stay calm, don't act impulsively. In my opinion, this is the most difficult thing on this journey. Do not let your emotion drive you to say things that you will regret later on...
Great video! I find setting boundaries though when you’re trying to woo back a tenuous ex is difficult and perhaps a little premature. After all they dumped you, and you’re trying to get them back. Top things in my opinion; 1) Listen better, talk less 2) Acceptance as you say in other videos is huge 3) React less. Part of acceptance 4) Seeing the human being in front of you, not a projection from your anxiety and want 5) Yes emotional connection. Be present, don’t force reality, enjoy the flow
Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????
The absolutely most important factor is that you both are emotionally mature. You can do a whole range of well-intentioned , well-reasoned things to try to re-connect with your ex, but if he or she is not emotionally mature, it's like putting a band-aid on a gunshot wound.
I think the most important thing for successfully getting your ex back is yourself. You can learn so much about advanced relational skills, learn to navigate through the different stages and learn how to be there for them. But in the end all that counts is your inner world. The way you view the world. Your mindset. Because if that is fucked up, you will probably sabotage your relationship where ever possible. Sometimes you will slip, are not paying attention and then you just run into a wall on your own. So put the work in to better yourself, your mindset, heal from past trauma. This is probably the most difficult part, cause (at least for me) facing your inner demons is so fucking scary you just ignore it
Such a great contribution - the realness of your comment is honest and will help others remember that we are human, we mess up, we can recover and keep moving forward.
I give up every second day…but I know what we had, and I believe that w time and patience we’ll be together again. But, I’m not letting it be the be all and end all of my life. I move forward, stay in no contact and wait for her to reach out. I will not degrade myself to achieve this.
BOUNDARIES!!!! Such an important topic and something that is often the reason for conflict in relationships - I love that you talk about boundaries as a guide - like bumper bowling LOL - I would add that boundaries are often talked about as they are hard walls in the home - fixed and unmoving -but the truth is they flex and move depending on the moment, the context, and the person.
So happy for you man. We’re not back together yet. But 2 months into talking again she called me sweetheart last week. But now she’s cold again. Doesn’t talk much, call much, doesn’t initiate wanting to see me
First of all, I'd like to say that I like the new editing work you put in your recent videos. Though, the zoom-in parts should be a bit farther away (include a bit of the background) - I know editors are trying to make it more diverse, maybe different camera angles instead of zooming in-and-out. I am in the process of trying to get back together with my ex, and it is extremely difficult and emotionally draining. I want to encourage everyone on this journey, as well as my current self. Any progress, no matter how small, is a step forward. Be patient. Good things come to those who wait. You have a goal, you know what your heart wants; so go for it. Understand both your ex's and your boundaries. Your impulsiveness is a bitch in this journey, fight it! When you feel like texting/contacting him outside of your game plan, stop what you're doing. Wait till you calm down. Don't be rash.
@@ClayAndrews Psychosis, brought on by stress/anxiety...and especially drug induced, build a world of doubt enabling a path to negative thinking! Positive is healing for sure!
It's been 13 days since my lond distance boyfriend broke up with me, It's been a year since we last met, I've been waiting for him all this time, but we broke up, yesterday he came to my country, we are now in the same city but he didn't text me, this might be the last chance I see him Should I ask him to meet ? And if we met how do I have to act?
Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????
clay thank you making youre first point can you do a video talking about reconnecting with youre first love from a few years ago from highschool for me but her parents are a little bit really strict i feel like im trying to get with the wrong ex girlfriend of mine if that makes sense ive been trying to get back with my more recent ex girlfriend. and were sorta in a on again off again type of relationship. everyone in my life and even strangers tell me just to move on from my first love from high school because im never really able to see her but my life is in a much more stable time right now and when i ended with my first love in my senior yr of hs 2 years ago it was a crazy year. Idk im really confused im also kind of wanting to meet new girls as well. idk if any of this made sense
Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????
Hey Clay, I have a question and I possibly know the answer but I have a meet up set with my ex this weekend and she told me that she is going on a date with a guy soon. So why is she ok with going with me to get lunch even if she’s going to see someone else soon? Thank you for all the videos!!
Hi Clay! Ive been on talking terms with my ex and he tells me he miss and love me but is not ready to get back with me because he is scared i might get needy and jealous again which can be suffocating (this is the reason for our breakup). We are in long distance. Can you please give me advice in this situation. Thank you so much!
Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????
Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????
stay calm, don't act impulsively. In my opinion, this is the most difficult thing on this journey. Do not let your emotion drive you to say things that you will regret later on...
That's the thing I'm afraid of most 😂
Something gets heated and I just say shit I can't take back
Sometimes the best reaction is no reaction :)
Everytime he drops a video i get anxious to watch it but once i’m done watching i feel relieved lol
I'm glad that it did :)
@@ClayAndrews
Will your advice work even if you been broken up for 2 years.
But we do hang out and stuff.
@@robh8388 No. She is gone like the wind and quite frankly, she don't give a damn about you.
Great video! I find setting boundaries though when you’re trying to woo back a tenuous ex is difficult and perhaps a little premature. After all they dumped you, and you’re trying to get them back. Top things in my opinion;
1) Listen better, talk less
2) Acceptance as you say in other videos is huge
3) React less. Part of acceptance
4) Seeing the human being in front of you, not a projection from your anxiety and want
5) Yes emotional connection. Be present, don’t force reality, enjoy the flow
Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????
He is indeed a problem solve contact him!!!
Contact father right..away Text him now through whatzapp
+¹²⁰⁴⁸⁰⁸²²³⁴?????????🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦
The absolutely most important factor is that you both are emotionally mature. You can do a whole range of well-intentioned , well-reasoned things to try to re-connect with your ex, but if he or she is not emotionally mature, it's like putting a band-aid on a gunshot wound.
I think the most important thing for successfully getting your ex back is yourself.
You can learn so much about advanced relational skills, learn to navigate through the different stages and learn how to be there for them. But in the end all that counts is your inner world. The way you view the world. Your mindset. Because if that is fucked up, you will probably sabotage your relationship where ever possible. Sometimes you will slip, are not paying attention and then you just run into a wall on your own.
So put the work in to better yourself, your mindset, heal from past trauma. This is probably the most difficult part, cause (at least for me) facing your inner demons is so fucking scary you just ignore it
Such a great contribution - the realness of your comment is honest and will help others remember that we are human, we mess up, we can recover and keep moving forward.
I give up every second day…but I know what we had, and I believe that w time and patience we’ll be together again. But, I’m not letting it be the be all and end all of my life. I move forward, stay in no contact and wait for her to reach out. I will not degrade myself to achieve this.
BOUNDARIES!!!! Such an important topic and something that is often the reason for conflict in relationships - I love that you talk about boundaries as a guide - like bumper bowling LOL - I would add that boundaries are often talked about as they are hard walls in the home - fixed and unmoving -but the truth is they flex and move depending on the moment, the context, and the person.
We got back together,she referred to me as "honey" after three months
So happy for you man.
We’re not back together yet. But 2 months into talking again she called me sweetheart last week. But now she’s cold again. Doesn’t talk much, call much, doesn’t initiate wanting to see me
First of all, I'd like to say that I like the new editing work you put in your recent videos. Though, the zoom-in parts should be a bit farther away (include a bit of the background) - I know editors are trying to make it more diverse, maybe different camera angles instead of zooming in-and-out.
I am in the process of trying to get back together with my ex, and it is extremely difficult and emotionally draining. I want to encourage everyone on this journey, as well as my current self. Any progress, no matter how small, is a step forward. Be patient. Good things come to those who wait. You have a goal, you know what your heart wants; so go for it. Understand both your ex's and your boundaries. Your impulsiveness is a bitch in this journey, fight it! When you feel like texting/contacting him outside of your game plan, stop what you're doing. Wait till you calm down. Don't be rash.
I find excessive video cuts can diminish a presenters present moment presence.
You got this!
My algorithms brought you! You overpowered the dark Narcissist podcasts! Keep it up, it's working!
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Thank you! Will do!
@@ClayAndrews Psychosis, brought on by stress/anxiety...and especially drug induced, build a world of doubt enabling a path to negative thinking!
Positive is healing for sure!
Communication. Also understanding what they need and want and following it. Like per say the boundaries.
Communication is key, but I might be a little biased - it is my favorite topic :)
It's been 13 days since my lond distance boyfriend broke up with me, It's been a year since we last met, I've been waiting for him all this time, but we broke up, yesterday he came to my country, we are now in the same city but he didn't text me, this might be the last chance I see him Should I ask him to meet ? And if we met how do I have to act?
Have you done a video on building an emotional connection long distance (with an ex overseas) during the pandemic?
Any insight on why my ex still checks up on me even with a new bf? My take is that she still wants to be friends but I don’t know what to think of it.
Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????
He is indeed a problem solve contact him!!!
Contact father right..away Text him now through whatzapp
+¹²⁰⁴⁸⁰⁸²²³⁴?????????🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦
clay thank you making youre first point can you do a video talking about reconnecting with youre first love from a few years ago from highschool for me but her parents are a little bit really strict i feel like im trying to get with the wrong ex girlfriend of mine if that makes sense ive been trying to get back with my more recent ex girlfriend. and were sorta in a on again off again type of relationship. everyone in my life and even strangers tell me just to move on from my first love from high school because im never really able to see her but my life is in a much more stable time right now and when i ended with my first love in my senior yr of hs 2 years ago it was a crazy year. Idk im really confused im also kind of wanting to meet new girls as well. idk if any of this made sense
Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????
He is indeed a problem solve contact him!!!
Contact father right..away Text him now through whatzapp
Hey Clay, I have a question and I possibly know the answer but I have a meet up set with my ex this weekend and she told me that she is going on a date with a guy soon. So why is she ok with going with me to get lunch even if she’s going to see someone else soon? Thank you for all the videos!!
Either you or him is the backup guy in case things went south
Hi Clay! Ive been on talking terms with my ex and he tells me he miss and love me but is not ready to get back with me because he is scared i might get needy and jealous again which can be suffocating (this is the reason for our breakup). We are in long distance. Can you please give me advice in this situation. Thank you so much!
Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????
He is indeed a problem solve contact him!!!
Contact father right..away Text him now through whatzapp
🤣🤣 we don't live in the dark ages here in Europe we have bowling lanes here toooooo 😂😂 anyway thank you for the video
Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????
He is indeed a problem solve contact him!!!
Contact father right..away Text him now through whatzapp
+¹²⁰⁴⁸⁰⁸²²³⁴?????????
I still use the bowling bumpers.
Bowling is common in the uk 🇬🇧
+2349021714959🚷🚷🚷.
My ex like a bowling ball.😊😊😊
I still don't understand that INFTP stuff lmao
Drank a straw 😆
Say you have done 500 videos, then i can give 500 predictions why viewers didn't get there ex back...they listened to your noncence.
We got back together,she referred to me as "honey" after three months
LOVE IT!