Sam… my most well spoken interject. Reverse engineering my intimate partner of 18 years using your techniques allowed the option of a slow, relatively peaceful dissolution and untethering from each others lives that left us both in a solid footing for our futures rather than hurt or diminished. I let the fantasy play out when I noticed I was reset and idealized as a new dead mother. Sometimes I’ll lose my cool and tell her point blank how predictably unpredictable her laundry list of “quirky” compulsions make her… and suddenly I speak a foreign language. True magic. She doesn’t register anything I’m saying, and her derpy expression reminds me that she never really will. The darkest parts of her nightmare were the ones where I had hope for us as a couple. Now, however, I can participate as an observer and compassionate researcher
My ex wife is a covert narcissist but I've been percieving her jealousy sick - excessive, poisonous and baseless and she was swinging between excessive open jealousy and declaring that she's not jealous at all. It was funny to hear her deny her jealosy while it was obvious that she was jealous as f..k.
My ex gf is incredibly jealous and possessive, but she sleeps with all the men on the planet, and as soon as I even try to date anyone else it is instant jealousy.
Interesting. I've just seen my ex who has some narcissistic traits.. (he's a professional musician, so putting on an act is his job..).. after breaking up 2 years ago but still seeing each other as friends, (i.e. ending up in a situationship).. our relationship has gone through a roller coaster.. after calling him out on his anger issues & going no contact for a month recently, then telling him I was seeing other guys as friends too... He's now suddenly reappeared on best behaviour lol... the normal rules of relationships do not apply lol...
I am an autistic with borderline traits and C-PTSD and mood disorder my self diagnosis. I know I need therapy but just not affordable. I've been watching your videos and doing my own research and reading trying to help myself. Any books you can recommend for someone trying to heal and control their symptoms? Plus I just got out of a situationship with a Narc I think, don't think he was a psychopath. I'm really having a hard time right now. He keeps trying to hoover and flying momkeys stalking
'My' covert narcissist ex husband didn't ever display any overt jealousy, but used to imply that he was highly attracted to certain women (always one at a time and in an emotionally close way ie with co workers) in order to try and make me jealous. Looking back this was presumably a way of trying to keep me. He was never unfaithful and now I see why. He wasn't bothered haha. When I had eventually escaped from him I had the most incredible healthy and unbelievably erotic D/s relationship. Unfortunately a family member told my ex what kind of relationship I was in and he started to act out what he thought was D/s in a dangerous way with 2 subsequent girlfriends. Maybe that shows he was still jealous re me somehow. Thinking outloud after watching the video and trying to piece things together.
I don’t understand or know how to manage jealous people entering my life, it’s been a theme as well as incessant copying. It sounds petulant but it’s a pattern. Sam please can you do a video/ offer insight 🙏
Reclaim? Like lost luggage? No thanks... I've been working too hard to lose that baggage on purpose and for good.😂
Sam… my most well spoken interject. Reverse engineering my intimate partner of 18 years using your techniques allowed the option of a slow, relatively peaceful dissolution and untethering from each others lives that left us both in a solid footing for our futures rather than hurt or diminished. I let the fantasy play out when I noticed I was reset and idealized as a new dead mother. Sometimes I’ll lose my cool and tell her point blank how predictably unpredictable her laundry list of “quirky” compulsions make her… and suddenly I speak a foreign language. True magic. She doesn’t register anything I’m saying, and her derpy expression reminds me that she never really will. The darkest parts of her nightmare were the ones where I had hope for us as a couple. Now, however, I can participate as an observer and compassionate researcher
My ex wife is a covert narcissist but I've been percieving her jealousy sick - excessive, poisonous and baseless and she was swinging between excessive open jealousy and declaring that she's not jealous at all. It was funny to hear her deny her jealosy while it was obvious that she was jealous as f..k.
@Samvaknin-g1t ?
How about you? What kind of partner were you?
@Only_The_Best_Bits-f5y Never good enough, I guess. Whk asks?
Thank you, Dr. Sam, for your explanation. Makes so much simpler to understand. Needed to hear this today.
Q additional clients Brillo😮love that t good analogy explains well thank you gorgeous man you make me giggle
My ex gf is incredibly jealous and possessive, but she sleeps with all the men on the planet, and as soon as I even try to date anyone else it is instant jealousy.
Just in time
could u plz make a video on "trauma nd unique sense of humour"
Yes please!
thank you
Interesting. I've just seen my ex who has some narcissistic traits.. (he's a professional musician, so putting on an act is his job..).. after breaking up 2 years ago but still seeing each other as friends, (i.e. ending up in a situationship).. our relationship has gone through a roller coaster.. after calling him out on his anger issues & going no contact for a month recently, then telling him I was seeing other guys as friends too... He's now suddenly reappeared on best behaviour lol... the normal rules of relationships do not apply lol...
I am an autistic with borderline traits and C-PTSD and mood disorder my self diagnosis. I know I need therapy but just not affordable. I've been watching your videos and doing my own research and reading trying to help myself. Any books you can recommend for someone trying to heal and control their symptoms?
Plus I just got out of a situationship with a Narc I think, don't think he was a psychopath. I'm really having a hard time right now. He keeps trying to hoover and flying momkeys stalking
Is impossible to have a relationship with them . Pure evil😈 .
'My' covert narcissist ex husband didn't ever display any overt jealousy, but used to imply that he was highly attracted to certain women (always one at a time and in an emotionally close way ie with co workers) in order to try and make me jealous. Looking back this was presumably a way of trying to keep me. He was never unfaithful and now I see why. He wasn't bothered haha.
When I had eventually escaped from him I had the most incredible healthy and unbelievably erotic D/s relationship. Unfortunately a family member told my ex what kind of relationship I was in and he started to act out what he thought was D/s in a dangerous way with 2 subsequent girlfriends. Maybe that shows he was still jealous re me somehow. Thinking outloud after watching the video and trying to piece things together.
@Samvaknin-g1t Hello :-) Thank you very much for your replies
I don’t understand or know how to manage jealous people entering my life, it’s been a theme as well as incessant copying. It sounds petulant but it’s a pattern. Sam please can you do a video/ offer insight 🙏
Dear Dr. Sam Vaknin. It's a pity that you don't speak Ukrainian. Thank you for your work and helping people.