THE NARCISSIST IS THINKING ABOUT YOU (THEY ARE!)

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  • Опубликовано: 27 дек 2024

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  • @prostyle1626
    @prostyle1626 2 года назад +69

    Wise words.
    If their absence brings you peace you did not lose them you have won yourself again.

  • @montzerattejones3823
    @montzerattejones3823 2 года назад +93

    The worst is knowing you were in love with an idea. The person you thought you loved never existed and they will never give you the apology or the validation that your heart so longed for.

    • @FieryKTarot
      @FieryKTarot Год назад +10

      I call it "grieving the Dream"

    • @teeahtate
      @teeahtate Год назад +9

      @@FieryKTarot Yes, that is how I feel. And, you got conned by a person who pretended to be who you wanted. They are just actors.

    • @scovyaporsha
      @scovyaporsha Год назад +3

      ​@@teeahtate I think the worst part is that these idiots think they can play you again. The Ex Narc came back via email almost 3 years later asking for my number.. I was like I Blocked you years ago and I have since changed my number......Noooo Never gonna happen... I feel so relieved..I feel bad for people who cannot get out. It's such a hell hole to be in that position.

    • @traceybiles2061
      @traceybiles2061 Год назад +2

      Once you see through the gallery you see the real person and how they are not good people

  • @vickielewallen3799
    @vickielewallen3799 3 года назад +494

    Blocking them, no contact, is worth it. It feels like *freedom* from their fakeness, criticisms, blatant or subtle put downs, etc. It feels like finally walking out of the darkness and into bright sunlight.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +30

      You are walking into the sunlight.. becoming who you are meant to be.. free and full of positive energy ☀️🙌🙏

    • @cisilyawalten1935
      @cisilyawalten1935 3 года назад +4

      Amen! Feel the same too

    • @Mishy555
      @Mishy555 3 года назад +2

      Yessssss

    • @motowngirl5891
      @motowngirl5891 3 года назад +12

      NEVER GO BACK KEEP NC FOREVER, you never knew this monster ,if you go back they will hurt you more, that’s part of their game

    • @sarahkpratt77
      @sarahkpratt77 3 года назад +7

      What if we share small children?

  • @Gitte585
    @Gitte585 3 года назад +417

    They only think of you because you are the one who got away 🙏❤️🙏

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +23

      Yes 🙌

    • @liljam9608
      @liljam9608 3 года назад +12

      So true Warrior 👍 👌

    • @susangeorge5399
      @susangeorge5399 3 года назад +11

      Zactly!!

    • @Teresa_Ross
      @Teresa_Ross 3 года назад +9

      Right! You nailed it.

    • @slimaz1
      @slimaz1 3 года назад +21

      Not only that u got away, but if they discard you because they don't have the control over u.

  • @alexhage8092
    @alexhage8092 3 года назад +100

    The thing that hurts the most to me... is knowing that the person i love/loved so much is a narcissist. Its comforting finally understanding the mindset. You're shockingly accurate Andrew, thank you.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +3

      Welcome Alex., I appreciate your kindness and sharing…☀️🙏🙌

    • @alexhage8092
      @alexhage8092 3 года назад +9

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you're helping more than you know brother, keep it up. The vicious circle is when you think the person just can't be as terrible as they are but their patterns repeatedly show it. It makes me wish i never even knew they existed. Keep me in your prayers, I can't wait to be completely over this person even though I know they're toxic and don't intend to change. This has to be a trauma bond or something, theres a connection but it can't be true love if this person is that wretched deep inside, and theyre angry that i exposed this to them because... I actually loved them but love is not a one way street ❤️

    • @Groundhog-Jam-Band
      @Groundhog-Jam-Band 2 года назад +1

      yes I feel sorry for her...and my inclination was to 'save" her from herself. Now I accept that she's a demon. It hurts like hell.

    • @joannzappoli3667
      @joannzappoli3667 Год назад

      @@alexhage8092 Praying for you.

  • @td2968
    @td2968 3 года назад +165

    Sex,service and supply, everything is transactional with the narc, everyone is a stepping stone to get better or more. They are opportunists ! They are truly self loathing Individuals.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +10

      Welcome Tracey.. they certainly are.. on all points thank you for sharing 🙌☀️💯

    • @lc-bb6bd
      @lc-bb6bd 3 года назад +12

      Yep. Mine used sex as a manipulation tool.

    • @natashaholder1213
      @natashaholder1213 2 года назад

      At the end my said I need sex more sex 🙂 say's the man that don't work and don't pay shit at my home😔

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 2 года назад

      You said it! Sex, service & supply. He used me for EVERYTHING! They are EVIL!!

    • @sgtmuffinbadger6147
      @sgtmuffinbadger6147 2 года назад +2

      Accurate

  • @s.moeller9543
    @s.moeller9543 Год назад +3

    My narcissist told me he missed shopping with me. Ha! After watching this video, it’s a little more clear why he does. He was and is a parasite.

  • @rsbrinkman9168
    @rsbrinkman9168 3 года назад +194

    Love is not enough ; There is no love in them .

  • @193_samridhikumar8
    @193_samridhikumar8 5 месяцев назад +4

    The narcissist made me feel like i have nothing good.... your videos are a source of comfort 😢❤😓🫂

  • @Kendall42971
    @Kendall42971 3 года назад +206

    I absolutely LOVE when the narc hoovers me. I absolutely LOVE when he calls and texts me from strange numbers. And I absolutely LOVE how I continue to not respond. I always laugh like hell when he reaches out to me as an anonymous person. It's so childish. Maybe he keeps doing it because he thinks one day I might respond. He used to tell me he loved all the attention I'd give him. Now the shoe is on the other foot!!!! 😊🙂🥰

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +18

      Welcome Kendall.. you have the control now..💪💪.. beautiful comment thank you for sharing 🙏🙌💯🤩💯

    • @Kendall42971
      @Kendall42971 3 года назад +6

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 😉❤

    • @treelover1050
      @treelover1050 3 года назад +20

      WHEN I GET HOOVERED I LAUGH TOO AND SAY "THERE'S THE OLD BUZZARD AGAIN. HOW STUPID DOES HE THINK I AM?"

    • @Kendall42971
      @Kendall42971 3 года назад +5

      @@treelover1050 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @srose4640
      @srose4640 3 года назад +5

      I wish mine would, it’s only been 4/5 days but he’s just moved on with his new supply and forgotten that I ever existed

  • @richardhunter616
    @richardhunter616 2 года назад +15

    Narcissisism should be made a crime..justice for the victims

  • @callumhaigh8233
    @callumhaigh8233 3 года назад +165

    They think about how we were the perfect supply and that they’ll never be able to find us again. That’s why they hoover and stalk us

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +9

      Great point Callum ..💯💯

    • @kreed445
      @kreed445 3 года назад +9

      hating on us every step on the way

    • @rayc9899
      @rayc9899 3 года назад +9

      When the trust is gone, it's forever.... BLAH BLAH FOR THEM IS ALL BULLSHIT.

    • @thebebilagan6660
      @thebebilagan6660 3 года назад +4

      so true

    • @srose4640
      @srose4640 3 года назад +3

      Mine hasn’t even bothered said he never wants to speak to me again it’s been 10 days now

  • @dottier2475
    @dottier2475 3 года назад +63

    It’s been 6 months and it’s been hell on my emotions, your words once again are helping me, thank you so much.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +3

      Welcome Dottie.. my hope is you are healing and improving..🙏🙌☀️💯

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 2 года назад +2

      Dottie, it does get better. Give it TIME. I'VE BEEN THERE..GOD BLESS YOU!

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 2 года назад +2

      The less you hear from them, the faster you will heal.

    • @Rania-x9e
      @Rania-x9e Месяц назад

      You r beautiful brave

  • @Eyeshaveit
    @Eyeshaveit 2 года назад +19

    I was a trophie wife..
    I remember asking him one time why he loves me ....
    His answer was.....
    (Because you take care of me....)
    I couldn't believe my ears!
    He actually told me he was a narcissist!
    Great video Andrew🙂

    • @truffaut650truffaut6
      @truffaut650truffaut6 Год назад +1

      Mine said: I liked you because you did so many things for me.🙄🤡

    • @Vicky-qw3tk
      @Vicky-qw3tk 10 месяцев назад

      I asked him if he loved me, he kept quiet.

  • @farah4983
    @farah4983 3 года назад +129

    No contact is the way. Block in every way. It'll take time, but it's the only way to achieve true healing and to move forward. Great video!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +7

      Hi Farah.. thank you 🙏.. blocking and no contact is the path to empowerment and healing… maintaining boundaries is imperative going forward ☀️🙌🙏.. keep moving forward everyday 💯💯

    • @Bestisyet2Be
      @Bestisyet2Be 3 года назад +1

      It is my number one thing the minute I leave his sight for good! Too many. Too much already. Done. Adiós. Love your videos, first time on your channel and I loved the way articulate your advice. I know I am subscribed to some positive vibes! Thank you 🙏🏼

    • @farah4983
      @farah4983 2 года назад

      @@emilykathleenn you can do this! One day at a time. Prayer 🤲 is key

  • @Leesa1303
    @Leesa1303 Год назад +2

    It took me about 6 months or more to actually start believing he was a narc but then it was so obvious ...

  • @SweepDailyWin
    @SweepDailyWin 2 года назад +16

    ANDREW!!!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
    When you just said "IT'S BEEN A YEAR, 2 YEARS, WHO CARES, WHATEVER " and then followed it with an eye roll !!!!!!! I almost spit out my Organic broccoli 🥦 I laughed so hard!!!!!
    YOU ARE A FANTASTIC HUMAN BEING AND MY DEPTH OF APPRECIATION FOR YOU IS SO DEEP!!!! 🙏 May God continue to shine his rays of light on you!
    You are a healer and I am doing SO much better ...even in just the couple weeks I've been with you and the amazing community! Blessings!!!!!!!🌻🌻🌻🙂
    I actually smiled today while in my kitchen making Salmon for myself ( and Miss. Moxley 🐾) I would rather it just be me, the cat, and my Narc DAILY ...a stable, peaceful life, than a life trying to appease Narc Mother & Fly monkey 🙊/ Narc Sister for one more second!
    ( and yes, my amazing son called me today, as he does everyday!🙂) he is an Earth Angel

  • @patsypalmadessa9313
    @patsypalmadessa9313 3 года назад +55

    I knew he had some kind of personality defect or mental disorder, but didn't know it was narcissism, until about a year after I ended the relationship. After each breakup, I always took him back because I blamed his behavior on his extremely abusive childhood. However, each time I took him back, he was worse. As he got older, instead of learning, growing & becoming wiser, as we usually do, he became more impatient, selfish, & cruel. I've watched a lot of videos & have done much studying on the subject of narcissism & it fits him perfectly. I've gone no contact for three years & am so much better for it. You've explained it all very clearly in this video. Thank you.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +1

      Welcome always Patsy.. 🙌🙏🙌

    • @karishort1891
      @karishort1891 3 года назад +4

      I felt every word of this. I went through the exact same thing. The abuse gets so bad that their energy is just NASTY and impacted mine to the point I left his ass 6 weeks ago. It gets worse and worse if you are reading this. Wave your white flag and bounce!!!

    • @Scorpscorpdorp
      @Scorpscorpdorp 2 года назад +1

      YES

  • @carriedillmann4455
    @carriedillmann4455 3 года назад +61

    He’s hoovering me now because the new supply kicked him out!!!!

  • @Langolin1998
    @Langolin1998 3 года назад +28

    And yes….I fell for the Hoover…went back, and the torture started faster and was much worse the second ho round! I stayed for a very short time and left for good! No looking back! Stay no contact!
    Good message!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +4

      Thank you for sharing this Leslie.. no contact and blocking is the path 🙌

  • @juliekay5756
    @juliekay5756 3 года назад +63

    I am finally, after many years, completely healed and narcissist free. I love myself and my life and the only thing missing now is a healthy like-minded partner to share my heart with. You are spot on my dear!!!!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +4

      I appreciate your kindness and support Julie ☀️🙌🙏

    • @teeahtate
      @teeahtate Год назад

      Yes, I am also looking for a like-minded partner.

  • @brandnkdavis
    @brandnkdavis 3 года назад +107

    Sir I appreciate you so much. I’ve been searching for a man sharing his story so I don’t feel alone. RUclips is FULL of women telling from their side of the story as a women victim. There are men that are victims of these narcissistic women too. Thank you!!!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +10

      Brandon you are welcome 🙏.. thank you for sharing this beautiful message.. my hope is you are healing and improving.. You Are Not Alone ☀️💯🙏🙌

    • @Ellie-rp8bh
      @Ellie-rp8bh 3 года назад +2

      Aggree!

    • @julieevans5363
      @julieevans5363 3 года назад +9

      Brandon, bless you , men get abused by women too . I have seen it . I can’t say I know exactly how you feel because I’m a woman who took 25 years of abuse from my X partner. Yet I can imagine that it’s extra hard for a man , we all feel shameful and we all say why me . Don’t be ashamed, just make sure you realise that you have a responsibility to work out why you were picked. I had an abusive mother and a father that didn’t give a shit , so it wasn’t hard to work out why I was picked . I am now dealing with healing myself from my childhood abuse so I never make this mistake again. So please think about why you were picked and heal you . Much love to you xxx

    • @brandnkdavis
      @brandnkdavis 3 года назад +7

      @@julieevans5363 thank you! I most certainly am starting to see so many things I was just freely giving to her over 11 years and I never felt it was reciprocal and always was told it was my fault. It’s like being able to see after being intentionally blinded for so long. I’m in a lot of pain but taking it minute by minute. Thank you for your support!

    • @julieevans5363
      @julieevans5363 3 года назад +4

      @@brandnkdavis your welcome, it’s only been a month for me too . I’m not sad at all though . I feel like I have just got out of prison. Try and see the positive side of what you are going through. You might feel sad and weak at the moment but she has made you strong, your free , I’m sure you will eventually fine someone to love that will love you like you deserve to be loved . Someone you can share everything with. Someone who gives themselves to you fully with an open heart and no agenda . You can do this , your so much stronger than you know . Much love Brandon xxx

  • @karencombs6451
    @karencombs6451 2 года назад +20

    Day 79 no contact. Still counting the days on my healing journey. Not only no contact, I also moved away. Got away from all the people and places that reminded me of the narcissist. The people were the narcissist's friends. I was isolated during the relationship, used to being by myself. So it was not hard moving to a new place where I don't know anyone. I currently have no friends nor family for support. Thank you for these videos. They are supporting me during my healing.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 года назад

      Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 2 года назад

      I also moved, got off social media and changed my phone $. He can't find me.

    • @Butterflybishop7001
      @Butterflybishop7001 Год назад

      😎😎😎 you can do it
      Keep loving yourself ❤ 💪💪💪🏃‍♀️🫶🏾
      We love and appreciate you 😊

    • @tammyfitzgerald5336
      @tammyfitzgerald5336 Год назад

      🙏🏽💯🙌💯🙏🏽🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️💥💥💥♌️

  • @tulazaz
    @tulazaz 4 месяца назад +3

    I’ve told my narcissist cousin, who I let move in 7 years ago, he has to move out. He has abused me for my money. In spite of doing everything around here, paying for most everything, he has been devaluating me, and criticizing me. Now I’m being live bombed so much it’s sickening. He’s trying to wear me down and make me feel guilty. He promises to change, he immediately consolidated his debt so he can start paying me back. My kids, my sibs and grown kids want him gone! I wish he had a new supply lined up. We are 71. He’s using his age why he can’t leave. Yeah, because he has it made here. He needs me. I don’t need him! I’m about to confront him again when he’s done teaching a student. Wish me luck.💪😃. Thanks again Andrew. I keep listening to you to gain strength.

  • @angelanicoletti3330
    @angelanicoletti3330 3 года назад +8

    Thank you NarcDaily. I am 1 year NO CONTACT after over 30 years married to one. I had no idea until last year about this Disorder. For Them it is all about winning or losing. I love you means I USE YOU. These are Broken souls Survivors. Pray for them from far far away and never look back! May GOD Bless you and stay safe.

  • @Tony-cv4of
    @Tony-cv4of 3 года назад +87

    When you snatch that power grid back, YES they get big mad!!🤣🤣🤣💯 thank You Andrew 🥰🥂🤪

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +2

      Welcome 🙏 Thank you for sharing this Tony 💯☀️🙌

    • @Tony-cv4of
      @Tony-cv4of 3 года назад +1

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Anytime 🙏

    • @tammyfitzgerald5336
      @tammyfitzgerald5336 Год назад

      😂🎉😂🎉😂🎉❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💯💯

  • @Faithled
    @Faithled 2 года назад +3

    It's enough to know the harm they wanted to cause. I could care less what's on their mind. They will never reach my frequency

  • @clairecole1736
    @clairecole1736 Год назад +6

    Superb video, Andrew. You’re a natural….you make so much sense that I can’t believe I didn’t realise the reality of my life

  • @lc-bb6bd
    @lc-bb6bd 3 года назад +11

    For all the times you wanted to cuddle and they pushed you away. Absolutely

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +4

      Wow I could create a series on this.. so true 💯🙌

    • @gionagrace6279
      @gionagrace6279 3 года назад +3

      Ohhhh yes....the definitely will push you away. I remember thinking....are you kidding me??? It was soooo strange to me and yesssss...it does happen. Very common for narcy pants!!!

    • @faceofglam
      @faceofglam 3 года назад +2

      That was the WORST for me especially because my love language is touch

  • @madelinepalma73
    @madelinepalma73 3 года назад +58

    And comes with new supply to pick kids up! Thanks God he waits outside!!!! I feel great and happy!! It’s ok to be single! I’m working in me, loving my self, learning!!!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +2

      Beautiful 🤩 🇨🇷☀️💪 Madeline 💯

    • @sunnydaysunnyday7101
      @sunnydaysunnyday7101 3 года назад +4

      classic triangulation, well done girl

    • @madelinepalma73
      @madelinepalma73 3 года назад

      Thanks

    • @vanessakukoa
      @vanessakukoa 3 года назад +4

      My ex narc would never do that because he is afraid that the new supply could see that I am not the bad person he tells her and he is a coward and liar, so too afraid I could tell her anything about what he did… and she seems very narcissistic and arrogant too, so she doesn’t care about the mother of the child she spends time with…

    • @sherylstickler1112
      @sherylstickler1112 3 года назад +3

      Single is a beautiful blessing compared with a toxic relationship😊

  • @karlgibbs1564
    @karlgibbs1564 2 года назад +12

    damn i accepted the hoover and you are so right...it was so short lived....1 week of wonderful times then boom! silent treatment, physical and mental removal, walking on eggshells..... and much much more. Andrew you are so right - i hope i can recover as beautifully as you have.

  • @annsjoholm7310
    @annsjoholm7310 3 года назад +32

    I did no contact in every way, have a new life with new friends. Thank you for this video 🌹

  • @sbaby4572
    @sbaby4572 6 месяцев назад +1

    The key for me is that last part: yes they do think about you, but not in the way you think about them!

  • @laurastrachan799
    @laurastrachan799 3 года назад +54

    17 years was all I could handle! I didn't know what I've been going through had a name! Ruminating...that has been even harder than co-parenting. Thanks for this video. I need to keep my thought under control, fantasizing that he'll change. He never will

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +8

      Hi Laura.. he will never change.. my hope is you are healing and improving ☀️🙌🙏💯

    • @quit512
      @quit512 2 года назад +2

      I have found that listening to music, like a soundtrack from a movie that I enjoy, helps to create new posirtive thoughts and lifts my spirits.

  • @borishudej691
    @borishudej691 Год назад +2

    I can confirm that -if you take them back it is a shorter, more calculated(from their side) and more stressful experience. Do not take them back!

  • @sylwiapro2791
    @sylwiapro2791 2 года назад +3

    I'm sure they think about me because they had money for a while because of me (which they lost) and after failing to manipulate other people into giving them money they finally had to go to work :D I now understand their resentment even more.

  • @amandaserle3343
    @amandaserle3343 Год назад +1

    I set boundaries and he didn't like it at all,shame.

  • @mariaguadalupe2063
    @mariaguadalupe2063 3 года назад +32

    You are so organic! So simple, clear and ready to digest. 🙏

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +3

      Thank you 🙏 I appreciate your kindness and support Maria 😊🙌☀️

  • @barbaragonzales5944
    @barbaragonzales5944 17 дней назад

    I can't even tell you how immediate & complete going no contact was. I can remember the last day I spoke to him & the last day I saw him b/c it was like a light switch. Amazing.
    And in his case, I know he will never contact me again, b/c the totality of his narcissistic injury will never allow him to debase himself to bother contacting me. It's kind of a safety net.

  • @thebigh9635
    @thebigh9635 3 года назад +62

    They lost someTHING that made them feel superior ,..how DARE you ruin that ! They also HATE the fact you got away , by moving on you show them they are not that important , and they feel you got one over on them because you rejected them . It's such a bug bear for them that they lost control and they will stew longer than an overcooked casserole 🤔😆😂

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +4

      Bingo.. great outlook The Big H ..☀️🙌🙏

    • @thebigh9635
      @thebigh9635 3 года назад +4

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone They lost their greatest ever audience , and without that they are totally lost 😎😎

    • @stevenk3221
      @stevenk3221 2 года назад +2

      Or once they know they cant manipulate you anymore. It's like someone isnt going to try to rob a bank if they know it has high security 😆

  • @lindagodwin3680
    @lindagodwin3680 8 месяцев назад +2

    This is so true! Thanks for sharing this video with us! He wanted me back years later after I left! I had no idea this is what he was doing! There was no way that I would go back to that garbage!

  • @m.skinner6303
    @m.skinner6303 3 года назад +5

    Replace the word love with "use".
    I use you. I use you so much. I will always use you. I will always use you, I will never use anyone as much as you. I will use you forever. My Use, I will always be your user.

  • @Doona-z4b
    @Doona-z4b 3 месяца назад

    Makes me shake to think about letting any narcissistic into my peaceful life now. No contact is the way if you can do that. ❤

  • @jimzongas3701
    @jimzongas3701 2 года назад +6

    Thank you Andrew, did not know what Narcissism was until went through the abuse for years. I lost myself and all the things I enjoyed doing because I was more concerned about making her happy and trying to "fix". Repeatedly, will never happen. It takes time y'all. Because when you go no contact, you will feel guilty, and ruminate, think maybe it was you. Get a pen and paper, write down all the times your happiness was stolen by the energy vampire. Now, when she pops into my head, I don't remember the good times. I think "Hell NO, never again will I be treated this way. NOW life is totally getting back to me and I can smell a Narcisset a mile away. Got my Narc Radar on!
    Thank you, you have helped me more than you know. 🤙

  • @robin2319
    @robin2319 Год назад +1

    Agree I’m different, I’m free with no contact period. Every day gets better for me alone without that person

  • @rebekahhandy5070
    @rebekahhandy5070 3 года назад +41

    So good and accurate!! Thank you for sharing this and your experience. It’s a reminder of a place I never want to be again in my life. The darkest of days is an understatement!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +5

      I appreciate your kindness Rebekah.. thank you for sharing .. The dark days.. ARE .. an understatement 🙌🙌

    • @shaniecegullison
      @shaniecegullison 3 года назад +2

      Same here

  • @crosskross
    @crosskross Год назад +1

    Brother thank you so much for sharing 🙏❤️🙏

  • @markdouglas6052
    @markdouglas6052 2 года назад +17

    Yet another amazing articulation of this illness. I don’t think a single other resource on RUclips has command over this. We are quite blessed to have you Andrew

    • @drewcater2194
      @drewcater2194 2 года назад +1

      I must agree, ive been reading up on codependancy, Narcissism and the effects for 4 years and it took some time to fully understand the scale of it all as well as all the jargon associated with it, and also my part in it all. many other channels ive found over the years are not so well explained or articulated, or go into the depth that Andrew does, Thankyou Andrew for doing what you do, much appreciation and love.

  • @charlottebarden9221
    @charlottebarden9221 Год назад +1

    After two years, he blocked me, so I blocked him. That hurt. I had not done anything wrong. I was the one who was patient with his dirty language,his obvious lies, his love affairs with beautiful women. I listened and understood his need to tell exciting stories. Laughed at his comic routines. He wanted to talk for twelve hours at night. I did it for his need, and my loneliness. He said he was blocking me because I am dyslexic, a slow learner. Said he couldn't take me anymore. That hurt too. He hung up. This is my second year on the roller coaster. I should have gotten off a year ago. I listen to you and other life coaches for help to make it stop. Why can't I give up?

    • @Me-mn4nw
      @Me-mn4nw Год назад

      Because you don't want it bad enough. You enjoy the attention and don't think you are worthy. Seek counseling.

  • @tootienottoofruitie1726
    @tootienottoofruitie1726 3 года назад +6

    Don't be fooled... When they think about you it has a lot to do with your demise. Truth

  • @marisamadera3650
    @marisamadera3650 3 месяца назад +1

    God bless you Andrew i love you, thankyou❤

  • @lindaskelley7306
    @lindaskelley7306 2 года назад +4

    Andrew - you are such a blessing to all of us who have been affected by these narcissists! I am in the beginning of my healing journey after being discarded after a 30 year marriage. Thank you for sharing and teaching all of us that there is hope. After dinner I find myself saying - "hey Andrew - talk to me!" 😊

  • @stillaweezerfan
    @stillaweezerfan 3 года назад +30

    Oddly enough, learning how good of a lobster tail supply I am helped me form a realistic and appreciative view of myself.

  • @emmaleaone
    @emmaleaone 2 месяца назад

    Healing is slow but progress does exist.. I was angry at first and now I wish I didn’t know that’s who he is.. I really did love him with all of me and to know that someone you deeply cared for is so empty and uncaring is sad..

  • @virgiliopulido7058
    @virgiliopulido7058 3 года назад +4

    The man in this video gives extremely sharp insights. It is so useful to watch these videos,in order to protect yourself from these narcissistic predators and bloodsucking,parasitic vampires.

  • @elizabethflorez2372
    @elizabethflorez2372 2 года назад +1

    Yes❤Thank you 😊

  • @melindalawson4484
    @melindalawson4484 3 года назад +68

    Narcissist mother misses me because I was her punching bag . She blamed me for things I knew nothing about. I have her flying monkeys living behind me but they are also narcissist. I’m done with all of those snakes.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +7

      Hi Melinda.. the flying monkeys are difficult at times.. I too am surrounded by them.. 😳

    • @melindalawson4484
      @melindalawson4484 3 года назад +9

      @Lori Rose Briggs I was the scapegoat to in my family I still am. I cut them all out of my life and have no regrets.

    • @kflopp3638
      @kflopp3638 3 года назад +6

      Us scapegoats need to know that we are bright lights to their darkness. Remember to keep your heads up high. God bless

    • @carriedillmann4455
      @carriedillmann4455 3 года назад +5

      @@melindalawson4484 CONGRATS FOR YOUR STRENGTH !!

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 3 года назад +2

      They miss the oppertunity to insult, hurt, control, demean and belittle us.
      Power and 🎮

  • @robinyoung555
    @robinyoung555 Год назад +1

    Ex narc is still with the back burner supply and the have 2 babies and got married. She got pregnant 2 months after we broke up. They were together throughout our entire relationship. Everyone knew except for me. Sometimes a break up is a new beginning.

  • @JakesRealtyGroup
    @JakesRealtyGroup 3 года назад +11

    Right on time. I was getting weak.

  • @Mzdivine1111
    @Mzdivine1111 2 года назад +8

    I flipped the coin and feel like a winner. I blocked him full stop. In my now new community I want you all to know even though I'm a senior I have endured what every age group has gone is going through including intimate times which at my age makes it seem more henious. I just wanted to let you all know my pain is no different. Tar Andrew😘

  • @John-qv1jm
    @John-qv1jm Год назад +1

    God bless you Andrew ❤

  • @janetlynne3508
    @janetlynne3508 3 года назад +19

    Excellent! This made so much sense to me. I also found out that while he’s had a few long-term friendships, those friends also suspected he was a narcissist. Over time, when they didn’t need his advice anymore (he’s a life coach and business coach 😂), he started treating them very poorly. he was upset that they no longer revered his leader ship as much as they used to, and this upset him! When they saw what he had done to me, to where he my child was almost removed from my home because of his behaviors, this upset those friends so much, that they no longer kept his friendship.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +1

      Thank you for sharing this Janet…. I am grateful to be able to help🙏🙌☀️

  • @connylemaire
    @connylemaire Год назад +1

    THANK YOU ANREW ❤🙏🙂

  • @wattsymusicandfilm
    @wattsymusicandfilm 3 года назад +21

    I can’t go full no contact as we have a son. Yesterday I had to watch him at the house I used to live with them in! So I had to see her for the first time in 3 months! Things were ok when she first came in, but it all flips back to coldness and annoyance towards me when I wanted to talk about what happened with us! She feels absolutely nothing for me at all! My heart is heavy again! But at least I know definitely that there is no going back like I thought I wanted! She is a completely different person to who I thought I knew!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +8

      Watts.. the mask has slipped.. the person you saw yesterday is the real version of themselves.. it’s difficult to understand.. but it’s real.. I understand how you want to discuss the relationship with her.. I know you want closure.. the narcissist won’t ever give this.. stay strong 🙏🙌☀️

    • @wattsymusicandfilm
      @wattsymusicandfilm 3 года назад +2

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone yes definitely, she had been struggling for the last couple to keep up the pretence I believe! And yeah, absolutely no closure for me! Thankyou again Andrew! I really have been like an emotional yo yo this last week or so!

    • @markwojak3112
      @markwojak3112 3 года назад +2

      Hi Watts, had the same thing happen. We were together almost 20 years, and yet she coldly threw me out and threatened to call the police and say I was threatening her when I tried to talk about what happened. I thought I knew her - I was shocked. I knew she had problems from childhood but I didn't even know what a narcissist was. I realized later that she had found a new supply after completely draining me of my energy and self-esteem, and that I was being kicked to the curb. After moving out she wanted to keep ties since we owned a business together, suggesting that maybe we could have a date night or every so often, probably in case the new supply didn't work out. I really couldn't take the emotional roller coaster ride any longer and just sold her my half of the business, packed everything up, and decided to move out of state. This stunned her, and ever since, she has been trying to "hoover" me. Now I can see exactly what she's doing. Every time I talked to her it crushed me, but it helped me to accept that there was no going back.
      Don't bother trying to talk with her about what happened, she'll never come clean and you'll never get closure that way. I tried for almost 2 years, and I'm sure there are people on this blog who have waited even longer. If she becomes desperate for a fix and wants you back, she'll just lie about the reasons anyway. I've learned the hard way that narcs never take responsibility for their actions. The best thing to do is focus on the fact that the nightmare is over and you can heal. DON'T let her know you still might harbor feelings for her. She won't care and she'll just use it against you. I just act businesslike and unemotional when I need to deal with my ex, and change the subject or end the conversation when she tries to get me to take the emotional bate. She's even tried to evoke jealousy by raving about her new supply. I just say with annoyance and disinterest "yeah, yeah, that's great" and change the subject back to business. It's not always easy for me, and it won't be easy for you, but given time, effort, and a chance to heal, things will eventually become better. The first step is knowing the type of person that you are dealing with.

    • @wattsymusicandfilm
      @wattsymusicandfilm 3 года назад +1

      @@markwojak3112 hi mark! Wow you really did go through a rollercoaster! I’m sorry you had to deal with all that! Yeah I don’t talk about feelings at all anymore! I keep everything to the bare minimum, just things that are about our son! I’m just learning to live with it now! It is what it is and there’s nothing I can do about except just keep on keeping on! Getting a little better everyday! Thankyou for reaching out!

  • @gilmourgirl74
    @gilmourgirl74 Год назад +1

    Just before I cut him off, he commented that it was the anniversary of the first time I gave him money!! What?? 😂 I think that was the straw that broke the camel's back. I thought I couldnt be fooled by a narcissist again but this one took 4 years of my life. My eyes are so much more open now. I'm 3 weeks out of it and these videos are giving me strength and helping me see clearly. Thank you, Andrew. Namaste 🙏 ❤

  • @malinda4963
    @malinda4963 3 года назад +15

    Wow...... The truth really does hurt. 13 years of this.. 13 years!! I am so glad my eyes are open and I am no longer in this. I am so glad the Universe had allowed me to see this. He shows me every day why moving forward is the best decision I can ever make for myself. Thank you. New subscriber here. I was meant to find your message. I was meant to hear this. Thank you so much.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +2

      Welcome Malinda to the community… thank you for sharing this beautiful insight.. you were meant to be here ☀️🙌🙏

    • @malinda4963
      @malinda4963 3 года назад +1

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I feel like I am. Thank you. 😊😊🙌💞💕 I will take heed to every message you post. This will be my only way to get over him and break this cycle of a hamster wheel.

    • @dizzyd3670
      @dizzyd3670 3 года назад +2

      @@malinda4963 14 years of hell for me. Just for her to discard me like I was nothing. The hardest for me is understanding that what I thought was real was really just a illusion. How could I have been fooled for so many years.

    • @malinda4963
      @malinda4963 3 года назад +1

      @@dizzyd3670 I say the same thing everyday... Like wow.

  • @abdelhakghonedale2739
    @abdelhakghonedale2739 2 года назад +1

    THANK U SO MUCH !!! WE LOVE BRO . YOU ARE THE BEST . NACISSIST ISDEMON IN EART

  • @saysrry48
    @saysrry48 3 года назад +8

    awe at least this random stranger on the internet loves me, and doesn't even know me
    thanks narcdaily

  • @Freeminder-tj5us
    @Freeminder-tj5us 2 года назад +1

    Mine always tried to ask me to contact my friends to help him with his “business”. I’ve lost some already that I don’t know until I reconnected them and they told me how cunning he was. He knows he can’t make friends, so he relies on my social circle, but once I refused to call up my friends for him again, he discarded me.

  • @lindakencana2181
    @lindakencana2181 3 года назад +16

    You are so on point. I couldn't agree more. He thinks of me for the qualities I possess as his grade-A supply. Thank you so much for sharing the insights. GBU. Namaste.

  • @catlady715
    @catlady715 Год назад +1

    You are so correct regarding going no contact and blocking. This one only contacted me when he wanted something . I had enough. Maybe he is finally taking the hint.

  • @Dee-xs5yy
    @Dee-xs5yy 2 года назад +3

    Such a great video and the 50 others I've watched recently. I'm finally no contact and recieved a visit today. 2 hours of rage and manipulation before I could get him out, he tried it all. It was as clear as day from watching these. I'm still a little numb with the realisation and he usually exhausts me first with the rages, like a child, but i with follow my path to live my best life. I would have dropped no contact before now and gave into him if it wasn't for these videos and when I feel low I'll watch another as a reminder why.

  • @caroljohnson3313
    @caroljohnson3313 2 года назад +1

    I not only blocked my narcissist, I erased them from my life! Every card, photo, memento, gift, gone! Now I don't heart pains that lasts for days, don't have to take Ambien to fall asleep, don't feel anxious when my phone notifies me of a message. I'm healing. I'm at the point of indifference because of your videos, Andrew. Because you have spelled out what had happened to me so accurately and understandably. Thank you from my entire being..
    I'm actually at the point where I don't feel compelled to talk about the attack I suffered. That was then, not now. Some times you just have to be done!
    I will reply to this forum when I feel like I can help another survivor on their path to positivity, like you did for me.

  • @voulap1782
    @voulap1782 2 года назад +6

    Thank you so much for making these videos . My relationship just ended and obviously it’s really hard for me.
    Your truly amazing and listening to you gives me strength .
    🥰🥰

  • @happyhealthyblessed
    @happyhealthyblessed 2 года назад +1

    Thank you so much Andrew ❤❤❤

  • @sabine8593
    @sabine8593 3 года назад +19

    Thank you very much for your heartfelt further education. For empaths who are not trained in narcissism, it is unimaginable what Narcs miss about their ex-partners. But true, so true for their own Narc world. And - actually felt - then, but not really comprehensible. You have to make yourself cold, freezing cold inside, to "feel" it.

  • @barbarakrall1184
    @barbarakrall1184 15 дней назад

    I know I have seen this before, but it is so good to hear again. I still need the help. I'll leave it at that. Thanks!

  • @kristins4494
    @kristins4494 3 года назад +5

    Great video, and a great reminder that No Contact is the only way to achieve true healing. Namaste.🙏

  • @summerbee9748
    @summerbee9748 2 года назад +1

    Yes I ruminated like crazy! Constantly! Then I kept reminding myself this man is a horrible person! And I prayed everytime I thought of him or journaled and it all helped!

  • @biancaswart1101
    @biancaswart1101 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for the video. I watch a video each day, and it helps me a lot.

  • @karencampise6809
    @karencampise6809 3 года назад +2

    Yep. The one who got away and was the best supply they ever had or ever will ......

  • @judepoynter3850
    @judepoynter3850 3 года назад +8

    Brilliant, affirming, heart warming. Thank you Andrew. New subscriber here. 🙏🏼

  • @charlesthompson9889
    @charlesthompson9889 Год назад +1

    This guy is awesome!

  • @misfit7866
    @misfit7866 3 года назад +7

    When they need something!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +1

      Yes 🙌.. always 💯

    • @gionagrace6279
      @gionagrace6279 3 года назад +2

      You will ALWAYS hear from them when they NEED something. Think about it.....when have they ever called you just to say hello and just wanted to know how YOU are doing or if you are having a good day or to see how you are feeling since you were sick......ohhhh wait.....I will answer that....NEVER!!!! Narcs have 3 favorite words....I, ME & MINE!!!!

    • @shari9707
      @shari9707 3 года назад

      @@gionagrace6279 true THIS IS FOR ME,YOU GIVING ME HALF,BUY A CAR FOR ME,BUY COLONES FOR ME,!!!!I was like what the hell you buying me,nooooooo!!!!I took away my lap top I give him on monday9th nov,I said good bye,as soon as I check wats app he blocked me!!!!I really don't care I was expecting it..next day I heard he complained to his sister about the lab top I took away.he told her it didn't call for all dat!!!!woooooooh!!!!let it bother him!!!!!!!!darm dirty!!!!!

  • @Sousouu5956
    @Sousouu5956 2 года назад

    you were trained and they miss that ..
    that's really do deep

  • @maggiesullivan8821
    @maggiesullivan8821 3 года назад +4

    Did not know what had a hold of me!! Thought no human could possibly be that randomly cruel. Thought I had caused it in some way. However, I didn't know what an Empath was back then, let alone that I was one. Thank you for putting this out there for all who crashed on the rocks they never knew were there.

  • @cheryldaniel8841
    @cheryldaniel8841 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much for your channel and your work, it’s so encouraging and uplifting to know there’s a community helping get through this terrible experience l. Namaste 🙏

  • @Rick-hf6ov
    @Rick-hf6ov 3 года назад +4

    Great video and message! I changed my number, moved 700 miles and took a different job. I just had some contact via email, but then eventually said "you can write all you want to, but I delete them immediately AND empty the trash like I emptied you into the trash"!!!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад

      Hi Rick.. this is beautiful .. the tide has turned.. you are empowered and made it 🙌☀️✊💪💪..

    • @Rick-hf6ov
      @Rick-hf6ov 3 года назад

      Thank you very much. 🙏👌

    • @Ellie-rp8bh
      @Ellie-rp8bh 3 года назад

      Nice

  • @tunishagoodwyn4438
    @tunishagoodwyn4438 3 года назад +3

    Thank you for explaining this so we'll. I get it now.

  • @itsjuustmedontchaknow4163
    @itsjuustmedontchaknow4163 Год назад +1

    Wow, this makes sense, this is what he is doing now with his new woman. This is like a puzzle that you're helping me put the pieces together. He hoovers, I don't ruminate anymore, thanks to you 🙏 thanks for helping. I used to ruminate, now when he hoovers, I just smile and exit stage right ❤️🇺🇸

  • @skymeadow7762
    @skymeadow7762 3 года назад +7

    Thank you Brother, I love your easy friendly way. I feel your Empowerment, I want that. 🙏💖👑

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  3 года назад +1

      Hi Sky Meadow.. in time you will be there.. in time.. continue to become educated and aware… thank you for being here 🙏🙌☀️

  • @saltlightandjoyministries4138
    @saltlightandjoyministries4138 Год назад

    There has not been a day since I left that I've regretted leaving. I tried to caution him for years to treat me with more respect, but he just kept getting worse as time went on. His healing is up to him, but I really don't think that he sees anything wrong with his behavior. He's created the mess that his life is in, but I had to get away for my sanity and safety.

  • @frankdavf4599
    @frankdavf4599 3 года назад +5

    I feel poisoned by the narc

  • @clarerameka1462
    @clarerameka1462 2 года назад +1

    Yes it was very exhausting. Thankyou for your support Andrew 🙏

  • @Scorpscorpdorp
    @Scorpscorpdorp 2 года назад +3

    Im so glad I found your channel, Andrew. Our situation was very similar and you are a great mentor to me. Thank you for your blessings, Namaste . 🥰🙏

  • @radhakavipurapu432
    @radhakavipurapu432 3 года назад

    Yes you are 100% true correct..education enlightenment empowerment ....

  • @pamelabradley3441
    @pamelabradley3441 3 года назад +3

    Thank you. Makes perfect sense now!

  • @margo9265
    @margo9265 Год назад +1

    Thank you

  • @ianandrew4368
    @ianandrew4368 2 года назад +3

    So pleased I discovered Andrew talking about every aspect of the toxic relationship experience .
    I have watched several on line Narcissistic personality disorder sites and they woke me up to the draining drudgery and soul destroying behaviour patterns I was
    on the end of .
    I love returning to theses films as they a wonderful comfort .First time I watched I cried as they were unlocking so much and as he says with love and empowerment to move forward .No contact is the way most definitely
    I woukd say having a child in the middle of it is another important aspect to deal with at some point as my son is used all the time like shield as well as manipulated and gets the silent treatment which upsets me as he is full of life at 6.

  • @mamitalinda3915
    @mamitalinda3915 2 года назад

    Hello Andrew. My name is Theresa and I live in Las Vegas. I'm 47 years old and I have been with a violent narcissist on and off ( of course at his disposal) for 23 years. I hid from him for 10 years and he found me 13 months ago. In 13 months he physically abused me with police involvement 4 times, he's currently in jail. I tried to show him a video of narcissism and he attacked me. I am also a victim of child abuse and neglect which made me a complete and total empath. I felt so sorry for my x-husband because I knew that he has this illness of narcissism from being bullied and neglected in childhood. I have been watching your videos for about four days non-stop and I feel like you are directly talking to me.. I feel like you were here watching everything. I feel like you are talking to me and only me. I feel so guilty sometimes that he's in jail, because I know he's sick. You have educated me so much and I just want to thank you for that. You are a beautiful human being. I didn't know that there was people like that in the world either. Thank you so much for making these videos. I think I might have been narcissistic with my grown children also which is awful, but because of your videos I'm going to try to fix that with them. Thank you, thank you, thank you.....💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for sharing this beautiful message Mamita.. I am grateful to be able to share my experiences and insight with you 💯💯🙏🙌💪