I am an African American woman with 4 kids and I just want to say you guys are such a beautiful soul. This is an example of how humanity should be your love is pure for your daughter and you always have her best interest in mind. May the Lord bless you beyond measure, and his Grace be over you always 🙏🏾❤️💫🌈🏆🏅💯
Yes, children are always a blessing ! It's also a blessing to be reminded of the good in mankind during these difficult times. God bless !!@@trinettemitchell3053
May God bless you guys and it's very healthy for her to have contact with her biological mom and for her to be around her race and culture. You'll doing an awesome job rearing her!
OMGoodness! As a black woman, your videos have been touching me to the core! Your channel just popped up as I was scrolling through my RUclips. I’ve been glued since. I’ve been crying, laughing, smiling all morning! Can’t even get my work done 😂God bless you. You’re perfect parents for Tyanna. She is so blessed to have loving, caring, nurturing (in all areas of her life) and beautiful parents like you two.
Dad is super protective of his little girl. I don't think she could love anyone anymore than you. It could match it but that will be the beauty of allowing her to love and receive love. You hear a lot of children say that they have no animosity towards their birth parents because they had a good upbringing with their adoptive parents. Just allow tyanna to love her parents without any guilt. She is blessed to have such loving parents.
This is my first time watching this family. I am usually wary of transracial adoption because they raise black children with white families and totally ignore their culture. The fact that they are so open about Tyanna being a part of her family and seeing Black people around her is beautiful.
I thought the same but I was smiling this whole video cause this beautiful baby will know where she comes from and who she is. May they all continue to be blessed 😇
I was adopted 51 years ago. I know very little about my birth mom/family. This is great. If possible open adoption is the best. All the questions I’ve had over the years Tyanna will have the answers. Thank you for sharing your story!
Yes in deed adopting years Ago..the never knew their birth Parents. As you said open Adoption ( Sorry 😞 you never met Ur real. Family But I'm sure you did well Good thing. Her mom Accepted every thing She looks happy an playfull When. Tgey together ❤️ That Good
Ancestry genetic testing could possibly give you information. We found a 1st cousin we didn’t know. He was on to try to find information about his father. He was told a man was his father, but he didn’t believe it. So, in his 50’s he got on Ancestry. He allowed his picture to be on. What was crazy, he looks just like my father, not much like my uncles. Had the other uncles kids test, and then we found his father, who passed away decades prior. But, he’s become the closest to my sister. It’s very sweet.
I agree with the sleeping over issue. My mother never let me sleep at any ones house. Although all my friends were welcome to sleep at my house anytime..and they did. I was resentful at the time, but as the years passed I have thanked Mom a thousand times over. We found out years later that some of my friends were being molested at the so called nice homes by so called nice brothers and fathers. It was very sad and traumatic for these little girls. Thank you Mom for your recognizing the danger and protecting me.
I've no question, just a comment. Tyanna is beyond blessed to have you two as parents. Rihanna, you didn't give birth from the tummy, but from the HEART. You and Jon are awesome parents!
You both are amazing parents this little girl is so blessed and ya know her birth mother loved her enough to let her go cuz she couldn't give her what she deserved and needed this is so beautiful we need more ppl like this God bless this whole family
As a black woman you are both loving and caring and doing a great job...not that you need mine or anyone else approval. I have recently found your channel and have been enjoying it blessings to you all.
Thank you both for not changing her name and for making this an open adoption so that she knows where she came from. So respectful! You guys are AH-maaazing!!Thank you. 😊
Watching this channel for the first time, very much impressed by it . Awesome family... blessings, peace, joy and happiness and love to you guys and your beautiful family ❤️ Great content!🥂💯🙏🏿
Sending love, hugs and positive energy to Mom, Dad and Tyanna! I so admire how you both fiercely protects Tyanna's psycho-social wellbeing and overall care. May the love you have for Tyanna abound exponentially through the years. I pray 🙏 for God to continue protecting you both and grant you wisdom to face all challenges that lie ahead in raising your daughter. I get you guys making Tyanna aware of her birth Mom & cousins but as far as I'm concerned the buck stops with you two as her Mother & Father! ❤❤❤ Auntie from Virginia in America 🇺🇸 😍 09/21/2023
@@SuperKvlogsthat's not how legal adoptions work. Tummy mummy gave up Tyanna. Why should she 'just get her back' now? Tyanna is now a Schoeller. Periodt!
So True and Children Who Have Been In The System For A Long Time. the Saddest Part Is That Still In USA And The World People Choose little Children More Than Children 11yr. or 12 yrs. and up, they still need love as well and are still shaped and molded it, who that person or persons or things are.
I just seeing this 11-11- 2023 .I have seen this Family in my Tix Tix page , And both adopted Parents Love Love this baby girl💯 And for Dad my heart is so touch over his Emotions !!! He so in Love with his baby Girl💯😃❤️❤️🙏🙏
You put your daughter first.. This is beautiful... Meeting her black family is best for her identity.. I love that you say.. "it's not your story to share" OMG! the statement "we want T to have people around her that looks like her" Wow! You just get it.. perfect parents..
Woww, you two are the finest. Most admirable. Heavenly humble, loving, and caring human beings in this whole wide world. As far as I know, there have been no other individuals, no known stories, or examples, of anyone, or even natural parents who could more than you too. You're so Amazing. NO, No, no...absolutely no SPENDING NIGHTS, no time soon PeriodT. Remember, I love you guys with the Joy of Jesus Christ. Continue to do just what you're doing. It is totally obvious that you both genuinely love Tyanna as your own, and Your heart is true, and your reward is in GOoD's hands. Remain 🙌🏽 😇 ❤🎉😊
Especially girls need that. It gives them the confidence that they need, in order to make intelligent, wise decisions about who they will share their lives with ! Cudos to both of you !❤❤❤
I also love how they keep her hair in natural hairstyles so she learn to love her whole self at an early age. Usually I see people try to flat iron their hair and never have them around other blacks to detach them from their black roots.
Actually I too am an African American woman and when I say I am in fear for that child I truly mean it this child is constantly in revealing clothing and seems to always be caught in some questionable poses with her parents at time.....I don't like this at all and this seems like a really unsafe environment for the child
Speaking from experience, finding out about my birth family had no impact on the relationship/bond I had developed with my adopted family. Prayerfully, Tyanna won't ever have to endure some of the misery that I endured when my bio mom began competing for my attention/time (in my late teen early adulthood life). She wanted me to call her mom and call my adopted mom by her first name, she wanted me to visit her first on Mother's Day, those types of things. She began making me feel like I was betraying her and told me that in so many words. I never told my adopted family, but I was a nervous wreck during that time of my life. I pray that Tyanna never have to deal with anything similar from any member of her bio side of the family. I beg of you to keep the lines of communication open with her especially during her teen years. I kept it all in to avoid hurting my adopted mom, but it reeked havoc on me mentally, emotionally, and physically. She then gave me the ultimatum (while in tears) to make a choice because she was tired of sharing me. I never verbally responded to her; but I did begin to emotionally and physically pull away - it was too traumatic for me. The timing of your video is perfect. I shed many tears yesterday (8/13) when one of my bio sisters drove in from out of state and we were able to spend time together. Sorry for rambling. I said all that to say that the bond and love that Tyanna has developed with you guys is unbreakable. I do have a tugging in my heart to spend time with my bio mom and get to know her but there is absolutely nothing in the world that she can say or do that would ever make me doubt/guess/challenge the love in regard to my family that loved, nurtured, and raised me. Never fear being replaced. Even if she spends time with them, you will always be in her heart and on her mind. You can't replace real love; at least that's how it was for me. I've never watched your videos with dry eyes because I see Tyanna in me. If you are ever touring the OKC area, let me know. I'd love to extend a warm embrace to each of you. You two will never know the magnitude of your life decision to open your heart and home to this little angel.
This is beautifully written and is good information from someone who has 1st hand knowledge of this type of adoption/experience.m. That you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing . It is good to hear it from the child's perspective. It is sad to hear thst some parents would play with and manipulate a childs feelings .
My friends were adoptive parents and raised a child until 14 when the birth mom came into to picture and created such havoc. The family ended up being ripped apart because of the tug of war and lack of boundaries that enticed the adopted child to want to live with birth mom. Eventually the child refused to go home to adopted parents. It’s important to set boundaries, communicate with all parties, and importantly prioritize the child talk to the child AND no sleep overs. No alone time anywhere. Maybe when she’s 18 she can do whatever but not until then
I think you're an amazing, strong woman. I cried when reading your comment. I can almost feel your pain when reading it. I am from London but if u ever want to talk to someone I would always be here to listen, even write?
Oh my God! I really really appreciate your openness and honesty. Biological or not, you two are SUPER PARENTS! The Lord bless, cover and guide you both. 💕
That little girl hit the jackpot with you guys! Your love, compassion, empathy, and kindness is off the charts. I wish more kids had two healthy parents like the two of you! Nobody can go wrong with choosing the loving thing to do. Love is the strongest force there is in the universe. Love always prevails! ❤
As a fellow mom of adopted kids with open adoptions, don't diminish your role as her #1 mom. Don't refer to yourself as "2nd mom". You are the #1 mom bc you are raising her.
The thing I like about this is that Tyanna can see that she doesn't look like you two and would have likely had questions at some point. The realization of being adopted hits hard for many people who have been in that position. It can cause so much disruption and downtime in a person's life. Reconnecting with her biological relatives helps to fill in those gaps before she even has the chance to feel a void or have questions. This is a beautiful thing that you have done for this beautiful child. ❤
So True, I love Your Comment, Wise words!! Praise be to Jesus that this little girl has the love of 2 families. Loving parents! and her biological family, She doesn't have to wonder where she came from And why! One of the most beautiful situations that I have witnessed in my life and I thank God
I work for a child welfare agency and I must say I am very impressed, grateful and happy that you are the type of parents that you are. She is blessed to have you and her biological family in her life. I wish all situations were as wonderful as yours for children in the foster care system. What a great outcome with lots of love and understanding.
I am adopted from China (closed in 1996). I am forever grateful for my adoptive parents, they’re decision to open their home to me gave me the best life I could ever imagine. Seeing that clip of your baby girl with her birth mother brought me to tears. I’m sure Tiannas birth mother had hesitations & doubts about if she made the right decision & seeing you two raise her to be an amazing young woman is the most precious thing. God bless all of you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love this so much as an adoptee by a single white mother. My mom adopted 6 children on her own and we are all black! The oldest of our sibling group is my biological sister, and we are the only ones out of the siblings' group whose open adoption continues to be a positive experience. I am the youngest of my biological siblings (we are all girls) and my sister who was adopted before me is the second youngest. Our bio mom was unable to be the mother we needed, so we were all placed with family members or, like me and my sister, in foster care to be adopted. Between the two of us, I have more of a bond with my bio family than my older sister does, while she does with our adopted family as she was placed with our mom to be adopted right from birth but our bio mom was given a second chance with me. And when it comes to my bio mom it can be emotionally draining, her decisions as a parent will continuously affect my mental health. Growing up we always saw our bio family, but only when our granny, auntie, and/or eldest sister who was being raised by our granny were involved. We had sleepovers only at grannys and our bio mom was allowed to take us shopping or to the movies on her own when we got older and could express our feelings on the matter. My bio mom and mom had a friendship more so as we aged. Our mom made sure the rules she had in our everyday life were implemented when we were with them too. Unfortunately when it came to my other adopted siblings reconnecting with their biological families specifically with the mothers had the worst outcome there could be in that type of situation. But my mom always gave us the choice, especially as we grew into teens. and even though my mom made sure we had cultural connections and black people in our everyday lives, that difference between our black friends/peers, when it came to how we were being raised (white vs black parents), arrived at the forefront and we honestly at least in from my perspective, wanted to have that experience just to join in and joke around in those conversations among our black friends. But both my moms loved each other, if only because of what each did when it came to me ( and my sister) I always proudly said I have two moms but hated when other kids asked do you know your "real" mom after finding out I was adopted so I learned what an open adoption was at a young age just to explain. I share my story because this hit close to home, my adopted mother recently passed on March 1st and I feel absolutely lost without her physically with me. And I'm working on trying to understand my bio mom as a person and her story because she will only ever be capable of being the mother she's been my entire life. I had an amazing mom and honestly view my bio mom as a bonus mom. I still call my bio mother, Ma but call her by her name to others even my siblings (bio and adopted) I am 28 and it still feels weird to call someone else who didn't raise me mom but that's another thing entirely. This might not mean much but as a black woman who was adopted as a child by an amazing loving caring white mom, I believe and see you guys are making hard decisions that will ultimately have up and downs no matter what but also doing something extraordinary for your sweet girl. Thank you.
So sorry for your loss. I can tell your adopted mother did an amazing job with you. Your words are kind and honest, yet truthful. Sending you healing energy
I'm putting all the adoption, black/white issues to the side for the moment and just focusing on the woman who raised you that you call mom. I'm 40 and also have an amazing, wonderful mother. I can't imagine losing my mom, even at my age. I would be completely lost and alone without her. To lose your mom at such a young age is heartbreaking. You've obviously been through a ton in your young life and to have the one solid foundation gone now... I can't imagine. I'm so sorry. That part of Your comment really got me bc my mother is getting on in age and even though I'm 40 and should have everything together yada yada, and which I do 98% of the time, I honestly don't know how I would go on without her. Sending you love and hugs!!
@Niki Beee it was not expected at all, she got a heart transplant that we were all hoping for her to get for the past several years and never woke up afterward so yeah, it's been really hard. Thank you ♥️
Wow, this is love. My son was in foster care for the first 6 months of his life and I was very lucky to have gotten the foster parents I did for him. They were wonderful and my son is black and they were white but it all was still so natural. They let me pick his outfits out and they didn’t try to keep him from me or leave me out of anything. They were honestly the best I could have asked for for his first 6 months of life.
Am an African ,you guys have shown her somuch love than any child could imagine. And please 🙏 you are her real mum and dad both number 1 and 2, even up to 10th times. And I pray that God will bless with more children from your womb.
@@deliamaya5282did you notice how young she is? She had to have been a teen when she was taken away from her! Maybe she didn’t have any means, or lack of experience who knows enough to judge?
I think its awesome that she gets to also know her birth mom and her family because adopted kids always feel a void later in life once they realize everything. This connection will definitely eliminate a lot of those issues adopted kids develop. Great content!
I couldn’t have said it better!!you literally took the words out of my mouth !!But everything you said is so very true!!!!I love the way they went about there adoption as well!!!!
are you adopted? Are you talking for everyone who’s adopted right now? 😂 Some ppl feel a void even when they’re not adopted unfortunately, and some adopted ppl never do. I think that’s what adopted ppl should be more talkative about, what some of them feel is pressure from the outer world ( who should mind its own business) to meet with birth parents thinking this is the key to happiness. But pressure doesn’t equal real feelings. I know for a fact adopted ppl who are actually happy in their adoptive family feel the need to be apologetic for not wanting any kind of bond with birth parents. Please if you want a proof try and say to common ppl that biology DNA and bodily fluids don’t make bonds, love do. And see the reaction of common ppl.
You guys are truly amazing, the love you have for your daughter is beautiful, I wish all children were blessed with parents like you both. Continued blessings!
I admire your family my spouse and I did this 41 years ago she is a girl also and yes the sky was the limit, we took her from Canada to the Bahamas, Disney World, Sunday was special family time together and yes no sleep over but in a church setting, two years ago she found her biological mother and moved to the state where she lived, yes it broke our heart, my spouse suffer from depression and that didn't help she was our heart but I trust in God that she will realize how much it hurt us, and I don't think it's a good relationship with her biological mom but God. continue what you all are doing. You are the greatest. We have no regrets . When we are sad, we watch RUclips, and it brings back memories and makes us feel better. We love ya
So sorry your daughter left you To be with a woman who gave her up I would advice you not say anything to her Just give her space and she will realise soon how important you are to her ❤❤❤❤
Dear Mr and Mrs Schoeller, I just wanted to say that I am very moved by what you shared in this video. Your wisdom, kindness, inclusivity, compassion and unconditional love is profound. You have provided the priceless gift for a wonderful child, which is unconditional love, security, a home and safety and extended that love and warmth to your daughter’s birth family too! I’m blown away! May God always bless you and watch over your family and, keep you safe and continue to provide for you and, strengthen your bonds. Much respect, love and prayers. Judith (UK 🇬🇧).
You are the greatest parents I ever seen. That girl is very lucky to have you as parents. What she gets from love and comfort and everything else. She wouldn't get that kind of life style with her birth daughter.
@@marie-laurence1308 you don't know why she was in foster care. And do you know why she gave her up. You don't need to call her not sweet !!!!🥺 You are not nice by saying that.
Tiana has her birth Mom’s DNA and naturally will have a connection to her birth Mom. The fact that it’s an open adoption helps reduce anxiety about the “what ifs.”
The Schoeller’s have said (and rightly so) that the answers you want are not theirs to tell. It will come from Tyanna herself when she is older and maybe wants to share that information . @@Yourstruly4.0
@aussiechick23 If you listen to the video, she mentioned cousins, not brothers and sisters. And we can all agree that, Perhaps she gave Tyanna up for adoption because she couldn't provide her with the life that she deserved.
Yet she is allowed to come visit as she pleases because her other parents are giving her a better life. yeah nah, f_k that. She choose to give up on her daughter then she should move on. @@trinettemitchell3053
Jon wait, till she is ready to go to College I can imagine him putting a spy camera to watch his baby girl. Or when she brings home her first boyfriend 😂😂😂😂
U and Jon are so sweet I love watching your vlog I my self just love u mom smile and jon how he make u a Tianna so happy and she has chose the greatest an best family in world an I love baby girl happiness an she is a Water baby an daddy girl an mom helper I love u both😢
Am not being baised. But NO, NO, I would not let her spend the night anywhere. I have a toddler, and I don't let him have sleep overs, but with one family I trust so much. Use the gut, you are beautiful parent's.
Yes, it is hard not to remember that she was taken out of her birth mother's care for a reason. Those reasons may not still exist, but it must factor in when they think of her spending the night with her biological Mom.
I grew up in foster care... the system is wicked! It is so beautiful to see the way you all foster her love with her biological family too. It is a blessing for her to the two of you and all your family. Love and blessings to you all!
I love dad's transparency in his emotions especially about staying overnight. I am the same way with my son. That's a normal parent emotion and response.
This is my first time viewing and I want to adopt the two of you. 🤣🤣. Thank you for putting Tyanna first. It's important for her to see her "tummy mommy's" face if not anything else. At least to see who brought her into the world and to know any information about her genealogy. It's important for EVERY child. God bless your beautiful family. 🤗🤗
You all are such a blessing to Tyanna and her mom. Please don’t feel bad about not allowing her to sleep over at such an early age. You are her parents, her advocates, her protectors. I didn’t allow my kids to stay overnight with anyone besides my parents until around 9 or 10. This is an age where you know they understand the rules. They won’t be shy to tell you if something happens. I never made sleep overs a habit and my kids still enjoyed their childhood. I didn’t want to be in a situation where I couldn’t sleep because I was worried about them. So sleep overs were only 2-3 times a year. Too much happens at night. You have to be specific and also know who the biological mom is dating, as well as if he is going to be over when she does sleep over. Although I am a single black female, my kids were not allowed to stay over with other single parents. I felt better just knowing who was going to be there. My daughter is an adult now and she appreciates that. I understand that we’re speaking of her biological mom but she should understand. I like the idea of you all having a girls’ sleep over to include the adoptive mom and the biological mom with cousins. That will allow everyone to get to know each other but that should not happen too early either. You all will have different rules in your own household so don’t allow Tyanna to be confused on what she can and cannot do. It’s for the little girl’s sake and your sanity. You can still allow her culture in as you have already shown. So be mindful of what part you allow other people to play in her life, as you have in the past. Don’t ever put her biological mom’s feelings before Tyanna’s safety. I am quite sure that her biological mom loves her but remember safety and sanity first. This is just my opinion. Again, you all are a blessing and this little girl is a blessed. I like the fact that you all are not reporting why her dad is not in her life. The world doesn’t have to know all of her business. Keep some things to yourself.
Dang it...I have tears oozing all over the place. GOD placed a special gift inside of you two. TT is extremely blessed and loved tremendously. The transparency and raw emotion displayed by you two tugs at my heart strings...I absolutely loved this Q&A from beginning to end...may GOD continue to bless you both...no wait...all three of you❤❤❤❤
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I follow this family's vlogs. I am a black woman and was immediately attracted to the pure, absolute, and true love these 2 parents have for their daughter, Tayanna. I'm not adopted, but due to family secrets and refusal for family to disclose and be honest, I have always had a void due to unanswered questions about my identify and father. I don't even ask anymore because I don't want to hurt anyone or for me to get hurt. These parents always have Tayanna's best interest in their forethoughts. I sit, watch their vlogs, and bawl ugly tears whenever I see this beautiful loving family. This little girl is so blessed to have you. May God continue to bless you guys. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
As a former child protective social worker, if I could say 2 words, it would be Thank You. Terminating parental rights is one of the hardest things I've had to do. After 15 years, it never gets easy and there are so many reasons why rights are terminated. This video is so important because a child needs to know where and who she/he comes from. Family, medical, and mental health history is so important. Your child will never have to question who she is and will learn the why later in life. I'd suggest having a cousin sleep over if the family is okay with that at an airbnb. I'd also suggest starting a family tree, or keeping a family album or memory book. I didn't watch the entire video but questioned if the birth dad was unknown or if he abandoned her at birth, or if the mother refused to identify, and or the other which I will not say. I could go on, but I won't. I'll be keeping all of you in prayer, especially her birth mother. Unconditional love ❤️. It's clear she did what was best and the fact that she continued to buy gifts for her, not knowing if and when she'd see her again said a lot about where her heart is and was at that time. God bless and be encouraged and you grow in love as an immediate and extended family.
They did mention that some information they would not be giving out on the videos ... probably they do not want to reveal sensitive info that the biological parents would not want made public.
Why have Tyann's relative stay at an airbnb? Tyanna should have a sleepover at her home. Woud you have a friend or relative stay at a hotel or airbnb when they come to visit with you? That's cold.
That’s not cold, it’s being careful. You have to remember that the Schoeller’s and the bio mom are basically strangers. Having Tyanna to meet them is a gamble to begin with. The mother is an acquaintance, not a relative or friend. There are reason why Tyanna was put up for adoption and the Schoeller’s were correct in staying in a controlled environment. @@valoismickens1169
I want to say thank you for following your calling! My father was a detective and I found out a lot when he passed about his work. Dealing with people in the most vulnerable times takes a special spirit! So, THANK YOU! Being a social worker is not easy!
I totally get your protectiveness and I don't think Tyana is going to love anyone more than she loves you both. I can't even imagine that at all! You ARE her parents, FULL STOP! We love your family. ❤❤❤
To all agencies and organizations, birth families and adopted family: These are the Model parents for the adoption story. As an adoptee, I state this. I have so much I want to comment on regarding this phenomenal mom and dad. I'm commenting at a later time when I've gathered my thoughts and processed my emotions. Thank you for your informative videos and the most beautiful loving parents any child would hope to have. I truly have so much love for you all, my heart is full!
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE the way you LOVE this child. This is what the world should REALLY look like!!! Thank you for showing the world what it’s supposed to look like. I absolutely love you guys!!!
My son was in foster care for the first year and a half of his life and we still keep in touch with his foster mom because she loves him (almost) as much as we do ❤. And she was the first mom he knew, while we did what we had to do to be ready😢
I agree. It depends on the Birth Mother/Family. I’m glad the birth Mother and her family was nice and mature. In order to sustain this I wonder if open adoption should be restricted to seeing and meeting the birth Mom and Family so many times a year, like holidays? Just s thought? I wouldn’t know. I’m thinking it has to be a balance so it won’t be any problem for adoptive parents. This couple ran into a good birth Mom and Family. Such a blessing. I like and hope all open adoptions are like this.
Granny here: tyanna is a blessing to you two. Looking at videos posted she is a doll!!!! Her personality is warm, sweet, kind, and joyful. You will also learn her culture because she will teach you. Huge blessings to you all.
This is my first time commenting here. I'm lost for words. It's only God who can reward you both (Jon and Rhianna) for what you've done and continue to do for Tyanna. Loving her dearly and always putting her best interest above everything else. God richly bless you guys!!!
You are great parents. I have worked with adopted individuals in therapy. They always want to know where they come from. They need that connection and need to know their ethnic/racial culture of origin. Yes, they need people around them who look like them…absolutely! Research shows open adoptions are best for the children, in terms of adjustment. Unfortunately, there are too many adoptive parents who can have open adoptions but choose not to, and not for safety reasons. All children need a village. Since you now moved to Portugal, I hope Tyanna will continue to have visits and connection with her birth family. I am sure you will make that happen for her. Thanks for sharing your story.
I am both a biological and adoptive mom of a multicultural child who is now 26 years old. I will tell you that there were some very hard years to get through. Not only is there regular growing up issues, but she also had to face being a different race, and a different color. For us, we chose a closed adoption and we talked about finding her birth parents in the past which I support and understand. At this time, she has no interest in that and that may change in the future. The discrimination and bias I saw first hand right in front of my eyes was awful and it started in Preschool by other white mothers. I knew it would happen, but was surprised to see it as early as 3 years old. I wish you the best as you parent her through her life.
Hopefully that’s a thing of the past… surprising that would happen in the late 90’s … by now more people have learned a better way … blessings on your family. ❤
I am so sorry for you and your 😢 daughter. God is not partial, and He does not want us to be either. Anyone who claims to be a Christian, and still feels that way, is lying to themselves ! God reads our hearts, none of us can fool Him. He is a loving, caring Father, but He will hold all accountable for their attitudes and behavior !❤❤
Tyanna should be exposed to All cultures and, it would start by Reading books with different cultures and races in the stories. And when she's choosing toys, Allow her to pick out white, black Hispanic, whatever dolls she wants. And explain that God loves everyone, the Same. So some people have different color hair, different color skin. Some people are little, some big, but God loves us all. God made her just the way she is. And that you love her. Just the way she is.
Nicely articulated. I'm a criminal justice retiree, and trust me, these lovely, selfless, balanced mom & dad, people like you both, make our jobs easy. Ty is truly one we won't be worrying about. But she is clearly a daddy's girl;))
You guys are courageous to allow her to meet her birth mom. Lord knows I would be nervous as heck If that was me. I hope the mother is respectful and supportive of the adoptive parents in the long run and everyone continues to prioritize the best interest of the child. Lord knows Tyanna deserves the best in this world Edit: No sleep over and no unsupervised visits with anyone while she is a minor. Sleepover should only be at YOUR house. It’s good to have contact but maintain boundaries and don’t over-involve the other side.
I'm glad there's so much LOVE from birth family. ...I'm just wondering why Santasia, didn't keep her. But her new mom and dad now are Just So Loving and Devoted, and I will add intelligent and down to earth. And that's Truly Wonderful that they are trying to keep a connection with Tiana's birth mother and family .(? where's dad?)
I am an African American woman with 4 kids and I just want to say you guys are such a beautiful soul. This is an example of how humanity should be your love is pure for your daughter and you always have her best interest in mind. May the Lord bless you beyond measure, and his Grace be over you always 🙏🏾❤️💫🌈🏆🏅💯
Amen 🙏
amen
Amen
Amen 🙏
Everything is beautiful on the internet …
This little girl is so blessed to have these 2 as her parents 💓
OMG YESSSS!!!! Such a blessing! I only can imagine what the most high GOD has in store for her future! I know it’s going to be amazing….!!
SOOO BLESSED ...And to imagine some fathers abandon or mistreat their own flesh and blood it's appalling. May God bless this family.❤
THEY ARE HER PARENTS... THAT IS HER BIRTH MOTHER
YES SHE IS SO SO BLESSED GOD BLESS THE PARENTS.
They are wonderful
As an adoptee since birth, I’m so proud and impressed with your maturity, courage and genuine unselfish heart for your daughter! ❤
Amen -- maturity, courage & unselfish hearts -- that's a blessing.
I love how the dad doesn’t want her to love anyone else because he loves her so much that’s his baby ❤
@kennedyhuie3603 Mom doesn’t either. That’s her daughter😉
It’s very sweet.
I’m just blown away by these two, that little girl is blessed beyond belief!
Yes, she certainly is!!
Absolutely! But it also appears to me that they are blessed to have Tyanna in their lives
Yes, children are always a blessing ! It's also a blessing to be reminded of the good in mankind during these difficult times. God bless !!@@trinettemitchell3053
Praise God!
May God bless you guys and it's very healthy for her to have contact with her biological mom and for her to be around her race and culture. You'll doing an awesome job rearing her!
The fact that you both understand Tyanna’s needs as white parents blows my mind! I am an adoptee and man you are winning as adoptive parents! ❤️❤️❤️
White people are capable of Love. Shocker 🙄
This family placement is PERFECT! for Tyanna...you guys are GOD-given parents to her
Why can’t you be happy for them all .. biological and adopted . I’ll keep you in prayer . Beautiful Family
Yes truly God given for both families
"My tummy mommie." OMG...that is soooo adorable. She is very blessed to have you two as her parents. I love how you love her. 😊
OMGoodness! As a black woman, your videos have been touching me to the core! Your channel just popped up as I was scrolling through my RUclips. I’ve been glued since. I’ve been crying, laughing, smiling all morning! Can’t even get my work done 😂God bless you. You’re perfect parents for Tyanna. She is so blessed to have loving, caring, nurturing (in all areas of her life) and beautiful parents like you two.
Yes I’m with you too so much love beyond measures
This little girl is a beautiful spirit there to teach them too. They’re all bonded in a soul contract.
Yes, you said it perfectly. I am beyond happy for this family, for this little girl. They are such great parents.
This is real love. No color, no culture, no religious criticism but pure love. Exactly what my God desires of us. ❤ God Bless this family
Yes Amen
Well said and so true ❤
Divine understanding. God bless your heart ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗
Amen! Truly a beautiful thing!
Amen!
The child has a smiling face all the time, she looks like a happy soul.
She is❤
You both are so thoughtful and overall wonderful parents. You are the definition of great parents❤❤ wonderful humans, that little girl is blessed.
Feliz, feliz👍💝💝💝💝🙏💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝From España🇪🇦🌹
Tyanna is a pure joy and a happy soul.
Exactly 💯
Dad is super protective of his little girl. I don't think she could love anyone anymore than you. It could match it but that will be the beauty of allowing her to love and receive love. You hear a lot of children say that they have no animosity towards their birth parents because they had a good upbringing with their adoptive parents. Just allow tyanna to love her parents without any guilt. She is blessed to have such loving parents.
Yes!
Wow ❤❤❤ As a Biological mom I appreciate Y'all selflessness and understanding of your daughters feelings and needs!
This is my first time watching this family. I am usually wary of transracial adoption because they raise black children with white families and totally ignore their culture. The fact that they are so open about Tyanna being a part of her family and seeing Black people around her is beautiful.
That’s what I love about it.
My thoughts exactly, but they both are doing a phenomenal job!!! I love it!!! ❤
I thought the same but I was smiling this whole video cause this beautiful baby will know where she comes from and who she is. May they all continue to be blessed 😇
Just wondering, does the birth mother want her back😮
@@ladeeharlemm5740 😅mp
I was adopted 51 years ago. I know very little about my birth mom/family. This is great. If possible open adoption is the best. All the questions I’ve had over the years Tyanna will have the answers. Thank you for sharing your story!
God bless you
Yes in deed adopting years
Ago..the never knew their birth
Parents. As you said open
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Sorry 😞 you never met
Ur real. Family
But I'm sure you did well
Good thing. Her mom
Accepted every thing
She looks happy an playfull
When. Tgey together ❤️
That Good
Ancestry genetic testing could possibly give you information. We found a 1st cousin we didn’t know. He was on to try to find information about his father. He was told a man was his father, but he didn’t believe it. So, in his 50’s he got on Ancestry. He allowed his picture to be on. What was crazy, he looks just like my father, not much like my uncles. Had the other uncles kids test, and then we found his father, who passed away decades prior. But, he’s become the closest to my sister. It’s very sweet.
Understood. God bless you.
Tyanna is the main characher. Her vibe is something. Happiness is all over her.
Says a lot about the love she's receiving at home.
You both have high emotional intelligence. Putting your needs aside for her says a lot.
Awesome 😊
I was thinking that. They are so respectful and observant of others’ feelings. They make such great parents and Tyanna is such a light ❤
Oo am crying
Emotional maturity
I completely agree! 💯
I agree with the sleeping over issue. My mother never let me sleep at any ones house. Although all my friends were welcome to sleep at my house anytime..and they did. I was resentful at the time, but as the years passed I have thanked Mom a thousand times over. We found out years later that some of my friends were being molested at the so called nice homes by so called nice brothers and fathers. It was very sad and traumatic for these little girls. Thank you Mom for your recognizing the danger and protecting me.
Same😊
I agree I slept over at 15 for a babysitting job amd got sexually abused, il never let my son stay out apart from parents
Never really had a mother/mom/mama....but I did have a Dad/father/Daddy so thank you in Heaven my heart is weak without you!!!!!!!
I've no question, just a comment. Tyanna is beyond blessed to have you two as parents. Rihanna, you didn't give birth from the tummy, but from the HEART. You and Jon are awesome parents!
❤️❤️❤️
I agree that Rihanna gave birth from the heart like some of my clients. But I see physical synchronization of the baby and her mom.
@@TheSchoellerFamily .
You both are amazing parents this little girl is so blessed and ya know her birth mother loved her enough to let her go cuz she couldn't give her what she deserved and needed this is so beautiful we need more ppl like this God bless this whole family
Beautiful 💕💕🥰🥰
As a black woman you are both loving and caring and doing a great job...not that you need mine or anyone else approval. I have recently found your channel and have been enjoying it blessings to you all.
They are so great & wholesome. Tyana is blessed
Amen 🙏🏽
Blessings to you beautiful lady and also Blessings to everybody in the comments 🙏
Cuando comencé a ver sus videos creo que Dios existe
Thank you both for not changing her name and for making this an open adoption so that she knows where she came from. So respectful! You guys are AH-maaazing!!Thank you. 😊
Watching this channel for the first time, very much impressed by it . Awesome family... blessings, peace, joy and happiness and love to you guys and your beautiful family ❤️ Great content!🥂💯🙏🏿
Sending love, hugs and positive energy to Mom, Dad and Tyanna! I so admire how you both fiercely protects Tyanna's psycho-social wellbeing and overall care. May the love you have for Tyanna abound exponentially through the years. I pray 🙏 for God to continue protecting you both and grant you wisdom to face all challenges that lie ahead in raising your daughter. I get you guys making Tyanna aware of her birth Mom & cousins but as far as I'm concerned the buck stops with you two as her Mother & Father! ❤❤❤
Auntie from Virginia in America 🇺🇸 😍
09/21/2023
Tummy Mommy🥹. That is so sweet.
I was changing his name, so that she had the same family name as me
I am a clinical social worker and do therapy with lots of adopted adolescents. You guys are amazing parents! You should be teaching adoption courses.
Boom! Will this lead to the reality of what you suggested? YES AND AMEN to that. Over to God!
Thank you for what you do for the beloved children of this crazy world.
Blessings, I wish there were more people like you in the world. Love is the solution to every problem ❤❤
I know it must’ve been hard a bit. God bless you both ❤ & Happy New Year !
I agree.
As a bi-racial child of adoption, open adoption is beautiful ❤️ I wished when I was younger that I had that with my birth family. 🦋
What questions and confusion did a closed transracial adoption cause for you?
No. I wouldn't let her spend the night @this time in her lift. She is much. To Young❤
Wow. @1:55 The fact that THEY agreed with the contact and were totally open to getting her bio family involved shows that they truly love her.
Yup
They are
Really understanding
Much ❤️ love. Guy's
A very decent couple.
Why don’t the momma just get Tianna back?
@@SuperKvlogsthat's not how legal adoptions work. Tummy mummy gave up Tyanna. Why should she 'just get her back' now? Tyanna is now a Schoeller. Periodt!
@@MutaleM k
We need more families like you to adopt children out of the foster care system and show love, regardless of color.
Agree.
So True and Children Who Have Been In The System For A Long Time. the Saddest Part Is That Still In USA And The World People Choose little Children More Than Children 11yr. or 12 yrs. and up, they still need love as well and are still shaped and molded it, who that person or persons or things are.
I just seeing this 11-11- 2023 .I have seen this Family in my Tix Tix page , And both adopted Parents Love Love this baby girl💯 And for Dad my heart is so touch over his Emotions !!! He so in Love with his baby Girl💯😃❤️❤️🙏🙏
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Best parents ever , selfless ❤️ even biological parents don't have this level of competency. I salute you 👏 🙌 this little girl is blessed
And she is a blessing to her parents
Even the little girl stood up at her! wow
I beg your pardon.i would go to the end of the earth for my kids!..
All I CAN SAY IS THIS IS SUCH A AWESOME COULP...AND THIS BABY IS BLESSED!!!!❤
AS WELL AS THIS BEAUTIFUL COUPLE!! REALLY, JUST A COUPLE HELPING THE WORLD GO ROUND!!!!❤😢
You put your daughter first.. This is beautiful... Meeting her black family is best for her identity.. I love that you say.. "it's not your story to share" OMG! the statement "we want T to have people around her that looks like her" Wow! You just get it.. perfect parents..
I wouldn’t say her “real family”
The schoeller’s are her real family.
That’s her birth family and of course it’s important to know them
@LineghieTheGeek Whoops! You're absolutely right. My bad.. Will try & amend xx
Yes they most certainly are ...
GOD BLESS YOU PEOPLE 💖 🙏 ❤
Woww, you two are the finest. Most admirable. Heavenly humble, loving, and caring human beings in this whole wide world. As far as I know, there have been no other individuals, no known stories, or examples, of anyone, or even natural parents who could more than you too. You're so Amazing. NO, No, no...absolutely no SPENDING NIGHTS, no time soon PeriodT. Remember, I love you guys with the Joy of Jesus Christ. Continue to do just what you're doing. It is totally obvious that you both genuinely love Tyanna as your own, and Your heart is true, and your reward is in GOoD's hands. Remain 🙌🏽 😇 ❤🎉😊
Overnights are a boundary i would not cross. Too many uncertainties. Stand your ground daddy!
Tyanna is blessed to have you both! Awesome parents. And Jon, loving the protective and caring Father role! Children need that!
Especially girls need that. It gives them the confidence that they need, in order to make intelligent, wise decisions about who they will share their lives with !
Cudos to both of you !❤❤❤
I love how protective you guys are over Tiana❤
I Love that you all are so open and loving, its not about color religion anything just Love!! God Bless this Family!!❤🙏🏾
Same here ❤
This child is loved by everyone and the approach of involving her blood relatives is commendable as it assists her wholistic development .
You two people are angels from God. I wish the world is full of people like you. Thank God you met each other
Yes
I am an African American women. It makes me so happy to see the love you have for Tiona. She is definitely in the right home , with loving parents.
You're from Africa?
@@TradBarbie out of the whole comment, that’s all you took away from it? who cares where she’s from.
I also love how they keep her hair in natural hairstyles so she learn to love her whole self at an early age. Usually I see people try to flat iron their hair and never have them around other blacks to detach them from their black roots.
Actually I too am an African American woman and when I say I am in fear for that child I truly mean it this child is constantly in revealing clothing and seems to always be caught in some questionable poses with her parents at time.....I don't like this at all and this seems like a really unsafe environment for the child
@@Marissa-gz2ts Me, and I don't care about your thoughts.
Speaking from experience, finding out about my birth family had no impact on the relationship/bond I had developed with my adopted family. Prayerfully, Tyanna won't ever have to endure some of the misery that I endured when my bio mom began competing for my attention/time (in my late teen early adulthood life). She wanted me to call her mom and call my adopted mom by her first name, she wanted me to visit her first on Mother's Day, those types of things. She began making me feel like I was betraying her and told me that in so many words. I never told my adopted family, but I was a nervous wreck during that time of my life. I pray that Tyanna never have to deal with anything similar from any member of her bio side of the family. I beg of you to keep the lines of communication open with her especially during her teen years. I kept it all in to avoid hurting my adopted mom, but it reeked havoc on me mentally, emotionally, and physically. She then gave me the ultimatum (while in tears) to make a choice because she was tired of sharing me. I never verbally responded to her; but I did begin to emotionally and physically pull away - it was too traumatic for me. The timing of your video is perfect. I shed many tears yesterday (8/13) when one of my bio sisters drove in from out of state and we were able to spend time together.
Sorry for rambling. I said all that to say that the bond and love that Tyanna has developed with you guys is unbreakable. I do have a tugging in my heart to spend time with my bio mom and get to know her but there is absolutely nothing in the world that she can say or do that would ever make me doubt/guess/challenge the love in regard to my family that loved, nurtured, and raised me. Never fear being replaced. Even if she spends time with them, you will always be in her heart and on her mind. You can't replace real love; at least that's how it was for me. I've never watched your videos with dry eyes because I see Tyanna in me. If you are ever touring the OKC area, let me know. I'd love to extend a warm embrace to each of you. You two will never know the magnitude of your life decision to open your heart and home to this little angel.
This is beautifully written and is good information from someone who has 1st hand knowledge of this type of adoption/experience.m. That you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing . It is good to hear it from the child's perspective. It is sad to hear thst some parents would play with and manipulate a childs feelings .
this is important information. thanks for sharing
My friends were adoptive parents and raised a child until 14 when the birth mom came into to picture and created such havoc. The family ended up being ripped apart because of the tug of war and lack of boundaries that enticed the adopted child to want to live with birth mom. Eventually the child refused to go home to adopted parents.
It’s important to set boundaries, communicate with all parties, and importantly prioritize the child talk to the child AND no sleep overs. No alone time anywhere. Maybe when she’s 18 she can do whatever but not until then
I think you're an amazing, strong woman. I cried when reading your comment. I can almost feel your pain when reading it. I am from London but if u ever want to talk to someone I would always be here to listen, even write?
Oh my God! I really really appreciate your openness and honesty. Biological or not, you two are SUPER PARENTS! The Lord bless, cover and guide you both. 💕
That little girl hit the jackpot with you guys! Your love, compassion, empathy, and kindness is off the charts. I wish more kids had two healthy parents like the two of you! Nobody can go wrong with choosing the loving thing to do. Love is the strongest force there is in the universe. Love always prevails! ❤
Daddy's girl, love the way he jumped up out of Q&A to ensure his baby girl is okay. Well done to both of you.💝
Me too! JUST SWEET! I’m bout to ask if he could be my dad! Lol
Don't worry guys she knows you're her mom & dad. Best of luck.❤✊🏾
As a fellow mom of adopted kids with open adoptions, don't diminish your role as her #1 mom. Don't refer to yourself as "2nd mom". You are the #1 mom bc you are raising her.
This is such a weird thing to say... It's not about #1 or #2. It's about ensuring she's loved and cared for.
Exactly, Linda.
She is is no way diminishing herslef. She is acknowledging the chronological order. They know how important they are to her and vice versa.
She ABSOLUTELY IS 2nd, Mom
Exactly EXACTLY!!!! 🎯
The thing I like about this is that Tyanna can see that she doesn't look like you two and would have likely had questions at some point. The realization of being adopted hits hard for many people who have been in that position. It can cause so much disruption and downtime in a person's life. Reconnecting with her biological relatives helps to fill in those gaps before she even has the chance to feel a void or have questions. This is a beautiful thing that you have done for this beautiful child. ❤
So True, I love Your Comment, Wise words!! Praise be to Jesus that this little girl has the love of 2 families. Loving parents! and her biological family, She doesn't have to wonder where she came from And why! One of the most beautiful situations that I have witnessed in my life and I thank God
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Thanks you for sharing but you are #1 mom she only gives birth like most women. Don't lose sight about that ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I work for a child welfare agency and I must say I am very impressed, grateful and happy that you are the type of parents that you are. She is blessed to have you and her biological family in her life. I wish all situations were as wonderful as yours for children in the foster care system. What a great outcome with lots of love and understanding.
I would imagine that couples open to transracial adoptions would be this sort, right? Gracious, open, loving, right? What are you experiencing?
I greatly agree ❤❤❤
This had me in tears. She is truly blessed to have both families.
This is what all children need. Love from everyone who loves them!! Bless y'all for truly having her best interests at heart.
You two restored my faith in humanity ❤stay blessed.
When Tianna sees this video she will definitely know how much you both LOVE HER so MUCH…Real Love ❤️ & Pure Love ❤️
I am adopted from China (closed in 1996). I am forever grateful for my adoptive parents, they’re decision to open their home to me gave me the best life I could ever imagine. Seeing that clip of your baby girl with her birth mother brought me to tears. I’m sure Tiannas birth mother had hesitations & doubts about if she made the right decision & seeing you two raise her to be an amazing young woman is the most precious thing. God bless all of you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love this so much as an adoptee by a single white mother. My mom adopted 6 children on her own and we are all black! The oldest of our sibling group is my biological sister, and we are the only ones out of the siblings' group whose open adoption continues to be a positive experience. I am the youngest of my biological siblings (we are all girls) and my sister who was adopted before me is the second youngest. Our bio mom was unable to be the mother we needed, so we were all placed with family members or, like me and my sister, in foster care to be adopted. Between the two of us, I have more of a bond with my bio family than my older sister does, while she does with our adopted family as she was placed with our mom to be adopted right from birth but our bio mom was given a second chance with me. And when it comes to my bio mom it can be emotionally draining, her decisions as a parent will continuously affect my mental health. Growing up we always saw our bio family, but only when our granny, auntie, and/or eldest sister who was being raised by our granny were involved. We had sleepovers only at grannys and our bio mom was allowed to take us shopping or to the movies on her own when we got older and could express our feelings on the matter. My bio mom and mom had a friendship more so as we aged. Our mom made sure the rules she had in our everyday life were implemented when we were with them too.
Unfortunately when it came to my other adopted siblings reconnecting with their biological families specifically with the mothers had the worst outcome there could be in that type of situation. But my mom always gave us the choice, especially as we grew into teens. and even though my mom made sure we had cultural connections and black people in our everyday lives, that difference between our black friends/peers, when it came to how we were being raised (white vs black parents), arrived at the forefront and we honestly at least in from my perspective, wanted to have that experience just to join in and joke around in those conversations among our black friends.
But both my moms loved each other, if only because of what each did when it came to me ( and my sister) I always proudly said I have two moms but hated when other kids asked do you know your "real" mom after finding out I was adopted so I learned what an open adoption was at a young age just to explain.
I share my story because this hit close to home, my adopted mother recently passed on March 1st and I feel absolutely lost without her physically with me. And I'm working on trying to understand my bio mom as a person and her story because she will only ever be capable of being the mother she's been my entire life. I had an amazing mom and honestly view my bio mom as a bonus mom. I still call my bio mother, Ma but call her by her name to others even my siblings (bio and adopted) I am 28 and it still feels weird to call someone else who didn't raise me mom but that's another thing entirely.
This might not mean much but as a black woman who was adopted as a child by an amazing loving caring white mom, I believe and see you guys are making hard decisions that will ultimately have up and downs no matter what but also doing something extraordinary for your sweet girl. Thank you.
So sorry for your loss. I can tell your adopted mother did an amazing job with you. Your words are kind and honest, yet truthful. Sending you healing energy
@@amcruz123 thank you ♥️
I'm putting all the adoption, black/white issues to the side for the moment and just focusing on the woman who raised you that you call mom.
I'm 40 and also have an amazing, wonderful mother. I can't imagine losing my mom, even at my age. I would be completely lost and alone without her. To lose your mom at such a young age is heartbreaking. You've obviously been through a ton in your young life and to have the one solid foundation gone now... I can't imagine. I'm so sorry. That part of Your comment really got me bc my mother is getting on in age and even though I'm 40 and should have everything together yada yada, and which I do 98% of the time, I honestly don't know how I would go on without her.
Sending you love and hugs!!
@Niki Beee it was not expected at all, she got a heart transplant that we were all hoping for her to get for the past several years and never woke up afterward so yeah, it's been really hard. Thank you ♥️
God bless you and l hope you and your entire family can be so happy!!!! 🇦🇷❤
It would be wonderful if all young parents have the mindset that you two have. The little girl is blessed. Thank you both.
Dad when they said can she do sleepovers 🤣😂🤣😂 did his jaw drop. Love the fact that they love her so much that tyanna isn't doing sleep overs.
Wow, this is love. My son was in foster care for the first 6 months of his life and I was very lucky to have gotten the foster parents I did for him. They were wonderful and my son is black and they were white but it all was still so natural. They let me pick his outfits out and they didn’t try to keep him from me or leave me out of anything. They were honestly the best I could have asked for for his first 6 months of life.
Wow that's amazing. This is how all foster parents should be 🙏🏼
This must have been the hardest day for both Mother’s😔. I commend them both🙏🏾🌹🌹🌸💯
Am an African ,you guys have shown her somuch love than any child could imagine. And please 🙏 you are her real mum and dad both number 1 and 2, even up to 10th times. And I pray that God will bless with more children from your womb.
Amen
The way her first mother hugged her and smelled her showed how much she'd missed and loves her.
Entonces por qué la dio en adopción
@@deliamaya5282sometimes life gets hard
@deliamaya5282 she gave her daughter a better life.
@@deliamaya5282did you notice how young she is? She had to have been a teen when she was taken away from her! Maybe she didn’t have any means, or lack of experience who knows enough to judge?
26:10
I think its awesome that she gets to also know her birth mom and her family because adopted kids always feel a void later in life once they realize everything. This connection will definitely eliminate a lot of those issues adopted kids develop. Great content!
I couldn’t have said it better!!you literally took the words out of my mouth !!But everything you said is so very true!!!!I love the way they went about there adoption as well!!!!
So true! Thank you for saying this! ❤
C'est tellement vrai ce que vous dites, elle a beaucoup de chance cette petite fille
are you adopted? Are you talking for everyone who’s adopted right now? 😂
Some ppl feel a void even when they’re not adopted unfortunately, and some adopted ppl never do.
I think that’s what adopted ppl should be more talkative about, what some of them
feel is pressure from the outer world ( who should mind its own business) to meet with birth parents thinking this is the key to happiness.
But pressure doesn’t equal real feelings.
I know for a fact adopted ppl who are actually happy in their adoptive family feel the need to be apologetic for not wanting any kind of bond with birth parents.
Please if you want a proof try and say to common ppl that biology DNA and bodily fluids don’t make bonds, love do.
And see the reaction of common ppl.
Yess this is so healthy
It's sad that all people could not be happy for these adopted kids. Love is colorless and all kids deserve to be loved.
Yes me to God bless this couple love 4 them to be my godparent
You guys are truly amazing, the love you have for your daughter is beautiful, I wish all children were blessed with parents like you both. Continued blessings!
Amen everything you say is so true So blessed👍🏿💕
True what a wonderful world it would be
I admire your family my spouse and I did this 41 years ago she is a girl also and yes the sky was the limit, we took her from Canada to the Bahamas, Disney World, Sunday was special family time together and yes no sleep over but in a church setting, two years ago she found her biological mother and moved to the state where she lived, yes it broke our heart, my spouse suffer from depression and that didn't help she was our heart but I trust in God that she will realize how much it hurt us, and I don't think it's a good relationship with her biological mom but God. continue what you all are doing. You are the greatest. We have no regrets . When we are sad, we watch RUclips, and it brings back memories and makes us feel better. We love ya
So sorry your daughter left you
To be with a woman who gave her up
I would advice you not say anything to her
Just give her space and she will realise soon how important you are to her
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Dear Mr and Mrs Schoeller, I just wanted to say that I am very moved by what you shared in this video. Your wisdom, kindness, inclusivity, compassion and unconditional love is profound. You have provided the priceless gift for a wonderful child, which is unconditional love, security, a home and safety and extended that love and warmth to your daughter’s birth family too! I’m blown away! May God always bless you and watch over your family and, keep you safe and continue to provide for you and, strengthen your bonds. Much respect, love and prayers. Judith (UK 🇬🇧).
You can never be over protective. You two are her parents. It’s LOVE ❤❤❤❤❤!!!!
You are the greatest parents I ever seen. That girl is very lucky to have you as parents. What she gets from love and comfort and everything else. She wouldn't get that kind of life style with her birth daughter.
Tyannas birth mom seems like a sweet and loving young woman, proud of her.
Why she abandoned her ?? She’s not so sweet
What lovely, caring parents!
@@marie-laurence1308 you don't know why she was in foster care. And do you know why she gave her up. You don't need to call her not sweet !!!!🥺 You are not nice by saying that.
@@marie-laurence1308Girl shut up you don’t know this woman.
@@marie-laurence1308he knows she abandoned her?. You don't know her mother story!!
This parents are amazing! Tiana is such a lucky girl and her adoptive parents as well by having her. There is so much love in this vlog.
Tiana has her birth Mom’s DNA and naturally will have a connection to her birth Mom. The fact that it’s an open adoption helps reduce anxiety about the “what ifs.”
Why was she put up for adoption?
@@Yourstruly4.0 Yeah id like to know this too... Seems like her birth mum seems fine? Shes got other kids too.... no hate, just curious
The Schoeller’s have said (and rightly so) that the answers you want are not theirs to tell. It will come from Tyanna herself when she is older and maybe wants to share that information . @@Yourstruly4.0
@aussiechick23 If you listen to the video, she mentioned cousins, not brothers and sisters. And we can all agree that, Perhaps she gave Tyanna up for adoption because she couldn't provide her with the life that she deserved.
Yet she is allowed to come visit as she pleases because her other parents are giving her a better life. yeah nah, f_k that. She choose to give up on her daughter then she should move on.
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The fact that Jon was teary periodically during this video shows how much he cares for his baby girl! I love you guys! 💗
The man is a Predator. And what happens In the dark will come to light.
Omg, yes!! Jon is not playing about his baby girl. I love it
It makes me tear up too! It’s beautiful!
Jon wait, till she is ready to go to College I can imagine him putting a spy camera to watch his baby girl. Or when she brings home her first boyfriend 😂😂😂😂
U and Jon are so sweet I love watching your vlog I my self just love u mom smile and jon how he make u a Tianna so happy and she has chose the greatest an best family in world an I love baby girl happiness an she is a Water baby an daddy girl an mom helper I love u both😢
She looks just like her biological mother ❤
Just like her. 🤗🤗😘😘
Yes😊💛
Yup she’s her twin
First mum
Agree
Am not being baised. But NO, NO, I would not let her spend the night anywhere. I have a toddler, and I don't let him have sleep overs, but with one family I trust so much. Use the gut, you are beautiful parent's.
I totally agree. I never let my kids stay at other people homes, oh only grandma.
Yes, it is hard not to remember that she was taken out of her birth mother's care for a reason. Those reasons may not still exist, but it must factor in when they think of her spending the night with her biological Mom.
Who said she was taken?? Relax man maybe her mum gave her to be fostered @@Chickadee_
Jon is such a beautiful gentleman. Physically & emotionally 😇
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@@glendavisser-kn5qf I agree!
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I grew up in foster care... the system is wicked! It is so beautiful to see the way you all foster her love with her biological family too. It is a blessing for her to the two of you and all your family. Love and blessings to you all!
I love dad's transparency in his emotions especially about staying overnight. I am the same way with my son. That's a normal parent emotion and response.
You guys have me crying all day long. You are precious. God bless you all.
Her biological mother is so beautiful. They are twins❤
This is beautiful... everyone wins especially for your baby. I'm so proud of you all❣️
This is my first time viewing and I want to adopt the two of you. 🤣🤣. Thank you for putting Tyanna first. It's important for her to see her "tummy mommy's" face if not anything else. At least to see who brought her into the world and to know any information about her genealogy. It's important for EVERY child. God bless your beautiful family. 🤗🤗
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You all are such a blessing to Tyanna and her mom.
Please don’t feel bad about not allowing her to sleep over at such an early age. You are her parents, her advocates, her protectors. I didn’t allow my kids to stay overnight with anyone besides my parents until around 9 or 10. This is an age where you know they understand the rules. They won’t be shy to tell you if something happens. I never made sleep overs a habit and my kids still enjoyed their childhood. I didn’t want to be in a situation where I couldn’t sleep because I was worried about them. So sleep overs were only 2-3 times a year. Too much happens at night. You have to be specific and also know who the biological mom is dating, as well as if he is going to be over when she does sleep over. Although I am a single black female, my kids were not allowed to stay over with other single parents. I felt better just knowing who was going to be there. My daughter is an adult now and she appreciates that. I understand that we’re speaking of her biological mom but she should understand. I like the idea of you all having a girls’ sleep over to include the adoptive mom and the biological mom with cousins. That will allow everyone to get to know each other but that should not happen too early either. You all will have different rules in your own household so don’t allow Tyanna to be confused on what she can and cannot do. It’s for the little girl’s sake and your sanity. You can still allow her culture in as you have already shown. So be mindful of what part you allow other people to play in her life, as you have in the past. Don’t ever put her biological mom’s feelings before Tyanna’s safety. I am quite sure that her biological mom loves her but remember safety and sanity first.
This is just my opinion. Again, you all are a blessing and this little girl is a blessed.
I like the fact that you all are not reporting why her dad is not in her life. The world doesn’t have to know all of her business. Keep some things to yourself.
Well stated!! 👌 Absolutely
Dang it...I have tears oozing all over the place. GOD placed a special gift inside of you two. TT is extremely blessed and loved tremendously. The transparency and raw emotion displayed by you two tugs at my heart strings...I absolutely loved this Q&A from beginning to end...may GOD continue to bless you both...no wait...all three of you❤❤❤❤
Me too. Every time I watch their videos.
All four.
Bellos, son una pareja maravillosa, bellos de Corazon ❤️ todavia quedan seres humanos con Tan buenos sentimientos, los admiro y bien 👍 no importa el color es una criatura, q merece ser Feliz como cualquier otra. Los Amo, por tan Bella decision. Qué Dios los bendiga siempre, lo merecen
I follow this family's vlogs. I am a black woman and was immediately attracted to the pure, absolute, and true love these 2 parents have for their daughter, Tayanna. I'm not adopted, but due to family secrets and refusal for family to disclose and be honest, I have always had a void due to unanswered questions about my identify and father. I don't even ask anymore because I don't want to hurt anyone or for me to get hurt. These parents always have Tayanna's best interest in their forethoughts. I sit, watch their vlogs, and bawl ugly tears whenever I see this beautiful loving family. This little girl is so blessed to have you. May God continue to bless you guys. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
As a former child protective social worker, if I could say 2 words, it would be Thank You. Terminating parental rights is one of the hardest things I've had to do. After 15 years, it never gets easy and there are so many reasons why rights are terminated. This video is so important because a child needs to know where and who she/he comes from. Family, medical, and mental health history is so important. Your child will never have to question who she is and will learn the why later in life. I'd suggest having a cousin sleep over if the family is okay with that at an airbnb. I'd also suggest starting a family tree, or keeping a family album or memory book. I didn't watch the entire video but questioned if the birth dad was unknown or if he abandoned her at birth, or if the mother refused to identify, and or the other which I will not say. I could go on, but I won't. I'll be keeping all of you in prayer, especially her birth mother. Unconditional love ❤️. It's clear she did what was best and the fact that she continued to buy gifts for her, not knowing if and when she'd see her again said a lot about where her heart is and was at that time. God bless and be encouraged and you grow in love as an immediate and extended family.
They did mention that some information they would not be giving out on the videos ... probably they do not want to reveal sensitive info that the biological parents would not want made public.
Why have Tyann's relative stay at an airbnb? Tyanna should have a sleepover at her home. Woud you have a friend or relative stay at a hotel or airbnb when they come to visit with you? That's cold.
That’s not cold, it’s being careful. You have to remember that the Schoeller’s and the bio mom are basically strangers. Having Tyanna to meet them is a gamble to begin with. The mother is an acquaintance, not a relative or friend. There are reason why Tyanna was put up for adoption and the Schoeller’s were correct in staying in a controlled environment. @@valoismickens1169
I want to say thank you for following your calling! My father was a detective and I found out a lot when he passed about his work. Dealing with people in the most vulnerable times takes a special spirit! So, THANK YOU! Being a social worker is not easy!
I totally get your protectiveness and I don't think Tyana is going to love anyone more than she loves you both. I can't even imagine that at all! You ARE her parents, FULL STOP! We love your family. ❤❤❤
To all agencies and organizations, birth families and adopted family: These are the Model parents for the adoption story. As an adoptee, I state this. I have so much I want to comment on regarding this phenomenal mom and dad. I'm commenting at a later time when I've gathered my thoughts and processed my emotions. Thank you for your informative videos and the most beautiful loving parents any child would hope to have. I truly have so much love for you all, my heart is full!
May The Lord bless you both. Open adoption is the most selfless and full hearted choice.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE the way you LOVE this child. This is what the world should REALLY look like!!! Thank you for showing the world what it’s supposed to look like. I absolutely love you guys!!!
My son was in foster care for the first year and a half of his life and we still keep in touch with his foster mom because she loves him (almost) as much as we do ❤. And she was the first mom he knew, while we did what we had to do to be ready😢
I think this is wonderful! I’m so glad she gets to know all of her family and cultures. This is how adoption should work ❤
I agree. It depends on the Birth Mother/Family. I’m glad the birth Mother and her family was nice and mature. In order to sustain this I wonder if open adoption should be restricted to seeing and meeting the birth Mom and Family so many times a year, like holidays? Just s thought? I wouldn’t know. I’m thinking it has to be a balance so it won’t be any problem for adoptive parents. This couple ran into a good birth Mom and Family. Such a blessing. I like and hope all open adoptions are like this.
Fantastic parents and allowing her birth mom part of Tyanna's life is priceless. Open communication is the ultimate key here. Love you guys
I was adopted. Your love for her is amazing.
I love how u guys call her bio mother her mum as well. Little Tyanna has got 3 VERY loving parents
Granny here: tyanna is a blessing to you two. Looking at videos posted she is a doll!!!! Her personality is warm, sweet, kind, and joyful. You will also learn her culture because she will teach you. Huge blessings to you all.
That's awesome that they recognize the importance of her culture and being around people who look like her. 👍🏼 Hair, self esteem etc. Good job!
This is my first time commenting here.
I'm lost for words. It's only God who can reward you both (Jon and Rhianna) for what you've done and continue to do for Tyanna.
Loving her dearly and always putting her best interest above everything else.
God richly bless you guys!!!
That’s right! ONLY GOD. In Jesus Name , Amen!
You are great parents. I have worked with adopted individuals in therapy. They always want to know where they come from. They need that connection and need to know their ethnic/racial culture of origin. Yes, they need people around them who look like them…absolutely! Research shows open adoptions are best for the children, in terms of adjustment. Unfortunately, there are too many adoptive parents who can have open adoptions but choose not to, and not for safety reasons. All children need a village. Since you now moved to Portugal, I hope Tyanna will continue to have visits and connection with her birth family. I am sure you will make that happen for her. Thanks for sharing your story.
Your respect for your daughter and her birth mothers privacy is so amazing and humbling. I love you guys
I see where Tyanna gets her fabulous smile!!❤ Seems to be a family trait!! 😃
I am both a biological and adoptive mom of a multicultural child who is now 26 years old. I will tell you that there were some very hard years to get through. Not only is there regular growing up issues, but she also had to face being a different race, and a different color. For us, we chose a closed adoption and we talked about finding her birth parents in the past which I support and understand. At this time, she has no interest in that and that may change in the future. The discrimination and bias I saw first hand right in front of my eyes was awful and it started in Preschool by other white mothers. I knew it would happen, but was surprised to see it as early as 3 years old. I wish you the best as you parent her through her life.
Hopefully that’s a thing of the past… surprising that would happen in the late 90’s … by now more people have learned a better way … blessings on your family. ❤
@@tinam761nope still happening. My 5yr old was called the N word a month ago
@@tinam761 unfortunately not a thing of the past
I am so sorry for you and your 😢 daughter. God is not partial, and He does not want us to be either. Anyone who claims to be a Christian, and still feels that way, is lying to themselves ! God reads our hearts, none of us can fool Him. He is a loving, caring Father, but He will hold all accountable for their attitudes and behavior !❤❤
Tyanna should be exposed to All cultures and, it would start by Reading books with different cultures and races in the stories. And when she's choosing toys, Allow her to pick out white, black Hispanic, whatever dolls she wants. And explain that God loves everyone, the Same. So some people have different color hair, different color skin. Some people are little, some big, but God loves us all. God made her just the way she is.
And that you love her. Just the way she is.
Tyana loves you guys, you are her parents.❤
THANK YOU FOR LOVING HER. SHE IS ONE WE DONT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT. DAD YOU ARE MY BROTHER ! ✊
Nicely articulated. I'm a criminal justice retiree, and trust me, these lovely, selfless, balanced mom & dad, people like you both, make our jobs easy. Ty is truly one we won't be worrying about. But she is clearly a daddy's girl;))
You guys are courageous to allow her to meet her birth mom. Lord knows I would be nervous as heck If that was me. I hope the mother is respectful and supportive of the adoptive parents in the long run and everyone continues to prioritize the best interest of the child. Lord knows Tyanna deserves the best in this world
Edit: No sleep over and no unsupervised visits with anyone while she is a minor. Sleepover should only be at YOUR house.
It’s good to have contact but maintain boundaries and don’t over-involve the other side.
I love that John said that she’s not allowed to love nobody more than him I feel the same way about my little girl
The love that he has for her is GOD'S PLAN!! This baby is BLESSED!! ❤❤
She’ll grow up and won’t her real mum definitely she can’t understand what your telling her and probably will yearn for her culture 😮
You two are a rare self-less couple.❤❤❤
The world needs so many more people and families like you guys❤. Much LOVE 😍
So true❤
My mom never allowed “away” sleepovers; she always insisted on hosting just to keep my sister and I safe! ❤
That's a safer route to take let the sleeping over be on yor side until she's grown.
I am the same way
My daughter told me I never allowed her to sleep over her friend's house and I told her it was because i wanted to keep her safe
Likewise in my family as well
Sexual abuse, witchcraft all introduced at overnight.
I'm glad there's so much LOVE from birth family. ...I'm just wondering why Santasia, didn't keep her. But her new mom and dad now are Just So Loving and Devoted, and I will add intelligent and down to earth. And that's Truly Wonderful that they are trying to keep a connection with Tiana's birth mother and family .(? where's dad?)