Thank you for being you and continuing to be vulnerable. This was so helpful to me today as I am understanding something more deeply about myself through something that was said that was hurtful to me and yet some how it’s becoming the greatest gift and creating more freedom for me to love and be loved more authentically. So many things you said I appreciated and made me curious about. The one that stands out the most is how you said and suggested the question in being curious about just for today how do I take care of Sonia? (my understanding and interpretation 😉) Thank you so much ❤ Hugs 🤗 to you and Audrey 😊
The day when Matthew Hussey and Simon Sinek get together is a day when history gets made ❤. I owe my career to Simon Sinek and my happy relationship to Matthew
Great podcast Simon. I believe the huge problem with society rn is that there is an institutionalized impatience, that we are living in a world of instant gratification where people believe they can get whatever they want instantly like for Amazon, binge watching tv shows and Instagram. Relationships, friendships and human connections are a slow, meandering and uncomfortable process and it takes time to develop and learn the fundamental skills
There's so much sensitivity and kindness here. I think this should be marketed to uplifting sensitive guys. How sensitive guys can be friends with other sensitive, nice guys. ❤❤❤ Not everyone is your enemy. Just my opinion 😊
3 comments I wanted to add to a great conversation. 1. When you talked about counting the hug vs. feeling it. Like any other skill, you first start by thinking about it, until it becomes part of your nature and you feel it. When you feel it that’s when it becomes real. I had a singing coach tell me he never performs a song on stage until he sings it at least 100 times. Any performance of a song starts with an analysis then as you repeat it 100x, your body remembers the technical part and you don’t think about it anymore. Then the magic happens and you start to feel it. That’s when it becomes real and affects the audience. They feel it when you feel it. And the best part of that is that it doesn’t have to be technically perfect, the imperfections become part of your originality and character. 2. Lessons-our spirit and maturity grows by learning lessons, some big some very nuanced. If you’ve mastered that lesson, whatever it is, it will no longer bother you - like if someone points out an insecurity. So when we meet people you are instinctively drawn to, and then something is off… ask yourself what lesson is this person teaching me and don’t take it so personally. Understand that this person is mirroring something for you to learn. Analyze it and understand it. This is one very tough lesson I had to learn, to not take things so personally, still gets me sometimes, but the universe will keep testing you. 3. Investing- I’m a giver without judgement or expectation, but that was also a tough lesson to not over give. There is a nuance though…to my close family and friends I will give without expectation of anything in return as long as it’s helping them (not enabling a bad habit) and they must also be in a mindset to help themselves. It makes me feel good to give that unconditional love and support. With the rest of the world… I will give and be generous of heart without judgement in places I choose to give (work, general friend groups etc…) but at some point I pull back to assess if the effort is worth my time and resources and if they are giving back as well not only taking. If there is no reciprocity, I strongly consider not investing anymore or doing something different. A great line someone told me is - you have to have boundaries about how much you give, because the taker has no limits or boundaries. Thanks Simon for all the great conversation you’ve posted on leadership and other topics, I always learn a lot by listening!
Thank you Simon for your questions, curiosity, vulnerability and courage to have this conversation. It was immensely helpful to me at this time as I could see myself doing these things too and it opened up space in my heart to have more compassion and confidence to relax and not take myself too seriously 😊 This is my first time hearing either of you speak and what a delight it was to my day to be a part of this conversation. Thank you again 🙏🤸♂️🛼💃 Sonia
To get to listen to these 2 amazing people on the same podcast is so refreshing and being a fan of both of them is just what I expected from them... thank you
I've just discovered that the feelings when you feel at ease or at home is when you truly act yourself. The more you are honest with your feelings and thoughts and promises, the more true you are. If that person doesn't allow you to be who you are, how come you can feel at home. Even with yourself, if you are not true to yourself, lying about how you feel even to yourself, do you feel at home?
Matthew as always he is so sweet and in every event of him that I have been he is always so uplifting. I am sure made Simon’s day and left him with a smile of his face. 😊
I love how Matthew unsettled Simon into thinking about himself . 😊 this is a lovely conversation. I can take lots from here... 'opportunities, kind, character, consistency, empathy, and Simon's 'I want to feel that way too.' I always end up making ppl feel good but wonder if they like being with me too. Thanks for the video.
Was thrilled to see this as a podcast! Simon and Matthew are two of my favourites. I like that Simon challenges people on certain concepts, and broadcasts the question marks as well as the endorsements. It almost feels like a sign of how much he respects the other person when he does that
i am 30 and i feel the woman he talks about in the beginning. i know i have some time, but you never know when your last day is. and i dont want to life a single life when i am the best version of myself now
As someone who is in her 50s, just don’t settle. Date as much as you can to find the right man now; they just aren’t around at my age. All my female friends are single in their 50s. Far too few good men left.
Simon so empowering as always Matthew treasure yr amazing input . All true, each have their own style .I'm 68 single woman , unconventional since a child..never married no children. No regrets ,had enough opportunities. And at 68 yrs I still believe one day Ill meet and get married, being on the same page. How does this resonate,, what do you guys think ? Time decide Who we meet.! Heart decide who you Want ! Your mind decide who Stay in your life. And then to close : chemistry, intellect, transparent communication , honesty Love and Light to you two.❤❤
i find both of your ways of being vulnerable so inspiring...Thank you from my heart...to see so much compassion towards one s healing proces is so loving...
32:30 some people has it right by instinct (an instinct generated by education and imitation of what we saw until now). But old instincts can be trained and substituted with new ones, before you interiorize them and make them yours. And it's during this sort of training when you are "tecnical", when you count the seconds of the hug. But once you interiorized it, when you master it, is when you can stop counting and you can start enjoying it and expressing it in total authenticity. So happy to see the both of you together!!! ❤
✨OMG, what an incredible privilege listening to two of my favorite speakers in one place 🙌 You both have been such an integral part in my healing journey! 🎉 THANK YOU BOTH FOR YOUR AUTHENTICITY 💖
The best way to start any sort of relationship that will last starts from just a friendship. Just be friends and see if you can be with them as just a friend from there you will automatically know whether it will lead to anything more. Always works. You have to like someone before you love someone. 🙏
FYI Simon - Pointing the remote control the other way still works because the mechanism/beam bounces back to the TV. Great conversation by the way. Love you both.
i just learned that i myself am projecting "a level of safety that i dont have" - Thank you so much about that. I just love your work and views and it helps me in my current situation so much. Just Thank you!
I know I am married, and I love my husband. But I can't shake the feeling it would be amazing to know and connect with you, Simon! Just to have that complementary grow part of my life...
What birthday present to me! 😍 Today was supposed to be my best birthday since ever: new job, new village, new apartment. A long overdued reset in my life. But… Life is a bitch. This morning I learned, that Blacky - my cat - has gone forever… I packed my belonging moved in with tears in my new home. Only Queeny (Blacky’s mother cat) and me. I did spend my birthday greaving on the sofa between unpacked boxes and a huge amount of potato crisps and chocolate croissants… Feeling miserable, mentally not fit at al. Because of new area no friends around to spend my birthday with today… And no one to sit in the mud with me. And then… The youtube algo gave me a birthday present! Two of my most important inspirers together! 🤩 As a sigma female I always struggled to talk to men and I never knew how to find my place, because I never fit in. You two had a huge impact on my personal development and inner growth. THANK YOU TWO SOOO MUCH! 😊 And gues what: I paused the video, got my *ss up and prepared the meal I had planned for today, to celebrate my new live on the first evening in my new home: Melted camembert in the oven, baguette with herbal butter and greek style joghurt with mango for dessert and glas of white wine. Chears to you two and me. Happy birthday, Maya and all the best for our new life. Blacky RIP Dinner is ready, now I start the video and will sit in the mud with you two remote and my beloved queeny on my lap… 🥂 With lots of love from Vienna, Maya
Great interview. Great insights. Many times we know the answer to whether or not to text or chase someone, but truthfully we don't want to accept the answer because it isn't the answer we want. The ultimate question is, "Why is that?"
Awesome and honest chat between two successful, good hearted men - thanks for this. I just want to say that not everyone finds love in this life. I think it's just a reality. For some reason I did not find a long-term partner and which I feel will make me sad for the rest of my life just like this woman. I gave up hope because keeping up hope and not getting it is just too painful over the time. it's real to feel that way. And everyone tries to comfort you by saying it's better to be alone than in a bad relationship. Well not helpful - as I don't compare to bad relationships. I don't know how to think about this other than to just accept that's what my life is.
So much fun, thank you both! Absolutely agree that you can love someone and be a team without having done aaalllll the work and loving yourself unconditionally. Gawd, we’d never find our person! I still haven’t 🤣
Oh I am so grateful for the content you both create. ❤❤ And thank you for this vulnerability Simon, it felt as if you were asking all these questions for me. I felt so connected. ❤️
omg, this is just amazing final for this episode about how to find the best person for yourself with this discussion about „the most important job - to take responsibility and care of my human with great love ❤ „
I love the Darth Vader helmet in the background. Is it made of rhinestones? Also, great conversation! Made me reassess my own relationship in a new positive light.
This is making me so much sense to me . When I consider the all failed the relationships I have been having over the past 15 years and the partner I met and had a great 3 years amazing relationship, all these ideas matches to my experience and I agree 💯 to what Simon was saying here. Wow this is really good 👍
Great advice. Simon from my experience, as well as analytics, I've learned that most people today have short attention spans. I encourage you to turn this video into a series of short videos, more people will see and benefit from the wisdom.
This is 100% facts. People have become more and more impatient. People have a sense of instant gratification; from going on Amazon and receiving your package the next day, being able to binge watch any show on a streaming service; not like back then when you would have to wait for a show to come on during a particular time; having to rearrange your schedule just to watch it
0:23 I did that 41 years ago. I fully invested in someone who was fully invested in me and still is. And being a woman in my 60s and having someone next to me for all these years, I still feel like this woman 2:51 asking how to kill the desire to find love.
If we are looking for a partner to complete us in this life, we are headed down a slippery slope. If we are at peace with our singleness and looking for someone to complement us, success in relationship is a viable goal. Certainly easier said than done.
reverse bucket list ...... bingo. and no "5 things to have" ... " 3 easy steps to..." .. just think about these options and try and learn how to solve your problematic part of your life.......... genious. no short cuts....hard work. LUV IT
Great-video! My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life as anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I'm saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him*
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about two years ago, but I could not let him go, so I had to do all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back, now we are back together, and I must say I am enjoying every moment!
Haven’t seen the whole podcast yet - just the short. Great philosophy from Matthew. And Simon, you are my current brain crush; I love the way you think and that piece about your new solgaard luggage literally fills ME with joy. But please consider this - they weren’t “failed” relationships. They were relationships that ended. That’s all. MOST relationships thru- out our lifetimes end - friends, lovers, even family sometimes. Hopefully we learn something along the way, and remember the good stuff. But no relationship fails. You’re always right where you need to be.
Appreciate the detailed breakdown! I have a quick question: I have a SafePal wallet with USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (alarm fetch churn bridge exercise tape speak race clerk couch crater letter). How should I go about transferring them to Binance?
I see the 20 second hug differently, not as intellectualizing, but more like a placebo effect, whether or not oxytocin was released you are going to believe that it was and experience the benefit.
I feel personally attacked by this episode 😂😂😂 I do value empathy and kindness... So indeed why do I let this man feed me crumbs whenever is convenient for him 😂 send help
I still don't think relationships are 50/50 I think it's impossible to have that, to be that, I think it's more 60/40 some days and 40/60 other days. When my wife comes home and tells me or I discover she only has 30% to give then, I make up the rest for her. Other days she will help me!
20 min and 45 seconds into it and we've mentioned nothing of the main contributors to love problems not to mention common biases of the human psyche . Unresolved traumas and or the attachment styles . 🤔
Simon just pick one anyone who picks you and find how to play side by side (ester Perot). I think you’re brilliant charming and sounds like u can be head strong; that’s what happens with brilliant minds lol Thanks, Matthew been following you for almost a decade and not yet married. Omg, I’m so confused. I read the “rules” and now recommending because I have been to nice and hurt. also, I agree there a few dichotomy in your advice. How much invest in and when ? you say don’t gravitate to people who are not good for me and then you say everyone can’t be fixed to be in a relationship. Also, are you asking to not follow are intuition when we are suppose take care of our human needs? I liked best listening to you both be vulnerable about how men think because I don’t know what is means to be a man, lol its charming you all think so much less than us women.
Loved this conversation Simon, thank you for having me on. And thanks to everyone for watching!
Great talk.
Two sensitive and wise guys❤
Thank you for being you and continuing to be vulnerable. This was so helpful to me today as I am understanding something more deeply about myself through something that was said that was hurtful to me and yet some how it’s becoming the greatest gift and creating more freedom for me to love and be loved more authentically. So many things you said I appreciated and made me curious about. The one that stands out the most is how you said and suggested the question in being curious about just for today how do I take care of Sonia? (my understanding and interpretation 😉) Thank you so much ❤ Hugs 🤗 to you and Audrey 😊
The day when Matthew Hussey and Simon Sinek get together is a day when history gets made ❤.
I owe my career to Simon Sinek and my happy relationship to Matthew
We need a story please!
@@jylbek71how long have you got 😂 it may have to be another interview…
AMEN!!!❤
Simon's genuine discomfort and open vulnerability about his past was by far what made this a new favourite episode.
Authenticity is where it's at!
Great podcast Simon. I believe the huge problem with society rn is that there is an institutionalized impatience, that we are living in a world of instant gratification where people believe they can get whatever they want instantly like for Amazon, binge watching tv shows and Instagram. Relationships, friendships and human connections are a slow, meandering and uncomfortable process and it takes time to develop and learn the fundamental skills
100%
There's so much sensitivity and kindness here. I think this should be marketed to uplifting sensitive guys. How sensitive guys can be friends with other sensitive, nice guys. ❤❤❤ Not everyone is your enemy. Just my opinion 😊
3 comments I wanted to add to a great conversation. 1. When you talked about counting the hug vs. feeling it. Like any other skill, you first start by thinking about it, until it becomes part of your nature and you feel it. When you feel it that’s when it becomes real. I had a singing coach tell me he never performs a song on stage until he sings it at least 100 times. Any performance of a song starts with an analysis then as you repeat it 100x, your body remembers the technical part and you don’t think about it anymore. Then the magic happens and you start to feel it. That’s when it becomes real and affects the audience. They feel it when you feel it. And the best part of that is that it doesn’t have to be technically perfect, the imperfections become part of your originality and character. 2. Lessons-our spirit and maturity grows by learning lessons, some big some very nuanced. If you’ve mastered that lesson, whatever it is, it will no longer bother you - like if someone points out an insecurity. So when we meet people you are instinctively drawn to, and then something is off… ask yourself what lesson is this person teaching me and don’t take it so personally. Understand that this person is mirroring something for you to learn. Analyze it and understand it. This is one very tough lesson I had to learn, to not take things so personally, still gets me sometimes, but the universe will keep testing you. 3. Investing- I’m a giver without judgement or expectation, but that was also a tough lesson to not over give. There is a nuance though…to my close family and friends I will give without expectation of anything in return as long as it’s helping them (not enabling a bad habit) and they must also be in a mindset to help themselves. It makes me feel good to give that unconditional love and support. With the rest of the world… I will give and be generous of heart without judgement in places I choose to give (work, general friend groups etc…) but at some point I pull back to assess if the effort is worth my time and resources and if they are giving back as well not only taking. If there is no reciprocity, I strongly consider not investing anymore or doing something different. A great line someone told me is - you have to have boundaries about how much you give, because the taker has no limits or boundaries. Thanks Simon for all the great conversation you’ve posted on leadership and other topics, I always learn a lot by listening!
❤thank you for your sharing ❤
Do you have a timestamp for the hug part? I can relate to what you mentioned here in your comment but would like to watch the segment :)
Thank you Simon for your questions, curiosity, vulnerability and courage to have this conversation. It was immensely helpful to me at this time as I could see myself doing these things too and it opened up space in my heart to have more compassion and confidence to relax and not take myself too seriously 😊 This is my first time hearing either of you speak and what a delight it was to my day to be a part of this conversation. Thank you again 🙏🤸♂️🛼💃 Sonia
To get to listen to these 2 amazing people on the same podcast is so refreshing and being a fan of both of them is just what I expected from them... thank you
I've just discovered that the feelings when you feel at ease or at home is when you truly act yourself. The more you are honest with your feelings and thoughts and promises, the more true you are. If that person doesn't allow you to be who you are, how come you can feel at home. Even with yourself, if you are not true to yourself, lying about how you feel even to yourself, do you feel at home?
😢 true… butt i cant move on…
Matthew as always he is so sweet and in every event of him that I have been he is always so uplifting.
I am sure made Simon’s day and left him with a smile of his face. 😊
I love how Matthew unsettled Simon into thinking about himself . 😊 this is a lovely conversation. I can take lots from here... 'opportunities, kind, character, consistency, empathy, and Simon's 'I want to feel that way too.' I always end up making ppl feel good but wonder if they like being with me too. Thanks for the video.
Two men who are great feelers and thinkers. What an awesome duo! Wonderful conversation with so many useful take-aways!
Love the concept of the reverse bucket list... Thank you for the idea, Simon! 👌🏾
Great one.
Especially “this human is yours, take care of it” 🙏🏻
Two beautiful men, having a profound and meaningful conversation. Yes, please do it again. Love and many thanks from Florida...
🙏🌍🕊💜
My two favorite people/minds/hearts together ❤️ Thank you for sharing yourself with the world!
Was thrilled to see this as a podcast! Simon and Matthew are two of my favourites. I like that Simon challenges people on certain concepts, and broadcasts the question marks as well as the endorsements. It almost feels like a sign of how much he respects the other person when he does that
I absolutely love the two of you together… Talk about great chemistry!🥰
i am 30 and i feel the woman he talks about in the beginning. i know i have some time, but you never know when your last day is. and i dont want to life a single life when i am the best version of myself now
As someone who is in her 50s, just don’t settle. Date as much as you can to find the right man now; they just aren’t around at my age. All my female friends are single in their 50s. Far too few good men left.
My two favourite people. I have followed both of you for many years. What a combo. Love it!!!❤❤
Simon so empowering as always Matthew treasure yr amazing input . All true, each have their own style .I'm 68 single woman , unconventional since a child..never married no children. No regrets ,had enough opportunities. And at 68 yrs I still believe one day Ill meet and get married, being on the same page. How does this resonate,, what do you guys think ?
Time decide Who we meet.!
Heart decide who you Want !
Your mind decide who Stay in your life.
And then to close : chemistry, intellect, transparent communication , honesty
Love and Light to you two.❤❤
i find both of your ways of being vulnerable so inspiring...Thank you from my heart...to see so much compassion towards one s healing proces is so loving...
I would love an interview of Simon with Esther Perel
Please have more of these conversations!! This has been so insightful!! Thank you!!🎉❤
32:30 some people has it right by instinct (an instinct generated by education and imitation of what we saw until now). But old instincts can be trained and substituted with new ones, before you interiorize them and make them yours. And it's during this sort of training when you are "tecnical", when you count the seconds of the hug. But once you interiorized it, when you master it, is when you can stop counting and you can start enjoying it and expressing it in total authenticity.
So happy to see the both of you together!!! ❤
✨OMG, what an incredible privilege listening to two of my favorite speakers in one place 🙌 You both have been such an integral part in my healing journey! 🎉 THANK YOU BOTH FOR YOUR AUTHENTICITY 💖
One of the best podcasts I’ve seen. Thank you both.
The best way to start any sort of relationship that will last starts from just a friendship. Just be friends and see if you can be with them as just a friend from there you will automatically know whether it will lead to anything more. Always works. You have to like someone before you love someone. 🙏
FYI Simon - Pointing the remote control the other way still works because the mechanism/beam bounces back to the TV. Great conversation by the way. Love you both.
i just learned that i myself am projecting "a level of safety that i dont have" - Thank you so much about that. I just love your work and views and it helps me in my current situation so much. Just Thank you!
It was such a treat this convo! Such a treat ❤🙏
I know I am married, and I love my husband. But I can't shake the feeling it would be amazing to know and connect with you, Simon! Just to have that complementary grow part of my life...
Great, great conversation. Thank you for sharing guys
What birthday present to me! 😍
Today was supposed to be my best birthday since ever: new job, new village, new apartment. A long overdued reset in my life.
But… Life is a bitch. This morning I learned, that Blacky - my cat - has gone forever… I packed my belonging moved in with tears in my new home. Only Queeny (Blacky’s mother cat) and me.
I did spend my birthday greaving on the sofa between unpacked boxes and a huge amount of potato crisps and chocolate croissants…
Feeling miserable, mentally not fit at al. Because of new area no friends around to spend my birthday with today… And no one to sit in the mud with me.
And then… The youtube algo gave me a birthday present! Two of my most important inspirers together! 🤩
As a sigma female I always struggled to talk to men and I never knew how to find my place, because I never fit in. You two had a huge impact on my personal development and inner growth. THANK YOU TWO SOOO MUCH! 😊
And gues what: I paused the video, got my *ss up and prepared the meal I had planned for today, to celebrate my new live on the first evening in my new home:
Melted camembert in the oven, baguette with herbal butter and greek style joghurt with mango for dessert and glas of white wine.
Chears to you two and me. Happy birthday, Maya and all the best for our new life.
Blacky RIP
Dinner is ready, now I start the video and will sit in the mud with you two remote and my beloved queeny on my lap…
🥂
With lots of love from Vienna, Maya
Happy birthday, Maya. All the best to a new chapter in your life.
Happy birthday 🎉
Being oneself with yourself is naturally best for everyone. Overthinking derails us
Great interview. Great insights. Many times we know the answer to whether or not to text or chase someone, but truthfully we don't want to accept the answer because it isn't the answer we want. The ultimate question is, "Why is that?"
What a wonderful video! I love all: the insights, the authenticity and the chemistry between you two. That's rare. Thank you! 👌
Awesome and honest chat between two successful, good hearted men - thanks for this. I just want to say that not everyone finds love in this life. I think it's just a reality. For some reason I did not find a long-term partner and which I feel will make me sad for the rest of my life just like this woman. I gave up hope because keeping up hope and not getting it is just too painful over the time. it's real to feel that way. And everyone tries to comfort you by saying it's better to be alone than in a bad relationship. Well not helpful - as I don't compare to bad relationships. I don't know how to think about this other than to just accept that's what my life is.
I love the wisdom and vulnerability of this interview, Thank you so much!
So much fun, thank you both! Absolutely agree that you can love someone and be a team without having done aaalllll the work and loving yourself unconditionally. Gawd, we’d never find our person! I still haven’t 🤣
Love Matthew always! And enjoyed Simon's interviewing style! 💯
I absolutely love your work Simon Sinek, and the energy and authenticity with which you present yourself to the world
The first 3 seconds were exactly what I needed to hear.
Oh I am so grateful for the content you both create. ❤❤ And thank you for this vulnerability Simon, it felt as if you were asking all these questions for me. I felt so connected. ❤️
omg, this is just amazing final for this episode about how to find the best person for yourself with this discussion about „the most important job - to take responsibility and care of my human with great love ❤ „
Thank you for talking about self love in a way that actually makes sense.
Two expert in one Page ........❤❤❤
Matthew has a kind heart
Start as an activity partner- my favorite is a weekly walk and chat. And follow your heart.
What a beautiful conversation ❤
So many “aha” moments here. I enjoyed this so much, great conversation on both sides. Thank you both for all you do and offer out to the world! 🌎👏
😂😂😂 “what are you doing for the next 9 hours” .. omg love it
I love the Darth Vader helmet in the background. Is it made of rhinestones?
Also, great conversation! Made me reassess my own relationship in a new positive light.
A reverse bucket list is brilliant!
We make a good team together - compatibility ❤
This is making me so much sense to me . When I consider the all failed the relationships I have been having over the past 15 years and the partner I met and had a great 3 years amazing relationship, all these ideas matches to my experience and I agree 💯 to what Simon was saying here. Wow this is really good 👍
Great advice. Simon from my experience, as well as analytics, I've learned that most people today have short attention spans. I encourage you to turn this video into a series of short videos, more people will see and benefit from the wisdom.
This is 100% facts. People have become more and more impatient. People have a sense of instant gratification; from going on Amazon and receiving your package the next day, being able to binge watch any show on a streaming service; not like back then when you would have to wait for a show to come on during a particular time; having to rearrange your schedule just to watch it
Isn't that feeding the issue
0:23 I did that 41 years ago. I fully invested in someone who was fully invested in me and still is. And being a woman in my 60s and having someone next to me for all these years, I still feel like this woman 2:51 asking how to kill the desire to find love.
Wow. I have heard that from someone else.
Matthew just become better and better
OMG! My two fave guys in one video ❤
I appreciate the two of you
What a helpful 55:57 insightful conversation
If we are looking for a partner to complete us in this life, we are headed down a slippery slope. If we are at peace with our singleness and looking for someone to complement us, success in relationship is a viable goal. Certainly easier said than done.
I don’t know if I totally agree with date somebody who invests in you…what if I don’t like them at all?
Some people feel someone coming to talk to you at a bar is weird or must have something wrong with them lol yet sooo many on apps from my gfs stories
❤❤ thank you for sharing yor experience!
This was a JOY to watch and listen to!! ☺
reverse bucket list ...... bingo. and no "5 things to have" ... " 3 easy steps to..." .. just think about these options and try and learn how to solve your problematic part of your life.......... genious. no short cuts....hard work. LUV IT
What an amazing conversation! I’m sharing this !
Amazing episode you guys are amazing in both your fields❤😊
Wow, this is an amazing episode. So insightful ❤👍🏿
I've been waiting for this.
Dating coach talk with Simon??
This is great! I've been following you both so this is wonderful. Thanks guys 😊
What a spectacular episode 😌🔥🔥
4:17 - he didn’t help her find love; he helped her not experience pain in not finding love.
This is exciting!
This conversation was criminally short.
Great-video! My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life as anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I'm saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him*
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about two years ago, but I could not let him go, so I had to do all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back, now we are back together, and I must say I am enjoying every moment!
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do I reach one.?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex...
Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked him up online. impressive.
Loved this 🤩
What a great pairing ❤❤ thank you
"unique pairing" :D
Haven’t seen the whole podcast yet - just the short. Great philosophy from Matthew. And Simon, you are my current brain crush; I love the way you think and that piece about your new solgaard luggage literally fills ME with joy. But please consider this - they weren’t “failed” relationships. They were relationships that ended. That’s all. MOST relationships thru- out our lifetimes end - friends, lovers, even family sometimes. Hopefully we learn something along the way, and remember the good stuff. But no relationship fails. You’re always right where you need to be.
Brilliant!!!
Appreciate the detailed breakdown! I have a quick question: I have a SafePal wallet with USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (alarm fetch churn bridge exercise tape speak race clerk couch crater letter). How should I go about transferring them to Binance?
I see the 20 second hug differently, not as intellectualizing, but more like a placebo effect, whether or not oxytocin was released you are going to believe that it was and experience the benefit.
Sooooo good, indeed!!!! 🙂
Our instincts can get us emotionally killed.
Videos like these make me like/love myself. I don’t I kind of feel so good about being me I get tears in my eyes. Weird.
Very interesting. TY
You could mature, good person, confident, with great values, with studies.. and this not quarantee a good partner on this modern times.
Nobody is entitled to romantic love
Yes!
I feel personally attacked by this episode 😂😂😂 I do value empathy and kindness... So indeed why do I let this man feed me crumbs whenever is convenient for him 😂 send help
"Wants to be surprised and wants to be made feel at home" - Bruce Springsteen.
k..but doesn't that set up a situation where each person is waiting for the other person to "invest" before they do? In other words, a stalemate.
I still don't think relationships are 50/50 I think it's impossible to have that, to be that, I think it's more 60/40 some days and 40/60 other days. When my wife comes home and tells me or I discover she only has 30% to give then, I make up the rest for her. Other days she will help me!
Want to watch it all but have to work :(
20 min and 45 seconds into it and we've mentioned nothing of the main contributors to love problems not to mention common biases of the human psyche . Unresolved traumas and or the attachment styles . 🤔
I've heard most of this from Matt before but every time is new. Smh
You do have to prime the pump.
two great men ❤ thank you
Simon just pick one anyone who picks you and find how to play side by side (ester Perot). I think you’re brilliant charming and sounds like u can be head strong; that’s what happens with brilliant minds lol
Thanks, Matthew been following you for almost a decade and not yet married. Omg, I’m so confused. I read the “rules” and now recommending because I have been to nice and hurt. also, I agree there a few dichotomy in your advice. How much invest in and when ? you say don’t gravitate to people who are not good for me and then you say everyone can’t be fixed to be in a relationship. Also, are you asking to not follow are intuition when we are suppose take care of our human needs?
I liked best listening to you both be vulnerable about how men think because I don’t know what is means to be a man, lol its charming you all think so much less than us women.