8 Reasons Women Don't Like Nice Guys
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- Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024
- Nice guys often find themselves not doing so well with the ladies. In today's video, Jeff from The Style O.G. discusses 8 reasons women don't like nice guys.
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I'm a nice guy, but what seems to work for me is not chasing them almost ignoring them especially if there beautiful. Having a life with goals should be #1
Appreciate the response!
A dandy seducer.
Preach on, Loren! I agree.
1000%
You aren’t all that nice
Also, nice guys tend to fall prey to narcissists and manipulators.
Agreed!
This should be pinned! OMG I have stories. You mean nice guys without boundaries
I always thought of it as a racially thing: I saw it, speaking from a minority male, that being educated and well spoken not only got me rejected but feared! I found myself getting more in trouble with law as a nice guy than when I started carrying myself more badass and dressing more edgy. I find myself less in need of having to walk around with weapons now than before. But now, because I've lacked so much experience with women, I still feel lost in the world of dating but I'm getting better at it as time goes on! Mediating, seeking therapy, connecting with nature, building my body!
"Do not mistake my kindness for weakness" should be every man's motto.
Indeed!
I live by these exact words. You cross me or disrespect me and I’ll show ya’ Mr Hyde! 🤣🤣
Ditto!
PREACH
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I think there are plenty of women who do like nice guys.. just not too nice. You can be kind and considerate without being a pushover or always being agreeable.
Agreed!
I'm still trying to figure out why women will purposely test a man. These are the same women that are always complaining about the guys they get done dirty by. While I think those guys are a joke, women think those dudes are hot shit.
Being a Kind Genuine man with boundaries is the way to go.
Agreed!
The justice system wouldn't agree with that, my friend 😉!
Kind is another word for nice
I am super nice guy who go the extra mile for ladies in general e.g. Work for free, buy groceries,shopping,cooking,travel to different countries at my expense and pay their bills etc.However,after watching your video,I have decided to focus more on my job and stop being nice....Thank you 100%
Your being a simp our you getting any action by helping them i hope so
If a woman saying you're too nice, boring or this and that and she doesn't love you for who you are, then that's her problem
For those who don’t know, the original & actual, real definition of the work “nice” means fool. I remember being a “nice guy” to the ladies in my college days. It never worked. Now that I’m older and see the world clearly and a bit different with experience, it’s a different ball game. My relationship with the Most High comes first, my priories and goals thereafter. Now, those same women that played me back then are all up in my DMs today….and even new women too, but I keep a cool and calm head & remain strong and principled.
If someone doesn't like you for who you are, it's not your problem! All you need to be in life is a respectable and honorable chap. If a woman calls that being too "nice", let her walk and don't look back. It's as simple as that.
Well said,totally agree.
God's rejection is God's protection
U always hit the nail on the head w/the hammer!! I like when u say be kind not nice. I notice when I use ur advice when it come to women, it seem to attract them to me rather than me come @ them.
Right on!
You're absolutely right I used to be a nice guy especially when it came to beautiful women they are the ones that will make you be nice in the beginning so after dating beautiful Latino women mainly I learned to be just kind to women not nice anymore and sometimes I will even just ignore them I won't even answer that text messages but being kind is the answer kind and confident but never nice not anymore thank you for this good advice
my pleasure!
I am strong which is why I can be kind and help others. I dont need to throw my weight around needlessly when I am surrounded by loud small minded people who have trouble executing tasks with large egos.
Jeff you are spot on! I've been telling guys versions of these points for YEARS. A man should never let the rituals to courting take him away from being the most authentic version of himself. Be kind (it costs nothing), but always be yourself. Being anything else isn't fair to her or you.
No one should be overly nice. It's important to be a good person but give to reserve all the extra things for people in your circle who truly deserve it. Too many people are taking this advice to an extreme.
Nobody wants to deal with a phony. This is particularly true with respect to the phony. When I decided to be true to myself and acted accordingly, my life improved. It is much easier to maintain boundaries when I am not engaged in a cycle of self-hating BS.
well said!
That phony may also be the person who is selective about who they take for a joke.
Excellent Breakdown Brother! Salute! 👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿
Much appreciated!
You're right OG. I met a girl that I really liked so I was trying to take it slow and be all sweet and really try to get to her and all that jazz. After the THIRD freaking date, her friend texts me and tells me that she thinks I might be gay because I didn't try to have sex with her yet. Lmaooo
I just give them what they want. Asshole first. Gentlemen second.
Move on, she's a simp from what it sounds like.
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@@Loren460 FAAAAAACTS!
You are right The Style O.G. I'm a real "nice" guy. I'm also SEETHING WITH INTERNAL RAGE AND LOW SELF ESTEEM because of being a push over. I often find myself throwing things around at home...getting angry easily at home. But around people and women I'm a big sucker...ahem a big "Nice" guy. But when I get home to my privacy...my "nice" mask falls off and my temper flares along with my feelings of inability to stand up for myself and my interests.
Use that anger into a martial art or boxing. release your thoughts on paper or a counselor. personally my outcry goes to God and it works. You have PRIDE issues.. Learn to UNLEARN your old ways and be humble in learning on how to be your own man without being nice. It does take time and experience. RUclips videos and social media won't save you, you gotta put it into practice. I love to say " hi , good morning" " how are you doing?" to women who are working as a cashier or somewhere public. I don't try to pick up. Muay Thai and Boxing taught me a lot about discipline and not getting pushed over. " Seething with internal rage" will DESTROY you...I say all of this through personal experience. im now a whole lot better and now I get girls wanting to say " hi " to me. Im no Brad Pitt or good looking guy too. Stop wasting time and go better yourself. Hurry! life is too precious for you!
That sounds like the way I am. I'd prefer to take someone's head off for taking me for something I'm actually not. I don't like arguing with people because that's not going to get my point across in the slightest bit.
I'd rather just step off because people don't hear me until I'm in a rage. I've always had anger issues since I was a kid. With age, I know that I'd end up sitting in someone's prison for treating people just like they want to be treated.
@@dcchavez97 Thank You for your reply. My Apologies for the late response. RUclips Algorithm did not notify me. Thank You for the Awesome Advice! 👍🙂🙏
@@rgw1380rw I understand. Same here. There are people who will deliberately not listen. In order to get a reaction. Please Don't let them make you lose your temper. Stay Up. And Keep a Calm outlook. That's what I try to do. 🙂I know it is hard for me to do at times. Thanks for sharing.
@@damianlopez7630 There are laws that protect those sitting ducks from people like me who understand that they want to lose their lives.
That’s a fly blazer Jacket OG salute
Thanks!
Thank You Style O.G. Being too nice can be a form of manipulation.
Yup!
So can basing your entire personality off a series of RUclips videos.
Awesome video. Love the content . Thanks again, Jeff. Salute.
Much appreciated!
Mr. O.G.! I haven't tuned in a while, but glad to see your channel standards are still exemplary.
Welcome back!
Jeff another great video with awesome content. PEACE AND BLESSINGS OG.
Peace !
Excellent!!!!. You pretty much cover all bases a man needs to know in male-female mating. Every guy should watch this before he even BEGINS dating, whatever age that may be. Sure wish l could have watched this over & over again when l was a teenager.
This man speaks a lot of wisdom. Guys who are playing the "nice guy" should take note. I often wondered - even as far back as high school - why women always seem to be attracted to guys who treated them not like dirt, but indifferently. Never figured that out on my own. Put yourself in a woman's place to better understand.
Treat em mean keep ‘em keen… Been working since school days
Good video Jeff. Unfortunately, nice guys finish last. Sayings like these don't get to be old unless there is some truth behind them. I say be a good guy with a rough edge/mean streak.
appreciate the input!
My mean streak is violent. I'd rather just go about my way. Nobody who toys with easy going people truly understand that some of us are evil people that just don't take our issues out on others.
The tip about being a leader is 100% true. If you can't lead me, I don't need you.
appreciate the feedback!
Good stuff.
Thanks!
Spot on!
Thanks !
There's a difference between kindness and neediness. You must differentiate between the two.
Moral of the story: have true purpose and chase after that. They will chase you. They will test you. Stand your ground. Stay true to your purpose. Be kind but always stay grounded to your purpose.. women love men that chase after their purpose. Ergo if you chase after your purpose you will have less time for her: ergo the cycle continues...
Out of insecurity we do try to help everyone as much as we can only later to find out that we were just being used according to the whims and fancies of the people around us.
Makes plenty of sense, a lot of women I am nice with always get confused when I want nothing from them, I grew up with a lot of women and I am genuinely concerned about women in general. So if I can help I do so, but I don't desire anything from them, no relationship no favors nothing. I believe that has confused a few friends, but I am also not a push over, I am very firm on my thinking and confident in me.
On point!!!
Thanks !
Another great set of "real s#!t" that NEEDS to be said. It's very difficult trying to articulate why "niceness" doesn't always work, but this definitely lays it out nicely and definitively. Nice one, Jeff! What's funny though is that most women will swear up and down that they DO want a nice guy.
The one glaring reason also is that women think nice guys aren't good in the bedroom and are too passive and accommodating; she will act out inevitably so she wants a man to put her in her place
Yet they complain about violent men 😂 ?
@@rgw1380rw ikr lol
They don’t know what they want
Hey Jeff, great video ! Just wanted to say thanks, I had that "Everyman Jack Sandalwood" delivered! Now one of my permanent brands I'll use moving forward ! Thanks again !
No problem!
If you have to say you’re a nice guy, you’re probably not that nice. You’re not owed anything for being nice, that’s the baseline of how you’re supposed to be.
who said we were owed anything cus we dont owe no one either
OMG, SOOOO nailed it RIGHT OFF THE BAT!
What they want is a man who's kind at his core, but definitely rough around the edges. That dude treats them fairly but is not about to let them walk all over him. That's what gets their attention....and keeps it.
agreed!
I'd rather step off about my way. They wouldn't be smiling about me having zero respect for them after taking me for a fool the first time. I'm a guy that is used to attention and compliments from women because that's been life for me. I'm just very confused about setting boundaries because what some call boundaries isn't getting my point across like a good old fashioned jump out the window.
Most of these women haven't really dealt with a Rick James type of dude who refuses to be toyed with, but will walk over them without a pause from the day they open the gate till they tap out.
You just gotta have a strong backbone and have standard. Destroy their ego. Let them know you the man. Women will respect dominance
I'm the man that will have a ball when they end up with the usual failed relationships that they are bitter about.
@rgw1380rw Just be yourself and set your boundaries.
Simple and plain, be kind and not nice. I remember your other video on this topic!
Damn bro, this hit on the nail … ima manipulate bastard… that’s gonna change RN
Nice people try to appear agreeable, it's about how they are viewed by the person they are interested in that dictates their actions. This in turn often comes across as insincere as they are trying to do right by someone not necessarily because they are kind but because they want that someone to like them.
Kind people look at themselves and think "what type of person do I want to be?" and express that in every action they take. It's genuine as they are acting out of personal values and are therefore confident in their kindness as they are being true to themselves and that's attractive.
well said!
Be a good guy not a nice guy
Good guys make a difference and live a life of integrity
Nice guys avoid conflict and get ran over
Jeffery I like your style and Advice!
Brisco in LA., from Bmore 👊
meakness is not weakness......good topic and nice presentation: The style O.G !!
Your video is much appreciated!
In any event, the 🌍 world will keep spinning.
On point once again OG!
Thanks !
alot of truth here and it may hurt some feelings but its necessary rather it be here than with a female
indeed!
Great topic and commentary!
But then when you put up boundaries people call you crazy, you didn’t respect me when I was normal but now I’m crazy?!
Damn if you do, Damn if you don't.
Thanks for the info. It was very good! Also the blazer is nice! But i'd ditch the nipple buttons 😂
Don't be nice,be kind
You can be respectful, nice take that off the list, nice just means a simp. No simping over here ever.
Can you make a Video about a Classic Jabot Tie
That’s a “nice guy” jacket 😅 Honestly tho ; I like the point about being kind !
Funny!
😂😂 true that. Facts and always on target 🎯
Nice guys have, will and always will finish last. Be respectful but chill out on being nice.
Agreed!
Very true! ❤️💪🏾💯
Salute !
This video is major facts I was raised as a nice guy but once I become and adult I trained in a position of law enforcement and it shredded alt that
👏👏👏👏!
Great video and information here!
"Nice guys finish last" isn't just a time honored saying it's also the lament of guys who are too accommodating and deferential to not only women but deferential to people in general.
Now to be honest at the other end of the "Nice Guy" scale is a guy being a straight up, full on asshole.
Let me share some "GAME" (Grown Ass Man Education)🎓 here👇
A man can be cordial and courteous WITHOUT being a pushover or a Simp.
All it takes is a healthy self image of who and what he is which shouldn't depend upon what other folks either think about him or say about him.
A man who stands up straight, looks people in the eyes, says what he means and means what he says regardless of his stature or station in life, is going to earn the respect of again not only women but with people in general.
Appreciate the response!
Good point about the manipulation
Thanks !
Being ambiguous is good not just in the dating market but also in the job market
Normally, I talk proper when I'm out and about or if I'm at a store buying something, but when I changed and deepen my voice, women started to cling on to me, I would briefly chat with about an item I wanted, and they would try to prolong the conversation or play with their hair all because I just deepen my voice lol---
Salute brother
Salute !
I needed this, sometimes I feel like youtube is listening to me.
Thank you bro!
There is an old saying that I tell men all the time just because a woman gets into a relationship with you or even marries you doesn’t mean she respects you and that’s real talk
Translation just be true to who you are and let the chips fall where they may.
We should switch the word nice with passive because a lot of women like nice guys but not to the point where they become pushovers and worship the ground they walk on.
women dont like nice guys
Women do like nice dudes. The problem is the unattractive dude always trying to be nice. Women want the nice looking dude they think is cute to be nice. Ever heard a woman say he was the sweetest thing, yea right she thought he was cute first lol,
So it's because hes not in the top 0.1% man which all women think they are entitled to?
Do not mistake my kindness for weakness I'm kind to everyone when someone is unkind to me weakness is what not you'll remember about me
Al Capone
Dropping gems og
I try!
Man you on point with your videos . Keep it up bruh .
Will do!
Women do like nice guys it is naive guys that are a turn off unless they are the motherly type of woman which most are not. Most girls who like bad boys where I come from are walking around pregnant with black eyes and busted teeth. I like a smart girl,cerebal and bookish most women like that want to be treated nicely,at least in my opinion.
I like your video, it just seems like a big game though, if you are being generally nice, how does the woman know if you are just being manipulative out of the gate? What if you are not and she thinks you are, and this makes you angry? Enjoyed the video
if you are comfortable with your intentions and you establish boundaries she will know, because that will involve you having to say no at times..
Brilliant bit of comedy, thank you for the laugh
Do "not nice" guys have a higher quality of life, have more options for companionship, have better health, have more access to resources, are better problem solvers, or better parents?
I know what you're getting at. There is a balance, and you never hear about being nice as a success strategy. But I do think it's easier to be too nice.
It's like style OG said: Be kind, not nice.
@@nickmoore1541
Got it...balance of nice and not nice.
What are more accurate words for nice and not nice in this scenario?
@@prestonmcleod1726 Got it.
It’s about not being a pushover. “Nice Guys” don’t voice their opinion and will agree out of niceness. You should be courteous and polite to people, but if someone was saying something mean or rude to you stand up for yourself. Being a jerk will get people to not like you very quickly, and the people that do like you are also jerks. It’s not really about being nice it’s more about agreeing to everything out of desperation and not having a backbone
So... Women avoid nice guys? No wonder I still have so much money.
Great point btw
Thank you for your channel bro. I watched over 15 of your videos. Hopefully in the future I will be honored with a salute.👍🏽👊🏾💪🏾
You are on the salute list !
@ Peter Rock. You got a SALUTE!!!
Great content as usual OG!!
Appreciate it!
I’m a nice guy. Women rarely if ever take an interest in me. It’s like a curse.
@@NoNamesGivenATALL naw bra thats fo weak simps
Right on the money
Thanks Boss! 🙏
no problem!
Just treat them like a normal person and not give them more praise if they are beatiful and it works
Hummm women should be paying attention. Especially the one's who have a nice guy... I know we have all had that one O.G is talking about 🤔 As always I love these topics !!
say No !and watch her fists fly at you😂
I does it and tell them I wish you would, and they don't swing either😆😆.
This entire video felt like a quick TV commercial that catches your attention
WELL SAID!
Thanks!
Wasn't it Shakespeare who wrote "You have to be cruel to be kind"?
Being a nice guy isn't natural and weird to women. Being blunt with women is the way to go.
I wonder how they'd rate a so called nice guy who truly preferred to react in a very violent manner to people taking them lightly? I'm a so called nice guy that just got tired of people calling me crazy for being short tempered. My preferred way of doing things would put me in a place nobody should be.
Salute. 👍
Women would rather be beat or cheated on rather than be bored or with a lame guy. Be slightly narcissistic and make money
Make them know that you're in control mentally and financially
Because what a man defines as being nice is not objective but rather subjective. Being a “nice guy” says nothing about your character. Are you patient, slow to anger, don’t project your shortcomings onto others, don’t act entitled?
3:49 = chauvinist! No style in that. Who leads in a relationship is often negotiated with each arising situation. If a guy insisted he had to lead I would find it disrespectful as he wouldnt be listening to me. Bye bye Git!
That suit gotta be custom