Men Can't Be Victims: Female Narcissist Abuse
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The idea that men can be victims of domestic violence has gained some credibility with the Johnny Depp-Amber Heard verdict. The media, while paying lip service to the idea occasionally, still fail to take the issue seriously, not least in its depiction of men being physically abused for comic effect in popular culture.
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Please comment about any experiences you’ve had with a toxic partner. Have you ever dated someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Have you ever felt trapped in a relationship with someone violent or cruel?
Commented...My wife would call me a narcissist ad a gaslighter. Funnily enough projecting your own issues on to others is a trait of a narcissist. See my comment. I'd like to know if there are options to fix it.
@@jeff_in_a_box No. It cannot be fixed. The only weapon in the toolbox for the victim that is effective is permanent “no contact”. These folks are addicted to controlling and abusing others. They get a “high” from it, called supply or fuel. They must be in control. Any perceived attempt to change, modify their behavior, criticize them, is viewed as a threat to control. They respond by punishing the person that does this. They feel entitled to control and abuse others, they view themselves as “god”. It is a condition that cannot be treated or cured. It’s maladaptive and the addiction gets worse as they age, as their looks fade and their mind becomes more feeble, it is harder to get fuel and supply. The carnage they leave in their wake also starts to catch up to them.
@@jeff_in_a_box i can relate I don't even know what to do or say anymore
My mother once told my half-brother that he was the reason his father (her first husband) killed himself.
my 20 partner is a narcissist, She took her shit and abandoned her kids and marriage. blaming everyone but herself, making me feel like i was nothing....
Condemn the abuser no matter what gender they are.
Yeah
Exactly
100%. It doesn’t matter what gender the abuser it, it doesn’t matter what gender the victim is. The moment you physically lash out against the other, you lose all validity to your arguments.
@@princesscadance197 quoted
any opinion not agreeing to this statement is wrong
There's something I heard a while ago that still sits with me
Never hit a lady, but a lady who hits you first is NOT a lady. Never hit a gentleman, but a gentlemen who hits first is NOT a gentleman.
It was something along those lines.
I love that
that’s how the saying should go
"Men and women should have equal rights, and equal punishments"
It's kinda sad that we have to dissociate women literally being their gender JUST to find it acceptable to use self defence. I don't like this quote very much
@@destroythingthat isn’t what it is doing a lady is meant to the female equivalent to a gentleman
I was assaulted by my girlfriend, I tried to run but failed.
So I hid in the bathroom, waiting for her to clam down. Little did I know that I waited police and got arrested and charged with assaulting her.
I was a tough night at the cell.
That's awful I'm so sorry
Wow 😯, im sorry get out of that relationship before that happens again
Used to go lock myself after an argument with her. Funny enough I did that as a kid as well to get away from the egg donor
At least you got away from her.
ALWAYS record everything. And use it as evidence.
Abuse is abuse, man or woman.
An abused man has every right to defend himself.
"Men and women should have equal rights, and equal punishments"
Nice knowing I'm not the only one who's thought of this
you know what they say equal rights equal fights
Is this really the fucking world we live in? Where men are the test dummies, and women are the divine beings of the world?
@@tylerrichter6760i think it's literally going to be that women are going to control the world and males are going to be slaves
When i tell my story about my abuse to a woman, there is a 50/50 chance she gets mad at me.
Hurting women is worse than hurting men
And then she'll proceed to make you the bad guy in the story.
When I tell the story of my ex-wife's abuse to women, they say I'm lying.
@@wizardhands1776Word…I’ve noticed that happens a lot 😕
I would get out of the room after they get mad at me, like there’s no point staying there.
Nobody cares about men. Nobody thinks men can be abused. It sucks.
The cops literally saw my drunken ex with a gun in my face, me with a guitar in my hands, sitting down.
What do you think their response was?
“What did you do to make her so mad that she wanted to shoot you?”
That was their exact words.
Ended up leaving and she later took her own life.
I definitely believe that’s what the cops said. I have seen bodycam footage where they’ve said similarly stupid things. It’s outrageous but that’s where we are. Can you imagine a woman with bruises and the cops saying: “What did you do to make your husband so mad?” Unthinkable.
How the f aren’t you suing the police department? Complete subhumans
@@greatestnitemare6626 because nobody cares about men. The sooner you get that into your head, the better off you’ll be.
Can relate. Not same scenario but an ex of mine took her life after playing up the she wasn’t the problem narrative. Guy she was married to now eyes me up and down like i caused it 2 years after we ended.
@@kapppeela5328 yea, I can see that. All of her friends were calling me a murderer and crap. I ended up leaving the state. Detectives said they found evidence that she was going to off me, and then herself.
Can you imagine if somebody told a abused woman to 'woman up' ?!
@@TheAutisticNinja08 highlighting a double-standard always sounds strange until you see it for yourself.
@@TheAutisticNinja08 it does sound stupid but it's not the point. The principle of it and the sad truth is that even though issues women deal with aren't always necessarily solved,etheir way those still get treated seriously when they are hurt. As a society,humans understand that they are all capable of suffering, emotions,empathy etc.,yet because of prejudices,extreme society expectations that aren't even reachable. Humans have managed to make it socially ok to dismiss pain and suffering of men,even worse,managed to make it socially acceptable to laugh at it. That's damn fucked up. The entire principle itself of telling someone to walk it off is fucked up nommater who you say it to
Well the difference is, the term "man up" is used as a means of toughening up. Something not traditionally associated with women
@@professornova1236 men should man up in the sense of becoming physically stronger, mentally disciplined, being mature and having a healthy testosterone level. Manning up should not include being accepting abused by someone especially a woman because that's not what being a man should be. During the WW2 being a man meant that you fought against abuse not accepting it. Gender aside, it is still no one's fault if they end up being abused by someone and they should be allowed to fight back men or women.
@@supersonicfan9584True, manning up is not the equivalent to folding under assault.
I dated a woman who absolutely broke me into a million tiny pieces. It started like every man’s dream just about a year and a half ago now, last January at the height of my junior year in high school, we were perfect then. We had even started thinking larger on the scale of the rest of our lives together, until around the 6 month mark of that summer. Before that 4 months in, I had to witness a suicide attempt, and I physically glued her arms shut to prevent her own death, as I thought I loved her. That summer, she cheated on me with my best friend and tore us apart, but then began to play us both for fools, lying to us both behind our backs. She eventually dropped him and kept me, and it kept getting worse. She would constantly cheat on me and gaslight me, telling me she hates me, before quickly changing and begging me to stay. She’d constantly threaten her own life to make me feel bad before turning it off just like nothing happened, before lying to me about spending time with her college friends when in reality she was off to another hookup to have sex with another man. I was institutionalized this past October as my mind was completely shattered, and even still she wouldn’t let me run, and due to what she was doing to my mind, for some reason I wanted to stay, even though the gaslighting became physical abuse. She became almost a sex and alcohol addict, and if I failed to provide either, she would beat me, or rape me. If we were in my room and she wanted sex and I didn’t, she would take it anyway, doing to me whatever she wanted, including putting things in places they shouldn’t go for someone such as myself, purchasing things to continue this. In December she led me to a situation that had me nearly beheaded by machete with my car windows smashed and the car body scratched and dented to hell, with a machete. I was rushed to a hospital in a neck brace as paramedics were afraid my spine and collarbone may have been broken from the beating I had been taking and the blunt force at the back of my neck. Despite that, she didn’t testify to the police what had happened, and the people who aimed to murder me walked free with no charges. In February when I refused to drive her to a package store to buy alcohol as she was underage, she viciously beat me again, and just as I had in December, I didn’t fight back or defend myself. Even after all of that she held on to me. Then in the end of March she cut me off, telling me what a piece of shit I was for trying to care for her and love her, which I still truly believed I did, and on her way out she basically called me a friendless worthless piece of human garbage, leaving me to realize the whole thing was just to tear me down and drive in the final nail that would kill me, as she had tried many times before to get me to kill my self with her, where I’d catch her watching me in near satisfaction as I swung, with no intention to follow. Luckily for me, my best friend got out earlier than I did and realized this sooner, after suffering many of the same issues I had, even getting stabbed in the neck by a pocket knife and rushed to the hospital, where he took the blame on himself to save her from prosecution. He understood, and we rekindled our friendship, and now 3 months later after I spent this past April abroad gigging with my school jazz band, I am fully healed, and he’s right now with me in my summer home where we’re having the time of our lives before college. Unfortunately, this devil of a woman we had the displeasure of knowing left a lasting imprint on us, and things won’t ever be the same, as now we both have severe ptsd and trust issues, yet no person will believe our story once it is told since this modern day and age dictates no woman is capable of such things as these, relating them back to us claiming that we simply followed the status quo of the modern man, claiming our fault in the matter.
Within all this, I say one thing for anyone reading who is in a bad relationship or senses trouble:
Run while you still can.
No one believes us anymore since it’s unfathomable for things like this to happen to us, and it isn’t worth it to stay.
The world is cruel, but there are good people still left, run and find them, and get as far away as you can from toxic people in your life, because if you give them too much of a platform they will fucking destroy you and your family without a second thought.
Thoughts and prayers to anyone who’s seeing even an eighth of the torture some of these creatures can produce. 🙏🙏
REMEMBER, to look at things at your own point of view.
never get gaslighted
From your account, in my unprofessional but informed opinion, the individual you've described exhibits the hallmarks of BPD. It might help you to understand what happened to you to research the condition and how those with it often end up victimising others, as well as make you even more keen in seeing the warning signs. While people with BPD deserve a level of compassion as they're not all bad people, or at least they don't desire to be, the ones who are utterly controlled and corrupted by their impulses invariably make for some of *the* most diabolical partners you can imagine.
That aside, I wish you peace and healing from such torment. Glad to hear you made it out of there.
@@Neostrius I didn’t share too much out of respect for privacy but in the end this one did get a bp 1 diagnosis, I’d say your informed opinion is well informed 😅
Edit: thankye btw
I genuinely don’t have words. God go with you, I pray that things will only get better for you from now on.
Im sorry for what you went through ... but i cannot understand that you didnt snap at one point. Staying with her is wirse than death or jail. If i were in yoir situation i guess there would be an interesting news headline about another "evil evil man".
I guess your love kept you from hurting you.
Yeah the whole "Turn around and walk away" thing is the type of bs schools say to kids who defended themselves against bullies.
Unless you're female,of course...
They told us to "turn around and walk away" as if the otherside won't absolutely chase the hell outta us and try to kill us. That insane
The fact he had the balls to sit there and chastise a victim of abuse is unbelievable and because she’s a woman he should just he able to ignore or escape her
I get suspended so much for getting mad when someone bully’s me
Fuck Zero Tolerance.
Imagine telling a woman being ASSAULTED to ''turn around and walk away'' like....NO!? call the fucking cops, throw hands if you have to this shit is wild lol.
A lot of men say that to abused women, amon other things.
@@Alexandraadftxr7052 my dad used to be abused by his drug addict wife who when he called the cops she snapped the phone (this was in the 90,s) and he went and hid. when the cops got there they arrested him kept him in a cell for three days leaving his stuff with his drug addict wife then in court when he was proven innocent despite that and there was no evidence of him being abusive he spent 300 days in jail.no one has ever helped him and the issue isnt "OH WELL MEN SAY THAT TOO" because any abuser will (not saying all men are abusers but the comment im responding too is very vague) and the difference is that women wont get punnished. She didnt even see jail time and he was told by his few female friends to take it and his male friends (like the semi smart people they are) helped him get out of there.and the worst part is in the divorce my dad was awarded custody of their two kids (i wasnt alive yet) and THEIR MOM KIDNAPPED THE KIDS. AND THE STATE DIDNT ARREST HER FOR IT AND IN FACT LET HER KEEP THEM! I only met these two kids now 25 year old adults in 2022 and they have had a tough life of abuse too and were homeless for a time because of her addiction. And even now she is trying to make them like her she is literally feeding one of them drugs and abusing him and even now NO ONE has ever helped. And she has never been in any trouble for it. This is the issue is women and people like this exist and the system is built to not believe men.
@@Alexandraadftxr7052 oh no! anyways those men are pieces of shit too and the point is it's not ever okay to respond like that.
@@Alexandraadftxr7052no shit because that’s what they are told retard
There's a big difference between some weird people telling someone something against society's sensibilities and something being said on national television to resounding applause.
My husband's ex was abusive. She kicked out his kneecap, and almost killed him by chucking a VHS at his head that got embedded into the wall. It happens more than people think
We must pray that the abuse stops
"But women are harmless" -crazy people
How the fuck do you throw a VHS tape so hard it gets embedded into the wall instead of shattering? Those things weren't made to be durable.
@@user-ly4ig2rq4oIt never will until men are taken seriously about such matters
@@atlasgraham154might’ve been a VHS player
as a child rape victim and a man, i see a whole lot of support locally for women, but never anything for men.
the societal hypocrisy that a man can only do damage to a woman, is not even true as men are disabled from defending ourselves from abusive women. we do? oh we are abusers, not the abuser herself!
and don't even bother with walking away like dr phil said, we'll look guilty by doing that.
nobody should be abusing men, women or children. we do so on kids in school by telling them to sit down, shut up and do as your told, and back when it was acceptable to whoop men but spoil the daughter, men were victims often at young ages of abuse, while the daughter was treated like a queen who could do no wrong.
then today, grown men are being abused by women, both physically and emotionally. nobody should be abused. ever. but women like to abuse men, they even go as far as become literal experts in manipulation.
You can thank modern-feminism for that.
@@nocturnalrecluse1216feminism* there's no moderm feminism.
@@BullyMaguirejr Modern-feminism is third-wave feminism, dolt.
@@nocturnalrecluse1216 not even feminism its just plain misandry
@toniotrussardi8126 What do you think modern-feminism is nowadays? It's literally flat-out misandry.
Remember that if you Google “Why does my wife yell at me?” You get a list of reasons, but if you replace wife with husband, you get the domestic abuse helpline
yeah, the first thing is saying that “the wife doesn’t feel heard and you need to cater to her feelings”. Absolute bullshit
damn that’s sad
How did you find out about this?
@@Thankedsphere99 a meme
@@hankhill24I google it and its either fake or has been changed
A narcissistic woman once assaulted me and scratched me with her nails , left me bloodied with 35 bleeding cuts on hands, neck, chest. It started with verbal abuse on a few occassions and then proceeded to physical abuse . I should hv stopped meeting her. She almost ruptured a few blood vessels which could hv killed me. Then she started playing victim card . I didnt tell anyone. Would advise all men to stay away from such dangerous women.
Good Lord, take photos of your injuries and go to the police and file a report! This is a no-brainer - she needs to be stopped!
Report her, I also hope that everything is going well for you now
Lmao imagine getting pressed by a woman you’re a weak cuck 😂
@@sbfabtfc1this is a no brainer? How can you sas that after thousands (probably far more) men share tgeir experiences of being ridiculed or blamed by the police?
@fraskf6765 I can say that because having an official police report on record is worth more legally in the long run than avoiding the ridicule you might get from a dumb sexist officer sitting at the desk. There are also thousands of stories on the internet from men who filed those reports and later thanked their lucky stars that they did because their attorneys we're able to use them to protect them and even win custody of their kids. So suffer the ridicule of an idiot officer if you must, but get that report filed because it will be a useful tool for you legally.
I'm just glad there are women out there that don't fall into this category and rightly condemn such behavior. My mom said it best, "Abusers are bullies and most often the worse kind of bully, a self-righteous one who thinks themselves superior and can do no wrong."
Narcs
Unfortunately my mother had to be raised by one. Glad she didn't turn out like her siblings.
That's great. But these women are very rare. Most women are evil.
Are there truly women like this? I highly doubt it at this point.
@@muffetmissulena6540 More than you think. I've seen many comment sections under videos of a man coming out about his experience being abused or SA'd and it's filled with women supporting him, giving advice on how to heal, and overall being very understanding. It all comes down to whether or not a person is emotionally and mentally mature, which can be a bit hard to find nowadays but they are out there if you look in the right places.
I remember opening up to a girl once who I even loved, and told her about my ex-wife. Her response: When a woman reacts physically, it's always both people's fault. You must have triggered the poor girl in some way. Me: What if we reverse the roles? her: That's a completely different thing! Women are almost always innocent. Me: We're through! Have a great life!
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My god
you dodged a bullet
Good move
Awesome move bro, glad you took action to separate yourself from that 💩
Killing someone and only getting 16 months actually makes me sick
Truly disgusting
Agreed, inhumane
My wife doesn't physically abuse me.. because she cant.. she does however emotionally and verbally abuse me daily... put downs, emasculation.. indifference, avoidance.. insults.. it odd though, how when she does it in public.. other women celebrate her.. and act as if she's doing something good. It enables her. In private she does it and her enablers (friends and family) make excuses for her or say she's right in doing it.. however if I stand up to her.. suddenly I'm a bad person and a cry baby.
Thats not your wife ,its clear she does not respect you. You need to get away from her for your own good. the longer you stay it will only esculate into something worse which will make you regret not escaping sooner.
I warn you this is not even a red flag, this is literally just the warning signs of things to come for you to act accordingly and distance yourself from ther and cut off from her as soon as you can.
you may want to stay clear of the people who are supporting her as well. they make it clear they dont value you or respect you at all. you are not a person to these people.
Treat yourself with respect and leave them as soon as you can. these are not good people.
You've gotta divorce her, and this is coming from a 15 almost 16-year old with divorced parents.
@@CyberPunkBadGuyAmen 🙏🏾
That's not right for her to do that thats no excuse to do that there are no excuses for her actions
Sounds like they don't value your feelings. Give her an ultimatum or leave.
Currently dealing with death threats from my son's mother. Went to court and the judge shut me down and would not even hear me out. He asked if I felt she was a threat to me. He said I am a Marine and can not be threatened by her. Men can't be victims.
Rubbish. Domestic violence is abput perpetrator opportunity and asolutely not about strength.
it’s mostly men victimblaming other men and telling them to ‘man up’.
a good feminist would never tell a male victim that, i assure you.
US marriage laws and judges in family courts are notoriously sexist against men, just like this bench-warming idiot you described. One of the many reasons to avoid marriage in today's world.
@@gm.8805Yeah, and how many good feminists are there? Not many.
@@robertross45 he's not talking about a modern one they're evil and worse then anything
Phil told this man not to defend himself
I would’ve asked him in front of the entire world, what about If I wanna stand my ground???
And the women in the audience laughed at his abuse.
@@nocturnalrecluse1216 This is a corrupt society we live in.
@@suryasingh9738 hypocritical *
@@nocturnalrecluse1216 Yeah that too.
I love that at the beginning “just walk away” yeah that’s easy to say until you have a woman seething with rage, running at you, beating you, ripping at your hair and clothes, biting you. It’s really fucking hard to put enough distance between you and her when she’s coming after you. You wanna lose your shit but you try so hard to keep your composure and even when you use the smallest amount of force to just put distance or restrain them, you get demonized. When I was getting beat at 2 am I tried to leave. Got outside but she grabbed me and when she pulled me to the ground and I pried myself away somebody called the police and I was the one who went to jail. I was in jail for 4 days with a felony strangulation charge because in the heat of the moment I had my hand on her neck (didn’t actually choke her my hand just ended up there). She wasn’t pressing charges but the police were. I thought my life was over. Luckily all charges were dropped because there was no case and a mishandling of evidence as she had no marks on her and the police took no photos of all the injuries on me. I stayed at my moms for a month fucked up from the trauma of getting abused, having 5 squad cars pull up on my car after I had left (I left once I got free of her and started to come back when she told me cops were there) all with guns drawn on me, and suffering in jail for 4 days thinking my life was over with a felony I didn’t commit. Eventually I went back to her on the promise things would be different and of course they weren’t. Just left again and for good this time as she refused to get help on her own. I can’t handle the physical abuse but I also can’t handle all the horrible things she’s said to me. I have no personal value. I just wanna die. I started hurting myself again in that relationship. I don’t feel like I can function anymore. I feel so dirty and weak. We have a daughter together and the abuse never happened until we had her but the tendencies were there. And it scares me
Chin up, king, you got someone out here rooting for you ❤
I’ve never gone through anything like this but I’m confident I will hurt someone out of anger at least once, I have mental disorders that make it really hard to keep friendships and relationships. I have hard times controlling myself sometimes although I’ve gotten better over these past for years but I’m afraid I’ll do something horrible out of anger so I’m staying away from dating as a whole. I hope you’re doing okay and hope the best for you. Live well man 💪
You're a strong ass sob bro. Keep your head up, she didn't deserve you and you didn't deserve that. Stay strong brother
dont worry man, its just like Notion from The Rare Occasions
"I'm sure there won't always be sunshine, but there's this momentary beam of light"
find this light, and keep the room lit as long as you possibly can
shit happens
but they grow up and clean themselves up
You are probably THE strongest man of this century, mentally and physically, people like you dont deserve such dogshit partners, i cant do much other than wish you luck on this shitshow we all call life ❤
I have literally seen girls in my school, making fun of guys’ dead parents, without so much as a teacher raising her voice…
..but I’ve seen guys get called to the principals office simply for roasting them like lukewarm water
Ye bro this happened to me (not the dead parents part)
A girl tried to shove my glasses (the pointy part) in my eye because I'd made a joke (I asked if she was blind for not seeing smth) and i was in the wrong according to the counsler. Thankfully my friends (2 of whom were girls) did stand up for me so I wasn't punished
I don't see how anybody can honestly think Amber Heard was the victim after actually watching or listening to that trail.
Even just this much of the trial: ruclips.net/video/WIHyolzUgC4/видео.htmlsi=ioUlOud75xVZGayY
*Trial
They are people who got brainwashed by the feminist propaganda, that says "The man is always the oppressor and the woman is always the victims", that's all.
@@tritchie6272 how can you think johnny was innocent after he literally said he wanted to rape and burn amber alive in text messages?
@@Kryptic_sx🤓
My girlfriend has been abusing me the past few days. She kept hitting me in the face, made my nose bleed, and tried to kick my knees into themselves. I never yelled back. Never hit back. Tried to de escalate things. I'm also a victim of physical abuse from my father. The face my girlfriend made while she was hitting me brought so many flashbacks of my father. I thought that was could work this out but I don't think so...
M8 I hope you can get out of that soon as possible.
Do you have any other places to go to and crash with instead of being around her? If you do, and do plan to go somewhere else to get away from her, and of course do not tell her where you’ve gone, and make sure you leave nothing behind that you want to keep.
please get out of it man. my ex has ruined my life completely and it’s never too late to leave. it’s gonna hurt i know, because it feels like the only person who will ever take you for who you are is your abuser. do what’s best for you, please
I’m so sorry to hear you have been going through this. I hope this have gotten better, if not I hope they get better soon. You do not deserve this!
I know it's hard. I've been there but please get out of that my brother. You don't deserve that. That isn't love
Still silently suffering from the abuse I went through. Sadly there is no justice for men who experience abuse. Glad that 10 years later I can search online and actually see that I'm not alone.... the damage is already done. Help....
Edited 1 year later: to all that found me outside of this post, blessings! To everyone else. I'm good! Watching this video brought up so memories I'd forgotten about. While watching it, what you see above just came out of me. At the time of the original post, I've been in a 10 year relationship, I have a family, my NEW girl/wife is nothing like the ex, she's fun and great to be around. Quite frankly I enjoy coming home. Long story short, all is well and been well. To any others going through it, there is some solid suggestions in the comments. Some I've used over the years and seeing these comments validated my healing process in that chose the right healing methods. I'd like to add 1 thing. Make sure you keep yourself groomed and don't fall in the slump of not taking care of yourself. Also have a roster of female friends. Ladies you don't make s3xual advances at all towards. Preferably slightly older than you. Their wisdom is golden.
Get rid of all YES men in your life. Have friends that will out of love tell you your full of ish.
Again thank you all that reached outside of this post to find me. I wish you nothing but all the blessings this world can offer you!!!
Stfu about don't look to Andrew Tate, everything that he says is right
I'll give you some advice, man the fuck up and stop being a bitch
The experience has opened your eyes, made you stronger, hardened you against future BS. You can now SCREEN women with lightning quickness, DISQUALIFYING the demons almost instantaneously.
Your experience was a GIFT.
You aren’t alone brother. It happened to me too. I had an abusive mother (she actually stabbed my father once) and this wired me for tolerating abusive women. I can’t count the number of doctors and therapists I have approached to try to get to the root of my problems with relationships…..I get rejected every time. It’s a travesty and it’s an injustice. Brother, don’t give in and don’t give up. Keep talking about it.
Professor Sam Vaknin and Sadhguru, good luck brother.
I am a HUGE advocate for men when it comes to abuse. For too long, abuse has been one-sided.
Thank you
I guess you're not a feminist then.
if you're openly saying that you support the abuse of men, because thats how I read your comment, then I will guaratee you, that you are projecting your own trauma upon others. Don't get me wrong, I was abused by the other gender too and I cope the same way... but I keep it to myself, knowing that it is the pain and suffering talking. As much as I want to drag your a*s to social media to be cancelled, I am begging you, if you're not already in therapy, please consider seeing one. It can take a long time to heal trauma but whatever caused you to wish this torture upon others is making you despicable and drag you down emotionally and spiritually. And at the end of the day, if you're neither Asexual, Bi-, or homosexual, it will keep you from ever experiencing true love.
@@juice2620 So That Means You Won't Hit A Woman?
It still is today.
I have been through this…..started with my abusive mother. Primed me for abuse. Married a narcissistic women and after being abused by her, I jumped from narcissistic relationship to narcissistic relationship. The most recent one, we were off and on for three years. I knew I had a problem but the chaos of the relationships seemed “normal” to me. I went “no contact” with the most recent one after she got drunk and kicked me in the head. Wasn’t the first time I had been assaulted in a romantic relationship. One split my head open when she got drunk and drove her knee into my head. Men don’t have a platform to discuss this issue. We are often blamed, shamed, and labeled as “weak” by men and women and by professionals we approach for treatment. All my exes were very attractive, just makes it easier for them to fly under the radar. One had a masters in sociology and was a social worker. She was an alcoholic and a drug addict behind the scenes. Even made “jokes” about wanting to cannibalize me. She would laugh at people that were hurt or sick. Again, a social worker. She worked with the dying, I have no doubt that she “helped” a few to die quicker. She bragged about bossing the attending nurses and doctors around regarding the use of pain meds (she was an opiate addict). One time when she was at my house and I refused to go home with her, she got pissed and said, “you don’t know how POWERFUL I am”. When drunk, she told me that if she worked in a prison, she would be the one to sleep with all the prisoners. If she wasn’t madly in “love” with me, she hated me. Once, I woke up in her bed and she was just staring at me…..said something about wanting to keep my body “forever”. I know, this stuff sounds insane….the crazy thing is that when you aren’t being abused, you are being adored. It’s a tactic to keep you hooked in. Creates an addiction to the neurotransmitter, “dopamine”. When you break up, you go through withdrawal….depression, anxiety, sadness, it feels like you “miss them”. When you get back together, you get a “rush” or a “high”. Each time you leave and come back, the “high” gets smaller and the abuse gets worse. It’s an addictive or compulsive behavior on the part of the victim and narcissist. It’s codependency, which is rooted in childhood trauma. Hard for a man to admit to being codependent or abused. I learned the behavior from my parents. It’s a tragedy. I’m in recovery. My goal? To bring the darkness into the light.
Reminds me of Annie Wilkes from Misery. That scene where he wakes up to her staring at him is creepy as hell!!!!
@@turtle19dad Yep. Accurate. I have been there as well. The behavior portrayed is part of the obsession the abuser has with their victim. It’s a stalking behavior. Like their male counterparts, abusive women are obsessed with control. At their core, is a very human fear of abandonment. The victim displaying any sort of independence or autonomy threatens the abusers sense of control, ultimately triggering the abandonment fear. Abusers have a strong voyeuristic impulse. The stalking behaviors and obsession with control initially may be discounted by the victim or others initially as “normal” or just “puppy love”. In the beginning and periodically during the relationship, the victim is lavished with adoration, attention, gifts, sex, etc (idealization). The abuser views their victim at this stage as “perfect”. The victim is the “solution” to all the abusers romantic failings, as the abuser views themselves as “god”, they must elevate their victim to the same status. This is a temporary state, the abuser repeats this cycle endlessly with each new victim. Idealize, devalue, discard, and replace. The sad reality for the abuser is that they will never be able to form a healthy attachment; deep down…..some of them are aware of this reality…..they are codependents, they cannot be alone. Without another person to “mirror” and validate them, they psychologically begin to decompensate….drifting into psychosis. If no one else is around, it feels like they do not exist, tantamount to “dying”. It’s a quiet and permanent state of desperation that always hounds them. For other men that have experienced or are experiencing this sort of abuse, permanent “no contact” is the only option. You must leave and never go back. The compulsion that drives the abuser just gets worse as the relationship continues and as the abuser ages. It’s like a drug addiction, the abuser gets a “high” from the abuse. It’s a maladaptive behavior that cannot be “cured” or fixed. Some of these women have and will kill. “If I can’t have you nobody will”. If they can’t kill you, the also relish in the idea of driving a victim to suicide.
@@turtle19dad Yes. Been there as well. All abusers have a voyeuristic tendency.
Bless you brother. I pray for your healing man. You are stronger than you know. Keep fighting
@@JMAwake Thank you for the words of support. Namaste.
I was 20 years old and started a relationship wtih an older woman, 31. Due to my inexperience and my "puppy love glasses" I ignored multiple red flags. (excessive drinking, several exes, 2 children from different men etc.)
She was latin-american and lived in America. I was european. I visited her there and ended up being a prisoner. She took my passport away, stole my money and made me do all the work around the house, whilst physically and mentally abusing me.
I had cigaret burns all over my arms, chest and back. I had cuts, slashes, bruises and more all over my body. I was cut by razorblades and scissors, hit with belts and old cables.
She had her friends come over to take turns in beating me.
When finally managed to get my stuff back and was trying to leave she nearly murdered me. She stuck a knife into my chest and missed my heart with 0.2 inches. (0.5 cm).
CPS took her kids away, the judge sent her to jail for:
Assault, Assault with a deadly weapon, Drug possession and intent to sell, kidnapping. attempted murder in the second degree, resisting arrest and assaulting an officer.
I was at the time informed she took a plea deal where she basically confessed to certain crimes. I was convinced she'd still get some decent jail time.
They gave her 6 years in jail. She tortured me for 3 months straight, kidnapped me and nearly murdered me and only received 6 years for it. The only reason for it was that she didn't have manparts. I was outraged and asked why the fuck they went for a plea deal when they could have easily send her to jail for 15/20 years.
They told me "because she's a mom." You're fucking kidding me........................
Karma came for her though. 4 years later I was informed by a mutual friend (I was living back in my own country) that she had been involved in a prison altercation and had lost her cognitive ability. Basically turning her into a vegetable.
I don't feel proud of how I felt at the time, but I was happy she found this horrible fate. She deserved it.
She has since passed away (2 years ago) due to complications and again, though I'm not proud of my feeling about it, felt nothing but happiness and glee that this piece of trash pretend human being was gone from this earth.
I am now married to a woman that has on multiple occasions has shown me what real love, femininity and true caring for someone is like. After 10 years together, she still surprises me. I love her more then anything and she's been nothing but patient with me as she helped me through and passed all my trauma.
The biggest problem I faced was the reaction of other people. I'm 192 CM's tall, (6.3/6,4) and weighed 95 kilo's ( 210 pounds) while she was just 166 cm (5.4) and weighed 58 kilo (127 pounds) and thus no one believed me when I said there was nothing I could do. As a guy like that retaliation was not an option, because she threatened me multiple times no one would believe me and the police would believe her instead of me.
Even with a knife in my chest and all my wounds all over my body and her being completely prestine, the police still questioned if I had done something to "trigger this response".
Men are always seen as the aggressor so it does not surprise me anymore when I see this kind of bs behavior, still hurts when your own family and friends make fun of you for getting abused like that.
bro
you need to make ur own website and tell the people ur story
I can't feel bad for her
Holy shit, she literally enslaved you...
Hate this double standard. If a woman hits me or does something to me that i don’t want, then I deserve the EXACT same amount of recompense as if the roles were reversed.
And that’s facts!
That's true, while I'd never lay hands or hit a woman
Keep Telling Everyone This
Facts, but you will regret it in jail because of double standarts. No one will listen to you.
@@Staraxxus That’s unfair
Equal rights, equal fights
Equal rights, equal lefts
Right up until the court hears about it, then suddenly you had to be more responsible because you were the "stronger" party.
@@llanfairpwlgwyngyll7331 im 5'2 and scrawny as fuck, no way im the stronger party
@@llanfairpwlgwyngyll7331 and then you say I thought men weren’t stronger then women and get arrested
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I am a female survivor and what bothers me the most is all of the harmful/dangerous disinformation about DV that needs to be passed to create a victim out of Amber who was the CLEAR abuser. We should be educating in the truths as THAT protects EVERYONE.
Exactly, why were they defending the abuser?
@@noalapizza-paella3986 Females play victim like 90 percent of the time when they are abusive - then the actual victim gets treated as if an abuser - further abuse. What needs to happen is that ways to determine who is abuser and who victim need to be greatly improved. “Believe ALL Women” is a complete devastation.
Seeing feminists make every single excuse possible to falsely portray Amber as the victim was the moment I finally realised that feminism was never about equality, despite how much feminists claim to be fighting for it. It's quite a shame too. The "Johnny Depp & Amber Heard" situation was a golden opportunity for feminists to prove they care equally about men as they do women, by providing Johnny full support for his recovery. Of course, they just had to turn this into yet another narrative about how women are always the victims of domestic violence, even after its been proven by court that Amber was the abuser. What an utter joke of a movement.
@@dylansurendranath3091 i believe men can be victims too, but johnny depp was an abuser. he literally has a history of abuse and violence cmon.... he's been arrested several times for the same. lately, actress lola glaudini (who has never even met amber heard btw) opened up about how johnny verbally abused her, screamed at her, and didn't even apologise.
and also, there are people mocking ambers rape testimony (i don't care if you think it's false, mocking it is still vile and awful) and completely disregarding all the audios where he was physical. people literally said they wanted to burn ambers baby.
oh and btw the only court proven abuser was johnny in the UK trial. i can send more evidence if you'd .
@@DBKtoday2 i believe men can be victims too, but johnny depp was an abuser. he literally has a history of abuse and violence cmon.... he's been arrested several times for the same. lately, actress lola glaudini (who has never even met amber heard btw) opened up about how johnny verbally abused her, screamed at her, and didn't even apologise.
I once went to a counselor, and admitted that the relationship I was in at the time featured verbal and physical abuse. My girlfriend at the time had made a point of telling me, regularly I might add, that I was worthless and I was lucky to have her around to "keep me in shape", which basically meant that she'd hit me and scream at me over nothing at all.
The part that kills me is that the counselor, having heard my story and seeing firsthand how things have negatively affected me (including suicidal ideation, which is why I was there to begin with), basically told me that women do not abuse men, and my girlfriend only ever said and did those things because I had done something to hurt her first- IE: *I deserved it* . I was willing to write it off as her being incompetent, but then my own sister said the same thing. She listened to me tell her that the girl I was with treated me like trash, and just asked "Okay, but what did you do to set her off?".
My sister also wonders why I don't tell her my problems anymore.
That counselor should have lost their license. Imagine if you told someone who suffered any other form of abuse they deserved it, we would all rightfully be appalled.
@@samblackstone3400 See, that was my thought. But apparently, no. Men getting abused is 100% above board and totally a consequence of their own actions, according to women.
@@MrNickPresleyall women are the same. I have a great idea! What if we acted like women never get abused and portray them all as monsters who will betray your trust for no reason because they love seeing specifically men suffer!
Oh... wait. That's been done already. Both literally exactly like that and with the genders reversed. Huh... it's almost like treating half the population as a monolithic group is generally a bad idea and will only lead to pointless fights over both sides refusing to accept each other as people and talking it out instead of constantly yelling at or dehumanizing the other side... almost like blaming people won't magically fix systemic issues that are so ingrained in our society that we don't even think about it...
Nah, that's dumb. Make the world a better place by telling everyone you meet to be angry and resentful! What could possibly go wrong?
@@MrNickPresley That tipe of people makes me wanna punch a wall😤
@@MrNickPresley Or men telling the abused ones to “Man up” like STFU
My anger would be E for everyone if I was abused than blamed.
real
That's why they don't abuse you, they want people that can't fight back, they are cowards
I think you mean R for uhh..
*SHIT* i forgot.
As a male human being, sometimes i just wish to live alone in the woods in a medium size cabin with my dog and live happily without any worrying about being used or being assulted by somebody else in this fucked up world where man don't get heard out enough and just get told that they have to be strong and survive basically all the bad stuff
same here just wish it was me and my dog in a remote cabin somewhere in the woods
Understandable, I just wish that people would stop with all this pointless fights and just treat people right, as a real human being, but it can’t never happen in this fucked up world
Completely alone? Not even bringing a pet?
As a men’s right activist, I often feel very sad seeing so much hypocrisy in the movement. This video although was very precise and smart.
Thank you for watching. I also appreciate your kind words.
I'm also a MRA, what hypocrisy in the movement do you mean?
There are a lot of issues and injustices men face, all of which are already being addressed by feminists.
@@the_devoteaser that is a lie lol
“Men’s right activist” you guys need feminism because you act like women 😂
Perhaps the guy should have walked off the Dr. Phil Show.
He wanted to but Phil threatened him with calling the police because he destroyed a room.
Suprised phil hasnt pissed of the wrong person and faced the consequences for it yet. @@bradyhoneycutt3564
@@bradyhoneycutt3564 Who cares? If a Woman is beating you, threatening you, and won't let you leave -- you leave anyway! Even if you get arrested because the Woman called the cops after you walked away and accused you of being the aggressor!
He should have followed Dr. Phil's advice and just left anyway!
I'm being sarcastic, of course, but the parallels are there and they are just so sadly ironic in how that mindset would go.
You know, if I were stuck in a forest, and I had to choose between a Bear and a Woman to be with me, I think I'd have to choose the bear. At least nobody will fault you if you defend yourself against it, and if you both manage to survive, you don't have to worry about the bear accusing you of sexual assaulting it while you were alone together.
@atlasgraham154 lowkey im choosing the bear too bruh, some woman might make some crazy claim that f's up my whole life
Bullcrap if men can't be abuse victims! I'm a survivor of narcissistic abuse from my ex wife! Who claims men can't be abuse victims?? I openly invite them to discuss their opinions with me and hear my own experience so they might understand
Too many idiots sadly believe that men can’t be abused 😔
Also, I’m sorry about your experience and I’m happy you’re not in that situation anymore.
They don't understand, though. That's the problem. It's a religious dogma -- like trying to convince a religious person their God doesn't exist. You can show them them video evidence, medical documents, a god damned confession of abuse, and they'll still say it was your fault.
You can't 'discuss' anything with these people. You can only add your voice to the opposition and hope that, collectively, you're words will begin to drown out theirs.
@@atlasgraham154 flat earthers be like
If a woman ever puts a hand on you, break up! Break up! And record everything so that she won't lie about you abusing her
GF: touches you on the lap trying to flirt
YOU: eww bye 👋 imma call the police on you
@@Caketurtle7 Fuсk are you saying man? Horrible strawman
@@Caketurtle7 you know what he means
@@Caketurtle7you’re dumb as a box of rocks, you know full well what he meant
@@Caketurtle7 imma touch you tonight
The fact that people in the audience were laughing when they were reading off the things she did to that man in the beginning clip really makes me lose even more faith in humanity.
dev1'ls pupets
I don’t think I’d watch this video for over 30 seconds before I heard someone claim if someone’s attacking you turn your back and walk away? If you turn your back on somebody who’s attacking you they’re likely to knock you unconscious from a strike to the back of your head this is effing ridiculous
Dr. Phil is a disingenuous moron. He absolutely played the self righteous card there merely for the applause. Truly sickening and what's worse is that some people in the audience actually laughed out loud at the one of the violent accusations that was held against the man/victim.
I mean, it's just completely disheartening to hear that a victim of DA was first laughed at and than condemned by Dr. Phil on national TV for fighting back against domestic violence simply because he's a man.
@@firstname9954 abusers are bullies and most often the worse kind of bully, a self-righteous one who thinks themselves superior and can do no wrong.
@@Unknown.Skymasteri saw someone else comment that
"You where able to leave after I've beaten you so hard against your head that you had to go to the hospital" are the words my female abuser told me
that's ted bundy crap
That “he deserves a good punch for that one🤦♂️” you serious miss asshole? Why can’t I hit you for making a horrible joke like he did😭
Dude they seriously be saying “I’m fragile” when it’s convenient. I see women say 5000 thousand times a day that they are stronger than men. Do you know how sucky it is to be the gender that always falls to blame when it comes to abuse? Be a man? Be a good person.
My family has been a victim of this. We were trapped in the house with a very calculating, psychological woman who was never, ever wrong about anything. Of course, now that everything has come to light, it's tearing the family apart. I can only be thankful that most believe my Dad.
My mother is the exact same
its not just abuse. Its everything. Im a male rape victim. I was a *child* when it happened. A woman tried to pull that card on me and I swung back saying "Im a rape victim too, that doesnt excuse your behavior" And she just... had that bewildered look like she couldn't fathom a man having that struggle. She said it wasn't as bad for me as a man and stormed off. She knew nothing about what I went through. Being betrayed by your best friend. Someone you trusted and looked up to as an older kid. Who manipulated you into *months* of repeated incidents... To her, it meant nothing because I was a man, and therefore my experiences were lesser by default.
I'm terribly sorry you experienced that. Frick that woman, she's a loser for telling you that.
I hope you're better now ♥️
@@lecommentar9851 thanks. Appreciate you ❤️
Word.
I can relate man. The more time passes, the more i realize that this has happened to many, many more of us than anyone knows.
And when a man report's the abuse to the police, they get laughed at and thrown out.
That's infuriating. I remember watching the film Hustlers and there's a part where those women drugged those men they partied with so they can steal his money without his consent or free will of knowing what is he doing. And the cops laughed at the men who were taken advantage of by the women. Double standards really get under my skin and I hate them so much. The biggest thing in that movie is those women in that film never went to prison to atone for their crimes against the men they hurt. It pisses me off at society how they brush off any evil a woman does to a man, but if a man does any of those toxic things to woman they would crucify him.
I lost all respect for dr Phil instead of defending his fellow man
Dr. Phil is a joke !
Yeah. I utterly despise “Dr” Phil
@@rockyjmoon3bro is prolly not certified
r/beatmetoit
Quack Phil
There's nothing like it. I remember hiding in parts of the house to try to sleep, hoping she wouldn't find me and assault me, 7 months of abuse nightly, no one believes you or no one cares. once I left the legal abuse started. Its been 8 years, I don't think I will ever go back to living with a woman and I certainly wont marry. Women have avenues and outlets for their grievances, men are told to shut up and deal, and often that we deserve it. I still don't deal well with people coming up the stairs, people at the door, and I sleep with a weapon next to me as a result of it. One of things I found interesting, is if you have a male friend group, they often cant truly be sources of support if they are partnered, and you are often ostracized from your former friends if you choose to stay single afterwards. I genuinely hope every male enduring this silently, because that's your only choice, finds the strength to leave and tell their story honestly.
I am a survivor of female narcissist abuse in my own family, from both my mother and my grandmother. I was taught that you never hit a woman, which I never have but there was NO help for the abuse I suffered. Men are not taken seriously when the abuser is a woman, it has been that way the entire of my life. My nan used to beat me and my mother tried to convince people that I was mentally unwell when I came out as gay. My Nan touched me when I was 12 as I went to live with them, she beat me and she emotionally abused me, telling me she wish my mother had an abortion.
When I tried to get help at school, I was ignored and they called my Nan to tell her what I had been saying. I cried myself to sleep most nights as a teenager, wanting somebody to come and save me but because put on this act of being the "nice, elderly woman", nobody believed me. I am also autistic so my Nan would tell the school that I was making up lies and they would believe her. Never got justice.
A woman in a Nightclub I was in when I was 18 sexually assaulted me, I was dancing and out for a drink and she grabbed me and full on kissed me on the dance floor and when I told her I was gay, she said "I can make you straight". I was so terrified and felt so violated, I left and went straight home.
So many men go through stuff like this and are completely shut up and ignored by institutions that only want to focus on woman because it's fashionable. Its an over-compensation for how woman were treated in the Victorian era.
I’m really happy that you managed to get through all of that and keep going. God bless you ❤
The second part of your story reminds me a lot of what I went through.
I used to go to nightclubs with friends just to really have fun with them. I wasn't there to pick up girls nor I ever wanted to do it there. I was just there to have a few drinks and dance/fuck around with friends, nothing else. But there were a couple times where I'd be waiting in line to get a drink and a girl, some even looked underaged, would grind on me, grab me or try to/and kiss me. It certainly wasn't a great feeling, and the way they responded to me either moving away or just telling them "No, not interested." wasn't great either.
Going through this right now from Mom / grandma
My wife has BPD, and PTSD. She has her good days and bad.
I was formally diagnosed with PTSD is 2013 and I have good days and bad.
I try extremely hard to live with her and her issues. But while I am managing my issues WITHOUT having it spill over into the lives of my loved ones, she continues to abuse our marriage and blames her issues. To an extent, it is true. She has not control over some of what she does.
What bothers me, is the lack of capitalizing on the good days. When she has a good day she doesn't love all up on me and remind me of why I married her. She just blames her Mental Health and carries on.
Then, what is the point of the relationship for you other than to get PTSD from her abuse?
If you’re aware, then why are you still there?
Sounds like you’re better off getting as far away from each other.
Run away and don't look back. Her issues are not yours,you shouldn't suffer from them.
I realize your comment you left here is 9 months old but I still want to reply. I hope things have gotten better for you in the period from when you posted this to now.
You obviously greatly love your partner; you're married for Pete's sake! Marriage is about being there for your spouse in both sickness and in health, and sickness can look different from person to person. I know that having a loved one with BPD can make sensitive discussions difficult to navigate, but it might be worth a try to gently voice your feelings about the issue when you can. You know your wife better than I do, though, and you've probably already tried it. I know how easy it is to start to feel trapped/stuck while in a relationship that feels like each and every discussion already has a predetermined outcome. I feel like communication at this phase is more important than ever.
Sorry for rambling. My thoughts are with you friend, and I hope warm days are coming your way. Stay strong and do the best you can, even if your best looks different from day to day.
Dont hit anyone unprovoked. But if someone attacks you, regardless of sex, you have every right to defend yourself!
First hand I've experienced abuse from woman from partners and dates, even when I went into a police station with my godfather for him to sign a document for a woman to be released that was doing domestic violence on her ex partner for before and after leaving him my godfather was forced to sign document while she was sitting there saying when she goes back she's gonna stab him and no one could do anything but release her then 3 hours later he was In hospital getting stitches from being stabbed in the face in front of his kids. If this was a man it would've been taken more seriously not police officers laughing. That was the day I witnessed the brutality of the system towards men.
remember kids, women are oppressed
@Unknown. Skymaster more like if ur not top 20 percent ur most likely to be oppressed by the system
ify... had to see it all as the kid and trying to help my dad only resulted in me receiving the hit
@@Unknown.Skymaster You mean they SHOULD be lmao
At least people are saying this I mean it’s absurd that if a woman says a man beat her he goes to jail and if a man says a woman beat him no one believes them
How to survive as a male:-
Step one: don't do "relationships"
Step two: be academically successful, get a good job, hang out with your bros (Those relationships are important)
Step three: Live happy.
exactly what I'm trying to do right now
or just not get into a relationship with a girl
Male culture is more abusive than female culture is. You have to look out for bad guy friends, too
@@mariavictoriaantipolo1994 or be gay
@@bigbriangaara7461 mine was if you don't want to be gay
Some ex-friends of mine always used to tell me that "Men created Misandrism." And I wondered.. "How the fuck did men create Misandrism?" It never made sense and yet all 3 of those friends who kept preaching this toxic femininity were actively manipulating me and abusing me emotionally. And by the time I nipped the bud on that whole situation it was too late. It's almost as if they excused all the awful shit women do to men and get away with it to "A society men created." and that's all they'd say! It's such a ridiculous notion, a society is made by people of any kind, and any gender. Men didn't create society, we collectively are a society because that's what humans do best, collect together in massive groups. I'm so frustrated and tired that I had to survive and endure all that backstabbing and emotional discomfort (adding to events that happened in my past) because I am a man and have to SUCK IT UP. They'd even tell me to open up while actively making the situation infinitely worse. I will say one thing and one thing only. No one should have to endure this pain and no one should have to be wrongly judged because they are a man. We all deserve equal rights and representation.
Remember the Muppet Show that allowed Kids to see Miss Piggy Strike Kermit and everybody laughed? What does that teach our kids? That hitting men is a woman's right?
I mean, who cares? Men should be able to defend themselves right? (Sarcasm by the way)
@@SweetCandyUwU thats the neat part we dont and cant bc woman are and i quote "fragile" when its convenient
@@toniotrussardi8126 fragile or not, your allowed to hit her if she hits you. if she disagrees, dont date her
@SweetCandyUwU yeah because little princesses like you are expected to be protected for being an asshole also think men that just exist deserve to be slapped and scratched or assaulted by girls. Also you have UWU in your username.
@@toniotrussardi8126 truly a disgusting world
I am out of my freshman year of high school now and only a year ago I was sexually assaulted by a girl two years younger than me. She was malicious and tried to get me to touch her as well.
I didn't understand it when it happened so I told one friend about it and asked him what he think was going on, and he walked through the hallway at school shouting that i touched a sixth grader. It took him six months to understand what really happened because I didn't want to talk to him about it again for a while. Tried to tell another friend, he looked me dead in the face and chuckled, saying "You're the only guy I know who wouldn't like getting touched by a woman."
It wasn't until recently that I realized I was very loud and rambunctious, until this assault. I can't help but feel like my ability to talk to women, along with my social abilities in general, were effected because of this experience.
Get therapy and … try to move on? Not sure how to say this in a more swntistive way than being genuine(sorry)❤. Just remember that not all women are like that so u don’t have to be worried❤
In these cases, I don't blame men for knocking the shit out of them. Anyone and everyone should defend themselves from attack.
My ex wife was financially, verbally and mentally abusive. She cheated on me and expected me to agree with her opinions. It never got physical, fortunately. People didn’t want to hear about what happened, I was supposed to just be quiet and deal with it after we got divorced. I was supposed to get over it asap.
They exposed their darkness
They are sinners
Have you seeked help lad? I'm not big on psychiatrists myself, but this is quite a trivial moment in your life. Future relationships can suffer because of this
Shut Up Phill, when a crazy woman starts attacking me she will get the Punch
Wish it was that way bud but sadly you’d get like 60 charges because “justice”
@@obolstudios5154 at this point i will take the felony
@@toniotrussardi8126 It seems tempting but time is the most valuable commodity so I’ll take the bruises and move on.
Dude if I were you I wouldn't, you would go to jail for that
@@SweetCandyUwU yea right you wouldn't.
No sane person would just let a crazy person attack them, woman or man.
I don’t even have a girlfriend but the fact that nobody will give a shit if my future girlfriend or wife kicked the shit out of me horrifies me
kinda makes me afraid to get into a relationship, with all the horror stories ive heard.
@@pug-nsame bro tbh im not even looking for relationships rn
I feel like thats why theres so much LGTB+
Men prob cant trust women so they just date other men, same goes for some women.
Yeah I kinda just just want to be single
Tbh being single isn’t that bad
This is why I don't want to be in a relationship. You can't have drama. You can't be abused. You don't have to worry about money, if you are able to save money.
Turning around and walking away is easier said than done. That's why I hate Doctor Phil because clearly he has never been in that position.
Most of his audience are women, probably 99% lol so he's gonna suck up to them no matter what.
His wife is probably abusing him
Equal rights?
Rqual fights.
Yes
That opening Dr. Phil clip disgusted me, seeing him smile and agree made my heartbreak.
My mother was an abuser. She hit us and threatened to burn us with matches. Nobody did anything because my father did not love with us and nobody believed us until I had to call 911 when my brother was beat particularly hard. Then we were thankfully given a new home
I’ve dated several toxic women. One used to regularly get drunk and beat me, she had military training so it was a bit rough. I never fought back and eventually I left her after a few months. Lost a lot of friends because of it who told me I was overreacting. Dated another who was so obsessed with controlling me she tried to murder my family so she could have me to herself. I never took either of them to court or did anything to seek Justice because I knew no one would believe me. Both of them did things worse than I am willing to openly disclose, but those are the big things.
As a male who has suffered sexual abuse, _(I spent like 5 minutes contemplating admitting this because I worry that I will be the one seen as the abuser.)_ this was just so heart wrenching to hear and so are the comments. Please for the love of any and everything, please reply to this comment with your story. I not only need to feel like I’m not alone, but also help people.
This is a lengthy comment so if you don’t feel like reading this I understand.
As a male I’ve always been told to put myself before others even if It means death because It’s the right thing. But I was recently told by a female friend:
_there’s this ideology that as a woman you let the man serve you, if you’re in danger, wait for a man to save you, if you see a man in danger, help him if It doesn’t put you in harms way._ It truly shocks me how selfless behavior is rewarded with at most a compliment or usually in my case, called a weirdo. Mildly unrelated but last week I held the door open for a girl my age not thinking much about it because I hold the door for everybody. But it just hurt when I heard her say: “Eww, stop, I have a boyfriend.” I was genuinely so confused and shocked and It’s crazy how simply looking at some girls will make them assume you’re attracted to them. Something about society assuming guys can’t be victims is truly insanity. In cinema the dynamic of that slap scenario is incredibly double standardized because what If the roles were reversed? What if that was a man slapping her? Well, he’s an abuser, he is lashing out for no reason, he’s a bad person. But when It’s a girl, the guy is still an abuser. She’s just stressed and needs love and help. But why the hell is the same not applied to me? I need love too man… I never lash out, and the times where I have enough and burst, It’s seen as irrational. I think a huge contributing factor to men not wanting or feeing comfortable enough to cry is because of the vicious cycle of fearing the worst. You get called weak. If you cry when you’re being abused like me, you get called irrational. You’re exaggerating. You’re “malfunctioning”. I hear that one from my OWN mother a lot. What am I? A robot. I genuinely just feel like a robot that could be used for an intended purpose like the device I’m typing this on just to not form a connection with the robot but the use from that robot. Ever thought of It that way?
I may sound irrational with this rant, but for those who have someone there for them at all times, Imagine that you had nobody to turn to, and the people you believe you can tell you that’s your the problem, you’re not a victim. I genuinely hate just how belittled I’ve become because I was contemplating whether or not I would be lying If I stated I was a “victim” of child abuse because I’m always told that the things I experience aren’t abuse. My mom subconsciously agrees with the double standards of women having to stand up to men, but men can’t stand up to women. She always tells me that psychological abuse and verbal abuse is still considered abuse. And I’m glad she recognizes that. But she tells me that I have an amazing home life when she goes from 0 to 100 instantly and used the excuse of stress. If stress justifies putting others including your own kids with your words, why is it so frowned upon when a dad does it? How come a mom slaps her kid and she’s just having a hard time and she needs to “work on it” but when a dad slaps a child people immediately draw the imagine in their mind of a deadbeat alcoholic father with no morals. I wish I had more physical affection when I was younger. And I also hate how physical affection is so frowned upon for men. I hate how I genuinely have to give reasons for why I want a hug and why I deserve it when I see girls hugging each other without asking and not being weirded out.
Thank you so much for taking the time and energy to read this! I’m genuinely sorry If any of my views or opinions upset you or didn’t align with your views, this video brought up so many emotions and memories that I’ve bottled up. I assume you don’t hear this enough so I’m going to break the ice and normalize it. I may not know you, but I love you. It sounds weird but it’s something we need to normalize. I don’t love anybody for their uses, but for them face value. You’re an amazing person and I mean it from the bottom of my heart. Please If you resonated with this tell me ❤
Love hearing other peoples story’s. I hate how society now makes us men feel “weak” or “unmanly” if we cry. That’s what mostly hit me in your comment. I’m a guy that leans more “emotionally”. I still think logically but I can be affected by emotions rather quickly compared to other guys… so I thought. The more and more friends I meet or men I talk to I see a common thing in every single one of them. Usually I can see them holding back their emotion or I know they are feeling an emotion they just aren’t showing it. I was just lucky enough to grow up in a household where my parents helped me when I would cry (usually from mental illness like anxiety and clinical depression). I feel like every guy has a big emotional side that is kind of pushed to the side and forgotten about.
Story about my relationship: My now ex was mostly verbally abusive. She wouldn’t swear or threaten me but she would blame me for everything and gaslight me to the point where she would convince me. She never actually cared for me also. I became suicidal during the relationship because of personal things that will take too long to explain on here but she would always say that she is here for me even if it was midnight or 2am. Well, when the time came I would call and she wouldn’t pick up. The next day she would give an excuse of “oh my ringer isn’t working”. One time she didn’t even knowI called. I ended it saying how she didn’t love me and that she doesn’t care, she started fake crying lol. Again, my issue is no where near as bad as the comments I’ve read so far
I just wish that the emotional side of men is talked about more or at least recognized more. It’s kind of what you said… we are like robots. At least that’s how society looks at us. Luckily my emotional side was pretty well taken care of up till high school. In that span my parents told me to toughen up a little more. They would help me but sophomore year I just stopped telling them what I was dealing with because it wouldn’t get addressed.
Sorry for the long comment too. Hope your day goes well
@@DeegamerzI’m glad we rent alone! I didn’t expect anyone to read or let alone reply with something this deep! I hope everything goes well for you ❤️🙏
All i can say is God bless man. As a man i like to give solitions, but i can't think of any. Try to keep your chin up ❤
I had an affair. I regret the decision, but after finding out, my wife became violent. She would assault me and then accuse me of abuse. I have been arrested 6 or 7 times since 2019. It has now resulted in 2 convictions, for breaching a non molestation order because i swore at her. My second conviction occurred a few days ago where i was found guilty by a judge of assault. She was the one who assaulted me. I pleaded not guilty, her statement changed 3 times, and the judge still declared me guilty of the abuse. I am now labelled a violent criminal...and i was actually the victim . Can anything be done to fix the system. I am appealing...because i have nothing to lose. I want to know if crown court is as inept as the magistrates.
been there , but havent done what you have done . you say you assaulted her , after she assaulted you , i dont know if you took a swing or a slap at her , or just subdued her by grabbing her arms shouting "ENOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGH!" . but if it was a punch or slap i havent done it .
yet i wish. i still do . i feel played , misjudged , unfair every single time we have a fight . you want closure , but you will never get it . that fact itself is pretty hard to deal with . so you wanna get back at her . revenge . shout at her , tell her what you have been gulping , holding up . and that makes you guilty .
look in any given country , you lay a hand to a women you are guilty no matter what . and if you are with someone who has zero sense of justice , and a twisted conscience she will use this as a weapon .
my girlfriend did everything , to make me hit at her . every single time , she charged at me i grabbed her , held her till she is calm , and took of . and every single time these things happened , she said " look you beat me up , you hit a women.. " i say " no i didnt hit you , i hold you down , grabbed your arms and shout at you so you would stop " ... and she would be like , " hitting is one word , easier to deal with the conversation , take it as you manhandled me . should i explain myself every single time ! i am a lady ! no matter what i do , what i say !even if i hit you ! you cant use your force on me! and besides whats gonna happen if i punch , at most you will have a bloody nose but look at my arms these are your finger prints you MONSTER!" ...
These conversations happened , after she ripped my ear off ..
after she beat the shit outta me at the nightclub ...
after a broken ankle at the hospital and she punched me ...
after she charged at me holding a man sized mirror because i decided to record our conversation so i would be sure the things she denies yet she says ...
after attacked me at the day of my aunts funeral because she wanted to discuss why i am checking girls pages on instagram instead of letting me go to the funeral .
so on and on and on and on ... never ending story .
i hope yours ended with your "conviction" . but i feel convicted to hell as long as i am with her , and honestly i dont know who i am with . the one who loved the living shit outta me at the beginning , or the sneaky little bitch that wants me to slap her once so she could " get everything till i am left pennyless . " ...
@@teykpek9622 I see it could read like that. I will change the wording....no i never assaulted her. I walked away. i was assaulted....but i was found guilty by a magistrate. (of an assault i didnt do)
@@jeff_in_a_box and this situation itself gives every single female out there an entitlement that they can act the way they want and get away with anything .
she could have slice you and say "i was assaulted " ... and she would still walkaway with self defense because you "looked threatening " ...
this needs to change..
@@teykpek9622 Yes it does. I have spent this morning documenting, from an audio recording of "the incident" (my last arrest...and conviction. I have one recording where she threatens to kill me, and two where she lied under oath in court. I'm hoping they are enough to go to appeal and win. Granted she still won't get any sort of punishment...yes. it needs to change
@@teykpek9622 It does that yes. I do however have recorded incidents which prove she committed perjury twice last week.
I might make a website listing all the judges who gave false rulings or let abusers go, male or female.
Pls do if you can, it could be the first step in protesting against such bs
Dr Phil. Walking away makes it worse. My ex broke into my house and beat me up and sent me to jail when I walked away. They follow us, Dr.
That first clip was the the moment i stopped watch dr phil. That angered me so bad
Why did you watch slop like that in the first place?
@@Greenyt1234 dr phil was good. Theres alot of his content that was good.
That article about the journo slapping her boyfriend and her friends doing it too literally made my stomach turn. If I hit my male partner even once out of momentary anger I would be so ashamed and guilty I would seek professional help, end the relationship so he would be safe and possibly even want to k*ll myself. Like that is a line I am so terrified of crossing. I was abused as a child and am so scared that I will become one myself, because I used to have issues as a child where I was violent to other children who touched me or invaded my personal space probably because I was being abused at home. I grew out of that and it haunts me that I could have that capability built into me. Im scared about having children or marriage because I don’t want to be like my abuser.
How anyone could talk about physical abuse so casually makes me feel sick to my stomach.
But you are wrong about the Depo v Heard case.
It was a clear case of DARVO. Depo has a clear history of abusive behaviour, grooming and violence. A british court found him guilty on nearly all counts of abuse.
@@twokindsofovenfries32bro who you responding to, also I don't respect the opinion of a court system that penalized a rape victim for coming out against the minorities that got her.
@@twokindsofovenfries32Almost the entire judicial system whenever you go in the world is terrible. The main thing is that Depp’s history is less of a threat to people, than Heard is towards Depp and other people so she should be convicted accordingly.
There's a sizable portion of women who find it humorous. Like genuinely "hoo haa haa" funny.
The joke is that "I am not supposed to admit/do this". Aaaaaand... that's it. You see this kind of "confession" humour on Tiktok nowadays, where women will admit into being toxic or abusive and... that's the joke.
You're telling me that men suffer from problems too?
Nah, we're just supposed to man up.
We can obviously take it!
Yeah! We’re fine… We don’t look sad so we gotta be happy!
Yeah you're right !
I mean, it's not like we had a lot of problems too...
We just gotta man up and focus on our future
Exactly! Who cares about what us men think, we’re all just pawns to them
*If we can take it, they can take it too, right? As above, so below.*
This is sarcasm, right?
I hate Phil so bad for what he said to that poor man….
I have seen no example of dr Phil ever having a good impact on someone on his show. He literally just makes horrible people famous is what I’ve come to realize
Thanks for making this video. I was assaulted in a nightclub by an ex female friend who then tried to lie and say that I was aggressive towards her.
Thankfully all of our friends see what had happened and didn’t believe her story.
That’s not taking into account the emotional abuse I got in the background over months.
First it started off with small things, like belittling me, calling me a vagina (because I’m more sensitive than the average man)
Then when I made mistakes and had fallen out with another friend of ours who she had ever right not to be happy with me but she went out of her way to make me feel worse.
I also found out that my ex girlfriend left me because she was scared of this person because from day one this woman hated my girlfriend and her only reasons were
“I hate her voice and clothes. You can do so much better than her”
Shortly after she threatened my girlfriend with violence on my birthday (I was at the bar)
She left me shortly after.
Making me feel isolated from everyone we knew.
Then when I had healed enough to go out the abuser was there. She told me through friends to stay away from her so I did.
She then approached me, tapped me and I took a step aside.
Then she slapped me.
Sounds like the rules only apply to her.
I then verbally stood up for myself and told her the truth that she has been horrible to me, then she head butted me.
I decided not to report her to the police because I felt I wouldn’t be taken seriously or it would turn out to be my fault.
Sorry for the long story.
But my point is abuse is never acceptable and when it happens please speak up.
Especially us men, we need to break the stigma.
Every time my girlfriend yelled at me in public for literally nothing (this happened multiple times so far) everyone around had this disgusted expression in their faces as if I have done everything wrong and I would deserve whatever happens. It's not a nice thing.
“the media behave like an abuser” wow, great way to put that
Holy shit... I had to pause this video because I actively started to have a panic attack. Even now my chest feels tight and my heart hurts. I'm a victim of domestic abuse for over 6 years. Watching this is exactly why I never told anyone.
Holy shit dude you need to go stand up for yourself and get the hell out of there m8.
Yes, I've been in a relationship with a covert narcissist for years. It took me 10 years to even figure it out. I am a shell of my former self.
Take time and to recover
Achieving true equality means that we as a society must facilitate equal punishment for everyone and for every crime.
Equality doesn’t mean literally thinking abusing everyone is equally bad, women need to get preferential treatment because they’re more vulnerable than men, Equality means treating two people who are equally vulnerable 100% the same regardless of gender, since on average women are more vulnerable than men, hurting women is worse than hurting men
@@ChildrenarebetterthananimalsNo, no lmao. They aren't inherently weaker. Technologies like farms or offensive weapons already exist, they are the great equalizer.
Women don't get preferential treatment. Especially as technology advances even more than now. In 75 years, there's a very real chance that cybernetics will have advanced to the point of making biological strength redundant.
Making the status-quo preferential treatment will do long-term harm.
Are you stupid?@@Childrenarebetterthananimals
@@Childrenarebetterthananimals 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
@labirintocomplesso1273 I bet you have more empathy for animals than you do for humans
the fact some people think abuse is gendered and exclusive to woman.... same people that believe men should be 7"4, bodybuilders, earn 12,500$ a month and stuff.
Also, i'm a trans woman, when i was a kid (a boy) i was afraid to cry because people would make fun of me for it, but i've seen girls cry at school and they were helped. i wasn't. i have been pinned onto the wall and told to stop crying (long story but i was right to cry). people just need to stop, i still have problems showing emotions to this day even if everyone stopped referecing to me as a boy, i haven't cried in literal years while i have reasons to, i'm just unable to. please leave people alone because of what you expect from them, treat people equally it's not that hard.
I really want men to be taken seriously in such situations. how was the crowd laughing? it isn't funny to me.
Its really ridiculous especially when so many experiments have shown that young boys are more emotional than young girls. Its just that boys get their emotions forced to just stay inside them
im glad the world iss changing to stop this "man up" bs
@@FemboyKaiSaku men should only cry only around their male friends
Ah, yes, being told to man up by the police after calling them because you are running from a maniac with a knife.
😂 I wanna see see clip of like three girls punching dr phill and him walking away
That would be funny to see
My mom is a massive narcissist, basically she was awful to my dad, and was abusive to my sister (she wasnt as bad with me, but she was still awful), I'll spare the story becaue the divorce is still ongoing, but basically she tried to fuck over everyone and lost.
As a kid, I was told that it was wrong to hit a girl. When I asked why I wasn't told. Later on when I asked again I was told that "a real man protects women, he doesn't hit or abuses them".
So I thought that was true and never did hit a girl. Then I found out the truth in high school and school where there were all girl "gangs" that had really bad character and would straight up humiliate boys for fun. If you so much as dared to talk back, you'd get your face clawed off (I remember a poor kid got his eyelid split in half). And if, God forbid, you raised your hand you were either expelled or severely punished.
That was the truth I learned about girls, and there's little people can do to change my mind.
Men and boys CAN be victims too. We're not made of stone.
And they still say we live in an equal age
They say that women in 1st world countries are oppressed 💀
11:10 "Just take it" and never forget you are expendable is the message.
There is never justice for men, we are treated like slaves when we give anything and everything of us and it still isn’t enough. We want time to hangout with our friends, no can’t do that, you’re being selfish even though we work out tails off to provide or we can’t be left the hell alone for 5-10 minutes.
It’s why men never speak up about verbal and psychological abuse.
If a man speaks up about being abused by a woman, he would be rather get made fun of, laughed at, belittled, not believed, or even get accused of being the one violent because people think there has to be a reasons why a woman acts like this towards a man.
@@SweetCandyUwU It's one of the things I hate so much about people today. I've been a firsthand victim to abuse by a woman, but are most people gonna hear me out? No! Because I'm a man, right??? I have to man up and _accept that I'm the one in the wrong!_ It's just the cycle of life!
It's all bullshit. The way I see it, it's not _just_ misandry, it's also some weird form of offhand misogyny, since it's once again reinforcing the image that women are fragile. No, women aren't fragile. They can abuse men just as well as men can to women. It's a cycle. A spiral. It doesn't end, and not a goddamn soul in the world wants to really change it. It'll all keep going and going and going and going until we all watch the nukes fall one fine day.
Are you willing to end it? Because Lord knows I can't do anything to stop it; not a single man on planet earth can. If any one of us even tries, then we're all just like Albert Fish to them.
it's insane. for example search 'why is my wife yelling at me' and it provides suggestions for therapy so she can get better, etc. when you search 'why is my husband yelling at me' it comes up with 'help is available.' absolutely insane
@@jason3351 Even worse sometimes it shows "domestic violence"
My best friend in undergrad seemed like the perfect friend at the first... but it didn't take long for her to start stonewalling, to start lying, to start guilt tripping, and to start gaslighting
It reached a point so bad that our final conversation had these major pieces.
She instantly started the discussion saying that she had a boyfriend to trigger me, I really loved her and wanted to be with her. I ended up learning she had one for months, she just never told me, she withheld that info until it would hurt me most.
she accused me of sexual harassment. The incident in question? a conversation that I know for a fact I asked her "am I really okay when I send sexual memes towards you?" and she said, quoting exactly here "you are more than fine, one of my friends [boyfriend at the time] sends me warwick porn, you're okay." This convo was only a month old. Nothing was communicated that changed that consent. That didn't stop her from accusing me of a crime, retroactively revoking affirmative consent.
She accused me of using suicide threats to manipulate her. I never did that. At times I did mention that I was having suicidal thoughts, because, you know, I thought she was a close friend that cared. She claimed she cared, but when push came to shove she believed I was manipulating her.
She straight up admitted to stonewalling, proudly, as if there wasn't anything wrong with it.
She did all of this in public, to completely emotionally destroy and humiliate me.
And I was so fucking deep in it that I agreed to take a break from the friendship, and my last words to her were "stay being awesome"
When I spoke out about this, I got very little support, and even had someone threaten to report me on her behalf to the university. I was told to shut up, and not speak about it. When I spoke about this I was accused of being misogynistic, taking away from womens issues, looking for attention, looking to entrap another vulnerable woman. I still occasionally speak up and get similar responses
At this point, I have felt the effects of the abuse, and it's fallout, for almost as long as I knew her. Part of that is because of consistent retraumatization during the fallout. Some of that is because I have had latent issues from my mother that came to the surface during my healing. I still get triggered and turn into a hateful, depressed, nihilistic person. I don't think I will ever be whole, not in the same way I was. My relationship to women in general has soured. I just have zero agency. With a man I know if he is abusive I can respond and get it taken care of appropriately. I don't have that with a woman. I am completely powerless. And that is what keeps me awake at night. That is why I'm petrified to ever get into another relationship with one.
damn dude
The "she was asking for it" or "she made me do this" or "she deserved it" were the penultimate phrases that helped jettison domesic violence awareness. But "he was asking for it" or "he made me do this" or "he deserved it" are seen as powerful concepts for women. Ain't it stange?
"You don't put your hands on a woman in anger." I agree. Instead, you should put your hands on a woman in self defense. Best case scenario, you pin her so she can't cause you any further harm. Then you either call one of her friends and say she's being psycho, or call the cops.
As a man who was verbally and physically abused by my ex this needs to be talked about more… I flinch when my 5’4 GF she is nice and won’t hurt a fly but my mind won’t let that go…
A woman will cry out in pain as they strike you.
I'll have to disagree any human being has the inherent right to fight back for their own safety regardless of the sexual orientation
Ok but then how do I stop other men from attacking me if I defend myself against a crazy women?
Agree!
@@suave2774by not persisting on attacking on attacking her, just get that b*tch off your back and then just mind your business
@suave2774 you dont, if equal self defense is normalised then men wont feel urged to defend the woman by society
@@suave2774
sue them for asault
I dated a narcissistic but also deeply insecure woman for half a year and when I finally managed to leave the relationship, I was a wreck.
It started with love-bombing and great sex and we actually had a lot of common interests and great chemistry but soon she started to manipulate me. She was so insecure that she would see every other woman as an enemy. I tried to help her overcome this insecurity by showing her honest love and care but she was like an “emotional black hole” who would never get enough. She started to punch me and slap me. After finding out that her ex-boyfriend developed severe depressions and tried to kill himself, I managed to walk away. It has become really hard for me to trust women.
In this society, If a woman reacts physically, it's both people's fault because the man "must have made her mad" but if a man reacts physically the woman is innocent and the man is not innocent
Phil really told a victim to just take it because he's male.
They call us men sexist, when it's utterly sexist to assume because I'm a male i cannot be traumatized or a victim of anything. It's truly sad how low some women think of men that we're somehow incapable of being abused by someone we love. It sucks seeing feminism going from equality ages ago to now superiority over men. We give women the seed to birth life into them, and we're forgotten as the ones who put a baby in them. We're said we are not need in this society and women can live without us, yet we've built pretty much all of society' Infrastructure and technology. It's a sad world that a whole gender is being discouraged for building pretty much everything around us
I feel like it’s stupid how if a woman hits you and you hit her back it’s your fault. Not it’s not your fault it’s self defence people need to realize that it’s not always the man who’s abusive.
I’ve seen these social experiments where actors will portray a couple, where one is trying to seduce the other. Every time the man said no to the woman, people would tell him “you’re supposed to want it” but when the woman said no, people outright tried to punch the man. I’m too afraid to even look for a girlfriend, out of fear of allegations and false accusations that’ll ruin my life, no matter if I win or lose.