I am a 59 year old man. I have no friends, no close relatives. Never been married, no children. I used to think there was something wrong with me (there probably is), but then I read a line from the French philosopher Jean Paul Sartre, "Hell is other people". That really perked me up. I work, I read, I travel, and generally I'm happy. There is nothing worse than being around people who you don't especially like. Being in a relationship with someone you actively despise (been there) is worse than anything. You're young, you're smart---be patient. It'll happen.
@@jessee.23 I don’t know that fable, nor do I think I’m an Eagle. I’m just kinda jaded by life and bitter and distrustful, but thank you for the kind words
@@Concertinmyhead I sometimes walk in the zoo and go to the chimp enclosure and mistaken them for my friends so I go in the enclosure because I think it's the school cafeteria but then I realized it isn't because the chimp rips my face off It ripped my dick off too but my friends do that as well
Being alone is not a problem. The truth is that we are always alone because there is no other. Alone = all-one. But most people think they are somebody. And that amplifies the illusion of separation and disconnectedness in their company.
Literally me on new years, I was with people who I used to know but I wasn’t that close to any of them. Still had a good time cuz I was drunk but it felt so shallow, how not one person who I was actually close to cared enough to include me in their new years, same with Halloween, my favourite day of the year, I was sat in bed scrolling on Insta and snap maps, seeing all my best friends with their better friends. Basically I’m a side person who exists to cure ppl’s boredom when they need, I’ve never been considered anyone’s best friend yet I’ve considered so many people my best friends
"If you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them." -Jodi Picoult
not true for me lmao i love being alone. looked up ‘i don’t want friends’ to see if anyone else felt similar and this came up….not exactly the vibe i was looking for.
@𝙰𝚛𝚒𝚏𝚞𝚖𝚒 We can have many friends but still lonely. Some have very few friends but guess what..they don't feel lonely. Maybe because you don't have that deep and mutal connection with your friends?
Yes. Everyone puts on their best, bravest, fakest, "I'm totally okay and normal" face to get through the day. Can all of us lonely, sad, desperate people just start wearing a sign or something?? 😂
I’m 19, and have no job, no gf, no car. Just graduated high school last year in 2024, June 20. My life is so difficult that it’s not easy to live without money while my dad is an English teacher. I am hoping everyone can see this message so good luck!
i literally searched up on youtube "i have no friends" because i feel so alone. The hardest part is i've had a beautiful friendship. she was like my sister, we did everything together, told each other everything. She ended up moving to a different country. This was about 2 years ago, and we barely talk anymore and i feel like i'm never going to ever experience the friendship i had like that again
Same. Kind of. I too had a best friend, we were kids in middle school, having fun, saying dumb jokes, making promises. He was like a brother to me. I have already lost many friends before for many reasons even dumb ones. So I thought I finally found one that would stick with me, we talked about living together for awhile, then inviting each other to our weddings. Highschool came and all of my friends were gone, even the one I thought was my best friend, well, he gave up on me. I asked him why he wasn’t contacting me, he answered and I knew from that point on, it would’ve been one sided. So I let him go. Then next thing you know I find out all my old friends are having the time of their lives, and here I am still thinking about the past. I’ve been on the football team, I’ve been in many after school clubs, I’ve learned to play electric guitar, learned other languages but nope, nothing seems to work, it’s like I’m uninteresting no matter what. I made acquaintances but no friends. It also doesn’t help that I went through two break ups freshman year. I really thought one of those relationships in particular was going to last a lifetime. I go out and look at the kids with their friends, I’m turning 18 and about to finish highschool. I’m about to be an adult and I feel like I have yet to experience my childhood. Seems like I will still have to continue life on my own. I wish you luck on your journey
@@4danieltorresjr We are literally in the same exact boat, it's my last year of high school and i feel like i don't have anyone. (i have one friend but we are really not as close as we used to be) I told myself I am going to give my absolute best effort to make some friends this year! if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen but at least i can say i tried. It's hard not having your best friend with you anymore, it almost feels like they never existed in a weird way. it's nice to think about the good memories but honestly it just hurts. Yesterday I couldn't stop thinking about it and i was in a really low spot, that's what brought me to this video. I also used to be SUPER extroverted, but over the years it's been so much harder for me to talk to others. My best friend made me a lot more confident and i didn't even know it until she was gone. I just feel like I don't fit in with all these people around me, but hey there's always someone out there. I'm not sure when they'll come along but in my heart i know. I really wish the best for you and I hope this year you can get out of your comfort zone a little bit and maybe you'll meet someone new!! Push yourself! ☺️ Youre not alone we are going through the same thing
@@cateisheree Thanks. I’ve already tried to fit into groups at school, even the stereotypical ones, I’ve had lunch with the smart kids, I’ve been to fun and even boring after school clubs, I’ve been in sports teams, but nope. I’ve stopped trying. I don’t think it’s worth it as a senior. I’m working and saving to go out the country next summer with a gym partner of mine. I think I’d like to travel around for awhile meet new people that way
In this day and age of social media miserable trolls, it takes a lot of guts to do what you did in this video. I hope you find what you're looking for.
NEVER, Ever, do your research using Wikipedia, like the girl in this video, unless you like being misled. Google and the mainstream media are out to mislead you too. Being an actual Christian really helped me to be able to spot what most people cannot see.
As someone who used to be in Media, and had an early start on the internet, I have been telling people the big mirror society will be forced to look into is coming, and I dont think people realize how ugly the reflection will be.
Mine too. At 53, with quite severe M.E and Fibromyalgia, I'm much older, but since getting sick, I'm just waiting to die, life has become meaningless, and a torment.
@@philkilcommon5554i understand, to a degree. I'm not as ill ...but life seems meaningless. As Robbie Williams says"I don't wanna die, but I ain't keen on living either", or maybe I feel it the other way around?? In any case, just go day by day, moment by moment, and always remember there's someone out there worse than us. God bless you. Best wishes for yr health, mental and physical, emotional and spiritual ❤
You are truly a gem.Never stop believing in the good. May God send you friends who honor, respect, and understand you. Be brave.You do belong. Let your light shine💜
"I just don't what's wrong with me" is a question I've asked myself a million times before its horrible having no friends overtime I've gotten used to it
I've also asked myself that question so much that it's actually sad. Every day I ask myself, "What's wrong with you, why are you so weird, why don't you have friends like a normal person?" Life just hurts really bad sometimes:(
@@samantha14843 we don't have friends because we feel so insecure and fearful about what others will think about us , and there is nothing wrong with it because in our past there were incident in which everyone hurted you so know you just avoid people and people avoid you back.
@@nitishgautam5728 Kind of, yeah. I always complain about never going out but I also never take the initiative to start a conversation with other people. My current lifestyle has made me depressed but im still putting in no effort. there's definitely something wrong with me
I lost my 13-year-old daughter to suicide six months ago. A big part of my healing journey has been making videos that talk about the "bad stuff" and looking for other creators who do the same. It took a great deal of bravery for you to make this. I hope you know how proud of you I am. I hope you know how much you are valued and loved. Thank you for...being human.
Holy hell!! I can't imagine all the schock and grief you must've went through... my condolences. It's truly saddening to hear about someone so frail and young pass away. I hope you and the family are doing well.
I'm really sorry for your loss. I lost a cousin last year to suicide. Not that that means I fully know what you're going through but I know that it's painful and hard to put into words. I wish you the best in healing.❤
@@timtimslimjim Grief is different for everyone and not worth comparing, but I understand your message and sincerely appreciate the sentiment. Thank you for taking the time to reply.
I'm really curious, what was the context? Was she actually trying to be mean, or was there a more profound meaning, such as, nobody is owed anything in this life, and you're not MEANT to have this, like as a freeing allowance to not 'have to' have it to feel good about yourself?
@@uuamenator that would be a nice point of view of seeing this! but she said it was because of my personality, like the groups usually have a lider who everyone follows, and i am in conflict with that idea
@@candesoriano I'm in conflict with that idea too.People are free and make it own choices. I believe that. And I have friends. Not several, but good ones. You have done the right thing.
Keep your head up, I'm 43 and in the same boat. I almost lost my life and the Dr saving my life kept asking where my family and friends are. No "friends" came or even asking how I was. Don't even let anyone ever get you down. Always know your loved even if it's just by yourself, we gotta fight everyday. Keep strong and pushing on. Your to young to be this worried. Who cares what the crowd is doing or saying, be yourself and be true and honest to what your values are. Find a higher power. Not saying go to church unless you want. Church is a great place to meet the right people. Stay far away from troubled kids. Keep your head up.
The real issue is trying and putting the effort in, when there's others out there who put in no effort and it just comes naturally, then you're rejected by everyone you personally put effort into just to be seen as a door mat.
She doesn’t realize it, but these few videos she made revolving around her experiences and story are really relatable. Many people could learn a thing or two from this content
@@darkthunder168 Oh no no, I’m saying throughout these videos she’s given great insight into her life and yet she does not show any hint of acknowledgment of how in depth she is
@@z-past1454 yeah she does , she literally says she does not take any interest in anyone and wants to be in her apartment, and when she does have a chance to go out with someone, she ignores their texts and she sabotages it because she prefers to have me - time ... point being friendship is hard work and two-way road, she wants someone to care about her when she feels lonely without her doing any work ... having friends means being there for them and listening to them whine, even when you would rather be at home playing a computer game! Having friends means placing the needs of others before yours ... nowadays no many do that !
Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability. This is helping so many others that are going through the same. It helps us to know that we are not alone in our humanity and pain. That all of us struggle with loneliness at times. Thank you.
i lost my 16 year old daughter last year, she took her own life. she felt pretty hopeless about life - especially friend relationships. she was a wonderful person, but would pick crappy friends. you are not alone. i think social media has really screwed things up for people. people put their fake faces on, but i think everyone feels pretty empty inside. thank you for sharing - sometimes i think i was at fault. but hearing how other people are dealing with the same issues makes me know that she was not alone. you are not alone - hang in there - and be safe.
all the prayers for your daughter I don't even believe in God but I really hope that where she is she is okay, I am 18 years old and I am sure that her daughter and I would have been good friends because according to her description we went through the same situation, I hope you are good love from cuba 🤍🤍🤍
sounds just like my 22 yo son. felt alone had sorry greedy friends felt lonely. he had many friends but not good ones. Nov 7 22. last day on earth. young lady you are blessed just to be here. you are somebody and we care about you# what can we do for you
Girl, you have no idea how much I'm feeling you. I'm in my 30s and my life revolves around working, getting coffee at the local coffee place and sitting in my apartment alone, hoping that time will pass quickly. I wish I could make some sense of it, but I can't. Sometimes my reality feels unbearable and I want to end it.
I think it really depends on who you are talking to. I’ve had friends in my life who i wish I‘ve never met in the first place, because they have brought me so much pain and trauma. But there’s no way i would give up the friends that i have now, to forget those bad things from the past. There is more good than evil. And relationships with kind people can teach you this. You just have to find them and sometimes it takes a bit. Go to spaces where people with same ideologies are. you should actively search and also choose who to be friends with. And when people disappoint you, you will either have to let them go, or see if the disappointment is something you can work through together. Love and relationships in general are never perfect but they are often worth fighting for. People will also accept YOUR flaws. They will eventually like them.
I feel this a lot. I don't think I'll ever be free of it. The hunger for deeper connection. I go out of my way to reach out to people, I try anyway. If you reach out, someone somewhen will eventually reach back. Just reach for people and be open. It will never be easy as far as I know, but you will not be alone. Reach out if you can. It won't be easy, but I'd like to think it's worth any humiliation to find someone to support you and that you can support. Good luck to whoever is reading this. Life is lonely, but it does not need to be spent alone.
I agree, but some people end up alone for various reasons. In the beginning, they find it difficult to live alone, but once they truly understand themselves and make themselves their own best friend, they no longer feel the need for anyone else. They start enjoying life on their own and remain truly happy. The presence or absence of others doesn’t affect them anymore because they have made themselves their own best friend. I am also one of those people, and I am very happy. Even though I am struggling in life and facing many difficulties, I am still happy from within.
@@vickykhan8833 I honestly don't see the relevance, If you're happy with how your life is arranged then I don't see a reason to question what others are doing. Personally I prefer having a support system, but if you'd rather rely on yourself and are happy then I am happy for you. Give yourself a pat on the back.
4:10 Damn, that hits way too close to home. The amount of friends that I allowed to slip away because I just wanted to be by myself yet at the same time I didn't want to be alone. It's an insane amount of regret I feel every day. Thank you for uploading this, I know I'm not completely alone now even though I have no one.
Every word you said... I understand. I feel you... I'm 22, have no friends or boyfriend. Everyday I feel extremely lonely and I don't know what to do with my life anymore.
Save, save, save...your money. Study compound interest . At your age if you start chucking away as much as you can to get an investment nest egg....then the compound interest will add up to millions in the end. People need financial security more than Friends. Friends are hard to find these days. Learn to cook so well you will not have to use a recipe after awhile. Work on your inner world. I know this.
I can recommend any sport where you meet people. Dance lessons or gym are also good options. If youre there you Most likely have the same interests as all the other people who are there
Fellow 22-year-old here. Don't tie your self-worth with how other people value you, you are and always will be the most important person in your life. All relationships sour over time, the best thing you can do is know that you are valuable, capable, and full of potential with endless room for improvement. Don't let other people make you doubt yourself, your opinion of yourself is the most important part of your happiness. You deserve to be happy. In my humble opinion, friends and girl/boyfriends are often just temporary solutions to permanent problems that only have the power to overcome. Keep your head up, don't be too hard on yourself, and remember that we never know what our future holds. I also have no close friendships anymore and have been single for years but I'm still gonna overcome my challenges and kick life's ass, I hope you can too. You got this.
@@Keepyourselfsafe313I bet its difficult. I'm not introvert, but i have other problems in my personality to deal with, and still not succeeding...its along battle. I mean we all have our burden, but we must not give up.
And I think that idea is so flawed. Living is trying. But because you aren't "partying it up and meeting 20 people a day while also balancing getting a high paying job/good grades" like the "ideal person", you aren't trying. B.S.
we were made to be this way by design offcourse the design made by other people who worry that the planet exhausted all its resources they going to used depravation as next way to avoid people from procreation meanwhile transgenderism is taking over with the same purpose
Man, I remember feeling exactly like this back when I was younger. You might think this video is cringe, but the amount of views speaks for how extremely relatable your situation at that moment in time was. Thank you for having the courage to open up. Hugs from Europe.
Edit: Seems like a lot of people are getting the wrong idea of what I'm trying to say. I don't blame them, I often have a hard time expressing myself. So for any future readers, please read the whole comment before reacting. Honestly, I think this video is kind of "cringey," BUT I actually respect her more for it. I wouldn't be brave enough to be that open about my feelings in a public video and cry like that. Plus, I relate to almost everything she says here and I know her tears are real and she's not just fake crying for attention like some people do on social media.
@@DevineInnovations Your comment is old, but I have to say that you are definitely projecting. Someone having emotions, like humans are supposed to, and expressing it on a platform that literally had the slogan "Broadcast Yourself" is cringey? Really? "I wouldn't be brave enough" exactly, YOU wouldn't, but just because someone else is doesn't mean they're cringey. Having the courage to do something most people wouldn't or even couldn't do, is not cringey. I don't want to make this too long but your comment is really ignorant, and I hope you expand your mindset one day
The problem is self-conciousness, if you keep telling yourself that you don't have friends or that it is impossible to have, you will never get out of it. Just GO OUT AND MEET PEOPLE. There is random activities that you can join where no one knows each other and its the best to start friendships. Don't try to please others, be yourself and go out there.
@@fuckdefucker Facts. And if you are really being yourself out there, you can also feel secure that when someone takes a liking to you, they like you for you and there's no hidden side for them to eventually discover that you fear will scare them away. Okay, maybe there is, but you now have one less hidden side to worry about.
@@fuckdefucker It's that ""JUST GO" thing that's hard. I can relate to her struggles; I don't "just go" anywhere, because it feels like there's *nowhere* to go. Like, when I think about going somewhere, most times my mind just goes completely empty, and I feel *no* desire to go anywhere, and I can't force myself because I just don't know where to go; I don't know how to *want* to go anywhere. Even when I do, I can't go to places with lots of people because the noise alone can make me feel physically ill, so actually meeting people is really difficult. (I suspect I might be autistic to some degree, but I'm not diagnosed. I have an ADHD diagnosis though.) I've also only very recently begun to figure out what "be yourself" even means, and for me it's something that doesn't seem to fit into what is considered "normal", so I have to overcome all sorts of internalized bullshit that has been pushed on me over the years. "Be yourself" is not really advice that always works for everyone. There are many places in the world where for many people "being yourself" is unsafe or even potentially deadly. Seeing people give this advice is one of my pet peeves, because it only works if you don't have a problem in the first place; If you don't know how to even summon the desire to get out there or what it means to be yourself, it's completely unactionable.
@@nio804 I know its hard, don't worry, I'm the same. The thing is, most of what I'm hearing from her is that she doesn't have any friends. Yet there is solution to that problem. That was my point.
Your young,you have a full life ahead. Every one feels awkward and shy. I’m 65 and never found anyone. But I always get up like a puppy happy for a new day. You meet people by getting a good education. Put your energy in to studying. Instead of feeling sorry and down.life is what you make it.
Breaking my heart. What is important to learn is that everyone in this comment section wants to be your friend and wants you to be happy. I am no different. I'm thankful you put this video out there for the world to see.
Thats not the point though, the point is theres nobody THERE IN REAL LIFE. Uk that best friend u can meet hang out with go to places have fun with them in REAL LIFE thats the point. Its the same for me, just like her so i definitely understand her. Obviously u can find "friends" online n some even stay for months n even yrs but hanging out in real life is just the real deal.
Every few weeks I come back to this video. There's just something so comforting about seeing someone with the same struggles as you. I hope we all get better someday.
@@foxterie7458I try but no one's interested. I just feel like the moment I begin to talk I'll mess up something. I stutter in front of girls my friends my parents cuz I am so much nervous to talk to people. Lockdown ruined me and i haven't had a serious human conversation since 3 years
@@sksksksksk7458What I am about to tell you is personal and real. I have healed a lot in the last few years and a major part of that is from studying the writings of Mark Manson. Completely changed my perception of many things. If you have romantic issues, his book "Models" is the greatest book ever written for men. He has stuff about life and growth all over the internet. There's work involved but I will tell you it has definitely changed my life for the better. Major turning point for me.
@@foxterie7458 Many of us did try man. I don't have a single friend anymore, all drifted apart. Now when I tried to reconnect with old classmates/friends in the neighborhood, rarely did anyone reply. They all have their own circle now. Sometimes it's really too late
Girl, you are not alone. Being an introvert, I still struggle with this sometimes. You have to tend and nurture relationships like you would a garden. If I don't do this, I get too comfortable being alone. It takes some effort. I wish the best for you and hope you're doing well.
I'm the same way. I used to be extremely extroverted until I had a long spout of depression which changed me as a person. I am actually really comfortable being alone now and find that having more than a few people around can get overwhelming. It's something I'm working on, though. The only way you can get better at something is through effort and repetition.
This poor beautiful woman just needs a man in her life. All she needs to do is lower her standards or be open to men, she is stunning and adorable she should be confident in her appearance. Any guy who turns her down is just an arrogant, shallow dickhead. As long as she lets men or women into her life there are millions that would be her friend and lover. Don't give up girl, you just need to be tough and realise that you are beautiful and deserve a man.
I get this but it’s just that I am struggling to understand it I am a deeply unlikeable person because trying to nurture and organize friendships ALWAYS falls through
I don't think I've ever seen a video more relatable than this... I sit here alone, hesitating and keeping my walls up, never interacting with anyone, in no opportunity to do so, only sharing brief "hellos" and shallow interactions or having brief online friendships. I'm 31 now and I feel like time has passed me by, I'm at the age where nobody makes new friends anymore and I honestly don't even know how I would. Acceptance is something I've been struggling with. Sometimes there are nights when my heart is wrenching because I'm so alone, but I don't think anyone has the patience to put up with someone as reserved as I am, so here I stay. I want to say that I hope for the best and hope that in the 5 months since you posted this your life has gotten better, but even if it hasn't, at least there's maybe some small comfort in knowing you're not alone.
🙏❤ A frenemy is not thoughtful. It will always be about themselves. I once had a frenemy who never once said, "Oh come, lemme see where you are staying.. How's the acting going? I watched all of your shows. I watched 'Ugly Betty'; hoping that I'll see you in a scene. I'm so proud of you". None of that. 🙏❤ When somebody comes with snarck comment or they say or do one or two things that is uncalled for, know that that's a frenemy. They're keeping tabs on your life, "When did you buy that? How are you able to afford this?" Frenemies are in competition with you. They're not rooting for you, saying "You go girl! Do your thing. I'm supporting you. I'll be right here." .. They're in competition with you. I just moved out of the way and let her fly past and crash. Let your frenemies go before they drag you into their negativity and they distract you from being friends with bossbabes that love you; you love them; you love each other's families; you evolve; you grow together; she's the wind in your back; she's the sun ahead of you. And she really means the best for you. You have to get rid of a lot of people in your life. They're distractions that will distract you from your destiny, your ultimate goal. Throw them out. Don't respond to their accusations. They're not worthy of your golden time. 🙏❤ You build your brands; your careers, (your husband, your children). Be happy. Evolve to be this positive wonderful person. Don't let negativity in your life. I have seen it a couple of times. It happened to me. There are no regrets; only experiences. -Fumi Desalu Vold
Very similar to how I feel i'm 14 most 14 year olds in my town go out and hang out with their friends but I'm in my room alone watching movies cause I have no friends to hang out with
2 and half million views cause most of people don't have friends, and this video really touch them, Believe me, having friends is very difficult, especially in our era. Even all the friendships you see in your life are fake; they are merely based on interests. Don’t rely on anyone, and don’t concern yourself with friendship. The most beautiful friendship is the one you have with yourself.
I'm 41 with no friends and no life. Your video speaks volumes. Life is very heart breaking. I hope your life becomes everything you dream of. I wish you happy thoughts.
Do you want to maybe.. talk about something? Like video games or tv show or.. whatever's on your mind? I know it probably won't lead to anything special, but it's worth a shot, right?
@@user-pu6pn8vt5dHey, I know you didn't ask me but I would like to. I don't have any friends at all so it would be nice to talk to someone about anything.
Making friends after your 20s and maybe early 30s is almost impossible unless you make them in the workplace or are very outdoorsy. I work from home and like to stay in most of the time. That's a recipe for a solitary life.
wow, listening to this was almost hearing out loud my own thoughts. I feel the exact same way as you do, I turn 23 in two months and I feel like I haven't experienced really anything at all. I have no real life friends, no job, still live at home with my mom, and I'm at home 24/7. It gets really hard some days, and I distract myself with meaningless things in order to not fall into a depressive episode when I realize my situation. I don't know what to do either, and I really resonate with what you said about not being able to follow through with plans, I do the exact same thing, turning down the off chance someone invites me to do something because I would rather stay at home, even though deep down I don't actually want to do that. So I also understand what you mean by feeling like you only have yourself to blame for being in the situation you're in. I think it just becomes unusually hard to socialize once you've been by yourself for so long, you kind of forget how to, like how to read body language or just how to keep a conversation going. I also haven't experienced anxiety like this in a long time, and I really believe that has a lot to do with why it's so hard to meet people and even hangout in person with friends I only text. I'm in my head a lot, probably too much, and it's so hard to change my ways because of it. I hope you know you're not alone in feeling this way, I really feel for you and I'm so sorry you're going through this because I know how painful it can be. You should feel really proud of yourself for finishing college and getting your own apartment, that's something I can only hope to do someday, and seeing someone going through similar things as me being able to accomplish those things is really inspiring, so don't ever think you aren't someone to look up to. I really hope things get better soon
Social anxiety is really intense. It holds you back from initiating with others, leaves you stuck in your head, creates a vibe of aloofness that pushes others away. I had a rough period when I was in my early 20s. I got a therapist to help me manage my anxiety, chose a job that requires lots of communication, and forced myself to talk. I took classes for things, karate, guitar, piano, filled my time with activities, some social, some solitary. I went on job interviews i didn't even want just to practice talking to strangers. It gave me things to talk about with others as well as kept me busy. I was in a constant state of being scared shitless at first, ngl. I stuttered a lot, I got nervous, I embarrassed myself, got laughed at, but it's really improved and I have friends that were so patient with me in the beginning. I'm 30 now. It truly can be done if you can start working on the negative feelings attached to interacting with others. I live far away, but if you want a pen pal I'd trade emails and be your friend!
2 years late to this video. Hope things have got better for you. I relate to exactly how you feel. Im 33 and dont have a single friend in person anymore besides my wife (if you can really count that cus its just not the same) and the only other few friends I still have all live in different states now with their own lives going on. It feels super hard on me because I grew up with such a tight friend group and always had friends and ppl to turn to and talk to when I'm feeling low and now I don't have that... It's a shitty feeling and as you get older it gets harder to make friends.. hope things got better for you and hope you found some friends because you seem super chill. Thanks RUclips recommendations.
"most superficial thing ever..." girl i feel you on everything you just said, i didn't care to try to make an effort because it seemed like nobody wanted to spend time with me, nobody interested in me. So I lost interest in relationships and isolated. It felt good for times I needed to cope because I've always coped alone but it's been slowly killing me psychologically and I hate it for that. This is the most genuine thing I've seen on RUclips ever, don't worry about crying, it's a natural thing for all (or most) humans!
You have to try and be active, and interesting, otherwise yeah people aren't interested and they move on, you have to be constantly trying to have friends to have friends.
Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰
@@nathanstarnz5468Yeah the problem here is this is an easy way for narcissistic people to look down on other people. This happens all the time.... You also start to seek out "being interesting" instead of being yourself, which usually is far more interesting but hey 😂 Interesting is my issue, and I'd argue it's subjective. I think people are interesting inherently, everyone is different. I can talk about politics and philosophy or marijuana for 8 hours straight, I love it and it interests me people's opinions, how they got there, how it affected their morals etcs. Versus "ate bro you see the game" 😭 like brother I can only pretend to care for so long. You simply need to find people that enjoy what you enjoy. Imo, you can ONLY vibe with people who have no interests as you, but you're "interested in" if it's heavily transactional, and usually around sex, business or drug use. Most humans desire both, and you can totally have multiple groups.
I literally don't know how I stumbled upon this video, but I cried the whole time because I used to think no one else felt the same way. I'm about to finish my first year of college with NOT even 1 solid friendship, and I hate myself for it. It sucks to see everyone going out, experiencing stuff and actually living their lives and then I'm just here doing the same thing every single day. Thank you for posting this I really needed to see this, and for everyone else on the same boat, hang in there hopefully it will get better for us
I’m in the same boat. In college going through a rough time right now, especially right now. Hang in there, if not for yourself for the people you love. For me it’s my mom. I care about you, you got this :)
Joining clubs or groups it's a great way to meet someone new, since those people have similar interests. It's also important to be yourself, if someone wants to be your friend it will be for who you trully are not for a fake personallity. Try to attend social events like parties, meetups or network events and start conversations with someone you don't know. Ask them about their interests, what they do for a living, or if they've seen any good movies or TV shows lately. When you're meeting new people, it's important to be a good listener. Show interest in what they're saying and ask follow-up questions. Don't forget to mantain that relationship and never give up. Making friends can be challenging but it's duable.
@@Iamma7moud same here 😔 I have just finished my first year of college and I still get really sad seeing everyone hanging out with eachother and I am left out! 😢
I think what is frustrating is, if I saw her I would assume she already had a lot of friends, a boyfriend and an over all happy life based on how she looks and that she probably wouldn't want to waste time talking to a loser like me. And it makes me think how many people I didn't bother talking to who were also very lonely desperate for friendship. I wish there was a way for lonely introverts like us to connect and talk to each other without having to fear being rejected.
I wish that too.. I really liked the idea that we are the lonely who are afraid of being rejected can connect to each other because you know we can understand each other more than anyone can because who have lots of friends won’t understand like a lonely person who have no friends
Growing up throughout high-school and college I had the complete opposite experience. I was surrounded by multiple friend groups and would always have someone to hang with on the weekends and experience things with. However, It got a little to exhausting for me and I soon realized that I was going no where in my life because I would focus primarily on what my friends would think and tbh most of the times we did end up hanging out always lead to alcohol abuse and drug use. I'm 28 now and I have left all my friend groups (we message from time to time but we don't hang out) and I've come to realize I am in true bliss. It's empowering to have your own time and be with yourself and get to understand yourself better. I'm in a much happier place now.
I'm a 51 year old man, and yet I still found this extremely relatable. Please accept a big virtual hug. And if you happen to read this, please let us know -- how are you holding up?
we as a society have got to talk more about loneliness. It's always so strange that it's a human emotion that we all experience but for some reason most are so scared to talk about. I'm really proud of you for talking out loud about it!
Talking about it is not enough. We should do something about. We need a community and encourage others to be together and not just say “Loneliness is a huge problem…”
@@Godzilla4eva completely agreed the did a docu on shorts actually degrade and make us more stupid by watching such things in short attention span. Everyone is so disconnected and striving for some time of right personality I don't understand. Suxz ❤️
I completely understand how you're feeling. I'm 27 yrs old and have zero friends. I never go out. Have never experienced ANYTHING. No parties, clubbing, etc. I'm either at work or at home. No in between. It can be very lonely, but what has helped me is just working on myself. I still have my bad days, but I've come to the realization that being alone is better than being surrounded by people who are not adding to your life. It will be okay ❤ Edit: This comment was for OP and others in this predicament to let them know they are not alone in feeling this way and that it can get better. Just because my situation has gotten a bit better NOW doesn't give anyone the right to invalidate my past/present experiences. That's wild. It's like telling someone battling depression that they don't look depressed. Some people just mask well. Thank you to all the kind comments❤ Bye✌🏼
Me neither I have just escaped domestic abuse and not one of the friends we had bothers anymore they all sided with him so I sit alone every night with my 3 kids (my only real friends and I adore them) and watch my ex best friend go out drinking with her husband and my violent ex.i wish I had a friend who I could speak to,maybe take the kids out and stuff I didn't do anything to lose them all
I'm a single 39 year old man with no children and never been married. I live alone. I work full time and own my house. I'm happy. Living in North West Ohio
Hi I hope you will got friends maybe a wife as soon as possible But if you want an advice from me ? Search about islam Even if we are alone we dont feel loneliness Good luck in your life @@ajkundrath9661
@@efremsa en mi caso tengo 30, vivo en República Dominicana, tengo mi propio negocio de desarrollo web, vivo solo... pero no me siento solo. Mantengo contacto con mi papá y mamá y tengo un par de amigas con derechos... supongo que sentir o no soledad es un tema de salud mental y tu propia mentalidad. Honestamente me siento mejor así que estando permanentemente acompañado, casado o viviendo con mis padres.
I have no friends left now and I have spent so much time alone I find it hard to change. Listening to you talk is like listening to my own thoughts. I came to realize that everything I worry about is what society says I have to be. You don't have to be anything. You don't owe the world anything. There is no mold you need to fit into. You are great.
it is no a coincidence that so many people are in the same path we are the byproduct of something that is out of our control we were design to be this way we were programed to be this way over the fact that there are too much people on the planet and those who design that are using many ways for that purpose feminism gaysism transgenderism and now pedophilya race
You seem very likeable and sweet, you will find good friends. Don't worry about high school because most people in high school are superficial at that age anyway and people rarely stay in contact with high school friends once they're adults. College... Maybe not as superficial but still generally after college people don't stay in contact much since they move on with their lives and the main commonality they had was being in the same college. As an adult, the nicer thing is that you will tend to search for people that share similar passions as you, enjoy similar things and live similar lifestyles which in turn generally will make them better friends. Nobody likes being alone, I'm sorry to hear that's what you've been dealing with. I can feel your pain. I hope you find some good friends soon because you are absolutely worthy of it!
Im a 26 male and have 0 friends, barely any family to talk to. What helped me out the most, was finding more than one job to stay busy. Im not the smartest, the best looking, but all I know is I try. You got this girl! I believe in you :) #KeepFighting Edit: Appreciate all the wholesome comments ❤️
@@ceeejay9112 It's not about being an intellectual or having a high iq, it's about being able to appreciate your friend and love them for who they are and being loyal. If you make fun of the struggles of a friend for instance, you're a fool.
You are going through allot and it sounds allot like social anxiety. Highschool is tough because kids are ignorant, Adulthood is tough because people are busy and apathetic. It's just tough to make friends and I'm going through a similar struggle myself as an introverted guy who struggles with opening up to people. I'm 34 now and as I have gotten older I have learned to be more accepting of myself, started going to the gym, started letting myself cry, and just trying to be more mindful of how my brain works, but I still struggle with not having any friends. Therapy can be a powerful tool in situations like this because a therapist can really help you unpack your thoughts and feelings allot better than you can when you are deep in the depths of a depression or anxious mood. You are young and good looking you WILL find someone 100%! but you need to push yourself out of your comfort zone and maybe change a few things. I would recommend going to therapy, people see therapists for less severe problems. Please don't turn to alcohol to cope with this that will only make things worse. We're all rooting for you!
I've gone the reverse route of "letting myself cry". I did that crap when I was 17 and it only ever made depression worse. Like, I got addicted to crying and feeling sorry for myself. Gave myself an ultimatum to do it, or stop whining. Well, I'm still here, so I didn't "do it". Anyway, I went through a rage phase, made a buttload of money with that rage, and am now retired in my 30s in a stoic phase. Not really good at "stoic", yet, but I'm doing my best. As for friends. I just need to finish the roof and clean the place up. Physical barrier now, instead of mental one. No one wants to hear about all your baggage. You don't have to share every little neuroticism you have. Trust me, they know. Just carry on. The world will start weeding out the weak soon. Forge your alliances and get stronger.
@@manictiger that simply what it is. I am broke also no friends but who gives a f and for why. No one needs a sympathy just move on. And develop a little apathy world is not a quiet good place to be a sensitive person so just don't be one.
You are older than when you were starting high school but yo uare astill young, go make some frinds, you are on the age of having them, going to party, doing activities, travelling, etc.....make them and enjoy Try to be social on the gym I did in the calisthenics park in my city and i´ve made osme contacts there....be open to talk, ask question, make some jokes, say hi or bye when you leave...and you have chances to do it Good luck
The Loneliest People are often the best people you will ever meet. We aren't shallow, we aren't vain, we simply just crave connection with others, however because of our deep emotional ties to others, other people feel threatened by us. We see people for who they really are, we say it how it is, and that scares them. If you were a true friend you would stop your friend from doing something stupid. That kind of act is never appreciated in the moment, but appreciated in hindsight. That is why we are lonely people only care about us after we are gone from their lives.
I'm 22 and I feel this so hard I had plenty of acquaintances at school but never hung out with anybody outside of school, and now i'm feeling the consequences
@@retro.raiderTrue. After you stop visiting a place together, you realize how much harder friendship becomes! School/college/job/offline courses/activities make it much easier by solving the problem "where and when do we meet and who is going to be the initiator of the negotiagion about it".
I just turned 22 last month and I've left only one year in college and I'm feeling so sad 💀 , I've been having severe anxiety because i realize i have no friends outside college and I'm so lonely I've spent the whole summer alone And i realized my friends in college ain't that real friends :( and I'm going to graduate without any friends :(
People don't grasp how hard this stuff is. It comes naturally to some but not everyone, doesn't mean it's any easier to be without it. Definitely relate to these feelings, my heart goes out to you. It's not sad or pathetic to be struggling either :)
I’m Japanese and I’m 24 years old, I have no friends, I’m really alone. I stay at home by myself in holiday all day. And my family and I don’t get along , so I can’t go home. And sometimes I drink for forgetting it but my heart is breaking off… But when I read this RUclips, I know there are people like me
As a father, my heart is fu#@ing breaking for you. You literally have me in tears. wishing the absolute best for you youngster. I don't mean for this to sound any way dear, but I adopted a scared animal from the animal shelter when I had no friends. The road it took me was endless, boundless, and wonderful. My absolute prayers for you child. Realize how incredible you are for doing what you are doing. I'm in rehab from drinking.drinking is NOT the road to take. You've got what it takes. But it's gonna take all you've got sweetheart.
I'm 30; married and have a son. I remember being in your shoes; it literally feels like yesterday. I'm going to clue you in on something very important that I wish I would have known over a decade ago. Those people you see; holding hands, going to parties, living out their college dreams, all the posts you see on social media. It's all a facade; believe me! You are witnessing people that largely hold themselves together by living out a series of artificial interactions and made up stories on social media to please their parents and friends. After college, a significant amount of these people tend to fall apart in life. There's always things you can do to increase you sociability, relatability, empathy, and mannerisms. However, in a world where people are digging further and further into artificialness; you need to know that it's not solely a YOU problem. Try to focus on gaining ONE true friendship at a time. Volunteering is a good way to meet people and they don't have to be your own age as well. Having a female mentor (if your mom is not active in your life) is essential. Just as much as having a male figure for a man is. Don't envy the kids you see at college. Try and push yourself more into the direction that you want to go and work on your own shortcomings. True friends and relationships will naturally fall into place :)
I mean, whatever you gotta tell yourself, but nah, my guy, people going to parties, having relationships (both friendly and romantic), and generally enjoying life isn’t ’artificial’. You telling yourself that to make yourself feel better about the years of your life you spent lonely and miserable is what’s artificial. 🤷♂️🤦♂️🤷♂️
Hope your feeling better today! I remember watching this a few years ago when I was in a similar situation and honestly it really made feel seen and that I was not alone and hopefully if your reading this you can see your not alone and that you are worthy of love and happiness
You are my new hero. I'm 38 years old and my whole life has been spent feeling alone, and the thought of being brave enough to speak publicly about it terrifies me. You got heart and I truly admire your courage. Hang in there!
Im 48 and friendless. Didn't have friends in middle school didn't have high school friends. Had several jobs where i didn't make friends with none of them. Except one person who was 34 years older than me. I cant relate to people my age. Thats why i like working with elderly people. I am married so i talked to one person.
Friends come and go. Maintaining friendships that cost what little time left in each day is attempting the impossible. In philosophy, theodorus believes that friendship doesn't exist, since wise people are independent and don't need friends, while the unwise enter into friendships merely to satisfy their own needs (hence aren't really friends).
She has mad heart no doubt about it. But most likely no one that knows her in real life will ever see this video unless they type in the right words in the search bar or blunder across this video which is unlikely. So in that sense she is anonymous. Regardless though, mad heart. Most or all of us typing in the comment section are struggling with the same stuff she's struggling with to varying degrees and circumstances
I know this vid is one year old but still I think it's important to say that a person like you (crying and reflecting about your situation) is not dumb or not worth having friends. I don't think it's your fault that people can't see that you have a great heart. I mean, it's still not easy making friends even if we have the internet nowadays. I just hope that everyone who is alone and feeling these emotions like you do can find some lovely people to hang out with
Nothing’s wrong with you, pookie. You’re not lazy when it comes to making friends-it’s just difficult, and that’s ok. You deserve to feel loved, appreciated, and surrounded by people who truly care about you and make you feel at ease. It’s been two years since you shared this, and I really hope by now you’ve found true friends-friends who make you laugh so hard your tummy hurts, who understand you, and who make you feel like you belong. I know I don't really know you and it's literally been two years plus there's a huge age gap since I'm in my 10s? ( I don know if that's a thing, I mean people in their 20s say 20s so I'm guessing 10s? ) but I would love to be your friend! I get how lonely it can feel sometimes. But, I want you to know you’re not alone. There are so many people out there who’ve experienced what you’re feeling, and we’re rooting for you. I truly hope things have gotten better for you and that you’ve found the love and happiness you deserve. You’re amazing, and I hope you never forget that. Good luck gurlie!
Girl I’m sitting here eating some pizza, watching this video and crying my eyes out. I can relate on so many levels, not only is it a challenge to find friends, it’s a challenge to find YOUR friends. I’ve had “friends” who aren’t my vibe but I kept them around because I wanted at least a friend. That’s just as bad, if not more lonely than actually being alone. I don’t know why it’s so hard to find your tribe, but I try to keep faith that they are coming. I’d be lying though if I didn’t say that there are days that I cry my eyes out because I feel so alone and days when I wonder if I’ll ever find my tribe. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability.
I love it how people pretend to care about some random girl killing herself. It is her choice. She didn't like life? Every person is free to leave,because life can be horrible to some people.
I truly hope you're in a better place in life now. Making friends takes confidence and a bit of courage. If you lack these traits today, you are likely to gain them at a later point in life. I used to make friends extremely easily at your age, but decades later, not so much. I too am very lonely. I crave connections and friendships, but I stand in my own way. Now older, I am no longer that person who made friends so easily. Despite my strong desire to do so, I have a mental mindset that keeps me to myself. There have been many times I overcame that mental state, reached out, and started friendships only to find myself shutting the door again. Much of this comes from depression and possibly bipolar disorder. That's my self-diagnosis, but I really don't know why I'm that way. The reason I am telling you this is because I'm obviously not the same person I was then, and no one stays the same as the years pass. Never give up on yourself because you never know who you will grow into being. It could be next year, or it may take several years. All you can do is your best, and I, along with a couple of million others, are wishing for you to have in your life whatever brings you happiness. I hope to see an update from you-that would be wonderful. Take care of yourself. 🤗
This woman is so relatable. I hope she's made thousands of friends. If not, I'll go eat pizza and talk with her. And then we can both be quiet introverts for the rest of the day while we watch TV and eat the leftover pizza. She's a wonderful person for sharing this. She's actually really good at expressing herself. I'm the kind of person who likes to ask 1,000 questions and get opinions about stuff. She seems like someone I'd love to talk to.
@@LilXancheX when someone is feeling so low and expressing how they feel especially a teenager, its everyones job to make them feel better. I do that everywhere, even if you were in her place bro i would have done the same, i never seek attention, attention dont pay my bills.
This is how I feel. I typed in “I have no friends” in the search bar. This is my exact feelings. I’m terrified of getting married because I know I’m expected to have a wedding and have bridesmaids and people to invite but I have no one. I feel like I’m meant to be alone forever. I’m so embarrassed how behind I am in life at 25, socially.
So let me get this straight. You're afraid of getting married, which means you're in a long term healthy relationship, and you're scared that you're gonna be alone forever... Uh.... Really?
My boyfriend has plans of getting married with me and I always feel so bad. He is so lucky he has so many friends and I have girlfriends to turn to. He said to at least have five, FIVE! I haven’t had a friend like that since high school. I’m so embarrassed of confronting him about this, if I ever do get married I don’t think I’ll even have bridesmaids. Don’t even want to think about how his family is gonna take it, i feel like they already see me as a quiet girl. I can’t help but think of them calling me a quiet loner next.
It is your life to live. I've got married without any celebration and guests, even parents. We just went to the local Marriage Registry, got date of the process, came that date, signed the documents. After that went for a walk, cafe, spending good time; got home, and everything esle is only for mature public😂 Of course it didn't save the marriage (divorced because not meant for each other, after all), but did everything as we wanted, not as society "asks to do" of "you are expected".
Trust you guys have nothing to be worried about. I know people who naturally have no friends or even family and still get married. It's actually better for them, because it helps them progress in life. You just have to teach yourself to be grateful and take each day as it comes.
This video is like looking into a mirror. I’m not gonna lie, it hurts so fucking bad seeing a reflection of my own feelings through another person. My comment is just one of many, but for the sake of both of us, let’s do our best. We will probably never know each other in our lifetime, but our experiences are so similar. Anyone who reads this only sees my words on their screen but, to you, Girl in a Blue Dress, and to anyone who also sees themselves reflected in your video, let’s be strong together and learn to carry ourselves through life so that we may be happy when we finally go. It’s incredibly vulnerable posting something so personal like this and I can’t thank you enough for doing so, so please ignore the trolls and internet assholes. I’m rooting for you and for both of us :)
@HeWhoSpeaks Oh yes I’m sure loneliness is the least of her concern, considering thousands of people in the comments have shown support for her. Seriously, if you’re over the age of 13 you’re worse off than her. It takes something worse than that to turn into someone like yourself. I hope your delusions make yourself feel better!
@HeWhoSpeaksSA??? You do realize you are talking about a young teen/child, right? Please tell me youre not using the word SA in the way i think you are, because thats horrifying
The bad thing about never having friends is that when you try to connect with others you don't know what to say, feel or do because for all your life you did not learn how to do that but instead learnt how to live without anyone
I feel you hon. I spent most of my life so far without any close friends and have spent many weekends doing the same thing you do. I do get down about it sometimes. So many people come and go that it gets hard to let someone in, allow yourself to be vulnerable, build trust, and then they're gone. I'm almost 50. I've gone to dinner, vacation, movies and concerts alone. I've made my peace with it. You have one life to live, be your own best friend.
I’m a 50 yr young woman and I’ve made my peace with it too. I go to movies, concerts, vacations alone, but not dinners somehow. With me, it’s 2 problems. That I enjoy my own company a little too much and unless someone’s fun to be around, I can’t be bothered to be friends with them, and also that People trigger me when they show even a hint of competitiveness. I had a friend who I liked a lot but she went to jail for a financial crime, as fun as she was, that was my limit with her
"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." - Robin Williams. there is nothing wrong with you hun you are nice girl, you are beautiful, you have a good heart but you just have to focus on people who make you feel happy and better person. i will advice DO NOT search on internet for friends this is the worse place to find friends! go out hangout and talk with people. and when you feel you find good friends and you really feel you belong here just stay where you belong and NO MATTER what....do not lose them!
Making friends as an adult is incredibly hard and no one really talks about it! When you're not in the company of the same people every day to build a friendship over time it takes so much more effort which is really overwhelming. I hope you're okay, try not to beat yourself up, making friends as an adult is a challenging thing for anyone ❤
Oh man, this hit so bad. You are SO brave for doing this and just look how many people resonate with you, which confirms you are NOT alone, there are many others like you, and there is NOTHING wrong with you! I hope you read all of these supportive comments and it goes someway to comforting you. I really do hope since this video was made that you got to a better place emotionally and socially and found like minded people to bond with. 💜
The whole wishing to be with a friend, then when the opportunity comes, you just wanna be back home, is such a mood. It's definitely more common than you may think.
I‘m like that too. We need psycholigcal help to gain self confidence. Everyone is saying „go hit the gym and you‘ll become more confident“. Yeah well not me. I tried it and after one month I realized that i hate it and it doesn‘t help me. Not because there were no results. I know it takes longer to see something. I just felt like the same sack of sh*t as usual. So I think People like us need mental help. Who cries about being alone then finally becomes the opportunity not to be alone anymore but then you prefer to be alone again. I feel this 100% but I think that means we are mentally ill.
Yeah. About a couple months ago I went to a little social event for the first time. It was just a little thing my karate class was having so students could bond. Everyone over there is so friendly and *even more* friendly to each other. So yeah, some talked to me a bit, I felt okay I guess most of the time because they had activities to do that don’t require me having to sit and watch peoples long conversations with each other. But later, I’ve decided that I’m never going to those social events again now that I think back and remember how quiet and awkward I was. What was I thinking?! Sucks, because I’m still not friends with any of those people and that’s the only extracurricular class I had where I thought the people were decent (I’m homeschooled, so I’m not around people my age a lot) this is way too long so probably no one will read this anyway, but I’ll still post it because I can’t really talk about it elsewhere-
God this is literally EXACTLY my life. The superficial friends in high school. Not doing anything after school. Losing contact with people as you progress through life. God it’s fucked up. Seeing them on instagram. Being alone in the dorm room. Its genuinely like looking into a mirror. You’re not alone. This I can promise you.
The ironic part is, is I was struggling myself. I clicked on this video…and it was just what I needed. I felt like me and a friend were just venting with each other. I had a really productive internal dialogue, comparing my problems to yours and thinking of possible solutions. It just felt..like I had a friend here with me in this moment.
Same to be honest. It was like for the first time I could piece my problems together just by elaborating in my mind as she spoke about hers too. I'm sobbing but it's somewhat of a good feeling, if not good at least relieving
Im in the same boat as you. Im 21, with no friends, I have like 0 communication skills, social anxiety, and I suffer with bad stress and depression over it. Like, I've tried to make friends but I've always messed it up because of my crap communication skills. Worst part for me is the side effects I get from stress and depression which further lower my self esteem and make me more stressed and depressed... I hope we can all eventually get through this.
I know if someone takes the time for meeting you and knowing thing about you, I KNOW, they will find one of the most beautiful souls ever. I hope things can change soon!! Its all about just improving yourself. I know you can do it. I could do it. It took time, but at the very end, I found people who i can talk and laugh, cry, and.. I am very very proud of me. Cause, WOW!.. I got them, I didn't use to have FRIENDS... but now, I do look at me and I say "I could do it, I could found someone who really understand me. All the tries, all my effort was for this." Go ahead!
I know how you feel. I can still communicate somewhat but I just realized it's not because of social anxiety. It's just how I talk. I just can't do anything about it lmao. It doesn't really bother me cause I got friends on the internet.
I can tell you're an incredibly genuine person. You've done something most of us would never have the guts to admit to. I know this is late, but I resonate with your video very much. I hope you find the friends you deserve so very much :)
@@syedibtisamhaider9257 those pseudoscientific terms are rather generalizing which I don't agree with but at the end they are explaining a specific matter for the better understanding. Although with that being said, they are kind of situational instead of fixed trait based on people's personalities. Our minds can control it and it's rather a choice of a person to be either extroverted or introverted. Both can be extremely difficult to go against tho
This is literally all I think about every single day. I feel like no one fully understands how crippling loneliness is. And it ends up being a cycle. You feel trapped and consumed. The saddest thing for me is the few instances in which I let people in my life they completely betrayed me or disappointed me in the worst ways. So I started to wonder if it was protective in a sense. I don’t know. I hope it gets better for you. I speak to my therapist about this every week and I’m trying to just get used to it.
I’m crying with you, and this is the heartfelt conversation I needed. I’m so glad that people are no longer afraid to show their true feelings and openly make videos about them, because I can watch them and know that I’m not alone and that not having friends is normal. it's so sad and cozy to cry together. I finally found what I was looking for for so long🌻 And most importantly, you are okay! Don’t think that there’s something wrong with you and that’s why you don’t have friends. You are a wonderful girl!❤
You were so real for this. Despite all the influencers pushing super positive images of their lives, Gen Z is living much closer to this than what social media depicts. Honestly a lot of people lack the insight to articulate what you're saying here, it's a valuable skill. Hope you make more videos.
not just gen z, many different generations are suffering from very similar situations due to covid. Our social skills took a huge hit during the pandemic, this is really bad because it's so common
It's the end result of Reaganism/Thatcherism. The deliberate destruction of community to push individualism. So many people feel alienated now, so many don't even know their neighbour's name.
@@asdfkjahsdfkls1123 To be honest covid is not necessarily the case, many people have been living in agony since they were a kid, myself here been in a limbo state for the past 12 years, bullied, ignored, family discrimination, etc. I cried so many times over the years even when I'm writing this. I don't know man life is a hell of test indeed
Now, this came up in my reccomended page this morning, and I feel like I need to give y'all a message. I've been there. Lonely, hated by everyone, all that bad shit. If you are also feeling that way I'll give you 3 words of advice. Just Keep Trying. Making friends Is luck based. Sometimes you'll find people who are assholes, and other times you'll find glorious human beings, so the trick is, keep trying, keep rolling that dice, and eventually, you'll find a proper friend. It took me about 4 years to find the friend group I'm in now, so these things take time, but if you are really willing to make friends, one day you will find a friend perfect for you.
I feel your struggle too. After I graduated from high school all my friends went separate ways and so did I. I got into community college and I would make a few acquaintances but nothing lasted. Graduated and transferred to university recently still haven't made friends yet. Tips I would suggest is you need to find some sort of distraction to get your mind off of this. Find something that could interest you or something your willing to learn in your spare time. Also something that can make you happy and motivated. Lastly maybe find a club you could have an interest in and the people in it might have similar interests with you :)
I am thinking about dropping out of school to focus on my career as a star on RUclips. I already make a lot of money on RUclips. School bores me so much. I need more opinions and since I don't have any friends, I gotta ask you, alex
@For Vls Channel Yeah, exactly. You make a video about it? WHining and just setting yourself up for a spiritual failure in life? Maybe you muthafuckas need to get off the fuckin' internet and live life without wanting people to satisfy your ego so much. It's not natural.
I think it is super valuable that there is someone like you openly and sincerely talking about this. People often talk about how difficult is to find a couple or someone to have a romantic/sexual relationship with. But no one talks about how hard is to connect with someone in a friend kind of way. It seems that people get ashame about it, more than being single, because it is not supposed to be "normal."
28, no job, no gf, no car. Dad died 2 years ago. Life is not easy, good luck to anyone seeing this
God bless you..... We really need friends
good luck buddy!
My condolences and empathy goes to you.
28 here as well dad died 4 years ago . I’m tired of life and its struggles I want friends I want a family I feel you
My condolences and good luck ❤
I am a 59 year old man. I have no friends, no close relatives. Never been married, no children. I used to think there was something wrong with me (there probably is), but then I read a line from the French philosopher Jean Paul Sartre, "Hell is other people". That really perked me up. I work, I read, I travel, and generally I'm happy. There is nothing worse than being around people who you don't especially like. Being in a relationship with someone you actively despise (been there) is worse than anything. You're young, you're smart---be patient. It'll happen.
True
Maybe you have no friends because you are special. Do you know that fable of the Eagle and the chicken? Maybe you are just an Eagle.
@@jessee.23 I don’t know that fable, nor do I think I’m an Eagle. I’m just kinda jaded by life and bitter and distrustful, but thank you for the kind words
@@rickjohnson9558 I know what you mean. But it seems that you don't need anybody to be happy, as you find your happiness at work or when you travel.
@@jessee.23 true enough. Life is short and you have to find happiness wherever you can. I hope you’re successful in finding it
All the love and blessings to every kind lonely soul on this planet 🙏🏻
true
That’s why I don’t call these people friends, but rather good acquaintances
Not always
@@Concertinmyhead I sometimes walk in the zoo and go to the chimp enclosure and mistaken them for my friends so I go in the enclosure because I think it's the school cafeteria but then I realized it isn't because the chimp rips my face off
It ripped my dick off too but my friends do that as well
Well said
The worst part of being alone its being and feeling it when you are with people
Cant relate
@@McLovin-pi9um good for you
Being alone is not a problem. The truth is that we are always alone because there is no other. Alone = all-one. But most people think they are somebody. And that amplifies the illusion of separation and disconnectedness in their company.
Literally me on new years, I was with people who I used to know but I wasn’t that close to any of them. Still had a good time cuz I was drunk but it felt so shallow, how not one person who I was actually close to cared enough to include me in their new years, same with Halloween, my favourite day of the year, I was sat in bed scrolling on Insta and snap maps, seeing all my best friends with their better friends. Basically I’m a side person who exists to cure ppl’s boredom when they need, I’ve never been considered anyone’s best friend yet I’ve considered so many people my best friends
It seems like the illusion is solidified for the sole reason we see others living "separate" lives :) @minimal3734
"If you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them." -Jodi Picoult
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how painfully true!
@@pandaaamaa yeah reality...
not true for me lmao i love being alone. looked up ‘i don’t want friends’ to see if anyone else felt similar and this came up….not exactly the vibe i was looking for.
I wish all the lonely people could spot other lonely people
Wouldnt that be great lol
@𝙰𝚛𝚒𝚏𝚞𝚖𝚒 We can have many friends but still lonely. Some have very few friends but guess what..they don't feel lonely. Maybe because you don't have that deep and mutal connection with your friends?
i connect to this comment on a spiritual level
They can, and they would rather be alone than be around those people.
Yes. Everyone puts on their best, bravest, fakest, "I'm totally okay and normal" face to get through the day.
Can all of us lonely, sad, desperate people just start wearing a sign or something?? 😂
“Wanting my alone time, when I’m alone all the time”, that one I felt in my soul. I do exactly this.
What's wrong with it? I genuinely don't get it. I love my alone time, I'm sharing it with you right this second.
@@topophilthat was me until it became my new normal.
ong. lol sounds like my ex.
I felt that shit
@russiasgreatestexports4026
"This loneliness won't leave me alone." Otis Redding, Sitting on the Dock of Bay.
I’m 19, and have no job, no gf, no car. Just graduated high school last year in 2024, June 20. My life is so difficult that it’s not easy to live without money while my dad is an English teacher. I am hoping everyone can see this message so good luck!
wish you the best, mate
i literally searched up on youtube "i have no friends" because i feel so alone. The hardest part is i've had a beautiful friendship. she was like my sister, we did everything together, told each other everything. She ended up moving to a different country. This was about 2 years ago, and we barely talk anymore and i feel like i'm never going to ever experience the friendship i had like that again
Same. Kind of. I too had a best friend, we were kids in middle school, having fun, saying dumb jokes, making promises. He was like a brother to me. I have already lost many friends before for many reasons even dumb ones. So I thought I finally found one that would stick with me, we talked about living together for awhile, then inviting each other to our weddings. Highschool came and all of my friends were gone, even the one I thought was my best friend, well, he gave up on me. I asked him why he wasn’t contacting me, he answered and I knew from that point on, it would’ve been one sided. So I let him go. Then next thing you know I find out all my old friends are having the time of their lives, and here I am still thinking about the past. I’ve been on the football team, I’ve been in many after school clubs, I’ve learned to play electric guitar, learned other languages but nope, nothing seems to work, it’s like I’m uninteresting no matter what. I made acquaintances but no friends. It also doesn’t help that I went through two break ups freshman year. I really thought one of those relationships in particular was going to last a lifetime. I go out and look at the kids with their friends, I’m turning 18 and about to finish highschool. I’m about to be an adult and I feel like I have yet to experience my childhood. Seems like I will still have to continue life on my own. I wish you luck on your journey
@@4danieltorresjr We are literally in the same exact boat, it's my last year of high school and i feel like i don't have anyone. (i have one friend but we are really not as close as we used to be) I told myself I am going to give my absolute best effort to make some friends this year! if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen but at least i can say i tried. It's hard not having your best friend with you anymore, it almost feels like they never existed in a weird way. it's nice to think about the good memories but honestly it just hurts. Yesterday I couldn't stop thinking about it and i was in a really low spot, that's what brought me to this video. I also used to be SUPER extroverted, but over the years it's been so much harder for me to talk to others. My best friend made me a lot more confident and i didn't even know it until she was gone. I just feel like I don't fit in with all these people around me, but hey there's always someone out there. I'm not sure when they'll come along but in my heart i know. I really wish the best for you and I hope this year you can get out of your comfort zone a little bit and maybe you'll meet someone new!! Push yourself! ☺️ Youre not alone we are going through the same thing
I feel you .... The exact same happened with me and my bestfriend... Cuz I introduced him to a cooler guy
Dam I feel u
@@cateisheree Thanks. I’ve already tried to fit into groups at school, even the stereotypical ones, I’ve had lunch with the smart kids, I’ve been to fun and even boring after school clubs, I’ve been in sports teams, but nope. I’ve stopped trying. I don’t think it’s worth it as a senior. I’m working and saving to go out the country next summer with a gym partner of mine. I think I’d like to travel around for awhile meet new people that way
In this day and age of social media miserable trolls, it takes a lot of guts to do what you did in this video. I hope you find what you're looking for.
Yes
NEVER, Ever, do your research using Wikipedia, like the girl in this video, unless you like being misled. Google and the mainstream media are out to mislead you too. Being an actual Christian really helped me to be able to spot what most people cannot see.
As someone who used to be in Media, and had an early start on the internet, I have been telling people the big mirror society will be forced to look into is coming, and I dont think people realize how ugly the reflection will be.
@eliluminado7--Take out the words "Being yourself in" and leave "Any social media is a bad idea" and I agree with you.
@@joep5146 oh you're one of THOSE guys smh
Seeing her crying broke my heart into a million pieces.
Seeing her crying made me realize how weak woman are. For man this is standart
same
Santa is very sad seeing this poor girl pour her heart out ❤ stuck in the world of keeping up with the kardashians (jones)
Mine too. At 53, with quite severe M.E and Fibromyalgia, I'm much older, but since getting sick, I'm just waiting to die, life has become meaningless, and a torment.
@@philkilcommon5554i understand, to a degree. I'm not as ill ...but life seems meaningless. As Robbie Williams says"I don't wanna die, but I ain't keen on living either", or maybe I feel it the other way around?? In any case, just go day by day, moment by moment, and always remember there's someone out there worse than us.
God bless you. Best wishes for yr health, mental and physical, emotional and spiritual ❤
You are truly a gem.Never stop believing in the good. May God send you friends who honor, respect, and understand you. Be brave.You do belong. Let your light shine💜
"I just don't what's wrong with me" is a question I've asked myself a million times before its horrible having no friends overtime I've gotten used to it
I've also asked myself that question so much that it's actually sad. Every day I ask myself, "What's wrong with you, why are you so weird, why don't you have friends like a normal person?" Life just hurts really bad sometimes:(
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@@samantha14843 we don't have friends because we feel so insecure and fearful about what others will think about us , and there is nothing wrong with it because in our past there were incident in which everyone hurted you so know you just avoid people and people avoid you back.
@@nitishgautam5728 Kind of, yeah. I always complain about never going out but I also never take the initiative to start a conversation with other people. My current lifestyle has made me depressed but im still putting in no effort. there's definitely something wrong with me
Yeah me too
I lost my 13-year-old daughter to suicide six months ago. A big part of my healing journey has been making videos that talk about the "bad stuff" and looking for other creators who do the same. It took a great deal of bravery for you to make this. I hope you know how proud of you I am. I hope you know how much you are valued and loved. Thank you for...being human.
Holy hell!! I can't imagine all the schock and grief you must've went through... my condolences. It's truly saddening to hear about someone so frail and young pass away.
I hope you and the family are doing well.
WOW im very sorry for your loss i wish you the best
I'm really sorry for your loss. I lost a cousin last year to suicide. Not that that means I fully know what you're going through but I know that it's painful and hard to put into words. I wish you the best in healing.❤
@@timtimslimjim Grief is different for everyone and not worth comparing, but I understand your message and sincerely appreciate the sentiment. Thank you for taking the time to reply.
Moving comment, thanks. Humanity is key, you are as couragious as this girl. Take care, sorry for your loss. Kind regards from The Netherlands.
My psychologist told me once that I wasn't meant to have a group of friends, so I left her. Never allow someone to tell you that, even yourself.
What an absolutely terrible thing to tell someone who is there for help 🙁
??? As a professional, she shouldn't say any personal opinions.
You have done the right thing
I'm really curious, what was the context? Was she actually trying to be mean, or was there a more profound meaning, such as, nobody is owed anything in this life, and you're not MEANT to have this, like as a freeing allowance to not 'have to' have it to feel good about yourself?
@@uuamenator that would be a nice point of view of seeing this! but she said it was because of my personality, like the groups usually have a lider who everyone follows, and i am in conflict with that idea
@@candesoriano I'm in conflict with that idea too.People are free and make it own choices. I believe that. And I have friends. Not several, but good ones.
You have done the right thing.
Keep your head up, I'm 43 and in the same boat. I almost lost my life and the Dr saving my life kept asking where my family and friends are. No "friends" came or even asking how I was. Don't even let anyone ever get you down. Always know your loved even if it's just by yourself, we gotta fight everyday. Keep strong and pushing on. Your to young to be this worried. Who cares what the crowd is doing or saying, be yourself and be true and honest to what your values are. Find a higher power. Not saying go to church unless you want. Church is a great place to meet the right people. Stay far away from troubled kids. Keep your head up.
"What the fuck is wrong with me that I complain about this and I make no effort to try to change it"
that is such a mood.
Yh 😂
Yea……but my not trying is because of my learning not to it brings worse
This one
The real issue is trying and putting the effort in, when there's others out there who put in no effort and it just comes naturally, then you're rejected by everyone you personally put effort into just to be seen as a door mat.
@@Secret-jg1bkYes
Spot on
This poor girl needs a hug
No I believe she needs a friend
Both. A hug and a friend
She needs to be kind to herself and become her own friend first. Treat yourself like someone you care about.
YEAH ABOUT THAT FAM ... YOU GO FIRST I WILL WAIT TO SEE WHAT HAPPENS FROM THE SAFETY OF MY APARTMENT LOL
Im late, but i want to be her friend so badly
She doesn’t realize it, but these few videos she made revolving around her experiences and story are really relatable. Many people could learn a thing or two from this content
wait did something happen to her? what do you mean by she doesn't realize it 😔
@@darkthunder168 Oh no no, I’m saying throughout these videos she’s given great insight into her life and yet she does not show any hint of acknowledgment of how in depth she is
i feel likes its really hard for men to be liked by anyone
@@AC-mp7cx It can be depending on their background. Some just fall towards toxic masculinity
@@z-past1454 yeah she does , she literally says she does not take any interest in anyone and wants to be in her apartment, and when she does have a chance to go out with someone, she ignores their texts and she sabotages it because she prefers to have me - time ... point being friendship is hard work and two-way road, she wants someone to care about her when she feels lonely without her doing any work ... having friends means being there for them and listening to them whine, even when you would rather be at home playing a computer game! Having friends means placing the needs of others before yours ... nowadays no many do that !
Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability. This is helping so many others that are going through the same. It helps us to know that we are not alone in our humanity and pain. That all of us struggle with loneliness at times. Thank you.
i lost my 16 year old daughter last year, she took her own life. she felt pretty hopeless about life - especially friend relationships. she was a wonderful person, but would pick crappy friends.
you are not alone. i think social media has really screwed things up for people. people put their fake faces on, but i think everyone feels pretty empty inside.
thank you for sharing - sometimes i think i was at fault. but hearing how other people are dealing with the same issues makes me know that she was not alone.
you are not alone - hang in there - and be safe.
Sorry about your daughter ! ❤
And yeah i agree with what you said , these are hard times , social media is at 99 % fault for it all i would say.
So sorry.
all the prayers for your daughter I don't even believe in God but I really hope that where she is she is okay, I am 18 years old and I am sure that her daughter and I would have been good friends because according to her description we went through the same situation, I hope you are good love from cuba 🤍🤍🤍
sounds just like my 22 yo son. felt alone had sorry greedy friends felt lonely. he had many friends but not good ones. Nov 7 22. last day on earth. young lady you are blessed just to be here. you are somebody and we care about you# what can we do for you
i am so sorry. prayers to you.
Girl, you have no idea how much I'm feeling you. I'm in my 30s and my life revolves around working, getting coffee at the local coffee place and sitting in my apartment alone, hoping that time will pass quickly. I wish I could make some sense of it, but I can't. Sometimes my reality feels unbearable and I want to end it.
Lol thought i was alone
Jesus loves you ❤
The last two comments are dogshit. Ignore them please
Im like you, I turn up the music and dance around 😊
don't do it, try to make some friends, change a bit of your routine idk, it will make you feel better
Sometimes the idea of having friend or a lover is more recomforting than the real thing which is equally disappointing
"Cuidado con lo que deseas porque puede que un día lo consigas" 100% cierto
Facts 💯
And sometimes having a real friend or lover is truely wonderful. It can happen.
I think it really depends on who you are talking to. I’ve had friends in my life who i wish I‘ve never met in the first place, because they have brought me so much pain and trauma. But there’s no way i would give up the friends that i have now, to forget those bad things from the past. There is more good than evil. And relationships with kind people can teach you this. You just have to find them and sometimes it takes a bit.
Go to spaces where people with same ideologies are. you should actively search and also choose who to be friends with. And when people disappoint you, you will either have to let them go, or see if the disappointment is something you can work through together.
Love and relationships in general are never perfect but they are often worth fighting for.
People will also accept YOUR flaws. They will eventually like them.
Yeah
I feel this a lot. I don't think I'll ever be free of it. The hunger for deeper connection. I go out of my way to reach out to people, I try anyway. If you reach out, someone somewhen will eventually reach back. Just reach for people and be open. It will never be easy as far as I know, but you will not be alone. Reach out if you can. It won't be easy, but I'd like to think it's worth any humiliation to find someone to support you and that you can support.
Good luck to whoever is reading this. Life is lonely, but it does not need to be spent alone.
I agree, but some people end up alone for various reasons. In the beginning, they find it difficult to live alone, but once they truly understand themselves and make themselves their own best friend, they no longer feel the need for anyone else. They start enjoying life on their own and remain truly happy. The presence or absence of others doesn’t affect them anymore because they have made themselves their own best friend. I am also one of those people, and I am very happy. Even though I am struggling in life and facing many difficulties, I am still happy from within.
@vickykhan8833 that's wonderful, I'm happy you've found such satisfaction
@PolishRichrd ok,, what are you doing in your life, you are alone or you have some friends
@@vickykhan8833 I honestly don't see the relevance, If you're happy with how your life is arranged then I don't see a reason to question what others are doing.
Personally I prefer having a support system, but if you'd rather rely on yourself and are happy then I am happy for you. Give yourself a pat on the back.
@PolishRichrd okey I got you, bye the way I don't like pat, I have my mom dad and my whole family in my back, the question about friend's or alone
4:10 Damn, that hits way too close to home. The amount of friends that I allowed to slip away because I just wanted to be by myself yet at the same time I didn't want to be alone. It's an insane amount of regret I feel every day. Thank you for uploading this, I know I'm not completely alone now even though I have no one.
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I did it too many times and now I am completely alone but I dont regret it.
This one of the major regrets that majority of people have and it’s sad.
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@skr00ge
As long as they're not dead what's holding you back from (empathizing with and then) contacting them?
Every word you said... I understand. I feel you... I'm 22, have no friends or boyfriend. Everyday I feel extremely lonely and I don't know what to do with my life anymore.
Save, save, save...your money. Study compound interest . At your age if you start chucking away as much as you can to get an investment nest egg....then the compound interest will add up to millions in the end. People need financial security more than Friends. Friends are hard to find these days. Learn to cook so well you will not have to use a recipe after awhile. Work on your inner world. I know this.
I can recommend any sport where you meet people. Dance lessons or gym are also good options. If youre there you Most likely have the same interests as all the other people who are there
Give the thanks to feminists,no man wants a false acussation, all women can be an Amber Heard.
Try to have initiative with a man, girl's turn start.
Fellow 22-year-old here. Don't tie your self-worth with how other people value you, you are and always will be the most important person in your life. All relationships sour over time, the best thing you can do is know that you are valuable, capable, and full of potential with endless room for improvement. Don't let other people make you doubt yourself, your opinion of yourself is the most important part of your happiness. You deserve to be happy.
In my humble opinion, friends and girl/boyfriends are often just temporary solutions to permanent problems that only have the power to overcome. Keep your head up, don't be too hard on yourself, and remember that we never know what our future holds. I also have no close friendships anymore and have been single for years but I'm still gonna overcome my challenges and kick life's ass, I hope you can too.
You got this.
I’m the same at 21 almost 22. It sucks
"im mad at myself cause I dont try" this hits hard :(
true, i really feel like her
She need to try harder...
@@cscs9192its difficult, easy to say if youre extroverted and social.
@@Keepyourselfsafe313I bet its difficult. I'm not introvert, but i have other problems in my personality to deal with, and still not succeeding...its along battle. I mean we all have our burden, but we must not give up.
And I think that idea is so flawed. Living is trying. But because you aren't "partying it up and meeting 20 people a day while also balancing getting a high paying job/good grades" like the "ideal person", you aren't trying. B.S.
Living without friends is extremely difficult. Losing all my friends is even more difficult. God bless you.
This video is all I needed to show that I'm not the only person feeling this way, thank you so much for putting this video here.
we were made to be this way by design offcourse the design made by other people who worry that the planet exhausted all its resources they going to used depravation as next way to avoid people from procreation meanwhile transgenderism is taking over with the same purpose
wtf is these replies
Yea
@Mabus Nero heartless no empathy
Man, I remember feeling exactly like this back when I was younger.
You might think this video is cringe, but the amount of views speaks for how extremely relatable your situation at that moment in time was.
Thank you for having the courage to open up. Hugs from Europe.
Edit: Seems like a lot of people are getting the wrong idea of what I'm trying to say. I don't blame them, I often have a hard time expressing myself. So for any future readers, please read the whole comment before reacting.
Honestly, I think this video is kind of "cringey," BUT I actually respect her more for it. I wouldn't be brave enough to be that open about my feelings in a public video and cry like that. Plus, I relate to almost everything she says here and I know her tears are real and she's not just fake crying for attention like some people do on social media.
@@DevineInnovations you relate to this and still call the video cringy? man, give her a break, she doesn't deserve that
@@aidanhallinan03Toxic Masculinity strikes again
@@DevineInnovationswhat’s cringy about being authentic. It’s not like she’s acting 😂
@@DevineInnovations Your comment is old, but I have to say that you are definitely projecting. Someone having emotions, like humans are supposed to, and expressing it on a platform that literally had the slogan "Broadcast Yourself" is cringey? Really? "I wouldn't be brave enough" exactly, YOU wouldn't, but just because someone else is doesn't mean they're cringey. Having the courage to do something most people wouldn't or even couldn't do, is not cringey. I don't want to make this too long but your comment is really ignorant, and I hope you expand your mindset one day
You are incredibly brave for being able to post this on RUclips. I have nothing but respect.
And virtual hugs for everyone here.
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The problem is self-conciousness, if you keep telling yourself that you don't have friends or that it is impossible to have, you will never get out of it. Just GO OUT AND MEET PEOPLE. There is random activities that you can join where no one knows each other and its the best to start friendships. Don't try to please others, be yourself and go out there.
@@fuckdefucker Facts. And if you are really being yourself out there, you can also feel secure that when someone takes a liking to you, they like you for you and there's no hidden side for them to eventually discover that you fear will scare them away.
Okay, maybe there is, but you now have one less hidden side to worry about.
@@fuckdefucker It's that ""JUST GO" thing that's hard. I can relate to her struggles; I don't "just go" anywhere, because it feels like there's *nowhere* to go. Like, when I think about going somewhere, most times my mind just goes completely empty, and I feel *no* desire to go anywhere, and I can't force myself because I just don't know where to go; I don't know how to *want* to go anywhere. Even when I do, I can't go to places with lots of people because the noise alone can make me feel physically ill, so actually meeting people is really difficult. (I suspect I might be autistic to some degree, but I'm not diagnosed. I have an ADHD diagnosis though.)
I've also only very recently begun to figure out what "be yourself" even means, and for me it's something that doesn't seem to fit into what is considered "normal", so I have to overcome all sorts of internalized bullshit that has been pushed on me over the years. "Be yourself" is not really advice that always works for everyone. There are many places in the world where for many people "being yourself" is unsafe or even potentially deadly.
Seeing people give this advice is one of my pet peeves, because it only works if you don't have a problem in the first place; If you don't know how to even summon the desire to get out there or what it means to be yourself, it's completely unactionable.
@@nio804 I know its hard, don't worry, I'm the same. The thing is, most of what I'm hearing from her is that she doesn't have any friends. Yet there is solution to that problem. That was my point.
Your young,you have a full life ahead. Every one feels awkward and shy. I’m 65 and never found anyone. But I always get up like a puppy happy for a new day. You meet people by getting a good education. Put your energy in to studying. Instead of feeling sorry and down.life is what you make it.
Breaking my heart. What is important to learn is that everyone in this comment section wants to be your friend and wants you to be happy. I am no different. I'm thankful you put this video out there for the world to see.
Girl in a Blue Dress has no friends because I make better videos 😂😂
Thats not the point though, the point is theres nobody THERE IN REAL LIFE. Uk that best friend u can meet hang out with go to places have fun with them in REAL LIFE thats the point. Its the same for me, just like her so i definitely understand her. Obviously u can find "friends" online n some even stay for months n even yrs but hanging out in real life is just the real deal.
pipe down walmart wagie
kinda sad
Hey it's you!! :)
Hopefully this lovely young lass is happier these days and not feeling so lonely. She seems like a sweet person who ought to have some good friends.
Same here i hope she's doing alot better cause she deserves happiness ❤
same ❤
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where is she active in? what’s her name? how did you know bout that?
god bless her u b alright
Every few weeks I come back to this video. There's just something so comforting about seeing someone with the same struggles as you. I hope we all get better someday.
Bro just talk to people
@@foxterie7458I try but no one's interested. I just feel like the moment I begin to talk I'll mess up something. I stutter in front of girls my friends my parents cuz I am so much nervous to talk to people. Lockdown ruined me and i haven't had a serious human conversation since 3 years
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@@foxterie7458bro saying this as if it’s easy for everyone 💀
@@foxterie7458 Many of us did try man. I don't have a single friend anymore, all drifted apart.
Now when I tried to reconnect with old classmates/friends in the neighborhood, rarely did anyone reply.
They all have their own circle now. Sometimes it's really too late
im 25 yo and no JOB no GF i finished a college technical 1 year ago and Life is not easy good luck to anyone seeing this ...
Girl, you are not alone. Being an introvert, I still struggle with this sometimes. You have to tend and nurture relationships like you would a garden. If I don't do this, I get too comfortable being alone. It takes some effort. I wish the best for you and hope you're doing well.
I'm the same way. I used to be extremely extroverted until I had a long spout of depression which changed me as a person. I am actually really comfortable being alone now and find that having more than a few people around can get overwhelming. It's something I'm working on, though. The only way you can get better at something is through effort and repetition.
This poor beautiful woman just needs a man in her life. All she needs to do is lower her standards or be open to men, she is stunning and adorable she should be confident in her appearance. Any guy who turns her down is just an arrogant, shallow dickhead. As long as she lets men or women into her life there are millions that would be her friend and lover. Don't give up girl, you just need to be tough and realise that you are beautiful and deserve a man.
@@Maestro_Hulk100 percent!! She is absolutely a beautiful young lady. I pray she finds someone who cherishes her for her. She deserves the world!
I get this but it’s just that I am struggling to understand it I am a deeply unlikeable person because trying to nurture and organize friendships ALWAYS falls through
I don't think I've ever seen a video more relatable than this...
I sit here alone, hesitating and keeping my walls up, never interacting with anyone, in no opportunity to do so, only sharing brief "hellos" and shallow interactions or having brief online friendships. I'm 31 now and I feel like time has passed me by, I'm at the age where nobody makes new friends anymore and I honestly don't even know how I would.
Acceptance is something I've been struggling with. Sometimes there are nights when my heart is wrenching because I'm so alone, but I don't think anyone has the patience to put up with someone as reserved as I am, so here I stay.
I want to say that I hope for the best and hope that in the 5 months since you posted this your life has gotten better, but even if it hasn't, at least there's maybe some small comfort in knowing you're not alone.
Very similar how I feel, I'm 15 right now, at least I'm not the only person feeling the same emotions ❤
🙏❤ A frenemy is not thoughtful. It will always be about themselves. I once had a frenemy who never once said, "Oh come, lemme see where you are staying.. How's the acting going? I watched all of your shows. I watched 'Ugly Betty'; hoping that I'll see you in a scene. I'm so proud of you". None of that.
🙏❤ When somebody comes with snarck comment or they say or do one or two things that is uncalled for, know that that's a frenemy. They're keeping tabs on your life, "When did you buy that? How are you able to afford this?" Frenemies are in competition with you. They're not rooting for you, saying "You go girl! Do your thing. I'm supporting you. I'll be right here." .. They're in competition with you. I just moved out of the way and let her fly past and crash. Let your frenemies go before they drag you into their negativity and they distract you from being friends with bossbabes that love you; you love them; you love each other's families; you evolve; you grow together; she's the wind in your back; she's the sun ahead of you. And she really means the best for you. You have to get rid of a lot of people in your life. They're distractions that will distract you from your destiny, your ultimate goal. Throw them out. Don't respond to their accusations. They're not worthy of your golden time.
🙏❤ You build your brands; your careers, (your husband, your children). Be happy. Evolve to be this positive wonderful person. Don't let negativity in your life. I have seen it a couple of times. It happened to me. There are no regrets; only experiences. -Fumi Desalu Vold
Very similar to how I feel i'm 14 most 14 year olds in my town go out and hang out with their friends but I'm in my room alone watching movies cause I have no friends to hang out with
I'm 22,start planning to live alone for the rest of life.
@@zimojiang163221 and it definitely feels that way 😢
I honestly hope this girl found happiness and joy in life
2 and half million views cause most of people don't have friends, and this video really touch them, Believe me, having friends is very difficult, especially in our era. Even all the friendships you see in your life are fake; they are merely based on interests. Don’t rely on anyone, and don’t concern yourself with friendship. The most beautiful friendship is the one you have with yourself.
I'm 41 with no friends and no life. Your video speaks volumes. Life is very heart breaking. I hope your life becomes everything you dream of. I wish you happy thoughts.
thats very kind of you to say, and i hope youre okay ❤
Do you want to maybe.. talk about something? Like video games or tv show or.. whatever's on your mind? I know it probably won't lead to anything special, but it's worth a shot, right?
@@user-pu6pn8vt5dHey, I know you didn't ask me but I would like to. I don't have any friends at all so it would be nice to talk to someone about anything.
Making friends after your 20s and maybe early 30s is almost impossible unless you make them in the workplace or are very outdoorsy. I work from home and like to stay in most of the time. That's a recipe for a solitary life.
you made it this far, you maybe happier than with people with friends lol
wow, listening to this was almost hearing out loud my own thoughts. I feel the exact same way as you do, I turn 23 in two months and I feel like I haven't experienced really anything at all. I have no real life friends, no job, still live at home with my mom, and I'm at home 24/7. It gets really hard some days, and I distract myself with meaningless things in order to not fall into a depressive episode when I realize my situation. I don't know what to do either, and I really resonate with what you said about not being able to follow through with plans, I do the exact same thing, turning down the off chance someone invites me to do something because I would rather stay at home, even though deep down I don't actually want to do that. So I also understand what you mean by feeling like you only have yourself to blame for being in the situation you're in. I think it just becomes unusually hard to socialize once you've been by yourself for so long, you kind of forget how to, like how to read body language or just how to keep a conversation going. I also haven't experienced anxiety like this in a long time, and I really believe that has a lot to do with why it's so hard to meet people and even hangout in person with friends I only text. I'm in my head a lot, probably too much, and it's so hard to change my ways because of it. I hope you know you're not alone in feeling this way, I really feel for you and I'm so sorry you're going through this because I know how painful it can be. You should feel really proud of yourself for finishing college and getting your own apartment, that's something I can only hope to do someday, and seeing someone going through similar things as me being able to accomplish those things is really inspiring, so don't ever think you aren't someone to look up to. I really hope things get better soon
Do you feel it's not the right time to get a pet you can walk out like a dog?
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You’re so brave.❤️
@Personal everyone feels like a loser. It's why so many try so hard
I look up to her too for being brave and expressing her feelings. They really helped me understand that Im also not alone in feeling this way
Social anxiety is really intense. It holds you back from initiating with others, leaves you stuck in your head, creates a vibe of aloofness that pushes others away. I had a rough period when I was in my early 20s. I got a therapist to help me manage my anxiety, chose a job that requires lots of communication, and forced myself to talk. I took classes for things, karate, guitar, piano, filled my time with activities, some social, some solitary. I went on job interviews i didn't even want just to practice talking to strangers. It gave me things to talk about with others as well as kept me busy. I was in a constant state of being scared shitless at first, ngl. I stuttered a lot, I got nervous, I embarrassed myself, got laughed at, but it's really improved and I have friends that were so patient with me in the beginning. I'm 30 now. It truly can be done if you can start working on the negative feelings attached to interacting with others. I live far away, but if you want a pen pal I'd trade emails and be your friend!
I could use one
Yes this is it. This is the answer I'd love to have written myself ❤
Am literally the same and it has made me stuck in my life 😞
This gives me some hope 🥲
2 years late to this video. Hope things have got better for you. I relate to exactly how you feel. Im 33 and dont have a single friend in person anymore besides my wife (if you can really count that cus its just not the same) and the only other few friends I still have all live in different states now with their own lives going on. It feels super hard on me because I grew up with such a tight friend group and always had friends and ppl to turn to and talk to when I'm feeling low and now I don't have that... It's a shitty feeling and as you get older it gets harder to make friends.. hope things got better for you and hope you found some friends because you seem super chill. Thanks RUclips recommendations.
"most superficial thing ever..."
girl i feel you on everything you just said, i didn't care to try to make an effort because it seemed like nobody wanted to spend time with me, nobody interested in me. So I lost interest in relationships and isolated. It felt good for times I needed to cope because I've always coped alone but it's been slowly killing me psychologically and I hate it for that.
This is the most genuine thing I've seen on RUclips ever, don't worry about crying, it's a natural thing for all (or most) humans!
You have to try and be active, and interesting, otherwise yeah people aren't interested and they move on, you have to be constantly trying to have friends to have friends.
Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰
@@nathanstarnz5468Yeah the problem here is this is an easy way for narcissistic people to look down on other people. This happens all the time.... You also start to seek out "being interesting" instead of being yourself, which usually is far more interesting but hey 😂
Interesting is my issue, and I'd argue it's subjective. I think people are interesting inherently, everyone is different. I can talk about politics and philosophy or marijuana for 8 hours straight, I love it and it interests me people's opinions, how they got there, how it affected their morals etcs.
Versus "ate bro you see the game" 😭 like brother I can only pretend to care for so long. You simply need to find people that enjoy what you enjoy.
Imo, you can ONLY vibe with people who have no interests as you, but you're "interested in" if it's heavily transactional, and usually around sex, business or drug use. Most humans desire both, and you can totally have multiple groups.
@@Melissa-818you’re not helping
@@nathanstarnz5468I think it's more important to be interested in people, than be interesting.
I literally don't know how I stumbled upon this video, but I cried the whole time because I used to think no one else felt the same way. I'm about to finish my first year of college with NOT even 1 solid friendship, and I hate myself for it. It sucks to see everyone going out, experiencing stuff and actually living their lives and then I'm just here doing the same thing every single day. Thank you for posting this I really needed to see this, and for everyone else on the same boat, hang in there hopefully it will get better for us
I’m in the same boat. In college going through a rough time right now, especially right now. Hang in there, if not for yourself for the people you love. For me it’s my mom. I care about you, you got this :)
Joining clubs or groups it's a great way to meet someone new, since those people have similar interests. It's also important to be yourself, if someone wants to be your friend it will be for who you trully are not for a fake personallity. Try to attend social events like parties, meetups or network events and start conversations with someone you don't know. Ask them about their interests, what they do for a living, or if they've seen any good movies or TV shows lately. When you're meeting new people, it's important to be a good listener. Show interest in what they're saying and ask follow-up questions. Don't forget to mantain that relationship and never give up. Making friends can be challenging but it's duable.
aw tuffin up no need to be a baby like this won
Yeah you are not alone! I too go through the exact same thing! 😢 But yeah hopefully things will get better for all of us!!!
@@Iamma7moud same here 😔 I have just finished my first year of college and I still get really sad seeing everyone hanging out with eachother and I am left out! 😢
I think what is frustrating is, if I saw her I would assume she already had a lot of friends, a boyfriend and an over all happy life based on how she looks and that she probably wouldn't want to waste time talking to a loser like me. And it makes me think how many people I didn't bother talking to who were also very lonely desperate for friendship. I wish there was a way for lonely introverts like us to connect and talk to each other without having to fear being rejected.
Go up and talk to ppl. Ik it's not that easy but if u don't get in that habit you never will. Sooner is better than later
Rejection is life tbh. Not everyone will like us and it's ok. You have to try harder and eventually it will be natural
same.I already start planning to live alone for the rest of life.
I wish that too.. I really liked the idea that we are the lonely who are afraid of being rejected can connect to each other because you know we can understand each other more than anyone can because who have lots of friends won’t understand like a lonely person who have no friends
The existence of the other means rejection is inherent. Learn to accept it as a fact of life and it will no longer cause you problems.
Growing up throughout high-school and college I had the complete opposite experience. I was surrounded by multiple friend groups and would always have someone to hang with on the weekends and experience things with. However, It got a little to exhausting for me and I soon realized that I was going no where in my life because I would focus primarily on what my friends would think and tbh most of the times we did end up hanging out always lead to alcohol abuse and drug use. I'm 28 now and I have left all my friend groups (we message from time to time but we don't hang out) and I've come to realize I am in true bliss. It's empowering to have your own time and be with yourself and get to understand yourself better. I'm in a much happier place now.
I'm a 51 year old man, and yet I still found this extremely relatable. Please accept a big virtual hug. And if you happen to read this, please let us know -- how are you holding up?
19 year old girl here and I feel you andrew! it’s funny, even when we feel lonely every single day we are never actually alone!
@@spideylexithat’s a great thought.
We were drawn to the title for a reason…and then she read my thoughts.
Poor thing. Wish she could see what we see❤
@@spideylexihave you seen the newest Super Mario movie?
@@godswill2527 sure have
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we as a society have got to talk more about loneliness. It's always so strange that it's a human emotion that we all experience but for some reason most are so scared to talk about.
I'm really proud of you for talking out loud about it!
Talking about it is not enough. We should do something about. We need a community and encourage others to be together and not just say “Loneliness is a huge problem…”
Very true I blame social media
@@Godzilla4eva completely agreed the did a docu on shorts actually degrade and make us more stupid by watching such things in short attention span. Everyone is so disconnected and striving for some time of right personality I don't understand. Suxz ❤️
We should also discuss family dysfunction and estrangement. Work and family is like high school at times.
2 years later, I'm watching and I feel I'm the one who is speaking in this video.
Try something new, Don't expect anything from anyone.
And life goes on
@@rabiaakheirieasy to say then done
@@Hhh-m5s-g8f because u are weak
You are not alone. Hugs
Same
Ironically, if i was her age, I'd have probably seen her as a good choice to make friends with at high school
I completely understand how you're feeling. I'm 27 yrs old and have zero friends. I never go out. Have never experienced ANYTHING. No parties, clubbing, etc. I'm either at work or at home. No in between. It can be very lonely, but what has helped me is just working on myself. I still have my bad days, but I've come to the realization that being alone is better than being surrounded by people who are not adding to your life. It will be okay ❤
Edit: This comment was for OP and others in this predicament to let them know they are not alone in feeling this way and that it can get better. Just because my situation has gotten a bit better NOW doesn't give anyone the right to invalidate my past/present experiences. That's wild. It's like telling someone battling depression that they don't look depressed. Some people just mask well. Thank you to all the kind comments❤ Bye✌🏼
Samee, there's days where im good nd other days when the loneliness hits lol
I am alone, but not lonely
Im here for u if u need anything @@shesadiamond5167
Is it grippy tho
Me neither I have just escaped domestic abuse and not one of the friends we had bothers anymore they all sided with him so I sit alone every night with my 3 kids (my only real friends and I adore them) and watch my ex best friend go out drinking with her husband and my violent ex.i wish I had a friend who I could speak to,maybe take the kids out and stuff I didn't do anything to lose them all
I'm a single 39 year old man with no children and never been married. I live alone. I work full time and own my house. I'm happy. Living in North West Ohio
Dont you feel lonelyness ?
@@efremsa I do
Hi
I hope you will got friends maybe a wife as soon as possible
But if you want an advice from me ?
Search about islam
Even if we are alone we dont feel loneliness
Good luck in your life @@ajkundrath9661
Oh that's great but also a bit lonely , Wishing you good health and always happy❤
@@efremsa en mi caso tengo 30, vivo en República Dominicana, tengo mi propio negocio de desarrollo web, vivo solo... pero no me siento solo. Mantengo contacto con mi papá y mamá y tengo un par de amigas con derechos... supongo que sentir o no soledad es un tema de salud mental y tu propia mentalidad. Honestamente me siento mejor así que estando permanentemente acompañado, casado o viviendo con mis padres.
I have no friends left now and I have spent so much time alone I find it hard to change. Listening to you talk is like listening to my own thoughts. I came to realize that everything I worry about is what society says I have to be. You don't have to be anything. You don't owe the world anything. There is no mold you need to fit into. You are great.
this is the best quote to live by, ur exactly right
it is no a coincidence that so many people are in the same path we are the byproduct of something that is out of our control we were design to be this way we were programed to be this way over the fact that there are too much people on the planet and those who design that are using many ways for that purpose feminism gaysism transgenderism and now pedophilya race
You seem very likeable and sweet, you will find good friends. Don't worry about high school because most people in high school are superficial at that age anyway and people rarely stay in contact with high school friends once they're adults. College... Maybe not as superficial but still generally after college people don't stay in contact much since they move on with their lives and the main commonality they had was being in the same college.
As an adult, the nicer thing is that you will tend to search for people that share similar passions as you, enjoy similar things and live similar lifestyles which in turn generally will make them better friends.
Nobody likes being alone, I'm sorry to hear that's what you've been dealing with. I can feel your pain.
I hope you find some good friends soon because you are absolutely worthy of it!
Im a 26 male and have 0 friends, barely any family to talk to. What helped me out the most, was finding more than one job to stay busy. Im not the smartest, the best looking, but all I know is I try. You got this girl! I believe in you :) #KeepFighting
Edit: Appreciate all the wholesome comments ❤️
staying busy is great. the only thing worse than being lonely is being lonely and bored
yeah i’m trying to find stuff to do since i’m still in school
This is going to be me in the future 😀
Yes, boredom is the worst thing in this life.. It makes you think about things you shouldn't be thinking about
man, u precisely describe me
You can still feel alone among fools. It's hard to find wise friends.
That's exactly it! I've always felt alone and nobody understands why. This is why
Fake friends can actually make you feel lonelier than if you were alone
You can even feel alone amongst intellectuals....imho
@@ceeejay9112 It's not about being an intellectual or having a high iq, it's about being able to appreciate your friend and love them for who they are and being loyal. If you make fun of the struggles of a friend for instance, you're a fool.
But being the only fool around the wise feels like being kicked while I’m already down.
You are going through allot and it sounds allot like social anxiety. Highschool is tough because kids are ignorant, Adulthood is tough because people are busy and apathetic. It's just tough to make friends and I'm going through a similar struggle myself as an introverted guy who struggles with opening up to people. I'm 34 now and as I have gotten older I have learned to be more accepting of myself, started going to the gym, started letting myself cry, and just trying to be more mindful of how my brain works, but I still struggle with not having any friends.
Therapy can be a powerful tool in situations like this because a therapist can really help you unpack your thoughts and feelings allot better than you can when you are deep in the depths of a depression or anxious mood. You are young and good looking you WILL find someone 100%! but you need to push yourself out of your comfort zone and maybe change a few things. I would recommend going to therapy, people see therapists for less severe problems. Please don't turn to alcohol to cope with this that will only make things worse. We're all rooting for you!
the mind created a big ego identity out of it. now shes trapped in the shame spiral fabricated by the ego
I've gone the reverse route of "letting myself cry". I did that crap when I was 17 and it only ever made depression worse. Like, I got addicted to crying and feeling sorry for myself. Gave myself an ultimatum to do it, or stop whining. Well, I'm still here, so I didn't "do it".
Anyway, I went through a rage phase, made a buttload of money with that rage, and am now retired in my 30s in a stoic phase. Not really good at "stoic", yet, but I'm doing my best.
As for friends. I just need to finish the roof and clean the place up. Physical barrier now, instead of mental one. No one wants to hear about all your baggage. You don't have to share every little neuroticism you have. Trust me, they know. Just carry on. The world will start weeding out the weak soon. Forge your alliances and get stronger.
Girl in a Blue Dress has no friends because I make better videos 😂😂
@@manictiger that simply what it is. I am broke also no friends but who gives a f and for why. No one needs a sympathy just move on. And develop a little apathy world is not a quiet good place to be a sensitive person so just don't be one.
You are older than when you were starting high school but yo uare astill young, go make some frinds, you are on the age of having them, going to party, doing activities, travelling, etc.....make them and enjoy
Try to be social on the gym
I did in the calisthenics park in my city and i´ve made osme contacts there....be open to talk, ask question, make some jokes, say hi or bye when you leave...and you have chances to do it
Good luck
This, to the whole world. You're truly a strong brave girl and shown that we may be in different situations but we're not so different at all.
I have no friends either. I haven’t had one since I was 17..now I’m 26 and my mom is the only friend I got.
Real😊
I'm 28. Same thought. My mom is my bestfriend.
Me too. But we can be friends 🫶
I’ll be your friend I’m also 26 turning 27 on the 24th I’m getting old :(
@@klarge24 27 isn't that old 😌. I am 21 years old. Btw where are u from ??
The Loneliest People are often the best people you will ever meet. We aren't shallow, we aren't vain, we simply just crave connection with others, however because of our deep emotional ties to others, other people feel threatened by us. We see people for who they really are, we say it how it is, and that scares them. If you were a true friend you would stop your friend from doing something stupid. That kind of act is never appreciated in the moment, but appreciated in hindsight. That is why we are lonely people only care about us after we are gone from their lives.
beautifully said
Nice comment
I'm 22 and I feel this so hard I had plenty of acquaintances at school but never hung out with anybody outside of school, and now i'm feeling the consequences
I did hang out with friends a lot after school/during holidays. But now I’m in the same boat as you. Nothing bad happened, just drifted apart.
Do you Instagram sweetheart?
@@retro.raiderTrue. After you stop visiting a place together, you realize how much harder friendship becomes! School/college/job/offline courses/activities make it much easier by solving the problem "where and when do we meet and who is going to be the initiator of the negotiagion about it".
I just turned 22 last month and I've left only one year in college and I'm feeling so sad 💀 , I've been having severe anxiety because i realize i have no friends outside college and I'm so lonely I've spent the whole summer alone
And i realized my friends in college ain't that real friends :( and I'm going to graduate without any friends :(
Literally the same as me
People don't grasp how hard this stuff is. It comes naturally to some but not everyone, doesn't mean it's any easier to be without it. Definitely relate to these feelings, my heart goes out to you. It's not sad or pathetic to be struggling either :)
I’m Japanese and I’m 24 years old,
I have no friends, I’m really alone.
I stay at home by myself in holiday all day.
And my family and I don’t get along , so I can’t go home.
And sometimes I drink for forgetting it but my heart is breaking off…
But when I read this RUclips, I know there are people like me
Of course there are…… BUNCH
@@なーさん-g3p I wanna be your friend.
I'm 23 , from Pakistan and i think it is globally the same
Hello from Russia, i guess
Whats your instagrams, lets connect
As a father, my heart is fu#@ing breaking for you. You literally have me in tears. wishing the absolute best for you youngster. I don't mean for this to sound any way dear, but I adopted a scared animal from the animal shelter when I had no friends. The road it took me was endless, boundless, and wonderful. My absolute prayers for you child. Realize how incredible you are for doing what you are doing. I'm in rehab from drinking.drinking is NOT the road to take. You've got what it takes. But it's gonna take all you've got sweetheart.
My father fell off the wagon after more than 20 years of sobriety. I know it's extremely difficult to quit. Stay strong.
You sound like an amazing dad. I never had a dad that was nice like this. God bless you
@@hannahwest3140 I'm praying for you as well youngster. The holidays can be hard. Especially without certain family around. *Long distance hug
wow, keep strong you are too, amazing
Wow, you sound like such an amazing person.
I'm 30; married and have a son. I remember being in your shoes; it literally feels like yesterday. I'm going to clue you in on something very important that I wish I would have known over a decade ago.
Those people you see; holding hands, going to parties, living out their college dreams, all the posts you see on social media. It's all a facade; believe me! You are witnessing people that largely hold themselves together by living out a series of artificial interactions and made up stories on social media to please their parents and friends. After college, a significant amount of these people tend to fall apart in life.
There's always things you can do to increase you sociability, relatability, empathy, and mannerisms. However, in a world where people are digging further and further into artificialness; you need to know that it's not solely a YOU problem.
Try to focus on gaining ONE true friendship at a time. Volunteering is a good way to meet people and they don't have to be your own age as well. Having a female mentor (if your mom is not active in your life) is essential. Just as much as having a male figure for a man is.
Don't envy the kids you see at college. Try and push yourself more into the direction that you want to go and work on your own shortcomings. True friends and relationships will naturally fall into place :)
This is facts honestly, I second this. That's why I dont use instagram for stupid crap, just memes.
couldn't have said it better thank you
Girl in a Blue Dress, read what @vladimirofsvalbard9477 wrote!
Thank you
I mean, whatever you gotta tell yourself, but nah, my guy, people going to parties, having relationships (both friendly and romantic), and generally enjoying life isn’t ’artificial’. You telling yourself that to make yourself feel better about the years of your life you spent lonely and miserable is what’s artificial. 🤷♂️🤦♂️🤷♂️
Hope your feeling better today! I remember watching this a few years ago when I was in a similar situation and honestly it really made feel seen and that I was not alone and hopefully if your reading this you can see your not alone and that you are worthy of love and happiness
Damn we need to protect this girl at all costs. She really needs a big hug and someone to open up to in person
You have people like that near you and you don’t even notice it
where are her parents
Well, that's the whole point of the video you silly goose 🤣
She is not alone, she looks like a good kid being invisible for some reason.
@@AlmightyScorchy damn, what's that culpabilization stuff? you don't even know him (I assume is a guy, because as a boy I felt something similar.
You are my new hero. I'm 38 years old and my whole life has been spent feeling alone, and the thought of being brave enough to speak publicly about it terrifies me. You got heart and I truly admire your courage. Hang in there!
Im 48 and friendless. Didn't have friends in middle school didn't have high school friends. Had several jobs where i didn't make friends with none of them. Except one person who was 34 years older than me. I cant relate to people my age. Thats why i like working with elderly people. I am married so i talked to one person.
Mine hero also
Friends come and go. Maintaining friendships that cost what little time left in each day is attempting the impossible. In philosophy, theodorus believes that friendship doesn't exist, since wise people are independent and don't need friends, while the unwise enter into friendships merely to satisfy their own needs (hence aren't really friends).
She has mad heart no doubt about it. But most likely no one that knows her in real life will ever see this video unless they type in the right words in the search bar or blunder across this video which is unlikely. So in that sense she is anonymous. Regardless though, mad heart. Most or all of us typing in the comment section are struggling with the same stuff she's struggling with to varying degrees and circumstances
Your hero is the girl who cheated on her boyfriend and then painted herself as the victim, no wonder you have no friends.
I know this vid is one year old but still I think it's important to say that a person like you (crying and reflecting about your situation) is not dumb or not worth having friends. I don't think it's your fault that people can't see that you have a great heart. I mean, it's still not easy making friends even if we have the internet nowadays. I just hope that everyone who is alone and feeling these emotions like you do can find some lovely people to hang out with
Maybe my comment above could help?
Ile drink to that 👍
Cheers 🍻
You are so kind❤
Nothing’s wrong with you, pookie. You’re not lazy when it comes to making friends-it’s just difficult, and that’s ok. You deserve to feel loved, appreciated, and surrounded by people who truly care about you and make you feel at ease. It’s been two years since you shared this, and I really hope by now you’ve found true friends-friends who make you laugh so hard your tummy hurts, who understand you, and who make you feel like you belong. I know I don't really know you and it's literally been two years plus there's a huge age gap since I'm in my 10s? ( I don know if that's a thing, I mean people in their 20s say 20s so I'm guessing 10s? ) but I would love to be your friend!
I get how lonely it can feel sometimes. But, I want you to know you’re not alone. There are so many people out there who’ve experienced what you’re feeling, and we’re rooting for you. I truly hope things have gotten better for you and that you’ve found the love and happiness you deserve. You’re amazing, and I hope you never forget that. Good luck gurlie!
Girl I’m sitting here eating some pizza, watching this video and crying my eyes out. I can relate on so many levels, not only is it a challenge to find friends, it’s a challenge to find YOUR friends. I’ve had “friends” who aren’t my vibe but I kept them around because I wanted at least a friend. That’s just as bad, if not more lonely than actually being alone. I don’t know why it’s so hard to find your tribe, but I try to keep faith that they are coming. I’d be lying though if I didn’t say that there are days that I cry my eyes out because I feel so alone and days when I wonder if I’ll ever find my tribe. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability.
wow you explained my situation perfectly.
@@carolyn8147 same
Exactly:(
@@Celestials1aurora 💔💔
@@lalissa466 do you wanna be like friends 🚶
I genuinely hope she's ok, would love to get a update from her!
Yes like don’t do anything hasty.
she killed herself 1 week ago
what????@@WeirdPlace-g3e
@@WeirdPlace-g3e Source?
I love it how people pretend to care about some random girl killing herself. It is her choice. She didn't like life? Every person is free to leave,because life can be horrible to some people.
I truly hope you're in a better place in life now. Making friends takes confidence and a bit of courage. If you lack these traits today, you are likely to gain them at a later point in life. I used to make friends extremely easily at your age, but decades later, not so much. I too am very lonely. I crave connections and friendships, but I stand in my own way. Now older, I am no longer that person who made friends so easily. Despite my strong desire to do so, I have a mental mindset that keeps me to myself. There have been many times I overcame that mental state, reached out, and started friendships only to find myself shutting the door again. Much of this comes from depression and possibly bipolar disorder. That's my self-diagnosis, but I really don't know why I'm that way. The reason I am telling you this is because I'm obviously not the same person I was then, and no one stays the same as the years pass. Never give up on yourself because you never know who you will grow into being. It could be next year, or it may take several years. All you can do is your best, and I, along with a couple of million others, are wishing for you to have in your life whatever brings you happiness. I hope to see an update from you-that would be wonderful. Take care of yourself. 🤗
This woman is so relatable. I hope she's made thousands of friends. If not, I'll go eat pizza and talk with her. And then we can both be quiet introverts for the rest of the day while we watch TV and eat the leftover pizza.
She's a wonderful person for sharing this. She's actually really good at expressing herself. I'm the kind of person who likes to ask 1,000 questions and get opinions about stuff. She seems like someone I'd love to talk to.
@@peace691000why would you say this ?
@@TakeItToTheMicwhat did she say?
1000 friends is bound to be superficial ones though.. better to have 5 or 10.
@@martinpetersen6266yes
@@martinpetersen6266 let me rephrase: I hope she has thousands of friends to choose from
This is one of the most relatable videos on YT. Stay strong. We’re all gonna make it brahs.
I love you
#SaveSoil have you heard of the movement before?💓
@@Sunkissed333 do you? Or are you just asking for attention
@@LilXancheX when someone is feeling so low and expressing how they feel especially a teenager, its everyones job to make them feel better. I do that everywhere, even if you were in her place bro i would have done the same, i never seek attention, attention dont pay my bills.
@@Sunkissed333 who said she was a teenager?
And how is it everyone’s job?
This is how I feel. I typed in “I have no friends” in the search bar. This is my exact feelings. I’m terrified of getting married because I know I’m expected to have a wedding and have bridesmaids and people to invite but I have no one. I feel like I’m meant to be alone forever. I’m so embarrassed how behind I am in life at 25, socially.
So let me get this straight. You're afraid of getting married, which means you're in a long term healthy relationship, and you're scared that you're gonna be alone forever...
Uh.... Really?
My boyfriend has plans of getting married with me and I always feel so bad. He is so lucky he has so many friends and I have girlfriends to turn to. He said to at least have five, FIVE! I haven’t had a friend like that since high school. I’m so embarrassed of confronting him about this, if I ever do get married I don’t think I’ll even have bridesmaids. Don’t even want to think about how his family is gonna take it, i feel like they already see me as a quiet girl. I can’t help but think of them calling me a quiet loner next.
It is your life to live. I've got married without any celebration and guests, even parents. We just went to the local Marriage Registry, got date of the process, came that date, signed the documents. After that went for a walk, cafe, spending good time; got home, and everything esle is only for mature public😂 Of course it didn't save the marriage (divorced because not meant for each other, after all), but did everything as we wanted, not as society "asks to do" of "you are expected".
Trust you guys have nothing to be worried about. I know people who naturally have no friends or even family and still get married. It's actually better for them, because it helps them progress in life. You just have to teach yourself to be grateful and take each day as it comes.
I did the same thing. I searched “I am alone vlog”
Just shows no one is really alone even if we’re all alone.. if that makes sense
it feels kind of comforting knowing I'm not alone but I feel bad I'm not alone
This video is like looking into a mirror. I’m not gonna lie, it hurts so fucking bad seeing a reflection of my own feelings through another person. My comment is just one of many, but for the sake of both of us, let’s do our best. We will probably never know each other in our lifetime, but our experiences are so similar. Anyone who reads this only sees my words on their screen but, to you, Girl in a Blue Dress, and to anyone who also sees themselves reflected in your video, let’s be strong together and learn to carry ourselves through life so that we may be happy when we finally go. It’s incredibly vulnerable posting something so personal like this and I can’t thank you enough for doing so, so please ignore the trolls and internet assholes. I’m rooting for you and for both of us :)
@HeWhoSpeaks Uh huh, how old are you by the way?
@HeWhoSpeaks Wow, you should become a writer! You’re very good and making up your own stories about people.
@HeWhoSpeaks Oh yes I’m sure loneliness is the least of her concern, considering thousands of people in the comments have shown support for her. Seriously, if you’re over the age of 13 you’re worse off than her. It takes something worse than that to turn into someone like yourself. I hope your delusions make yourself feel better!
@HeWhoSpeaksSA??? You do realize you are talking about a young teen/child, right? Please tell me youre not using the word SA in the way i think you are, because thats horrifying
Same.
The bad thing about never having friends is that when you try to connect with others you don't know what to say, feel or do because for all your life you did not learn how to do that but instead learnt how to live without anyone
Yes you cannot be authentic. It's harder as adult.
@@alejandramarquez6804yes especially at 32
This!
I feel you hon. I spent most of my life so far without any close friends and have spent many weekends doing the same thing you do. I do get down about it sometimes. So many people come and go that it gets hard to let someone in, allow yourself to be vulnerable, build trust, and then they're gone. I'm almost 50. I've gone to dinner, vacation, movies and concerts alone. I've made my peace with it. You have one life to live, be your own best friend.
Right 👌
I’m a 50 yr young woman and I’ve made my peace with it too. I go to movies, concerts, vacations alone, but not dinners somehow. With me, it’s 2 problems. That I enjoy my own company a little too much and unless someone’s fun to be around, I can’t be bothered to be friends with them, and also that People trigger me when they show even a hint of competitiveness. I had a friend who I liked a lot but she went to jail for a financial crime, as fun as she was, that was my limit with her
Deuteronomy 31:8 Praying for you
"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." - Robin Williams. there is nothing wrong with you hun you are nice girl, you are beautiful, you have a good heart but you just have to focus on people who make you feel happy and better person. i will advice DO NOT search on internet for friends this is the worse place to find friends! go out hangout and talk with people. and when you feel you find good friends and you really feel you belong here just stay where you belong and NO MATTER what....do not lose them!
Making friends as an adult is incredibly hard and no one really talks about it! When you're not in the company of the same people every day to build a friendship over time it takes so much more effort which is really overwhelming. I hope you're okay, try not to beat yourself up, making friends as an adult is a challenging thing for anyone ❤
Yeah 😔
Yup...
It’s better to live alone and not have to worry about making friends. That’s what I do I just move on with life and get it done.
Brilliant!
Internet exist and as an adult you have the ability to fly out to an internet friend
Oh man, this hit so bad. You are SO brave for doing this and just look how many people resonate with you, which confirms you are NOT alone, there are many others like you, and there is NOTHING wrong with you!
I hope you read all of these supportive comments and it goes someway to comforting you. I really do hope since this video was made that you got to a better place emotionally and socially and found like minded people to bond with. 💜
Beautiful!!!❤️👍💯
Great reply!
The whole wishing to be with a friend, then when the opportunity comes, you just wanna be back home, is such a mood.
It's definitely more common than you may think.
Yepp I want to socialize with other but when I do I feel so anxious and it drains my energy so bad 😢
@@Candycloud_19 i also feel anxiety too
I‘m like that too. We need psycholigcal help to gain self confidence. Everyone is saying „go hit the gym and you‘ll become more confident“. Yeah well not me. I tried it and after one month I realized that i hate it and it doesn‘t help me. Not because there were no results. I know it takes longer to see something. I just felt like the same sack of sh*t as usual. So I think People like us need mental help. Who cries about being alone then finally becomes the opportunity not to be alone anymore but then you prefer to be alone again. I feel this 100% but I think that means we are mentally ill.
Yeah. About a couple months ago I went to a little social event for the first time. It was just a little thing my karate class was having so students could bond. Everyone over there is so friendly and *even more* friendly to each other. So yeah, some talked to me a bit, I felt okay I guess most of the time because they had activities to do that don’t require me having to sit and watch peoples long conversations with each other. But later, I’ve decided that I’m never going to those social events again now that I think back and remember how quiet and awkward I was. What was I thinking?!
Sucks, because I’m still not friends with any of those people and that’s the only extracurricular class I had where I thought the people were decent (I’m homeschooled, so I’m not around people my age a lot) this is way too long so probably no one will read this anyway, but I’ll still post it because I can’t really talk about it elsewhere-
God this is literally EXACTLY my life. The superficial friends in high school. Not doing anything after school. Losing contact with people as you progress through life. God it’s fucked up. Seeing them on instagram. Being alone in the dorm room. Its genuinely like looking into a mirror. You’re not alone. This I can promise you.
Girl in a Blue Dress has no friends because I make better videos 😂😂
@@cosmic3393 WTF MAN
The ironic part is, is I was struggling myself. I clicked on this video…and it was just what I needed. I felt like me and a friend were just venting with each other. I had a really productive internal dialogue, comparing my problems to yours and thinking of possible solutions. It just felt..like I had a friend here with me in this moment.
Same :(
Same to be honest. It was like for the first time I could piece my problems together just by elaborating in my mind as she spoke about hers too. I'm sobbing but it's somewhat of a good feeling, if not good at least relieving
Im in the same boat as you. Im 21, with no friends, I have like 0 communication skills, social anxiety, and I suffer with bad stress and depression over it. Like, I've tried to make friends but I've always messed it up because of my crap communication skills. Worst part for me is the side effects I get from stress and depression which further lower my self esteem and make me more stressed and depressed...
I hope we can all eventually get through this.
I know if someone takes the time for meeting you and knowing thing about you, I KNOW, they will find one of the most beautiful souls ever. I hope things can change soon!! Its all about just improving yourself. I know you can do it. I could do it. It took time, but at the very end, I found people who i can talk and laugh, cry, and.. I am very very proud of me. Cause, WOW!.. I got them, I didn't use to have FRIENDS... but now, I do look at me and I say "I could do it, I could found someone who really understand me. All the tries, all my effort was for this." Go ahead!
I know how you feel. I can still communicate somewhat but I just realized it's not because of social anxiety. It's just how I talk. I just can't do anything about it lmao. It doesn't really bother me cause I got friends on the internet.
I have no friends either, lets be friends?
@@pukingpearls Sure, dude! Do you have dc?
Bro just view them as npcs or equal because they are the same or worse than you
You are a great girl, with a beautiful soul, hope you always be happy.
I can tell you're an incredibly genuine person. You've done something most of us would never have the guts to admit to. I know this is late, but I resonate with your video very much. I hope you find the friends you deserve so very much :)
Being introverted sucks. I feel you. I feel so lonely but I love my space. I’m losing friends. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.
There is no wrong with u
Nothing is wrong with you.
@@syedibtisamhaider9257 those pseudoscientific terms are rather generalizing which I don't agree with but at the end they are explaining a specific matter for the better understanding. Although with that being said, they are kind of situational instead of fixed trait based on people's personalities. Our minds can control it and it's rather a choice of a person to be either extroverted or introverted. Both can be extremely difficult to go against tho
same here.
You want to be alone, right. But you don't wanna be Lonely
This is literally all I think about every single day. I feel like no one fully understands how crippling loneliness is. And it ends up being a cycle. You feel trapped and consumed. The saddest thing for me is the few instances in which I let people in my life they completely betrayed me or disappointed me in the worst ways. So I started to wonder if it was protective in a sense. I don’t know. I hope it gets better for you. I speak to my therapist about this every week and I’m trying to just get used to it.
Lol you're a ⬛♀you aren't alone. Y'all always being loud af and in groups
@@Blox117 lmao come on man, I didn't thought it happened either but apparently some of them are indeed lonely
@@enrater123 u guys are racist and sexist as hell, we're people too wtf
@Blox117 You don’t know me nor do you know black women either because we’re all very different.
@@Blox117 You really thought all black women were a monolith 😂
Back in a days i was sad that i had no friends, nowadays i think its a blessing.
I’m crying with you, and this is the heartfelt conversation I needed. I’m so glad that people are no longer afraid to show their true feelings and openly make videos about them, because I can watch them and know that I’m not alone and that not having friends is normal. it's so sad and cozy to cry together. I finally found what I was looking for for so long🌻
And most importantly, you are okay! Don’t think that there’s something wrong with you and that’s why you don’t have friends. You are a wonderful girl!❤
You are so kind
wow i didn't expect to cry so hard while watching this. Everything is so relatable that it hurts. Thankyou for being so vulnerable here.
You were so real for this. Despite all the influencers pushing super positive images of their lives, Gen Z is living much closer to this than what social media depicts.
Honestly a lot of people lack the insight to articulate what you're saying here, it's a valuable skill. Hope you make more videos.
not just gen z, many different generations are suffering from very similar situations due to covid. Our social skills took a huge hit during the pandemic, this is really bad because it's so common
It's the end result of Reaganism/Thatcherism. The deliberate destruction of community to push individualism. So many people feel alienated now, so many don't even know their neighbour's name.
@@asdfkjahsdfkls1123 To be honest covid is not necessarily the case, many people have been living in agony since they were a kid, myself here been in a limbo state for the past 12 years, bullied, ignored, family discrimination, etc. I cried so many times over the years even when I'm writing this. I don't know man life is a hell of test indeed
Now, this came up in my reccomended page this morning, and I feel like I need to give y'all a message. I've been there. Lonely, hated by everyone, all that bad shit. If you are also feeling that way I'll give you 3 words of advice. Just Keep Trying. Making friends Is luck based. Sometimes you'll find people who are assholes, and other times you'll find glorious human beings, so the trick is, keep trying, keep rolling that dice, and eventually, you'll find a proper friend. It took me about 4 years to find the friend group I'm in now, so these things take time, but if you are really willing to make friends, one day you will find a friend perfect for you.
I feel your struggle too. After I graduated from high school all my friends went separate ways and so did I. I got into community college and I would make a few acquaintances but nothing lasted. Graduated and transferred to university recently still haven't made friends yet. Tips I would suggest is you need to find some sort of distraction to get your mind off of this. Find something that could interest you or something your willing to learn in your spare time. Also something that can make you happy and motivated. Lastly maybe find a club you could have an interest in and the people in it might have similar interests with you :)
I am thinking about dropping out of school to focus on my career as a star on RUclips. I already make a lot of money on RUclips. School bores me so much. I need more opinions and since I don't have any friends, I gotta ask you, alex
@For Vls Channel Yeah, exactly. You make a video about it? WHining and just setting yourself up for a spiritual failure in life?
Maybe you muthafuckas need to get off the fuckin' internet and live life without wanting people to satisfy your ego so much. It's not natural.
I think it is super valuable that there is someone like you openly and sincerely talking about this. People often talk about how difficult is to find a couple or someone to have a romantic/sexual relationship with. But no one talks about how hard is to connect with someone in a friend kind of way. It seems that people get ashame about it, more than being single, because it is not supposed to be "normal."