in the service industry. An actual bar or restaurant. The $ is great, there are tons of women to have sex with, you make a bunch of friends and your off your phone when working. I bartended all through college and it was amazing. More time to hit the gym and hang with friends too.
Im 24, been living on my own since 20. Absolutely horrible, prices have gone up so high and despite making $40 an hour, i still feel like im on the same level as the women i work with, despite none of them working as hard. Women rarely respect that anymore, everyone seems like a whore at some point to me. Life has been miserable, because i barely can still afford anything
Probably you could to learn how to provide value in the form of having a positive, supportive attitude towards women. They need positivity and emotional support. Also, they value a man who treats them with generosity, respect and kindness over a man who is rich.
Ouch, I knew that this one hurt but I had to hear it anyways. My defense to the content of this vid is growing up with aspergers & ADHD, so my maturity has been sort of...slow. The good news is that only some of the negatives listed in this vid apply to me & I started fixing my life well before this vid got posted. Mainly due to my aging crisis - I started exercising & going to gym. Got a gf last summer, she broke up - got my very first heartbreak, turned 30 & had an age crisis. Went to the unemployment office - they helped me land an internship as a care assistant for one month, but it was enough to help me land a secondary education trade school to get me graduated with a trades as a practical nurse due to the field desperately needing some. My high-school diploma shortens my studies from 3 years to 2 years. After that I should be set in a field with no shortage of jobs taking care of the elderly. I do want to continue my studies in upper trade schools to become an actual hospital nurse or a paramedic. Already trying to hit on girls in my school. But yeah, life's kinda good now actually. I don't really have depression anymore & I use ashwagandha to take care of my stress & anxiety so I don't feel that anymore. Got 2 new drinking buddies from my school. Still in the process of moving out from my mom's apartment, LOL. Baby steps. But in a matter of half a year I've eliminated most of my problems in my life, if we exclude the past 2 years I spent losing weight & improving my wardrobe. But yeah, having a gf really turned me into a man. I don't really care about video games as much anymore & I see social media as a waste of time.
Oh it's not really that complex. Male wages have stagnated for decades. Men don't have economic value which means they have decreased societal value now. This is the result of corporate greed and social engineering. Convince every woman they need to work, open the borders, and that will decrease the cost of labor. Print money so that inflation makes your wages worthless. Men can't head a household anymore which means they have to stay close to family to survive.
"If you're unhealthy, you'll cost for taxpayers' money" The countries with the best healthcare systems know this and regulate food content, build towns so you can walk or bike to work easily, and have programs to encourage their citizens to be healthy and fit. But nonetheless, personal health still comes down to you.
that is a great point I never though of. I always thought city designs were kinda unintentional... like for example, in Canada where I live, everything is built to be driven to, because we are a new country. Totally different than older cities/countries
Alas.. I can relate... I had a lot of thoughts about this video (as always) but let's stick to the point. I've recently turned 28, living with my parents in the countryside, and now that I've got a good paying job I'd move, straight next door, where I'd have a separate flat above my grandparents', where I'd only have to pay the bills but not the rent and shit, and so save more money for my own future house... (What a fucking great idea, right? 😁Here in Hungary, by the way, owning your own property is very fashionable, unlike in other countries, and the price of renting is very high, so I don't think either it's worth it) I have hardly any experience with women (just a few dates, kisses and stuff...), it was out of the question in high school, I could never initiate a conversation with girls on this subject, and it's not much better now... I graduated from university, it was a bumpy ride, more and more challanges, less and less success, people I thought were my old friends disappeared from my life, I only have 1 best friend left who has been my best friend since childhood. Since I've had THAT CERTAIN website in my life (It's been 10 years now), I don't feel like doing anything, I don't learn music, I don't exercise anymore, I feel burnt out. My screen time is say 1-2 hours on mobile on weekdays (a bit more on weekends), and god knows how much more on PC, as I'm quite a gamer, that's 2 hours a day minimum. Plus I hardly sleep (because of late night gaming of course), I'm a zombie all day, what else can I say... life is hard XD... At least, it's a good thing I have a good sense of humour all about this, otherwise I would have hung myself a long time ago 😅
@@Denmosocial so always be entertaining always spend money never relax gym 5 days a week never engage in hobbies you enjoy like videogames is the solution? lol that sounds awful youre a slave at that point🤣💀i guess if thats what being mature is being a provider and doing all the work for fake attraction ill pass
@Rainer125 No such thing as an ugly millionaire. If you lack looks and social skills and are a millionaire, just buy sexy looks and high end instagram.
Here he goes again with the "history bullshit". Listen, dude, in no time in history has the barrier to entry into dating been this high for men. YES, it is true that men were always required a certain level of work to start dating YES. However, It was never THE EQUIVALENT OF A FULLTIME SECOND CAREER (on top of your primary one). Also, I disagree with your theories about why young men are like this. I think the reason is OVERWHELM. It seems like too much. Too big of a bite to take, so guys just go "I'll never be able to master all of this, I give up". Which again, you fail to acknowledge with your "history" bs.
I am well into middle age, and I have never felt comfortable cold-approaching. Not once have been able to come away with a successful outcome. I leveled up my game in other areas of life, eg career and building a social circle. Otherwise, I would be one of the losers that the host is talking about
25M, I have never dated because I don't think I am mature enough to date anyone. Moreover, currently I am only focusing on career. Love, relationship and dating are more like a distraction in success so I avoid them. Because I have never dated so I never got rejected or faced toxic dating things. So my mental health is still good. And who cares because I have high earning now. I can just relax and enjoy money.
I think us men know what the issues are but have zero clue on how to fix it. What is consider “being successful” anymore. Making between 80-100k a year really isn’t shit anymore. That’s basically covering your rent, basic Honda civic, food other bills and maybe a bar tab twice a mont. Most men are stuck working a dead end job having no clue how to scale up.
Society gives fuck all in return or permits wholesale robbery of anything a man attains in the process of divorce. You're deliberately overlooking a tonne of things. Better Bachelor puts it best throughout his channel.
Nope, it's all guy's faults. They aren't trying hard enough. Just keep throwing bad money after good at the dating casino. You'll eventually beat the house. /rolleyes
LOL, that guy is a total pansy who softballs every issue and sounds like a low T whiner in literally every video. He names problems and immediately shifts away from solutions.
I don't think men find these criterias mentioned in this video unfair. Quite the contrary: the men who truly struggle with dating usually have no hope that anything will change due to factors outside of their control. I don't think they need more friends, a car, move out of their parents home or whatever, when the current dating dynamic requires you to be exceptionally good looking. On top of that, the confidence and the social skills that you need to be successful with women (I'm not talking about being able to pull a relationship after 4 years of being single) are so fucking high nowadays. Laying down and rotting is the best option for most men. Participating in society is meaningless. Sure, you can improve for yourself, but if that doesn't fulfill you then don't. Japan is a great example for this: Hikikomoris. I honestly think that it's not bad.
I gave up on dating 7 years ago after a bad break up and avoided women since then. Now I'm 29 turning 30 in 2 months and my life is a mess. I still live with my parents and work a minimum wage job. This video had me pondering about the correlation of my non-existent dating life with my current life situation. Thanks to Denmo now I can enter my 30's with more self-awareness on these aspects of my life, and I hope that life for men really starts at 30 like most people say...
I agree with you man. I personally started just learning or trying different trades just to at least have A semblance of knowledge on different trades so I can better myself. I always feel the internal struggles that everyone faces. I want you guys to know peace with yourselves. Someone or something don’t want you confident or happy. Keep the Peace within yourself & you will heal. We’re in this fight together. Much respect & love to you all.
Don't listen to this guy's nonsense. With that said, you are living at home. You should be grinding and making bank. You have the opportunity to retire early. You have to grind now while you can. Women will come when they see your success. However, remember this fact, the only thing between her and the things she desires is you. Translation... She wants your status, money, snd assets... Of all the things she desires you are last and are simply a means to an end.
"I feel bad for young man!" lol bro this is your target audience, much like FnF, Pearl and Whatever, you all profit from the Male loneliness epidemic as much as OF 304's and videogames.
This video is just really generic simplified observations without any real tangible solutions. That’s also not how taxes work. I still appreciate trying to help others.
This blue pill garbage is getting old, but i get it you need to make ad revenue and sell your courses. I hope other dudes just don’t waste money on this bs though. More men are seeing the truth, “just improve brah” is a meme now for a reason.
You do not mention a lot of major factors that lead to these situations and part of it is because of women behavior and everything is expensive. Would you kiss a girl or even take her seriously if she had sex with over 10 guys? Most girls today even start having sex at age 12
I am successful and I do not complain. You do not mention why many guys are lonely, you just say the statistics. Being home with mom and not doing anything about it is a minority for sure. Like I said, this situation is because of women expectations and everything is expensive. There are more guys lonely than girls, therefore the math doesnt add up, isnt it?
I hear what you’re saying and your criticism is valid, but I lack the moral framework to agree with you. I don’t want to serve nature, women, or society. I also feel that it doesn’t make sense to hold men to these standards while we live under feminism.
I’m 53. I am a lawyer. have had a successful career. I make six figures a year, and have a mid seven figure net worth. I take 2 to 3 overseas trips a year. However, due in large part to my autism, I have never been particularly good at socializing or with women. That may or may not make me something of an outlier vis-à-vis your original premise, but I do think for those situated similarly to me, getting your career straightened out is more important. Without my career, I would’ve never gotten off the starting block. Everything I have, I owe to it. I’d like to hear your thoughts on the above
Hey man, first of all, sounds like you are doing great- and I believe you might have the "grass is greener" situation. You may look at guys with a wife and young kids and think damn I wish I had that. But many of them would look at you with the status of being a lawyer with a high networth and wish they could trade places with you. So yeah, I think that you are correct. And at this point, I believe you could benefit from joining my socializer program- either the program itself or get mentorship with me and the others. Because now that your career, finances and (ideally your productivity & physical health) are sorted out, you can focus on the socializing aspect. Hope that helps
25 y/o I live with my parents and I'm a delivery driver. No sex, trying to kick the porn habit. After highschool I lived in gerogia doing missionary work right after moving from California to Colorado. My friends I talk to are from California don't really have friends in Colorado. I appreciate not having lost my virginity puts me back but I never really cared much for it. Negative feelings I feel I harbor for men and women that "sell" thier lifestyles to me. My dad lets me stay in the house because I avoid being a man child. Or maybe we are both man children and my mom tolerates I guess. Screen time can easily be off set for me by helping around the house. Both my parents work, so my sister and I help with bills or house cleaning, food prep etc. I guess if I can't see my self building what my parents have, then being the loser that takes care of my parents is not a bad life. I realize that there are guys that have it way worse than me. My drive is to not be restentful.
I agree and support everything, but noticed one thing, 3:18 I think women do and should have to do all of that. Women not exercising, socializing, and making money (to some extent) because in a sense all of this is connected and is part of being an adult, holistically they would be somewhat bummy too. A bum might not be the word associate to women like that but I mean to say that they too would be missing out on real life. Sitting in all day not gaining social skills, adult/life skills doesn’t benefit anyone. All in all, men and women should get off their phones, put work in themselves, and get out there.
No offense denmo let’s keep things real the problem with today’s digital day and age it confuses the fuck out of everyone so many different opinions on how to be a man the fact is this keep shit simple yes we are in a crisis but men have to understand there value and some men won’t be able too until it’s too late yes I’m not in a relationship but that doesn’t make me a loser
I mean I kind of agree with everything he says but I feel like working on yourself and trying to be a better version of yourself should not be mainly motivated by wanting women. Just do it for your self, if you don't love yourself why should a women love you? Women should just be a bonus not the main goal otherwise it's like you are trying to please someone because you are insecure and want validation.
gosh, this video is so true, i was about to fall in this shit after i was out of highschool but lucky for me my mom and my dad was seeing me closely, so i went to college with my mom (yes with my mom because she wanted to do administration and she tought it was a good idea that i would do with her) and it turns out to be GREAT to me, it was when i actually found my first job, and it turns out that i wanted to be self employed, so after somethings happend between my familly i was grinding myself, working out everyday, studying other languages, learn properly how to manage finances and a business for about 4 years and last year i decided to open my own business and turns out it worked, because i kinda studied for myself and almost everything that i studied is being useful, i build up my rotine from scratch since 2019, it was NOT easy at all, and i'm still working on it, recently i changed my diet completly (here in Brazil we have the same food as US but we have some natural food more easly to find) and it is so much fun to search for foods and etc...another thing, friends, i am lucky (again) because i have the same friends from school and sometimes when i play videogames (only at night, i don't like to play during the mourning) i play with then or sometimes we hung out together to watch some movies and do another fun stuff, the only thing i lack of and i know this is woman, this is my achilles heel, because my ''loser'' period started when i was 11 (precisely when i discovered porn back in 2009) and i spend my whole teenager period in high school with afraid of woman much so because of porn (and jerking off of course) and that so, i kinda ''''go fuck youself womans, i don't need you'''', matter of fact i quit porn for good september last year, and i noticed that it was that that was affecting me all the time, only if i did know back then, i will ending this saying: never too late boys, i'm 26 and i'm feeling that i starting to grow up now, and i have too much to do and i'm proud an excited to that. ow BTW, screen time: 2h 45min
Many silly (and American) assumptions. Almost all my friends who have relationships do not have cars or particularly stay in shape at all. Ive had several relationships without either. Main thing is money/social status lets be realistic. The reason there are men living at home is simple, there is a housing crises and the economy is growing ever more unequal and broken. There will be less and less jobs ans money going around and more and more people living at home, men and women. It is a return to the norm, 99% of societies have and have had this as the norm. Young women can whre themselves out for property where men cant. Both men and women spend all day on the screen, our world is now on the screen and it probably will never change now. No real.reason for it to change. All these problems stem from an economic system of inequality. With more equal incomes people can pair off and start lives/families more easily. Instead theres a few super wealthy men who all women want and everyone else is considered a "loser".
I have seen too many amazing women I have miss out on public spaces such as train stations because they're glued to their headphones and IPhones meaning I can't talk to them out of respect and boundaries they put out
Because they don't want to talk to you. They want to talk to Chad. They'll want you after they are past their prime, and have been run through, and need a meal ticket.
My screen time is over 8 hours, because i am unemployed... I am 24 years old, from a third world country(Brazil), and i have schizophrenia. Sorry if my english is too bad, i'm still learning.
Daddy Denmo dropping absolute bangers. I love ya brother; keep doing what your doing; your inspiring and improving thousands of peoples lives across the globe. Wishing you all the love in the world☺️
While im impressed by you pointing out the things you do, i cant help but notice you paint the pucture as if this is all just how its supposed to be, but why dont you question how our society works and see if it makes sense first?
Tbh demno these girls ain’t worth it man 😂😂😂😂I’d rather just focus on myself and get my money up (screen time 2hrs) honestly bro losers pull wayyy more money and they aren’t big or all that bro. But tbh that’s way to much work for a very very little reward
25M, seeming to find myself somewhere in the middle of the spectrum of guys you’re speaking to. I do acknowledge that I’m immature because I haven’t figured out my finances (still live at home but work 35 hours a week). However, I’ve had past success with women including one significant relationship. All that to say it’s definitely rough out here but these videos inspire me to keep going, because I was completely immature not too long ago. Thanks Denmo 👊
I'm 15 I have a part-time job as a programmer so my avearge screen time is around 8-10 hours. I walk a lot, would walk more often if it wasn't for work, I love being outside, after a year of almost total social isolation I just want to quit my job and walk around all day, finally feeling like a teenager
By the time the carrot is offered, you're not going to want to eat it. It will be completely unappetizing. And they'll try to make it look like you're the problem for not accepting their most generous offer. Yeah, no thanks. I'll go my own way. You can keep your nasty carrot.
awful take. why are people 'on screens'? it's to get a job. between diversity statement, several rounds of zoom/phone interview, perfectly tailoring resumes, leetcode, reviewing statistics and industry knowledge (all of these are a 100% must non negotiables for average guy who didnt fall ass backwards into good facial aesthetics/right parents to get a job in 2024). Not to mention to pass the final interview round when u finally get there requires around 10 hours of prep time for each hour of face-time. This is for entry level, which you have to then hope u don't get laid off in 2-3 years (which happens to 40% of the white guys (who again get worked to the bone because companies know they are the least likely group to file lawsuits at discrimination/bullying etc). Completely clueless take all around to say 'derp screen time'
Also, the level of work required was much less. Merely getting a minimum-wage job made you an eligible bachelor. You weren't also required to have purely cosmetic muscle, have great social media presence, possess "game", learn about "fashion", and about 20 other things.
Welllll, I'm an incel and i work, i visit my mom in the retirement home after work, work out, my mother always needed to shelter me, cause i got/had an severe emotional self harming disorder, which would have me strapped to a bad cause straightjackets aren't allowed anymore for the rest of my life if she wouldn't have done that, now that I'm better and contribute to society, i have to pay off my debt to society, that's my only goal/reason to live right now. My social skills are getting waayy better, i have no problem talking to my female coworkers anymore, but female strangers or approaching them is a whole other level thanks to my shyness aaand i suck at Smalltalk😩, tho my glowup still isn't complete so we'll see about that. Alsoeven if i were a Gigachad in looks, the housing market is preventing me, of living in a decent flat i could possibly invite a lady to sooo. 🤷 The point of putting women on a pedestal cause their opinion matters more was preeetty eye opening, never understood why i do that, but now. 🤔 Also i nut only as an instrument to relax, stop the constant flow of thoughts and prevent Cancer, the urge is barely existing anymore. Also, blaming incels for the downfall of humanity is...bold. Cause asexuals contribute to society too, so sex drive isn't everything, aaalso many of the "dating isn't worth it guys" are successful and good looking, so you gotta go back to the drawing board about that assumption/conclusion, i guess. Tho you're right about the part of hating/associating women with bad stuff but than watching porn, it's such a contradiction, tho they probably watch specific stuff for their gratification.😖 Anyway, thanks for trying ro help Sir 🫡😊
Y’all need some real, non-gay, non-urbanite hobbies. Go hunting. Go hiking. Shoot guns. Explore. You will have purpose and happiness to continue. Without something you enjoy, it’s all for nothing. So go find something.
Like this comment if you are going to accept responsibility for your life starting today. 🙏 www.skool.com/socializers
im surprised and not surprised you have the IQ to do more than chase females by the looks of your new vids. Surprised because that's what a lot of primates do and focus on, and most men stay in that phase. Not surprised because ur wyte, and as a wyte- youre supposed to have some decent iq.
Dislike, my life already "started" a long time ago, since I was born, it doesn't start when a stereotypical coach tells you to "train and eat healthy" since that is bullshit.
@@Alex-on8yu alright bro go back to whining and complaining in the RUclips comment section lmao
Nice @Denymossocial
I actually really appreciate this comment and I'm glad that I already started trying to change my life a while ago. This video has served to help me know that I'm on the right path. Thank you so much Denmo!
One of the main issues is the shrinking of the middle class which has nothing to do with your average man out there. We were born into a failed system. That right there creates a huge amount of men issues and living longer with parents because it's too expensive. Women maintained or even raised their standards for men to provide when its not even possible to for so many. Times have changed from 50 years ago when 1 person could easily support a household.
I agree mate but this is just motivation to go into a higher paying industry or remote skillset so you can remain in the middle class or higher, OR, relocate elsewhere so that your money goes further
@Denmosocial sure, but that would only work for a percentage of the population of men. When you shrink the middle class, those jobs aren't even available to be filled, and the ones that are pay way less. This invariably creates a situation where a butt f**k ton of women out there are left wondering where the provider men are at, or MEN in general, as men don't feel like they can even be men when they can't provide properly. As I am sure you know it is an instinctual thing that a man provides, but our ability to do so at all is quickly shrinking. This destroys mens confidence, self concept, motivation, ability to talk to women etc.
We can't fix this situation with motivational talks. It is a serious issue deeply embedded in society that in my opinion requires a financial reset across the planet to correct. We're maybe on the brink of that anyway, I think the economy is on its last legs.
@@robzreelz jobs will be a thing of the past. AI will automate away 95% of the jobs out there. If we think society is a mess now, just wait to see how it will be once everyone is jobless.
@@Denmosocial nice idea which works for some, not for all.
somebody will have to do shitty jobs at some point, because it needs to be done.
if everbody would go for high paying jobs only, society would collapse.
@@Denmosocialyes a nice idea, but remember the pool.of available high paying jobs is many, many times smaller then the pool of people willing and able to do them. They system is a scam, there's never enough to go around by design to keep people desperate and therefore nice and exploitable. Only a tiny fraction will get the decent jobs, and there will be less and less available as our economies continue their death spirals
I can’t do it with these gurus anymore bro
The RUclips comment section analogy was brilliant. It's also represents other social media comment sections too.
First time viewer. This one resonated with me and made me want to strive harder. Thank you.
welcome brother hope it helped
@@DenmosocialI'll revisit these points regularly. The one that really spoke to me was about doing my fair share to society. I want to make things at least a little better for the people I love, and if possible, maybe their children as well.
I game all the time if I don't work. I'm tired of life. It can be so beautiful but society ruined it, specially the government, not even us. I don't feel represented at all by them and we are abandoned, that's why I don't care anymore. Not the life I wanted but at least, I do what I want most of the time.
I really like this video, great job
Denmo buddy, I see you throwing little spurts of your acting in the vids. Keep
Up the dream brother🍻
16 years old, my avg screentime is 3 hours
I used to ask girls out. It always ended in rejection. Now I just don't care.
The greatest joke, is that women ever cared in the first place. Men are finally seeing things as they actually are.
Im starting to feel like that some way. I started to not care much. But idk
You should not care if you get rejected, but don't avoid doing it while lying to yourself that you don't have human needs
"Your rent is low". Bro half of us cant afford it with 2 jobs
learn a higher paying skill my man
@@Denmosocial I mean yeah that will be a viable option for some but ultimately I believe the actual issue is within the prices of things not in our income itself
@@MG3887Griff agree bro, however can you control the price of things?? Nop. Focus in what you can control.
Im not saying is easy not. But at least you can do something about it
@@MG3887Griff Sure, prices for things have gone up, but there's no sense in complaining about what we can't control. Ask yourself if you really need what you're spending your money on, and try to increase your income the best you can.
@@Denmosocialso about 75 percent of Americans should not be allowed to rent? How about we change this bullshit society that only caters to 5 percent
Lmao. Our world is cooked. Stop caring already.
Learning social skills isn't like learning other skills. If you're learning to play an instrument, you can practice alone without annoying other people with your wails and twangs. However, improving social skills requires you to nessessarily irritate other people with your incompetance in order to calibrate and improve. I believe this is the biggest factor of avoidance, especially to highly empathetic people.
You have to start somewhere, it's still experience. Plus you can read about how to interact with other people without irritating them which may sound weird but why not if you have such severe problems with communication
Exactly. It is even worse the older you are. You need to be a little bit of a psycopath to force a conversation with random people fully aware your presence is not welcome because you lack the social skills to have a pleasant conversation. Yes, you are getting better, but for that a dozen of people had to endure you being a weirdo.
One thing that helps me is I openly highlight and laugh about my incompetence in social skills with the women I date. Don’t take it so seriously. Go annoy women until they dump you. It’s life and that’s part of living it.
Losing social skills is a big one for me. I developed social anxiety in late highschool, and went from a popular sports kid to a nobody in college. I lost a lot of confidence, friends and social skills. Now here I am in uni, fighting demons in lectures/seminars just to get my degree. I probably have about 6 hours of screen time every day (although most of this is studying/coursework). I don't really have friends: I have contacts but i wouldn't call them friends. Besides socialising, I'm doing well though. I've been going to the gym 5 times a week, taking walks everyday, eating/drinking well, taking care of my physical appearance etc. Social anxiety is just my biggest hurdle: it's singlehandedly ruined my life.
I lost much confidence after I lost a love one close to me
Social anxiety was the biggest thing for me too, starting in highschool. People always say “just be confident”. Some people can fake confidence, most people cannot. I’m 30 now, and I found that the only thing that works for me is the saying “competence builds confidence”. The more success I have in areas of my life that I value, like finances for example, the more content I am with myself and the more confident I become. It’s an interesting type of thing for sure.
@@Aubatron I agree. I feel as though my confidence is slowly improving as I improve my physical and mental competence (going to the gym, learning new skills, studying etc). Tackling social anxiety head on, such as through exposure, only made things worse for me.
Always had really bad social anxiety, getting really bad in high school but I had it in middle school too. I still feel like I have it to some degree but it's not as bad. Theater has helped me a lot (I've started it for this reason). Also changing your view of others helps a lot. It's not good to think yourself worse or better than others because you create a wall doing that. Most people have problems and are probably just happy having a nice interaction with someone (especially in college), so yeah. It's all about trying, acting as a confident version of yourself. Also seeing the embarrassing things you do and their consequences... The Earth keeps turning in the end. Don't beat yourself up and don't give social anxiety more power than it should have. (Exposure can be risky but if you get a good experience, it makes it very worth it.)
As they say,
Fuck it we ball.
@@Obotron7 Yeah I felt similar. I felt like I was inferior and people in general would reject me when they got to know me a little bit. I don't think everyone with anxiety has this type of anxiety, but the only way to really fix it is to prove to yourself that you're someone you can be proud of being through your own metric of success.
You have a lot of good points.
But you're coming off as a man who hasn't been through a divorce, forcely taken your house, possessions and kids from you.
You're coming off as a man who wasn't the "weird kid" who never got picked for sports, invited to play, invited to parties etc. I know you point out in other videos how much of a loser you were, but trust me that's nothing.
I've been through it all, had a pretty good life financially and socially through my twenties, just to lose it all in my early 30's. I'm still recuperating from that.
So you're both right on many points, but also wrong, and "just try harder, bro lol" is not always a valid solution.
Exactly. This guy is naive af. He doesn't know shit about how evil women are
25M. Never allowed to school, No friends, Never experienced intimacy, still live with parents, working 10 hour shifts yet still can’t afford to move out. I don’t want to see the next day, but I have no choice because it would destroy the little family I have left
Yeah, if you can't afford to move out, it's literally not your fault. Meanwhile, I know so many women who were once broke losers but found a bf, moved in with him while he paid the rent and the woman went to school to become gainfully employable. Some ditched their bf's after they were able to become independent. I've had a lot of gf's in the past, but I've also seen too much unfair crap to just fall back and accept a lot of the bs that happens in our culture. I love that Denmo is genuinely trying to help us all, but I think enough is enough with some of the standards women hold us to. I want society to just wake up already and have logical expectations of us that make economical sense at least. If she earns more, she should be the breadwinner. If she earns less, it's on me. That's it. All this pressure put on us guys is dehumanizing. Why the hell do I have to worry about making even more money, if she already makes some? This is neurotic nonsense that more evolved people of the future will retch at.
They're not paying us enough to afford to move out and then the rich are blaming us and mocking us for not maturing. What kind of hell are we living in? "Just move to North Dakota bro!"
That's rough man. But something needs to change, otherwise your won't find a way out. Nobody else is coming to save you. I would guess that these 10 hours shift are killing any energy you have for self-educations, but that's path for getting better offers. I wish you luck, I hope that your desperation will lead to massive action that will change your circumstances.
Call me crazy but maybe it's time to join the military and get the GI bill.
@@MetaphixI was already in the marines corps. I have a bachelors which got me the job I currently have. I don’t want to reenlist. The majority of jobs even with a degree don’t pay enough to live off/move out with. Joining the military doesn’t count as moving out. It just makes the government your parent. Your only responsibility is showing up on time.
Our fathers and grandfathers never had to go to gym to get a decent woman, that was an extra.
Our fathers and grandfather's never had to develop social skill, they just lived in a society that wasn't overtly hostile to socialization.
Our fathers and grandfathers never had to swipe on an app, work 70 hours a week for a 1 bedroom apartment, never had to compete with 3rd world immigrants for work... hell our grandfathers didn't even need to compete with women.
Yet we pretend like all this shit is normal and has been how it is since the dawn of man.
"You don't want a world where men get sex easily". What you mean basically all of human history up until about 1960. You mean the periods of time where the greatest growth occurred? Those periods? Really dude...
No what you don't want is a society where sex is scarce its almost unobtainable for anyone but the top men. This is a society that will lead to men becoming absolutely violent.
I'm not saying I expect these issues to be freely solved for us. Ultimately we have to sort out our own problems. But diagnosing the problem is the first step.
Well said
I've never pretended it was normal, but then again I didn't grow up mentally weak.
Might sound like a COMPLETE degenerate but. Age 30. Screen time 12-16h/day. Studying electric engineering. Im a lonewolf and actually fine with, and happy running solo. Havent even bothered seeking for someone to be completely honest and im decent looking. Dont even know why and how this came into my recommended nor why I even clicked on this video. Maybe just out of curiosity as to what the guys are struggling with.
31 here, the things you listed like: having a car, being fit, having a job and whatsoever sure it's good to have that. But this hasn't solved my problem in dating at all. Even though I could check all boxes. Maybe some guys are just not meant to be chosen and girls would rather choose a guy that already has massive options. They feel like the gigachad will be the better option for them. Don't fucking know how what else I have to improve. I think I just lost all my hope - maybe you guys will have better game than me...
The things he mentioned are for young guys, that kind of stuff sets young guys apart. At your age most of those things are expected by then, I like Denmo but he isn’t perfect, nor will he have the perfect game plan for everyone. In your case I’d say to get ahead you need to be making like 6 figures, and be a 7 or above on attractiveness
@@cu11en76 physical attractiveness does put u ahead, but for the large part it's out of one's control; i don't see how making more and more money works to your advantage though, unless u just want to get laid; would u like money to be one of the decisive factors for why someone is with you?
Focus on the money and go the passport route if you want one that bad
It's not easy, that's for sure. There are several contributing factors at play here, and you should probably figure them out. Are you in a city with fewer options or higher levels of competition? Is your hygiene game strong? How many people in general do you have small talk with each day? Are you liberal or conservative? What kind of women are you approaching? Are you using dating apps, or going out in person? What are your standards, and do they coincide with reality? All of these things play a role in your dating life.
You're going to get shot down 9 times out of 10, so the more options you have the better. Make sure you put most of your money aside, and use your vacation time to explore other places, and see what opportunities are in other places you may want to live.
Don't pursue women, but chatting and flirting with when the opportunity arises can be fun, and eventually one will say yes, but vet her thoroughly, as the right woman can bring you a level of happiness you can barely imagine, but the wrong one will make your life a living hell.
The juice ain't worth the squeeze. Find something else in life that brings you joy and happiness.
When the economy only allows a small percentage of the total population to not be losers I fail to see why I should care about a system that wanted me to fail
Same I seen it since a younger age and i don't know how any of Gen Z like me is supposed to retire in this society if prices keep going up, rent skyrocketing, bills going up, taxes going up, standards going up at a rapid rate and wages being stagnant, jobs being stingy about work positions so many of gen Z is struggling to even find a job that will hire them even if they are hiring it's like we're in the back of the line for any job position nowadays the ones like me that are working or actually wanting to work
As far as men living with their parents, I think there are huge economic factors that are causing this, and this then bleeds into all other realms like fitness, self-esteem, and dating. The current economy forces us into a kind of clan living, which has its benefits. I'm always jealous of some of my friends who have a large generational home where all the generations help each other, and as younger one's get older they take on the main mantle of head of the house, and get the primary responsibility, and older generations support in whatever way they can.
If you are fortunate to be living with your parents make the most of it. Grind and make bank. Women arevthe last thing you should focus on because they are a money drain. Make bank and focus on retirement. If you want to knock one off with a woman go to place you can pay for it and leave. All men pay for sex. The only difference is that in marriage women can collect your money and assets and cut the sex out or weaponize it any time they like. You don't need a program... Focus on you... Make the most of living at home.
When the “ bare minimum” requirement is too high people slowly begin to give up. This is being seen across all developed countries. A small amount of hyper successful men and a much larger amount of men struggling to get by.
It can all be solved tomorrow if men took women's vote away.
I'm 23 years old and my screen time on avg. Is 1,5-2,5 h per day. Denmo i wanted to thank you for being an inspiration and of guidance to me. I'm currently working a low-wage job, struggling with mental health issues, but still being there to support my family. Cheers from Estonia✌
Sorry but this is BS. Some of the best guys who I have known around women were basically broke and homeless. What they did different to other men was simply to constantly meet women and be direct with them about what he was all about. It was as simple as that. Sure their batting average wasn't that great, but over a vast number of attempts - many in unlikely situations - he would eke out girlfriends who would let him stay at their place or buy him things. He did not care what others thought about him because his ultimate success was crazy and enviable. Ironically, getting good with women teaches you a lot about running a business because it's practically almost the same thing.
So your argument is to become the best host possible for every parasite, societal or otherwise?
Unfortunately the parasite is too stupid to see that it is killing the host.
@@bradleyfrank7933 Please. They're evil, not stupid. I don't get why these natural slaves keep making these excuses.
The thing is ... I dont care if society collaps
this is written by someone who clearly nobody cares about. this saddens me
I've honestly reached the same conclusion. Care to share your reason why?
same here. i actually wish it to collapse now. never imagined before that i would come to that point
Says a person living in 1st world country.
@@DenmosocialI believe the sentiment voiced by the person to be very prevalent, so you are implying a large chunk of society is not cared about by society itself, and this is exactly the issue...
I have social skills, friends, I workout, have my own place, good paying job. I agree these are the bare minimum. However it feels like despite doing my best there are little to no dating opportunities. All of my efforts only amount to me dating someone significantly below my standards set by my last relationship.
Let society fall, that's what I say.
Indeed am letting it fall I never ask to be born and my mom definitely gonna pay for this shit.
You keep repeating this idea that men are “choosing” to be losers and “choosing” to drop out of society and play video games etc. That’s not true and that’s not how things work. Men inherently will try to become successful but our society is built in a way that does not allow it. Before you could get a decent job, a car, and even a house with a normal job but now you can’t. This leads to you “self improvement” RUclipsrs telling every man to try to become exceptional which is not possible and just causes an endless negative feedback loop. Society has to change otherwise this won’t be fixed and will just keep getting worse.
Nope, it is all men's fault. They aren't trying hard enough. /rolleyes. Have to keep wasting more time and resources, so women get everything, and men end up more dejected and bitter and angry. Skip all the bullshit, and enjoy the fruits of your own labor, find a hobby, and let women sleep in the bed they've made for themselves.
Im 34 singles no kids own place job transportation and i workout but my social skills are terrible im really introverted 😂
I’m in the same boat brotha. On paper fairly successful. 34, make 120k per year, own a home, nice cars and in good shape. My main issue is being introverted and having having very little of a social life
Dude like I’m not that old yet, but I can’t for the life of me talk to a girl without befriending them. That’s all I ever come across. I’m smart, but they don’t care if I can’t speak up :(
I'm 31, screen time weekends maybe 4-6 hours, work week 8 hours as my job requires me to be on a computer and my job gives me good benefits. I have my own place, own car, I go to the gym 5 days a week, no dating experience. i've been single 31 years encounting. Women just don't want me at all. so i've given up on dating and stopped wasting my time and energy with women and trying to find someone to date. Also no close friends. Used to have maybe 1 but I recently ended the friendship a few weeks ago.
I guarantee that you can and will successfully find women to date. The first thing you need to do is stop with the "women just don't want me at all, I've given up" mentality. I think that you are in a good place to join a program like Socializer. You can work with me if you'd like.. if it's a physical attraction limiting belief you have, check my website and you'll see plenty of average/below average looking guys who are now getting results. Keep your head up king
He can get women, but it wont be worth it. Women are too much work and not worth it. Yeah he could sacrifice everything, and completely change his mentality and pretend to be someone he isn't, but the juice wont be worth the squeeze.
@@hhjhj393 I can't get women. i'm done wasting my time and energy with them. I've been convinced for years I'll never experience dating, being in a relationship etc.
Dude I'm 34 and I'm telling you that I've never had as many options/dates as I have now and I'm talking about girls aged 24-29 (I never date women over 30, I would probably clean up with women aged 30+ but too me there are way too many risks like biology or baggage).
Clean up your act, get in the best shape of your life, get a nice haircut, grow a beard (shave the neck area), buy good fitting clothes, just overall become the best version of yourself and you'll be shocked how many women will notice you. I'm not even that tall (5'9 or 5'10) or good looking (I'd say average or slightly above average), but I present myself really well and dude I'm telling you - the more work you put in the more women will notice you and it will snowball giving you more confidence and more "room for error".
Dating apps are garbage, I have a feeling more and more people do it for validation, but if you wanna do it get the absolute top notch pics from a professional photographer and you'll be shocked at how many matches you'll get.
So stop crying, as Bill Burr once said we're all eating a giant shit sandwich here, and work on yourself. I'd even recommend you quit trying to find dates for a couple of months and really use this time to work on yourself as much as possible. It's all in the head, man. Do it and thank me later.
@@89Pleasek I haven't even been looking for dates to be honest. last time I tried was sometime in 2023 and nothing. and i've tried just about everything, new clothes and all that, women still do not want to date me. so I am done trying.
All you will ever need. $8. Now i have no problem getting women. Im 32, work as a store assistant am broke and dont even own a car.
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Im a 25yo guy, and I get treated like a kid by everybody. Nobody takes me seriously, it absolutely sucks. My coworkers pity me, my neighbors pity me, and women definitely dont get wet for me lol. I hate it. I hate being looked down on
Only you can change that brother there's obviously something your doing that's wrong and having that feel sorry for myself/it won't get better attitude isn't doing you any favors
@@jerrybesch8532 What I'm doing wrong is having a baby face. Something that is completely out of my control
@@keifer7813 Don't worry about Jerry here, Keifer. He has a bad case of the ol' delusional dissonance trait. It's like Brad Pitt telling Danny devito that dating is easy and you just gotta get better at it.
Young women are wayyyy more chronically online😂
100%
No matter what it is always men's fault. Men aren't making enough money that's our fault. Also if women aren't making enough money that's men's fault. This is the broken logic that is destroying men. How about we stop trying to close the gender pay gap and decrease the workforce by half? Suddenly you will see a lot more mature men buying homes, getting married, and having sex. Decrease the value of male labor and you have subsistence only.
why you worrying about them lol focus on yourself
@@Denmosocial if me making this comment is “worrying about them” and not focusing on myself then that would make at least half of what you said in the video “worrying about them”. There’s nothing wrong with expressing a bit of concern for the situation when warranted. Especially when I’m just trying to express my opinion and bring a different point of view to the conversation. Also, don’t just assume that someone isn’t taking care of themselves because they claim to care about what other people spend their time doing.
@@Denmosocialif you only assess men and not women when it comes to dating, then you're dumb.
@@Denmosocial because it takes 2 to tango. If I full optimize and they are being trash, then what?
Number of females worth succeeding for, is decreasing… put that into the equation and it’ll make more sense.
As someone said on a podcast once: "A man today has to put in 10x more work than his grandfather, to get a thot who's not even a fraction of the woman that his grandmother was". Denmo seems disingenous when he fails to acknowledge this part.
24 and my average screen time on a normal day is around 6-8 hours per day
that is absolutely insane brother I hope you are kidding
depending on what you're doing on the screen, mine can go up to 14 hours when grinding game development (while playing these vids in the background) but doesn't mean I'm not productive
@Denmosocial it's more common than you'd think 😬
@@SteveTheGhazaRooster common does not mean good
@@prodwazzam yeah I agree with that
The things about these vids is the feeling it gives people.
Ignores the nuances of why things may be the way they are. I would be a tad but less judgmental. Cuz you can call people a loser some may struggle with things like social anxiety and shit even a development disabilities like ASD. But yea a man has to look at where he is in life and make that change.
But also this kinda makes the dude feel insecure. Like alot of dudes already are. They have to do all this stuff for a girl. N if they aren’t able to get a girl, even if they do these things. The finger always gets pointed at them. Which makes them feel less than. I would say it kinda putting women on a pedestal.
Honestly, Im unlucky with the girls I run into. So doin all that for a girl who isn’t even genuine. Feels so pointless. Thats where Im at. Rn atleast
13h 26m of screen time. It's over bro. Technology has destroyed me 😂
Please tell me that's weekly time 😮
@@thereisnospoon1678 sadly no. This is a everyday thing tbh
Just get pushups sit ups an squats in for like 4 days a week an you'll be good.
@@abelstephenson3 pfft trust me, I could do 300 push ups or probably more along with more exercises. Other than that, free time totally wasted on the internet
Go sit at a park with your phone or laptop if you're online that much atleast youll be outdoors
I really needed to hear this today to get my ass up right now, workout, and to keep searching for what I should pursue in life. Thanks for the motivation bro, needed to hear this today.
proud of you my man
Surprisingly,got my shit together got a business,going to the gym every morning,and yet I still feel like a stupid nerd geek and with no capacity or belief of having value
imposter syndrome brother. You got some work to do mentally but besides that you are doing just fine, keep going
I am in the same boat man...
Specifically with women
I'm hearing the term Gymcel a lot more lately. I see tons of guys who workout and work constantly and are very lonely. It seems like there is so much more going on. It feels like you do so much, you're tired and it's not good enough. The dating apps and the economy are the two biggest culprits in my opinion.
@@zeethree in my case,I go 30 mins everyday. I don’t live by it
Guys do not listen to him. Women/girls are NOT your priority! Focus on your job, body and health.
whats the point of job, body and health if you cant do anything with it brotha
@@Denmosocial Youre a 100% right. I wish I had learned better to delay gratification so I could do things without seeing instant results. I personally find it hard to have motivation when it's only improving my life, I really need to do things for other people to have proper motivation.
It's quite hard, but I just have to learn to play in to that angle and I guess manipulate myself xd
It’s going to collapse. I feel it is part of the divine plan and things must be destroyed to leave room for a much better reconstruction. I accept it all. It’s all part of the the divine plan. The light is prevailing. ✝️🙏🏻💯
I have lots to say that the tube doesnt allow but i agree my fate is **mostly** my own and nobody will come to save me.
But many men be they "immature, " losers"" or simply find the game abhorrent and not worth playing.
The only winning move? Dont play.
One social meet up group I attended lately, one of the guys there told me he sadly didn't get his very first girlfriend until he was 30, while he is happy about having a girlfriend now, he still gets kind of depressed and bitter and resentful over having been single that long. Feels he didn't grow up having a normal youth because of being single that long. Causes him to envy and feel resentment and feel bitter when he sees couples out there younger than him.
He has the mindset that he feels if he had been born a woman at least an average plain-looking woman, then there is a guarantee he would not have been alone or single that long. Since women are always guaranteed attention or dating options because for all time women have always been on the receiving end of sexual attention. A lot of guys hate and resent how nature and reality dictates that men have to make the first move all the time and be the initiators and do the pursuing but unfortunately there's no other way.
Yet people think men still have the better end of the stick in the dating world than women do, especially when men are far more likely than women are to be single that long, be alone or single longer, or to have a lonely journey, yes men and women each have different difficulties or different issues to deal with but being alone or single later than normal is normally never an issue or never a problem for women.
He says he feels angry and mad whenever people and Society say that he should feel grateful that he has a girlfriend now and that he has no right to feel angry and bitter that he was single and alone that long.
Or why get angry and upset about what didn't happen in the past.
Well he has a right to feel how he wants to feel.
Probably because women are just a guaranteed options and attentions for just existing and breathing or having a pulse but it's not true if you're a guy or a human male.
Men have to learn all of these skills or behaviors or know how to talk and behave a certain way or act a certain way to attract women( I got even more pissed off when a guy said that men also have to learn how to talk a certain way and behave a certain way or act a certain way in order to get a job or get certain social ranking in Society), that pissed me off a lot because that's a different issue and that's a different matter and plus the way you talk and behave and act in order to get a job or get social ranking in Society is different than what it takes to attract women, women however since they play a passive role, I just don't understand why or how women have to learn any skills in order to attract men, I just don't get it, that doesn't require any learning or I just don't see how it requires any learning.
It's stupid and mind-boggling that women would have to learn any skills to attract men or how to meet men when they don't have to do any thing in the courtship phase the man is doing everything.
So yeah I get very mad and annoyed that there is even dating advice for women on how to attract men
But yeah I get very angry whenever people think men have it better than women do in dating.
I feel like I can relate to him because I didn't really have a breakthrough or a long-term relationship until my early 30s, I'll forever be sad and depressed and bitter and resentful that I didn't have a long-term relationship in my 20s.
Yet people still think men have it better than women do when in fact women have always been and always will be less at risk than men do at being chronically alone or single later than normal like I described.
It won't surprise me if you are the type of guy or the type of person who has the mindset that it's better to be a man than it is to be a woman at the end of the day.
Overall, I will forever be angry and bitter, resentful, that I didn't have a girlfriend until later than normal.
I remember when one person told me that I should just be glad that I was able to get a girlfriend or have a girlfriend now and enjoy the fruits of my labor and that just made me more angry and pissed me off even more it sounds like that person has the mindset or mentality that a guy or a man should still be happy that even if he finally managed to get a girlfriend even in his 50s or 60s or as a senior citizen.
Yeah I have the mindset that women are the only gender that are owed a relationship but men are not.
It naturally feels like women are owed a relationship but men are not, because when you're on the receiving end of sexual attention it means that you always have options and choices or it just means that you are in abundance by default for simply just existing.
I will make this simple for you, its all because of evolution. Men only need a visual cue to determine good partner to reproduce offspring. Women need more varied cue to determine good partner that could 'provide' for the offspring.
So, yeah by default women can easily attract sexual partner just by being healthy human, while men need to show that he is capable to provide. This become skewed more in modern times because a few men control most resource than most men.
I understand how you feel, but resentment wont change this biology, might as well save your sanity
Girlschase has a good article called stop comparing yourself to women and stop assuming other men are better than you read that.
I have a little different perspective. A lot of men are, frankly speaking bad at relating to and flirting with and talking to women. They don't understand or care about a woman's needs.
A lot of men are fat, lazy, out of shape, and refuse to take responsibility for their lives.
They live in this Disney fantasy world where if they show and act "Nice", nice in this case meaning non-threatening and non-sexual, that women will be attracted to them.
A lot of men have no idea how attraction between men and women works, and so they cannot consistently create it or behave attractively.
A lot of men refuse to be friends with women because they have no self control, and can't be around women without becoming attracted to them and make themselves miserable.
A lot of men are bitter and resentful about being rejected or having difficulty with dating. They don't see the difficulties that women experience (different that ours) or "Would love to have a problem like that" and women can smell it on you.
Then they go online, and blame women for all their problems and say that women are defective. They are human beings, some are good, some are bad, some have lots of problems in their lives.
If as a dude you do these, maybe 4 things you can easily get a girlfriend by existing:
#1 Take care of your body and appearance. Get in shape and be well dressed/groomed.
#2, Support yourself financially, or be working towards that goal. Have a hobby.
#3, Develop Social skills, have platonic friendships with women so you can learn to relate to them.
#4 Have a good attitude and some standards, stop trying to get with every hot girl you meet.
Like some of y'all are trying to learn game and jedi mind tricks and crap but you aren't blocking and tackling.
This really resonates me. I'm very similar to the 30 year old guy but possibly even worse. But I'm trying to use this shame to push me honestly
I can relate to that very much, the feeling of regret makes me resentful and miserable; however, i try to get over this with time; the obvious, but still valid realization is that you can't go back, there's really no point in dwelling on the past for any other reasons than learning from your mistakes; yes, it's painful, but you live in the now, don't try to "make up" for the lost time either; try to make the most out of each day, do something that makes u happy; there will always be sth for u to improve on, to "fix", you'll keep having more regrets, that's normal
I am so many things you described in your video and my life is only getting better with age. Almost 30 and there is no way in hell I'm sacrificing this summer to work more or move out lol. I'm enjoying hiking with my dog, working out, mountain biking, doing online courses, going to the library, meeting up with friends, all with barely any money. The money that I do spend is spent on eating and living well + rent and electricity. Best shape of my life and happiest I've ever been and most of that was down to learning to like myself, and taking care of my mind and body, which in turn made me want to be outside more, which in turn results in more social interaction in general. You don't have to have a successful dating life to not be lonely. You just gotta be active and you'll end up around more people as a byproduct and even those micro interactions are enough to make you feel good and help you meet your socialization quota for the day. The frequency of interactions increases with your activity level as well.
Caring about most of the things you brought up in your videos only served to keep me in a depressive state for the longest time. I typed "Dating" into RUclips to see what would come up because I used to have a bit of a depression fueled addiction to such content and couldn't help myself from having a peek while I'm having my coffee. The first thing I noticed was how inadequate your video made me feel almost instantly lol.
I think its good to make people aware of the problems that they are ignorant to or maybe underestimating the severity of, but I also notice how much of an impact this type of content has on my mental health now that I am so far removed from it. If you lacked the information beforehand? Then cool, useful video. If these are things you already know? Fixating on them or consuming more of this content is not going to help. Instead of watching a RUclips video on the topic, if you meditated every day instead(any amount of time), I could guarantee most people wouldn't care as much about such things. You would be less in your own head, and more likely to do the things that you enjoy, work towards your goals, and you would build a life based around those things.
If you care to the point that the topics discussed in the video are really weighing on you then I think your worries are misplaced. Success and happiness are a subjective/personal pursuit and when you respect yourself, these things comes naturally to you. You might only need to fix one thing in your life to trigger an avalanche of growth, you might feel you need to fix 10 things, but doing it because you "think" you need to check off a ton of boxes before you are valuable is hilariously misconstrued and you will be left feeling empty once you have accomplished everything you thought was supposed to fix your problems.
Tell you what mate. You have hit the nail on the head. What you've said there has already just blown 99% of these self improvement/life content creators out the water. All this stuff will drag your mind down as I found it had the same effect on me. I think most people know what they need to do if they just sat there an concentrate on what needs fixing in thier lives, RUclips and all of its creators are putting problems in your head. Clense yourself from this nonsense. Stop looking at the screens that's dominating our lives and step outside, NO EXCUSES
Best advice I could give to young men (18 - 22) is get a job in the service industry. An actual bar or restaurant. The $ is great, there are tons of women to have sex with, you make a bunch of friends and your off your phone when working. I bartended all through college and it was amazing. More time to hit the gym and hang with friends too.
Too late - already single and over 30. Not so miserable though, life is good with my motorcycle and hobbies.
agreed bro, it's just a thumbnail to make my point. Your 30s will be great, whether single or not, if you play your cards right
You have to know when to hold them, and know when to fold em. Know when to walk away. As Kenny Rogers sung
Im 24, been living on my own since 20. Absolutely horrible, prices have gone up so high and despite making $40 an hour, i still feel like im on the same level as the women i work with, despite none of them working as hard. Women rarely respect that anymore, everyone seems like a whore at some point to me. Life has been miserable, because i barely can still afford anything
Probably you could to learn how to provide value in the form of having a positive, supportive attitude towards women. They need positivity and emotional support. Also, they value a man who treats them with generosity, respect and kindness over a man who is rich.
@@Ella_1567attitude makes zero difference
Ouch, I knew that this one hurt but I had to hear it anyways. My defense to the content of this vid is growing up with aspergers & ADHD, so my maturity has been sort of...slow. The good news is that only some of the negatives listed in this vid apply to me & I started fixing my life well before this vid got posted. Mainly due to my aging crisis - I started exercising & going to gym. Got a gf last summer, she broke up - got my very first heartbreak, turned 30 & had an age crisis.
Went to the unemployment office - they helped me land an internship as a care assistant for one month, but it was enough to help me land a secondary education trade school to get me graduated with a trades as a practical nurse due to the field desperately needing some. My high-school diploma shortens my studies from 3 years to 2 years. After that I should be set in a field with no shortage of jobs taking care of the elderly. I do want to continue my studies in upper trade schools to become an actual hospital nurse or a paramedic. Already trying to hit on girls in my school.
But yeah, life's kinda good now actually. I don't really have depression anymore & I use ashwagandha to take care of my stress & anxiety so I don't feel that anymore. Got 2 new drinking buddies from my school.
Still in the process of moving out from my mom's apartment, LOL. Baby steps. But in a matter of half a year I've eliminated most of my problems in my life, if we exclude the past 2 years I spent losing weight & improving my wardrobe. But yeah, having a gf really turned me into a man. I don't really care about video games as much anymore & I see social media as a waste of time.
Yes but if you improve but are still deemed not enough by women, you then give up, drop out and society crumbles. So let it crumble.
It’s a lot worse when you have 10-12 friends of which you don’t how many of them are fake
This is a very limited representation of a complex issue.
Oh it's not really that complex. Male wages have stagnated for decades. Men don't have economic value which means they have decreased societal value now. This is the result of corporate greed and social engineering. Convince every woman they need to work, open the borders, and that will decrease the cost of labor. Print money so that inflation makes your wages worthless. Men can't head a household anymore which means they have to stay close to family to survive.
"If you're unhealthy, you'll cost for taxpayers' money"
The countries with the best healthcare systems know this and regulate food content, build towns so you can walk or bike to work easily, and have programs to encourage their citizens to be healthy and fit.
But nonetheless, personal health still comes down to you.
that is a great point I never though of. I always thought city designs were kinda unintentional... like for example, in Canada where I live, everything is built to be driven to, because we are a new country. Totally different than older cities/countries
Countries with walkable cities are built like that coz they are old. And in old times you didn't have no cars.
39, and I spend maybe half an hour to one and a half hour in front of my monitor on an average day. One day a week, I'll do 2-3 hours.
Alas.. I can relate... I had a lot of thoughts about this video (as always) but let's stick to the point. I've recently turned 28, living with my parents in the countryside, and now that I've got a good paying job I'd move, straight next door, where I'd have a separate flat above my grandparents', where I'd only have to pay the bills but not the rent and shit, and so save more money for my own future house... (What a fucking great idea, right? 😁Here in Hungary, by the way, owning your own property is very fashionable, unlike in other countries, and the price of renting is very high, so I don't think either it's worth it) I have hardly any experience with women (just a few dates, kisses and stuff...), it was out of the question in high school, I could never initiate a conversation with girls on this subject, and it's not much better now... I graduated from university, it was a bumpy ride, more and more challanges, less and less success, people I thought were my old friends disappeared from my life, I only have 1 best friend left who has been my best friend since childhood. Since I've had THAT CERTAIN website in my life (It's been 10 years now), I don't feel like doing anything, I don't learn music, I don't exercise anymore, I feel burnt out. My screen time is say 1-2 hours on mobile on weekdays (a bit more on weekends), and god knows how much more on PC, as I'm quite a gamer, that's 2 hours a day minimum. Plus I hardly sleep (because of late night gaming of course), I'm a zombie all day, what else can I say... life is hard XD... At least, it's a good thing I have a good sense of humour all about this, otherwise I would have hung myself a long time ago 😅
You can see this dude is guilty of everything he advises me against
lack of maturity=lack of money or looks
wrong, keep coping
@@Denmosocial so always be entertaining always spend money never relax gym 5 days a week never engage in hobbies you enjoy like videogames is the solution? lol that sounds awful youre a slave at that point🤣💀i guess if thats what being mature is being a provider and doing all the work for fake attraction
ill pass
@@Denmosocialthank you sir, these incels keep thinking that looks is everything, if only they knew even the good looking guys are struggling
I'm sorry but how does this make sense? I don't know, I think you really need professsional and help and enough content for now, Danny.
@Rainer125 No such thing as an ugly millionaire. If you lack looks and social skills and are a millionaire, just buy sexy looks and high end instagram.
My social skills stopped growing in middle school
Same and I'm not even a guy 😞
Here he goes again with the "history bullshit". Listen, dude, in no time in history has the barrier to entry into dating been this high for men. YES, it is true that men were always required a certain level of work to start dating YES. However, It was never THE EQUIVALENT OF A FULLTIME SECOND CAREER (on top of your primary one).
Also, I disagree with your theories about why young men are like this. I think the reason is OVERWHELM. It seems like too much. Too big of a bite to take, so guys just go "I'll never be able to master all of this, I give up". Which again, you fail to acknowledge with your "history" bs.
Ive never cold approached before. Tbh its terrifying to do for the first time but after you do it once it will be 100x easier
I am well into middle age, and I have never felt comfortable cold-approaching. Not once have been able to come away with a successful outcome. I leveled up my game in other areas of life, eg career and building a social circle. Otherwise, I would be one of the losers that the host is talking about
I’ve done it a few times, it doesn’t get easier.
Yea it gets easier cuz you get used to taking that risk. Also the rejection doesn’t hurt the more u get rejectedz
@@devilsadvocacymeh don’t feel like doing any of that if women don’t 🤷♂️
25M, I have never dated because I don't think I am mature enough to date anyone. Moreover, currently I am only focusing on career. Love, relationship and dating are more like a distraction in success so I avoid them. Because I have never dated so I never got rejected or faced toxic dating things. So my mental health is still good. And who cares because I have high earning now. I can just relax and enjoy money.
I think us men know what the issues are but have zero clue on how to fix it. What is consider “being successful” anymore. Making between 80-100k a year really isn’t shit anymore. That’s basically covering your rent, basic Honda civic, food other bills and maybe a bar tab twice a mont.
Most men are stuck working a dead end job having no clue how to scale up.
Society gives fuck all in return or permits wholesale robbery of anything a man attains in the process of divorce.
You're deliberately overlooking a tonne of things. Better Bachelor puts it best throughout his channel.
Nope, it's all guy's faults. They aren't trying hard enough. Just keep throwing bad money after good at the dating casino. You'll eventually beat the house. /rolleyes
LOL, that guy is a total pansy who softballs every issue and sounds like a low T whiner in literally every video. He names problems and immediately shifts away from solutions.
I don't think men find these criterias mentioned in this video unfair. Quite the contrary: the men who truly struggle with dating usually have no hope that anything will change due to factors outside of their control. I don't think they need more friends, a car, move out of their parents home or whatever, when the current dating dynamic requires you to be exceptionally good looking. On top of that, the confidence and the social skills that you need to be successful with women (I'm not talking about being able to pull a relationship after 4 years of being single) are so fucking high nowadays. Laying down and rotting is the best option for most men. Participating in society is meaningless. Sure, you can improve for yourself, but if that doesn't fulfill you then don't. Japan is a great example for this: Hikikomoris. I honestly think that it's not bad.
I gave up on dating 7 years ago after a bad break up and avoided women since then. Now I'm 29 turning 30 in 2 months and my life is a mess. I still live with my parents and work a minimum wage job. This video had me pondering about the correlation of my non-existent dating life with my current life situation. Thanks to Denmo now I can enter my 30's with more self-awareness on these aspects of my life, and I hope that life for men really starts at 30 like most people say...
I agree with you man. I personally started just learning or trying different trades just to at least have A semblance of knowledge on different trades so I can better myself. I always feel the internal struggles that everyone faces. I want you guys to know peace with yourselves. Someone or something don’t want you confident or happy. Keep the Peace within yourself & you will heal. We’re in this fight together. Much respect & love to you all.
Well I’m single
Don't listen to this guy's nonsense. With that said, you are living at home. You should be grinding and making bank. You have the opportunity to retire early. You have to grind now while you can.
Women will come when they see your success. However, remember this fact, the only thing between her and the things she desires is you. Translation... She wants your status, money, snd assets... Of all the things she desires you are last and are simply a means to an end.
"I feel bad for young man!" lol bro this is your target audience, much like FnF, Pearl and Whatever, you all profit from the Male loneliness epidemic as much as OF 304's and videogames.
This video is just really generic simplified observations without any real tangible solutions. That’s also not how taxes work. I still appreciate trying to help others.
This blue pill garbage is getting old, but i get it you need to make ad revenue and sell your courses. I hope other dudes just don’t waste money on this bs though. More men are seeing the truth, “just improve brah” is a meme now for a reason.
You do not mention a lot of major factors that lead to these situations and part of it is because of women behavior and everything is expensive. Would you kiss a girl or even take her seriously if she had sex with over 10 guys? Most girls today even start having sex at age 12
bro that has absolutely nothing to do with why you are unsuccessful and complaining online
I am successful and I do not complain. You do not mention why many guys are lonely, you just say the statistics. Being home with mom and not doing anything about it is a minority for sure. Like I said, this situation is because of women expectations and everything is expensive. There are more guys lonely than girls, therefore the math doesnt add up, isnt it?
...and women saying they are lonely is not the same as guys say are lonely, unless they are old and unattractive
I hear what you’re saying and your criticism is valid, but I lack the moral framework to agree with you. I don’t want to serve nature, women, or society. I also feel that it doesn’t make sense to hold men to these standards while we live under feminism.
He got me with the single and 3 close friends lmaoo tuff
My man, you're blue-pilled to the core and part of the problem.
But I guess a grifter needs to sell his courses too.
I’m 53. I am a lawyer. have had a successful career. I make six figures a year, and have a mid seven figure net worth. I take 2 to 3 overseas trips a year.
However, due in large part to my autism, I have never been particularly good at socializing or with women. That may or may not make me something of an outlier vis-à-vis your original premise, but I do think for those situated similarly to me, getting your career straightened out is more important. Without my career, I would’ve never gotten off the starting block. Everything I have, I owe to it.
I’d like to hear your thoughts on the above
Hey man, first of all, sounds like you are doing great- and I believe you might have the "grass is greener" situation. You may look at guys with a wife and young kids and think damn I wish I had that. But many of them would look at you with the status of being a lawyer with a high networth and wish they could trade places with you. So yeah, I think that you are correct. And at this point, I believe you could benefit from joining my socializer program- either the program itself or get mentorship with me and the others. Because now that your career, finances and (ideally your productivity & physical health) are sorted out, you can focus on the socializing aspect. Hope that helps
25 y/o I live with my parents and I'm a delivery driver. No sex, trying to kick the porn habit. After highschool I lived in gerogia doing missionary work right after moving from California to Colorado. My friends I talk to are from California don't really have friends in Colorado. I appreciate not having lost my virginity puts me back but I never really cared much for it. Negative feelings I feel I harbor for men and women that "sell" thier lifestyles to me. My dad lets me stay in the house because I avoid being a man child. Or maybe we are both man children and my mom tolerates I guess. Screen time can easily be off set for me by helping around the house. Both my parents work, so my sister and I help with bills or house cleaning, food prep etc. I guess if I can't see my self building what my parents have, then being the loser that takes care of my parents is not a bad life. I realize that there are guys that have it way worse than me. My drive is to not be restentful.
I agree and support everything, but noticed one thing, 3:18 I think women do and should have to do all of that. Women not exercising, socializing, and making money (to some extent) because in a sense all of this is connected and is part of being an adult, holistically they would be somewhat bummy too. A bum might not be the word associate to women like that but I mean to say that they too would be missing out on real life. Sitting in all day not gaining social skills, adult/life skills doesn’t benefit anyone. All in all, men and women should get off their phones, put work in themselves, and get out there.
Most of them are bums lol.
No offense denmo let’s keep things real the problem with today’s digital day and age it confuses the fuck out of everyone so many different opinions on how to be a man the fact is this keep shit simple yes we are in a crisis but men have to understand there value and some men won’t be able too until it’s too late yes I’m not in a relationship but that doesn’t make me a loser
I mean I kind of agree with everything he says but I feel like working on yourself and trying to be a better version of yourself should not be mainly motivated by wanting women. Just do it for your self, if you don't love yourself why should a women love you? Women should just be a bonus not the main goal otherwise it's like you are trying to please someone because you are insecure and want validation.
this is true but it is human nature homie
@@Denmosocial I guess but it's better to rely on internal validation than external. But it's easier said than done.
cope video, looks and personality is more than enough. Women are not going to date you for your success, they don't care.
gosh, this video is so true, i was about to fall in this shit after i was out of highschool but lucky for me my mom and my dad was seeing me closely, so i went to college with my mom (yes with my mom because she wanted to do administration and she tought it was a good idea that i would do with her) and it turns out to be GREAT to me, it was when i actually found my first job, and it turns out that i wanted to be self employed, so after somethings happend between my familly i was grinding myself, working out everyday, studying other languages, learn properly how to manage finances and a business for about 4 years and last year i decided to open my own business and turns out it worked, because i kinda studied for myself and almost everything that i studied is being useful, i build up my rotine from scratch since 2019, it was NOT easy at all, and i'm still working on it, recently i changed my diet completly (here in Brazil we have the same food as US but we have some natural food more easly to find) and it is so much fun to search for foods and etc...another thing, friends, i am lucky (again) because i have the same friends from school and sometimes when i play videogames (only at night, i don't like to play during the mourning) i play with then or sometimes we hung out together to watch some movies and do another fun stuff, the only thing i lack of and i know this is woman, this is my achilles heel, because my ''loser'' period started when i was 11 (precisely when i discovered porn back in 2009) and i spend my whole teenager period in high school with afraid of woman much so because of porn (and jerking off of course) and that so, i kinda ''''go fuck youself womans, i don't need you'''', matter of fact i quit porn for good september last year, and i noticed that it was that that was affecting me all the time, only if i did know back then, i will ending this saying: never too late boys, i'm 26 and i'm feeling that i starting to grow up now, and i have too much to do and i'm proud an excited to that. ow BTW, screen time: 2h 45min
guess endless goverment inflation caused by infinate printing of dollars and bonds has no effect huh? 🤔
Many silly (and American) assumptions. Almost all my friends who have relationships do not have cars or particularly stay in shape at all. Ive had several relationships without either. Main thing is money/social status lets be realistic. The reason there are men living at home is simple, there is a housing crises and the economy is growing ever more unequal and broken. There will be less and less jobs ans money going around and more and more people living at home, men and women. It is a return to the norm, 99% of societies have and have had this as the norm. Young women can whre themselves out for property where men cant. Both men and women spend all day on the screen, our world is now on the screen and it probably will never change now. No real.reason for it to change. All these problems stem from an economic system of inequality. With more equal incomes people can pair off and start lives/families more easily. Instead theres a few super wealthy men who all women want and everyone else is considered a "loser".
Can you be a loser that watches YT all day and at the same time be a winner because of being able to focus until the end of the video though?
7 to 14 hours
no way bro cmon you serious?
@@Denmosocial today I already have 6 h 20 min
Same tbh I think the average screen time for gen z is way higher nowadays probably like 7+ hours
9 hours 20 min at 7pm
goddayum
Your advice is so off base. As a woman, you’re really off track bro
I have seen too many amazing women I have miss out on public spaces such as train stations because they're glued to their headphones and IPhones meaning I can't talk to them out of respect and boundaries they put out
You mean physically attractive not amazing.
@@aviatedviewssound4798 both
Because they don't want to talk to you. They want to talk to Chad. They'll want you after they are past their prime, and have been run through, and need a meal ticket.
@@aviatedviewssound4798 both
My screen time is over 8 hours, because i am unemployed... I am 24 years old, from a third world country(Brazil), and i have schizophrenia. Sorry if my english is too bad, i'm still learning.
Daddy Denmo dropping absolute bangers. I love ya brother; keep doing what your doing; your inspiring and improving thousands of peoples lives across the globe. Wishing you all the love in the world☺️
👐 do it for guys like you
While im impressed by you pointing out the things you do, i cant help but notice you paint the pucture as if this is all just how its supposed to be, but why dont you question how our society works and see if it makes sense first?
looking this with 34, am i too late? 😱
no you are fine, im sure you are doing better by now
Tbh demno these girls ain’t worth it man 😂😂😂😂I’d rather just focus on myself and get my money up (screen time 2hrs) honestly bro losers pull wayyy more money and they aren’t big or all that bro. But tbh that’s way to much work for a very very little reward
and you aren't the only guy to conclude this. Guys as a whole are checking out. And I 100% support it.
@@bradleyfrank7933 plus it’s like all this work for no reason tbh once you start practicing solitude you really don’t need anyone
@@bradleyfrank7933 not allot of people can get behind the idea in the first few days I’ve been so happy tbh
25M, seeming to find myself somewhere in the middle of the spectrum of guys you’re speaking to. I do acknowledge that I’m immature because I haven’t figured out my finances (still live at home but work 35 hours a week). However, I’ve had past success with women including one significant relationship. All that to say it’s definitely rough out here but these videos inspire me to keep going, because I was completely immature not too long ago. Thanks Denmo 👊
I'm 15 I have a part-time job as a programmer so my avearge screen time is around 8-10 hours. I walk a lot, would walk more often if it wasn't for work, I love being outside, after a year of almost total social isolation I just want to quit my job and walk around all day, finally feeling like a teenager
For me making money is not really hard but woman
Yeah carrot’s been dangled too long and I haven’t been rewarded for my efforts. I’ve been used. That’s why I stopped playing.
By the time the carrot is offered, you're not going to want to eat it. It will be completely unappetizing. And they'll try to make it look like you're the problem for not accepting their most generous offer. Yeah, no thanks. I'll go my own way. You can keep your nasty carrot.
awful take. why are people 'on screens'? it's to get a job. between diversity statement, several rounds of zoom/phone interview, perfectly tailoring resumes, leetcode, reviewing statistics and industry knowledge (all of these are a 100% must non negotiables for average guy who didnt fall ass backwards into good facial aesthetics/right parents to get a job in 2024). Not to mention to pass the final interview round when u finally get there requires around 10 hours of prep time for each hour of face-time. This is for entry level, which you have to then hope u don't get laid off in 2-3 years (which happens to 40% of the white guys (who again get worked to the bone because companies know they are the least likely group to file lawsuits at discrimination/bullying etc). Completely clueless take all around to say 'derp screen time'
I don’t think men in the past got women cause they worked hard, I think they worked hard cause they got women.
Also, the level of work required was much less. Merely getting a minimum-wage job made you an eligible bachelor. You weren't also required to have purely cosmetic muscle, have great social media presence, possess "game", learn about "fashion", and about 20 other things.
@@AlekNovy exactly
What would you suggest the solution to this crisis should be then?
Welllll, I'm an incel and i work, i visit my mom in the retirement home after work, work out, my mother always needed to shelter me, cause i got/had an severe emotional self harming disorder, which would have me strapped to a bad cause straightjackets aren't allowed anymore for the rest of my life if she wouldn't have done that, now that I'm better and contribute to society, i have to pay off my debt to society, that's my only goal/reason to live right now. My social skills are getting waayy better, i have no problem talking to my female coworkers anymore, but female strangers or approaching them is a whole other level thanks to my shyness aaand i suck at Smalltalk😩, tho my glowup still isn't complete so we'll see about that. Alsoeven if i were a Gigachad in looks, the housing market is preventing me, of living in a decent flat i could possibly invite a lady to sooo. 🤷
The point of putting women on a pedestal cause their opinion matters more was preeetty eye opening, never understood why i do that, but now. 🤔
Also i nut only as an instrument to relax, stop the constant flow of thoughts and prevent Cancer, the urge is barely existing anymore.
Also, blaming incels for the downfall of humanity is...bold. Cause asexuals contribute to society too, so sex drive isn't everything, aaalso many of the "dating isn't worth it guys" are successful and good looking, so you gotta go back to the drawing board about that assumption/conclusion, i guess. Tho you're right about the part of hating/associating women with bad stuff but than watching porn, it's such a contradiction, tho they probably watch specific stuff for their gratification.😖
Anyway, thanks for trying ro help Sir 🫡😊
So I'm immature because I can't make eye contact with other folks? No disrespect Denmo but that's a ridiculous affirmation.
yes bro you need to improve that or you will remain immature
Y’all need some real, non-gay, non-urbanite hobbies. Go hunting. Go hiking. Shoot guns. Explore. You will have purpose and happiness to continue. Without something you enjoy, it’s all for nothing. So go find something.
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