My Husband Left Me When I Was 9 Months Pregnant!
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The judge is gonna tear this guy to shreds
Mr Big Time no she doesn't because the court always favors the mother. Always
Johnny Bravo OH is no Community State! He's toast!
Not in Illinois. It's a no fault state.
He's going to pay at least 3k in child support a month, especially since she's not working.
...unless the 3rd baby belongs to another man
I have 3 kids with my wife. I would rather die than abandon them. They are my everything
G Ks unless she cheated on you or something. You don’t know the whole story. She’s clearly gonna make a one sided claim. He’s a monster and she’s a complete victim, I wanna hear what he has to say
Shad there’s literally no excuse for abandoning your children. Leaving a woman is one thing but leaving your children is sad. He’s a sorry excuse of a man. Sad how a lot of men can abandon there children like it’s nothing.
Monique Lovexxx Monique Lovexxx I said in my post about the video that this is likely a one sided claim. She’s painting him out to be a monster. How do you know that she’s being completely truthful without hearing his side of the story? Plus my reply to this guy was strictly about his wife not his kids as you notice I use the word “she” not “they.” It’s also sad that when a man doesn’t want a woman she and the courts also assume that he doesn’t want his children.
@@Jay-om8gr men like you are really pathetic. You want to be the head but refuse to take any accountability for your actions, always looking to blame someone else.
Baby G accountability??? How can you say that when you don’t know the entire situation. Again, I said I need to hear from him before casting aspersions. Go ahead and jump the gun on a one sided claim. Enjoy
To divorce your wife at the point when she will deliver your third child is unconscionable.
Maybe it's not his
Other dead beat dads will defend his actions and make excuses, I guarantee it
To be gone the day she gets home from the hospital after delivering that child is even more revolting
He is a real gem of a man.I hope he gets everything he deserves-which is nothing.
This didn't go Rocky overnight. This is probably why she got pregnant. She thought it would make him stay. It was probably Rocky when they bought the house too.
I predict in 5 years her life will be WAY better than had that man stayed married to her. It's hard. She will be fine
My husband left me when my twins were 3 month old. I thank god everyday that he left because I met a wonderful men and so happy now
Amen! This is soooo true!!!!
@Bestgirl If a simp was a good father and husband, sure lol
Not much of a loss of this loser!
Your a good man
As soon as she said "I am a believer, so I know he holds my future, but I'm afraid" I literally burst into tears. There's so much power in admitting that you're afraid.
All things Teacher Edition Fear Not
Believe in Christ or nor, he is not going to give you money.
God ain’t real
To be honest, though, if you know someone has your back, you don't get scared.
Probably the reason for the divorce. Living with someone who insists on you sharing their beliefs will drive you away. Then you get blamed for leaving. Religion was one of the things that caused my parents to divorce.
I feel like you can almost hear the woman become more relieved as the call goes on. Especially when he kept telling her "you're in control", I think that made her feel better about things.
I though jebus was in control? Looks like 2 men let this woman down
Nicole Oliver agreed.he is a decent man
@Ry Mo Wrong. She birthed children who the man also had a part in creating and she stays home to care for them. She is also educated and still works from home part-time. It sucks to be a man making bad decisions and having to pay for them.
Sometimes God acts in the most unexpected way. The key is not to lose hope. Noah waited many years for the flood to over and so did many of other Bible characters and us. I agree that sometimes it feels like there’s no way out. But I believe that God will intervene with perfect timing as long as we have hope in Him. I know a woman who experienced something very familiar to this lady, but she was able to through all that by God’s graces, and after all she was able to grow spiritually and eventually able to forgive her husband. You might not agree with what I said above, but that’s okay. I used to asked questions like why did God allow bad things to happen and struggle to understand how people are still at peace after all what they went through. I honestly can’t imagine doing that without God.
Anyway, I just want to share that God has never failed to abandon anyone who hope for His coming although sometimes it’s temped to feel so. I wish you peace, love, and happiness in your life.
@@lananhnguyen7415 no that's called life and it's time to grow up we don't live in the dark ages anymore God doesn't exsist and I can prove it
You guys are talking about “there’s two sides to every story” like the man doesn’t have multiple kids, a pregnant wife, a gambling addiction and no savings. His side doesn’t matter at this point he’s failed his family and there’s no excuse tor that.
Whitney nooooo it does! This is why public opinion is so toxic! U already condemned the man without a fair trial. Im not saying hes right but u should ALWAYS hear the full story before making a decision !
Whitney Absolutely! I can't believe the "two sides to every story" bs. He shouldn't have made THREE kids with her if he was going to leave. And the gambling is a dealbreaker!
Lisa Stevens FYI a gambling addiction just doesnt come outta know where! It hard for me to believe she didnt suspect anything within at 3 yr period of knowing him. Im assuming she let things slide under the rug because hes the breadwinner thus not a dealbreaker for her right? So yea there is always two side to a story and never let ur emotions sway u from the fact of both sides. For all we know they could be both idiots!
You are exactly right!! It doesn’t matter what his side is. His left this woman in a bind. She literally doesn’t know what to do.
Carlton Henry sure yet he did her dirty, & I doubt anything he has to say can justify that. And had she known about the gambling debt earlier on, what do you suggest she do? What does her knowing or not knowing has to do with the manner in which HE ended the marriage? Are you saying the gambling debt is her fault for not knowing? You sound like someone who would spend as he pleases & the woman can tell you nothing. No really, what side does she have in his gambling debt unless she gambled too - which she didn't. She's the victim here on the gambling issue - imagine how scary it would be for her to be blindsided by her bank account being seized or the police knocking on her door with a lien.
This is why Women need their own money
Debra Williams amen
Yes! Being a stay at home mom or wife without her own way to have and make money is risky business!
This is why women need to avoid putting all the burden and responsibility on men. She thought her job was to pressure hubby into a $105k salary.
Where did anyone say she was pressuring him into a higher salary? Didn't she say she works from home? I must be missing something. He has a gambling problem and left the marriage.
My ex has lived with his parents for the last 10.5yrs and barely made min wage (despite degree) and now is unemployed. I make 6 figures. SO glad I’m not in a situation where I depend on his piddly support for my kids.
As a man who just had a second child with my wife, I couldn’t even imagine being that big of a POS.
Let us know how that works out in 10 years
eclipseNF Just stop talking.
Nathan Manns Unfortunately, they are everywhere...
If he's a good man he probably found a good woman so I'd say in 10, 20 years he will be just fine.
Abu Mansaray Divorce rate is falling. People are making smarter partner decisions.
Hang in there momma... My youngest was 3 months old when my ex-husband left. I was a stay at home mom too. God love you... He will never leave you.
I'm right there right now
Why wouldn't god just have found her a better man to begin with? This is no surprise to god, it's his plan.
Joe Coolioness Lol that’s not how that works. It’s called free will.
Same here, my baby was 3 months old when I got the divorce papers, and he wants spousal and child support... well needless to say things did not got his way in court... all is good
@@joecoolioness6399 um... because marriage and finding a person to marry is a CHOICE. She chose him and he chose her... God has nothing to do with that. what kind of illogical question is this lol...
I can't imagine ever letting my wife go through this. She is too beautiful of a soul.
Jonathan --- The night is dark and somber when the mind comprehends that souls are fluid. That allegiances shift like the rolling tide in the game of vows.
TT
they all do
Get off the drugs my guy
Not everyone has the same wife. It could be she was abusive psychopath pregnant or not.
Omg. My daughter got married in 2019 and just had a 4 months baby and her husband left her. He took everything and left her with $30 dollars in the account. This is devastated. My daughter just graduated as a civil engineer but just started her job. Praying for her
I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay
Whtsaap him"**
+2348140799323⏩⏩⏭⏭
@Red Roses it is. Thanks so much 🙏
There's another women. Men don't leave to go be single.
Bingo!
Yep, they always have another port for any storm.
If the woman is insane they do.
@Shake hir my hubby's coworker did exactly this. His wife was a fool for taking him back. He only came back because he found out that the grass wasn't greener on the other side.
@LifeBidder not really 'smart' if they were dumb enough to get married first.
Wow😲! This is why woman who are stay at home moms should have a degree, trade, or something to fall back on in case your husband leaves.
Katrina Umana she said she has a degree
There are a lot of people calling into this show with a lot of student loan debt for degrees they didn't use though.
Exactly.
Katrina Umana even with degrees stay at home moms have a hard time getting back into their field..
@@supersqueak the point is she has it already completed and can fall back on it if she wants.
"If I was your daughter what would you do Dave?" Dave stares off blankly for a second and does a mental inventory of his weapons safe. "I am getting low gun oil and I need to get some hollow point bullets" Dave daydreams for a while then snaps back to reality. "Um....uh....make sure you get a good lawyer" he replies.
Best comment by far!!! Hahahahaaaa
This comment is even funnier due to the fact that he actually admitted to being a "gun guy" in one of his other videos :D
guy is gonna get reamed by the courts.
XD, Oh my gosh best comment ever about dave ramsey dude. Yes he has admitted he has a gun collection for no reason other than liking guns.
😄😄
Told his wife he was tithing to the church and was paying gambling debts instead, yeah in the long run it will be good that you let this one go.
I Should Know This --- Tithing is worse. At least gambling debt is trying to win it back 🤣
God is going to step in on that one
God pays you back! Atlantic city doesn't.
@@georgewagner7787 so very true! Thanks
Bet she getting stranger D from the church
Dave gave her the best advice!! It’s all about the kids and what they deserve. Forget his side and her side.
Forget his side, but it's not all about the kids. It's about her to. She married an awful person who left her with kids.
Judge will take him to the cleaners...good to see shell be ok...hope he gets help though gambling is a disease..
My wife knows my activities and knows where I am 100% of the time. And vice versa. The more honest you are, the better for the marriage.
When’s the divorce ?
My husband and I have two boys that will be three and two next month. I am also due with our third boy next month as well. He just left us. He took the car, ran our account into debt. Im a stay at home mom.
I needed this video. Thank you❤
You are in my thoughts. My husband and I were together for over 15 years (high school sweethearts), 9 years married. We have a 2 1/2 year old boy and I am expecting our second child. When I was 19 weeks pregnant he left me for his mistress. Lawyer up. Document everything. Get a temporary hearing done ASAP to protect you and your children until the final hearing. Lots of states do not allow divorce while the wife is pregnant. Get all his financial documents in order. Even though there can be debt that's consider martial debt if you can prove it is on gambling, drinking, and partying, etc that debt can be put on him. I am a stay at home mom too. Please feel free to reach out to me if you need someone to talk to.
So sorry :( I know I don’t know you but you can always message me if you need someone to talk to.... going through something similar rn :’(
Bummer. A lot of men leave around the second or third child. That's why it's important that stay at home moms have an education to fall back on. Sign up for online courses if need be. Lord knows there are a zillion online certification and degree programs.
This is the video that made me really like Dave Ramsey as a person and not just as a financial advisor. The way he was able to help this woman and calm her down was great
Dave made her feel better in a five minute phone call than a year of counseling could do
How is this caller now? I wish her all the luck in the world.
Tanja Lentzy how is the husband now I wish him all the luck in the world
@zadose men like this are real losers.
@Z Taco he probably left her for another woman. Men don’t just get up and leave like that for no reason- especially when he’s pushing a divorce like that (the other woman is pushing him to do it). Also abandoning her when she just gave birth to their 3rd child is very low.
How is she now...probably a lot happier.
Ladies be careful when choosing a father for your children
Hahahaha. ..I love how Dave said "goooood" about the her car lease, in his name & the new car he just got in his name 🤣🤣🤣.
mickyunit yea that was hilarious.
Lol I cant. Let him have the shiny stuff. The worst is yet to come.
Right?? All these financial decisions he’s made, the judge will look at it and may be like, “Since you can afford these shiny new toys, you will have no problem with paying HALF of your income to your three kids. Case dismissed. Next!”
Smileyyy21 wrong if he is smart he will start a side company put it in a s Corp and pay a third party that will pay you. Break them off a few bucks for their troubles and live like a king pay minimums to support and get it to where she is begging you to take kids from her custody.
Really? Why? Man-hating feminist divorce courts who take lying scunts at their word are nothing to cherish.
She needs a good divorce lawyer immediately.
This is a very sad story. At the beginning of the call, she mentioned having a faith. Hope she gets connected to a church where she and her kids can receive support during this season of her life.
90 Seconds Of Motivation yeah brainwashing helps a lot
“Im a believer in Christ”
'Rots of Ruck' as Scooby Do would say. I single-mommed it for 15 years after my 1st ex left me when our baby was 3 months old, and my 2nd husband I left after he came out of the closet as a bisexual transgender who wanted an open marriage. Over the course of 15 years I received from the church 3 bags of groceries and $2000 total. I'm not complaining per se, but saying that the church 'family' doesn't have the 'vision' to REALLY help the single mom. They may sound sincere but are unreliable. They'll pat you on the head, give you a line like 'don't worry this will pass' and hope you go away. Single moms are marginalized both inside and outside the church. How did I make it? I worked as many jobs as possible just to make ends meet, only one of the fathers paid child support of $190/month (he is self employed and hid his earnings really well), and I gave my kids every ounce of my time when I was around. I burned the candle at both ends, works and did little sleeping, and now suffer w/ autoimmune disorders (more than 1 of them). I did the best I could under the circumstances. It was not easy to say the least.
Cl ju
Its too bad all religions are embarrassing fairytales that take your money and sell you a false sense of immortality
It's crazy how people are so ready to bash single mothers. Men really. They always say "get married and you wouldn't have been a single mother" this story is a perfect example that marriage does not guarantee you won't be a single mother, it lessons the chances, but it's not a guarantee.
The man, he definitely sounds like he has another woman. Men usually cheat on women when they are pregnant because the vulnerability. He will have his karma. Trust me, they always do!
btaylor tv if women kept their legs closed until after marriage there would be a LOT less single moms in the world.
@@DianddraD If men kept their pants zipped, there wouldn't be so many single moms as well. It takes two.
@@chocolatecuban sure.
@magiesqstood saying most women. Women arent even giving birth as much as they used to. You're living in delusion land
@@DianddraD men impregnated 20 women in the same year. Its scientifically not possible to blame women only when we can get pregnant again until the baby is born. You understand?
GOD BLESS YOU DAVE FOR BEING SUCH A GOOD PERSON LIFTING THIS WOMAN UP & ENCOURAGING HER
- *Get a good divorce attorney.*
- House appraisal.
- Sell the house & reinvest the loot in a college savings or stocks or downpayment for another house
- Pocket every gain, Give him all debt
- If there's another woman in his picture: make sure the divorce order secures his assets for the kids for when he dies, that way the order takes precedent over him starting a new family.
tpamel that’s right.
tpamel College! She gotta feed them first!
Debra Williams yes, but I think she should feed her kids via her earnings from a job rather than spend the loot.
I personally would:
- set that money in a trust fund for each kids for them to get half at age 25, & the other half at age 30.
- have kids can pay for their own college education. It wouldn't hurt to save some money (I would use part of the child support & alimony payments) into a stock/mutual fund & let it sit until the child is college ready. No to me putting my name on a student loan.
- Get a 1-2 bedroom apartment & rebuild. Mind you, this lady has to plan to afford the mortgage, utiities, insurance, & repairs on her own in case he decides to be a deadbeat. Gambling problem = definitely not waging my room & board on him being reliable, had that been me. I would get a 1 bedroom apartment, put my kids in the bedroom & me in the living room + a DIY privacy curtain (I don't need to entertain), then save and find a better paying job so I can afford a better accomodation. Or just get a 2 bedroom & the kids just have to share a room - mind you, the newborn will be next to me for the first almost 2 years anyways. The kids will be okay with less space.
Isn't most debt acquired during the marriage the responsibility of both, even if she didn't know? I have heard that it is in some states.
@@Meira750 the debt ratio would have to be proven as her using a ton of money on nails hair etc as her being a stay at home mom....but she is also bringing in 6000....but she would get child support for being the built in babysitter and losing out on full time income....
If you are a stay at home parent, work from home…make money…save lots of money. My husband wanted a divorce and I was a stay at home mom, accounts were in his name, he locked all accounts…I had nothing on my side. All for another woman outside of the marriage. I had to move home with my parents with our daughter, start life over. She went to day care I worked as a teacher. I didn’t make much money then but it was enough. Fast forward 10 years later, I have a very successful executive career, my daughter is 13. I bought a beautiful house, car, we are healthy, God really helped a lot. Don’t stay home and earn zero money, make money, I promise you won’t ever regret this.
I love how he turned the situation for her to make her feel that she has power, even though she couldn't see that feeling so weak. But I'm sure she felt empowered after that
Poor wife. To put all of her trust and vulnerability in her husband only to have him abandon her and their children. She gave him life's most precious gifts and he walked out. *HE* asked her to marry *HIM*. That comes with responsibility. Any husband that walks out on his commitment to his wife and the children he made needs to pay immensely (child support, alimony, family keeps home, etc.).
Vee what if the women cheated or did the same it goes both ways mate the women is also committing to a relationship I’m not saying this case was wrong but some leave there wife’s because they’ve cheated the broke the promise
@@SamuraiAtlas what does that have to do with him abandoning his children? Stop being so pathetic.
It goes both ways.
I would like to hear an update on this lady’s life now. I was in pretty much the same situation eight years ago. I am remarried now, and my husband and I together have six children. He is a godly man and has spiritually led our family very well. Believe me, it is definitely the next chapter and it’s a very good chapter. Praise the Lord!
I’m currently going through a separation and this relives me so much
To God be all glory!!! So happy for you 🙏❤️
At the end of a storm comes a rainbow. I hope this caller comes into the studio for a debt free scream once she's made it thru her storm.
Could take 19 years.... She needs help and to be responsible herself.
I hope so too, it's going to take her a moment to recover though.
Lord, I hope so. Nothing would make me more proud or happy!! ☺️🙏
Watching this brave lady do her debt free scream in the lobby would be Great!!! Regardless of any flood, she will swim and not sink!
YES
Wow, great time to decide to end a marriage. What an awesome guy.
Once the dust settles and she figures out her next steps, she will realize just how toxic this man was.
Good advice Dave. This woman needs to feel empowered. She DOES have the upper hand in all of this.
Dorota K you literally have never met this guy before, for all you know, she is just lying. Maybe you should reserve judgement
Johnny Bravo Why are you so offended? Are you the husband?
Dorota K actually the opposite, I just find it irratating that people are so quick to hate someone they've never even met before. Its childish
Bc women are crazy case closed hunny bunch! Sometimes its best to be apart for the sake of the kids. Every situation is different. Poor kids tho
Dorota K What a "piece of work"!
When ever they want to get divorced "quick" ,there is another persom
Bingo! My thoughts too.
not always.
Maybe she cheated? Why presume the worst about the husband when you only have the wife point of view? Something happened and I am sure she knows it. If she does not want to say it, it is quite possible that she did something as well.
@@pogonarugeorge3504 he has another woman
@@pogonarugeorge3504bro, when? She just gave birth 😮 tf?
Her husband clearly hasn't thought this thru!🤣🤣🤣🤣
When men think they are about to have a blissful time after divorce then reality sets in and then realize they can’t do anything because they have no money 😂🤣👏🏼
Diane C. --- Take notes men. Don’t marry and push for abortion. Creatures like this will evolve from the shell of the woman you once knew...don’t gamble on your ability to shoulder the burden of gender roles. The time is ripe to claim your own living and reclaim your agency. Don’t sign legal contracts that condemn assets in deference to emotions and vows.
Diane C. Shouldn’t take pride in saying that, nor should you take pride in ruining a mans life just because the relationship didn’t work out.
@@regs1917 you probably a female. She clearly is saying to take all his money so he has no means to live a decent life. You don't need to fork out bank to pay for child support; specially if its 50/50.
@@serenityalreadykno2639 He ruined her life by leaving her with three children! Who wants to be a single parent when they grow up?
@@luvtheLordJesus don't lay down with a scumbag then, if yall females chose wisely you could avoid a lot of hardships.
My mom was a stay-at-home mom until i was 7. My parents separated and my dad left her at a rented home and never spoke again. Now that im 26, my mom tells me that women should marry someone who would allow them to stay at home. I dont believe in that because i’ve been financially independent for years and i cannot think of myself depending on my husband because im scared of what could happen
Even after being abandoned? Wow.
Staying home with her kids is honestly probably something she wishes she could have done, and that's why she wants it for you. I doubt she's thinking about it from a financial viewpoint.
My mum had to walk out with me as a very young child with nothing but our clothes, an old car and a couple of kitchen bits. With a young child she retrained, opened a new business, bought and paid for the premises and built her own home over the following years. I am so proud of her. This lady will do well. She and her children will be her priority from now and forever.
I feel for this woman and I love the advice Dave gave her.
Dave did so well encouraging her with some good father advice.
Same thing happened to my mother in-law. She was 9 months pregnant with my wife and my FiL left her for another woman. I have nothing but respect for my MiL and her second husband, who was more of a dad to my wife than her real dad ever was. My FiL had to work two jobs to keep up with child support. The day my wife turned 18, he quit his second job. It all worked out, my MiL is debt free and has a stable financial life. My FiL is a financial mess.
Women must always have a Plan B. You can’t just be a stay at home mom. You are setting yourself up for a disaster.
MiamiPush2theLimit I agree with you 100%!
I agree. Unfortunately, you can never set yourself up to depend on someone else 100 percent esspecially when you have kids. This situation is one of many that could of happened to her. What if he suddenly became disabled and couldnt work or worse died. Both would leave her in the same boat I could never willingly submit to. Unfortunately this is going to be a hard lesson. No thank you. I can learn from my own and others mistakes. I feel for her, i just cant imagine.
Yes! Even if you end up a stay at home mom get an education & career first.
She shouldve save up his money. Idk why neither of them have savings where is the 105k going to? The side chick?!
Yeah it's the plan b pill.
i love daves "get him for all he's got" savage approach. i LOVE IT!
Yes, he is very fair. "Take her for all she's got".....words never said by Dave.
@@Eaglejake Very fair. I dont think there have been stay at home men who depend solely on the woman that have called in. 🤷♀️
Being a stay at home mom is the worst mistake any woman can make. You should always have YOUR OWN income and financial security outside of a husband. Kids are a huge financial trap. You have to budget in kids these days like anything else. This woman is in a dangerous situation. Where there are gamblers there are loan sharks. Out of anger and desperation, he could try to kill her once he gets hit with huge child support and alimony payments!!!.
As a single mother when I hear these stories it makes me so happy to be single and not reliant on a man to take care of me. I know a good marriage is possible but I've been witness to too many men doing this to their wives and it just terrifies me to ever put myself in that situation. I pray that woman gets on her feet and is able to take care of her children without running to another man to take care of her.
This may be one of the BEST vids yet. Very encouraging. Dave is AWESOME.
While there's always two sides, but this is why you can't depend on people. I've heard this story many times from stay at home moms many with minimal to no skills. You must secure your own future because he can stop loving you in an instant and then you are left scrambling. Please be mindful! Wishing her the best...
Buildinglifeconfidence right she probably cheated on him while at home and he found out. No man would just up and leave with 2 kids and one on the way. I don’t feel sorry for her until I hear both sides
Buildinglifeconfidence
I agree!
John D Gates plus if she's pregnant & someone cheated, it's more likely that he cheated on her while she was pregnant. If she cheated & that's not his kid, then right now he's not playing it smart. He wouldn't have moved out & still put money in an account that she can access if she did him dirty - tell tale sign. Plus he would've ran to court asap to take his first 2 kids &/or order a paternity test instead of trying to pressure her & manipulate on the low.
Keith Roye, Assuming she's being honest about the gambling addiction, I think THATS the answer to this puzzle. He'd rather gamble than get help and be a part of his own family he created. The addiction trumps the family, as it sadly often does with addicts.
Keith Roye II actually it happens more often then you think. You’ve never heard of a single mom raising her kids on her own before? What planet are you from?
I used a Ohio child support calculator. For 3 children, with the guy making $105K and the woman making $6000 a year, the guy will have to pay the woman at least $2000 a month in child support.
ominous450 I would order 60% percent of his income.
B Tone That’s insane and against most, if not all, state laws.
Gooooood.
B Tone that’s why you aren’t in power thank god!
Has to be more, mine is 1700 for one kid!!
Rule 1: When he lied about the gambling addiction, when he abandoned his family, he became Public Enemy #1.
Rule 2: you need a shark of a lawyer.
Rule 3: No forgiveness of this man until the kids are grown and on their own. This deceptive snake will try his best to gaslight her, blame her for everything, try to go back to her when he learns of the child support and alimony payments. Be a rock and stand firm.
Classic rock Lover I feel so sorry for you love
Amen
Omg this woman is strong. I couldn’t get that all out without crying an ocean. God bless her and her family. I hope she’s okay.
This broke my heart. I was left and I didn't have any kids. I can't imagine this being me with three kids! This is horrible. I could hear her voice breaking. I hope everything works out for her and her children.
My mom taught me to be independent and I taught my daughters the same thing. Taught them to work hard and never depend on a man. If you’re a stay at home mom and your husband leaves or dies or becomes disabled you have to have an income and you have to know how to take care of yourself and your family
That judge should award that woman 150% of his income for being such a scumbag.
She married a narcissist. This is so common. I went thru this as well. These men have addictions, cheat, lie, deceive and he was tired of keeping the mask on. A man that can walk out on his family has no moral compass. I hope that judge can see it too. Sometimes these manipulators can schmooze their way into looking innocent and her crazy.
You are 100% right.
But did u save urself before marriage ? Used goods will be viewed by men as used goods
@@luisfernando5998 Idiot
My heart goes out to this woman. I hope her life is going well.
Oh man, my step dad divorced my mom on her birthday. Youngest was 6 at the time. Not to mention my mom and dad divorced when my younger brother was 2. Ever since my mom's second divorce, she never remarried or dated anyone. My mom managed all 5 of us just fine, at least as far as I could tell. I mean, I had xbox live (unneeded nice stuff) and we all went to a private christian school growing up. She did amazing with what she had. No degree. HS only. Sales job. She made it happen. I love my mom!
My mom walked out on her marriage when I was in middle school and took all away from my dad while abusing the legal system so she could abuse us the kids.
Dave isn’t kidding when he says the court will absolutely favor her!
I know lot of friends that their husband left them and they didn't even came to visit their children once. Evil evil 😡
At the end they got karma, very bad karma.
Choose better
The level of shame this divorcing husband has brought on himself...
At least this woman said she has to go back to work. She knows she has to do her part to help her kids. She's in a tough spot. She will do fine in the end.
I’m a stay at home mom. I got fired three years ago while pregnant with my first child. I’m Pregnant with our second. My husband works full time. Living with his widowed mom. I want to work from home. And no degree. Scared to go back to work and school since it’s been a while. But I want to help my husband out. How do I find a legit work from home job?? At least part time to get started. This phone call made me really sad for her. I hope her life gets better.
do u have any skillls to begin with? can u do lyft on side? theres also tutoring jobs? u can make youtube videos? make websites/editing/ interpreter/writing? or just study something clip coupons.. everything will take time to ramp up. good luck lemme know what u find
This divorce will hurt her. She will struggle for years. But one day, this too shall pass
Dave: is the car to his name?
A.J.: yes
Dave: Gooooooooood.
It happened to me my ex left me with three small children. I had no job stay at home mom. But GOD provided!. I went back to school got two degrees my kids are now grown and the ex is still paying back child support to this day. You will come out victorious and better off and your kids are going to bless you:)
This way my mom always told me and my sisters to make our own 💵 and be independent because a man can leave you any moment. The only man that I can trust is my father. My father is one of a kind he raised three girls on his own after my parent's Separator my mom was still part of our lives too but the one that stays with us was our father. Not all fathers man up and stay with their kids.
That's not bad advice but it's not good advice either. You should be able to find someone you can love, trust and rely on in life otherwise what's the point. It's true about your father being trustworthy which is why ideally he should choose your husband for you or at least screen your suitors. This is what used to happen in civilized society.
My husband is doing the same now. I’m 8 months pregnant with our 5th baby. He asked for this baby so many times just to do this. He is choosing to not work, claims “he mentally can’t work”. He won’t get ANYTHING for the baby. Car seat, stroller, diapers.. nothing. So this advice is appreciated.
I feel so sorry for her. I wonder how she and her children are doing now.
This is one of my worst nightmares. I used to want to be a wife and mother. Now I realize the only way to guarantee I'm never a married/divorced/widowed single mother is just to never become a mother. I'm NOT saying other people shouldn't have kids (that's crazy). I'm just saying I came to this conclusion.
If you want kids, and you have the choice, you should have at least one ❤ I'll bet you will be an amazing mom!
I left my husband when I was 6 months pregnant..with only 2k in my name 🥳 best decision of my life.
I am so happy about Mr. Ramsey's advice for this lady. I almost hope she doesn't ever take him back and they don't work it out! Lord, forgive me for thinking that thought?! I just know what his gambling debt and leaving her 9 months pregnant that there's probably another lady involved. Lord Bless her. I'm praying for her. 🙏✝️☺️
My grandma told me the day I got married to open my own secret bank account and never tell him about it. No matter what jam we get into, never pull from it or tell him about it. Because one day you will need it. She was so right. You can never completely rely on anyone but yourself. Get smart, get skilled, get on your own two feet & know that you are more than capable of anything & everything.
My mom told me the same thing because as she said "the devil never sleeps!"
I am in the same boat right now. I have been with my husband for 10 years. Have 2 kids and husband suddenly wants a divorce. I have no support and no way to get a full time job. I am so scared about our future but I will do anything to give them a good life.
can u move with ur family or friends?
This is why I chose never to have kids. Been with my GF for 20 years but looking around the community I could see how people go off the rails so easily in life.
Uhhh
Why aren't you married? The kids have nothing to do with this issue. The guy is a Class A loser!!
That is an odd reason to not have kids. How often does this scenario really happen? You planning on being like this?
I feel for her. My situation is similar to hers. My fiance of 5 years walked out when I was 3 months pregnant and I'm due in a month. My ex developed a addiction as well. It's not easy being a single mom also going through pregnancy. I wish the best for her and her children 🙌
I hope she didn't agree to sell the house. She's entitled to it.
Husband walked out w a mental health break (psychotic break after years of neglecting his own mental health) and I found out weeks later (after I left with our 1yo son) that I’m pregnant.
Hope you are doing okay! Hang in there
Would love to hear a “where are they now” - how is AJ doing now about 9 months-1year after this call?
As a stay at home mom you have to have "run-away money" just in case, no matter how much you love your husband.
What kind of garbage advice is that? Marriage needs 100% commitment and trust. It's toxic to leave doors open in case you want to leave
Matthew Pipes Very true
my momma always taught all of us girls that.
That hurts and it's unfair, but it is true. Your money is your power and your control.
Unfortunately, in a marriage you have to be extremely smart to hide money from the other person, I tried and I couldn't, but that's ok at the end everything workout for the best of me and my kids
The worst decision any married man can make is leaving his wife under any circumstances. This dude left her at the worst possible time and the judge will have a field day with him.
I don’t particularly like how family law is set up in any given western country but in this case the court can’t hit this excuse of a man hard enough.
Jacob Wiebe --- Correct he is critically lacking strategy here. If he wanted to make moves he should have begun to sequester and hide assets into offshore accounts (cayman/Bermuda/hongkong ). Then begin to incite erratic behavior in his woman while controlling his own and documenting her reactions. Turn the children against her slowly but surely. Continue to earn but push for non salaried performance compensation that you continue to move out in order to minimize you salary cap. Then drop the hammer suddenly when you have cleaned every corner and tied every knot. She would not have the time to react and enact a defense. You can find this advice in Sun Tzu’s “The Art of Divorce” chapter 2 page 30.
Turn the children against her ??
What a psycho
@@SpicyLobsta WOW.... You are evil!!!
@@SpicyLobstaWomen in bad relationships - remember that men like this exist. He just shared the playbook. Act accordingly.
Dave is the only one who addresses her fear and anger. Good job, Dave.
Oh, man. I sure would like an update on ths women.
I'd love to have an update . I pray she is thriving
That's why a woman should always have a backup plan. Staying at home with kids puts you in a disadvantage in this situation
This is why I'm scared to get married.
Rani P Fear not
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Just take your time when dating. Get to know the person. Do not rush
Marriage is one of the biggest traps ever anyways. Don't do it.
@@user-yr3uj6go8i, Only for the person who is the "bread-winner". For the dependent, they get Free Stuff while they are marriage, and they get more Free Stuff from divorce court.
Sell the house? And raise the kids in what, a cardboard box?
Lady, you have to have a house to raise the kids in!
Ok, more women need to understand their financial situation even if their stay-at- home mothers. That's more of a reason why you should know what money comes in and out of your home, and what your home or apt is worth. Unfortunately, a marriage license means nothing to an immoral individual. And even if you have a great marriage, emergencies happen and you should be aware so that you can help protect your home, your spouse, and your kids . I wish her and anyone else in this situation all the best.
@JamievsJamie nice try. You're so adorable with the guessing. Want a cookie child?
@@horacevu go back under your bridge. Don't speak for anyone else, you clearly are not too bright.
Women need to think twice about being a stay at home mom. You need some income of your own. And I hate to say this, but marriage is not a right to have kid after kid in an unstable environment. People better realize that there are no guarantees.
Miss Candy you are right. Unfortunately, you just can't trust husbands to stick around these days.
Very true!!
Not true for all, I was a stay at home for 9 years and it was best decision for my CHILDREN at the time. We are divorce now but my children are older and I don’t have to pay much for child care while I build my career. I’m so grateful I was able to attend school events, games, travel, and be involved. My ex missed everything.
Both my husband and I had a long talk and it's more financially responsible for us for me to be a stay at home mom while our girls are little than for me to work and send my paycheck to a daycare. Once they are in school, I'm going back to work even if it's part time.
Good point, but there is another side. Sometimes its cheaper to have one parent stay home. Look at the price of daycare these days. I know in my last relationship. Dude told me that if we get married than I would have to stay home. So there is also pressure from families.
But the point is there is no guarantee in life so we cant say what women should or shouldn't do based on the actions of some special jerks.
Here we are, and this is the type of man, who will shout that women get the better deal in divorce and she took him to the cleaners.
Yes, it does happen, but these types of guys will scream blue murder later on and take NO responsibility for their lousy dead beat dad/husband. MRA will use him as an example.
It ruins it for all the great Dad/s husbands out there.
Thank heaven Dave is giving her some hope and confidence, she will be ok raising three precious children on her own.
I'm in tears....God please help her and those babies.
That side woman is getting a real 💎
Omg i love it. She needed to hear this. I hope she watches this video to understand shes dealing with a narcissist. Dave gave her great advice. I hope she holds off on working full time so she can get the ultimate benefits from her husband.
Smileyyy21 I feel so sorry for you and your kind just such sad human beings . Stay on welfare and broke while taking him to cleaners bad vendictive behavior I’m guessing ur a lover of Christ
This happened to me.. I wasn't married though! My "relationship" with my sons father was always abusive more mentally. I stayed home with our son for ten yrs so he could better his income, he cheated, brought other woman into the home to run me out. He also changed jobs from 150k or more a year to a 40k so he didn't have to pay much in support.
I wish there was more attention brought to these kinds of situations. I have no problem working, but it is a huge shock to your system while going through a situation as this. My focus was on keeping my son as stable as possible, he was used to me always being there to his world being ripped apart.
I went into debt after having to get a lawyer and trying to stay afloat.
Prayers to everyone
My heart goes out to this lady. I hope that everything worked out for her. 🙏✨
Sad story. Time for her to lawyer up!
Glad you gave her some strong words of encouragement, well said!
He’s going to regret it because that 100k is about to get cut by half after child support and alimony if she was a stay at home mom. Pray she doesn’t take him back
This is the reason being a stay at home is terrifying bc you never know ppl dont want to bank on ppl.
Why in the world do women put 100 percent into men? Married or not. Smh. Wake up.
What do you mean? Financially or emotionally?
Financially.
Because she can't work full time and raise 3 kids. That's not how it's supposed to be.
Sasha32659 Yes she can. People do it.
well guess what...she's about to have to and women do it ALL the time!!
I'm so glad he has such a good fathers heart and took time to invest in her at this moment. She needs someone in her side right now and was reaching out, thank God for men like Dave who step in when they are needed.
I just LOOOOVE how understanding and strong Dave is with women like this who have been hurt.
Goes to show you , you never know people....
Yeah.