Sweetheart somebody needs to teach men how to be chivalrous and The Art of Making Love. Ladies ARE quickly realizing that the majority of men aren't worth the time, trouble, or the mess.
When I stopped worrying about how to attract a man or get one to fall for me. I just started being myself and relaxing. Not really caring where things went... I just let things happen, thats when I met my amazing husband who fell in love with me and wanted to marry me within 2 weeks, of course he kept that to himself until later lol
I am waiting patiently for this to happen to me. I hope that your marriage thrives into an ever-lasting, ever-loving relationship that solidifies as time passes.
@@Dyscalculla don’t wait for it ! They subconsciously means you’re focusing on the lack of having it! That want/need for something you don’t have! Just be. Do you. Live life. Have fun. But one things for sure. You have to BEEE the Person-you wanna meet. Not identically but morally and vibrationally. Like attracts like. Are you living in alignment with your true self /values n morals? Maybe kinda sorta?! Almost ?!if not at all then def focus on yourself and your own life first , then watch your dream lover pop out of no where n be drawn to you - when you least expected- not while waiting ❤ and if you do have the characteristics n stuff of ur dream lover we’ll maybe they’ll be showing up sooner then expected!❤🎉
@@farrahfrench7690 where did they say that they do ? Sex is definitely an important factor , but yes only ONE of the many important pillars necessary to uphold a relationship successfully. Sex is more important then most think, but true, not nearly close to everything /only thing.
I love THIS! When I was a 7 year old my family and I were ALWAYS at Bingo. He and I locked eyes IMMEDIATELY! WE LOST TOUCH FOR 47 years. When we were children I remember him telling me we'll meet again. He was right. Before he left he gave me a promise ring. Foster care bio child stole and sold it. I ALMOST beat her to death. But God doesn't like ugly so when she was about to marry her mate at the altar. He called my name. I freaked out quietly. Why would someone call my name on the day of all days when I didn't know who was getting married. Short story long he handed me the ring in pristine beauty. I had hoped eventually literally in THIS millennium that I would see it again. He handed me the ring and walked out. He happened to see me in a neighborhood I never wanted to be in. Circumstances saw otherwise. It's just that I'm a WEST SIDE GAL. THE benches and a few other places.
Never show him you need him. We don’t need another person to make us happy. We must love ourselves first. Then we attract love to us. Another person in our life, such as a partner can add to our happiness not be our happiness. We all walk through life alone and meet certain people along the way. We enter alone and leave alone.
I stopped restructuring myself in order to fit a man’s wants and expectations! I decided to unapologetically be myself…kinda “love me or leave me alone” thing. In any case , my self-love is far greater and important than what any other human being can give me
@@jackdeniston59 No, a woman can change her ways even when she is not born again. A man once had the nerve to say to me that I don't get to be a born again virgin. He was a horrible man and he didn't know a good thing when he had it.
😊 there is also a misconception that women have sex because they feel pressured to. Women love sex too! We also want it. But yes, better to wait if you’re looking for a keeper.
As a much older woman this stuff won't work in many instances. 10:48 😮We love sex & need a younger man. Withholding sex as an older woman is ridiculous. These videos and most like them are for younger woman. For an older woman it's about finding the right person to be exclusive. Not dropping your pants for every young guy who finds you hot. No games being older. No pretense.
I was Mormon for 45 years of my life. I stepped into a marriage with a man who was 10 years older than me. I was 20 years old and Mormon . I didn’t have sex with him until our wedding night. It still did not change the man he became. A diagnosed NPD. I spent 19 years of my life and 4 kids later, denying myself of my truth. I almost divorced him two times prior,but after 19 years and I knew it was the right thing to do. Finally. I walked away from my religion, I walked away from my family. And sex is not the only thing that dictates a mans power. In fact. Losing a woman who he relied on for his power is everything. Now my ex is a deadbeat loser. Truth.
Good that’s what he gets …mine used religion to try to control me and called me names like whore and bitch and that was it for me…I got enough confidence to get my retirement money to put down a deposit for a luxury apartment with amazing views and It was the best decision I made. I ghosted him and are at peace and loving life now. I got a new job and make more money and don’t need a dime from him. I’m so happy now
Flirtatious eye contact physical touch Emotional validation Radical confidence Understand your worth Your uniqueness Vulnerability show him you value him in your life
Exactly. Most relationships end around the 4-6 month point. Most likely because people get involved too quickly. When the dust settles, one or both parties realize there was never anything there.
Cumon..did u just say years...? You are definitely losing out a lot then. Else a time will come you ll lose interest totally. Even your body will say..i.dont want to do it..Change your strategy. My personal 2 cents.
@how_you_talk You're misunderstanding. I said I haven't had sex in years. I never said I make a man wait years. I prefer to be happy by myself then to give myself to the wrong person. You're assuming I'm losing happiness because I am not in a relationship. I'm great on my own. I'm independent. You do you. I'm good. I'm good.
My bff at the time " how do you always get a man to fall in love with you without having sex with him?" Answer: "I don't have sex with him." Friend: "Well, doesn't that mean that some won't call you back for another date?" Me: "yes."
I think as a woman just know your self worth...bc after you do all this a man can still cheat and leave. Let him take the lead. Let him invest in you. You may be the best woman but if he is just playing around, .he will not stay. You need to ask him and get to know what his agenda is. That's when you can determine if he is the right man for you.
If I had listened to similar advice many years ago I could have avoided several missteps and entering the wrong relationship. I was not flirtatious because I thought it was teasing but I realize now that it allows the man time to develop more interest. It's not only the woman's fault that things move too quickly it's the men who are impatient and self-centered. They too don't allow themselves the chance to develop more connection so it's up to the women to increase the man's interest without giving too much. If the man is not capable then the woman hasn't lost anything. Women are afraid if they don't move quickly they won't get another chance, but it's worth it not to rush interest before it has a chance to develop and deepen.
It's not about following a list on the internet. It's about working through your traumas and insecurities having good boundaries and being clear about what you want but that usually comes in time.
Me I dont run afere a man nore would I do sex in one night it would have too take time and men think a younger woman is going too keep them young know thy do that fore them selfs and a man can be vain wont too know your age has a number and when I was verey young I had this kid afere me I thought it was a joke but know he heaver married and I knew his girl and she was lovely she sed too me he loves i sed dont be silly she sed you can sense that some thing when he is a round you he even sed too me be fore he died I love and she know's i sed it may be you like an older woman know I loved you the moment I saw you your not only love but lovely too get on whith know it neaver whent eny were,he sed too me you have that some thing I wish I knew,
I'm so thankful I found your wholesome channel years ago. Your advice reaches beyond dating and feeds into a woman's need for self love, respect and fulfillment. One has to be emotionally sound or atleast trying to actually grasp these gems you're laying down.Till date I'm yet to see a more wholesome dating coach.
So this is interesting. I have been all these things to the man I love. However the other party has to want to be committed. A lot of men never heal from being with toxic women and then they project. So while these 5 points are great they will only work with a man who is whole.
The man has to First be 'That Man'. Some of these guys, younger ones and older ones, simply do not possess the masculine traits and energy to rise to the occasion for a woman. Women must Vet Carefully before you share and show vulnerability. Choose wisely🌞🌻
Hey Trish, ur right, and that works so well for both sides, as no doubt many of us here have the need to be able to move forward in a better way than we have before.😊
I agree 100% Sex is definitely not the most important in a relationship at the beginning. U do wanna get to know each other, whether there's a connection, bond, etc. Then of course the sex will be more of an intense connection as well & not just physical. U definitely wanna learn each other & be honest, etc with each other as well. I agree with every step he pointed out as well in that order which then the sex will be amazing! Thanks for the video. ❣️ Have a good day. 🦋
I turned down 3 guys for sex because I didn't feel attracted to them that way. I said we can be friends but then they disappeared 😮 I like to be friends first 😊
I was always in a relationship between ages 15 -25. Long term relationships. So being single for the past years has been illuminating. That kiss at 0:04 though, reminds me how important PASSION is. A passionate kiss = everything.
I agree, years ago I had a long distance relationship and we got to know each other without having sex for over a year and a half. During that time he flew out to see me I didn’t have sex with him because I didn’t know him.
The most important relationship in your life is relationship with Your- Self! When you know who you are, know your Souls purpose, when you know meaning of your life and people rejecting you for doing You, being alone, single is the best possible place, by DEVINE Design. Experiencing evolution of consciousness, embracing and surrendering to change will elevate your vibration that will attract right people into your life. When you are coming from place of suffering and trauma no matter how hard you will try to raise your worth and value it will be artificial, so won't work, you have to connect with yourself, feel and understand your pain, " see " the wounds, heal, learn and embrace new ways of being, learn to love yourself! When you mastered this the rest will come naturally. The true love and happiness is a state of being, no person or relationship can give you that, you find it within core of your being!
I say if you feel pressured 100% leave him alone. He doesn't care about you. Let him go. A guy who is truly into you will wait. For me what's works best is just being me and giving boundaries, but also let them know what's fun for me. Also gratitude. For some reason people are turning their nose up to men that take you out on dates to Chili. That's probably all that he can afford. Just say thank you. If you want something more expensive then, YOU treat him to it. He'll be like "Wooo, I don't want to mess this up".
I Think some men feel the anxiety to get laid because they have confidence issues and just want to seal the deal in their minds and don't want to feel played.
God bless you for your clean and Godly principles. You are truly a strong man. Not many people have the guts to teach and encourage women like this instead.🙏😇💪🏼
I know exactly why I'm single😊 I have better things to do than worry about what a man is doing, where he is, what is true vs false. I have no desire to clean up after a man, or care for one. I CHERISH my freedom, my dogs & my space. Don't hate men, I'm just done with them. No, not a lesbian either!!! Secure and happy on my own😊❤ I watched this thinking it may enlighten me on past mistakes. Meh, not really. No one person makes another person do anything. They do what they want and know what they are doing when they do it. 😂
Yea, I'm aware of all this and I was taught and raised on these things. I guess, I just like to have fun. But now that I'm older, this is the approach I will take in the real world and not the metaverse
I changed my language. I share little tidbits of what I need but in a very loving way. I also ask him a lot about him and what his day is like. I also told him recently that I respect who he is as a person. That actually made a massive change in his attraction to me and how he talks to me and what he does for me. Good Luck!
I started watching this video last year the day my now-ex broke up with me, paused to go out and meet him for what turned out to be a breakup, and it was so painful to finish, because I knew that I didn't fulfill all the points.
@@BernMendez NO! Is the most powerful word in the english language. 😊 No misinterpretation possible. When he feels entitled to walz over you, don't waste your time trying to educate him.
i don't think he is a commitment phobia, he just want to have as much women as he can ... don't give it more than a year, bc you will be wasting your time and regret it later ( a year is a lot and more than a lot to find out if he will commit or not) .. and never give him sex... if he thinks you are the one he will commit if not then he will leave
i was pressured in to sex to early after a 29 year long relatinship and my husband past away to cancer, that man did not care at all about me, i was so sad 😢
I'm trying to say this in the most polite and sensitive way possible but the only person that really needs to care about us is us. If you pick the right people, they will be considerate. Too many women put their value in others. People are who they are. If you have insecurities about pleasing people or not losing people that took over, then it really is your insecurities and healing to work on, if that makes sense. He shouldn't have pressured you but you can't control other people's actions. Other peoples jobs aren't to heal u either.
You can't make a man feels he is adding value your life when indeed he is NOT just because you want him to fall in love with you. Let him be himself, his true self and that will determine if he is worth your time
Nice video! You’ve got great things to say and such a good presence. Quick question: do you ever survey men to get their responses or feedback to different topics or questions? (This isn’t meant to impugn your knowledge and years of experience that you bring. I’m genuinely just curious.) 😊
Hi Beth, Thank you for your kind words. I don't survey men formally but I do consult statistics and clinical studies. One of the easiest testing grounds comes from the before and after results my clients have after applying the strategies I share with them : )
I was never made to have sex with my partner which made me want him more. And I put my needs as conditional on having sex the first time. He also didn't run away after he grew closer to me. This is what makes me feel he is the right one.
Is it even possible for a 67 year old to have sex? And why? It’s just so gross to think about 😂 not trying to make fun. I’m sure you can do better than a horny old grandpa with probably only a few years left to live.
We aren't asking too much to get to know someone, to create trust and a level of intimacy before we share more. Some women don't need that, it's fine for us all to decide.
He does have emotional connection by being in touch through text for almost 5 months now but does not talk abt meeting or even call but text daily...what does it mean ?
It means he's very comfortable with a less than intimate situation. Not sure what the specifics are in terms of distance but if he's in your city this could end up being a waste of time if you "fall" for a guy based on a projection versus a real life connection. Just my two cents.
Thanks so much we are in the same city perhaps 1- 1.5 hr drive but seems to care, respect n be in touch on daily basis by remembering first thing in the morning n through the day but no call meet up.
Inner truth brings all that one needs, in order to attract what is meant for them. That is where interdependence, manifests as a consciousness of reciprocated as a true connection. 👍🏽 Watching this video has inspired me to write this.😊❤
I like that you include the needs of the man. Most always neglect to address that important and vital aspect of the relationship. Women are taught that its all about them, but its not and that is why there are so many failed relationships.
Could you do a video on numbers and stats please? Eg what estimated % of women versis men are looking for a relationship, success rates under 40 versus over 40, stuff like that
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Sweetheart somebody needs to teach men how to be chivalrous and The Art of Making Love. Ladies ARE quickly realizing that the majority of men aren't worth the time, trouble, or the mess.
When I stopped worrying about how to attract a man or get one to fall for me. I just started being myself and relaxing. Not really caring where things went... I just let things happen, thats when I met my amazing husband who fell in love with me and wanted to marry me within 2 weeks, of course he kept that to himself until later lol
I am waiting patiently for this to happen to me. I hope that your marriage thrives into an ever-lasting, ever-loving relationship that solidifies as time passes.
Men don’t bond over sex!
@@Dyscalculla don’t wait for it ! They subconsciously means you’re focusing on the lack of having it! That want/need for something you don’t have! Just be. Do you. Live life. Have fun. But one things for sure. You have to BEEE the Person-you wanna meet. Not identically but morally and vibrationally. Like attracts like. Are you living in alignment with your true self /values n morals? Maybe kinda sorta?! Almost ?!if not at all then def focus on yourself and your own life first , then watch your dream lover pop out of no where n be drawn to you - when you least expected- not while waiting ❤ and if you do have the characteristics n stuff of ur dream lover we’ll maybe they’ll be showing up sooner then expected!❤🎉
@@farrahfrench7690 where did they say that they do ? Sex is definitely an important factor , but yes only ONE of the many important pillars necessary to uphold a relationship successfully. Sex is more important then most think, but true, not nearly close to everything /only thing.
I love THIS! When I was a 7 year old my family and I were ALWAYS at Bingo. He and I locked eyes IMMEDIATELY! WE LOST TOUCH FOR 47 years. When we were children I remember him telling me we'll meet again. He was right. Before he left he gave me a promise ring. Foster care bio child stole and sold it. I ALMOST beat her to death. But God doesn't like ugly so when she was about to marry her mate at the altar. He called my name. I freaked out quietly. Why would someone call my name on the day of all days when I didn't know who was getting married. Short story long he handed me the ring in pristine beauty. I had hoped eventually literally in THIS millennium that I would see it again. He handed me the ring and walked out. He happened to see me in a neighborhood I never wanted to be in. Circumstances saw otherwise. It's just that I'm a WEST SIDE GAL. THE benches and a few other places.
1) Delayed gratification 1:41
2) Healthy protection 1:49
3) Flirtatiousness 2:48
4) Eye contact 4:14
5) Emotional validation 4:54
6) Radical confidence 5:44
7) Connection to your worth 6:43
Thank you for listing this
#1 is actually at the 1:09 mark
…any he will still cheat on you!!! With a woman who won’t make him wait!
And #2 starts at 1:41
Thank you!!!!
Never show him you need him. We don’t need another person to make us happy. We must love ourselves first. Then we attract love to us.
Another person in our life, such as a partner can add to our happiness not be our happiness.
We all walk through life alone and meet certain people along the way. We enter alone and leave alone.
Having a good friend is more important, let everything else happen when the timing is right. Slow is the way to go.
I stopped restructuring myself in order to fit a man’s wants and expectations! I decided to unapologetically be myself…kinda “love me or leave me alone” thing. In any case , my self-love is far greater and important than what any other human being can give me
oh my goodness! i wonder when i will reach this level of confidence.
This is when other people see you shine and liver you for yourself hun.
❤💯
Yep!
If he leaves because sex isn’t involved let him ‼️
Yep!
If he cannot wait in a gentleman way, he isn’t the right one
That only works if it has always been your life. No born agains.
@@jackdeniston59 No, a woman can change her ways even when she is not born again. A man once had the nerve to say to me that I don't get to be a born again virgin. He was a horrible man and he didn't know a good thing when he had it.
😊 there is also a misconception that women have sex because they feel pressured to. Women love sex too! We also want it. But yes, better to wait if you’re looking for a keeper.
Hi Amanda, absolutely. This video is directed specifically to those women who end up having sex out of fear the guy will no longer be interested 😀🙏
@Amanda Metta That's not a misconception. In many cases women are pressured into sex, especially when they're young.
As a much older woman this stuff won't work in many instances.
10:48 😮We love sex & need a younger man.
Withholding sex as an older woman is ridiculous. These videos and most like them are for younger woman.
For an older woman it's about finding the right person to be exclusive. Not dropping your pants for every young guy who finds you hot.
No games being older. No pretense.
Right there are too many sluts out there
@@Scheherazad100
Yeh, no games😊
I was Mormon for 45 years of my life. I stepped into a marriage with a man who was 10 years older than me. I was 20 years old and Mormon . I didn’t have sex with him until our wedding night. It still did not change the man he became. A diagnosed NPD. I spent 19 years of my life and 4 kids later, denying myself of my truth. I almost divorced him two times prior,but after 19 years and I knew it was the right thing to do. Finally. I walked away from my religion, I walked away from my family. And sex is not the only thing that dictates a mans power. In fact. Losing a woman who he relied on for his power is everything. Now my ex is a deadbeat loser. Truth.
❤ continued healing and love to you.
As a former Jehovah's witness, I'm so proud of you!
❤ bravo
❤
Good that’s what he gets …mine used religion to try to control me and called me names like whore and bitch and that was it for me…I got enough confidence to get my retirement money to put down a deposit for a luxury apartment with amazing views and It was the best decision I made. I ghosted him and are at peace and loving life now. I got a new job and make more money and don’t need a dime from him. I’m so happy now
Flirtatious eye contact physical touch
Emotional validation
Radical confidence Understand your worth
Your uniqueness
Vulnerability show him you value him in your life
Thanks for watching : )
Yes & don't force any of it. At least for me. Naturally.
I make men wait. I haven't had sex in years.
If they cannot wait I move on.
I need to know we can connect on other levels besides just sexual.
I agree
Exactly. Most relationships end around the 4-6 month point. Most likely because people get involved too quickly. When the dust settles, one or both parties realize there was never anything there.
Cumon..did u just say years...? You are definitely losing out a lot then. Else a time will come you ll lose interest totally. Even your body will say..i.dont want to do it..Change your strategy. My personal 2 cents.
@how_you_talk
You're misunderstanding. I said I haven't had sex in years. I never said I make a man wait years. I prefer to be happy by myself then to give myself to the wrong person.
You're assuming I'm losing happiness because I am not in a relationship. I'm great on my own. I'm independent. You do you. I'm good.
I'm good.
Yep!
I am leaning it isn't about how I feel about a person BUT HOW HE MAKES ME FEEL.
My bff at the time " how do you always get a man to fall in love with you without having sex with him?"
Answer: "I don't have sex with him."
Friend: "Well, doesn't that mean that some won't call you back for another date?"
Me: "yes."
I think as a woman just know your self worth...bc after you do all this a man can still cheat and leave. Let him take the lead. Let him invest in you. You may be the best woman but if he is just playing around, .he will not stay. You need to ask him and get to know what his agenda is. That's when you can determine if he is the right man for you.
If I had listened to similar advice many years ago I could have avoided several missteps and entering the wrong relationship. I was not flirtatious because I thought it was teasing but I realize now that it allows the man time to develop more interest. It's not only the woman's fault that things move too quickly it's the men who are impatient and self-centered. They too don't allow themselves the chance to develop more connection so it's up to the women to increase the man's interest without giving too much. If the man is not capable then the woman hasn't lost anything. Women are afraid if they don't move quickly they won't get another chance, but it's worth it not to rush interest before it has a chance to develop and deepen.
It's not about following a list on the internet. It's about working through your traumas and insecurities having good boundaries and being clear about what you want but that usually comes in time.
Me I dont run afere a man nore would I do sex in one night it would have too take time and men think a younger woman is going too keep them young know thy do that fore them selfs and a man can be vain wont too know your age has a number and when I was verey young I had this kid afere me I thought it was a joke but know he heaver married and I knew his girl and she was lovely she sed too me he loves i sed dont be silly she sed you can sense that some thing when he is a round you he even sed too me be fore he died I love and she know's i sed it may be you like an older woman know I loved you the moment I saw you your not only love but lovely too get on whith know it neaver whent eny were,he sed too me you have that some thing I wish I knew,
I'm so thankful I found your wholesome channel years ago. Your advice reaches beyond dating and feeds into a woman's need for self love, respect and fulfillment. One has to be emotionally sound or atleast trying to actually grasp these gems you're laying down.Till date I'm yet to see a more wholesome dating coach.
SO true!!!! Well said :)
So this is interesting. I have been all these things to the man I love. However the other party has to want to be committed. A lot of men never heal from being with toxic women and then they project. So while these 5 points are great they will only work with a man who is whole.
You're correct : )
True true
True true two
The man has to First be 'That Man'. Some of these guys, younger ones and older ones, simply do not possess the masculine traits and energy to rise to the occasion for a woman. Women must Vet Carefully before you share and show vulnerability. Choose wisely🌞🌻
Hey Trish, ur right, and that works so well for both sides, as no doubt many of us here have the need to be able to move forward in a better way than we have before.😊
I agree 100% Sex is definitely not the most important in a relationship at the beginning. U do wanna get to know each other, whether there's a connection, bond, etc. Then of course the sex will be more of an intense connection as well & not just physical. U definitely wanna learn each other & be honest, etc with each other as well. I agree with every step he pointed out as well in that order which then the sex will be amazing! Thanks for the video. ❣️ Have a good day. 🦋
Sure
I turned down 3 guys for sex because I didn't feel attracted to them that way. I said we can be friends but then they disappeared 😮
I like to be friends first 😊
You need to be friends first. Without it, in the end, there won't be a relationship!
@@Southpaw1001 Exactly!
I was always in a relationship between ages 15 -25. Long term relationships. So being single for the past years has been illuminating. That kiss at 0:04 though, reminds me how important PASSION is. A passionate kiss = everything.
Glad this video helped you. 🙏
It is for sure for woman, but I wonder if it’s same for man ?? 🤔
I want to engage with a guy naturally. And only compatibility can do this. Not my doing or being someone who i am not can get him in.
We haven’t had seggs and he’s in love with me. Idk what I did 🤷🏽♀️ He’s a great guy.
How do you not have millions of subscribers? Amazing ,mature and intuitive guidance.
Thank you so much for your kind words and support. It means a lot to know my videos resonate with people deeply. 🙏
I would rather prefer to do these things for myself only rather than to make someone else to fall for me...
Wow , as much as I watched I’ve never watch honest talk like this
Thank you
I agree, years ago I had a long distance relationship and we got to know each other without having sex for over a year and a half. During that time he flew out to see me I didn’t have sex with him because I didn’t know him.
Glad you found this useful : )
The most important relationship in your life is relationship with Your- Self! When you know who you are, know your Souls purpose, when you know meaning of your life and people rejecting you for doing You, being alone, single is the best possible place, by DEVINE Design. Experiencing evolution of consciousness, embracing and surrendering to change will elevate your vibration that will attract right people into your life. When you are coming from place of suffering and trauma no matter how hard you will try to raise your worth and value it will be artificial, so won't work, you have to connect with yourself, feel and understand your pain, " see " the wounds, heal, learn and embrace new ways of being, learn to love yourself! When you mastered this the rest will come naturally. The true love and happiness is a state of being, no person or relationship can give you that, you find it within core of your being!
I say if you feel pressured 100% leave him alone. He doesn't care about you. Let him go. A guy who is truly into you will wait. For me what's works best is just being me and giving boundaries, but also let them know what's fun for me. Also gratitude. For some reason people are turning their nose up to men that take you out on dates to Chili. That's probably all that he can afford. Just say thank you. If you want something more expensive then, YOU treat him to it. He'll be like "Wooo, I don't want to mess this up".
I Think some men feel the anxiety to get laid because they have confidence issues and just want to seal the deal in their minds and don't want to feel played.
God bless you for your clean and Godly principles. You are truly a strong man. Not many people have the guts to teach and encourage women like this instead.🙏😇💪🏼
Thanks for your kind words, glad this was useful to you : )
@@BernMendez Indeed Coach...Excellent Skills politeness you are. Gentlemen wise.
Basically be the best version of you that you would love and value your own self. Once you do that, you dont need anyone else🥰❤
Yes : )
I know exactly why I'm single😊 I have better things to do than worry about what a man is doing, where he is, what is true vs false. I have no desire to clean up after a man, or care for one. I CHERISH my freedom, my dogs & my space. Don't hate men, I'm just done with them. No, not a lesbian either!!! Secure and happy on my own😊❤ I watched this thinking it may enlighten me on past mistakes. Meh, not really. No one person makes another person do anything. They do what they want and know what they are doing when they do it. 😂
Vicki, if this works for you then glad you're clear about what you want. : )
@@BernMendez yep it works for me😊
@Bernardo Mendez yep it works for now. It has worked since 1997. My goal is to run another Iron Man in Hawaii in my 60s. I'm 64 now🥰
exactly!
@@vickigonya9432so don’t you feel lonely sometimes
And if hes a narc he wont care about you and use all this against u oneday.... So be careful what you do share
True. Don't overshare until you are sure he doesn't have a personality disorder.
I was curious so I took your quiz & it was spot on! I thoroughly enjoyed & appreciated the videos & advice that came along after taking the quiz 🙏🏻
Glad you found it helpful.
How do these tips apply to a couple that is trying to get back together after a break up?
Thank you for your thoughtful and powerful advice! You're such a helpful soul.🤗
Thank YOU for your kind words and for watching : )
I just dropped by your channel about relationships. 👍 Your words of advice are amazing.
Thank you for your kind words,
@@BernMendez You are welcome. 😊
Fantastic advice- thank you for spreading your insight and kindness 🎉
You're so welcome!
I so loved your youtube. It is so true. You are a beautiful man with such insight, humor & intelligence.
Yea, I'm aware of all this and I was taught and raised on these things. I guess, I just like to have fun. But now that I'm older, this is the approach I will take in the real world and not the metaverse
Glad this reminder was helpful.
That is an Awesome crystal. 😊
Every single woman should take your coaching. I will sometimes soon
Thank you Kiki. Looking forward to helping you : )
What happens when he is an avoidant type and you can't create an emotional connection with him?
Most likely, you move on.
I changed my language. I share little tidbits of what I need but in a very loving way. I also ask him a lot about him and what his day is like. I also told him recently that I respect who he is as a person. That actually made a massive change in his attraction to me and how he talks to me and what he does for me. Good Luck!
90 days before they win " the precious". Has always been my rule.
My suggestion is wait until exclusivity even if that takes longer than 90 days : )
I started watching this video last year the day my now-ex broke up with me, paused to go out and meet him for what turned out to be a breakup, and it was so painful to finish, because I knew that I didn't fulfill all the points.
I love this healthy protection business!! So important!
Thanks, Rosette : )
TY for tht was new info for me & I bn married twice on 2nd one 38yrs but this was fresh news for me good job old school 65 ab
Thanks for watching. 🙏
Whenever you feel pressure to do something is involved, don't do it. Walk away and put your energy in a good man who has patience 😊
Or...share your boundary and possibily seem him rise to the challenge :)
@@BernMendez NO! Is the most powerful word in the english language. 😊 No misinterpretation possible. When he feels entitled to walz over you, don't waste your time trying to educate him.
Truth ..respect for yourself,
Yes eye contact is also very important
Thanks for watching!
I love this topic an answer to my questions that I need most this time of confusion.
May, glad this was useful.
The reason why I’m single is because that is what I chose to be.
You give the best dating wisdom on YT…Thank you..🙏
You're very kind, thank you.
These are great! But not for all men. They will drag you along until they get what they want, the guy I'm dealing with is commitment phobia.
i don't think he is a commitment phobia, he just want to have as much women as he can ... don't give it more than a year, bc you will be wasting your time and regret it later ( a year is a lot and more than a lot to find out if he will commit or not) .. and never give him sex... if he thinks you are the one he will commit if not then he will leave
You are the best in explaining all of this...
Single..wanting to be.
If someone comes into my life, that I value...we will see!
You’re awesome 👍 Just came across your video today and yes I subscribed 😊
i was pressured in to sex to early after a 29 year long relatinship and my husband past away to cancer, that man did not care at all about me, i was so sad 😢
I'm trying to say this in the most polite and sensitive way possible but the only person that really needs to care about us is us. If you pick the right people, they will be considerate. Too many women put their value in others. People are who they are. If you have insecurities about pleasing people or not losing people that took over, then it really is your insecurities and healing to work on, if that makes sense. He shouldn't have pressured you but you can't control other people's actions. Other peoples jobs aren't to heal u either.
Thank you for your Beautiful words
You can't make a man feels he is adding value your life when indeed he is NOT just because you want him to fall in love with you. Let him be himself, his true self and that will determine if he is worth your time
Such a nice video. Thank you sir.
You’re welcome!
Thank you for sharing such a profound lesson.
I have done a few things you have discripe in the video.. Bernardo. Thank you very much for your help and time.🙂🌷🙏🏻👍🏼
You are very welcome.
Best advice I've heard in a long time!
Glad this helped you.
This is a great video. It is so helpful. Great work!!❤
Thank you for watching : )
@@BernMendez You are welcome. 👍🏾
It was only one minute later after I heard you speak that I subscribed good Content ❤
Jackie, I'm so grateful you felt connected to my work : )
Nice video! You’ve got great things to say and such a good presence. Quick question: do you ever survey men to get their responses or feedback to different topics or questions? (This isn’t meant to impugn your knowledge and years of experience that you bring. I’m genuinely just curious.) 😊
Hi Beth, Thank you for your kind words. I don't survey men formally but I do consult statistics and clinical studies. One of the easiest testing grounds comes from the before and after results my clients have after applying the strategies I share with them : )
I was never made to have sex with my partner which made me want him more. And I put my needs as conditional on having sex the first time. He also didn't run away after he grew closer to me. This is what makes me feel he is the right one.
Glad to hear this.
Thank you so much! Thats super helpful and isnightful.
Glad you enjoyed it :)
My 67 year old boyfriend dumped me cause I didn't have sex with him. We were only dating for four months. I was just trying to get to know him first.
this is why i date younger guys!!
@@lisa-lx5kj My best friend just dates youngers guys too! I understand why!
Is it even possible for a 67 year old to have sex? And why? It’s just so gross to think about 😂 not trying to make fun. I’m sure you can do better than a horny old grandpa with probably only a few years left to live.
@@kathyjenkins4067 haha gotta try it :)
We aren't asking too much to get to know someone, to create trust and a level of intimacy before we share more. Some women don't need that, it's fine for us all to decide.
Best explanation so far.
Thanks : )
A great video, it was very Informative 👍👏
Thank you Gabriele! : )
Thank you so much Bern❤❤
You’re welcome.
New subscriber. Wow!! Great content!
Good presentation. Good explanations. Very good.
Thank you, Cheryl.
Thank You, Bern~ Shared ~ Much Love~ 💙 ~∆
You're welcome, Nancy : )
I don't know how to flirt
Is there a website for this 😂
I'm shy
Been married for 37 yrs
Great advice for Self-Love
Glad you found it useful, Julinda. 😊
Perfect message!!
Glad you found this useful.
Wow. I love all these 5 things.
Love these, thank you.
You're welcome.
Greatest advice. Thank you for making this video. 😊
You’re so welcome!
Hello Sir I thank you for this lesson I appreciate it
You're welcome, Agatha.
He does have emotional connection by being in touch through text for almost 5 months now but does not talk abt meeting or even call but text daily...what does it mean ?
It means he's very comfortable with a less than intimate situation. Not sure what the specifics are in terms of distance but if he's in your city this could end up being a waste of time if you "fall" for a guy based on a projection versus a real life connection. Just my two cents.
Thanks so much we are in the same city perhaps 1- 1.5 hr drive but seems to care, respect n be in touch on daily basis by remembering first thing in the morning n through the day but no call meet up.
How do u flirt in a long term relationship. I have been in a six year relationship and need to flirt but I struggle with how to
Thanks for sharing 😊
@ 1:44 healthy is spelled wrong. Just an FYI.
Thank you for letting me know.
Thank you for your help ❤❤
You're welcome : )
Thank you for sharing this 5-6-23
Inner truth brings all that one needs, in order to attract what is meant for them. That is where interdependence, manifests as a consciousness of reciprocated as a true connection. 👍🏽 Watching this video has inspired me to write this.😊❤
I like that you include the needs of the man. Most always neglect to address that important and vital aspect of the relationship. Women are taught that its all about them, but its not and that is why there are so many failed relationships.
Thank you for noticing. 🙏😊
Where are you living? Most live in a patriarchal system. Men's needs are prioritized at a systemic level.
Please educate yourself
@@mai-linhmainor5965 like you?
Death cannot separate you from your love....
Very helpful!
Thank you.
Great insight!👍
Glad you enjoyed it, Gladys.
This was great one 👏🏽
Thank you, Maya.
It is written "healty protection" instead of "healtHy". H is missing.
Thanks for sharing. I can’t change it now but it’s good to know.
@@BernMendez my pleasure.
So what! You’re just being pedantic. I bet you feel real good now don’tcha!!😇🤮
My problem is I’m only attracted to really good looking men. And they can always find someone more attractive than me.
Perhaps through connecting emotionally to more men you might develop more attraction than you thought you could.
Could you do a video on numbers and stats please? Eg what estimated % of women versis men are looking for a relationship, success rates under 40 versus over 40, stuff like that
Thanks for the suggestion. 🙏
Superb narrative and great clip. Th🎉
You're welcome!
Thank you so much for this video
You’re welcome!
I think this is all good stuff. I'm married but always interested in keeping love alive. I still want to attract my husband ❤
Thank you for watching.