Found out today that my ex actually left me for a girl he always told me was a friend , she was always around and even at his family events when I was there .
He told you she was a friend, but she is probably just the one he wanted but she didn’t want him at the time. You love and learn sis, now you’ll be able to recognize these signs in the future.
Exactly. Its crazy how some women cant see how they’re exploited and used & at the end disposed. Typical narcissistic sociopathic abusive (mentally&emotionally) behavior. It can destroy some women’s lives espec if this goes on too long
Coach Krystle: You must learn how to love yourself Queen. It was never a fairytale. It was a nightmare from the beginning. He used you, abused you and discarded you. You deserve better and only you can give yourself that. I left a toxic marriage last year with 7 kids. I was afraid, but I’m learning to trust God more and more each day. I wrote a book called: Love Yourself First: How to Heal from Toxic People, Create Healthy Relationships & Become a Confident Woman if you need help. You deserve better.❤️
The fact that she thought she had the right to name another woman’s baby doesn’t sit well with me. She’s in her 40s so she should know better. How could you be okay with naming another woman’s baby that SHE carried for nine months?! Make it make sense!
Im already 3:21 in and had to pause. Ladies, please stop being so nice and opening your doors to these men that have baggage and so many issues. Lets be honest, many of these men, will not do the same for you unless they are getting something in return. They will leave you high and dry for the next young in shape chick with no stress and no baggage. Its a huge turn-off when a woman breaks her neck providing for a man. These men never respect that and grows to resent that. Do less for a man or nothing at all. Do not provide at all for him.
I have been trying to tell women this for the longest. Men secretly despise women that help them. I do not know of any situation where a woman is financially supporting a man and he is not making her miserable. STOP IT ladies.....
She likely needs therapy. To allow him to continue to circle back around when she knows that the end result will be the same means that she also has internal issues. This doesn't mean that he has a right to play games.
I don't know if any of the life coaches read the comments but have y'all ever thought of doing events for high school and middle school girls? I made it through those school years and got married a virgin at 22. And yes virgin meaning absolutely nothing unless one kiss with a boy in middle school matters. I was able to skip that temptation because I watched my older sister after she gave birth at the age of 15 raise her son and I knew I wasn't about that life. But everybody doesn't have that to see. I look back and can see how I could have easily fallen prey to the games boys played had I not seen the result of them getting what they want and leaving. My mom raised us to do right but I feel like a man's perspective would have really helped solidify what momma taught us.
I'm a nurse and working on some other things I've been called to do but I will definitely keep it in mind for my town and share the idea with women and men already mentoring young girls to get more of a male perspective and blunt age appropriate advice. I feel it would really help us even lower the rate of teen pregnancy and get our minds focused becoming mentally physically and spiritually ready in life for when the right man does come along.
Forget about his lady "friend" he put his hands on you and pulled a gun..... This is not about him as much as it is about having low self esteem and accepting anything from a toxic soultie - you have to move on there´s no way this can have a happy end
As a life coach first let me say you endured enough trauma for a lifetime. Remove him, block him and change your locks. You need therapy sweetie. I would suggest you seek the Lord ...find a church; get into your Bible daily. No dating for a while. Focus on healing and rebuilding yourself. Please love yourself enough to never look back ....this man is a demon. No communicate with him. It ends today
For the first letter Tony read: It’s easy to say, just move on, girl.. it’s easier said than done but really that’s what needs to be done, nonetheless. It just takes WORK. Lots of working on yourself and if you’re a believer, GET PRAYER! Deliverance/freedom/SOZO/breaking of soul ties and get before THE LORD! He WILL set you free from this soul tie. I went through some SERIOUS heartbreak a few years back and after much prayer with others and one on one with the Lord, He gave me a dream. In the dream people were telling me I was in a car accident. I was like no I wasn’t.. BUT as I began to say that, I began to cough up broken glass. I could feel it in my mouth/teeth and everything. However, there was no pain and no blood. I woke up and KNEW He had healed my broken heart. Others that interpret dreams confirmed this also. After that, I could go on again. It was a weight that literally lifted and that ache in my heart wasn’t there. There was still much work to be done afterwards. I wish I could tell you the pain just goes away immediately. It doesn’t. Feel it. Cry. Talk to friends. Coaching, and like I said PRAYER. God is the healer and He WILL do it for you. God bless you. 🙏🏽🤍
I can relate to a lot of what this lady situation is. Its sad based off of potential what we do and put up with when you have a big heart. I learned after doing all that i could and dealing with babies mama drama as well my finances draining that he just wasnt the man for me a grown boy. So i kicked him out and have been working on my healing these last few months after a 2year relationship. Sister you can heal too 🙏🏾❤
The fact that he allowed another woman to name your son speaks volumes. Tony is exactly right. Him making her the godmother without your consent is so disrespectful on so many levels. Wow! So many red flags! I hope she finds the strength to walk away.
Confirmation, Confirmation!! Know your self-worth, it’s priceless! Never be afraid to say No to someone who is not meant to be apart of your continued journey. Self-love should never be compromised. Stay Blessed!
I’m 25 and I would have told her to let him go before he spent all her money. A man asking foe money is already a red flag. What he can’t provide for himself you shouldn’t provide for him. You should take time for yourself and heal. Healing takes time it’s not an estimate time when you will heal but you gotta pray and let go and let god sista
Tony, I'm up still processing that call tonight. It was powerful. When you answered the young lady about finding purpose through service I felt the spirit. A few months ago, I was listening to one of your videos and I had to pause. I said to myself, this man is basically standing in manhood for hundreds of thousands of women. Look at our society!! We're so broken and you're so needed because so many have gone without !💔 There was a lady my mother's age on the call!!! Bless her! We need a healing. We are so blessed that you let God use you. The work is so important and Life changing! And in free service, folks sow discord.... I respect you and strive to implement your boundary system and patience! God bless you and your family 💯
To the first young lady who wrote in, you have to love and value yourself first. A man will treat a woman based on the way she values herself. Cut that man off completely. That’s not love and you deserve better. Start healing through coaching, reading self help books, and listening to podcasts/RUclips videos on healthy love and relationships.
I know we've all done something stupid but this one takes the trophy. My brain hurts trying to make sense here. Grab your purse and track shoes and gone bout ur business. 25 five kids ain't feeding plus all this extra nonsense..smh. I'll say a little prayer for you..and I do mean it. We all do.
The first letter, therapy. Lady value yourself. You're not anyone's momma to be putting up bs that is not your blood. Don't offer yourself for free or a discount. People get paid to babysit or care for a human. People will play on person's nurturing side and become leeches. Lady look out for your well-being. Not even if you win the lottery do you give a man money. Men were created to work. If he cant work, send him to his family. If no family, send him to a shelter. You are not God and cannot will not fix a grown human. Take care of your well-being and thank the Good Lord this sorry excuse for a human is gone.
I'd definitely recommend therapy to address her trauma. This is a process that would require multiple sessions. I would listen to her talk about their relationship more in depth (recognition to what lead her here.) Since she ended with "I hope he grows for her since he didn't for me..." I would acknowledge her ability to see that this was not her husband and she deserves better. I'd ask her about patterns in past relationships, talk about her interests (hobbies, purpose, career, beliefs, morals) what her goals are and if she's on a course to meet them. Whether her life aligns with her beliefs and principles... We would discuss self love, positive self talk, and how she could have much better success after she's done the work (taking time to focus on herself.) We'd talk about the importance of growth in relationships (setting boundaries and following through with them) and focus on the lesson in moving forward. Sometimes I like to propose scenarios to see how my clients would implement their boundaries...(practice makes perfect) I would encourage her not to beat up on herself and to focus on healing so that she doesn't have to repeat this test. We'd complete a writing exercise in self love and healing and finally I'd like to schedule at least four more sessions with her for accountability. Self forgiveness is huge and she'd have to give herself space to feel all of the emotions she's been running from. She's a great candidate for success because she's on your channel and listened to at least a few videos. Sis will arrive 🙌🏿💯
Great advice. A man who Always need Your money is a user. Physical abuse is a deal breaker - never take that from anyone. Plus when his own brother told you that he's using you , LEAVE THE BUMB ALONE . Block him. If he tries to come back sorry, call the police.
I'm not a life coach, but when I was going through my separation and divorce I had to get a life coach, God and my life coach got me through my toughest time....so I think she should consider getting a coach..
I have been immersed in your teachings ALL day, Tony. I have just enough time to watch this video before joining your group call this evening. Thanks for time TG 💯
Forgive yourself, and show yourself some compassion. Because being too hard on yourself, meaning beating yourself up and putting yourself down for making a mistake will only hurt your self esteem more. Pray for guidance and keep yourself busy. If you dont put in the sufficient work to heal, when you see them in a new relationship or you see them having a new child. It'll break you because you haven't put in the work to heal.
I’m 24 and I literally LOVE listening to Tony! He literally tells the TRUTH! Many woman need to hear these videos he makes because they are really needed ! Continue to do the Lords work Tony!! God bless you
It's awesome that the first young lady is here listening and learning from Tony. That the first step in changing your mindset. Let these teachings sink in, YOU ARE WORTHY of so much more. I'd love to speak life into you with a free session!
Tony!!! Let me tell you, your videos have helped me in the past two months too move forward and not look for this man that had me tied!! Thank you sir!!!! Your queen and yourself are inspiring souls ✨✨✨
Block all his contacts and anyway he can contact you. Pray to God for healing twice a day. When you get up and when you go to bed. Accept the hurt, go through it but don’t wallow in it. Eventually you will be ok and he won’t even be a second thought. Trust he will not change for the new girl either. He just needs a place to stay.
This is so sad, her story sounds like mine, minus the abuse. I hope she finds the strength to move on and realize this guy isn’t for her. I stayed in my situation so long because I had a child with this person. Thank God I was able to leave.
Peace Mr. Tony Gaskins. I appreciate hearing *all* the letters, even the ones you choose not to answer. It gives me perspective on where all these ladies are situated in life, and how everyone is on different paths. Thank you for your simple edits and straightforward message. Be blessed, tribe.
That's what I was wondering. Why is SHE driving him to the hospital????? 😳😳 Nah. That name is the name they, i.e. her, chose for their son when they dated as teens. 🤦🏿♀️
Never let a man tell you he doesn't want you TWICE! Where's the ACCOUNTABILITY??????🙄😒 These women just want sympathy... to black man bash & ATTENTION!!!
Unfortunately, I did not get to read this post story before it was removed: but judging by the comments I’m reading, sounds like another case of a woman failing to love herself! Self-LOVE is a TOP PRIORITY! How in the world do these women allow men to continue to abuse them mentally and physically in their latter years is beyond me! God has to be your number one ☝🏾!!!! Only Yah can fulfill you the way you desire! It’s the BEST relationship you’ll EVER HAVE!
Been on your *Blessed Tribe* membership since last August, but have just switched to a new email and re-sign up again ✔️ See you Tony LIVE in 2021 even more 🥰
Hello Tony,keep up the great work.continue to let GOD use you! I'm So happy for you and ur family😊your a GREAT DAD AND HUSBAND..YOUR WIFE DESERVE YOU AND VISE*VERSA MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS UR HOUSE HOLD🙏And Continue to be Honest(keep putting GOD 1ST) I don't kno your wife but she's AWESOME AND SMART ON ALL LEVELS😊
Sister, please lean into GOD! Start praying, and ask him to heal you, open the next door to your recovery. You are in my thoughts and apart of my daily prayers. Know you are loved ❤. Lv Maria
I dealt with a user for 1 year, even if you had continued to help him, he would never appreciate it. Once I left him for good, he called me talking about he will sue me. I have blocked his number, blocked him on FB and all other social media. I also suggest that you delete pics, messages, and calls. Delete his contact in your phone. Once I did all of this I got more peace and continued my education. I am now a RN, something he lowkey tried to block with his incessant needs. The best bet for you is to let go, dont respond to him, and I cant promise it will be easy but your stress will go down once you let go. Prayers to the first letter, while our situations weren't the same, the neediness was.
I have been watching copious amounts of your videos since discovering you and your channel last week. Not gonna lie, all the insane letters you've shared and all the details you have shared about the nature of men makes me extra extra extra happy to be single, not entertaining any men and working on myself/my 3 Bs. I've never felt more thankful to be single and minding my own business. Society makes relationships, dating and marriage out to be a bed of roses - splashing highlight reels all over social media. Meanwhile, their lives are a nightmare! Your channel is mind blowing 🤯 Thanks for teaching me such life changing info! I'm already a changed person in the 7 days I have been binge watching your videos.
Not sure why the video is not working in the app, but if you have an iPhone, still works in Safari. Keep the content rolling in, Tony, and Happy New Year! 🎊
This is reality for a lot of women! To the young lady in the letter. Learn the lesson in what you went through. It was not your fault but it is your responsibility to heal , and work on yourself , and go deep within yourself to find out what your wounds are . Let him go and love your self ❤️
Praying for you...you must separate yourself from him and block him indefinitely for your own healing. Men like that don't change. And I know its easier said than done but if you want live and have peace of mind you must leave and move on with your life. Be brave, trust God, and never look back. God bless!
This girl needs to spend time with building her self worth. She better not give that guy another opportunity to cause further damage. Block everything about him. Phone, social media, change gym membership, and change your locks. Don't have conversations about him with anyone else except the police if he comes to your house. Treat yourself better. P-e-r-i-o-d‼️‼️
First and foremost, the letter is so long. That already should be a sign that this man is not worthy of your time, nor your energy! "Go on 'bout your bizness!" [In my Tony Gaskins voice]
First woman : Choose to move on and get therapy . With that trauma/ptsd/& stress you’re gonna need someone to help you work through it to get your life back . You can do it🤎 Write down and remind yourself of what he’s done. Basically he came around every time his money ran dry (whether it was a woman or the VA checks), harming you and putting a gun in your face? He doesn’t love you and a man like this trust his new woman is not happy either. Don’t worry about him “being happy with another woman” that’s keeping you attached, and he is a grown boy with no money why want him for yourself? He will be a curse to every woman he comes across. Count your blessings and break free for good ❤️
To the lady in the first letter. You may not see it right now but his departure was an answered prayer. Take some time to pour into yourself.
My ex husband had a “lady friend/best friend” . Turns out it was his mistress. I trust no man that says he has a “lady friend”.
A grown woman would never accept being the god mother to a child when she’s never met the mother. This is sooo out of pocket.
Exactly
Exactly, and wow she named her baby.
Found out today that my ex actually left me for a girl he always told me was a friend , she was always around and even at his family events when I was there .
He told you she was a friend, but she is probably just the one he wanted but she didn’t want him at the time. You love and learn sis, now you’ll be able to recognize these signs in the future.
When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.
-Maya Angelou
Self love is so important. This message had more RED FLAGS than China.
Not more than China! 🤣🤣🤣
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True
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Tony low key a comedian! 😂 “He not pregnant!” Exactly! And to let another woman name your child is so disrespectful.
When a man has nothing to offer ladies keep moving. I can not stand a user.🤦🏿♀️🙅🏽♀️GIRL DO BETTER YOU ALLOWED THIS MAN TO KEEP USING YOU.
Then have the nerve to cheat wow
Exactly. Its crazy how some women cant see how they’re exploited and used & at the end disposed. Typical narcissistic sociopathic abusive (mentally&emotionally) behavior. It can destroy some women’s lives espec if this goes on too long
I would tell her to LET GO and LET God. It’s exhausting being attached to toxicity.
For situation #1....You are his ATM and uses you when its convenient despite the inconvenient situations he puts you in. Choose you.
Coach Krystle: You must learn how to love yourself Queen. It was never a fairytale. It was a nightmare from the beginning. He used you, abused you and discarded you. You deserve better and only you can give yourself that. I left a toxic marriage last year with 7 kids. I was afraid, but I’m learning to trust God more and more each day. I wrote a book called: Love Yourself First: How to Heal from Toxic People, Create Healthy Relationships & Become a Confident Woman if you need help. You deserve better.❤️
Wow congratulations!! Great advice
I'm proud of you for leaving. & good advice
You had 7 kids 🧍♂️🧍♀️🧍🧍♂️🧍♀️🧍🧍♂️? Wow. You're a better woman than me. I was done after giving birth just once.
I'm going to check your book out. Thanks for the info. 😊
3 words. Got ta go! 🏃🏽♀️ 💨 💨 💨
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The fact that she thought she had the right to name another woman’s baby doesn’t sit well with me. She’s in her 40s so she should know better. How could you be okay with naming another woman’s baby that SHE carried for nine months?! Make it make sense!
Hello!!!!
She started off doing too much for a "boyfriend" who took advantage of her kindness. She has to heal and have confidence in herself.
Ok 25 year old man and has 5 kids and broke. 🤦🏽♀️ praying for you sis. It’s time to bosss uppp!
Yes ma'am. I don't help men out. That's a flag. He should be able to take care of you.
Im already 3:21 in and had to pause. Ladies, please stop being so nice and opening your doors to these men that have baggage and so many issues. Lets be honest, many of these men, will not do the same for you unless they are getting something in return. They will leave you high and dry for the next young in shape chick with no stress and no baggage. Its a huge turn-off when a woman breaks her neck providing for a man. These men never respect that and grows to resent that. Do less for a man or nothing at all. Do not provide at all for him.
Facts💯💯💯
Yep!!!
Right: she should stop trying to be his mom or auntie spending money. I've been here before in my 20s. Wise up sis
I have been trying to tell women this for the longest. Men secretly despise women that help them. I do not know of any situation where a woman is financially supporting a man and he is not making her miserable. STOP IT ladies.....
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She likely needs therapy. To allow him to continue to circle back around when she knows that the end result will be the same means that she also has internal issues. This doesn't mean that he has a right to play games.
Like Tony said “work and cry” It hurts and it appears hard to move on. But just do it..You’ll still be the winner.
Good one!!
Wow, girl run. Seek therapy and block his number.
I don't know if any of the life coaches read the comments but have y'all ever thought of doing events for high school and middle school girls? I made it through those school years and got married a virgin at 22. And yes virgin meaning absolutely nothing unless one kiss with a boy in middle school matters. I was able to skip that temptation because I watched my older sister after she gave birth at the age of 15 raise her son and I knew I wasn't about that life. But everybody doesn't have that to see. I look back and can see how I could have easily fallen prey to the games boys played had I not seen the result of them getting what they want and leaving. My mom raised us to do right but I feel like a man's perspective would have really helped solidify what momma taught us.
Great idea! Maybe you cam start something
This is awesome!!!! So happy for you, and this is a great idea!!! You should start something!!!✨✨✨
I'm a nurse and working on some other things I've been called to do but I will definitely keep it in mind for my town and share the idea with women and men already mentoring young girls to get more of a male perspective and blunt age appropriate advice. I feel it would really help us even lower the rate of teen pregnancy and get our minds focused becoming mentally physically and spiritually ready in life for when the right man does come along.
You are spot on! This teaching needs to start in middle/high school.
Forget about his lady "friend" he put his hands on you and pulled a gun..... This is not about him as much as it is about having low self esteem and accepting anything from a toxic soultie - you have to move on there´s no way this can have a happy end
As a life coach first let me say you endured enough trauma for a lifetime. Remove him, block him and change your locks. You need therapy sweetie. I would suggest you seek the Lord ...find a church; get into your Bible daily. No dating for a while. Focus on healing and rebuilding yourself.
Please love yourself enough to never look back ....this man is a demon. No communicate with him. It ends today
For the first letter Tony read: It’s easy to say, just move on, girl.. it’s easier said than done but really that’s what needs to be done, nonetheless. It just takes WORK. Lots of working on yourself and if you’re a believer, GET PRAYER! Deliverance/freedom/SOZO/breaking of soul ties and get before THE LORD! He WILL set you free from this soul tie.
I went through some SERIOUS heartbreak a few years back and after much prayer with others and one on one with the Lord, He gave me a dream. In the dream people were telling me I was in a car accident. I was like no I wasn’t.. BUT as I began to say that, I began to cough up broken glass. I could feel it in my mouth/teeth and everything. However, there was no pain and no blood. I woke up and KNEW He had healed my broken heart. Others that interpret dreams confirmed this also. After that, I could go on again. It was a weight that literally lifted and that ache in my heart wasn’t there. There was still much work to be done afterwards. I wish I could tell you the pain just goes away immediately. It doesn’t. Feel it. Cry. Talk to friends. Coaching, and like I said PRAYER. God is the healer and He WILL do it for you. God bless you. 🙏🏽🤍
I love your post.
@@pinkishdiamondz Thank you so much, sis. Blessings to you! 🤍
I can relate to a lot of what this lady situation is. Its sad based off of potential what we do and put up with when you have a big heart. I learned after doing all that i could and dealing with babies mama drama as well my finances draining that he just wasnt the man for me a grown boy. So i kicked him out and have been working on my healing these last few months after a 2year relationship. Sister you can heal too 🙏🏾❤
Situation 2... 🗣" Yo boyfriend love ha" free yourself!
The fact that he allowed another woman to name your son speaks volumes. Tony is exactly right. Him making her the godmother without your consent is so disrespectful on so many levels. Wow! So many red flags! I hope she finds the strength to walk away.
Don't forget, she drove him to the hospital when she was in labor. Why were they even together when she went into labor 🤔?
"It's a woman's place to evaluate the other women in her man life." TG
Why did I double check my phone when I heard the chime on Tony’s phone 😂
Same here 😂😂
Wow! Another teaching moment 😍
Lord have mercy....I hope more women tune in to your channel this year.
THANK YOU TONYYYYYYY 💯
Confirmation, Confirmation!! Know your self-worth, it’s priceless! Never be afraid to say No to someone who is not meant to be apart of your continued journey. Self-love should never be compromised. Stay Blessed!
I’m 25 and I would have told her to let him go before he spent all her money. A man asking foe money is already a red flag. What he can’t provide for himself you shouldn’t provide for him. You should take time for yourself and heal. Healing takes time it’s not an estimate time when you will heal but you gotta pray and let go and let god sista
"Sounds like u got a man wit no car" -TG I hope not , jus leave sis and raise ur child . He disrespect you in so many ways wit this lady friend .
Tony,
I'm up still processing that call tonight. It was powerful.
When you answered the young lady about finding purpose through service I felt the spirit.
A few months ago, I was listening to one of your videos and I had to pause.
I said to myself, this man is basically standing in manhood for hundreds of thousands of women. Look at our society!! We're so broken and you're so needed because so many have gone without !💔
There was a lady my mother's age on the call!!! Bless her!
We need a healing. We are so blessed that you let God use you. The work is so important and Life changing!
And in free service, folks sow discord.... I respect you and strive to implement your boundary system and patience! God bless you and your family 💯
To the first young lady who wrote in, you have to love and value yourself first. A man will treat a woman based on the way she values herself.
Cut that man off completely. That’s not love and you deserve better. Start healing through coaching, reading self help books, and listening to podcasts/RUclips videos on healthy love and relationships.
I know we've all done something stupid but this one takes the trophy. My brain hurts trying to make sense here. Grab your purse and track shoes and gone bout ur business. 25 five kids ain't feeding plus all this extra nonsense..smh. I'll say a little prayer for you..and I do mean it. We all do.
The first letter, therapy. Lady value yourself. You're not anyone's momma to be putting up bs that is not your blood. Don't offer yourself for free or a discount. People get paid to babysit or care for a human. People will play on person's nurturing side and become leeches. Lady look out for your well-being. Not even if you win the lottery do you give a man money. Men were created to work. If he cant work, send him to his family. If no family, send him to a shelter. You are not God and cannot will not fix a grown human. Take care of your well-being and thank the Good Lord this sorry excuse for a human is gone.
Yes!!!
Exactly!💯
🏃♀️👜 get your purse. Get gone. Perfect advice
I'd definitely recommend therapy to address her trauma.
This is a process that would require multiple sessions.
I would listen to her talk about their relationship more in depth (recognition to what lead her here.)
Since she ended with "I hope he grows for her since he didn't for me..." I would acknowledge her ability to see that this was not her husband and she deserves better.
I'd ask her about patterns in past relationships, talk about her interests (hobbies, purpose, career, beliefs, morals) what her goals are and if she's on a course to meet them. Whether her life aligns with her beliefs and principles...
We would discuss self love, positive self talk, and how she could have much better success after she's done the work (taking time to focus on herself.) We'd talk about the importance of growth in relationships (setting boundaries and following through with them) and focus on the lesson in moving forward. Sometimes I like to propose scenarios to see how my clients would implement their boundaries...(practice makes perfect)
I would encourage her not to beat up on herself and to focus on healing so that she doesn't have to repeat this test.
We'd complete a writing exercise in self love and healing and finally I'd like to schedule at least four more sessions with her for accountability.
Self forgiveness is huge and she'd have to give herself space to feel all of the emotions she's been running from.
She's a great candidate for success because she's on your channel and listened to at least a few videos. Sis will arrive 🙌🏿💯
Great advice. A man who Always need Your money is a user. Physical abuse is a deal breaker - never take that from anyone. Plus when his own brother told you that he's using you , LEAVE THE BUMB ALONE . Block him. If he tries to come back sorry, call the police.
I love everything you just said.
@@MsProdigy3 hi Sheila, good morning 🌞 I agree, I'm glad she took his brothers advice 💯
@@phyllisdickerson9071 good morning🌄 thank you.
@Reina: Are you on My Mentor?
I'm not a life coach, but when I was going through my separation and divorce I had to get a life coach, God and my life coach got me through my toughest time....so I think she should consider getting a coach..
Run Forrest Run!!!! Girl Please Love Yourself More Than This Foolishness!!!! No Man Worth Your Money!!!
To the lady with the 2nd letter, please stay encourage. Pray and take care of your son❤️
Chile, 👑Tony on his grind today!!! Ladies know your worth, waste no time in 2021🎊.
I have been immersed in your teachings ALL day, Tony. I have just enough time to watch this video before joining your group call this evening. Thanks for time TG 💯
Forgive yourself, and show yourself some compassion. Because being too hard on yourself, meaning beating yourself up and putting yourself down for making a mistake will only hurt your self esteem more. Pray for guidance and keep yourself busy. If you dont put in the sufficient work to heal, when you see them in a new relationship or you see them having a new child. It'll break you because you haven't put in the work to heal.
I’m 24 and I literally LOVE listening to Tony! He literally tells the TRUTH! Many woman need to hear these videos he makes because they are really needed ! Continue to do the Lords work Tony!! God bless you
It's awesome that the first young lady is here listening and learning from Tony. That the first step in changing your mindset. Let these teachings sink in, YOU ARE WORTHY of so much more. I'd love to speak life into you with a free session!
Is anyone else having issues playing this video? I can’t view it 😭😭
Same here ☹️
Same... can’t view the one from IG either ☹️
Yea I can’t see it
I had trouble as well. Then I watched it on the RUclips website instead of the app. Could that be it?
Tony!!! Let me tell you, your videos have helped me in the past two months too move forward and not look for this man that had me tied!! Thank you sir!!!! Your queen and yourself are inspiring souls ✨✨✨
Tony got everyone checking their iMessages 💬
Happy new year uncle tony ! Thank you for all the videos you have been posting up 🙏🏾💕
Block all his contacts and anyway he can contact you. Pray to God for healing twice a day. When you get up and when you go to bed. Accept the hurt, go through it but don’t wallow in it. Eventually you will be ok and he won’t even be a second thought. Trust he will not change for the new girl either. He just needs a place to stay.
This is so sad, her story sounds like mine, minus the abuse. I hope she finds the strength to move on and realize this guy isn’t for her. I stayed in my situation so long because I had a child with this person. Thank God I was able to leave.
Peace Mr. Tony Gaskins.
I appreciate hearing *all* the letters, even the ones you choose not to answer. It gives me perspective on where all these ladies are situated in life, and how everyone is on different paths.
Thank you for your simple edits and straightforward message.
Be blessed, tribe.
Tony!!! You're on a roll with these videos and I love it! Thanks for always blessing us with knowledge!
That's what I was wondering. Why is SHE driving him to the hospital????? 😳😳
Nah. That name is the name they, i.e. her, chose for their son when they dated as teens. 🤦🏿♀️
Right ...or the one they lost previously, or one she aborted fooling around with him in teenage years😳
That’s exactly right!!
Listen to their family. They know what they are talking about.
Right, first hand experience.
Tony came through 💯💯 thank you!!
Never let a man tell you he doesn't want you TWICE! Where's the ACCOUNTABILITY??????🙄😒 These women just want sympathy... to black man bash & ATTENTION!!!
Can’t wait to here this one ☝️ it’s going to be on 🔥
Unfortunately, I did not get to read this post story before it was removed: but judging by the comments I’m reading, sounds like another case of a woman failing to love herself! Self-LOVE is a TOP PRIORITY!
How in the world do these women allow men to continue to abuse them mentally and physically in their latter years is beyond me! God has to be your number one ☝🏾!!!! Only Yah can fulfill you the way you desire! It’s the BEST relationship you’ll EVER HAVE!
Been on your *Blessed Tribe* membership since last August, but have just switched to a new email and re-sign up again ✔️ See you Tony LIVE in 2021 even more 🥰
T.O.N.Y 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 a 40-year-old without a car reaction had me howling 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hello Tony,keep up the great work.continue to let GOD use you! I'm So happy for you and ur family😊your a GREAT DAD AND HUSBAND..YOUR WIFE DESERVE YOU AND VISE*VERSA MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS UR HOUSE HOLD🙏And Continue to be Honest(keep putting GOD 1ST) I don't kno your wife but she's AWESOME AND SMART ON ALL LEVELS😊
I have a bd for the rest of my life and that was the hardest thing that I had to accept and a lesson learned.
Respect all of this bro 💪🏾
Sister, please lean into GOD! Start praying, and ask him to heal you, open the next door to your recovery. You are in my thoughts and apart of my daily prayers. Know you are loved ❤. Lv Maria
I dealt with a user for 1 year, even if you had continued to help him, he would never appreciate it. Once I left him for good, he called me talking about he will sue me. I have blocked his number, blocked him on FB and all other social media. I also suggest that you delete pics, messages, and calls. Delete his contact in your phone. Once I did all of this I got more peace and continued my education. I am now a RN, something he lowkey tried to block with his incessant needs. The best bet for you is to let go, dont respond to him, and I cant promise it will be easy but your stress will go down once you let go. Prayers to the first letter, while our situations weren't the same, the neediness was.
Thank you Tony! I learn when I am in my forties (old) lol. May God continue to bless you and your family
It be the sound effects for me Tony 🤣. She hopped on a back Ah!
Ready to learn 😉
Normalize: Not loving a man more than we love ourself.
Happy New Year blessed tribe,!❤️
I am not able to see this video ! I really needed this wisdom 😭😭
I have been watching copious amounts of your videos since discovering you and your channel last week. Not gonna lie, all the insane letters you've shared and all the details you have shared about the nature of men makes me extra extra extra happy to be single, not entertaining any men and working on myself/my 3 Bs. I've never felt more thankful to be single and minding my own business.
Society makes relationships, dating and marriage out to be a bed of roses - splashing highlight reels all over social media. Meanwhile, their lives are a nightmare!
Your channel is mind blowing 🤯 Thanks for teaching me such life changing info! I'm already a changed person in the 7 days I have been binge watching your videos.
Dang... that’s a lot ! And that’s real ! Take it one second at a time. Practice breathing ! It’s hurtful but not difficult to move on. You will be ok.
Thank you
I would take my child and run. Change my child’s name.
Not sure why the video is not working in the app, but if you have an iPhone, still works in Safari. Keep the content rolling in, Tony, and Happy New Year! 🎊
Omg thank youuu!!! 🙌🏾
This is reality for a lot of women! To the young lady in the letter. Learn the lesson in what you went through. It was not your fault but it is your responsibility to heal , and work on yourself , and go deep within yourself to find out what your wounds are . Let him go and love your self ❤️
Wow. GROWN BOY. Track Shoes, Block ministry! Omg 25!! 🤨😰😫😱 what in the world.
Block ministry, sis?😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Praying for you...you must separate yourself from him and block him indefinitely for your own healing. Men like that don't change. And I know its easier said than done but if you want live and have peace of mind you must leave and move on with your life. Be brave, trust God, and never look back. God bless!
Be Blessed 😊
Hi Tony Happy New Year to u and family.
25:15....”You dating a 40 year old without a car!?!” 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀💀
This girl needs to spend time with building her self worth. She better not give that guy another opportunity to cause further damage. Block everything about him. Phone, social media, change gym membership, and change your locks. Don't have conversations about him with anyone else except the police if he comes to your house. Treat yourself better. P-e-r-i-o-d‼️‼️
New life. New you. 2021. You keeping us hopping like the Easter bunny with the videos Tony. We love ❤️ it! Keep up the good work!
15:47 onward !!!!🎯🔥 Exactly all of that!
First and foremost, the letter is so long. That already should be a sign that this man is not worthy of your time, nor your energy! "Go on 'bout your bizness!" [In my Tony Gaskins voice]
One solution....RUNNNNNN!!!
It's not letting me open the video 😩
Same here!
Same, you can watch on browser not RUclips app
Preach!!!
Most def we gotta grow up
Get therapy and leave that fool alone. Self Love Above Everything Sister!
Here! But group chat starts at 9. Soooo, I'll be back! 🏃🏽
First woman : Choose to move on and get therapy . With that trauma/ptsd/& stress you’re gonna need someone to help you work through it to get your life back . You can do it🤎 Write down and remind yourself of what he’s done. Basically he came around every time his money ran dry (whether it was a woman or the VA checks), harming you and putting a gun in your face? He doesn’t love you and a man like this trust his new woman is not happy either. Don’t worry about him “being happy with another woman” that’s keeping you attached, and he is a grown boy with no money why want him for yourself? He will be a curse to every woman he comes across. Count your blessings and break free for good ❤️
Is the video working for y’all? Cuz it’s not working for me
Awww man...this video and the one before this won’t play for me.
Ohhh HE 🏒 🏒 Nah!!! Mr Tony Gaskins is 💯 Facts!!!
That was the first thing that hit me. She drove him... I'm like his car???/
@@LA-wv7gf and he 40.
Listening.
My simple advice for her is get away from him as soon as possible No ifs buts or maybes. Simple.
The Second One Hurts, I Just hope she didn’t Name My Baby at this point.