Let $4,800 Stop Our Marriage?

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Комментарии • 718

  • @SwimSweetie100
    @SwimSweetie100 Год назад +130

    This dude is a joke. He’d rather his wife stay on the garbage state insurance then to act like a husband and take care for of each other

    • @kleindropper
      @kleindropper 10 месяцев назад +6

      I wonder what plan the kid is on. HIS kid

    • @karyndewit193
      @karyndewit193 5 месяцев назад +1

      Yup

    • @rachelmaddowswife8713
      @rachelmaddowswife8713 21 день назад +1

      Yeah, why should the tax payer fund his lifestyle? She's taking care of him and his child, not me, why am I on the hook for her bills? He's reaping all the benefits and someone else gets to cough up the cash. Also guaranteed he has one foot out the door and will abandon this woman and child altogether at the drop of the hat, meaning the tax payer will start having to pay their section 8 housing, food stamps, and care for this woman in her retirement. Man up or don't impregnate people!

  • @BaconMountainMan
    @BaconMountainMan Год назад +630

    He purchased a house with her, had a kid with her, and *now* he's agonizing over the cost of health insurance?! Bruh. 😅🤦‍♂️

    • @itisAlex_
      @itisAlex_ Год назад +27

      He’s not the smartest, obviously 😅

    • @johnSmith-uz8nl
      @johnSmith-uz8nl Год назад +40

      it is not just health insurance... it probably includes food stamps, monthly stipulations, dental insurance, free rehab, etc....

    • @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303
      @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 Год назад +18

      You kind of come to the realization that women cost a lot.

    • @Matt-sq5zw
      @Matt-sq5zw Год назад +16

      $5000+ a year richer or a piece of paper saying your married. I'll take the $5000 and my significant other agrees. That's almost 10% of their families yearly income

    • @johnSmith-uz8nl
      @johnSmith-uz8nl Год назад +6

      @@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 That is a really poor statement.

  • @danielrn133
    @danielrn133 Год назад +186

    "I would marry you, but I would have to pay more for health insurance". Dude is a pure romantic charmer.

    • @user-lf5bm5tm1q
      @user-lf5bm5tm1q 5 месяцев назад +2

      She picked him.

    • @Excalibur2
      @Excalibur2 4 месяца назад

      I will marry you, but you'll have to get a job to afford it... Would she still want marriage?

    • @lmfao69420
      @lmfao69420 4 месяца назад +1

      that rizz 😩😩

  • @handsomeawkward1822
    @handsomeawkward1822 Год назад +308

    The fact that men like this have women that want to marry them is most depressing.

    • @Nolaman70
      @Nolaman70 Год назад +14

      Women are becoming more and more desperate.

    • @handsomeawkward1822
      @handsomeawkward1822 Год назад +19

      @@Nolaman70 and yet I remain single. Most humbling indeed.

    • @poeticprincee9750
      @poeticprincee9750 Год назад +2

      @@Nolaman70 especially when they are near the age of 30+

    • @privacyplease1556
      @privacyplease1556 Год назад

      Women have low standards

    • @Tunechi65
      @Tunechi65 Год назад +5

      ​@@handsomeawkward1822 stop being awkward

  • @hollyb6885
    @hollyb6885 Год назад +367

    He doesn’t want to get married. He didn’t talk about love. He’s just crunching numbers.

    • @lajhoncampbell8141
      @lajhoncampbell8141 Год назад +16

      As he should!

    • @nessliestrife993
      @nessliestrife993 Год назад +29

      What man in their right mind today wants to get married.

    • @Nolaman70
      @Nolaman70 Год назад +4

      @@nessliestrife993 True Dat

    • @johnSmith-uz8nl
      @johnSmith-uz8nl Год назад +12

      @@nessliestrife993 One that wants kids... except this guy has already done that.

    • @hollyb6885
      @hollyb6885 Год назад +12

      @@lajhoncampbell8141 First, he should love her, then crunch the numbers. He doesn’t love her and he doesn’t want to get married.

  • @Anangelfromabove
    @Anangelfromabove Год назад +48

    “You’re looking to intellectualize something that’s an emotional and spiritual decision.” Love that.

    • @Excalibur2
      @Excalibur2 4 месяца назад

      But if someone wants to buy a house they can't afford, suddenly finances matter again, and that's for shelter. You don't need marriage.

  • @eurekahope5310
    @eurekahope5310 Год назад +308

    The fool in this scenario is the taxpayer. We pay this woman's bills because they are playing married in real life but not reporting joint income. He won't man up, so the rest of us have to pay for his "wife."

    • @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303
      @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 Год назад +3

      Ummm...you would have to anyway because unless married, some women do not work. She is an adult!

    • @JK-gi3ew
      @JK-gi3ew Год назад +13

      💯💯💯 These kinds of people annoy me!

    • @TehFlush
      @TehFlush Год назад +21

      ​@@stratelite1337 you're 12 bro

    • @luminous6969
      @luminous6969 Год назад +10

      I guess her womaning up isn't an option?

    • @TehFlush
      @TehFlush Год назад +5

      @@luminous6969 what would "womaning up" entail?

  • @maryellendoran8806
    @maryellendoran8806 Год назад +330

    I actually see this a lot. Many people with kids don't get married so the woman get can food stamps, Medicaid or low cost insurance, rental assistance, etc.. And then their children grow up and do the same. I don't know why many women accept this. It is time to reform the social service system. The rest of us are tired of getting ripped off.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 Год назад +15

      Especially since most women work full-time, whether they have kids or not.

    • @MaryBethMcCoy
      @MaryBethMcCoy Год назад +6

      Totally agree!

    • @JK-gi3ew
      @JK-gi3ew Год назад +5

      You are 💯 right!

    • @jeromehenry4484
      @jeromehenry4484 Год назад +24

      We have DNA testing, so it isn't hard to determine who the biological father is. Whether married or not, fathers should be on the hook to pay child support for children they create.

    • @peteranon8455
      @peteranon8455 Год назад +19

      I saw this in a special about destroying the black family. A good husband was considering divorcing his wife for the simple reason that she could collect more benefits by not being married to him.

  • @shykaliguy33
    @shykaliguy33 Год назад +228

    So this man is upset that he will have to pay for his future wife's Healthcare as opposed to the general public paying for it out large through Medicare. That is truly sad and pathetic

    • @Angaloth19
      @Angaloth19 Год назад +5

      👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

    • @georgewagner7787
      @georgewagner7787 Год назад +19

      We need to start petitioning our petitioning our local representatives to stop this nonsense. Why should we be paying people not to get married

    • @jesusisc0mings00n3
      @jesusisc0mings00n3 Год назад +9

      Medicaid, but yes

    • @jesusisc0mings00n3
      @jesusisc0mings00n3 Год назад +4

      @MasterShake89 I hear you. At this point, Medicaid for all is a better option than the idiocy we have now.

    • @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303
      @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 Год назад +2

      Well, technically, everyone should be treated as an adult and she is definitely not a kid so...

  • @annt2685
    @annt2685 Год назад +342

    Omg!! I think we should find his fiancé and tell HER to run!!!😂😂

    • @danielrn133
      @danielrn133 Год назад +22

      Totally agree. Get away from this guy.

    • @ykciR
      @ykciR Год назад

      Dude is a loser with that mind set.

    • @asnmdnss
      @asnmdnss Год назад +14

      Uh...they have a baby, own a house...etc 😂

    • @georgewagner7787
      @georgewagner7787 Год назад +8

      Too late, they have a kid

    • @djpuplex
      @djpuplex Год назад +16

      She's already baby trapped him now she wants spousal support on top of child support.

  • @radioheadfanlove
    @radioheadfanlove Год назад +18

    "C'mon supernerd" 😭😭😭😭 I love Dave SO much!!

  • @Dflonn
    @Dflonn Год назад +34

    "She desires to get married more than I have..."😢

  • @eurekahope5310
    @eurekahope5310 Год назад +12

    No cost healthcare is actually taxpayer paid healthcare. Man up and pay the bill!!!

  • @rexnicious
    @rexnicious Год назад +84

    Caller: we kind of went about our family a little backwards. Dave: Yah

    • @Lon1001
      @Lon1001 Год назад +3

      I know a lot of people that approached their relationship/family this way and all of them are still together and very loving, al the ones I know who insisted on getting married first are all divorced now.

    • @texan903
      @texan903 Год назад +1

      @@Lon1001 interesting. From my observations, I have seen the exact opposite. Those in this case who stayed married are miserably so, remaining together because they didn't want to split the assets.

    • @BlueDauntless
      @BlueDauntless 3 месяца назад

      @@Lon1001Because being willing to commit to life with someone over a child before marriage makes all the sense in the world.

  • @weaselton
    @weaselton Год назад +56

    Dave may not be a licensed therapist, but this was on the mark.

  • @LexieEclectic
    @LexieEclectic Год назад +23

    A child will tether you to someone. It's important to keep that in mind when you sleep with someone.

  • @matthewbianchi5152
    @matthewbianchi5152 Год назад +30

    To quote a Kenny Rogers...Know when to walk away, know when to run!

  • @joyt458
    @joyt458 Год назад +131

    Dave handled this one with grace as he always does.

  • @Summer_haiku
    @Summer_haiku Год назад +141

    😒😒it’s his baby mom, bet she and the kid are filing for social services and he wants the tax payers to keep paying for them

    • @perotal
      @perotal Год назад +15

      Don't hate the player, hate the game

    • @unelectedleader6494
      @unelectedleader6494 Год назад +14

      Exactly. He said as much.

    • @sidwhiting665
      @sidwhiting665 Год назад +31

      @@perotal no, I'm going to hate the actions of the player too... Just because it's legal doesn't mean it's moral. The Govt program was developed to help out a SINGLE mom with a child... but they've moved in together and are married in all ways except a piece of paper. So yeah, they absolutely are gaming the system and I'm not cool with paying for that... but I have to.

    • @Sophie3647s
      @Sophie3647s Год назад +3

      ​@@sidwhiting665No sorry there smart tax payers just payed for SVB

    • @beepersify
      @beepersify Год назад +1

      Why would he call in with this question then?

  • @paulstandaert5709
    @paulstandaert5709 Год назад +77

    It seems somewhat fraudulent to live with someone and have everything paid for, including tax dollar funded health care.

    • @deecali
      @deecali Год назад +7

      Exactly… that’s why so many don’t get married. They keep living off the system.

    • @Chadmlad
      @Chadmlad Год назад +2

      @@deecali Maybe fix the system then? Idk why everyones so upset about people choosing to not get married for financial reasons. If they can't afford it, they can't afford it. the $400+ of expenses a month to a 60k yearly income is a lot to bear to be legally married. This guy already has a family. Why should he get married? To make you feel better about about more people getting married?

    • @lesleyt7438
      @lesleyt7438 5 месяцев назад

      @@ChadmladYou missed the advice about the spiritual and emotional connection. Plus data was presented showing that married couples win financially the long run.

  • @JreiZz
    @JreiZz Год назад +112

    I think working alongside Dr. John has given Dave so much insight on these situations. He handled this so well. Not that he couldn’t have handled it before, but he speaks differently compared to 3-4 years ago. Very impressed.

    • @KC-kg3ld
      @KC-kg3ld Год назад +17

      Facts!!! Dr. John is an asset to the show.

    • @RalstigRacing
      @RalstigRacing Год назад +9

      @@KC-kg3ld Agreed. He’s my favorite personality.
      I’m glad that he speaks his opinion even if it disagrees with Dave.
      I think that’s one of (the many) reasons they hired him.

  • @SLangel18
    @SLangel18 Год назад +21

    Ummm wow he really doesn’t want to get married

  • @azteca6695
    @azteca6695 Год назад +15

    He's going to nickel and dime this relationship.

  • @Msteve-nt5bx
    @Msteve-nt5bx Год назад +110

    This poor girl. Hope she hears this call. If he bails because of this call, she's lucky.

    • @StandardMan0
      @StandardMan0 Год назад

      And what happens when her friends and parents hear the call from this loser???

    • @privacyplease1556
      @privacyplease1556 Год назад +5

      No she’s not. She’s a stay at home unmarried mother. If she leaves, she’s almost guaranteed a life of poverty

    • @StandardMan0
      @StandardMan0 Год назад +4

      @@privacyplease1556 that’s why he’s a double dirtbag- she’s a financial hostage when she should be an honorable woman and be married to a MAN instead of shacking up with an immature boy who wants to play “house.”

    • @reggiejenkins6458
      @reggiejenkins6458 Год назад +6

      She chose to get knocked up by a loser. She has the life she deserves, just like him.

    • @ctb3343
      @ctb3343 Год назад +1

      @@privacyplease1556 she has a life of poverty as is with a can kicker who doesn’t want her health insured because “the premiums will go up”. Her and the child has more value than to be hanging around with a can kicker.

  • @AC-qi9wo
    @AC-qi9wo Год назад +80

    But, he was willing to knock her up and create more drama in his life. Men wear condoms, and women be on Birth control, and STOP bringing these kid's into your messed up lives my Gosh.

    • @strangeroamer3219
      @strangeroamer3219 4 месяца назад

      It feels a lot better raw.

    • @Dontrolling
      @Dontrolling 4 месяца назад

      @@strangeroamer3219nobody’s denying that still irresponsible to bring a child into a world where you’re unhappy, unsatisfied and immature. Plan accordingly and if you’re going to be a family man BE THAT. Instant pleasure is the biggest problem of today.

  • @meishamom7298
    @meishamom7298 Год назад +17

    Why do people so want free stuff from the State instead of taking responsibility for themselves - such greedy people!! They will never get ahead! Pitiful 40 yr old!

  • @tode5675
    @tode5675 Год назад +20

    Weak men make hard times etc...

  • @jillianmcallister1012
    @jillianmcallister1012 6 месяцев назад +5

    Not getting married just to receive Medicaid is gross and morally wrong

  • @bobschnittman2856
    @bobschnittman2856 Год назад +6

    "come on super nerd" Dave cracks me up every time

  • @gregory4154
    @gregory4154 Год назад +23

    Because marriage has moved from a sacrament, to a contract, and now to a convenience. He's definitely on the convenience part.

    • @Lon1001
      @Lon1001 Год назад +1

      How is marriage a convenience to him, when he's not even married?? Sounds like more of an inconvenience since it will cost them a huge portion of their monthly take home pay.

    • @gregory4154
      @gregory4154 Год назад +1

      @@Lon1001 I don't mean that as a particular to him, but as a general statement to the state of marriage itself. Also, convenience is meant as the ancients understood it, not as the modern one you inputted. What you just wrote would be unintelligible to them, i.e. Aquinas, Farabi, Maimonides, Aristotle, etc.

    • @januaryriches3991
      @januaryriches3991 Год назад +1

      Amen

  • @thelovelykimmi7920
    @thelovelykimmi7920 Год назад +35

    He has a home with her, a child, and is hesitant on getting married over an insurance premium...When you get married, you also get tax credits. A lot of people just don't value marriage anymore and it's become disheartening.

    • @texan903
      @texan903 Год назад

      Tell the state to keep their sticky fingers out of the marriage business and cede it to the church, maybe people will value it again. Currently, as it is, marriage is a rip-off.

  • @christinebutler7630
    @christinebutler7630 Год назад +33

    So he wants her to be a housewife without the wife part, with no legal protections whatsoever when he decides to bail. So when he gets bored, she and the kid are on the street because she has no job and no recent work history. And no retirement, either. She's insane if she goes along with that.

    • @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303
      @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 Год назад +4

      Most women have to know that they need to be adults as well. I mean you guys can have kids, but that is no excuse.

    • @christinebutler7630
      @christinebutler7630 Год назад +9

      @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 that's exactly why I think being a stay at home mom is unwise. So is not having, and keeping up, a job skill adequate to pay for childcare as well as living expenses if you have to go solo. But part of being an adult is not being a pushover. And a legal contract is the least I'd expect if someone wanted me to take part in bringing a kid into the world.

    • @texan903
      @texan903 Год назад +3

      Had she been responsible, she would not be staring single motherhood in the face. She thought she would trap someone by becoming pregnant, so her plan worked to an extent but otherwise has backfired. Also, the guy needs a DNA test on the kid to confirm his parentage.

    • @sblijheid
      @sblijheid Год назад +1

      She's clearly a welfare queen who has the system figured out. It's just an unethical ordeal.

    • @BlueDauntless
      @BlueDauntless 3 месяца назад

      @@christinebutler7630And paying for other people to raise your children makes all the sense in the world? Not ever being home to be with your children makes sense? The best thing I can do for my kids, aside from staying with their dad, is to be here for them.

  • @sarahhunt2376
    @sarahhunt2376 Год назад +13

    It was $62 for our courthouse wedding. If you really want to get married, money and a dress won't hold you back

    • @elizabethallen4353
      @elizabethallen4353 Год назад +2

      I love it! Wish we had done it that way. Our wedding day was more than we two introverts wanted or needed. 😀

  • @vickieclark5931
    @vickieclark5931 Год назад +41

    I agree with John. Don't get married. This marriage is already set up to fail before even walking down the aisle. If he is worried about 5K, then there are other issues going on. And I do agree that he is finding reasons not to get married.

    • @firefly9838
      @firefly9838 Год назад +2

      It's just a ceremony. Who cares.

    • @Venusstar22
      @Venusstar22 Год назад +1

      ​@@firefly9838There is a HUGE difference between a wedding and a marriage. The 2 are not comparable.

    • @charleslavoie5402
      @charleslavoie5402 3 месяца назад

      Yeah
      One’s a funeral and the other is a life sentence.

  • @richardlazarus1738
    @richardlazarus1738 Год назад +82

    I sincerely thought Ramsey would tell him to sell the fiancé.

    • @mkay0502
      @mkay0502 Год назад +6

      No just the kids

    • @John3.36
      @John3.36 Год назад +4

      That would be Ramsey Saudi Arabia.

    • @dalewetzel3029
      @dalewetzel3029 Год назад

      Tell the fiance to get six jobs.

    • @alexpietsch7997
      @alexpietsch7997 Год назад

      Nah, Papa Dave always beats out beans and rice.
      He doesn't want this guy anywhere near his daughters so he's not letting him manipulate this woman

  • @katyedwards3935
    @katyedwards3935 Год назад +291

    This show's not just about FINANCE anymore. It's evolved into more of a LIFESTYLE show.

    • @danielrn133
      @danielrn133 Год назад +27

      This is why they brought Jon on board.

    • @vanesslifeygo
      @vanesslifeygo Год назад +75

      I mean, your lifestyle does affect how much money you have lol

    • @katyedwards3935
      @katyedwards3935 Год назад

      @@danielrn133 He mainly focusses on the mental side of things while George, Jade and Kristina do a little of everything and Ken focusses on career stuff.

    • @rpcp5v18
      @rpcp5v18 Год назад +3

      I couldn’t have said it better myself.​@@vanesslifeygo

    • @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303
      @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 Год назад

      The power of diversification.

  • @bradleymaravalli2851
    @bradleymaravalli2851 Год назад +14

    Two Words: Pre-marriage Counseling

  • @bradtech5874
    @bradtech5874 Год назад +13

    Its amazing how dave was just quiet understanding the background before speaking up

    • @Dflonn
      @Dflonn Год назад

      Experience from sticking one's foot in one's mouth.

  • @justinecorrington4106
    @justinecorrington4106 Месяц назад +2

    I honestly agreed with Dr. John; he doesn’t really want to get married; he’s looking for reasons to validate staying as roommates with benefits.

  • @G44052
    @G44052 Год назад +35

    This is not about money! Marriage just doesn’t make sense to him! He should know, that’s perfectly okay!

    • @johnSmith-uz8nl
      @johnSmith-uz8nl Год назад

      This is ONLY about money. Stay single and continue to abuse the welfare system OR get married and be completely off the system.

    • @texan903
      @texan903 Год назад

      Yep. After crunching the numbers, she just isn't worth it. That's perfectly acceptable. Women do it all the time. They make marriage and divorce decisions based on a man's income.

    • @kindredkey
      @kindredkey Год назад +1

      Sounds more like fear to me

    • @johnSmith-uz8nl
      @johnSmith-uz8nl Год назад +1

      @@kindredkey yah.... I guess we listened to two different videos.

  • @carlosmiro4932
    @carlosmiro4932 Год назад +13

    Marriage is not for everybody, especially in this day and age, but this guy now has a house and a child with his “fiancée (she’s really his roommate with benefits). It’s way too late to be philosophizing about getting married or not, he should never, ever had shaked up with her and they both would be much, much happier today.

  • @John3.36
    @John3.36 Год назад +10

    "Try it before you buy it." Ten years later after 'trying it', should I buy it?

  • @hengloke
    @hengloke Год назад +4

    You may not be aligned or even disagree with Ramsey's financial principles or views, but you gotta give to this guy--he sees through people, their background, and where they're coming from even on the phone.

  • @kokoskokso
    @kokoskokso Год назад +103

    That's not a nerd. That's a selfish man who's clearly not in love. Like they mentioned, a man who's madly in love would carry mountains to put a ring on the love of his life. I'm so sad for this woman who wasted years with this dude and even had a kid by him. Now he's counting pennies of his "love". Some people. 🙄

    • @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303
      @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 Год назад +13

      There is no love when divorce laws came into the picture.

    • @Matt-sq5zw
      @Matt-sq5zw Год назад +13

      How is he selfish for wanting his whole family to have more money?

    • @jimroscovius
      @jimroscovius Год назад +7

      ​@@Matt-sq5zw You get more money the right way - better jobs, cutting spending, use cash, etc.

    • @texan903
      @texan903 Год назад +3

      @Jim Roscovius no. His girlfriend needs to stop being selfish, lazy and manipulative and go to work.

    • @jimroscovius
      @jimroscovius Год назад

      @Air Force to Civilian Chronicles I agree with that. I and my wife both work, and we had kids too.

  • @chuckiedavidson719
    @chuckiedavidson719 Год назад +8

    I agree with John. He doesn’t need to get married. He is looking for a reason to not get married. Over the course of a year, $5k isn’t that hard to make up. If he wanted to get married a little bit of money won’t stop you. He would be thinking of ways to cover the difference rather than looking for a way out

    • @tsaunders4684
      @tsaunders4684 Год назад

      It's not that simple. He may not want to work a 2nd job and try to cover the different which will cause more stress and time. He's option would be lyfy, Uber or some type of delivery service which would cause more wear and tear and maintenance on his vehicle. In the end its not worth it and she probably not either.

    • @chuckiedavidson719
      @chuckiedavidson719 Год назад +1

      @@tsaunders4684 exactly my point if her value isn’t more than a car or finding a new job then they don’t need to get married. Wear and tear on your car is not a reason to call off a wedding. We’ve heard Dave say either paint or get off the ladder, he needs to go ahead and step down. He’s looking for reasons to not marry her when people that want to be married find reasons to do so.

    • @tsaunders4684
      @tsaunders4684 Год назад

      @@chuckiedavidson719 But he knows there really no upside for him to marry her. I'm sure he taking care of his child. Marriage is just not worth it for most men today. There really no upside for him while risking having to pay alimony down the road. The divorce rate is now over 60% in America just in case you didn't know.

  • @EJ-vn4pv
    @EJ-vn4pv Год назад +10

    Just say you don’t wanna get married my dude

  • @austinduke8876
    @austinduke8876 Год назад +45

    I don't know why but Dave calling this dude "Super nerd" is the kind of energy I want to carry in to Friday.

    • @OTOWN2STOCKTOWN
      @OTOWN2STOCKTOWN Год назад +1

      He would never say the same with a female caller, challenge me

  • @itisAlex_
    @itisAlex_ Год назад +7

    Their faces through this call 😅🤣😂

  • @suek7086
    @suek7086 Год назад +7

    I love Dave’s comments as well as Johns advice.

  • @dalewetzel3029
    @dalewetzel3029 Год назад +3

    Never have I heard someone like this guy. Good grief.

  • @Kysen10
    @Kysen10 Год назад +14

    HAHAHA Dave's reaction! 1:48

    • @60Airflyte
      @60Airflyte Год назад

      It really starts just after 1:35 🤔😳😆

  • @eugenawoodson3816
    @eugenawoodson3816 Год назад +17

    Another call confirming I need to stay single....
    Dr. D's first response was the right response, "DON'T GET MARRIED"....

  • @adamjanowski84
    @adamjanowski84 Год назад +3

    You guys did a tremendous job with the advice and the delivery thereof

  • @SusanMarie3
    @SusanMarie3 Год назад +1

    Their faces while the callers talking 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @ethxo6734
    @ethxo6734 Год назад +25

    Glad my taxes are paying for your families health insurance. Ridiculous.

    • @jimmymcgill6778
      @jimmymcgill6778 Год назад +3

      He is paying his own.

    • @ethxo6734
      @ethxo6734 Год назад

      @@jimmymcgill6778 and he doesn’t want to add his gf to his plan because Uncle Sam (we the people) are funding her healthcare.

    • @ethxo6734
      @ethxo6734 Год назад

      @@silentnot4812 exactly …

    • @60Airflyte
      @60Airflyte Год назад +2

      @@jimmymcgill6778 but we’re paying for his family; wife and child.

    • @johnSmith-uz8nl
      @johnSmith-uz8nl Год назад

      That is what bothers you? Not the fact that Warren Buffet pays 0.1% in taxes and he is one of the richest people in the world. But that someone who is on welfare, and perhaps should be on welfare may or may not get married due to losing benefits. You are watching to much foxnews cause welfare is not the problem... and I believe we need to be providing more money and more benefits to people on welfare.

  • @davesrvchannel4717
    @davesrvchannel4717 Год назад +3

    Don’t walk down the aisle, until you are so eager that you desire to run down the aisle

  • @bgbell3049
    @bgbell3049 Год назад +2

    Hurray for Dave!

  • @rcairforceone
    @rcairforceone Год назад +23

    Supernerd 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @jimmymcgill6778
    @jimmymcgill6778 Год назад +17

    Marriage is not about money. Sounds like he would be too controlling in the future.

    • @willjean1614
      @willjean1614 Год назад +4

      Marriage is about money, how she’s going to be an stay at home mom is there’s no money coming

    • @johnSmith-uz8nl
      @johnSmith-uz8nl Год назад +1

      @@willjean1614 It is not about no money coming... it is about if they get married she will lose her welfare benefits. This guy makes money... but if they do get married she losses her welfare benefits and some things like health insurance will go up.

    • @jimmymcgill6778
      @jimmymcgill6778 Год назад

      @@willjean1614 You know what I mean.

  • @francisebbecke2727
    @francisebbecke2727 Год назад +11

    I would have a hard time keeping a straight face with this one. Good work hosts!

  • @XXnickles
    @XXnickles Год назад +14

    Did I hear wrong, or he suggested the son is not his (around 3:18)? If so, I understand this guy concerns, and he SHOULD NOT marry. Otherwise, he is trying to avoid responsibility...that is not good.

    • @LittleMopeHead
      @LittleMopeHead Год назад +2

      ^Watch further back, 3:00

    • @XXnickles
      @XXnickles Год назад +3

      @@LittleMopeHead I heard that. Why he said "her son", not "our son"...it doesn't add.

    • @LittleMopeHead
      @LittleMopeHead Год назад

      @@XXnickles I heard "our son" originally, but now that you mentioned it, not sure anymore.

  • @susanandthomaspackard7480
    @susanandthomaspackard7480 Год назад +1

    Great words by Mr. Ramsey!

    • @amytaylor5454
      @amytaylor5454 Год назад

      Hello there👋👋,how are you doing today?hope all is good at your end? always keep your faith in Jesus Christ our savior and you’re blessed today.Amen!

  • @joeacollins
    @joeacollins Год назад +1

    Thank you for this clip. Needed to hear some of what they said today.

  • @m0kn33marc
    @m0kn33marc Год назад +11

    Most marriages end over finances and divorces are most often initiated by women so...don't feel bad about weighing the financial cost of marriage...she's likely doing the same thing.

    • @privacyplease1556
      @privacyplease1556 Год назад

      It’s the opposite for her. She needs to calculate the costs of being unmarried. If he plots before her and they don’t get married, she is homeless with a baby and his parents get his estate

  • @jimroscovius
    @jimroscovius Год назад +2

    The insurance on my wife and I costs $1320/mo. Should I divorce her because my insurance would go down? What a stupid question!!

    • @15KHPCLUB
      @15KHPCLUB Год назад

      Of course, why would you leave your sugar mama?
      What a stupid question!

  • @dougholdem2898
    @dougholdem2898 Год назад +67

    Don't get married unless you really believe it's the right next move for you. Go with your gut instinct. Don't let others talk you into it.

    • @spiritualcosmeticss
      @spiritualcosmeticss Год назад +17

      Depending on what state he’s in he is already common law married. 🤷🏽‍♀️ how about don’t have a kid with someone you wouldn’t marry!?!?But too often this isn’t the case.

    • @chrisconsorte7893
      @chrisconsorte7893 Год назад +6

      That's what happened to me in 2004. When I was engaged to my ex-wife, our parents were pestering us on when we are going to officially tie the knot. All of our friends at the time were getting married so we did it to keep up with the Jones's. This should have been an omen, but I just didn't think of it back then. But this is an omen for sure, when we returned from our honeymoon, the city of San Jose lost our marriage license and we had to go before a judge to fix the problem. My instincts were telling that was very odd, but I thought it could laugh at it in the future. Little did I know that was a sign of what was yet to come. I've been divorced since 2011 without children. I learned a valuable lesson don't get married unless it's the right move without a reasonable doubt.

    • @johnSmith-uz8nl
      @johnSmith-uz8nl Год назад

      @@spiritualcosmeticss OK, common law marriage but the gov't does not investigate this type of marriage

    • @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303
      @wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 Год назад +1

      It is religion. They need to not only have a class in finance, but also in divorce.

    • @Carolina480
      @Carolina480 Год назад

      @@chrisconsorte7893 we just don’t listen to our gut intuition and everything happening to avoid the situation but I’m glad yu divorced and even better no kids no child support no ex drama always listen to the universe talking to us

  • @alonzo199572
    @alonzo199572 Год назад +12

    How come he didn't mentioned the payroll tax deduction for the health insurance and the double standard deduction for tax savings

  • @grammysapeep9013
    @grammysapeep9013 Год назад +2

    I was raised to detest the idea of accepting any kind of govt assistance. It's that mode of thinking completely foreign now?

  • @angelag.3266
    @angelag.3266 Год назад +1

    If I was his fiancé and head this call, I would run. So far, so fast. I get people are deep into the data sometimes, but if you have to talk yourself into it, it’s not right.

  • @reyon33
    @reyon33 Год назад +33

    This woman gave you the highest honor she can give you, which is giving you a child. There is no amount of money in the world can reward her for this.

  • @MrTmenzo
    @MrTmenzo Год назад +18

    If you want to save on healthcare you can both join the army reserves lol

    • @mcookiecandylover
      @mcookiecandylover Год назад

      A wimp like him would never make it in the military. He’s not a man he’s a little boy.

  • @Sfount
    @Sfount Год назад +59

    I could not even listen to this whole conversation because of how nerdy and out of touch this guy is. How did Dave not hang up on him 😂

    • @melissab0515
      @melissab0515 Год назад +6

      I can’t stand this guy!! I heard it on the full show and listened again now. It’s nauseating!

    • @picadosinferno
      @picadosinferno Год назад

      So being nerdy os disgusting to you? You wouldn't be watching RUclips if it wasn't for a nerdy guy

    • @jeromehenry4484
      @jeromehenry4484 Год назад +6

      Caller sounds like a guy that hasn't come to terms with his own homosexuality. He is in this "relationship" as a cover.

    • @tsaunders4684
      @tsaunders4684 Год назад +3

      ​@@jeromehenry4484 No he is not. He just using logic and knows deep down inside that he shouldn't get married.

    • @jeromehenry4484
      @jeromehenry4484 Год назад +2

      @@tsaunders4684 He shouldn't be creating children he has no intention of financially supporting, leaves taxpayers footing his financial responsibilities as a biological father. By the way, there is probably more than just medical insurance subsidy, like food stamps, Life Line, ACP, etc.
      Don't understand why you want to support some other man's child when you didn't get to sleep with the mother at least once.

  • @bob007fl
    @bob007fl Год назад

    yes Dave is right on all fronts...thanks Dave!

    • @steelcastle5616
      @steelcastle5616 Год назад +3

      Not really.
      It's obvious this guy doesn't want to get married.
      His stated reason NOT to get married is 5K.
      That's not a good start for a successful marriage.

    • @mattcoorey2580
      @mattcoorey2580 Год назад

      @@steelcastle5616
      No what’s obvious for his income level 5 k is massive.

  • @jeretso
    @jeretso Год назад +40

    She qualifies for cheap healthcare probably because she is low income. After you get married she will no longer qualify with married dual income. Time to get married and let someone else with lower income have that money.

    • @alonzo199572
      @alonzo199572 Год назад +2

      How come he didn't mention the payroll tax deduction or double the standard deduction savings?

    • @georgewagner7787
      @georgewagner7787 Год назад +8

      Really. Stop taking money from the neighbors and pay for your own family

    • @stud6414
      @stud6414 Год назад +1

      $60K is low income

    • @panzer_TZ
      @panzer_TZ Год назад +3

      I agree, but can understand where he's coming from. When you're lower-to-mid middle class, you make enough to where to you don't qualify for anything, but you don't make enough to where stuff like healthcare and education are still really expensive for you. $5000/year is pretty substantial on an average salary. That's just in premiums. He also mentions that his deductibles would double, which means one unexpected hospital visit could be an even bigger blow. Anyone saying they wouldn't at least have similar thoughts in a similar situation is cap.

    • @stud6414
      @stud6414 Год назад +1

      @@panzer_TZ exactly. It's better to keep the girlfriend and the child on the free service. He makes 60K per year so he's paying taxes.

  • @anthonywebster8638
    @anthonywebster8638 Год назад +10

    The simps keep simping.

  • @unelectedleader6494
    @unelectedleader6494 Год назад +7

    They are already common law married. And 5k is a lot out of his meager earnings. Just get good life insurance and estate planning in place and enjoy being common law married

    • @om617yota7
      @om617yota7 Год назад +2

      Not all states have common law marriage.

    • @Joseph565112
      @Joseph565112 Год назад

      They all do. Go before the judge, owning a house and having a baby and the judge is gonna treat you like the husband end of discussion. It is what it is.

  • @eemr8439
    @eemr8439 Год назад +5

    The health insurance issue is just an excuse for him not to get married. If both of them are healthy they can go with a High Deductible Plan and cut their monthly premiums by more than half and open an HSA and stash money there tax free. A lot of people think they need to go with a co-pay insurance but an HSA is a great tool to save in taxes and get an affordable health insurance.

  • @kurtk2322
    @kurtk2322 Год назад +4

    He should not get married. The marriage will fail. He doesn’t know what love is.

  • @TaishaArena
    @TaishaArena Год назад +45

    Great advice! I can attest to the marriage advantage. There is favor in doing it God's way. As he designed it to be. God bless 🙌

    • @JohnPaul-ol5zl
      @JohnPaul-ol5zl Год назад +3

      Agreed. If the two individuals take courtship patiently to make sure they both Yoke together properly, the marriage works out. There will be bumps along the Road Way, but they are marble size bumps not bowling balls. It is doable and manageable as long as you are following God's direction.
      Non-religious individuals will dismis marriage as oppressive and useless and replace it with a life of lust, selfishness, unhealthy lifestyle that they call good. It is sad but true.

    • @TaishaArena
      @TaishaArena Год назад +1

      @@JohnPaul-ol5zl Amen!

    • @jimroscovius
      @jimroscovius Год назад +2

      Absolutely!!

    • @hiteshadhikari
      @hiteshadhikari Год назад +1

      Women always can attest to benifits

  • @louisk319
    @louisk319 Год назад +4

    There’s a saying for what he is going through ‘paralysis by analysis’

  • @mattjaps995
    @mattjaps995 Год назад +1

    Soeaking as a man there is nothing more incredible on this planet then when a woman looks you straight in the eye and yes I want to marry you. I have been married for seventeen years. Forget about the economics my friend. It's not just a piece of paper. Marriage means so much more.

  • @yihanwang2040
    @yihanwang2040 6 месяцев назад

    The deductibles are also hahahahaha

  • @toddaustin2198
    @toddaustin2198 Год назад +4

    The caller makes all of us Nerds look bad.

  • @HabibPharmacy
    @HabibPharmacy Год назад

    Good sharing 🤗💗

  • @m.c.n.8738
    @m.c.n.8738 Год назад +9

    I'm curious about (and concerned for) the possible future wife. Is she as FRUGAL as he is? OMG! This could be a turning point. I'm surprised that no one discussed the possible expenses of a wedding or an engagement ring. Not everyone needs a huge diamond or wants a lavish ceremony, but these traditional wedding luxuries also signify commitment to one another and the entire process of planning and budgeting a wedding hinges on shared values. There's chivalry in wanting to provide for the love of your life.

  • @elizabethallen4353
    @elizabethallen4353 Год назад +1

    He sounds a little like Sheldon from The Big Bang. 😆 She should run.

  • @jreinel1966
    @jreinel1966 Год назад +3

    This guy is the perfect example of a lot of americans crying about health insurance cost,not because they don't earn the money to pay,they just don't want to spend money this way..!

  • @AllynHin
    @AllynHin Год назад +3

    Not much was said about the child they have together. If you think enough about her to have her birth your child, you need to put a ring on it, right now.

    • @TShirtAndReeboks
      @TShirtAndReeboks Год назад +5

      Right? Don't make someone a mother that you would not make a wife!

  • @calibrial
    @calibrial Год назад

    Dave's face at 1:35 😂

  • @diytacoma5758
    @diytacoma5758 Год назад +2

    Sounds like they are playing the system😅

  • @alinkuri4429
    @alinkuri4429 Год назад +3

    This dude does not want to get married, he shall listen to his guts.

  • @bgbell3049
    @bgbell3049 Год назад +3

    She can do so much better. Get up the courage and get out. She deserves a good man not this creep

  • @biskit7
    @biskit7 4 месяца назад +2

    Well he has the cake and isn't paying for it, yea he is not interested in paying now!

    • @Excalibur2
      @Excalibur2 4 месяца назад

      Living the dream

  • @CarrieV9
    @CarrieV9 Год назад +3

    Sorry, this guy doesn’t sound like husband material …. On many levels

  • @cutlerylover
    @cutlerylover Год назад +7

    realistically whats the breaking point then? $4800 is not enough to stop a marriage but what is? 10K? 50K a million" I mean if someone called and told Dave Im in love and make 35k a year but getting married means taking on my finances $800k debt he would say dont get married lol...

    • @LittleMopeHead
      @LittleMopeHead Год назад +4

      You may be missing the point.

    • @russle1054
      @russle1054 Год назад

      4800 extra per year is an extra 400 per month which seems like a lot but its not as much as some guys take on getting into marriage. Especially if they are taking on by themselves the burden of providing for their wife or kids

    • @cutlerylover
      @cutlerylover Год назад +1

      @@russle1054 Its 2023 I know sooo many people with kids together 10+ years never married for various reasons...Its normal now to me I feel like if you have kids you SHOYUDL be married but times have changed...

    • @eurekahope5310
      @eurekahope5310 Год назад +2

      We are getting duped. We pay fiance's healthcare because they didn't get the license. She reports little to no income but they, best I can tell, live as married. He created the baby who apparently keeps her from working more.
      I am sick of paying the bills for couples like this...

    • @johnSmith-uz8nl
      @johnSmith-uz8nl Год назад

      We are talking about WELFARE. So saying a million is just stupid.

  • @cyoohoos
    @cyoohoos Год назад +2

    HE DOES NOT WANT YOU

  • @trebmaster
    @trebmaster Год назад +8

    I'm noticing the "my fiancee" was said way more often than you'd expect him to say the word "she". Wondering if it's a cover.

    • @jimmymcgill6778
      @jimmymcgill6778 Год назад +4

      The way he sounds, yeah. If he said the truth, Dave wouldn't let him on the show.

    • @flashthecorgi2053
      @flashthecorgi2053 Год назад +3

      Shows you didn’t watch this video he clearly said she at 3:17

  • @RebeccaRaven
    @RebeccaRaven 5 месяцев назад

    Listening to the opening, I was putting up the storm shutters.
    Did he look at the tax advantages?

  • @kokoskokso
    @kokoskokso Год назад +5

    Poor woman. 😢

    • @dbtech4562
      @dbtech4562 Год назад +1

      She has woman powers in the dating world.. When she had enough, she will swap him out for another man. It is easy for women.

    • @kokoskokso
      @kokoskokso Год назад +1

      @@dbtech4562 not true at all

    • @dbtech4562
      @dbtech4562 Год назад

      @@kokoskokso Forgot that women don’t date down and focus on the bad boys. Women go after the top 10 percent of men and 90 percent of men are invisible to them.

  • @joechang8696
    @joechang8696 Год назад +4

    math and wife's feelings - brutal