I think you’re confusing high quality with well-adjusted. High quality women are not “above this”. They are raised or socialized in some fashion to avoid going off the deep end with such behaviors. There is no difference in quality. One woman is more well adjusted than the other. Mistaking that for quality is itself a mistake. This is I n the same fashion as a man who is socialized to be faithful to one woman. That socialization does not remove his biological interest in spreading his seed.
Do you get a lot of hate because of your channel ? I can imagine those crazy feminists who never watch any of your videos would basically murder you xD
I had a girlfriend who was still in contact with a number of her exes. She wasn't at all cagey when talking about them, she said they'd always been better friends than lovers and that the relationship had been a mistake but the friendship hadn't. She said she didn't think of them "that way" at all anymore. _At all._ She seemed to find it surprising, funny and even slightly touching that I was concerned. She assured me that I had nothing to worry about. She was very convincing. But lying. Absolutely lying. Don't trust a word out of their mouths. Don't trust the look in their eyes. Don't trust their happiness. Trust their actions and nothing else. If it looks bad it is bad, 99.99% of the time.
@@williamclayton9566 I went to use her laptop early one morning to look something up on the internet and a half-finished email she was sending to one of them was open. Not platonic. After that I went through her phone. She'd cleaned up after herself mostly, but when you're as invested as I was you find the stuff she missed. And there was a lot, still. Turned out some other guys I'd been concerned about who she'd said had never been boyfriends but 'just friends' were more 'just friends-with-benefits'. I'd been concerned iirc because they were always liking her pics on facebook and instagram. There were a few other red flags, but they were mostly related to specific people and exchanges. I'd just say trust your gut. If you're jealous and you don't have a personality disorder you probably have a reason to be. We're evolved to detect these things. I was very naive and very indoctrinated and I paid the price for ignoring my jealousy. Hard lessons but permanent. And for that at least I'm grateful.
@@williamclayton9566 Another very obvious one was that she was very "private" about our relationship. She would say it was nobody's business but ours and that she didn't want to "jinx" it by announcing it. I was her happy little secret, supposedly. I pushed her hard enough to announce it eventually. I think I had to give her a straight up ultimatum in the end, one I was absolutely willing to stick to. She tried one piss-poor 'announcement' which could've been anyone at all she was talking to, and when I rejected that one and stopped talking to her she got specific. I found out later that she told her various 'friends' that she'd just made it all up to stop guys from hitting on her all the time. I remember even at the time I was thinking to myself that if I had a friend who was telling me this stuff about his girlfriend I'd tell him to break up with her, that she was almost certainly cheating. But she was an unbelievably convincing liar. Near the end I decided to test her on something I'd found in her phone (something I'd just found out which she didn't know I knew yet). I wanted to see if I could detect any kind of tell that she was lying. But there was nothing. Even knowing that she was lying to my face I believed her for half a second. When I looked into her eyes I saw nothing but sincerity and the girl I thought I knew. I don't think lying and manipulation is just a skill for them; I think it's a trait they're evolved to have. We have counter-traits in jealousy and critical thinking, as long as we listen to them.
@@williamclayton9566 Other obvious red flags: tattoos, blue hair, piercings, high body count, scars from cutting, progressive, bi, kink interests. And admitting past cheating. She blamed these on bipolar, which she'd been diagnosed with. She said she'd been on the wrong medication for it but had recently been put on more appropriate medication by a new psychiatrist and had therefore put that other lifestyle behind her. She said she hadn't been sexually active for a couple of years. I knew a bit about bipolar so was willing to believe her. And she really did have a diagnosis for it. But I don't think she really had it. I saw none of the other symptoms of it while I was with her. Antisocial personality disorder and histrionic personality disorder both matched her better. But from my time with her and from everything I've learned since I have two firm convictions: once a cheater always a cheater, and once a slvt always a slvt. There's no such thing as a reformed slvt. Not only have I never met one, but I've never met anyone who's met one. Though I've met plenty of people who know slvts who pretend to be reformed but aren't.
@@williamclayton9566 Sorry, I wasn't intending to drip feed red flags from smallest to biggest. I just don't think of her or the relationship much anymore. I've kept the lessons and left the memories. For a long time that was my whole world just about, I couldn't think of anything else. Now I barely think of her at all. But I do still try to warn guys from time to time to learn from my mistakes, in comments like these. And I think guys are generally getting smarter thanks to the internet generally and manosphere especially. But feminism is absolutely trying to make them dumber.
Although its true, there's no point in getting back into a relationship with an ex after dumping them, trust me. They only miss you and want you back so they can either cheat on you or dump you in order to reset their ego validation.
Thats facts, although often times if you leave a girl she will genuinely want you back. But if she gets you back, she will lose respect for you most of the time because you just made a complete 180 on a pretty major decision. This loss of respect almost always manifests in her leaving you or cheating on you later.
@@callanc3925 This happened to me. I should have never taken her back. I was blamed for all problems, she took her frustrations out on me, and her shortcomings were somehow my fault. When I finally had to discipline her with rules, I believe then is when she began working out a plan to break up with me a second time. That was twelve years ago.
She can say to your face that she hates you like Anakin Obiwan on Mustafar at 13:00, then she will cuddle with you and more at 16:00. And to women, this transition is completely natural, since she frequently feels different things. Thats why you don't care what a woman thinks. If she loves you, she will copy your opinions anyway, they change their opnions based on what men they admire, think. IF you can't create those emotions within her, you are boring to her.
@@HyperVegitoDBZ That's simply sexist to say stuff like that and also makes you sound bitter. Yeah, my father's wife and my brother's gf are not acting like that, have their own opinions and values that dont just change through emotions.
Fascinating I was raised by a mom and 2 sisters I watched my sisters and mom poorly treated In my 10 year old mind I made a simple calculation To succeed with women when I started dating all I really needed to do was treat them nice BOY WAS I WRONG
LMAO! Women are NOT logical in the least! I had a bunch of female friends who complained about boys, and i came to the same conclusion as you! and like you it went very poorly for me too!
There are so few eligible men who want a real relationship based in reality. Men have cultivated a lot of bad habits that make realistic relationships impossible.
Just follow 2 rules 1) be polite, honest, & direct. 2) say what you mean, & mean what you say. Or, your words & actions MUST ALIGN. People who matter, don't mind. And people who mind, don't matter. - Dr. Seuss Being this way is simple, though not easy.
Yep, she's already come to the conclusion of whether she likes you or not. Anything you do will be used to justify that conclusion, so just live your damn life
Yeah, but attractiveness doesnt only express itself in good genetics. Self confidence, humour, being relaxed and seldom showing negative emotions around them should do the trick. If you think youre ugly, women will do the same. If you get frustrated by rejection, women will notice your desperateness.
Oh, and in my opionion the most important fact: try to always ridicule women in a playful manner. Demonstrate their inferiority (even if she is "out of your league" [impossible as you are a man]), but with finesse. They will love you for it
@@justanotherfan7491Yeah that’s almost entirely BS. If you’re physically very ugly then none of those things you mentioned are going to do anything for you. If you’re relatively good looking, then those things simply make you even more attractive. Don’t fall for the BS.
I filed for divorce & seperated from my ex 18 years ago. We had a child together, with joint custody, so we had to stay in regular touch with each other. Three times over the past 18 years she's suddenly came on to me and tried to reestablish things. Within a week of things kicking-off, she "randomly" made up reasons to send me off to "see" a close relative to pick something up, go to one of her family events, or otherwise meet with them (including her parents). After from 4-6 weeks, there suddenly was some superficial, made up lame excuse to cut things off. Every time. It dawned on me years later (yeah, I'm a bit slow on these kind of things) that she was trying to "re-write history" for herself and with her family, trying to rehabilitate her reputation and repaint herself as being desireable ("look, he came back to me, didn't he...? I guess I wasn't so bad after all...") and the actual "victim" in all of it. Once you go your own way, stay there. There is no benefit to going back, even for a minute.
I have a slightly different experience... I left my wife of 15 years, 9 months, and 3 days with our daughter. In the state of NJ, it's 50/50 custody and that is to protect men. What I found weird is the obsession my x has with my dating life. She asks my daughter questions about it. However, unlike my x, I do not discuss who I sleep with to my 16 year old daughter. It's NONE of her business and it's definitely none of either's business. I have have a series of extremely meaningless "relationships" with 23 to 27 year old women over the last year. The women in my family like to ask me questions about my x wife and they seemed surprised I have little to no information. I don't like my x nor the way she lives her life which is why I'm not interested. I often say that I'm NEVER heading back to Shashank!!!
Everytime ive been dismissive of women they've loved me for it...honestly i dont like it at all...its like why do i have to treat you like this to get love and affection....
I've noticed this too and struggle with it. Why would I want to be around someone I think less of? Yet treating women like less is the only time I have "successful" relationships
I was aware this and still got caught. My ex was a divorcee and went on a date before me and she told me about a tall guy that arrived late, got so drunk that he could hardly walk and was really rude and obnoxious. She called him "the tall guy". A few months into dating her I noticed she would describe me as "not tall". To her, my best feature was my lack of height (I am taller than her). I asked her, "If I met this unrealistically high standard that you have in your head called "tall", what would you have called the tall guy?" She thought about it and said "the drunk asshole". Indirectly, I got her to admit that I would have to be tall for her to view him in a negative light and there is nothing I could ever do to be seen in a positive light, or be respected by her. I ended it after a year and then things got nasty. She understood when I explained that due to my unrealistically high standard for intelligence, the thing I love about her the most, is that she is "not smart". I am annoyed with myself for wasting a year. I didn't think one date would be enough to mess with their head. Her ex husband was my height. I have worked on myself and have built a business that runs itself (I have loads of free time). None of this carried any weight in her mind. Most are on auto-pilot and are not even aware of what is going on in their head. Listen carefully and save yourself a fortune.
Height is literally money and vice versa for women. How successful (ie: does it give you an economic advantage, other than time, over other men?) is your business and did you have a business when she left you? Sorry you went through that experience; although your pettiness at the end I think was unwarranted. You may have had other reasons to do so though.
Well she got with guys your height at least twice. Her referring to him as tall guy might reveal something underlying, of course she's attracted to tall dudes. But look at her actions, at least the ones that you know of...
@@scorpion1828 That's why he said one or the other. If you don''t understand, you can love em, if you do understand them, you can't. Only the high value men can.
This cannot be over emphasized enough. Women CANNOT handle rejection. This is as close of an absolute as it gets. Leaving her, even if as a tactical move early on, puts that fear in her. She must be afraid of it. They cannot be an “alpha widow” if you’re still there. Put ego to the side, you weren’t that good, but by leaving, her own mind elevates you to more than you really were.
But the way women deal with reaction, shows how shitty they are. I can't deal with rejection either, I'm a male, instead of being angry and nasty about it, I simply don't acknowledge people anymore. I am so afraid of rejection, that I simply pretend to not care, because it hurts, and people aren't nice to me, my thoughts are very abstract and complicated and people treat that like it's a disease. Literally everyone treats women with so much respect. I have seen so many women laugh at me, when they saw my weakest self, and they love the power it gives them. But I wouldn't be able to do that to another human being, lot of women are spoiled rotten.
Very simple. Many females doesn't want to learn or to develop to a better version of themselves. They usually harm themselves and get outcasted in one way or an other. Their own created misery not our. cut them short early on instead. they are just no quality partners.
This is a *huge* underdiscussed topic, that exes literally haunt many women's past, who are therefore incapable of seriously engaging in relationship for years if not for their entire life. I believe it to be the main driver in the sharp decline of family formation we are seeing, and likely the best argument for limiting people's "romantic freedom". No wonder we never had such a liberal and open "dating market": it simply wrecks people. Dark stuff.
Fathers have been deliberately kicked out of the home. Fathers give discipline, chastity and prudence. The US has less fathers in children's lives than any other country.
Don't show interest. Hmm... Contact her about weekly to see/hear how she's doing: Wrong, you're clingy and thus unattractive, game over. Do not contact her in about a week: Wrong, you're ghosting and obviously don't care enough, game over. Sounds easy.
If you contact her too much, then you're creepy and clingy, if you don't then you're distant and uninterested, either way she'll lose interest, unless you're an Alpha in her eyes, then she'll forgive it anytime and you will have priority
Better to be the latter than the former! Do you get attention from women? The best way to show a prospective lady your value is through pre-selection (having other women around you)! Once she sees that other women like you and she may have to compete for you, she will esteem you more!
I dumped my ex after a 2 year toxic relationship, she was the worst gf I've had. 2 years after, she still texts me every month even though she has a bf. The funny thing is she's super nice now on the texts, I would never get back to her. But I know why she's nice now.
It's human nature to feel this way, but we fight most of our basic instincts every days. The thing is, in these current times, MEN are asked to fight their violent, sexual instincts. While women now make it almost a badge of pride to follow their hypergamy unchecked, and want to disregard consequences, even feeling offended that they should have some. Having ethics and morals (and common sense) often means going against your immediate desires and feelings. A concept that cheap dopamine hits addicted women (social media anyone?) can't deal with. And well, they DESERVE it all, of course...
I wouldn't had problem with that if women were held accountable for their choices. Instead we keep on comforting women and encourage them to lean on their worst instincts via sympathy and all government support.
Because women are compassionate & very gullible, and that combination makes them a very compliant voter block! Politicians seek the female vote above ALL else!
I have been ignoring women completely for the past 10 years and nothing have changed in my dating life. It's not that simple, plus it's contradictory because, first, they expect the man to make the first move, therefore, show interest for her, then she says she wants you not to show interest. How's that going to work?
The notion that leaving a woman, or atleast showing you don't need her, makes her more attracted to you is true, even when my ex was the one dumping me, i managed to turn the neediness around, how? i literally accepted the breakup, and did not ever message or contact her, she saw this as me not needing her, so her dumping me, felt like i was the one dumping her, she proceeded to try to call me and send me a picture of her one night crying, just to see desperately if i would even care, still radio-silence from me. She then spend the year after our breakup messaging me every once in awhile to see if i would answer, i didn't, so i ended up blocking her on social media. Mind you, she even dumped me the second time there, 2 months before that she dumped me the first time, so even when it felt certain that she had made her decision to leave me the 2nd time, my action of not trying made her feel like i was the one who dumped her.
Alexander is just being nice when describing the hypothetical high quality woman who doesn't sob over the bad boy who left her. I've yet to encounter such a woman and I've been around for a while.
Women are so solipsistic, self-centred, entitled and egotistical that they think that the "bad boy" is either willing to change his ways/attitude just for her (because she is SO special; right?) or that she can somehow change him into what she thinks he should be.
I know many girls (including my ex) who do this, sleep with the guys and don’t count them on their body count. Seems getting over an ex is the main way women get a high body count
Its wild how girls will claim body count doesnt matter but they will attempt olympic level mental gymnastics to come up with reasons to not count dudes.
Every one of your videos are accurate. I’m now 56 and went through all the same experiences as you. I waited until 50 to get married and now at this age none of this matters anymore. I still enjoy watching you put into words all of this knowledge. It’s 100% right.
I once approached a girl at a party because, in all earnestness, she looked familiar and I couldn't place it. No romantic agenda or otherwise. When she said I did not look familiar to her, I thanked her and moved on. This move confused everyone around when this happened and one guy watching the exchange said as I walked away, "aaaaand apparently he doesn't care who you are . . ." I always assumed she was relieved when the unknown guy just left her alone after her denial, but this video makes me think if she was even a little intrigued by me after that. It's been well over 20 years now so we'll never know. (Turns out she looked familiar because I had a new coworker that looked just like her, and turns out they were sisters; small towns, man).
100% true. I dated a woman for a few months, broke up with her (was the only man post her divorce to break up with her) and she could not stop. we became friends a few months later, but, she still kept bringing up her dating trying to make me jealous, bringing up that just because were friends didn't mean we couldn't sleep together. And with that I knew she was weaponizing any potential sex as means to control or "get me back." Just cut her out entirely because she couldn't get over it.
It's all a bit depressing if you think about it too much. As an older gent (late 40s), I'd imagine a lot of single women in my age bracket would have someone from their past that dumped them, damaged them and/or hurt their ego deeply, which, according to the video, would make them potentially dangerous (and I mostly agree). I'm starting to feel like, if this is the way it is, then why even bother trying to look for a serious relationship anymore?
That's not the main problem. The main thing guys have to be worried about now is the INFINITE and INSTANT options on her cell phone, either from dating apps or social media. 95% of mere mortals can't compete with that kind of competition.
@@BrokeCanadian haha, goes for both genders, but yes, more attention for women than ever before in history, all at the press of a button really. I think that in this day an age, a 'unicorn' woman would be one that doesn't use social media or have a smart phone.
So date younger women, if they are not interested due to your height, your lack of money, or most like your lack of game skill, go where the competition greatly skewed to your favor, get a passport
Travel to Thailand or the Philippines. It's a game changer. But remember, they are still women. But at least their juice is worth the squeeze. Since I've been to Thailand this year, I look at dating differently. I'm 60 years old and divorced. Most women have high body counts these days. So I pay upfront. Beautiful message girls in Manhattan. I've been with more beautiful young women this year than in my whole life combined. I just work and save for my next trip. I'm going back to Thailand the last weeks of February.
A woman I dumped after ten years soon after had children with her new guy. For some weird reason she visited me and showed me her child when it was only a few months old, obviously already complaining and talking disrespectfully about the new guy. To her, I was the one who got away, was what I realized much later. I still wonder what she expected from that visit, though. She probably wanted to show me what I'm missing out on, what she doesn't know is that I specifically dumped her as soon as I realized, I would never want to have kids with that woman.
I think even ex's she's dumped can be threatening to your relationship, because those guys might have been great in one specific area that became her reference point, forever burned in her memory. One guy might have been great in bed, another made her laugh uncontrollably, another had the deepest most interesting conversations, another shared the same intense passion for her hobby, another knew exactly what to say when her mood was down to cheer her up, ect... While overall you might be a better man than each of her ex's individually, you can never compete against her best memories in most areas of a relationship, forever bound to other men in her past.
Good points. May I add that it spells INSECURITY to worry about gf's exes. I'm friends with my ex husband, but there's no chance I'm getting back into relationship with him.
@@Epiphany_nz Insecurities can be perfectly valid and nothing to be ashamed of, because they can be an instinctive signal to protect oneself or loved ones against harm. For example, I'd feel very insecure about the prospect of eating feces, because, even though I've never experienced it, my instincts warn me against it. Women will often try to control men through shame by mocking their insecurities in an attempt to emasculate them. But valid insecurities don't make men any less masculine, they just make them smart and unwilling to risk their livelihoods for the benefit of other people who don't really care about what's in their best interest. Men have similar instincts towards promiscuous women and would be very smart to listen to their insecurities. You can tell men you'd never want to go back in a relationship with your exes, but you might be lying, and, even if you aren't, it doesn't mean your past relationships and the experiences that are forever imprinted in your memory won't poison the next one, as I have described in my first post. It doesn't mean you won't go back to them for a night, when your current relationship hits a rock, in a move to boost your low self esteem and mood for example. Good men who are looking to build families through a stable and lifelong relationship won't be willing to risk it all on women with promiscuous pasts.
Are there any woman left who haven't been rejected and are still pining by a super attractive man they met on a dating app? This is why dating is dead and it isn't worth playing the odds knowing that deep down, she still desires another man as she's still dating you.
Given these confessions, it seems safe to assert that at their core the only thing that women respect/are attracted to is power and those who wield it; morals of the man be damned.
Unless you look for high quality people, though sounds like it's hard to find that in the west eh 💀💀. So shallow, so prone to their base irrational desires and instincts, it's a shame. Countries with stricter cultures don't suffer through this for a reason, it's alot more, ironically civilized I feel like. Knowing that the US is THE developed country.
Women are attracted to men with rebellious tendencies, and there is a scale to that, and yes women are attracted to power because it's something they naturally don't have, not the way men do. The Bible forewarned all men of this... Eve wanted the power and knowledge the fruit would grant her, and she chose the rebel(Satan) to get what she wanted, instead of listening to her husband(Adam) which eventually fell because of his wife. Think about it bro...
Yeah, my wife once bitched about how nasty her boss was to her. It was only a month or two thereafter she started a nine month affair with him, and fell pregnant. Next I found out she was about to terminate the pregnancy. I had had a vasectomy and clearly her boss wanted nothing to do with raising a child by her. I thought this $hit only happened in Hollywood!
Actually this depends. I was with a girl who was in a relationship for nearly 8 years. And was single only for about 4 months until she dated me. Even though she broke up with him, the withdrawal symptom of leaving ones ex becomes stronger the more years you've been with them. She didn't spend enough time alone to really get over him. So she broke up with me after 5 months because she just couldn't stop thinking about him. And told me how too many qualities i posses reminds her of him. She ended up going back to him. This was painful because not only did we spend so many hours almost every day together for the 5 months we were a a couple, but she also broke up with me 2 weeks into the beginning of the pandemic. It felt like the end of the world in more ways than one. My mistake was ignoring the red flags that indicated how she still hasn't let go of her past. So in short: Don't assume that just because a woman broke up with her ex, that she will be ready and able to move on with you.
Heels are not for their height. It makes them look vulnerable and uncomfortable which men are attracted to. It mimics the Damsel in distress situation. It also makes their ass look a certain way.
It tightens up the calves, thighs and ass by forcing the associated muscles taunt. It's like a magic trick really, an illusion. And the vulnerability is like cat nip to men. I like everything about them but think about it, it's like modern day foot binding.
I think it's because it opens the door to taller men. If her reference is a 5'7 guy because she's short, by wearing heels her new reference is automatically going to be taller
Amen. Whether he wants it or not that EX holds a full house in the rather absurd game of relationships. To me the ex's are just a bad hand that won't go away. Been on both sides of that absurd fence.
That's why you want a woman with the least exes if possible, otherwise she'll stack you up against a huge array of experiences and you'll most likely lose
To this day I know I could revisit a couple of women I broke it off with back in the day. Ya they are married and I would not do it but There is something absolutely irresistible to women about the men they “couldn’t lock down”. It’s deeply personal to them and the scenario irresistible. How weird is it that the best way to get a woman to be eternally obsessed with you is to dump her?? Are they damaged or is this how attraction works I mean I find the women I know I will never bed very intriguing
Intuitive economics i guess. You can't buy something therefore it must be of high value therefore you absolutely must get it because high value correlates with high quality generally at least. And sometimes value is confused with utility
I think because really the guy who took her virginity should've been her husband. Now everytime she gets dumped that sense of self worth diminishes bit by bit
Women's mentality to only date up is really messing with career women's dating life. It's kind of funny that they actually think there is a lack of options. It's easy to notice when it comes to women in the spotlight, celebrities, professional athletes etc.
This phenomenon is so deeply ingrained in the psyche of women that it runs independently of the actual value of the ex who dumped and that of her current man. I.e. the current man maybe wealthier, of higher social status, objectively better looking and with a bigger tool and better skilled in bed, treating her with love and respect and yet... she will be pining for her ex. Because he dumped her. By all means, in practice the ex she pines for is usually better in at least some of the aforementioned metrics, but there are cases where the ex is really a loser compared to the next one and still the woman pines for him merely because he dumped her. Women who have fallen in this loophole, may do everything to get back with the ex, relive a bit the moments, and then either they will stay with him (provided he also does so) or they will find out that it was all firecrackers and smoke and no substance and they will dump him eventually overcoming his memory, but doing so usually when it is too late for them to be able to find a better man. This phenomenon was quickly noticed by the early PUAs back in early 2000s and they had a term for it : "alpha-widow". Wisely they were advising to avoid forming relationships with "alpha-widows".
I've heard that women look at men much in the same way men look at nature/reality around them. A man is always looking for the best environment for him, the one that's conducive enough so he's safe, but also challenging enough so he's motivated to strive for the best version of himself. And he always derives greatest pleasure/fulfilment from "civilizing" or "conquering" the "roughest/toughest" environnement, thus validating his competence as a man. Now, consider a reasonably competent and successful man (in most areas of life) who has one thing, one task/challenge-perhaps from when he was younger and more unsure of himself-where he FAILED woefully. That challenge/task, which may be as trivial as riding a wild horse 🐎 successfully, will HAUNT him. It would have a "special place in his heart", regardless of all the other objectively more impressive tasks he's completed successfully (e.g climbing Mount Everest, creating a good family, or nurturing a successful company. If that man is on the verge of sealing a big-money deal for his company, and a time-sensitive opportunity to ride that darned horse 🐎 shows up at the same time. Well, you'd better believe he'd be TEMPTED to "risk it all" to ride that horse 🐎 one more time. Whether or not he does make that seemingly rash decision, depends on how much growth and self-reflection he's undergone in the meantime. Now consider a woman in the same scenario, with a guy she never "conquered", bearing in mind that "self-reflection" isn't exactly a woman's strong suit. All of a sudden, this phenomenon might make a lot more sense to you.
I think this is because they are spoiled to the core and can't stand the fact that someone dumped them. Simply because of this day and age and how degenerate and weak people are.
A man who wants to gain power over a woman must follow the example of women and condition his sex drive. If he succeeds in becoming as cold as she, she can no longer bait him with sex into the role of provider. At most she could offer herself as an equal sex partner, as dependent on him as he is on her. If men could abstain from sex at judicious intervals they might even succeed in normalizing the female sex drive - even make women desire them more than the other way around. Esther Vilar
@@mathiaslimbodal667 Well this goes to the root of the general imbalance in sexual dynamics between the two sexes since indeed in the conditions of deregulated sexual market place women having on average 10 times lower libido than males have a massive advantage. However, it is not practical to advise "abstinence" to men. Men do have an extremely high sexual desire (unseen in almost all other mammals) and for them to achieve "coolness in abstinence" requires monk-style spiritual work which can only be performed by a tiny minority of men who may as well go full-time spiritual and abstain altogether like true monks do. Abstinence or other solutions such as pornography cannot be a wholesome solution. The only way for men to gain the upper hand is the usage of prostitutes and the circumstantial engagement only with non-prostitutes where the situation favours them (e.g. a woman that actively seeks the man, puts him on the pedestal etc.). By satisfying their libido through prostitution men are far less controlled by their libido and thus can see clearer the situation around them and the extent that a specific woman is willing to interact with them sexually without applying the usual luring tactics of throwing money ( = > which anyway is akin to prostitution). Remember that when Solon took up power in Athens, the first reform he did was on prostitution : he regulated it and promoted it all while legally punishing pre-marital and extra-marital affairs of any kind among men and women of "citizenry" (i.e. women of citizen fathers were banned from sex outside marriage and any man was banned from approaching them sexually). It seems that 200 years later and a 100 years into Democracy, the city of Athens reverted on these laws and thus Plato was re-proposing the same regulations again in his later and most prominent work that conveyed his personal opinions rather than those of others.
Correction: it's not the ex bf that's dangerous; it's her action upon having a second chance with him that is. I've employed the technique of ignoring women and it works. The thing is though, you need to meet a minimum looks threshold for it to work.
This is very interesting. A good portion of my relationships were ended by the woman, actually for reasons Alex laid out in previous videos; making them too comfortable and being perceived as weak. The 2 I ended are still obsessed with me though, and will contact me and try to hit on me even when they have boyfriends. I never made the connection that this could be why. It sucks for whoever they date, one of them told me they'd never love someone like they love me, and considering I'll never reciprocate those feelings, that's a shitty situation she'll be putting other men into. Those 2 were also ones I acted cockier around and didn't shower in love. Alex really has opened my eyes up to a lot of these patterns and behaviors in women I never realized before, I really do appreciate it.
I have zero interest in aligning myself to womens way of being. I test women by being nice, if she's not nice back, she failed and we both walk away unhappy, but I will never ever mold myself to fit thr cutrent dating market. I'm 47 with hobbies and I swear, when I get home nothing makes me more happy than my hobbies/passions and peace. I don't have the abundance mindset cause I don't have abundance, I have focus and drive, so when I see something I want, I go hard for it, I have no interest in chasing somebody I don't want or somebody that wants somebody that doesn't want them. I'm not playing this game, make my fantasy come true or duck off.
Some truth to that based on my own experience. My marriage was awful and my wife treated me horribly and was also not a good mother to the children. I tried to make it work but eventually left when I could take it no more. But then despite all she had done, I was harassed with phone calls and begging emails trying to get me back. This continued even though she quickly met and moved in with someone new. Even though she was now living with and having sex with this new guy, when I went to the old property to collect the last of my stuff, she manipulated me to go into the bedroom and then pushed me onto the bed and tried to seduce me. BTW the new relationship did not last and she is now with partner number 5. Still kept contacting me even when she was into relationship number 3.
Ultimately it's a catch 22 and the whole thing is a waste of time. If the problem is that they are attracted to those who don't want them, then the moment they become wanted they stop being attracted. In doing so the "solution" solves nothing. In the end they're either miserable because they crave to "tame the beast" but can't, or they're miserable because the beast is tamed and has thus become repulsive. The only winning move for any involved man is not to play. The only winning move for a woman is to become conscious of the paradox inherent in her post-rejected state.
My last ex was like ...i met her she had left her ex cus he was abusive but she was clearly hurting ...i had an edge at first but as she opened up about her traumas i became more caring eventually i was doing all kinds of things to make her happy ...she would say things like " I cant remember the last time i was this happy"... Yeah eventually she went back to her ex lol I should have just hit and quit it ...being nice gets you used
If I have no value for myself, I hide, I lie, I avoid responsibility & accountability, people lie to me because it is easier than dealing with tantrums: of course I will fall for the guy that turned me down. He must be high value, because he sees through my lies & knows I'm not.
One fact about the relationship between men and women that will never go mainstream: Some men are going to genuinely dislike or even resent women's psychology, and that's okay. There's nothing wrong with opting out-relationships are not for everyone. I've covered a lot of dynamics on my channel.
@@runreilly heh I'm saying that anyone who insists that you pursue, self-interestedly views you as an untapped resource. This being whether it is a woman who wants you to provide her or other women your resources, men who need you to value what they do to validate themselves, or want to sell you something.
Whats interesting that theres been a push over the past decade or so of "if youre a woman, its ok to be single and not start a family," but men never got that same societal approval for the exact same thing.
I dumped my ex because she stalked everything I did, offline AND online. Hell, she’s probably reading this right now ffs. Don’t date clingy, possessive women (who believe astrology over their own boyfriends).
I'd say not so much a man of "high quality" but a man of "high perceived value" based on the values of the woman that perceives certain traits to be "high value". Be it looks/physicality, job/amount of money being earned, status and so on.
Nah I don’t agree it doesn’t matter if she dumps him or he dumps her… She will still think about the one that gave her the best memories and triggered her emotions the most… that’s why it’s important to know her past to determine if she is worth a future with you…vet the women you date judiciously… they will never forget the “one that got away” it’s like a nostalgic memory forever etched in their subconscious that will resurface. Women remember everything from sexual experiences to meaningful interactions as well as toxic destructive relationships….
"in the minds of many low quality women........" He finally hit the nail on the head. And how do you spot low quality? They bring nothing but the box to the table.
It isn't about her being "low quality". When a man ends a relationship with a woman he's declaring her to be of lower value to him. And so when her next boyfriend pedestalises her he is implicitly declaring himself to be of lower value than her ex. Of course she's going to drop the lower value man if the higher value man subsequently shows interest.
You really hit the nail right on the head with this one. Never thought about it quite as you state,but it instantly explains behaviours I never understood before. Well done.
Guys, every relationship is temporary. Nothing, nothing, nothing is set in stone. She may have dumped her Ex and she may still go back to him. After she goes back to him, she may dump him and come back to you. I have had this happen to me. Remember, the only relationship law is: The Only Relationship Security is Being Able to Get the Next One. As long as you develop the skills to get relationship after relationship, you have relationship security. So, don't get upset about anything. Remember, the only way that you can be upset is if you are set. Don't become set on the way anything is going to be or is supposed to be in the future. Remember, anything can happen. When it does happen, just shrug your shoulders and remind yourself that what happened was always a possibility.
Funny seeing this video after I dumped a girl after 4 dates who suposedly has contact with her ex and I greatly asume he dumped her. Its a higher value dude. This is spot on dude, seriously. Great video!
I understand that psychology in a funny way...I was in a bar and a girl was flirting with me and she murmured in my ears that I have non chance with her because she wants to be that dude over to my rigth. At that moment, I looked at her with contempt and said : no problem ! have a good night... and I left the other way. Funny enough she turned around and said loudly : HEY ! I love you, don't go ! 😂😂 I left anyway and proceed to respect my need and my time.
I'm calling bullshit, even if she dumped him she can still be hung up on him especially if he hit it right or gave her "the tingles." This dude out here giving false hope and security to keep men out here who keep going to the slaughter. You sell a course so that alone also has me calling bullshit. Men if you need to pay someone to understand women or date them you're being taken for a ride. Save your money you don't need to buy a bullshit course to know any of this stuff about women. "Check out my course." No thanks. High quality women are few and far between these days, better things to put energy into than continuing to go out there to find a needle in a haystack.
This make so much sense! The fact that woman Monkey-Branch to the next relationship means that if she's single she really really hates the guy now OR she was dumped!
Even if the guy who dumped her doesn't come back into the picture, there is that flame of disatisfaction in her mind about him that may sooner or later get taken out on you.
One girl was trying to sell me this lie that she was done with her ex, of course I didn't buy it, as soon as I rejected her she was back with her ex, her ex is married and has a kid by the way
So in essence, dysfunctional drama is must for women to be content (notice I didn’t say happy). So show just enough attention to hook them, then after that treat them like any other door knob, maybe even break up with them, they’ll love you forever. That’s insane. I was born in the wrong era. I’d prefer the 1960’s where women were faithful and obedient out of fear of social stigma or divorce. I can tell you that once a women goes through “the change” the hypergamy go’s full throttle. When they don’t enjoy sex anymore, what else is there for them but material and the long term security of their children?
In your opinion a mans self worth and confidence is reliant on a womans opinion. Not so, a mans self worth and value is defined by his upbringing and his mentors and of course himself, first last and always. A womans opinion has little to no value if a man is already self assured and confident of his path in life.
After being dumped and rejected she realises that he doesn't look at her as a sex doll which she is used to and assumed he was also one of them. He looks at her as a person with a unique identity. She lost him because of her behaviour and ego and that makes her to respect him even more.
How am I supposed to treat someone I love and care about like crap ??? That is only something a woman can rationalize. I feel like slitting my throat. No hope No hope No hope
You didn't listen properly. That's for LOW quality women. Those women have insecurities about themselves that make them think that way. High quality women don't think that way about themselves
It's very rare to find a woman of the character you describe. It's rare. Maybe you need to talk about the fact that most men will have to settle for a woman who's not the highest quality. Also people can change to, but I feel there's always a degree of pettiness that lives inside a woman when she gets dumped.
It's a dead end street anyway cause she'll never tell you the truth about her ex. Why? Have you ever heard a woman saying her ex dumped her? None. Not a single woman will accept reality and she will always say she's the one who dumped him. ALWAYS.
There are certain evolutionary traits being described here….there were a conflicting dualism between the “provider” vs the “breeder”. The 2 dynamics will be in conflict perpetually within a woman….in the same way that a man will have with the “nurturer” vs the “fertile” dynamics. It’s a clear case that our first instincts (which go back to more than 6 mil years) have been altered throughout our evolution as ominids due to the complexity of the upbringing and defense of the offsprings.
spelled Hominids. I know our European counterparts dont pronounce the 'H', but it was confusing seeing it without it. hopefully you dont mind me pointing this out. I appreciate your comment, and you added much more to my understanding, so thank you!
Wouldn't put things that way. Yep, a younger lady (18-28) tend to act as said. She wants to feel alive and thrilled. If the guy dump her, she will lack the intensity. Women are emotional creatures who crave to be filled. It has less to do with treating her right or wrong than furfill her with challenging adventures. This boosts her ego since she can feel special. The good advice to men is to be able to entertain a woman with your own universe. Beware she will look later for more stability and security. Her mind will twist to who's the guy that can provide for me and my parents will be proud of. Conclusion : manage your own life to make it look good to you, independently of what women might want, is a better deal on the long run than seeking to please them at any price.
Brother, we already need to do 2 jobs just to survive. I cannot take on a 3rd job of event planner and manager to entertain some 304 who will dump me as soon as I fail even once to interpret what she wants without her explaining it clearly and then doing a flawless execution of a unique plan everytime... 😂😂😂
@@justathinker8669 I'm just saying that if you are not superman, the richest or most attractive guy around, offerring more substance to your interactions is a way to compete. And yes it is work, since nothing comes for free in this world.
How can there be a multitude of #1 Must-See videos from Alex? Please, brothers; learn this early in your life and never forget it. You will gain peace.
The simple solution to all of this is: "Make Her Earn your Trust." Keep the relationship in the fun zone, and assume she's lying and/or cheating on you until she proves otherwise. Don't get angry, don't throw a fit, just accept this is average women, and the only way to a "good" woman is to keep dating around until you meet one who wants to prove her loyalty to you. Its just for Fun, until she's willing to Earn commitment.
Though if she dumped him she would also be prone to dump me. So there got to be a valid reason for her to have dumped him. Otherwise she would keep dumping for "reasons" rather than reasons.
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I think you’re confusing high quality with well-adjusted. High quality women are not “above this”. They are raised or socialized in some fashion to avoid going off the deep end with such behaviors. There is no difference in quality. One woman is more well adjusted than the other. Mistaking that for quality is itself a mistake. This is I n the same fashion as a man who is socialized to be faithful to one woman. That socialization does not remove his biological interest in spreading his seed.
Great video in so many other respects, though, I hasten to add.
Do you get a lot of hate because of your channel ? I can imagine those crazy feminists who never watch any of your videos would basically murder you xD
I had a girlfriend who was still in contact with a number of her exes. She wasn't at all cagey when talking about them, she said they'd always been better friends than lovers and that the relationship had been a mistake but the friendship hadn't. She said she didn't think of them "that way" at all anymore. _At all._ She seemed to find it surprising, funny and even slightly touching that I was concerned. She assured me that I had nothing to worry about. She was very convincing.
But lying. Absolutely lying. Don't trust a word out of their mouths. Don't trust the look in their eyes. Don't trust their happiness. Trust their actions and nothing else. If it looks bad it is bad, 99.99% of the time.
How did you catch her? What other red flags did you ignore because you believed her "at all" lie?
@@williamclayton9566 I went to use her laptop early one morning to look something up on the internet and a half-finished email she was sending to one of them was open. Not platonic. After that I went through her phone. She'd cleaned up after herself mostly, but when you're as invested as I was you find the stuff she missed. And there was a lot, still.
Turned out some other guys I'd been concerned about who she'd said had never been boyfriends but 'just friends' were more 'just friends-with-benefits'. I'd been concerned iirc because they were always liking her pics on facebook and instagram.
There were a few other red flags, but they were mostly related to specific people and exchanges. I'd just say trust your gut. If you're jealous and you don't have a personality disorder you probably have a reason to be. We're evolved to detect these things.
I was very naive and very indoctrinated and I paid the price for ignoring my jealousy. Hard lessons but permanent. And for that at least I'm grateful.
@@williamclayton9566 Another very obvious one was that she was very "private" about our relationship. She would say it was nobody's business but ours and that she didn't want to "jinx" it by announcing it. I was her happy little secret, supposedly.
I pushed her hard enough to announce it eventually. I think I had to give her a straight up ultimatum in the end, one I was absolutely willing to stick to. She tried one piss-poor 'announcement' which could've been anyone at all she was talking to, and when I rejected that one and stopped talking to her she got specific.
I found out later that she told her various 'friends' that she'd just made it all up to stop guys from hitting on her all the time.
I remember even at the time I was thinking to myself that if I had a friend who was telling me this stuff about his girlfriend I'd tell him to break up with her, that she was almost certainly cheating. But she was an unbelievably convincing liar.
Near the end I decided to test her on something I'd found in her phone (something I'd just found out which she didn't know I knew yet). I wanted to see if I could detect any kind of tell that she was lying. But there was nothing. Even knowing that she was lying to my face I believed her for half a second. When I looked into her eyes I saw nothing but sincerity and the girl I thought I knew.
I don't think lying and manipulation is just a skill for them; I think it's a trait they're evolved to have. We have counter-traits in jealousy and critical thinking, as long as we listen to them.
@@williamclayton9566 Other obvious red flags: tattoos, blue hair, piercings, high body count, scars from cutting, progressive, bi, kink interests. And admitting past cheating. She blamed these on bipolar, which she'd been diagnosed with. She said she'd been on the wrong medication for it but had recently been put on more appropriate medication by a new psychiatrist and had therefore put that other lifestyle behind her. She said she hadn't been sexually active for a couple of years.
I knew a bit about bipolar so was willing to believe her. And she really did have a diagnosis for it. But I don't think she really had it. I saw none of the other symptoms of it while I was with her. Antisocial personality disorder and histrionic personality disorder both matched her better.
But from my time with her and from everything I've learned since I have two firm convictions: once a cheater always a cheater, and once a slvt always a slvt. There's no such thing as a reformed slvt. Not only have I never met one, but I've never met anyone who's met one. Though I've met plenty of people who know slvts who pretend to be reformed but aren't.
@@williamclayton9566 Sorry, I wasn't intending to drip feed red flags from smallest to biggest. I just don't think of her or the relationship much anymore. I've kept the lessons and left the memories. For a long time that was my whole world just about, I couldn't think of anything else. Now I barely think of her at all.
But I do still try to warn guys from time to time to learn from my mistakes, in comments like these. And I think guys are generally getting smarter thanks to the internet generally and manosphere especially. But feminism is absolutely trying to make them dumber.
I broke up with my ex because I just got tired of her. It gets old dealing with someone who makes everything about them.
Good move brother ✅ And I 100% agree with you.
Good stuff man
Key signs of a narcissist. Not you, her.
Dealing with modern women is pretty much like that.
I hear voices in the back...they're screaming..."mysoginist!"😂
Although its true, there's no point in getting back into a relationship with an ex after dumping them, trust me.
They only miss you and want you back so they can either cheat on you or dump you in order to reset their ego validation.
Only women are allowed to break up
It's safer to pretend the did they break up. If you can engineer it so she thinks it was her idea, you're home free. But yeah, never go back.
yah looser game
Thats facts, although often times if you leave a girl she will genuinely want you back. But if she gets you back, she will lose respect for you most of the time because you just made a complete 180 on a pretty major decision. This loss of respect almost always manifests in her leaving you or cheating on you later.
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This happened to me. I should have never taken her back.
I was blamed for all problems, she took her frustrations out on me, and her shortcomings were somehow my fault.
When I finally had to discipline her with rules, I believe then is when she began working out a plan to break up with me a second time. That was twelve years ago.
Indifference always makes a difference to women. Period.
Period always makes a difference to women. See, fixed that for you😂 thank me later😎
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She can say to your face that she hates you like Anakin Obiwan on Mustafar at 13:00, then she will cuddle with you and more at 16:00. And to women, this transition is completely natural, since she frequently feels different things. Thats why you don't care what a woman thinks. If she loves you, she will copy your opinions anyway, they change their opnions based on what men they admire, think. IF you can't create those emotions within her, you are boring to her.
Maybe, but I don't have the time and will to be someone's monkey. F that. If she's not entertainted, that's her problem. She can leave.
On the money with that statement
There are plenty of women who are like that but why'd you generalize it like that?
@@joshuaicoqnito4445 Plenty? EVERY SINGLE ONE is like that. Unless you expect to find this 1 girl that is magically biiologically different....
@@HyperVegitoDBZ That's simply sexist to say stuff like that and also makes you sound bitter.
Yeah, my father's wife and my brother's gf are not acting like that, have their own opinions and values that dont just change through emotions.
Fascinating
I was raised by a mom and 2 sisters I watched my sisters and mom poorly treated
In my 10 year old mind I made a simple calculation
To succeed with women when I started dating all I really needed to do was treat them nice
BOY WAS I WRONG
LMAO! Women are NOT logical in the least! I had a bunch of female friends who complained about boys, and i came to the same conclusion as you! and like you it went very poorly for me too!
😂😂😂
There are so few eligible men who want a real relationship based in reality. Men have cultivated a lot of bad habits that make realistic relationships impossible.
Just follow 2 rules 1) be polite, honest, & direct. 2) say what you mean, & mean what you say. Or, your words & actions MUST ALIGN.
People who matter, don't mind. And people who mind, don't matter.
- Dr. Seuss
Being this way is simple, though not easy.
Exactly my situation too. Good thing i figured it out pretty fast
In order for the “ignore her” to work.. majority of the time you have to be attractive looking first.
Yep, she's already come to the conclusion of whether she likes you or not. Anything you do will be used to justify that conclusion, so just live your damn life
Yeah, but attractiveness doesnt only express itself in good genetics. Self confidence, humour, being relaxed and seldom showing negative emotions around them should do the trick. If you think youre ugly, women will do the same. If you get frustrated by rejection, women will notice your desperateness.
Oh, and in my opionion the most important fact: try to always ridicule women in a playful manner. Demonstrate their inferiority (even if she is "out of your league" [impossible as you are a man]), but with finesse. They will love you for it
@@justanotherfan7491Yeah that’s almost entirely BS. If you’re physically very ugly then none of those things you mentioned are going to do anything for you. If you’re relatively good looking, then those things simply make you even more attractive. Don’t fall for the BS.
Ignore. Attractive or not. Because they are not the answer to your questions
I filed for divorce & seperated from my ex 18 years ago. We had a child together, with joint custody, so we had to stay in regular touch with each other. Three times over the past 18 years she's suddenly came on to me and tried to reestablish things. Within a week of things kicking-off, she "randomly" made up reasons to send me off to "see" a close relative to pick something up, go to one of her family events, or otherwise meet with them (including her parents). After from 4-6 weeks, there suddenly was some superficial, made up lame excuse to cut things off. Every time. It dawned on me years later (yeah, I'm a bit slow on these kind of things) that she was trying to "re-write history" for herself and with her family, trying to rehabilitate her reputation and repaint herself as being desireable ("look, he came back to me, didn't he...? I guess I wasn't so bad after all...") and the actual "victim" in all of it. Once you go your own way, stay there. There is no benefit to going back, even for a minute.
Thats Gold. I will NEVER Forget that
Shes possible a narcissist. They cant handle beeing cut off
@@George-W-Jenson"Possibly" ??????????
I have a slightly different experience...
I left my wife of 15 years, 9 months, and 3 days with our daughter. In the state of NJ, it's 50/50 custody and that is to protect men.
What I found weird is the obsession my x has with my dating life. She asks my daughter questions about it. However, unlike my x, I do not discuss who I sleep with to my 16 year old daughter. It's NONE of her business and it's definitely none of either's business.
I have have a series of extremely meaningless "relationships" with 23 to 27 year old women over the last year.
The women in my family like to ask me questions about my x wife and they seemed surprised I have little to no information. I don't like my x nor the way she lives her life which is why I'm not interested.
I often say that I'm NEVER heading back to Shashank!!!
Everytime ive been dismissive of women they've loved me for it...honestly i dont like it at all...its like why do i have to treat you like this to get love and affection....
People want what they can't have that's why.
@@Userkaf_II like children
I've noticed this too and struggle with it. Why would I want to be around someone I think less of? Yet treating women like less is the only time I have "successful" relationships
💯. I struggle to make sense of it but can’t. It’s really frustrating and part of the reason I gave up.
They are damaged
I was aware this and still got caught. My ex was a divorcee and went on a date before me and she told me about a tall guy that arrived late, got so drunk that he could hardly walk and was really rude and obnoxious. She called him "the tall guy". A few months into dating her I noticed she would describe me as "not tall". To her, my best feature was my lack of height (I am taller than her).
I asked her, "If I met this unrealistically high standard that you have in your head called "tall", what would you have called the tall guy?" She thought about it and said "the drunk asshole". Indirectly, I got her to admit that I would have to be tall for her to view him in a negative light and there is nothing I could ever do to be seen in a positive light, or be respected by her. I ended it after a year and then things got nasty.
She understood when I explained that due to my unrealistically high standard for intelligence, the thing I love about her the most, is that she is "not smart". I am annoyed with myself for wasting a year. I didn't think one date would be enough to mess with their head. Her ex husband was my height. I have worked on myself and have built a business that runs itself (I have loads of free time). None of this carried any weight in her mind. Most are on auto-pilot and are not even aware of what is going on in their head. Listen carefully and save yourself a fortune.
>divorcee
Height is literally money and vice versa for women. How successful (ie: does it give you an economic advantage, other than time, over other men?) is your business and did you have a business when she left you? Sorry you went through that experience; although your pettiness at the end I think was unwarranted. You may have had other reasons to do so though.
Well she got with guys your height at least twice. Her referring to him as tall guy might reveal something underlying, of course she's attracted to tall dudes. But look at her actions, at least the ones that you know of...
Why wasn't she being shunned?
What kinda business you running my brother?
You can either love women or understand women, not both.
deep
But once you understand them you will never love them
@@scorpion1828 That's why he said one or the other. If you don''t understand, you can love em, if you do understand them, you can't. Only the high value men can.
@@jamesjennings3108 stay strong my mate and once your boys are old get her out of your life
@@scorpion1828
Truer words have never been spoken.
This cannot be over emphasized enough. Women CANNOT handle rejection. This is as close of an absolute as it gets. Leaving her, even if as a tactical move early on, puts that fear in her. She must be afraid of it.
They cannot be an “alpha widow” if you’re still there. Put ego to the side, you weren’t that good, but by leaving, her own mind elevates you to more than you really were.
But the way women deal with reaction, shows how shitty they are.
I can't deal with rejection either, I'm a male, instead of being angry and nasty about it, I simply don't acknowledge people anymore.
I am so afraid of rejection, that I simply pretend to not care, because it hurts, and people aren't nice to me, my thoughts are very abstract and complicated and people treat that like it's a disease.
Literally everyone treats women with so much respect.
I have seen so many women laugh at me, when they saw my weakest self, and they love the power it gives them.
But I wouldn't be able to do that to another human being, lot of women are spoiled rotten.
@@benegmond6584 yup, people worship women nowadays.
You will find someone who enjoys and loves you abstract thoughts :)
lol
Very simple.
Many females doesn't want to learn or to develop to a better version of themselves.
They usually harm themselves and get outcasted in one way or an other.
Their own created misery not our. cut them short early on instead. they are just no quality partners.
There's NO winning with someone that "wouldn't join any club that accepts me".
So the key: seek high quality women.
This is a *huge* underdiscussed topic, that exes literally haunt many women's past, who are therefore incapable of seriously engaging in relationship for years if not for their entire life. I believe it to be the main driver in the sharp decline of family formation we are seeing, and likely the best argument for limiting people's "romantic freedom". No wonder we never had such a liberal and open "dating market": it simply wrecks people. Dark stuff.
Damn man that's true.
You do make a point there. romantic freedom and boundary less options wrecks people.
Fathers have been deliberately kicked out of the home. Fathers give discipline, chastity and prudence. The US has less fathers in children's lives than any other country.
Yeah, it's not a surprise that promiscuous people tend to do a lot of drugs and alcohol, self-medicating themselves.
Bro all this stuff I feel like i only hear in western countries ffs
Don't show interest. Hmm...
Contact her about weekly to see/hear how she's doing: Wrong, you're clingy and thus unattractive, game over.
Do not contact her in about a week: Wrong, you're ghosting and obviously don't care enough, game over.
Sounds easy.
Damned if you do. Damned if you don't.
If you contact her too much, then you're creepy and clingy, if you don't then you're distant and uninterested, either way she'll lose interest, unless you're an Alpha in her eyes, then she'll forgive it anytime and you will have priority
Basically it depends how she feels about you. Women go on their feelings
Better to be the latter than the former! Do you get attention from women? The best way to show a prospective lady your value is through pre-selection (having other women around you)! Once she sees that other women like you and she may have to compete for you, she will esteem you more!
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Never be jealous, if she wants to leave let her go. Remember she was never yours, it was just your turn.
Terrific Point 🫡 💯
I dumped my ex after a 2 year toxic relationship, she was the worst gf I've had. 2 years after, she still texts me every month even though she has a bf. The funny thing is she's super nice now on the texts, I would never get back to her. But I know why she's nice now.
Stay safe bro, she aint nice she just puts on a front around people she doesnt have tied up.
Block her number!
It's human nature to feel this way, but we fight most of our basic instincts every days. The thing is, in these current times, MEN are asked to fight their violent, sexual instincts. While women now make it almost a badge of pride to follow their hypergamy unchecked, and want to disregard consequences, even feeling offended that they should have some. Having ethics and morals (and common sense) often means going against your immediate desires and feelings. A concept that cheap dopamine hits addicted women (social media anyone?) can't deal with. And well, they DESERVE it all, of course...
I wouldn't had problem with that if women were held accountable for their choices. Instead we keep on comforting women and encourage them to lean on their worst instincts via sympathy and all government support.
Because women are compassionate & very gullible, and that combination makes them a very compliant voter block! Politicians seek the female vote above ALL else!
I have been ignoring women completely for the past 10 years and nothing have changed in my dating life. It's not that simple, plus it's contradictory because, first, they expect the man to make the first move, therefore, show interest for her, then she says she wants you not to show interest. How's that going to work?
Their illogic is pretty stunning isn't it?
Show interest to get into a relationship. Once in a relationship reduce interest. Adopt IDGAF attitude towards her
Just act like how they think "men" act and you're golden. I mean you'll be acting fake the whole time but meh 🤷♂️
Be chad LoL
Just be hot and tall like me bro.
The notion that leaving a woman, or atleast showing you don't need her, makes her more attracted to you is true, even when my ex was the one dumping me, i managed to turn the neediness around, how? i literally accepted the breakup, and did not ever message or contact her, she saw this as me not needing her, so her dumping me, felt like i was the one dumping her, she proceeded to try to call me and send me a picture of her one night crying, just to see desperately if i would even care, still radio-silence from me. She then spend the year after our breakup messaging me every once in awhile to see if i would answer, i didn't, so i ended up blocking her on social media. Mind you, she even dumped me the second time there, 2 months before that she dumped me the first time, so even when it felt certain that she had made her decision to leave me the 2nd time, my action of not trying made her feel like i was the one who dumped her.
Yeah I've had that. Though it was more of a fake dumping to try to control me. Then she was wanting breakup sex as I ushered her out the door. 😂
Alexander is just being nice when describing the hypothetical high quality woman who doesn't sob over the bad boy who left her. I've yet to encounter such a woman and I've been around for a while.
Exactly, whenever he describes high quality women it's like the unicorn that jumps over the moon at night, who has EVER seen it?
Only low quality women get dumped by men anyway.
@@moneylineparlay105 Every woman I have ever met insisted she was a high quality woman, so does that count? LOL
Women are so solipsistic, self-centred, entitled and egotistical that they think that the "bad boy" is either willing to change his ways/attitude just for her (because she is SO special; right?) or that she can somehow change him into what she thinks he should be.
@@JJ-wi2uw and if she succeeds in landing him then what does she do?
dGrape him because he's now "boring" and no longer the man she fell for
I know many girls (including my ex) who do this, sleep with the guys and don’t count them on their body count. Seems getting over an ex is the main way women get a high body count
They are weak like children. Men don't instinctively bend over 60 women immediately after getting out of a relationship. Only women do this.
Its wild how girls will claim body count doesnt matter but they will attempt olympic level mental gymnastics to come up with reasons to not count dudes.
Every one of your videos are accurate. I’m now 56 and went through all the same experiences as you. I waited until 50 to get married and now at this age none of this matters anymore. I still enjoy watching you put into words all of this knowledge. It’s 100% right.
I once approached a girl at a party because, in all earnestness, she looked familiar and I couldn't place it. No romantic agenda or otherwise. When she said I did not look familiar to her, I thanked her and moved on. This move confused everyone around when this happened and one guy watching the exchange said as I walked away, "aaaaand apparently he doesn't care who you are . . ." I always assumed she was relieved when the unknown guy just left her alone after her denial, but this video makes me think if she was even a little intrigued by me after that. It's been well over 20 years now so we'll never know. (Turns out she looked familiar because I had a new coworker that looked just like her, and turns out they were sisters; small towns, man).
100% true. I dated a woman for a few months, broke up with her (was the only man post her divorce to break up with her) and she could not stop. we became friends a few months later, but, she still kept bringing up her dating trying to make me jealous, bringing up that just because were friends didn't mean we couldn't sleep together. And with that I knew she was weaponizing any potential sex as means to control or "get me back." Just cut her out entirely because she couldn't get over it.
It's all a bit depressing if you think about it too much. As an older gent (late 40s), I'd imagine a lot of single women in my age bracket would have someone from their past that dumped them, damaged them and/or hurt their ego deeply, which, according to the video, would make them potentially dangerous (and I mostly agree). I'm starting to feel like, if this is the way it is, then why even bother trying to look for a serious relationship anymore?
That's not the main problem. The main thing guys have to be worried about now is the INFINITE and INSTANT options on her cell phone, either from dating apps or social media. 95% of mere mortals can't compete with that kind of competition.
You both make valid points
@@BrokeCanadian haha, goes for both genders, but yes, more attention for women than ever before in history, all at the press of a button really. I think that in this day an age, a 'unicorn' woman would be one that doesn't use social media or have a smart phone.
So date younger women, if they are not interested due to your height, your lack of money, or most like your lack of game skill, go where the competition greatly skewed to your favor, get a passport
Travel to Thailand or the Philippines. It's a game changer. But remember, they are still women. But at least their juice is worth the squeeze. Since I've been to Thailand this year, I look at dating differently. I'm 60 years old and divorced. Most women have high body counts these days. So I pay upfront. Beautiful message girls in Manhattan. I've been with more beautiful young women this year than in my whole life combined. I just work and save for my next trip. I'm going back to Thailand the last weeks of February.
A woman I dumped after ten years soon after had children with her new guy. For some weird reason she visited me and showed me her child when it was only a few months old, obviously already complaining and talking disrespectfully about the new guy. To her, I was the one who got away, was what I realized much later. I still wonder what she expected from that visit, though. She probably wanted to show me what I'm missing out on, what she doesn't know is that I specifically dumped her as soon as I realized, I would never want to have kids with that woman.
I think even ex's she's dumped can be threatening to your relationship, because those guys might have been great in one specific area that became her reference point, forever burned in her memory. One guy might have been great in bed, another made her laugh uncontrollably, another had the deepest most interesting conversations, another shared the same intense passion for her hobby, another knew exactly what to say when her mood was down to cheer her up, ect... While overall you might be a better man than each of her ex's individually, you can never compete against her best memories in most areas of a relationship, forever bound to other men in her past.
Extremely well put
This is why women with high body count cannot bond properly with a man in a long term relationship even if that's what she says she wants
Good points.
May I add that it spells INSECURITY to worry about gf's exes.
I'm friends with my ex husband, but there's no chance I'm getting back into relationship with him.
@@Epiphany_nz Insecurities can be perfectly valid and nothing to be ashamed of, because they can be an instinctive signal to protect oneself or loved ones against harm. For example, I'd feel very insecure about the prospect of eating feces, because, even though I've never experienced it, my instincts warn me against it.
Women will often try to control men through shame by mocking their insecurities in an attempt to emasculate them. But valid insecurities don't make men any less masculine, they just make them smart and unwilling to risk their livelihoods for the benefit of other people who don't really care about what's in their best interest.
Men have similar instincts towards promiscuous women and would be very smart to listen to their insecurities.
You can tell men you'd never want to go back in a relationship with your exes, but you might be lying, and, even if you aren't, it doesn't mean your past relationships and the experiences that are forever imprinted in your memory won't poison the next one, as I have described in my first post. It doesn't mean you won't go back to them for a night, when your current relationship hits a rock, in a move to boost your low self esteem and mood for example.
Good men who are looking to build families through a stable and lifelong relationship won't be willing to risk it all on women with promiscuous pasts.
And then they realize at 30: "Now I know what I want in life! A husband with the best qualities of all of my exes in one person!"
This is absolutely brutal honest truth.Key point being 'low quality '....quality seeks quality. Low quality finds low quality.
The look on the face of the woman saying “I’d rather be abused than with you” is utterly terrifying.
'My girl's tears, are my smiles' - Patrice O'Neal.
On so many levels knowing Patrice. What an OG
Are there any woman left who haven't been rejected and are still pining by a super attractive man they met on a dating app? This is why dating is dead and it isn't worth playing the odds knowing that deep down, she still desires another man as she's still dating you.
Given these confessions, it seems safe to assert that at their core the only thing that women respect/are attracted to is power and those who wield it; morals of the man be damned.
Not necessary. Many women are attracted are bi and some are lesbian
Unless you look for high quality people, though sounds like it's hard to find that in the west eh 💀💀. So shallow, so prone to their base irrational desires and instincts, it's a shame. Countries with stricter cultures don't suffer through this for a reason, it's alot more, ironically civilized I feel like. Knowing that the US is THE developed country.
@@technoloverish
How does mentioning this solve anything?
Women are attracted to men with rebellious tendencies, and there is a scale to that, and yes women are attracted to power because it's something they naturally don't have, not the way men do.
The Bible forewarned all men of this... Eve wanted the power and knowledge the fruit would grant her, and she chose the rebel(Satan) to get what she wanted, instead of listening to her husband(Adam) which eventually fell because of his wife.
Think about it bro...
@@Userkaf_IIive been saying this for the past few months myself. The bible warned us of actual female nature.
Yeah, my wife once bitched about how nasty her boss was to her. It was only a month or two thereafter she started a nine month affair with him, and fell pregnant. Next I found out she was about to terminate the pregnancy. I had had a vasectomy and clearly her boss wanted nothing to do with raising a child by her. I thought this $hit only happened in Hollywood!
Getting a vasectomy is borderline gay. Sounds like you were the 3rd wheel
Ahh... Really Tired of this woman's expectations...
and they change those thoughts / expectations back and forth on whims .. and don't remember any of those changes
That's what players are to. You just need to channel it correctly.
@@gentlebabarian be the player? not worth it
The keyword here is "low quality woman". A high quality woman will understand and not bring in the baggage
Actually this depends.
I was with a girl who was in a relationship for nearly 8 years. And was single only for about 4 months until she dated me.
Even though she broke up with him, the withdrawal symptom of leaving ones ex becomes stronger the more years you've been with them.
She didn't spend enough time alone to really get over him. So she broke up with me after 5 months because she just couldn't stop thinking about him.
And told me how too many qualities i posses reminds her of him. She ended up going back to him.
This was painful because not only did we spend so many hours almost every day together for the 5 months we were a a couple, but she also broke up with me 2 weeks into the beginning of the pandemic. It felt like the end of the world in more ways than one.
My mistake was ignoring the red flags that indicated how she still hasn't let go of her past.
So in short: Don't assume that just because a woman broke up with her ex, that she will be ready and able to move on with you.
Women never spend enough alone. In fact, they normally get a new man before dumping the old man.
The most confusing thing to me is: if women like tall men most, why do they love wearing high heels?
Heels are not for their height. It makes them look vulnerable and uncomfortable which men are attracted to. It mimics the Damsel in distress situation. It also makes their ass look a certain way.
Their ass looks differently in heels. Triggers primal feels in men.
It tightens up the calves, thighs and ass by forcing the associated muscles taunt. It's like a magic trick really, an illusion. And the vulnerability is like cat nip to men. I like everything about them but think about it, it's like modern day foot binding.
High heels make their ass sway more when they walk.
I think it's because it opens the door to taller men. If her reference is a 5'7 guy because she's short, by wearing heels her new reference is automatically going to be taller
Amen. Whether he wants it or not that EX holds a full house in the rather absurd game of relationships. To me the ex's are just a bad hand that won't go away. Been on both sides of that absurd fence.
That's why you want a woman with the least exes if possible, otherwise she'll stack you up against a huge array of experiences and you'll most likely lose
To this day I know I could revisit a couple of women I broke it off with back in the day. Ya they are married and I would not do it but There is something absolutely irresistible to women about the men they “couldn’t lock down”. It’s deeply personal to them and the scenario irresistible. How weird is it that the best way to get a woman to be eternally obsessed with you is to dump her?? Are they damaged or is this how attraction works I mean I find the women I know I will never bed very intriguing
Intuitive economics i guess. You can't buy something therefore it must be of high value therefore you absolutely must get it because high value correlates with high quality generally at least. And sometimes value is confused with utility
I think because really the guy who took her virginity should've been her husband. Now everytime she gets dumped that sense of self worth diminishes bit by bit
Rejection breeds Obsession
Women's mentality to only date up is really messing with career women's dating life. It's kind of funny that they actually think there is a lack of options. It's easy to notice when it comes to women in the spotlight, celebrities, professional athletes etc.
The best thing about being a rebound guy is: - she will eventually go back to her ex and won't ruin YOUR life! 🤣
This phenomenon is so deeply ingrained in the psyche of women that it runs independently of the actual value of the ex who dumped and that of her current man. I.e. the current man maybe wealthier, of higher social status, objectively better looking and with a bigger tool and better skilled in bed, treating her with love and respect and yet... she will be pining for her ex. Because he dumped her. By all means, in practice the ex she pines for is usually better in at least some of the aforementioned metrics, but there are cases where the ex is really a loser compared to the next one and still the woman pines for him merely because he dumped her. Women who have fallen in this loophole, may do everything to get back with the ex, relive a bit the moments, and then either they will stay with him (provided he also does so) or they will find out that it was all firecrackers and smoke and no substance and they will dump him eventually overcoming his memory, but doing so usually when it is too late for them to be able to find a better man.
This phenomenon was quickly noticed by the early PUAs back in early 2000s and they had a term for it : "alpha-widow". Wisely they were advising to avoid forming relationships with "alpha-widows".
I've heard that women look at men much in the same way men look at nature/reality around them.
A man is always looking for the best environment for him, the one that's conducive enough so he's safe, but also challenging enough so he's motivated to strive for the best version of himself. And he always derives greatest pleasure/fulfilment from "civilizing" or "conquering" the "roughest/toughest" environnement, thus validating his competence as a man.
Now, consider a reasonably competent and successful man (in most areas of life) who has one thing, one task/challenge-perhaps from when he was younger and more unsure of himself-where he FAILED woefully. That challenge/task, which may be as trivial as riding a wild horse 🐎 successfully, will HAUNT him. It would have a "special place in his heart", regardless of all the other objectively more impressive tasks he's completed successfully (e.g climbing Mount Everest, creating a good family, or nurturing a successful company.
If that man is on the verge of sealing a big-money deal for his company, and a time-sensitive opportunity to ride that darned horse 🐎 shows up at the same time. Well, you'd better believe he'd be TEMPTED to "risk it all" to ride that horse 🐎 one more time. Whether or not he does make that seemingly rash decision, depends on how much growth and self-reflection he's undergone in the meantime.
Now consider a woman in the same scenario, with a guy she never "conquered", bearing in mind that "self-reflection" isn't exactly a woman's strong suit. All of a sudden, this phenomenon might make a lot more sense to you.
I think this is because they are spoiled to the core and can't stand the fact that someone dumped them.
Simply because of this day and age and how degenerate and weak people are.
A man who wants to gain power over a woman must follow the example of women and condition his sex drive. If he succeeds in becoming as cold as she, she can no longer bait him with sex into the role of provider. At most she could offer herself as an equal sex partner, as dependent on him as he is on her. If men could abstain from sex at judicious intervals they might even succeed in normalizing the female sex drive - even make women desire them more than the other way around.
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@@mathiaslimbodal667 Well this goes to the root of the general imbalance in sexual dynamics between the two sexes since indeed in the conditions of deregulated sexual market place women having on average 10 times lower libido than males have a massive advantage.
However, it is not practical to advise "abstinence" to men. Men do have an extremely high sexual desire (unseen in almost all other mammals) and for them to achieve "coolness in abstinence" requires monk-style spiritual work which can only be performed by a tiny minority of men who may as well go full-time spiritual and abstain altogether like true monks do.
Abstinence or other solutions such as pornography cannot be a wholesome solution. The only way for men to gain the upper hand is the usage of prostitutes and the circumstantial engagement only with non-prostitutes where the situation favours them (e.g. a woman that actively seeks the man, puts him on the pedestal etc.). By satisfying their libido through prostitution men are far less controlled by their libido and thus can see clearer the situation around them and the extent that a specific woman is willing to interact with them sexually without applying the usual luring tactics of throwing money ( = > which anyway is akin to prostitution).
Remember that when Solon took up power in Athens, the first reform he did was on prostitution : he regulated it and promoted it all while legally punishing pre-marital and extra-marital affairs of any kind among men and women of "citizenry" (i.e. women of citizen fathers were banned from sex outside marriage and any man was banned from approaching them sexually).
It seems that 200 years later and a 100 years into Democracy, the city of Athens reverted on these laws and thus Plato was re-proposing the same regulations again in his later and most prominent work that conveyed his personal opinions rather than those of others.
Ah so I see. The only way to get a girlfriend is to not actually like her. Gotcha.
Correction: it's not the ex bf that's dangerous; it's her action upon having a second chance with him that is.
I've employed the technique of ignoring women and it works. The thing is though, you need to meet a minimum looks threshold for it to work.
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Big facts !
The only way to win, is not to play.
This is very interesting. A good portion of my relationships were ended by the woman, actually for reasons Alex laid out in previous videos; making them too comfortable and being perceived as weak.
The 2 I ended are still obsessed with me though, and will contact me and try to hit on me even when they have boyfriends. I never made the connection that this could be why. It sucks for whoever they date, one of them told me they'd never love someone like they love me, and considering I'll never reciprocate those feelings, that's a shitty situation she'll be putting other men into.
Those 2 were also ones I acted cockier around and didn't shower in love. Alex really has opened my eyes up to a lot of these patterns and behaviors in women I never realized before, I really do appreciate it.
i can see why android wives will be a big hit in the future...
you chose to drop the tiege hanley ad right as im taking my bong rip Alex
he is inside your walls
@@fatfingersman It's an inside job 😂
It was planned
I have zero interest in aligning myself to womens way of being.
I test women by being nice, if she's not nice back, she failed and we both walk away unhappy, but I will never ever mold myself to fit thr cutrent dating market.
I'm 47 with hobbies and I swear, when I get home nothing makes me more happy than my hobbies/passions and peace.
I don't have the abundance mindset cause I don't have abundance, I have focus and drive, so when I see something I want, I go hard for it, I have no interest in chasing somebody I don't want or somebody that wants somebody that doesn't want them.
I'm not playing this game, make my fantasy come true or duck off.
Good man
Some truth to that based on my own experience. My marriage was awful and my wife treated me horribly and was also not a good mother to the children. I tried to make it work but eventually left when I could take it no more. But then despite all she had done, I was harassed with phone calls and begging emails trying to get me back. This continued even though she quickly met and moved in with someone new. Even though she was now living with and having sex with this new guy, when I went to the old property to collect the last of my stuff, she manipulated me to go into the bedroom and then pushed me onto the bed and tried to seduce me. BTW the new relationship did not last and she is now with partner number 5. Still kept contacting me even when she was into relationship number 3.
Ultimately it's a catch 22 and the whole thing is a waste of time. If the problem is that they are attracted to those who don't want them, then the moment they become wanted they stop being attracted. In doing so the "solution" solves nothing. In the end they're either miserable because they crave to "tame the beast" but can't, or they're miserable because the beast is tamed and has thus become repulsive. The only winning move for any involved man is not to play. The only winning move for a woman is to become conscious of the paradox inherent in her post-rejected state.
Precisely. Them wimmin will always bring it to a lose-lose situation.
My last ex was like ...i met her she had left her ex cus he was abusive but she was clearly hurting ...i had an edge at first but as she opened up about her traumas i became more caring eventually i was doing all kinds of things to make her happy ...she would say things like " I cant remember the last time i was this happy"... Yeah eventually she went back to her ex lol I should have just hit and quit it ...being nice gets you used
If I have no value for myself, I hide, I lie, I avoid responsibility & accountability, people lie to me because it is easier than dealing with tantrums: of course I will fall for the guy that turned me down. He must be high value, because he sees through my lies & knows I'm not.
In other words: don't bother, men.
One fact about the relationship between men and women that will never go mainstream: Some men are going to genuinely dislike or even resent women's psychology, and that's okay. There's nothing wrong with opting out-relationships are not for everyone. I've covered a lot of dynamics on my channel.
Soooo you're saying you're not into astrology? lol
@@runreilly heh I'm saying that anyone who insists that you pursue, self-interestedly views you as an untapped resource. This being whether it is a woman who wants you to provide her or other women your resources, men who need you to value what they do to validate themselves, or want to sell you something.
Whats interesting that theres been a push over the past decade or so of "if youre a woman, its ok to be single and not start a family," but men never got that same societal approval for the exact same thing.
I dumped my ex because she stalked everything I did, offline AND online. Hell, she’s probably reading this right now ffs. Don’t date clingy, possessive women (who believe astrology over their own boyfriends).
The Space Shuttle has documentation, drawings and manuals totally about 12 million pages.
It is easier and SAFER to fly the Space Shuttle.
I'd say not so much a man of "high quality" but a man of "high perceived value" based on the values of the woman that perceives certain traits to be "high value". Be it looks/physicality, job/amount of money being earned, status and so on.
Yes the extent to which they favor a man being tall and having a new car versus meaningful measures of value is absurd.
Nah I don’t agree it doesn’t matter if she dumps him or he dumps her… She will still think about the one that gave her the best memories and triggered her emotions the most… that’s why it’s important to know her past to determine if she is worth a future with you…vet the women you date judiciously… they will never forget the “one that got away” it’s like a nostalgic memory forever etched in their subconscious that will resurface. Women remember everything from sexual experiences to meaningful interactions as well as toxic destructive relationships….
"in the minds of many low quality women........" He finally hit the nail on the head. And how do you spot low quality? They bring nothing but the box to the table.
It isn't about her being "low quality". When a man ends a relationship with a woman he's declaring her to be of lower value to him. And so when her next boyfriend pedestalises her he is implicitly declaring himself to be of lower value than her ex. Of course she's going to drop the lower value man if the higher value man subsequently shows interest.
You really hit the nail right on the head with this one. Never thought about it quite as you state,but it instantly explains behaviours I never understood before.
Well done.
Guys, every relationship is temporary. Nothing, nothing, nothing is set in stone. She may have dumped her Ex and she may still go back to him. After she goes back to him, she may dump him and come back to you. I have had this happen to me. Remember, the only relationship law is: The Only Relationship Security is Being Able to Get the Next One. As long as you develop the skills to get relationship after relationship, you have relationship security.
So, don't get upset about anything. Remember, the only way that you can be upset is if you are set. Don't become set on the way anything is going to be or is supposed to be in the future. Remember, anything can happen. When it does happen, just shrug your shoulders and remind yourself that what happened was always a possibility.
k bro
Keep a girl but don't be in love and don't be attached. Gotcha.
That's what "relationship" is today. It's worse than keeping a pet dog or a mule 😂
Funny seeing this video after I dumped a girl after 4 dates who suposedly has contact with her ex and I greatly asume he dumped her. Its a higher value dude. This is spot on dude, seriously. Great video!
This is great! I’m 70 and learned this later in life …after 40. Stayed single till I was 58. Best thing I ever did.
7:51 Legendary Metal Gear Solid alert sound! :D
I understand that psychology in a funny way...I was in a bar and a girl was flirting with me and she murmured in my ears that I have non chance with her because she wants to be that dude over to my rigth. At that moment, I looked at her with contempt and said : no problem ! have a good night... and I left the other way. Funny enough she turned around and said loudly : HEY ! I love you, don't go ! 😂😂 I left anyway and proceed to respect my need and my time.
Mr. Grace, thanks for sharing your your advice. We men appreciate it.
I'm calling bullshit, even if she dumped him she can still be hung up on him especially if he hit it right or gave her "the tingles." This dude out here giving false hope and security to keep men out here who keep going to the slaughter. You sell a course so that alone also has me calling bullshit. Men if you need to pay someone to understand women or date them you're being taken for a ride. Save your money you don't need to buy a bullshit course to know any of this stuff about women. "Check out my course." No thanks. High quality women are few and far between these days, better things to put energy into than continuing to go out there to find a needle in a haystack.
This make so much sense! The fact that woman Monkey-Branch to the next relationship means that if she's single she really really hates the guy now OR she was dumped!
A man can never be of high quality if he treats anyone badly especially a woman he is involved with!!
seen it ... dated a crazy woman, wanted security guard at mall, tall, me short with my own house and IT job ... yep ... she was just like that
Even if the guy who dumped her doesn't come back into the picture, there is that flame of disatisfaction in her mind about him that may sooner or later get taken out on you.
Everything you say I've experimented with and experienced in life and found to be 100% true.
One girl was trying to sell me this lie that she was done with her ex, of course I didn't buy it, as soon as I rejected her she was back with her ex, her ex is married and has a kid by the way
And where exactly can one find these high quality women?
H e y...they're WAY too much work!
I'd rather do a good business deal or follow my freedom wherever it takes me.
So in essence, dysfunctional drama is must for women to be content (notice I didn’t say happy). So show just enough attention to hook them, then after that treat them like any other door knob, maybe even break up with them, they’ll love you forever. That’s insane. I was born in the wrong era. I’d prefer the 1960’s where women were faithful and obedient out of fear of social stigma or divorce. I can tell you that once a women goes through “the change” the hypergamy go’s full throttle. When they don’t enjoy sex anymore, what else is there for them but material and the long term security of their children?
The only reason humans have survived this long is men are willing to boink anything with a pulse.
LMAO! amen
In your opinion a mans self worth and confidence is reliant on a womans opinion.
Not so, a mans self worth and value is defined by his upbringing and his mentors and of course himself, first last and always.
A womans opinion has little to no value if a man is already self assured and confident of his path in life.
After being dumped and rejected she realises that he doesn't look at her as a sex doll which she is used to and assumed he was also one of them. He looks at her as a person with a unique identity. She lost him because of her behaviour and ego and that makes her to respect him even more.
Deep down inside they know they're trash thats why they treat you nice guys so bad cause they know you're lying when you're nice
You must lie a lot, lie like a friggin' rug.
How am I supposed to treat someone I love and care about like crap ??? That is only something a woman can rationalize. I feel like slitting my throat. No hope
No hope
No hope
You didn't listen properly. That's for LOW quality women. Those women have insecurities about themselves that make them think that way. High quality women don't think that way about themselves
It's very rare to find a woman of the character you describe. It's rare. Maybe you need to talk about the fact that most men will have to settle for a woman who's not the highest quality. Also people can change to, but I feel there's always a degree of pettiness that lives inside a woman when she gets dumped.
There is no your woman, it just your turn.
It's a dead end street anyway cause she'll never tell you the truth about her ex. Why? Have you ever heard a woman saying her ex dumped her? None. Not a single woman will accept reality and she will always say she's the one who dumped him. ALWAYS.
There are certain evolutionary traits being described here….there were a conflicting dualism between the “provider” vs the “breeder”. The 2 dynamics will be in conflict perpetually within a woman….in the same way that a man will have with the “nurturer” vs the “fertile” dynamics. It’s a clear case that our first instincts (which go back to more than 6 mil years) have been altered throughout our evolution as ominids due to the complexity of the upbringing and defense of the offsprings.
spelled Hominids. I know our European counterparts dont pronounce the 'H', but it was confusing seeing it without it. hopefully you dont mind me pointing this out. I appreciate your comment, and you added much more to my understanding, so thank you!
You are a smart, smart man...
2:00 also if you are high value but treat them really nice that makes you low value.
Wouldn't put things that way. Yep, a younger lady (18-28) tend to act as said. She wants to feel alive and thrilled. If the guy dump her, she will lack the intensity. Women are emotional creatures who crave to be filled. It has less to do with treating her right or wrong than furfill her with challenging adventures. This boosts her ego since she can feel special. The good advice to men is to be able to entertain a woman with your own universe. Beware she will look later for more stability and security. Her mind will twist to who's the guy that can provide for me and my parents will be proud of. Conclusion : manage your own life to make it look good to you, independently of what women might want, is a better deal on the long run than seeking to please them at any price.
Brother, we already need to do 2 jobs just to survive. I cannot take on a 3rd job of event planner and manager to entertain some 304 who will dump me as soon as I fail even once to interpret what she wants without her explaining it clearly and then doing a flawless execution of a unique plan everytime...
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@@justathinker8669 I'm just saying that if you are not superman, the richest or most attractive guy around, offerring more substance to your interactions is a way to compete. And yes it is work, since nothing comes for free in this world.
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Please, brothers; learn this early in your life and never forget it. You will gain peace.
"We advance towards that which retreats from us"
Great vid and great point I have t heard in all the time in this space.
The simple solution to all of this is: "Make Her Earn your Trust." Keep the relationship in the fun zone, and assume she's lying and/or cheating on you until she proves otherwise. Don't get angry, don't throw a fit, just accept this is average women, and the only way to a "good" woman is to keep dating around until you meet one who wants to prove her loyalty to you.
Its just for Fun, until she's willing to Earn commitment.
She wants him back so SHE can be the one that dumps him.
This is an eye-opener, but it makes a lot of sense.
If you’re OBJECTIVELY better. And she leaves, just make sure she can’t get back to you 😂🤷🏽♂️
Though if she dumped him she would also be prone to dump me. So there got to be a valid reason for her to have dumped him. Otherwise she would keep dumping for "reasons" rather than reasons.